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This is an absolutely fantastic reply. Id like to add that in addition to women having the ability to deliver content, men also have the ability to use emotion, not outwardly for validation, but inwardly for navigation. If one is introspective of what's going on when emotions flare up, one can follow a line of questioning that asks "where is this coming from? What part of the situation im in right now is evoking it? And what is it trying to get me to subconsciously do? And Do I want to do that?"…
/r/askMRP13/07/23 04:00 PM
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I choose this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/23 02:57 PM
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Just to clarify, I don't think her getting me off, or me not getting off was the unattractive part, I meant the mechanical, in my part of it. I reread this half a dozen times, and was not sure if it came off how I intended it to. Its hard to receive your entire model of what happened in this situation through text. But it seems like of the several different takes I could put together in my head all seem to share a common trait of you trying to interpret something from what she's doing...that wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/23 02:51 PM
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OP is banned for a bit. Post will stay up in case anyone's bored. Aaaaaand just for funzies, worst reply gets a 30 day ban.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/23 09:02 PM
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My reply is this post is whiney, includes 0 value, and belongs in askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/23 08:58 PM
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Guy is an absolute tard box.
/r/askMRP30/06/23 01:28 AM
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This post is less about $100 and more about what should be done in the situation I described within the post "Can we deflect back to my question so I dont have to feel bad thinking about how I got myself into this?" Obviously my frame control needs work This has nothing to do with frame control lol. but the only question I'm interested in And thats why you're still R-tarded. Because you should be interested in his question. Ik I shouldn't have loaned her $100 This is like a cheating wife saying …
/r/askMRP30/06/23 01:22 AM
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I was typing more but dont really feel like putting too many mental cycles toward it. But I think two ideas that RP has not expanded upon yet are -What kind of women are attracted to each of the categories of Money/Looks/Game. -The difference between Attraction (I want to be a part of that) and Dread (I dont want to not be a part of that).
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/23 12:46 PM
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Is this...moralizing?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/23 12:27 PM
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Build yourself into the man you'll want to be if she cheats on you. Coincidentally, that's also the man she wants to be with now. She's no intention of sleeping with him, until she does. I like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/23 12:17 PM
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With that in mind, the reality is that my boundary was not crossed Very astute of you. Be careful of projection from polarization. If you walk in a room and feel like your wife is mad at you, you may the contextualize what she does based on a notion you created. If you want to play with that, next time she asks you to rinse the sink stop, count to three, turn to her, cock your head and ask: "Are you shaming me?" MRP talks about plausible deniability being her doing something but being able to hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 06:34 PM
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you would know the structure of your simulation, but not the experience of adding new things to it. Yes! This is it. This is what it feels like I'm pressing against. Its visceral. How does a human look at what he is (contextualized within the structure of all things) when the only tools afforded to him are human? And all the eastern vs western mind. The Buddhist cycles, the Hindu "that", the Taoist "way", i can understand what i am is like that, as a metaphor is that. As a piece within the polar…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 04:43 PM
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Here particularly id say intentional since we're talking about mirrors. But if you have a deeper meaning about me seeing me seeing me (my wife can only echo?) like I'm actually missing her here, I'm all ears. Jokes first. That 2006 Echo. Hot damn. Deadly serious though, and I'm not sure if it'll land on anyone here (I'd predict that you, and oobertas if he didn't have a hissy fit would be most likely to "get it" in that you've seen it happen first hand) that I've done some DEEP digging in multip…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 01:03 PM
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Again wtf is this shit with guys seeming to know their problem but dancing around like they have a problem? So...you know its just you hamstering. But... I think the fear of that is that I don't know how to deal with that yet - open to suggestions, but it seems like an AM problem, just haven't gotten there yet. Low effort take 2 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 11:47 AM
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Okay so (and I know I'm making a stretch here but) if frame is who you are...what part are you trying to define when you refuse to rinse a sink you should have and forgot to? You say "not violating my own boundaries"...what boundaries are being violated if your wife asks you to do something you should have done? In the same sense but coming from the opposite way, what stopped you from being who you are (or want to be...more playful) when your girl did a shitty comfort test. And just for S&Gs, ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 11:32 AM
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My gift is often not a gift at all, but rather a thing I do to get something in (return) (return) Whats that something...(you answered) (The gift of my presence) is (associated) with me needing to get my (ego stroked) by (whatever validation) I can get out from the interaction. (Associated) Is this a proper association? How can you break that association? (The gift of my presence) Do you really feel this way? That when you are in a room with someone that you're giving them a gift? I mean I know …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 11:20 AM
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FYI guy is shadowbanned.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 01:38 AM
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And?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 01:36 AM
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I said okay, rinsed, and moved on. I did not stay in my frame in this case. But then... I would like to extend a more playful attitude (frame) around handling tests Are you sure you know what you want your frame to be? Or is your frame kinda just...winning out over whatever frame your girl is using?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 01:28 AM
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why didn't you call me? Do you not care about me? So...did she say this?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 01:19 AM
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No. Id really like you to think about how this parallels relationships and draw out useful ideas on your own. They'll mean a lot more if you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 09:07 PM
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He is operating from a frame of abundance where he is the prize, and the sex is a gift he is giving. I am instead operating from a frame of scarcity where sex is something I need to manipulate my way to. You've said all the right MRP words. Now...what the fuck does that mean? What is frame? Why does he have it and you dont? Why does his have abundance? What is abundance? Why does he have it and you dont? Prize, sex, gift, scarcity and even manipulation...you're using these words but you dont kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 08:46 PM
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You know one of the biggest things I realized eventually in my relationship? Most of my disappointment came from me yearning so desperately to see my reflection of me in my wife. Know what I saw reflected instead? Me craving my reflection.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 06:52 PM
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I never really understood the significance of this statement. I absolutely understand this perspective. Let's try coming at it from another direction: "Growing into a flower in your garden is a seed's job." Does that help?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 05:31 PM
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Alan Watts paints a picture that everything is a mirror. What happens when you yourself are a mirror? When you look at others, what do you see in their reflection? Only echoes of nothing. What happens when you are who you are, what do you see then? Echoes of you. Everywhere. You (who you really are) has to speak (step, act, be) first (initially, not as a reaction) though.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 05:13 PM
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Let’s be honest, they didn’t miss me. She just wanted to test me. Yet...your comment about it makes it clear she got at least some of what she wanted...to put mental cycles to it. Thats fine though, realize its silly. Then put it out of your mind. Then realize the idea of "tests" are silly. And put that out of your mind too.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 05:01 PM
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it is my duty to not get worked up about anything. That would undermine [how she sees] my dominant frame and her submissive frame, which we both need Yeah...caught this red flag too. That said, props for unlocking the fountain.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 04:57 PM
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But there is something I am not getting that I can't pinpoint. "The wound heals but it never does. That cuz you at war with love." Your very idea of what the end result of all this is supposed to be is what you're battling. I guarantee it. Ask me how I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 04:43 PM
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The difference between day and night game is the same as between a marriage reviving from "bringing back the mystery" and one from unplugging each other. One is fake as fuck. Play the game if you want. No hate.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 04:37 PM
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No. Your introspection is on point. I'm wondering from what quarry are you mining the building blocks of your frame. And if its owned by your wife. Imagine a guy who has his shit on lock...but still sets up sex hours in advance. Or plans ahead when trips or something might interfere with his and his wife's drive. Seems like a logical, smart thing to do. But in your case its wrong. What's the difference between him and you? Too dominant What is "too dominant" to you? Was this it? passive aggressi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 04:31 PM
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To be a man that is honest with the world, and those who have earned his investment Pearl's before swine read the thread. and she starts really putting in, to get me off, this was unattractive This is ego. Why is it ego? We go to bed, "Roll over if you want me to rub it", "No I have to lay like this", "No, I can't get to it, if you want me to rub it roll over", "Don't worry about it, you're obviously too tired", "Yep". I lay down and she's asking the weirdest questions You're close. You're both …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 04:08 PM
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I can't figure out if your aversion is to initiating from a needy/covert contract frame or if you're being told that your frame is needy/contracty (or if you're being told that she interprets your frame to be needy/contracty).
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 03:56 PM
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Like Rian said, there's no greater test of frame for a man than to be in a relationship with a woman Lol. Kinda putting them up on a pedestal huh? Frame is your take on reality. Do you assign whats going on or do you defer to someone else? Women are just a piece of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 11:49 PM
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My LTR told me she suggested to her friend that they do a girl's night out with the intention of her girl getting some. "I dont condone any kind of behavior which puts you in a situation where men may be trying to get some from you, even by proxy." Either take away plausible deniability outright ("it seems that could put you in a ton of situations i would not approve of") or match it with equally vague disapproval.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 11:43 PM
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P_D: Its all about maximizing the algorithm of social performance. You: My OYS definitely came off a bit autistic and neurotic. Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 11:37 PM
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Half right about what? I never said you were innocent. The point is she stayed. So she tacitly accepted it. And now wants to hold you hostage (but its not really even holding you hostage, it's holding her projection of who this new you is hostage...a frame it seems like you're accepting) until this new you what...right wrongs of an old you she stayed with? This is stupidity all around. Her for selectively choosing to polarize the relationship in contentious ways (BIG red flag) and you for buying…
/r/askMRP26/06/23 12:52 AM
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Anyone else reading a poorly written high school drama? Girl is ridiculously clingy. Blames guy for how she feels vulnerable for being clingy. Sees guy "open up" (unclear if he even did anything or if this is just more hamster) and likes it, but can't put to bed feelings her own behavior made her feel. Blames him though. I should be really happy, but I feel guarded, and I don’t know if I can connect with you that fully again "Oh...that sucks. So are we done or like..." She says she is going to k…
/r/askMRP25/06/23 06:55 PM
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It was too predictable For who? Also, she stopped even giving handjobs or blowjobs. Did she stop giving? Or did you stop initiating them? She has admitted to having sex with my to make me happy Is this a problem? Or just ego? What if through divination you came to learn sex to her is and will always be about making you happy. Is that a deal breaker? Does she need to have genuine desire herself? And if so, why? that it is painful post-baby Have you addressed this? that she knows when I want it ..…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/23 12:31 PM
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So...yesterday I had a conversation in the car with my 11 year old daughter. She's like me when I was a kid. Very logical. Able to rack and stack ideas. Able to go off on tangents discussing issues and, when cornered, able to deftly navigate back to the fork that conversation branched from, and choose another path in an effort to win out and be right. But also, full to the brim of emotion. So much so that its really hard for her to make sensical arguments. Theres repetition. Theres yelling. Ther…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 01:20 PM
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I had this conversation awhile ago with Ubermensch. I think it relates: There's a phenomena in the quantum world called the Quantum Zeno Effect. In short, it postulates (and confirmed) that the more often a system is observed, the more likely it is that the system when observed would be re-observed in the same state. Normally, quantum systems are probabilities of multiple states, where observing them in a (single) state is random and probabilistic. But it was found that once a system is measured…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/23 07:08 PM
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in reality we all know it drives us insane. Don't project your fucks onto me. I can't recall the last time I got my panties this twisted for being asked to do something. best way to deal with this nonsense. Implies that you should deal with it. Why do you feel like you need to engage? I mean you can, but, name me an outcome from engaging thats positive? You could be a bitch and give in. You could tell her no then go ask an internet forum how to deal with requests. You could "win" by executing qu…
/r/askMRP26/05/23 04:10 PM
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You were? I was!
/r/askMRP26/05/23 01:38 AM
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Before one studies Zen a woman, mountains are mountains and waters are waters requests to take laundry downstairs are requests to take laundry downstairs; after a first glimpse into the truth of Zen women, mountains are no longer mountains and waters are no longer waters requests to take laundry downstairs are no longer requests to take laundry downstairs; after enlightenment, mountains are once again mountains and waters once again waters requests to take laundry downstairs are once again reque…
/r/askMRP25/05/23 10:16 PM
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Are they shit tests? No. Your ego is just so huge and defensive that you react as if these things are a big deal. She asked you to do something. You said "tomorrow" IE "on my terms". Why is this taking up any more mental space?
/r/askMRP25/05/23 10:10 PM
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"I am your husband, not your butler." Unless said playfully, as in "We both know your request is silly and I'm answering pretending I'm offended." then this is childish AF. She knows she is wrong. Gotta prove yourself right...right? You play the game. You lose. Thats the rules of the game.
/r/askMRP25/05/23 10:05 PM
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I need a little more unplugging before I embrace my old ways. I think you still may believe I'm directing you to a certain path. because I think the answer is earn OI from (and for) yourself. So you are the holder and the receiver. You have the key and the lock. Why do you deny yourself then? they are always their own jailer. I am no different. And you see it. but that effortless mastery really only works if you were training on the "path of effort" Does it though? I wonder how I can see this an…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 01:19 PM
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What if you could find comfort in choosing dignity ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 12:11 PM
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I dont necessarily disagree with what you wrote. Especially the differentiation between knowing and getting good at (grounding). In fact, that last sentence? Solid gut punch. Thank you. Been awhile since I've gotten one of those. I had to sit and think about that thought. Because you are right. That guy could not do what I do. And yet, if I were to give him my models, what would he do? That's a really cool thought experiment. If I were to tell him "hey look, I know your relationship is fucked. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/23 02:08 PM
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I knew you'd get it. You didn't answer my question ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/23 07:28 PM
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Fuck me sideways I was almost finished writing a detailed reply to this and my phone decided to reset my browser. Check out this old comment of mine and see if it sheds any light on your disagreement. Contextualize it in the way of thinking that MRP is like 2+2. You're saying "I need to do 2+2 to know 2+2." I'm saying "I know how to add...and in doing so, 2+2 isn't really more or less important than 53477 + 643255."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/23 07:11 PM
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see a need -> get options for that need -> see changed needs -> repeat Wise words. I think the growth/maturity comes when one realizes this "repeat" part and shortcuts the process. Nearly every guy on here does the "repeat" process. And thinks it is the correct process. The sad part is, some of these processes (as seen here in MRP culminating in an unplugging) take 30-40 years to run through. I've spent some time here trying to unplug guys from the unplugging loop. Had a handful of successes. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/23 02:24 PM
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Part of my problem is not making the transition between the way I deal with every other human being in the world and the way I deal with my wife. Sometimes I'm just not willing to let logic stay asleep. The thing i don't get is that with all this depth of knowledge you have and how you used to he more woo-woo, that you havent somehow bridged the gap to understand the empathy you could have not for your wife's problems (in a "I think i understand the way you approach your problems because they ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 02:15 PM
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The Tao te Ching is on the sidebar? Bout time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 03:08 PM
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Nothing external is going to fulfil this empty darkness inside you but yourself. Now ask yourself: "Is there even a need to fulfill this empty darkness? Wait...is this even empty darkness? Or have I simply mischaracterized it as such? And if I did, why did I do that?"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 12:19 PM
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The only category of "non-ego" goal I can imagine would be Enlightenment I also wanted to touch on this but forgot to. I think the #1 consuming factor that pushes Enlightenment out of reach of the Western mindset is the thought that it is a goal to be reached. That it is "out there". It isn't. It isn't insomuch as the awakening to enlightenment is already inside you. Its kinda like the argument Horns and I had awhile back where he said there's no such thing as self improvement because you alread…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 09:24 PM
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autopilot to a degree though I wouldn't say its effortless Though it may be on autopilot (meaning keeping it on autopilot is effortless), there's a difference between things being on autopilot, and it being effortless (meaning the thing itself, not the keeping it on autopilot, is effortless). You can have something on autopilot, and still expend excessive energy doing that thing on autopilot. I'm not sure how I would go about actively thinning the walls though. How would a climber go about activ…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 12:54 PM
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But I feel like the pursuit of muscle, money, and more enjoyable life conditions requires some element of ego. Of course. The goal is not to get rid of ego. Just live in harmony with it. It shouldn't be the only voice giving direction. "Kill your ego" as said here in MRP is a fake-it-til-you-make-it technique. Which, in general fashion upon making it, guys learn the roundabout truth of what they really wanted. (Caveat here that what their ego wanted - blue pill - was ineffective. Thats why we ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 12:35 PM
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Paradoxically, a fair bit of woo-woo always produced better outcomes than sheer pragmatism. Its weird. We like to talk about ideas as if a single set of them is "right" or "better". But in a sense even things like woo-woo versus non-woo woo seem to be speaking "around" what we're trying to talk about. Or just describing pieces of it. In the same way the stem, petals, color, growth patterns and cold heartiness isnt what a flower is. Its describing aspects of it. I'm very rack and stack, orderly a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/23 07:56 PM
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I'm removing this rambling, incoherent mess.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/23 07:25 PM
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I don't like guys calling you like that Yes. You wouldn't like it if some girl called me drunk at 10pm No.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/23 07:23 PM
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I shit talked myself that watching a movie alone would be stupid and then went and did it anyway. Had a good time. I recently went on a short family trip to a familiar spot. We ordered dinner and I went to walk the 15 minutes it takes to pick it up on foot. Along the way I had time to compare my current mindset with ones where I walked that path before, as a much more anxious individual, who was very concerned with engaging with as much of that resort town as possible in order to satiate that an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/23 01:37 PM
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I'm sure it can be beneficial when approached the right way. In my eyes however, these yogis and new age people were looking to escape reality in the same way that a gamer might I tend to phrase it more as their own personal way of exploring reality, and developing a way to frame it. I find a lot of crosstalk between my woo-woo vibey self and my logical, math and physics based self. At times neither feels like its hitting that essence. And acknowledge that almost all the time it feels like we're…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/23 01:18 PM
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To be clear, I do this for me primarily Totally fine. We say STFU for a reason. Just make sure you're not expecting her to somehow buy in to this personal message. When you are ready to open a door because your own foundation is solid, reread persimmons' reply.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/23 12:58 PM
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Id offer a challenge, if you are interested, to eventually see how thin those walls can be made and still be effective. When I rock climb, there's a really good training cue to notice how hard you're gripping a hold. And if you need to be grabbing it that hard to stay in place. Newbies often death grip each hold and waste a lot of energy Manning the walls you talk about takes energy and requires maintenence. Can you, now having made them effective and discerning, recoup some of that energy for o…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/23 12:54 PM
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Excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 02:50 PM
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sounds rather passive I can see why it sounds that way. But let's phrase it like this: You already have a preferred destination for where you want your marriage to go. You vision, right? And as long as you do everything you think you need to do, you'll make it to that vision right? And even if you don't know exactly, or some outside force pushes you off course, you know you'll react and adapt to rechart a course to your vision, right? But...you making it there also depends on how she reacts and …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 11:57 AM
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Every person decides how much they give True. But how much they give is based on their own models of what is deserved. Not yours. You can subject yourself to that scale if you want. But it does not serve you as its out of your frame and control. You can (minimally) influence their models of what you think you deserve, but it is weak as it shows your helpless submission and steals away the gift of giving. (No one wants to give a gift that is expected). I’m just happy it’s better I’d love to be ce…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 03:32 AM
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First thought This entire section of thoughts has your wife so high on the pedestal im not sure there's any breathable oxygen left in the atmosphere up there. What you deserve Tell me, who is in charge of this mysterious container of things you "deserve", and who chooses the level at which you receive them? The concept, no, the mere word "deserve" toxicly puts things you don't have out of your frame in the possession of another, and sets up a hoop for you to jump through to get it. Its almost on…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 02:16 AM
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quote I cannot say it involves a single way. I also cannot say I have as much a grip on how it came about (or how to teach it) as I do on knowing and utilizing it. Its been within the last year that I've incorporated this. But if I had to try and describe it, its a combination of: Seeing the fact that when you put your mind to something, you naturally kill it (as in, master it). If some goal catches my attention, I tend to rip it into pieces, devour it, and then flow with it. Its a very primal, …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 07:20 PM
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BB The focus and variety shifts based on season, running schedule, etc but yeah most muscle groups are hit directly (not just as a part of another lift) in some way. /u/Dunlop60, any advice on Bench leg drive?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 05:33 PM
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within time limits Who's limits? I redid the kitchen last year. I did it all myself except counter tops. I said to my wife before even doing it "hey...I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do this myself. At my pace. Its going to take a few weeks. I dont want to hear any bitching." And i didn't get any. I'm not hitting the initiations, not finding the time. Is this a case of a mis-ordering of your priorities? Or is this simply a true execution of your priorities and a disconnect between what you want, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:34 PM
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running out of things to say I went to a work function the other day. It involved speaking with a lot of vendors at booths. Sometimes I had good questions to ask. Sometimes their product had nothing to do with me. Sometimes I'd just wait for them to finish talking, abruptly say "cool thanks, nice meeting you", shake their hand, and walk away. Ultimately, I didn't care what any of them were selling, or what they thought of me. I didn't need any of them. I was just there to pick their brain and fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 01:22 PM
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Whats the book? I heard it first when they appended Sadhguru saying it at the end of the song Alone with Me by Hopsin. Not sure if you like rap. I enjoy Hopsin's songs because he raps about real issues. That song he's talking about the voice in his head that keeps belittling him and driving him to suicide.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 12:44 PM
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188lb. I get a yearly bod pod measurements. Latest one was a few weeks ago. Navy has me at 11%. I mean even that fat dude that toured around with Owen from RSD said he got action. Not sure of the quality. Speaking of quality if you've never seen pictures of the women Mystery and crew were sarging at project Hollywood...Id say the stories added some artistic flair. But I digress. Doesnt matter. They had sex. Anyway yeah even my wife says she likes me not just muscle and bone. But I get giddy when…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 12:34 PM
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5'11" 9% yeah I get more looks at 12ish. But damn if shit don't pop in my workout mirror sub 10. Now the question is just who's glances do I care more about. Theirs? Or mine lol? (I understand there's practicality in cases you are looking for plates. I just don't know which would win out if I had to choose.)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 01:41 AM
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What I'm thinking, what you're thinking is not the important thing. We are alive right now, that is the important thing. It is important that you focus on this fundamental sense of aliveness within you. And then you will see there's a natural distance between you and your thought process. Once you create little space between you and your mind, between you and your body, this is the end of suffering. Don't identify any thought as negative because it's just thought. Who told you it's negative? It'…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 01:33 AM
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A few minutes later, I interjected my desire for the counters Cool. I fogged and used broken record that I just wanted to express my desire for it not to be cluttered. Very cool. told her I had no interest in talking to her with that attitude and exited. I started to get ready to leave Fuck yeah. My girl went and started cleaning the mess that was made. There we go. I called her over to let it be Wait...wtf? I knew something was wrong. I asked Why??? met with more shit tests So you did what you …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 01:16 AM
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Do you have any insight I’m missing from the diary entry above besides lifting? None that I feel like typing out this week. Can you suggest any specific reading within the sidebar? TF does this even mean? The sidebar is not an all encompassing encyclopedia of knowledge. Its the bare minimum. Read the whole thing lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 09:44 AM
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Lift, Sidebar, STFU. I really don't care if you choose to come here and not do one of the three basic things we prescribe. But you seem to have some kind of fetish to continually broadcast that you arent that I don't think I'll use and then starting stupid discussions on the merit of stupid choices. I dont need your ego DEERing clogging shit up. Stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 09:31 AM
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Low effort. If there's nothing to report...theres nothing to report.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 12:24 PM
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Thus Spoke Zarathustra God i have to go read this book. Its on my list. I'm currently slogging through really thick shit in The Phenomenology of Spirit, the first book I've ever read where I need to read like 10 pages at a time and then take a break because he divides concepts so fine, that it's hard to tease apart what his point is. But when I see it, it makes sense. The problem for me is that I began from this position. I think I need to cross over to the dark side At which point I will certai…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 02:04 PM
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We're all connected...there is no self Thats awesome that you see that too. Just a note that these are simply observations that being able to focus into and out of planes and polarities provide, and not the culmination (important point) of the narrative. Solid foundational knowledge produces really cool ideas. The ideas are not the focus. Curious about the hole you mentioned though... what is it? Haha! C'mon now. If I was a boxer, and my record was 100-0, I could announce that I've studied my ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 01:48 PM
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Part 2: Anything more practical it does for you? Let me ask you, whens the last time you cried to something beautiful? Last time you moved your body to the flow of energy you felt within? Whens the last time you found yourself mentally frustrated, and instantly released the frustration because you ascended to the parent node from which you were focused and remembered...this doesn't matter? Look, people get really frustrated when they say "give me an example of where this benefits you" and the an…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 02:03 AM
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Part 1: Thats a great question! I'm glad you asked. Let's first answer the question that I posed, with a monologue leading to the conclusion that we see line segments, goals, discrete journeys have loops. And then realize that the journeys themselves are arcs on loops. And then the realization that realizing this is a loop. And as such, the idea of a structure, that we defined as a loop, can be taken and applied throughout our world, big and small, to encompass everything from putting our shoes …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 02:03 AM
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Ask me what this ability to bring planes into and out of focus does for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 10:15 PM
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In the particular instance I'm writing about here, no. At least not on the plane you're speaking of. Plane? Whats that mean? Read on. Imagine if you will a line segment. The line segment has a beginning and end. These beginnings and ends are what we talk about when we make goals. You travel along the line segment from the beginning to the end. You reach your goal. Then you draw a "new", "completely different" line segment. All these line segments exist on the same plane. You (sleep-state) unders…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 08:30 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. I know I have a tendency to write that way. I kinda like it. Because its exactly how I experience life. Viscerally. Its cool to see when it lands for others too!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 09:14 PM
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Thats fine. Like Ragnar said, you're not trying to "fix" her. . Her continuing to be a brat is her choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 01:00 PM
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I'm just sitting in the corner fapping.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 12:57 PM
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Rule 0 that matters most Of course it does. Rule 0 says "think of things according to the praxeology of RP". Thats kinda like arguing whether or not to believe in a Christian God by referencing the first commandment lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 12:54 PM
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I take it you arent married. So while I could expound on the idea, it might be as hollow as you telling me how amazing and insightful playing the game and LTRs are. We might just have to live each other's reality to really see it. Which...I guess is kinda the point. If everyone was suddenly "red" and divorced, no one would live that reality. And so it dies. (Again not moral). If society "takes what it wants and leaves the rest" of RP (it becomes mainstream, thus, depolarized), and no one polariz…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 12:26 PM
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We're done here. Thought the comments might add some value. Alas.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 11:12 AM
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I suppose one would have to ask themselves if their goal is to "be" red. But...seeing as how RP is a model, im more inclined to "use" it. Kinda like how I use a hammer...when I see a nail. Then the question is: Is it really a nail?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 11:09 AM
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Rolls eyes You're 36. Stop making shitty excuses, lift, AND go on the hike. Shoulder hurts? You poor soul. But what an experience to grind through a hike with buds with a pulled muscle. Half your OYS is about her. If you weren't on OYS 2 I'd give you a rule...what the fuck # is the "she" rule? Whatever id ban you for a month. Stop worrying about her. Stop worrying about her family. Focus on you. Build yourself into a guy you trust. So when you go to her and say "Hey, I dont want you engaging in …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 10:47 PM
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Agree with FutileFighter...are you branching into the things you want sexually and getting repeated denials? Are those things minor extensions of past branching and not something abrupt like randomly pulling out a knife and talking about blood play? If yes, then yeah she may not be what you want. But if her being who you want sexually is at all limited by you not engaging in new things, and you've seen that if/when you usually engage, she follows, then thats on you. Gradual improvement continues…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 10:37 PM
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Faith If I said I was religious, it'd probably most fall under Taoism, but more the philosophical side without rites and practices. Just making sure we're on the same page here. Id be curious to know the other guy who asked with those views. All of the reasons Sure. If a guy has any problem and starts giving "reasons" that's hamstering. I agree. And yeah no doubt the intersexual arena outside of marriage will give you challenges. Briefly, where I'm coming from is a book i read a while back calle…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 01:16 PM
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Legal marriage is pure downside for the man. Real quick bc I see your point. But would like your opinion. What are your thoughts on marriage offering an opportunity to face opposition within a unique arena thats going to force a man to see and engage with things he otherwise wouldn't have? In other words, all obstacles can be eliminated by disengaging with them. I can avoid climbing a mountain by going around it. But then...ill never have experienced a mountain or learned the skills it could tea…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 12:11 AM
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Me wording it poorly does not change my intended answer. It is, and has been my answer this whole time. You are going to have to believe that, or not. The point is it doesn't matter what I believe (and I don't believe either. I'm pulling that answer from you). The point is you are being incongruent either way. If you're trying to get what u want, you complained about being hollow. If you're trying to be who you want, you're gauging it on what you get. Thats why I asked. To nail you down. So we c…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/23 01:53 AM
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Being who I want to be IS getting what I want to get. Mmmm we're playing semantics here but its not my interpretation thats incorrect. Thats not how you worded it. Thats ok though. We hashed it out. Good then, if being who you want to be is important, then (in the very same way that getting what you want to get lets go of being who you want to be), being who you want to be lets go of getting what you want to get. IMO though, being who you want to be is the "better" choice. Because YOU control th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 02:31 PM
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Now kiss.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 01:10 PM
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So you're saying that being who you want to be is entirely sacrificial as long as it gets you what you want to get? We call that dancing monkey. But truly if it makes you happy, do that. Dont let me catch you in here whining about carving your self hollow to get what you want... During this phase, I had no internal happiness because nothing that used to make me happy made me happy, and I had no idea who I was. Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 12:44 PM
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Stop vomiting your fee fees all over everyone and making them take the role of captain and console you. I wrote this to you 4 months ago. Most of your OYSs since have not improved. Theres a difference between introspection ("I see when I do this, its because of this, and this happens.") untangling the knot ("In realizing this, I did X, and learned.") and leaving your notes ("Hey guys, if you're in a similar spot, here's what may be going on with you, here's what I did, heres what happened, here'…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 12:36 PM
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The Way of Men is a book about Men. Iron John is a book about A Man. The Wild Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 11:16 PM
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I will build from here but I'm really trying to take on these lessons of not trying to do too much at once and failing on multiple fronts. Because...why? Because failing hurts your ego? Say I want to accomplish 5 goals. Say if I tackle 4 of them at once, then the 5th, I will need to fail 400 times, then 80 times for the 5th. Say if I tackle all 5 together I will need to fail 420 times. You want your 1 marshmallow now, so let's cut down where we're failing to reach goals sooner. This isn't a race…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 11:13 PM
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So is it about being who you want to be? Or getting what you want to get?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 11:08 PM
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Great shit. To further iron out inspiration for your symbolism, I would offer you the books of The Kyballion, which does a great job in breaking down the different polarizations (above and below, male and female, future and past) as well as The Phenomenology of Spirit, which checks out how polarizations come to be, DEpolarize by realizing the returning into oneself, and then the set of the whole depolarization (which contains both sides) is then itself polarized (in an as-above-so-below way) in …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 11:03 PM
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The consensus here maybe pushes me to find a problem Nah. Its just little voices that'll be there echoing in your head should a problem ever present itself. Just because someone speaks potential, does not mean it exists. Its just a door they hold open for you. Do they hold it open as projection? Guru knowledge you don't have? Seduction? Do their reasons matter? Everything typed out here is a gift. Whether its pertinent right now, later, or never. You can say "I dont need your gift", but a guy wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 10:44 PM
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psyllium husk Holy shit...read this a psilocybin husk. messing up the kids. Bro...they will thrive. They've been evolutionarily wired to for millenia. From much worse fates. It'll be "different". They'll have "complaints". But they will thrive. wife is finally starting to add some value. Let her. "Wife" is just a tag anyways. If she provides so much that she's a "wife" anyway by default even though you're officially divorced? Great! If she doesn't? Also great! Calibrate your life to maximize val…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 09:12 PM
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I am not sure what to do with the OYS content, but have promised myself to get to 52. I think the obvious question then is: Why are you using your time to write a few paragraph OYS if its not highlighting any problems or producing and value? "Getting to 52" is kind of silly if it becomes an arbitrary number. Why not 41? Why not 2 billion? Or maybe...that very thing, the nature you have to engage in tasks for superficial reasons IS the problem. At the end of the day, MRP wouldn't exist if every g…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 07:33 PM
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Good shit. If i was thinking of my engagement with my wife, it would seem to be out of duty most of the time. You dont have to answer me but...duty to what? And to what end? And is this the dynamic you want (where conversation is for this duty?) Do it because you want to. Or because you don't want to.. I'm being very careful not to propose a rule. Absolutely do that, or even try that, and see how it feels. Does it drastically reduce the need to hedge your feelings ahead of time because it drasti…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 05:53 PM
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I don't gauge my interests based on what other people like But you do gauge how you engage with people based on what others think. And I'd assume you engage because you have an interest in engaging. Soooo... realizing how little she cares about what interests me Revel in the fact that you now see it. This could still be a validation thing Her response would be validation. Her engagement is just a painful reminder that the model you had of her was incorrect (ego). but i dont think I would go off …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 03:26 PM
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Askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 01:05 PM
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So...like...I dont get the logic here: You talk about stuff that interests you. She cuts you off and changes topic because she isnt interested, you get offended. Then you learn "hey...maybe she's not attempting to offend me...she just doesn't care." But then your plan of action is to stop talking about things that interest YOU, because SHE doesn't care??? Thats like...if every time I cooked steaks for my wife and I, she says "Oh thats ok...ill just eat one of my meal prepped meals tonight.", me …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 12:48 PM
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:) What I got is what I actually wanted Sounds familar. Basically the universe has opened up to me both externally and internally in a way that I basically dreamed it would since I first started. Definitely worthy of main post FR. Welcome to the beginning of the rest of your life. Enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 10:39 AM
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Toxic One of the most captivating aspects of philosophical Taoism for me is that it never attempts to try and tell someone what they should do. The entirety of it is just a giant suggestion of how one could decide to interpret life in an equally unbiased way. (In a..."take what works, leave the rest" kind of way). It even states the magnitude of its intent and inability to (if it were to) polarize the world in its very first sentence: The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao. In essence: …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 09:33 AM
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is having numerous ways to achieve the same goal. ... No. Thats not what degrees of freedom are. Setting that idea on the side for a bit (very cool idea...I may chamber that round again in the near future)...I sense...ego. I tell you what. I'm going to ask a totally open and honest question here. You don't even have to answer it if you dont want. In fact, if you do, i promise not to even respond. But...are you afraid of what I have to say redmateus? Or do you think I'm completely full of shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 11:19 PM
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Sidebar if you're interested...do you know what Degrees of Freedom means? Particularly when attempting to model data?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 09:34 PM
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But I disagree. And that's OK. Sure. We're just talking. I'm not claiming whats right. Just what I see as valuable. My notes. Yes, but not his stance on marriage and relationships. Not directly. But what about his deep diving into his stances on personality, its developement, its transformations, and how its used in the general carving out of the very social fabric from which hypergamy and red pill / marriage and relationship come about? What about his stances on maps of meaning, how maps (his t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 06:27 PM
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So if you stick around a bit you'll probably start getting annoyed with me constantly declaring that what you're doing has flaws. The reason I do that is because my view of leadership and mentorship is not to praise you for your successes. You shouldn't need my praise. And its not to hold your hand to look at what those current flaws mean. Thats a job every man (human) should have innately wired within themselves. And it appears you are doing this to some extent a la: where does this arise? But.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 01:43 PM
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it is natural that most of the things I write regards her, as she is only a reflection of myself I am finding out things about me by looking in the mirror So...your opinion of yourself is wholeheartedly based on the reactions of others? In other words, recognizing the matrix is a fake reality...you are gauging your progress by how others respond in it? What is your idea of Frame? Define it for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 10:33 AM
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Why are you listening to LARPers? I'm gonna disagree here. Even on Tate lol. Because at OP's stage a wide range of perspective is a great plan of action. Even if its some ridiculous material like Tate. JP's actual lectures (not his woke preaching) a decade ago on psychology have been some of the most profound intellectual growth i made on my journey. In "normal reddit" every now and then I'll advise those looking to become more social to go and check out PUA videos (with the caveat for the snowf…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 09:26 AM
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And then everyone clapped.. Lol dude, stop. Each week your OYS writes like some cringe RP wet dream. And almost the entire content of it, while written about you, is exclusively about how what you're doing affects her. I lacked respect towards my professional figure for the last two years. As a result, my gf Two weeks ago I gave her a "big neg" by refusing sex When she woke up I had my bags packed "I do what I think is RP things but in reality they're reactionary covert contracts." I know you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/23 09:13 AM
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People don't just vomit thoughts in real time. She has a basis for how she operates and what she thinks is fair in a relationship. She's passed the idea of you cleaning, not cleaning, causes, reasonability, responses, consequences, methodology, social filters, all that shit through her thoughts and emotions. Then just said it. Thing is, you weren't privy to her internal hamster. Thats why it seems like it came out of nowhere. I just assumed her higher standard had to do with previously being a C…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/23 07:42 PM
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Out of no where To you. She's wrung it through her models. And this is the result. This is an overt sign that its been in her mind. A lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/23 03:57 PM
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Welcome to the locker room. Thank you for not making this a question (they go in askMRP). I'll leave this up for a day, but this is OYS material. Main sub posts are for FR and results from experience and testing.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/23 08:10 PM
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The world is designed from birth to only allow those worthy of the key to knowing how to obtain it. No one will give you the key. Everyone will hide it from you, and especially women. Oddly enough though, when you go to steal it...you'll face no resistance... We're told to "follow the rules", as the well is not to be polluted. But we are viscerally called to it. Because in its reflection we see ourselves. Disturbing it gilds us, but the ripples disturb our ability to see. I see you've taken your…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 01:09 AM
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I hope you are banned for this comment I'm going to lump this into a ban for Morralizing. You are fat, weak, got ILYBINILWY'ed. You read 2 books in a week but I guarantee you didn't internalize shit. Reading the words =/= absorbing the content. Slow your role. Shut your hole. Report back with some notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 02:56 PM
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Just no.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 08:15 PM
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Take another 4. Let's see what you come back with.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 07:56 PM
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Part 2: My trouble in arguing with my wife is that she says things that have no basis in reality. She can only do that when we're alone though. Every time I bring in a doctor, the doc echoes everything I have been saying. All your doing is bringing in other people who's aliens agree with yours. She didnt see their or your alien. To her, that visit from the omniscient being told her differently. And to her...that visit was viscerally real. So why would she take yours and others (mere humans) word…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 03:33 PM
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So here's a little mind game for you. Part 1 because text limits: Imagine at some point in your life some otherworldly being pushed pause, showed you who they were and their unfathomable power and understanding of life, the cosmos, and dynamics. And after you were completely won over by the being's competence, it gave you a list. On that list was written basically a super in-depth guide of how to interpret life. A veritable encyclopedia of If-Then statements. And let's say you somehow were able …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 03:33 PM
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Resonated enough to do what you twat? No one cares if your pee pee moved a bit reading a reply. Almost every reply to comments to your OYS is "You're right". The only reason I'm not issuing a ban is because in one reply you actually did something (went on YouTube and looked up squats).
