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CapNGrind/r/MGTOW13/09/17 02:48 AM
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What's your question? The prisoner's dilemma does not apply to the golden ratio type of situation you describe here. The only connection you've tried to make is that it includes numbers, and so does game theory, so ??? profit. If you're interested in a situation where it does apply, then you should take a look at Athol Kay's discussion of being nice or not being nice.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 03:23 AM
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You aren't your wife, and your wife isn't you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 08:11 PM
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Welcome to RPW. Is it ever ok for a man to raise their voice or smash things (punching walls) or worst case senario strike a lady? From the perspective of remaining amoral from a point of view of what is beneficial for women within the RP framework: A man raising his voice is a bit different than the other examples. There are plenty of situations where raising his voice is probably the best thing he could do, and then there are plenty of situations where it probably shouldn't be happening. This …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 08:10 PM
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I'm of the opinion that the women here would generally vet men in a way to exclude those who would have sex with a silicone sex doll. That's not something that a man would be interested in inside of a vacuum; there would be plenty of other red flags about his lack of SMV.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 07:57 PM
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You're completely right about that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 05:56 PM
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It doesn't really work like that. Men aren't setting their standards low. They still pick from the best that they have available. Most men just don't have that many options to begin with. Most of this is in the sidebar reading.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 05:31 PM
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You just described the general sexual strategy used by women perfectly: Find the best man you can find and be monogamous to him. That's the foundation of RPW, and it's why self-improvement is given so much attention here. For men, it works a bit differently, but that's outside of the scope of RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 05:21 PM
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Top-tier men are picky because they have enough options to justify it. The rest of men are essentially fighting over scraps of attention, so they more or less have to take what they can get. Edit: Here's a good read to give you somewhat of an idea of how this works, especially the part where women rated around 80 percent of men as below-average (see the "Female Messaging & Male Attractiveness" graph, particularly the dotted line) https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 05:13 PM
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The Wikipedia entry for hypergamy is well-cited. I'd probably skip over the "Feminist analysis" section, however.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 05:10 PM
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Men have to choose between the women who are interested in them. Women are generally only interested in men who are better than them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 05:01 PM
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Welcome to RPW. There was a post a couple of weeks ago that I think you would appreciate seeing if you haven't already: Being redpill and being black Even if looks don't matter to ALL guys, it's probably going to matter to the type of men I am interested in. This is a very important realization that will make it much more likely you're able to find what you're looking for. I have been really struggling with the concept of loving myself "exactly as I am". This is an overreach of the idea of lovin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 04:08 PM
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Very welcome
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 03:58 PM
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I wasn't sure how bad he was off physically lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 01:00 AM
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But the comfort tests continue. You seem to think that this is a bad thing. You might want to challenge that assumption.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 12:07 AM
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Dread isn't something you "do." It's the side effect of having a life and being awesome.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 12:03 AM
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Putting this in the least crude way I can think of: If he's able to handle things downstairs manually, then you could give him something to look at while he does that to maintain some level of sex life.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 12:02 AM
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Thanks for that! Sorry, I'm pretty new to posting on Reddit so formatting, especially on my phone, is a little difficult. It's cool. :) Just helping out!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:34 PM
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Making OP's post readable: The author cites the statistic that back in the early 2000s, married 25- to 34-year-olds outnumbered their never-married peers by a margin of 55% to 34% but since 2015 (the most recent year for which data is available) those estimates had almost reversed, with never-marrieds outnumbering marrieds by 53% to 40%. He cites another professor from the University of Minnesota who predicts that up to a 1/3 of the current generation of Americans will never marry. These are pre…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:24 PM
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How do you feel about pre-nups? A few quick points: They're important to protect the interests of both parties as much as possible. They're effective when handled properly with separate council, proof that it wasn't signed under duress, etc. The only people who are against them are generally the people who think they have something to lose by signing one. Based on my knowledge of him, I anticipate he would initially be hurt at me even making contingency plans for our demise while he's thinking a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:23 PM
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Firstly, I hate the term 'hamstering'. It is demeaning and oversimplifies the way women's brains work and more importantly, WHY they work like that. For what it's worth, in its original meaning, "hamstering" means to overreach in order to try to rationalize an emotional decision (hamstering being short for the "rationalization hamster"), and it wasn't gender-specific. It's use has been expanded quite a bit beyond that to generally just include emotionally overthinking things to an extreme, and I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:33 PM
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I feel smothering. Other people tell me I am too. But he says that's what he wants. The best thing you can do is listen to him. He knows what he wants better than anyone else does.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:30 PM
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[...]I was the manager of the household, and that being manager was a lot of thankless work. If I were to point out random emotional labor duties I carry out[...] he would take it as me saying, “Look at everything I’m doing that you’re not. You’re a bad person for ignoring me and not pulling your weight." To me, the entire thing about "emotional labor" in the home comes from the woman wanting to be told what to do instead of having to tell the man what to do. She doesn't want the stress of being…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:28 PM
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As the saying goes, you can't outrun a fork. Diet and exercise are both very important to managing your size as you get older. Stress seems like it's probably the main issue here. I think you should write out your major sources of stress and come up with a plan to address each of them as much as possible to get your stress levels down as much as you can. That will have a big impact on your skin and your weight. There are items on the sidebar about self-care, if I'm not mistaken, and I'd recommen…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 03:31 PM
