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DATING THEORYDelicious-Scholar/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:52 PM
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DISCUSSIONDelicious-Scholar/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:05 AM
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Yeahhhh, so I’m never not going to feel weird when someone compares the behavior of a POC to a primate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:33 AM
-9

I don’t get the “Jesus” part? Please explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:27 AM
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I support you both u/CountingDownTheDays5 and u/TheOGJammies. That’s why I don’t have intersectional discussions on FDS, I just go to the 🤎 lady sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:22 PM
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Instead of all the mental gymnastics involving what she’s about to do, she could just leave. Or spend that energy calculating her exit and the finances related to that. But maybe there’s a morality clause in her prenup, who knows? Seems like a whole lot of disrupting your peace for the off chance that it would also destroy his peace as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:55 PM
151

Lol…do your own murders. Just sounds so funny typed out like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:59 PM
170

I couldn’t finish after the first sentence…”me and my boyfriend have been dating for four months…” you mean after you turned 18?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:57 PM
31

Jesus. Even in cartoons, “females” aren’t safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:46 AM
147

I don’t get the appeal of that - you ditch your family (assuming kids) to run off with me….what makes me so special that you won’t turn around and do it to me and the kids we will have? Just leaving kids and broken hearts all over the place. Ugh at the very least, try to convince her to keep her condo and rent it out, even if she’s going to shack up with this man. Frame it as a smart money move, for her retirement and just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:34 AM
166

Are we sure it’s a woman running that account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:06 PM
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Make a plan for moving out first. Line up all the steps including looking for a new place and all that. Enlist your friend(s) that he doesn’t have access to for help if you feel overwhelmed with the task. Get a second burner phone if you have to. Don’t worry about furniture and things. They can always be replaced. Leases can be broken. Money matters, and depending on where you live, it might be expensive, but your life and piece of mind is priceless. Most important thing: do not tell him about t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:58 AM
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Thank you for this response. I agree with every single word of what you said. And at the risk of getting downvoted, I’m glad to see a balance with posts like the OPs. I respect and understand the need for catharsis with the posts related to LVM/ZVM, but for me as someone currently not in crisis, it’s nice to read something about HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:53 PM
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The other rituals you described sound exhausting, but I’m glad to hear you say you’re making progress on balancing out. Yay you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:21 PM
17

He’s a flip flopper, and don’t pay attention to anything else he says on the matter. That’s what I think. I don’t care for my friends opinions on a variety of subjects, and so I don’t engage them on that stuff, and if they engage me, i grey rock to the next topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:32 PM
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Definitely my type of fantasy. Although describing it as OCD to take off shoes inside and also not sit with outside clothes on inside, is interesting. My culture dictates this as normal and not at all extra, so I grew thinking everyone did the same. Which they don’t lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:22 PM
5

I’m glad his mother is inspiring you, but I think as soon as you can, get off his family’s farm, get out of his life, and stop interacting with his mom. You don’t want him as a friend, boyfriend, etc, and this ongoing relationship with his mom is prolonging all of that. I’m sure there are other women in your life that can help you plan your next steps and build your future. Move on from him and his mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:25 PM
1

Please go no contact. He is wasting your time, and you’re looking for him to change and he never will. Slow fade if that helps, but cut him out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:21 PM
16

Search the chat. There have been some posts and excellent comments on this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:53 PM
17

I would counter that female friendships are depicted and celebrated. Thelma and Louise? The Color Purple. Girls trips overall. Sure cattiness and jealously are there and that may be your lived experience, but deep female friendships are very much represented. And before the conception of modern nuclear families, women raised the children together and certainly friendships were there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:47 AM
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Informing his supervisor will do nothing, and perhaps put a target on your back. It’s best to do nothing and keep documentation for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:34 AM
98