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/23 09:16 PM
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I should still be able to drop 1lb a week with this plan. 20lbs in 5 months = 1 lb a week. Tell me how you're raising calories and still planning to drop 1lb a week?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/23 09:59 AM
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I may get to some endgame and decide its still not enough, and thats fine too The lie detector determined that this was a lie. can leave, fuck randoms from tinder, do whatever the fuck I want, and probably eventually look for another relationship (because I probably want family in the future). Or I can stay and keep leading to better places, which on the current trajectory looks pretty good. I may get to some endgame and decide its still not enough, and thats fine too. Seems like the stay plan i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/23 09:56 AM
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I will leave a legacy What does this mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/23 09:39 AM
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So....whats your plan after you try to fix her and fail?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/23 09:36 AM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 06:22 PM
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"it sounds like this little kid is in control of what emotion you are going to have next. Is that actually true?" So what you're teaching is that you / her need to be better than the child? That a child's access to our emotional stability is a bad thing? How about understanding the dynamic that yes...we are social creatures. That other people no matter who they are have access to strings in our emotions that we may not control. And instead of shutting them out, trying to "win" over them, or beli…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 03:30 PM
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So imagine you're sitting at a table. Elbows on the edge. Left hand (if you're right handed) with forearm laying on the table. Right hand elbow on the edge, forearm in the air. Hands open to receive an item. In your left hand I put a nail. In your right I put a hammer. You swing. In your left hand I put a bottle of ink. In your right a quill pen. You dip. In your left I put a needle. In your right a thread. You thread the hole. In your left I put a crab claw. In your right a mallet. You whack. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/23 05:17 PM
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The Tao mission that can be spoken of is not the enduring and unchanging Tao mission. There's a reason guys seem to all be getting at something a little different. And its very telling that the way you chose to try to define mission is what people here mean when they say mission. Emphasis mine. Why is what mission means to you defined by others? Why do you seek your answer "here" as opposed to "there"? And is a mission even something that can be said articulated? And if it is, are you aware that…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/23 08:30 PM
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Excellent reply. To those who happen to follow: Be aware of the one-sided cost of "lowering the barrier and distilling information". And the trap of the solution to someone not buying in to just lower the barrier a bit more. TRP is opening a door and preferring anyone to walk through. MRP is opening a door and preferring one person to walk through. Leadership is a benevolent offering, not an arduous slog. Distilling information makes it easier to walk through. But at a cost to YOU. It should be …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 08:57 PM
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Distill it into actionable steps for who?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 05:46 PM
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A noobs post below yours was removed. You may or may not be able to see [Removed] depending on your reddit browser.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/23 03:52 AM
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Tate?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/23 04:26 PM
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I think you've overcompensated. There is no us/them. Its just guys who've achieved their own success with their own goals and problems. Not in contrast to you. But alongside you. An interesting question to ask yourself is: "What could my 'heroes' use from me?" And, in an effort to leave those notes, you might find yourself writing something like What A Successful Mind and Marriage Look Like. The funny thing is, you likely don't even want what they have. If you did, you'd have gotten it by now. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/23 02:38 PM
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No. And your OYS sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 02:49 PM
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it's the opposite of how I FEEL but I KNOW FEEL its right Fixed.
/r/askMRP08/02/23 02:31 AM
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Hey /u/ragnar_Daneskjold...its been a year. What are your thoughts on AMALT? And how does it relate to AWALT? Also, what do you think about AWALT vs AWHTCTBLT or AMALT vs AMHTCTBLT? Is this who we're supposed to be? Is that how women are supposed to be? If not, what else can we be? And why might we think we're supposed to be something?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/23 02:26 PM
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Covert vs Overt Correct. But does the fact that its now overt mean anything other than you are now brave enough to declare the contract outright? Its like the difference between passive and active dread. Or the difference between thinking "I bought you dinner, you owe me sex" and outright saying it. OK its overt now. You're still ego invested in the model and the result. Yeah, so what? Good! We can accept the contract as is. Our ego has given up the battle of defending the contract outright. Now…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 09:05 PM
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Good. Keep in mind too that when I talk about "levels" or "planes", that these contracts fractally play out. Contracts are often nested all the way down. And often involve models that assume you know how things work (or attempt to force a perspective on the world). IE: (Levels ending in a number are a raw covert contract.) (Levels ending in .a are ego invested ways i think I understand the world.) (Levels ending in .b are ego investments i think will happen.) Level 1: If I shave my head, my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 07:47 PM
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Thats why I included aspects of it that do not involve others in the world (IE it makes me strong so I can move heavy things, or, it keeps me "healthy", or it disciplines me mentally). I will lift weights. Lifting weights will discipline me mentally. I will lift expecting this result. Thats a contract. Is that pedantic? Maybe. It just depends on what level you are looking at it from. But let's reverse the burden of proof...why do we (you) necessarily need to call it not a contract? Is there a st…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 01:54 PM
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/u/redmateus 's ego is showing. It IS a covert contract. The question is, does that matter? I am a fit sexy beast. My muscles garner me respect, admiration, looks. They broadcast my drive, my ability, and my strength. I like them for what they do for me. Theres a small piece of string there though. And if you pull it you'd find that if everyone in the world were fat and 10% BF was looked at as sickly and revolting, if gyms were not a thing and muscles served no purpose, I would be less inclined …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 10:19 AM
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See DM
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 08:12 PM
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K. Try again in 2 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 08:06 PM
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I should get some shit checked by a doc...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 05:01 PM
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Ego is an addiction. Just like alcohol. Just like opiates. Look how many "interventions" TB had to have. We are addicted to shaping the world and ourselves a certain way. To combat this, one should develop a healthy skepticism not just of the thought "Am I wrong?", because our ego is really good at shoo-ing those thoughts away...but the hypothetical "If I was wrong...how could I be wrong?" That though naturally subverts the ego. Because Rule Zero for the ego is "I'm right."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 04:57 PM
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Id let this slide usually but its very clear your ego is involved so...moralizing. Take a small break.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/23 02:51 PM
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I'm going to make a lot of points and ask questions through this reply. Try not to answer any directly. They all build on each other. Read the whole thing and get the big picture. See if that lands. Id like to emphasize here that there's a few phases guys go through as they swallow RP. The first is an understanding "what a guy thinks MRP wants". The second is understanding "what MRP actually wants". And the third is understanding "my wants may not align with MRP wants". I expect that continued p…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 09:39 PM
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Alright awesome. Two steps forward. Let's see how we can play in this headspace and expand our understanding of what you've framed. 1) Viewing it as a problem to solve It as in the relationship? Or as in sex? Doesn't matter. They both work. So what you're saying is that a similarity between your BP self and your RP self is viewing (either one) as a problem to solve. I then ask to imagine a life where this was NOT a problem to solve. And you say Mission focused. Okay. Not bad. Because truly if we…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 08:17 PM
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FFS How could my current mindset be wrong? Not the important part. Me: and if it were "wrong" in a similar...parallel way to the way the first mindset was wrong The important part. I even spelled it out for you. I even said "I'm spelling this out for you, pay attention, because a lot of guys on here miss this". This is like me saying "Hey you know X? And you know Y? How could X and Y be similarly bad? And you answering "well let me tell you about why I think Y could be bad." And then "But let me…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/23 10:08 PM
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Okay so pay attention because I'm going meta here. I'm not directly addressing the frame you're putting forth. But I'm also offering you the lead. I was the type 2 beta-indoctrinated captain that just put more and more on my back and thought money would solve my problems…obviously wrong. Obviously eh? To who? You now? Isnt it funny how sure of yourself you were then? As a type 2 beta? (Rhetorical question. Continue on.) I would expect further improvement over time, but call it phase 1 where I’ve…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/23 12:40 AM
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Whats up BJ. I'm skimming over old notes and 9 months later id like to follow up. I think the journey is asymptotic...it mimics the theme found in Asimov's The Last Question I think I'll always be advancing and never fully know this is the "right" path. (Because I've seen very clearly there is no "right" path"). But holy hell life is really really good right now and only getting better. The peace is near euphoric at times. Even when life is bumpy. And I'm still grinding away. Hope things are wel…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/23 04:15 PM
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I get to choose between to try and make the chaos comfortable enough or her sure enough of us to follow us into it or just being comfortable with how things are. Tines you sweet summer child...they are the same thing :) Thats all I got for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/23 02:51 PM
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if she doesn't soon accept and embrace the new paradigm, I'll be prepared to walk. Any comments you care to share as a result of me highlighting this?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/23 02:46 PM
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Why did you write this?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 10:26 PM
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Great addition. It really is eye opening when you see it. I've never once had my wife come home, look at clean dishes, and say "I needed that." In post-sex cuddles however...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 05:04 PM
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The solution I hope is to crack on and get through the tasks I have organised as planned and make sure I'm all over everything. Bro this is like using duct tape to tape over a hole that's allowing water to gush into your ship. "If I can just patch myself up to get to 'the end'."...The end is you on your death bed breathing your final breath. Instead, do some preventative maintenance on yourself to get to a point where you dont have to worry about holes on your ship (or dont have to hope either t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 02:33 PM
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It always does give a good laugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 02:16 PM
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But after thinking about their comments a bit I was on the edge of my seat here... voice in my head said "Hey, wait a minute. You've actually made a lot of great decisions. "There there my poor ego. Its okay. You do good things." even if I don't actually believe it -- yet. "I feel bad. So if I lie to myself, I'll feel better. I just need to make myself believe it." Your ego is in overdrive. Pick up a book on stoicism. Shit happens. Enjoy it. Its all part of the flow of life. Theres no need to li…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 02:15 PM
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bench press isn’t too bad if I warm up proper so I will try and do these at high rep light-but-challenging Coming from someone who doesn't know at all what they're talking about...if things are mobile and pain free after warning up, I would think there's something wrong with the supporting muscles and tendons. I would guess high reps which will wear out the main muscle and direct the last few reps directly at those support structures would wreck them from too much strain. Id go same weight, slow…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 02:08 PM
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she will say things like I want a man man This is when you take her hand, walk her into your home gym, put 425 on the bar, bench it, then look at her and say "Now shut the fuck up." I was in a perfection [sic] where control was everything or you die Stop embellishing. You were a pig. Whoopde-doo. We now have seven kids and four grandkids No kids together So wait...these 7 kids were all hers? Hahaha! For real though...STFU. Your story is incoherent rambling with so many discrepancies my troll ala…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 01:36 PM
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Cool story. What options are available? I'm not doing the work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 01:13 PM
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If I continue to eat more "bits" and "snacks" then I will gradually fail. What options are available that would allow for eating, but continue toward losing weight?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 09:32 PM
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So you're saying if you reach this certain "enough" level, she should respond by being receptive? Kinda like a...contract? And you're not telling her about this right? Its...covert? Whats that called again?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 09:23 PM
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upping the dread level enough Enough for what?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 08:52 PM
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As you waffle up and down on what a BJ means to you, notice once and awhile what it means for something to mean something to you. Is the you you want to be a guy who's response to a BJ varies over time? Does that portray a steady internal frame? Sure it is in your nature for urges to change as they're satisfied or neglected. But is your frame one that has come to peace with that? Or does your frame respond to and so is a subject to the urges?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 08:02 PM
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It’s easy for me to look back...When that happens I remind myself No option is going to be a complete slice of heaven. Depending on your goal, id wager its not the "freedom" you crave...because with the exception of banging different women, you can create that same freedom in a relationship. Whats valuable to you now is you have the power to choose your destiny. Whereas before you were more "locked in". Thats why MRP is hard mode. On a global scale, id say life in a relationship has a better val…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 04:39 PM
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Been awhile since I've seen your kind in here. grabs popcorn
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 04:28 PM
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Lol no dude. I didn't say "Do you see smoking as a correlating factor to success with your wife?" I said "Take them both as independent problems uncorrelated with each other...look at the relationships between the stimuli and the effects and loops...and see similarities between those structures." Insinuating the structure of the solution of one can be used for the structure of the solution of the other. ELI5: Can you kick the wife habit in a similar way you kick the cigarette habit? I'm doing it…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 04:20 PM
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but I didn't have anything much to talk about, which in hindsight is a deficiency in my game Not everything is supposed to be something. Even the top PUAs will say their rates are on the order of 1 in 10, depending on the goal. If you're chasing the golden goose, you're in its frame. If you simply build yourself in such a way that its easy for the goose to come, should it decide to do so, it's in yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 04:05 PM
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Any other suggestions for getting 200g of protein a day are appreciated. Check out my Days of Dread Week 2 post last year. Theres plenty of options. Get creative. Don't be lazy. Have started mastering my current grade and moving up to the next one. Imagine taking a 20lb dumbbell, strapping it to your back, and climbing. Thats the extra load you're pulling up the wall. Lose the weight and watch yourself rocket up in grades. One thing I’m observing in myself is lack of desire for her You're simply…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 01:33 PM
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Do you see any similarities between your addiction to cigarettes and addiction to your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 11:01 AM
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Take a break. Too much egoic moralizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 09:35 AM
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Very cool. You're asking the "right" questions ;) Do your thing. Id love to hear from you down the line.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/23 06:12 PM
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indicates a level of contempt indicates When you look through a lens that searches for contempt, you will see things presented to you as indications of contempt. There's power in that for her. Why care about power games when you've already won? Or (dynamite here...dont think about this too hard but if you see it one day you'll know) why care about power games when you've already lost? stay that relationship energy better used elsewhere. Does staying mean that it was done for a reason of the rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/23 07:44 PM
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Honesty, perspective, initiative, intent...see here
/r/askMRP14/01/23 06:51 PM
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This is cleary you arriving at an exit to the MRP maze in (what you believe) record time, turning around, and wondering if you should go back inside the maze or not to find another exit. Let's contrast first by saying there are a lot of guys, vets, myself included whose wives have said this. You might ask "Did they "really" mean it?" And your answer would be poisoned with the reveal of who that wife turned into, versus who she was when she said it. There are also guys, including an OG (8-9 years…
/r/askMRP14/01/23 04:36 PM
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IE "This response meets the criteria for what I think is good advice. Which...would imply I knew the difference between good and bad advice on the issue at hand. Which...if I did, id have to know what that good advice is before even getting a reply. So...why am I asking the question?" Consider for a moment the reason you're failing is because you dont know the difference between good advice and bad advice. Hey a loop!
/r/askMRP13/01/23 02:37 PM
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What if she said: "I dont find anyone attractive?" You: Shes lying Maybe? But now we're not concerned with her perspective. We've switched concerns to her honesty. What if she wasn't lying...but didn't know she wasn't lying? What if life were so dull to her she didn't know that flame could be relit? You: How could she not know? Ah. Now we're questioning her ability to know herself and not perception or honesty. Do you think she knows herself completely? How high of a pedestal do you have her on?…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/23 08:44 PM
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Maybe in a roundabout way. Not directly. Egos thrive in any situation they arent challenged. But that's like saying boxers thrive in rings with no opponent. Not that a strong ego is necessarily better than a fragile one either, unless its known that what the ego is protecting is worth protecting. And how would one know? To say it is would seem very...egoic :)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/23 08:29 PM
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I decided instead of making a point about meditation and spilling words out that I'm just going to suck air instead. Hmm...maybe you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 10:50 PM
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Great shit bro. I teeter between trying to push him to be better and just being there when he is willing to put in the work. He's already there because you pushed him. Covertly. He's knows where you are if he needs you. Just leave the door open.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 01:08 PM
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Part 3: In the same way, every idea in MRP results in conclusions which, if interpreted according to MRP make sense. The catch is, when two people are involved, both have to agree on what that idea is in order for them both to give their essence to it, in order for it to be manifest and be made important. This is because the self-referential part, the act and the interpretation, are not being done by the same person. It’s split up between two people. And if one of those people have an interpreta…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/22 03:38 PM
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Part 2: You might say: Because it provides predictable results and actionable advice. And I'd say sure it does. By its very nature of being an idea. That's what an idea is. It's a contextualization of reality in a certain way. But if we are engaging with reality and interpreting the response within the context of that idea, then the idea is basically self-reinforcing within the context we've applied to it. If I believe the sun is a god, and the sun rising is the god showering the world in the li…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/22 03:36 PM
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Part 1: So I'm going to be honest here for a second. And this is more of a self-rambling of my own personal thoughts rather than trying to convince you that the view I have is correct (because, as you'll see, for 1 I dont know if the view is correct and for 2 I'm not even sure if there is a "correct" view). But if you find anything valuable in these notes, feel free to grab it. I've been deep in some rabbit holes lately. And they're actually quite disturbing because I cannot seem to find any kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/22 03:33 PM
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wouldn't you say these traits are rightfully in the good beta signal category? In "The Game" I'd agree with you yes. The Game being the progression of men embodying the code as it was, women trying to understand and putting the code in a box, and then men trying to act in such a way to respond to what they thought women thought about whats in that box. Thats why there's chivalry and honor (holding a door open for a woman and pledging themselves to her til death) and chivalry and honor (a knightl…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 10:16 PM
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I think woman DO understand men's value hierarchy, they just don't see the virtue/honesty/chivalry stuff as unique I think there's nuance all over this. And speculation abound (by both of us). I'm reminded of a video from a Red Man panel years ago where Rian argued that a woman doesn't understand the consequences of her actions (in general). And while I disagree there, I think in the case of virtue, honor, chivalry...I think women try to understand it. I think they acknowledge it exists and try …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 01:56 AM
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I have never seen this post of his. Good shit. I love the distinction between value and virtue. It highlights that difference that has been known throughout time, that men value a code of honor, chivalry (non-BP term), ethos...and women do not. Not that that dont because they understand it and reject it. They truly do not understand it. Likely because it comes with the territory of having power and knowing when to use it. (Women being weaker, obviously rarely being in that power position). And a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 03:38 PM
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I should disregard it and focus on actions and results. I found it much easier to let go when it wasn't just a careless disregarding of her anxiety...but the full realization of its weight. To her, this shit matters. Truly. Our problem is we try to give weight to their anxiety through the innate power we as men possess to bring reality into the world. Almost as if to say "if men are concerned about it, then it must be a concern." This ties in with the idea of frame as well. Where frame is the so…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 02:41 PM
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those things. They're not what I'm here for. And then The response was basically....Also that all of this lack of sex/quality time is because....I laughed it off and played Is the above hamstering something you're here for? Or no?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/22 07:01 PM
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Quality notes though. "I did stuff. Things worked and things didn't. Heres where I'm headed."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 06:58 PM
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Clarify my stupidity because I haven't read it. And this may not even be a disagreement. But at the end of the day women will never love fuck you the way for the same reason you want to be loved fuck. OP's wife said it herself "I want to have sex for you". Sex isn't viscerally important to her. But what is important is how he sees her / how she follows him. OP is shooting himself in the balls by trying to deny something he wants in order to guilt trip her into feeling the way he does about it. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/22 04:34 PM
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Gay
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/22 10:47 PM
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One could make a good logical argument of "Why can't women just give me a chance or helpful feedback instead of leading me on all night or throwing a drink in my face when I hit on them." Or "Why can't my wife just fuck me?" Its not that they're all tugging on their dicks nipples for clout. Although I'm sure you could view it like that. Polarizing a problem and working to overcome it is empowering to men. Which...makes me wonder why the polarization guys are choosing is "MRP isnt taught the way …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 09:29 AM
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The gold is always in the comments. For you OP: Put Your Ego on the Shelf For onlookers: Welcome to the locker room. The one place in your life that is going to hold you accountable for your 1% flaw in 99% of success. You did shit and got places. Thats fucking awesome. But you dont need me to tell you that. What the fuck does my pat on the back matter anyway? You don't know me. I dont know you. But...if you can swallow your ego you might understand that this reply...not OP's power grab...but thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/22 08:31 PM
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I've been righting the boat and quietly correcting the situation with actions rather than words A big fight is actions not words? Running away is righting the boat? Tests are a question that asks "is he enough to deal with this?" Hoping you get the answer right for the benefit of you both. They don't come from a position of power, but from a concern for your weakness. She is straight up starting to show her hand now that you put a ring on it (power). Not that it cannot be corrected. But this isn…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/22 07:56 PM
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It's interesting that you say How did you grow your DNGAF to the point of enjoying yourself? Rather than How did you enjoy yourself to the point that you DNGAF?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/22 05:08 PM
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OP seems to hold a Spanish speaking account who posts almost exclusively to Spanish sub. Has a few comments recently to a freemasonry sub with pretty good English and grammar. Then this post, followed within hours by the very first comment/reply of the commenter's account who is also barely literate. For what it's worth...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/22 01:22 PM
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This is why my current plan involves following maxes from 3 reps all the way to 10. It just feels different to max out at different reps. I also incorporated slow work in my last program. Not "to maximum slowness" but to explore it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 03:13 AM
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Stupid maybe. But my curiosity of "I wonder what my absolute limit is" is going to win out on that fight. My goal is cut, big, strong in that order. I've changed my routine a bunch over the years, but i agree. I found the most success in a 4 day rotation of push, legs and back, pull, and whatever muscles remained. 3x3x10. Heavy compound for the first set of 3, then ancillary for the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 10:56 PM
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You know this clown?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 01:16 AM
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And not just from the top down applying AWALT to women and "that". But the bottom up realizing AWALT is simply a single representation of a larger scaffolding into which you could take out the specifics (in this case women and "that") and substitute in something else (and that something else's "that"). I.E. "The way in which we understand women and "that" through AWALT can be used to understand other things as well."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/22 03:52 PM
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I am going to drop it. Sure. Drop it in the sense you were talking about, where you're following it for the purpose of others. But don't let that shit go from your own grasp. I have a link to my mission. It came to me like a bolt from the blue one day. I grabbed on, and resolved to never let go, no matter what life threw at me...so deep it reached into my soul. And though its shifted and morphed itself as how it manifests in this world was made more clear through my own trial and error, my grasp…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/22 12:21 AM
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Totally not an alt lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 09:57 PM
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Get off my porch.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 01:42 PM
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Love you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 10:16 PM
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whoosh Take care man.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 08:51 PM
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My job initially is simply to filter those that belong in the locker room. Every piece of advice you could hope to see here can be found elsewhere, spun in its own certain way. If you choose to search here for it, you need to be in a place to receive it. Your flailing replies here are basically saying "I can't handle the tough approach you guys are offering." But not just that. You're saying "I need you to change the way you communicate with me...for my benefit." Which is basically the entire pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 08:43 PM
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Do you think being able to summarize it the way I did provides some insight into what is or isnt important? Or maybe the ego everyone is pointing out in the comments valid criticism? Or...is it just that you arent getting the feedback you wanted. In which case, let me know what you want me to tell you so you can feel good about yourself. Welcome to the locker room. Your moralizing is a breadth away from seeing you out.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 08:20 PM
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Calm your tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 08:05 PM
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Ill save everyone the read: Guy told girlfriend he wants to sleep around. Girl said no but they later banged in a parking lot before security said leave. I think there was a token "Rian's stuff is great" in there. And hamster shotgunned throughout. Did I miss anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 08:03 PM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 05:07 PM
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and usually only stays for a few moments before we're dropped back into a sub-self. There's always a tether to it. You just need to work that tether like a muscle and it becomes easier to access each time. which self is appropriate And therein, in the word "appropriate" references the last piece of my reply: "step into and out of this world". Because you have to ask yourself in a situation "Do I even need to put on a mask? Yes if I dont things may not go my way but...is that a problem? Truly? An…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 03:13 PM
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All good. This was definitely tongue in cheek. Got a long ways to go. Go kill it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 10:14 PM
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Become a high value man. Redundant. Become a man Framed. Become Ehhh... Be There we go.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 06:50 PM
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No no...forget reading this from the perspective of it somehow relating to RP dogma (IE: "Somehow the answer to this question relates back to the frame we teach here including NGAF, STFU, and congruence"). This is a pure question. Almost every person refers to themselves in the form of perspective. For example in the above explanation, you may think the self im asking you about is a self within the umbrella of RP...the "you" when you step into the locker room. And that that self is different fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 06:15 PM
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I'm gonna tag team with /u/Persimmon_Dazzling... Would I feel bad My actions...my beliefs Who is this "I"? Who is it when you say "my"?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 03:44 PM
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Thar she blows!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 03:41 PM
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covert contract Drop the sex versus exhaustion. Consider DEERing versus a simple "No". Which was a better experience?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 03:39 PM
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Swing and a miss. It was a good curveball though. One more nudge: /u/SwordHolder69 if you are using inattention as a purposeful tool...is that attention? Or inattention?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 01:05 PM
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Circumstances outside your control and a decision within your control. Good.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 04:01 AM
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With my girls I’m about 80% there as I can shrug off no’s for most things. A lot of guys associate "No's" with real-time, verbal no's. But even here we start making distinctions between types of no's with the terminology "hard no" and "soft no". What people don't realize is when a "no" is simply "the universe in all its chaos has come together over days, years, decades to arrive at a point where reality does X to you. And you didn't want that." In that view, a woman shit testing you is a No. A w…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 08:42 PM
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questions I have to answer. My autistic friend I offer a chance to get off the ride. You already know the answer. Logically. If you're like me though, I had to witness the answer. To embody it. To be it. I find a great joy in studying the metaphysics, the essence behind what it is to be. Its a deep rabbit hole. And at the end is a pure enlightened understanding of who you are and why you do what you do. And while coming to understand that means the paralysis and anxiety that comes with the sensa…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 08:11 PM
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Mission: To help young men around me battle the depression epidemic, and to embrace their masculinity. I'm not going to give you the benefit of the doubt by thinking you know the path through doing this is to unfuck yourself to such a degree that other men cast off their depression because they want to be you. I'm going to take this to mean that somehow if you find the right tools, you'll discover a motivation to empathetically reach out to men suffering and bring about their transformation thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 07:55 PM
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I haven't really put much thought into whether I will go ahead with either (or both) of these opportunities or not because I'd just viewed it as (relatively) innocent fun up to this point. Guilt won't hold me back. Congruence might. Something to think about I guess. At the end of the day, you want to become a man who does what he does naturally and spontaneously without needing to think about it. Not because spontaneous is "good", but because you already know that the frame and models you carry …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 07:37 PM
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One of my big "safety behaviors" around presentations is overpreparing to the point of basically being scripted I've learned that if I feel like I know what I'm talking about, and I usually do, the transitions are the only hooks that need to be set in my head. So instead of "What am I going to say on this slide" its "how am I going to get from this slide to the next." Management has made too many unforced errors and those errors likely won't be corrected, It's absolutely hilarious how you make a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 05:27 PM
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What are you owning here? Looks like a bunch of excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 04:50 PM
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This works well, but doesn't fix the underlying anger. Why am I even angry? Because you have shit mental models. Demonstrated here: There is still a part of me that masochistically enjoys playing stoic and then blowing up later over something mostly unrelated Because you think being stoic means acting stoic. Meaning for the purpose of (as interpreted by others) stoic. IE "If I act stoic, they will perceive me as stoic, and our dynamic will change." You do this same thing by reverse projection: P…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 12:51 PM
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OYS#1: Rehabbing an injury so my numbers suck, but I'm committed to consistency, and the emphasis on lifting heavy weights What the fuck is this mysterious back injury that you've used as an excuse for the last 9 fucking months??? but this change in behavior is getting my attention Nope I like connecting with people and talking about deep shit. I want this kind of connection with women... I hold the belief that I need to be correct and competent in order to project confidence... That is funny. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 12:20 PM
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Wow you really logic'ed him.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 01:26 PM
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Be wary of how much you enable. Zero work. Then when pointed out the dude again does zero work via introspection and says "show me". If you do, even to depth like /u/Alphalfasprout is, he just DEERs it all away.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 01:11 PM
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Good progress. Leave your wife out of it. In fact... antidepressants I'm not sure what the implications are Then fuck it out of your head space until you see results. wifes weight Her response: "I agree and was just thinking that" Fuck it out of your head space until she does, not thinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/22 08:11 PM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 01:28 PM
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Didn't finish. Didn't need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 10:44 PM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 10:43 PM
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Why is that?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 01:16 PM
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Ah, so you do realize it's up for interpretation.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 01:07 PM
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His part Part of what? The covert contract of predetermined amounts of effort that "should" be put into a relationship? "Part", "fault", "should", all these ideas are just perspectives you're using to try and make OP feel less responsible. But fault and responsibility do not go together. Its his life. He isn't satisfied? He needs to fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 01:02 PM
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Define "good" and "better".
