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| 3 | Friendship dynamic between men and womenYeah people can lie but there is some form of attraction behind friendships with the opposite sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Friendship dynamic between men and womenI've noticed that girls won't make an effort with you if they don't find you attractive on some level. I've had no girls who are friends for this reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Besides sex, do you even like women?I think it's a good but loaded question. I don't think women have ever given me the chance to like them. They are always guarded in my experience. The few who have not been like that I genuinely like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 06:08 PM |
| 5 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?Looks maxing does nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Do you see any correlation between men’s ability to attract platonic bonds and his ability to attract romantic bonds?I have many male friends(although not all that close) but terrible with romantic relationships and female friends in general actually. We just don't click. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Is there actually a point working out?My decent looking is on the back of working out. That's my point it doesn't make a difference unless you have exceptional genetics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Is there actually a point working out?You can't change bones | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Is there actually a point working out?I'm five foot 8 with a terrible frame. I get height logged everywhere. If I stand beside a fat guy who isn't a neckbeard just eats a lot I get mogged to oblivion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 10:14 PM |
| 3 | CMV: If you're contented being single, then a romantic partner/relationship is already redundant.The you have to be content alone sorts don't really get the idea that you don't have to be perfect to be in a relationship and even at your best, relationships will endure tough times. You can be flawed and be and find love. However for some it seems that this doesn't work. They(we) have to reach a level of perfection before we are worthy. We just don't fall into relationships the way others do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 01:00 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).To be fair I did begin with the word sadly. I am having a hard time of late. I've never wanted a relationship more and have experienced a pretty brutal rejection recently where I feel completely rejected. It's like I have no hope of finding that person and this thread is in response to that. The guys I know who have girls obsessed with them completely objectify the girls they're with. Meanwhile me who leads with romanticism can't get anyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 09:41 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).The guys I know who do well with girls dont put too much stock into them as people, they're interest in them is to bang them. They don't treat them bad but the sexual attraction is what keeps them invested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 05:27 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).It's not treating them like shit but as a prize to be won. Objectifying doesn't mean treating them bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 05:25 PM |
| -5 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).What I an saying is that a lot of guys who are successful are because they objectify women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 05:24 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).I'm just toying with the idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?That's what I mean. I can understand guys with bravado and gusto being fun to be around and I can see why girls are attracted to them but I don't see why they tend to have the monopoly over girls the way that they do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?But I've never been abused. I just don't get girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?Great Post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 06:35 PM |
| 5 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?Is it the bare minimum though? I contend that niceness is damaging more so than anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?Sounds like me. Just know that it's not our fault. We're jovial sorts who love hanging out but we aren't great at leading it. I wouldn't be as obliging and passenger like as the guys you describe but I'd be mostly laid back about things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 04:47 PM |
| 6 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?But why is it weak? Its just a personality trait. Why do you need to be peacocking to get interest? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?But its not about being a doormat IMO. Most interpersonal relationships don't revolve around conflict. You won't notice if someone is a doormat till later. Being nice is an energy more so then behaviours imo and the enetgy seems to not be attractive to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 04:00 PM |
| 1 | "just be a good person" and other stupid shit that people give as adviceThe problem with the advicebis that it actually hinders you. I know average guys that get girls/women but they wouldn't get them if they were good wholesome guys. Being unpredictable, brash, reckless all have helped them get girls that they otherwise wouldn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 01:37 PM |
| 6 | Men should appreciate better what porn has done for themCringe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 05:41 PM |
| 1 | A lot of you people don't understand what personality isI disagree tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Where do you recommend meeting women?I'd choose irl everytime but I don't think it's better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Where do you recommend meeting women?Will it? I find on the apps people are judging you through a romantic lens. In normal life I just get lost in the mix but on the apps I do pretty well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Are women hornier in a different way than men?In the officr I work in the girls always talk about hot guys in the office. The guys I work with don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 06:13 PM |
| 7 | The "Nice Guy" is a scapegoatIMO, the nice guy is too broad a term. I think there is a type of guy who will find relationships hard despite having high levels of empathy and otherwise desirable traits for a relationship. My take is that there is a lot of responsibility dating a nice guy and girls have been conditioned to not be the ones who hurt the guy as all songs are about how the aloof Chad hurts the girl. I think it's the breakdown in the traditional dichotomy between the sexes that hurts guys like this. I believe the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 01:42 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe based on lived experience, but would get down voted to all hell if you said it?Neither thanks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/22 11:21 PM |
| -1 | Women tell men to stick to their league, but women are attracted to one type of men - those out of their leagueNobody owes anyone anything. Attraction is attraction. There's nothing just or fair about it. You're attracted to what you're attracted to. You decide the trade off. Go after someone who is your exact type or lonely. There's nothing wrong with that. Everyone is free to do what they want and are also entitled to moan that people they like don't like them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 11:26 PM |
| 2 | What's the appeal of the bad boy?Not true. Guys want to be there for girls they wouldn't run away(if they like you) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 08:06 PM |
| 1 | What's the appeal of the bad boy?Yeah bad boy is a swag and deamnour, not some hardened drug dealer. It's the opposite of the nice guy however for some reason the price bad guy does well but the nice guy doesn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 08:04 PM |
| 1 | It is just harder and therefore lonely and sad for a lot of guysOkay, I still contend its completely overstated here. Females is a neutral term, there was no bad intentions in my use of the word in the opening post. Signalling it out is stupid. Context is important. In the same sentence I wrote males when referring to men. I could day guys or lads but girls don't have the same collective word to describe them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 03:51 PM |
| -1 | It is just harder and therefore lonely and sad for a lot of guysWill you stop. Females is used to refer to women and girls. I'm 33 so feels weird saying girls and women seems too formal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 03:25 PM |
| 1 | It is just harder and therefore lonely and sad for a lot of guysI realised there's no ill will or good will involved. Life just is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 01:24 PM |
| 1 | From an evolutionary psychology perspective, why do men willingly choose to prop up other men?Someone said I looked like him so I wanted to see. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/22 01:42 PM |
| 1 | I hear a lot of people say that women "aren't rocket science" When it comes to dating. I disagree wholeheartedly.It can seem that way but it's your mind playing tricks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/22 03:25 AM |
| 0 | Are most men with women that they are not physically attracted to?yeah it isn't personal for me. That same person I'd smile at and hold open a door and chat to them but the thoughts of them in a sexual context elicits such anger in me. Interesting that's what you feel with the old pervs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 09:35 PM |
| 0 | Are most men with women that they are not physically attracted to?Stupid choice of words but they fill me with a disgust feeling. I think it's an internal thing though because it's like I fear this is what I'd have to settle with if I was to settle. I concede that and it's a horrible way to view the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Are most men with women that they are not physically attracted to?Most people rightly are slaves to biology and will compromise but some of us just don't care that much. It has to feel right. We just don't feel strong attraction to most people. Like I love hot girls but I don't want a hot girl who I have no in with. I hate ugly girls so have no time to be with one. Everyone is different. Some people are more stubborn and selective. Some peopl3 just want to be loved at all costs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 07:46 PM |
| 1 | From an evolutionary psychology perspective, why do men willingly choose to prop up other men?Yeah I've noticed this too. But status can be local. In my country rugby is put on a pedestal and while the players aren't celebrities it's actually worse because they are just like elevated normies. At least with celebrities they live in their own bubble but these rugby guys exist as part of the overall society | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 03:01 PM |