I like this idea a lot. And maybe there's a way to expand on this. Perhaps you write out a "script" that you post each and every time a customer DM's you. I mean immediately after they connect with you in a message, you post the following: "Per company policy and guidelines, please note that: - All DMs conversations are saved and archived for quality assurance purposes - Use of the DMs on this Discord means compliance with X company name community and communication guidelines, namely reinforcing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:30 PM
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That movie was a doozy. Very haunting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:51 AM
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It’s fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:20 AM
7

It’s a double tragedy. I’m so sorry again. Praying for your continued healing and strength.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:30 PM
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Good Lord. I’m so sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:51 AM
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Yes. I couldn’t get over what Chris Pratt’s character did to her. It made no difference to me that he eventually wore her down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:13 AM
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She’s securing the bag. I’m sure the prenup is ironclad (since he’s been married a few times before) so having a couple of kids is a great way to maintain wealth. It wouldn’t be ME, and I think considering the age gap he groomed her, but I imagine that’s her reasoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:05 AM
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Ehh, when I feel that way, I take a break from reading the posts. I desire monogamous, romantic partnerships, along with everything else the “good life” has to offer. I’m not WGTOW; just not wired that way. For me, FDS is a tool for better vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:49 AM
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Is there a video you have handy that describes this maneuver?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:55 AM
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Just wanted to quip that Trump didn’t give us money; Congress authorized the stimulus. His accompanying letter was misleading (per usual).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:22 AM
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Wishing your friend continued strength as she seeks justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:08 AM
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Me too - saw the trailer several times over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:12 AM
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Hey now, many of us been done with RK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:28 PM
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I would caution you to grey rock and not announce anything until you can live separately. After you serve him divorce papers will be a precarious time, and you don’t know how someone will react when their circumstances are threatened. Be well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:49 PM
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Same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:57 PM
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When I saw the word “appearances”, I immediately thought of things like putting out the potpourri, decorative hand towels and pillows, knick knacks on every surface. Things only “womanly” women think about it. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:25 PM
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There’s a lot to unpack in your statement. However, in the US, black men and women did not get the right (I’m talking about the practical right that was enforced, not just what was on the books) to vote until the Voting Rights Act of 1965. White women got the right to vote in 1920 via the 19th amendment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:27 AM
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Yup this is so true and not even a bit of hyperbole. I will never forget for as long as I live the woman who said her husband “accidentally” killed her cat, and tried to pass of twinsie one, like was nbd. And continued to lie about the new cat for days, until she forced it out of him. Total wackadoodle behavior. Or the woman who was wringing her hands because her husband refused to wear underwear to bed, but kept leaving skid marks (and odors) on his side of the bed. Or the husbie who wanted to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:08 AM
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Please DM her the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:49 AM
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I can see normalizing not needing them, but I don’t see normalizing not wanting romantic and sexual companionship. I have loads of friends, a big family, plenty of hobbies, and I still want a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:36 PM
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Yess!!! I remember these parody videos. So funny. This video and the line in Veep (HBO show) where Furlong says to Will, “quick, give me something sloppy to eat with a spoon”, are my favorite yoghurt related quips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:45 AM
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This is madness. Have you tried coaching her to get more independence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:52 PM
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Find a way to forgive yourself so you can move on. The best way to know if you’ve “learned your lessons” is to see if you make the same mistakes, in a new situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:01 AM
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I liked Sweetheart on Netflix. And Molly’s Game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:43 AM
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Lol you’re so shallow /s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:55 PM
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...shoulders back and lengthen the spine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:09 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so very powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:41 PM
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I can’t wait to buy a chaise and just lounge. I’m a lady who lounges. I need to be draped across my furniture. Congrats on all of your leveling up - you’re an inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:56 AM
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It would burn me up inside every time I looked down at my hand. I hope this isn’t a quiet and widespread thing, regifting rings, unchanged like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:31 PM
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Lol way to miss the point, ex-roomie. It’s good you’re no longer living together, but it sure must have been awkward immediately after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:26 PM
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Girlllll. The phone connection is real! Ppl are quick and ready to drop a G on a new phone every 2-3 years, but can’t fathom paying that and more for their beloved. You ain’t said nothing but a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:21 PM
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This resonates. Also being told you’re too “deep”, too intellectual, always wanting to dissect and discuss ideas, values, and emotions, the Plato-nic form of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:44 PM
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I’ve read elsewhere that super techy ppl, who do tech/hacking for a living have a “dumb” phone for precisely the reason that it doesn’t track/surveillance you as much. They know how invasive phone technology is, and they avoid it for their personal lives, outside of work. The nefarious ones of course use dumb phone to conduct less than legal/moral business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:20 PM
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I love her living room; so stylish, just like her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:48 PM
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Lovely tea roses!! Reminds me to buy some flowers for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:47 PM
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I can confirm - bath by candlelight is the best. And it’s strangely seductive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:50 AM
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I love her dress and she looks like Jessica Alba. That’s all I got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:44 AM
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lol so he was cheating on both of you. I refuse to believe he met a new girl and put a ring on her finger in three 3 months. She was from his past. Glad you got out of that fiasco relatively unscathed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:21 AM
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Tiktok installed a backdoor for the Chinese government to do surveillance on its users. So, just beware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:10 AM
7