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 12:47 PM
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Nothing that you're saying is false. Nothing that you're saying does anything more than stroke his feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 09:00 PM
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This place isn't for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 06:16 PM
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Fun's over. Bans are starting. This isnt r/marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 05:56 PM
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Suggestion for how he can do that? Or are you here just to jerk off his self-righteous ego?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 01:57 PM
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Ask your wife to help you Fuuuuuck. Guys is this all we had to do this whole time?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 01:54 PM
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He enables his wife's behavior. The problem is him. Her, her family, her mother, they do not matter at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 01:50 PM
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Got some poppity pops in my back 5 days ago in warm up squats at 205. Bitched for 2 minutes. Then asked: "What can i do?" Loaded up this video. Sat down for leg extensions. Between reps tested air squat. Afterwards tested empty bar squats. Discomfort but ok ill live. Gradually added a plate every other day during other routines for a few test reps. 5 days after injury I grabbed the belt for protection (I usually squat beltless) and knocked out 325 3x3 back squat which felt absolutely solid. Less…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 03:17 PM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 03:29 PM
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I dont think OP has hit that heavy of a 1 rep deadlift.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 03:29 PM
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Unless someone cares more than me its staying. Its notes. He actually did something. Feel free to discuss it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 12:03 PM
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"We move when we are motivated to move." Is the simple answer. This has been hotly considered in the past on here and is too much to summarize in one go because it draws on an all consuming host of questions like how much incentive is there to change, whats someone's baseline tolerance, what models are they currently using, what do they think they want versus what do they really want, how different are those models than the actual reality they see, how accurately do they even perceive reality, h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 05:43 PM
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I used to communicate pure authentic truth to my wife... I think it is what you're thinking. OP thinks he was communicating authentically. But often as we see in Nice Guys, authentic wasn't authentic...as it was communicated in order to bring about a future which, if realized, would have then made the communication authentic post-hoc. If the authenticity is based within a covert contract being realized, it is not authentic. "Why won't you have sex with me? I bought you dinner!" "So you bought me…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 03:32 PM
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Moralizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 09:58 AM
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Right now, I'm trying to motivate myself to like my wife I see this piece as a healthy adoption of perspective. One of my sayings is "Thats not me, but if I were to be it, how would I need to be?" Which is a lesson that we all have the capacity to take on any perspective and be any type of person. If you dont believe that, dive into Frankl and Solzhenitsyn's books. And if you were to fully adopt that other perspective, in this case one of a guy who liked his wife, and saw that it manifests a lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/22 12:00 AM
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Yup.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/22 01:14 PM
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Guy seems off. I haven't banned anyone in awhile. Maybe I'm getting soft.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 10:28 PM
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/u/sea-tease what do u think? Im seeing a lot of my old drivers in here. ENFJ or similar?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 03:59 PM
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Though they are mutually exclusive at the same time (you can't breathe out while breathing in), they can be used in different times for different purposes. And also used to assess each other in past times. I think a blanket use of either is going to end poorly. Id absolutely advise to continue exploring STFU and LIFT if your M.O. has been awareness lately. You need to explore that which you havent explored. As you are exploring, watch. Watch when STFU and lift feels awesome and is effective. And…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 03:39 PM
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High level anxiety advice: You know how sometimes your back is all tight, and you kinda just live with it unless someone's around and you ask "Hey can you crack my back?" And they do and you're like "Fuck thats so much better...theres a solution to this pain. I dont have to just deal with it"? Or maybe you're sitting on the couch just stressing over what to do next, and you finally make yourself just get up and start something, and suddenly you feel better? Like "Fuck I control this emotion that…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 10:31 PM
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Lol case in point. Anything that enters your head as a response to that question other than a literal "yes" is attempting to answer the question and spin the response in such a way as to deliver another covert message to defend your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:07 PM
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Agree. A shit test is a question, not a statement. A game has two players, not one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 07:30 PM
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Why did you think this place is the place that would help you achieve those goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 06:02 PM
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Gym 2-3 times a week. I really wonder what these guys are doing instead of the gym on their non-gym days. And I wouldn't be at all surprised if it was scrolling instagram. If I dont workout one day, im like "Fuck...what do I do with this time?"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 05:38 PM
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“It took you 15 years to tell me you like this?”. "Yes." Fuck your ego is strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 05:33 PM
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Hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 05:28 PM
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and you're pointing out that I lack the authenticity to make that happen It could be. Or... leaving you" And I am expecting her to just understand the gravity of that situation There could be no gravity because she honestly does not give a fuck. This place isn't a cheat code. You could be completely authentic and literally be the only thing between her and hellfire...and she could NOT CARE. I'm not saying that is the case. Logically you just aren't authentic enough for her. Logically she cares e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 03:56 PM
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Agreed. When everything is mirrors reflecting mirrors, something has to change. Does he change his kids which (to do so would) reflect a better him? Or change himself which would be reflected by better kids? Maybe a better question is: Is there a difference ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 03:44 PM
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The same disrespect and wavering attraction would happen in a new relationship. This is hamstering. Its true, but its setting goalposts for when you'll be "ready" to move on. And you'll move those goalposts as you get nearer. Stay plan is go plan. Not yet ready to nuke things Then its the stay plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 02:46 PM
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now have to see her when I need more whiskey. IF she brings it up. "I met someone. You look fun though so maybe next time." Don't overcomplicate it. I just tell her this is exactly what you think it is, but I am drunk let’s talk in the morning. This is fucking awesome. Open marriage means open communication. Open marriage means whatever the fuck you want it to mean. If it ever came to you heading out to bang and wanting to let her know you're leaving the house, "Heading out for a bit." If she as…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 02:31 PM
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I felt she didn't deserve the attention/affection/effort. Whats this have to do with you giving attention/affection/effort? This is a sign that either: You give attention and affection for her. Because you feel like she values it. So its a reward/punishment dynamic. Or You're giving attention/affection for you, because you believe you'll get something from it. I have better things to do Right. So why are you giving attention/affection then? The only answer here that threads the needle is because…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 02:22 PM
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No one needs your origin story every OYS. Scrap it. Broken record is a tactic used on a level playing field with an adult. You can offer your children the opportunity to be spoken to like an adult. But physical violence from them clearly demonstrates that they are children. And you should immediately rescind that offer.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 02:12 PM
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Maybe that's complacency There's something about that word, complacency, wherein the judgement of whether you are or you arent is derived from someone who isn't complacent. Someone else. Very similar to the word "should". Are you doing what you want? Even if that want is to explore how deep your ego has innervated your mind? If so, then fuck what it could be described as. When you are finished and ready to re-engage, you will. feels bad Your wife is saying "I feel bad because you..." But you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 12:54 PM
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The best teacher is experience. The best classroom is one where the teacher can give the most real experience, while still being there to contain it. Missing a mortgage payment is a big deal. But at the same time, it isn't. The bank isn't going to foreclose on you for one missed payment. Shit...I think you even have 30 days after the due date before it gets put on your credit report. So doing this is kinda like handing her a gun she doesn't know isnt loaded. Will she point it at you and pull the…
/r/askMRP14/10/22 09:50 AM
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Thats why her repayment is not directly to me. She can not pay me. She cannot not pay the mortgage. You and I both know she's going to test that boundary. Meaning your are basically paying off her debt now, and paying her another 10-20k in the future to test a boundary. If it were me, id recant that get-out-of-debt free card you just gave her. 90% chance she tells you to go fuck yourself and cashes out. Short term its lose-lose. Long term its win-possibly lose.
/r/askMRP13/10/22 02:29 PM
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I started out maintaining the entire budget and giving my wife an allowance equal to mine. Bills were paid from the main pot, so I was paying more since I made more, maybe like 60/40. She was ungrateful. I went to the bank, took half our money out. I opened an account only in my name. I told her "Heres your half. You will pay these bills which equals half of all our bills. The rest is yours to manage." We're now 50/50. She drove herself $20k in debt. After a lot of thought about whether to just …
/r/askMRP13/10/22 12:37 PM
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Stay plan is the go plan friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/22 10:55 PM
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I second /u/_RPeed. My wife was on SSRIs. I didn't frame it concerning our sex life. Because its obvious if its impacting her sex life, its impacting her whole life. And I said "I think you can do better. I think you have the strength in you to go off them." I never told her to do it. I just put my opinion in no uncertain terms. There were no consequences either way. And it wasn't about "ME" at all. I suggested a therapist, as I was seeing one at the time. And said books helped me rewrite how my…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 10:00 PM
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"If I just change the way I act, the relationship will get better and make sense." "If I just change the way I look at this relationship, things will be different and make sense." "If I just change who I'm in a relationship with, things will be different and make sense." (I left this genderless on purpose).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/22 11:03 PM
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Check your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 03:57 PM
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Marriedredpill won't last forever Thats a feature not a bug ;) I never thought RedPill needed to be saved. Thousands of notes lost in the sands of time? I doubt its the first time its happened. Its been a fun ride with you though.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 09:54 PM
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Yeah, I got that early in the journey too. Don't read too much into it. She's just stating the obvious. If she wanted to know why, or whether to worry, or what it means she'd ask directly. She didn't, which is an (unintentional) trap for you to swoop in and comfort her and DEER. Dont. Just keep doing you. If she does ask, as you said, intercourse is optional. If you're feeling particularly captain-y, offer doors she can walk through so she can soothe herself that she has a place in your new dyna…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/22 05:13 PM
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...that you dont talk.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/22 12:02 PM
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Are you asking if when the goal is to STFU, if you should STFU?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/22 02:20 AM
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Establishing OI but no longer feeling fear of abandonment or living alone. My guy have you met Diamond Unlucky?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/22 11:09 AM
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Wow week 2 and already totally OI and without anger. I also earn enough to cover the mortgage and my share of childcare now meaning any future ultimatum is now credible. Hahahahahaha. Fitness and nutrition First week lifting has gone well Wait, you're not benching 400 at OYS 2? Doesn't seem to match your results above.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/22 10:19 AM
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What if I told you that a non-zero amount of times the path to a yes starts with no?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 05:33 PM
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All I'm saying is by the very nature of the language we're speaking, we are unable to get the idea across of who you should be because when we talk about someone who you arent or even someone you are, we're already dissociating that person away from our present selves. "I want the water of my container to" is a covert contract of things you dont control. "I want to be a container that" is not you. Of course it isn't. We can't talk about who we want to embody because that language talks about the…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 12:25 PM
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Thats freaking awesome. I was wondering who was going to be the first to say "just be yourself". If I ever met that man he would get a bro hug. No. He'd get a real hug.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 12:02 PM
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commands that reaction from women regularly I know what you're saying here because we agree with the difference between having a goal of "I want 6 pack abs" and a goal of "I will eat and workout with extreme discipline" But I am amazed I keep finding connections to this larger point that: Its not that the goal is to command that reaction, nor is the goal to be a guy who does things to command that reaction. Because these descriptors are spoken from duality...a person looking on another or you lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 06:17 PM
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I want to bring calm and joy to my wife and kids as much as I am able to through my actions Why? I don't want to be a whiny or angry bitch that creates anxiety in anyone I meet . . . . especially my wife and kids Why not? if the answer is "People will..." or a variation of that, this is a fucking NMMNG covert contract Grabs popcorn
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 06:00 PM
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So...this is the bane of OYS. Most guys nowadays think owning something is simply saying "yes, I am flawed. I need to work on that." Thats not owning something. Thats taking responsibility. This isnt Take Responsibility For Your Shit. Its Own Your Shit. And owning it means internalizing it to the point that its yours. You own it. From the start of where it bubbles up in you, to what you're going to do about it. Unfortunately I have believed in the spear and responded to it for the last 10+ years…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 04:48 PM
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but most people would reject flipping the switch even though their subjective experience would make them happy The thing about this life is, most of the time the switch is flipped for you. Your quest is then either to figure out if your perception also happens to be reality, or how to live in such a way that the fact that its fake doesn't take away from it. This is basically duality and enlightenment summed up. And if that situation is any guidance, the state of enlightenment is asymptotic. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 12:38 PM
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It felt very focused on individual offices and not social enough. This is everywhere, until someone comes along and starts being that connection between groups of people. Guess who has to do that heavy lifting? Edit: I'm going to edit a bit just to drive this point home and incorporate congruence into it. I went to a rave recently. Vibes there were immaculate. I met a lot of new friends. The whole festival had like thousands of people there. But everyone comes in their own group. How do groups m…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 12:06 PM
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shit father Moralizing
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 11:51 AM
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K
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 11:44 AM
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you just want sex, when you don't get it you don't want to be close otherwise Correct. Sex makes me feel close. I think I need to more generally withdraw attention You do. But not to solve the problem above that she perceives you in a negative way. That's her problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 11:42 AM
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I think I wrote a long time ago that outcome independence doesn't mean you dont care about the outcome. It means you'll be okay either way. You can still push for A outcome. But you'll thrive no matter what. In that way, it's basically like saying "I dont NEED this" (IE, the universe does not have me by the balls and my entire value structure won't be sacrificed for one single outcome), "But I want this". Or in other words, you have options.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 11:29 AM
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keeping everything functioning smoothly" still puts the power in the hands of the people who can throw tantrums to fuck it all up if they don't get their way. You should read Failure of Nerve. Good piece in there about the cancer of a group being those who grow malignantly without regard for the body they inhabit. Whether that body be society, the workplace, or relationships. They don't oppose the body with a different system. Them winning destroys any system and kills the host. Reminds me of le…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 02:47 AM
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me being a good/responsible person Who defines good and reasonable?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 12:33 AM
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but my locus of control is all that matters. Because you still don't believe your locus of control is yours yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 08:54 PM
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Asking the real questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 08:38 PM
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"Honey, what is happening here?" I get some blunt reply and I leave the room. So you STFU because you are too weak and feel guilty when engaging any other way. Which is correct. STFU until you have frame. But then you attempt to engage, and immediately leave the room and conversation. So the slightest resistance topples your frame. You're the chief of a jungle tribe. As part of your daily life you walk through the village to see your people. One day, a woman comes up to you with a spear and star…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 03:44 PM
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A bitch knows exactly how to please you. Thats a deep thought. Right up there with You know exactly what you need to do right now to unfuck your life. I'm gonna be rolling that around in my head the next week or so..
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 02:27 PM
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Irrelevant. Got married, in the hospital Cool. It was planned that day No need to justify it and I wasn't going to let a little thing like nearly dying stop it No need to minimize it. Plus, Definitely no need to DEER it. Like I said...I trust you know what you're doing. Thats not sarcasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 02:12 PM
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Remember the big picture. Spend your time doing the shit that you knew would help your routine but you never did because you could lift instead: Look up form videos, rework your diet, research a new piece of equipment, make a new lifting schedule. I just did mine for the fall/winter. Have it all setup so its that much sweeter getting back to it. I see you sneaking that marriage in your OYS. Welcome back to the club. I trust you know what you're doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 10:33 PM
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User has been permabanned for ego. Post is up for thoughts and general gaiety.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:41 PM
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You were warned.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:39 PM
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Whats your take on the 12 levels of dread?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:30 PM
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Address the comment or don't. This ego protective shit is see through.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:20 PM
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Am I wrong for feeling this way? Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/22 04:45 PM
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Stop saying dumb shit.
/r/askMRP27/08/22 11:49 AM
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Good shit. You can tell a lot about a man by the books he has on his bookshelf. A lot of the guys I talk to offline here swap books with me. That said, if you dont have your shit on lock yet, stop deviating from the sidebar. You dont need to be reading ancient texts, autobiographies, or The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants if you can't take a hard no without rage quitting. Study the dynamics on the sidebar. Right your ship. Then go on a journey of discovery.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 05:08 PM
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We mostly just jerk off to each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 10:03 PM
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Absolutely take your time. I dont expect a timely response, or any response if you dont want. I do think you see the depth of this problem which a lot of guys here dont. This details my journey of backing out of the bottomless pit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:43 PM
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That was quite a release lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:40 PM
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Part 2 Okay so how do I act then? If she is 100% in Love is truly conditional. The question simply is: Is she at the level where her value add is so great that it deprioritizes you looking into and executing divorce such that on an hourly, daily, monthly basis the time you spend on the things you do that bring you value take up all your time and you have no time to spend on executing divorce? Or not? Analogy: Today you'd like to patch the roof, lift, work, decompress for an hour, get a blow job,…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:03 PM
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Part 1 Starting at the bottom: A rabbit hole without any clear bottom. That's the point. Glad we can talk on this level now. When you realize that there is no "correct" way to take a perspective, you can continue to understand again and again that the only "correct" way to rise above that is to not take a perspective. This dilemma is very similar to enlightenment, ego death, and the like. No one can claim enlightenment. Because to claim it means to claim an "I". And enlightenment is the very act…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:03 PM
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Here's a hint: Are /u/FutileFighter 's questions about you? Or about her? Some light reading
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 03:25 PM
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She's either in 100% She never will be. It is her nature. at which point, I will happily go in 100% You never will be. It is in your nature.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 02:37 PM
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The fuck did I just read? Questions go in askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/22 01:47 AM
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You're past the point of puking. Do work. Report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 12:11 PM
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I have begun the process Rule 8. Fluff. Do stuff. Report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 02:33 PM
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So many hooks lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/22 12:24 AM
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Investigate your teachers who you are so busy projecting perfection onto, I would say. I don’t know any that simply “woke up.” That’s the lottery view, the victim view, the “maybe one day it will magically happen to me” view. And I have news for you: it will never happen for you that way. This is always a process, always work, always a choice, until we finally understand and continually choose awareness. So the question I ask my students in the ninth koan is a simple one: “Does Clear Deep Heart/…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/22 12:17 AM
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My instinct is to think IDGAF because the comments themselves don’t bother me The reason you respond the way you do is clear in this sentence: You're defensive. It doesn't hurt you because you've found a response which shields you. But you still come at it defensively. Start playing offensively. AA and AM are your friend. You're not scary to me "Oh...so brave are you huh?" (Approach her as you would wounded prey). Suddenly: Tickle her aggressively til she's writhing on the ground. Pick her up an…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/22 12:04 AM
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Start looking for links between these "individual" problems and solutions.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/22 11:56 PM
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I'd argue that if they could, then they already would've. I agree. without doing something radically different in the real world A metaphor: These guys stand at the edge of a river. They feel compelled to make a choice: Cross it. Or dont. The river is about waist deep, filled with submerged thorn bushes. Theres a deadly waterfall just downstream. They stand on the bank frozen in fear. They know they don't want to turn around and go back where they came from. They know that trail isn't their dest…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 07:57 PM
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The fuck is this puke too? Depressed crabs in a bucket? Go get angry. Report back. From a guy who's gotten close to that edge im obligated to say Don't kill yourself From a guy who's gotten close to that edge I also know those words don't mean jack shit. My inbox is open if you need to talk.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 11:30 PM
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You should be feeling joy. If not, why bother? I suppose I could just off myself, but I'm stubborn that way, I'll keep plugging along hoping to discover the keys. I do tend to focus all my OYS energy on the most negative shit I've got going on. I could come in a spin a yarn about how amazing I am, but that wouldn't really promote growth or change. In the end, you are right, I'm not feeling joy and I wish I was. Not sure exactly how to cope with that. Sometimes I wish I was one of those guys who …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 11:24 PM
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The ONLY reason I'm not banning you for intellectual moralizing using spell check (of all things lol) is because you successfully got my hackles up. I'm gonna own that. My lack of control offsets your idiocy. Enjoy the free pass. Don't do it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 09:32 PM
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Physical Pro-tip: At the BF % you're at you typically stall. Calories in < calories out still applies. U want it gone? Time to hammer harder. Reduce intake by another 250. It'll drop. I've done it each summer for years now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 08:45 PM
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Lifting and diet: DEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEER. Work: Well at least I do stuff sometimes. Family: Rule 10 Relationship: Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 08:30 PM
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I think you missed Dear Diary, Even though the first piece of advice in this sub is to stop being a fat fuck, I hit my pinky toe on the desk 3 days ago so bench press is off the table until rehab is done. My trainer supports this as he sent me a supportive email after I sent him his check for the month. Also, I coughed once this week so I upped calories to 3200 because I want to keep my body fueled to fight off any illness. If I get fatter, no matter, I can just get a lap band or tummy tuck. Whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 08:26 PM
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They grow back if you continue to stuff your fat face. Being a blue pulled beta bitch is also an amoral tool. It's not going to stop me from calling it out as a terrible tool. Stop moralizing amoral lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 08:07 PM
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Since when is surgery a more sustainable way to stop being fat than establishing a disciplined approach to dieting?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 06:39 PM
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I get your perspective...but at the same time it doesn't make sense. He could simply make a call and live with it. He will thrive either way. But this seems to address the anxiety over "making a decision" rather than the value structure itself. In other words, "making a (any) decision is higher value to me than making a high value decision". The logic almost contradicts itself...unless... ...divorce in order to get rid of anxiety-over-divorce happens to be the optimal outcome by chance. This cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 06:35 PM
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207 @ 27.8% losing 20lb of straight fat and gaining 10lb of solid muscle puts you at 19% body fat...fatty. Do better. fat burning supplementals and possibly surgery Regardless of whether 3500cal = 1lb or not, calories in < calories out still holds. Fat and lazy it seems.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:28 PM
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Slight tweak: The "Goal" is the process. The process is continual optimal reprioritization. So "moving toward your goal" means "figuring out how to effectively prioritize". So divorce should arise naturally from knowing and moving towards your goals embodying this process of optimal reprioritization (which is the goal, which you can get to by moving toward it, which you can do by learning how to see, calculate, and order value return optimally) in the most efficient way possible. If "efficient" …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:14 PM
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The numbers work on paper but don't forget alcoholic carbs don't get utilized for fuel as effectively...and may decrease available carb-derived fuel for workouts the next day by up to half.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:03 PM
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So you ate too much, just started listening to RM, did nothing with sex (you didn't realize shit. Shit is realized after you test it and have data). This is fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 04:00 PM
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Why? Because I don't (currently) have the lifestyle and social network to entertain them. Action: Continue the focus on doing fun things and building a social network Blue pill covert contract. "If I could just be who she wants me to be..." Action: ... be prepared Stop. You dont get to write about it until you do it. she went out to dinner with a female friend on Saturday night...I told her it was fine and I had stuff to do (which I did). No one cares. Especially her. "Going to dinner? Where at?…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 03:41 PM
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Actively changing things happens (emphasis for a reason) as a result of that reprioritization. The reprioritization is simply a rack and stack sorted list of highest value for least effort for least time spent (which, integrated equals maximum value attained over time). At some point, by sheer coincidence, there will be a dividing line on that list where 0 effort is put in (not because you don't want to. Simply because it does not maximize value). As your women lowers down the list toward that p…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:50 PM
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all my business problems have been iterations on a single theme: my unwillingness to make hard choices for fear of being disliked. So in other words...its all your fault? that my desire for different kinds of sex isn't simply instilled in me by porn, or by the desire for my wife-mommy to love me. Manifest destiny is a weird kind of drive. But most men have it. I've done some stuff with the wife in order to do it, and then decided "you know what, didn't really care, don't feel like doing it again…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:05 PM
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The problem is, for you, it "clicks" every second of every day. Its a new click every time. And you immediately go making sweeping generalizations about how shit "really is" and how totally "correct" your mindset is this time. When even the most casual observer can clearly see that what you're doing is attempting to collect some kind of token validation from a group of internet strangers to either justify your mindset so you can actually act, because having that social justification is something…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 02:19 AM
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The good stuff is always in the comments. Its Wednesday. What day within the last week did you have basically a FMOFY speech?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 12:59 AM
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How long have you tested this new model?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 12:45 AM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 11:21 AM
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Rule 7 and 9
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 07:38 PM
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Quick note: As you're improving, the window of your OYS should shift and relegate shit you have on lock to the briefest of summaries. If you've been lifting for 3 months, unless there's a problem, there's no need to write 10 paragraphs on lifting. Injuries happen. Programs get changed. Write that shit in your lifting notebook and move on. Theres a reason you don't see vets post weekly. Its not because we're not killing it. Its because its well under control and not an issue anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 01:30 PM
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Rule 7.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 09:41 PM
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You being an “engaged FATHER”TM shouldn’t have less value because I don’t value it. It does if you are a piece of the society he derives his contracts from. Stop fucking with his matrix! You might make him unplug or something! Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/22 01:10 PM
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Nov 30, OYS 16 Reply: I'm pretty sure the anger comes from the utter lack of self-respect...control everything and everyone with anger...I have shifted my focus to building my self esteem in order to work through this. Dec 7, OYS 17: I'm not angry. I'm optimistic for myself...I feel no anger or resentment anymore. Immediate reply to OYS 17 comments: I was angry. Dec 28, OYS 19: I'm going through an anger phase right now. Jan 4, OYS 20: Had been going through some anger the last week Immediate ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 04:00 PM
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I'm not talking about a hypothetical group that exists. I understand but I usually try to draw conclusions based on groups of problems instead of unique scenarios. So I'll use a specific hypothetical to outline and example and let the reader port it over. Cmon, you've been around long enoguh, we are past this. Ok ill take that hit. A little ego of mine in there. But in truth when I leave comments, and more specifically here when I left a comment on your thread, I'm not directly talking at you. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/22 09:23 PM
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Who the fuck is we Whoever the group is that takes the stance it takes. why am I giving a shit about it I dunno but it sure seem like you are heavily. This is contradictory nonsense Nah. Simply layered. If a person can see that others are drawn to act they way they do due to a generalized narcissism, then that person can identify (empathize) with that and restructure their models advantageously.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/22 05:31 PM
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Narcissism I agree. It's a mindfuck but taken to the extreme, a mother who drowns her kids in a bathtub had some combination of life experiences and mindset that, if we suspend our own experiences and judgement and view the world through her eyes, we'd somehow arrive at the conclusion that what she did was an action that "made sense" in her head. Not that it was "right" or logical or that we endorse it or forgive it...but that her mind and circumstances all came together in such a way that she c…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/22 04:46 PM
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Is this satire? You want to know how you haven't won.... you're keeping score But just a second ago You think you won, but...she's really the winner. And...stay plan is the go plan. All 5 of those points is him getting his single life on lock in case one of those soccer moms proves to be funner to be around than his wife. OP's post is beginner porn. You reply is crabs in a bucket.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/22 05:11 PM
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There's levels to this. And the advice you need is dependent on more of an understanding than you can provide in a single post. If you want to improve and get good notes, OYS. If you want to ask random questions and get loose answers, askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 08:44 PM
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So I start the counting and send them to time outs If you save her...don't be surprised when she continues to drop into a role to be saved. Next time pull her aside and say: "I need you to 123 Magic this situation going on here." She might say "But they listen to you!". And then you say "You're right. But I need them to listen to YOU." One thing EasydaysHardnights said to me once that really stuck is after he asked me what I do if I tell the kids something and they don't listen. I said I talk to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 01:56 PM
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it usually doesn't mean a whole lot in the big picture. MRP tells men this because early on theres no point in investing mental energy toward it. But there also comes a peace when you can empathetically project your own personal control (or past lack thereof) onto her and realize theres a logical reason behind her actions that makes sense. And more, there are doors you can open for her because you walked the path yourself. When I drop animosity or butthurt about things, it's like an investment t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 01:49 PM
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the space is UNSAFE for whom The space is unsafe for whoever inhabits it, insomuch as the thrilling/dangerous excursions i gave examples of are unsafe for whoever participates in them. They FEEL unsafe. They impact the emotions and raise heart rate and do all the things being in an actual unsafe environment do...but with the confidence that they actually ARE safe. The frame is as if its not even there The more you can remove the obviousness of the safety while still being safe...the more vulnera…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 01:42 PM
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I am trying to get out of this RP shell and just try to live life and be who I am. And yet I don’t want to joke around and be a funny guy because I think that would make me look beta. The above quote being a covert contract, dancing monkey, and inauthentic. when I get LMR from her I think to myself “you stupid slut” “why won’t you just fuck me” Early fucks are based more on whether they find you attractive or not. Not as much vulnerability and building a space for them. So in this case its a lot…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 12:57 PM
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Yeah he's a little bit of a titty sprinkle. Missed this last week. Oh well.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 04:37 PM
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JP: So, to cut through the BS, you need to stay present with what is. Get out of believing the thoughts and feelings are doing anything but giving you information. So first you decide to just pay attention. Notice the reactive conditioning that arises when, for instance, you get angry. Become aware of it, through a witnessing perspective. Just noticing it is the first step. Eventually, you can see that you are actually choosing this behavior— KA: Pardon me, but this is where a lot of people shak…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 04:31 PM
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Ah, but stay here long enough and you'll see it has nothing to do with the number. The numbers, how it moves, and how you attain it all tell a story of whether or not you're bullshitting yourself. Whether you can do hard work. Push through tough battles (mental, physical, and emotional). I dont gawk at a guy because he can deadlift 750. I gawk at him because I know the skill and intensity and inner strength he must have, that I can aspire to, and the work he must have put in over the years to de…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 03:26 PM
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What kind of weight are you putting on your non-big 3 lifts? Are we talking like 900lb leg press? 100lb dumbbell fly? What exercises are you doing at what weight? I want to know whether to be absolutely astounded and give props or completely skeptical of a guy who is 2 inches shorter but has at least 25lbs more solid muscle than me. Or maybe...you're just a lot fatter than 15%.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 02:37 PM
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But I’ve never been good at the existential stuff But you have a damn good read of the situation and are spitting straight truths.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 10:09 AM
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This place isn't for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 10:01 AM
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One more semi-random question: Got allergies?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 12:42 AM
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On the 4th of July, the whole neighborhood is shooting off fireworks, and I'm fretting that one of my neighbors will be angry because we are being loud. A few of the later realizations I learned from WISNIFG: 1: When other people say no, they have a right to not feel guilty. 2: If both of us have a right to not feel guilty, then the universe doesn't require me to produce an outcome that "works". 3: Therefore, it is OK to walk away from conflict without resolving it. The majority of society's mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 12:33 AM
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Very observant. Far more than a lot of guys here. Shes tired If you are searching for chosen desire, then you must give your woman the power of choice. If her choice is no, then pushing her through that a la: "Its MINE and I EARNED it." is taking away that choice. That doesnt mean never push. Because a no isnt always a no. Learning to tell the difference is the hard part. At the end of the day though and ultimately...its HER responsibility to say yes or no and own all that that means. So even if…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 12:17 AM
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What are your lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:58 PM
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I've been working on my side of things where I'm distancing myself from the emotional validation I used to seek through sex. So it's a push-and-pull Congruence is the word here. "Do you love me?" (Congruent answer to that question goes here) You made "Do you love me" about things other than "Do you love me". Then tried to answer those other things with silence to the question "Do you love me". You did that because you were afraid of her plausible deniability she uses to link "Do you love me" (a …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 07:11 PM
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literal "You like it when I fuck you deep dont you?" "Bend over and let me see that ass." "My girl likes it hard. Tell me you want me to fuck you hard. Tell me you like it dirty and hard." And for /u/AcademicDumbass specifically (while fucking hard and getting her close): "Look in my eyes. (She looks). I fucking love you." Then pound away. No dirty talk I've said to my wife has ever been a lie. Or figurative. So its all literal. But...its also literal within the space that we carve out for her t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 05:56 PM
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Sounds at least semi-directed. My mind immediately jumped to the cliche sign that a woman is a victim and sitting in her car before going in the house because her life and husband sucks inside her home. I'm no stranger to dotting periods of work with release. Ask yourself for the work "Are you unnecessarily killing yourself? Is your compensation worth the effort? Can you increase that compensation to make it worth it or decrease the effort so its not as much a strain?" Ask yourself for the slack…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 05:21 PM
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I see your angle now. We're in agreement then. You're praising him because he wasn't unattractive. And I'm telling him he can use this avenue to be more attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 05:13 PM
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Hows your blood pressure?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 03:21 PM
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The concept is 2 sets : first set to the maximum, and 1 set at -10% weight +1 rep Try this for a challenge: Set 1: Pick a weight 90% effort for 10 reps. Drop by 5lbs. AMRAP. Drop 5 lbs. AMRAP. Keep going until 10-12 rounds of dropped weight or you're lifting 5lb dumbbells. Then...3 sets of that. 2 muscle groups. Core work between each set. Now thats a workout. I have appointed a trainer to teach me how to do the additional new exercises Bodybuilding.com. That'll be $120.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 03:18 PM
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and have started unwinding in my car before going home. Specifically what does this mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 03:09 PM
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I'm CERTAINLY open to the idea that much of her anxiety comes from my history of lack of conviction. In truth this reminds me a little of my wife. Probably does with Horns' too. But...its not like I didn't have conviction. Its that upon her testing me, like she does naturally, we both found that conviction was misplaced. Maybe I wasn't as awesome as I thought. pop out of bed at 9:30pm to go lift because of how un-butt-hurt I am, right? We've been here before you and I, two years ago...with you j…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 02:52 PM
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100 bodyweight squats Look out everyone! We got a badass over here! Is there a term for weirdos who get off to themselves? Yeah looking over our videos I'm like "damn I look good fucking my wife". I ain't gay I didn’t say anything about it and just let it go. Hmm. I'm gonna disagree with Rpeed here only in that that is a door wide open to introduce a lot of Emotion into sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 02:36 PM
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it was implied that I would leave when it was clear that they weren't Lol dude nesting with her is a massive sign of beta so if anything, this was just a humorous tell of just how blind you are to the dynamic going on. I want to hurt myself, sometimes I do hurt myself You know what'll really shut those voices up? Success. Don't get me wrong inner game is a huge piece of the puzzle. But at some point you want to be at a level that outer game intrinsically reinforces inner game. So at this point t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 12:13 PM
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and then I dropped the micromanagement She knows this. Its why I said that her winning her game is you paying attention to her game. "we’ve gotten into this routine where you initiate and then I say No, so that I can say Yes the next day, because that gives me a feeling of control, that I am participating in deciding to have sex" Translated: I see you trying to mess with the game. Let's change the rules (so that you invest in figuring out the new rules). Or said another way. When you have the fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:53 AM
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Questions on askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:12 AM
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You know, I wrote a whole big thing but for some reason something in me is screaming that you don't need it. And that you've got a good enough idea that you're going to take it and run with it. So I'm going to keep it short and say yes you have the structure of the line correct. Though no, you dont both start in the middle. You start wherever it is and however you both choose to engage with each other. Engage being the operative word because like I said, until you engage, there is no line. And t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/22 03:07 PM
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Questions go in askMRP. You didn't just find MRP. You tried to post here 3 months ago. Either start the work or fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/22 01:43 PM
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Haha you'll have to settle for my echoes in time here. Working on a response to your reply question.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/22 01:14 AM
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I want to be clear and I'm confident Horns knows this deeply: The space that we setup within our frame for ourselves that we invite our wives, and everyone else into, is actually incredibly UNSAFE. A lot of guys who first come here and attempt to develop frame do so from the white-knight perspective of offering safety. But paradoxically safe is BORING. Instead the ultimate goal, that the man should be focused on for himself first so that he can confidently be in and then share the space, is in e…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 12:40 PM
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I checked out your last few OYSs. It seems like in several areas of your life you're able to (eventually) move into a place where you can be the person you want to be. But its still a movement...and she's still either resisting or seems lost on how to act in the face of that. I would start having fun... Start...meaning you had to get yourself there... I think you'd benefit from reading this reply and feeling for what "your you" feels like...and how you get there from either your obstacle or your…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 01:23 PM
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Rule 8. Fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/22 01:10 PM
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insta model page How is he going to identify the women who are playing the church versus those who truly found God off instagram? He acknowledges this here: If a sinner is truly repentant, the sin is forgiven - by no means does this nullify the worldly consequences of your sin The question is: How do I (OP) know if the sinner is "truly" repentant and even if so, whats that mean for her in the church? And because her insta won't just scrub itself clean and people don't change on a dime, repentanc…
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 02:08 AM
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For a guy trying to figure Who's job is the relationship again? Why wouldn’t he use all information available This information isn't available to him. He's speculating.