| 1 | From an evolutionary psychology perspective, why do men willingly choose to prop up other men?Look at athletes. We give athletes status by investing in their careers and idolising them. This allows these athletes to climb the social hierarchy and gives the athletes access to riches(sometimes), social status and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 02:55 PM |
| 3 | When men ask “why do we have to do the pursuing”, show them this. It’s not women’s fault. It’s how we are wired. Evolutionary example:Nature is brutal. Genuinely feel for the peacock here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 10:41 AM |
| -1 | "Men only notice attractive women". Is this really true?Well by the very definition you notice people you consider attractive. I am pretty harsh I have to say but if a girl is slim and well out together she'll probably at least catch my eye. Too many girls are fat though or just unshaped whether through genetics, not caring or a combination of both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 08:59 PM |
| 3 | bluepillers completely misinterpret social statusYeah Reddit hsd this weird coping mechanism where they think people can ring-fence certain environments. No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 09:58 PM |
| -3 | bluepillers completely misinterpret social statusAm 33. I just think localised social status is so important. I was at a work function with some female co workers(younger than me) and they were gushing over the actuary guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 07:50 PM |
| 0 | bluepillers completely misinterpret social statusAstute | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 06:30 PM |
| 0 | bluepillers completely misinterpret social statusDepends where you're from man. In my area everybody lifts. Lifting is just a basic requirement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 06:12 PM |
| 0 | bluepillers completely misinterpret social statusSee the thing is not all averages are created equal. It's a micro battle of social status where every little bit counts. You could have two guys who look to have average staus but in women's mind they are calculating and deducting their own and the guys social status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 06:10 PM |
| -3 | bluepillers completely misinterpret social statusYeah but I'd argue after a certain point it's hard to claw back. You really want to be getting into this stuff early. Lifting is different but I'm a bit pessimistic about lifting and it's role in attraction. Frame is probably more important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 06:08 PM |
| -1 | The reason average men struggle to physically attract girls is because its only exceptional traits that even begin to arouse a woman, let alone not repulse themWomen are definitely visually stimulated. It's often bizarre the type of guys they like though. Its more physical, girls will really only comment on big rugby looking guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 01:59 PM |
| 2 | This subreddit is 9 years old. How has it changed?I'd imagine it might have embraced the reality that average girls don't have it great either. The problem though is that average girls tend to be girls who just don't stay in good shape for whatever reason. Any slim girl be it through exercise or luck will generally be considered attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/22 10:24 PM |
| 0 | Women: What are manners you look for in men you are dating?People on reddit always give such a skewed insight into how most women think. Most guys I know who do well are just sort of loud, funny, irreverent. Earnest guys don't get the girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/22 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Do men lie about their physical preferences in women?Hahahah luke combes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/22 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Do men lie about their physical preferences in women?Meh a fat but non neckbeard big guy can pull hot women imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 11:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: one simple trick to not have a shitty relationshipYeah exactly synthesised perfectly. Moat guys wouldn't even think like this though because they're irrational too and will partake in the drama just enough without losing frame so as to placate this need. It's a soci dance that lots of people do unknowingly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 07:40 PM |
| 5 | Where did the ‘nice guy phenomenon come from?Great Post. This is a huge factor. My dad was a jovial yet serious person. He wasn't like your dad but he had that charm you speak of. The problem was that he suffered with whether or not he was a good person and while he was a slave to his impulses and character he could make his son not turn out like him. But he went too extreme and overly emphasises the importance of being a good boy. This was the highest thing I could aspire to in his eyes because to him success and failure were always close… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | CMV: one simple trick to not have a shitty relationshipPeople are not rational. Lots of people don't want to be happy, at least all of the time. Anger is always irrational but we are irrational. A rational relationship is a dead one unless the girl has been so badly burnt that she just enjoys the boring consistency of a stable relationship. Girls like to moan and batch about their boyfriends, girls only leave beta guys. A girl will put up with a lot of shit from someone she has given the green light to initially as long as he holds frame. Lots of gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 07:12 PM |
| 6 | Where did the ‘nice guy phenomenon come from?Probably reflection of their parents values or something. My dad by his account anyway was a ladies man in his 20's and I always feel had a desire to experience the thrill of being with the opposite sex.However as he got older he was ashamed of some of the stuff he'd done which I gather wasn't all that bad tbh but he probably wasn't as loyal as he could be. The problem was he took it one step too far with me and over the years conditioned me to think that being nice was what you need to be. That… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 05:23 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Dating for hetrosexual men isn't about getting a girl it's about finding someone who you are compatible itI agree with you. Could be true for the poster but even then, he wants someone who is similar enough to him that he's bothered with their things and perspectives. Very few people are so open as to want to be with somebody completely different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 05:15 PM |
| 1 | When Red Pill groups and general manosphere spaces talk about how hard it is for men like them to get matches/attention on dating apps, why do they never bring up the gender ratio of users on those apps?If it was Chris Brown they probably would | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 02:55 PM |
| 1 | When Red Pill groups and general manosphere spaces talk about how hard it is for men like them to get matches/attention on dating apps, why do they never bring up the gender ratio of users on those apps?Women do not like men like that or want men like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Weird ass question, but why don’t women like to be treated like objects?A hot girl won't want to be called hot but an average girl probably will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 11:33 PM |
| 1 | What is a "bad personality," and how do women automatically know you have one before you even talk to them?Yeah Reddit has this odd idea that having endless amounts of hobbies is what makes someone interesting. It's not sadly. Most people's hobbies become one dimensional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 06:56 PM |
| 1 | What is a "bad personality," and how do women automatically know you have one before you even talk to them?Personality is just how you project yourself to the world. Some guys are boring but have an energy while some guys are interesting but don't emit that energy. Whatever that it is, is ultimately the deciding factor if a guy is attractive for his personality or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 06:13 PM |
| 0 | Good looking men are more confident than their counterparts as a result of positive re-enforcementYeah plenty on insecure people ooze charisma. It's more than confidence, it's energy. I don't think it's looks, maybe masculinity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 10:49 PM |
| 2 | What kind of man pays Rich Cooper $1,000 an hour for 'coaching'?I also think with that type of business model you just need to get one or two lovers, gullible.peoplw with the money to just give it a go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/22 04:12 PM |
| 1 | What kind of man pays Rich Cooper $1,000 an hour for 'coaching'?Most guys have the ability to be a simp but paying for Rich Cooper personal consultations or some Only Fans page is bordering on insanity. I think people do it because they either just enjoy seeing what their money can do or they have so much self hatred that they get off on worshipping some girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/22 04:10 PM |
| 1 | "Status" is probably the most overblown and ambiguous RP concept for attracting women.I will trust you. It does seem a lot of women get over/don't experience it as much as some women do who never really get over that 13 year old fascination with celebrity stage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 03:23 PM |
| 7 | "Status" is probably the most overblown and ambiguous RP concept for attracting women.I don't know if that's so true tbh. I'm also not saying hot girls/women get to set the agenda but to be fair, the women these guys get are probably top percentile. So it's a little bit coincidental that hot girls get with status gods if it's a case that status isn't important. Obviously for lots of women it's not as blatant as this and there's a particular type of women with a particular look who will proactively chase this kinda guy but I'm convinced these guys status would captivate just about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Being boring, uninteresting, not having a lot of things to talk about, not having hobbies, etc can be a bigger turn off than being ugly.Some people just have a wait of convincing people that their life and experience matters. My friend isn't a great storyteller and says the same generic shit all the time but his extroversion shines through and he manages to get attention. Other people could do the most interesting things and then just compartmentalise it . It's not that they didn't love or care about what they did they just don't have that same ability to make things seem "epic". It's interesting and I'm genuinely curious as to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 07:02 PM |
