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| 4 | How do you find a man to pay for you?Well you must be a supermodel or those men aren’t that high value at all | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/23 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table?Who knows tbh after all these red pill podcasts telling women to tolerate cheating, many think they should indeed. I’m engaged now but when I was single watching them (quite young as well) I too became persuaded that I should allow a man to do that by watching these shows. Now I’m like, no thanks, not worth it in the slightest | /r/RedPillWives | 22/12/23 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table?Haha ok I get it | /r/RedPillWives | 22/12/23 02:44 PM |
| 5 | Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table?How was she in denial while also accepting it, I’m confused. And was it obvious to others ? | /r/RedPillWives | 22/12/23 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table?Were they content living like this? Sounds like misery to live in denial but who knows | /r/RedPillWives | 22/12/23 02:06 PM |
| 4 | Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table?Lmfao | /r/RedPillWives | 22/12/23 02:05 PM |
| 2 | I miss him TOO much💔 how to stop?If you’re busy working on yourself (whatever that means for you-gym volunteering studies work etc). You won’t nearly miss him as much | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 12:03 PM |
| 14 | Has anyone here saved themselves for marriage as a RPW? How did that work/not work for you whilst dating?It worked for youtuber Alana arbucci. She was engaged and had pre-marital sex, broke the engagement, became super religious and decided to not have sex till she found her husband and got married (which she did). However she’s a gorgeous girl with some fame (which could help in meeting more people possibly), so definitely not the rule. Religious men are already uncommon, much more so those who meet a bunch of other criteria. And like others have said, I doubt non-religious ones would be down. I’m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/23 09:31 PM |
| 2 | Why are beauty pageants seen as a big deal for nations? And well showing of gorgeous women in general in events unrelated to pageantry like international diplomatic negotiations and catering food services to foreign soldiers stations and other big national stuff?Yeah I am good at the first points, being diplomatic etc. unfortunately it is literally my job to be on the spotlight in a way, so it’s not like I can choose that. I’m highly introverted irl though so I shine more w the other attributes | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Why are beauty pageants seen as a big deal for nations? And well showing of gorgeous women in general in events unrelated to pageantry like international diplomatic negotiations and catering food services to foreign soldiers stations and other big national stuff?Interesting. My job is basically being a communicator. I often feel masculine as I do it on social media and it requires a great degree of intensity (I don’t talk in a masculine way lmao but to keep peoples attentions you have to be intense, think quickly, speak eloquently, Be articulate, etc.,) could you elaborate on communication being a feminine skill? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Why are beauty pageants seen as a big deal for nations? And well showing of gorgeous women in general in events unrelated to pageantry like international diplomatic negotiations and catering food services to foreign soldiers stations and other big national stuff?This sounds so cool ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Ladies who manifested their HVM—what qualities did you want? Did you get them?Idk. I’m struggling w the fact that I’m always unsatisfied 😭 could be an age thing. I thought I wanted a lot of routine and stability, and now I’m doubting whether I want that in my life at all. That being said compared to other people’s lives, mine is hardly stable and if I had a more exciting one god knows I’d want a more stable boring one lol. So perhaps I would’ve put “exciting” on the list, but I could’ve gone for someone like that and didn’t, as guys seeking excitement are hardly ever the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Ladies who manifested their HVM—what qualities did you want? Did you get them?About one year before I met my current S/O, I wrote down the age, profession (entrepreneur as I am one), and values that I wanted him to have. He turned out to have them. Looking back there are other things I could’ve added but hindsight is 20/20 haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 02:38 PM |
| 6 | Worried about potential red flag body countPersonally it all sounds too good to be true, but hopefully it’s not and it works out for you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 10:44 AM |
| 9 | Is it wrong of me to expect my older boyfriend to teach me about "adult things"I have the same age gap. Exactly, like others have said, most men like to help but are also thinking (if they’re serious-minded) can this woman run / lead a household/children or do I have to do everything too? I’ve definitely matured a bit in this last year with my boyfriend but at the beginning he would say (jokingly mostly), when we have kids I feel like I’ll have to take care of you like another child. Lol. Just a downside of an age gap relationship that you can decide if it’s worth it for y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/23 10:30 AM |
| 1 | I’m scared my future husband will be repulsed by my high sex driveTips on flirting? :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/23 11:48 PM |
| 10 | Feeling unwanted sexually and not sure anymore how to approach itThat would’ve been a red flag if at the beginning it was like that and he said that, considering sex tends to lessen in frequency over time | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/23 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Feeling unwanted sexually and not sure anymore how to approach itExactly | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/23 02:30 PM |
| 20 | Feeling unwanted sexually and not sure anymore how to approach itYou’re not being selfish. He is. And extremely so. You’re literally 11 years younger, and moved for him, he should be extremely grateful. What was it like at the beginning of the relationship? This isn’t going to change and you’re going to have to give yourself a deadline to see changes, and if you don’t, to make a decision then. It’s not fair to be this sexual frustrated especially this young, while like you said, he’s getting his dick sucked. I don’t know if this is the healthiest advice but I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/23 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipYeah exactly I’m on the same boat. I wish he would admit it. At least to himself, maybe he does in his head but he won’t to me and swears he loves having me around and it doesn’t make him want me less when that’s literally impossible. Guess he’s preventing me from overreacting. I’m reading mating in captivity like someone here recommended, give it a try! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipReading mating in captivity, thank you :) love this answer | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipI never initiate him and am often stressed during pms and my period which is when he initiates least. I know it’s related as does spending too much time together bc of work, and me being afraid of initiating etc. it’s a lot of vulnerability to work on from my part, he’s mentioned I always leave the sex up to him but idk…I just don’t feel good doing it and feel like he’d reject me too | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 04:16 PM |
| -1 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipReading about it now and it definitely makes sense and it’s just as I’ve expected. It’s just hurtful that he won’t admit it to himself and that I’m the only one trying to do something about it | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipCan you elaborate on the being together? We both work together from home, and it seems like I’m the only who tries to work away sometimes which makes sense as it is his place. I keep insisting this is it and he denies it vehemently. Please elaborate from a guys perspective | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 03:35 PM |