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 12:11 AM
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Hi all. Just passing through. Do girls go to the gym in tight shorts and take off a sweatshirt halfway through a workout for looks from dudes? Do women dress like sluts in the club and whore themselves for free drinks? Do girls crawl on top of any and every rock outcrop at the waters edge to snap photos for her fledgling insta model page? Yes...but not all of them. So which do and which don't? The better question is: Is that something you should be making your concern? There's few quicker paths …
/r/RPChristians20/06/22 03:05 PM
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Its hilarious how often guys in their 30s and 40s here comment on getting their shit together because "time is limited". And guys in their 50s and 60s sit around tugging on their dicks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/22 06:04 PM
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He's searching for a good hook for us to validate him. The weekly pics of his belly fat didn't work. His blog didn't work. His flowcharts didn't work. He can't stand not being special. Curious about what its gonna be next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 11:09 AM
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Is it narcissistic to think like this? Of course it is I agree but it's also human So just because its human its beneficial? And we blindly follow it? it channels the "masculine" in a way that's effective. So you're saying its a tool. Can we use a tool in more than one way? More than one purpose? Especially if 9ne of those purposes is flawed? I also think its dismissive to say that leaving behind a "tangible" legacy really has no merit. Merit...to who?. And interpreted by who? See zen master, or…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 12:45 AM
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OI doesn't mean you don't have a preferred outcome. Damn. Thats a blast from the past. (Second bold paragraph). Thats getting added to the index. But yes, I'd agree a different angle. Because from one angle of OI you have to tackle the problem of regret: "If I choose this will I regret? If I enforce a boundary will I regret?". Another from fear: "What if I'm missing out? What if my boundaries are holding me back?" And another from preservation: "Will I be okay?" But also within that, /u/ryaninth…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 11:45 PM
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So I'm not going to go into too much detail here. But youre still being fake. You're still seeing some connection, and them immediately saying with words that you're cured of the problem because you've recognized it. And then you come back sometimes the very next OYS and complain about it again. You literally did it right here in this reply...your OYS above this says "When I try too hard, I become a robot and don't enjoy my life" but here you say you aren't simply a witness and you're in charge …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/22 01:25 PM
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If you are simply a witness to yourself are you living for yourself? Is "yourself" who you are or what you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/22 01:15 AM
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Ran a few calculators to determine caloric intake for body recomp and came up with 3300 on lifting days and just under 3000 on rest days IMO at 38 unless you're doing about 45min to an hour of cardio a day, you are going to gain weight at 3000 calories. Most guys cut with 2000-2500max. I crash with no ability to recover for 1-2 day What does this mean? Does this mean you went to lift the weight and failed? At every weight? Down to the little 5lbs? Or that you felt blah and chose not to workout? …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/22 03:29 PM
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Damn.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/22 02:55 PM
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Not bad. Curious, whats happening on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and the weekend thats taking up your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 12:09 PM
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In about three months you'll have completed another cycle: Understanding via words. Sex. You being BP. Her slowly withdrawing. You being ok because you're still happy from sex. You start to want sex. She seems to not know you exist. You beg a few times. She fucks you. You're okay but now weary the talk didn't change her like you wanted. So you keep an eye out. You see that same thing happen the next few cycles. Then after about 2 months you get angry. You start to ignore her. She doesn't notice.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 01:11 AM
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Think I shoulda wrote "Lift, Sidebar, STFU"? Much more straightforward. Also, incredibly amorphous. Lol. Guy was a troll.
/r/askMRP09/06/22 01:00 AM
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It does seem a little bait and switchy, but whatever, WISNIG states I have the right to change my mind with no explanation or reason. Jesus christ lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 12:14 AM
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The goal is to be more attractive and less unattractive For who and for what reason? which usually means upping the comfort a little and showing a bit more beta qualities. When i did this, it's only caused her to back away a little I don't understand if you don't see the disconnect here: "I acted like someone im not and she liked it. Now that I'm receding into who I want to be naturally, now that I'm changing from who she was attracted to, she doesn't like it" You even say it here: Also every ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 08:16 PM
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Haha the cadence of Whats up People reminds me a LOT of Violent Pornography by System of a Down. By the way, credit where credit is due. Your pic shows damn good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 03:39 PM
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I think its hilarious how often I come across guys "meditating" for 5-10 minutes at a time. Itd be as if a guy said "I'm going to up my lifting game by lifting for 10 minutes instead of 5". You get out what you put in. I usually don't even begin to hear that inner voice until 20 minutes. And even then the introspection has just begun.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:21 PM
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Summary: Guy LARPs as an alpha and snags women looking for alphas. Guy then switches to a ratio more like himself and his alpha-wanting gf backs away. Guy then initiates the "what are we" talk. I think you know what went wrong here. In effect you're doing the same thing women do to men with sex before marriage: use is as a tool for attraction and then defaulting to their real ratios of madonna/whore when they say I Do. So you gotta ask yourself again: What do I want? Do I want to slay heaps of p…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 11:59 AM
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Up and down and up and down. You'll get off the roller coaster when you're sick of the roller coaster. Not before.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:22 AM
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Gay
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:59 PM
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I'm actually really happy both the metaphor and point landed lol. Haven't heard of them. Name 2 good songs and ill listen for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:28 PM
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Only to have Cap'n Ginyu trade bodies with him when he's done...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:19 PM
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HAHAHAHAHAHAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:18 PM
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Regardless, in no way am I going to enable someone that far off the mark from excusing his stats on an unknown.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:15 PM
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Lol wtf is this? "Hey hausofedd, when you drop a ball gravity pulls it down." "Fair enough." As if to say you've considered straight facts in your judgment and deemed it worthy. What the fuck you think you have frame or something? Oh wait...no...no keep doing that. Yes. You got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:11 PM
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This week its WISNIFG and usefulwalk that Dunlop clings to to revolutionize his life. Will he continue that path? Switch mental models to whoever talks to him next? Will he ever use his permission to be to actually be himself? Find out next time on Dragonball Dunlop Z.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:08 PM
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spending $1000 to have sex that is not 100% Wait what? Did you just describe an onlyfans subscription as a LDR?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:00 PM
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however if I am doing it from a place of having frame things will work in my direction will happen however they happen. Frame does not guarantee a result. It doesn't even guarantee congruency. It guarantees the place you operate from is your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:58 PM
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That said, I tend to agree. You're allowed to disagree with your BF% if you believe it is higher. Otherwise the measurement rules and your opinion can fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:54 PM
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Good. Is the stronglifts on the stronglift schedule? Every other day? How have you modified it?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:47 PM
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pulling back to cause a degree of anxiety and then spur change And whats this "I will do this, you will do that" called again? in part yes Hahaha. Thats the "I'm LARPing this to make you believe I have a frame and I'm speaking from it my judgment on you" part. When in reality because of how her behavior is getting to me Its simply because you have no frame and are being reactionary. Its not "I don't like being around you because of you." Its "I don't like being around you because of how you make…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:57 PM
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this wont be noticed until hours a day or so after And that's significant why? I suppose when pressed the truth is the answer... I dont feel like being around based on how you have been lately. Is this the truth?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:44 PM
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Haha. I see you there ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:36 PM
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“Do I initiate?” “Do I just go to sleep?” “Do I want to fuck?” “Does she wanna?” "Fuck you brain. Have fun debating yourself. When you want to have sex for sex's sake let me know"...an actual conversation in my head on my journey. Listen, if you have to ask yourself "Do I want to fuck", you don't want to fuck. Because when you want to fuck the conversation will still hamster in your head: "What will she say when I initiate? Will there be bitch shields? Will I be scared? Will I be butthurt? What …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 05:43 PM
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5'11'', 151lb, 18%BF. You are the absolute definition of skinny fat. I'm 5'11'' 187 and 7%BF. I could break you in half and eat you for sustenance. I could hang a few paint cans off your feet and hands, turn you sideways, and use you as an Olympic bar. Jesus. Continue to focus on getting enough food in and lifting your ass off. Its very possible at this extreme that the BF will drop as you grow muscle.. Whats your protein intake at?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 04:51 PM
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Wow this is wild. I've always wondered the difference and what modulates the four states below: 1) I think I can lift this and I did. 2) I think I can lift this but I didn't. 3) I don't think i can lift this but I did. 4) I don't think i can lift this and I didn't. But it seems with the GTO theres a separate influence for each of those that says "Does my GTO think I can lift this?" My meditation instructor hinted at this mechanism when we stretch and hold for a minute or two, and observe the mus…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 04:31 PM
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During my extended anger phase I did this military style with an iron fist. She responded by becoming super disagreeable and actively rebelling against the things I want, therefore being direct about what I want has the opposite effect. She will resist her her naturally until you fall into your you
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:57 PM
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Guys advised you to use rebound? I use it at my discretion but to me it seems like you're sacrificing joint integrity for the ability to lift heavier with the rebound. If you're doing that to get an edge in competition sure. But for just personal numbers it doesn't make much sense. In my mind the rebound is letting the weight "go" to load and then spring off the joint, and then having the muscles "catch" the load again which sends a jolt through the ligaments. Slow concentrated movement seems to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:53 PM
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The feeling that I'm better than all of this, that the kids are holding me back, that I would be SO much ahead in my project if the family was not around Of course. Ego wants optimization. But it doesn't see the whole picture. When it looks at your project, it ignores your family. When it looks at your wife, it ignores your project. Its: Its all your fault And You chose this All at the same time.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:42 PM
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If that contextualization works for you, go with that guidance. The sidebar is a false God. But its a better God than what you had and will grow you toward what you've always wanted. What YOU have always wanted. You are the science and the method. The thing observing and the thing being observed. You grow into yourself. You are God.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:04 PM
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Rule 8. Value leeching.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 01:07 PM
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Where does it start? It starts with you doing the thing. As you are. Naturally as you start all those other reasons, and validation, and projected judgment will be swimming in your head about why you're doing it. As you do it, and you build up experiences with it, your brain will build up its own base from which to draw its congruency. So when you start, you don't have congruency with yourself. You have congruency with someone you want to be. Which isn't you (yet). So by definition when you star…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 01:02 PM
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I've got the flu as of today so I'll be resting up on the Martial Arts for the next couple of days. I'll continue lift though. I read so many times how guys excuse themselves from lifting when sick. This man has the flu and is still lifting. Good shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 12:14 PM
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Not much I can figure out here other than to keep going and let things play out. I am happy with either ending up single or in a marriage I am satisfied with. THIS is stay plan is the go plan. God its about time someone got it. Since we're using the term, left-brain does a great job of throwing right-brain experiences into black or white bins. So hobbies and social activity You're on the right path of doing the thing, then sorting the thing (right-left). Let's talk about planning to do the thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 12:08 PM
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to do meaningful work Show me meaningful work in this OYS. Now I’m getting back at it When you have gotten back at it, write an OYS about it. Rule 8. This is fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:53 AM
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Down.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 05:57 PM
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I'm with /u/_RPeed this is a huge breath of fresh air to the sub. These are the experiences that allow you to make those decisions on who you are and who you want to be. Yes Mystery's pick a number from 1-4 game works...really fucking well lol. But congruence of that to why you're doing it is the mortar between the bricks. Its also damn motivating. Fuck...now I want to go back to Nashville and bar crawl again.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 09:46 AM
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Do your own work. This is your warning.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/22 12:28 AM
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Wanna take a guess?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/22 12:18 AM
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The fuck is this? I fart more cardio in a week. No value added.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 08:20 PM
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Is there a ban for constantly validation seeking? (hmmm...moralizing...no value add...3rd party...fuck. There isnt). Stop it. Or ill call it value leeching. This is your warning.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 08:17 PM
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I stayed still and didn't react or follow her, didn't DEER Haha. But you acted like a Deer by just freezing. I'm tired of being who I've been. Thats awesome! I feel that fire in your belly! I see nowhere in here what you're going to do about it! Take two weeks and start owning life. Include what you did/are doing when you report in. Fuck yea.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 07:55 PM
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I'm gonna add one more truly important thing: At the end of the day, I'm at a point where my outlook is: FUCK all this preconceived matrix-y game playing, judgemental bullshit. Fuck MRP. Fuck TRP. Fuck BP. Fuck hypergamy. FUCK the horses. FUCK the cowboys. And FUCK YOU...you being friends, family, wife, and you, usefulwalk4. Im going to be and live a life of things that make me happy. I really want you (all those yous, including you usefulwalk4) to come along on my journey. We're going to laugh.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 02:23 PM
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BUT at a certain point if MANY (as opposed to AN) data points lead to the same conclusion about my horse I would be foolish not to give serious thought to what conclusion I want to take away from that information. Logically and in the now. Logically: Because if you read 20 books that all point to a conclusion, you should do that conclusion. BUT...no one said you had to be logical in your life. In The Now: You want your life changed now. And doing that logical conclusion changes it now. Guys alwa…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 02:06 PM
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So I think we can stop here for now. To summarize we began by talking about if we can actually realize the difference between normal life and that transcendence to other. You related that you could. We then looked at whether or not that experience was relatable even though its nearly impossible to fully characterize. It is. Then we started asking whether or not we wanted to relate that experience. At the moment we have: For me: Absolutely. And I am currently doing it. I see that there is a certa…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 09:46 PM
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I think what I'm describing is that I can see how she's always filled the container exactly as I designed it. Absolutely my pressure and escalation for variety are met simultaneously with words of disgust AND an increase in frequency and compliance Ah. I think there's an issue with how we're looking at this. YES, there will always be that immediate egoic questioning and denial. Even if it is followed by compliance. Even if we were to do what I'm going for which is a mutual understanding. You can…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 06:19 PM
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no way to know my approach precisely, until I " Get to the place where you're face to face with that unknown." Correct Which I took as tackling those difficult questions presented in UM with an open mind to what I actually want out of life Incorrect. If the only variables in your life are 1) Your preferences and 2) The questions in UM...then the answer will INEVITABLY be wholly within the realm of UM. You said you're afraid of finishing the book and answers because you see where that will head. …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 04:59 PM
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Part 2 Mating in Captivity Mating in captivity doesnt solve this problem. But it does outline it very clearly and show that BOTH SPOUSES are lamenting this inability to effectively receive communication (I'm going to continue to say communication or "talking" here but just as you said, there's many different ways to communicate. So when I say "talking" or "communicating"...i mean all those ways). They're both doing a great job talking AT each other. But it feels to both like neither one is liste…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 03:49 PM
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Part 1 communication has broadened tremendously Absolutely. Or at least you are now aware and competent at that communication (from you). So it's not necessarily the fact that it "didnt work" before. We just sucked at it. browbeating and cornering her into this non-polarized, masculinized partnership = "everything is great except this one thing"...male version of a woman who beta-izes her husband Very interesting point. And possibly why women start taking on more masculinized personalities and l…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 03:48 PM
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Hopefully, I'll have a solid plan in place by the completion of the process. ...the fuck? We just talked about this flawed logic but I agree that does neither of us any good. ...the fuck?? We just talked about how trauma is power and bonding All signs keep pointing ...I even bolded the word "An" difficult to tell if you are a master horseman riding a bucking bronco, or if you are fake successfully riding that old trail horse. Thats not what he's saying?? The horse is not the judge by which you l…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 01:04 AM
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Ragnar, seems to have an ability to find my soft spots. And why do you think that is? Lucky guess? He's a mind reader? Or maybe some prior experience in that zone? And look where he is now. Why was I having so much trouble completing Unchained Male. Because I've demonstrated myself incapable of enjoying the journey over and over. And you know finishing it is going to be just a waypoint and not the end. And if everything isn't correct by that time, that means an approach to gaining enduring happi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 07:58 PM
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Hate when that happens. Content over speed :) Take your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 06:37 PM
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It’s like, I have these fancy new sandals that make my journey to the water way easier than it’s ever been. You’re telling me to keep an eye open for the aquifer that closer I mean...its not like I'm not. But what I'm focusing on is me, the guy who used to make the journey barefoot talking to you, who used to make the journey barefoot, about that person or that woman over there, who's making the journey barefoot. It's all a matter of perspective. And remember, we have narcissistic tendencies. Bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 03:09 PM
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Makes you wonder...men back then had a lot of time to think to themselves. Has reality changed from back then? Or did we simply lose touch with these deeper topics? Maybe because we filled our minds with so many different kinds of shadows. A man only has so many hours in a day, and a finite attention span. It might be worth his while to ask himself what he's devoting that attention to. And if its worth the value he thinks it is.
/r/askMRP29/05/22 02:51 AM
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An educated man i see. Nice. In this version though, you aren't just an observer of the shadows. You make them :) Who then are the prisoners who don't want to leave their shackles? Who are the ones living naturally in the sun? And if one were to discover the sun and try to communicate this to a still chained prisoner, how would they do so using only the shadows the prisoner can see?
/r/askMRP29/05/22 02:23 AM
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Why not straightforwardly share the answer to our community? Haha. Define straightforward.
