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ADVICEDemonConsulting/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 09:35 PM
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The point is that people lie to improve their chances in dating. A woman lying about or just omitting her high N-count is beneficial for her because she may get more relationships since most men prefer not to LTR sluts. A short guy inflating his height, a far woman downplaying her weight, or photoshoping yourself in pictures isn't exactly smart either since it will be obvious that you lied as soon as you meet in person. But people still do it because otherwise they might not have a chance at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 07:58 AM
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Why do men on dating sites lie about being 6ft tall? Why do they try to act red pilled and"fake it till they make it"? Shouldn't they just find someone who loves them for their shy doormat personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 07:31 AM
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That's fine, good choice you didn't have kids then! :) Personally I really enjoy kids over 6 years olds and ages 1-5 are fun to teach and play with but also involve so much supervision that I can't see how people have multiple kids close in age. You couldn't pay me enough to watch other people's toddlers lol. The first baby stage, especially the first 6 months, is what sucks imo because of the lack of sleep and shouldn't be attempted unless you have help from family around or can afford a nanny …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 11:12 AM
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In my experience the issues start once kids are in the mix. Two adults who work outside the house don't make much mess to begin with. If they have a 9-5 job they both have a reasonable amount of free time each day + the entire weekend to do what little chores there are. They are more likely to have disposable income to hire a cleaner or a maid, and even if things don't get done, no one really gets hurt by a bit of dirt and clutter. The thing with kids is, they start in hard mode as far as care i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 08:06 PM
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The parties are social lubricants to network. Even if you don't host your own (rude but ok) you're still expected to show up when invited and act all social to secure and solidify business. This isn't limited to the upper class either, it's like office parties where you have to show up if you want a promotion any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 04:34 PM
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The idea of it sounds attractive to me, just like the idea of an alpha guy in fiction is attractive. But irl I would find it intimidating the same way I find alpha behavior in a man intimidating, as well as charismatic extroverts of any gender. In the vast majority of cases this type of wealth also means upper social class. That's like a completely different world from mine and I would not fit in, most likely embarrass myself, as well as being annoyed at whatever expectations come with being his…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 04:28 PM
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Most people didn't live far away from their extended family afaik so it was more normal and expected to have grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc. close by who would help each other out. I mean in a lot of families it's still like that but people move further and further away from family that's how you end up with couples struggling to raise kids all alone in a big city with high childcare cost without help (aka free childcare and domestic help provided by extended family) and grandparents stuck in…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 05:39 PM
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I think this is 100% true. Ever since I've had a child my sleep deprived brain simply has 0 capacity to worry about anything other than the baby and the most important tasks. Husband comes home late from work, didn't answer some text, plays videogames late at night instead of coming to bed, doesn't clean the bathroom, leaves his clothes laying around in the bedroom? Sure whatever 0 fucks to give over here as long as the doors are closed so we can sleep and the kid doesn't kill himself by sweatpa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 01:14 PM
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Tbh I think this individualist focus on a nuclear family has only been a temporary phenomenon of post WW2 western society. Before that the FSM was simply part of family life for women and necessary for existing within their community. They had to fit in and be friendly with their aunts, cousins, mothers, female neighbors, daughters etc. to have the support necessary for raising children and later being taken care of in old age
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 12:06 PM
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I think if I found myself single later in life (45+) with a stable career that guarantees my retirement, my kids grown up and out of the house with no plans on having more, I wouldn't really care. At that point you're not building a family and a life together where you would need protection under the law as a unit. You're just living out your days as a couple after each having built a life of your own already. Though at that point i would just consider it a non issue and not bring it up. If the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 11:43 PM
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So why don't their husbands just jump and take over these easy non-taxing daily tasks to prove her wrong? Or rather why weren't they doing it all along in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 07:32 AM
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I pointed out in my original reply that a woman gives up her most attractive/fertile years, her body, and major time in her career if she has children. Women can go out to work but they can't put 100% into their work and birth/ care for children at the same time. On average their career takes a much bigger hit than men's since they are physically out of commission for a while after birth and then do the majority of child care. They tend to be the ones who take parental leave, work part time, are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 08:26 AM
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The most common reason for divorce is infidelity so I guess not cheating would be a good point to start... Women initiate divorce because it doesn't have such a negative effect on them as it does on men. Meaning a man will stay married for financial reasons even when they're done with their marriage and just check out or cheat until his wife makes the decision to "initiate divorce".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 06:51 AM
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Turns out all of humanity was right and feminists are wrong 😦
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 04:11 AM
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Single moms are idiots in most cases that's the point. Women get old and unattractive no matter how great their game is so the only way to not get traded in for a younger model with 0 financial security is marriage. We know which way men are swaying though as the marriage rate has been consistently dropping for years We also know which way birthrates are developing. The western middle class is dying out while idiots and conservative foreigners breed in high numbers. So either society will degene…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 04:09 AM
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What possible advantage could women and children gain from being illegitimate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 03:58 AM
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Huh maybe it's an industry thing... I've seen these attitudes in tech, research at University, and government admin type work. Especially once you get into management positions. Not that they like women taking time off for their kids, they just accept the reality and unofficially try not to put mothers or potential soon to be mothers into important positions
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 03:53 AM
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Tbh I don't know how much those jobs pay in the US but here neither of those would let them maintain a middle class life if they end up a single mom... Just housing would be barely affordable in most cities
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 05:47 PM
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I mean best years in terms of attractiveness and fertility, the former often being permanently affected by pregnancy. Traditionally you get those attractive years and healthy offspring in exchange for taking care of her even when she gets old and unattractive. But speaking of career setbacks: Women still tend to be the one who leaves early to pick up the kids from daycare, take breaks to pump milk, don't work overtime or weekends, don't network and socialize after work, don't go on multiple day …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 05:35 PM
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Tbh I agree that marriage for childfree couples and those who live in the same country permanently is not really necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 05:01 PM
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A woman who has kids with you under these circumstances would have to be an idiot. Like you said, you could leave her for a new model on a whim after she gave up her body, her best years, as well as career opportunities, to birth and raise your children. Then she's homeless with a bunch of kids and an underdeveloped career at 40 while you play house with the next perma-gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 04:50 PM
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It's not a stable environment to raise kids in or generally build a life together. Women's careers take a huge hit from having children since they are missing work for giving birth, recovering, taking care of a newborn, taking time off if the child is sick, planning around limited daycare hours, lacking flexibility in when they can work, etc. abd they usually do most of the chilscare. It's a major life decision the couple makes as a unit. If they're not a legal unit, they can't really afford to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 04:02 PM
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If they plan on having children, they would have to be an idiot not to insist on marriage beforehand. Giving up your best years, your body, and career opportunities to birth and raise kids without any legal security for the future is incredibly irresponsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 03:34 PM
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Yeah people with unstable personality types are more likely to engage in unstable/reckless/impulsive behavior. But they don't regret it later on, at least not in a way that they "learn" from it and police the next generation in an attempt to better their lives (aside from their own kids maybe). Just like the last generation the unstable women just pair off with similarly unstable men and proceed to cheat, "find themselves", have open marriages, divorce, remarry, etc. Or I suppose these days ofte…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 04:13 AM
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Women slut shame each other all the time and have done so for ages. But slut shaming done by anyone, male or female, is in 99.9% of cases about making themselves feel better and/or look better in front of their peers while undermining the other girl"s position. So yeah chances are former sluts will slut shame but not because they lose out on life and have regrets. Most sluts marry slutty men and live normal well adjusted lives. Well adjusted meaning also "growing up" and shaming those damn kids …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 05:01 PM
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Don't care, people should live their lives the way they want to (as long as it doesn't infringe on other's rights to do the same)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 12:18 PM
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The only older bachelors I knew were my uncle and my dad's best friend. Both remained unmarried until their mid 40s for very different reasons, then ended up marrying divorcees with adult children. Until recently they were like day and night. My uncle was obese, struggling financially and with his career with a mostly useless degree. I don't know if he tried to date or not but he was always single until last year when he suddenly lost all the extra weight, got a new much better job in his career…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 01:09 PM
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If prostitution gets legalized in the US, it won't be because of men lacking sex. Increased violence would be met with harsher punishment and long prison sentences in this culture, though sexless men in wealthy developed countries tend to numb themselves with porn and videogames rather than getting violent (see Japan) Legal prostitution could happen if conservative religious influence goes down, it could happen from an angle of reducing shady business and not criminalizing prostitutes for sellin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 10:25 AM
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The short one, 5'5 isn't a negative for me since I'm only 5'2 myself. The 6 foot guy would actually be a bit tall for me, I think we would look more like father and child next to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 07:15 AM
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I guess I'm super soft when it comes to kids but yeah I would treat it as if it's an adopted child and act as a mother. Tbh I'm kinda surprised myself since usually any hypothetical scenario featuring infidelity instinctively made me want to kill the other woman buuut I feel absolutely nothing negative towards the child. Maybe it's because I have a child myself and generally like kids. I'd actually love to have more in the future without having to go through pregnancy and childbirth myself... Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 11:28 AM
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Lol the thought never even occured to me until I read this question and I'm super neurotic about most things. As for my SO, he's the only one I've ever had so no comparison but I do know that it is very enjoyable
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 03:47 PM
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I think it's different with a married vs. a gf or even first date. The first can just be something nice and considerate or a bit of old fashioned romance when life is otherwise probably pretty unromantic with work, kids, chores, etc. and you know your spouse well enough to know if this gesture is appreciated. With a first date it seems a bit try hard and like you want to impress with somewhat outdated gestures.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:00 PM
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What shouldn't be? Making time for your child to raise it (for both parents)? Cause I agree most working parents, be it both working or only one working, can make enough time for their child to be good role models. Weekends exist after all and most people work closer to 40h a week, not 60. I'm just saying that unless the father is the primary care giver, neither a SAHM nor a working mother will turn the kid more RP than the other. It comes down to male role models in the child's life (father, te…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 11:53 AM
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A male role model, aka the father, is responsible for teaching a boy how to be a man. This has nothing to do with the woman staying home or not, unless you suggest the father staying home instead. If both parents are working all day, the child would be in daycare and again raised mostly by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 11:07 AM
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Alright calm down, I'm not anti marriage, never have been, probably because I'm female and not jaded but that's besides the point. I literally just wanted to point out the average amount of time before marriage (5 years) and the fact that people who date for 3+ years before getting married stay together longer. You don't have to make decisions in your personal life based on that and it does not invalidate your experience, it just means your experience is not the "average" experience that studies…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 03:47 PM
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Proposing isn't marriage though. He could propose after two years (or you just mutually discuss marriage and agree on a plan) but have the actual marriage take place 2-3 years later. The average time dating from what I found on Google is around 5 years. "Dating" includes the engagement. There have been multiple studies posted here though that suggest being together for 3+ years before marriage significantly lowers the likely hood for divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 09:04 AM
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Good let's keep walking and ignore him. Where I live ppl don't really cat call unless they're drunk or seriously unhinged and looking for a fight. This type of guy is also very likely to carry a knife so that's bad news
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 06:12 PM
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Mess only bothers me when I know that I will eventually have to clean it up and/or leaving it will have a negative effect on me later. I "couldn't see" mess when I was living with my parents either, because if I left it, it would be magically fixed a few days later anyway (meaning my overworked mother cleaned it, or the cleaning lady). Once I was living on my own, I suddenly saw mess everywhere and it bothered me. If I didn't wash the dishes, they would start to stink, there would be no clean on…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 09:35 AM
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Being risk averse, selecting for strength/bravery/status, and having a reactive sex drive is an evolutionary advantage when you are physically weaker, have a limited amount of eggs, 9 months of pregnancy followed by a dangerous birth, and at least a couple of years to raise the completely helpless child as their primary care giver/ food source. It is a disadvantage when you (and your competition) have a large amount of sperm that can impregnate a lot of women in a short time frame, and/or you ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 07:56 AM
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INTJ and no, I get validation from being one of the autistic unicorn women online. (This makes up for a lack of real world connections and FSM status right?)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 02:58 AM
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Idk what definition of love you're using here but pair bonds based on chemicals in the brain are reliably formed in both men and women. I have yet to see research that suggests a significant difference in the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 03:19 AM
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“better“ depends on what you value and what you have to offer I'd say. It's worth remembering though that a more traditional woman will expect you to fill the role of a traditional man. That doesn't mean she's a gold digger or anything like that, it just means that if you both desire a traditional relationship, both of you have to play the part. This includes the man providing for the family (stable job, education, owns a house or flat not just renting, etc.) taking the lead and responsibility i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 10:01 AM
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What are your thoughts on MtF trans women? Are they women? I see them as somewhere in-between I guess but I'll use whatever pronouns they prefer and irl if they pass as women, I won't be able to tell the difference anyway. There are plenty of women with rather masculine features where I live anyway - hell past 50 the only way to tell a lot of them apart from men are the boobs... Do you think you'd be as likely to befriend them as a person who was born female? Why or why not. I guess? Again, if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 07:59 AM
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Honestly same... also extremely classist
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:41 AM
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This just made me realize how much I avoid looking at people in public... I legit couldn't tell you or even remember the last time I found any stranger on the street attractive. I just mind my own business
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 12:54 PM
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Alone, I don't share.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 04:40 PM
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I've always been in the “cute“ category by looking very young so that's what I'm used to. I think hot is more powerful/ dominant and can get you further in life if you play your cards right but I'm more of an introverted/shy person so idk how that would work for me... I don't like to attract attention so any sort of open approach would mostly make me uncomfortable and I think the type of man who approaches and LTRs hot women (vs. “cute“) is probably more dominant/assertive than I'm comfortable w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 05:19 PM
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Assuming this isn't a troll, during what time in the US was the fabric of society intact then in your opinion? Co-ed schools have been the norm for K-12 since the end of the 19th century...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 03:38 PM
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Your argument makes it sound like paying money to one's biological children is a great burden where every cent needs to be monitored. At the same time you're saying that adding the increased cost for bureaucracy to the amount of child support or making the taxpayer, a completely uninvolved third party, foot the bill for said monitorig is “irrelevant“. So apparently money only matters if it goes to the child while paying it to government employees for more oversight is fine or the rest of society…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 08:08 AM
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Yes, I really like my dad. Idk if I sought out my husband because he's similar to my dad in some ways or more because he is similar to me in personality and interests (a lot of which I unsurprisingly also happen to share with my parents) but yeah I think my father is a pretty great guy with a lot of traits that I also appreciate in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 10:04 AM
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You seem to be talking about attraction/“tingles“/ being in love - that's what makes up the erotic part of a romantic relationship. The more universal and what I would call “true“ love is a bunch of oxytocin in your brain creating a strong emotional connection to another person over a prolonged period of time and is not limited to romantic relationships. It is exactly the same mechanism that makes you love your parents, siblings, children, etc. If you want to put labels on it, the first would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 12:41 AM
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... you don't think men look at women's social media to vett them and their sexual history in the same way before considering comittment? They will 100% check if you're a giant hoe, constantly changing bfs and getting into drama, posting tons of revealing pics for attention, have a kid, etc. If a normal young woman doesn't want you to see her social media, meet her friends and family, etc. she's probably hiding something too. Best case scenario is she's just a slut but there's a good chance she'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 08:06 PM
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By that logic all RP men would have had RP fathers (and not needed TRP as a consequence) If anything, very feminist parents create anti-feminist teens/young adults because kids like to be edgy and disagree to feel like they have an identity and independence
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:26 PM
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Personally I'm looking forward to being an older lady as long as my husband is around and I have a good relationship with my kids :) Old people seem to truly give 0 shits about what others think, they get all the fun time with their grandkids and get to hand them back to the parents when it gets difficult, etc. I just hope technology and medicine advances to a point where we can get rid of all the health problems that come with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:16 PM
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Because one is easier and more realistic than the other. Completely overthrowing societal norms in the whole country as an individual or a small group is infinitely more difficult than moving.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:06 PM
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You do realize that fathers, who traditionally got to make that decision, don't want their daughters to marry ugly losers either, right? It would be like in China where men are expected to at least own a home (by our standards either a flat that fits a whole family in a major city or a house anywhere else) + have a degree and a good career to provide for the woman before they're considered marriage material. Additionally “childish“ tendencies like videogames are pretty frowned upon by most paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:02 PM
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Somehow despite legal prostitution at an affordable price that has been available for a while now, rape, incels, and frustrated men still exist where I live. Elliot Rodger types wouldn't be satisfied by prostitutes anyway - his whole problem was that girls didn't desire him sexually. Having to pay for sex with a prostitute when other guys get it for free and from popular girls in their social cycle gives those guys 0 validation. I'd still advocate for legal and well regulated prostitution becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 09:47 PM
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How on earth do you keep making these leaps? Now we've somehow gone from college sluts to porn shoots ... the problem with porn is that it is online for everyone and forever - this can seriously mess up your chances of employment, etc. It is not equivalent to having casual sex with people who you will never see again. Now my mother is very similar to me in character and I would expect that a hypothetical daughter would be too so this scenario seems highly unlikely. But if my mom for example had …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:44 AM
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... ok, I guess? You certainly seem very passionate about it. Though I still don't see why other people's choices make you so angry. Just because they live a certain way doesn't mean you can't live your own life differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:28 AM
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We can't have it half way. We literally do though. The reality we have in the west right now is that individuals get to decide what they do with their lives and it turns out different people make different choices based on their individual preferences. There is no reason “we“ as a society “should“ be doing anything - it is simply the result of individual choice. And if half of society decides to have casual sex and settle down later while the other half chooses monogamy, then that's just how it …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:08 AM
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Why does “society“ have to care about sluts and police their behavior? Why can't you just make the choices in life that make you happy and let other people do the same? Look, I married young and my husband was the first and only person I've ever had sex with. We both wanted marriage and monogamy and weren't interested in casual sex so we're happy with this arrangement. At no point did other people making different decisions in their lives affect our decision to live the way we want to. Neither o…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:59 AM
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... how exactly did you go from college sluts to adultary and ruined marriages? The sluts in college aren't married or in comitted relationships. Being a frat boy and having casual sex with girls in college is perfectly fine, you aren't hurting anyone. College sluts and frat boys are a completely different demographic from married people - frat boys aren't out ruining marriages because they're not even in the same social cycle. What married woman hangs out at a frat house? After college frat boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:45 AM
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If that's what you want, cool. I got the impression that you value a low N-count and do want marriage so I thought you might be happier looking for a woman with similar values (maybe outside the college party scene you seem to dislike) but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:30 AM
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This has been a thing since at least the 60s-70s. The current generation is actually having less sex than their parents. Idk what grave consequences you're expecting but the western world as it is right now has already gone through at least one generation of sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:24 AM
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Shouldn't your message be aimed at getting men to avoid slurs then, instead of slut shaming women? If the majority of men collectively choose not to date or marry sluts because it benefits them, that's absolutely their right and it doesn't necessarily involve any shaming - it's simply a personal decision. I guess the body of your OP is mainly aimed at men, the title and focus on slut shaming in the beginning just doesn't really fit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 11:03 PM
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Who is “letting“ them have an insurance plan and how exactly does this affect you negatively? Is someone holding a gun to your head and making you marry them? If other men want to marry sluts, that's their decision to make, not yours. You can choose to pair up with a virgin in your late teens/ early 20s and marry her instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:36 PM
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I don't see why you need to shame people for making choices that you disagree with that don't affect you. It is perfectly valid to not like sluts, to not have sex with sluts, to not settle for and marry sluts, and to instead look for a low n-count woman. None of that requires you to go out of your way and shame them. What's so hard about living your life and letting them live theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:18 PM
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So idk how others here define the “connection“ they need but for me it is more about needing a certain level of comfort before I can enjoy physical intimacy with another person (not even limited to romantic relationships but certainly vital for sex occur). That means I need to get to know the person at least to the point where I'm reasonably confident they won't hurt me physically or emotionally. The latter for me also means they're looking for a serious, exclusive LTR and are genuinely interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 01:15 AM
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Red/F/22/white (German) Doesn't want marriage Doesn't want children Smokes/ does drugs/ drinks a lot No job or career prospects/ ambitions Debt Younger or more than 5 years older than me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 12:56 AM
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I think a lot of the qualities are attractive to most women, however the ones they are most likely to “get with“ are women who are ok with casual sex and/or short term/ non-exlusive/ undefined relationships. Simply because that's what the men are looking for (won't stick around if they don't put out, etc.) and the typen of woman who will be in the places they're looking in (bars, clubs, hookup apps) I don't think there is anything that would specifically only attract women with low self esteem o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 12:24 AM
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They're largely anti marriage and looking for casual sex -not exactly what conservative women are typically looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:45 PM
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I remember a lot of nerdy teenage girls with Snape posters in their bedrooms 🤔 Srsly though most guys on posters are both young, good looking and popular/rich/powerful (Rp might say high status)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:33 PM
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If they still pass the minimum looks-theshold, sure. I couldn't see anything attractive in a man who looks like Emperor Palpatine no matter how unlimited his power may be. Irl most old people look, well, old so I can't really think of an example where this would apply, unless you count actors in their 30s-40s (certainly much older than I would date irl), in their roles as specific characters, not who they actually are
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 03:22 PM
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Most marriages end up in divorce This is statistically false. Even if you count second and third marriages the divorce rate has at no point exceeded 50% in the US and the peak was in the 80s-90s with the boomers who where pressured into marrying young. It also includes serial divorcees who keep getting married and divorced multiple times. The divorce rate for first marriages today is closer to 30%, meaning around 70% of first marriages do in fact stay together which, by definition, is “most“.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 03:02 PM
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Absolutely. It should be brought up and written well in advance though and reviewed by our own individual lawyers. This ensures not only that it is fair and doesn't feel like anyone is pressured into it on short notice but it also makes it far more likely to be enforcable in the first place. Obviously the content of the prenup would be important in itself. In general, I would have gladly signed one with my husband but neither of us had any meaningful assets to protect at the time we got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 12:31 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 08:43 AM
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How old is she? 15? Unless he's genuinely bad for her like using/abusing her and she only dates him from a lack of self esteem, chances are those friends are jealous or simply have very different taste in men. Outside of highschool, I've only ever heard this phrase when a woman considers getting (back) together with a guy who makes her life worse by who he is as a person (and creates a bunch of drama in the process). Not about someone she finds attractive but doesn't live up to her friends SMV-s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:43 PM
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...how do you even quantify a man being in the top 20%? Is it looks, income, personality, game, all of them? Most women pair up with a guy from their own socioeconomic background who they meet through their social cycle/ school/ job/ etc. and who they find attractive. So he might be in the top 20% of men in their immediate vicinity and age group but not compared to all men in general. In my experience, unless the women in question are getting old and/or really desperate, “holding out“ for a bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 07:06 PM
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How old are we in this scenario and do we get to have sex while dating before marriage? If we got married early and/or got to have sex while dating then definitely the virgin - I was one when I met my husband so that would pretty much be the male equivalent and probably compatible. If he's in his late 20s or older, I'd pick the guy with 30+ women even though it's not ideal as far as compatibility goes. A virgin at that age is either consciously avoiding sex, most likely from being weirdly religi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:58 PM
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Sure if I were asexual, I'd rather be a virgin for life and maybe find another asexual person for companionship. I assumed the OP was talking about me as I am right now though, not with a hypothetical vastly different sex drive or sexual orientation. Really when I think about it, even just having vastly different preferences and life goals such as being child free, polygamous, uninterested in marriage, etc. would be enough to make both scenarios much more appealing (hence other people with diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 01:13 PM
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28 is the average age of marriage but the average time people spend dating eachother before that is around 5 years. So most people meet their future spouse in their early-mid 20s. If a woman only starts looking for a man at 28, she is already limiting herself to a smaller (and worse quality) dating pool of men who aren't in a serious LTR/engaged/married at this point. She also has very little time to find the right partner and will need to get married and start having children quickly. Meaning s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:23 AM
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Well they both sound dreadful compared to my actual life but I guess I would have to go with the slut and hope I at least charged some of them money 😝 If I'm a virgin at 28, what have I even been doing the past 10 years of my life? I obviously haven't had any kind of serious romantic relationship for most of the time because no normal man will commit without sex this long - even religious ones will push for early marriage to get sex. So I'm not even in a relationship by 28, let alone married + I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:07 AM
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See I'd say no reasonable woman would pick children in this scenario if it disqualifies marriage since the latter is necessary for the former to even be a realistic option (that won't enevitably fuck over your life and that of the children by being a single mom). If you see marriage as the only stable environment to have children in, then the option of having children out of wedlock automatically falls flat. Obviously marriage without children isn't ideal if you want them but at least you can st…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 02:17 AM
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Any woman who would even consider having children out of wedlock seems delusional to me so I'd see marriage as the non-negotiable basis to have children in the first place. Unmarried with children is barely a step up from single mom (and realistically very likely to result in the latter anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 04:58 PM
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The legal framework it provides. The law recognizes, protects, manages this specific form of a family union. This comes with a whole list of benefits/legal protection/obligations that are not given (automatically or at all) to any other form of relationship. This includes but is not limited to things like being able to add your partner to your health insurance, having access and being able to make decisions in case of a medical emergency, some specific legal protection in criminal cases, getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 09:50 AM
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Is this much different from tinder? When I used it 4 years ago that was pretty much the standard message by men initiating the conversation as well. Imo that's just what the average person who doesn't invest a lot of time or thought in this type of app does.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 10:06 AM
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Dracula obviously. My weekends already consist of sleeping all day and staying up all night to play videogames so I think we could really get along Edit: this may also be strongly influenced by the fact that I find Rambo really unattractive. Like just his face alone is a major turnoff for me and that haircut has not aged well... he would legit have to wear a paper bag over his head. Then again he is a male power fantasy so he was never designed for me to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 07:04 AM
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I agree that social skills are also essential in the job market (and really most other areas of life) but I disagree that service jobs are desirable, that social skills were not needed before, or that this is a conscious preference based on money instead of instinct. The specific type of social skills that are attractive to women are pretty much what modern employers would call leadership skills, specifically that's what they cite when they promote the professionally mediocre but very charming g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 04:39 PM
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What do you like about German culture The directness I guess. But at the end of the day that's just what I consider normal because I grew up here all my life. Our environment and upbringing shapes our social expectations and preferences in many ways. What do you mean? Why do you not adore the warmth? Same as above, I grew up in and am used to German culture where there is much less touching and “warmth“. That is normal and comfortable to me. Anything more is not perceived as “warm“ but at invasi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 07:51 AM
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Compared to Germany , north American culture still seems way too “warm“ and fake-nice. Why do SA cultures not respect the personal bubble? Seriously though, North America was initially colonized and settled primarily by northern Europeans (Brits, Irish, Germans, etc.) while central and South America was colonized by the Spanish and Portuguese. They brought their cultural norms with them, as did every consecutive wave of immigrants later on. Everything you described above has its roots in the res…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 07:37 AM
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Ok? So don't take the deal - no one is forcing you. It's a good deal for the government and families (in most cases) because of the privileges and regulations that I outlined above. If you personally don't want or need joint health insurance, family based immigration, joint taxes, access for a medical emergency, a stable legal framework to raise children in, any of the other benefits, or it's simply not worth it for you, just don't get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 01:29 AM
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Marriage is primarily needed as a legal institution by the government completely separate from religion, love, cohabitation etc. It is simply defining and establishing a legal family unit which comes with a clearly defined framework of rights/protection/rules concerning material and financial assets, etc. This covers many areas such as health insurance, taxes, immigration, criminal law, access and the ability to make decisions concerning medical emergencies, division of assets in case of death o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 11:50 AM
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Just from anecdotal evidence, female managers who are “childfree“ as a conscious choice to further their career can be even more biased against women who (plan to) have children or are at least not openly opposed to it. Since they made that choice based on their own assumption that giving both your family and your career enough attention is impossible as a woman and they're so very special for making it in a men's world at all, this makes most other women unfit or a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 10:31 PM
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No it's not, he's a network engineer at Telstra (or was at least until they suspended him over this whole story).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 06:34 PM
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People in general tend to feel judged/ attacked if you state a personal preference that excludes them and they tend to get defensive, either rejecting your assessment, attacking you in return, or excluding themselves from the negative statement. It is an assumed or sometimes even overt judgement of their character. A popular example on reddit: a huge number of people losing their collective shits, if you make a statement against weed in any way, including a personal preference to not consume it …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 12:05 AM
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They also like/ happily accept “easy“ sexually forward women. To use the highschool example, a lot of “bitches“ act and dress in a way that gets them a lot of attention from everyone, including guys, and some will not just put themselves out there but practically throw themselves at the boys they like. Most guys don't say no to that opportunity. Some shy wallflower type girl who likes the same boy and was previously the victim of the “bitchy“ behavior now wonders why he goes for that girl instea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 08:08 PM
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They complain about “society“ somehow conspireing to keep them down, when it's mostly a natural difference in their personality and choices or due to their specific upbringing. I personally do not care about what they do with their lives, they however obviously care very deeply and are often upset at their lack of success with women. If they go online looking for advice on how to improve or just complain, that's my stance on it. If they want to get laid, they need to perform in prosocial/ “alpha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 10:40 PM
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Boy scounts was boys only for the entirety of this generation's childhood/youth and sports past primary school didn't get “pussified“ during that time either or football jocks wouldn't be such a popular stereotype. Yet here we are with millions of omega schlubs in their 20s and 30s congregating on the internet. Little nerds just don't join sports or other high thestosterone male spaces the same way alpha jocks do, be it in school or outside. They need to be forced into it and be expected to perf…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:12 PM
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😘 thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 12:19 AM
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Honest question, do you think there is a non-sexual solution for the sexual problem? Like I don't think my husband would leave me since besides shared hobbies, companionship, cuddles, backrubs, child care, magically appearing meals and coffee, there is also simply a very close emotional bond and a form of respect towards family and the institution of marriage. But at the same time I would imagine that a complete lack of sexuality would non the less make him unhappy in the long run. He could most…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 11:01 PM
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😱 the shame
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 10:26 PM
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Blowjobs and anal probably? I mean bjs are already what I usually initiate when I'm not feeling like piv sex, (like when I'm on my period or right now 8 months pregnant which makes it physically uncomfortable) Though believe it or not, I like to do nice things for and with my husband because I like making him happy, not because I'm scared that he would leave me if I didn't. Same goes for whatever else I do for him like cooking the food he likes, giving him massages, etc. If sex was the only thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:51 PM
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Or you could put some work into parenting your children and teach them another language, as well as engaging them in more educational activities than youtube like for example... teaching them to play the violin. Since you're supposedly staying home in this hypothetical scenario, you could even homeschool them and/or go full tiger mom in pushing their education. How do you think relatively poor Asian immigrants still manage to produce high achieving children while white trash parents on the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 11:03 PM
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Female Smoking of any substance recreational drug use, additction (both legal and illegal) non-monogamous doesn't want kids doesn't want marriage doesn't prioritize our relationship/family/marriage over other aspects of their life (like always putting their career first, working crazy long hours without financial necessity, etc.) preachy/ abnoxious/ extreme views on religion, politics, lifestyle, etc. stupidity and/or ignorance with no interest in learning major unresolved issues from past relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 09:41 PM
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... soooo why don't you just teach them at least 1-2 of those languages yourself? I also speak 4 languages and my parents didn't pay a single cent for extra language classes. Both worked full time and have great careers, bilingual upbringing was a given from birth + 3rd language when starting school + 4th language starting secondary school. Even if your country's school system happens to be crappy and only offers one foreign language, that would be 3 without major expenses or even effort on your…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 08:32 PM
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Yeah I agree. Obviously most jobs come with responsibilities but in terms of finding a compatible partner it is possible to at least filter out extreme cases that won't mash at all with their priorities/ life goals/ personality
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:04 PM
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Military to avoid student loans - I'm really greatful we don't generally have this issue in Germany
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:02 PM
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Men don't have that problem because women tend to care a lot about status and money. Both of those come with a job/a career so there is no conflict there. I disagree that putting career before family/marriage is never a problem for men, even if their career is important. I know I hated the fact that my husband had to be away for 6 months with his job, I don't like it when he has to work overtime, and I absolutely do not like that his job pretty much has to come first by law. A “career man“ who w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 09:00 AM
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Isn't the more interesting question if this inequality is inherent and has some natural merit or if it is a man made concept that can be changed? (And maybe “should“ be changed from the oppressed party's point of view?) Looking at the highly unequal feudal system of Europe for example, the ruling class would claim their higher value was legitimately derived from God. This went unchallanged for centuries until at some point the “low value“ serfs in France started a revolution, granting them (more…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 09:05 PM
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Slutty daughter. They fit into society, have friends and relationships, and probably even have better chances at marrying Chad than any introverted virgin because they actually run in the same social cycle. The latter is really only high prized among introverted guys like the majority of reddit. But more importantly the average “slut“ seems too be enjoying life as a whole and as long as they're safe when having sex, there's nothing really wrong with it (even if I myself can't see the appeal) Inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 04:56 PM
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That seems... odd, at least if you never actually grew up to understand why those things are bad (even if you may not have known as a small child) I know that for me, starting around the age of 3, something changed in the way that I viewed the world and other living beings around me - I started to develop empathy. So I could now for example understand that squeezing a frog was bad because it hurts and kills it and kicking or punching other kids hurts them too. A bit later I also understood that …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 09:14 PM
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Moreso because smoking affects everyone around them too I'd say, not because society cares to much about smokers' personal health. You don't get diabetes or a heart attack just from standing next to a fat person eating their third doughnut.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 02:24 PM
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You don't see anyone advocating for not getting enough sleep. When someone is without sleep we fill pity for them. We aren't like "you pulled another all night!? You go girl!?" I mean that's not exactly a rare attitude in college (?) Same goes in the business world for glorifying people working overtime, commuting crazy long hours, never taking sick leave, or not taking their vacation time as being good workers who “sacrifice“ for the company. Though granted we're positively lazy compared to eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 02:18 PM
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He still had status, money, an impressive physical frame and she had stockholm syndrome. But yeah if you're ugly but rich and intimidating, you can probably get a woman to “fall in love with you“ if you hold her prisoner long enough. On the other hand you have fairy tales like the frog king who is so repulsive to the princess that he has to creepily coerce her into kissing him and she throws him against a wall. When he turns into a beautiful prince it's suddenly all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 08:02 PM
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Honestly same. I specifically remember telling my mom at 4 years old that I hated princesses and barbies because they're all blonde while the villains had dark hair. I also prefered the animals in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 07:54 PM
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The men (and women) who get a happy every after in disney movies are already at the top of the pecking order. They're handsome princes and beautiful princesses who find an equally high value partner. Poor and ugly people are goofy side characters at best or straight up villains. Somehow little girls seem to quickly understand how important looks are to this equation while men on here apparently missed the fact that they are not square jawed princes. Even beyond disney I can't think of a movie be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 07:33 PM
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Would you feel more sexually attracted to a fat troll looking woman because she has a really nice personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 01:50 AM
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This is a very common phenomenon in online dating but irl many women can't even tell the difference between 5'9 and 6ft and tend to overestimate a guy's height (if he is not very short). Men also inflate their height so their frame of reference is off (many 5'9 guys claiming to be almost 6ft, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 01:47 AM
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Yes the vast majority care, the only question is how much. Most women are pretty set on wanting a man who is taller than them at least, however it is not as extreme as only dating over 6ft guys irl or whatever. Similar to dick size, women can tell if it's big or small but the vast majority of people can't guess the exact size of a man in feet and inches just by looking at him, unless he is very similar to them in height, and they tend to guess over the actual size rather than under. Additionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 06:27 PM
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Does that also apply to abusive relationships (and specifically the actual abuse) as OP describes though? Reversing Op's extreme scenario by gender, the guy would have been a complete doormat with an abusive ex gf and let her walk all over him. The gifts, the dates, the romantic shit, maybe agreeing to an open relationship where she slept with other guys, were all things he didn't really want to do but felt pressured into doing out of fear that she would leave him/ berate him/ get crazy upset/ t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 11:33 PM
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Wouldn't the matriarchy equivalent be expecting the husband taking he wife's name instead of both keeping their old names? Neither is submitting to/ changing for the other in the first scenario (?) I agree with your other points
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 05:33 PM
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No. I don't have any male friends and I pretty much actively avoid getting close and being anything but professional with guys who I interact with through work, college, etc. Unless it's like a childhood friendship turned romantic interest, orbiters tend to find you anyway and approach you first in an attempt to get closer, no need to seek them out. The challenge is filtering between people who are genuinely just friendly vs. those intending to orbit and then avoiding the latter without being ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 07:59 AM
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So my husband is a pretty quiet guy in general and I found that to be a good quality because I am more on the quiet side as well and loud/extroverted people are not only draining for me to interact with, but also kind of intimidate me and tend to quickly talk over me. However he does speak up for himself, is not a pushover, and can hold a good conversation - he just prefers not to talk that much if he doesn't have to or the topic is not something he particularly cares for. (And the same applies …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 12:36 AM