| -1 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipTo be fair not too long ago it was like 4-5 times I guess because we are still a fairly recent couple. I just see it gradually declining and I’m like…what’s coming. And I get the age thing but also some men his age and older masturbate everyday so clearly it’s more about not wanting to put in the work, etc. And considering mine masturbates much less now I’m like ? I guess he just holds it in. Who knows, man. I really do need to stop caring so much and seeing if I can deal with this without the r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipNgl I’ve put into doubt the age thing as I’ve seen that testosterone lowers but not that much. But apparently it’s not they want it much less as it is just less of a priority. Idk this is one of those things that are a downside of the age gap, and sometimes makes me question thing I guess. Thanks for sharing your experience :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipYeah I also feel that I have a higher libido, like you. It’s in part my age, having been off birth control for years now thankfully, lifting weights which boosts your testosterone, coming off celibacy, and on top of that coming from a really sexual culture lmao. It’s frustrating af lol. And yeah he’s under a lot of pressure overall with things and I try not to bring this up because it does no good, but sometimes I just get in my head and he notices it and I say it etc. I feel like nothing compar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentOf course you’re not doomed. If you’re a feminine sweet girl with loads of girl game you’re fine. If you wanna improve your body, look into gaining muscle. I’ve seen girls gone from stick thin to looking like they have curves from the muscle they’ve built. However it’s a process that you must be committed to and have the right tools and education for. Regarding everything else take care of the basics-skin, makeup, color palette, hair, clothes, etc., and go from there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/23 10:03 AM |
| 1 | I’m a virgin (saving myself for marriage) but my boyfriend has had 3 sexual partners before and it makes me sadHonestly I struggle with this too. I don’t have a promiscuous past while bf does. He’s in his 30s while I’m in my 20s and from a liberal culture sooo I get it I guess but it still makes me insecure :( it’s weird bc as women we do like experience but it can also make us feel weird, I guess when they’re vastly more experienced than us. Following this to see what y’all will say and best of luck to you, OP. Like others have said, I’m sure he loves that you’ll be a virgin bride | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentAgreed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentHe’s bought the ring, parents know, all we are missing is the actual proposal for which we have to ask my parents first which requires us to travel to another country and which we are doing in less than a month. By January I will be formally so. However you can feel free to disregard my advice because of technicalities, it’s all the same to me lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 08:03 AM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentFacts , and same for the women, many don’t feel comfortable in this dynamic, sadly | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentGreat! I’ll check that out! And lmao same on kibbe, I was so tired of looking blunt with super tight things that looked fine on others | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 06:47 PM |
| 7 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentThe injectables are a me thing, and I clarified that also. BJs, well, if he’s super into them and so are you as in my case, and you learn to do them exceptionally well then it can be a plus. I think most guys would really appreciate that. Thank you for sharing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentThank you <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentSo good to hear! Bf and I were also friends before dating and I think it’s great because it allows you to get to know each other without the pressures, etc. I feel you on the kibbe, I’m a soft natural and I always have that bluntness no matter how slim and my mom’ s a romantic and she’s like you (so nice to hear someone else likes kibbe lol). Would you mind elaborating on the seed oils part? Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 05:52 PM |
| 8 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentI definitely don’t think my value is only in refilling his water glass haha I apologize if that came off the wrong way. If anything I struggle with being too opinionated, independent, etc., so it would be hypocritical for me to pretend I’m that typical doormat kinda girl. And 100% I was in nun mode for a good 3 years. Regarding the looks part, I have struggled in the past w eating disorders and body dysmorphia and doubt I’m fully recovered, so it is something that’s on my mind a lot especially s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Advice for young girls seeking commitment❤️❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 10:36 AM |
| 3 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentTo explain the confusions, we were going to get engaged in 6 months as I too had the 2 year mark and that would’ve been 1.5 years in. However because we were spending so much time together related to our business and he was planning to talk to my parents soon since it was the only time he was gonna be able to see them, he decided there’s no point in waiting. So we’ll talk to parents in trip, then it’ll happen I assume with some element of surprise. But that has been made clear, yes. Regarding th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentSome of it before but most as we’ve been together | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 08:18 AM |
| 0 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentWhen I was single I dated some much older men and I also wanted to die lol. Sorry to hear that about your relationship, hope you figure it out soon <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentThis! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentThanks, kinda needed to hear this ahah | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 07:45 PM |
| 11 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentWhy not 😭 I thought it’s super lowkey and friendly lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentThis 100% and it is in fact something my bf has told me as well! I will add this to the list ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 06:50 PM |
| 1 | I can’t make a post, help!I tried again and it still didn’t let me. I made it shorter and cut out some explicit words and it seems to have worked! Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 05:58 PM |
| 2 | How do I find a good man?You are right yes | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 05:15 PM |
| 3 | How do I find a good man?Thanks! My advice is to commit yourself to absolutely not sleeping around no matter the reason. Men respect standards, the right ones will appreciate them | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 09:13 AM |
| 16 | How do I find a good man?Btw, I also looked at your post history to see what others are saying. I mean this in the best way possible but just based on the way you present yourself, you do not seem like wifey type. Get rid of the nails, if you keep up the extensions brush them and get a more natural type, dress more classy and look into color theory, longer hair, and the most most important thing, get fit. Your self confidence will skyrocket as you do have a nice body shape and you have no idea how attractive a young fit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 09:09 AM |
| 6 | How do I find a good man?No offense but the gym is not a place to meet traditional guys, at least the ones I’ve been to. Masculine guys, sure, but definitely not traditional, most are the meathead chad hook up types. Sure there can be traditional ones but it’s definitely not the rule (as it isn’t anywhere but church tbh) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 09:03 AM |
| 10 | How do I find a good man?It’s interesting because all these RP guys are like older settled guys marry young girls….yeah in developing countries or in Hollywood for the most part. I’m 24 now but when I was 22 I was living in paris and similarly looking for something serious, not sleeping with anyone, and only dating older and most of the guys I’d meet still mainly wanted to hookup. This is kind of a consequence of modern day feminism where most relationships start with a hookup to begin with (horrible idea for women imo)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Am I doing the right thing?This | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Am I doing the right thing?If a man wants you, nothing will stop him from pursuing a relationship with you. It is a harsh reality and one that I’ve had to face myself, but better to move on now that you haven’t even been intimate or developed a deeper relationship than down the line. If it’s meant to be he will find you (assuming you’re still interested). Best of luck | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 08:44 PM |