/r/askMRP28/05/22 11:56 PM
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/u/usefulwalk4 this advice is masterful and beyond what guys usually strive to understand when they come here. I'm curious why you chose not to respond and what it means to you. Ragnar what do you think about continuing our conversation? You've characterized a horses perspective well. Today I was taking all my dogs and the dogs my wife is watching on a run. 1 by 1, Id put the collar on them, go out, and start jogging. Even those I've never run with before, most of the smarter breeds instantly st…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/22 06:02 PM
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Believe me when I say this because I've torn down a rabbit hole of trying to figure this shit out in a general sense to apply to an overarching model in life, not just sex: What you see in life is a massively complex series of influences in you and in her express themselves in life. And what you're seeing as those expressions in life is simply a representation of who she really is and who you really are projected onto reality. Like you're both playing shadow puppets on the wall with your hands. …
/r/askMRP28/05/22 02:46 PM
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Theres no underlying "theory" behind all this. Motivations arise for infinite reasons. Regardless, post on askMRP for questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/22 01:48 PM
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Rule 5
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 08:55 PM
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That the plow horse/Promise Keepers shit was particularly deeply ingrained. That sounds quite a lot like a deferral of responsibility. That it wasn't your fault it took four reads because those 8deas were too deeply ingrained. Let me ask you this then: what happened on the 4th read that allowed it to click?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:35 AM
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Why do you think it took 4 times?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 06:30 PM
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Zen is correct. Its an excuse. Its why I hate when guys fill their OYS with NMMNG x3, WISNIFG x4, etc. Every time you read a book, you can only pull 80% of the remaining value out. And the impact of that value is determine by the length of time its been since you last read it. So the first time you read a book, you pull out 80% of the value, and the impact is multiplied by the 40something years of your life so far. On the second read, only 80% of the remaining 20% is pulled. And the impact is on…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 01:14 PM
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Its only 3 days. He'll live.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:48 PM
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I see and understand how you're looking at it. But this point comes up repeatedly as a mod here: Does the "ignorant" or "contrarian" viewpoint need to be silenced? Or is it useful, so long as it doesn't drown out rational discussion? In terms of counterproductive, I've never seen IZ be as open about his models as he is in reply to Magneewhatever. That alone elicited value from ignorance. So the productivity of a discussion isn't always on the front end. And this being one if my favorite examples…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:22 PM
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He's taking 3 days off. But I'll chime in since summoned: With respect to books, I found The 5 Love Languages useful. Why did I read it? I read it because if my frame on what I believe is strong and thorough enough, I should be able to read it and refute it. Insomuch as the giant covert contract that is love languages, yes I refuted it. But insomuch as seeing that the layer of truth here is that individuals have their own preferences and we can use that or not within our frame to give gifts free…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:47 PM
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Ok. Moralizing. Its only derogatory when you push your frame of the word onto him and then judge him for it. Besides that though, /u/usefulwalk4, he has a point.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:29 PM
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17 months in since discovering this sub and I’m a better man for it. Except you're still doing it...Posting your OYSs still singing the same old "woe is me. Life is hard" tune. The same one I warned you about here, and the same one I warned you about here. And the thing is, other guys are wasting their time trying to help you out of that and console you and I bet you're just eating that shit up. But all these OYSs are are narratives of how you're getting by despite the hardships of life. Its the…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:15 PM
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Rule 7 and 8.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 12:18 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/22 12:55 PM
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lingering odor of pigshit would ruin the experience. Maybe this is still weakness in my frame :) I'm not sure I care, though. As long as you're happy and getting results you want, there's no reason to care.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:56 PM
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You are quite welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 03:35 PM
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She will withdrawal emotionally, you will withdrawal physically - and a stale mate will set in until you are willing to act on that desire. Check out my "Mindset...of A Man Who Fucks" post.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 03:33 PM
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Lets tackle it from this angle: Why does the proposal matter at all? It only matters to you if it matters to you. (Let's rephrase that) It only has the power to shape the way you view her and your dynamic and what you think of her and what she thinks of you if your frame allows the things she says to be of importance or significance in your frame. In other words if you don't give her a microphone in your frame, she can't speak within it. If she came up to you and said "I saw you come in the fron…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 07:40 PM
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will report back in my next OYS Don't. Thats your thing. We don't need to know it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 12:22 PM
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My wife feels the same way, but that's not the reason it's important to me. Cmon man. You jam this story right in with whining about her not finding you attractive and fucking you and you think we can't see right through that here? I tried This is exactly what I'm talking about. You're not saying "I was dominant to explore different outward frames and I didn't like it"...you're saying "I tried", and then immediately referencing her. In fact referencing her first, then you write your opinion. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 12:16 PM
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to fucking kill it by doing the things one level below ;-) I liked it. Now, /u/liftdriverock, how would you embody this without using words? Go look in the mirror, conjur a feeling, and present an action that embodies killing it without speaking. Lock on to that feeling/motion. Visualize yourself being congruent to that. And go after that. Every time you look in the mirror ask yourself: "Am I that guy that embodies that feeling/motion?"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 01:45 AM
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Not a man who she wants to fucks this week. so I scooped him over to the other seat and he bumped his head and started crying for a minute. Bet he'll listen next time. Unattractive To who? wife hasn't come near me since. Lol your wife is unattracted when you physically move your children? Tried Work Haha. Tried adding some dominance, didn't really work well To who? For what purpose? she gives me attitude and pushes back hard. Will dial it back a bit to a level that doesn't seem controlling, Once…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 01:31 AM
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How was your anger through all that?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 12:09 AM
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I can't imagine having to start that process from "uncomfortable speaking to people" like some guys do I didn't talk to people until high school. Like...at all. Took me almost a decade and a half to go from social retard to guy who can at least speak to people normally. (Check out my idiots guide to conversation post for a summary of what I learned on that journey). I think the reason the goal seems so imposing is that the goal is something you aren't. I think the cheat code is simply to change …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 05:52 PM
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If I were dating a chick and she told me she’d have sex after I bought her dinner, I wouldn’t ask myself if I’ve got something better to do than go to dinner with her. I’d tell her I’m not trading for sex. I should be more specific. Theres actually two games going on here: Men's game in a blue pill world is to "win" frame. Women's game in their plugged in world is to "win" by making you engage in your game. So when you answer "Buy me dinner and ill have sex" with an overt "No, I don't barter.", …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 04:19 PM
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I'm seeing similar thoughts in you that I had. If you ever want to explore them, hit me up on discord.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 01:39 PM
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If the boundary isn't crossed then the apology is a moot point. In a vacuum sure. But she's not stupid. And I think the dynamic goes a bit deeper: If she crosses a boundary, you call her out, she apologizes, you remove time and attention, she sees an almost logical disconnect from your emotional disconnect. That logical disconnect says "If he withdraws anyway, then boundaries aren't about the dynamic of him setting and me following. They're more like a rigid autistic structure. And if he doesn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 01:36 PM
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I believe spirituality is a missing link in the modern world. The book Lessons of History is pretty boring. But parts of it are gold. In it, they explain that religion, though it does seem to manifest as a basis for moralistic behavior within the group, gives rise to stifling of individualistic behavior in favor of the group and causes people to cast it off. In doing so however, people find that an ethic, a warmth, a scaffolding from which they can mold and conduct their individual way of life s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 01:25 PM
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Game resources seem to come and go with the players themselves. Style used to be relevant, then he left the scene. RSD was big, then broke up. Roosh wrote Bang and Day Bang and then went all religious. Theres still YouTubers out there coaching and trying to make a buck. Game for Autists Guide Its funny when I look back on Steel's post, a lot of the things Mystery talks about are background things that are "noticed". Kinda like "Oh...she's doing that thing they talk about in game." And then from …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 12:55 PM
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Not the rule for him doing a sex play by play? I was sure you'd get him for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 11:34 PM
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During sex is the time to establish dominance in your relationship. Sex acts like a force multiplier for dominance because it ties in massive amounts of emotion. Im not sure what you mean play to win though. Who are you playing against? There are unending ways to reference things back into knowing myself, I won't try to explain it here. I do :) Also that statement conflicts with this: Maybe that is my role to play in the world. everything cycles Even the cycles cycle. The double pendulum. It's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 10:58 PM
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I think I should get my own house in order before making any decisions. But thats not what you're doing. I’ve been giving her a steady supply of affection Instead of "I've been outgoing and affectionate from my frame." I am working on bringing excitement into our relationshipand family life Instead of "I am working on filling my life with excitement and being the father i want to be." where we need to go asa family Instead of "Where I need to go as a leader of my family." I’ve been working on my…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 10:45 PM
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To be an attractive, masculine man, to do meaningful work, to have meaningful relationships and to experience pleasure Now go one level more up ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 09:27 PM
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Yep I remember all this. Keep marching.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 09:23 PM
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You rejected what I offered. But sure, now my nice guy agrees to watch some crap on Netflix You're playing the game. Stop. Put the scoreboard away. Do you want to hang out with her tonight or no? Not: "If I do whats the score?" Not: "What will it mean if I dont?" Simply: "Hmmm what have I got going on tonight...is hanging with her the best value for me?" And decide on that alone. What value is there? If I went on a date with a chick and she told me she wasn’t going to fuck me tonight, I wouldn’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 09:15 PM
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What positive qualities does you wife have, if any, that make you want to keep her around? I'm hard-pressed to find any.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:58 PM
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I flatly told her, “That was rude and disrespectful of you and it better never happen again!” Of course I got “ Oh, I’m sorry, I wasn’t thinking, blah blah blah” I removed myself from her presence for the rest of the night and got shit done. She crossed a boundary. You hard no that. She said sorry. Why then did you also remove yourself. Ego?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:37 PM
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Why reduce the load so that you do 1 cycle per week instead of keeping it and accomplishing 1.33 cycles per week? This is similar (but less intense? I dunno the set/rep range but I'm assuming with less muscles targeted he's not doing 12 sets) than what I started with when I began working out. My program was 3x3x10, 3 exercises per muscle, 3 sets 10 reps per exercise: Day 1: Chest/Shoulder/Tri Day 2: Quad, Lower back, Upper back Day 3: Lats, Traps, Biceps Day 4: Hams, Calves, Abs I did 6 days per…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:16 PM
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All Women Have The Capacity To Be Like That Its a play on AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:39 PM
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asked her a variety of questions about her mindset, concerns, etc. How do you ease into something like this? I can imagine simply throwing questions out without regard for their randomness. But it would feel caveman-esque. Id like to do something like this one day. A more pointed exploration of dynamics.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:36 PM
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I am considering breaking the workout into 4 alternating days (instead of 3) No.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:27 PM
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She was going all out, dripping in sweat, just killing it That's not possible. Women don't have drive. Next you're going to tell me AWHTCTBLT. (My wife does a HIIT class at least 4 times a week. I go once every few weeks and it kicks. my. ass.) and here I am, about go for a fucking jog Ego twinge ;) I've felt it too. Don't let it get to you. You know how hard you lift. Just because its your day to jog doesn't mean you aren't killing it otherwise. chick I work with Instant opener. Ask her to go o…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:24 PM
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This looks like something that could help me map out where to go from here. At some point the "where (other people think i should) go" stops and "where (i want to) go" starts. Imagine it like walking a trail in the woods. The path at the beginning is paved, marked with signage, and there's help kiosks along the way. Eventually you're walking a dirt trail, you can't remember the last time you saw a small colored shape on a tree indicating a walked path, and the brush is overcrowding the trail. Do…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 01:50 PM
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I display an expression of mild annoyance It seems you're at a place where you can ultimately turn "shit tests" into play. How's your internal reaction though? Are you still viewing shit tests as her trying to AMOG you? Or are you interpreting them as a silly little girl throwing jabs at Mike Tyson?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 01:29 PM
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Seemingly, I am internalizing this stuff and it is starting to become the fabric of my being. Likely. Also not sure where you are but the seasons are changing. Set and setting are important throughout our lives and can give us a boost subconsciously. Ride that wave. don’t get emotional Don't get overly emotional. But explore the realm with them. Its very similar to physical play. Emotional play allows you to create an arena in which they can play, fight, and flex. One in which you provoke, evoke…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 12:58 PM
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Rule 8.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 12:36 PM
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A LOT of what you just wrote is shining the light. But this: The shadow's gone if you put a light on it ...this is one of the coolest sayings I've heard within the realm of what we're talking about so far. Bravo on that one. This saying not only gives me a piece of shadow but explains the reason for and path to non-knowability, the bridge. It unveals that which we cannot talk about (the tesseract). But shows you (me) that when doing that, when explaining that which we cannot explain, one way to …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 04:44 PM
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A few weeks ago...ABSOLUTELY FLOATING Good! The experiencing the shadow. ‘oh wow holy shit, THIS is what I’m trying to get better at with mindfulness meditation’. Good! The noticing of the experience! whatever that was What was it? From where did that, whatever that was, that thing that you cannot describe, where did it come from? And what does the fact that this exists mean to you in terms of what we see here? You say: Essentially being in control of my reality and even making it reality to oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/22 12:55 PM
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This might seem nitpicky, but at least for me it's important to be accurate on defining and using concepts when laying out strategies and sharing notes so we are speaking the same language. Haha! Me too. Funny how that works...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 12:10 PM
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What I interpret you saying is that the apple needs to be at least trying to advance to new and improved territory. Sort-of leaning toward no. What I'm saying is that the tesseract is there. It exists. But its not necessarily indicated by "new and improved territory". And I'm searching for indications you've found it. How do I know you've found it? If you can describe it (the tesseract) to me via your view of the shadow...as well as an acknowledgement that the shadow you're describing is an inco…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 11:16 AM
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Gay
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 07:30 PM
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I don't like creatine. Mostly for its water retention. But I use like a gram before workouts because it does to something. You can get the candy flavored shit my wife does, or just straight up optimum nutrition micronized creatine.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:10 PM
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So I'm going to reply here to keep this conversation public. I think it has a lot of value for guys sitting at the third seat at our discussion table. I'm not my feelings, fears, hopes and dreams ect. I'm not my physical body...I'm not any of these things. Who is it then, that is seeing these things? In the caveman scenario, are we describing the actions and dynamics of the caveman and woman from the caveman's perspective who understands what's going on? Or from the perspective of a cave-psychol…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 01:52 PM
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Who are you and where have you been all my life?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 12:07 PM
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It'll likely come with time. Guys are asking "what did you DO to get things to work?" implying he did something on the front end (action) and saw a new result. From the description in his reply to you, it's more like he took a look at the front end, saw it was all fucked up, and started tracing it back. And in a dimly lit back room through a couple access doors that looked to haven't been used in years, he found a tangle of crossed wires that were connected all wrong. He went "wtf? Hang on"...sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 10:52 PM
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Quick comment on style: Your hair style, clothing style, shoes style, accessories style...all these silently speak for you as if you were walking around with a hint of subtle social proof. So choose your style so that its congruent to you and allow it to present your you before even opening your mouth. Bonus hint: Just like learning congruency in MRP, you likely don't know whats congruent to you yet. I strongly advise making part of this DoD to try out at least 1 totally new and outside your com…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/22 11:59 AM
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Ah. Here it is then. So...something about the way I view reality: When I come to a conclusion...when I know something...I know it by feeling it first. I think you may have said something similar above. But it's the recognition of a familiar feeling, and that feeling very accurately characterizes a situation, even though I cant initially put words to it. Here then, I have that feeling. And that feeling is: It seems like we're at a point where you have a point of surety within your communication o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 12:24 PM
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Unless your wife is enthusiastically giving handjobs and waiting in restless anticipation for you to cum all over her face, handjobs fall squarely in the "Dont be unattractive" category. Think about it. Do you really enjoy getting them? Or are they bottom of the barrel what you accept because it's something. Do you think she enjoys giving them? Or do you think it's the least she can do to keep you "satisfied", while simultaneously thinking a guy who's satisfied by handjobs must be the biggest pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 11:52 AM
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Thank you. I have no real knowledge of literature concerning cardio and the ability to grow muscle. What I have are simply observations of my own program and how I've been moving things around to optimize it for my goals. First and most importantly: Can you get "big" while doing heavy cardio? Yes. I've always been a runner. I was running marathons before RP and switched to routines from 60 (winter) up to 150 miles per month after taking the pill. Currently I'm doing about 90 miles a month. Recen…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 07:44 PM
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why is that a problem Because... Does it matter what the the truth is as long as I can use whatever narrative to go to the gym when I want or get laid when I want? ...is the most hollow existence I can imagine. IF a man subscribes to this, he has no agency. He simply chooses in life whatever mental model happens to work to achieve a means he wants. A means that was chosen on ideas about how the world works based on experiences he's had in the past. Experiences that could also be wrong. So not on…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 02:16 PM
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I read this and it echoed in my head over and over: You wouldn't want to see what's there anyways. You wouldn't want to see what's there anyways. You wouldn't want to see what's there anyways. And then I went tearing through the replies wondering if things you said like Doesn’t matter, got laid (or will get laid soon). and Things are humming along really good right now and I want to stay aware that it's because of me and my actions. Are coming from a certain perspective. And that perspective is …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 01:45 AM
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some type of weird ego protection thing that comes out projecting out humility. GOOD! So you see it too. And can admit it. You've encapsulated it well but I'll give a brief view of it from my perspective: First, that question in and of itself ("am i smarter than you") is never really asked between two individuals right? It's like...almost taboo. Why would we ever want to get to the absolute answer? What could that answer do other than make whoever is less smart feel bad (or said another way...hu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 06:49 PM
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I'm going to answer this. And my answer has a certain point I want to make. But before I do that, I want to play a quick game one level deeper. This question is being asked with my ego set aside. I ask you to set yours aside too. It's not a trick. It's not AMOGing. It doesnt expect a certain answer. It's a philosophical...koan...if you will. The question: Do you think I'm smarter than you?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 12:26 PM
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the Veracity/Accurate assessment of that without taking time to write details is a catch 22 Words are shit for conveying thoughts lol. what do you think it’d accomplish that’s not pure vanity? This is kinda like your second question but vanity is a little strong of a word. Theres vanity, then theres writing about yourself with a knowing that its incomplete, unknowable, and...conjecture ;) I'd say the knowing that you dont truly know kind of hedges against it being vane. But I can see how one cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 12:00 PM
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You ever catch what your mind is thinking right before you fall asleep? You're so far gone that dream-logic has almost taken over. So when you assess what it was you were thinking about you find that the guy watching you through a kaleidoscope on the street corner while you were flying through the city trying to deliver newspapers to waiting customers was some sort of important father figure and you felt judged but the judgement was eminating from anthropomorphic skyscrapers to your left and rig…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/22 04:17 PM
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Got here through past research and looking up what ackley's up to. This response makes my eye twitch a bit. I can't verbalize why. But I can feel why.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/22 03:05 PM
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This shit works for plantar warts.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/22 11:57 AM
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I eat protein bars here and there. I dont like doing it because I know it's just protein powder mixed with a candy bar. But in the right circumstances, like I just finished lifting in the climbing gym and now I'm about to climb and need energy, it's a perfect match. Mixes are few and far between. I used them more when I was trying out diets but I think theres better options. I take vitamin D, Zinc (with copper), and magnesium nightly. I'd take fish oil more often but I keep seeing it's quality c…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/22 12:22 PM
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I look forward to hearing your thoughts. Take your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 06:29 PM
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SECA is bioelectric impedance + Free? I'd do it. $50? I'd do it $200? Nah. Try and get your diet as average as possible the day before and of. Hydration levels adequate but not overly hydrated. And not worked out yet that day (glucose/salt is in balance).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 04:25 PM
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I have always been a passive guy and she is very assertive and that is now obvious the root of our issues (OYS #1) This IS the root of your issues. It STILL IS. constant shit test, compliance tests, and just general negative put downs...laughing off a lot of it or joking around it (OYS #2) So if I call you a Faggot...you just laugh that off? Like...that's something that's okay to you in your life? That your wife is insulting you? I get it. I get AA and AM but theres a difference between a wife w…
/r/askMRP13/04/22 02:25 PM
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I don't' follow what you are saying here. I'd appreciate if you could explain briefly. It's quite literal. When she was shit testing you about divorce and you fired back emotionally, she recoiled, then her hamster wound up as she thought about it, then she walked it back. In effect, you answered a shit test with a shit test (emotionally charged statement to make her reconsider). It worked. But then your hamster spun up. You tried to talk about it logically after the emotions passed, and so then …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/22 01:04 PM
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Do you think that you can suck your own dick? Sometimes it works better if your lay upside down and swing your legs over your head. But when you cum you gotta watch because your balls will pop back inside your body make sure you pop then back out.
/r/askMRP10/04/22 12:29 AM
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Look back to the first Days of Dread. It was a time where everyone collaboratively shared notes with the poster/speaker that week simply priming the discussion. Flaired, unflaired, mod...didn't matter. Everyone can learn and build off others' inspiration. Since then, noobs have used both it and MRP in general as a class to attend and take notes in silence as good little boys rather than a ladder to climb. Men thrive in competition. And that's why in general DoD isn't what it used to be. You want…
/r/askMRP08/04/22 02:20 PM
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Thank you sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 01:35 PM
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provide good examples I read that line a few times just to see if it stopped rubbing me the wrong way. It didnt. It may be pedantic but I dont turn around to provide a good example to her. I turn around because it's the man, the father I want to be. She will grow up. She will make good choices. She will make bad choices. But they will be her choices. I dont expect me being the type of father I am to make her a certain way. But I'll be damned if I beat myself up when she makes a bad choice becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 12:57 PM
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Hi livelikealesbian. It's right there on the sidebar: WOMEN: post on /r/RedPillWives, you will be banned on sight here I'm not sure why you keep trying to DEER your admission with participation from the past. Or identify yourself as special. The reason men and women are different isnt due to who which sex we choose to marry. And this place has never been based on inclusion. The evo-psych and social dynamics of women are different from that of men by the nature of the world we live in. And a lot …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 12:26 PM
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Sex is not a big deal, unless you are not having it. Sex is not a ridiculously massive deal, unless you arent having it, and it is also one of if not THE method by which you derive pleasure, worth, and value. From my take, 3KL is talking about solving the second problem, which ipso facto will solve the first.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 12:19 AM
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Interesting take. I've always told people acid isnt like visiting God with questions and him telling you the answers...its much more like him taking what you know and saying "Well that's nice and all...but have you looked at it like this?" And completely wracking your perspective. To each their own metamorphosis.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 09:35 PM
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I cant control any of it Heres your Stoicism diploma. Now internalize: "I cannot guarantee the outcome of any of it. But I can open doors if I choose." Whatever your stbx thinks of you. Whatever your son thinks of you. Whatever she does. Whatever he does. It's up to them. You could tell your son "I care about you. I'd like to talk weekly. If you dont hear from me for two weeks reach out so we dont get into a situation like this again. And I'll do the same." Or whatever you want to say. He can (a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 09:13 PM
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The conversation with your wife doesnt matter. Not bad otherwise. Would like to try ayahuasca one day. Let's see what that deep dive does for you in the long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 09:04 PM
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Fuck me and here I am still haven't done a triathlon. I'll match you. At least super sprint length in at most 156 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 08:51 PM
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At the end of the day, from low to high, I'd say the SMV scale is FAT, skinny, built/heavy, jacked/cut. I'd still absolutely weight train at a high intensity all the way down to skinny and then ride lean status up to jacked, than up to built and then down to jacked. Or were you asking about some other point of view than SMV?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 08:18 PM
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Holy shit i knew he seemed familiar. Hahahahahahaha
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 11:41 PM
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Comment locked. I got this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 06:16 PM
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So...heres the deal: First and foremost if I ever see you mention FF in a post again without lifting numbers, you will be banned. Second, lifting is not simply a mood booster. Lifting is a multi-pronged approach to improving various areas of your life from mood, to health, to facing adversity, to developing frame, to sexual attractiveness, to being a prize, to possessing an attitude of strength in the face of an unblinking truth...the iron does not lie. Third, theres been a lot of back in forth …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 06:12 PM
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sometimes I am trying to treat him as a much older guy Good. I hold my kids to a higher standard as well. They are 8 and 10. Over the years, I have been astounded at how mature they're becoming. That said: They still make mistakes, try out shitty models, and have limited emotional control. And guess what? I lose my shit with them sometimes too. The trick here is to notice that you are or did lose your shit, then go back to them and with the same expectation of a higher standard, say "Hey. I lost…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 02:12 PM
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Do you even lift? Post your stats.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 01:57 PM
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Hegel's Dialectic Holy flaming flying ballsack. Why haven't I looked this up before? /u/easydayshardnights Iain talks about exactly this in his book. /u/Ubermensch33 the dipole and orbiting a common point we talked about. I've been developing this idea for over a year and didnt even know it was already a thing. Got some reading to do. Thanks razor.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 12:12 PM
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Wife is constantly nitpicking how I change diapers AA that. Change the baby and put the new diaper on its head. If she keeps it up keep putting the diaper in stranger and stranger places like its arm, on a stuffed animal, on the door knob, on her. Broken record "Oh! The diaper goes on the baby!" every time she sees it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 01:26 AM
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Mouse: What if he makes it? Tank: No ones ever made their first jump. Mouse: I know I know. But what if he does?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 09:42 PM
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Take an aspect of your life. Stop doing it for a week or two. Do you get antsy? Does the thought of taking it away make you squirm? Keep that. Does it not really matter even if it feels like it's part of what an RP should do? Throw it out. That's LARPing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 09:24 PM
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Solid.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:45 PM
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I’ve thought about simply divorcing since my ego hurts now I feel my wife essentially provides only sex, some lighthearted conversation (when in a good mood or we are away from the kids) but otherwise is depressed and complains or shit tests me most of the remaining time I don’t have an answer on how divorce would serve me better either So...ego butthurt against divorce. Or literally nothing against staying. Hmm. It doesnt seem like the stay plan is the go plan here. Let's just get one thing out…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:39 PM
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So you are retarded by choice?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:58 PM
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There was another guy on here who made a new username and now hes going to get to work too. Sounds very New Years resolution-y to me. Dont try and save your ego by trying to draw a dividing line between when you were a pile of low effort shit and when you weren't. You still are a pile of low effort shit just with an OYS 1 tacked to it. Just begin the process of moulding that low effort shit into gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:56 PM
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Being financially retarded about compound interest should be looked on with as much contempt as being a fat fuck. Educate yourself. Your credit card interest is how companies pay me $3000 a year in rewards points while I pay them $0 in interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:48 PM
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Someone else? Dust for prints! Sprinkle the finest baby powder you can find on her butthole. If another man touches it...GOT 'EM. This wont work if she farts or poops. But we know women dont do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:33 PM
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What does it mean to you to be "happy"? I dont mean that in a philosophical way. I mean it in a logical way. When you use the word "happy", how long would it take you to take all the things (memories, feelings, words) that define happiness in you and write them down. A week? A month? Theres a lot of shit in that one word, happy, isn't there? Happy is a pointer. It points in your mind to the absolutely massive amount of shit you have crammed in the "happy" folder in your mind. In that folder, are…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:22 PM
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judgements and/or declarations of my lack of leadership. Maybe. But what if it's not just about you What if it's her communicating that she doesn't know how to communicate or even act herself. You wouldn't know the difference between that and her being a bitch of course. But...if it were that...how would you lead her out of it? Dont reply to this one. Think on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:53 PM
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Noob-tip: For the love of god DO NOT whisper in her ear again for at least 2 weeks. If you do, you might as well rub her butthole too. my wife doesn't appreciate me for my 'sacrifices' and never will is honestly pretty freeing. Those things are expected Your sacrifices arent expected. What's expected is that you act for the purposes of your own agency free of covert contracts. If you do, then there is no appreciation owed. It's like saying "I realized whenever I brushed my teeth that she'll neve…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:02 PM
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What if the purpose isnt subterfuge. What if subterfuge is simply the vehicle to convey the message?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 04:44 PM
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So when your wife picks a fight with you, do you respond every time? This OYS is going to be fun to watch develop over time. Btw. How many brownie points do I need for a BJ?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 03:44 PM
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Normally, I would put heavy expectations on getting the absolute most out of my trip with the hope of making some personal progress and/or unveiling some life changing epiphanies. I didn’t. I just enjoyed myself. I relaxed and kept the expectations low. It was space and time well spent without the pressure of trying to be better. I remember both experiences like this. One where looking back I was just trying way too hard to force something. The other looking back as if doing nothing didn't help …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 03:12 PM
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Its telling how you take a casual jab at how you can organize your finances as a power struggle. Where else do you do this in your life? Let's be clear here: -I dont care about you. -I dont have any semblance or actual control over you even if I did. -For all intents a purposes I dont even exist to you. So why such a recoil over random words on a screen suggesting things to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:53 PM
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Need to focus on my diet, it is holding my progress back Welcome to OYS. What are you going to do about this to own it? The goal before Memorial Day is 235lbs. Last week the goal was -10 lbs next month (April). Now its 13lbs in two months. How about we set a solid goal. And while we're at it, lets make the math work. If theres 4 weeks in a month and you are trying (and failing) to lose 2lbs a week, that's 8lbs bud. Not 10. Kids are doing well I see a lot of OYSs where the kids section is more "b…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:44 PM
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For my own clarity: Does watching videos of you and your wife fucking count as watching porn?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 01:14 PM
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OYS 1 Heres my height. Heres my weight. And heres an excuse. Starting off on the right foot I see.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 12:41 PM
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Well that's a relief. For a second I thought you didnt know you were being retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 12:33 PM
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try my best to be a good mentor to them What does this even mean? This has Nice Guy written all over it. When we get new guys in, I mentor them by taking them and showing them all the really cool shit we do. I grill them by asking leading questions that get them to think outside the box and develop solutions that I've developed over the last decade. I do it because it's what I really want to do. Not because it's "good". And not because I'm trying to be a good boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 12:13 PM
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Since she doesn’t have a citizenship in my country yet Do you live with her? Or is this a LDR with no kids and no marriage and shes not putting out?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 11:53 AM
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A fitness coach is a luxury people with money have because they are too lazy or incompetent to formulate and then hold themselves accountable for the work. I have no idea how people even get by making minimum wage. But the fact that you are thinking about using money for a fitness coach means you're retarded. Tell you what, as a reward for breaking $80k you can start paying for a fitness coach. That sounds more realistic
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 11:43 AM
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Great questions. I have not answered that question yet. And I believe in order to answer it, I would either need to have reached the end (if there is one) of wherever this journey goes, or seen enough examples within it that indicate that this isnt the way I want to go. Instead, however, I keep stumbling upon more and more indicators, lessons, and experiences that indicate that yes...this is the way I want to go. if peace and happiness (in the overall sense) is the objective, what's the point in…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 11:50 AM
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I know sometimes i'm long winded so I'll break this into sections with headers briefing the point, and you can decide if you'd like to read. I believe the third section is the most important though: Part 1: What's going on here Make no mistake, we are within a piece of your dynamic where we're optimizing events that happen once every 6 months-a year, and last a week. A blip on the radar of the overall dynamic. So all this is basically pros sitting around the poker table talking about what the ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 07:12 PM
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Admittedly this conversation has walked me down an interesting mental space. Because to not mince words, when your woman steps out of her matrix, you react hard. And to me, being flabbergasted and going into silent treatment would be a reaction I wouldn't like to be in. It seems that each time this happens you either downplay the negativity you experience in that reaction, or truly do not care that you are in a negative space. If the latter, I cannot tell if you dont care being in a negative spa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 12:33 PM
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Appreciate the info. Looks like a reddit problem. Looks like my comment made it onto the OYS. Horns replied and I see his reply in my inbox but not on OYS. I'll keep an eye on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:57 PM
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I wasn’t hurt, just really flabbergasted at the behavior. I know you know your wife better. You know this is her default her. You know your ship contains a matrix for her to play in. You made it (the matrix) yourself for that specific purpose. You've even lead her to believe she wanted the matrix. A finger pointing at the moon is not the moon. Do not look at the finger and believe moon. If you choose to create a matrix for her, you must not believe that her in the matrix is her outside the matri…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:34 PM
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You keep saying it's just for you...yet you keep trying harder and harder to win MRP over. It's time to stop value leeching. Do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 10:20 PM
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Welcome back. We are big on doing here. So start the process. Report on what you've done and how you're working through now.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 09:58 PM
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Dont waste your time if theres nothing to report. This is fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 09:27 PM
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Do something. Report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 09:22 PM
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Good post. A few other questions you can ask yourself then: You changed your mindset. You now see the old and the new mindset. Why do you stay with the new one? What's the reason you choose it now over the old? And also, are these two mindsets the only two? Or are there more? When you changed into this new mindset, was it "new" in that you never knew it existed before? Or "new" in that you simply didnt embody it before? And if the latter, where else in your life are you doing this?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 03:30 PM
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/u/UsefulWalk4
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:20 PM
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Interesting to actually write it out. My top 5: 1) Fitness. Everything gets shoved aside for my daily workout. 2) Hobbies. Climbing, poker, soccer, drums, social meditation or workouts with friends...once these are scheduled there is no ignoring them. 3) To-Do. I always try to knock out a few of those neurotic things bugging me per day. 4) Family. Wife and kids. I like to engage them when the above 3 are taken care of. 5) Letting go/mental improvement. I turn the focus inward. Work is not on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 12:39 PM
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When the real is no longer what it was, nostalgia assumes its full meaning. There is a plethora of myths of origin and signs of reality - a plethora of truth, of secondary objectivity, and authenticity. Escalation of the true, of lived experience, resurrection of a figurative where the object and the substance have disappeared. Such would be the successive phases of the image: it is the reflection of a profound reality; it masks and denatures a profound reality; it masks the absence of a profoun…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 02:32 PM
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(Looks around as the dust settles) Damn. Nice work. You cleaned house!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/22 11:25 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/22 09:06 PM
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Heres a softball: What do you do when you do get praises?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/22 12:59 PM
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I agree. I liked the other post better. /u/thekingwithin2001, here's my thoughts: You've had a journey through Stoicism. You have a rational head on your shoulders. You see models, paths, and the model of the changing of paths. But looking back on some of your posts: But there are enemies in this path. you are not [a team] No one gives a fuck about you people will try to get you to live according to their expectations...manipulation and this quote: healthy narcissism...rational egoism I would as…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:05 PM
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1 year ago, OYS 1 gym once a week...cardio (4-5 km) and own-weight workouts So...like...a pushup every now and then... 1 year ago, OYS 2 Took advice from /u/HornsOfApathy...current plan is to have 3 days of weight lifting and between each session I will rest my muscles with running. Ok. New plan. 3 days a week and running nice. I'm a runner. Cardio 4-5 days a week and lifting 5-6. 3 is a solid start. 1 year ago, OYS 3 elbow inflammation...treatment...4 weeks minimum so no lifting for me My elbow…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 02:41 AM
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I cant say for sure...fully congruent Wise of you to notice that. When you're searching for the answer to this, remember the distinction: Congruent to who? Who you are now? Or who you want to become? Or neither?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/22 02:12 PM
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I have a fear of pushing too far and getting into abusive territory. It is your job to open doors. That includes opening doors to increasingly dominate (if that's what you want...more on that in a second) as well as opening doors to communicate about that dominance. How can you open doors to communicate about her comfort with that dominance without looking weak, validation seeking, or insinuating that you don't enjoy this? So part of my love for the game, may still be the fact that I still love …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/22 12:12 AM
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Rule 8.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/22 11:32 PM
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Rules 3, 6, and 10.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/22 10:44 PM
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LDR There is no such thing. You're single. At best a long distance orbiter. Like Pluto.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/22 01:02 PM
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Have you tried rubbing her butthole?
/r/askMRP13/03/22 12:28 AM
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You are a saint for continuing on this long.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 09:39 PM
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Part 2: Would you feel it appropriate to show vulnerability to a person who only intends to use that to harm you or manipulate you? Let's first say that the question itself assumes the answer. And that's everything wrong with the question. That someone will use my vulnerability to interpret I'm weak and can be harmed...this is different than what we talked about above because this isnt the innocent misplaced appreciation or ignorant inability to understand. This is malicious action. We'll come b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 05:41 PM
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Jesus this is long. Part 1: Distinction I agree that there is definitely a distinction between what I'm saying and a covert contract. And considering: I dont mean "appreciated" in the covert contract-y sense I see that you see there's a potential for a covert contract in there. But I still think there's some nuance that can be teased apart here. Pearls before swine So this saying means that one is showing or giving something to someone who doesnt appreciate or understand it's value. One has to a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 05:41 PM
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For both of us In the most general sense yes. It is for both of you because it involves both of you. But "for", (semantically meaning) "who is involved" is different than "for" (semantically meaning) "the reason behind / what it provokes". For me, because I can What do you mean (semantically) by "I can". Do you mean "I am able to...where I once was not?" And then, were you not able to because of her or because of you? That's rhetorical. Dont answer that. It doesn't matter. We'll get to why in a …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:50 PM
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How else can you Express Your Emotions Like a Man? You infer having control means you express them like a man. It does. But at the same time it doesnt. I'm poking at the "it doesnt" part. Because It's kind of all just semantics anyways If you only knew how often the semantics of understanding were the important part lol. So let me poke again and distinguish the "it doesnt" part: Vulnerability and control For who are you being vulnerable? Of who do you need control?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:55 PM
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It puts you in control. Why do you need to be in control?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:32 PM
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There it is again. You're worried about winning ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 09:49 AM
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Whoosh lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 09:21 AM
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By playing a defensive move toward it, even a winning defensive move, you're still playing her game. Why does it bother you enough to formulate a defensive strategy for it? Why does it bother you enough to put it in your OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 09:06 AM
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It dawned on me that she has never let me do the following: When was the last time you pushed the issue? But I want it and I am willing to do the work to get it. Then you'll never get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:22 PM
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I am a bit lost on how I should internalize all the content Maybe not the content but I'd certainly take a moment and figure out if you're fucking yourself by In general I am not big on analyzing how my childhood affects me today And then having all these revelations when you actually do analyze it. Think theres something to that? Do you do that anywhere else?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 11:10 PM
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Really? Never had a "fuck you self. Stop complaining. We're going to get done what needs to get done"? Never had a "fuck everyone. If I want something done I'll do it myself"? Never defended yourself from aggression with anger?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 10:49 PM
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Good. Short term and long term. That's a good point to notice. How about feelings that make you feel bad. Like that righteous anger. Can you tell me a time that righteous anger got you what you wanted?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 08:35 PM
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Stay with me now. We're just getting started. So happy feelings are good. What about when you stuff your face with 3 donuts. Feels good right? What about that feel good feeling? Is that good or bad?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 07:59 PM
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I actually feel pretty happy most of the time So...then...these feelings arent bad? Or are they?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 07:52 PM
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my feelings are bad and I should feel bad for having them.. Oh? Do all your feelings lead to anger all the time?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 07:43 PM
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I dont tolerate bad behavior What is there to fight about? What is a fight? A fight is you trying to convince her. Fuck trying to convince her. You dont tolerate bad behavior. If she does it, then start not tolerating it. What does that mean? What are the consequences? Theres nothing to fight about.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 05:20 PM
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how do you pass comfort tests without feeling like your returning to a place where your just acquiescing to your wife's wants First...how does one "pass" a comfort test? It's the same as "passing" a shit test. You do what you want and laugh at the test. If what you want isnt what she wants, well, oh well. If it is, that doesn't mean you lose because she gets what she wants. You can have common goals as a couple. In fact, it's probably part of what you want out of your relationship. So dont shoot…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 05:08 PM
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He then says to me, “you don’t train her right.” "Funny...she doesn't talk to me like that..."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 04:54 PM
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So it was all your fault ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 04:52 PM
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vulnerability = strength /u/tyred_biggums in case he wants to comment Remember...vulnerability isnt strength because you are vulnerable in her eyes. Vulnerability is strength when you can be vulnerable with yourself despite her eyes. Saying "fuck that was a shitty way to respond" is simply you being honest with yourself. She just happens to witness it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 04:37 PM
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Check what's up Yeah. Mine are like "we know what you're doing in there." I'm like uh huh. So best to stay out and down stairs huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 04:27 PM
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"be a man of strength and honor with Arnold pecs, a corner office, and a cock that hypnotizes women" Is that what this place preaches? Or is that what you think this place preaches? Interesting...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:20 PM
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confrontation about how “unhealthy”...told her to STFU I immediately recognized that I had lost it. But I consciously decided to use this as an opportunity. I journaled about it later that day - my feelings I just need to stop preparing and go - just go. So your response, your "act" when you recognized it was shitty was to journal it? How about "Fuck. My bad. That was a shitty way to respond. I'm working on that." Shes going to assume that means shes right about working out. That's fine. Because…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:17 PM
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Fair. What's the plan this year then? Arms are fucked. Hows squat? Are you doing legs? Core?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 01:53 PM
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This whole arguement is one big pile of butthurt. You're telling both your wife and son, who's trying to follow in your footsteps, to do as you say. Not as you do. And teaching him that his opinions are governed by his social rank in the eyes of others rather than the merits of his own words (hello blue pill programming). You know what I'd say if my wife said that she was going to Vegas? "You can do what you want. I dont approve." And would suggest alternatives like waiting for the band to tour …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 01:47 PM
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How many hours a day are you working right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 12:59 PM
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Why is your BF still over 20% after a year?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 12:52 PM
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No sex this week, due to me not initiating: birthdays, plus my daughter is not sleeping good, plus visits, plus lot of work, … I forgot to "push" and to "game", therefor, sex did not appear by its own. That's really all it is. I have been thinking how I could get some space for us to be without kids … I could not find any. "Kids go downstairs. Mom and I will be down in 20 minutes."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 12:49 PM
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Questions go to askMRP. There is info on the sidebar about divorce prep.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/22 08:59 PM
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Questions to askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/22 01:37 PM
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First sentence of the post my wife... I stop reading. Who's writing this? I dont recognize the username. He comments in dead bedrooms. Hmm. Let's see what his posts are. A post in HLcommunity? What information does he spill there? we sleep separately supposed to "get together" (cant even call it fucking with his own wife) frustrated with limited intimacy. "I should be thankful" That's just the first paragraph. I stop reading. I know more about this guy in 3 minutes and two paragraphs than he kno…
/r/askMRP27/02/22 02:46 AM
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7 days ago But why does the simple process of intamcy need to be this difficult? Wtf. Maybe just life and the human condition? A person replies: "Its not supposed to be this hard. I'm sorry." OP replies: "I felt better after I wrote it." Leaving up for one day as a case study for those who want to look at what LARPing and incongruence looks like.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/22 03:49 PM
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writers self congradulation has morphed into some weird frat boy hazing/catholic confession thing. I'm not seeing this. And most of the approved/mods seem to be operating lone wolf style. I'm unaware of them getting together in an organized way with a rotation of men outsise of OYS talking about red pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 04:49 AM
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I'd like to add...that making your mission a "process to there" or "a process of exploring processes to theres" will be much more valuable to you than making your mission a "there" itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 06:43 PM
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Love the way this guy writes. I appreciate the article. It actually did start while climbing. Not even a particularly hard route but a small tweak on the right elbow and then just never went away and got worse. Not sure why the other one got it too. I'll try this out n see what happens. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 03:32 AM
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Jumping in here. Any advice for forearm pain right where the forearm meets the inside of the elbow. Started in one arm but progressed to both. Massively affects bicep curls and pull ups. Most pain happens from full extension of the elbow starting the lift, rather than when the elbow is at 90 degrees or less.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:19 PM
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Didnt read. Post on askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:42 PM
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That entire paragraph is satire of himself. "Look how dumb I was" not "look how great I am." Take a break and cool off.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:32 PM
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I wonder sometimes if it's not that the goal is to be more congruent, but to be less incongruent. How would one know the difference? Dive in and fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 05:24 PM
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Your ego is showing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 03:47 PM
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Your ego is showing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 03:47 PM
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For any more of you tempted to ask for his qualifications, understand this place isnt a factory churning out cogs. If he is full of shit, he's only hurting himself. And your borderline moralization that he needs to show his bachelor's degree in MRP is revealing. ​ If he continually posts dumb shit like "I get it! I I DNGAF now! and then in the very next post is whining about trivial shit, if he wastes everyone's time with lies he's telling himself, mods will deal with it. But the fact that his p…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 03:46 PM
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I dont know the future. I didnt come here to tell you how this is going to end. I came here to tell you how it's going to begin. When Neo called at the end of the Matrix, he realized that his rise to power was not the end of the journey. He said he was going to show those people endless possibility. But that was just a feel good story for the movie. The thing to realize is he could have done whatever the fuck he wanted from there. He could have lived in The Matrix as his playground. Treated thos…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 03:27 PM
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getting what I want. If you are getting it, who is the giver? And if something you do is a critical aspect to that getting then... I do I get Tell me what this is. That's all you...get...for now :)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 06:38 PM
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Then just as Horns said to go rub her butthole, go and praise her and see what happens. I'd ask though: Who is the praise for? Is the praise for you to complete 'praise reps'? Is the praise for her to 'train her'? Do you even want to rub her butthole praise her? the key The key to what?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 05:55 PM
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but my intention was trying to train her, and I she prob knew that and prob pushed back. Good. I need to rethink what I am doing. So what did you rethink? What did we learn here?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 04:13 PM
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Day 6...I've gotten myself to that point recently. You're full of shit. I recognized in myself a feeling of calm, NGAF My dngaf is high I really DNGAF, my meter is pegged I dont give a fuck Idgaf about getting her to want to fuck me literally in the same reply chain as the OYS 6 days ago! I've noticed I alternate between two realities like a yo-yo. One half the day I can feel confident, smart, driven, understand red pill theories completely, I feel sexy, happy, fun, joyful, and worth a damn. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 04:08 PM
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Clearly you dont GAF From the beginning I called you out on being two-faced. Talking out of both sides of your mouth. Posting that you have an issue and then two hours later that you suddenly have it on lock. And others have as well. Yet you still go posting that you're in full DNGAF on one post and then post that you're thinking of suicide in another. Theres nothing I cant stand more here than guys lying. It's not just dishonorable. This is a collection of notes written in word. And if guys are…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 02:53 PM
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So now let's talk about her: from what I recall she liked it the first time you did it. Why didnt she now? (Hint, it's not unlike what you just said for you).
