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Well tbh brother I do get where youre coming from, not much in terms of results but you shouldnt necessarily stop using it because of lesser results, I get get a few good 'uns on there from time to time. personally I can't give a girl a rating, she has to earn the right to one, because face value she could be something like a 8.5 but when she starts talking about carving up cats and sacrificing them to cthulu then that motherfucker goes right down to a 1. Last point though is incredibly on point…
/r/seduction14/02/17 10:17 AM
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You feel as though the principles are hard to be put into action? Please, tell us what makes them difficult for you?
/r/seduction06/01/17 12:28 AM
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To the masses who aren't in college/university. JOIN SOMETHING! seriously, we have meetup.com and the internet to find places where people do things you like or may be interested in. doesn't have to be in college.
/r/seduction04/01/17 07:55 PM
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Girl I met said I had to have a first date with her, ended up fucking not 20 minutes after a coffee date. It's a way to protect themeselves, which is all good, good on her for that.
/r/seduction01/01/17 03:13 AM
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Why care so much about what others thought or do think about you, that's a more lonesome road than the obvious, notgive a shit what they think. I'm not saying do not sympathise or relate to others, but shit. being an asshole is perspective. Some degree of asshole is different from another. Besides, what matters is you are aware that you behaved in a way that wasn't congruent to how you want to be, and that you want to be. why not drop your guard? surely that's a level of abundance, you are that …
/r/seduction01/01/17 03:09 AM
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meh, meditation is great, but it's very surprising how many people won't do it because they don't have time. how about the time before bed? or whilst your'e at worship? perhaps on the commute to work? (pls don't do this in a car that you are driving in, that is fucking insane) You do genuinely feel unburdened, light headed. Damn, I remember when I did a 25 minute session way longer than usual and I felt so damn trippy. it's amazing, there is LITERAL PRESSURE on you being released.
/r/seduction24/12/16 01:37 AM
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Yeah dude, some guys are real asshats, but don't fret too much, they're doing 100% of the fretting in their own heads because they have their own spiral to deal with. Had it myself before, luckily I had some bro's in the club to back me before anything escalated. best thing to do is just keep clear of the shit after the fact, your not a pussy by doing this, you are more of a man to know you are the shit and can walk away from dickheads like that. Keep going dude, you can put this shit behind you…
/r/seduction24/12/16 01:25 AM
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a lot of game is just inner confidence, been able to be nonchalant. In fact this not only helps you move on from failing sets but at times can recover a set, as you aren't bothered by the outcome. very little is technique. It's frustrating as hell but perhaps you need to look a little bit deeper. because are you learning something from each approach? In one of my previous posts, I mentioned that when I was approaching, I was not smiling, as soon as I amended it, I was receiving better results. O…
/r/seduction23/12/16 01:32 AM
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Only have ONE book that encompasses game, and everybody and their mums are gonna say, Models by Mark Manson. Other than that you should get to practicing my friend. books are a starting point, you must take action. primary paradigm shift is that field experience is king. Recommended reading: Dale carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People (take with a pinch of salt, works on the layer of a personality ethic, but it only becomes truly effective once your character ethic is congruent with …
/r/seduction22/12/16 01:56 PM
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Hey man, stop getting so upset about the failures. masters of an art or a science of failed thousands of times before you have even tried. In fact, the reason your a master is because you don't need to learn anything new, you understand and can put what you know to practice and yield effective results consistently. But you WANT TO LEARN more because you enjoy it and ultimately the process. Love this process. In essense failing in game can be quite fun, even when you get the extreme responses bec…
/r/seduction22/12/16 12:18 PM
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proud of you ma man! making some damn progress!!
/r/seduction22/12/16 11:33 AM
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If she gets you a chub on, and she wants to ride the great stallion of the world then by all means enjoy. If not don't not that hard really (pun intended)
/r/seduction22/12/16 12:34 AM
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really doesnt matter my friend, well this in itself is a half truth. Because if you said "oh I do love me the taste of a medium rare llama anus" then of course you are gonna get the "wtf?" response and quite possibly on the more extreme side if you aren't comfortable to begin with. (quite possibly is an understatement its more than very likely that you would get a negative response, well actually I don't know, somebody test this shit!) But in essence, saying "Hi" is enough to open, provided you …
/r/seduction22/12/16 12:31 AM
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foreplay. foreplay. and build tension. you'll get better by paying close attention to how she responds, to the point you know when to give it good and when to tease. get this and you will have some amazing sex. Get a FWB or girlfriend that will get you good.