Is there a diff Practical Magic? The one I know has Sandra bullock and Nicole Kidman. I love that movie and watch it when it comes on tv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:31 AM
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Thank you sharing! And thank you for spreading positivity. As much as we share the mistakes and lessons learned, we need to also share the goodness and positivity. ETA : a question If you are so inclined, could you reveal the nature of the “tifs” you were able to resolve with your SO? What is about domestic duties? Or difference of opinion on a decision to make? Or something else? I really like to hear stories of long term partnered people and how they resolve issues with their SOs as a HV coupl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:03 PM
4

Testerical! Ha! That’s a fun word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:05 PM
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She didn’t have to bring inner city kids into it. We all know what that is code for. Just say no, and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:22 PM
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Men, and also teenage boys. A lot of them know they could never in their life speak that way to a young lady in the real world, so they come online and hulk out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:39 PM
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Listen to ppl when they tell you about themselves, the first time!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:34 PM
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Good for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:42 PM
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Whenever a lady starts off with, my bf/partner is sweet, perfect, and amazing, other than this one quality [insert ridiculous behavior/hygiene/otherworldly foolery], I know the post is about to go left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:16 AM
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If I were you, I would clean up and restrict all my other social media profiles (FB, Insta, Twitter, Tik Tok) and possible change your avatar/username for those other ones. That way there’s some separation between your public online life and personal online life. Maybe even cull your followers/friends list as well, esp. if they habitually post NSFW or scandalous content. I always think in the back of my mind, “would I be okay if this ended up on the front page of the newspaper, and also my famil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:27 AM
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Sure thing - happy vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:29 PM
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I think it’s fine to have a burner phone and use that burner number for WhatsApp. But they should be earning the right to even be moved from the app to the burner, especially if you’re texting within the first few days/weeks, because what’s the difference between texting in the dating app and texting in WhatsApp? For me it’s the equivalent of matching with someone and then them asking for more pics of you. Especially if you’re linking your Instagram already. We just met, you’re not my man, why w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:19 PM
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Don’t give them your number too soon either (unless it’s a VOIP like google voice.) Looks like the Whatsapp background. I wouldn’t move off of the app chat until we establish we actually want to have a phone call or a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:06 PM
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I refuse to watch BatB anymore. It’s such a sick story thinking of how her dad bartered her to a literal animal. As an adult woman, Disney princess movies are so problematic. I can’t think too deeply about the plots, or else I get all crabby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:38 PM
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The DailyFail, lol. “Happy at last.” I loved the tenor of his voice and his character on AD, but yeesh men are a cliche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:47 PM
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I love rings, but I’m not a diamond person. I do love the shape of her nails and the manicure though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:37 PM
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Yes - agreed. He’s waiting for you to react and respond and raise holy hell. The silence of ghosting/blocking will drive him up the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:43 AM
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I’m glad you stood up for yourself and told your father it wasn’t right. Demand the respect you deserve. I guarantee that guest will watch what he says around you and your family from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:35 AM
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Red flag lady. If he’s lying to his wife to hang out with his “buddy”, that’s not good. He’s about to get you involved in some mess. Don’t get sucked in. Make it a group hang or no dice, is my $0.02.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:28 AM
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This was my thinking as well. We don’t shame virgins nor do we shame high body count women here. It’s the why behind one’s decisions that we’re concerned about. I’ve learned long ago that words like “bith and “he” are words we use against women we don’t like and can’t control, 8/10 times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:05 PM
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I love whiskey (whisky??) and would love to develop my knowledge. I’m not a connoisseur yet. Start the sub, I would join. Haven’t drank much of it in quarantine, because I would usually order it at a bar, and not partake at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:06 PM
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I love the message, but this picture makes me roll my eyes. And throwing away perfectly good flowers in the trash. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:57 PM