| 14 | How to handle "feminist" women in the family during the holidaysYess you and your husband can give that all-knowing smile, it’s a smile that shows you stand your ground but you’re not going to lose your composure over bitter people’s internal (and irrelevant) dilemmas over your relationship | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 11:26 AM |
| 58 | How to handle "feminist" women in the family during the holidaysEvery time they tell you something remember no happy person needs to do that, a happy person wouldn’t gaf. Plus remember you’re the one who’s happy in your relationship, smile at them with a little edge like “sure whatever you say” or even in a more indifferent way, and that’s qll | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Boundaries about his friends?Thank u, probably is a troll lmao why not just comment directly here 🥴 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries about his friends?Lmao just received a throwaway message saying to ignore what you two are saying and to not trust him and now I’m like 🥴 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries about his friends?Thanks, my anxiety was calmed till I got a random message from a throwaway saying that I should dump him and not trust him and not take all of y’all’s advices and now I’m like? What is reality lmao 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 09:37 PM |
| 0 | Boundaries about his friends?Would you introduce yourself, etc.? Doesn’t help that I’m shy af. I know this is something I have to do, as I’ve lived in this new city for almost a year with no friends for the first time ever and it’s just daunting af | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries about his friends?Great! Thank you again | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries about his friends?Lmaoo you’re totally right, I’m on bumble friends but so far no luck and I literally have no other way of meeting people so 😭 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Boundaries about his friends?Thank you! I’m glad you’re a guy sharing his perspective :) seems like all of your have shared that not trusting is in fact disrespect, which I never considered and has opened my eyes | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Boundaries about his friends?This is great advice! I do have my own life and interests, and in fact I’m usually the one needing tons of space from him in order to enjoy them. However I really do think having my own friends would help the situation and that’s a challenge I need to overcome. Thanks for sharing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 05:00 PM |
| 4 | Boundaries about his friends?Btw, it seems from what you’re writing that I have some beliefs set in stone (ie intimacy dies when living together etc) that could very well not be true for every couple but that I’ve adopted, and are hurting me. So starting to work on changing those beliefs can be beneficial to me. Just in case this reached someone who’s going through a similar thing, there’s a video by teal swan called how to change a belief, or something of the sort. I’ll watch it and recommend her overall | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 01:53 PM |
| 4 | Boundaries about his friends?Thank you, I needed to hear this. I just truly have no idea how to work on these issues, they’re pretty exhausting. I have a disorganized attachment style so I’m sure that’s part of it. I’ll continue for some time with my therapist and see if it helps, though journaling sometimes does more. Sometimes I really just need external validation of whether something’s messed up or if it’s in my head. I used to ask my friends about it but they’re no longer in my life for other motives (they also wouldn’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/23 01:49 PM |
| 7 | What to do if you crave physical touch?I was celibate for 3 years in between relationships and as hard as it was, and I missed sex and intimacy sometimes lots and thought I wouldn’t be able to keep going (especially how tempting and available sex and casual cuddling is for most women). However I stayed strong till I found the right person for me and it was 100% worth it and I’m sure it’s one of the factors that he’s appreciated most (me not sleeping around during that time). Stay strong, hang out with friends, family, pets, get a vib… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/23 02:29 PM |
| 5 | What I learned about respect at workDamn that is pretty sad 😥 I’m glad you made him smile somehow | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/23 08:29 AM |
| 5 | Birth Control Help?The contraceptive pill and other hormonal methods are absolute poison for women’s health. Please find out why your periods are irregular, heal yourself and make them regular, and then fertility awareness or condoms etc :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 09:20 PM |
| 7 | New relationship advice needed (this is a positive step in my life)No dates at the house for now! Too difficult to not get intimate | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Is there such thing as too much sex?Interesting! I needed to hear this | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 10:50 AM |
| 5 | Is there such thing as too much sex?I relate to you lmao. Bf is in early/mid 30s while I’m in early/mid 20s and I always want it (more of an emotional thing tbh). He says if he was my age he’d probably want it more as well but now he’s focused on many other things. We still do it like 4-5 times a week, maybe 3 on dry ones, but dry periods hurt me a bit tbh. It’s something I need to work on as I know over time when we live together etc it might reduce a bit as I’m not “new” anymore and i feel like that will hurt emotionally a lot… … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 10:49 AM |
| 1 | About to get engaged and terrified/anxiousThank you! Yeah If it were up to him we’d have kids in like a year lol. But he knows I’d like to wait to start trying at least 2 years. If ir were to happen before I’d keep it, but I’m definitely not trying for it hehe | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 11:32 AM |
| 2 | About to get engaged and terrified/anxiousI’m not downvoting you! I hear you and I’m thankful for this! He’s not in any way pressuring me. We were actually going to wait another 6 months for the engagement and I even made a post claiming that I was wondering if he didn’t want me that much as he could just get engaged to me now. (It had to do with my rental contract but we decided there’s no point in extending it more/me paying more rent, since we are talking to parents soon). To be honest I have 0 desire to live what other ppl my age ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 11:25 AM |
| 2 | About to get engaged and terrified/anxiousThank u so much for taking time to read me and read this detailed advice, you’re absolutely right and I’m going to work on all of it, as I hadn’t perceived it myself and it’s no way to live | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 09:09 AM |
| 4 | About to get engaged and terrified/anxiousThank you so so much ❤️ so soothing and good advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Why does it seem like every guy I start talking to doesn’t want a relationship?Relationship market value :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Why does it seem like every guy I start talking to doesn’t want a relationship?Date older, look inward to boost your rmv, and don’t have sex till commitment. And relax :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 11:24 PM |
| 7 | Sex is truly the key 🔐Thank u! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Sex is truly the key 🔐Great advice ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 04:28 PM |
| 202 | Sex is truly the key 🔐Sometimes (probably most times) sex really is to them what affection is to us. Happy to hear this :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 02:42 PM |
| 20 | Men Become Aroused when Women Cry?Definitely. I wonder if it’s the innocence/vulnerability/helplessness/needing them in that moment. And I’m talking about situations when you’re crying about something external to them, not them hurting you lmfao. If they hurt you and you’re crying, having sex is probably the last thing you should do unless you’ve truly resolved the issue | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/23 10:11 AM |