| 8 | How do people date nowadays?It happens mostly through social circle, with the exception of my sis, anyone who has met someone on OLD it still is just a person in their wider social circle. This doesn't mean people are saying 'have you met my friend such and such' and setting people up, just that people are meeting in the same vicinity as their social group and they foten overlap | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Should your standards be set internally based on what you want and how you see yourself or should they be based on the results you are getting and how others may see you?The guy should go for what he finds attractive but the invisible hand decides his faith. It's not because of the benevolence of the becky, stacy or lisa that some relationship is formed but out of the mutual selfishness to get the best that they can get. The type of people who tell the 'ugly' guy to settle just don't want to face up the chaos and harshness of dating dynamics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/22 06:59 PM |
| 6 | Your Personality is NOT the problem women here are making it to bethose pertaining to /r/TheBluePill and This is a really good post. In a way what might help us deal with women's pickiness is to imagine a world where girls weren't like that. It would be terrible imo. The yin and yang of romance/male and female dynamics works because of how different both sides are. It's shite when you don't experience the good sides of this but if and when you do it makes it worth it. I think guys and maybe they're not wrong is falling into the beleif that if one girl doesn't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 05:43 PM |
| 5 | Jealousy drives much of the resentment displayed herePeople just want to feel like they matter, that their solipsism will be confirmed back to them, stop trying to make it something else. People are sad, lonely and feel unworthy and love with someone they deem desirable promises salvation. They idolise those who seem to have what they crave on tap and yet can dispose of it without a care in the world. Chad just represents the superman if you want to go Neitzhche on it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Emotional Men (Ye or Nay) - Be HonestDepends on how it's framed. A masculine alpha motional guy is a thrill, a beta emotional guy is a turn off. All depends on perception. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 10:17 PM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereyour problem is trying to take what people are saying at face value. people are sad and just creating a narrative, all we all want is just for someone to like us, to experience relationships and companionship and romance and not to feel like we're shit. That's the crux of the debate on the forum everything else is just fluff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 08:29 PM |
| 2 | What Is The Biggest Risk Factor That Someone Will Still Be A Virgin By 30? (Not By Choice)Why does reddit always use the extreme example? The guy is always lowest percentile and the girls are always Instagram types. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 08:12 PM |
| 1 | What issues do you actually feel for women about?The same challenges apply to women as men it's just there's more scope for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 05:22 PM |
| 5 | How did people even meet and start dating before the existence of dating apps?mainstream past 10 years. by 2012/2013 they were common but still interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 08:41 PM |
| 2 | A man should never act like he cares so much about the relationshipHow does that work? How can you even gauge this? Do you give them a questionnaire or somethin | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 01:25 AM |
| 3 | A man should never act like he cares so much about the relationshipYeh it ruins the relationship dynamic. Not all guys just want to pump and dump but this is the kinda guy girls want to hold down. If you aren't this type of guy and seem relationship ready Ive got some bad news for you bud | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 01:24 AM |
| 1 | A man should never act like he cares so much about the relationship32 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Have you seen a handsome and successful man struggling in his romantic/sexual relationships?Nobody noticeablely good looking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about nicenessNiceness is probably the number one thing I like in a women but there's plenty of nice women I know and it makes me like them as people but doesn't alter my attraction towards them. I imagine for women it's even lower in their estimation. The guy who is caricaturely nice might get away with it if he's good looking enough but in general people like others with a bit of an edge. Even my sis who was mourning the death of our dad was getting into a relationship and at the start she talked excessivel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:45 PM |
| -2 | A man should never act like he cares so much about the relationshipGood sex and being cool to be around. It's an energy you create. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 07:20 PM |
| -1 | A man should never act like he cares so much about the relationshipIt can backfire but most relationships do. The successful one's that I know of are when the girl knows the guy has the personality and ability to cheat but won't do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.That's so interesting and exactly captures my experience. In a way I don't mind it, the rules are less confusing than Europe/America but can be disheartening when you're so used to being one way but they value something completely. different. I actually noticed in the few times I've been in Bulgaria since my relationship ended that you don't necessarily see the better looking guys with hot girls. Where you from man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Are women attracted to ambition or results?I didn't say that I just meant that the jobs specified particularly life guard is a particular type of job and working in it has positive associations. A lot of the time a lfie guard does sweet fuck all but its a job that gets respect even though they're twiddling their thumbs most of the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Are women attracted to ambition or results?Lifeguard to me is a high status job with positive associations and tradesmen are traditionally masculine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Are women attracted to ambition or results?That's a very extreme example; what about someone just plodding along living their life like the vast majority of the billions who inhabit the globe. There's no salvation in 'pursuing your passions', some people have some interests and talents that are rewarded by our capitalist regime but the vast majority just have to get up in the morning to pay the bills. The problem with attraction is that it seems to be tied into this idea that everyone is just one idea from being the next Jeff Bezo's with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 11:29 PM |
| 4 | Are women attracted to ambition or results?Results in a field that are valued by society/the capitalist system. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 11:26 PM |
| 3 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Maybe cultural(my ex was from the Balkans but an educated girl) and I always remember her saying part of what she found sort of a turn on was that I could look like an asshole to others and nice to her. It made no sense because literally the one thing I'm known for is being a nice guy but in her fantasy projection I was this type of guy. As she knew more about it or just broke out of the projection every so so often, she always mentioned how she couldn't believe how nice I was and I think it rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Woman of PPD: can you give an example of a man who is overweight or obese who you find attractive?Some fat guys get girls; my friend is fat but tall and big and gets hot petite girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 08:25 PM |
| 8 | Guys cannot claim they have low standards if they wont date overweight women.This is some bogus hypothesis even for this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Redditors always say treat women like people and not objects to be won but the way dating has gone encourages this sort of thinkingIt still doesn't change the fact that a man pulling a women in effect is a conquest. Yes relaitonships tend to feel less like this but often a conquest will develop into a relationship. But redditors act like this is abomination even though women are complicit in this dynamic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/22 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Redditors always say treat women like people and not objects to be won but the way dating has gone encourages this sort of thinkingYeah true. Redditors mean the best and I don't have any Ill towards then but they view the world through a very optimistic lens in my opinion. Reddit will in general have much more introspective people than the rest of the population, especially women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/22 10:29 AM |
| -2 | Redditors always say treat women like people and not objects to be won but the way dating has gone encourages this sort of thinkingIt's not really what am saying to be fair. I just think the discourse we use to describe the opposite sex is encouraged by the way women select for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/22 10:29 AM |
| -2 | How addictive is the alpha male gaze to women?Alpha male is a real thing to enough people. In before some absolute Reddit spastic says that the study was debunked in wolves. Okay, well it applies to humans not wolves then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Well funded audio-based dating apps have all flopped. That's proof that personality isn't as important as people say it isIt's more complicated than that. Like yourself, I dunno, maybe, there's something else at play. I think a lack of self-awareness really helps with women. There must be a high correlation between introspection and poor success with the opposite sex. I don't know why that is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 12:42 PM |
| 2 | What would your recommended course of action be for a man in a similar situation?I don't know if standards are an issue; at that height you're looking to find a unicorn so you might as well just go after people you find attractive and hope somehow they had a childhood that means when they see a small little man it resonates with them and they feel 'home' in his presence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menYeah. I agree. There's nothing that can come of it. Someone equated this with the feminist movement lol. It is a completely different dynamic outside of human judgement, morals and persuasions. Because some women reply on here, Red Pillers and others act as if there is a collective 'womanhood' to fight against as if you all convene to analyse and discuss your preferences. Some women do seem to take up this role on here and try to act as if there is an overall fairness to the game but there is no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 11:05 AM |
| 16 | Well funded audio-based dating apps have all flopped. That's proof that personality isn't as important as people say it isOne thing that Reddit(not the red pill) gets so wrong is this idea that 'good personality' men invariably do well while bad personality men do not. The problem is there are many personality types that would be considered good but still struggle to attract women. It's not so much you need to have a good personality, just one that meshes well with the female mind. I'd say the biggest thing is to not be nice. Niceness is like the worst thing you can do to attract a women, it just relegates you to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 10:21 AM |