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I also really like the fact that they're both ugly, decided to stay ugly, and still got a happy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 04:57 PM
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Pretty much every relationship that plays a major role in the plot. It's an easy way to create tension and/or play into a wish fulfillment fantasy for the reader while disregarding how unrealistic or harmful it would be irl. Healthy relationships tend to thrive on stability so they're not very exciting to read or write about. At best they might be used as a plot device to be the goal the protagonist keeps chasing (while some bullshit drama keeps them apart) but in that case the story usually end…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 04:12 PM
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Online (Tinder). I was trying to emulate being a normal a non-spergy human and date, somehow ended up married after I messaged him over shared interests in anime and videogames. He actually lived 3h away (which was way more than the radius Tinder supposedly gave me) and he was not familiar with Germany yet so our “first date“ irl was me visiting for a weekend after a month of back and forth texts and Skype.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 07:45 AM
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What exactly is there to understand or not? Research shows that it happens very frequently so those are the facts and all you can do is acknowledge them. I can't “understand“, as in fully empathise with, why extroverts enjoy human interaction so much, how some people are depressed to the point of being unable to care for their basic needs, or why many enjoy wild rollercoaster rides. Neurotypicals can't “understand“ why autists don't just get it and have trouble reading social cues. To mentally h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 05:23 PM
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It might be helpful to link the story you're talking about because I have 0 context aside from this retelling. The scenario you're describing doesn't fit the OP either way because it was not a freeze response. In absence of more details I can't tell what exactly makes her think it might have been rape in the first place, why she might have been scared, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 05:05 PM
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Assuming that this was something she did out of fear, that sounds more similar to a mugging victim handing over their wallet instead of saying no or making the mugger get it themselves at the risk of escalating the situation and being physically injured/killed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:35 PM
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I don't think anyone on RPW wants to marry a TRP poster from reddit. They have way too much baggage and negative/defensive attitudes, when you can find the same positive qualities they offer with well adjusted men irl. TRP is also anti-marriage so they pretty much disqualify themselves from this dating pool. As for men discovering TRP after marriage, there seem to be a few horror stories on MRP and AskTRP where someone torpedoed a perfectly good LTR or marriage, but as a whole men discover TRP w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:24 PM
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Didn't we have the same post (or multiple posts) for men a while back and the answers were very similar? People generally don't want to change, even if they might envy the other sex from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:13 PM
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So if I had the same family background as a man, I'd be around 5'4, super insecure about it, introverted, and still autistic (possibly much more noticable so since men apparently mask it worse than women) which leads be to believe that dating would be a nightmare. I was already freaked out that I would be forever alone as a teen, I'd imagine a higher sex drive would not help this. This actually leads to another question - would my sexuality change? Right now the worst consequence of this change …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:08 PM
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Air Force. He pretty much got to go to a vacation destination to work on some computers and I was stuck in Germany lol. Still salty since, had they just told him a little earlier, I could have went to the UK for a 3 month internship during the same time. I originally turned it down to avoid lengthy separation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 12:33 PM
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So before 18 I was extremely socially awkward/ shy and never had sex/ a boyfriend/ made out. If we're only counting after 18 then it would be a tie between the 6 months after turning 18 until I first met my (now) husband and the 6 months he was deployed for two years later. The latter definitely sucked more because I didn't just miss the abstract idea of sex, I missed everything about him including actual sex that we could have had if the military didn't send him away 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:15 AM
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be yourself Looking at only the people who say this as actual advice, not a polite way of avoiding a tedious conversation with you: They think your true self is an extrovert and far better than what you're showing, you're just surpressing those instincts out of fear and trying to fit in. Most people who genuinely give this advice don't consider that your “true self“ might be a whiny loser who doesn't like people and just wants to play videogames in the basement all day. Status 4.) Game Both of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:01 AM
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No because men and women are different. For one, men on average have a higher sex drive than women so there is an oversupply of men seeking sex from women vs. the other way around. So if sex (without further specifications) is the “goal“ for the 5/10 man, he will have a much harder time finding it than the 5/10 woman. Another issue is that sexual attraction also does not work the same for men and women. Men are highly visual and therefor can easily rate women on a scale from 1-10 just based on l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 03:38 PM
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Why should “we“ be doing anything with any group of people? They're humans, let them make their own choices and live their lives. I would support increased help for mental health issues such as depression which seems like a far more common theme to me among incels than an objective inability to improve. I would also support more male role models in schools and kindergartens. I guess for your proposal the easiest/ most realistic way would be mandatory military service for all men over 18 but I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 07:58 PM
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I personally found it to be a huge help simply because my autistic self could not do it irl, especially when I was younger. I liked being able to talk to men via text for a while before having to do it in person, I liked that you could both be upfront about what you're looking for and what you're offering, as well as having the certainty that we're both on this site with the clear intention of dating/sex (instead of irl where I had 0 clue if someone is hitting on me or just being nice/ social). …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 11:19 PM
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Q4All: there is no reason why anyone should do anything, especially not something they don't want to do. Idk where y'all find these party sluts who are suddenly trying to marry nerdy betas in their 30s but as a whole, statistically, this is not the norm. People tend to pair up with partners who are similar to them in terms of lifestyle, including N-count, and most people pair up in their early-mid 20s and are in a LTR for years before getting married around 27-30. They are decidedly not on eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 10:54 PM
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Funny thing is, my husband did do much more elaborate romantic gestures and gifts for his first gf from highschool, because that's what she expected from him. I personally couldn't care less about those things (though I appreciate thoughtful gifts non the less), I certainly didn't expect them, and it's pretty clear that those gestures and gifts were not an expression of his “greater love“ for his ex, he did it out of a sense of obligation and little experience. After they broke up, he grew more …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 06:55 PM
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I enjoy it when people are happy with their lives, especially if they do so by just doing what they want and not giving a shit about conforming to societal norms/ expectations (without hurting others in the process). I also enjoy people thinking for themselves and disregarding rules when they're just stupid. Like if putting on some makeup to hide your pimples, wearing eyeliner, or dressing nice improves your looks, that's just maximizing your potential and I hope someone else's opinion about it …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 09:54 AM
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One is a handsome Deep Southerner with an almost cartoonish accent and a thorough knowledge of both Creole cuisine and pantheistic philosophy Given how much this apparently distracts him from his current conversation and what specific details he is noticing/ describing, he's clearly gay for this guy and should ditch the girl to date him instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 05:53 PM
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I think this largely depends on the individual's social cycle and circumstances. A 28 year old who just got out of college or is going for a post-grad degree is more a part of the “college world“, while another 28 year old who has been in the work force for years, as well as in a LTR (potentially married with children), will be pretty firmly rooted in “adult life“ at this point. I know 30 year olds in college who are still very “youthful“ (or delaying adulthood forever), as well as early/mid 20s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 06:05 AM
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Depends on the community they grew up in and especially their peers. Conservative/ religious communities tend to repress sexuality in both men and women, and there is a lot of ephasis on appearing pure/virtuous. In more modern/ liberal cycles it's the other way around with more pressure on being sexually active/ promiscuous, but again there is a lot going on in terms of appearences in front of your peers that doesn't necessarily reflect the reality of what goes on in the bedroom. I know in schoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 03:43 PM
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I mean we met online and I was the one who initiated and “asked him out“ because I thought he was hot and we shared a lot of interests. We texted and Skyped for 3 weeks during which I made it very clear that I was interested and what specifically I was interested in (and so did he). I just didn't immediately feel comfortable going on a 3h train ride to have sex with some dude I barely even talked to, let alone met irl before. (I was also a virgin with 0 romantic experience so that added to it)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 06:02 AM
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I guess because I've never had an interest in casual sex, this has always been the case for me (?) Just the level of trust/comfort that I need to have sex with someone in the first place pretty much requires many of those LTR qualities and some time getting to know the guy. Obviously there is no point in going this far for either side if something “disqualifies“ him from being LTR material. So the distinction was never between “now“ or “later“ for sex, but between “later“ or “never“. With my hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 09:28 PM
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Yet if someone complains that all his job applications are being rejected, would people tell him "you're not entitled to a job!!"? Yes they pretty much do? At best, they'll list of a bunch of reasons why you weren't fit for the job, but plenty will just calls you lazy and entitled. Just look at any discussion featuring “millenials“ complaining about the job market or, on reddit, anyone who studies anything othet than STEM complaining about not finding a job. Noone likes whiners and the truth is …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 01:54 PM
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No, I think that would be really awkward. The only scenario that I could imagine where it isn't weird is if your “date“ is someone your friend already knows (part of the friend group or aquaintance) and even then it might be better to make it a double date with another couple instead of just that one third wheel. Alternatively just hanging out as a group with both your and their friends isn't too uncommon but then it's not really a classic “date“. I guess some people do it for safety reasons (?)…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 01:16 PM
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Honestly the single moms will probably be a drop in the bucket compared to all the boomers expecting to be carried through retirement by a shrinking population. By that time, there just won't be enough money for handouts to anyone so “society“ will either have to address the rising gap in wealth (probably massively increase taxes on the top 1%) or just let the poor die, let the middle class become the new poor, then repeat until there's noone left.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 11:47 AM
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Irl most people from reddit are antisocial as fuck so I doubt they treat that many people nicely, just because they don't interact that much with people in general and being awkward/not social is often perceived as being rude. Most “redpillers“ on reddit fall under this demographic. They also most likely don't treat them bad, I'd assume the kind interactions far outweigh the unkind ones, but most will be neutral and the number of interactions will be relatively small compared to the average. “Fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 06:41 PM
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We're most likely going to D.C. so really the difference between provincial small town/ villages that I've lived in so far and the capital city is probably going to be the main adjustment lol. I'll miss my local bread and Döner Kebab though 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 02:02 PM
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The vast sloth-themed collection at Primark disagrees with this assertion, as well as the various “quirky“ sloth pillows and cups and shit that I see everywhere. The last few year unicorns were the dominant ones but Sloths are coming in hot and at least marketing everywhere seems to have noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 11:52 AM
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I talk to my mom on the phone like once or twice a week and exchange short texts pretty much every day (short “hey how are you <3“ type stuff). I like my parents and do talk about important stuff with both of them - I talk to my dad on the phone at least once a week as well. I guess my mom gets all the female-centric questions and more of the emotional stuff. Though neither are particularly feel-y and I don't want them to be disappointed or worried about me sooo there are some things I don't tel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 11:27 AM
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She's overweight but not ugly. Like I said, she avoids interaction. If someone, despite all her efforts of self-isolation, still decides to talk to her, she basically does her best to exit the conversation or doesn't even respond. Maybe it's different because we're in Germany but outside of bars/clubs/social events men don't go “Hey sexy can I have your number“, they're more subtle if they “cold approach“ in public or at school - they'll talk to you about the subject, ask you for directions or o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 08:53 AM
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My “plain female friend“ doesn't get male attention because she doesn't leave the house besides driving to classes and work and actively avoids social interaction when out (no eye contact, no sitting/ eating with others, hidden behind a phone/book/headphones, avoiding crowded areas and standing by the side, etc.) If she “put herself out there“ by socializing, going to bars and clubs, putting up a dating profile, maybe dressed like a slut, she'd get male attention. But attention and socializing m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 08:34 PM
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Men are the “active“ ones in dating, the ones who have to approach and impress with action, so they're (almost) always working harder. The tall woman on the other hand can only do so much to increase her SMV to attract (better) men. If she's freakishly tall or genetically ugly to the point where it turns men off, then she may be shit out of luck in terms of who she can get - she'll still get someone interested in her if she cleans up and maybe initiates herself, but the quality of man she can ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 08:19 AM
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I mean there are two layers to this. Fist of all, what do you actually want? Do you feel unfulfilled because you're not married and don't have kids or is it just outside expectations? If it is the latter then ideally you should ignore it and live the life that makes you happy - your parents expectations for you don't mean shit because ultimately you're the one living your life, not them. They gan make changes in their own lives to be happy if they want (and let's be realistic, with 4 kids, the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 07:28 PM
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I think regardless of marital status, all this really means if that if you want a LTR that actually lasts for many years or even a lifetime, you gotta put work into it and at the very least not let yourself go. A lot of people just completely neglect their relationship once they're comfortable and focus on everything else in life instead (work, children, videogames, social media, eating large amounts of comfort food while watching TV), then one day wake up all surprised that they've become more …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 12:39 PM
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The main planning I did for our wedding was the paperwork involved (Court house, military, name change, etc.) The only reason we even had a sort of late “reception“ party at my parents' house was because they insisted, it meant a lot to my dad, and they planned everything. I wore a sundress and my husband was in shorts, food was great and everything was pretty chill. We both obviously don't care much for weddings and especially don't like to be the center of attention with extended family
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 09:02 AM
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Both of those sound like they are being done excessively to the point where they're part of his identity and I really wouldn't want to deal with that... if I absolutely had to choose then I guess pothead for reduced risk of violence and health issues only if he exclusively consumes edibles or some other scentless form of it. I cannot stand the smell of weed (no matter how “good“ in quality) to the point where it makes me nauseous. But honestly I think I'd be happier alone with a bunch of cats at…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 08:54 AM
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Female with female friends who are a similar kind of weird/ nerdy as me at first found making female friends to be more difficult to male ones for me personally because men/boys tend to bond more over shared subjects and activitys and consider that “friendship“ while with girls/women being “friends“ is much more of a social activity in itself. There is a lot of time specifically spent on opening up emotionally, sharing feelings, talking about our lives, talking about dating/crushes/sex/bodily fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:07 AM
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No. Telling someone they're “unrapeable“ says more about the emotional instability of the commenter who apparently got triggered than the target's attractiveness. I would however avoid them since they are obviously just trying to provoke a reaction using the edgiest words they could think of, or actually thinking about raping people and rating them accordingly which is creepy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:03 AM
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Unicorn 💁
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:08 AM
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I think the right answer to this is somehow “cope“ but I'm not entirely sure why 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:04 AM
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Most people end up with their looksmatch. It's just that if they're not really attracted to their looksmatch or they let themselves go, dropping from “okay“ to “less than okay“ (as tend to happen when people get comfortable), they just end up in a dead bedroom/ cheat/ divorce. Individuals who cannot get a partner they're genuinely attracted to are better off improving themselves to the point where their selection improves, instead of settleing for a relationship that will make both partners mise…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:49 AM
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Yes please
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:34 AM
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Why are you so obsessed with her? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:16 AM
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What is it with all these terrible angles and lighting for incel pics? He should change his haircut, glasses, and clothes then he'd just be another random guy with a funny face
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:14 AM
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Jesus that's unfortunate... Luckily there are some easy fixes for this guy to at least go from “eww“ to average: shave, especially wharever those fuzzy sideburns are supposed to be brush teeth, wash hair and face trim eyebrows get better glasses contact lenses wear different clothes never EVER take pictures from this angle and with an open mouth ever again. It's about the most unfattering view you can give people of your face
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:03 AM
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I get uncomfortable/ scared walking alone in the dark where there are no people around. It's not a specific fear of being attacked by a person, more like an instinct to avoid getting eaten by wild animals. I have absolutely no issue walking through my well lit neighborhood at night but my house is at the edge of the village towards open fields/ the forest and that part freaks me out. I suppose I am more alert in the dark than during the day which again seems more like an instinct to me than a sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:19 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:51 PM
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I don't think most people do a 180 when it comes to their opinions (and really that's probably a good thing - those who do often seem to go through an identity crisis and go waaay overboard like a certain subset on R/atheism and TRP) However I do think that moderate change over time does happen but again, for the sake of one's own identity, it gets rationalized as “expanding“ your existing view or “growing“ as a person, so noone has to admit they were wrong before. Though maybe the more importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 12:42 PM
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Wait so if you could choose between a poor, fat, ugly loner and a rich stacy, you'd pick the first? O.o Assuming for this scenario they're both into you and actively approaching you to simulate the usual gender-reversed scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 11:00 AM
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I bet they'd end up spending it on food instead of hookers and drugs, like a reverse hobo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 06:35 AM
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How do you deal with hirarchy in all other areas of life then? It seems to be inherent to human nature for hirarchy to form within a group of people, anywhere from society as a whole/ politics/ the workplace, down to your friend group/ kids in kindergarten/ a clan on a videogame/ your discord chat. It might not be equally overt or organized in all cases but people quickly gravitate towards a leader and certain personalities are found at the top much more frequently than others (and it's the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 06:24 AM
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I don't know about “true“ bisexuality but a lot of otherwise non-sexual intimacy is viewed as sexual or romantic in our society and women are more openly intimate with eachother than men. For example, there is nothing inherently sexual about many physically intimate acts such as hugging, holding hands, sharing a bed, cuddleing, etc. but it is often portrayed and perceived as such. So when women are comfortable doing those things with their friends, that alone might give the impression (both to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 09:12 PM
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Lol if people were interested in debating their ideas, PPD should either be huge or made unnecessary through allowing said debate on the respective other subs that deal with the topics we discuss here. The majority of people simply prefers to hide in the echo-chamber that confirms their view and makes them feel validated.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 05:11 AM
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Yeah I agree, I basically said the same thing in response to OP - you can't date people you don't meet/ come in contact with and the chances of meeting someone who actively avoids social interactions is very slim. Though for “online“ I was thinking more of in a videogame, an online communit, etc. or one of the dating websites based on a written profile, not hookup-centric apps like tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 07:59 PM
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Honestly school/ university is probably your best bet (cause they have to regularly leave their house for that), otherwise online or through friends if someone happens to drag them to a social function.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 07:45 PM
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Same place introverted men are - at home behind their computer screen or a book. Srsly it's not exactly easy to meet someone who avoids social interactions. I suppose extroverted religious girls can be found at church functions but I disagree that they are any less AWALT in personality than their worldly counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 07:43 PM
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The loud party types are simply the most obvious, attract a disproportionate amount of attention, and because of that are perceived to represent the vast majority, even if they are not. This phenomenon isn't unique to dating or to men either, it's literally everywhere in society - at work, in politics, in a group settting, etc. The louder you are, the more you get noticed and the quiet/shy/nerdy types are almost invisible in comparison. There is also the issue of meeting those people. The more s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 07:34 PM
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1.) I'm 5'2, he's 5'9. I used to be very insecure about my height and thought I had to find a short guy so we wouldn't look weird together but it ended up being a non-issue. I think he likes that I'm short, at least he says it's cute. His mom is just as short as I am, idk if that has anything to do with it 😝 but srsly we met online so our height didn't feature in our first impressions of just seeing a picture. 2) he's 25, I'm 22. It's not a huge difference, we met when I was 18 so he was definit…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 04:25 PM
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Online, at school/uni, through friends, at the occasional introvert/ nerd hangout places like the library or a convention. But it's certainly not easy since they leave their houses less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:02 PM
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I suppose the good old “just be yourself“ or any variation of love just happening/ finding you if you wait around and do nothing was bad advice for me. But I realized around 17/18 that this is most likely due to my interpretation and being somewhat a-typical and I suspect the same applies to a large number of men on reddit as well. The average, normal person is much more extroverted and naturally spends a lot of time socializing. To them, my introversion and aspie weirdness looked like lack of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:03 PM
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Positives: Hot, physically fit (literally made me go “wow you're hot“ when I first saw him) Intelligent affectionate and cares deeply about me Perfect match for me in personality, interests, values, goals, sense of humor, etc. great in bed Negative: shuts down when mad/ overwhelmed preferably would game all night and sleep all day. (I love games too but I need my normal sleep schedule) tends to make plans without communicating them until he has worked out the details. (My perception of this is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 07:45 PM
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Depending on the amount of makeup that I wear, my style of clothes, and my hairstyle, people either treat me like a 14 year old (because I'm short and look young) or like an adult. Also glasses + “adult“ clothes but no makeup = rapid increase in presumed knowledge in my field. Posture and confidence are significant to both scenarios as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 10:48 AM
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First of all I don't entirely understand why you would only focus on dating success in this context. I get it for this particular sub but most parents want their children to lead successful and happy lives in all areas which goes far beyond just the quantity of attention you're getting from the opposite sex. Second of all, men and women are different. Getting lots of male attention and sex is not the same accomplishment for women that it is for men. The difficult part for a girl isn't finding a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 07:00 AM
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I think one of the issues here is the exact definition of “ripped“, “gym bro“, “jokish“, etc. When I hear those words, I think of a very stereotypical, almost carricature like man, who looks like he's on steroids and gay, like the male models that frequently get posted on here when men try to show what they think women find attractive. And that automatically makes me think “no I don't want that!“ However irl very few men who work out, including going to the gym specifically to improve their look…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 09:24 PM
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Is your income not considered part of your property? Also property tax for owned real estate/ land is most definitely a thing, though you might argue that it is not high enough or that monetary reserves should also be taxed. Though I'm not sure what this has to do with the discussion. The fact of the matter is, the state does not infringe on your bodily autonomy with child support, instead it takes a certain amount of your money to pay for the child. This amount is most frequently tied to your i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 05:19 PM
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Everyone* gets to keep their body, the state does however frequently take parts of people's property in the form of money. *(Notable exceptions in many countries: prison, mandatory military service and/or a draft, pregnancy past a certain date)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:21 PM
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There are two different issues at play here. The first is the right to bodily autonomy which applies to all people. This incluedes being able to terminate or carry on a pregnancy happening on your body since it is a serious medical condition with many possible implications for your health in both scenarios. An Abortion is often an invasive procedure and carries risks, a pregnancy involves major changes to your body and even the risk of death during delivery. Neither decision can be forced withou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 01:44 PM
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This reminds me sooo much of the threads about male beauty where people post male models and wonder why they are perceived as gay, too muscley, shallow, etc. There is a lot more to judging a person off a single picture than their pure genetics and the decision of approaching them or not is also partly based on maximising your chances and mitigating the risk of rejection. Angles, poses, location, body language, facial expression, filters, etc. matter a lot when it comes to what impression you're …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 09:10 PM
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I was refering to men and women as a whole subconsciously prefering certain traits even if the social norms may change and there is no “need“ for that preference anymore. I am well aware that there are outliers but as a whole what one gender statistically finds the most attractive in a partner won't suddenly change. Specific traits thaits I was thinking of are for example youth and beauty for women - no matter how much roles in society change, men as a whole won't suddenly value your professiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 04:42 PM
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I was semi-long distance (3h away, visiting on the weekends) with my husband for the first two years of our relationship + 6 months of real long distance without visits. As a whole: the distance sucks and makes everything more difficult. Also while you're apart your relationship is pretty much “on hold“ in a lot of areas, as in it's not really progressing. Basically what makes your relationship are those real life physical interactions, the shared experiences, the intimacy. When you're long dist…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 02:41 PM
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We're talking about subconscious factors here/ instincts. That's like asking why men should care so much about sex when our planet is already overpopulated, why they should be attracted to youth, broad hips and boobs when we have modern medicine, why they should care more about looks and nurturing qualities in a woman than her degree and career. If the premise is that this need for security is inherent to women on an evo-psych level then what “should“ be doesn't matter. Human nature just is a ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 02:14 PM
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Oooh interesting post!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 01:53 PM
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This is because he is still believing the blue pill "if you are a good person women will be attracted to you" bs I just wonder how do they deal with other areas of life? Society and the world as a whole isn't “fair“ and doesn't magically reward you for being a “good person“. Are they having the same meltdowns once they notice their employers will exploit their goodness too and promote the loud asshole instead? Or that the most narcissistic, sociopathic people can gain the most followers and are …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 01:47 PM
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Wtf does being a “good man“ have to do with dating success or more importantly why would/should it automatically make you successful? The only obvious metric that matters is attractiveness as in your ability to attract women. Being a “good man“ or a “good person“ doesn't mean shit in any other areas of adult life either, why would this be any different? The world isn't fair in a way that automatically rewards whatever behavior society considers to be morally good at any given time. Additionally …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 12:41 AM
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Yeah that's kinda what my impression has been from what many of the more the other more... experienced users on here said as well. Their descriptions of meeting people through their friend group/ social cycle and just out during life in the real world sound much more familiar to me than nervously walking up to a stranger, asking for their number, then going on a number of “dates“ at restaurants in hopes of something happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 09:40 AM
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I like to make my husband happy so pretty much anything I can do/ he likes and just consider his needs and interests in my decisions. Off the top of my head: I learned to cook food that he likes, give him massages or rub his head, care for him when he's sick (like a continuous stream of tea for the last week lol), grab some snacks or drinks for him when he's busy or really just whenever I get something for myself. I try to get the housework stuff, my work, etc. done before he gets home so we can…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 09:34 AM
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Sex work is already legal in multiple European countries and it doesn't change anything about the dating market as far as I can tell. At least here in Germany the norm is still for men to be the ones asking women out though it's a bit less “formal“ than US dating is described on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 08:08 PM
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It's the name given to her by her parents since birth that she has gone by her entire life. There is a huge aspect of one's identity attached to what everybody calls you/ what you call yourself. If you've gone your whole life identifying as “Jane Smith“, suddenly being called something else is a big change.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:55 PM
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Yeah I think the point they're making is that it hasn't changed to complete equality. Men are still the main providers and women are still the main caregivers statistically. There are certainly more households today with equal division of labor or even reversal than ever before but it is far from the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:45 PM
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That sounds dreadful - I didn't have trouble finding them for myself a year ago but that was online and based in Germany...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 02:56 PM
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I personally don't really “get“ engagemt rings but then again they don't seem as culturally engrained here as they are in the US. Or the marketing over the last decades there was just better lol. I personally like the symbolism of wedding bands though, means my autistic ass can just waive their hand to convey relationship status instead of talking to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 02:53 PM
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It's happening for passive men while the ones who approach often have much better chances. Though right now the social norm is that men ask women out (for both cultural and natural reasons). I read the comment above as suggesting we change that entire cultural norm to let women do the approaching instead/ expext them to approach, meaning all men just become passive and overall just get less or no dates as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 02:49 PM
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I thought the engagement rings were the diamond ones o.O did they take over wedding bands too?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 01:38 PM
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While there is no need why there should be a rule against women doing that, the reality is that men have a higher sex-drive and most women have more of a responsive sex drive instead of a spontaneous one. So if men as a whole just “let“ women ask them out instead of approaching themselves, what really happens is that the overall number of dates would drop and many men would never get approached because their mere presence/ existence is not enough to make them interesting or even enter most women…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 01:25 PM
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Autism, lack of social skills, low self esteem, bad hygiene, mental health issues of the custer c variety, lack of exposure/proximity to women, introversion to the point of not socializing with anyone but a few close male friends who are similarly introverted
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 12:07 PM
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Has RPW(i) actually turned into a place mainly advising women on how to find partners/ get them to marry you like a lot of people here are saying? I haven't checked it out in a long time but I thought initially it was mostly already married women writing about improving their marriages by treating their husbands well
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 09:30 PM
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Yeah my dad was the main breadwinner in the sense that my mom's job wasn't very secure (1 year contracts in research + a mean boss) so he would sacrifice his health and free time time during the week to work, then spend the weekends on family activities + he was the only one who could drive so any chaufeur duties fell on him + he was very involved in our education, including school past primary. My mom was the one doing the “social“ school functions (crafts, bakesales, pta meetings), staying hom…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 11:57 PM
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My parents did the same but it came at the price of my mother being constantly stressed and literally having 0 free time or hobbies of her own outside of work and still feeling like a bad parent for not being present as much as other mothers (though the time spent together was of high quality and not to our detriment as far as I could tell). Given the choice I'd personally rather sacrifice/ dial down my career instead of my sanity...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 10:50 PM
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I think the laws are what ultimately makes divorce difficult and less attractive/ realistic and those laws are in turn a result of the cultural norms and the ideologies in power (including religion and also communism with its own values) at the time when those laws were created. Tbh given the current political climate in Poland I wouldn't be surprised if they restricted divorce more. In Sweden for example it is relatively easy to get divorced with no mandatory time apart or in-person court appoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 02:54 PM
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The one factor that struck out at me was the average age of marriage and childbirth. In Ireland the average man and woman first marries at the age of 33.9 and 32.3 respectively. This is nothing special compared to other European countries. Sweden for example has an average age of marriage of 32.9 for women and 35.5 for men, with a divorce rate of 47%. Germany again 31,2 and 33,8 with a divorce rate of 39,6% in 2016. The only major difference between Ireland and the rest is their strong Catholic …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 12:31 PM
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What wonderful country is that? It used to be the norm here in Germany too but now for some reason it's expected among young people to hug eachother, especially women, and I hate every second of it. I don't even like hugging my friends, let alone some new “aquaintance“ (aka stranger) that I am forced to socialize with...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 10:33 PM
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If you can find a young woman who wants to date you and that's what you want, just do it and ignore whatever the people on here tell you. The discussions we have here are almost all about general trends and what the majority of normal people do or do not find attractive. They do not cover every individual case and they should not be what you base your own personal life on. People here als tend to use deliberately strong language similar to TRP where “I don't find people over 30 that attractive“ …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 07:42 AM
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There aren't nearly enough kindergarten spots in most cities even though the government specifically promised to give every child a spot and childcare for under 3 year olds is even harder to come by. It can also be pretty expensive if you don't go to a state funded one and qualify for reduced cost based on llincomeow income, etc. but the main issue with childcare is the lacking infrastructure, mainly in the west of Germany and in the city. Additionally the standard hours in the German child care…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 07:58 PM
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My husband is very similar to me in personality, values, interests, and hobbies though we each have our own “things“ too. (We both like geeky/ tech stuff, videogames, anime, the same TV shows, etc. but I'm more into art and he's into music, both INTJ if you value the MBTI thing) We're in the same careerfield with roughly equivalent education but it's not exactly the same, coming not only from different socioeconomic backgrounds but also two different countries with their own education systems. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 10:48 AM
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Wasn't #meetoo more about people in power hitting on their subordinates? Unwanted/ uncomfortable approaches will be around as long as socially inept, as well as genuinely creepy/rude/predatory people exist. The context in which they are commonly encountered can change within our culture though. Like the workplace not being the best location and propositioning those who you have power over being unacceptable/ against company policy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 10:02 AM
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Someone who can open those really tricky jars with their manly hands. (Or just anyone born male, I guess)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 06:28 PM
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Being a “Nice guy“ helped to get her family's approval, especially her father's, same as having resources did. They couldn't care less if the guy is hot or not, as long as he takes care of their daughter. These women may well not have been that attracted to their husbands but he was their only source of validation so it was special to her. I still don't see how this validation would make up for a lack of sexual attraction on her side though. Yeah he's “special“ to her but that might get him a pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 06:19 PM
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It also comes from the fact that they are large dogs, specifically bred to have a very strong bite to kill other large dogs with. So when they do get aggressive and bite, the chances of severe injury or even death are disproportionately high. If your chihuahua goes beserk after years of handbag-torture, you might not even need stitches. In the case of men vs. women, men are also significantly stronger on average so the average man punching a woman has a good chance of knocking her out cold. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 07:59 AM
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If possible gossip is where you set the bar, you may as well not leave the house anymore. Some women judge and gossip about the most ridiculous shit. I've had classmates go on a lengthy rant about the makeup of some stranger on the bus, or the family of a crying baby on her plane.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 08:16 PM
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How helpful is it to a career to take a 6-10 year hiatus in the middle of it? As I said there is no perfect solution, that's the whole point. Neither taking time off before your education, your career, or in the middle of it will leave you without a significant disadvantage By whom, to whom? Does it need to be "communicated" to men that once they become married fathers, they don't get to backpack across Europe while having sweet hookups with local babes? It could be communicated by the same peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 06:13 PM
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Look, at the end of the day, everything is a trade-off. Frankly, I recommend that would-be mothers prioritize being mothers rather than prioritize their careers. A pretty good clue that women don't think nearly as much of mothering as they claim is that they outsource it to strangers at day care centers for not much more than minimum wage. I fully agree with this part, I just think that it should be communicated clearly that taking a break/ prioritizing your role as a mother does come at a certa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:51 PM
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Depending on your field, the state of research and/or technology changes. I was thinking about computer science in my case which changes rapidly and at least in my university the practical part of it, which most employers are interested in, is always adapting to current industry standards. Applying your more abstract/ theoretical knowledge to quickly grasp new technology, new best practice, new/changed programming languages would be a lot harder than continuing to use exactly what you learned in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:25 PM
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So do you take the 6-10 year gap after finishing your education, basically rendering your degree outdated and meaningless with 0 experience in the field since then, or do you start your education afterwards adding another 4+ years until you even start applying for jobs? Employers typically aren't very keen to take a 35 year old at entry level if they can have a 25 year old instead...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:51 PM
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However, in my experience you get judged as hell for not going immediately back to work. Honestly when it comes to being a mother you can't really win, no matter what you do. If you stay home and raise your kids, you're a lazy leech and holding back progress, if you work you're neglecting your children and family, if you do both then you're not doing either one “right“ or you're a bitch for being stressed. Same principle applies to all other parenting decisions you make, really. What one part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 01:31 PM
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Are SAHMs considered housewives? This seems like the most common model/ reason women stay home and it makes sense for a lot of people. Small children need near constant care and daycare is expensive, not to mention the first year at least where breastfeeding has lots of advantages. Additionally having someone stay home (who wants to do it, not feeling forced to or trapped) can make life a lot less stressful for everyone involved, sleepless nights can be dealt with without worrying about your job…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:27 AM
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The stuff itself doesn't make you weird by default but the more time socially stunted people spend on it shut away in their room, the less time they spend in the “real world“ socializing. This means both their social skills aren't improving or even deteriorating from lack of regular “exercise“ and in many cases the mental effort required to leave this comfort zone gets higher every day. The current popular escapism among boys just happens to be anime, porn, and videogames but you can achieve the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 12:43 AM
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Eye contact in general is an invitation for further interaction, I have found. Since I don't want to interact with most people on the street, I avoid eye contact. With men around my age specifically the type of “invited interaction“ would in most cases be sexual interest and they have a higher incentive to jump at the opportunity so I can see why you would avoid it specifically. As for looking down, I used to do this a lot with all people just because I'm introverted and wasn't very confident bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 08:11 PM
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So why was this law only passed in the 60s if it was tradition all along?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 03:22 PM
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Why did people vote for this? They obviously didn't feel the need to beforehand, seems to me like it went hand in hand with the erosion of traditional values
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 03:09 PM
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Less pressure from society to get married thanks to the sexual revolution I would guess. Society as a whole changed a lot during the 60s and 70s, before that OOW children, divorce, and casual sex were much more taboo so people would just marry if they accidentally got pregnant and stayed together (for better or worse, lots of these marriages then divorced once the stigma disappeared leading to a noticable spike in the divorce rates) If society somehow went “back“ to being much more religious and…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 02:56 PM
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It makes perfect sense because it saves the taxpayer money in the long run. “Free“ birth-control means less unwanted children who end up being a financial burden on society, child support means shifting the financial burden of an existing child from the state to the parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 10:25 AM
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I think you greatly underestimate the stupidity and poor impulse control of people, especially among those who have not been taught any better since their parents are the same way or simply absent. They'll just have more children regardless who end up starving or being criminals, resulting in a bunch of problems for the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 10:16 AM
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It's a simple cost-benefit analysis. Unwanted pregnancies and children have a high cost for the rest of society (all the way from medical care to eventual damage to society and prison once the child grows up) while birth control is much cheaper in comparison and an easy solution that doesn't infringe on anyone's rights. In fact, sex itself poses a financial risk to tax-funded health care and (by logic) could be discouraged unless certain conditions are met (such as ability to care for a child) T…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 12:47 AM
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My personal opinion on this: Forming a deep emotional bond with someone else Cheating (unless that someone is family and it's platonic - like his siblings, an estranged parent, or his child) Sending naked pictures to someone other than me – 46% Cheating Texting erotic messages to someone other than me – 44% Cheating Maintaining an online dating profile – 29% Cheating/ there was no monogamous relationship in the first place. (Assuming this is an active profile of him for dating, not a fake for sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 02:02 PM
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Sex by itself can feel good. An orgasm feels extra good but just because you don't have one doesn't mean the sex was necessarily bad/ not enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 08:08 PM
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In Japan, it's normal for teenagers to ride the subway to school on their own without parental accompaniment. I don't think Japan is the best example for a society where children are independent from their parents. Japan is very safe in terms of crime rates and has good public transport so there is no issue letting your kids take the subway alone, but parents are insanely more controling and demanding of their kids lives when it comes to education, careers, and especially dating, marriage, and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 10:08 AM
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O.o ... I could have written this word-for-word - there are dozents of us!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 08:30 PM
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To 1 and 2: no there is nothing wrong (morally or otherwise) with seeking validation, it is quite natural and part of being human, a social animal. However an extensive need for outside validation has negative effects on both yourself and how the people around you perceive you so it's not a good thing in practice. To the outside excessive need/ seeking for validation is annoying and off-putting. For the person seeking validation it is mostly a symptom of low self-esteem and holds them back from …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 01:59 PM
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guys chicks want a chick guy who is into them, not into the numbers they have in their bank accounts. their body and sexual acts The point was kinda that they will give this to their partner without asking because they love them/ are in love with them. That doesn't mean that blowjobs or money are the only reason they like you back
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 03:36 PM
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Men are still the primary providers in most marriages so I guess a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 02:52 PM