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I love that!! “Remember your value and add tax.” You should put it on a t-shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:24 AM
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It’s comical, because even though it doesn’t “save” in your phone, it’s saved in their servers, and also Snapchat was hacked a few years ago. It’s not safe to send NSFW content on Snap, but people do what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:00 PM
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Maybe check the legal advice sub for answers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:00 PM
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Plan your escape from the situation and then execute. Cut all ties on social media first. If you’re not living together, gather his stuff in a bag and mail it or arrange for a neutral place for pickup like a coffee shop. If you’re living together, get a new place or make alternative living arrangements first, move your things, and then tell the person. Telling the person should be the last step in the process. It will minimize the back and forth, if you’ve already done the hard work of removing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:26 AM
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What is going on in this world? Every couple of weeks there’s a story like this on Reddit. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:50 AM
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Kafkaesque - ya hate to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:13 AM
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My favorite (that I heard from a movie) is: my answer usually is never say never, but in this case I’ll make an exception! (Affirming “never” is my answer to having condomless sex.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:48 AM
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If he’s not your boyfriend, it seems like too soon to be meeting the family. Are you exclusive? I don’t introduce anyone to my family unless it’s serious. And for me, that’s months, perhaps a year in. Friends first and then family. I think go with the flow and stop reaching out as much as others have said. Even with the traveling to see each other, it’s only been 2 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:21 PM
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Bigly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:23 PM
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“Life is too sure”. Que? Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:31 AM
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Don’t give up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:08 PM
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Ugh. I like chokers too, especially with charms. My middle school self wore one from Claire’s for yearrrsss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:02 PM
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Congrats on grad school!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:03 PM
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I made a list that I keep handy of all the things I liked about myself, really liked. Things that have nothing to do with my job or relationship status or the stuff I own. Things about my personality that I knew were intrinsic, regardless of situational interpersonal encounters. That was a good start. Also, not to feed a fed horse, but therapy, therapy, therapy. It really helps with perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:42 PM
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I think r/femalefashionadvice and r/femalefrugalfashion are some great subs for your questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:20 PM
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FDS rescue mission!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:19 PM
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Agreed on most points, but I would say only laugh at his jokes if you actually think they’re funny. Staying authentic is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:55 AM
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::deep sigh::
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:51 AM
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Smh. Ya hate to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:17 PM
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Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:09 PM
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Agreed on dancing, yoga, and stretching. Awareness of your body helps with confidence, and feeling comfortable taking up physical space in the world. I’ve noticed that men, no matter the height nor weight, have no problem taking up space. I think feminine and masculine energy present differently, but they both take up space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:17 AM
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My friend who is an attorney says to always have one, no matter the socio economic status of either partner. She says it’s good to plan for children and pet ownership and also assets. (I have a different friend who lost her dog after she broke up with her fiancé. Obviously they weren’t married, but it sort of relates.) She’s influenced my thinking. I’m open to the discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:28 PM
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Your second example brings to mind something I’ve seen in other forums. And it’s that you have to ask, “is there anyone in your life currently who could think they’re in a relationship with you, even if you don’t feel like you’re in a relationship with them?” It’s maddening to know that you have to twist up your mouth to say that word salad of a question, as if you’re taking a deposition, but that’s where we are as a society. The lines for sexual and emotional intimacy have gotten so blurred wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 02:19 AM
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That sub is a toxic, outrage machine cesspool. I can’t anymore with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:23 PM
