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God damn, this is what I needed to hear. I’m sick of being a mopey little bitch
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 09:37 PM
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Kinda wanna fuck him tbh
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 05:56 AM
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I envy your friendship. Sounds like a true ride or die homie
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 04:41 AM
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Ah. I remember this conversation.. because it happened about one year and a month ago. I took the advice of this sub and got the fuck out almost immediately. Even my EW acted shocked at my immediacy. Packed my car up and moved back to my hometown. I’ve been divorced 10 months now
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 05:00 PM
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We’re here for you brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 05:48 PM
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After I caught her cheating, she told me she’s never been sexually attracted to me and even her highschool boyfriend pleased her better than I did. It’s been almost a year since d-day.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 08:56 AM
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This is inspiring. I’m 8 months post-DDAY and feel like I haven’t made the same strides. How did you make new friends? Friends sound awesome right about now
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 05:15 PM
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I worked out, got into therapy immediately, got closer to family, started reading, taking long walks, things like that. I have a girlfriend i met just 4 months after my divorce. Most here would say that’s too short, but I attribute my proactive “self-care” during and after my divorce to feeling ready for a new love interest
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 02:29 AM
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I appreciate the sentiment. But comparison is the thief of joy, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:51 PM
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Hey man. Same exact situation as you - down to age, the recent wife’s promotion and time we’ve been together. It happened 8 months ago for me. While I still have plenty to go, it gets better
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 01:54 AM
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Tell me more about this book
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 06:07 PM
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Makes sense. Congrats on the move
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 03:50 AM
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Like the islands?
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 03:49 AM
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Completely solo? Did you have a social circle there already?
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 03:22 AM
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Doesn’t it?! I spent some time in the PNW and my ex-wife didn’t like the rain so we weren’t there long. Thinking about moving back because I absolutely adore it up there. Maybe Seattle since it’s bigger and I reckon has more opportunities across the board. People talk about the Seattle freeze, but I’m not too worried. Frankly those are my types of people and I figure I’ll do fine if I focus on my career and outdoor hobbies
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 03:22 AM
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This is how mine started too. I made my intentions clear but she was obviously super into me and looking for something serious. I ended up falling pretty hard for her, justifying getting closer and even imagining a lifelong future with her. I totally lost myself. But now I’m waking up and my fucking god is it a rude awakening
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 09:34 PM
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Same story.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 09:41 PM
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Based
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 10:26 PM
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Love me a tattooed baddie
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 07:33 PM
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Thanks man. And amen to that!
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 07:22 PM
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Different strokes for different folks. People love throwing nuance out the window. I don’t disagree with your premise of figuring your shit out before jumping into anything serious again. But your prescribed timeline is completely arbitrary. You’re discounting the role various factors play in one’s healing journey, such as: reason for divorce, longevity of the marriage and divorce, investment in the marriage (was one foot already out the door?), kids, cordiality through the divorce, living situa…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 05:24 PM
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This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing. Being a now-single guy with no kids, I’ve been brainstorming moving out of state
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:21 AM
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Yeah I’m trying to do exactly this. Though I feel stuck and unsure of how to exactly go about learning myself. It’s an odd predicament
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 08:22 PM
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Pets are great. My XW took our dog, so I’m definitely missing the companionship
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 08:21 PM
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Love it man. Thanks for sharing. I’m a lifelong drummer but recently picked up guitar myself. I’m trying to truck through, but learning is hard and can frustrate me. I can do the basic chords and muck around on the pentatonic scale, but damn this instrument is complex
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 08:20 PM
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As a fellow drummer, I fully support this! I’ve always loved playing drums because you’re learning an instrument but also getting exercise!
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 08:19 PM
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This is lovely. I’ve actually be doing the same exact thing. Do you listen to podcasts or music or anything?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 06:52 PM
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That’s awesome man! When you say microdosing, how much are we talking? Like half a gram? Less? And do you know what kind of shrooms they are?