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The question is if she likes sucking dick though, as in does the activity itself give her pleasure, or is she doing it to please the man she loves? In the same way you could say a man who doesn't buy presents/ doesn't provide financially/ doesn't want to marry, doesn't love his woman because if he did, he would do all of this for her, to make her happy. But that doesn't necessarily mean that he likes to do this stuff because giving away money is so much fun and he would do it for any random woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 12:59 PM
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In my school neither the weird boys nor girls were very social within the framework of “school“, the only exception being the extroverted theater kids who fucked like rabbits. The rest of the “outcasts“ were at the bottom of the hirarchy because they had very low self-esteem and were shy/ introverted so they rarely ever approached anyone, and many also seemed concerned about their reputation being lowered even further by associating with even “lower“ weird kids. What they did instead is, kind of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 12:36 PM
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That might very well be a big reason - any sort of physical bullying was quickly shut down when I was at school and that was what the boys were doing much more. The ones who got away with bullying were the ones doing it with words/ exclusion/ dirty looks/ rumors, etc. which was the girls in my case, and they were also very well liked by the teachers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 06:49 PM
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O.o wait really? I always feel like Q4W/ posts asking for gender specific experiences are the ones I reply to the most because on most other topics there are already a million contributors lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 06:45 PM
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Honestly I think it might also just depend on luck the individual bullies/ rind leaders. At least in my class there was this one girl who was just really unpleasant and had a huge amount of followers so they were the most organized bullies. The guys were more split into smaller groups and none of them were this type of sociopath. The bullying was also much more severe in middleschool vs. Highschool when everyone sort of split up into cliques and just did their own thing. The “mean girls“ just en…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:57 PM
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Do they struggle to make friends? Yes and this directly leads to the next point Do they get bullied by girls? Yes. Do they get bullied by guys? Depends, in my class the guys just ignored and avoided them but I know of other girls who were bullied by the guys and ignored/ excluded by the girls so it happens. Are they at the bottom of the Female social hierarchy ...below ugly/fat girls? Yes, though what constitutes “fat and ugly“ can be up for interpretation. Definitely knew quite a few pug-faced,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:38 PM
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Not the one you asked but also a woman, the girls in my school were 100% the worse bullies towards other girls to the point where their favorite victim/ excluded girl tried to kill herself. The boys bullied other boys and just acted like the bullied girls didn't exist/ were some minor disgusting annoyance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:05 PM
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I find your lack of Umlaut disturbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 11:41 AM
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Women of this subreddit, how do you feel about the phrase "Tingles Uber Alles" It makes me very uncomfortable because of the missing Umlaut. U =! Ü. “Uber“ is the pseudo-taxi app. As for the argument I disagree. So far the only feeling that trumps everything and overrides my ability to think is fear to the point of panic. In every other situation I overthink my next action a million times because I'm neurotic like that. The only unicorn part about me is that I'm autistic which I guess leads to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 11:33 AM
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Hospitals already have security and bouncer-style nurses in the maternity ward to deal with any disturbances (such as uninvited in-laws, crazy exes, or jealous lovers), why the hell would they be unable to deal with a pregnant woman? Like what kind of drama do you expect here that goes beyond what they already deal with on a daily basis - kids come out the “wrong color“ sometimes, both from cheating and natural reasons, and you have people going all kinds of crazy as a result. I doubt standardiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:44 PM
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Yes, that's exactly what I'm saying and why I proposed the opt-out model - we seem to be in agreement here. It would be standard and no one needs to get upset unless they actually cheated, the only reason it cannot be completely mandatory is because the man may have concerns about his dna being analyzed so he needs the option to opt out (as in they cannot forcibly take his dna without a court order). You commented on my proposal that it would lead to drama if it's not mandatory but we seem to ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 08:54 PM
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If it's the standard that you have to actively opt out of, instead of having to request it yourself like right now then it's no longer on the man though. He's just going along with what hospital staff tell him to do and the wife it the “bad guy“ who has to intervene and say she wants him to refuse. Now she looks like a crazy cheater instead of him looking like an insecure jerk accusing her of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:21 PM
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I would expect them to just approach the father and ask for a sample (?) similar to how they ask for a drug test with some platitude about it being “standard“ or how cops tell you it's routine for them to question your or look around your house, expecting you to go “yeah sure“, even though you don't technically have to since at any time you can just say “no“ (but most people don't, because they just go along with authority/ someone telling them it's standard procedure)... I guess the man would “…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:18 PM
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I would say handle it like drug-tests on the baby so unless someone explicitly objects, it just gets done - as in the nurse just approaches him and asks to get a sample/ hands him the paperwork outside, no involvement of the mother needed and no “asking“ for the test. If he is super into protecting his dna this is his chance to protest and refuse (at his own risk) otherwise it carries on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:40 PM
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It absolutely happens when babys are put in the maternity ward with other babys for tests or because they need further care. You then have a bunch of babys in one room, most of them look kinda the same, and the nurse then has to grab the right one based on paperwork/numbers on a wristband, etc. There are a couple of cases out there where such a mixup was not noticed for years and now you have two families awkwardly trying to meet their biological children, etc. But at least such long-standing mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:32 PM
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It absolutely happens when babys are put in the maternity ward with other babys for tests or because they need further care. You then have a bunch of babys in one room, most of them look kinda the same, and the nurse then has to grab the right one based on paperwork/numbers on a wristband, etc. There are a couple of cases out there where such a mixup was not noticed for years and now you have two families awkwardly trying to meet their biological children, etc. But at least such long-standing mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:31 PM
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except for 'overreaching government' arguments. Which could be easily dealt with by not making it mandatory but standard, like all other tests they do after birth. You can't force the father to give a DNA sample for example unless there is a court order, but you can very well make it a routine procedure to test babys at birth and parents can opt out, if they really want to. There already are similar procedures with drug tests in many US hospitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:21 PM
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Mandatory tests might cause issues with people concerned about their dna being forcefully “collected“ by the government like that, especially the father who has to give a sample. It would be easier imo to simply make it a standard within the battery of other tests that you can opt out of, if you really want to. Similar to drug tests on the mother, some vaccines, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:16 PM
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Say, in Europe, prostitution is legal, so it's not rare to find a married man entering a brothel hahaha, even if he's happy with his wife As someone who is also from Europe (Germany), this is certainly true for some men, but not all which is kind of the point they're trying to make here. It's always the same subset of men who visit regularly while the others don't. The reasons why range from being religious, to them just being decent human beings with self control. To say that everyone would che…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:39 AM
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Thestosterone and a resulting higher sex drive in men, evolutionary differences in male and female sexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 11:24 PM
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I don't think being good at sex is low value, I think worrying about it/ using it as compensation for a lack of looks/ pointing it out as a way to attract men are signs of low self-esteem though which at least corelates with low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 03:29 PM
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I'm inhivited to the point where I couldn't do casual sex at all, I guess. I need a certain level of comfort to be this intimate with someone and the longer I know them, the closer our relationship is, the more comfortable I feel and trust them to try more stuff. I only have my relationship with my husband for reference irl but it followed this pattern and definitely kep/ keeps getting more “adventerous“ as time goes on (though I'm not super kinky in the first place)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 03:21 PM
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Imagining a hypothetical scenario where I am single and either never met my husband: I wouldn't mind the kid(s), thought I'd rather date someone with less baggage. If he is 100% over the mother and has little to no contact with her then maybe. With little to no contact I mean she ideally cut off all contact and lives in like a different country with 0 interest in ever coming back, or she's dead and somehow both him and the kids are over it. I'm sure I would come to love the kids and have a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 05:32 PM
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It's what you get jumped with on here, at least indirectly and sometimes with that very annoying phraze. TRP is full pf it so I guess that means we all have to use it now to prove our respective points -.-'
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 11:03 AM
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Morally wrong or intellectually? The general rule on this sub seems to be that the less you're guided or influenced by your emotions, the more logical and rational your arguments are, the more valid your opinion is. As soon as you bring in the “feelz“, such as resentment, you discredit not only your argument but lose all credibility as a person to a lot of people. Morally it depends on who you ask - Christianity certainly says it's very wrong but there is no reason you should care. It may be mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 07:41 PM
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Well shit apparently people here really just hate eachother o.O
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 07:22 PM
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It's no different than all other bad or unfair things in life. You don't get a say in your outside circumstances, you only have a choice in how you react to them. And out of all options, resentment surely is the least productive. It's far more useful to either take action and try to bring about change to the extent of your abilities, or learn to deal with how things are and make the best of it. In the end, resentment changes nothing but hurts you by trapping you in a negative mindset and prevent…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 07:13 PM
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Yeah it's the only way you can “win“ an argument on here and I 100% get it, that's just the way this sub operates. Irl people wouldn't say half the shit they say on here to another human being, so there's at least that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 07:02 PM
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PPD is one of those places where people seem to compete to show just how little they care and how they're complely emotionally unaffected, 100% “rational“, unfeeling, intellectually superior beings who don't give a shit about your feelings (and reeeeeally making a point to show you). Granted most of reddit is a bit like that but it's strongly amplified on here. Basically whoever cares the least wins, either by acting super aloof or simply being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 05:41 PM
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People's experiences and resulting world views vary greatly by demographic, location, and social cycle, to the point where they can be complete opposites and seemingly contradict each other, if you are not aware of what a huge difference those criteria make. Also there are just some personality types who have a very hard time relating to each other's experiences and preferences. Neither is wrong but there's no point in trying to argue for one side or the other, try justify your personal desires …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 04:32 PM
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It's not just the preferences themselves that create the strongest reactions, as much as the tone in which they are presented with and the way they are rationalized/ presented as universal facts. In general, the latter goes over a lot better if you can present at least some statistics/research on the issue of (1) your claim being true and how big of an issue it is (for example research showing a link between tattoos and mental health) and (2) how much of an impact it has on the SMP/ relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 08:18 AM
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I'd argue that the type of person who wants that success to this extent and is willing to go that length probably just has those innate personality traits vs. the process of attaining success changing their personality. Or on the other hand anyone who doesn't won't make it to that point in the first place. Deriving from that, the simple fact that their career is their #1 priority and their ambitions are very high in most cases means they have less time or interest to invest in finding and mainta…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/18 02:22 PM
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Yo don't go around saying sallary makes you UMC, you'll trigger both them and the STEM-lords
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/18 11:21 AM
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I find power-fantasies to be an easier analogy to explain this with if you don't have similarly unrealistic/dangerous ones irl. For example, I would sometimes fantasize about post-apocalyptic scenarios in which I would be one of the few survivors. In my fantasy, I'd get to kill zombies with an axe, loot the nearest store for supplies, all while my family is miraculously safe at home or in some other 100% safe location. The appeal here is the power, as well as a world without rules or laws restri…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/18 06:31 AM
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No, too much baggage and I don't share. If god forbid I were widdowed or divorced young myself, then maybe - I guess we could be bitter together or whatever and at least the children on both sides would have a two parent household, even though I want to think that I'd stay single forever. But I don't think having more kids together would be a good idea, I don't think I would ever view them equally just subconsciously, even if I put in a lot of effort to treat them the same, and quite frankly the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/18 12:52 PM
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I see this a lot with groups of middle aged women on public transport here - drunk at 3pm, loud as fuck, and no boundaries when it comes to annoying/harassing/grabbing strangers. The only ones who are worse are male football (soccer) fans because in addition to being lound, drunk, and grabby, they also tend to be more aggressive and physically intimidating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/18 12:31 PM
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Hormones or rather a lack of the right ones being produced (thanks underactive thyroid, I guess...). Female
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/18 12:11 AM
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22, married, my partner search was LTR/ Marriage focused from the start and I've only ever had a relationship with my husband. So idk if I can even make much of a distinction since I don't have any “casual“ dating to compare it to, but I'll include crushes/ men who were interested in me/ men I might have considered at some point In general physical attraction always came first for me to be interested in a guy. So the SMV had to be high enough to the point where I found them noticably sexually at…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/18 07:45 PM
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It it's good enough to talk people out of suicide, it doesn't matter if it's fake I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/18 10:27 PM
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Is the suicide hotline supposed to fuck you? Women seem to be pretty good at talking to people and show more empathy for the weak, including weak men, they just lose sexual attraction in the process and instead go into mom-mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/18 01:11 PM
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There are always outliers to these types of theories. Asexual, aromantic people exist, they're just so rare that it's not worth mentioning when talking about humans as a whole. If you personally don't suffer from a lack of romantic relationships, sex, or companionship then you don't have to persue any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/18 08:33 AM
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1.) Neutral. It's legal where I live and imo people should be allowed to do what they want with their own bodies. There is unfortunately a strong involvement of criminal organizations in the business and with that shady/ immoral practices including pimping/drugs/forced prostitution/exploitation but that does not make prostitution by itself immoral. 2.) Since “whore“/“whoring“ are pretty vulgar slurs, I'd assume the person is being intentionally rude. I'm not sure what the context of this would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 10:17 PM
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Sure, kids play pretend and dressup all the time, I don't think it means anything. If he were insistant on only wearing dresses/ specifically dressing like a girl for years, then maybe it's a sign of something more. But then again I insisted on having my hair cut super short and exclusively dressing like a boy until I was 7, yet it had no effect on my gender-identity/ sexuality. When I was ~4 , I wanted to be a duck from ducktales for a few months, yet here I am without feathers or a beak. Imo w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 04:59 PM
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The muscle mass isn't the issue at all, it's the presentation. Women know Jason Momoa from the (pretty masculine) characters he plays so that is the first association and his general appearance/ demeanor is more one the “wild“ side. The pictures of guys that men on here post are 99% male models/ promo pics for body builders, which are taken in a way that appeals to men. Everything from the pose and facial expression, to the shaved/oiled up bodies is designed from a male pov and coincidenally (or…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 10:46 PM
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They're brutes to every one but their female love interest who they either have oneitis for from the start or grow to love because she's speshhul and manages to “tame“ the Alpha. It's the classical protector role - he's a monster or an otherwise powerful figure who will use all his power to keep her safe. This is the ideal female fantasy. That's also imo why many TRP-posters are seen as unattractive - they're the exact opposite. Naturally meek betas at the bottom of the male hirarchy who appear …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 09:28 PM
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Is there any reason he's telling me this beyond just sharing information? If not, then I don't see how it affects our relationship in any way. Maybe I'm being too autistically naive, idk. If he wanted to engage in that side then he probably should have made that choice before getting into a monogamous marriage with me. It would be the same if he wanted to open the relationship to have more female partners. As for the dom/sub part, I would not enjoy acting dominant in bed, imagine my husband acti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 10:45 PM
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Cheating in the past is a hard no. Also if they're divorced or have kids (Even if he was 100% innocent marriage material and it was all the woman's fault, it's too much baggage + potential drama with their ex). The only exception for a single father would be if the mother is completely out of the picture - like joined a remote nunnery in the mountains or dead. Though that again means baggage if he loved her and she died or left, while an OOW child with 0 emotional connection to the mother would …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 05:18 PM
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I always thought it was the difference between saying “my personal experience is different/ empirical data on the issue suggests that your experience is not the norm“ vs. stating or suggesting that they're lying. Not sure how you worded it but I'd guess “I'm having a hard time believing that this actually happened to you“ would fall into the second category while “I don't think this happens very often/ is the norm and we can draw conclusions from that“ would be the former. Same for “I have perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 06:44 PM
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There is also a huge extrovert vs introvert divide imo. Extroverts like social games, they thrive on it. I find them exhausting as well, being introverted and autistic, and only have a small group of friends myself who are similarly weird. However most normal women enjoy this type of communication more than open confrontation and extroverts in general gain more energy from being social instead of finding it draining. They like having their social life based around these interactions, it's how th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 12:35 PM
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I just have not found this to be true for actual close friendships irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 11:38 AM
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Depends on what your parameters are. Male and Female bonds are different (shocker, who would have thought) and it's one of the few areas in life where, as an oursider of the other gender, you have no way of actuallly experiencing it accurately because by inserting yourself into the group, you disrupt the dynamic and with that the entire experiment. Some core differences seem to be that male groups are more hirarchical and openly competitive, while female groups are more cooperative and the compe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 09:57 AM
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I don't find this to be entirely accurate, even with the most AWALT Stacy types. They do have a much larger loose network of friendships and a different social hirarchy than men but there are layers to it. In the middle most seem to have one or two best friends who they share everything with and really trust. Then the farther you go from this “core group“, the weaker the bonds (because who the hell would you be closw friends with 50+ people anyway). The backstabbing is strongest among orbiters a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 08:54 AM
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Tests always put me as true neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 03:53 AM
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A lot of people want children, the best framework for which (statistically) is marriage and humans im general are social creatures who enjoy companionship and intimacy. Also having another self-sufficient person can make life easier in many ways and especially as you get older, not being alone + having someone support you seems to be something a lot of people value. (Like you may be self sufficient right now and in general but if you break your leg or get sick for a while, it's great to have som…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 12:45 PM
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The US seems to have historical hangups with nudity but in many parts of Europe, Nudist beaches or saunas are pretty normal and yeah you can go there with your parents if you want to, whatever. Tbh her father seeing her topless os probably less of a shock to him than the other way around lol - parents see their kids naked when they're small all the time (just think diaper changes, baths, etc). It's the kids who get uncomfortable seeing their parents naked because (1) old bodies are ugly and (2) …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 09:23 PM
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This is really a huge part. Neither me not my husband post on fb but we constantly use the messenger to talk to each other, our friends, colleagues, family, etc. and organize larger events. Though it seems to be more popular in the US. All of my EU contacts and the kids here use Whatsapp instead for the same purposes (constantly active group chats, organizing stuff) , so maybe that's where some of the disconnect on reddit comes from...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 12:13 PM
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The only thing I've really noticed is that women tend to take and post 100x more photographs online than men in general. Facebook is kinda being taken over by baby boomers but Instagram, Snapchat, etc. still show this trend. And when they post pictures it is much more common to be selfies alone or with female friends for women, while men post more mirror shots at the gym, group pictures or scenery stuff and a lot of times those aren't even “their“ photos, it's pictures someone took of them, like…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 12:07 PM
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Jesus that's fucked up - anyone of the representetives or interest groups looking to change that? This seems like the kind of legislation MRAs might have a realistic chance of bringing awareness to, if done right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 08:08 AM
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Maybe we just see things differently, but in my opinion, not being able to afford food / housing / clothing because you have to make your child support payments might maybe effect your bodily autonomy. A lot of men end up homeless just to make their child support payments. Can you honestly say that doesn't effect their bodily autonomy? I addressed this in my second paragraph. It works differently in my country and I do not think this is an acceptable system. I do not have statistics on the US ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 12:23 AM
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And yet women can get abortions despite the needs of the child. Because the pregnancy happens in their body. Child's needs < Bodily autonomy. We already established that, as parents are not forced to phyiscally care for their child in other ways either. If this wasn't the case, the child's needs to phyiscally have their diaper changed or be fed would also trump a parents' rights and the state could force them to not just pay money (which the state then uses to pay other people to physically care…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 11:38 PM
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If the child is adopted, it will be better off but if it is in the foster system, it just gets bounced between shitty homes with peope who don't care, instead of just staying in one shitty home with a mother who hopefully at least cares aboit them. At least in the US the state unfortunately isn't that great at raising cildren either. An overhaul of the system is needed anyway but the added cost of all or most children of single mothers would almost certainly be more than the taxpayer is willing …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 11:08 PM
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I mean in the second movie the bad guy was literally Prince Charming and the fairy godmother so it all equals out in the end lol (And wasn't Farquaad based on some executive the animators hated or something?)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 10:52 PM
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I don't see the inconsistency here (?) The child is entitled to monetary resources from both parents and the state enforces that but no one is entitled to their bodies. Parents aren't held at gunpoint to change diapers or generally physically interact with their children. Unless the father is forced into labor by the government, it seems to me like both parents have bodily autonomy (including the option to be unemployed and have 0 contact with their child) but a financial responsibility based on…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 10:27 PM
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Terrible manners, lives in a swamp, still gets Stacy instead of the lord offering a whole kingdom because the Ogre is over 6ft and Farquaad is short !!1
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 09:45 PM
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Wtf happened to his face >.> this is what you end up with when you spend too much time in an RPG's character creator... everything about him is just ... off... like his chin seems too pointy, so does his nose and his eyebrows make him look downright dangerous o.O Irl given he would look a bit more real, he would be conventionally very attractive but for some reason that's usually the type of guy I find intimidating and avoid (at least from the way he looks with his eyebrows and all, maybe he's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 09:29 PM
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... that is literally the weight an average (not over-or underweight) woman is expected to gain during pregnancy. O.o That's just the baby growing at a healthy rate in a uterus that has enough water. A lot of that weight goes away once you give birth but some of the water still takes a few weeks to disappear (women don't immediately have a flat stomach after birth because of that)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/18 09:40 AM
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... what next generation of women if the current ones don'r reproduce? Also no the “Snowflakes“ would be safe because their families have money and they have safe office jobs, same as their male counterparts. The disposable and disposed of are poor who I guess in your world now work in construction and are sent to the front lines of war(?), as well as anyone outside the first world. Also not sure how you expect them to “adapt“ - one generation is not nearly enough to give them equal muscle mass …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/18 12:47 PM
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We are 8 billion strong with a birth rate still above replacement. The high replacement rate are shithole countries though. If women there become disposable, they just straight up die and their society built on having tons of children just collapses (even more than now). In the west, if the same demographic with the dangerous jobs now is extended to women then it's lower class/ poor women who are injured die in greater numbers (given that they are weaker by nature, they will also get injured mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/18 07:06 AM
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Just look at her pictures in her post history. I was expecting a hamplanet too but she doesn't look bad (definitely a lot better than her Bf, dude with the pizza in the pictures) But tbh if she was obese, I would understand this even less - 10 more pouds on a whale don't suddenly turn them unfuckable if you were able to somehow overlook it for two years
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 07:05 PM
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He's an alcoholic and a porn addict, all her previous bfs have simmilar addictions or mental health issues. Seems pretty straight forward to me. His problems are a serious addiction and she's an idiot for picking him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 02:24 PM
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Except her “bad boy“ just seems to be a fat slob. I'd agree if he was a hot alpha but he seems to be a broken Beta at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 02:21 PM
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Possibly though in her post history she's still way out of this dude's league. She seems to have a thing for “saving men“ like that guy, imo her issues are with her self esteem and mental health more than her looks or weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 01:41 PM
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She seems to be the type who wants to “fix“ men given her post history of dating similarly fucked up guys. Probably really low self-esteem and/or mental illness. And while she might feel like a saint for doing it or has good intention, it's really self-destructive behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 01:22 PM
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Yeah just looking through her post history, girl has issues and her looks or weight gain are the least of them. Dude obviously has more red flags than the USSR and they should break up but there is a clear pattern on her side that leads to her being in these relationships in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 01:16 PM
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Holy shit women in the US are short o.O
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 01:05 PM
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Given that she was “chubby“ before I'm not entirely sure it's the 10 lbs weight gain that's the only problem (?) Usually you don't notice it that much with someone who is already on the fat side. Tbh it sounds like she wasn't his type to begin with, and at the two year mark any honeymoon-phase hormones are most likely gone. Chances are they got comfortable around eachouther, let themselves go a bit, and now even the tinyest bit of attraction he might have had from novelty/hormones/lots of makeup…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 11:24 AM
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I think it strongly depends on where you are right now and also a bit on luck just with what police officer you end up talking. In general there are some things that bother me about the US approach on this though. As a rule of thumb imo it is the job of the police to investigate any reported rape and it can't be shoved to the back, often without even analyzing the rape kit they did, just because rapes are hard to prove and convicting the 100th kid for posession of pot is just so much easier. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 01:22 PM
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Maybe we just move in different cycles. I only encounter this online in places where people complain and irl with 30+ unhappy singles and/or divorcees
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 04:00 PM
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I'd say around 40-50% of people as a whole are “fit“ for marriage in the sense that they are interested in and capable of leading a long term relationship with another person from that group with a similar background, can raise decent children in this environment, and are generally content with their arrangement (please note that this doesn't mean they're always haaappyy because that imo is never meant to be a permanent state for humans). The top 10-20% probably have the most stable and happy re…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 09:58 AM
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I don't think so, at least not as a general rule for all women. Even being more of a “tomboy“ type with more male-dominated interests, I feel like I surpress my femininity on a daily basis, if anything. Talking in a high pitched voice, showing emotions, acting in a caring and/or submissive way around people, appearing helpless or insecure, all end up with me not being taken seriously by anyone and easily being taken advantage of. It makes you look weak. I guess they can be used to get others to …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 04:50 PM
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I'm not a redpiller. You might really want to change your flair then. That's why multiple people in this thread assume you're RP (and at the very least agree with the core beliefs/ sidebar, even if you're not active on the TRP subreddit)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/18 03:29 PM
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If she locks down the Alpha Bucks, she gets fun, excitement, validation now and money, status, security. Also the “late“ marriage age of 27-28 is not just due to everyone riding the CC, the dating/cohabitating before marriage has increased for everyone, including those looking for marriage from the start. Instead of meeting at 20 and getting married at 21 like the religious couple, nowadays most couples looking to marry might meet at 20, move in together at 23, cohabitate and build their careers…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/18 09:27 AM
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Wtf no, I like my husband's sex-drive and other men's sexuality doesn't bother me (probably because I avoid people in general). Yes, rape and sexual assault are a thing but we already have those people known as the police who we pay to deal with this. Literally changing half the world's population for the worse without their consent seems disproportionate to the problems this is supposed to “solve“.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 08:54 PM
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This seems to be a AF/AB transition, not BB. She went from sleeping with broke Alphas to dating and marrying an Alpha with money. Betas were never part of the equation for her scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 07:56 AM
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I didn't marry at 18, I decided to be in a LTR with him at 18 with the intent to eventually marry, which according to your OP qualifies as “ready to settle down“ And I was refering to your comment above where you said that you wanted to compare your experiences with anecdotes from here This sub is based on anecdotal evidence. My life experiences point towards one conclusion I'm just seeing if there are alternative experiences that other's have had that could sway my opinion. I didn't mean to off…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 06:52 AM
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I don't trust people in general. In your hitchhiking example I'd generally see the woman as the lower risk because (1) she is physically weaker than a man, and (2) men are generally more aggressive because of thestosterone and I (a small female) would make a very easy victim for rape. However hitchiking in general seems pretty risky to me and I would never fully trust a stranger. It might be enevitable if I am stranded somewhere and I have to pick the lesser evil, but in general I'd rather take …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 05:55 AM
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18, when I met my husband. I'm 22 now, relationship is great. Tbh I think the stress for most starts once they have kids, right now we're just doing all the fun stuff people in their 20s do. (Introverted people that is lol) But as a side note idk if you will find the anecdotes you're looking for here if your goal is to confirm or further your world view. The PPD crowd is about as atypical as it gets. Half are genuinely autistic it seems, the rest are at least weird enough to find this place and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 05:35 AM
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I see them as similar to some mgtow-leaning men here, especially the women being vocal about how great being single with cats is, then complaining about not finding any good men 10 minutes later. Or saying how men should be attracted to them despite being fat, that it's all because men watch too much porn, etc. Incels are more extreme imo, I'd compare them to super aggressive and extreme feminists on tumblr who literally advocate for a society without men/ complete moral superiority of women and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:46 PM
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Except taxes are taking a part of your property, not your bodily autonomy. The equivalent would be government-mandated slave labor where you're forced to care for the elderly or clean the park for x hours a day. Instead the government just takes some of your money to pay other people to do these things voluntarily. For sex, the equivalent to welfare would be paying prostitutes for incels with tax money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 12:34 PM
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What is? Forging paperwork is literally the “solution“ in all cases involving paperwork. Until you get caught and go to prison. Also how are you getting free stuff now? I thought you wanted to forge the paperwork o.O ... but yeah pretending to be in love can get you shit, but immigration is a dumb, risky, expensive, and time-consuming way to do it though (and you still need a willing partner who gets something out of it). Just get a sugar daddy and you'll have not just credit cards but a car, a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:46 AM
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That's literally the case with everything involving paperwork and it is pretty much the first concern for immigration in all developed countries to prevent this (which is why they also want pictures of you as a couple, lots of different paperwork, an in-person interview and they of course check for fraud). It's a routine thing for immigration law at this point, that's like their entire job. It should be obvious that the penalties for fraud are also pretty high but there are additional penalties …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:27 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:06 AM
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Not who you asked but for immigration purposes (if you are not married yet), to prove that you are actually in a relationship, you usually supply supporting paperwork. That's stuff a joint lease, joint bank accounts/ credit cards, co-signed contracts to any bigger purchases like a car or a house, birth certificates of any children you have together, insurance policies naming the other as the benefitiary, affidavids from the couple and family/friends that support their claims. Additionally for im…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 05:58 AM
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21, started dating at 18 and cohabitated for a year before marriage. He is 3 years older than me and was my first everything, I was a bit late on that whole dating thing. We probably wouldn't have “had“ to get married that early if it wasn't for the military and us not being from the same country (just living in one together :P ). But the way it is, just blissful cohabitation had a set expiration date that could only be removed by lots of legal paperwork. Since we wanted to get married eventuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 05:28 AM
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Slow day on ppd...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 06:20 PM
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I absolutely agree, I just think OP's examples have too many additional differences that make one less likable to the other so it becomes difficult to show a definite bias just based on those stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 02:33 PM
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It's the narrative and the language that drives it. The woman wrote a whole emotional paragraph about why the adoption happened and how she suffered from it, the guy just mentiones it in half a sentence, then goes on about how great his life is/was without the kid and literally says that he's a douche. If he had an elaborate emotional story and an actual adoption while the woman just writes “My pregnancy and birth were a cakewalk, then I gave him the kid and never contacted him again, I think he…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 11:41 PM
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It's more abstract from what I've seen. People who are more extraverted and therefor more social/outgoing tend to have more options and are more likely to enjoy the party-/“hookup“-scene (which gives them more of an option to get a high N-count). People who need novelty, enjoy taking risks, or just don't really care about what society thinks or worry about rejection and possible consequences tend to enjoy/ seek out casual sex more. Lastly their environment and upbringing (religious and conservat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 03:45 PM
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The lady in the first OP is 40, the pregnancy was in 1994/5 In my teens I fell pregnant despite using condoms and I wanted to get an abortion. I only found out about it at 21 weeks due to my irregular periods. My pro-life family and then-boyfriend were not comfortable with me getting an abortion so late. At the time, there were few resources to help women who were seeking abortions with no financial or emotional support. I was in university with no spare money. I begged for money for an abortion…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 01:36 PM
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Might have been insensitive to use that language but that's exactly what she is. Not just insensitive but a sure way to get on most readers' bad side. It's no wonder that they show so little sympathy for him when he presents himself as a douchebag.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 01:26 PM
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I don't get that part either, I also think the daughter's teenage angst might be better directed at her mother who supposedly knows who the father is but didn't contact him in any way (she found him on social media so the mother or someone else must have told her). I wonder if the mother was/is even sure about her parentage or if there was another man who did fill the position of father for a while. At least it sounds like she isn't poor to the point where she is on benefits or the whole paterna…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 01:20 PM
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Alright after reading through the posts there are a couple of things that stood out to me (besides the usual stuff on relationships that is more inclined to side with the woman and tells every OP to get therapy): The way the woman's OP was worded makes her more sympathetic right off the bat. She describes in some detail how she was basically “forced“/ coerced into carrying out the pregnancy until birth and adoption instead of an abortion that she wanted but couldn't afford and how that whole 9 m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 12:44 PM
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Children's lives are considered worth more than the adults' resources. No one is asking the father to give his life for the child or his whole livelyhood but a part of his monetary resources. A child cannot provide for themselves so if society does not want them to starve, someone needs to pay for it and the taxpayer doesn't want to if there is a parent who can pay for it. Adults who can't provide for themselves in civilized countries also get taken care of by society to the point where they don…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 07:38 PM
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The positive you get is that instead of having 0 chance of getting laid ever, you at least have a slight chance that one of the many women you approach will give you the time of day. Sure, you don't have to approach as long as you're fine with being celibate for life. But most men's sex-drive is so strong that getting sex is worth the work for them. Some men are also social and enjoy the game and as you already mentioned some are attractive to the point where they can get much better results wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 12:19 PM
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I guess I prefer the way we make plans right now lol - the one who initiates it usually proposes a first plan (does the leg work so to speak) and then the other either agrees or proposes changes along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 07:46 AM
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No, not for me. I have no problem with the absence of open dominance in the bedroom if I'm otherwise attracted to him (doesn't even need to earn 100k, lift that often, or dress up in a special way). I'm pretty vanilla, just normal sex is fine and I can be on top half the time if he wants that. But me actively dominating him and/or him being into all the kinky submissive stuff is a turnoff. Also “deferrant in household manners“ just sounds like I'd have to do all the planning and constanty tell h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 07:40 PM
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My husband didn't have a driver's license for the first 3 years that I knew him and I didn't have a car. It's a non-issue issue if you live in a place with decent public transport and/or have all necessary shops, etc. within walking distance. When bad comes to worse, you just have to pay for a cab or ask a really nice friend to drive you in exchange for pizza. The height thing would be looking for a unicorn - I'm barely 5'2, I've never met a shorter man than me in my life. Might have to go with …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 08:42 AM
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That seems to be a pretty common opinion expressed by men here and irl, yes. Feminine interests like arts and crafts, cooking, fashion, makeup, etc. = boring = as good as not having any interests at all because boring stuff doesn't count. Lots of people think that way, maybe even most, which is why having a common interest beyond sex is seen as “lucky“ and often listed as an important part of a successful LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 02:01 PM
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Small effort + big reward for both parties seems pretty great to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/18 09:43 AM
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Touch, quality time, followed by words I think my husband's are touch and words, at least we tell eachother “I love you“ all the time Also 0 on gifts lol - I think we both forgot eachother's birthdays this year and our anniversary 😂 neither of us cares about this sort of thing, it's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/18 09:26 AM
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There is no simple, absolute system to tell when to approach a stranger or not. This is why understanding body language and social interactions is vital to all human interactions, especially those with strangers, if you want them to go your way. In general: it is not a good idea to approach women alone at night because the chances of them thinking you'll robb, rape, or murder them is higher than usual. It is also not a great idea to approach people with headphones on or who are obviously busy (w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/18 02:42 PM
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An inherent inability to understand social clues is. You can be proficient in both logic and reading social interactions - lacking one or the other completely is a pretty big handycap.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/18 02:30 PM
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1) I don't like period sex, I feel icky enough already with cramps and all, I don't like blood, the last thing I want is for someone to poke around in it. There are a lot of other activities besides standard piv sex that aren't affected by my period. 2) I don't do FWB so it doesn't really apply - if my husband had done this while dating, I would have been hurt that he doesn't want to spend time with me because of my period (especially since there is other stuff to do too). Obviously in this scen…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/18 10:58 PM
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women better start behaving more submissive and thankful towards masculine guys, because they will be needing them very much in the future Masculine Germans or masculine foreigners? Cause the former seems to be about as rare as the submissive German women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 11:43 AM
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Sounds fake but whatever. In most western societies people are “entitled“ to be defended from attackers by the state via the police. That's what they're for, that's why a part of our taxes goes to pay for them. It does seem that the police in many parts of western Europe is not always entirely on top of this type of new aggression from migrants vs. what they're used to from the locals but that's a different discussion. In general, it's great when people step in to defend others but in a situatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 11:41 AM
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Except anyone who spends some time on reddit should know that those are worlds apart (quite literally) for the reddit audience. The reactions are perfectly predictable regardless of gender in this case. Reddit is primarily young, western, and anti-religious. To 99% of reddit, the opinion is as follows: cheating = the worst and completely inexcusable moral failing only a terrible human being could committ (and they should be socially punished for it) Promiscuity/underage drinking during college =…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 11:21 AM
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Have you read the threads on relationships or even legaladvice of immigrant children from similar backgrounds wanting to live a western lifestyle? Because this Unless she really went along with it, she would have only her friends and would probably struggle financially. Is exactly the advice they give all of them. That's the whole damn point everyone is trying to get accross to you - this isn't a gender issue, this is a cultural issue and reddit sides with western culture 99.99% of the time. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 06:09 AM
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No one is forcing the parents to move to the west and raise their kids there - if it's so retarded here, the easiest way to avoid it is to stay an ocean away. And it is fully intentional that parents do not have authority over their adult children. It's the whole personal freedoms and authonomy thing everyone over the age of 18 is granted here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 11:11 PM
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the last man who tried to do so is thoroughly demonized as one of the most "evil" men ever. I'm at a loss as to who you're talking about. The sexual revolution that took place in the 60s ans 70s, which is what set apart western cuture regards to sexuality and all that “degeneracy“ was still followed by many conservative governments over time but none of them are refered to as the most evil men ever. The US is currenty lead by Donald Trump with the Republican party so their views are very much ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 09:22 PM
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Selective sperm/ IVF then? Enforcement of abortion in surrogate contracts, especially based on anything aside from genetic defects or accidental twins/ triplets, seems to be kinda spotty and laws vary from state to state in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 08:32 PM
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How the fuck is it authoritarian? Their culture and beliefs authoritarian, their authority is simply severely limited while living in the west outside of this society. Reddit is also a progressive, borderline communist wasteland that labels the most moderate conservative belief as 'neo-nazi'. Lol as if subs like TheDonald weren't hugely popular on reddit. Plenty of conservatives around here, just young western conservatives who care less about premarital sex and underage drinking than political …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 08:26 PM
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Why not just live in a country with Eastern Culture and raise your kids there? Also are you a woman or how do you personally plan to “have any female child aborted“ while living in the west where this decision rests entirely in the mother's hands? (If you are a woman how come you were not corrupted)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 07:46 PM
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True stories in which reddit will 100% side with the child leading a western lifestyle vs. their parents trying to enforce their backwards beliefs. Even the conservatives on reddit agree that if you live here with all the benefits of western culture, you can't expect to simultaneousy keep the social structures from your home country. Like the one single thing that 99% of reddit agrees on is that this type third world authoritarian “culture“ is retarded and should be discouraged or not even toler…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 07:40 PM