| 3 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menUgly seems to be what they refer to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 09:50 AM |
| 12 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menLife is complicated. I was dumped for not being controlling enough, as the doors said People are arrange. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 12:43 AM |
| 12 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menHalo Effect is incredible, even when you know its there you just can't help but imagine it like a movie romance. There's a calmness that comes from that sort of relationship that doesn't exist for the average guy, most of the time it's like fight or flight because attraction can turn off like a switch and you know there's always some other guy just around the corner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 12:34 AM |
| 12 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menHot guys have better relationships and are probably better partners to be fair. Scarcity is not good the mind and can lead to problems. There's no better relationship than a hot successful couple because both have done as well as they can do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 12:23 AM |
| 14 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menI've seen it myself. Tbf jerks just means someone who isn't noticeablely a nice person. Most of these jerks are fine but I wouldn't call them particularly friendly or good people. They have an arseholey aura though which is what I mean by jerk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 12:22 AM |
| 115 | Women are absolutely clueless as to how much more difficult dating is for menThis is honestly getting boring to read. We all need to disconnect. There's no justice fairy who is going to ring a bell and say 'you know what, the red pill men are right, women you now have to accept that men have it tougher in dating'. Most people are just living out their lives without a narrative; girls go after hot guys and jerks and dump good guys not because of some collective hive mind but because individually this makes sense, is fun, gives them fulfilment, adds drama, whatever, there'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Conflicting desires about wanting women with ‘standards’We need to be clear about what a hot women is? Is it a bonafide knock out or just girls with good figures with varying levels of facial cuteness/prettiness ? It's so hard to know what people are referring to. My sis for whatever reason struggles with weight, she is a good looking girl and can carry it well but she could definitely be lighter. She puts such a premium on slim petite girls so even a decent looking girl is inflated in her mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 04:40 PM |
| 0 | The average man does not "overestimate" his own attractivenessWomen with conventional good looks(and the bar is low, just slim and fit) don't have body issues. Flumpy girls who overeat/don't exercise have body issues and rightly so. Any girl I know who had a good figure was happy to show if off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 04:24 PM |
| 16 | The average man does not "overestimate" his own attractivenessSee part of the bullshit of love is this idea that it's two kindred spirits coming together for no other reason than some intrinsic essence causing each one to attract. When it's put out on the table we can all see the bullshit that is love. Lots of people never have to consider their attractiveness; they just get into relationships and that's that. This allows them to fuel themselves with the lie and myth on which love is built on. And I've been guilty of it too. When it works, it's lovely howe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Conflicting desires about wanting women with ‘standards’That depends on the standards we hold people to. My pictures are up here. I consider myself to be a solid 5.5-6. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Conflicting desires about wanting women with ‘standards’People want to feel valued by people they deem to be valuable. I don't find the most gorgeous girls the ones I like the most but I do find conventionally attractive girls attractive, I want a girl who I feel is my match, that's it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Regarding rising 'sexlessness,' percentage of young people who've never had sex or a relationship do you think have never even made an effort?The problem is some of us are turned on by different things. It is very rare I'll be so compelled to ask someone out because of their looks. I consider myself really superficial but there has to be more than looks but looks are a pre-requisite for interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 08:24 PM |
| 2 | What's the difference between men and women who do enjoy dating, and those who don't?I am social but I don't enjoy how forced a date is. I'd prefer to just meet someone and have fun with them, too much pressure just sitting there and having to find commonality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 05:49 PM |
| 17 | Do most women acknowledge the fact they have very high standards and that the man they want probably has way less and doesn’t ask for much from a woman?I'd love to know what the bassline reference point for these men with lofty expectations is? Is it Mountain dew drinking live in moms basement types or just relatively average guys who care about how they look, workout, studied, work a decent job etc. It seems there is such extremes and people talk in such hyperbole on here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 03:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider the ideal body (for the sexes you're attracted to)?Just be slim. Height I am ambivalent about; my ex was 5'3'' and I am 5'8'' and I liked that as time went on and there was a certain harmony to the heights I felt but I liked her for her aura and face. I've liked girls taller. I don't think I'd go for shorter but then that's just in theory. I kissed a girl taller than me before, didn't look weird in person IMO. Again just be slim. I don't like the Kim K look or variations of it. However, I'd be attracted to it on some level, it just isn't me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 10:31 PM |
| 4 | What is your advice for the underwhelming man?Girls love pugs until they have to kiss one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Is it true that women get their hearts broken by good-looking men in their youth and then settle down with nice average looking guys when they're done with the toxicity?The less good looking the guy is the less power he has. Good looking guys can decide their destiny; be a good guy or fuck girls over. An average guy has to put up with what is available. It's why better looking people are better partners. Think about crime, areas where there is much scarcity experience more crime. Like society, there will be more fractures where there is more scarcity which average guys deal with. It contributes to bad relationships and average guys are demonised for having phys… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 02:41 PM |
| 1 | New book "Don't Trust Your Gut" summarizes who OLD works for, and who it doesn'tHeight over face imo. Status and face side by side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 12:58 AM |
| 2 | New book "Don't Trust Your Gut" summarizes who OLD works for, and who it doesn'tWell tbh we have to define our own parameters and it's a bit sad if we can be so swayed. I like shorter girls because I am five foot 8 and I just think it looks good if the girl is 5'3-5'5 but I am still attracted to taller girls than that. That's just my general idea that sounds right in my head in theory but practice is completely different. I don't think attraction can be captured in something like height. It doesn't reveal anything. It's not like I pre-select for girls in that height range a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 12:55 AM |
| 2 | What makes guys want to take a girl seriously?Wholesomeness. I've actually seen girls go from being wholesome to much more harsh when a relationship is secured. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 11:13 PM |
| 1 | New book "Don't Trust Your Gut" summarizes who OLD works for, and who it doesn'tTBF this is a bit Americancentric and doesn't apply to us in Europe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 11:03 PM |
| 3 | New book "Don't Trust Your Gut" summarizes who OLD works for, and who it doesn'tHeight is such bullshit as well. It doesn't even look good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 10:13 PM |
| 17 | New book "Don't Trust Your Gut" summarizes who OLD works for, and who it doesn'tLook not all women are the enemy and this thread will go down the usual route of 'well it's just OLD, people have preferences, it's not the real world, they have to filter somehow' but this is stark. Dan Ariely, a reputed academic is publishing results on this stuff. This stuff is brutal and it's becoming more common knowledge. Perhaps this will cause women to become more introspective or maybe it will only further perpetuate the 'tall is good' bias because right now the internet is turning tall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Where are all the good looking people IRL?It is rare tbf. The most beautiful tend to be beautiful in flashes but there's times where they're just regular people. I don't know why but it's like you could get a Chad but put him in some unremarkable surrounding and he'll be unremarkable. However, have him hit the town later that day and he'll be in the cubicle at the hottest club in town getting blown by some thot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 08:32 PM |
| 6 | So called "post-wall" women are even harder to attractIt's harder as you get older. I don't know where the alternative view comes from. The stakes are much higher which inevitably makes it a much bigger deal and because many are risk averse, it's better to do nothing and maintain order than possibly bring about chaos. Never EVER ever waste your youth 18-25(maybe 30, which tbh isn't a lot of time) are KEY. After that, just get used to whatever life you have or end it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 04:12 PM |
| 31 | Should you show your weaknesses & vulnerabilities to women that you are dating?It's not so simple. I always feel compelled to give brutal realisation awakening answers but I think that belies the reality and says more about my insecurities/worldview than what things are like. However, vulnerability has to be combined with respect. The girl has to have respect for you, if she grows not to then your vulnerability will be weak. You don't gain respect by being virtuous, it can be but not necessarily. You might be a guy that can get many girls, you might be rich, you might be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 02:38 PM |
| 6 | The PPD claim that only idiots are influenced in relationships by romcoms and the media is completely wrongYeah I remember my friends used to say I looked like Mosby as an insult and watching it back years later, at his best, the guy is a really good looking dude(by 2005 standards). Maybe they were secretly complimenting me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 01:52 PM |