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 07:25 PM
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Nice man, thanks for the recs
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 06:43 PM
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Hellyeah!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 06:42 PM
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I do not
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 06:15 PM
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Would love to do this. Still living with a family member for the foreseeable future however, and they’re allergic to dogs :( Glad it’s helped you!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 05:21 PM
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Interesting. I was pretty into mushrooms a few years ago, and have been thinking about them again Though in my current state of mind with my recent divorce and all the chaos that is my life, I’m naturally quite scared lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 05:20 PM
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Sick!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 01:53 AM
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Great answer. What channels do you watch on YT? I’ve been doing the same
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 01:13 AM
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Hey man. D-Day was also 5 months ago for me and I just want to tell you, you’re not alone with this sentiment. I really relate to what you’re saying
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 06:55 PM
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I’m 5 months in and already dating a new girl who lets me fulfill all my wildest fantasies in the bedroom that my EW was too vanilla for Fear not, brothers. The only ring she’s getting is the one around my cock
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 03:09 AM
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You digging through my shit and harassing me is much more indicative of your character than my KT post is of mine. You’re a pathetic and sad little man. Looks like you deleted your comment. Typical beta coward. Why are you so afraid? That also explains your 0 post history. Go touch grass, nerd
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 08:50 PM
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Fuck. I’m so beyond sorry dude. That’s really tough. I sorta relate to what you’re saying with the humor stuff. My ex was actually the only real person in my life who shared my exact sense of humor as well. Now that she’s gone, that’s another void that has been created.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 09:17 PM
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Really appreciate this write up, man. Can I ask - what has self discovery looked like for you, in practical terms?
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 09:15 PM
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Hot
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 12:45 AM
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What about sex with men?
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 01:13 AM
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Of course my guy! Hugely appreciate you and all the homies in this sub 👊
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 03:56 PM
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What if I can confidently say I’m moved on from my ew?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:46 AM
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Same story brother - wife had an affair, and August was D-Day for me as well. Last month I met a wonderful woman and we’ve been seeing each other exclusively ever since. I originally set out to have some casual hookups in attempt to fully move on from my wife. And I totally did, but when I met this woman, things were just different. Regardless of what happens in this “relationship”, it’s been a wonderful experience and feeling desired again has been a game changer
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:37 AM
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I started dating someone a few months after D-Day (Separated in august). It wasn’t intentional - I was on the apps having casual hookups and when I met this girl, we just really clicked. She also recently got out of a LTR and wasn’t looking for anything either, so we both joke about how surprising this situation is for both of us. Everyone said not to, but it’s helped me move on and she’s super cool and understanding about my situation. There’s not a one-size-fits-all formula unfortunately Other…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 09:08 PM
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Can I ask why it’s important to be able to date multiple women simultaneously and for longer?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 09:05 PM
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I suppose my judgment could be uncalibrated
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 07:08 AM
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Interesting. It makes sense What you’re really talking about is “listening to your gut”, right? Or at least investigate the source of something if your gut is sending you weird signals. That’s how I’m reading it at least
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 03:47 AM
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Any advice on differentiating between the two?
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 07:00 PM
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Thanks man. Care to share the data points? Sounds like a good framework to keep in mind
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 06:18 PM
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Thanks for this advice. I don’t think I’m in a state of limerence, since I’m very aware of the risky territory I’m flirting with. I’m agonizing over if I should continue this or not, and I’m not merely obsessed with her or anything like that. She’s a great time, but I possess the fortitude to cut it off any second. The question is if this is the right thing to do or not
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 06:14 PM
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I’m sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 03:30 AM
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Can you elaborate how your EW fucked it up?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 01:31 AM
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Thanks for this man! I’m a couple months post divorce and have dated a few different women casually at this point. I recently met a new woman on Saturday and I feel myself falling for her a bit, and it honestly freaks me tf out. I really don’t want another relationship anytime soon, so are my own emotions just fucking with me? Haha it’s sort of a rhetorical question. But your comment seemed to resemble some of what I’m going through at the moment, so thanks again
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 07:08 PM
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How did it turn out? I’m in your position as of this past weekend
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 10:38 AM
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I’d imagine for you, yes. My process went much faster. Only a couple months. The hardest for me was moving on after things were finalized (and I will likely be in this rut for awhile) But id imagine being stuck in it for so long would make the finalization much more impactful than it was for me
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 06:51 PM
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Same boat brother. I think it’s the same way with video games. Like, I want to enjoy music, gaming etc, but how the fuck am I supposed to when my life is such a mess? I’m the type of person who needs order in life before I can enjoy hobbies. Or at least hobbies that require some creativity or problem solving
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 08:20 PM
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Solidarity brother 👊 I’m a musician too and my instruments are still in the damn moving boxes. I’m a shell of who I was. But I know we will make it to the other side someday, even if it seems impossible right now (and for awhile, probably)
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 06:20 PM
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Hang in there brother, we’re in this together
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:34 PM
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Thanks man, this is reassuring. And congrats on your awesome life! It’s inspiring
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:28 PM
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Thanks so much, everyone. You guys are the real deal
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 06:37 AM
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Fuck yeah. Needed this
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 06:35 AM
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Thanks man. I know what you’re saying is true, it’s just so hard to see any light right now
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 11:53 PM
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Oh word, 100%. I’m in the process of sorta looking for FWB types, on the apps. But honestly I just have no motivation to even go on a date, even if I really wanted to. My libido is certainly kicking in lately but I think I’m just really depressed or something
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 10:24 PM
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Thanks man, this is all great advice. What does LTR mean?