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This is the number one principle. Know thyself and be your own best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:17 PM
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Since y’all have a mutual friend, I would respond back, not necessarily to be nice, but to be polite. You can say, “I’m not feeling a romantic connection between us and I wish you well.” If he gets rude after that, you can block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:50 PM
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Someone link her to FDS. Also doesn’t this count as assault? Any lawyers in the group?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:33 PM
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Right?! This is a mental health crisis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:10 AM
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I would recommend 48 laws of power as it’s well researched and it’s fascinating to read about human nature and history. The tactics are said to be amoral. I don’t operate in the way it describes (eg manipulation and all that), but that doesn’t mean other people aren’t doing so, and I like to be informed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:01 PM
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You shouldn’t feel guilty; it’s a personal decision and one I think about as well. I hope it won’t be considered invasive when I ask future hubby to take some medical exams. We as potential mothers have to be proactive about health, why shouldn’t potential fathers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:51 PM
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One of the love languages is acts of service though. When and how is that different from doing chores (seriously asking)? I do agree it’s a relationship problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:26 PM
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Yes, and also “females”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:12 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:28 AM
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Please tell me they’re roasting him in the comments. I wish I man would come and live in MY house and turn on MY computer and cancel something I pay for with MY money. The audacity of men is unparalleled. Don’t eat the food. TF?! I know vegans and meat eaters who live together with no problems. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:18 AM
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Smh. They say water always finds it own level. Also, “breaks” are utter nonsense. I will never fall for the “break” swindle again, because it’s code for sleeping with other people, but not having the guts to do it fully single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:05 PM
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I am honestly baffled at the 22k upvotes for his unpopular opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:49 AM
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That’s so irresponsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:53 PM
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This should be in the wiki. Very useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:56 AM
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So true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:04 PM
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You’re doing the Lord’s work, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:03 PM
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Straight from the horse’s mouth. I sleep well at night knowing no one has nudes of me to leverage in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:54 PM
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Right! Just be poly or whatever. But having an open relationship wouldn’t work for his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:50 PM
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That would be a compelling movie to watch. A long con dark triad style on an entitled entertainer. As long as they don’t give her some tragic background story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:44 PM
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I think it’s telling she singles out black and brown women in her rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:41 PM
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His wife is a psychologist. Very interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:15 PM
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The not all/what abouts drive me up a wall too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:08 PM
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Please say more about managing your digital essence and presentation. I overthink a lot when it comes to being online and sharing photos and having a social. I tend to not post anything at the end of the day, after going through the mental gymnastics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:05 PM
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Sooooo edgey. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:45 PM
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Everything I can think of doesn’t work. You scowl or have RBF, they take it as a challenge to try and make you smile or tell you to smile, you’re too pretty to be like that. You get up and move away, they follow you around. You calmly and in the most non-threatening way possible, tell them sorry you don’t mean to be rude, you don’t want to chat, and they call you dirty bucking fitch, and threaten bodily harm OR tell you you’re ugly anyway. Sigh. I’ve got nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:26 AM
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When you know better, you do better. He’s out of your life (blocked I hope). Welcome to the first day of the rest of your awesome life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:57 AM
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Yeah, ultimatums are the death rattle of relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:05 AM
36