| 8 | Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender rolesI’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I relate so much to this post because I’ve been in a similar situation where I lost my self respect to be in a relationship with someone and nobody, no relationship is ever worth that. Unfortunately once these things have happened and he feels how he feels about your past, etc., there’s nothing to be done. Hope you can find the courage to move on soon ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?Thank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 12:09 PM |
| 14 | Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender rolesThis ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 12:04 PM |
| 15 | Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender rolesIt is clear to me that you have a problem with boundaries, as I did and probably still do. People do not respect people who don’t respect themselves. And I don’t believe you’re respecting yourself in this relationship, and deep down you probably believe this too. You don’t owe him any loyalty. A boyfriend is a test trial. He’s not living up to what you need from a man. And he knows this but also knows you won’t stay. Even if you “make it work”, it will have been at the cost of your self-respect … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 12:01 PM |
| 29 | Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender rolesI agree 100% with everything you’ve said. I had a relationship where I cheated, so then he cheated (we were both young dumb and immature), and in a way I’m glad he did because when I did it, I, too, thought it was no big deal. Getting it done to me has been extremely traumatizing and I’m still not over it, years later and in a new relationship. This man is your boyfriend. He’s not your husband of years who takes care of you and your children. Knowing me I don’t think I could even forgive a husba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?I’m 24. He says he is sure of it and that this will be my last contract renewal, and that he will talk to parents this December. If he doesn’t keep up with that, then yes I will leave. Thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?Agreed | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Is this a red flag?Could be some anxious self sabotaging, wouldn’t be the first time. Thanks for your input! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 11:55 PM |
| 5 | Is this a red flag?Lmfao @the last line. I do tend to be that way haha thanks for your input :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 09:42 PM |
| 0 | Is this a red flag?Btw he’d propose 2024, not 2023 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?Sure | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Is this a red flag?Thank you, I can get quite anxious in my pms / early period phase and just over think things haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 09:35 PM |
| -1 | Is this a red flag?I’m likely overthinking as I can get quite anxious. I guess it’s the fact that maybe if he really want to propose he would’ve been like, don’t extend the contract and proposed right after talking to parents. But instead he said to wait out the 6 months (which I think is a good idea and I let him know in general that I was gonna extend it). Idk man | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Is this a red flag?Got it, let me do it rn! Thanks | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Do I try again?How did u find out? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/23 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Face looks too slutty?Filler on softer faces can usually go unnoticed but on more dramatic faces it can look out of place. I recommend you check out Aly Art‘s lip filler video | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/23 12:58 PM |
| -1 | Face looks too slutty?Your feautures don’t even sound “slutty” tho? I have lip filler and my lips look fine. Are yours exaggerated? That’s the only thing I could think of but otherwise sharp features are more modelesque than “slutty”. Totally agree w others, ignore him, has nothing to do w u | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/23 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Let me look into it! And yes love me some black hair Lmaoo | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/23 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Medium to light brown 😭 dark brown looks great on me and black looks decent too, but bf loves my natural hair (as do most guys tbh). I do prefer the darker tho I guess | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/23 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Does he mind that your boobs won’t be natural anymore or does he straight up prefer fake? I want one but bf doesn’t like them | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Can you please share your experience about the fat transfer? I have very small breasts, especially because of recent weight loss, and am considering implants but am not fully sold on them | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Mine’s the same and as someone who enjoys changing my appearance quite a bit, it’s a bit complicated haha he loves my natural hair color and I’m trying to go back to it, and just that it’s such a hassle lol. Never dye your hair full black, ladies | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?I’m in the opposite situation. I like fake things (lashes nails filler want a boob job in the future etc), but bf just likes everything natural (supposedly anyway). Like someone else said, it’s important to listen to our gut. It’s natural for us to want to please and be attractive to the men we are with, but we must prioritize doing that for ourselves first | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Just curious, how long do ur natural classics last? I get volume (trying to go down to hybrid tho bc $$) but my classics would be gone in like a week | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 11:47 PM |
| 4 | I don’t know what is wrong with me.Sounds like me sometimes. Look into attachment styles, you might have disorganized attachment style | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/23 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Tips to reignite lust?She has advice specifically on intimacy ? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/23 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Feeling undesired in relationshipThis! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/23 08:11 AM |
| 1 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.Well thank you sm for this! I struggle with hormonal issues (hormonal acne, bad pms) as well as p bad anxiety (and cutting caffeine has likewise helped me). So Id love to hear your perspective on the anxiety part and if I could hear from your gf on hormones that’d be great too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 07:14 PM |
| 2 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.thanks! are you trying to do this long-term or just till you want to? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 04:04 PM |
| 2 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.I will! I’ve also been a vegan lmao and been on the other side (“meat is trying to kill you”), so I definitely don’t know what’s right anymore and just stick to a balanced diet. However I am interested in trying this so I’ll watch the video | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 02:33 PM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Sounds awesome. I’m nowhere near having two small children haha but I suppose I will be one day, god willing. Any tips on how you keep the sex life active? It helps that you have so much help of course but I’d like to hear of other things, as parents of small children often struggle with this | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 09:20 AM |
| 5 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.I really wanna try this but I feel like vegetables are so important to overall health. I don’t know that I could give up on vegetables long term, maybe only for a little while | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 09:15 AM |
| 2 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.Quit hormonal birth control, lifting weights till failure, and fasting. I was the same as you and it’s how I got back into shape. Start slow but consistently and you’ll see results | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 09:13 AM |