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Yeah average people get average situations which are by definition not ideal but just average. Mediocre partner, mediocre sex-life, mediocre kids, mediocre job, and so on and so on. If you're just average then that's what you get - that's what most people get. Maybe we should stop setting people's expectations so high like telling kids that they can be anything they want and deserve the world, when the vast majority of people are painfully average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 09:34 AM
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The majority of people end up in relationships and even get married. Just based on statistics the average man does end up finding someone. It requires significantly more work on his part than the average woman's for various reasons that have been beaten to death on this sub but what I want to say is: the average guy is not an incel or even a whiny “nice guy“ who truly finishes last (at least after his teenage years when everyone seems to be a bit dramatic)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 07:40 AM
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They're usually the ones who are too nice as OP put it and to whom it gets pointed out as a reason for rejection. The average man who is averagely nice (so generally civil and friendly but not a doormat) can attract an average woman for a relationship just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 09:19 PM
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Very risk- and conflict-averse people tend to finish last (or much later than they could) in a lot of areas in life, not just love. “Nice guys“ are typically exactly that. I (a woman) have been told that I'm too nice by many people in various situations, it's just that dating is the one area where women aren't that affected by it. In every other area of life, being a people pleaser/shy/not standing up for yourself from fear of hurting someone else's feelings/ putting others' needs in front of yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 05:41 PM
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But on Reddit it looks like the majority of men over 40 refuse to even consider a woman who is like 30. Those are overwhelmingly MGTOW types writing what they would do once they're 40+ which is pretty much just a creative writing exercise. It's the same people saying they'd want to be in a LTR but only if the girl is 20, a virgin, not a career woman but makes the same money as they do at their STEM job while also doing all the house work, acts feminine but only when it's convenient, and is fine …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 08:13 AM
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... how many normal people in general even know about hypergamy? I had never encountered this term, let alone a whole study on human nature based on it, before finding TRP here on Reddit. The whole idea is pretty fringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 02:46 PM
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Yeah white is definitely part of it, maybe a small percentage of very “white acting“ other ethnicities or mixed people but those have to be in a majority white friend group, have lived in this community since birth, and still be above average in attractiveness and/or social status within the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 07:04 PM
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Hey that's true, I didn't consider the title this way and jumped right into social class but the OP was talking about money and education which I'd actually disagree with as pointers to successful marriage if we make this distinction. Imo a “starving artist“ type who grew up MC/UMC has better chances at a successful marriage with a woman from his social class than the IT nerd making 6 figures or “new richt“ entrepreneur, if both are from a working class background or immigrants who don't date ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 06:02 PM
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Maybe they're dating men whose parents have similar socioeconomic background to their own parents, even if the men did not reach the same status themselves as adults. Yes this exactly. People usually keep the values they grew up with. My parents and those of my social cycle for example all have at least University degrees (graduate degrees are the US equivalent I think) or higher and work in upper management, as doctors, professors, or on the lower end teachers, etc. They're middle class to uppe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 04:46 PM
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The full quote is “After steadily rising for five decades, the share of children born to unmarried women has crossed a threshold: more than half of births to American women under 30 occur outside marriage." This is supported with data from Child Trends, a Washington research group that analyzes government data and reports "the fastest growth in the last two decades has occurred among white women in their 20s who have some college education but no four-year degree." How are they successful “gold …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 03:40 PM
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I'm upper-middle class (income > $115,100) and well-educated and can't find a decent high status wife. Most well-educated attractive women I know are dating blue collar guys, guys with lower income and education who are hot. How old are you and what is you family background (education/vocation-wise)? This seems like the opposite of what I see in my social cycle even in the early 20s bracket when just dating “for fun“ instead of marriage is a bit more common ... almost everyone is dating/ engaged…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 03:34 PM
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Girls who bully tend to be great in social manipulation and do all the “mean“ things when no authority figure is watching. They also usually bully in groups and work on making their target a social outcast to the point where it just looks to the teacher or parents like that kid is the weird one who doesn't want to integrate and you can't pinpoint the instigator when it's just the entire class being disgusted by one child and coming up with a million reasons why they don't like them. Additionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 08:46 AM
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I wasn't bullied as much as I was simply excluded from the group from grade 5 to 9. I was always weird (because asperger's) and some time between primary and secondary school the social rules and dynamics among girls had just gotten way too complicated for me. So when I tried to make friends at my new school, I was quickly bullied out of it by the few girls at the top (I was trying to befriend their friends who liked me but apparently making friends when you didn't live in their village was not …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 01:47 PM
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They probably like and respect their husbands enough not to talk shit about them behind their back while the same curtesy is not extended to the bullies. At least for me personally I don't give a shit if people know intimate and potentially negative details about me after I have decided to share them. However I cannot make that same decision for my husband and just assume it's fine to tell the internet intimate details about him. It's about respecting and protecting the person you love. Since I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 01:11 PM
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I think there are only a few people in general who are ambitious enough and fit to make it to the very top without burning out and most of them are men because of testosterone and the resulting drive/aggression/dominance/competitiveness. When it comes to top positions, as in leadership, it's not so much about having the ability to do your job right, it's about convincing the people that you do and fighting off any competitors. This is also why nerdy men who might be great specialists in their fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 09:09 AM
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An “elite“ escort would be leading the better life here by far, in general the more money you have, the more agency you have in society. Though I fail to see how the comment at the bottom is saying “elite escorts are oppressed“ - it seems to me like it says “not all of the sex industry is as glamurous as the life of elite escorts“ Elite escorts by definition are the very top of the industry - they can have all those benefits while also choosing their clients. However in the prostitution “industr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 09:11 AM
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... is this not what empathy is? You realize a behavior would harm the othet person so you don't do it? It's not about the husband finding out and retalliating in kind, it's about respecting the person you love. Talking shit about people is disrespectful. “Treat others like you want to be treated“ is meant to benefit them, not yourself. The other person can still be a dick to you, it's about you not being a dick to them (because you realize this behavior would be hurtful) If this is your definit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 05:59 PM
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It seems really disrespectful to bitch about your partner on reddit, especially if the issues are relatively minor and they are otherwise considerate and loving. This is why I personally don't like sharing negative details about my relationship on reddit, facebook or wherever else. If the flaw is big enough to bitch about, it's worth bringing it up with my partner directly and if it's not then there's no need to write about it. I would feel hurt if my husband complained about me online instead o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:33 PM
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This attraction over time happens with people in their social cycle/ friend group/ work/ school/ sports club, not randoms on the street. Also what's the point of giving randoms a chance because it could turn into something when the next day some other random will come around who is instantly attractive or they already have a couple of “maybe“ guys in their social cycle (who they actually know not to be psycho murderers or rapists)? The risk of going with a stranger is already pretty high for wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 05:04 PM
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Not terribly surprising tbh. Also not something they'll get by staying home and watching porn
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 10:39 AM
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Yeah if you look at the incel community, porn obviously isn't a good enough replacement for real life sex (and the validation of being desired) for lots of men and neither are prostitutes. Probably really comes down to ancient instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:56 AM
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Because men have a higher sex drive than women (?) It's just our reality that men want sex more than women because of higher testosterone levels. So if they want sex, they will have to approach women to get it. Or in other words: women will never approach them as frequently as men do women and they won't approach below average men at all. Feminists would probably be perfectly fine with men not approaching or at least approaching less aggressively but that goes against human nature. And the resul…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:25 AM
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I swear it is 99% the way the pictures often presented here are taken. Women interpret a lot more into it - if the guy stands there all oiled up in a submissive position/ with his lips parted in a “come here and take me“ way, the same way female models pose to attract men, it just screams gay. The same muscular guy doing manual labor dressed in a shirt with his sleeves rolled up or in a nice suit and just looking normal or better masculine/dominant will get a very different reaction and IRL if h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:28 PM
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Insecure/anxious which leads to me needlessly being worried and then upset. To demonstrate a scenario of how my brain thinks before I force it to be rational: Didn't text me back? Let's send another message and check online status. They are/were online? Clearly doesn't love me anymore, time to jump off a bridge. Hasn't been online all day? Clearly dead or dying somewhere. Luckily this has improved greatly (my handleing of it, not my brain) but it definitely was an issue. Also not a natural at gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 08:54 PM
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Shouldn't he be happy about a lower birth rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 11:25 AM
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Who says they have to subsidize it? A policy that would be way esier to enact is to scrap the old retirement system for the boomers or at least the next generation and people just rely on their private savings. Anyone with children will have those to pay for them (also a good reason for parents to have a good relationship with their kids), anyone who doesn't can save up the money they didn't spend on child-rearing to pay for their retirement. Add a tax increase of maybe 1-3% for the top 1% earne…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 11:23 AM
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1 if that even counts (?) ... I went to the movies with a guy in high school thinking we would be going as a group and then it turned out to be a date. I did not have any romantic interest in him and if I had known that it was a date, I would have declined. I met my husband online and we lived 3h apart so we chatted and skyped a lot before meeting. Our fist meeting in person wasn't really a date since we already decided to be in a relationship and I spent the entire weekend at his place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 12:01 AM
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Our instincts to protect children are more primal than that. It goes about to the extent of “child is starving - where do we get resources for child to not starve - done.“ and “child is crying - child needs mother - give child to mother.“ This impulse is about as suffisticated as it is in a dog or a deer, just that we have a more complex way of solving the problem. The issues that children from single parent households have mostly materealize when they're adults (not so cute anymore) and aren't …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:26 PM
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Someone comes. You don't pursue the person, but the person is interested and single. And on ALL FACTORS YOU CAN POSSIBLY ACCOUNT FOR, this person is more of a match for you than your current partner. You're sure that AT LEAST the "bit of a strain" you perceive I won't make the exchange because I am already happy and I don't know if I'll be happier with the new person." I swear, you know you will be happier, with as much certainty as you know that you would be happier if you win the lottery There…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:15 PM
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Early 20s isn't much of an issue in general. Also kind of depends on why he is a virgin. He could be religious and waiting for marriage or even celibate because he's a catholic priest or monk or something. Then in the first case being a virgin past 20 and even 30 wouldn't be that much of a red flag (at least compared to his very strong religious beliefs that might make him a bad match for me but a great match for a very religious girl) and in the second scenario all ages are explained without fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:50 AM
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like money, status, looks, job Aside from looks, those seem like pretty good indicators for a stable husband instead of a deadbeat to me. Single moms are overwhelmingly a lower class/ poverty problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 10:03 PM
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Death to innovent children seems way out of proportion compared to the effect single mother supposedly have even according to OP. Even the Irish Catholic church was more humane by simply forcibly adopting the babies out and keeping unwed mothers in workhouses. Out society has a huge surplus of resources, letting children die on the street as a “warning“ is simply barbaric and completely unnecessary for a first worls nation - there are about a million alternatives that punish the mother and have …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 11:25 PM
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People care about their own children and their own blood, why would they want to benefit others' children? People care about their own children first but humans do have empathy for people beyond family too - that's why those social safety nets exist in the first place. If all people truly gave zero shits about kids outside their family starving and dying, they wouldn't vote for social services for them or donate money for sick children, poor children, starving children in Africa, etc. As soon as…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 11:11 PM
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It makes a lot of sense - if the man has to/ chooses to provide for a child with another woman, this takes resources which would otherwise have been invested soley on her child. Him having another woman also risks him liking that woman more to the point where he leaves her for the new woman and invests all his resources into the new family instead. Men trading in for a younger model is pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 01:16 AM
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Most men do not have that amount of resources. The very few who do are in the top 1% and many of them do have mistresses who are fine with the arrangement. They usually have a wife of the same social standing as them with whom they have legitimate heirs. (Though the main wife often isn't happy about the mistresses since her husband obviously doesn't love her very much but there are worse faits than crying in the back of a limousine) It seems to me like in this conversation the feelings of the in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 01:03 AM
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Monogamy is the most stable way to successfully raise children. Both men and women have an interest in this dynamic (men get to have legitimate heirs, women get resources and protection for them and their offspring)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:49 AM
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Alright you have constructed a scenario about feminists saying women cheating = good and men cheating =bad. However the OP's post wasn't on feminism and their opinions, it was on the asertion that RP men believe the exact opposite. You perfectly outline how the feminist talking point is wrong (which I agree with) but that does not follow that the reverse (men cheating =ok, women cheating =bad) is right, which was the question of the post. I would argue that both are equally morally wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:45 AM
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Could you explain why that is in this specific situation where the first reason you posted does not apply? (I get why they might be biologically whired to feel differently about it but not why one would be objectively worse than the other in the scenario I described. Though I would argue that from pure observarion women are just as upset about their partner cheating so even the first might not be as universal)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:37 AM
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How does that relate to cheating being morally wrong or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:28 AM
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Before it comes to what? I'm not talking about her motives to cheat at all, maybe the other guy is hotter, maybe she's bored, maybe she is a terrible person who wants to hurt their partner by doing this, whatever. My question was if being infertile or preventing pregnancy would make her cheating equally ok to a man cheating for whatever reason since there is no risk for her partner getting cuckholded.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:27 AM
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It's not, at least not any more than it is for a woman to cheat. People who try to justify men cheating based on evo-psych are simply rationalizing their own feelings. Not that those are a majority of RPers anyway. Of course there are some people who just assume everyone cheats or don't give a shit about being a bad person but at least they're consistant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:18 AM
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I'm not entirely sure how to rephrase it... If an individual woman can't get pregnant or prevents pregnancy by some method, is it ok for her to cheat? (So the whole issue of not knowing who the father of the child is wouldn't come up since there is no possibility for a child.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:14 AM
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“Should“ really has little meaning here - people find secondary sex traits attractive, including women's breasts, that is our reality. No amount of campaignign is going to change that men find breasts hot. However the same goes for wide hips/ the hourglass figure or muscle on men. We don't require people to wear burkas outside to hide those either - it is simply the cultural norm that decides what amount of nudity is “ok“ and that the rest of society just has to deal with their arousal in favor …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:08 AM
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Would it be ok for a woman to cheat in your opinion if she is infertile, had her tubes tied, or uses multiple methods of birth control, thus eliminating the possibility of a child being conceived in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 11:56 PM
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Chances are people but especially the women who spend a lot of time here are not only a minority but also more introverted than average, meaning they don't go out as much and are harder to meet/ not that interested in meeting new people in the first place and mostly stick to their established social cycle/ friendgroup. Or just plain don't leave the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 12:05 PM
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Alright so this I am a late 30's highly specialized surgeon so I make seven figures. I'm a tad under six foot. I'm in average shape. I dress well, have friends I've known for decades, cool social life and hobbies, and great downtown condo. Screams Beta Bux. Like you could not fit more Beta Bux tells if you tried. So if this is what you are projecting to the world, it is not surprising that you will overwhelmingly attract women looking for exactly that And then this however most women I date are …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 09:06 AM
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Your male friends maybe? Could make it a vacation full of booze and hook-ups (or hookers) with people you actually like. Not that it's wrong to bring a random girl, it just seems like a lot of investment into someone you don't actually want to be with in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 08:45 AM
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Keeping in mind that social programs are an entitlement to someone else’s body through the taxation of their labor. It is not taxation on their labor, it is taxation on the resources they get in exchange for their labor (money). If you're a construction worker, the state does not force you to spend x hours a year building kindergardens, prisons, or roads, it forces you to pay x amount of the money you get in exchange for building private and/or public property. You can choose not to work for mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 12:54 PM
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Love as in honeymoon-phase romantic love/ “being in love“ is your brain releasing large amounts of dopamine and a whole number of other chemicals and is is measurable so it's as real as any other brain function. Love in the sense of a strong emotional connection/ attachment to another person like parents to a child and vice versa, siblings to eachother, or romantic partners over many years (pair bonding) is also real and measurable, though this time it is linked to oxytocin and vasopressin inste…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 10:25 AM
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No one is entitled to anything but death in the end. Doesn't mean we shouldn't try to be giving as people though so we can live in a society and have a relationship that isn't a complete shitshow but where we get value in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 05:28 PM
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Have cars actually been used by “school-shooter“ types in Europe? I've only seen that method with terrorists and older suicidal white men, probably because most kids here don't have cars either (driving age is higher and public transport is better)... knives and guns that they stole from their parents or bought on the black market seem far more common
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 07:49 AM
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Married by 27-29 the latest but they meet and start dating their future husbands in their early 20s or even late teens. The way it goes in most ideal cases for the middle class and up is meeting in college or when you first start working, dating for 5 -7 years while starting your career, then getting married and settleing down somewhere to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 09:31 PM
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Things like your job, your living situation and your plans for the future (career, buying a house, etc.) are usually discussed very early on and you can quickly establish their current and likely future income (roughly), how they handle money and if they have student loans for example. You can also often see it based on their family, posessions, car, gifts, clothes, education, where and how they live, etc. And at least when you get serious to the point where you're considering staying together p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 05:27 PM
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... obviously? If the only time you call someone is when you need money, be it your partner, friend, or your parents, they're gonna get annoyed at your calls and probably ignore/block you for good reason. Same goes if the only time you text or call is for a favor (driving you somewhere, picking something up), a booty call, or to whine about your life. This really goes for any relationship - if you want someone to do you a favor and enjoy interacting with you, you should ideally pay it forward an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 02:41 PM
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just like the woman is having some needs fulfilled by a therapist that the man cant fulfill No that is exactly not what a therapist is for - a therapist is supposed to help you deal with your issues and develop coping mechanisms, not fill some void in yourself just by talking to him. He is not a replacement to your partner or his shortcomings in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/18 07:37 AM
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Lol maybe when prostitutes start getting medical degrees and practicing under a license. If you're not getting your needs met in a relationship, you don't go out to have them met by someone else - you either end the relationship since it's not benefitial to you or you work through your issues. Women don't go to see therapists to have their emotional needs met either, if their issue is within their romantic relationship then the therapist's job is to help her deal with the issue by analysing the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/18 11:12 PM
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Did you read the comments on marriage based Visas and do you think this to be an irrational reason as well? Though I don't quite understand how “not rational“ automatically equals Gynocentrism in the first place. Men have feelings/instincts/urges and frequently act on them like any other living creature...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/18 08:45 AM
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Immigration in pretty much every country besides Australia requires you to be legally married to your partner to qualify for a family/spouse-visa. So if you happen to love someone from another country or have to permanently move for work and would like to live together, this is the easiest and for many people only way to do it (not everyone works in a highly demanded career and can get a high paying job in that field to qualify for EU residency for example)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 10:11 AM
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While they're children maybe. But once they reach adulthood, they will make their own decisions and mistakes. At the end of the day you are the only person who you truly have control over and whose life you can make a happy one - you can set a good example and hope that others will follow but it's their own life to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 10:32 AM
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I don't think humans are built for prolonged happyness - we get highs and then we spend the rest of our time chasing the next. That's probably a big factor for why are species is successful. If we were just happy with eating some fruit in the jungle, we never would have advanced from that. I believe that most people can be content with their lot in life and not unhappy but not constantly happy. I think what is adding to people being unhappy nowadays is a lack of stability. Back in the day your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 10:28 AM
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No. Women have a lower sex drive than men on average and they often have a responsive sex drive, meaning you have to turn them on first. However the fact that they are not constantly looking for or thinking about sex does not mean that they are asexual. I'm not sure where exactly you have your stats for masturbation from but given the large amounts of erotica that's out there written by women for women (50 shades of grey, romance novels, fanfiction, etc.) and how there is obviously anvid reader-…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 09:14 PM
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Oh no I was talking about a study that some people cite in favor of circumcision which was conducted in Sub-Saharan Africa. I believe the result was that circumcised males contracted less infections and STDs or something of the sort. However in the West I'd argue that regularly washing your penis and wearing a condom are far superior methods of disease prevention to cutting off a baby's foreskin. (I realize now after quickly looking up the study that Sub-Saharans most likely don't live in the de…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 09:01 PM
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I'm not entirely sure what you mean, I thought in the US the main driving force for circumcision was cultural (not religious in the same way Muslims and Jews practice it) and at least partly based on the belief that it has health benefits. Or are you talking about why the Jews circumcise their boys? o.o
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 06:54 PM
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I don't have any intuition when it comes to social interactions but building trust over time and judging people by observation during that time has worked well for me personally. I generally find human intuition to be flawed as well -intelligent psychopaths for example can easily charm people and gain their trust by manipulation while people who are off in behavior like autists are perceived as unpleasant or potentially dangerous, even if they have no bad intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 02:05 PM
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I'm the same way as you but not everyone feels this way about sex and it seems more common among women than men (probably because of that higher sex drive/thestosterone). If you're a person who would love to jump in bed with someone after knowing them for 5 minutes because they're hot, it's kinda hard to see why they don't feel the same way, unless they're not attracted to you. (Even if this is not necessarily true like in your case) However, what men on here are mostly talking about are not vir…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 12:30 PM
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Not everyone trusts people easily though. I personally can't think of a single stranger who I ended up trusting in under 3-4 weeks of almost daily interactions (in person/texts/skype/whatever) to the point where I am comfortable to open up, be myself with them, or be intimate with in a romantic setting. There are no vibes that make me comfortable quickly with anyone - there are only people I end up trusting over time and those who just don't make it to that point at all. Honestly the fact that h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 12:08 PM
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In Europe most people think male cicumcision is weird too but Muslims and Jews start crying about religious persecution as soon as the government tries to ban it. Since those are the only people doing it to their kids here in the first place and the backlash/ bad press are pretty bad, many politicians end up backing down from it. In the US it seems to be more of a cultural practice and is considered normal, even benefitial by the majority of people (although not based in fact unless you live in …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 09:12 AM
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This heavily depends on the type of woman I interact with. I have 3 very close female friends who I can share pretty much anything with, who have the same interests as me and with whom it's great to hang out. There is no competition going on there and no real conflict I can think of other that we're more busy now and live in different places which makes it difficult to meet up regularly/ find a date that's suitable for everyone. They're the type of people who would get up at 2am to organize a su…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 12:49 PM
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Prostitutes are the epitome of poor to the point where they have to sell their bodies because they can't even make it with low level labor jobs (like cleaning toilets or something) and have to do so in dangerous, often criminal/ drug-related/gang-related conditions. Saying someone looks like a prostitute is basically saying they look like cheap trash. They aren't beautiful either, just dolled up with a ton of makeup on and a dead look in their eyes. In these cases high end escorts are obviously …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/18 09:47 PM
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Fair enough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/18 12:33 AM
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Female, Red and I have not, thankfully. I married the first man I fell in love with. Which is really weird, outside the norm and I feel very lucky. I know many people grow with adversity but heartbreak in particular seems to be hard to overcome, with many people becoming depressed, angry, and permanently disinclined to trust others. Since I am already not a very trusting person and have a hard time forming connections or building relationships with people, I suspect that a bad heartbreak would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 07:53 AM
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If she needed a greencard and couldn't get one without your “help“, wouldn't your relationship be doomed with your decision anyway? She'd have to leave the country meaning you can either have an indefinite long distance relationship (that just hurts like a bitch) or you would have to move to whatever country she was from (which I doubt would be a real option for you) It's still fucked up but the alternatives if you had carried on with the relationship and no greencard seem even worse to me tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 07:37 AM
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Are we talking about married or unmarried parents? In the case of them being married, she already has access to his money by default. In case of unmarried parents it's at least very short-sighted of her since she actually has to care for the baby and pay for all the food, clothes, diapers, etc. that it might need but a financial abortion that only works for unmarried parents would still work in this case
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 07:28 AM
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More abortions (also more home-made abortions), more dead babies in dumpsters, more orphans that the rest of society has to pay for instead of their biological parents. I highly doubt that the majority of OOW parents even think this far ahead that it would lead to less unprotected sex. I'm assuming that this applies only to unmarried parents since within marriage this law would have the opposite effect of what you're trying to incentivize (more suddenly single mothers because the husband left ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 07:23 AM
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I personally can't enjoy sex unless I am comfortable enough with a man/ trust him to a certain degree and I also see it as something very intimate and emotional that I don't want to do with just anybody. All of this goes against casual sex/ hookups since I'm either not comfortable enough with the guy or if I am, I'm at that point where I am emotionally attached to him and would like to have a relationship, not just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 07:11 AM
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I'd feel disgusted and a bit insulted - I'm not a prostitute to be bought, nor am I so poor that 1000$ are a significant enough amount to change my mind on the issue. Now if we were to add quite a few zeros, maybe my husband could get behind the idea but I doubt it tbh and I would still find it disgusting. Maybe if I were single... The more I think about it, the less I can see it being worth the possible implications for our relationship, even if it's a lot of money. Just imagine living in a hou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/18 06:31 PM
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Yes? Attraction is a very important requirement in a romantic relationship. He would obviously be hurt too if I had lied about being attracted to him and telling him that he's hot without meaning it o.O It might be different if I gained a bunch of weight so he didn't find me attractive anymore which is an issue that needs to be addressed or if we both got old and after like 40 years of marriage neither of us look so good (still a rude thing to say though). But if he only liked my personality in …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/18 06:14 PM
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If I ever get divorced and the very unlikely event I remarried, I would ask her to sign a prenup and would not marry without one that contained the provisions I want and need. It would probably be thrown out, but I'd ask for it anyway It seems like the most common advice to not have it thrown out is to have both parties have their own lawyer look over it anyway so you could make sure that your interests are represented in it before agreeing to it and your future wife could do the same for hersel…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/18 03:42 PM
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Depends on what it says and also at what time it was brought up. I would have been very surprised if my husband had brought it up before our marriage since he doesn't exactly come from money so idk what assets he is trying to protect but anyways this is something that I explicitly would have expected to come up when we talked about finances many months before getting married. In general a prenup should not be sprung on a person right before you get married, not only because the suspicious timing…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/18 03:25 PM
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Its likely that a war will be fought that requires america to draft her citizens Bullshit unless you're talking about a time after nuclear anihilation when everyone is fighting with sticks and stones again. The US military already has far more volunteers than it can handle at the moment and if there were a war, there would still be many more people willing to fight. However that really doesn't matter. The US at the moment has by far the most military power in the world even with the current numb…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/18 09:18 AM
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The general physical standards in today's (US) military also need revising imo. The vast majority of positions are supportive positions, including many deskjobs - you don't need someone to run X miles under11, 12, 13 minutes or do X pushups/ situps to be “fit“ enough to print and register IDs, fix computers or manage servers on a base (in non-combat positions). The time wasted on PT alone for these positions every week seems ridiculous to me when you already have to hire additional civilian work…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/18 09:07 AM
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there will be career prospects 10 or 15 years from now but your fertility won't be there Dropping out of the workforce to have kids is a pretty huge red flag for most employers though and unless you can hire a nanny any time their school break exceeds your vacation days, they get sick, have less than 8 hours of school/ Kindergarten, etc. you won't be able to work or study full time which is pretty much a requirement if you want a career and not just a job. I think it's somewhat of a dangerous li…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 11:57 PM
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Lol this reminds me, I had the secretary of another department hunt me down at my old job and tell me off in front of all my colleagues because I aparenty took too long in the bathroom (there were 2 women's bathrooms on the floor with 2 stalls each and only a total of 3 women worked on this floor). Thank god all the others in my office were 30+ year old men who hated her pettieness already and microwaved a bunch of canned sardines in the shared kitchen in revenge. The next day everyone got an em…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 06:28 PM
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I thought the richer the girl the less of a petty backstabbing cockblocker she would be??? 😂 lol - srsly tho, not less judging or backstabbing, just in a different way. At least in my experience, middle class girls and up (excep for new money rich families) are more adapt to hiding bad behavior form authority and being more passive aggressive/ mean in a “socially acceptable“ way like backhanded compliments, dirty looks, avoidance and gossip, instead of openly carrying out their conflicts. Like y…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 06:10 PM
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... Have you met women? They police eachother all the time over the pettiest shit, it just depends on what the in group's status quo is and it's usually done through passive aggressive shaming/ shunning, not open confrontation. But yeah depending on your social cycle, you will be policed and judged on not only your actions (like being too promiscuous our too prude, talking to the wrong person, disagreeing with the wrong woman) but also what clothes you're wearing, what car you drive and especial…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 04:40 PM
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I'd be angry that I have to go through this whole life bullshit a second time regardless of gender. But if I really have to, I'd try being a man - no period and cramps sounds nice. Do you keep your current attraction to the other gender though? Being a gay man in a first world country sounds like fun ... or asexual - so much time to be productive
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 10:17 AM
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I messaged my now husband on tinder first because he had similar interests as me and I was attracted to him, does that count as approaching? It felt good I guess since it worked and brought me the result I wanted. Other than that, I'm a sperg who used to have a hard time making a doctor's appointment or ordering food in public without feeling awkward - I wouldn't have dreamed to approach a guy my age out of the blue and askes him out, especially not someone I was attracted to. Whenever I had a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 10:22 PM
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It's not - those guys are exceptionally good looking men (at least 1 and 3), number 2 is an actor in a show who was “enhanced“ this way by a costuming department, makeup artists, great lighting, etc. Number 3 has spent so much time on his body that he looks gay and probably models underwear. Female instagram models aren't the standard for men either, irl people pair up with what's available around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 02:54 PM
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Saying anything at all about their personality, motivations, actions, or anything not having to do with just their appearance makes no sense! That's how first impressions of humans work though - why do you think movies and TV shows have a costuming department and spend a lot of time on each character? Your appearance, choice of style, etc. conveys a lot of associations. The guy from suits for example gives of a completely different impression in the show still compared to his instagram and that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 02:47 PM
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Women irl absolutely will make judgements from the first impression you give them. It's not just for finding a romantic partner either, it's with every person regardless of age and gender. Which is why your clothes, posture, body language, grooming, etc. are all very important and will strongly effect what kind of woman you attract (if at all). Of course this is hightened online when you just have a picture - irl there is even more to analyze like tone of voice, charisma, the way a man interacts…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 01:38 PM
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even though he looks like he’s vegan and talks about it. A lot. This was my first thought too. Probably also talks about the benefits of weed and his “secret tip“ for a coffee shop that serves mediocre, overprized coffee and half the college students in town go to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 10:53 AM
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Number 1 looks way too soft and hipster to be a bad boy. He's more like the guy who smokes a lot of weed and talks about world peace/ art. Both number 2 and number 3 seem more likely to be part of a criminal organization or intentionally fuck people over/ beat them up than number 1 who I imagine would go “chill bro, we're all cool here“ and then starts playing wonderwall on his guitar.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 10:01 AM
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Female, I prefer number 2, though I'd expect number 1 to be the one who most women would pick. For some reason number 1 seems high to me and kinda trashy - I guess if he dressed like #2 and this is him right after waking up it would be fine but if he posts this on social media/ as his tinder pic, I imagine he smokes weed all day and smells... also too much chest hair. Number 3 is aesthetically very good looking and could model for a marble statue or something but (or maybe because of that) he se…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 08:33 AM
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If my autistic brain even manages to realize that they're hitting on me, I'd be uncomfortable because I will have to reject him which means I will have to hurt his feelings and I'm terrible at confrontation. If he's a stranger, I'll do the same as I do with any stranger who talks to me - try to exit the situation as fast as possible with an awkward laugh and some pleasantries that I then overthink for the next week. If he is someone I know and have to interact with, I will have to be very clear …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 08:05 AM
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If you're not married then you can break up because the sky is blue or because you just feel like it. And it makes perfect sense for parents to discourage a relationship with someone who won't be able to provide for a child, acting irresponsibly (drinking, partying), isn't mature enough, etc. and this goes for both genders - you don't want your son dating some slutty partygirl or druggie either, especially one without any aspirations, without a job and without an education. Looks are secondary t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 09:11 AM
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Do you want men to experience how female hormones feel too and fluctuate throughout the month, maybe include period cramps for good measure or that childbirth-simulator where they put electrodes on your abdomen? I'm sure a lot of extreme feminists would consider it very helpful too if men could understand on a physical/personal level what it feels like to be a woman - leeking blood, having cramps and potential moodswings included. How about sending all the rich people from the west to live in so…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 06:38 PM
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Yeah I was in school when smartphones were still new and I-phones were extra special - the “requirement“ to be cool back then was to have an ipod and some form of smartphone. Nowadays my younger sisters both “need“ new I phones because that's what everyone has
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 03:58 PM
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This makes such a huge difference. My husband has one short sleeved buttonup that his arms fillbout perfectly which highlights his muscles and makes him look great but then he has one that is slightly bigger and instantly makes him look more like a boy and even makes him look less muscular than he is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 12:51 PM
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I do but given the history in my country specificall, I doubt that mandatory uniforms in public schools would go over well and it would most likely also have to be paid for by the state for the poorer students (especially since school itself is mandatory already) It also won't get rid of all the other competition over having the newest smartphone, etc. But it would help with the issue of clothes at least...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 12:28 PM
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Just for some context Im a lonely antisocial 18 year old virgin with no romantic or sexual history So this was me as well when I was 18, at least for the first half of the year, and it's probably corellated with my dislike for uncomfortable/ impractical clothes, makeup, and accessoires, as well as hating to be the center of attention. The reason I started wearing some at least slightly more tight and occasionally “sexy“ clothing (hotpants, some cleavage, etc.) was at first that I just wanted to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 11:21 AM
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I assume that everyone is capable of lying and that most who do not have a vetted interest in my wellbeing would lie to their own benefit at my expense. I don't think most people are out making up malicious lies like false accusations, the majority of people just lie out of convenience or social ettiquette and don't intend to harm anyone but protect themselves and get ahead. From all the prejudices out there this has also not been something that I have experienced personally. Tbh because I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 01:46 AM
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Why should I? life is simpler this way. don't believe women. Always double check. Watch their actions not words. Do you trust men more though? All of these seem like a healthy policy for interactions with all people regardless of gender because humans are generally selfish. It would be foolish imo to trust men any more than women and expect them to be honest with their words without watching their actions. You're obviously not dating men but you probably work with them, have male friends and fam…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 01:23 AM
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Considering women refuse to get with men who don't have financial shit in order, that actually tells you that they don't actually want you either way, they just want the money I mean there is a certain subset of women who will date unemployed slobs, bums or thugs and we all know how that goes... dating someone who doesn't have their shit together is almost never a good idea, settleing for someone like that and having children with them is even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 01:18 AM
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Rejecting someone always sucks because it's awkward and nobody wins. Most people don't like to reject others and women especially don't want to make others feel bad because hurting someone's feelings by being honest is somehow a bad thing so in most cases saying “you're nice but...“ really just means “you're not a bad/evil person so you don't deserve to be hurt by this but I'm just not attracted to you in any way“ It doesn't actually reflect on the man's character, he just wasn't openly an adsho…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/18 11:02 AM
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The 6 weeks are the same as I said before so it doesn't surprise me. Since you talked about “coming home after 16h of work“ I assumed you meant literally sitting at work, not taking work home which would mean coming home after 8h and then working some more which is common in academia (which is why working in academia is bullshit unless you're actually passionate about it and willing to make this your life - family, especially kids, are a liability) But again academia, upper management and self e…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/18 10:48 AM
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I'm not entirely sure what you're talking about tbh o.O We usually have 40h workweeks which are 8h for 5 days (Monday - Friday) and then most get 30 days of vacation per year (so 6 weeks). I agree that 40h workweeks are reasonably high and if you're in upper management, academia, or self-employed, you'll probably be working 50h instead but that's still worlds apart from 16 - 18 h workdays (except weekends) which would be double of what time people here usually work. Could you clarify what you me…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 09:20 PM
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Germany is doing pretty well with both a great economy and good labor laws, France was just an example that men go out on protests as well. The only people I know here in Germany who would work 16-18h are those who work in special shifts like doctors or nurses in a hospital and then get a day off or two in exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 07:30 PM
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Protesting is for SJWs Except for all developed countries with modern labor laws where the men went out on the streets to protest and fought for more worker's rights. Hell in France they have pretty great labor laws and going on strike is still a sport for both men and women. Your workhours sound insane and you should probably do something about it - it's not healthy in any way. Unless you actually choose to work this long, then you're just a special kind of crazy...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 05:55 PM
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an exhausting 16 hour workday If this is even close to a regular occurance, you guys really are in desperate need of some labor laws. Forget all this gender nonsense, why are the men not on the streets protesting and going on mass strikes right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 12:13 PM
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What do you mean by invisible? Like imaginary? Or a hypothetical person with the magic power of invisibility that's like a handycap where people keep bumping into them and they're terribly lonely cause no one notices them? 😅 Cause in the first case it sounds like a case for a shrink and it's just as weird as someone hearing voices or thinking there's an alien conspiracy after them. The second one sounds cool, good for them, though now I wonder if when they have sex, does it look like he's humpin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/18 01:03 PM
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There is usually a considerable amount of room between a person's perfect partner and “good enough“ in most cases. A lot of people have high standards on paper in terms of behavior/ personality/ money, etc. An example for high standards in women would be wanting a guy who is good looking, over 6ft tall, charming, respects you but also has everything figured out and makes at least a 6 figure sallary, will go out of his way to accommodate you and does all the traditional male roles (fixes stuff, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/18 12:52 PM
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I guess I'm sex-positive in the sense that I don't care what kind of consentual sex-acts adults get into with eachother. Like what you get up to within the privacy of your home is none of my business and if it features fur-suits, gay orgies, or missionary followed by a prayer doesn't make a difference. I also think people should get to live their lives the way they want to. Not everyone wants marriage and kids, some might be happier alone while others prefer a large number of sexual partners. Si…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/18 06:28 PM
