noob question long shit test?

ReddJive · 2017-09-28T13:27:37+00:00

I am owning my shit.

No you're not. I'll explain why.

is she upping shit tests and rolling them into this huge weeklong shit test to test and verify my new frame?

Kind of. Yes? Really shes looking for her beta. For you it's becasue you are a beta fuck. She knows it and is hammering you. Your idea of Frame is to STFU until things blow over. Shit test will never EVER EVER end. But they will change tone and they will become more humorous as she enters your frame. They become fun.

whereupon she will eventually have her confidence in me grow while my dread increases?

Ok so....I am not a big believer in the dread to get ahead concept. I am, but I am not. First and foremost let me make clear that Dread is the right path. The right construct, I am NOT advocating for its removal. It's a fantastic method to organize your process BUT you young alphas always equate to leveling up dread like in some real-life video game. Like each level is some sort of achievement. That Dread Level 4 means I get this or that. It's like you are all a bunch of McDojos out there self-promoting to your next belt rank.

Think of dread more of an azimuth check on your path to enlightenment. Not as some sort Call of Duty achievement. No amount of dread leveling, denying, crying, or bitching about women will change what is happening. Better still dread won't change something you didn’t want to happen into what you wanted to happen because you worked so damn hard for it...none of this matters. What matters is that what’s in front of you is in front of you.

or am I being dumb and not being passionate and romantic enough? not gaming her enough? our schedules have been really busy lately. I have tried engaging in evenings but hard no is hard no. I recognize soft nos.

and here we have it. True admission that really you aren't doing what needs to be done. You are still playing at it. She is a reflection of you. What's happening is the reality you created. Instead of avoiding by adding to your activities and hiding. Take control of your situation. SHOW...and I mean SHOW her that her antics are really amusing little girl shit. SHOW her that the emotional turmoil she has going is really bullshit.

Life isn't this hard, gentlemen. The barbarians are not at the gates. There is food in the refrigerator. The sun will rise.

Persaeus · 2017-09-28T13:42:38+00:00

I do enjoy a couple glasses of wine most nights

slight buzz needed most nights to cope? your frame is showing.

CapNGrind · 2017-09-28T14:04:33+00:00

she was rewarding me for being controllable??

Yes, more or less.

is she upping shit tests and rolling them into this huge weeklong shit test to test and verify my new frame?

Yes, more or less.

whereupon she will eventually have her confidence in me grow while my dread increases?

No. They'll never stop completely.

You didn't ask, but your frame isn't nearly as strong as you think it is. However, it does seem like you're getting there.

Scurvemuch · 2017-09-28T15:15:17+00:00

she isnt doing anything with any intent. She is reacting to you changing your behavior.

I would too

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-09-28T16:29:19+00:00

13%BF, train every day in BJJ and MMA.

So you're bad ass enough to push her up against the wall and finger fuck her, or throw her over your shoulder and onto the bed and drive your cock into her like a railroad spike with a sledgehammer.

Great. You body is NOT the problem,

You're MIND IS the problem.

Start here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_for_beginners_to_mrp/

Read this, word for word, from the beginning.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/

Pick the dread level you think you are, note it.

Now, go back to the beginner tab, pick your drunk Captain, and write down all the reading.

Next, go to the WIKI and write down those reading assignments.

Then, write down each of the reading assignments from the dread levels, in order, as presented.

Start checking off all the things you have read. Wherever you skipped something is where you are.

I'm guessing that physically you are operating around DL 5-6, but MENTALLY you are probably somewhere between beginning shit and DL1, with a shotgun approach to the reading.

Your frame, what you use to deal with her emotional daily dose of bullshit, is created in your mind by the reading.

You are going too fast, and you haven't read enough along the way to know that when you go too fast her shit tests increase dramatically. OTOH, there will be a point where she will have to acknowledge you as Captain and her hamster may trigger a main event. This is often avoidable if you don't skip shit and take the time to do it right.

The advice you are getting is not based 100% on personal experience in every answer, although there is a lot of that evident, but rather the majority of the answers are from those who have DONE THE READING and applied it in their own situations.

You can impress me with the complete and exhaustive list of everything you've read, to which I'll only tell you to read it again. Only idiot savants are capable of 100% retention the first time through, and then only in limited subjects.

So back to the grind, back to all that boring shit you don't see the point in, that has no immediately identifiable benefit.

I look forward to an awesome FR from you in 4-5 months about how totally fucking awesome all this shit is.

Edit: it's like going to class and studying for the final from the very first day, ignoring the quizzes and tests along the way. It's not enough to pass just the final. You don't pass if you don't do it all.

Go back and pick up the shit you skipped, and give yourself, and your wife, a little time for this shit to work.

Countpudyoola · 2017-09-28T13:13:51+00:00

is she upping shit tests and rolling them into this huge weeklong shit test to test and verify my new frame

Maybe.

Doesn't sound like you are having that much trouble, and you always expect some push back when you start upping your game.

Certain aspects seem to garner certain tests. Nothing looks too out of place... keep on keeping on.

Hard no? O.I., non butthurt. Doesn't matter the frequency. Just make sure to always make sure it's not LMR. As it's easy to start taking less as a hard no.

If she was using the P on starfish chore days as a control measure, all you are doing now is enforcing that it's lost it's hold. But really I wouldn't go down this rabbit hole as it gets your too into her frame and thought process. Just do you and keep on improvements and working up the D.L. until you reach where you want to get.

Title	noob question long shit test?
Author	savoyshopper
Upvotes	1
Comments	23
Date	September 28, 2017 1:01 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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