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 10:14 PM
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Thanks man, this is motivating.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 08:03 AM
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Wouldn’t even know how to meet a woman rn
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 12:17 AM
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I mean it sounds like you’re quite accomplished and talented man. You should be proud. I lived in the PNW for years. I want to move back - that’s one things I’ve been thinking about. But since things are so fresh still, I think it’s best for me to be around some family/friends/familiarity. Seriously though, congrats on your accomplishments and motivations. You seem like a high asset to ladies everywhere
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 11:09 PM
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Ok so your advice is jump into another relationship
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:48 PM
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Hey man. I just joined a DivorceCare group in the west valley. Pretty sure they have groups on the east side too. Check out their website and put in your zip code. Had my first session last night. Now, it IS a religious organization. I didn’t know this, and I myself am an atheist. However, very little religious content was actually involved. We opened in prayer and a few times the leader said to lean on god etc. but most of the topics/material is practical psychological advice. I’m not the only …
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:51 PM
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Thanks man. Appreciate your encouraging words. And I’m so sorry for what you went through. We deserve better
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:44 PM
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I second this. Women do not have to constantly prove their value to men. A typical dude (me at least, anyway) will be madly in love with a woman if she’s loyal, kind, and….. that’s about it really. Men on the other hand? We have to constantly be improving ourselves mentally, physically, and financially. If we start to slack in one of these areas, the woman will look elsewhere for someone more “alpha”.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 04:32 PM
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Interesting. Can you expand on this?
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:41 PM
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Yeah he’s definitely a close buddy of mine. He’s all but excommunicated his sister too. Dude is a homie
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 05:22 AM
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It really boggles the mind. Can’t help but thing, how can I EVER know if my future partner is actually being truthful? Will I ever be able to trust again? Who fucking knows
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 05:11 AM
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You reap what you sow. You rightfully lost a good partner because you cheated. Congratulations. You’re not getting him back, because you don’t deserve him. Hell, you don’t deserve anyone who possesses an ounce of honesty or loyalty. And you’re not sorry for what you did, you’re just bummed you got caught. You view your boyfriend as a security apparatus and nothing else, because you are likely deeply insecure. You depend on him because you can’t depend on yourself. Okay but if you actually want a…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 02:01 AM
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Can you break that down for me? I'm quite a bit newer to this world than you and prob most here (I'm very recently divorced) Can you tell me a bit about what makes positive non-verbals, vibe, etc., versus negative?
/r/seduction08/10/23 09:27 PM
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This strikes at the core of something I’ve been thinking about lately, would love yours or anyone’s thoughts: What if one’s approach was authentic, without being self-deprecating, but absurdly transparent? Example. “Hey. I’m not gonna lie, I hate the whole PUA scene and I think most first-liners I could use here would be contrived and tacky. I’d rather just talk like a normal human. How are you?” Or something with the same idea but less wordy.
/r/seduction08/10/23 08:57 PM
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Where have you met women? My divorce is wrapping up and I’m about ready to leave the tent
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:13 PM
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I really appreciate this post because it reads like a cautionary tale for my exact position. My divorce is finalizing and I’d love to have some quick shags, but I’m afraid of falling into this trap
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:49 PM
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And my axe
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 01:59 PM
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Fuckyeah, needed to read this. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 08:34 PM
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Bingo on all accounts
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 07:22 AM
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This is my situation
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 04:53 AM
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How long did it take between your separation and getting back out into the dating world ?
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 07:33 AM
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Amen
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 04:28 PM
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Yeah I can’t find anything on this
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 05:16 AM
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Keep that between the HOMIES bro
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 08:17 PM
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