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Well that's your experience and I'm not sure that it's the norm. That is literall what you can say about both sides of the argument. Some people have shit relationships while others have good, rewarding ones and some people as a result find those to be worth their time or not. The majority of people seems to prefer them over being alone at least but that doesn't mean others can't have different experiences and preferences. It's a personal choice that you can't really make blanket statements over…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/18 09:12 PM
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Sex, companionship, someone stable to start a family with. “Another person can't make you happy“ means noone is gonna swoop in and suddenly make you happy if your life is shit and you don't do anything about it. Relationships do take work from both parties but when you do work towards your happyness, it can be incredibly rewarding. Of course relationships validate you, you just can't expect to keep that happyness and validation going if you don't contribute to its upkeep or if you're clinically …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/18 11:24 PM
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Too picky is when you can't get anyone who fits your standards and you're unhappy being alone. If you can get what you want with your standards, you're not too picky and if you're happier alone than with someone below your standards you're not too picky either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/18 11:11 PM
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They don't seem to be happy with it though - if they didn't desire real life relationships, incels and NEETs wouldn't be getting depressed and angry over their lives, they'd be content to just watch hentai all day. Instead you see them investing a lot of time into venting their frustration online. It seems to me like it is less of a choice to replace women with porn or sex-dolls because they're a better alternative but instead settleing for the former because getting the later is hard since wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 10:32 AM
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I assumed if he wants a woman who cooks and cleans and is generally tasked with the household + children then he is willing to be the (main) breadwinner and work an equivalent amount of hours outside the house as she does inside. Otherwise it's obviously a crap deal. I just got the impression that a lot of people dislike the idea of this arrangement because they feel like they are in a weak position and can be taken advantage of (the woman is sacrificing a career and will be unemployable in case…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 12:17 AM
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It also seems like a knee-jerk reaction from a (mostly unnecessary) fear of being used and controled if they “slip“ into that role. The same goes for being submissive in any way that isn't super kinky roleplay in the bedroom, or putting your partner first in any way. Kinda how some people on TRP get if you dare to mention marriage as a possibility because they immediately fear that it will lead to a dead bedroom, divorce-rape and full custody for the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 11:59 AM
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They also have a lower sex-drive. Men will always have a stronger urge for sex than women so it's only logical that they would go out and seek sex in higher numbers. It's the same reason there are far less male prostitutes than female ones - supply and demand from biological differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 11:38 AM
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Partnercount and your sexual past matters to individual people and it matters to different degrees. So one person might care if you slept with 10 people, someone might only count piv sex, anothet person might not care unless it involved cheating or abuse, etc. So really if it matters and to what degree comes down to you and the people you're dating. There have been countless threads on here on this issue and it's pretty obvious that there is a broad spectrum between people who care very much and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/18 03:16 PM
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the-woman-doesn't-really-want-to-get-banged but the-guy-invites-her-over-to-his-place-to-watch-a-movie-anyway and the-woman-trusts-that-it's-only-going-to-be-the-movie and the guy-ends-up-banging-her-anyway-regardless-of-having-heard-a-NO This is hardly an equivalent. That's more like a woman stealin money from her “friend“ or bullying him into buying her stuff/ doing things for her while disregarding his protests. Like if she just took his wallet with a giggle and spent all his money thinking h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/18 10:45 AM
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Yes, unless he has great photography skills and/or is so awkward irl that it's not even an option for him. Most men on dating sites/apps are not only at a disadvantage because it is purely based on looks and the women have a million options, they further hurt their own chances by uploading ugly ass bathroom selfies or generally pictures of low quality with bad lighting, weird angles and messy backgrounds. It's like while the average young woman spends hours doing her makeup, fixing her hair and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/18 02:55 PM
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He seems like a sociable, cool, interesting guy - has a lot of tattoos, is probably fairly outgoing with a large friend group/ social cycle and said he was more "crazy" when he was younger and not very picky so sounds to me like he went out a lot, partied, just had fun in an environment where hookups are common and was open for it. He's not a male model or anything but I doubt his hookups were models either and if his personality is/was the outgoing, a bit "crazy" party type, I don't see why he …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/18 09:19 AM
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I think in most cases where you're dealing with normal young people, not sociopaths, they're not actively trying to use or manipulate the other for sex/friendship/resources/whatever. So it's not usually malicious behavior or a 'test' where they lead each other on, only to dump/ friendzone them later but if one party gets their hopes up and neither of them communicate clearly it can still hurt their feelings. Now I don't think anyone has a moral obligation towards protecting another person's feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/18 09:03 AM
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O.o why, what's it to you? We just went to the courthouse and I paid those fees, my parents threw us a party (close family and friends) at their house a few weeks later because my father wanted to - they bought cake and my mom made the food, idk how much they spent on that but it was a small celebration, not a big event.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/18 08:08 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/18 03:36 PM
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Idk, similar to mine? Though mine was 0 when I met my husband and is now 1, I think less than 5 is fine (?) and as far as I know his is within that range. Honestly it's not something I think about a lot - we both have similar attitudes towards sex and relationships so we're compatible in that way which is the only reason partner count might be interesting to me in the first place. That being said, I don't find a high N to be impressive in any way. Ideally a high value man (to me) would attract a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/18 05:49 AM
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If people found real life averageness to be entertaining and enjoyable enough, they wouldn't be flocking to the escapist fantasies of fiction in the first place. You can go and create that content if you want but unless you wrap it up in a whitty comedy or an otherwise exciting story where this is a minor sub-plot, it will just be boring and a bit sad. No one wants to spend money on a “fantasy“ of something they already encounter and struggle with in real life (men) or can'r relate to (women). M…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 10:06 PM
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yes ...and? It's also pretty much impossible for an average woman to lock down Chad since he has so many options of hot women offering casual sex + relationship-benefits without exclusivity. I don't really get what's supposed to be discussed about this statement - everyone wants a hot partner, men and women, but there is a limited amount so only the hottest men get to date the hottest women and vice versa. Additionally women have a lower sex drive so they have even less incentive to lower their …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 01:50 PM
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20s: 1, 2, 3 old: 1, 2
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 12:42 PM
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yeah the face seems pretty accurate, she looks overweight for average in my area or maybe she just has huge boobs
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 12:16 PM
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man 1, man 2, man 3 are what I would consider average guys in their 20s in Germany. this guy is probably average for the male population as a whole, possibly with less hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 12:11 PM
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😂 perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 10:14 AM
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Sure, here ya go 1, 2, 3 Unfortunately both the nsshb survey and the kinsey study can't be linked directly because money but those are the recent results. Especially the last table you can easily see that a large number of married couples aged 18-29 are having sex 2 or more times a week (around 40% aged 25-29 and around 60% aged 18-24) . That is in stark contrast to OP's numbers (<7%) on the other hand the numbers for singles (not married or in a relationship) as quoted in the first link from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 10:51 AM
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Sure you might claim that the sample size is biased toward people seeking relationships, but do you have any actual data to support that? Do you really not see how asking users on a dating site excludes the vast majority of people in a relationship and how being in an exclusive relationship, especially cohabitating or married, influences your access to regular sex? I think there is a lot of truth to the claim of single people not having nearly as much sex as it may look like from the outside (es…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 07:07 AM
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The whole method is flawed and so is the conclusion because this was taken from match.com. They represent the single population specifically and no one should be surprised that single people aren't having regular sex since they don't generally have a regularly available partner. People in relationships have no business being on match.com which coincidentally excludes the very large chunk of the populaton with the highest chance for regular sex since they have a generally willing and available pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 06:39 AM
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They represent the single population specifically and no one should be surprised that single people aren't having regular sex since they don't generally have a regularly available partner. People in relationships have no business being on match.com which coincidentally excludes the very large chunk of the populaton with the highest chance for regular sex since they have a generally willing and available partner. All this shows is that singles using online dating aren't having a lot of sex which …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 06:31 AM
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It makes a little more sense if you think of this advice applying to alphas trying to date “good girls“, which is imo the most romanticized dynamic for women. Think beauty and the beast vs. Gaston. Huge, scary, dominant men trying to date (not just fuck) a pretty but shy and bookish girl. If you just go up to her all macho “LET'S GIGA ANAL“ like Gaston, you'll scare her off so maybe try some gifts and shit first to build comfort (sexual attraction is already implied because you're an alpha hunk …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 06:10 AM
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Or at the very least men here know how to wash their private parts - even if it does prevent some infections, the same result is achievable with proper (simple) care. We don't routinely take everyone's tonsils out because they might get infected later in life either, even though those infections are far more common and can't be prevented by something as simple as soap.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/18 10:35 AM
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Male circumcision as a religious and more recenty cultural practice is much more widespread in the west, especially the US, than female circumcision. It's simply seen as “normal“, just like piercing a baby's or child's ears is seen as “normal“ while different body modifications from other cultures (regardless of severity) are seen as barbaric since we weren't conditioned to accept them the way we do our own. It's just not seen as a big deal by those growing up in this culture. If you ask people …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/18 05:59 AM
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Among the other thigs OP listed for non-Reds, yes. People like to get triggered I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/18 03:32 PM
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The underlying RP theory pleases my aspergers since it lets me put human behavior into neat categories and debating it further either solidifies or adjusts my views. Also debating is fun and I have time to waste on my daily commute. As for why it is discussed in general outside its target audience - probably the same set of reasons men here read feminist blogs
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/18 06:08 AM
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Teachers are generally trained professionals who have experience with children and because of the requirements to work as one (at least where I'm from), are most likely at least in their late 20s which additionally makes them statisticall more responsible. Strippers are usually young (late teens/early 20s), from more questionable backgrounds and work in a somewhat shady environment (drugs, thugs, etc.) So I'd obviously say teacher in general. Though in the end, I'd rather not drop my child off w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/18 07:50 PM
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This needs a tldr
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/18 01:18 PM
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I think this is due to the high concentration of male IxTx types on the internet and especially here. They aren't traditionally masculine themselves, meaning a desire for leadership etc. doesn't come naturally to them and displays of social dominance or extraversion have little appeal. They're basically the nerd-types who fall head over heels for some anime loving “cool“ girl (who herself isn't traditionally feminine and doesn't quite fit in the female social matrix.) You can see the same type o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/18 01:02 PM
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Nah I meant 18-20 yo. in Uni think 30 is ancient but 23-25 (5-7 years older than them) is totally normal to date. 23-25 y.o. additionally change their opinion on 20, depending on where they're at in life - a 23 year old Uni kid might find 30 to still be really old while a 23 year old in their first job, surrounded by late 20s to early 30s people, will probably get used to them and not see as big of a gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 11:15 PM
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I guess it depends on your social cycle then, here at University in Germany you have pretty much everything between 18 and 30 studying in various stages of their education. There is of course a core-group of 18-22 y.o. for bachelor's, 22-26 y.on for master's, etc. but there are quite a few “older“ people who went on to get a university degree after learning a trade/vocation and working for a while, people who changed their major, etc. and if you attend social events/ parties or just go out to so…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 07:16 PM
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Is a 5 year difference (upwards) considered a lot when you're 18 or 20? O.o If they're in college, isn't their entire dating-pool pretty liberal somewhere between around 18 and 25?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 06:44 PM
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No we're just being European 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:57 PM
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Yes picture is more agreeable now, boy is allowed to come to family dinner 😂 mom's a consagrated party girl Alright I'm getting the impression, it's probably not so much a cultural difference then but the fact that my mom's a stem-nerd who only dated 2 men her entire life and my dad isn't much of a social person either 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:54 PM
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If the old guy looked like this https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/f2/01/5c/f2015c9bdc303c3c8f7fe7c41e242088.jpg I couldn't really blame her for doing it, could I ? Imma be honest, his face looks like an ape and everything about this pic screams thug - let's just hope she doesn't bring him around the house in case he decides to murder the entire family (possibly with assistance of his mafia friends) I still wanna know where you're from dude, whe have naked beaches here in Germany, my…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:40 PM
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Right? It's called being a parent. You don't need a cringy shirt to advertise it but advising your teenage daughter not to date thugs, drug dealers or old creeps seems pretty reasonable. I'd warn my son about crazy chicks or druggies as well, the same way I'd warn kids about obviously dangerous or irresponsible “friends“, drunk drivers, drugs, whatever else there is in life. They can obviously make their own choices once they're old enough and if they are hell-bent on doing shit, there's no stop…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:35 PM
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I'm not even American, I'm German lol - where you from that dating older men is socially acceptable? (The muslims here are more ehm.. open for it, as long as it leads to marriage)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:21 PM
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eh, just parroting what the typical protective father seems to think (not necessarily say offline but online) I'm married and was never stoped from dating/sex or anything, I don't remember even talking about it with my dad - still imagining your own kids have sex with anyone but especially an old dude seems gross
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:19 PM
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Old guys hitting on young girls seem to be pretty universally disliked and seen as somewhat predatory ny all of society (excluding the old men themselves, unless their own family or friends are involved). You have older women shaming it but also older men (fathers/grandfathers), and young men and women (see them as creeps, etc.) There are of course also bitter and jealous people among the older women and the young guys but one of the central parental instincts, especially among fathers of teenag…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:15 PM
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Why would I want a daughter of mine to date a poor 18 year old dude? You probably don't want that either - the ideal seems to be that your daughter focuses on school and stays a virgin until marriage to a good looking, upstanding man her age who she can build a comfortable life and have children with (thought reproduction would ideally be a-sexual)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:07 PM
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Would you be ok and happy with your 17/ 18 year old daughter dating a 40 year old guy? A lot of people are concerned about the power dynamic that comes from the huge age- and experience-gap, the fact that older people are usually seen as authority figures instead of equals, etc. Another thing seems to just be subconscious disgust at seeing a man who is old enough to be their father have a sexual relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 05:02 PM
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Can't they come after you for child support? Idk how anonymous your encounters are but short of exclusively meeting in nightclubs, then leaving town to never return, they can probably find you...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 12:53 AM
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Yes. Guys have a higher sex drive than women and a lot of competition in their league so if they want sex, they have to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:28 PM
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I guess maybe humans just aren't built for lasting happyness and that's why we keep improving as a species. I suppose, we will have to see what effect it has on civilization as a whole. Though I gotta say, I'm surprised that everyone around you is unhappy. Most people around me are just ok/content - not flooded with dopamine but comfortable enough with marriage, a cushy office job, some kids and a house (or working towards that)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 10:58 PM
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Yeah to large parts of society it seems to be acceptable at this point. What is your personal opinion on the issue though, should it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 10:21 PM
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No, masculinity is generally values in our society while femininity isn't (anymore). What is also valued by human beings is beauty, youth and health while uglyness is despised. Hair is generally associated with female beauty while a shaved head on a girl is considered ugly/sickly. Also your looks are a huge part of your identity as an individual and as part of the group, especially at this age. Shaving her head is publically shaming her, literally removing a part of herself and changing who she …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 10:10 PM
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There is still a distinction between accepting hypergamy as something inherent to female nature and, as a society or as a person, accepting/encouraging the behavior resulting from it and taking no moral issue with it. Violence or rape is also inherent to human nature, as is all other immoral behavior that we as a society actively discourage and punish to form and maintain our civilization. We used to do the same about the female and male sex drive not too long ago by enforcing monogamy (both leg…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 09:57 PM
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Wife and gf are vastly different. If you're married, you made a vow in front of whitnesses, your family and God (in most cases) to be with that person forever, then signed a legal document to officially join your lives together in front of the state. So, at least in my opinion, any reason short of abandonment/abuse or them breaking the vow (cheating/ separating) is a bad one to get a divorce. I find it highly immoral if either partner does it for whatever reason, though trading in for a better d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 09:48 PM
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Women are inherently more valuable because they can grow a baby inside them which takes 9 months, can only carry one guy's spawn at a time and their window of fertility is smaller. Men are disposable since they have millions of sperm which can impregnate a great number of women at the same time with barely any timelimit. The human race (in terms of reproduction) needs very few men and much more women to create the next generation. For that reason, men have a much higher sex drive than women, mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 01:48 PM
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Bars and Clubs are still hookup-hubs if you're young and attractive. Places for the more average to ugly category: clubs/hobbies. Go rock climbing, go to pottery classes, volunteer at an animal shelter or soup kitchen, sign up for language classes, etc. Whatever it is just make sure it is (1) offline, (2) something you're actually interested in and (3) involves other people who are not 99% men/ old. (So avoid Magic the Gathering, DnD and videogames as your sole or main hobbies) Though I gotta sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 06:10 PM
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Idk man, why do poor people spend money on shit they can't afford when it's common sense that you should save some and not spend above you means? Why do fat people keep overeating and not exercising
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 05:03 PM
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It's not exactly pointed out that women have a visceral attraction towards attractive male bodies The way most (neurotypical) people learn this is either by experimenting themselves or more often by observation and immitation. They (1) identify who is good with girls by seeing their success, and then (2) immitate this person as much as possible. Over time they might see multiple people who are successful and see a pattern or simply learn from experience themselves. So basically what you do is to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 04:59 PM
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I'd say if they are staying at a maternity ward or there is the chance that at any point the child might have been mixes up (so unless it was a home-birth/ the parents did not leave the child's side for even a second), they might as well perform a test on maternity too when they discharge the child from the hospital. Then it's 100% certain that there was no mixup and the parents named on the birth certificate are reall the child's biological parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 04:36 PM
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... I accidentally deleted my post when I tried to edit it fml, here it is again -.-' It could be included in the standard batery of tests/ shots that babies get after birth with the option to opt out. (Some people have concerns about their dna being catalogued somewhere, etc.) I generally dislike the idea of the government dictating people's lives and restricting their freedoms unless it is to ensure they don't infringe on snyone else's rights and freedoms so making it mandatory seems like a ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 02:12 PM
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We can't actually fix it 100% though - tests can be faulty, they can be manipulated, the results take time and you can't get it before birth without an invasive procedure on the mother. It's a lot better than blind faith but there is no way to make it exactly the same as it is for women because biology. I think the man in your scenario might be able to sue for what he invested or be owed back-childsupport from the bio-father but that's not punishment. Unfortuntely I have no idea how the US handl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 11:53 AM
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Society is run by old, wealthy men. They're the ones with the most power by a long shot and the gap is widening every day
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 05:59 AM
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I don't have sex as a “favor“, not sure how that would even work without hurting. If I'm not in the mood for sex for whatever reason (on my period, etc.), I'll give him a blowjob instead. I suppose I “go along with it“ quite often if by that you mean all times he innitiates without me actively waiting for it/ thinking about it/ hoping for sex in that very moment (because in those cases I usually initiate) but I'm almost always down for it and get turned on quickly so it's nice and fun sooo idk i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/18 08:07 PM
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Most cases of one-sided desire for an open relationship or down-right cheating, in my experience, don't just involve the general desire to try new things but a very specific available option. As in there is already another person and they are just waiting to take that last step without giving up the security of the old relationship. So it's not just blindly going out to see if there is something better (that's usually when people just break up and go to “find themselves“ or whatever) but instead…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/18 07:18 PM
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And yet we have more resources today than any of our ancestors ever had - they were just used to their more simple standard of living and lacked birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/18 10:38 AM
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No, Chad sounds like an American white trash name - might as well call your kid Kevin or A(i/y)den/Kaden/Braden while you're at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/18 10:00 PM
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What makes you so sure that it is a white women thing exclusively and not a white people thing with circumcized men wanting their kids to look “normal“/ like them as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:59 PM
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For what it's worth, I agree with you. Unfortunately I think the only way to change this is for men to make these issues public and create awareness/ political pressure the same way feminists do about women's issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:57 PM
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In the US maybe, here in Europe it is almost exclusively Muslims who do this and the odd Jew. And those stats still don't tell me that it is white women who unilaterally make the decision to have their sons circumcized - do they take the child to the doctor in secret or wrestle is out of the father's arms to have it cut or something? If the majority of US men truly opposed circumcision, they could pass legislation against it, refuse to perform the procedure as doctors and generally kick up a fus…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:48 PM
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Do you think the majority of US men are similarly opposed and concerned about circumcision as women are abour rape and if so, why do they not campaign against it the same way women do? Because it seems to me like (US) society as a whole, men and women alike, does not take male rape victims seriously and most are even in favor of circumcision.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:41 PM
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~~ thank you for acknowledging how clever I am with words
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:34 PM
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A growing number of civilized countries already banned it or plan on banning it and none of the white women care, the only reason it is legal in Germany for example is because the muslims and jews cried Nazi as soon as we tried and our politicians are spineless when it comes to this. Circumcision outside of medical necessity is entirely cultural anyway and should be done away with - the only western country that routinely does it for (misguided and outdated) secular reasons is the US... Though I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:26 PM
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If a woman gives a man a blowjob because making him feel good makes her feel good, does that make her the dominant one?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:15 PM
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Being attractive pretty much universally works so working out, dressing better and grooming are all great. I specifically like men with muscle and it was pretty much the first thing I noticed about my husband when I first saw him so lifting is definitely something that helps. Where I am “different“ I guess is that I have/had pretty low self-esteem and zero experience when I started dating - negging is supposed to be used on girls who are pretty full of themselves. If a guy I don't know well said…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 03:23 PM
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Depends on why they are a single parent. If the mother of the child died or abandoned them and there were no other issues (like the child hating me or just behaving horribly or something), I wouldn't mind. If there is an ongoing custody battle/ baby moma drama, etc. I wouldn't want to get involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/18 07:48 PM
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Isn't it just instinct to be more cautious at night? Not just from fear of being raped or murdered by another human but like the people who didn't develop this instinct probably got eaten by mountain lions and shit before they could procreate. Women are more prone to anxiety in general and I think that's a vital survival mechanism that doesn't just get turned off because a neighborhood is statistically safe. I'm a pretty anxious person myself and walking alone in the dark definitely makes my une…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 11:17 PM
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You would have to kill all of humanity to achieve this. From your own examples, blacks were enslaved by whites and just believing in a different religion or being born accross from an arbitrary border is enough for people to not only kill eachother over but enslave and torture people or downright try to go for genocide. As for rape, take a look at the statistics for male prisons and tell me again how that issue goes away because there are no women around... if anything, women are the less aggres…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 11:09 PM
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What do you mean by “direct confrontation“? Women have a lower sex drive so they can pretty much out-wait you, unless you're willing to get into a physical fight and literally rape the women who still won't be attracted to the majority of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 01:35 PM
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20 - 30%, specifically those on top in terms of money and status, as well as attractiveness. Also the government already incentivizes Children in countries like Germany but it's doing pretty much nothing - unless you bring back religion on a large scale, remove birth control or literally force people to marry and have kids/ ban women from having a choice in the matter, this issue is completely separate and won't go away regardless of relationship-status. Many are married/ in LTRs but still child…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 01:33 PM
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Are there statistics on the number of people who are happy and stay happy in general (happy single, happy divorced, happy serial-dating)? Maybe I'm too cynical but not only do I think that there is no default way to make the majority of the population happy (including marriage), I think the majority of people might just not be fit for long term individual happyness no matter what... which may even be the key to our success since we keep advancing as a species trying to improve our circumstances …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 08:17 PM
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...Clearly women hate short guys so much, they make up excuses to send them to death camps. Ok I get it, I'm sure there will be a discussion on hypergamy or N-count soon where I can be mean to women again and the balance will be restored
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 02:03 PM
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If you're from a traditional/ religious community you still get shamed quite a bit but other than that it's just “legalizing“ your relationship before the state which gives you certain rights/ perks/ protection that you don't get in a LTR without the legal documents involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 01:57 PM
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o.o I'm just parroting statistics I swear - though I got the impression that most guys here are middle class STEM people anyway and not looking to get married at all, let alone before 25 ...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 01:50 PM
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Nuns seem like the oposite of sexual predators. Women as a whole are more likely to stay their partner if he gets sick compared to the other way around so clearly there is a good number of women not just latching onto the next useful target even when times get tough. There are also simply outliers who have a different brain structure from the average. Trans people for example, also autistic women appear to have a more “masculine“ brain for some reason. But it also depends on how you define “are …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 01:37 PM
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First of all the 50% divorce rate is of the total number of marriages, including second, third, fifth marriages of people who just can't make up their minds. The currenr divorce rate for first marriages is about 30% with worse odds for minorities, poor people, those without a college education, and those married at a young age and better odds for everyone to whom (most of) these don't apply. Second of all this in the other 50% you have the people on the honeymoon phase and deadbedrooms roommates…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 01:11 PM
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Neither choice seems like an improvement on my life to me so I'd rather just stay single, maybe get a pet. Or maybe I'll try dating women instead. If you're gonna force a choice, my usual follow up question is if I can eliminate my competition in case 2 but Hemsworth seems to have a sweet family going with his wife and kids so I would honestly feel really bad interfering with that in any way. Though I gotta be honest, Paul Giamatti doesn't seem repulsive or super ugly to me compared to other men…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 12:14 PM
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I think the main issue where “chores for sex“ might work is if there just isn't a whole lot of time and energy left for sex orherwise because taking care of small kids and doing all the chores takes up a huge portion of the day. However I don't think that just shifting the chores is going to bring major changes, especially if the other person is already putting more hours in for work and is also tired and busy. In this case I think there would be much more of an improvement if one were to hire a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 04:18 PM
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Besides specific legal circumstances and simply wanting to be married, there are two “motivations“ that I don't see a good solution for otherwise but that probably don't apply to you or most of reddit. If you want kids of your own, marriage is still the most stable environment to raise them in. Yes the risk of divorce and custody battles is there but you can lower it significantly by vetting for favorable socioeconomic background, education, values, etc. Men actually have pretry good chances to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 03:37 PM
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Were they bothered by the existence of porn or by you watching porn while in a relationship? Because I can see women being upset about porn and sexdoll - “cheating“/ not getting enough attention from their partner, in fact I'm pretty sure most women would be strongly opposed to their bf/husband having a sexbot. But that doesn't mean that they care about random strangers liking these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 03:07 PM
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I'm starting to get the impression that they care more about how women will be upset/jealous over the sexbots than being excited about actually getting a sexbot...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 02:40 PM
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Seriously this is another thing I don't understand about the obsession with sexbots. Shouldn't we all be excited for hyper-realistic VR porn instead? Cause that's something that's actually viable, doesn't cost as much and could tap into the gigantic existing market for videogames and porn, as well as the option for almost limitless participation and content. It would also hold less stigma than having a physical robotic sexdoll. Though I kinda get the feeling that a lot of guys here get off more …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 02:37 PM
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I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that women who look for the MGTOW hastag on twitter go there specifically to be outraged and post nasty comments because they already know of this obscure movement and disagree with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 01:19 PM
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I mean since the UK conservatives and sex-negative feminists seem to be in agreement on the evils of porn, she might actually get a platform for a bit of attention on her on the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 01:06 PM
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Can you link to the twitter discussion on this? I swear, I never see articles discussions on sexbots in the wild - I would be surprised if most women were even aware of this whole topic. It seems about as obscure as this entire subreddit... so the people who comment on it most likely already care about it, have a strong opinion on the topic and seek it out on purpose to feel validated or outraged
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 01:02 PM
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Yeah but they wouldn't fuck him without the sexbot or prostitutes either. 80/20 rule, the whole reason why a lot of men “need“ prostitutes or sexbots in the first place is because women don't want to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:59 PM
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See I disagree that feminists in general care as much about sexbots as they care about Trump. Just compare the number of articles and angry/concerned comments on Trump to those on sexbots. The latter is very rarely even talked about. I would also say that a good portion of the women protesting aren't just doing so for feminist reasons but for opposing the whole spectrum of Trump's/ Republican politics. Trump has a very broad spectrum of controversial views and policies that face a similarly broa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:55 PM
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Not gonna lie, I just checked his twitter after I sent my reply - given that I don't live in the US, I might have missed the latest smaller news on his domestic politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:42 PM
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Since when is Trump a Sexbot or a Sexbot-activist? Trump is obviously anti-pc, anti-feminist and right now on the conservative side with a lot of power. There are a lot of policies that have a direct impact on women and the country/ world on general which these women seem to protest. Or did I miss some press release/ tweet of his on sexbots which lead to these protests?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:36 PM
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“Love“ both as the bond between humans and the sexual attraction/ romantic type has societal value because it keeps our civiliuation going - it produces stable family structures and children within these structures which are the basis for the continued existence of humanity. Though the feeling and effecrs of various drugs have also been celebrated in many cultures, often to the point of it being considered highly spiritual.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:32 PM
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Who actually cares about sexbots? The only people who seem to constantly talk about them are MRAs and Incels trying to find outraged reactions from women while the actual replies here are a pretty consistant “meh it won't change anything.“ The only thread where people largely were “against“ sexbots was the question if women would be ok if their husbands introducing sexbots into their marriage. Just like most men don't care if some random snorts coke while getting hammered by Chad, most women don…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:27 PM
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I doubt it. Society will either evolve to a point where it can be both stable and free or it will go back to restricting personal happyness/freedom in favor of stability to the point where it can be sustained. It could mean that our current form of society is “doomed“ to fall like the roman empire and gets replaced by a different form of society but it won't lead to the end of humanity, civilization or even the people living in here right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:15 PM
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In the case of serious sluts, even the chadliest Chad alone would not be exciting for long. Some people for whatever reason like casual sex with different partners - so they would still cheat on Chad or just be in an unhappy marriage with him, no matter how Alpha he is. Which is why I think people should be free to not marry if they don't want to - better for everyone if they are open and honest sluts having casual sex than getting married because of “slut shaming“ only to cheat on and/or divorc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 12:00 PM
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How will they be happily married if they still want to be sluts? That's like shaming gay people with the hope of them getting into happy hetero marriages. Some people just aren't the monogamous type by nature, maybe even most. They can still have a successful marriage if you define that as one that lasts, produces healthy and successful children and isn't overly toxic/abusive or involves one party breaking their vows. But it won't magically make that person happy to be in this monogamous relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 11:10 AM
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Exactly. And imo if you can't take care of your child and/or neglect it then the state should be able to step in and take it away (like cps already can and does) since it's not the child's fault and there are plenty of people willing to adopt adopt and give them a good home.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/18 02:46 PM
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So why not take that freedom of choice away directly instead of trying to somehow teach irresponsible people a “lesson“ at the expense of their innocent children? Poor people make shit choices all the time, including having children that they can't afford and no amount of “consequences“ will change that because these people don't even think about the consequences, they just act on impulse and the ones who would suffer the consequences most are not even they themselves but their kids. Alternative…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/18 12:28 PM
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Do people frequently discuss this with their dates/ partners irl? I know, I lied to my bf (now husband), telling him I had slept with a made-up ex boyfriend before because I was embarassed about being a nerdy virgin who never had a boyfriend at 18. But not even once did he ask me about my N-count and I don't know his either (I did tell him that he had been my first at some point so he knows now). I can see why someone might view someone differently if they find out that the SO was much “wilder“ …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 07:11 PM
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I don't think that anyone will necessarily be “sorry“ once they're old. It's just very apparent to me that the method he advised (strining along girls “forever“) will not in fact work forever so it's not practical advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 05:16 PM
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You shouldn't let research dictate your life but the research shows that other men apparently experience life differently from you, enjoy LTRs and get unhappy if they do not have intimate human contact and close bonds. Nothing of this should influence you and I am not trying to get you to change your personal preferences, O am just pointing out that your oppinion is not only far from universal or objective but also goes against most of human evolution to this point and against what research show…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 05:10 PM
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I'm really confused as to who said all women want children. The comment I replied to was advising to “string along“ women with the belief that you want kids until they're 30 and then dropp them. Which is a tactic that won't work once you get old and unattractive and is completely devoid of any emotional connection or acknowledging the fact that if you LTR a girl to “string along“ for years, you will catch feelings and will be heart broken when she leaves over this incompatibility. Which is why I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 05:00 PM
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No one is supposed to wipe shit, I am strictly speaking about not being lonely in old age and having someone who you are emotionally close to. You hire a nurse or move into a home if you can't take care of yourself. I'm not sure what you're even arguing against at this point - are you saying that you or men in general are not interested in companionship at all or do you believe that young women are lining up to be some grandpa's perma-girlfriend? You're obviously in a LTR for a reason beyond hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 04:53 PM
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I'm sure you have a lot of experience to speak from and any research on the issue must be lying...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 02:58 PM
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a bitchy post wall slut If that is your selection, your issue isn't being “insecure“ and wanting a LTR because of that but being so low value and shit at vetting that you can't get anything better. LTR with high quality partner > alone with a dog > LTR with shitty partner. Edit: again, your “fuck buddies“ won't be around to keep your wrinkly ass company when you're 60+ that's why people start settleing down once they get older
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 02:43 PM
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No guy wants companionship Humans are social animals and are literally programmed to seek close bonds with others. A lack of pleasant human contact actually leads to depression - unless you're a sociopath, wanting companionship is a very basic human emotion. To say that men don't want companionship is laughable, oneitis exists for a reason and it's not “mommy issues“ but our brain structure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 02:27 PM
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Fear of conflict or rejection. It's easier in that moment to just ignore the uncomfortable issue and live with the delusion that everything will work out/ your partner will change their mind, instead of confronting it and potentially losing the person you love. This is why this question should be brought up at the beginning of the relationship before you're too invested and can't handle a negative answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 02:02 PM
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I'm not talking about the kids being there in old age but your partner. Child-free men and women still want companionship and to settle down, especially as they grow older. Like I said, sleeping around in your younger years is fun and can be easy if you're good looking but unless you're rich, you won't be able to pick up and “string along“ young women forever and if you are looking for a LTR with someone you love, losing them over incompatibility on the kids-question is going to hurt. OP is obvi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 01:54 PM
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Until 30 isn't “forever“. If all you are interested in is sex then this works until you're too old and ugly. If you want an actual LTR with someone you love and wish to grow old with, losing them once they are in their 30s and figure out that kids just aren't happening is still gonna hurt like a bitch. Sleeping around in your 20s, 30s or 40s is fun but being alone past 60 just becomes sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 01:35 PM
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How does it put all the power in the man's hands if he still needs a woman willing and able to carry his baby? Women can also freeze their eggs if they want to but in the end it needs both the sperm and the egg + someone to grow the baby in + a doctor who inserts it. Women have to know beforehand if the man wants to have a baby with her regardless of what method is used to create it because her time is more limited. But if a man wants a baby he also needs to find a willing partner. If you're 60 …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 01:30 PM
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Yes, basically if you are both in your 30s now and both agree that you don't want kids right now or within the next 5 years, it's safe to assume that you're both ok with potentially never having bio-children. If either of you change your mind later, you can still adopt or foster. Just saying that if she does want children and is in her 30s or you want to have children with her in general, this is something that needs to be cleared up now. If both agree not to have children then there is no issue…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 01:18 PM
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How old is she? Being undecided is fine as long as both are ok with not having a biological child together within the next few years and maybe not ever. If she is a similar age as you, changing your mind in your 40s will probably be too late for her to be able to have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 12:21 PM
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Children are a major decision in a relationship and you should definitely be on the same page about the issue if you're planning go stay together for good - otherwise you're just wasting each other's time and there is almost a guarantee that one will feel resenrment over time, even if they were previously “ok“ with it for the sake of the relationship. Kids just aren't something you can compromize on. Because of this, the issue should ideally be discussed early on in the relationship and if you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 12:04 PM
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Without knowing or being the person who created these rules, no I don't think anyone was following an agenda to try and get young men to marry but moreso they try to make it as “family-friendly“ as possible. Because otherwise, additionally to all the bullshit that military members already go through, they would have even more stress and problems to house, feed, live with their family or start one in the first place and that might keep people from joining/staying in and just in general treating t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/18 09:57 PM
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Absolutely. And even in the civilian population the majority of men are pro marriage, a good portion of US men is even in the “sex outside of marriage is a sin“ group of people. Religion is pretty big in the US compared to other western countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/18 07:35 PM
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They get freaking slide shows to keep them from making bad decisions but still get married for that sweet BAH
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/18 06:23 PM
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Yup, and the same goes for the guys hanging out around the bases here in Germany and probably wherever else they deploy/tdy/pcs to. Go to Kaiserslautern on a friday night and watch a bunch of married men with their single friends pick up local girls, visit strip clubs and get hookers since they're legal here. Edit: which is double stupid since they can get punished for adultery
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/18 06:11 PM
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The (US) military also heavily incentivizes marriage in various ways. For one, when you are married you are automatically allowed to live off base with your family while everyone else is stuck in the barracks that are not obly shitty and often have you living with a bunch of roommates but you also have annoying things attached like having to clean them at specific times, there can be a curfew for your base, you will always be the person called first to come into work during your time off if ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/18 06:05 PM
1

I thought alt-right was what they called themselves to make it sound nice and different (?) Or did SJWs actually call themselves SJWs as well? I got the impression that “alt-right/ alternative right“ was more like a self-applied badge, something to identify yourself with, while SJW was a label to make fun of people (or maybe I wasn't on tumblr enough to witness people unironically calling themselves SJWs)... but anyway I don't see alt-right being used as a strictly negative term, when people rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/18 03:38 PM
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Love, both the attachment to other people (same as parent to child) and the tingles of being “in love“, are caused by different chemicals in your brain that get released on various triggers (subconscious/ environmental). There is nothing logical about it, it's not even a conscious decision. What is a conscious decision and can be acted upon in logical ways is what to do with these feelings. Some people have high impulse control and/or generally take a longer time to reflect on their feelings and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/18 01:03 PM
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Yeah I totally see your point man - it sounds to me like she was at least ok with the thought of a pregnancy/ it wasn't that big of a deal to her or she would have been freaking out the minute shit went wrong and used other means of protection for the rest of the month