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I previously believed that men and women took the same basic ideas/tools to learn to be better men and better women...My lofty aim is something like archetypal womanhood and RP is (one of) my tool(s) to figure out how to get there. I assumed that the men's drive towards "Alpha" was in a similar vein. I think what you're describing here could just be reflecting on the fact that there are plenty of people who do not care about self-actualization. I don't know if I would say this is something that …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 09:29 PM
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It makes me wonder if (a lot of) women can't wrap their heads around the anger phase because they haven't experienced anything similar. Women don't have the same experience that men do, so it's natural that the way they use the RP is different. You'll notice that the main goal here in the RPW sub centers around getting the best man a woman can through self-improvement for the purpose of security, resources, raising children, etc. The main goals for men are different than that. In short, men grow…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 08:56 PM
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The problem is, I'm getting really fucking tired of it. To the point that when it happens now, I just stare up at the ceiling while simultaneously clawing at my face and start listing off the pros and cons of being with her. Your frame blows. That's why you get shit tested so much. It is often said on here "Women will never stop shit testing", but is there a point when it moves from shit testing to "this twats broken"? They're all broken. It's not a bug. It's a feature. If you don't like this on…
/r/askMRP28/09/17 06:42 PM
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But my RP gut tells me why does she even entertain it in the first place. The anxiety inherent in being a woman.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 06:41 PM
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You seemed to have failed to have actually read the analysis and/or misunderstood what it was claiming. It spells it out pretty clearly in the abstract: Specifically, fertile women did not especially desire sex in short-term relationships with men purported to be of high genetic quality (i.e., high testosterone, masculinity, dominance, symmetry). Emphasis mine to point out the extremely narrow conditions that were included in the analysis' assertion, which is a small minority of women and a smal…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 06:19 PM
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why are we supposed to accept parts of men's nature I think that it's important for women to accept all of men's nature in the sense that they are accepting the reality of the situation. That doesn't mean they have to approve of it or think that it's ethical or morally right. Related: The "anger phase," as it's called in TRP, is about men coming to understand that they have been lied to about the nature of women for their entire lives. The solution to the "anger phase" is the same type of accept…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 05:02 PM
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I think it's even possible to disagree with men's thought's (or RP theory) and still have it be useful to understand them. This is why RP is amoral (aka: does not include a discussion of morality). It's about understanding how things work and why they happen, not whether they are right or wrong, which is a completely different subject. This is also why the analogy is that the RP is a toolbox full of tools. You learn what tools are available and how they are used so that you can use them (or not …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 04:29 PM
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You can change, but you can't change all at once.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:13 PM
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she was rewarding me for being controllable?? Yes, more or less. is she upping shit tests and rolling them into this huge weeklong shit test to test and verify my new frame? Yes, more or less. whereupon she will eventually have her confidence in me grow while my dread increases? No. They'll never stop completely. You didn't ask, but your frame isn't nearly as strong as you think it is. However, it does seem like you're getting there.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:04 PM
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MrsAA was showing pictures of one of our activities to work colleagues and one photo was of me and a few of her colleagues mentioned her 'hot husband'. This is the true meaning of dread. It's the natural consequence of having a high value and letting pre-selection do its work.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:02 PM
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Why did you marry a drunk slut who cheated on you a year before the wedding? Why do you think a drunk slut who cheated on you a year before the wedding gives a flying fuck about what you want, think or need?
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:01 PM
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For clarity, in this instance, "red pill" is the verb, and "orbiter" is the noun.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:42 PM
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modern science has repeatedly failed to correlate a woman's sexual selection with her ovulation cycle. Your link's claim doesn't fully support your own claim because it only takes into account women who already have attractive partners. For example, UCLA found that partnered women were more likely to find conventionally attractive (ie: genetically promising) men more attractive leading up to ovulation if and only if they didn't find their own partners particularly attractive. A different UCLA st…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 11:57 AM
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I don't have a dog in this fight, so to speak, but I think a lot of the issue I've seen over this is a lack of clarity about what constitutes fundamental RP ideas and what is or is not a part of the fundamental praxeology.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 11:46 AM
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Okay stalker
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:52 PM
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For one sex's sexual strategy to be successful, the other's has to fail. That's a fundamental tenet of red pill theory, and it's the fundamental source of the differences.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:49 PM
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That's not it at all. Refer to: more than 80 percent of women support equal rights between the sexes in the United States, but fewer than 20 percent identify as feminists in the same survey. Unless you're implying that women can't think for themselves and have to follow men's lead on their opinion of feminism, which seems unlikely. Probably because men feel so afraid of that word. All power that women have been given through feminsm has been given to them from men. Men are not afraid of feminism…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:43 PM
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You breaking Reddit's rules by using new accounts to post in subs you have been banned from is none of my business and not at all on-topic. My point is that you’re a nonmonogamous guy- of course you don’t think infidelity is a big deal because you’re on the side that benefits from it. Fidelity is a very big deal to me within the bounds of the agreement of the relationship (such as monogamous marriage), and being non-monogamous has nothing to do with that. With that having been said, it's up to t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:10 PM
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I'd suggest calling it "Own Your Stuff," and the women here might benefit from using Athol Kay's Mindful Attraction Plan (MAP) areas of focus for a starting point for structure.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:52 PM
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No
/r/askMRP27/09/17 04:17 PM
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You're acting appropriately. This is a deal-breaker for most if there's no change.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 02:00 AM
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Get your own checking ASAP Just adding to do this at a different bank.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 01:18 AM
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Yep. Have your upvote. Enjoy getting flamed over this one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:15 AM
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The latter received more attention, because she presented herself as more feminine. No, it was because she presented herself as being more sexually available. Quality vs. quantity of responses is critical there. Lay it on me straight--can I have nerdy tendencies and still be feminine Yes, absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 10:42 PM