This 1000x.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:53 AM
111

Soon someone will be telling her to compromise her standards before she hits the “wall”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:57 PM
6

Thanks for responding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:53 PM
11

I don’t want it be construed as sticking my head in the sand, but I am intentional about not clicking on dark material about CP and other depravity because it messes about my mental health. Can we put a TW in the title of this thread?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:37 PM
3

How are we defining single? I used to think it had a standard universal definition, but after talking to friends and family, I’ve learned it can mean anything from, not legally married but still dating, talking to, sexing one or multiple people to not actively dating and celibate, and everything in between. I think this meme has valid points, but men in the past has said they’re single but they’re still getting their emotional and physical needs met. So are they truly happy alone just because so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:31 PM
15

But you can’t use my phoneeee. 🎼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:43 AM
5

There but for the grace of God...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:53 AM
2

After which you blocked him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:08 PM
5

The personal is political and the political is person, so sooner or later it comes up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:06 PM
16

FDS rescue mission!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:27 PM
36

Yes! Happy cake day! Every day above ground is a blessing and doubly-so on your born day. I don’t let anyone downplay my personal holiday. Not when life is so damn short and unpredictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:26 PM
47

Lol don’t forget free coaching and counseling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:24 PM
29

Don’t forget maid duties and emotional coaching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:43 AM
22

And on top of the humiliation, you’ve (the women) just told on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:37 AM
20

I just assume all of these younger women May/December relationships are the result of grooming, whether it was the current partner or a previous one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:32 AM
6

😂.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:28 AM
5

This makes me think, honestly, what’s the difference between the understanding of the concepts of “casually dating” and “FWB”? In this generation they both imply sex is on the table and there’s a familiarity with the person. Why can’t it just be called casually dating, without making it murky by attaching the word “friend” to it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:27 AM
22

Yikes; that’s not his granddaughter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:10 AM
8

I’m curious - what did the rest of the profile say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:08 AM
10

Madness. Poor thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:16 AM
8

Which is why she wouldn’t get out of bed for less than 10K a day. I get it girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:48 PM
36

Providing for his child should be his top priority and getting that car would help. All money should be poured into that goal, not “dates”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:04 PM
20

What age group are these couples?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:55 PM
63

The “consequences” needed the most work I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:53 PM
20

He’s giving me very doomsday/survivalist/militia vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:14 AM
13

Archery?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:12 AM
42

I realize you posted this as a rant, not seeking advice, but I feel compelled to give feedback anyway because I’ve been there. As in being nice to someone, and then they take advantage of it. There is no law requiring you to be nice to someone. Politeness, yes, in the right context, but that’s not necessarily the same thing as being nice. You can totally distance yourself from him. He’s not your friend, your family, your teacher or paying your bills. Only talk to him about class related stuff an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:02 AM
57

No one is perfect. You can’t just give up on people. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:26 PM
12

I’m glad you’re not going to be following in her footsteps. Keep grinding and being focused!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:42 PM
12

Thank you for writing this - it’s powerful. I’m saving for future reference because I’m sure I’ll need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:46 PM
11

Congratulations!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:17 AM
25

You’ve got this. You’re going to love all the free time you’ll have and the freed up mental space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:35 PM
14

Couldn’t be me. That’s all I say sometimes to these stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 02:10 AM
2

Might I suggest a Youtuber cleaner/organizer who isn’t as cringeworthy? Her videos have been inspo for me and her children (rarely shown) do help clean up. She’s “The Sunday Stylist”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:55 AM
8

Yup. Totally fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:42 PM
7

Is tabletop games code for something? Is it just ping pong and board games?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:21 PM
7

I’m so glad you had the sense to do that. Who knows what would have happened otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:23 PM
21

Thanks for linking this article. I devoured it in mere minutes. A hyper-competent reasoning of why it’s so dangerous to excuse bumbling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:06 PM
5

Also: even if you’re in a loving amazing relationship, you can still be lonely. It’s a feeling, and like all feelings it comes and goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:50 PM
10

I can’t tell you definitively to leave him or not but I don’t see the shared future you’re talking about. What future are you all building together? What milestones have y’all accomplished together that make this future certain? It might make sense to write it down and see if you state you want to happen and what is actually happening lines up. And if he’s porn free and loving, you can find someone else porn free and loving. Don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:48 PM
33

Lol. If he wants props then he should make some lunches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:15 PM
6

Just placed a hold at my local library. Looking forward to reading this book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:50 AM
5