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 11:15 AM
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I mean the thing is if she had been super concerned about not wanting kids she could have paid attention/ had an abortion or whatever (or gotten a coil for example that doesn't require you to remember shit every day) - it probably wasn't entirely a bad thing in her mind given that she apparently had it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 11:12 AM
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What kind of birth control was she on? With the amount of times my best friend freaks out about having forgottent to take her pill on time or having the flue/being sick and there being the possibility of it not working because of other medication/ throwing up, etc. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it failed one of these days - not because she is trying to get pregnant but because this type of birth control requires you to use it exactly as directed and any mistake (like forgetting to take one…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 06:16 AM
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It would lead to a lot less children being born - a woman would have to be an idiot to get pregnant by a guy who can up and leaver her any minute. There is almost a guarantee that she will end up alone once she is 40+ and no longer hot so instead of ruining her body by pregnancy and wasting time/money raising a child, it would be more benefitial to focus on her career, have lots of female friends and get a dog for companionship. Maybe freeze some eggs, then have them insaminated with high qualit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 06:09 AM
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Why not just let your kid be a kid? Contrary to what a lot of people seem to believe, kids aren't just mallable blank slates you can mold into whatever you want - they have preferences, personalities and predispositions (which also change over time but not just from your input), it's your job as a parent to help them turn into fully functioning adults with the potential they bring, not what you wish they were. There are some essential adult traits that everyone needs to be taught and the ones li…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 05:53 AM
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I think this also heavily depends on class and age group. If you're in your late 20s and everyone around you is settleing down, getting married to either guy won't lower your status, it may even raise it. If you're in your early 20s, (upper-) middle class, and don't have a degree and/or stable job yet, hastily marrying the guy who knocked you up will just be regarded as yet another bad decision. It's better than being a single mom but really the only way to keep the damage at a minimum is to ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 08:27 PM
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I mean, there's not much more to it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 05:07 PM
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Unless you're a sociopath or hold some sort of grudge against that person, you don't go around actively “demoting“ people and “demonstrate“ the new pecking order (unless you're in high school or prison maybe). Have you ever lost respect for a person and you just look at them different? It ends up reflecting in the way you interact and in your body language even if you don't consciously want it to. Same goes for just liking someone a bit less than you used to, being annoyed by their constant comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 05:02 PM
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K
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:02 PM
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Alright then, just saying that his post doesn't seem as far fetched to me because I have seen drunk people engage with unattracrive people. Maybe your experience isn't universal to the point that you can toss the entire premise based on it...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 03:51 PM
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I've had a female aquaintance get really drunk and make out with a guy she previously ruled out for looks. It was right after her boyfriend broke up with her so she wasn't in a good place, eventually our group kinda steered her away from him to sober up but she seemed dtf this guy. Shit happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 03:40 PM
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You're welcome :) (please note that this is all from my aspie perspective so idk what really goes on in the other women's minds or what they feel, these are just the observable mechanisms and strategies at work)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 03:28 PM
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They would both lose some respect from me for getting knocked up by a hookup - it shows bad judgement and low impulse control. Birth control isn't hard to figure out, a hookup without protection can get you all sorts of nasty diseases but if you were dumb enough to do it anyway, you could at least get a plan B the next day - I'd freakin drive and/or buy it for her if she were my friend. That being said, a woman does not immediately “fall to the bottom“ of a social group, then performs some ritua…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 03:11 PM
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Women would be overpowered very quickly. But it's not going to happen because to 99% of humans, family/loved ones come before their political ideals. A literal gender war would require fathers to fight their daughters, mothers their sons, husbands their wives, etc. and that is simply not going to happen, at least not over first world issues like the gender pay gap. This usually requires a fanatic leader, a unifying authoritatian ideology and major poverty among the people, ideally to the point o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 12:34 AM
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There seem to be a lot of comments calling them out - yeah TRP has become pretty trash with ugly omega incels flooding in and generally lazy people who like to whine and build a victim narrative around overexaggerated bullshit like this to rationalize why their inability to get laid is everybody else's fault. But clearly there are quite a few people left who still bother to at least read the sidebar and see the self improvement approach and call them out. If anything this thread shows that the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 02:00 PM
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Yea. It is uncomfortable, not socially acceptable and potentially puts the guy at risk of all sorts of backlash from society. I think it is seen as less threatening because a grown man is less likely to be physically threatened or overpowered by the average 14 year old girl but that doesn't mean it's not super uncomfortable for him or should be encouraged. And if the girl is very manipulative or crazy, she may very well have power/leverage over him which, while not phyiscally threatening, still …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/18 05:53 PM
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To go to mars we just need enough (rich) people who want to go to mars/fund it. I'd gladly pay some money for that but I think Elon Musk can manage just fine. No need for the government to engineer progress if people can figure it out on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/18 09:32 AM
1

Exactly - just live and let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/18 09:24 AM
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Robots are the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/18 08:53 AM
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Why if others want to help them? I can't for the life of me understand why you are so keen on having the government ban and regulate these issues. You could just remove government's involvement (aka don't fund it through the taxpayer) and then people can do what the hell they want with their lives. If they want to complain, no one is forcing you to listen and if they need help, you won't be obligated to provide it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/18 08:39 AM
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You might want to start your own totalitarian state then or relocate - the vast majority of western people are very fond of their right to make terrible decisions regarding their own lives (and let's be honest making it illegal won't stop them - just look at how well the war on drugs is working)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/18 08:22 AM
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Eating greasy/sweet food, spending hours in front of the computer playing videogames , paying hundreds of thousands for a liberal arts major or having children out of wedlock (or just having then while poor) aren't statistically good choices either and they have their consequences have the additional downside of costing the taxpayer money (in contrast to marriage where only the participants suffer). Do you think we should take these statistically awful choices away from people and just make it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 11:42 PM
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Why would that even be a topic of discussion? Marriage as an institution makes the government's job easier, it is deeply engrained in our culture and a cornerstone of the major religions (as practiced in the west at least). Making it illegal would be infringing on people's personal and especially religous rights just as much as making marriage mandatory would be. I'm also not sure if you understand the point of legal marriage - the piece of paper having legal significance in the eyes of the gove…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 11:25 PM
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I would say so, yes. And while a high N can be seen as indicating high value in men and low N girls may like them too, the reverse isn't true in most cases - in the end people seem to pair up with those similar to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 01:57 PM
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I've always seen N count as more of an indicator for lifestyle and values (in the context of sex). If you're more of a reserved/introverted person yourself and put a high value on trust and an emotional connection for sex, you probably won't have much in common in this regard with the party girl who has lots of casual sex with many different men. In the same way the stereotypical “Chad“ whose hobbies are “drinking, party, hanging out with friends and having a good time“ and who has lots of casua…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 01:40 PM
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Depends on how high you were aiming and how much of a discrapancy there is I think. If you grew up believing that you would get your dream guy/girl (even worse an idealized version that real people with flaws can't measure up to) but you're average yourself and end up settleing for another average person, it will probably be very disappointing. If your expectarions were a bit more realistic (even if your fantasy may be different), you only settled for someone who “falls short“ in very few areas …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 04:48 PM
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In the strict sense that 70% probably don't get their (nearly) ideal partner, yes. Most people settle. Though I don't think 70% go quite as extreme as being in a dead bedroom, and/or divorced - more like 30-40% and the rest are content/okay with what they have. The above (verbal abuse/ frequently nagging or disrespecting their husband, dead bedrooms and divorce over just being unsatisfied) are absolutely the traits of the losers in the race though - the only ones even worse off are the crazy cat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:53 PM
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It sounds like an evolutionary advantage to me, if the goal is to have your own offspring survive and reproduce. Also the capability to influence society and control others is the very top percentage (under 1% I'd say) the biggest part is the man being strong enough to protect and provide for his own family - you don't need to be a leader of men to do that, you don't even have to be particularly alpha. If our ancestors had failed at this task or selected for men not capable to do so, it would ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:35 PM
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I suppose you could switch "original thought" with just questioning the world around you, not just blindly following what others tell you to do. I know that most people end up going with what the majority does anyway but those who can play the game well get to dictate in what direction society/ their group of influence goes. Even if you choose not to go against the grain because is not worth to you, being able to see what strategy works best for you is an improvement to not even realizing there …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:45 PM
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they can't form an original thought. It's not even the case of being moral because they want their mom to be happy, it's just having been told to be a good boy and then never questioning it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:21 PM
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If you're an ugly nerd, your morality should be the least of your problems.... Some people put value on being a good person and hurting others genuinely makes them feel bad. Others just act “moral“ by society's standards because they're too scared of the negative reprocautions if they don't. The last and most pathetic group acts moral because that's what their mommy told them to do. Depending on what group you're in, you'll have to adjust to attract women. Group 1 just means you have to improve …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:04 PM
2

I'm a straight woman :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 08:42 PM
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two fictional characters who have great chemistry, tension or plain just hate each other forming a relationship excites me. Not all scenarios "turn me on", some just make me feel warm and fuzzy - like Voldemort cooking and being nice. It's also, like I said, not about the sex and them getting off but about the relationship and their feelings - displays of dominance or comfort (like kissing, cuddling, etc.) are much more exciting than the actual sex. Really in my head it's like >elaborate scene w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 01:41 PM
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Niiice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 12:16 PM
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Implying I haven't seen those before ~~ though I'm glad to say, I have not read any since I was about 16 but then again maybe it's even more disturbing to know that a good portion of the really weird ones are written by 14 year old virgins on tumblr..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 11:47 AM
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Do fantasies about two fictional characters being gay together count? My fantasies that have other people in it don't usually involve me, it's more like watching or reading of other people doing stuff in 3rd person. It's also rarely the sex part that's exciting - the focus is on the relationship and its dynamics (often dominance but also comfort/ “beta“ traits in some character that seems to not posess any - imagine Voldemort baking in a frilly apron or something)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 10:35 AM
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My social cycle is mainly middle class and upper middle class people. What I encounter quite frequently among the younger women are very high expectations for a partner (literal lists of criteria with everything from education and income to hobbies and looks), putting off daring/marriage/children until the “next step“ (first it's undergrad, then getting a good job or phd, followed by their ultimate goal of x position, location or promotion) and little willingness to compromize on anything. What …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 12:24 AM
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The number of single mothers (never wed, oow kids - not divorcees) and welfare queens seems to drastically increase the lower you go. Middle class and up have gold diggers instead and end up marrying to save face if their girlfriend gets pregnant and either make it work or get divorced down the road. It doesn't mean either is ideal but it explains why a lot of people here find the idea of hordes of trashy single moms to be alien, while others encounter it quite often.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 11:55 PM
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That just seems incredibly petty to me - do these women have nothing else going on in their lives that they feel the need to judge someone else's engagement ring? This seems like the sort of thing that happens if you make your social status, your man and his money the center of your identity. I can at least see the significance of a very pretty ring or an heirloom passed down for generations but not wasting thousands on an overrated piece of jewelry seems like a financially sound decision to me.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 06:25 PM
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Like I said - if the dispute is about the kid's name, it could be random(either mom's or dad's name or both) . In the case of marriage and a disagreement on what name(s) they want to take or not, the couple has to decide or imma say they shoudn't be getting married in the first place. So in case of marriage there is no default - either reach an agreement or gtf out. Edit: the child can still change their name later on and they have the agency to again decide on their name once they get married
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 05:20 PM
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Because I think that people should be free to decide for themselves what name they take - it's not the government's place to dictate it. While I personally do not care much, many other people do for various reasons (emotional ties to the name, one name being horrible, tradition, etc.) Really the only scenario where an outside decision is needed is if the parents cannot find a compromize for their child's last name - only then would there need to be a default option to enter on the birth certific…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 04:30 PM
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Idk make it random pick, then statistically half the male and female lines should disappear lol - I guess I just don't put much significance on the line in the first place, just people doing what makes them happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 03:12 PM
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Don't they do similar things in Spain? I'm guessing once they have children of their own, one name is dropped for them or given as a middle name
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 02:07 PM
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I think this is a decision for the individual family to make - first the parents after birth and later when the child is old enough (16 or 18 ?) they should be allowed to change it to the other parent's name or a combination if they really want to. There is really no point to make it a default and force the family to comply imo. In Germany they already ask both parties if they wish to change their name upon marriage (the man can take the woman's name too) so I don't see why that decision should …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 12:14 PM
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Red. I'm a pretty anxious person and generally avoid conflict with people. It's not that I am afraid of being physically hurt or an angry reaction in general - he has never even yelled at me, the strongest reaction was him stormin off to another room and giving me the silent treatment. I'm anxious about hurting the people I love and them disliking or even leaving me. Probably because my usual way of dealing with conflict and making it “ok“ in my mind is telling myself that I don't need that othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 10:06 AM
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I honestly think that marriage is simply not for everyone, especially not in the aspect of maximizing individual happyness and instant gratification and with the legal framework of today. While I personally am very happy with the arrangement (and so are my parents and grandparents), a lot of people are just not the monogamous type, some not even the serial-monogamist/ LTR type. And while marriage is still the best framework to raise children in, this does not mean that the parents will be happie…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/18 11:21 PM
1

Cuddleing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/18 05:19 PM
1

I've only had this experience with still images that very strongly radiated power, status, dominance - that type of stuff. Never just a normal picture model type or generally handsome guy who I don't know. Also less “I'd hit that“ but more “I'd let that hit me“ lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 11:32 PM
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Since it has never happened to me I can't really tell but I'm also not the most sociable person so perhaps my interpersonal experiences are lacking in that respect. I just know that a certain type of fictional character (mostly anti-hero/ villain types) on tv etc. gets this strong reaction from me and a lot of other women, yet irl “alpha“ men scare me and I end up avoiding them (as well as most other openly dominant or very extroverted people) ... maybe if I were a very confident and outgoing pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 09:12 PM
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I'm sure it's somehow disney's fault
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 05:08 PM
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Must be the magic pussy pass my friend - I'll try to remember if I see them :P
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 05:00 PM
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I actually think the opposite direction is much more interesting. If you're very good looking (great bonestructure, body and decent clothes) but a complete doormat, socially awkward, shy and maybe autistic, you won't be getting half as much action as a less handsome but higher status and more “Alpha“ guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 04:57 PM
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Absolutely which is why imo guys below a 7 or 8 in the attractiveness scale are wasting their time on dating sites or tinder. It would make much more sense imo, next to looking the best you personally can, to improve your game/social skills, increase your social cycle and build status there, instead of trying to pick up randoms who won't give you the time of the day...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 04:51 PM
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Yeah but he's super confident and cool doing it in a highly idgaf way ... also supposedly something about the cheekbones and the coat according to my friend... I think if he did the same while poorly groomed, dressed in missmatched clothes behind a computer screen, talking about some obscure fictional interest instead of murder and were scared of talking to women/people, he wouldn't be half as popular. Sherlock is basically a giant asshole (half the time without knowing, the other half because h…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 04:47 PM
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Looks are important but looks alone don't make me “fall for“ a guy - he also needs to impress with his body language, personality and/or status. (Witt, dominance, confidence, social status within your group or society as a whole, shared interests etc. in no specific order are all pretty common qualities that attract women) I can of course tell if a guy is conventionally physically attractive or not and it certainly plays a role in cases where I would try to approach someone I don't know well and…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 04:31 PM
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Their answer was to OP in this context though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 07:32 PM
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But I don't think women care about men getting causal sex because they don't try to help them. They give terrible advice like be yourself or tell you it's not a worthwhile goal. Clearly the OP cares about why women don't give men advice on how to get more casual sex. The poster above explained why it is the case. Men don't have to care, nor do many of them, otherwise subs like TRP or seduction (where men give other men advice on how to get more sex) wouldn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 07:29 PM
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That is an interesting point, I would really like so see a study on it tbh... Personally I don't have a lot of experience in this field to contribute either I certainly wasn't purposefully distant/bitchy with my husband, yet he showed a lot of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 02:45 PM
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if a guy and his girlfriend want to move in together and eventually have a kid, it's completely normal and no one will look down on them or think it's weird. they don't need to be married to do that. Unless they come two different countries and want to live together, then the government very much requires them to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 02:38 PM
3

Outliers exist but obviously the interesting part is what most men like
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 02:25 PM
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Does your fear of terrorism, sharks or an atomic apocalypse keep you from enjoying your life? Do you take precautions to avoid them somehow? Personally I do not actually give a lot of thought to any of those, nor do I let it stop me from going to crowded places, swimming in the ocean or leaving my house instead of hiding in a bunker. Your analogy just seems to be about fears far more unreasonable than divorce - seriously if you live in fear of those things and can't get over it, at least try to …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 11:38 PM
2

Well that just doesn't roll off the tongue quite as easily. You could also call it “divorce-<insert list of all the issues with divorce>“ but at that point why even have this new buzzword when you could just say “divorce“ with a direct link to the TRP sidebar
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 08:06 PM
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I'm also INTJ and female + have asperger's and I'm happily married so it's certainly possible. At least that characteristic alone won't disqualify you but you still need to be reasonably attractive, leave your house and socialize or potentially be proactive in online dating, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 07:54 PM
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So where are you right now and what are your goals? TRP doesn't end with reading the sidebar and far too many seem to stop at the step of feeling “enlightened“ but don't actually put the work in to become a better man (working out to the point that you're actually buff, improving your social skills/game etc. and approaching women). Being a beta in an unhappy marriage or later divorced is pretty bad but being an enlightened but angry, single beta online isn't much of an improvement yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 07:44 PM
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Super is like totally not what the women around me use. They'll go for “really“, “very“, as well as the abnoxious and above used “totally“ and “like“. BUT you will be happy to hear that the German women here don't use these english phrazes at all in their everyday lives soooo if it annoys you all too much, try moving to another country to escape those terrible English words
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 07:15 PM
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I came here because I like to argue about the obscure topics on here but really I stay and read all the post for the snark and drama. I mostly visit while on the train, cooking, or in the bathroom sooo it's not like I could be much more productive during that time anyway. The only time it affects me is if I made a mean comment (mostly late in the evening when I can't be bothered to give a shit) and then the next morning on the train, instead of reading nicer subreddits, I have to deal with that …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 06:55 PM
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Assuming that, for a large enough portion of women, this becomes realty, there is still this thing called the police, as in people paid to protect the public from axe-wielding maniacs. Additionally in the US a large percentage of people carry guns themselves. I do not see this hatred and fear of women in a significant amount of males outside of 4chan and reddit but if it did get to this point of it being an actual threat, I suppose women will just have to start carrying guns additionally to thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 06:38 PM
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This men are who? Because I can't imagine any men who weren't fucked by feminism or don't hold women in contempt. You do realize that women have families who love them, right? This includes their husbands, fathers, brothers and cousins. Trailer trash single moms without a father who “cheat on their deployed boyfriends“ are not representarive of the majority of women and even they have their methhead brothers and bfs defending them because the vast majority of people care a lot about those close …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 04:08 PM
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Lilly liked Snape and stood up to him until he called her a mudblood because his pride was hurt. He was an oddball in Slytherin as well and there was no “beta uprising“, he was an omega halfblood trying to fit in somewhere so he chose the deatheaters (kinda like our omegas like to join white surpremasists. I mean look at the other death eaters - Lucius Malfoy is a good looking, high status, rich pureblood. Their leader is a literal psychopath who was THE Alpha of hogwarts during his school days,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 12:28 PM
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Whut actual psychopaths are pretty much the opposite of incels. They don't care about the rules and lack empathy but are great at masquerading as “normal“ and women like their confident idgaf attitude. Incels are at best trying to emulate that with their dark triad shit and talking tough behind a computer screen but really they're just maladjusted men who care a lot about what others, especially women, think of them. If I could make an armchair diagnoses on anything, I'd say a good portion of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 11:58 AM
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Even in highly religious societies you have sluts, cheaters and non-conformists. They don't tend to last very long if found out cause they get publically murdered but there doesn't seem to be any way to completely stop it from happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/17 07:40 PM
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Depends entirely on where you live
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/17 07:26 PM
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Women haven't learned that yet, and from what you're saying here, they're incapable of learning it. That's why women will never be truly equal to men. It's just not possible, according to the very same principles you're outlining. I'm saying even more than that - human nature cannot be changed. It's not even a gendered issue with men being nobel and full of self control (lol) but rather that both men and women have basic instincts and mating strategies. Women have hypergamy for example while men…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/17 07:18 PM
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How would that change female nature and their attraction? I can see if changing their behavior to being even more risk averse, maybe settleing for some beta or staying single but that won't change the fact that they are subconsciously attracted to power and status. They'll still find average beta slobs disgusting and prefer high status alphas, even if they don't act on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/17 05:58 PM
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Handsome but most likely smells like piss though ...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/17 01:17 PM
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Assuming this Chad is like the homeless population around here (on drugs, mentally ill or one of the anarchists/punks who are also on drugs) and has been for a while, not just some kid temporarily living out of his car. Homeless Alpha Chad would be more disgusting - just imagine the smell, the dirt, the old clothes and lack of showers. Also whatever diseases he already picked up. Ugly beta billionaire can shower, groom, put on some cologne and nice clothes and he won't be disgusting (assuming he…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/17 10:59 AM
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I meaaaan at least muggles don't actually have any magical powers and the whole wizard society is hidden from them. The other magical creatures are just as “strong“ or even stronger than wizards and integrated into their society, yet they keep them as slaves or at best tollerate them on the side...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 04:05 PM
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I don't think Hogwarts admitts magical creatures, just (human) witches and wizards.... their society is hella racist, not even allowing magical creatures to hold wands
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 02:48 PM
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We're human and humans are flawed. There are some tendencies that are over represeted in one gender or the other as a whole but we're still all people with flaws and individuals with personal flaws, talents, interests and personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 02:21 PM
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Being 5'2 in Germany, I have never even met a man shorter than me who didn't have some sort of birth defect/ disability causing it and none of them were in my social cycle or even close to my age. I have also only ever had sex with one man, my husband, and he is taller than me sooo from a sample size of one, I never dated anyone shorter because I never dated anyone else, nor did I have access to men shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 12:07 AM
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One of my best friends is very introverted and has pretty low self esteem because she's overweight - she doesn't put herself “out there“ because of it but even when she is out and about (at college or after we dragged her somewhere), she doesn't get approached. Basically the female equivalent to the shy nerd, with the difference that if she threw herself at drunk men, they probably wouldn't turn her down (but she is too shy for that) She's not “mentally unstable“, nor is she asexual or religious
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 11:02 AM
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The distinction is if you depend on it or not. My mother basically cannot function without it to the point where she literally thought she had the flue for a week when someone mixed up the decaf coffee with her regular one. I find self-inflicted addiction (not for medical reasons) to be a turnoff and simply and unnecessary burden, regardless of what you are addicted to. So I don't really care if someone occasionally drinks coffee or alcohol, my husband does it too, but if you have gotten to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 10:54 AM
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English isn't even my first language, yet I find myself explaining english words to native speakers quite frequently (including my husband a few times). Maybe it's just because I like to actively improve my vocabulary in any language or because my family values education above pretty much all else. Imo the last part(s) should already be a bit of an indicator as to where the proplem most likely lies. I'm in STEM and my social cycle at the moment are mainly said STEM people (who mostly seem to pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 12:35 AM
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Lack of (very clear and overt) interest/ distant I'll just assume they don't like me - too autistic to tell otherwise, too much anxiety to keep bothering them. Incompatible life goals and values For example he does not want an ltr and marriage/children aren't something he is interested in, there is no point to keep dating. Extroverted/ very different (opposing) personality and interests I'll be intimidated and the relationship would either be one of us engaging in a lot of activities we don't li…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 11:58 AM
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As long as you don't mind death by snu snu
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 11:39 AM
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Yes. My first reaction to seeing him was pretty much “wow he's hot“. Since we met online, this was after we already talked for a while, established that we had the same interests and goals, both wanted a relationship and were interested in eachother etc. and I guess we had both seen a picture of eachother so I did have an idea of what he looked like (though a somewhat grainy one and too far away to properly see his face) but seeing him “live“ on skype for the first time was what really made me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 11:29 AM
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Their spouse is already required to be their sponsor for their green card (permanent residency) under the current system or they have to find an additional sponsor if the spouse doesn't have/ earn enough money. It is just restricted to family members - you can't sponsor someone random and have to prove that your marriage is legitimate (not just to obtain a greencard and then divorce). Citizenship is a whole other issue that has zero to do with this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 01:05 AM
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If you immigrate through marriage or k visas, your (future) spouse is still your sponsor and has to prove assets. It's an additional requirement because the government can see why bringing your wife over might be an important issue for people (especially the military) but they don't want you to be able to just bring any random and their sister over, even if you're willing to sponsor them. At no point is the government paying for shit and the spouse, as the sponsor, is specifically required to pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 12:59 AM
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Well the government is the body dictating that this legal documentation of marriage is necessary in the first place so if you don't have a viable alternative to offer, I don't see why the government would change its requirements on these issues, and by that, maintain marriage as a legal institution
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 05:56 PM
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How would you handle issues like immigration, joint health insurance, hospital visits, etc. in this case? At the moment those all require you to be legally married to avoid abuse, at the same time they are pretty essential if you want to have some security as a family. For most other things (inheritance, joint assets, etc.) you can draw up seperate contracts but once outside parties are involved (like the government in the case of immigration or anything to do with government jobs, the military …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 05:35 PM
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How is it fairer to make this inequality even worse and not only separate children from their parents but also from their siblings, instead of improving our current system to reduce this bias and make 50/50 custody the norm?(Which is already the official goal)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 05:24 PM
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Oh yeah a marriage certificate is a legal document stating that you are married - that's usually what various institutions want to see as “proof“, I assumed that's what OP meant
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 05:13 PM
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How would you manage things like immigration, health insurance, allowing access to someone in the hospital, etc.? Those are pretty basic things to consider if you have a family and most institutions seem to require a legal document for that to prove you're not just some stranger or family-friend attempting to game the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 05:04 PM
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Why does this trigger women so much? they're a lying cunt they are a lying scuntbag I don't think the women are the only ones triggered here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 04:58 PM
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So if a man has only daughters, it's ok to take them all away from him (and deny them a father figure)?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 04:34 PM
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Would there be any rules on adultery or can they just choose to live apart and date other people without getting officially divorced to work around being crippled?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/17 04:31 PM
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What if you're ugly but not attracted to other ugly people? Wouldn't it be better to stay single and engage in other activities that make you happy instead of dating someone you're not attracted to and don't actually want to be intimate with?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/17 08:18 PM
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the people who they are "jerky" to - most likely women they (try to) have relationships with (which is why, to women, the thought of angry jerky nerds is scary)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/17 07:16 PM
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Being a jerk is usually defined by your (poor/mean) behavior towards others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/17 11:20 AM
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Sad nerds only hurt themselves, angry jerky nerds hurt others. If you believe this to be the effect of RP on sad nerds and you're not one if those nerds yourself, you're one of the others in danger of getting hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/17 12:27 AM
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Then why is Reddit full of introverts whining about being alone? An empty house is nice for a while but no sex, love, intimacy and losing out in important milestones (losing your virginity, gf, marriage, kids, etc.) is apparently bad enough to cause serious depression - just look at all the incels
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/17 09:57 PM
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I agree, idk who brought up Upper Class in particular, the high value men most refer to are UMC - I just wanted to clarify what UC is since you asked
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 07:17 PM
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Yes the top <1% are considered upper class. The ones you mentioned are Upper Middle Class.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 06:57 PM
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Upper class is coming from money - inheriting assets (money and stocks or your parents' multi million dollar business) to the point where the money works for itself (accumulating interest) and you can continue your lifestyle off of that without having to work a day in your life and/or you take over the business/ invest into growing further and giving that to your children. It usually comes with a considerable amount of power and great connections into politics. (The Bush family for example) Addi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 06:46 PM
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Neither do I but I guess people are just different. I personally don't know what it feels like to be extroverted, enjoy social gatherings or be interested in cars or horses, yet quite a lot of other people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 06:25 PM
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I mean the alternative for most is even lower status and lower income and some get a sense of accomplishment and meaning from their work
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 06:10 PM
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So their wives are working class/ lower midde class? O.o
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 05:43 PM
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I would argue that the biggest factor here is less the career or income itself but the woman's social class (upbringing), education and shared social cycle. Most UMC people I know met their partners during their college years or through their general social life (outside of work) and the focus seems to be on shared background, goals and values but not necessarily a matching income. A lot of the women seem to work in high status, often more social/ network-heavy positions (like running charity or…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 05:06 PM
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That's mainly the class difference and access though - most UMC+ people I know met through their shared social cycle and college, not work functions. Most of those women aren't “career women“ either but do something more “social“ with a flexible schedule, like working in/ running non profit organizations for some cause, etc. They're well educated, well connected and have ambitions for themselves and their children but the actual monetary earnings and career seem secondary.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 04:49 PM
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There's a middle ground between “doesn't meet their standards“ and actively making their life worse though. Both of your options sound like they would drastically decrease my quality of life and limit any possibility of improving it. (constant fighting and emotional drama vs. having to financially support a grown man who doesn't work around the house or anything + having sex with repulsive guy) If the “unattractive loser“ were just below my standards but didn't have a negative impact on my life …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/17 11:28 PM
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Yeah sounds like a miserable existance of either chronical jealousy and constant fighting with other women or an unhappy matriage where I have to support a lazy husband and have sex with someone I'm not attracted to. Or maybe it's that winter depression, idk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/17 10:55 PM
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Can I kill the other girls or just move out and live alone? 'Cause if not, suicide might be preferable to having either relationship (I'm assuming you have to interact with them, have sex and can't just hide in your room or at work to avoid everyone)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/17 06:27 PM
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No that sounds like a nightmare. Even with my best friends, there's a 99% chance of it ending in jealousy and conflict if the man is attractive. (If he's not then why the hell would we ever be with him and have children). With them being my friends, my standard plan of getting rid of the competition by poisoning them or something doesn't apply either....I also really don't see the point why any woman would willingly share a man instead of getting her own - if it's about the resources then at lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/17 06:22 PM
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His wife is making significantly less though - where do the people on her income-level live then and how long is her commute?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 10:58 PM
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Of course there are mutually benefitial relationships, I have those myself - that still involves people wanting something from me though, I just happen to want things from them in return and we are happy doing stuff for eachother. What I am trying to say is that anyone approaching you for sex, a relationship, whatever is not doing so as a compliment to you or out of the goodness of their heart but because they want something. If you want the same thing as them or something equal in return, that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 10:01 PM
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Why do you assume that women are wonderful? I don't get approached by women for sex so that's not an issue but whenever one approaches me in general, I expect that she wants something frome me (my help, a favor, money, company) - humans are selfish. Also what else would the guy want if he is asking if she has a boyfriend? Seems pretty obvious to me that he's hitting on her... if a girl compliments your outfit and asks you if you're single, she usually wants the same thing. Unless you're ugly but…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 08:49 PM
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I agree that his approach was too forward and not in the most socially acceptable setting but I see nothing in her post that indicates that she thought he was creepy in any way, just potentially sexist. She even described him as very polite the way he complimented her style, not threatening in any way. I do think that cold approaches are a crapshoot and can make you look like a creep really fast but the situation that was discribed seemed very mild compared to most “creeps“. If she had been trau…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 03:50 PM
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What should be creepy about that? If it was at night after closing time, she was the last employee cleaning up and he had been hiding in the bathroom all this time it would be creepy lol. His approach was, at worst, a mild inconvenience. It's not like he kept pestering her fasterwards, asked her more intimate questions or followed her to her car/ house.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 03:36 PM
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Yeah it just sounds like a checklist for an abusive relationship ...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 02:42 PM
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I don't think the average woman would/ should feel flattared by it - it's just another man who wants sex, he'd take any other person with a vagina too so it's not much of a compliment. I can also see why she might be mildly bothered by being hit on at the grocery store, you go there to get your shopping done and gtfo, he's just wasting her time. But the “normal“ response is a little fake laugh or smile, an awkward “sorry not interested“, followed by a quick exit. Her reaction is really bizarr to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 01:54 PM
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Then she should get a better job. Or contribute more to housework and stuff. More realistically, you guys should split and find someone who can satisfy your standards (in your case someone with a better job or a SAHW if that's an option for you)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 08:54 AM
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You can set whatever standards you like for your relationship but your proposal only works if you are willing to lower your own standard of living to what your hypothetical wife can afford. If “enjoying the fruits of your hard earned money“ involves living in an expensive house, going on vacations, owning the latest tech etc, you'll have to live apart and do all the other fun stuff on your own (in which case nice “marriage“ lol) since she obviously can't afford that on her sallary. I'm guessing …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 08:44 AM
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I realize that, it's just hilariously wrong in this context
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 07:44 AM
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I'm not OP and obviously I am not “a state“ as you so eloquently put it but I hope you realize that America is a continent, not a country. The United States are one country located in North America, Chile is another in South America.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 07:43 AM
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Chile is part of America .... (The US and western Europe really have mostly rich people with land and horses though)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 01:09 AM
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Yeah and I don't think it's just because horses smell and they do manual labor. The horse girls in my school also tended to be very “natural“ by which I mean that they would never cut their hair, shave or use “chemicals“ on thenselves. One girl talked about the “natural deodorant“ she used which I am pretty sure was just no deodorant at all, judging from the smell. She also wore the her (previously used the day before) leather riding pants to school in the middle of summer so she could go straig…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/17 11:47 PM
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The second description sounds like what poor horse girls say about themselves... all the time and without anyone asking... My former best friend was one, from a very poor family, making her own money and “investing“ all of it into “her“ horse (that was actually owned by a rich family but she still bought tons of stuff for it). Would go on for hours about how that horse was her world and no man could ever compare, how hard she worked for it, how great it was to ride in the “wilderness“ (tiny fore…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/17 11:28 PM
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Yeah I agree, if you're practicing your religion outside of a congregation/ community with a pastor or priest that you answer to, you won't have the same sort of submission. If you look at more conservative communities though, there seems to be a pretty high amount of defering to the authority of their leader and “policing“ behavior among eachother. Female submission is still “higher“ because of... uh... reasons I guess, but the men are pretty whipped by their community too imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/17 07:29 PM
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To a believer, God is a real person/entity they submit to. On the outside looking in, they submit to scripture or their pastor/ equivalent. In Catholicizm it's even more “direct“ and hirarchical with confessions to the priest and pennance for disgressions, the priest in turn answering to his superiors all the way up to the pope (who ends up being the only one answering directly to God without other supervision)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/17 07:08 PM
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How would a woman know how an orbiter feels? That seems like a question best answered by men who are/were orbiters
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/17 02:57 PM
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With enough indoctrination from a young age you can get people to respect, even worship, random symbols, a piece of cloth, imaginative people in the sky or a black cube in the desert. If the holy book and mainstream culture says men have to respect women for being feminine and women have to respect men for being masculine, while enforcing it in a cult-like manner, you can probably pull it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/17 08:57 AM
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Oh wow I thought that was a 'murica thing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/17 03:28 PM
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Do they generally name the people convicted in the UK? In Germany they always shorten the last name to keep their anonymity facilitate rehabilitation. I don't really see why anyone needs to be publically named if they are known tp the authorities, were convicted and finished whatever their sentence was, as well as having to abide by whatever rules of provation there may be.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/17 03:25 PM
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I was hoping most would imagine me like your picture, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/17 07:41 AM
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women are much more promiscuous than men When I refer to women I'm obviously talking about the ones who are/were promiscuous. Ooookay buddy... As for the body of your post, this phenomenon, when present over a longer time, seems to mostly be the case with unattractive women who want to “lock down“ men out of their league but are unable to so they're in the “fuck-zone“ so to speak. Their alternative is growing old with a bunch of cats or settleing for a less attractive male , which most of them c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/17 07:01 PM
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If you're looking for that type of woman's perspecive, you really shouldn't be askind on reddit. The vast majority here is nerdy, introverted and/or in some way “alternative“ - we can tell you about as much of Stacy's inner workings as you can of Chad's (which is, at best, vague guess work based on observation and our own views on the issue)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/17 06:51 PM
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I think this highly depends on the relationship and also just on the individual. Some people are naturally more clingy/ form closer emotional connections faster than others, some just show their stronger or in different ways than others. In general I would say that there are absolutely relationships where both love eachother “equally“ (if you can quantify that), especially among those in stable, happy LTRs/Marriages. Of course this can also fluctuate over time - if one is very busy with work the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/17 04:20 PM