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Congrats on using a month-old throwaway account to pursue a weak ad hominem attack. I'm sure that helps OP a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 10:26 PM
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When she gets home from the store I jokingly ask where she dumped the trash. She turns bright red and starts crying and apologizing for being such a worthless disappointment. I take her into my arms and tell her trash is never worth crying over. OP, please read this and have it tattooed into the back of your fucking hands when you're glued to your goddamn phone in bed.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 07:23 PM
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Problem is, I can't really lift due to my situation Are your arms fucking broke too? Most of it was other girls. She would search up my EXes. EVERYDAY. Generally speaking, that's usually a good sign. One that did catch my eye is she looked at one of HER EXes profile and his current GF. This would be pretty bad on its own, but paired with hunting down your ex's, it's not that big of a deal. it's her crying and her saying that she's not good enough for me. Bingo. That's why she was looking up the …
/r/askMRP26/09/17 07:22 PM
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This is a chance for him to practice fogging and broken record... However, ideally he wouldn't have to practice those concepts of assertion. Yeah that's fair. Do this instead, OP.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 05:27 PM
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"Short hair on chicks is ugly." You can't control what she does. You can only control what you do. Unfortunately, you don't have any leverage here, so you can only express your disapproval ONCE (don't keep bringing the shit up, but don't tell her it looks good or any other goofy shit like that) and then go on with improving yourself.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 04:28 PM
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Welcome to RPW. You sound like you have tremendous potential. Stop smoking weed completely. (This is arguably the most important from the list because of how it affects the others and makes you lazy). Never chop all/most of your hair off ever. Your nose and forehead and teeth, as you described them, are minor issues (basically non-issues) compared to your weight. Start working out 3-4 times a week, and make it a lifestyle. Be somewhat mindful of what you eat, but don't starve yourself or worry a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 04:25 PM
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Cheating does not have to be a deal-breaker. Don't let anyone try to bully you into thinking that it should be because you are the person who gets to make your own decisions about your life and your relationship. I have no idea why he did this. I've been a good wife. I maintain my appearance and I've only gained 10lbs. so far during my pregnancy (I'm 26 weeks). I'm kind and attentive to him. I don't nag or criticize him. I honestly have no idea what I did to contribute to his cheating. Wanting t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 02:41 PM
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I understand hypergamy but us men were literally created to fuck and keep fucking and not commitment. Your wording is misguided. Generally speaking with some level of fuzziness, some men were created to fuck, and other men were created for commitment. And women were created to bear children and look for Commitment. You're right, but that doesn't means she was created to get both from the same man. This is the crux of hypergamy. So how come it seems that women have a harder time saying no when a …
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:33 PM
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/u/weakandsensitive is right. He's communicating 100 percent perfectly. The guy is asking for help, and he's giving him the absolute best help possible because he refuses to hold his hand, which is the only way he can let his balls drop and actually learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 09:01 PM
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A few points: Feminism can mean different things to different people. A few years ago, Gallup or a similar level of pollster found that more than 80 percent of women support equal rights between the sexes in the United States, but fewer than 20 percent identify as feminists in the same survey. As a brand, feminism is obviously completely tarnished. The "wave" of feminism you support is largely the disconnect in point #1 above. Third-wave feminism started going off the rails a bit, but fourth-wav…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 08:28 PM
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Put this quote in front of a picture of a man drinking and a woman on the floor obviously in the middle of being beaten, and it shows just how absurd it is. Moreover, getting life advice from a self-professed lifelong slut who died of a pill overdose probably isn't the best idea, but that's common sense.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 08:21 PM
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One problem you're going to have with this topic is that it's a very long-term issue, which is something that RPW doesn't handle often. It's not a weakness of RPW; it's simply because most women end up here because of relatively short-term issues like having trouble dating or having trouble with a particular issue that matters now. The second problem you're going to have with this topic is that the RPW application of red pill principles slants very heavily towards vetting and less heavily toward…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 01:39 PM
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Hi5
/r/askMRP23/09/17 03:38 AM
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I meant there was nothing stopping her from running up her credit cards knowing that he's going to pay them off. I agree completely with what you just said.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 03:09 AM
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My mom told my dad that brother was gay because my brother was afraid to tell him because he's a 100 percent southern redneck for real for real. My dad's response: "No shit. I've known that since he was 11 or 12." Just throwing that out there. Moreover, you're assuming your mom isn't a complete and total fucking idiot.
/r/askTRP22/09/17 08:19 PM
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You should run this by the personalfinance sub with a different screen name and with only a focus on the particulars and no red pill references. You need to make sure that you aren't mistaken about the legalities in terms of marital property, etc. It may depend to some degree on where you live. Legally I will be fine. My wife will be pissed however. If this is true, tough shit for her. If I take 2-3k and just buy the family some stuff we've wanted like a new bedset for the master bedroom, or a f…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 06:21 PM
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Go to the bodyweightfitness fitness sub and do the recommended routine. There are progressions so that you start out at whatever level works for you and build your way up, even if you can't do two push-ups in a row. It's tailor-made for your ass. Also, quit with the fucking excuses. Edit: Nevermind faggot: https://www.reddit.com/r/bodyweightfitness/comments/4vtkp0/afraid_to_gain_muscle/?st=J7USFZ1L&sh=81ffa1ae A fucking year ago you were on that shit posting this: I came to this subreddit becaus…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 12:11 AM
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Anonymity is not possible on Facebook. Sure it is. You can create a fake account on Facebook just as easily as you can create a fake account on just about anything else. They won't stop this doxxing bullshit until it starts ending their careers. That's assuming they have jobs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 08:43 PM
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There's no one to sue. It was all done anonymously.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 07:03 PM
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For the sake of giving you a different way of understanding this concept that I've used with people on the spectrum who had trouble with social cues: Frame is the context of a situation, specifically based on whether you're doing something from a position of strength or a position of weakness. You can do the exact same action and it can be with a strong frame or a weak frame based on if you're doing it from a position of strength or a position of weakness, respectively. A strong frame is proacti…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 04:31 PM