Your 2nd paragraph is exactly it. Keeping perspective when you’re just so happy to meet a non-weirdo is the hard thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:49 PM
96

Sunk cost fallacy is a hell of a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 04:37 AM
6

Why does this have the flair of sex strategy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:34 AM
10

Ugh, I hate zoos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:21 AM
27

I’m so sorry that you’re going through and will keep you in my prayers. You may want to scroll through the sub as I think someone posted in here a few weeks ago, a step by step action plan to leaving a DV situation. You may want to consult that. I am praying for your safety. Take pics of your injuries (with your face in it) NOW and email them to a friend and yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:56 AM
7

!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:16 PM
7

Agreed on the no contact. If you do nothing else, practice no contact (block on all social media and tell mutual friends not to bring him up). If you break that, it can feel as though you’re moving through the grieving process again from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 03:18 PM
5

Totes agree. Exercise also helps a bunch because it actually helps release hormones that make you happier and like yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 03:14 PM
16

I stopped reading that sub, because it would make my head explode. So. Much. Cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:40 PM
50

How is this her life already at 25?? Like she’s living several decades worth of trauma in a short amount of time. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:10 AM
6

Dreams | Fleetwood Mac When a Man Loves a Woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:47 PM
14

Some colleges have mental health clinics or a mental health professional on staff in the medical clinic. When things go back to normal, you should check that out. A lot of students aren’t aware or don’t use the services.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:28 AM
20

I’m sure he was doing this when they were engaged before they got married. I wonder if she brought it up then. If he refuses to put on underwear, maybe she can get a couple of pee pads for his side of the bed? Lawd, what a mess. If he doesn’t like the pee pads then she or he needs to sleep elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:24 AM
0

This is an extreme generalization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:39 PM
27

Another way to get over envy is to cultivate experiences that give you confidence. Whatever your envious of, try to cultivate those things for yourself, so you can be a better version of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:41 AM
58

Amen. Someone needs to send her this response ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:10 PM
18

Gagging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:55 AM
8

I loved the show Nikita (came on the CW). I thinks it’s now on Amazon Prime. It’s a reboot of a reboot of the original movie from the 90s. This one stars Maggie Q. She knows her own mind and gets the job done with tons of self assuredness and confidence. Pretty decent writing too considering the network.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:46 AM
59

You’re damned if you do, and dammed if you don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:29 AM
38

Men have said they change the age filters and lie to get a wider (read: younger) range of women. They’re fully aware but know some of the younger women they want won’t go above a certain age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:21 AM
4

Men are quite literal. When they say they’re thinking of nothing, they’re actually not thinking. Being arch is a total waste of time in your profile. Just take out that line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:13 AM
7

R/Femalelevelupstrategy. They have some book recommendations there. Use the search.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:47 AM
51

Don’t ever send nudes to a dude. I would be more concerned about that to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:43 AM
1

100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:24 PM
1

This is the best advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:30 PM
29

Take the L and charge it to the game. I agree to delete and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:18 AM
15

Block and move on. Delete all emails too. Over time, unless there are receipts, memory tends to soften and blur the details. Also, the wife probably already knows the man she married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 11:14 PM
9

Draft an email or text to someone important in your life. Send that instead. Plan a meal. Browse on Pinterest. Watch something funny on tv or your fav streaming platform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:55 AM
41

Nothing about his profile is appealing. Not one thing. People need to put themselves in the opposite sex’s frame of mind. Like, if a girl said the equivalent of this, would he swipe right? Enthusiastically? Also, I feel like sometimes people are this brutally “honest” to have an out when they treat you like garbage. They can then say, “look I told you how I am from the beginning. You chose to stay/deal. Why are you mad?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:57 AM
40

I love “coviditude.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:40 AM
48

Stop sending him pics of yourself. I would stop talking to him immediately and block on SM. That’s creepy behavior. He’s probably hoarding them to either add to his collection of pics of girls, using them as spank material, or bragging to others about the kind of girl he can pull. If he’s doing this now, and y’all are just “talking”, imagine what he would do later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:05 PM
9