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 02:30 PM
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I'm also interested in what you think the purpose of doing it is. PM if youd like to have a discussion. We dont want to spoil it for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:30 PM
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Or maybe the point is that proving or disproving reds point, misses the point ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:56 PM
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First you have to care, then you have to stop caring And oddly enough, we learn this by repeating the pattern over and over, and then by seeing the pattern. The specific instances dont matter. Whatever individual events you did to "care" dont matter. It's the fact that those events outlined this pattern, that enabled the grasping of the pattern, that's what matters. Because then once you recognize the pattern, you can keep an eye out for when you're starting to do it again, and just short circui…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:17 PM
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Lifting I've found a lot of success in a rotating schedule of regular (3x10), slow (5x5, 5 second eccentric, 5 seconds concentric), and heavy (5x3) big 5 lifts. If you want something new, pick 3 of the 5, warm up, do heavy first to feel that power. Do slow second to really lock in that form by feeling through the motion. Then regular 3rd for hypertrophy. Throw in a few ancillary lifts. Then rotate. If you can do the complete exercise with no missed reps, add weight next time. If you cant, subtra…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 02:45 PM
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It will be. But not for the community. It will go in my profile. This place by nature isnt ready for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 03:35 PM
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Red Pill is really about shedding the shackles of society Red pill is about fucking. As you learn about fucking, you learn about yourself. As you learn about yourself, you learn about relationship dynamics. As you learn about relationship dynamics, you learn about social dynamics. As you learn about social dynamics, you learn about societal manipulation. As you learn about societal manipulation you learn about frame. As you learn about frame, you learn about vision and mission. As you learn abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 03:10 PM
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All our problems in life can be solved by figuring out how to move forward when life tells you "no". "No, not everyone likes you." "No, you arent capable." "No, things didn't go how you wanted." "No, others dont see it like you." "No, you dont have the time." "No, you're too old/young/weak/angry/scared." And even here, in MRP: "No, she doesn't want to fuck you." What you can't do is try and pre-empt that "No." by throwing more time at it so you'll never feel the pain of it. Like a doomsday prepp…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 03:31 AM
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That was embarassing. An oys just filled with DEERing. "So let me go ahead and DEER some more in my reply... " Everyone...literally everyone has obstacles to their progress. Whether they be self-imposed or real. So DEERing to me the particulars of your obstacles doesnt mean jack shit. And I'll just come right back with ways around them. Ways you arent choosing. Ways you arent choosing. Success is your choice. Literally. When you hit an obstacle you can either go through it or around it, or not. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 02:55 PM
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I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 02:33 PM
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Thought about u/Blarg_Risen comment last week about engaging with her + Rians tip about adding "right now" to anything she says. I did more talking than I should've "I thought about it...then did it anyway." Sickness slowed things down Got sick and couldn't Tried lifting I could barely I couldn't PIV is off limits kissing was off limits Sickness stopped the progress YOU stopped the progress you twat. YOU put things "off limits". Do you see how you're writing? Is this your inner monologue? God wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 01:41 PM
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Compliance tests are not passed by not complying. They are passed by doing what you want according your frame and laughing at the test and it's consequences.
/r/askMRP07/02/22 02:26 PM
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Nice DEER. Next time just do it. Take notes. Report back. Posting in advance is the equivalent to a New Years resolution. It's just an advance on the dopamine hit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/22 03:22 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/22 02:06 AM
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December 14th you haven't lifted in 2 months because of your move. You bought a gym. 15-30day delivery (amazon prime has a rack at your door in 2 days??). January 11 same excuse of 2 month move...a month later. Plan B get gym there that friday. January 18 Hasnt sorted out gym delivery...but will today! February 1st 0 lifts in the last week. I'm gonna bet money because gym isnt delivered. If I had a new gym, I'd surely be lifting on it to achieve..... Goal for end of Feb: cut 12lb, back to lift s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/22 02:02 AM
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Lol a modification on AWALT I made awhile ago. All Women Have The Capacity To Be Like That. And now here All Men Have The Capacity To Be Like That.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 06:11 PM
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Very interesting take. Sounds kinda like AWMALT? or...AMHTCTBLT? I'd like to talk about that some time. RemindMe! 365 Days "Ask R_D about AMALT" Congrats on the flair. Well deserved.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 03:43 AM
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Yours has definitely been a story to watch over time. Not just as someone making progress. But as someone making their own progress. It's weird... the guys I can look at and say "I know you", the ones I can figure out are always the ones falling off. It's the ones I look at and say "I dont know you" that provide the best notes. I dont know you. And that's why you have my attention. Nice work. Keep it going.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 10:38 PM
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Shame, guilt, jealousy, remorse, and regret are all flags used to mark types of thoughts you're having. They're hard-coded into ideas. So if you feel them, first thing to do is notice and then dive in. Why am I feeling them: Whats the situation? What parties are involved? What don't I have/arent I doing? And most importantly: Who is the judge of the guilt? Meaning are you judging you and feeling shame? Is someone else judging you? Or are you projecting the role of judge onto someone else, and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 01:31 PM
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Good. Remember, words are simply containers for entire swaths of ideas. Ideas are constructed from thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Think of words like a jar of ideas. Think of ideas as marbles in the jar. Think of thoughts, feelings, and experiences as different colored marbles. When you use a word, you dont get to pick and choose which marbles go with the jar. They are already there. This is literally how the brain works via recall. You can only modify the communicated thought with more ja…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:32 PM
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I think theres nuance here. I think a lot of beginners need compliments because they have no frame. They derive value from a source outside themselves. Then upon getting frame, guys view compliments, and all the other things Horns talked about..."Nice shirt." "Where are you going looking like that?"...as meaning something. As if theres hidden code in everything a woman says. Now of course, for "where are you going looking like that?", there is. And some guys may even play the reverse uno card an…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 03:41 PM
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First thing is OYS#4. So that's a dead giveaway lol. Besides that, the words themselves: husband and father, refer to self from an outside point of origin. He could have just said some form of "be competent", but that sounds kind of stupid, so he added the 'why' at the end: Be competent [for those who identify me as] husband and father. Try it yourself. Say out loud "I will be a competent husband". Definitely feels off.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:54 PM
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Oooo I like this take.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 01:59 AM
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If you go to a couples therapist before you can keep frame, you will get fried.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 01:35 AM
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but I know that’s not a schedule I can keep to consistently… so just sticking to the current schedule. What? No. You fucking put that in your schedule and then you live with the failure when you dont go. Not save yourself from disappointment by setting the bar lower. Seems like more of a shit test, so I’m going to have some AA or AM in my backpocket the next time it happens. OR respond with either “Why do you think I would have a girlfriend when I’m getting everything at home” or “Don’t worry, i…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 01:32 AM
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I'm curious. What does "slight low back flare up" mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 01:24 AM
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Ok ok I'll give you slightly better: What I linked to wasn't anything you didnt already just say in your post. What it provides is a context in which the same feelings are dealt with in the same way....but with a more expanded and complete scaffolding around the idea within the context hes talking about in the video: meditation. You could use his scaffolding and apply it to your situation to expand your knowledge of your situation, but youd have to translate the scaffolding from meditation to wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:52 PM
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Drug dealer Some people take LSD and sit and listen to themselves, sort through how they see the world, look at it a different way, figure out how to use this advanced look at reality to further their lives through action. Some take it and plop in front of flashing colors and pulsing music and walk away with a mind-blowing memory, but overall unchanged. I've done both. Which is better? Wrong question. Which are you neglecting? Is it the drug dealer's fault what you do with the drug?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:43 PM
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make sure you're not doing a "girl, I'm tired of your shit" From my perspective, you have a wife that's going through a process. Not the process. Because we're not sure where she'll end up. But it's clear shes going through a process. Whatever process it is, whether it's a 5 stages of grief or 1000ft rope or whatever, you have to allow her to go through it. That means at the start, having that "girl I'm tired of your shit" push. But then after, only re-having that discussion when it's clear she …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 06:27 PM
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If I’m “relaxing” via reading or watching a show, I continually think about other things I could be doing. Yet when you go and do those other things, sometimes you start feeling like you just want to go sit and relax. For S&Gs, next time you are relaxing and feel that feeling, try and viscerally feel it. Feel it as it presents itself in your body. And characterize it as that. Not what you think it's trying to get you to do (other things). But how it feels right now. Save that visceral awareness.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 05:03 PM
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Don’t push it away and numb out, that disconnects me from my core... don’t pursue it either. Just let it wash over me, acknowledge it, and then go on with my day What's that you say? Thinking thoughts about pain and how to deal with it enables you to go and act? And you realized this by introspection on that process? Doesnt sound simple to me but hey, looks like it worked. Hmm. In case you're interested, the guy talks about meditating for and dealing with his own "panic", how in inviting it into…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:54 PM
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Really interesting to see someone else spell that out. I'd say: Trust the process yourself. Ultimately you are the process. Put the trust that the human machine you are will do what it does and to the ability it can. Failure then is only seeing that you chose to restrict yourself somehow from who you are and what you can do. A quote from another inspirational speaker: "All you can do, is all you can do. And all you can do is enough. But make sure you do all you can do."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:46 PM
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but that may not be my choice Fuck you it's always your choice. Go ahead and put on a maid outfit, hail your wife as queen, and let yourself get cucked to keep her in marriage. Oh...you dont like that? So it's not that it's not your choice. You simply have self respect and boundaries. And YOU are CHOOSING to enforce them. I’m sitting on this for a week to let the dopamine wear off. Unless there's a lot more to this story, you have no fucking idea what side-chick's motives are. And you are pie-in…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:41 PM
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Be a competent father and husband Covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:35 PM
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Mission - is to live my life in complete congruence with who I am and what I want, without guilt and without shame. And what if who you are is someone who has guilt or shame? What if those feelings are congruent?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:33 PM
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stress of court makes missing lifting okay I had a workout the other day. One of those where you just DO NOT feel like being there. Thing is, I was more sick of my attitude toward not wanting to be there than the feeling of not wanting to be there. So I put the weights down. I looked at myself in the mirror and said: "Look you pansy bitch. The door is right over there. You can leave right the fuck now if you feel so bad. Either fucking leave so you can STFU about feeling this misery, or do the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:49 PM
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It’s like this landscape can draw thoughts out of me, as opposed to most of life, which seems to just be trying to shove things at me. Ever heard of entropy? It's a tough physics term to grasp but the idea is basically a measure of how disordered a system is. Entropy naturally flows from order to disorder. As a quick example, if you take a drop of food coloring and drop it into a bowl of water, entropy is like the food coloring dispersing and equalizing within the water over time. Just as you de…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:19 PM
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Nice to see you drop in. How you been?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 12:48 AM
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This "relaxing into one side" is what I'm studying in my journey right now. Theres a few different large-scale causes that make this more a result of nurture rather than nature. Meaning it's a learned thing. Meaning you can unlearn it. Shoot me a message in the future when you get a handle on the effect if youre interested in the cause. For now though, the fact that you're noticing the pattern is the critical step that will prove advantageous when you go to act on it. Nice work.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 01:51 PM
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I'll go ahead and ask the question you're thinking after reading that: "But blarg...what if she just keeps escalating?" Then at some point one of your boundaries will be "If you do X, I'm done. Its divorce." And guess what? That's her choice. She does X? Time for divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 04:35 PM
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I have to be beta and sprinkle some alpha (MRPlite). Lol no the absolute fuck you dont. Youre still are being nice. Because "When I dont engage I feel guilty". Her screaming isnt saying "I'm trying to convince you I'm right!" Its not saying "I'm in charge here!" Its saying "Please engage with me!" Because shes, again, terrified of you leaving. An engaged shitty father/husband is heads and tails more useful (to her and the baby) than an apathetic husband. Which is more useful than an absent husba…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 04:10 PM
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I want to make one thing very clear: Unplugging is the combination of you reading and understanding the material, making practical changes to yourself to increase quality of life, starting to climb the passive dread ladder, and setting a stage for how you're going to lead when you get to that point. It's a combination of that and sparring with your wife to learn the dynamic platform you're operating on. Learning to read her mind by watching what she does. Engaging with her to see how she respond…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 01:46 PM
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I mean, maybe you're just trying to hit some kind of word count record, maybe you're just shit at being concise, or maybe you put so much in there because you really need people to accept your point of view. I don't know... you tell me. First I'd like to point out the ulterior motives of the first and third explanation. That my goal here is simply word count or somehow more words means more people accept my view (which, I'm pretty sure is the exact opposite given how many guys actually latch on …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 05:08 AM
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I have an answer for you. But before I get into this again I have to ask: Would any conceivable answer I have change your opinion? In other words, is this a teacher-student conversation? Or a teacher-teacher conversation...and anything I say from here on out look like DEERing?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 07:24 PM
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"Get on your knees and suck my dick." "Bite my neck." "Lick my face." "Heres some heels and a choker. Put them on and text me when you're ready." "Jump on this dick and ride me like a horsey." Why are you afraid to tell her specifically what to do? (Yes, I said horsey. Laughs were had. Then we fucked. I did not neigh.)
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 02:34 PM
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So I think the most productive way to frame this is that I'm afraid of what people think of me, because I'm afraid they will judge me. That's why what you offer to others has to come from a place beyond what they think about it. So even if they do criticize it, you still know within yourself that what you're providing has value. How to get there? Well, you can either say "fuck people, I'm the prize, I do what I want", learn to be who you want to be, and then you can remove the animosity towards …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/22 02:41 PM
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I gotta laugh because this is kinda like arguing with your wife over dinner. I go "you tell me what you want" she wont settle other than saying "not whatever you want". So I'm just gonna go ahead and eat what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 05:57 PM
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So I had some responses to the issues you brought up. But I'm not sure if there's an interest in actually resolving those issues. I think our conversation is happening on a much more macro scale of what MRP is as a praxeology and what whatever the fuck what I bring is in relation to it. If I have to sit down with a friend and have a 3 hour in person discussion over what the word "understanding" means, I think we'd need about 3 years based on where each of us are speaking from. And I agree that w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:52 PM
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I'm gonna go meta here for a second, then be real, then meta again: Meta: Fucking A Uber this is the kind of understanding I live for. I really, truly appreciate you sticking with me through this. Because at this point we are now so close in thought as to be within the realm of each other's thoughts. Theres an overlap that was not there before. Before, had either one of us disengaged we would have walked away with the notion "hes either wrong, or I just dont understand him." But now, I am no lon…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:05 AM
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Every new model requires a leap of faith. That's the thought that needs to happen, which I would say is, colloquially, "dropping your ego." That mental leap IS what I mean when I say "just act." Dropping your ego. So...do we agree? My post was detailing how we just drop our ego. Purely listening (not letting ego fuck with incoming information), putting the ego on the box and leaving it there (not suspending ego to either protect it, or "fake" putting it away, in order to allow an alternate model…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 02:12 AM
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I think you'll find a few others share your opinion on this forum. The problem with the analogy is that your son WILL intuit that "how" himself. Riding a bike isnt too hard. The body naturally does learn it. But from the 1000ft view I have of the world, guys are not intuiting these things im talking about themselves. The reason is because these things operate below the level of every day consciousness. So if they keep using the tools they have, they'll keep finding them subpar or insufficient. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:31 PM
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I like this. thinking/meditating is somehow separate from 'action' doesn't make sense. Imagine a 4 step process that you may use to forge a tool. Step 1: Study the process. Step 2: Gather the raw material. Step 3: Forge the tool. Step 4: Use the tool. In this example, the action of forging the tool is separate from the other three...but one would say that the process does include action. So that's ultimately the hang up...some people say action and mean steps 1-4...whether they are aware that's …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/22 10:39 PM
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I've never liked the idea of teachers and students. It's a covert contract that really never pans out It's as much a covert contract as that contract that marriage was when we all bought into it. As covert as blue pill was when we bought into that. In other words, I agree only insomuch as the teacher or student thinks that the contract they're buying into is really a contract both are invested in, rather than simply the method they're using to convey and communicate what they're choosing to thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/22 05:30 PM
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The blankets down by the fire wasn't really even a covert contract. It was a lie. Not that that's "morally" wrong...but if you play bait and switch games with sex, dont be surprised when your wife starts responding as if things are bait and switch even if they arent.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/22 11:33 PM
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Holy fuck I spit out my coffee lol.
/r/askMRP13/01/22 01:10 PM
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You also assume the worth of the 10% is equal to that of the 90.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 10:04 PM
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I think I actually agree with everything you've written. I'm not clear if this was your version or if it was a counterpoint to mine. Regardless, I'd like to highlight a really important point and get your thoughts: I think the one thing that continues to push me to even participate here like I do, is taking the thought of "It doesn't matter what you say, they have to sidebar and act" to absurdity in my head. If that is so in it's most pure form, then none of our notes actually drive men to act. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 04:07 PM
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Whew. I spent an hour typing up what Id do in that scenario. But I know I'm the prize. You do not. So I deleted it. I dont like it but I cant stop you I wont talk to you unless you can talk in a normal voice But...maybe you're starting to feel what being the prize is like. These are great mindsets. And great boundaries if you actually followed through. That's the kind of stuff you are building now. The foundation. Reading WISNIFG and Rollo and (old) Roissy and Aurelius will make things make sens…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 02:42 PM
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I can even help guide the bulldozer towards sections of the walls I suspect aren't up to the task. I fucking love this. I'm going to have to check out Mind Castle.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:14 PM
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then what Great question. And I'm not as deep in my spiritual journey that I am in my MRP one so I'm figuring this out and seeing results at the same time. It's really nice to see other guys' notes as well. I got a post coming out tomorrow but the end addresses at least one portion of the point of all this. We were raised in a society that often associates progress with action. So when we sit and see our seat of awareness, and realize it's in there but doesn't seem to have a physical "there" to …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/22 01:33 PM
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I like this. I'm going to put in my model then that fear impedes the transition from action to introspection, and likewise introspection into action. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/22 01:48 AM
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Why does he feel the need to explain himself more than what he can? This question makes absolute sense coming from the perspective of a person who is 1) absolutely sure of himself and 2) wants to make sure his need is not housed in the frame of others. It makes absolutely no sense coming from the perspective of a person who 1) understands his current way is merely an approximation of the path to his current vision and 2) knows it's possible within the pound of bullshit others may mean by their q…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/22 01:26 AM
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Pardon this not making total sense Uber but I'm bringing in an offline conversation which is paralleling these thoughts. I think a lot of dots are connecting right now. /u/easydayshardnights we talked about ego being left brained this morning. You have to fuck up to find out, which is more action. I wonder then too if "action" is the form of communication with the world that is also left brained? Is action a left brained solution to a right brained problem (too much thought)? Is thought through …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 08:26 PM
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Theres a difference between mental masturbation and introspection to understanding. The latter is simply the parallel to 'chasing dragons' of action. Does it feel worth it? Yes. Do we grow? Yes. Is it satiating? No. Theres always another dragon. Calling /u/ubermensch33 and /u/hornsofapathy. I'd like your thoughts on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 06:20 PM
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You wont find my earlier OYS on here as I deleted that handle back when the wife and I got danger-close to a divorce. You can check out J10s post about the hamster maze which answers directly my post detailing the situation at the time. My kids were 3 and 1 when I found MRP but in terms of balancing me and her, my wife and I always had a policy of "If you have something you want to go out and do and I'm available, I'll watch the kids, you go." The thing was, she didnt have many friends and wasn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 02:50 PM
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How can feeling into one part of your brain cause avoidance, withdrawal, or coping while feeling into another part reveal new connections both in the world and in yourself? Lol /u/easydayshardnights Poncho this "engaging reality and at the same time introspection and exploring both inner and outer models" is the way. Keep that shit up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 06:37 PM
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From last OYS Struggling hard with oneitis and fear of that she'll abandon me whenever she gets mad. From this OYS She got really mad when I wouldn't give up everything for nine months. She started crying. She replied well you're greedy with your time. You're both terrified of the other leaving. Her because of the baby. You because you're a baby. It hasn't been mentioned on the sub in awhile but pregnancy and immediately after is an easy time to go too hard. You know how most beta guys think mar…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 04:07 PM
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Making others happy will be a part of my life Offer happiness. Let them choose to receive happiness. You cannot force happiness just like you cant negotiate desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 03:24 PM
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if I really embrace MRP, I’m going to lose…everything? Myself? my family? Have you thought that if you dont you might also lose? I’m afraid that somehow MRP will end up being ‘wrong’, MRP is a vehicle. It is not right or wrong. It simply shows you the path to become the real you. The you you want to be. If you believe it is right or wrong, then you still have it pedestalized as a thing. It is not. Christianity will be ‘right’, and god will judge/condemn me. I was raised Christian. You know how I…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 02:48 PM
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just lead to increasing both in frequency and intensity of shitty comfort tests or tears The bottom line is she cares, but the game being played dictates my need for continued withdraw of time and attention you keep playing the game. I'm pretty sure I told you to read this post by HOA and my reply, which references another post and J10s reply. You've already won the game being played. Shes screaming and crying that you're killing her in it. So you ease up and when you do she tries to start winni…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 08:01 PM
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why do I want this? What if I'm wrong to want this? I went back through your OYSs because I wanted to try and answer that question through your prior posts. What a ride. IMO the trend of your OYS is discovering that whatever it is that you have in your marriage, you know you dont want. So in response then, "because I want to" makes sense. But what I didnt see a lot of was what you were going for in its place. And I'm stepping out on a branch here so let me know if I'm wrong, but the feeling I ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 03:51 PM
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Rule 11.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 01:30 PM
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Coming from a sub that idolizes The Matrix and Fight Club, it may seem like a double standard to say movie, TV show, and song lyrics don't have a place here to be analyzed. In this case particularly, we have a character that gets "the treatment" of what we know happens. The lesson that "Hey, this happens" is hollow. We know. Add to that that literally any time is the time to lift and read the sidebar and we have a valueless post here. The Matrix at least teaches how to deal with being unplugged …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 04:01 PM
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Indifference? What? Yeah, I guess I do know what this was Ok now I'm curious. Tell me what you thought this was and how it links to indifference. Then I'll slap you upside the head and tell you how it made total sense from a point of concern.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/21 09:42 PM
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Was it a calculated shit test on her part? You know exactly why she said this. It's the reason your hamster went wild when she asked.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/21 02:55 AM
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Given the lack of any other warning signs, which OP could have omitted, I could absolutely see this as his wife going through the emotions of 15 months of a drunk captain, getting a bunch of "you go girl"s from her friends, making a plan, and coming to terms with it...and then having her hamster fly into a frenzy when the finality of what she thought she had to deal with is shattered by him actually showing some signs of improvement. Theres a sweet spot between making a plan and executing it whe…
/r/askMRP27/12/21 02:21 AM
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If you want/require something, ask for/demand it; let the outcome be as it may! It's the final release of that ego into vulnerability. Because anything else maintains that feeling in you that you actually had some form of control over a choice someone else makes. With that feeling comes a tiny sliver of hope that things really could have worked or still may. And ending it with that hope brings the ego back from the brink of death because it will forever work as hard as it can to protect that dem…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/21 01:56 AM
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Love the energy. Now, harness it. Anger only comes from reacting to something that's already happened. What if you take that same energy and use it for the now or the future? What's it turn into?