| 1 | How to bring up issues without making him feel as if he isn’t doing enough? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/23 09:55 AM |
| 1 | How to bring up issues without making him feel as if he isn’t doing enoughWhere do you listen? Spotify | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/23 09:55 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Great point! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 04:19 PM |
| 5 | Lies promoted hy egalitarian culture that ultimately hurt womenThis | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 11:35 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Thank u for sharing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 11:32 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Nice 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 04:02 PM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Thank you for sharing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 08:29 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Interesting! So if I understood it right, you’re a stay at home mom and he works from home? How do you manage spending so much time together/being both home everyday? Obviously I understand you’re not actually together all day but it is more than a couple who works outside etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 07:26 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Sounds awesome :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Do you run a business together? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Glad to hear it :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 12:39 AM |
| 2 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?I like that he does the savings 🤣 must be such a relief tbh | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?This! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 09:58 PM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?🥰🙏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 09:47 PM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Do you get resentful about doing the housework? (I also work from home, as does he). And wdym by handling the finances—like budgets and stuff? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?This is lovely; tips for not falling in this competition of who does more? And how does he feel about you outearning? It’s often more so the men who are uncomfortable w that, so he sounds really great! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 09:44 PM |
| 2 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Yeah I guess I mean the latter but it’s similar in my home country | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 09:43 PM |
| 4 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?I relate on the type B thing haha, sounds great to me thanks so much for sharing :)) definitely sounds exhuasting (as expected for both of you working full time and having 3 small children), would you say that overall it’s manageable or you’re both too tired most of the time? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 08:07 PM |
| 2 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Thanks so much for sharing this 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 07:57 PM |
| 6 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Thanks so much! Really needed to hear this. Bf asked about ring size today and I just have sm fear of growing up with parents who stayed together but seriously unhappy that it gives me lots of anxiety. Time to work on that! Thanks again | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 07:43 PM |
| 8 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Sounds lovely 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 06:54 PM |
| 3 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Thank you for sharing! Does he stick to the schedule? I’m assuming so or else you would’ve said it haha. I’m going to add an edit to this post, so if you don’t mind, read it and let me know what you think | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Learn how to cookHey! Just wanna say that I’m in the exact position as you! Boyfriend’s older, looking to settle down, and a far better cook than me, and he’s definitely looking (even if he hasn’t said it) for someone who’ll make a good mother / can cook clean etc. so I get you. It’s a bit tough sometimes lol because he always wants to intervene to give advice, always tells me (nicely) how I could’ve made a dish better etc. I’m just starting with the basics and he seems to like what I’m making, but I’m likewise … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Date night instapot/air frier ideas??Imo you should reserve home cooked meals for when already in a relationship. It’s my preference (though ofc you’re free to do as you like :) that the guy initiates the first few dates and that they’re outside the house as the house is quite intimate / can give off the wrong impression. Once you’re in a relationship he can get these privileges of coming to your place and eating your home cooked meals :)) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 08:57 AM |
| 4 | I get uncomfortable letting my boyfriend / anyone on my phone even though I have nothing to hide and I *want* him to go on my phone whenever he would like because I find it cute... It's like I get anxious whenever someone uses my phone - I have nothing to " hide " I just don't want others snooping oSame lol, and I have weird pics and write weird things in my notes iPhone app; my phone’s like my diary lowkey, so ofc we are uncomfortable if someone even gets near it lmao | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/23 01:51 PM |
| 10 | I get uncomfortable letting my boyfriend / anyone on my phone even though I have nothing to hide and I *want* him to go on my phone whenever he would like because I find it cute... It's like I get anxious whenever someone uses my phone - I have nothing to " hide " I just don't want others snooping oI’m in the same exact situation. I hate when he goes on my phone for something small even though I have nothing to hide. Just make me nervous, which ofc doesn’t look good haha. We just have sm intimate things on our phones nowadays I guess. He’s not the type to go thru my phone when I’m showering or something (I think so anyway), but I do get nervous that he would, but I know if I changed my passcode it would be problematic for no reason | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/23 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesYep, you’re right. Thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/23 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesWill do so, thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesYep | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesIndeed, thank u | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend calling me namesExcellent point, and others have made it as well so clearly y’all are onto something. Thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesYep…I’m part Spanish myself so I get it very well. Still don’t like it, but I’ll see if it’s something I can tolerate | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 03:50 PM |
| 0 | Going DutchWhy is she giving that energy, did I miss something? She could earn 6 figures and not be a boss babe with her man at home. It’s not usually the case but given that she is in the sub, it probably is | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namessounds like my boyfriend, too. he's either just completely playing around or the other; would you mind sharing more examples of your husband and how you deal with it? thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:35 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend calling me namesSouthern Europe, won't get into details but I lived in two Southern European countries and they speak like that to family, friends, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:34 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend calling me namesdeal, thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesinteresting; it probably is a pride thing; would you mind elaborating more on what you mean by that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend calling me namesit sounds teasingly and not like an insult; his family/friends do the same/it's just a cultural thing, so I guess I have it hard here. We spoke about it and he agrees he doesn't want to call me those things as he understands the impact (he's only done it like twice in a year, and hopefully it'll become less and less after this). I'll definitely keep an eye on it overall. thanks for commenting! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 08:33 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend calling me namesYep right away he apologizes, and says he doesn’t mean it, it’s jokingly etc. but ofc impact over intent here. I will repeat it back to him, thank u! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend calling me namesThank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend calling me namesYep, that’s the thing. He’s starting to see me that way because of stuff like this but I just really dislike that humor. I’m fun/easygoing overall so I can see why it slips him, because tbh in the past I used to go with that kind of humor with other people, but I’ve changed that in the past year or so. I will take your advice, thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 08:39 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend calling me namesYep, good point | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Why you shouldn't feel bad about wanting a providerThank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Why you shouldn't feel bad about wanting a providerI struggle with the complaining part. Any tips on this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 06:47 PM |