/r/seduction21/12/16 11:03 PM
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The compliments are gonna be implemented soon, I'm going to use some sort of overlaying system so that things that I did in the last seession will be done as a warmup to get me started on the more difficult.
/r/seduction21/12/16 08:03 PM
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Shit... Now I see that confidence isn't binary, it varies. I have always kind of resonated that you just become confident, but its a work in progress THANKS BRO!
/r/seduction21/12/16 12:22 AM
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I don't worry about my mood, provided I remain congruent with it, you can feel lower in energy most certainly, but shouldn't stop you from being a good person. I myself am never full steam all the time, despite being hyperactive a majority of the time but keep a good mind set
/r/seduction18/12/16 07:13 PM
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This sounds like something RSDtyler would say out of jest and him doing some weird voice and doing some air masturbation saying "tomorrow will be another day"
/r/seduction16/12/16 02:18 PM
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well it depends, if you just say hi then its not so bad, if you open with "I'm gonna lube you up so bad your gonna be my dick's slip and slide"actually that was quite funny for me hahaha but yeah. it's not a big deal dude, I tell myself this all the time. it is basically as creepy as you let it be.
/r/seduction15/12/16 11:25 PM
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That be true bud hahaha, but they got too. I couldn't really say where you are going wrong without FR's but from what you said in the original comment and what you have said right now screams outcome dependence, lower the bar for yourself man! the worse they can say is "fuck off!" or slap you and that's the least likely to happen really.
/r/seduction15/12/16 02:24 AM
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Props dude for actually admitting this to yourself, that can actually get you somewhere, unfortunately we can't help your situation, only you can. It seems harsh to say but fuck, it's the truth and I don't lie. We can give you some advice or support but it's up to you to make these fundamental changes. This is basically what social conditioning does to a lot of people, and it's not pretty, but you can break it, but it takes a lot of effort and some time. How much? fuck knows. It takes a lot of i…
/r/seduction15/12/16 02:21 AM
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I wouldn't get too flustered about it, I guess you do better at night? I myself don't do much nightgame, it's very rare I do, but I have found some successes with daygame, insta dates, number closes. Once I find the balls to approach that is.
/r/seduction15/12/16 02:06 AM
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As TurnuptheSun said, there is no getting over AA, just a way of dealing with it. I have found the methods he suggests to be ineffective for me, social conditioning has got me by the balls in this regard. In a nutshell (pun absolutely intended) I have set the bar high for myself and it makes it that much more challenging in my head. Manson suggests to start off small, and still use high volume ask for the time, directions and then build your way up to the point you just go out right and tell the…
/r/seduction15/12/16 02:03 AM
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You have literally answered all of your questions... A) say no or propose to help her instead B)Leave the friendzone, by leaving C) It's another complex human being with a variety of different emotions and feelings that differ depending on an impossible amount of factors, Do A and B and find out. You are just outcome dependent bro, just drop it for one second and do all the things you said. In person preferably.
/r/seduction15/12/16 01:54 AM
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Is this the first time you have done daygame?
/r/seduction15/12/16 01:51 AM
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Unknown is something we are hardwired to try and understand, but let go of that idea. and I;m glad you are seeing where you lie in terms of your own issues! See if these behaviours are relatable to you now, and just keep working on them.