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The stronger, stable and more in charge (physically and mentally) you seem, the less they will try to soothe your feelings and the more positives there actually are to compliment. There is no way of telling for sure if another person is lying but if you know why women lie to make you feel good, you can minimize the “risk“ by not displaying characteristics that are typically associated with having to calm someone down or stroke their ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 04:18 PM
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Where are you from that people smile at random strangers on the street o.O this seems so alien to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 07:03 PM
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I only smile slightly at old people in my village when I greet them. Germans don't generally smile a lot, especially not at strangers. Also you generally don't greet or make longer eye contact with people in the city, unless you're trying to flirt with them or sell them something/ talk them into donating to charity etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 07:01 PM
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Since OP never specified how close the friendship is, I cannot really make any further assessments. However this friendship" is "he does shit for me, buys shit for me, helps me move from apartment to apartment, and lets me cry on his shoulder about my shitty fuckbuddies boyfriends". Seems like a scenario that applies to Stacy the queen bee chear leader, aka female Chad, not the average woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 03:15 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with students meeting eachother, neither do I see anything wrong with coworkers as long as it doesn't interfere with their work. They should obviously not tick any other boxes for harassment either (like ignoring a “no“, being overly persistant/aggressive, etc). As to the above I also wanted to include college students and professors tbh in which case they are also both adults but there is still a power imbalance and with that increased pressure, the threat of favorism…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 03:12 PM
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I don't think the man should do anything that he himself doesn't want to do. The woman who this happens to would obviously like to remain friends but that is not her choice to make, nor do I think that it would do any good - at best he would suffer pretending to just like her as a friend, though far more likely it would be really awkward. Same with a guy begging a gf to stay together after she has checked out of the relationship - it never ends well. And I absolutely agree that people should not…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 03:05 PM
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I think it is both hurt at losing a friend and protecting your ego over being “dumped“ as a friend. Literally the same mechanism that comes to play when a person is broken up with in a romantic relationship and now feels the need to call them a bitch or an asshole, post on tumblr about how all men are pigs or post on here about how all women are disloyal sluts who can't feel love.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 02:56 PM
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Dude your posts are really hard to read with the random caps lock and unfinished words. Also please point out where in my post I said anything about men being “creeps“ or how anyone owes another person anything (committment, sex, friendship, whatever) Like I said the reaction comes from an emotional point of losing a close relationship and feeling used/lied to/ etc. That does not mean that this is actually what the other person intended, it is how it is percieved by the one being “broken up with…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 02:44 PM
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I'm not entirely sure if I understood your OP correctly since the all caps and word fractures were a bit rambly and distracting but assuming we have the scenario: Guy befriends girl, they become close, he confesses attraction, she declines and then the friendship is ended. What I have heard from a lot of other women and can somewhat imagine myself despite not having been in the exact situation is that this behavior (going from close friendship to nothing at all) seems like the guy was never actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 02:21 PM
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I'm kinda missing the giant field of your social cycle in your post. The vast majority of people I personally know have dated/ met their partners through their (loose/ broader) friend groups - so people who they meet through their immediate friends/ colleagues/ classmates/ church while hanging out with them in their free time. This can be anything from going out for lunch, to a bar, to a house party, birthday party, etc. and being introduced to new people there. Tbh I think you have it backwards…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/17 11:39 AM
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The more naive and trusting people are, the more they believe in “true/ eternal love“ , “love at first sight“, etc. Generally this goes hand in hand with being somewhat soft/nice, sheltered and not having a lot of romantic experiences because reality is often different from our fantasies. That isn't limited to bad romantic experiences like cheating or bad breakups either - even being in just one LTR/Marriage with your “true love“ over time will take away some of the magic, just from everyday lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/17 10:45 PM
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Generally the ones who are already shy and meek are the ones overthinking this issue as well. The confident, assertive IDGAF “Alphas“ don't care about it any more than about anything else people around them say or think - they just act. Maybe if their secretary forwards the message long enough, some of those in power might keep it out of the workplace but other than that, I don't see them changing very much, maybe the contrast will become even greater between betas and alphas. Also at least in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/17 10:32 PM
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I mean the demographic here is pretty young middle class so most are either in school or have some white collar job. Idk what you do for a living but at least in my job, I have a ton of downtime that just needs to be spent somehow. Same goes for college. No one actually actively studies/works for 8 hours a day in these fields - if you do, you're likely not very efficient at your task. Hell even the blue collar guys I see around are taking breaks/ standing around smoking or on their phones half t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/17 06:03 AM
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Staying together if you're miserable is absolutely not perfect. However intentionally having children outside of marriage seems like an even worse option if you just look at the numbers (which is what was suggested if marriage is obsolete)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/17 09:02 PM
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Uhm ok, soooo what religion/ spiritual belief do you have in mind then? Our dominant culture was patriarchal for thousands of years and our entire idea of religion and spirituality stems from that, for both men and women. There is no way to tell what today's women or men would come up with in a vacuum because we are all influenced by the dominant culture we are raised in
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/17 06:46 PM
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This seems to heavily depend on personal/cultural beliefs and religion. What is your background? At least in Christianity, monks and nuns seems like the equivalent of this, fully giving their lives to God and their spirituality. They largely operate on the same principles of renouncing all wordly goods, desires and pleasures, living in a remote community, spending a lot of time praying, concentrating on becoming/being close to god and studying/living according to the bible. I don't really see a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/17 02:38 PM
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Marriage is still the most stable environment to raise children in though - if you want to procreate and have a sucessful family, especially because of resulting division of labor and mingeling of assets to raise said children, I don't see marriage becoming obsolete any time soon ...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/17 01:18 PM
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What I'm saying is that you shouldn't trust them if they indicate that they don't intend to trust you/ don't see a future with you (like being against marriage). Also trust needs to be build over time, not be blindly given away -thst comes as the relationship progresses (unless you like wasting your time being used or worse I guess) Though I agree that some people take marriage as a ticket to stop working on their relationship and take their partner for granted. But to me it seems like the far b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/17 04:42 PM
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I wouldn't say that the woman will treat him better because of marriage but in terms of being submissive, you can only fully do that if you can trust your partner not to screw you over/ dump you when they get bored. The only real way to do that for women is marriage. Outside of it, she has no security, therefor has to take care of herself (have options, be independent). That of course means she can't be fully submissive to him, or at least shouldn't be if she has any sense. Though that's never j…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/17 04:14 PM
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Imagine your ideal woman - what would you offer her over other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/17 09:23 PM
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Yeah same and it seems to be the general consensus here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 11:29 PM
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Yeah it seems like the panic is more at the scenario of a beloved SO/spouse suddenly leaving (which really shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 10:56 PM
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If your flaws are so great and persistant that they pose a serious issue (major character flaws like crippelingly low self esteem, lazyness, maybe an untreated mental disorder, etc.), you could, ya know, actively work on improving yourself. It's really something everyone should strive for, regardless of their relationship status, and will improve other areas of your life as well. Other than that, I'm a bit confused about the premise though - if they are open about their flaws in the beginning an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 06:00 PM
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I care about my family, this includes my husband, father, cousins, uncles etc. I would obviously devastated if they suddenly decided to leave and I would wonder what I did wrong since I try very hard to make the people who I care about happy. As for the rest of humanity, they can gladly leave me alone - I don't care much for human contact outside of the few people I like. I really think, if you do not have a similar reaction at the thought of losing your partner , you either have a terrible rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 04:14 PM
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A consistent pattern of social ineptness. (Judgment in my head: this isn't hard. Seriously, how can you not read a person or room? We're supposed to be the gender that gets this) I mean there are legit autistic people for whom this is hard because their brain is wired differently. It's like judging a disabled person for using a wheelchair because “humans are supposed to be the species that can walk“ (not that this doesn't happen all the time with nasty stares for being born weird)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/17 08:33 PM
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Most UMC people will prefer UMC things and MC can go either way. But from your questions I am really wondering how much time, if any, you spend interacting with people outside of your own class. I know for a fact that the white working class/ unemployed I have met so far do not generally value education (“for nerds, I learned that on my own the hard way, finally a politician who understands us and doesn't just talk complicated bullshit“), savings (they just spend it all as soon as the paycheck i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/17 06:16 AM
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TV shows are there for entertainment and to draw in as many viewers as possible for add revenue. One very popular way of doing that is having a self-insert (main) character who is a really bland underdog and makes it because that's great wish fulfillment for the chumps watching it, as well as for the authors writing it in the first place. If people wanted to see what real life is like, they could just step outside and live their own boring lives instead of watching TV and losing themselves in fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/17 06:14 PM
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Marriage is an institution designed to manage property (especially inheritance) and produce successful children. On a large scale, this an important tool to form and maintain a civilized society. Restricting the sexuality of both parties to a monogamous relationship is necessary for that to work and is really a feature to society's stability. It was never meant to make the individual as “happy“ as possible or cater towards their wants, but to ensure society's needs (for a stable next generation,…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/17 08:03 PM
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I don't think our society puts much emphasis on (serial) monogamy in this way at all. Yes the “end-game“ is monogamy (marriage) but that is supposed to be with one partner, not a string of partners or multiple side pieces. It works because children from stable families do much better. However both partners at that point have to cut back on their poly or hypergamous urges and settle with whoever they got- cheating is generally very frowned upon and so are most alternative arrangements, at least o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/17 12:50 PM
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Putting aside the fact that women are much weaker than men in general so unless she sneaks up on him she won't be knocking him out any time soon... there is also the issue of how the hell she is supposed to throw this much heavier man on the life boat. I know, I can barely drag my husband anywhere, let alone pick him up, carry and throw him (it was his idea to have me try and then laugh lol). If I were to knock him out, he would most definitely die on the cruise ship cause he isn't going anywher…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 07:43 AM
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I'm not leaving my husband that's for sure - I don't give a shit about anyone else on the boat, male or female, but me and my family are getting the hell off there. If it means I have to personally shove some other bitch off the life boat to make space, so be it. Honestly I'd rather be the one left behind to die instead of having to watch my husband drown. But then again drowning in ice cold water doesn't sound appealing either soooo good thing neither of us sees any appeal in cruise ships in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 10:31 PM
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However, I'm just afraid that if I hold out too long then I will never find that right girl as most younger, christian girls will not want to date a 30 something year old man and the ones who do will have friends talk them out of the relationship. If that is what you are looking for you should go looking now. 27 is not too old to date early 20s christian girls if you seem respectable but in a few years it will be differently. Most importantly: do you live in a (conservative) christian area? (If …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 09:45 AM
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If he knows how to take good pictures of himself or gets someone to do that for him, yes absolutely. He has the hipster look with long hair and beard going on, is in great shape, in a masculine trade and most importantly he loves people. He is great at socializing, making friends with everyone, going out there and interacting - once he gets used to how people today act and talk, he'd do great .... or ya know use the dates to try and convert sluts or whatever. BUT nothing ruins your profile like …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 06:58 PM
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I don't think I personally even know any guy with a (very noticable) skin condition if we don't count acne... or maybe my eyes are bad and I don't look at people a lot... either way I have not dated or rejected any guy with a skin condition afaik and most certainly not because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 07:14 AM
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Ja aber es wurde noch nicht von mir gesagt :P Ich höre gerne mein eigenes Tippen
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/17 06:45 PM
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Idk, possibly - I mostly avoid anyone who fits the mold so I don't encounter them a whole lot thankfully
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/17 06:19 PM
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Probably because subtlety goes over most guys' heads. If it didn't, TRP wouldn't even exist and neither would the abundance of AskReddit threads on how to figure out if a girl likes you. If anything, most girls are too subtle about their interest but you probably don't even register it for what it is. That being said, there are some very forward and extroverted people who are just extremely open about this sort of thing and the woman in question sounds like it. Though imo that doesn't really cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/17 06:04 PM
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Educate yourself You sound like a tumblr feminist. I am discussing OP's post which is specifically asking about “flakyness“ from reevaluating your choices. This concept of choice supportive bias is by no means exclusive to female hypergamy. If you disagree, why don't you go ahead and explain your point of how the context of hypergamy changes this fundamental human trait
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/17 10:26 AM
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All humans do this. However our brain puts more power into rationalizing our choice if the alternative is harder to attain/ it looks like there is no alternative. So a man with no options will end up thinking he made the right choice to stay with an ugly or horrible woman who makes his life miserable while a woman with more realistic options is also more likely to consider them. This whole mechanism of choices making you doubt your decision and a perceived lack of alternatives making you double …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/17 09:39 AM
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It seems like the more interesting question is : do men not second guess their choices, reevaluate their relationships and realize they fucked up sometimes? For example: Do men start reevaluating their relationship if the woman is a nag? If she gets fat? If she stops having sex? If he has the option to sleep with other women? What about those who marry sluts or single mothers who only want them for their money?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/17 09:29 AM
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Cults like Jehova's whitnesses won't ever let you speak to your family again if you leave, neither will scientology and they'll send you a huge bill of your “debt“ to them too. Most won't physically stop you from leaving but your family very well might and/or the hardship with leaving is exctremely high (basically loosing everything you have and everyone you know). Also there are unfortunately quite a few people that end up getting hurt or dying in the process. It's like leaving an abusive relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/17 07:28 AM
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Probably the Neo Nazi kid in highschool. Was a complete Wehraboo who always wore an old army jacket and told anyone who would listen about his edgy political opinions. He wasn't ugly from his bone structure, height or bodyweight - he just didn't goom well, walked kind of hunched ove, spoke weirdly slow and pedantic and wouldn't/ couldn't read social clues for the life of him. Fancied himself an intellectual but unfortunately wasn't very smart when it came to critical thinking at all and neither …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 10:01 PM
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Creep is a pretty loose term these days but I wouldn't say they want to meet women half way - it's almost exclusively guys who try to interact but fail to do so in a socially acceptable way. The main problem is there being something “off“ with them - they look and act weird, nervous, their words don't match their body language and most importantly they fail to read the other person's body language and react accordingly which is especially fatal if it results in not noticing when someone is uncom…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 08:35 PM
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Yeah that guy seems a lot more masculine - I can definitely see the appeal :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 03:31 PM
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Uhm the models all look incredibly gay ... agree with the interview instructions though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 03:01 PM
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Pretty much every one of them had the confident aura going on. Daniel Craig's version is more of the serious/ brooding kind, Sean Connery for example is more the relaxed flirty version - imo the latter will have broader appeal... definitely try this to assert dominance :P
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 02:57 PM
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Look at how James Bond carries himself or Dean Winchester from supernatural. Edit: even better look at Damon Salvatore from the Vanpire Diaries, he pretty much embodies this. Irl Vladimir Putin is a good representation of that sort of body language In general, you want to look confident and dominant, with the preference ranging from cool/ laid back to actively funny/loud or more aggressive depending on the woman. In action that means standing/ walking straight with your chin up and shoulders squ…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 02:23 PM
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Objectification seems to be a pretty loaded and subjective buzzword at this point. Yes some people say porn objectifies women, others find it empowering and another group thing porn is sinful and immoral all together. Imo, what other people think about porn isn't the issue. They can think and say whatever they like and they can decide for themselves whether or not they want to consume porn and support this industry. No one is forced to watch porn, enjoy it or like the porn industry. Where I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 01:34 PM
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No I would not knowingly choose to become a “plate“ and I am not interested in ONS/ casual sex. I strongly value monogamy in a relationship and need a lot of trust/ “comfort“ to have sex with someone. I also like to have my relationships clearly established, expectations, boundaries and all, so if the guy in question isn't on the same page as me (monogamous committment to an LTR with the goal of marriage and children), that would be an immediate next. That is to say, it never happened to me - my…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 01:18 PM
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Their study also found that that 70 per cent of singles on average have not even bothered trying to find a partner in the past 12 months, the Mirror reports. Among women, this rises to 75 per cent, with ladies more likely to prioritise other aspects of their life over settling down. This suggests that the majority are not making much of an effort in the first place and at least the women seem to be GTOW because they prioritize other aspects of life, instead being forced to be single because of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 01:01 PM
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Most girls absolutely do not feel a need for lots of casual sex, it is a minority of women who go out to have causal sex in the first place - mostly very extroverted, thrill-/ novelty seeking types who frequent nightclubs and bars. The question is more about how many of these women, the ones who enjoy casual sex and seek it, are seeing multiple guys at the same time. And from what I have observed, the women who are very open about casual sex have a lot of it with a lot of different guys. I mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/17 08:22 AM
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It's wish fulfillment for the nerdy writers/producers and the male target audience of average chumps who don't have much going for them but still dream of dating hot women. The same goes for all that harem anime with tons of hot girls fawning over the self insert filler-kid. An equivalent for women are things like twilight where you have a very average girl with no personality being persued by multiple attractive men. Now I don't think most people actually think this is what real life is like - …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/17 06:46 AM
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What exactly is your definition of virtue signalling and what would make one a genuinely good person in contrast without virtue signalling? Is it even possible for a human to simply be selfless in your mind since altruism is always “rewarded“ with a positive feeling? (In both sexes btw) I thought virtue signalling meant intentionally showing off how good you are to make yourself look good and make others feel bad. Doing good things because you want to, without reward, is usually just called ... …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/17 06:12 PM
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Being a single mother is still very different from being a married mother though. Giving up your job to raise your kids while your husband earns money for the whole family = good, keeping the nuclear family alive and providing a well adjusted next generation for society. Being a single mom on benefits = bad, parasite who made shit choices and statistically dooms their children to be unemployed/criminals/drug addicts. SAHMs are respected because this type of family arrangement is traditional, pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/17 07:03 AM
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Yeah ...Since those often like to come combined or as a result of an underlying issue, there's really no way to be sure but is does seem like a somewhat specific part of the female and male denographic who have those issues and as a result issues with dating/ social skills while the majority of people do just fine
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 05:37 PM
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Given her post history, it is most likely for the same reason that many men here have trouble with this seemingly obvious stuff - Autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 05:12 PM
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That is your personal moral judgement of it. If it bothers you so much that you absolutely cannot see yourself playing that game, it may indeed be better for you personally to drop out of it. Or at the very least take a break and find happyness in other aspects of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 04:25 PM
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At some point, doesn't the fact that women are horrid, despicable creatures bother you? Doesn't the fact that they're all lying, solipsistic, hypocritical, psychopathic cunts make you want to just say, "fuck it, I'll just jerk off instead? That is your personal anger talkig over having your fantasy of a perfect and just world broken, not RP theory. Solimsism, hypocricy, lying, selfishness etc. are all fundamental parts of human nature and women are human. They are neither perfect wonderful angel…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 04:12 PM
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When women have sex they tend to fall in love. When men have sex they don't necessarily fall in love. Do you have a source to support this claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 06:20 AM
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Arranged marriage with a girl raised to believe it's her duty to allow you starfish-sex and give you children maybe. Tbh this situation is only an improvement for omegas/incels to whom even a BB marriage with a wife who isn't attracted to sounds better than nothing. (I guess at least both parties are miserable in this arrangement (?))
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 06:12 AM
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I don't think religion itself is the key here but a conservative, family/community-oriented society with strict roles and expectations from the individual, encouraged/enforced by both family and institutions. This used to be tied to christianity in the west but it is in no way something exclusive to religion, nor did it start with religion - it has far more to do with maintaining a civilization greater than just one village, involving agriculture and property that needs to be inherited. You can …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/17 06:40 PM
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Autism spectrum probably attests for a lot of the devide between TRP on reddit having to systemize everything and spell it out while BP wonders why they don't just “get it“. Also why many men here have trouble with dating/ relationships / human interaction in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/17 06:24 PM
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None of my friends ever cheated as far as I know. One who is probably the most extroverted/social did “branch-swing“ if you want to call it that. She was super religious fron her family background, dating a religious “nice guy?“ who ended up fooling around with other girls while on vacation and broke up with her. She then quickly got together with a much better guy (in every way from looks, personality, career-field) from college who just got dumped by his girlfriend as well. The two were pretty…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/17 06:04 AM
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Aren't you the guy who bought rope recently? You might want to get therapy for your issues...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/17 12:33 PM
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Do they do that because they want to make a random woman happy or because they hope to get sex out of it? If it is the former, why are they not doing the same for random men/ their friends? A lot of women will also do additional stuff like housework, cooking or sexual favors for men who they hope to get attention/ committment from. Those are obviously the men they find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/17 12:26 PM
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Most work is “forced“ in the sense that people need resources, namely money, to survive and feed their families. It's like asking why someone picks up garbage for money, cleans toilets, builds houses or fixes computers but won't do it form me for free. Most people do these things because they need money, not out of good will or because they like doing them so much. Of course the world would be a better place if everyone were a selfless angel who just loves giving all their time and resources to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/17 10:15 AM
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Yeah lots of things are kind of fucked. At the same time most people here are doing pretty well compared to the rest of the world and I know many happy couples/marriages but it's certainly not perfect for everyone, especially the unattractive and poor/ lower class. Birth rate is in the shitter too though that seems to have more to do with the general culture/ (lack of) expectations, delayed adulthood and the balance between family and a career. I suppose going back to a more conservative/ religi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 07:06 PM
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Not as far as I can tell at least. There are dead bedrooms here, there are women using sex/ affection as a weapon, as well as the threat of divorce and with that losing money/ pride/ social status/ access to his children. Whatever OP expected to happen is not happening here. Women who lose attraction to their partner do not want his advances and usually have lots of options with other men so they have a natural abundance mentality. “Losing“ that man for a night to a prostitute is not a loss for …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 06:48 PM
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If it is a dead bedroom situation, she doesn't want to sleep with him anyway and as far as I can see most just choose to ignore that their husbands in that situation see hookers. As long as he keeps brining in money (which he does for the children) and it doesn't become public, it's not much of an issue. Also it's not like the woman in that scenario isn't getting any on the side from some affair either. Most just end up splitting and dating/marrying someone else but imo the main reason men won't…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 06:27 PM
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They're wasting their potential lol. Hb5 ukrainian hookers here charge the same price
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 11:39 AM
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HB9 is gonna be way up in the price class though - I would guess at least 500+ if they (or their pimp) have any sense for business... most hookers are just average with a lot of makeup and revealing clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 11:00 AM
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Wtf are you talking about? I'm from a place where it's legal , has been for over a decade, and it is very clearly distinguishable from ordinary relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 05:48 AM
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There's no need to speculate - legal prostitution already exists in other western countries and you can look up the prices. In Germany for example, prostitutes are considered self-employed so they have to pay high taxes and pay health insurance etc. by themselves. This is basically the least state-regulated position to be in, as in you have 0 security, pimps who still cash in but the state is happy as long as the taxes are being paid. For independent workers, prices are around 50€ for bj with co…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 05:31 AM
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In Germany prostitution has been legal for quite some time now but it is far from the utopia you describe. Yes, prices are affordable if you're going for a single sex-act in your car with a low end hooker from the street but anything more (high-end very pretty girl, in a room that's not in a very sketchy place for longer, no pimp, girlfriend-experience etc.) will get more expensive especially if you do it regularly. Pimps also exist as mentioned, they like to just call themselves the “landlords“…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/17 07:17 PM
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So I live in a place where prostitution is legal, a big industry with a huge revenue and I really don't care about it. A lot of men go see prostitutes, I know that my husband at least went to strip clubs (that also offer more if you pay for it) with his friends before we dated and it doesn't seem too weird to me. They're young men with no trouble to find dates either so it's not like they do it out of desperation and all the prostitutes here make them wear condomes so it seems safer than a drunk…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/17 08:03 AM
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At 25 I would guess religious, school-/ career focused, a low sex drive and/or very high standards but unable to get or keep the men she finds attractive. At 30/ 35 she is either not interested in men and sex at all or (still) has standards way above her SMV. That or she is downright crazy in some way that drives even the religious men away. Though there is a lot of room between CC riders and virgins until 30. A lot of women do not like casual sex, instead going for LTRs and with that have a low…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/17 05:16 PM
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Mr BB wants to the validation of being attractive for his looks/ alpha personality instead of his wallet I guess, at least that is what many here have said. Otherwise I agree - they could just be BB for an attractive young foreign woman instead of whoever would settle for them here. Though the question is how he is going to stay a BB in Thailand if he is still young and needs a job to keep that status. That's not impossible though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/17 08:31 AM
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SMV is also very different in many cultures. Hell, I could laid in high numbers due to my whiteness and wealth While SMV is indeed different in many cultures, especially those with a more culturally or even legally restricted SMP, the second part isn't really a description of a cultural divide but one of wealth. Those women asking for your number are literally prostitutes or gold diggers who want you for your money and a green card. The only difference to the west is that even your moderate inco…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/17 07:02 AM
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Welp guess additional mixed groups it is then... at least in my village they seem to have a pretty healthy balance between outdoors stuff and crafts which all the kids enjoy and they're almost exactly 50/50. Someone also pointed out that the option is apparently available in the US so neither girl scouts nor boy scouts need to cease existing or make major changes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 04:57 PM
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Yup absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 04:16 PM
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Well if they exist anyway then this whole move is really 100% unnecessary unless it is for PR. As for the girl scouts, a bit of google seems to come to the (same) result that girl scouts activities really depend on the troop, more specifically who leads it. And a lot of the leaders seem to be moms of some kids in it sooo really the people who complain (at least the adults) should be the change they want to see and maybe get involved themselves/ make suggestions to the people running the program …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 03:47 PM
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I mean I can totally see why girls would prefer the boy scouts, girl scouts just seems to be child labor to sell crappy overpriced cookies run by a bunch of SAHMs while the boy scouts get to go into the forest and learn cool skills. I'm not very familiar with the whole organization but are there any equivalents that are mixed or for girls the same age that actually do the same stuff? When I was a kid (not us) there were mixed scouts groups, as well as various outdoor/fun programs for kids that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 09:35 AM
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I'm dating my husband because he's like me in almost every way, from personality and life goals to obsessively playing pokemon together. Also he's hot, sex is great and I love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 07:51 PM
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Yeah I'm high functioning autistic, at least I just went through another bunch of tests this year at a specialized testing facility for adults in Mannheim and they came to the same result (my intital diagnosis was as a child but my parents basically ignored it since it didn't seem “that bad“). Men are not necessarily asier to understand in general but there are more autistic men and there are more men sharing my special interests which helps with socializing. Though it's not likebI really “fit i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 03:15 PM
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Why would low value men be the major casualties of war? The weakest/ disabled ones would not be drafted in the first place for example. More risk averse or physically weak men would also have a leg up by selecting and being selected for less phyiscal jobs, instead of (even voluntarily) going for front line positions. I absolutely agree that is is better for everyone in peace time but I don't think currently low value men would necessarily be dying disproportionately in case of a war (at least in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 02:20 PM
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I'm autistic and was a virgin until I met my husband so idk. Supposedly autistic women's brains are more “male“ so maybe it's that or I just never really had the chance to exploit men for it and learn that whole female social dynamic (never really fit in with “normal“ women because I just couldn't crack their social code fast enough). Though I think pumping and dumping is another thing -I personally can not feel comfortable having sex and being intimate with a person who I barely know, do not tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 02:04 PM
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Because that's the way it has always been done and has worked in the past, I suppose. Also humans naturally like fighting wars so it usually doesn't take as much social engineering to get them there. Though there is no real reason why we can't just reverse the chinese model for example, picking mostly female fetuses with a quota/some other incentives and getting rid of the male ones, thereby “farming“ females.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 01:50 PM
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Reintroducing male scarcity by having an old-school war (or a few) would probably work... that's how it worked for a long time in human history at least
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 12:36 PM
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There is no corresponding AMALT debate because men don't initiate 70-90% of recreational divorces, and since they are driven by sex rather than primarily a need to latch on to relationships for fiscal gain, the time cost involved in figuring out the average cad lies in days and weeks, and not months/years as it is for figuring out the average woman. Uhm have you seen (radical) feminists or tumblr? It's full of AMALT stuff in the sense of “all men are sexist pigs who only value a woman's body, ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/17 04:51 AM
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I mean he did technically invite me out for dinner later... at Burgerking ... maybe I should ask the local hookers next time how high payment is supposed to be
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/17 08:40 PM
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Lol - I guess I am womaning wrong since what I get out of sex is enjoyable sex with an attractive men. Orgasms and making the person I love happy by what I do are both positive things by themselves ... I even initiate sex regularly O.O' ...Now that I think about it, I initiated a blowjob today ... I guess I will have to hand in my woman-card now 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/17 08:18 PM
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Going after a man who is not interested in a relationship in the first place is a waste of time. Before I start dating someone, the most important thing is to insure we're actually on the same page of what we want out of, both short term and long term. Since I see a continuous life long marriage as the goal, this obviously means I am looking for a man who wants the same. There is a difference between someone with options, who wants a relationship but will only pursue one that is a benefit to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/17 07:42 PM
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Now
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 06:55 PM
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It was fun for a while but I'm happy to go back to the old system now. As expected, the shit posts got boring over time and the amount of incel posts that just kept going in circles exploded. Though I think the incel posts without rules were actually more fun and productive than they used to be within the normal ppd frame before they got banned. Would like to have purge week/ days again some time, maybe after a few months so everyone can get the shitposts out of their system again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 06:42 PM
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According to incels, not getting pussy is apparenty a fate so horrible that many contemplate suicide or murder and throws them in such deep depression and suffering, no one else can possibly understand. Incels are the ones complaining and putting pussy on a pedestal so high, you would think it's made of diamonds. If it really is so bad then a post-wall roastie setteling for you would still be infinitely better than being incel. If it isn't, which I agree with, then incels should just be over at …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 04:54 PM
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Aliens are real, the earth is round.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:33 PM
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It probably isn't. You should switch roles and take it up the ass instead if you want something new and exciting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 02:58 PM
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Well Straßenköter-Blond at least and I have yet to meet one shorter than me (5'2)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 09:16 AM
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Lol they won't even buy weed or go see hookers because it's illegal - how the hell are they ever gonna go through with rape? Also even when those things like prostitution are legal, they still find excuses why it doesn't count since they really just crave validation. Rape might be a fun revenge fantasy for them but they won't go through with it and even if they did it wouldn't fix their issue of women being disgusted by them while throwing themselves at Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 10:05 PM
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Wait how old are you? Why do your parents get to decide if you can buy yourself a bike or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 09:28 PM
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It honestly just sounds like you're autistic - which is unfortunate in the context of dating because the number of women with the same condition and similar interests are vastly outnumbered by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 09:08 PM
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I guess you'll have to choose between being “sick“ and getting laid or just being mentally ill from isolation and lonelyness (at least if makes you suffer as much as the guys on the incels subreddit)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 09:04 PM
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Yup. And normies get laid. Being called a normie should be a compliment to an incel since it implies being socially well adjusted and with that having passed the most crucial theshold to having women be insterested in you instead of being creeped out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 09:01 PM
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Incels would have to leave their mom's basement first and then somehow overthrow the chads in power. Also who will Stacies breed with? Having then breed with incels is a sure way to have your next generation be at least half retarded. Then your state will be overthrown by more alpha muslims almost instantly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:54 PM
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Yes - get some drugs, get some hookers and then spend some time doing “normie“ things like partying and travelling. This is pretty much the only alternative to being alone forever while waiting for your equally autistic (but normie-looking) waifu of your dreams to come along
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:49 PM
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on here, nothing - once purge week is over we can all go back to more productive discussions ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:36 PM
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LOL. I live here in Germany and young men absolutely do put sex on a pedestal. There are also “incels“ who identify as such because to them prostitutes don't count since they have to pay them while chad gets sex for free by enthusiastic women in their social cycle. At least I know wuite a few nerds who would lament how they would be forever alone because no woman likes them. They are still socially isolated and feel inadequate because they can't get validation from the women around them and have…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:34 PM
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Sooo stay a virgin forever? I mean I have advised them to find happyness in other areas of life or get therapy to be able to do so but according to most incels it is apparently impossible to be happy unless women like you sooo maybe becoming a stereotypical college dumbass might help (or at least keep them busy from whining here)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:30 PM
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Make a lot of money, then buy a sex slave mail order bride
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:02 PM
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Most abnoxious college kids with a large social cycle and the main interests of “party“ and “travel seem to be getting laid and most incels here/ general redditors seem to be american college kids so, to me, that seems like the most obvious way to go. What would your advice for a 20 something american college student be who craves validation from his peers, especially women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 07:54 PM
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Today I had oatmeal, an apple and a banana. Though it should be noted that today is saturday so I got to sleep in and ate that at 10 am. On weekdays, it's usually cereal with milk or yoghurt, then snacking on fruit later (while on the train or at work/ in class). On bad days when it's just way too early, I'll buy some junk at the baker shop in my steet but that's unhealthy sugary stuff that just makes me feel bad
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 04:49 PM
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I didn't want to say it like that but.. yeah. Also if the russian discos in my town are anything to go buy, Russians can party like crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 04:14 PM
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I don't live in Russia - the tips I know work for people in the west. Maybe Russia is different. Though I'm kinda doubting that Russians don't party or drink/ do drugs recreationally at all, don't have popular social groups to hang out with where there are girls and that russian men never do any crazy adrenaline fueled macho stuff. At least for the drinking and the crazy shit, I know enough Russians who participate in it. For the parties and popular crowds, I am unfortunately not sure - the Russ…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 03:40 PM
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What logic? That incels would not be such if there was legal prostitution? Probably because you're German like myself and know that the same whiners still exist here. (Or did you just not want incel-tourism?)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 12:17 PM
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What is your social life like exactly? Are you popular, in a fraternity, confident/playfully asshole-ish, loud, have lots of chad friends? Do you regularly go out to party, throw parties yourself and approach lots of women? You can start improving your social status right now even without money and with that also increase your network which helps for job opportunities in the future. This will also still be necessary to prepare for your relationship in your 30s unless you just want to be the bori…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 12:15 PM
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Honestly I only said Germany because incels always complain about how prostitution is illegal where they are and they don't want to become criminals for sex. For foreign wives, any poor country probably works as long as the incel is rich enough. Though I suspect that white foreigners with a job-offer will do better than some indian/middle-eastern or asian guy who just gets up and moves there without having work lined up
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 11:54 AM
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~~ huh I guess I do. But my hypergamous self is surrounded by all these tall, blond Germans - short incel stands no chance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 11:48 AM
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More like the average person in their 20s who, instead of sitting in their room all day, likes to go out and meet new people, travel the world or their country for a bit, party, do some dumb adrenaline-fueled things without worrying. Maybe tries some drugs or takes some new, fun job opportunity or education at the other side of the country, even if they barely know anyone there and might fail. After that, in their late 20/ early 30s, most people settle down for their full time job, stable LTR/ m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:14 AM
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What I see as more of a problem is that incels are afraid to even take the smallest of risks - that's what I see a lack of adventure. They don't like talking to women because they might get rejected, they don't want to try any tips you give them, be it improving themselves or just going to a poorer country to find girls, they won't try drugs to loosen up, hell they don't even want to get a hooker to lose their virginity because it's “illegal“. I mean yeah, if you won't ever get out of your comfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 08:03 AM
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Incels should come to Germany or go somewhere like Thailand. Lots of legal or unregulated, cheap prostitution so there is really no excuse to not get laid if they're really just suffering from a lack of sex (instead of a lack of validation which is what I suspect)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 07:54 AM
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You could move to a place where people are shorter. Or just travel so south east asia for a while, find a girl that fits your criteria, and then return with her to wherever you are right now. Mail order bride would be the laziest option to fulfill your wishes. However you are really going about this backwards imo. The problem is not that women around you are too tall - tall girls will date short guys if they are high status/good looking/ the best or only available option. What your real problem …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 07:48 AM
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I'm kinda surprised they even admitted to that. Usually the best way to karma-whore is to tell reddit that they are just fine as they are and that these women actually like gamer nerds more than chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/17 04:22 AM
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Nah it's just a plattitude to make them feel good. Just think about it this way: what does a woman have to gain or lose by telling you the truth? Caring about looks is considered “shallow“ by society so that in itself makes you a bad person for admitting it. Then telling someone they are unattractive for reasons they have little control over (like hight, race, bone structure) really does nothing but hurt them. At best they know the “truth“ now and can go on being depressed, at worst they get mad…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/17 06:58 PM
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That would certainly help although I don't think it will make everyone alpha at all. Some people are just beta, that's how it is. But at least the people that I know have improved individually by military training - got more mature and driven, etc. So they might go from stoner working at mc donalds with no ambition to actually having some drive and perspective. I don't think that at any point in history every boy turned into an alpha by rites of passage - he turned into a man but betas have alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/17 05:35 PM
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Idk about this specific tradition but imo nothing turns a boy into a man like military service. There you can get all the male bonding and toughen up while also serving a prupose beyond it just being a “rite“'. Those friendships seem to stay with you longer too. Lots of countries have a year or a few months of mandatory training and service for men, maybe that would help...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/17 04:59 PM
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One way can be to look for other “ethnic“ girls - they don't have to be Indian, just not the white blonde all-American stereotype because they have about the most competition. Now if your general style is good, you're not socially awkward, you don't smell weird and not only don't fit the “indian“ stereotype but also don't fit the “STEM-Nerd“ stereotype, you might just have to work more on presenting yourself/“getting out there“/ gaining social status/ game. Are you in a fraternity or something? …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/17 08:28 AM