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This is a deal breaker for me personally. No keeping her last name, no hyphenated bullshit, and I don't give a flying fuck what her career is or whatever the fuck else. She has a fucking doctorate, so don't tell me she can't figure out how to manage her career with changing her fucking name.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 04:26 PM
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I have no interest and put in no effort beyond general politeness. Then don't. /thread If I'm thinking in terms of power, dark triad and Machiavellian behavior If you have to try to do this consciously and intentionally, then you shouldn't be doing it. It's tryhard bullshit trying to live in someone else's frame from the start. You're basically trying to circlejerk yourself into some illusion of self-respect because you think you can pull some Machiavellian bullshit to make some girl who already…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 04:17 PM
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Yeah it sucks. I've been doxxed before over posting in RP communities. It didn't impact me in any serious way because I'm self-employed and none of my family members who were contacted on Facebook really cared that I was talking about macking chicks on the Internet, but it made me more careful.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:31 PM
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Yes, it's common. You should generally have a different account just for red pill-related subs. What is up with that? Why do people go search out post histories anyways? As my grandmother would say, "The good lord did not see fit to distribute intelligence evenly."
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:25 PM
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It's one of like a dozen different "flavors" of a relationship based around traditional roles. There's nothing all that special about it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 12:41 AM
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You're just replacing the madonna/whore thing with responsive/spontaneous instead. Yep.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 10:10 PM
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RP seems to assume women are naturally spontaneous but become responsive when their man goes beta and they no longer desire him. Then, when they spot a higher value man who shows IOIs, they become spontaneous again. Ideally this is her husband becoming that higher-value man. Most women (effectively all women) are responsive an overwhelming majority of the time. What you describe here isn't a woman switching to becoming the spontaneous type; what you're describing is that she is responsive to tho…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 10:08 PM
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4 months in I stopped reading there. Just kidding, but I should have. it's obvious she is not attracted to me That's wrong. She's lacking comfort, not attraction. You sound like you're going Rambo aka going too fast with all of the attraction-based shit without allowing comfort to catch up.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:58 AM
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I enjoyed reading your story. I want to offer a few comments that you might find helpful about one particular aspect of it. Then I came across an article Five reason to not date a black girl. As I read through this list I was not offending at all because this wasn't me. The article I assume you're referring to is from Return to Kings that was something along the lines of "five reasons I no longer date black women." This is important because Return of Kings is essentially a clickbait site designe…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:55 AM
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She lied at the very least. If she lied, then that means she's covering some shit up.
/r/askMRP18/09/17 04:23 AM
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You're right I know. but what would the reasons be other than sex? Whatever the man decides. It's his prerogative. And if it's just sex that's not really a reason to marry a woman According to who? On a different note than your gatekeeping comment about what all men should be doing to select partners, why would sharing common interests or hobbies with a woman make her marriage material?
/r/askMRP18/09/17 03:06 AM
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You're trying to put all men in a box to say that they have to have common interests/hobbies with their SO or that they aren't doing it right. That's an incredibly blue pill as fuck type of generalization to make is my point. Each man can have their own reasons for being with their SO, and they don't have to be the same as yours.
/r/askMRP17/09/17 07:37 PM
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Dear Y'all, This unicorn I found has her Ph.D. and everything. Plus she doesn't let anyone know she's seeing me. Is she the one? Sincerely, Some dipshit on reddit
/r/askMRP17/09/17 04:39 PM
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"Men lie the most; women tell the biggest lies." Edit: For context for the retard who was triggered and down-voted me, it's a quote from a semi-famous Chris Rock bit.
/r/askMRP17/09/17 04:35 PM
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if you don't have any common interest or hobbies with your SO wtf is the point of being with her? lol what
/r/askMRP17/09/17 04:34 PM
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I read on other subs that a "fundamental RP view is that women are inferior to men" and that "if you don't believe this, then you're not RP." This is simply not true. From my RP readings, I get more the impression that men and women are just different. Correct. If two things are different, then they aren't equal, but that doesn't mean one is inherently better than the other. If you look on a coordinate plane, you'll see that (1, 2) and (3, -4) are not equal, but one is not "greater than" the oth…
/r/askMRP17/09/17 12:45 PM
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You aren't pissed at her. You're pissed at yourself. She's just a reflection of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/17 12:41 PM
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Being wary of promiscuous partners is not what was being discussed as applying to men. Instead, it was the reasons to be wary of promiscuous partners, of which there are significant reasons to be wary of women in this regard and not so much to be wary of men, as evidenced by mountains of data and relevant studies.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 02:34 AM
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Quality men want capable women, not damsels. Careful. It depends on how you define each.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 08:51 PM
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You said it yourself that it applies to both I just said it applies to women but that it does not apply to men. I'm not sure what your issue is or if your understanding of literally everything in this thread and discussion is off or what, but it's pretty weird. Moreover, one threesome does not match any of the definitions that you just listed.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 06:42 PM
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It could have been like four different things, and the potential bisexual aspect of it is one of those. Moreover, she never said he had a promiscuous past. One threesome doesn't make someone promiscuous. Check her other comments. There's a lot of reasons to be wary of promiscuous partners This applies to women, but not so much to men. Google some articles if you wish to learn more.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 06:37 PM
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I'm not sure what it is you're worried about here.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 03:10 AM
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Low-effort as fuck. Here's a lesson: Women typically require more comfort during the last week of their cycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 06:59 PM
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In no particular order: You've got this girl so far up on a pedestal that she's probably getting fucking nosebleeds. The friend will rat you out to your LTR. That's the wrench in the plan, and if you think the friend won't find out, then you're fucking retarded. None of the rest of it matters.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 06:54 PM
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I skimmed that shit storm. She's not anywhere near as special as you think she is, and that's the crux of your issue. If you can't accept that, you're fucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 06:51 PM
3