| 1 | A waitress was rude to me and I feel like my boyfriend is more concerned about her than me. Ladies, what do you think of this situation?Can you expand with the being careful with the jealousy and keeping frame? I struggle with this too, if you could share examples I’d love it | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlThank you for this, you articulated it perfectly. And tbh you don’t know that about your ex and the girl, if he’s that kind of a person he probably does it to everyone | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlSorry, I meant the red flag part about when the guy (or anyone I guess) makes fun of you to others | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 11:52 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlP.s. would you mind giving an example on the making fun thing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlThank you so much for sharing :)) this sounds great | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlI’m so sorry you went thru that! I did the same with my Ex’s girlfriend! Overtime I stopped caring, too, of course but it wasn’t till we broke up. Would you mind sharing (if you’re comfortable of course) any red flags that this ex of yours exhibited that could’ve (or not) predicted this behavior (leaving for the other girl) ? And also more specific tips on how you overcame this would be great | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlThank you 🙏 I come from a history of eating disorders so it is quite likely | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 08:27 AM |
| 2 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlThe thing is, I had a similar obsession with someone way before I ever did this job. And I just know I’d find someone else regardless. The problem is clearly my putting them on a pedestal and stalking etc. which is what I need to work on. In the past it was my ex’s ex. Nonetheless, this is good advice and overtime if I’m not successful at getting over this stuff then I’ll have to reconsider. In fact, I think it’s a good motivation to have. “You either quit stalking / comparing yourself or find a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlI have had these exact thoughts in the past, as in, wanting leads to more wanting like you say. We get something and then next. Whereas in previous generations (or in other parts of the world) life was far simpler and we appreciated more. You sound super cool tbh, I have a cat and a bunny too xD your gratitude and way of looking at things is super inspiring. Hope you get what you’re looking for :)) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlThank you for this. Finding girls like that would be a godsend and I am in fact praying for it. Unfortunately this girl doesn’t believe in god and is only conservative politically, so I don’t think think she’d appreciate my messages on this. But it is a good point to compliment her when she’s more modest. I’m off ig for the time being but perhaps in the future. Thank you 🙏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Change in treatmentYour filler I mean xD | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Change in treatmentI, too, started to receive better treatment once I started getting lip filler. Which only led to me a cycle of addiction to changing my face with other stuff (masseter Botox that I now majorly regret, soft maxxing stuff etc.) I’m sure it looks good tho tbh | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlAdding that to my daily verses, thank you ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlSo I’ve reached this conclusion myself and I’m in fact going to the gym almost daily now, tracking my diet etc. it’s still unhealthy to compare myself as she’s been doing what I’m doing now for years. But I guess what I struggle with is, “who will see when I get this great body”. I won’t be rubbing it in peoples faces and my boyfriend (husband by then hopefully lol) will be the one who’s meant to appreciate it of course. But yeah just the validation seeking / insecurities I guess | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlI know you’re right and I think of these things myself. I just struggle to see worth as a woman elsewhere when society mainly values that. Don’t get me wrong—I am good person, talented in many things, caring, etc. and I know it’s about finding meaning in that instead of what society finds significant. But that’s what I struggle with I guess. Getting my worth internally as you said | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 01:08 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with strong feelings of envy towards a more beautiful girlThank you so much, implementing daily gratitude is something I’ve been thinking of doing and this is my sign. Would you mind sharing whether via message or here what you mean by you have less going and you are content etc? I’d love to hear that perspective greatly as you sound really grounded :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?Thank you, I really needed to hear this right now ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?Lmfao that’s how it is for me too 🤣😭 thank you for the advice 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?Not always though to be honest. But I understand what you mean | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Am I settling or asking too much?This is great advice. We are 9 years apart and frankly I’ve gone on dates with older men than that and struggled to connect. And it is true about high commitment stage. Good to know, thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?I will read it now, thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 04:06 PM |
| 3 | Am I settling or asking too much?I am dead, that is very straightforward (as it should be) and he once asked me a similar question, and I was like "idk" b/c I do have trouble communicating and grew up in this lovely hook-up, no feelings culture (even if I didn't participate in it). If he doesn't like that, then I suppose that he will let me know and be like, actuallyyy I don't want this and that will be the end of it haha. So I'll definitely take this advice, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 03:36 PM |
| 0 | Am I settling or asking too much?he knows I want that and I'm not wasting my time; I just haven't explicitly said my mental timeline; I'm not fully against it, I just haven't brought it up when we've talked about it (I think he's even asked and I've been like o.O). Clearly I need to work on communicating this. If you have any tips as to how you'd go about it, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Am I settling or asking too much?you are correct and I do keep this in mind. when I was single I didn't sleep at all around but it was clear to me that that was all probably most of the "high value" men wanted | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?well this is would also be great to get some advice on. My timeline is about 2 yrs, maybe 2.5 max. About that time, I wouldn't straight up leave but I would be like, hey I'm not here wasting my time. I'm 24 now so I don't feel super pressed but also don't wanna waste my time. However, he's the one constantly saying he can't wait to have a family and that he does not want ME to waste his time, so I doubt we'll have a problem. I haven't directly told him about this timeline (nor will I), but I do … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?this is great advice, and yes it is the provision part and the "high value" influencers