| 2 | If a girl is gonna have casual sex, what kind of guy and why?People say that to men all the time, in fact men always put women on a pedestal. I remember with my friends you would be ridiculed for saying you liked a girl that was absolutely your own level of attractiveness because she'd 'never go for you'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 10:12 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on lying about sexual inexperience to avoid a catch 22?Has ruined my relationships. Thankfully my ex, as much as I dislike her as a person now(I don't really but I have a lot of resentment for the relationshop ending) was loyal(after much deliberation) and we managed to have a 4/10 sex life but when it was good it was good I just couldn't perform enough but when I did we had great sexual energy. But it ruined the dynamic of the relationship completely. A man is meant to be strong, this puts you in a vulnerable position far too early. Don't fool your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 10:21 PM |
| 47 | When the subject of women’s abundance comes up women like to say they have “no good options” but this is nonsense. Women have plenty of attractive, desirable men interested in both LTR and hookups, they are just insanely picky.It's actually a big deal to get into a relationship with someone tbh. The problem is when you see good looking guys without any issue all of the time because it's not possible that they all have good personalities. Most people are normal and at the end of the day there has to be something that causes people to bond. if not it would just be a free for all. We all probably internalise our level over many years I think a problem of the modern generation is that by retreating into the online world a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 07:23 PM |
| 3 | How does age preference for a man change throughout the life of a woman looking for the physically most attractive man?Men don't get better looking with age as a rule but you can stay pretty much the same between 25-40 if you look after yourself, get lucky. I think what people really lose is that spark though because life becomes very mundaine; there's an energy that youth allows to be exhibited that becomes harder as you age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 09:04 PM |
| 1 | How do normal people pair off?I mean I could be better looking but a t shirt should look fine to good on someone who is fit and healthy. T shirts look bad on fat people and unshapely people, it's like leisure wear, looks completely different on fit people than it does on some street hobo. Anyway your post doesn't have a lot to do with the thread. And getting some hair treatment isn't the difference between being attractive or not. I know plenty of average looking guys with great heads of hair and guys with basic hair styles(… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 08:40 PM |
| 3 | How do normal people pair off?That's not what am saying. I get your point to a degree but it's too extreme. It depends on what type of girl you're describing but I generally wouldn't like the 5 hours to get ready type. Plus a lot of that time is wasted and isn't reflective of the effort put into their looks. They could get the same result in an hour. I like girls who are like me, they can look good while not being a prima Donna peacock. Slim, stay fit, dress cooland fashionable but not too flashy clothes. Just generally grou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 07:51 PM |
| 2 | How do normal people pair off?What? That's just how my hair is and most people compliment my hair for its flow and curls. I literally work out 4 times a week, play soccer 2 times a week eat extremely well, value my appearance. That's an outrageous take tbh. Most people consider me good looking I am just too shy/not forward enough romantically for a guy my age. A plain t shirt is a timeless classic. As long as you are fit and lean, a t shirt like that is a staple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 07:42 PM |
| 1 | my advice to menIt sucks to be average or unattractive in this world; male or female. The bar is just higher for me to be deemed attractive but it's still hard for women. The game is a scam. We shouldn't exist in the world the way we do. I just got back from a country in Europe and was using Tinder, for a weekend it seemed like all these babes were available to me with a swipe of a finger. In the past our worlds were much smaller; people got into relationships with people in their vicinity, obviously people sti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 06:58 PM |
| 2 | A womans lack of awareness of what actually attracts her can lead to self sabotage of a relationshipI think so. Relationships are a big deal and I think I was in the right place at the right time. I actually get it from her perspective too, like you said I think that was a big part to play. She probably didn't really truly empathise with me. I was just a generic, maybe good looking foreigner to her. I could be someone that she could project her insecurities and maybe fantasies until the game was up and she realised I was a normal everyday guy, maybe a normal everyday guy that she could find cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 04:49 PM |
| 3 | If the theory of 80/20 rule is true (which it seems to show on online dating) what explains the mismatch in attractiveness partnership irl?Women's preferences can be succinctly captured by big. Big dick, big personality, big frame, this all explains these looks imbalances. I know one relationship where the guy looks good but in an understated average way and the girl is a knock out. One of the hottest around and they've dated for years. It's probably the most wholesome relationship(from a guys perspective) but he might have a big dick for all I know and he was always a respected assured kinda guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 11:10 PM |
| 13 | If the theory of 80/20 rule is true (which it seems to show on online dating) what explains the mismatch in attractiveness partnership irl?Bulgaria is nuts for this. Honestly shocking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 11:08 PM |
| 7 | A womans lack of awareness of what actually attracts her can lead to self sabotage of a relationshipHappened with my ex. She was all in love when she created this image of me as this distant fuckboy who didn't have a true interest in her. I am a naturally distant guy and I found the stress of having to make convo for the sake of convo jarring. I felt this huge pressure to be interesting all of the time. Another part of me enjoyed this perception she had of me as it made me think that I'd be more valuable in her eyes but obviously I really liked her/loved her so whenever she was sad I'd tell he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 04:50 PM |
| -2 | Is a women who cheats worse than a man who cheats?It's worse because of the false attributes we apply to all women(more empathetic, more romantic) but in actual fact it's the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 04:11 PM |
| 2 | How long would the average guy have to hang at a bar/club for an approach/IOI?I went out last night as well; same spot. Caveat though is that I was drinking alone as am travelling alone atm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/22 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Here is the one and only advice that will work for you average and even unattractive menCould be the case but don't think she was into the other guy but she was with a guy when we got together. I think I was just the guy in the right place at the right time and offered a get out option. I think she might have got back with him though. No surprise she broke up with me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Why don't men demand tall and strong partners the way women do?Some men do like tall women, the tall women just need to be feminine. My friend, probably does best with girls I know would never date a small girl. He likes the tall Russian sort(he's a 27yo European living in prague so not some creepy middle aged American or something) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 10:01 PM |
| 1 | [discussion] What is really being the truth about the physical attractiveness??Also, countries seem to have different views of what is attractive. I don't believe good looks are truly universal. There's a type of look that does well in the anglosphere that wouldn't do as well in the Balkans. Pretty cutesy guys don't seem to do well here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 09:52 PM |
| 2 | [discussion] What is really being the truth about the physical attractiveness??Not really. In my country if you have those eyes you're exotic. It's all relative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Here is the one and only advice that will work for you average and even unattractive menYou have to ilicit feelings in her. My ex had no interest in me for 10 months all the while I thought she was super into me. Then one night she had a friend visit her and she arranged for her, her friend and another guy in their class to smoke some weed together. I was so offended. The guy told me they were upstairs in her apartment so I joined them and was so salty(normally I'd be generically pleasent) and when I went home I sent her a voice note saying I thought we were friends, why didn't you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 09:23 PM |
| 1 | So you want women to "lower their standards" but at the same time "not settle" for you....HOW is that possible?You're looking at it wrong and not seeing the deeper motivation as to why people post here. They just want to be accepted as they are and for someone to look at them and say 'yeah you, you're worth my time'' That's normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Average=invisibleMost accurate thing ever said here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 09:53 PM |
| 7 | CMV: Self-improvement and "loving yourself" are poor substitutes for romantic relationshipsThe sad reality is that some people just don't have it. Reddit does its best and isn't wrong sometimes but they probably don't want to face the reality themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Women here constantly respond to every complaint by men with some variation of “women don’t owe you sex” or “sorry you can’t get your dick wet” and basically imply that sex is all that men want from women. This is obviously false and used to once again diminish our struggles.This is true. To be fair it makes sex seem crass and is a good way to undermine the posters struggle but keep in mind, those Redditors don't care and why should they? Your issues with the opposite sex is your struggle and for you alone to deal with and sort out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else observed that women tend to characterize men they find cute or wholesome as being... sexless?Can you explain sociosexuality? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone else observed that women tend to characterize men they find cute or wholesome as being... sexless?I agree with this, I wrong use the word masculine but girls who have a certain type of personality seem to be more about raw visual looks whereas more feminine minded women are drawn to other stuff. The girl with the 'masculine' personality can look very feminine it's not about looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Why is dread so successful?Brutal! But yeah. Been there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Why is dread so successful?Yeah there's the 'I don't hate you break up and the 'I hate you' break up. The former is far more brutal for a guy to hear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Why is dread so successful?I keep telling guys on the breakup page and women to a less extent, the only way she's coming back is if you were playing around, kept her on her toes, acted aloof, maybe cheated, even if she dumps you she will think back and romanticise you. If you were a good guy and she dumped you, it's over, that girl isn't coming back. It's about respect, girls in a perverse way respect the former. Just fucked up but it's how it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Women with successful relationships, what do you think is key to maintaining the relationship.Give good dick, maintain frame and hope someone better doesn't come along. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 10:51 AM |