Although I would probably benefit from some form of professional help, I have no intention of seeking it out because I am both too prideful and too embarrassed to do so. 99%+ of the time, I would recommend you try to get your shit together yourself. However, I can very strongly say without a doubt that this is the <1% of the time that you desperately need professional help. You aren't up against something that you can beat on your own, and it's not due to any weakness of your own. This is someth…
/r/askMRP14/09/17 04:07 AM
7

Pretty sure this is a fake account.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 12:59 PM
4

I don't know why he initially said I should be with him (other guy) privately Because men are taught from the time that the are born that they are supposed to bend over backwards for whatever women want, etc. I'm glad you got your situation resolved.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 12:56 PM
1

I miss the old community where there weren't as many try-hards. It felt like healthy discussion instead of cringey shit Absolutely. I don't even go into the main TRP sub because of that sort of thing. I think the married sub is interesting for what it is because they have a much better noise to signal ratio, but it's still based on the premise of finding themselves in a shitty situation and then doing the best they can with it. I'm a MGTOW now though, dating feels forced and like a job interview…
/r/MGTOW13/09/17 05:30 AM
2

100 percent agree. I actually wrote a long comment about this a few days ago in a different sub that talked about my experience on the 'then' vs. 'now' of it. https://np.reddit.com/r/selfimprovement/comments/6yo3xp/39m_im_a_misogynist_a_bit_of_a_misanthrope_and/dmp0jv5/
/r/MGTOW13/09/17 04:19 AM
1

The standard reasoning is, MGTOW is all incels, who cannot get girls, so they're psychologically compensating for not being able to get girls, by pretending to reject them. Right. That's more or less what this person said, and I more or less laughed in their face. The conversation centered around Reddit specifically, and I knew how TRP had changed in a similar amount of time, so it seemed reasonable to ask in case I'd missed the boat on that too.
/r/MGTOW13/09/17 03:10 AM
1

Okay that's what I thought. I figured I'd ask since it came up in conversation with someone IRL, I gave a description that was virtually the same as what you said, but this person insisted I was wrong. I thought I'd check it out at the source in case I'd missed something. Thanks for the response.
/r/MGTOW13/09/17 03:03 AM
2

My question is, if I recognize an IOI and my wife is not present, should I tell her? No. I know that the impact will be far greater when they happen in front of her, but until I get my game/frame on point, should I tell her about them, or does that seem beta/desperate for attention? Doing this will hurt you instead of helping you. It will be a net loss, not a net gain.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 06:47 PM
2

So how do you rely on your partners for emotional support when you are really depressed or unhappy with your selves without being needy? Having needs is not the same thing as being needy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 06:45 PM
2

There's the simpler explanation that she thinks it's hot.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 01:11 AM
1

I strongly disagree. A good and fairly recent discussion happens in Rollo's Competency post: A comfort test, and I would include complaining and nagging in this, is rooted in a woman’s Hypergamous need of certainty and consistency in provisioning. From: https://therationalmale.com/2017/06/30/competency
/r/askTRP11/09/17 01:07 AM
1

Do a quick Google search of "red pill comfort test" without the quotes. There's a lot of really good information in the first page or so of results. I couldn't really do it justice in just a paragraph or two.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:50 PM
1

You wouldn't want her talking about her ex all the time either.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:48 PM
1

I'm, simply put, terrified to go say hi to a woman. Go do the 100 approaches in a week thing, and you'll solve that shit real quick.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:18 PM
2

what are ways of dealing with this? Like just douche things I can say to get a rise out of her when she tries to talk to me, stuff that says I'm done with this shit suck my cock. Don't do anything of the sort. You are not in the friend zone because of her. You are in the friend zone because of you. Do not lash out at her because of your own shortcomings. That's weak as fuck. Just stop talking to her.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:16 PM
1

Make sure you're doing different curl variations, especially hammer curls. Cramps can be a sign of dehydration, or it could just be because you've been beating your meat too much with that hand and it's tired. Do some stretching for that hand and forearm ahead of time and a little between sets and see how that does.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:15 PM
1

Maybe. Try #2 for like a year first. Asperger's and adult ADHD here. Plow through the sidebar and just work on yourself. A lot of it will straighten itself out as you learn to adapt.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:12 PM
1

How to play power games with roomates. I didn't read any further than this initially. First off, learn to fucking spell. Second, anyone who is asking "how to play power games" almost certainly needs to grow the fuck up. Let's see what immature bullshit you spout off in your actual post. is financially independent living with four other people. Funny definition of financially independent considering if you didn't have those other four people splitting bills with you that you'd be fucked. i give o…
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:09 PM
1