online, who are all (or so they say) with a rich man and claim he should provide fully. I'd love that and who doesn't say that may not be my case one day (and who says I would even want given that I am an active person). I needed to hear this | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Am I settling or asking too much?P.s. just got the book on audible and will listen to it now as I clean. Thanks sm 🙏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Am I settling or asking too much?And you’re completely right about the finances ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Am I settling or asking too much?I started therapy last week and I will definitely be bringing this up. When I’m with family I also feel apathetic towards them in this week so clearly I’m the problem | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Am I settling or asking too much?Lmfao, yes he’s Faithful and has strong morals on this, in fact. Should’ve said that better | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Am I settling or asking too much?you're absolutely right. it does NOT help to live in this type of society, does NOT help to have plenty of men in my DMs as a result of my social media channel (I post NO provocative pics, no suggestive content, in fact my IG has very few pics) and yet the constant input of messages, the remembering my single days when I'd go on dates (no sex) with a bunch of "high value men" is highly toxic not just to me, but to anyone nowadays, and can make us feel as if we are settling, when it is unlikely t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:28 PM |
| 4 | Am I settling or asking too much?hey! thanks so much for this advice. I do struggle massively with self-sabotaging behavior. And that's why I struggle with this, b/c I don't know if it's "intuition" or pure "I feel unworthy of his good treatment so let me ruin it." I will buy this book now, and you're right, this is no way to live every month and I've been unsure what to do about it, though I did start therapy so I will bring it up. I will not tell him that, you're right. If he or someone told me that I could never get over it.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Am I settling or asking too much?well, this is a great message...and clearly I didn't touch enough on this so I hope future readers will read this, too. We are very, very compatible. He keeps saying we were made for each other as we fit in quite well. I do have a bit of a "never satisfied" personality trait. This possibly comes from moving around a lot, being high-achieving from a young age (and being taught by parents to do this), etc. And my intuition tells me that you could give me the "perfect" man and still not be satisfie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 01:18 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?s i g h | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 07:32 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?thank you for your honesty! I don't make much money off it yet as I'm new but I am on my way to doing so. If I didn't make money off it, I wouldn't care to be on social media (wasn't on it before) and I simply discuss topics (don't show my body) but I understand that it can still be -1. Thanks again! Good luck with everything | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 02:53 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?thank you for answering! it all makes sense. If you don't mind I'd like for you to answer another of my questions; it's a bit personal but I'd love to hear a man's opinion. I am 22, good-looking, fit, classsy, feminine, would gladly submit, etc., have a nice following on social media (b/c of my YT channel) where I do get a bit of attention b/c of said channel but I have absolutely no bikini or party photos on my IG or YT. In fact, before I came to Paris, men in the US would constantly point out … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 01:35 PM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?I know plenty of women who their partners were initially so drawn to them and kept pursuing them because they made them wait (which made them the exception to other women). However, I agree w you and like I said in another part of this post I'll just see how things go. But I'm genuinely not comfortable sleeping with anyone till I know them well, as I value keeping my body count low and sex is really meaningful for me as to give it up to anyone. How long would you wait for a girl you were really … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 08:52 AM |
| -1 | First Date? Tinder?I'm not even American lmao. I am from Spain and it's not that different there. A booty call is a booty call everywhere. Low effort is low effort everywhere. Here maybe the guys will continue seeing you after rather than ghosting, but it's still not what I'm looking for. Especially early on | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 08:16 AM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?yes I already changed my expectations lmao. I'm sure I'll meet men irl once I actually start school and go out w friends. For now I put a general about me on my profile and at the bottom said that my favorite dates are dinner w a smiley face (no entitlement, simply suggesting what I like). Some have offered to take me to dinner, some have not. If they seem like a good guy I'll go regardless of the date and see how we vibe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 09:49 PM |
| 0 | First Date? Tinder?no it's not what I want. When I said support, I guess I mainly mean like he'd take care of the dates as I don't have the money to take out anyone right now. He doesn't have to pay for my living lol. And I'd like to get married in the next years I guess | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 06:00 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?yeah men who don't want to take the lead are so so common SIGH. I hear the French (where I am) are rather feminine/passive, but hopefully the older ones aren't | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?your more recent one, how were the other dates if you don't mind me asking? I've only had one boyfriend, we dated from when I was 18 to 21 and I wasn't redpilled then. So even though I've been for about 6 months now, I haven't dated since so I'm a bit out of the loop, especially when it comes to masculine men | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:55 PM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?you are very right, thank you for this sound advice. I will probably just end up going on drinks/other dates and wanted to get you girls' opinions. I guess my fear is that he'll try to pull some netlix and chill for the 2nd date (which I of course wouldn't accept) and that I'll feel like I've wasted my time. I know this can happen with a dinner too, but at least with that I enjoyed a meal | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:48 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?yes I know, I don't think it's bc they can't afford it lol. How has that worked out for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?I 100% with this and was against dinner myself for the same reasons, but at the same time, I feel like if he can't take me to dinner from the first time and given how modern people here are, I stand very little chance of him having a provider mindset down the line | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:19 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?also when I said "established in years" I meant as in down the line, not in age | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:18 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?why must people always go to the extremes.... what man am I totally dependent on to live by myself in Paris? Jeez | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:18 PM |
| -1 | First Date? Tinder?reading it right now and tbh, this is not a Paris vs US thing. Men get away with stuff like that in the US too. It is all what she allows him to get away w. I wouldn't allow half of the stuff she did, like him hitting her up an hour before to "hang," and them never going out, like lol just sounds like a low effort man and a woman who puts up with it. It's the same in the US | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 03:41 PM |