| 2 | What do small penis guys do?LMAO, I imaging some guy out at the bar with a bag big and seducing some girl and then just casually removing toys when they get back to her place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 08:01 PM |
| 1 | What do small penis guys do?Imagine having a strong sex drive with a small dick. Fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 07:59 PM |
| 13 | What do small penis guys do?LMAO so become 2003 Real Madrid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 07:48 PM |
| 3 | What do small penis guys do?Hahahahahahhaha, I find this so funny. Just 'look for one bro', 'ehhm excuse me but do you find me attractive and not only that but do our personalities mesh and *stutters* aw gee whizz, do you mind that I have a 3 inch cock? Brutal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Men and women’s looks decline at the same rate, men just idolize parts of mens appearance while also hyper-fixating on parts of woman’s appearanceMost girls I know looked pretty bad at 18. At the time they would have been pretty but they probably look younger now. Might be a British Isles thing though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 11:32 PM |
| -3 | ‘Sexual Compatibility’, the way that most people understand it, is a total mythsexual compatibility means the guy isn't scared to fuck her good and has a big dick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 05:09 PM |
| 5 | [CMV] Telling men that relationships aren't a source of happiness is bad advice and invalidates their feelings.The problem is not the advice the problem. Is when you have been deprive dof something your approach and view on it will be entirely different to someone who can experience said feeling more easily. I envy people who just get into relationships, they don't have to reconcile their pickiness or their desirability. They just get into relationships with people they like and who like them. It's a natural human dynamic but because so many of us have not experienced this naturally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 04:34 PM |
| 1 | What are the keys to maximizing relationship satisfaction?Maintain frame, keep on the grind and work yourself to the bone but not so much that she cheats on you. Keep her invested in your hustle. Be good looking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 09:33 PM |
| 0 | What constitutes a 'bad boy'? A lot of posts have been about bad boys recently.A bad boy is a cringe lable. It's basically just a guy who is a bit of a prick, has likalble traits but it's the type you'd envision your daughter dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Would you date or marry a single mother or father?Not a fucking chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 04:58 PM |
| 58 | Is there any research on girls and bad boys?Girls, all girls love extroversion. There might be some girls who over time become annoyed by extroverts or discover that it's not all it's cracked up to be but the natural inclination is for women to gravitate towards extroverted people. It makes sense but why did evolution have it that men developed introversion if it is so destructive to their mating strategy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Watching Real Madrid vs Chelsea here - A perspective on shorter guysYeah but it's about positive associations. If you're whole life you've been conditioned to think of the hot guys as the speedy, nimble, shorter guy then you might subconsciously just feel that this is what an attractive hot guy looks like. I don't know if girls actually care about who was good at football or not as a teenager but there did seem to be some correlation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Do you respect someone who has consistently dated out of their supposed league less or more?I always assume it's coz the guy has some sort of trait that negates his superficial league. So he might not be good looking to me but he has a big dick or is tall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 09:01 PM |
| 5 | Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the timeDoes this actually happen? Too many girls are overrated anyway and most guys are underrated. Why that happens I don't know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Women absolutely are not attracted to nice guys, and men expressing their understandable frustration with the dishonesty of them saying they do is met with shaming and attempts to silence them. This is the foundation of TRP.being nice to the point it is a definable personality trait isn't as ubiquitous as people make it out to be. some people are just nice, it's how they're wired. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:59 PM |
| 6 | What dating/sex myths about women should absolutely not be believed?Like everything they have a grain and then some of truth. In general, it's never as clinical as people make it seem but nor is it as rosy and optimistic either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Male entitlement is the sole reason for their widespread lonelinessYeah you're right, that's my fragile ego talking and it isn't good to spread that sort of stuff...and admittedly I do it far too often. Reddit and the internet have always been used as my soapbox to unload every insecurity/gripe/annoyance with the world, myself, how I'm perceived. I try to leave a better digital footprint and be more positive when I post. That post you came across is terrible and it's not something I'm proud of. I don't actually treat people poorly but it is bad that a thought l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/22 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Male entitlement is the sole reason for their widespread lonelinessFor sure. I get it. I also just don't think the medium-plus chunky would be my type nor me theirs. My point is though that it's okay to have preferences and they shouldn't be admonished. Every preference should be judged on its individual merits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Male entitlement is the sole reason for their widespread lonelinessI wouldn't date the average girl who doesn't exercise. In that case I want someone who isn't average. Looking after your health is such a low threshold that it barely counts as a standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Male entitlement is the sole reason for their widespread lonelinessNah, it's okay to have preferences. I'm a 5'8' guy in good shape, I like a girl in good shape. That's just how it is. I don't even think about it until I have to confront my preference but that's just hardwired into how I view the opposite sex. I refuse to believe the average is some dumpy looking girl who can't walk or run a few times a week. I realise genetics can be a bitch and that some girls get lucky at least superficially(can hide fat better than others) but I generally wouldn't be attrac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 10:22 PM |
| 2 | What makes men gravitate towards Redpill? What got you interested (if you are interested) in redpill?Red Pill is a coping mechanism tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Going to the gym won't really change muchBut muscular is such a vague concept. I heard someone describe Putin as muscular the other day. These were people talking on a geopolitical podcast and in their 40's. What was once viewed as fit and in shape has drastically changed. I feel what is muscular has been changed by inflation; you have to have top percentile muscular growth and frame for it to make any difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 07:20 PM |
| -9 | Going to the gym won't really change muchAs someone who has always looked healthy I can assure you it makes no difference. You sound like an outlier where you went from one extreme to another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Going to the gym won't really change muchBroad shoulders are genetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 05:58 PM |
| 7 | Going to the gym won't really change muchInteresting take. I'm defo the latter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Going to the gym won't really change muchI thought I did flair it as a CMV. Must not have. I just don't think the benefits accrued are enough to make any difference. There's obviously a lot of caveats and my theory will easily be debunked by people posting success stories but I just think these are outliers in the grand scheme of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to hold frame so that if someone like Dan Bilzerian came knocking you'd be able to keep the girl you're seeing?IMO or how I have come to interpret the red pill is just this type of society/dating market that is cold and calculating and far removed from the romantic idea of love that we were told about or saw our parents experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to hold frame so that if someone like Dan Bilzerian came knocking you'd be able to keep the girl you're seeing?Jeter does the rounds! I literally only know him because of his infamous stories. Guessing she was hot! Funny you just took it like a man, the last thing to do would be to be a wimp but easier said than done. Maybe he's just so famous that it nullified the pain and shame? I'd probably find it easier to deal with a top tier celebrity than some IG fuck boy cheating with my girl. Fame is an intoxicating drug but at best, hopefully it's confined to the person's niche like you said with Blake Shelton… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 09:22 PM |
| -3 | Is there a way to hold frame so that if someone like Dan Bilzerian came knocking you'd be able to keep the girl you're seeing?There's no way they are fucking him at this stage as a mere business arrangement. At this stage he has clout and has girls on his dick. Like I said normal girls I know like his pics so they obviously consider him fuckable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Is there a way to hold frame so that if someone like Dan Bilzerian came knocking you'd be able to keep the girl you're seeing?Yeah but he's a particular type of gutter trash. I sometimes think I am in a solipsistic hell and Dan bad boy Bilzerian is there to torture me. He is like a caricature of the type of man who does well with women(not wholesome, bit of a bastard, thrill seeking ( but ironically funnily he is actually shortish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 08:37 PM |