If you like it in the ass, you like it in the ass. Nothing wrong with liking it in the ass in and of itself. You just have to pay attention to frame and if it's going to fuck with how she sees you (if that's something you're concerned about).
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:05 PM
1

Step 1: Get a girl who likes girls. Step 2: Get a girl who likes watching you fuck other girls. Step 3: Fuck other girls together.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:04 PM
2

In conclusion, both parties should cheat. This assumes it's in someone's best interest to cheat and that they will act rationally about that, the former of which is not true for a woman with a high-value man, and the latter of which is laughable. sex IS trivial. This part is also wrong. And like I said, the community appears torn over this issue. You said this in a comment, which is also wrong.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:03 PM
1

The punchline is a reference to Geico car commercials. They've spammed that saying for like a decade or some shit in really bad dad joke style commercials. The routine is fine if you have a good frame and can be funny. It's going to bomb like Hiroshima if you can't do both.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 08:01 PM
1

-should this really bother me? No. Why the fuck should it? I'm completely lost on what the problem is here. -should I ask her why she never told me? I don't understand. You literally just said that she told you. To directly quote you: "She told me that her ex lives on the street we just passed." -should I get over it and move on with the relationship? I am so confused. What is there to get over?
/r/askTRP10/09/17 07:57 PM
2

Idk who RSDBob or whoever the fuck these people are, but you have to develop your own game based on sound principles instead of trying to copy someone else.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 07:55 PM
2

" I'm not gonna send you any because you problably already get hundreds" That's a comfort test.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 07:53 PM
1

It depends if you're talking about basic RP theory or the general culture of the TRP sub, which have some overlap but are largely different.
/r/askTRP10/09/17 06:52 PM
1

It happens. I don't really give a fuck.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 04:05 AM
2

It's all good. She can probably piss standing up without making a mess too.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 01:57 AM
12

I don't disagree, but I'd like to add that if she wanted to have sex with another man so badly that it would cause resentment, then they have other major issues in the marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 07:09 PM
2

I'll PM you to avoid hijacking the thread.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 05:18 PM
1

If you can do so while holding frame and complete control of the situation, then it can be beneficial to do so for your SO and for the relationship. There's a lot of room to screw this up, however, so be careful when playing with fire.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 04:43 PM
5

In most cases with few exceptions, it's not in the woman's best interest to let this go on, which is why RPW's stance is strongly against it. I don't personally disagree. Full disclosure: My post history will show that I have two long-term, committed relationships with two women who live with me. My situation is a very serious and rare exception, and I do not at all recommend anyone try to emulate it. It's fairly common for a woman to feel okay or even positive about the man she's with having se…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 04:40 PM
9

Your wife can't read your mind. Set a boundary like a man instead of running off somewhere else and hiding from your wife.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 02:16 PM
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Your husband doesn't want to see you having sex with another man because he doesn't want you to have sex with another man. That should be the end of that discussion. As for bringing other women into the situation, that depends on how you feel about it. Yes, it can be done in a healthy way that is compatible with RP values. No, the absolute vast majority of men, women and couples are not capable of handling it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 02:00 PM
2

We don't have nearly enough information about you, your wife or your relationship to give you a detailed answer on this.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 01:23 PM
6

This is absolutely terrible advice that is not compatible with the tenets of RPW on any level.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 12:29 AM
42

If he asks should I be honest or tell him it doesn't matter? Absolutely. Why would you lie about something like this to someone you want to have a long-term relationship with? That is not being a high-quality woman. I'm afraid that who I was in the past will change his opinion of who I am now. Your actions have consequences, even if those actions were in the past. You have to be a woman about it and not think you can lie your way out of anything uncomfortable. It's absolutely not worth the risk …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 12:28 AM
2

She doesn't like it. She probably feels super guilty about it, and that's why she puts on the act about why she can't get to it this time. Ask her about it, but make sure you give her an out to admit that she doesn't like it without feeling guilty. Use something like, "Hey, do your breakfast smoothies suck? It's okay if they do. Just let me know, and we can figure something else out. I don't want my wife going hungry in the mornings." Some chicks have it in their head that doing better for thems…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:54 PM
1

You should make a new post and include all of this. I was about to write you off as a dumbass retard just based on your post, but you need to include these other situations because they are really important and give you legitimate reasons to be considering divorce.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:46 PM
2

I get the idea. You're using self-talk to keep yourself present in the moment. That's completely fine. Just after I'd finished washing the breakfast dishes the question of "What would Chad do?" popped into my mind. Well the answer to that is very fucking clear. The problem is that you need to adjust the question that you're asking. Your idea of "Chad" isn't who you want to be in the first place. You're dangerously close to using this as an excuse to go Red Pill Rambo. Your real question has noth…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:44 PM
10

It just depends on the context. Your two most basic options are going to be to either be comforting or pick on her, and you have to pick which of those you do based on the situation. How you go about either completely depends on the nature of your relationship. Comforting: Daddy misses you too. a heart emoji You're a sweetheart. Picking on her: You should. Duh. I miss your tits. You also have a third option, which is an advanced form of comfort, where you ask her to elaborate. It's best for when…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:40 PM
4

if you notice your LTR/Wife lying or making bullshit excuses, no matter the size, do you confront her on her bullshit? I'm not sure what you think "confronting her" would accomplish. Moreover, you'd need to provide more information about your relationship and general sex life for anyone to give you anything beyond basic advice. Spoiler alert: In 99.99 percent of scenarios, "confronting her" will accomplish absolutely nothing. Maybe she was constipated, maybe she didn't feel good, maybe she just …
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:35 PM
2