| 4 | First Date? Tinder?I have enough money to pay for my uber ride home lol. I just don't have enough money to take guys out on dates (nor do I want to! hence why I'm in this group). I don't see why I need to be established to date. I will not be 22 and attractive forever, and seems silly to waste my best years till I become established in years. Being broke hasn't stopped many women from getting HVM | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 03:37 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?yes, I have done my research and seems like I'm kinda effed here. Which is why I'm looking for older men anyway. I do believe than a 30+ yr old would be a little more old school and established. But who knows sigh. Let me ready the article, thank u | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?oh I agree 100%! sorry I didn't see it was a reply to him | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 03:00 PM |
| 3 | First Date? Tinder?what does this mean? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 02:45 PM |
| -1 | First Date? Tinder?I actually 100% think of the guys and that's why I said I probably wouldn't invite women to get drinks unless I had lots of disposable income. But I also gotta think what's best for me. Idk, I gotta see what happens with time | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 02:45 PM |
| 1 | First Date? Tinder?wow, you're so right! thank you love | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 12:48 PM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?I am love. I just graduated from an ivy-league and have started a YT channel. I'm getting my master's here! I'm trying my best. I don't want luxury lmao, I just cannot reasonably pay for other people/take people out on dates on the limited student budget that I am which is just enough for me to live. If I found someone who wouldn't mind taking me out every now and then, what's so wrong with that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 12:25 PM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?I didn't know I had to be rich to attract HVM. There goes like every one of their wives I guess | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 4 | First Date? Tinder?you're right, I just always go to Tinder b/c it's the easiest and then give up lol. Did he take you to dinner? How would you say I should answer when they ask for drinks and I'd like dinner instead? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 11:34 AM |
| 3 | RedPill in France?lmao, my patience for stuff like that isn't very great these days, need to work on that like i said haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 08:31 PM |
| 2 | RedPill in France?great to hear from your perspective! so I'm not really comfortable to go to someone's house if I haven't yet met them and I usually don't do coffees because they're seen as not as serious, but I can try to do so there. However, I still won't go over their house for their first few dates, that's unsafe. Do you think the amount of masculine men is limited or are there still plenty of them out there? How do you recommend that I approach this whole thing? Just accept invitations regardless? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 07:34 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?Informations, discussions et réflexions sur l'anti-féminisme Pour celui que je connais en tout cas. mais quel est le nom du group exactement? Excusez mon français | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 06:43 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?Merci. Le nome de cette group dans Facebook est anti-féminisme français? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 06:35 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?ugh yes you're right | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:41 PM |
| 2 | RedPill in France?thank you for the advice lol, I definitely overreacted a bit-- something I need to work on. and yes I'll always bring money just in case haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:41 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?and what about men in bars, etc.? Are those completely feminized too? Sigh. As a broke student I don't know that I can afford to take up any activities. How about dating apps? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:29 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?interesting! by visitors do you mean people from other countries who are living there at least somewhat permanently (like myself?) I am from Cuba/Spain so I could maybe seek out people from Latin American though to be honest, I've grown up with them and would like a change haha. I also understand there are quite a lot of Arabs in Paris? Are they typically more masculine? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?I agree! I will do so, thanks. I have also asked this in another group and they keep saying that if I am a feminine woman, this should bring out the masculine in (at least some) men. I'll find that out I guess haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:21 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?sorry I didn't realize this was a response to my response lol. I see what you mean by "yes" -- I'd still love to hear your opinion | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 1 | RedPill in France?thank you for your answer. can you please elaborate on what you mean by "yes"? What is that a response to? Like do you mean most men are 50/50? Do I stand any chances lol? And please do share the stories! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:17 PM |
| 10 | RedPill in France?do you know what cultural norms are? And do you know that generalizing is the only way to talk about a large group of people/customs? As someone who has lived in 4 countries, I guarantee you that YES, you can generalize and put a whole city in a category because of ACCEPTED CULTURAL norms. How tf else am I supposed to ask how dating in Paris is without asking about....dating in Paris. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 05:08 PM |
| 1 | When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?depends on the girl and the guy's own goals, but both | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 02:45 PM |
| 1 | When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?and u must think very highly of them lmao. Looks aren't the only thing that matter but the average man with limited options will choose the hottest girl he can get (assuming she's not completely bland or psycho). Guys with tons of options who have played the field for a while might be over looks and pick a beautiful woman whose personality they love only because they've already had everyone they wanted to and (unless they never matured) know that looks aren't the most important thing. Examples o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 02:44 PM |
| 11 | Victoria’s Secret and what it means to be “sexy” in the modern era.red pill is about the uncomfortable reality and the uncomfortable but still truthful reality is that men aren't attracted to fat women. sorry. Oh but what about Johnny and his girl, he loves her? Can he do better? Sure, there are exceptions but this is the rule. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 10:39 PM |
| -1 | When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?no matter how hot a 30 year old is, a man with LOTS of options will still go for the 23 year old that is equally as hot. Sorry to break it to you. Are there exceptions? Sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice neededgirl, I'm just being real like the other people in this thread. He's nowhere near as into you as you're into him. Deep down you know or else you wouldn't be here. Stop making excuses for him. And don't ask questions you don't wanna hear the answers to. We are telling you the truth and not sugarcoating anything, and you're still willing to move forward w him. At this rate, you'll F him soon, then a few more times, then you're hooked. And he's not, nor will he be. Actions>words love. Nothing is pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice neededyou're dating "exclusively" but he's not your boyfriend? dating exclusively is literally the definition of a relationship, what has society come to lol. He is not exclusive, honey--I guarantee this. You are. He wanted to take you off the market and wanted you to give him girlfriend benefits (loyalty, romance, intimacy, etc) without him giving boyfriend benefits. Do NOT have sex with him. Pull back and see how he reacts. He will likely come back to you and make you feel like "you're crazy" and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Get away from lonelinessHi! I am in the States and going to do my master's in Paris in a few months. What you say about the culture there sounds similar to the one here. Is it really difficult to find masculine men? Do you have any tips? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/21 04:18 PM |
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