| 0 | Is there a way to hold frame so that if someone like Dan Bilzerian came knocking you'd be able to keep the girl you're seeing?tbf it's not that improbable. A girl I know was in his house back in 2014, not sure if he banged or not or if it was a rumour but wouldn't surprise me. The girl would have been out of my league but I'd know people who know her so while improbable and unlikely, something to consider. It's strange how interconnected the world can be at times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Music/Art is the only acceptable method for men to express emotion without sacrificing masculinityThat's not really what I mean although that's sort of what don't buy this implies but was the wrong choice of words | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/22 02:55 PM |
| 13 | Music/Art is the only acceptable method for men to express emotion without sacrificing masculinityAh I don't buy this, eventually everything becomes a dodged bullet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Does the education system need to restructure?The problem with education is that it's stuck in a sort of limbo. It was catered to a time when just achieving a level of education among the population was imperative for economic growth. Now we have achieved that so we are at an existential moment trying to move up the ladder of Maslow's hierarchy of needs on a civilisation wide level. I never get the taxes part, that shit is easy but relationships, raising a family etc. that stuff is difficult but we pretty much leave it to popular culture an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/22 11:05 PM |
| 7 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightSame. Absolutely to me it seems absolutely impossible to be an asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Losing weight only unlocks your potential physical attractiveness. It is not in itself the attractor.Absolutely man. Weight loss success stories are for large framed guys carrying extra pounds, not guys like myself who are naturally lean. The gym makes no difference to me if anything it exposes the limits of my genetic potential. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 10:35 PM |
| 1 | "Let women come to you" is the best way to remain sexless your whole life.True, I see why people think that you should just linger and wait for the girl but I think it misunderstands how attraction works. While online dating is a real thing that does seep into normal life, in actual reality it's not as simple as swipe right for the next better option. There's some truth to it but it tells more about the person giving the advice than the playing field out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/22 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you Been ghosted in the context of a real relationship?Not ghosted ghosted but not how you'd imagine a relationship would end. It depends what you define as ghosted though. My ex did seem to just leave me without any natural break: one minute we were chatting normal and then she went AWOL for a week, replied once saying she hoped I was okay and when I confronted her said yeah let's end it. I don't think she would have told me if I had said nothing. We dated for a year and were through good and bad times, always saddens me that a the relationship tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 10:25 PM |
| 16 | My girlfriend would've slept with me on first date, if i wasnt boyfriend materialFor women, the relationship is the ultimate goal. The reward in her mind and thing she fears not getting is the relationship. I get though what you mean because in a way it feels like she is giving herself up for some jerk/some guy in her mind not worthy of a relationship. It depends on perspective really. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/22 02:55 PM |
| 8 | Who do you think has the most in-built sense of external hierarchy? Men or women?It's not that rigid tbf but it's just the guys with the big personalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Who do you think has the most in-built sense of external hierarchy? Men or women?Yeah that's what it seems to me as well. The good thing is as you get older groups don't matter as much so the alpha male matters less(at least in friend groups) as things become more diffused but at 16-21 this was a real killer. The alpha guy will still have his domains though. The more I see it the more it seems all these tropes about younger girls with older guys, hot girls with ugly guys, it all comes down to the 'alphaness' of the guy. Only alpha guys can pull this off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Who do you think has the most in-built sense of external hierarchy? Men or women?I feel like an attractive guy though, especially when in a relationship so my attitude while in the relationship would have been more like, if I can attract x then I'm obviously attractive to loads of girls. I didn't think that 'I better hold on tight to this one', it just felt like a natural fit and I felt no desire to chase other girls. My scarcity mindset exists more so now, a year after she ended the relationship. But that's a key point, a girl outside of a relationship will probably still f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Who do you think has the most in-built sense of external hierarchy? Men or women?Not true at all but I will say maybe the fact that options are more limited for men is what causes this difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 11:22 AM |
| 7 | The way women see men on TV, movies, Netflix or any medium to show off your status, proves that women only appreciate what they can get but will always want more if it's attainableAbsolutely. I think girls have more of a fantasy about relationships than guys and I say that as a (former) hopeless romantic but whereas guys probably just crave unconditional love, women want something much more elaborate and idealistic. I'll use my ex as an example(again) An overall nice person in many respects but instead of just judging me on my own qualities, I was always compared to this ideal of masculinity, perhaps her first love, the image she had fabricated of the biological dad she n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 11:15 AM |
| 3 | The way women see men on TV, movies, Netflix or any medium to show off your status, proves that women only appreciate what they can get but will always want more if it's attainableI don't think it's that bad. My ex always paid her way but always I got the impression she could just jump to anothet guy. This is a toxic mindset to have tbh and achieves nothing but once you start thinking about it that's it. It's super important to maintain frame as much as you can so this type of thought process only makes things worse. Awful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 10:16 AM |
| 3 | The way women see men on TV, movies, Netflix or any medium to show off your status, proves that women only appreciate what they can get but will always want more if it's attainableStatus doesn't matter for me at all tbh. I never once considered it a turn on. The only time I consider it a turn off is if the girl implies that she's low status and talks about how other girls(which means conventionally attractive) care about such and such but she doesn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 09:37 AM |
| 5 | The way women see men on TV, movies, Netflix or any medium to show off your status, proves that women only appreciate what they can get but will always want more if it's attainableIt's a bigger problem than people think. It also shows the power of status on a more local level. The guy doesn't have to be Louis CK, just moderately known and respected. I don't know what to do with this information, it just makes any relationship feel fleeting and shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 09:34 AM |
| 1 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Interesting man. Yeah, these things are weird. We all have our flaws and it seems you guys had one of those rare connections. I like to think that your true essence connected and all the bullshit that gets in the way clouded that and eventually caused it to end but those sweet moments were somehow "the truth". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 10:26 PM |
| 1 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Man that's my ex too. We would be fine then suddenly things would just blow up, one minute it was that I wasnt committed then it was because she didn't know what she wanted, she wanted clarity then there was too much clarity and it was a never ending cycle of drama. As a person I would consider her someone who I liked but she was very difficult in a relationship and tbh there were thngs she said that I should have done what you did and stamped that shit out there and then.i also concede my neuro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Do you agree with "Women love sex, and if you don't give it to them someone else will"?Happened to me. I loved having sex with my ex she was the bomb but I just have some issues with erections. Then when I get erections I can't nut. We had some great sexy time but was few and far between and it was never certain when I'd get a boner so killed the mood. We lasted for a year but probably only had sex 10 times I am sad to say. If she was less pretty I'd still feel bad but at the time I felt awful and I knew it caused her insecurity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Is it THIS common for girls to sleep with you on the first date?Holy shit my past relationship was a lie! Sex on the first night. She said she didn't mind because she knew me beforehand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Nah, I think that's a form of disagreableness. I'm like that too but in person I seem very diplomatic. My views on the world are disagreeable but my interpersonal skills are agreeable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 08:56 PM |
| 1 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Really good question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 08:53 PM |
| 3 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Some people love to talk and deliberate over this bullshit and put great stock into it. Lmao have witnessed my sis discuss where she'll go for dinner for like 10 mi utes with her bf and hell discuss it like it's this life altering decision. They are smart people lol but just different I suppose. That sort of generic relationship talk doesn't come easy to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 08:44 PM |
| 1 | So if 85% of us are sleeping with 10% of the men, then how come we don’t see lines of women waiting outside the doors of these men?I honestly don't believe it either. It might be possible but there would need to be a very weird set of circumstances for it to be a reality. I was in a college dorm in 3 european cities, I lived with good looking guys, I saw them bring over girls but they were never on rotation, there was no harems. These were handsome guys and they probably could have pulled your girlfriend if they wanted in the right circumstances but there was no real sign that they had unlimited girls on tap on a weekly bas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it THIS common for girls to sleep with you on the first date?It's common tbh, it doesn't seem like a big deal to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 07:48 PM |