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Then why are they still incels? If plastic surgery is both affordable and an instant fix to being unattractive to women, shouldn't they just all be talking to a surgeon right now instead of complaining on the internet? Tbh I got the impression that similar to the aversion of seeing hookers, plastic surgery is not seen as a "real" option because it doesn't give the same sort of validation. If women only like you after surgery, they never "really" liked you so that's seen as bad. If you work out t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/17 04:38 PM
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Age of consent is 14 in Germany (with additional laws to protect minors from being exploited by adults in a position of power over them), seems to work well enough so far... and yeah it's arbitrary. If you really wanted a perfect system, you would have to assess every person individually in regards to their ability to consent to sex in general, as well as every specific relationship tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/17 12:51 PM
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It's his chin... it's so ... un-chadly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/17 08:46 AM
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Why thank you NOW GET AWAY FROM ME CREEP! FUCKING NICE GUYS ARE THE WORST I FEEL VIOLATED
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/17 06:19 PM
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There are a lot of things I could get insecure about if I wanted to waste my time thinking about them long enough. Like maybe an ex, or more likely a new woman, may be more beautiful, has bigger boobs, a nicer ass, knows more about sex and performs on porn-level because of that, etc. But the tightness of their vagina has literally not crossed my mind even once begfore this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/17 06:16 PM
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Sorry we don't find solutions for problematic jews anymore - you're on your own. Sincerely, the Germans
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/17 05:35 PM
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A good plastic surgeon tasked to fix what's wrong with them (which according to them is pretty much everything) is going to cost them more than a few therapy sessions and most certainly more than $100. Though I highly doubt even the best can convincingly change your race at this point - you'll just end up looking like a freaky Michalel Jackson. Also judging by their current mental state, product of the environment or not, they will still need therapy sessions afterwards regardless. If you are de…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/17 04:57 PM
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It's fun to discuss ideas and argue sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 06:42 PM
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Decrease every time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 05:02 PM
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Here ya go
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 04:58 PM
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😨 stop creep-shaming me! If I looked like Chad you would be all over it waaaaaaaaaah 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:52 PM
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It's purge week - serious answers will be rare until next monday. Though I do think the question of many here concerning why western women should bother to stay virgins is a legitimate one. If there is no immediate downside to riding the CC (like society shunning you) and there are no hot men lining up to marry them either, why should they not sleep around?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:23 PM
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Even with women in charge, the most masculine ones would be the leaders and it wouldn't chance much. Just look at Angela Merkel - that woman is about as feminine as a boulder. Also we all know that our rulers are just puppets for the Jewish Lizard people
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:09 PM
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also, as the japanese evolved from squid rather than primates, their brains are extremely different, they only look like humans because of evolutionary convergence This is why I love purge week
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:05 PM
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Societal pressure. If you have famil honor to keep and a community that teaches you to act a certain way and shames you if you don't, you can enforce this sort of discipline. We used to have that in the past but we got rid of it. It also comes from a different culture even you don't want to hear it. Being quiet, humble and nice are encouraged there while the west worships extroverted loudeness and bashfullness to the max. Western society has also degenerated so far into individualism that the id…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:02 PM
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Death by Grandma-Snu Snu it is then...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:32 PM
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Awww 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:28 PM
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Thank you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:10 PM
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Women are hypersexual for Chad, including the old ones - or are male rape victims making it all up after all? O.O Gay men most certainly do not want to have any sort of sex with women but with men - if the bisexual men all go for women, the poor gays will be sexually starved and more aggressive :( Just offer man-butt, there aren't so many gays anyway so men should just get anally raped once for every 10 women they have max.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:08 PM
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We have a declining birth rate in the west, at best a stable one around 2.1 in a few countries. The people breeding and having trouble with overpopulation are not the ones talking about maternity leave in the west. If they breed even less, the west will just die out while the rest of the world keeps growing. It won't end our species as a whole but our countries and society unless we just want to import an immigrant from places with a booming population for every elderly person who chose to be ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 12:55 PM
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Does it work in reverse too that old fat ladies get to grab the next boy who comes along? There is female on male rape too afterall. Also are all men's buttholes free to be used by gay men? Sexual aggression between males is reality too...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 12:46 PM
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It's better than nothing but far from the majestic fur coat the average kitty has to offer
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 10:56 PM
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Vegeta, duh. Goku is classical omega-wishfulfillment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 09:27 PM
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The cat is a solid 10 - didn't look at the other picture since kitty stole my heart
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:51 PM
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So could the true Alpha criminal - that's the fun part for women 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:14 PM
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Mob boss with a huge villa, massive influence, an army of followers and a violent disposition who still personally kills the people who piss him off. Anything beneath that is just beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:13 PM
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Looking like an actual bear would probably be a step up for incels - bears are big and fluffy with cute faces + really strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:06 PM
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Naw man - gotta go full furry and buy a fluffy suit. It's the only way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 07:58 PM
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They can learn the way of kitties instead so that they can be popular among women too. Bull. SHIT. Kittens follow the most important rule to be adorable and majestic at the same time. They have fluffy fur, cute button noses and move with a grace humans can only dream of. Women go “awwww“ even if that kitty just took a shit on their carpet because it looks cute. How could the average male with that patchy excuse of fur on his head, ugly face and pathetic slouch ever compete?!? UNLESS YOU'RE A NAT…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 07:52 PM
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Gotta be a tie between 1) the time in middle school when queen bitch made all the girls in my class avoid me for weeks and generally had all the “popular“ crowd hate me from then on because she felt I was threatening her friendship with one aaand 2.) Being stuck at a random train station far away from home in winter in the evening for hours because the train company decided to go on strike ... no money for a cab, only creepy drunk and/or homeless people around and my phone was dead I didn't date…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/17 02:41 PM
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Since everyone has already pointed out that the daughter is not actually ugly, I'll comment on your other stuff: Yes, beauty does seem to be hereditary but then again if ya both ugly, it's not something a good team of stylists and plastic surgeons can't fix. No idea how exactly it works but what I have noticed is that girls tend to end up looking like their mothers and boys like their fathers sooo if you marry a beautiful person, at least some kids should be fine :P just look at Donald Trump and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/17 11:23 AM
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She honestly just looks like a typical teenager, probably a bit awkward being on camera - quick google image search has her with better hair, makeup and lighting aaand suddenly she looks great. The video version reminds me of those “before“ pictures of how stars looked in their teens, back when they had little fashion sense, weird haircuts, low selfesteem and no team of stylists to help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/17 11:16 AM
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1.) That's a trans woman with imo an unfortunately masculine jaw/ facial bone structure 2.) Bill Kaulitz was certainly very popular when I was in school and by popular I mean girls in my class plastered their rooms with his face and would do the high pitched giggle when talking about his band. As a result of this over-ethusiasm I hold about as much attraction for him as for Bieber (as in none and let's just pretend he doesn't exist) so I can't really give an objective opinion here. Seems like ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/17 10:40 AM
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Huh I see - I just remember her fanboys taking over deviantart and acicidentally stirring political controversy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/17 03:40 PM
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Natalia Poklonskaya is her name I believe - I'm not entirely sure what her current position is but I remember she was instrumental in Russia taking over Crimea, ,gave a press conference and then the internet was full of fanart And yes Law of the Jaw naturally applies as always
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/17 03:04 PM
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it seems to be "go all in if he looks like Brad Pitt." This is how you end up with guys that aren't right for you. I think for guys we'd step back and say, if we saw a 10 and she's available there's gotta be something off. Something wrong. We'd also know, from TRP, what behaviors to look out for. I think women throw the "behavior" part out the window and look at status, looks, height, etc. as their determinants Just replace “female“ with “human“ and you got yourself a point. Sure his position of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/17 01:03 PM
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I think removing the sociak stigma would be a big step but at the same time I think the problems of low self esteem and not really being accepted and wanted in society would remain. We are social animals who crave personal connections and validation - being rejected by everyone while others get sex/friendship/etc for free because of things out of your control would still hurt and lead to perceived social isolation/ depression/ resentment. Just throwing prostitutes at incels won't change the fact…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 11:16 AM
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the answers of German incels on reddit vary from being too depressed or scared to go see them, finding escorts too expensive and the cheaper whores too dirty or simply not counting prostitutes as a "real" and satisfying option since they are just fucking you for money and their actual concern isn't getting their dick wet but women/people finding them unattractive and looking down on them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 08:10 AM
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transactional as in both parties want something out if it (sex/ validation/ warm fuzzy feelings/ an intimate human connection/ children/ etc) and are willing to out work/time into it; yes. Everything we do in life is motivated by chasing this reward of happyness after all - we eat, work, compete, talk to our family, donate to charity or do drugs because it makes is feel good as in it all releases those sweet hormones in our brains (in varying intensity). However most people do not consciously th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 10:00 PM
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I've seen gay men be real close friends with women so there are at the very least some exceptions to the rule. I would suspect that asexual men would be a similar exception. Haven't really seen it work the other way around though since straight men seem to hit/ get crushes on women regardless of said women not being interested (in them or men in general). Sooo I would say straight men with a sex drive will generally have trouble just being friends with women because of the attraction they are li…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 08:59 PM
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puritan morality that sees all sex and the general sex-drive from either gender as evil (so the more regulations the better) and trying to pervent/limit crime that often surrounds the industry... by pushing it into the completely unregulated black market as a whole and criminalizing the victims of said industry along side it.. a bit like the war on drugs and similarly effective
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 08:36 PM
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huh doesn't really seem to be necessary - we have legal, widely available and affordable prostitution in Germany and yet people still date, marry and men (especially the young ones) seen to consider getting free sex from women to be a major goal/ source of validation. Still have the "incels" who can't get any and are upset about it as well and women absolutely still have a lot of bargaining power in the smp
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 08:23 PM
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Okcupid is entirely voluntary and you control what information you put out there (if any). The OP's proposed ideal algorithm is planned in combination with reinstating a marriage 1.0 type of societal framework, meanig everyone should ideally be married, is strongly encouraged to do so and has much more limited options of divorce. To make this work we would need virtually everyone to take part in this match-making (instead of it being voluntary like okc), the information would need to be accurate…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 05:41 PM
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Do you have a high N-count? According to OP the large dick magic only works on sluts
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 08:13 AM
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Depending on my mood that day and the competence of my therapist, I may fold and try to forgive him, living with constant elevated anxiety that I am not good enough and he will cheat again for the rest of my life .... OR 3 corpses will be found and the next day you can read all about the "quiet girl" having killed her husband, his lover and then herself, in the paper. I reall think option 2 is more poetic though...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 09:06 PM
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I don't even know anymore but I'm also high on painkillers soooo might just be my fault for being somewhat out if it right now >___>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 06:55 PM
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I thought you were the one who said that status and power did not work the same way as today in proto-human society so women wouldn't select for it because it didn't hold the same advantages o.O
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 04:15 PM
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I'm trying to figure out where the wide attraction to narcissism comes from (as shown by the study) if not from it posing an evolutionary advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 04:04 PM
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The distinction is important for those of RP who want to have sex with women but are not rich or high status. It also makes it seem to me like the attraction to those "Alpha" traits like dominance is innate and subconscious like being attracted to boobs or wide hips instead of being a conscious claculation like a gold digger trying to secure the richest guy to take care of her - she would bail if he wasn't actually rich and his resources don't make her pussy wet but to the average woman a man be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 03:56 PM
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Status/power defines an alpha male, so I don't understand the question. In the RP context, the "Alpha" male is just a male signaling status/power through personality traits like dominance or narcissistic traits without actually needing to have those. This appears to be attractive to women according to the study - not just the status or power itself but the personality traits that hint at possible status/power. Do you think that women before agriculture were not attracted to those traits, if so w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 03:32 PM
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when did men lose this philantrophic trait and how do you explain women's attraction to narcissists and high status men then? Whenever it is proposed that men provide for children who are potentially not their own, including through taxes; they seem very opposed to the idea and single moms are supposedly the devil. Do you think monogamy is just a requirement for civilization and entirely a social construct opposed to human nature? Or why is the communal approach not found in any advanced civiliz…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 03:16 PM
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doesn't have to be monogamous, just has to get the resources and the baby needs to be fit. If the Alpha can provide 5 women with resources that's fine too. If the baby is similarly narcissistic and physically strong it will still have better chances of surviving than a weak, timmid one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 03:07 PM
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oh absolutely - the vast majority of people settles for what they can get. I just didn't see this particular study saying that women want AF for flings and BB for marriage, instead even going against that premise. Reality of course shows that most women don't get to choose between marrying an Alpha or a Beta in the first place, they can choose between sex with an alpha and marriage to a beta and this results in AF/BB dynamics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 02:39 PM
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The researchers were surprised to find that women “wishing to get married were more attracted to the narcissistic male personality than those not desiring marriage.” Does this part not speak for women desiring Alpha personality straits for marriage just as much, if not even more? Strength, status, ability to command/ dominance are all alpha qualities. It seems to me like it is not really women wanting a BB so much as that they wish for an AB but those are rare so the majority has to choose betwe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 02:28 PM
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I'm a bit confused OP - it seems to me like you already answered your own question with this abstract The researchers suggest that the narcissists' “ability to acquire resources, and that they are entertaining and self-assured. These traits are attractive to females in relationship contexts.” Indeed, researchers found that women with marriage on the mind responded more positively to statements, like, “I am drawn to a man who displays authority,” and, “A man who uses manipulation to influence his…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/17 01:39 PM
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I think a lot of men stay in less than ideal marriages for the children and stay faithful long after sex has dried up. For young guys it's just sex but for the 40+ group a lot become "socially" dependent on their wives, just to raise their kids together not die alone, despite a dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/17 05:47 AM
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sex and the ability to have children seem to be the prime motivators as to why men like women and put up with all sorts of stuff for all of human history. Just look at all the betas getting screwed over or all the men dating crazy chicks regardless of the red flags because the sex is good. Or look at TRP, a whole sub dedicated just to getting women to do things for you (sex) without the negative things they can do to you. The alternative is MGTOW which is dedicated to fighting your own nature an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/17 05:09 AM
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I think this really depends on what kind of things you open up about and how intense it is. In my experience, people in generall can only deal/ put up with so much, no matter how much they might like you. If you are in control of your emotions and already have a plan to deal with the problem - that's the kind of thing people want you to be open about. Like you may have stress at work for some reason which explains why you are tense right now/ the next few weeks but you have a game plan and it wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/17 08:07 PM
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21F, Germany, college town Tinder got me my husband so can't complain but then again that was 3 years ago. Since we're both introverted nerds, having an app to text first really helped a lot (otherwise I would probably not have dated anyone ... ever), being reasonably attractive obviously helps as well. I also got plenty of matches BUT if you are looking for a ltr and the people who message you first are not the type you want, then I would strongly advise that you take the initiative, look throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/17 08:11 AM
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Outside of searching for/ finding one's personal unicorn or being so genetically gifted that the odds are shifted in their favor (see Chad who doesn't have to put a lot of work into gaming women because he is naturally charming, dominant and very good looking) a lot of men are just very thirsty. For them, the prospect of possibly getting sex, validation, compannionship and children from a willing and attractive women is so great that is is worth all the effort. You don't seem to have this drive …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 07:09 PM
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mental patient millenials Yup, the answer is riiiight in the first part - autistic/ socially awkward/ depressed redditors do not have large groups of friends because of their condition and that is also the reason they are on reddit seeking advice in the first place. The majority of this generation, like throughout human history, is neurotypical, extroverted and has no problem finding friends or socializing and because of that has no trouble dating either. And so our species continues to exist...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 06:52 PM
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There is no law stating that you need to date women. A lot of men apparently find value in regular sex over masturbation and without having to put as much work in as constantly looking for ONS, having a compannion in life and having children. If you personally do not see any value in these things, it does not seem worth the effort and you are happy with your life without all of the above, then there obviously is not reason why you should date women or anyone at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 06:12 PM
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In general, nothing. Women as a whole may be more inclined to talk about your feelings and they may have more female friends, making it easier to wingman for you but there is no set reason why a good male friend could not posess the same qualities. Since you choose your friends yourself, it really comes down to your own interests and the individual characterisitcs of the people you associate with. This may or may not include women who happen to be able to provide unique qualities for your friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 06:05 PM
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Why do you think women would be affected so strongly by this? There already is a lot of porn readily available for men, as is legal (and cheap) prostitution where I live, yet it has not reduced the need for validation for men. If you can't get a real life woman to sleep with you for fun without payment, you're still a loser. And it's not even mainly women furthering this view - women couldn't care less about unattractive men dropping out of the market, hell that's a good thing for them. But men …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 09:29 AM
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None - romance movies don't really do anything for me. The leads are mostly uninteresting and unrelatable, the siruations and overreactions are ridiculous and the whole plot is mostly about the honeymoon phase being misinterpreted as "love". I cried during Bambi or Land before Time when the mother died though and I any movie where the wife/husband/child dies is hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 05:15 PM
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that's certainly a lot of black people
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 04:57 PM
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Germany :P How did they deal with OOW kids in the US before the 60s?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 04:40 PM
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At least where I live, they killed the baby/ left it to die. Though the social/ religious stigma for having OOW children was far greater as well and women had less freedom to go out and have casual relationships in the first place. This system seems to work pretty well for the muslim minority here as well - don't see a whole lot of Turkish single moms because they either have to marry or get killed by their family
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 04:18 PM
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Of course they are responsible for the shit they do - BUT THEY DO NOT LEARN. Every day a bunch of stupid people make stupid choices AND THE REST OF SOCIETY HAS TO DEAL WITH IT. If women make the choice to have the child, regardless of having no money and all options to get rid of it and the father doesn't pay either, I HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT because her little shit will be stealing and/or dying ON MY STREET or I have to pay taxes to keep her little shit off my street. I don't know how you plan to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 04:13 PM
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Too many trashy people want to keep their kids anyway for religious reasons or otherwise - people do not make reasonable decisions whe it comes to this, most who are dumb enough to get knocked up out of wedlock are obviously not the smartest in the first place. The only reliable option would be to check if they have enough income for the child and if not, it just gets taken from them at birth and they get their tubes tied
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 04:01 PM
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sure some will - I would definitely pay money to not live there anyway or keep the kids off my streets somehow. Does that mean you want to live in the area with street kids though? Cause that money you save by not paying for it will just be eaten up by higher rents/ security cost in good areas that keep shit like this out and lowered property value in the bad areas. Though if it really were to become reality I don't see why we can't just sterilize the poor beforehand instead of letting the kids …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 03:57 PM
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dumb people make dumb choices all the time - they keep breeding no matter what options you give them. Plenty of white trash are religious and think abortion is murder
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 03:50 PM
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you still have to live in the same country as them - having kids starving in the streets or dead babies in your dumpster is just not a pretty sight, comes with increased crime and reduced quality of life for everyone around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 07:55 AM
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You may propose that sort of legislation to your representative but be aware that the majority of the country has much more compassion for a helpless baby than a deadbeat dad. Examples of countries where they die can be found in the third world of course though personally I would rather not live in a place where children are starving in the streets - kinda brings down property value for the whole area and increases crime rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/17 07:13 AM
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I see it as the "queen bee" stereotype equal to Chad. Highly attractive, top of the female pecking order, also manipulative bitch type who has every guy wraped around her finger and all girls want to be her and/or are scared of her. Basically just like Regina George from mean girls reincarnated in every high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/17 05:45 PM
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No - pedophiles are attracted to prepubescent children. It would (should?) still be statutory rape though since a mentally 8 year old can not consent to sex. I would guess that there are already laws regarding consent to protect mentally hadycapped people who are mentally still children which result in a similar scenario ...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/17 06:03 PM
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I mean that's similar to other content creators - be it a pretty face, pleasant voice or funny content, you can put something out there and maybe people watch it. Did you go and throw free stuff at her though? I don't mind watching random let's plays on youtube in the background for example but I won't pay them for it. They get a view for playing games I like and not being too annoying I guess, nothing more. The people getting the most free stuff seem to be big names with good content or the mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 03:45 PM
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nothing - they get paid well for providing a service to customers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 03:17 PM
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I'd count cam-whores on twitch as sex workers if their success and income is from being sexualized for their body/ gender online. If it is enough to just be female and show your boobs, the viewers clearly aren't there for the ganeplay or clever commentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 03:12 PM
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This is the life of Stacy, the extroverted, genetically gifted and adored cheerleader archetype, not the average woman. An equivalent would be a similar writeup for Chad and calling him the average man. Obviously those are the girls they notice and jack off to care about the most because they're not only beautiful but also so loud and in your face that you can hardly miss them but that is most certainly not "average".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 02:49 PM
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Smoking/ drugs/ addiction of any kind (from alcohol or porn to caffeine) No work ethic, ambition or passion in life History of cheating Committment issues Financial irresponsibility / debt (really any type of debt, including student loans etc.) Overly extroverted ( Will just personally drain me and we won't be compatible, doesn't make them a bad person, just not the right one for me) Overweight/ doesn't take care of himself Mama's boy (because not only will you be expected to be the new mom but …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 02:02 PM
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nah, doesn't matter as long as he is nice to me and we are able to have a stable relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/17 05:22 PM
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The fact that he has a lot of friends would concern me because it most likely means he's an overly social extrovert and with that probably very annoying and the complete opposite of me. Them being female would feature in depending on how close they are I guess - if they are obviously hitting on him/ wanted to date him, it would be very uncomfortable for obvious reasons. If he has only female friends I'd wonder if it's some sort of weird harem of his or if he is gay tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/17 05:20 PM
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if it is a standard test, opting out would be the exception and should be a private decision of the individual, protected by the same privacy laws as all other medical concerns - no need to even automatically inform the mother about weather or not the man decided to take the test. Also I personally think forcing people to give up their dna or other private information for "the greater good" is deplorable. You would have to force everyone to have their birth at the hospital/ register the baby the…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/17 05:13 PM
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air port security is making sure that you are not a risk to others. A father not taking a paternity test is only a "risk" to himself, the same way a mother isn't even forced to give birth at a hospital in the first place - she can just do if at home if she wants to. I think if such a standard test were to be implemented, it should have an option for the father to opt out of it - not everyone wants their dna analysed and plenty of people are concerned about govenment overreach or security issues …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/17 08:31 AM
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No, thankfully. I have only been with my husband so the sample size is pretty small :P He doesn't really do the other stuff listed either. It might not be abuse but it's generally shitty behavior that I would want to avoid in a partner. I don't yell at him, hit him or try to manipulate him either - seems like an unhealthy way to deal with conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/17 05:30 PM
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Are you sure that this is due to mate selection and not high iq/ educated people having less children in general? At least here in Germany I personally don't know a single middle class/ Umc woman who went and married some thug on benefits and had children with him. Instead what I see a lot are educated women not setteling down until their 30s because they want to further their career first and a large group of well off couples, in the whole range from 20 to 50, who have decided to be entirely ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/17 05:25 AM
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probably also outside near people somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/17 03:49 PM
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ISFx are on tumblr, ESFx are out terrorizing the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/17 02:34 PM
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Is that not how all politics work? You have an issue you want put into law so you lobby with the law makers, anyone in power and try to appeal to their emotions, as well as those of the broader population by either convincing them you're right in your argument (be it out of pitty or genuine belief) or putting pressure on them by showing that your initiative has broad public support, putting the fear of backlash/ loss of votes into them (though it would be best if it also had broad support from p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 08:05 AM
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So go start a political movement like feminism. Truth is, most people don't give a shit about anyone by themselves and their families. It took feminists decades to get to the point where society cares about women's problems because they made them care. Same with black people and the civil rights movement or the workers movements during the early 20s century. No one else gave a shit about them, certainly not "society" but they fought for it and won. "Men" as a group even have the unique advantage…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 05:07 AM
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Do most men actually believe that? It's certainly male wish fulfillment and part of their fantasies but it seems to be like only the very anti social/ autistic ones could go through life thinking that porn portrays reality when all the women around them act nothing like that (same with disney movies, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 04:22 PM
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I apologize if you were just debating human society. I read the thread with the original quote in mind which expanda this concept to the entire universe so I assumed you did that as well. I'm not sure which comment you were originally replying to so if it was only about humans, I agree that conflict is a large part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 04:18 PM
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I think like with all media, porn is the expression of what men want already and how they view (or would like to view) women, more than actively changing their view on women. I suppose it can desensitize over time, making you want to watch more extreme porn to get the same kick out of it (like reading a magazine might not be enough after you saw moving pictures and some fetishes may be discovered) but that is still within the medium of porn itself. Most people can very well distinguish between f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 03:43 PM
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Obviously the base has to be life-like enough to not be creepy, after that I would say mode it after popular characters with the option for customers to upgrade additional behaviors. With pre-existing characters, you already have a fanbase, it is somewhat excusable for thwm to be a bit cartoonish/ 2d in their bahavior and people can choose which type they like best instead of needing a one size fits all - solution. Real life waifus are the next step to money - nerds will buy anything ~~
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 01:10 PM
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What is your point exactly? I would say that in the case of stars, athletes, etc. it's still subject to our society's standards which dictate prostitutes = bad, the same way as drugs = bad. This sort of thing can result in a huge scandal if they are unlucky. why then are they are shamed and reviled for using the one outlet available to them? Outside of women just not wanting to date them? The same reason we shame people with (mental) health issues for using illegal drugs or sluts for sleeping wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 12:39 PM
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probably the same thing that happens if a girl admits she jumps on every chad's cock and has a high N-count. Next. Some things are simply not socially acceptable in our culture, some create natural disgust. This includes promiscuous behavior and prostitutes which is why most people don't talk about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 12:30 PM
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The lack of empathy simply comes from women having a lower sex drive - they don't know how men feel in this regrard and have no real way of experiencing it. Kind of like men won't ever experience what it feels like to be attracted to status/dominance, have period cramps or birth a child (though with the latter the pain is usually very obvious to see during birth). As for the disgust, it's most likely a mix of our culture seeing sex, especially for money and with many partners, as dirty (which ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 12:18 PM
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what does this even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 12:07 PM
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where do you see conflict and competition outside of living things? So far it seems like the vast majority of the universe is emptyness and lifeless matter/ energy, not life driven by evolution. To say that this universe is based on conflict and competition seems at odds to me with the fact that the majority of the universe is not alive in any way but in fact mostly just empty space and therefor not actively competing for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 12:04 PM
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...what drugs did you take and where can I get some of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/17 08:31 AM
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What's the difference between a lion killing a zebra and a human being killing another? In both cases, a bunch of molecules destroys information of another bunch of molecules, due to some chemical process happening. To me, there is really no difference if zebras and lions are also sentient and feel pain similarly to humans. And yeah in the grand scheme of things, it's just a bunch of information changing. I only see a difference between a sentient being vs. a non sentient entity from the perspec…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:51 PM
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what would be your theory on how it got here? If it got introduced by a sentient being outside of our universe or some natural driving force towards life, I still don't see how it would be necessarily at war (?) The rest of the universe besides life (which as far as we know seems to be the majority), would still just be inanimate matter/ energy that changes form without any active conflict or war too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:39 PM
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from an atom's or molecule's perspective there is still no active fighting, no drive to win and no goal though. One moment it exists and the next moment it doesnt. No war being fought, just the forces of nauture affecting the molecule in one way or another. War needs at least one conscious, active party to label it. In the case of the atom, that is us humans prescribing human conflicts and emotions to an inanimate object. The atom doesn't fight, it doesn't "win" or "lose" because it never played…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:20 PM
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I suppose, though at the same time this change form one state into another is creating new information (microbes decomposing a body will use its energy to multiply for example). If anything, the universe is in a constant state of both destruction and creation of information at the same time, leaving it neutral as a whole. "War" seems to imply an ongoing conflict of some sorts, when it's really just "random" change - there is no final winner, nor is there any goal or inherent drive to the univers…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:01 PM
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War" is a human construct. The universe doesn't give a shit, it just exists and changes through time by the laws of nature. To say that some "win" and some "lose" in the context of inanimate matter is completely pointless - a dark hole absorbing matter doesn't destroy it, it just changes its form into being super dense. Unless your definition of war is "any two or more forces interacting", there is no such thing as war outside of sentient beings. Even with living creatures, I would argue that "w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 08:22 AM
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Mate I'm not talking about just a broken washing mashine - that's a 1st world problem right there. I have had that and i have washed by hand with all the other comforts modern life still offers - like warm water from the tap and great laundry detergent (and without the 8 kids that were the norm in a household). It takes all day if you have no runnung water or electricity and a shitload of laundry from a big household. No electricity was the reality for most households until the early 20th centur…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 06:27 PM
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The process of actually washing the clothes depends on household size obviously. Getting the water, heating it over fire and then making sure the clothes are ready to wear afterwards are all tasks that are part of the process though. I mean you won't get to wash the clothes unless xou actually prepare the water for it and you can't use the clothes without putting them to dry and, if necessary, ironing them. Since the actual task isn't just "wash the clothes" but "turn this pile of dirty clothes …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 05:50 PM
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apparently until at least the early 19th century No running water, electricity to heat it, modern soap and the fact that you would wash not only your clothes but those of the entire household, probably had something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 05:39 PM
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I absolutely agree on the necklaces - There are a lot of beatiful ones but I would rather have a colection of them in a showcase at home than wear them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 05:27 PM
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... you might be onto something
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 05:22 PM
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Never liked doll, princesses, the color pink, any "girly games" as a kid, alwayd loved all sorts of "disgusting" animals (worms, frogs, snakes, mice, rats, etc.) play videogames, good at math, interested in technology and science, in STEM (electrical engineering/ comp sci), no natural social intelligence, hate small talk/ any meaningless social interaction and really socializing in general, spend too much time on reddit, don't wear makeup for anything but special occasions, hate being the center…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 05:21 PM
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strangely enough I own quite a lot of jewelry that I liked becaus it was shiny/pretty/merchandise for some fandom but I never wear any of it because it's so impractical. I just have it sitting in a chest and from time to time, I'll take it out and look at it.... I like owning shiny things
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 04:57 PM
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Obviously has very different values than me when it comes to sex and relationships. I doubt we would get along and have a lot in common. 20 people is probably more than I have even really been friends with in my life, that guy is either way too social or a prostitute. Also he obviously doesn't care much about committment when it comes to sex or is terrible at maintaining relationships - both of which I would see as red flags. He should probably stick to high n-count girls who will be more from "…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 02:07 PM
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Being Alpha gives you sex and there have always been dominant, violent "alpha" skin heads and Nazis, hell in Nazi Germany they tried to breed an improved version of them and I don't doubt for a minute that those guys could attract women. Today's "alt-right" also has quite a few of those thestosterone-fueled caveman types that have the same appeal as regular thugs and criminals. However that does not mean that the reverse is true. Just joining a movement as a follower now that there is more suppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 02:01 PM
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No. People here (Germany) generally don't smile a lot though, especially not to strangers in public. If I see someone with a big grin on their face, I'll avoid them because they're either mentally deranged or trying to sell me something. The only other people who smile in public for some reason are those african refugees, no idea wtf they're so happy about all the time. I generally try to look as bussy and unapproachable as possible so I can get from point A to point B as fast as I can and get d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/17 09:44 AM
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They certainly have a habit of censoring the autofill function. With Hillary for example, it didn't autofill "crooked"/ the reverse when typing crooked first. It did however autofill "ted" after "lying", referencing the "lying ted" thing by Trump targeting Ted Cruz. Similarly and more on the corporate side of things, google generally doesn't autofill "torrent", neither does it autofill most profanities and many things relating to sex/porn, including normal anatomy like "penis" or "clitoris". It …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 09:36 PM
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me neither - for now I am assigning this to bad algorithm and pc culture in schools instead of malice/ active manipulation on google's side but if it turns out to be a deliberate move, the incompetence behind making it so obvious yet so incomplete would be pretty hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 08:20 PM
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I already pointed out in my comment further down as well that typing the same thing in German gives you accurate results. At that time I was convinced of it being PC shit too btw but after a few more searches it started to seem less likely to me. You are ignoring the fact that every other combination of searching for inventors does not give you the same PC results though. "Famous inventors", "US inventors", any mofe specific field of "American -(scientific field) gives you an accurate depiction …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 07:48 PM
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I am aware that google skewes results for location, products, past search history etc. and it seems likely that they would als incude political opinnion. However this specific case of "american inventors" to me just screams bad algorithm / "helping" you becaus this combination of words is usually used for "african american -X" in searching for school papers instead of PC-police. Otherwise I would expect them to at least similarly "diversify" this and other lists with women, other ethnicities, as…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 07:30 PM
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It's like "white" and "american" both trigger the diversity-algorithm lol. If you search for just "couple", "couple woth child", "european couple" or "british couple" you just get white people. Even "caucasian couple" is surprisingly more accurate. But somehow for google "american" and "white" = black" and "interracial" Also I would like to point out that "german couple" gives you the most cartoonish, stereotypical drunk bavarians ever while the french, english and japanese get to just be normal…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 07:22 PM
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Google taking sides in the presidential elections seems more likely to me than intentionally putting only black inventors first but forgetting to do the same in other languages, with "famous inventors", foreign (european) inventors and any other american-(research field) that isn't usually assigned for projects in K-12 education. If they do this intentionally, they're doing a half-ass job. Also notably missing are female inventors as well as those of other ethnicities, giving me the impression t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 06:58 PM
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giving them the benefit of the doubt, there is a good chance that more people search for "African American inventors" specifically for school projects or whatever while for "general" inventors, they simply type "inventors"/"famous inventors" which gives you better results, resulting in the google algorithm assuming you want black ones when you specify "american". In other languages, the results for american inventors are more realistic, same goes for researching british/french/german inventors. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 06:34 PM
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That they are not interested in a relationship with me. Depending on what kind of person they are, how good I know them, what the current circumstances are, I might read more into it (they're just not into monogamy, it's the wrong time, I'm not attractive enough, they're interested insomeone else,...) but in the end, it just means there won't be a relationship soooo NEXT. I don't think I would be losing much sleep over it though. Unless it's a pattern where all or most dates end like this, it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 05:50 PM
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Emus man - have you not heard of the devastating wars in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 05:34 PM
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wtf is that a joke? o.O When searching for the exact same thing in German, you get Edison, Morse, Berliner and De Forest as top results and there is not a single black guy in the top-list (there are two white womem further in the back though) ....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 05:33 PM
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I rarely go to bars/clubs in the first place since I'm an introverted hermit but I don't really see a problem with it, unless they make it everyone's business by pointing it out over and over again (like an annoying vegan). Though the more important question here is weather or not you actually enjoy yourself in this setting without alcohol - especially if you're shy, it can be a social lubricant by reducing inhibitions, making you act more confident/ fun/ flirty with strangers. Someone who is al…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 07:21 AM
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MGTOW is bigger and more important on reddit because there are much more of "those" men here than women. The female equivalent is more a subset of tumblr's (radical-) feminists which I would say there are at least as many of as MGTOW, probably because the ideas have been present since at least second wave feminism. In the grand scheme of things, neither of them really matter though since they are too few to have an actual effect on the structure of our society and their primary motivation of goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 07:11 AM
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Being stuck in a cycle of negativity/ the self fulfilling prophecy of any relationship being doomed to fail and not being hopeless in ever attracting anyone/ anyone worthwhile. Often accompanied/ accelerated by actual metal illness such as depression and/or an anxiety disorder. Had a good friend in school who had a rough childhood resulting in trust issues. Those carried on into all of her relationships, be it platonic or romantic - scared of being hurt so she would avoid connections and retreat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 08:18 PM
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They hurt people by shooting them, not by hating them. OP isn't doing anything with his hate but suffering in silence and avoiding women. Unless he intends to off himself after making some randoms suffer with him, his hate affects no one as much as himself. Though it's debatable if he should aim to feel even worse to the point where he is suicidal and literally willing to die over some chicks calling him names. I am sure the world would be a better place without the molester but a less self dest…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 07:09 PM
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You can hate them, it is perfectly understandable for you to have those emotions, though you might want to look into what effect this is having on you. The women around you won't suffer much from you disliking them, especially not those who are actually responsible for what happened to you years ago (unless they are still near you in which case maybe you should call the police on the molester). The thing with hate is that it mostly affects you yourself negatively. It makes you relive those event…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 07:46 AM
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yup, same goes for crazy chicks unfortunately- guys will fawn all over them even if they're bipolar and violent, as long as they're beautiful. Physical attraction just overrides people's ability to judge character in many cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 09:58 AM
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I thought incels don't have gfs because they're too ugly/short/autistic, not because they show their feelings - no amount of stoicism will make them atttactive, just like a chad can be really emotional and still have women standing by his side. There is no inherent link between being incel and showing too many/ too little feelings. When you're attractive, you can be open about your feelings and it won't scare women away or disgust them. When you're ugly it doesn't matter what you do or say, you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 08:42 AM
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