/r/seduction14/12/16 09:25 PM
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Oooh one detail I forgot to mention, I NEVER MADE THE EFFORT TO CONTACT HER. she came back to me, EVERY SINGLE TIME. I can tell you for why she has you in this fluster, pedestal. still putting her in comparison to other women. I know, because I did it and still do from time to time, depending on how I feel about myself, incidently when I'm lower in self-esteem. I'm not saying you should never go back, but at least let her come to you or you just so happen to bump into one another (usually that's…
/r/seduction14/12/16 09:07 PM
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can confirm by the test, I'm the ENFP type, a rare breed of fuckwits who are diplomatic and social creatures that sums me up to a T to be honest. It describes my strategy as a people master makes sense when I'm not too deep in my head (another trait of mine), I am actually very good with people and women! when I am though, I can be very impractical and get stressed out when over analysing. Luckily I have the energy and the ability to find any reason to be happy. Thanks dude, I'll see if this kno…
/r/seduction14/12/16 07:31 PM
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Broke up with my ex too and we got back together... about 3 or 4 times its all one massive blur to be honest. haven't heard from her in over three months. Am I tempted to text? Check on her social media? do the creepy go over to her house and profess my love for her cliche? yes. Yet I haven't because I KNOW that she is not the only girl out there, not the same girl I was in love with! Besides, she broke it off with you my friend, the ball is in her court, and that's cool! you can carry on doing …
/r/seduction14/12/16 07:06 PM
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One thing I can say is at least you are taking responsibility, don't think of this as 'blame'. You are responsible for your own actions and you shouldn't really care about the outcome, as you will act on the fact when it comes. First off, do you like being a 'nerd' if you do embrace what it encompasses. If it's awesome to you that's what matters, not what I or anybody else thinks (btw it is awesome, I am a comic book, video game, movie nerd). You kind of want to avoid swatting at the leaves of t…
/r/seduction12/12/16 04:23 PM
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Bro, you are seriously a bro! wanting your friends to succeed. There isn't anything you can do, it's what he can do for himself. it's apparent a paradigm shift is what is in order. Perhaps show him Yad from daygame.com, Luke from RSD fuck it Tyler too. proof over promises perhaps? I once saw a video where a PUA had dressed up as a nerdy guy and still pulled, perhaps you could dress down yourself and show him that it's still possible? that's the ideas off the top of my head bud.
/r/seduction11/12/16 04:26 PM
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You seem to be in a state of neediness still, it's like you are doing things in the attempt to make women more attracted to you, why not attract yourself? You don't have to do any of these things to get women, be confident within yourself. Women are the icing on the cake my friend. I'd rather sleep with just one girl and be completely satisfied with myself and strive to be better (not out of necessity but because I want to) than to fuck 100's of girls and be down and depressed. Work on you broth…
/r/seduction11/12/16 04:20 PM
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precisiely! Who cares, as a lot of guys agree, you would be wasting a lot of potential sets if you focus on ioi's alone. I mean I'm still newbie, and I know if I start looking for them, it gives me the excuse not to. it's better to get into the habit of not caring about them. and when you take on the "assume attraction" mindset, you are adding to their life anyway and there lives if at least there day would be a lot better with you there :) Just keep going buddy.
/r/seduction10/12/16 11:38 PM
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Well I have always been less egotistical by simply being rejected, it should never enforce it. Unless, there is some negative thought patterns that make you think rejection is a bad thing. You reject ideas, opinions, techniques all the time, so why can't a lot of 'no's' here and there effect you? I find that rejection sets the bar low, you get a numbness to it and you stop caring because, well it's happened that much it's almost expected. Can't expect everybody to love you. Love the rejection, i…
/r/seduction09/12/16 12:42 PM
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actually, that's normal dude. just carry on as normal, and the fact its making you feel all shitty might be showing so they just up and leave, perhaps anyways. What I can only suggest is carry on having a conversation the same way you would with a girl who hadn't noticed you before the approach.
/r/seduction09/12/16 12:38 PM
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Dome compression
/r/seduction07/12/16 11:48 PM
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You answered your own question brother, you've got some ideas on what to do next time. Crash and burn!!! We cant give you that one line or technique that will not offend or give you the hook, that is solely dependent on your self esteem, confidence and your own experiences. Give all which you've said a go and come back to us! You've got this ma man!! Go forth and conquer
/r/seduction06/12/16 01:17 AM
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Well what do you think the answer is, be honest with yourself dude. We won't judge. One of the biggest paradigm shifts you make is field experience is king. What works for others may not work for you. You could try it but why not try your own ideas! Lots of guys here go with the question of "will I like her?" Or "I get experience and she gets validation" or even "I'm.going to share myself give them a positive experience". Mine is "fuck it" seriously that's all I say before I make that step.
/r/seduction06/12/16 01:12 AM
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Was with a girl for 2+ years believing she was 'the one' the one I'd marry and have kids with, but university and life situations drifted us apart and that was messy. I knew the only thing I wanted was her, but realised that something was very wrong and the best course of action was to get with other girls, disnt know how and came here, nd stumbled upon the giant that is RSD. Shortly after I was actually doing quite well as a beginner, focussed mainly on online game but eventually ingot back wit…
/r/seduction06/12/16 01:04 AM
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Left university, can confirm it's great, but its not sold to you like it is at university, you kind of have to do the legwork and figure out what you want in terms of experiences. University is the time where you have discovered what you like doing for fun, where you meet people the most and of course the type of women you are better suited to. It's as only as good as you make it, just keep asking "what else could I be doing right now" and then the answer should come to you. Go join a sports tea…
/r/seduction05/12/16 08:06 PM
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another half ass truth that is useless to you until you actually experience it and if not once, a lot. YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THERE IS SEXUAL TENSION. it will all feel hot and heavy and you can see it in the other person. If you would like to know if there is tension go in for the kiss and pull away teasingly, that usually works wonders for me. assuming you aren't already at the point of kissing.