FDS says to rotational date, so disclosing in and of itself isn’t a red flag. You should be seeing other men too (post Covid). You don’t have to sleep with or be intimate with him or others if you don’t want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:44 PM
5

This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. Also love your handle. We’re all still learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 04:55 AM
29

Dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:19 AM
3

People have the capacity to change. I truly believe that. But it’s very difficult, has to come from within, and it usually means leaving behind the people, places and triggers of an old life in order to do that. No one wants to be surrounded by the reminders of their former selves, and that usually includes the SO, who unfortunately becomes collateral. There are trade offs with change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:08 AM
29

I agree that turnabout is fair play in this scenario. If you say, “cool sleep with <coworker’s name>, and since we’re opening up our marriage, I’ve been dying to sleep with <name of your hot sexy male coworker>, now I don’t have to feel guilty about it”. Say it with a smile on your face and a light tone. If he doesn’t like that, it opens up a way for you to express how unfunny you found his “joke” and to reaffirm your boundaries. Saying something like “For the record, I don’t find this shit funn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:45 AM
23

Those questions are too deep for texting. Texting is a low effort form of communication. I would say, these are great questions; let’s save them for the date you’ll take me on when all of this is over. <insert emoji if you need to soften> The least he could do is call to have a conversation about your childhood. Ugh. This is a pet peeve of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:00 AM
25

I struggle with this as well as I’m naturally an exuberant person about things I care about. Pretending not to care as much takes work. I guess that’s why we have to rotational date. Spread the passion around lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:22 AM
35

Not trying to be a jerk but what if the dog hair was messy or whatnot. It sounds like you both were incompatible through and through, but If someone doesn’t like pet hair all over themselves, that should not be ridiculed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:14 PM
1

FaceTime a friend or loved one if you need to interact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:57 AM
6

Tell him thank you for alerting you, but that he can throw out the things. Simple. No follow-up. No drama. You’ve moved on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:02 AM
4

Dulce Sloan is also funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:48 AM
48

She dodged a stabbing. That is her “apology”. He will try to come back and I hope she has the strength to resist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:02 AM
80

Honestly, it sounds like a fake story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 07:59 AM
1

I think it is receiving gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:13 PM
33

The audacity is reason alone we shouldn’t have low self esteem. When I’m feeling down about myself, I must remember there is a man out there with the unmitigated gall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:33 AM
35

Beyond fake and written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:52 AM
1

What is “forcible rape”? Seems so odd to qualify rape with the word “forcible”. Is there an unforcible rape? Is that when you’re under the influence but still go along with the encounter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:58 AM
8

Madness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:50 AM
34

Also, FDS says no more than one date per week with the same guy. So as not to get overly excited and confuse basic chemistry and hormones with actual feelings. It’s all going to work out, lady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:52 PM
9

If you can’t change jobs right away, try not to visibly react to give him the satisfaction. If you can get up and walk away from them, that would be ideal. If not, breathe in and out slowly and do some counting in your head. Also, call or text a friend to reach out to for support to distract yourself. Hold your head high; you have dignity, self respect, and the compassion of this community on your side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:32 PM
6

Amen sister - we’re in the same tribe. Been making some headway since November, and still going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:32 AM
35

I’m sure there many men that behave as you described with malicious intent or aggressive apathy, however I think there’s something else there. This is based on anecdata, but my understanding is for many of them, words just don’t connect to the emotional center of them like they do us. We’ve been conditioning over our lifetime to pick up on words, nonverbal behavior, feelings etc They’ve been conditioned to respond to action. Overt action. Not the action per se of writing a paragraph, but rather …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:07 AM
17

I’m determined to develop/evolve my personal style and so I’m working with a stylist (just had a 1:1 consultation today) and attended an intimate cocktails chat with a designer to hear her insight on personal branding and style. I feel more hopeful. I have some continuing education goals as well and working on those this week too. This subreddit is such a support system. Thanks ladies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:11 AM
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