/r/askMRP26/12/21 07:24 PM
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Not saying you are. Not saying you're not. Not saying you're 1, 2, or 3. You will eventually tell me. Or we'll trade enough notes to get a clearer picture. Take your time on the read through. No rush.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 03:57 PM
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Would it make you feel better if I flaired him that? It doesnt really matter to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 03:42 PM
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When I think "all talk no action", I think diamondunlucky. Theres a difference here that I can't quite put my finger on.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:58 PM
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Got a laugh out of me on that one!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:52 PM
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He is certainly something. But this isnt it. I dont think I've ever seen a guy with more possible potential but simultaneously more fear to lose it by turning it into actual value. It's like a guy I once knew who was filthy rich but ordered off the dollar menu, would not buy new shoes when his had 5 holes in them, and would literally drive in a way to conserve his brakes on his car. Yes the exchange rate for potential and value is not 1:1. But what's the saying? Gotta spend money to make money.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:32 PM
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Tl;Dr at the bottom. All these quotes below build up to it. The thing is, one has to understand that there is nothing to prove, only work that needs to be done; and goals that need to be achieved. It's kinda funny how life works. You start hammering down nails and they start popping up everywhere. You say to yourself "well, I know that when you're a hammer, everything seems like a nail...is this really a nail?" And lo, after some inspection it really is. You are the third or fourth person this m…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:06 PM
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Thanks man I appreciate that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 01:19 AM
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My point was about intent Absolutely. A guy in his OYS a week or two ago was concerned about fixing himself now before he went and got another woman. I told him TRP "works". Ragnar_Daneskold got a lot of his success from withdrawing from his. MRP "works". Myself and others have had success with explicit guidance from an iron frame. Whatever that variant is, "works". So whether you invest 0 effort and simply search for a woman who clicks into place naturally, or you withdraw in order to create a …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 02:09 PM
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Moralizing
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/21 08:48 PM
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I cant figure out which point you're arguing. Are you saying simply offer peace of an olive branch and not a door into your world and if she finds it she finds it? Are you saying you offer a door to come in and have fun without any guidance to what her role is in your world? Are you saying that guiding her to the particular role of Dom/Sub is investing too deeply?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/21 08:46 PM
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I'm going to throw this question out there because I think playing would actually be really fucking fun. How does one break into and learn about DnD?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 02:48 PM
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Good. Often (even right now) I have a handful of new observations in my head. But I wait until I see a post that could use that specific idea, rather than trying to shoehorn it in. Your advice wasn't bad at all. In fact, the idea of a support group composed of women who have either partially unplugged or at least have one eye open to the toxic social narrative, of which lost wives can rely on for support is an idea I haven't seen discussed anywhere on the sub. Yes RPW exists, but I'm talking les…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 02:39 PM
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Explain to me how your advice fits in with what he posted and isn't just trying to shoehorn this random idea of yours into a situation it doesnt belong.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 02:03 AM
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"I roll for penile hardness!!" 1
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 01:26 PM
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Cool coincidence that multiple guys are hitting this from different angles all at once. Nice breakdown Rian.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 12:49 PM
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At the end of the day, any aspect of game you have to ask yourself "do I want to put the effort in to roll the dice to see if that effort pays off?" The two important points in that question are acknowledging YOU control how much effort you put in to which aspects: bitch shields, LMR, number closing, opening, joking, day game, night game, old man game, freezeouts...and that any effort put in is merely a game of odds to get a result.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 03:21 AM
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I liked something you said to a poster recently. There is no competition. You've already won by default. Realize that. Then decide what you're going to do about it. I look back to my posts on unplugging your woman from her own matrix. Inviting her along to a world shes never known. And as you said some will want to, in fact they've always wanted to. Some will revolt against the very idea and sabotage both herself and you. Some will still need to play a game. At least in the interim. And you can …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 02:43 AM
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(I wasn't expecting any particular reaction from her) Fucking what? Last post I literally explained...you know what I'm done here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 01:57 AM
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I have never heard it phrased like this and this is fucking awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 07:54 PM
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He says it defuses the situation No he didnt. It just so happened that that's how his wife chose to receive it. So in that case it did in fact diffuse the situation. This is the core idea behind OI. You AA not in attempt to defuse the situation. You do it to simply offer a frame. She can then respond however she likes. And you can handle any response she chooses because the frame you offered was just that, an invitation. I shouldn't be using it to defuse the situation If it's not an invitation, …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 02:51 PM
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Not a different take. You're not using it to diffuse a situation. But are using it in a whiny blue pill way.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 01:12 PM
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Congrats on the flair by the way. We saw the value you were putting in. I'd love to hear a more flushed out view of the world through your eyes over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 08:53 PM
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Yup. It's not about what he should have done. It's about the models he has right now that lead him to do it. He didnt talk about those. Because he likely doesnt even know they exist. Because he hasn't been shown them. Because he hasn't read about them. /u/MRPHelpSeeker questions go in /r/askMRP. Rules 7, 8, 9, 10. Take a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 08:20 PM
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Your muscles will start to hurt long before your mind tells you to quit. If you've never pushed yourself through pain though, you wont believe this. Your mind will tell you to quit long before your body physically cannot continue. If you've never pushed through doubt though, you wont believe this. Your body will physically not continue long before your will breaks. If you've never craved one more rep though, you won't believe this.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 07:55 PM
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Alright then. For each of these: Does she not do them because of you? Or because of her? If you, does she not do them because you arent worth it to her? Or because you haven't lead her to do them? If her, does she not want to do them? Or maybe she doesn't know how or that you like them? This goes along with this reply to /u/Asthmatic. It's very easy and preserves our fragile ego if we just say "welp shes not providing value. Fuck her I'll go lift". Because then we dont have to dive into whether …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/21 03:10 PM
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I'll add. Something really struck me one time I was searching out a tie to wear to a wedding. I picked one out, but just for S&Gs asked a tall lanky black dude working there what he thought. In an effeminate voice he said "It works, but it just works. I think you could pull off better." He then showed me a tie with more exotic patterning. The point that stuck with me is that you can live at your edge in style too. Pick things that are breaking into a more fashionable you. That add some flair. Do…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 02:30 PM
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I stand corrected. Because being there should feel effortless. Because it feels like theres a potential future for being there that doesnt require as much effort. The rest I agree with you on. To our discussion yesterday: Why is there awareness? Maybe the possibility of potential requires someone to be aware to see it. That may mean then that awareness arises from a physical manifestation of the cortex. Meaning animals without it are not aware. Also meaning there is possibly no awareness after d…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 11:33 AM
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PS I actually enjoy going to the gym. Acta, non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 11:05 AM
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No ones saying there isnt a creator. No ones even saying that what the creator has left has to be red pill related. I asked what value it brings to a red pilled man. If it's no value add, then you're not owning anything by harping on it. I dont understand why you're doing this weird "I'm keeping my thoughts on the matter close to my chest". It either adds value and belongs in here, or doesnt and doesn't. Own your shit, add value, or leave it at the locker room door.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 01:28 AM
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Yeah. Sounds like lip service to one of the core ideas on the sub, while at the same time saying what he IS writing isnt related.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 01:15 AM
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Low effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 11:08 PM
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What I realize is that there is absolutely no value to gain from it for a high value man I agree with your assessment. However, every now and then I purposefully pit my mind against views it doesn't share. Is my model still sound? Am I missing something? Are there some nuggets in this lowbrow red pill content I can adopt? If I can go on a 2 hour run listening to that and finish with the same mindset I went in with, I'm good.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:30 PM
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MRP isnt the only door. It's just A door. Glad shits working for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:23 PM
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Yeah take some time. Report back what you've done in 2 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 06:07 PM
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I mean...first off if she didnt care enough to write it, do you think she'll care enough to read it? That's a side point. The main point, a play on Iron Rule #3: Do not invest first. Any woman who makes you invest in them will reap the rewards of your investment, immediately reset the value imbalance, and call things even without investing in you. This is also why covert contracts dont work. They begin with "I will" and then continue with "You will". So...doing her work benefit her in the short …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:20 PM
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I'm with /u/oobertas. Seems like you are sliding deeper and deeper down some kind of Schizoid white-knight hole. Potentially triggered from your Aunt passing? Was her passing "linked" to a vaccination possibly? God Look. Far be it from me to argue against religious insight. I jizz Taoism all over this place. I actually do plan on picking up a bible just to see what kind of similarities there are in it and getting back to /u/Red-Curious, who I've left on read for a few months now, about his offer…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:55 PM
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Imagine for a second that shes so cunning and so sly that she knows snot bubbles make you cave like a bitch. That shes carefully manipulated you to believe shes too fragile to change. That after she leaves the house crying she calls her friends and laughs about how gullible you are. That's very likely NOT the case. But it isnt out of the realm of imagination. Now imagine that through unconscious forces, through the society we live in and her view of herself as always being in a weak position, al…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:31 PM
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Does it benefit you in the long term to do her work? If so tell me how.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 01:35 PM
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Have you tried 3 times a week or did you just see 2 times and go "Thank God. I'll take every break I can get". to be transparent I can't currently choose not to get to the gym more than twice a week How convenient. Also, FTFY. I didn't choose it because it is my passion Do you believe it needs to be a passion to have a vision? Should I be the one to drive progress? I dont yet know enough Doesnt sound like the kinda guy I'd like trying to drive progress. When I use them it inflames the situation …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 01:28 PM
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I think I’m over analyzing this quite a bit Fair point. We're in pretty deep. Doesnt mean we need to stay here. Just means while we're here, let's do what we can and then tuck it back into our subconscious and run off it. For now and no need to reply: Think about how you can use the answers you gave me for your/her/both your benefit. Either by keeping them the same or tweaking them.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:17 AM
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We have similar tastes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:53 AM
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That is a lit stick of dynamite in a crate of C4 labeled covert contract right there lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:50 AM
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So then I know it doesn’t matter It doesn't matter. Not because it doesn't matter (her feels/emotions/mindset) but because it doesn't matter (you understand its origin and it's not even directed at you). Oh to see the things you once saw as the weapons of war as simply doorways to her world. I could go into a monologue on that! But I won't. Instead I wonder if there’s an obvious thing I could do here to redirect this into something more positive Hmm. It feels pretty positive to you to see and un…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:27 AM
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I'm reading that quote, and I'm getting that feeling in the space right above my stomach and halfway though my chest. It's when my body realizes the truth a split second before my mind Boner inducing level of noticing right here. If only more men did this. I have a feeling some dont even have the ability. Make use of this gift of noticing these weird connections. And you will stumble into a truly amazing world. addiction Again the important part is the loop. You said you've worked on aftercare. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:16 AM
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And they say dont look at yourself in the mirror when tripping lol. sustaining conversation Here ya go
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:34 PM
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You want to look past the prior stuff. You're saying you're looking past it. But when you come in here and vomit it's clear from your actions it still is the root cause of your mindset. The reason it's such a massive decision is because you've hamstered the idea of divorce into such a dipole, a this or that decision, that the magnitude of the choice of either decision from the center of the dipole is pants-pissing scary. We had an old saying here: The Stay Plan is the Go Plan. You should look it…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:28 PM
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The recovery for achilles tendon reattachment has you non-weight bearing for 4 weeks. I was squatting the bar in a boot in 3 weeks. Fuck your ankle lol. Sounds like a lot of grinding going on though. Carry on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:14 PM
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You DO care you idiot. That's why you've spent the last few weeks vomiting about it. Trying to convince yourself through convincing us to give you some action path on a way forward. Then waffling about it anyway trying to draw some kind of reinforcement and validation out of us. And I bet if we were dumb enough to get gaslit by you and give you that validation, youd take a stance asking us to prove our validation to you. You're a value leech. I really have to take some time and figure out what I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:07 PM
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Welcome back Steve. GF count 16 She count 65. Rule 7, 8, 9, and 10.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 09:55 PM
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I answered fix-the-man. Emotions as they were are merely triggers to choices we've attached to them. You let the emotions back out to play. But you never detached them from the actions. Then those old actions manifested, and you were surprised. When you let emotions back in, you have a whole host if ideas and models with which to rewrite these connections. It will take noticing to see where the emotion ends, and the choice to follow old actions begins. Once you notice it, you can then choose oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 09:31 PM
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I was asked to write down a written document for her not to forget what we talked about If she cared...she'd have written it down herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:46 PM
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Is she testing me to make sure I’m solid when she’s under stress? Really? This doesn't make complete sense from an "I feel out if control so let me try to comfort myself by controlling something" perspective? YOU dont do this too when pushed? C'mon now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:37 PM
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The issue is that I am allowing What my wife is doing to have an effect on my emotional state. "We seem to be emotionally reactive around things like anger, shame, jealousy, and envy—it’s like they happen to us. The truth is we choose these reactions, and with practice and insight we can make entirely different choices when circumstances arise." -The Heart of Zen
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:29 PM
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maybe it will naturally through this process, maybe I will have to face it in an epic showdown... "...But one things for sure...I'm not gonna go looking for it." K.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 06:05 PM
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Feminine Looking up Trusting Supportive Advisory Ok. So these may be the ways in which you characterize her actions in order to feel loved. What actions would she do to check these boxes? Maybe one example each.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:19 PM
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Let's be clear here. When you were blue pill you were playing her game with her rules. You weren't Chad of course so you were losing. And no matter how much you bitched or asked for a rule change, shes wouldnt oblige. Now you've assumed the role of game-master. And you're making new rules. And she feels like shes at a loss because your rules are basically "heads I win, tails you lose". So she goes overt and calls you out on those rules.. Heres the critical part: I felt exposed, like it was so ob…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:07 PM
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In how many of those questions does she actually have a point that agrees with your vision of the marriage? If she has a point that you agree with, why arent you working with her to bring that co-vision to fruition?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 01:07 PM
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Yes, I rarely miss my twice weekly gym sessions Lol you fucks are amazing. Gym only twice a week but with a complacent mindset so twice a week is a victory and missing rarely is adequate. should I be the one to drive progress What's your vision of the place? Amused Mastery and Agree and Amplify never seem to work for me, just add fuel to the fire Yes and? Define "work for me".
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 01:01 PM
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So when you watch porn, are you watching 5s and 6s? This is less a statement on the addiction to the 8s-10s in porn and more on the rational fact that sexual desire comes from physical attraction first and foremost. If your wife doesnt have that, and you're removing the secondary mental and emotional attraction by unplugging and likely experiencing some negative emotion from the MRP process, then it's no surprise theres no desire. Figure out what to do, if anything, about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 12:41 PM
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I've been told multiple times in this forum that I shouldn't feel any different the day after having sex The day after, I feel "free." I'm not ecstatic because I got laid; more so, I'm on autopilot to get going on my life based on my routines and habits instead of having to be consciously aware of them Gentlemen, this is what addiction feels like. But it's not an addiction to her. Its an addiction to the process. The loop. Imagine for a second your woman is the heroin needle. Not the heroin. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 12:31 PM
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Nice! You took that vulnerable feeling and put it to work in areas you were weak in. Too bad one of those areas wasn't to actually address that vulnerable feeling. Wanna own that shit here? Or are we just gonna sweep it under the rug until next time?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 12:10 PM
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Are you sexually attracted to your wife? Wife goggles off rate her 1-10.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 12:05 PM
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What does it mean to you to feel loved? What does someone have to do in order for you to interpret their action to be based off their love and appreciation for you? Be as homo as you like with this answer. I'm giving you a pass.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 11:57 AM
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Theres a point of inflection on which pivot frame, OI, and DNGAF. The point happens and is noticeable if you are intently looking for it when you transition from: I will do what needs to be done to get what I want. To: I will aid others in what needs to be done to get what we want. As one ventures further into the second part, they will feel, again if noticing, the constant reduction of payoff with increased effort as well as a reduction in the reward of a chosen "desire" by the other person. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/21 08:34 PM
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I have it in my head that without figuring my shit out before ending this relationship, I'd just do the exact same shit with another woman The TRP sub has this problem. But, TRP still works. Why?. Answer that, and you'll break yourself of that mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 02:32 PM
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I haven't followed your story You should. I prepped for this a month ago. Its like a slow motion car wreck you cant look away from. Thing is, with massive retardation comes massive potential. Might be one in a million but hes shotgunning mental models so fast he might actually stick the right one.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 02:24 PM
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He has ascended. Post sucks and is removed.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 03:09 AM
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Yeah man. The more you notice about all this, the more you see that the thing we want is actually a process, not a static thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 03:04 AM
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Absolutely. My wife knows it. If I dont run for most of the week I start getting antsy as fuck. Believe me though, I know my knees are going to be fucked. My workout runs on a 4 day cycle. For the running portion Day 1: 0 miles Day 2: Anywhere between 7 and 13 miles Day 3: 2 miles Day 4: 4 miles
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 03:01 AM
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Love you Dunlop but gonna have to deliver the smackdown here for a fellow runner. I'm about 10-11%BF. I run on average 90 miles a month. Been doing it for 10ish years. Lift 6 days a week. For 6 years. OHP 1RM is 195, DL 486 Bench 295 Squat 380. And TBH I've noticed wanting to fuck more after a long run than a heavy lift. Now yes, running will sap strength out of your legs. But carefully programmed in to allow time to recover before heavy leg day is enough to keep pushing the needle forward. Cort…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 03:10 AM
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Just stopping in to say this OYS kicks ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:32 PM
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Because it's feelz. And you know who operates on feelz? Women. Stop being a woman. Do the work for whatever it is that you want. Tag me in when he gets there
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 07:35 PM
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Last week you had a thought with some weight to it: I’m in a much better state now than I was 2 weeks ago. Compared to my first OYS, where I was an emotional wreck, I’ve come a long way. I need to constantly remind myself that life is supposed to be hard and all of the comfort I felt in preceding years was a lie. I felt comfortable because I wanted to be and not because I should have been. but I wasn’t living up to my standards, which ultimately caused me to be a shitshow for a couple of months …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 05:17 PM
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I figured a response like this given your latest post. Confidence is awesome. Just make sure you arent confidently autistic. This place ends where your confidence begins. If it begins firmly entrenched in your own flaws, it isnt our mission to force you to see it. We only open doors. I can be confident in my 195 OHP. Until Reddjive posts and puts me in my place.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/21 01:54 AM
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What the honest fuck is this? Your booster shot for week 2 is to...double down on tracking?. What the fuck does that even mean? You should be tracking anyway by default. You're not. Doubling nothing is still nothing. But now your booster is to do the thing you should be doing anyway. Fuck off. This is just as bad as /u/Along-The-Reeds and his week 1 booster to...wait for it...change OHP to incline bench. Gasp! did you see all the panties fly off all the women at the gym??? Ya'll are absolutely p…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/21 07:39 PM
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I've spent some time and drafted up a reply to TRL really hashing out what's going on here. But this is not my week to be on OYS. So I'm going to let you explore and fuck up more. I want you to know this though. This: I need to step up and be in command of the things that cause her anxiety and taken the burden off her. Was extremely alarming to me when I read it. Viscerally alarming. Not only because of what its seeming to make you do. But also for what it implies for the mental models you have.…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 02:33 AM
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OYS is purely for owning my shit. This really hit the nail on the head. Where have you owned something here?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 12:42 AM
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Drivers are rude. Such attitudes. When I show my piece, complaints cease. Something's odd, I feel like Im God You stupid, dumbshit, God damn motherfuckers.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 09:49 PM
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Questions go on askmrp. Also ban for Rule 8.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 07:55 PM
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One of the important tricks about communication is they need to want to know, for it to land at all. I'm almost positive you tried to model /u/The_Red_Letters when he wrote: "listen, I know you feel like you can’t trust me. I’ve made it that way by not being honest about my wants, needs and limits. I’m changing that starting today. You can trust me." If you read before that though, you'll see The next shit test that came up I passed almost by accident...This was at a crisis point though so I dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 01:50 PM
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Morbidly and humorously I found that identifying the point at which I'd likely be dead if something happened to the plane allowed me to put it out if my mind because I was officially not in control anymore. Have fun in PR.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 02:08 PM
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Thank god. Got about halfway through and scrolled to see if you handled it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 01:54 PM
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It's probably some idiotic ego thing but I refuse to use straps...or a belt. Natty for me is no assistance other than what I bring to the table. For OP, especially if you sit at a desk all day, here. And if you have a gym near you, rock climb. This will improve grip strength more than anything else. I've also talked to /u/ReddJive about this and he suggested wrapping a towel around the bar when deadlifting, and pinching plates. If you want to lift 365 x 10 without straps, it's possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 01:43 PM
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You're not saying anything anyone here doesn't know.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 01:30 PM
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I shouldn't do that either??? Fuck me. Nah I was just slapping the top of her ass downward where theres not a lot of meat. Seems obvious now that Horns said it but I am an idiot sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 06:02 PM
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spank from the bottom of the ass cheek - near the gooch - in the meaty part - and slap UP Slap UP. Damn sometimes I just need the obvious spelled out for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 01:46 PM
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:)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 08:12 PM
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a very good thing I think the crux of it all lies right here. A breakdown: u/Ubermensch33's comments on how I described my gifts told me something about what he was bringing Did they tell you? Or suggest to you? I think (but cannot be certain) Ah. So you're not sure hes sure. So if you're not sure hes sure, is it more ego-defensive to tell yourself hes certain about his statement (in which case you have a clear plan of defense and justification for action) or uncertain (where you are more vulner…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 06:15 PM
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Was he projecting tho? Or was that the out he gave you? Something rubs me the wrong way about this post... Something rubs me the wrong way... Something... Those almost-thoughts...I wonder if anything is in them :)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 04:42 PM
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I know you exchanged them. I asked why that's the one you chose to give.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 04:17 PM
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Uber just gave a gift. And you had an opportunity to give one back. Why was that the gift you chose?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 02:58 PM
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she told me...that recently I’d been looking at her like I wanted something....and it was scary for her. I can definitely see how fixing the man fixes the marriage, even in the past 7 days Well I'm triggered. This is exactly what I'm talking about when I say doing the "right shit" to get her to fuck you. So she expects a "man" to coddle her and white knight for her. And guys think by MRPing, you can fill that role. For clarity: Being a strong, masculine man for the purpose of filling that role y…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 02:27 PM
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But soon I'll have a little turd that is a reflection of me. Yeah he'll shit out a lot of those. Congratulations bro!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 01:12 PM
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Questions go on askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/21 09:48 PM
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I liked My congruence is her my mental health better :) We'll talk soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/21 01:53 PM
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Nice job. This is usually where I'd come in and lay out the scaffolding behind what you did. The why and the state shifts that wrap this all up in a neat little idea. You seem to enjoy a structure defined by lists outlining sequential steps. How can you take these notes and generalize what's happening here so that structured list details not just your situation and what you did, but also provides a scaffolding for others to plug their situation in? That way, you dont have to caveat your post wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/21 01:50 PM
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The why will come. Believe me. You will have plenty of time for those realizations as you're kicking ass in the future. Hell I'll probably be pointing them out as landmarks on the way. But you gotta move in the direction of the better you to see them.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/21 01:10 AM
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Perfect. This is why field reports are important. Look at all the valuable notes being passed around in here. Rian is probably getting a hard-on right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/21 12:03 AM
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That's enough Since OYS 1 you've been puking and flailing all over the place. Your past sucked. Times are hard. Life is shit. You made mistakes. Fine. You're not perfect. I'm not perfect. Its time to pick your ass up off the ground and move forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 11:56 PM
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When you’re in an abyss you need a wall to bump up against. Every time I capitulated I move the wall out of grasp. Excellent observation. The obstacle IS the way. Growth by conquering obstacles isnt just for men. In fact some of the happiest times I've seen my wife is when she broke through her obstacle. I'm there to offer doors to obstacles. And be the heavy if needed (as /u/easydayshardnights once told me). But her obstacles are hers. And NO coming from you, sometimes, is just as much a YES to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 10:48 PM
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Got a chuckle out of me on that one!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 10:02 PM
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When you lay your little head down tonight, I want you to stare into the blackness. You'll hear a little voice echoing in your head saying "It was totally them in the wrong. Totally them. Not me." If you listen really hard you'll hear a meek 2nd voice ask..."right? It was them right?" PS: Its not dread. Take care man.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 10:01 PM
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since then she's initiated sex three times. You've lurked red pill a long time huh? I'm really surprised you don't recognize this for what it is. In fact, please tell me what this is called here in Red Pill land. It might assuage my itchy ban finger.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 09:08 PM
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But my wife thinks that reality is that chess board; her entire world and all of her options are defined by the game rules. I can see what she can't: that the chess board and all the pieces and rules are just one game set up in one room of my house, in a world filled with a million other things I could choose to do. I can stop playing her game, start again, or flip the chess board and send the pieces scattering across the floor. I can leave the room forever and find a different game, or I can ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 02:42 PM
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I am simply holding frame Yes..."Your frame is made out of high quality steel and construction, but... are you intentionally making it so uncomfortable for me to enter intentionally?" He gave me life changing advice that day. Everything I've done from that point built off those words.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 03:33 AM
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Now imagine 100 guys wrote what you wrote. The amalgamation of 100 OYS just like this would provide absolutely 0 notes toward the progress of men toward either rule 0, or any vision, mission, or goal. That's the difference between checking the box (I did something) and the significance of the box (what I learned, what it means, how I can build from this). I understand what you wrote is supposed to be the extreme of "she doesn't matter". In fact I got 10 bucks that you're already a member and thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/21 06:42 PM
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Guys are absolutely terrified to post. And a lot of that comes from the fact that the potential of what RP is, including ways to flush it out, has fragmented into well traveled roads, and neglected paths. What was an exploration of men all having potential to make it has turned into a leader-follower dynamic. Instead of thinking "something has the potential to be built here", guys are thinking "let me use what's been built". This is very comparable to what happened to pickup. Making it is going …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 10:24 PM
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Nah this is garbage. Let's see what a other 2 weeks does.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 02:58 AM
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Personally I view this as the ADHD method to reading and implementing the reading. Like guys are so concerned about getting through a book that they tell themselves "I can skip really digging into this and just grab the low hanging fruit because, you know, I'm totally going to 'spiral back' and read it again". And this also gives them the feel goods for "finishing" a book. The current book I'm on I'm reading at about a chapter a week. I'll read the chapter in 30 min. Then let it simmer in my min…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/21 09:38 PM
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It was a terrible discovery- I thought I was naturally witty and charming, but without that crutch I'm lost. I'm gonna give you the end game realization here. See if you can prove it to yourself over the next few years. YOU ARE NATURALLY WITTY AND CHARMING. You just have other mental blocks in place that alcohol clears. In other words alcohol does not give you something you lack. It removes something you have.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/21 05:45 PM
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"empathy" is dangerously close to "existing in someone else's frame" Very close. You just gotta remember that empathy is merely a suggestion for you to consider. Not the new thing for the pedestal. "extreme personal accountability"...avoiding calling other people out on their shit This is an idea that, when applied to women, I've been subtly squashing on this sub for years. It's sometimes said in the dogma that women act "this" way because (evolution, feelz, weakness, being the selectors)...or w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/21 05:25 PM
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Maybe facts. I was bumbling in my college days. But damn if I wasn't constantly pushing hard. And girls would always be weird about it. Literally had a girl alone in her room once. We both knew what we wanted. But she'd continuously be weird about it. Just go direct and cut the shit. No chance at LMR. No awkwardness. No covert communication: "Let's make out." or "Alright pants off." or "Let's fuck". If you get anything but compliance, disengage and treat it like a hard no. You dont have time for…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/21 11:42 AM
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Fear is neither good nor bad. The hidden third option is that it is an experience Ding ding ding! An experience. More particularly an experience of the unknown. What happens if we jump from high places? We dont specifically know. What happens if we're complacent in dangerous situations? We dont specifically know. What happens if we talk to that pretty woman or do it and freeze up? We dont specifically know. Peterson says: We arent afraid of the dark. We're afraid of what's in the dark. And what …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 09:09 PM
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Ah. I get the reference. But, would a mind grow just as well if it couldnt/doesnt experience fear? Upon answering that consider...is fear good? Or bad?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 05:19 PM
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Too strict. Is it always natural? Or are you saying natural meaning "of nature?". Fear isn't exclusive to humans. It doesnt have to be a response to a stimulus, it can create itself. And we dont just fear pain. So let's be less restrictive then. What is fear?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 12:21 AM
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Too vague. Facing it is the class of ways that include engaging with it. Fighting it is a way to engage it. Avoiding and fleeing are ways to disengage. But there are other ways. Let's take a walk down a thought: What is fear? I want you to explain fear to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 03:54 PM
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Ah. So we can fight it, avoid it, or run from it. Good addition. Is that it? What else can we do to overcome that fear?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 02:12 PM
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Shit thrown at the wall sticks when you have a fresh clean wall. When you throw shit at the wall that's covered in stuck shit, the fresh shit just starts sliding off.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 02:06 PM
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It would be a bit autistic to keep what you do during the days secret, wouldn't it? It's extremely autistic to shift the topic of discussion from you DEERing to you parents and feeling guilty about what you're doing during the day when they watch your kid but including your GF (so she can validate you from a position of authority) to keeping secrets.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 11:59 AM
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Grabs popcorn
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 12:41 AM
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So I start acting in a way that I know will make another person angry. That way, my anger will find release in another person. I think this makes sense but anthropomorphizes the anger as the object that needs action IE the anger seeks release. Instead, put yourself as the object of action: Explore the essence of yourself, and why it gives rise to anger. Where is it coming from. Ego defense? Helplessness? Defensiveness? Fear? Dive into that. Can you address it? Is there another way? Is it congrue…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 12:34 AM
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I thought US addressed more of a "who am I and what does that mean about my thoughts on my individuality and uniqueness in the world". But this has little to say when it actually comes time to act. PoN could address energy scarcity because like FTM is seeing, we "waste" energy in search for a solution. This is necessary to a point, but at some point (decided by you) the energy taken to continue to micro-correct outweighs the correction. This path to "optimization" is neurotic and without a bound…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 10:13 PM
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Gifts You'll likely relate to this given your new conceptualization of them. Scoreboard J10 had a good post about playing ping pong with a friend in his basement concerning scoreboard and playing without it. Let me know if u find it. I think he was replying to me and I'd like to reread it. Horns also had a comment last OYS about not needing a scoreboard when you know you've already won.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:41 PM
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My depression centers around isolation So when we're afraid of something...navigating our lives in such a way as to avoid it or run from it is the way through that fear....right?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:20 PM
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K
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:15 PM
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Reading that OYS I feel like I've been mentally violated.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:09 PM
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It's true too. At least...I thought him better than this. Why would a man even write this. Like...I get it's probably going on in his head, but to take the time to write out that vomit, look at it, and say "yeah that'll make a good OYS" I just dont get. What notes here are helpful for him on his journey, or any man for that matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:01 PM
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One step further: "If I run away I wont have to invest 30-60 minutes for sex." As if taking his ball and going home is the only way to solve that issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 05:29 PM
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Very good. You thought if you took control of everything and considered only how things mattered to you, that things would get better. You grew (Re: expanded and experienced more) yes. That's why when you say Am I a better person? Yes. Theres truth to it. But it wasn't feeling like "the correct way for you." And as Tyred said, from the outside you're a garbage fire. Then you thought if you revert back to before, where you were hostage to her, maybe if you only considered how things meant to her,…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:01 PM
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Mattered...to who?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:35 PM
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My wife made comments like ‘I can’t do that, I’m a mom now…right?' Emphasis mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:16 PM
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K. Heres the only sentence in that vomit that mattered. And not in a good way: She came to me, and said let’s work on things and get better. Slowly, I pulled myself out of the rut Good to know who's in charge of things.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:09 PM
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Exactly. For what else are bosses mothers teachers authority figures social media influencers idols Gods...society the government MRP girlfriends for?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 01:59 PM
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The pendulum swings, and as it does, and even though it seeks stability, it finds the means for stability in the extremes of its swings. The lessons are learned in the fuck ups and idealizations and misinterpretations.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 01:29 PM
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I still have the nice guy belief that I need to make an effort for them so they don’t feel like I used them for sex. I obviously view sex as a big deal still and feel like I now something after sleeping with them. I’m the prize and need to internalize that now that sex has happened it’s up to them to play their cards right and keep me around. You're a prize. Cool. Now's the time to stop needing to be the prize. To stop seeking validation for being the prize and just be it. Does she think you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 01:21 PM
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Take a few weeks to get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 12:54 PM
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Great progress on basics. What's the deal with your sidebar reading? You are less than a year in and re-reading sidebar books, often multiple a week and finishing in a week or two (according to your past OYSs). How is any of the nuance sticking in your head? How are you seeing the application play out on life? These books are tombs of knowledge that took guys years of life to come to understand enough to write...and you skim them in 2 weeks and move on to the next as if you instantly internalize…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 12:40 PM
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Also I prefer to keep what I do mostly to myself and the gf. One view of this is that it is a symptom of lacking frame and being embarrassed to fail. Another is that it is my right do whatever I want and that I don’t want people poking in my business. Nah, you're just scared. The only reason you tell the GF is because shes the boss and you feel the need to keep the boss informed. Goals for next week: - Stop asking for input until I have clear alternatives or my own opinion prepared - No stress w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 12:21 PM
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You're about to get through injuries, accusations, and engage the world 100% congruently but have no clear purpose. Expect a few months of being lost then. I personally dont understand how you can be 2 years in and be connected to that congruent, honest you and not have purpose. What does bringing forth that you mean? Where will that you take you?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 12:00 PM
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Just wanna let you know you are on fire today.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 10:20 PM
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I feel like this entire post is kind of lame It was. But im sure you'll have shit done in a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 08:28 PM
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In addition to Rule 9, for all those riding the special bus in OYS, if you are tempted to write something to the effect of: I'm going to schedule (an appointment, a date, a gathering) or I'm lacking in (area). Next week I have (playground to test area) or I know what I need to do, which is... Go to your thing. Do the thing. Then you can own it. Writing about it beforehand is nothing more than validation seeking.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 06:44 PM
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The whole OYS is generalities and future tense. It doesn't suck just enough that itll stay. In attempting to pinpoint exactly where it goes wrong, I found you've already identified that. Consider this a warning.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 01:30 PM
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Lifting: I dont know what I should do. Libido: I'll do something in the future. Spiritual: I had a conflict so instead of diving into it, I quit. You've done nothing. Take some time to do something and report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 01:02 PM