Honestly, our relationship is great otherwise. I just want to point out that if your sex life is crap, then your relationship is barely holding itself together, regardless of whether he acts otherwise. Don't fool yourself. He'll hide how he really feels (resentful, etc.) to protect your feelings because he cares about you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 06:19 PM
2

You'll look retarded? There you go starting your thought process with what she's thinking and feeling again. Weak-ass frame.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:21 PM
3

Regarding frame: Why do you need to give an answer? Why does it matter how she acts about it? Why are you using her feelings as the starting point of your though process? You're reacting to her feelings as if they are the most important thing in the world.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 03:09 PM
3

Your actions aren't what determines frame. You are super reactive to her instead of proactive. You're using her feelings as your mental point of origin, etc.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:00 PM
2

We'd probably need more context on how she normally acts. This could have been a shit test or a comfort test. That's most of the reason why you're getting conflicting answers. With that having been said, your frame is absolute shit.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:57 PM
1

It depends on the situation. This is why you have to learn the difference between comfort tests and shit tests.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:48 PM
1

I agree with most, if not all, of your post. It's a good reminder of things women can bet for. With that having been said, it's very focused on what men should be doing for women, which isn't very actionable. A woman has to earn a man who will lead her, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:35 PM
1

If you use two line breaks between paragraphs, then it will space them out "properly." It's one of the quirks of Reddit formatting.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:31 PM
3

You're overthinking this by about 100 miles. she's probably going to think I had a covert contract planned all along Why in the fuck would she think that? Why is that more likely than her just thinking you want to go hang out with your friends? You're psyching yourself out for no reason.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 04:52 AM
5

Do not say a single fucking word to her about this. If you do, then you are absolutely, 100 percent fucked. Instead, gather evidence and prepare an exceptionally strong case in case you do have to head down the divorce route.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 04:51 AM
4

Correlation is not causation. It makes sense that people who have better self control go to the gym more often. Going to the gym does not necessarily mean it will give you more self control in and of itself. Work out and take care of yourself anyway, but let's not get suckered into bad assumptions.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 04:49 AM
3

+1 to this
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 01:16 AM
6

I strongly recommend /r/personalfinance
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 10:13 PM
11

For a man in this type of situation, cheating is basically when he sneaks around and puts a ton of effort into you not finding out what he's doing so that he can protect your feelings about trying to find some happiness for himself. But I'm not sure if I should stay or go. It's pretty obvious that you should stay and get your act together. This is the most salvageable cheating situation you're ever going to find.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 03:54 PM
3

Then I dry hump the ottoman while R. Kelly plays in the background. This is the remix edition Of a song about pissin
/r/askMRP05/09/17 01:08 PM
6

First off, this belongs in the asktrp sub. Second, you should read "No More Mr. Nice Guy." It's a pretty quick book to read, and it'll give you the information you need to know to make a decision. Feel free to PM me with other questions or links to future threads.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 03:22 AM
5

I got over all of this pretty quickly, but a few things: Knowing that I'd done the best I could with the information that I had been given but that it was the wrong information, so I was sabotaged from the start. The same as #1 except for my dad having gone through a tremendous, several-decade shit show with my mom and knowing that he was also sabotaged from the start.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:26 PM
29

It's a simple covert contract, and it makes you look weak. Moreover: She proceeded to cancel her night out with the girls and blamed me. That's what you acted like you wanted. You got it, and then you bitched.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:30 AM
1

Just go ahead and do it.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:19 AM
60

"How do I owe you!?" She's right. You're wrong. Stop looking for a "thank you" for doing shit you're supposed to do anyway.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:18 AM
48

I'm afraid that the root issue is he doesn't respect me. That's overwhelmingly jumping the gun if all you've got is that he forgot a date (which you said was not like him at all) and a gag gift designed to make you laugh that didn't go over well because you're overly sensitive.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/17 09:29 PM
1

You have to take into account who his audience was and what the culture was like at the time as well. Most of these people in the target audience had no "soft" people skills at all.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 04:03 PM
2

I know you think that, but you're a bit off on how things work.
/r/askTRP03/09/17 03:35 PM
1

Hey you're hot. Put your number in my phone.
/r/askTRP03/09/17 03:14 PM
1

I'm starting to think height is the only thing that matters. No, your complete lack of game is what matters. Meta: What is it with these motherfuckers picking out one thing they think is wrong with them and thinking that attraction is suddenly all about that one thing?
/r/askTRP03/09/17 03:13 PM
4

My problem is no matter what i do i feel always inferior compared to most other man. This is a frame issue. My skull structure is something i cant change and it drives me crazy. Virtually every single man has things about them that they can't change that would make them more attractive. You don't get any gains by giving a shit about that though. Also, you said "thin skull" more times in this one post than I've ever heard used in my 30+ years on this planet combined. You have a very unhealthy obs…
/r/askTRP03/09/17 03:10 PM
1

Figure out what it is that you're afraid of.
/r/askTRP03/09/17 03:08 PM
1

It's the same reason they are generally not accepted in general on Reddit: NoFap's demographic isn't any different than that of the rest of the site.
/r/askTRP03/09/17 03:07 PM
3

It's one tool in your toolbox. You don't use it for everything for the same reason you don't use a hammer when you need a screwdriver. The sidebar assumes you learn how to use the right tool at the right time.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 03:06 PM
1