| 3 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Yeah legit, the way my relationship ended was weird and I feel can only happen when there isn't a natural female male dynamic where the girl just basically shuts off completely and ends it. I know with my mates who are more traditionally masculine their breakups have been more normal where they did something the girl breaks it off, they do something to change, the relationship has a dead cat bounce where they get back together and then something happens and it's over. Mine ended much more abrupt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 03:47 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The sex life of the average man pre free love movement was much worse than todayI have never understood it but tbh I don't feel like I'm like most of my mates. For me sex has always been about acceptance and feelings of being worthy, whereas for them it seems more about the actual act itself. I don't know if they have esteem issues, I don't think they do so sex is probably just a sensual pleasure whereas for me it's confirmation that I am attractive, desirable, worthy etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Dating Someone You're Not Attracted To Just To Get Relationship/Sexual Experience.It's an awkward one because while I would hope we are attracted to our looks match, it doesn't seem that this is the case. Ugly people don't find other ugly people attractive they just know realistically this is the best they can get. I don't even think it's done like a cost benefit analysis, they just know over years of social conditioning what their level is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Dating Someone You're Not Attracted To Just To Get Relationship/Sexual Experience.There's no point. This is why it's important to have dating experiences young(25 is young but you've formed your preferences by then) I would have been much more open at 16 or 17 to dating certain girls than I am now. When you go so long without a relationship you have much more to lose so you're less inclined to just get into a relationship with anybody. It's bad but just how it is. I couldn't have sex with a girl am not attracted to that's the first huge issue with this. It doesn't matter if p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 03:09 PM |
| 2 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Yeah legit. It's one of those things am not bitter about and actually I did try to be more like what you describe but the problem was my ex noticed it early and could never let it go and she probably knew I was on the extreme of the passivity spectrum(not always purposeful) so even when I did try call the shots she knew it wasn't really something that came naturally to me. We live and learn. I have no problem with traditional roles, I didn't really succeed in living up to the masculine ideal in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 02:56 PM |
| 1 | How do you think the future of dating will be?Wow. So well said. My dad was a bit of a 'waster' in his youth, not loyal, slept around, cheated. He passed away 2 years ago but when he had me he didn't want me to be anything like him. What happened was he effectively morphed me in a way that took away the boy in me, like I played sports and stuff but his obsession with me being good drove that masculine quality out of me especially when dealing with the opposite sex. Through his signalling any desire I internalised as being corrupt or bad or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What's your shallowest turnoff ?Isn't irregardless perfectly legitimate? I've seen it used on BBC articles. Like what's stopping it from just being included in the dictionary? I think it's a perfectly fine word. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 02:21 PM |
| 4 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?I remember with my ex we were drinking and I was far along by this stage, I was happy to stay out but equally content to go home. I remember she asked will we go home or not and I genuinely just replied 'We can do whatever you're feeling', because that is what I was thinking at the time. Amway, she lost it, you can't make a decision, why can't you take the lead etc. This was our first fight and this lasted the duration of our relationship, anytime I didn't seem completely hellbent on something i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Where does the line between "in shape/takes care of himself" and "gym bro/rat/etc" stand?Depends on physical bone structure. Only small guys can be gym rats. It just looks different when a taller guy hits the gym and a shorter guy does. One seems athletic and the other looks like he's coping. Just how it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 01:57 PM |
| 2 | When it comes to dating/relationship/sociosexual dynamics, what's something you see talked about in this sub that you've never seen actually happen?I'm gonna say one thing is height. I think short women generally are happy with guys who are shorter, not 5 foot 1 short but short relative to other men. I don't think it has the intoxicating hold over women that it is portended to. I've even heard my ex say 'no that's just too tall for me' and the guys were like optimal height by my reckoning. Maybe she's with a 6 foot 4 guy now, I dunno but she was 5'3' and her ex before me was like 5'7''(I''m 5 '8' and she once asked me 'am I too small for yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 01:45 PM |
| 1 | What are the ways in which women enforce Toxic Masculinity?My ex an overall decent person once said to me that she kinda liked how I seemed like an asshole to the outside as long as I was nice to her. Serious red flag in hindsight but I got her point and when I was experiencing it it felt good(btw I'm not an asshole but she perceived me to be aloof and sometimes I have a resting face that makes me look mean, I am actually very smiley just not when am on my own...obviously) But it wasn't a good attitude for her to have but I wouldn't say she was particul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Why don't people believe in being in love first before having sex anymore?Most people come to this realisation but enough people are dumb enough to fall for the idea that you can have sex without intimacy. JBP is a quack in many ways but he's right when he says you cannot separate the two and we shouldn't want to. We have to give things value, so many seem hellbent on removing our humanity from us. Sex should be something that we hold as sacrosanct, it doesn't mean there's only one person who you can love or that one sexual partner for life should be the norm but we n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 12:44 PM |
| 1 | “Women are NOT a hive mind “, yet in any content where they Interview a group of women, their answers ALWAYS mirror each other’sWomen are a hive mind but only when it comes to dating and sexual relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 12:38 PM |
| 10 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Some of us just don't care that much. I have strong views on ideology, politics, the way the world is going but I don't give af where I go for dinner. It just doesn't matter most of the time to me. I can't pretend to care. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 12:37 PM |
| 3 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?Nothing is ever that black and white. I have friends who fit the description, they're bad guys in some ways, I have friends who are always single who are better guys objectively(more genuine, honest, kind) than these guys but it's the 'bad boys'(who have perfectly good qualities) that have been with girls, doesn't matter if it's a relationship or nightclub hooks up, they've had the monopoly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 12:34 PM |
| 1 | What if the "bad boys" women prefer are just disagreeable?The problem is it's all about perception. I am not agreeable in many aspects(for instance I a contrarian by nature and go against the grain, things like BLM, LGBT, I have strong views on these movements(rightly or wrongly) but in one on one social interactions I am, I just prefer compromise and this is seen as a weakness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 12:31 PM |
| 1 | At what point do certain "media driven" preferences get adopted, if at all?Sure I get you. But that supports my point about how these pretty arbitrary preferences become ingrained. Suddenly, men with height and dick are perceived as high quality mates. I know they might always have been but it becomes a hyper competitive dating market where those with the perceived valuable feature end up at the top of the pecking order. Having said that, I'd still find my ex for instance hot if she had a bush down there. I don't think it would influence my overall attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/21 07:49 PM |
| 1 | At what point do certain "media driven" preferences get adopted, if at all?Can't tel if you're being sarcastic hahaha. If not, care to elaborate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/21 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Watched 500 days of summer and read Reddit interpretationsI think my bias watching the movie is an aversion to hook up culture. Also, Tom's character didn't seem like someone that a girl would have FWB buddy relationship with so feels weird that it developed like that and Summer was happy to do that. I think summer was happy to make the cake and eat it; enjoy the relationship aspects knowing that Tom was falling but never really getting to that stage herself. Tom was happy to live in lala land. I don't think his 'THIS IS NOT JUST ABOUT YOU' outburst wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Watched 500 days of summer and read Reddit interpretationsAnd I think with that, I can put my 2 day fascination with this film to bed. That was a brilliant read. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/20 11:29 AM |
| 9 | Watched 500 days of summer and read Reddit interpretationsSo well put. But, do yo not think that love is just a game of delusion? The feeling that there's one right person for us at all times in our lives. Summer wasn't who Tom believed her to be, but she also was. We are two people I think; the person we are when we think to ourselves and the person other people perceive us to be. Summer grew tired of Tom's projections but it seems to be possible that she was happy to play along with the projections of the guy who was right to her. Look at how she exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/20 11:26 PM |
| 18 | Watched 500 days of summer and read Reddit interpretationsSorry, I didn't mean I am as handsome as him hahaha, I mean I'm roughly proximate to the type of guy he's meant to be in the film. Standardly handsome, nothing particularly stand out though, I think when he imagines himself as Harrison Ford when he's high on life indicates that in the world of 500 days of summer, he's a standard good looking guy. In reality, JGL would be the best looking guy you'd see on a typical week in most area. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/20 10:14 PM |
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