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It's really interesting to see someone else taking the path that develops from a sense of feeling out your own subconscious. The mind operates on a surface level most of the day and I'm convinced it does so because the demands of the modern day drive us to react. (Tin foil hat: Reactions make us more controllable and predictable). However, and you hit it on the head by saying it may take some time when meditating (it's not instant), the mind can break through that surface level and when it does …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 12:03 PM
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Take what works.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 05:49 PM
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Theres a saying: Never walk into your boss's office with a problem unless you also have a solution. Back then guys treated this place like that. Time to bring that back.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/21 04:27 PM
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52 OYS in a row This is box checking. It's not about the number or consecutive-ness of your OYS. It's about what you did in your life that's worthy of an OYS. I look forward to OYS 5 in a week if it's worthy of writing up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/21 12:53 PM
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NO. We arent your tampon. We are a collection of notes aimed at progress. You have been warned.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 06:47 PM
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So far I've identified 5 big phases in this journey. For MRP (Rule zero) purposes the scope is unfortunately limited to the first 3, and for TRPs scope its likely the first 2. But there's so much more to it than getting your wife to fuck you. But you're still in Phase 1: All Out War. You're making progress don't get me wrong. But theres a long way to go. And I keep telling Ackley it's going to get worse before it gets better. That's by design. Its supposed to. A lot of what I advise on here I sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 03:22 PM
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If 3KL doesn't ban you for 'she's, I will for fluff. We arent your tampon for your problems. We are a collection of notes aimed at progress. Keep that in mind as you choose to engage. You've been warned.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 04:07 PM
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the pendulum will swing the other way. It's funny that you realize this for when the pendulum is swinging toward the progress side Tried something different did not really like the result... I feel like I’m just missing pieces/insight to really piece things together. but dont realize it when shes throwing shit test after shit test at you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:03 PM
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This is fluff. If you didnt do shit, dont post. You've been warned.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 01:26 PM
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Theres a phrase for this when you do mental backflips to maintain a duality of reality in your head. Damn I'm usually good with remembering those. You're holding a woman to the standards of a man who fucks. Before finding MRP, would you fuck you? Then how can you hold her to those standards when you were just some chump? during our relationship Your relationship, the one where if she fucks someone else and you walk with OI didnt exist during your "separation", and likely doesnt even exist now. R…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:08 PM
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Mic drop.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:53 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/about/rules/
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:01 PM
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The difference between a follower and a leader: A leader uses things to achieve an end. A follower is a part of things as if that thing is the end to be achieved.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:27 PM
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Rule 11
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/21 11:32 PM
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Questions are for askMRP. But before you do ask yourself: What's so different once you sign some paperwork? And also, why is it you're searching for a space to take from, rather than creating that space and adding to?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/21 01:42 PM
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👈😎👈
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 09:37 PM
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I really dont understand why you're getting pats on the back for finding a job. Like is the bar that low now? You talked about this in your last OYS, saying you were all set on a move. she can choose whether to come with me, or else. There has to be some consequences So what are the consequences? I gave her the options either to move to the work city together or stay and I will commute. Oh...so...now its whatever works for her best right? And the consequences of her not having to make any change…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 02:57 AM
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Nice summary. your new reality with an AM "sure as shit" to your self, and a calm resolve to the outside world I like to give a nod to that phrase "irrational self confidence" by describing the place that your frame comes from as being beyond reproach. Reality is a good word. Because if someone questions your reality: IE (They pick up an orange and say) "The color of this orange is blue." Youd look at them like what the fuck are you smoking? Others questioning your new reality is literally irrat…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 02:05 AM
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Just to be clear that was not a knock on your post. You intentionally left out nuance, because there are retards on here who need it left out to start moving.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 01:56 AM
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Ah. I get it now. The Michael Jordan example made it clear. Let me know if this makes sense: To learn as in explore variable space. Make connections. See perspectives. Solidify structures, patterns, and hierarchies. To learn how. This can be done from parallel structures. To get good at executing that structure, especially involving others, takes action 100% of the time. I agree with this. If you dont know how to lead your wife. I can tell you that. I can make you understand it with parallel str…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 01:46 AM
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The debate is not if, but when. Lots of shit has been crystallizing in my head lately. And if I going to give the 10000ft view all in one post, it's gonna be done right.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 05:09 PM
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one that involves shepherding, leading others. So what are you doing about this? I'll tell you what. I see a parallel between you and /u/impissedoffalot above. When I came on this sub I knew I was jumping in the deep end. But I was determined to make something of myself. I had that fire. I didnt need the support of guys here. They were my tools. It just so happened that my success or failure was either good data for their models or just plain hilarious fodder to laugh at. When I finally grew int…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 05:05 PM
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without...having you guys exposing my bullshit, my progress will be quite limited. That's fucking sad. Do you care about yourself at all? Why arent you lighting a fire under your own ass? What if we all died in multiple firey plane crashes tomorrow? That mean you're just gonna be a chump the rest of your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 04:55 PM
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You ever go to the zoo and see the male and female lion in the cage? And the male is walking around his domain and the female is laying there. And the male walks up close to her and the female bares her teeth, jumps up, snarls, and the male jumps back, turns his back, and walks away? And you think "WTF? Dude? You are a MALE LION and you're just gonna let that bitch yell at you and you walk away??" Leaving the house is exactly the same as STFU. STFU is so you dont say anything stupid. Leaving is …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 01:59 PM
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When you read these comments and that queasy yet righteous indignation feeling starts building within you, and you start telling yourself things like: Fuck those guys. And They dont understand And I dont need them And I'm not going to do what they say... Just know that these comments are exactly the advice I sent you here to get. You're 17. In life you have not yet encountered enough scenarios where that righteous indignation pops up, you take your ball and go home, and find out later you were w…
/r/askMRP06/10/21 01:00 PM
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Believe me, I used those words too. I still do. But now they are a recognition that I have a social battery that needs to be recharged. So I give myself time and space to do so when my social prowess isnt needed. Kinda like lifting. When I need to workout, I go fucking lift. I don't use the excuse that I'm tired to not lift. But when I dont need to workout, I acknowledge that I'm tired and rest, get a massage, a cold bath/ hot shower, or any other tool to help recover. I use it to rebuild myself…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 12:17 PM
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You and I always seem to be very close in our thoughts with a small difference between them. I appreciate the discussion. To the point: it's perhaps not the best example for MY point. I personally think the example scales such that the premise and conclusion is the same. You say: Certain things are only learned by experience or concret-izing. And I agree, although (again in the weeds here) that category of "certain things" is things for which you dont have parallel experiences of and no structur…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 01:49 AM
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Basically, I should be able to be happy in any situation, therefore it was somehow wrong to try to alter the situation. This was a massive roadblock on my journey into Taoism. How do you let go, without becoming a door mat? Give this a read. See if you can pull any nuggets from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 09:27 PM
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if not -- not important If not...fucking what? What happens? Boundaries man. Do you have them? You just leaving the house because she nags or whatever still means you're a soft pushover because you're always RE-acting.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 09:13 PM
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My point is I don't think those lessons are really learned, otherwise. It's a good point. And it is sorta semantics because we'd have to specify what "really learned" means. Let's first break this all the way down to it's most simple form. Say I'm in 1st grade. And the teacher goes "Kids, 2+2 = 4". And she writes this on the board. Have I "really learned" that 2+2=4? Or do i somehow need to either be given the problem 2 + 2 = __ and solve it, or be given a parallel concept like im given 2 red pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 06:41 PM
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Word. Out of curiosity, let me know if what I said here concerning your inflection point makes any sense given what we just talked about. What is this inflection point I talked about? No judgement if it doesnt click. Don't force it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 04:53 PM
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Better a sniffling rat than a dancing monkey I suppose lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 04:41 PM
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Fear is a healthy indicator of the magnitude of what you could get into. I love this very relevant analogy by JP: When you put a rat in an empty box the first thing it does is FREEZES. Because it wants to make sure it can simply exist in the box without dying. Then its little nose will start sniffing. Because it wants to make sure it can sniff in the box without dying. And then over time, itll start exploring the box until it knows it inside and out. Rare is the mind that is able to TAKE ITSELF …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 04:15 PM
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Look back to my post to easy. Draw out the line on a piece of paper in the way I describe it. Label the 6 points. Visually see that your vision, things you are for, your ideal, this point physically exists farther from wherever she is on her side of the line than the distance between your 'you' and that same space where she is on the line. When you step out of your 'you', you step AWAY from wherever she is on the line to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 04:02 PM
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I love this reply. Because engaging in active killing of your ego like you said, is basically fake it til you make it. Now, theres nothing wrong with FITYMI. But I've had this conversation with antisocial dudes on social forums who say FITYMI. And I tell them: Fake it til you make it WORKS. But it works because it puts you in situations which open doors to teach you the lessons that you could have used to shape yourself all along. It works in spite of itself. I'm teaching the lessons FITYMI teac…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:54 PM
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I engage, as in, I act in accordance to my genuinely caring about her. Her response is, essentially, “you don’t care.“ This is so "right" within the context of my linked reply to EasyDays that it makes me giddy. Yes, of course she says "you dont care". Because shes exercising her agency to say "NO". And when you act in accordance with your genuinely caring about her, you step out of your 'you', AWAY from her to do it! Remember, your vision is farther from her than your 'you'. Hence the local min…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:39 PM
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I'm not sure I'm grasping what "leaning into it" means to you. With these books, we get into abstract thought inside our own heads which isnt easily put into words. So this isnt a surprise. Let me bring back up why I recommended US in the first place. You were winding yourself around the axle in line with a girl wondering if you should flirt, if you shouldn't, if not flirting when you think you should makes you a failure, whether you need to constantly be in a mode to flirt so when the situation…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 01:11 PM
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irrationally self-confident Her: Where should we eat tonight? POP: Dont you worry babe. I know this great seafood place we're gonna hit up. Her: ... You know I'm deathly allergic to shellfish. Like the smell alone... POP: Nope. We're doing it. You're gonna love it. Her: I could die... POP: Google give me directions to Captains Table Restaurant. Her: OMG that's so hot. POP: I knew youd come around. Her: I'm getting wet. POP: Wet like the ocean of seafood we're about to eat? Her: Guh...I want you …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 12:36 PM
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Most of life settles into some form of local minimum. This inherently means things will have to be made worse in search for the better.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 12:26 PM
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I am sorry for her that she cannot enjoy life, I feel some unease about it, You have engaged, and now you're moving back to your 'you'.. When you let go of your wife, does she naturally fall toward your 'you'? Or away from it?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 12:18 PM
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Its validation seeking because you're trying to use it to validate your current self, who isnt social. You're trying to take the one marshmallow now to get feel good feelings now. Instead, recognize it as effort for future you. Future you is going to benefit off this. Not current you. Then you'll drop the validation because you dont expect to be validated in the now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 12:10 PM
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I've been drafting out a few replies and found I was basically repeating what you said in different terms. I've been reading and meditating a lot lately about the self, and being a lot more comfortable with relaxing into myself. And I think that introspection is coming along at the perfect time to understand what you're laying down. I notice that throughout the last 5 years, my wife has naturally fallen toward my 'you' state, that state that you describe as removing the outcome, and who you are.…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/21 02:07 AM
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mediate on life without my wife. I was generally ok with not talking to her at all, Isnt it weird how if she's in your life, it matters. If she's not, it doesnt? she came to me either the same night or next day with objective statements or actions addressing the issues that I was unhappy with as to her performance and offering to help or try to be better. Isnt it weird how if you're in her life, it matters. If you're not, it doesnt?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 12:43 AM
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A poke into the chaos. I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 11:46 PM
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I dont understand. Are you looking for fun like entertaining yourself with a challenge or satisfying like lifting weights? Or fun like "this is hard I'm not having fun" or satisfying like "this isnt satisfying my ego like I wanted." And after 2 classes, did you decide it was fun/satisfying?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 08:40 PM
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So I took away the easy button and made her fucking think for herself how she’s going to keep her spot. Read: So I covertly decided to see if she "genuinely" liked being a sub in the same way and for the same reason I did." keeping most of the basic rituals we have Of course she did. Shes been following guidance for years. Taking that away logically means she will continue with what she knows... shitty consistency ...before branching out into the unknown. You tether her with your guidance. Your …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 08:18 PM
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Its always the "I've lurked for a year" guys who come out with this outrageously cancer sized ego and backtalk everyone as if they've got it all figured out. What do you predict he'll last. Three weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 07:45 PM
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Ah, good. I've found the inflection point with you. It's fun seeing my leadership theories play out. Carry on :)
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 06:37 PM
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devaluing her word, while she has to set boundaries and be hated Because you very likely were doing that. So I'll leave you with this: I said dont throw her under the bus. You said you agree, united front. You said "but what about her opinion?" I said your actions are for you to judge and her to get behind or not. You said in the past you devalued her. I said yeah, you probably did. So if mommy isnt following your leadership, is mommy wrong?? How can you simultaneously have that talk with your k…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 05:56 PM
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Is this also the right thing to do from the perspective of her relationship with me? Who's job is it to form her perception of you and your relationship? And when doing so, do you think she will more easily perceive the dynamic you want, captain and first mate, from someone who supports his vision of how his family interacts with each other by piloting the ship to that vision regardless of her opinion, or from someone who bases his action toward his vision on her perspective of her relationship …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 05:32 PM
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I’m not sure if it’s for me. FFS you pussy. Let me slap you upside the head with wisdom. The day you re-associate that "I feel like I'm in the deep end" feeling from meaning "This may not be for me" to "There is a fucking wealth of opportunity and growth here", you will excel. A motivational speech I listen to says: "Put yourself in a position where you cant retreat. Where its do or die, sink or swim. Heres what you'll find out, you'll develop incredible swimming skills. You'll find yourself str…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:51 PM
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I still think the biggest progress was not that she responded, but that I could talk to her calmly Correct. You first. Her second. But I did want to know if she was on board. Next time, you tell her ONCE. If she complies after telling her once, she buys into your narrative. If she doesnt comply after you tell her once, YOU go talk to the kids. Tell them how you want things to run. And DO NOT throw your wife under the bus to them. Once you tell her twice, you broadcast that her doing is more abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:28 PM
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men of my height have an ideal weight of 165 5'11'' 190.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 03:22 PM
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I told my wife that evening that she'll need to go and comfort the kid The most important question here: DID SHE? This is excellent. I remember this part of the journey. In fact when I started this path it was winter, 5-6 years ago and I was building a snowman out front with my daughter. My wife talked to me with sarcasm and disrespect, and I said to myself No, as in, we wont be talking to each other like this anymore. What's the 5-6 year down the road version of this leadership look like? Well,…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 03:10 PM
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I'm not going to say "dont", because WOTSM has hit a few guys in here strongly. What you want to look for in general is what in this universe defines the idea of YOU. Who are YOU? And what is your place in this world? Once you know who you are in relation to that which is bigger than the social construct humanity has made, you can rise above that construct and live comfortably as a being who came from that larger (whatever it is). If WOTSM answers that for you, yes reread. If you find that answe…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 02:37 PM
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Haha. Yes. This sub is for support. Everyone come on in and give JB a big hug!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 02:21 PM
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Stop looking at it like a switch you turn on when the moment is right, and trying to program yourself to be on the lookout constantly. That's wasted mental energy. Instead, just be a guy who is open to flirt or not all the time as the mood strikes you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 01:50 PM
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reverse kegels Is this the idea that relaxing makes you last longer? Does not work. On this topic, pay attention to how shes responding physically too. If her pussy is gripping your dick like a vice because shes prepping for climax, is there a reason to last longer? My wife has told me I last too long because she gets off and then is done. And we're in the less than 10 minutes category here. I told her not to lie there, say the magic words ("I'm gonna cum") and I'm on the brink. I do handle the …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 01:46 PM
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A WEEK in??? 100 bucks she will be able to outlast you in this little game lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 01:27 PM
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As you move through the process, all these little events will take on less intense meaning than you're prescribing to them now. Little lightbulbs of "I took this too seriously" or "I should lead because things need to be lead, not for the sake of leading" and "maybe she had a point, I should lube up my thumb before I jam it into her butthole." Just keep your eyes open.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 01:22 PM
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I would never stop fighting This summarizes where youre at mentally. And good for you for having the strength to fight. But fighting is REactive. Its guided by what you need to do due to others' efforts to fuck you over. And you said it yourself, you're having trouble finding a vision because a vision isnt reactive. Its proactive. So again, slow clap for not rolling over and taking it up the ass. But, dont you want to take control? To chase dreams you made instead of defending what you already h…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 01:15 PM
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So i've been battling this idea for a few months now and it's shown up in a couple of my last OYSs. But I havent put it into action yet here. And to be honest it feels very much like the same feeling I was battling back when I logged off MRP for the first time to go find myself. That too was rolling about in my mind awhile until I finally decided it was time to act on it. When I decided to come back to MRP, I did so because there were a lot of guys, flaired guys on here in particular, that I jud…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 03:06 PM
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Not really. Just how those things came to me as I read your OYS. I went back and read some of your other OYSs. What are you learning? How are you growing? What light bulb moments have you had so far? I ask because part of having that vision is figuring out all those little pieces of yourself you don't like, and learning about them and working to improve them. And literally every single book I read here, I pulled out some "Holy shit" lesson, a stepping stone I could use to grow me, to grow us (my…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 01:42 AM
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"I'm fine though,it’s not your problem.” You fucking liar lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:41 PM
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Looks at calendar Hmmm... 3 months still...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:37 PM
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Youve worked your way through the blatently obvious ones. But they're still there ;) Just more subtle and happening over longer durations of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:33 PM
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Totally understand. Let the chaos in as you develop the tools to deal with it. Not all at once.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:29 PM
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I was judgmental and pessimistic. I really don't know where it came from or why it started, but I didn't think it mattered to find out. I just noted it and started back on track with the type of thinking that is what I desire be. I took me all the way through Saturday before I was doing it with much more immediacy and habit, but it's interesting how I went a good three or four days of old-me thinking. Weird. I think you're describing this mindset but having a hard time writing it out: When you n…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 05:41 PM
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So you're saying the key was under your mother's pillow
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 01:24 PM
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Do you have a vision of who you want your kids to grow into? Is it your vision? Or is it society's vision? And is the way you act opening doors for them to walk through to get there? Do you have a vision of what you want your marriage to grow into? Is it your vision? Or is it society's vision? And is the way you act opening doors for your wife to walk through to get there? Do you have a vision of who you want yourself to grow into? Is it your vision? Or is it society's vision? And is the way you…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 01:14 PM
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All you're doing is opening doors. They walk through it, or dont.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 01:03 PM
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It's a good piece of the puzzle. But in countries where it's a choice the aversion is mostly in what signing up for it entails. A program that will teach me discipline, rigor, kill my ego, and put me in a brotherhood? Sign me up. Make it mandatory 4 years minimum and place me first in line to be cannon fodder when some rich powerful dude has an issue with another rich powerful dude? I'll pass.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 12:00 PM
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A loooong time ago in this sub, wives weren't allowed to go out to bars with friends. Just this year, I'm pretty sure I caught a user saying he was ok with his cuck fetish. But that was on Discord and I briefly saw it while scrolling. The point is, YOU choose your boundary. And some tips for choosing it are: It should not be chosen because you're scared. It should not be chosen based on what you think society supports. It should not be chosen as a buffer. It should be chosen with consideration o…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 08:27 PM
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some sort of mid-life crisis Fuck off with that noise.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 05:35 PM
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All the anxiety we feel in life we feel from worrying "what happens if things don't go "right". "What if I dont get there on time." "What if she rejects me." "What if I cant get up." "What if things dont work out the way I planned." All those little nit picks of hers is simply her anxiety about your anxiety. "What if he didn't think of everything." "What if he turns to me to lead." "What if we're not prepared because hes willingly excluding me from the planning." And those nit picks are shitty b…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 11:07 PM
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Appreciate the offer but at this point in my life, I'm not a businessman. I see the potential, but dont desire it. I'm very excited to see what you do with it though.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 10:43 PM
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Horns is talking about cycles and now I'm hard too.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 10:42 PM
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I'd wager if one were so inclined, one could make a booming business that incorporated all the journeys we're seeing men lack in today's world by organizing and sending groups of men together or individually on them: A hunting expedition. A boot camp style week of pain. A spiritual journey. A PUA experience. Social/speaking/assertiveness training. A grooming/wardrobe overhaul. An adrenaline rush. Right now MRP has been limited to books, youtube channels and a conference here and there for men wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 04:39 PM
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And people wonder why ancient tribes had a rite of passage where you went into the forest to find your spirit animal.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 03:11 PM
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I get what you're saying. I take back my assumption about your circumstances. But we're definitely circling around something here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/21 11:42 PM
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I laugh at the blue pill moralizing. But Im also giving a side-eye to the redpill moralizing. I'd say any argument about his choice, blue pill or red pill, beats around the bush regarding the core issue here. A man can want and choose to pursue whatever it is he wants. Thing is, does he really want this? please point out anywhere in this exchange where I read the situation wrong. I'm not convinced.
/r/askMRP26/07/21 10:46 PM
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you dont really want to invest in stocks. You simply want to use it as a means to make that social aspect "not mean a god damn thing." But it does mean a god damn thing to you. Not the "be social" part, the "I'm scared I am leaving some part of myself on the table by not exploring the realm of being social" part. As I said in my reply to Red Curious's post, the status, the check the box (be social, be a player, be a stock trader, be my own boss, be red …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/21 02:36 PM
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I took some time to think about this. And honestly I cant rectify your almost instant change in personality between your reply I answered to, and this one. The first opened a door to some vulnerability in you. The second put some kind of veil on top that vulnerability. And my big question is, why?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 03:23 PM
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A man is irrational when his behaviors don't align with what he knows to be the proper course of conduct. Question is, what is the proper course of conduct? That which satisfies how he wants to live? Or that which gives him the results he wants? When we were all nice guys we followed what Disney narratives taught us in order to get what we wanted. In fact we did it so well, that we often wrote covert contracts to do whatever it took to get what we wanted. Bring a woman flowers and she'll have se…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 02:32 PM
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The worst that can happen is either I set a precedent where she thinks it's okay to unilaterally make terrible decisions without my input She already is? I understand your aversion. You think "If I do this, then if things are equal in my marriage then she will think she can too." Let's sets aside the italics portion for right now by saying that's a flawed mindset...things arent equal if you're the leader. That's new-age feminism bullshit: Things need to be equal only in the areas that benefit me…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 05:23 PM
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He's computer illiterate so someone has to do all the work for him I guess he needs to become computer literate or hes SOL. People will take as much rope as you're willing to give. And now you're paying rent too. BTW, what happens if you take your kid to the Dr.s and have him vaccinated. No seriously...what's the worst that happens after?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 02:22 PM
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Yeah. This kinda sounds like a /u/dirtynuke thing where his girl did "something" in her past and now it's conflicting with the "her" he thought she was in his head. I dont have a problem with him continuing to pursue her (though your diagnosis does fit), but he needs to see that she isnt that girl in his head, and as an extension she isnt anything he tried to label her as...including labeling her as his.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 11:11 PM
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It's just your turn.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:32 PM
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I understand what you're saying. Sounds a lot like a roundabout game of doing what you dont necessarily want to do because it plays the game being played to get the result you want. I suppose if you're ok conforming to the rules of the game then yeah secrecy has value. Me? I hate the game.. I change the rules and people can choose to play or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:11 PM
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Shitty comfort tests are simply comfort tests done in a shitty way. If he splits the way (how shes communicating) and the comfort and tackle both, he can pass and lead her. "I understand you are concerned and we can totally talk about this, but not with you acting that way. Take a deep breath. Chill out. Or I'm walking."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:04 PM
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Are you making that conclusion with two data points? /u/ragnar_daneskjold asked a VERY good question. The fact that you didnt answer it is telling.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:01 PM
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is a value in actively hiding Nah. Because then the act or validation still means something to you in relation to others. Think about it like this. Your wife wants you to do well, to get praise in emails, to dress nice, to get shit done. She wants that. She just wants to be the one to enjoy that success and give her praise in her own way. Whatever that way is. Maybe it's fuckjng you. Maybe it's silently enjoying her man's success and being successful herself by being on the ship. When you ask fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 09:28 PM
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You've described the vibe. I went back to his OYS#1 to see why hes here and it's the same shit. Still fat. Still jacking off and eating on good and bad days. OYS#1 I now prioritise sleep. This OYS Sleep is still a major issue. It is without a doubt the biggest drain on my energy OYS#1 As such I am nowhere near as angry as I used to be This OYS The first step in this plan is my anger. I’ve fucked about with this here before but I want to dig into it, see it for what it is and then accept so I can…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 07:32 PM
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Why did you watch a chick Chad-fantasy drama with your wife? I'm still angry. Anyone else getting a vibe that this guy's OYSs seem just...flaccid? This was a wake up I needed to get my fucking shit together once and for all. Yeah...sure...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 09:27 AM
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Nice comments. I'm glad we could have this talk. optimal sequence I can understand everything in this idea and would argue that somewhere inside us, hidden deep from view, we've already chosen the optimal end and so we can measure ourselves against it. that consciousness is all you ever were. You find a fire hose and put the fire out, and talk about the philosophy later. Yes exactly. The huge question that was in my mind after that book is "This is all well and good until life forces you to act.…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 11:05 PM
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really a distinction? In conceptual thought? No. In the definitions of the words we use to describe those thoughts? Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 11:24 AM
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We obviously have hit a nerve. I wasn't trying to lecture. Rather I was simply handwaving in a casual conversation of understanding. I'm not even sure how the social aspect came into it. But now that its here, let's talk about that. Being social is a huge part of life. It's a common goal like being healthy, having a mission, hobbies, a job, etc. So that's why theres a societal desire to be good at it. In addition, in some jobs or career choices, it's critical to success. Sone guys get wrapped up…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 05:07 PM
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Correct. The message is still conveyed. But its simply matter of fact. "Get on board or dont. I have a path to walk either way."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 12:05 PM
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What I mean is that the part of the argument you didnt say overtly, whether because you were scared or were trying to not negotiate sex, is "you need to feel guilty and change...and the way to do that is to start fucking me." So the drive behind your conversation is to get fucked. We already talked about the fact that you used guilt to push that narrative. I'm saying that a flaired user in the past pushed the same narrative, but instead phrased it as "You know I need sex in my life, right?" And …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 09:56 AM
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This is the best way I've seen this argument put. /u/Imnotslash we talked about this recently and I think this is the view /u/HornsofApathy has on self improvement. Horns correct me if I'm wrong. I've heard a similar idea in a motivational speech that goes "Everythjng I've said, you already know it. It's already a part of you. It's common sense, but not common practice." Which mirrors the same idea that what you need is already part of you. And that fact too, the fact that what we want in is is …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 09:25 AM
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Everything you said was true. But that's not why you said it. You said it to effectively say "You should feel bad for what you're doing and change!". I forget which of our flaired guys said it, but their conversation went "You know I need sex in my life, right?" Or something close to that. What's the difference?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 08:41 PM
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Excellent. And worthy of a FR. was hitting me - my life is about to change. I was ready to leave. A deep sadness came over me. I kept hugging my dogs and preparing for a new life as a single man. It was energizing though, because I knew what I needed to do. I figured about 1-2 months before the apartment is sorted and I'm out. Patterns. Take note all who read the above. You want to know how far you need to go to see change? I've experienced and read this so many times, this "I was right at the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 08:10 PM
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wouldn't still have to deal with at this point: random anger inducing thoughts that I have to use PON exercises to deal with. Funny that you phrase it that way. "Deal with". Check out this video. I think it's time you put an extra layer of understanding on top of PON. Feel it. Be in the now. And stop wishing for it to go away or trying to deal with it. "Pleasant sensation. Unpleasant sensation. Or, no sensation. All of these are ok. All are welcome."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 06:19 PM
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10 years without a blowjob? Haha really puts things in perspective. Likewise for some a shit test is a snarky comment. To others it's a conversation like this
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 05:16 PM
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Power of Now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 05:01 PM
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It's a habit. Sometimes on purpose. Sometimes by accident.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/21 12:52 PM
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I probably wouldn’t fuck me either, and that’s my fault. Why wouldn't you fuck you? Is it because you have standards for yourself that you haven't met? Or is it because when you project the standards you think you need onto women for them to fuck you, you see they dont, so you conclude you wouldn't either? Which of those is you being the judge of you? What about when the days comes that I would fuck me, and she won’t? By definition of the 1000ft rope, this is guaranteed to happen. What if it's n…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/21 02:03 PM
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I almost feel like I have to prove my worth to everyone else just to exist. And this is kinda why I ask. "Be the prize" is a faulty mentality used in a sort of reverse psychology way to get guys to start looking at themselves or at least working toward being a "prize", or, something that they think others will value. They think the goal is getting to a place where they can say "your judgement of my value doesn't hurt me any longer because I know I'm a prize." But it's kinda like when you and you…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/21 11:57 PM
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/u/so_woke_da_wookie I still stand on the point I made last time but concede that you did have a point as well and its blatantly apparent in this OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 12:46 AM
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I took him aside and explained that her emotions are hers, not his. He is not responsible for how other’s feel and others are not responsible for his emotions. Dang. It's kinda funny when I give guys dynamite but giving your kid dynamite... Be careful. He doesn't have the context to take this with all the understanding you have. He is much more apt to follow it literally. Which is how Rambo happens on this sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 10:51 PM
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I'm not exactly sure how to fix this. Keyword: fix. If you have to fix it, it's still a problem to you. If it's a problem to you, you are inclined to change it. To change her. If you're inclined to change her, you dont accept her as is. And if you dont accept her as is, she will act unintentionally to push her narrative of who she is. Even if it's not who she wants to be. It's not until you accept who she is that the door opens for her to not feel the need to continue to prove who she is. When t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 07:09 PM
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This is a great OYS. Reflective but also action oriented. Still working on the prize mentality. Tell me your thoughts on the prize mentality. What is it. Why work toward it. And what's it do for you. I think some level fear and issues with vulnerability are holding me back. Do you think your wife could feel the same?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 06:34 PM
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I’ll bend her over,spank her, wrestle her to the ground, tickle her and then start to kiss her with some escalation and I’m soon met with a “oh I don’t feel like it right now”. Mystery would recommend a freeze out here. Others to push through, get yours, and go caveman. Others would ask "why isnt she giving you blowjobs freely?" Heres my take. And this is just notes. Honestly I could still be wrong here and I admit I have NOT mastered this myself yet: For whatever reason your wife hates the init…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 04:19 PM
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Good catch. There was always something nagging in my mind about that but the thought never completed. Now, if he wants to put on his costume of LARPing appreciation and I want to put on mine of liking it, we can play in the matrix that way together. It's just as you said: "...it seems..." does he know that's what hes doing or does he truly think that matrix is real.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 03:40 PM
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I often ask questions the answer of which I know, and want to see if others can follow. This one in particular though, I dont. The reason is because (going with our analogy) if every set of doors has, let's say, 100 doors to choose, only 1 of those doors leads EXACTLY where you want to go. If you choose the wrong door just once, all doors thereafter will eventually loop you back to a set of doors in your past. That loop back is essentially the universe's way of saying "nope, you chose wrong". Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 03:14 PM
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RAGE
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/21 08:33 PM
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I'm in disagreement with Horns basic idea of self-improvement; why I can't say because I'm not 100% sure his reasoning. I was too. But reading his reply makes me think he is on the same page, but is just coming at it from a different mindset. The supporting nodes of his model behind this idea are different. And so he puts a different spin on those nodes to arrive at the same end idea. Flaws I think the biggest difference between people on a grand scale is knowing they have flaws and embracing th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/21 09:33 PM
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The thing about prompts isnt what's said literally... it's what's being conveyed THROUGH the vehicle of those words. Teaching prompts attempts to make noobs understand the difference through experience when they use those lines. Inevitably there will he morons who dont pick up on that subtlety though.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/21 04:06 PM
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she can dance with me or not, but I am anyway. Sounds like you should give yourself a tad more credit. Nailed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 04:45 PM
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Things would move from "a conversation" to "a fight about the conversation" and then "a fight about the fight about the conversation". I love fractals. This is well put. Each and every fight about the fight about the...is a beacon highlighting a misunderstanding of the communication dynamic. But it's all one big game of chicken. Whichever car swerves or stops first loses. And each layer of inception adds a mental push to stop or swerve. So maybe in your case "you wanna talk about that" is seen a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 10:14 AM
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without her heating up to max Glad you asked. Because having an open and honest conversation with someone can only happen when both parties dont "heat up to the max". So your prerequisite to having hard conversations is leading her to a place where you can both have hard conversations without blowing up. I've phrased it before as setting up HOW you both communicate with each other. You're communicating about how you're communicating. Have you done that? Heating up to the max is a self defense st…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 10:47 PM
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Added thought for that analogy (and the purpose behind the philosophizing) is that those who do progress through enough doors may start to recognize a pattern of a sequence of doors. Kinda like walking into a room and having that deja vu "I've been here before..." feeling. The funny thing is, you'd think the ones who run to the nearest next door would recognize the pattern faster because they experience more doors, they go through more patterns. But because they arent paying attention and just r…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 12:00 PM
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When someone has an honest conversation with you about something they're upset about, besides your ego getting tweaked do you feel better or worse after? Having a conversation provides COMFORT. Even if it communicates discomfort. That's not to say I dont have hard, but honest conversations with my wife. But in that case I am not letting her fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:35 PM
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The week of that OYS there was a rampant array of posters praising the idea of ignoring introspection and the self and simply acting. And dont get me wrong acting is a GREAT way to move forward and forget the now. The problem is, without a plan, actions moves you forward but TO WHERE you dont know. I've had philosophical discussions with some other users about this and as an analogy lets say life is a set of doors. Behind every set of doors is another set of doors. And this goes on for infinity.…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 02:10 AM
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Decided to provide comfort. Give me a percentage. Be honest. How often when your wife shows helplessness do you immediately provide comfort? Phrased differently, when was the last time you let her experience failure?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 01:34 AM
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A good start. I like this. The sip of air is a new thing I might try. I'd ask then where in this process the failure occurred, and was it because you failed one if these checks or did it occur between them and you need a new check? Now I'm going to have a go: First I step up to the bar and align it so it's perpendicular to the rack I deadlift in front of. I know my body will lift it if it's not but it will rotate during the lift if I don't check this. I move the bar a hair back and forth because…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 01:04 PM
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This doesnt surprise me lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 12:08 PM
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I dont disagree, but I think this goes deep into all the twists and turns that are hidden within his question that make it NOT the golden question. These include perspective on what proportional means, if the fact that you dont control her means you shouldn't push for change /absolves her of responsibility, and even what constitutes value for you and if you even have a clear, complete, and realistic image of the value dynamic. Because to answer the golden question implies you actually understand…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 09:00 AM
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