Before today I would've just got someone out to fix the dishwasher. There's nothing wrong with doing that as long as you're handling it and making sure it gets fixed. If you can fix it, then cool, but if you can't, it's not some "beta move" to call someone who can. "if you need stuff fixed, ask me. Don't do it yourself". This is important, and you need to make sure you understand the reason why she was in there trying to fix it herself. Had it been broken for a while? Did you know it was broken?…
/r/askMRP03/09/17 12:34 PM
2

You don't know what you don't know, but there's nothing any of us can tell you that you'll listen to. If she wanted to fuck you, she would have. She clearly didn't. I know that breaks up your little fantasy of you being more than a beta orbiter to this whore friend of yours, but it is what it is. Now you can either go cry in the dark about it, or you can act like a fucking man. So far, shit isn't looking so good. Goddamn, what would your wife and kids think if they knew you were crying in the da…
/r/askMRP03/09/17 12:00 AM
4

Not through lack of attraction, through the fact she didn't want to be a home wrecker and ruin her own LTR of 10 yrs. It was because of a lack of attraction. She just told you the rest to try to avoid making things awkward with someone she has to be around at work. My conscious mind tells me "what the fuck are you doing? You're about to blow up everything you have worked for over some fucking chick who probably doesn't love you and who you've never even fucked". Yeah, it's pretty bad. You really…
/r/askMRP02/09/17 02:27 PM
5

Her: You're gonna be good right 😉 (time passes) Her: Oh no, no answer. You're going out to pick up chicks aren't you 😉 This is a comfort test. Me: I was trying to think of a suitable response 😅 This is kind of awkward. Me: I'll just leave you with this tweet from @blacklabellogic "anything a woman accuses you of thinking about doing, she has usually already done, multiple times." 😅 This is cringe incarnate.
/r/askMRP02/09/17 02:21 PM
3

wat
/r/askTRP02/09/17 03:32 AM
3

It won't. If it did, nothing would happen.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 03:30 AM
2

Alpha females do not exist.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 03:30 AM
7

i don't want to have to care about what people think of me Then don't. That's the source of frame. Take that and add a tremendous amount of self-discipline, and you'll be a fucking beast.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 03:29 AM
1

No.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 09:14 PM
1

Who cares? Fuck her again if you're both down. Nobody gives a shit. If not, just pretend it didn't happen. No big deal either way.
/r/askTRP01/09/17 06:23 PM
1

How to Win Friends and Influence People (there's a good Wikipedia entry that breaks down the sections of the book)
/r/askMRP01/09/17 01:06 PM
4

"Put your iron hand in a velvet glove." ― Napoléon Bonaparte You have to handle your communication with some degree of finesse. I thought my statement was a simple fact stated plainly. It was, but there are other ways to state simple facts plainly that won't make you sound like an inconsiderate, incompetent robot. Telling her what time you need to leave instead of leaving it to her to figure out would have helped with this.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:51 PM
1

Congrats on losing the weight that you have lost so far, but you're still a fatass. That's a big part of the problem. I saw in your comments that you aren't working on that anymore. That's a good place to start, and you're going to have a low ceiling to how good things can get until you get back on the ball. I was always told that if I was a nice person, women would see me for who I was and like me. You have two choices: Do what will make other people like you. Do what will help you gain ground …
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:56 AM
20

Yes, you have permission from the Internet to skip your workouts. You also have permission from the Internet to be a total pussy and never put yourself as a priority over anything else ever in life.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:51 AM
2

All kinds of people in this thread that need an anatomy lesson or some shit. It's no wonder so many men get trapped in pregnancies.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:49 AM
3

Third, why haven't you told her about getting a vasectomy? You didn't answer my question, and none of what you said excuses not telling her yet. My point is that you are complaining about her bad communication, but you're illustrating bad communication as well.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:47 AM
2

I'm not sure what kind of virgin dipshit wrote that, but that is not the case at all, and the site as a whole is spammy as fuck, so I surely hope you aren't getting health advice from websites like that lol
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:45 AM
5

she starts bringing up the sperm in my natural lubricant. First off, men don't have natural lubricant. If you're talking about precum, then okay, but that's not natural lubricant. Second, you just acted like you don't care if she gets pregnant at least like four times, but now you don't understand why she didn't tell you that she missed her pill and that she was ovulating. That doesn't make any sense. Third, why haven't you told her about getting a vasectomy? There's not really any valid reason …
/r/askMRP01/09/17 04:42 AM
1

Frame in a nutshell: You're being reactive to her freak outs instead of being proactive about your goal. Your goal should have been to find her shoes and go to dinner. Unless an emergency or something comes up, you should stick to that. You let a pissed off woman keep you from what you were trying to do. The men who built civilization didn't let a whiny woman get in the way. Ease into all of this instead of jumping into the deep end at once. Your sanity and your marriage will thank you.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 03:23 AM
5

She sooked to me i wasn't affectionate enough when i was shaving. I think you're drastically over-complicating this. In your quote here, she literally whined for more affection, and you responded by not giving it to her. You're not describing a standoff anywhere but in your head. Just go kiss your wife, and then go do some cool man shit. She's just a girl. You don't have to be afraid of her.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 03:22 AM
4

We 'touched cheeks' but did not kiss - excusable due to the shaving. In good IDGAF mentality, i let it go What is there to "let go?" We basically create a 'stand-off' for contact and affection. I most often give in (not cave in) and just make the bridge, and often this ends the stand-off. It's not "giving in" to go get what you want. She's waiting for you to finish shaving. Let her know you're finished shaving by going to kiss your wife. I mean what do you want her to do to show affection there?…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 03:11 AM
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