Doing pick up as an introvert

james-robertson · 2016-12-05T18:40:20+00:00

I regard myself as an introvert.

I'm not especially scientific about my approach to this stuff, though. If I see a girl I like I remind myself that 'generally speaking, people I like and admire will like and admire me too' (that's not arrogance, it's just a healthy belief to hold).

Second, I take the pressure off myself. If this girl doesn't have anything interesting to say to a stranger who has come over to introduce themselves, then I figure that what I have in front of me is a chronically boring person. She does me a favour by withholding her number.

IronManSeduction · 2016-12-05T20:57:04+00:00

Hey fakenamehere,

My biggest strategy is to realize that I don't need to be anything "extra" in order to interact and have fun with a girl.

I don't need to be extra funny, exciting, interesting, and witty in order to be attractive. What this means is that i can be at ease with however I am feeling at that moment, and I don't have to force anything to happen, things will happen organically.

In practice, this means that I don't have to force myself to be funny if I don't feel like it, or if the opportunity doesn't present itself. This means I don't need to fill the conversation with exciting stories. This means I don't have to feel like I need to present myself in a certain way to be interesting.

The result is that I can feel at ease with the "normalcy" of pickup and dating. I can talk about mundane, day-to-day stuff without feeling like I'm being boring. I can enjoy the moment without feeling like I need to be entertaining. I can be what I am, as I am, without feeling inadequate.

Above all, this strategy made me see that there's really nothing wrong or disadvantageous for being introverted.

AbdulElAzir · 2016-12-05T14:53:39+00:00

Realizing that it is completely normal to talk about things that could seem irrelevant or "useless" as an introvert, like talking about weather, clothes, TV shows that i barely watch etc ... to create social interactions and laugh about it

Snazzy_Serval · 2016-12-05T21:28:24+00:00

God I wish I knew. All I'm figuring out is what doesn't work.

The most recent thing I learned was that when going out by myself getting drunk is not enough to make me sociable and outgoing. I'm still really quiet and insecure.

paladin400 · 2016-12-05T20:23:13+00:00

Solo pickups are a nightmare to me. I can do it, but it´s really draining and uncomforable. I realized that my game is at its best when I´m comfortable

To achieve that, I usually bring a friend along. Not really as a wingman mind you, since when it comes to seduction, my friends.....well, suck. But talking to them for a while, laughing and having a good time gets me in the zone, which allows me to open with more confidence. Also, if I get rejected, I know that my buddy will be there to make me feel better

I still wish to work on my solo game though. I can´t always rely on friends for this

fakenamehere01 · 2016-12-06T02:16:46+00:00

i went to a party tonight and i tried a new strategy: i gave myself a time limit of how long i could stay. i said "okay, i'll be here for four hours then I'll leave". That meant when I started feeling exhausted after only an hour of talking i was able to look at my clock and say "ok, only three more hours!" and give myself more energy. of course, by the time I had 45 minutes remaining, i was wishing I had more time. it was almost like my extrovert self made a bargain with my introvert self - "ok, just be social a little longer then you can go home and read, play video games, or whatever." in the last 20 minutes i ended up number closing a pretty cute girl, so it was a good night :)

Congruenceislife · 2016-12-05T15:22:00+00:00

I find that approaching very attractive women is my boost then every girl is approachable, that and doing a vocal tonality check on the spot usually helps me too, absolutely love hearing my voice having a lot of power. But I must say I am somewhat ambiverted leaning towards introvert, depending on the venue, I can draw energy in very socially dense environments however I draw.my best energies from personal time or in daygame environments.

ozzagahwihung · 2016-12-05T20:40:49+00:00

Same as extroverts: you need to present your best self, and be interesting. Not all girls will go for you, and that's fine.

evil_misogynist · 2016-12-06T06:04:03+00:00

I'm probably going to get some heat for saying this...but I ditched the night scene almost entirely. I get girls from daygame and Instagram mostly. Both are far better matches for my personality, and I've had a lot of success.

IntrovertedBadass · 2016-12-06T14:21:16+00:00

Hi, yep. spam approaching many women is definately draining for introverts. I have a webinar on this especially for introverted men. If you want i can give you the link. (you'll have to register with your email adress - prefer saying it in advance) if you'd like i can post the link here.

Title	Doing pick up as an introvert
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Date	December 5, 2016 2:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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