/r/seduction05/12/16 07:57 PM
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I find that approaching very attractive women is my boost then every girl is approachable, that and doing a vocal tonality check on the spot usually helps me too, absolutely love hearing my voice having a lot of power. But I must say I am somewhat ambiverted leaning towards introvert, depending on the venue, I can draw energy in very socially dense environments however I draw.my best energies from personal time or in daygame environments.
/r/seduction05/12/16 03:22 PM
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I found this article hilarious. The journalist must have been like "owww shit! I'mma make a damn expose on the whole pick up community, may they all suffer under the damnation of social media!! MWAHAHAHAHA" and then the comments were just like can you give us some real news please hahahaha
/r/seduction04/12/16 10:49 PM
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Actually scratch this boys, answer came to me. Fuck it, there are way too many women out there to meet than wonder what happens with one, if she wants some congruenceislife she can but off i go with others!!!
/r/seduction04/12/16 08:38 PM
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depends how you take it, to be honest the book just confirmed what I already saw as the answer. Of course you aren't gonna talk to people who you aren't interested in, I was interested in talking to this man and therefore I used what I learned, I wanted to know more about him. Same applies to women, I (like everybody else) wants to develop connections with people you are interested in, however some people aren't as receptive as others, and I find the more neutral you are the more longer it takes…
/r/seduction01/12/16 11:39 PM
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actually got a valid question, what if you are a barman? I think its a big no no for staff, but what about customers? either way I have made some moves on a couple of girls but nothing too major.
/r/seduction01/12/16 11:26 PM
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"let's not be a wanker, approach her"
/r/seduction01/12/16 12:20 AM
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Basically, do something because you actually want to, not because of some necessity, yeah you should lift weights, you should socialise, you should go out and explore the world, but you don't need to do those things. Good example from my life recently is giving up alcohol and smokes. Always felt like I needed to give up, but every weekend I'd find a bottle of bud in my hand and smoke at least one cigarette. Now I just don't want to. I wanted to go in the gym to get stronger, I love lifting heavi…
/r/seduction30/11/16 01:17 AM
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Can relate, I have been described as very attractive (woop de doo genetic lottery and shit) and im immediately in my head, it's beyond a joke. RSDTyler put up a video not too long ago with max and luke that gave me a pretty good solution. MAKE IT ALL ABOUT THE PROCESS AND LOVE THE PROCESS. linked that back to something he once said about proof over promises and now whenever I go out and feel stifled I just jump up and down or shout at the top of my lungs flailing arms in the air! From what I gat…
/r/seduction27/11/16 01:06 PM
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you'd be surprised buddy, people are very open to compliments, I mean wouldn't you? Chick comes up to you and says you have a cool shirt or your hair is nice, it would feel damn good. It's not weird! it's weird and awkward if you think it is (easier said than done) but the only way I have found out to cure this issue is to act and do so with high volume. But I have dipped into a tangent, where exactly? anywhere! coffee shops, museums, bars, clubs, pubs, classes. whatever best suits your demograp…
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:41 PM
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Thats new to me, ive never experienced it, is it the fear of what to say? All i can say is be light hearted and fun as you already have been, dont need to prove yourself to anyone. All it is, is a way to see if you are congruent to what you are showing, you can either make something funny out of it, completely brush it off and carry on with something else and finally you can make it out to be her trying to flirt and say that she likes you. In fact thats the whole point of a shit test, she likes …
/r/seduction06/11/16 12:17 PM
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I can see that, tbh. My last girlfriend and all of the girls i started dating afterwards (coincidentally when i joined this sub and started game) all tended to come back, i definitely can say the friendzone is a self inflicted circumstance. I mean, if you can't escalate sexually, then you will just appear as a friend and nothing more.
/r/seduction13/10/16 09:49 AM
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this ^
/r/seduction28/09/16 01:10 PM
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he is 25 and im 20, I would consider him good looking, but it comes with his overall confidence, he just didn't give a shit. He has legit showed them a dick pic and pulled, but I think he just communicates his intention so well, he can literally cut straight to the conversation of a fuck and he can hook within moments, hes even showed a girl a dick pic and she was all over him. Social circle game is great, I don't like the idea of isolation. It just stands out as creepy for me, little bit needy …
/r/seduction28/09/16 01:09 PM
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he is 25 and im 20, I would consider him good looking, but it comes with his overall confidence, he just didn't give a shit. He has legit showed them a dick pic and pulled, but I think he just communicates his intention so well, he can literally cut straight to the conversation of a fuck and he can hook within moments, hes even showed a girl a dick pic and she was all over him. Social circle game is great, I don't like the idea of isolation. It just stands out as creepy for me, little bit needy …
/r/seduction28/09/16 01:09 PM
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unfortuately I come from the lonely island called the UK haha, as much as I d love to be over there I'm stuck over here thanks for the offer though!
/r/seduction19/05/16 11:49 AM
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please do, I like to see it from other peoples points of view
/r/seduction18/05/16 04:22 PM
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The best way I think I can answer it is with its definition which is: "behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions.". The things that I picked up from that is intent, assume attraction, and being nonchalant and playful as opposed to being serious. all of them are very important, never realised how important intent and assuming attraction was, but be at ease. be in the moment. have fun! its called gamefor a reason. teasing, subtle sexual remar…
/r/seduction17/05/16 09:40 AM
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yes, im gonna read a new earth as well, bc Ive been told that was good reading too
/r/seduction16/05/16 08:33 PM
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This! and with all the variety in each instructor it pretty much covers a wide spectrum of topics.
/r/seduction16/05/16 09:21 AM
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the title made me laugh a little, just the fact instead of woman or girl its female haha good work bro
/r/seduction15/05/16 11:47 AM
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I wouldn't dude. I mean who cares, right? show it's not a big deal and more than likely she won't either.
/r/seduction15/05/16 11:42 AM
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thank you!! im just starting my journey really, been about 3 months into the game, and its hella fun just interacting with other people alone! and I get super hyped from it once i get passed the AA
/r/seduction15/05/16 11:21 AM
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Fucking inspirational dude, like im listening to an RSD video on walking in the face of adversity and your story screams it.
/r/seduction14/05/16 03:19 PM
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I have never personally seen anybody here be that manipulative guy, but I can only assume that its a very small population within the community, everybody else are solid people at different levels.
/r/seduction14/05/16 03:09 PM
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Think it may be cultural differences, such as its more acceptable to approach etc. I don't know never tested it. Here in the UK, girls tend to be less responsive. but having that fun, no fucks given vibe really does break them out of that habit. Perhaps its the fact you are in a different country it kind of changes your frame. for me it would definitely enfore the 'I will never have to see them ever again if it doesn't go well' frame. Who knows!
/r/seduction20/04/16 09:17 PM
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I really like this challenge, get to see someone improve is awesome. keep it up man!!
/r/seduction20/04/16 09:09 PM
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I look at all of my qualities and if I don't see them as good I reduce or strike them from my personality, if its good, I will look at how it came about, why I value it so much and improve upon it. The way I see it is there is no such thing as a 10/10 personality, there will always be a fault, there will always be an issue with it for someone. as the previous poster said, its an extremely subjective area. I'm an noob but I've had fresh experience with developing a better me. Work on your good tr…
/r/seduction23/03/16 09:21 PM
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By essential I mean logistics for same day lays, I've done one same day lay but I don't know how I made the logistics happen. as for qualities 1) true to themselves, funny, live their own life (non independent, I want them to enjoy life with me, not because of me, I add to their life, not be the reason for their happiness) 2) judgmental (not just me, others, can't stand it), overly crude, selfish 3) Intellectually matched, diverse in skills and interests, witty. I aim for a serious relationship,…
/r/seduction23/03/16 03:36 PM
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particularly personal qualities, but logistics would be useful. Edit: essential to logistics
/r/seduction23/03/16 02:53 PM
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Bro you didn't get lucky, you are a great guy, no doubt. you aren't bad for having anxiety and neediness, I have it from time to time, there is no shame. Glad you are working on it. have you considered going to therapy? really helped me and as I understand, many of the seddit community. Also I'd recommend improving nutrition and exercise, really improves the way you feel. (r/fitness to get you started if you havent already). Get out there my good man! plenty of people out there for you to talk t…
/r/seduction23/03/16 11:47 AM
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