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If you're looking for PUA or game advice, don't go to /r/seduction. Go to /r/trpgame. If you do go to /r/seduction, search for posts that are at least 2-3 years old. If you're looking for some decent PUA reading, I recommend reading The Book of Pook (explains trp principles in the context of game without meaning to), The Game by Neil Strauss (great look into the pros and cons of pua) and Models by Mark Manson in that order. If you can't find these books, I will give them to you; just pm me. Chee…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 02:58 AM
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This kind of discourse is exactly what I'm talking about. It is rude, unnecessary, and will only reflect poorly on us.
/r/MensRights30/01/14 07:35 AM
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I agree with this. I think eliminating the "us vs them" mentality will help us out more on the long run.
/r/MensRights29/01/14 09:45 PM
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I'm not sure this is relevant here. Anti-feminism =/= men's rights.
/r/MensRights29/01/14 06:35 PM
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You entirely misunderstood the meaning my message. I deliberately took no stance on abortion. The point of my post is that men can have reproductive rights regardless of whether or not women can abort. Abortion is a can of worms that MRM doesn't need to open - It's more of an actual women's issue or religious preference. But that's just, like, my opinion, man.
/r/MensRights28/01/14 10:24 PM
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I see what you're saying, but allow me to explain what I feel in a different way. I think that both genders should have the choice whether or not to be parents in the sense of being involved with the child, not necessarily the biological sense. Abortion laws wouldn't affect men because would have the choice of paternal surrender regardless of whether the baby is born or not. I think that makes sense. A point of contention might be there opposite case. What if the father wants to keep the child, …
/r/MensRights28/01/14 10:15 PM
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I don't think we should lump men's reproductive rights with abortion. Instead, I think we should equate it with a women's right to choose parenthood (e.g. adoption, safe haven laws, etc.) Comparing our ideas about reproductive rights to abortion ignores the biological differences between the genders and would turn a lot of people off to the MRM. We could frame this much better by redefining it as the right to choose whether or not to be a parent after the baby is born. This would help eliminate …
/r/MensRights28/01/14 05:28 PM
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Apparently women can have preferences, but men can only have biases.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/14 04:40 PM
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And it will undoubtedly be allowed because of the kids, which apparently has more rights than any father should have.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/14 08:35 PM
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I use the 1-10 scale in a different way. Instead being out on how attractive I think they are, I try to determine how attractive THEY think they are. It's more useful in finding women who are more down to earth.
/r/seduction17/01/14 06:33 AM
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Exactly! And that's really all that matters once you're out in the field.
/r/seduction17/01/14 06:29 AM
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You just described a lot of the core of TRP. I recommend spending some time over there and checking it out. They do talk about game, but they're also big on dropping the bullshit and focusing on yourself.
/r/seduction29/12/13 05:51 AM
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Saying that we shouldn't call someone a bitch isn't male cowardice. Are we completely unable to empathize with the wife? I know if the woman that I'm with got a dozen complaints of sexual harassment, I'd be done with her. Most of the complaints about feminism around here can be summed up to them, often deliberately, not empathizing with men or men's issues. We don't need to stoop to their level.
/r/MensRights27/12/13 05:43 PM
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I don't know how to feel about Russia. Can you tell me more about their views on homosexuality from the average citizen's perspective?
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 07:06 PM
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In response to your point, have you ever seen a male protagonist who wasn't either a fat idiot or mind-blowingly attractive? But that's not the point. Here's a link from the sidebar that articulates some men's rights issues with feminism very well. Here's an incredibly insightful comment by a redditor on why the MRM might exist. But you don't care. You never actually cared why we might feel the way we do. Obvious troll is obvious.
/r/MensRights26/12/13 06:10 PM
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Sauce? To me, it sounds like something 4chan would love.
/r/MensRights26/12/13 12:23 AM
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In addition to this, you should still be able to work the room. Make friends with everyone, especially when you and your buddy approach groups. The difference is you're just not escalating. Keep in mind that at some point, your buddy will probably want to isolate whatever girl he's hitting on. You'll need to be able to entertain the group (who you made friends with) so it won't look weird when he does that. I recommend going to /r/seduction and searching "wingman" in the search bar. Only looking…
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 12:18 AM
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I agree, for different reasons. I don't see much point in getting married if you're not going to have kids, and I never want kids. I literally can't stand even the thought of it. With no-fault divorce, the only difference between marriage and otherwise is a wedding, paperwork and someone gets the other's money after a divorce. Fun fact: If you live in Alabama, Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas or Utah, it doesn't matter. Common-Law Marriage is a bitch.
/r/MensRights26/12/13 12:11 AM
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Implying that /r/mensrights or MRA's were the result of all 400 reports Implying that people are only offended by breasts, and certainly not any other message being communicated by the "protest"
/r/MensRights26/12/13 12:04 AM
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I think that's point. /u/jpflathead states that it's either A or B. You yourself said it's not A, so it must be B. But you chose to ignore that part of his statement. Good on ya.
/r/MensRights26/12/13 12:03 AM
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Here are some thoughts: You can do whatever you want. Outside of the law, right and wrong is something you get to decide for yourself. This post implies that the only reason to have sex is to have children, which is no longer the case in this day and age. Believe it or not, there are some ardent feminists who are nice people. Furthermore, most ardent feminists being white women is not the same as most white women being ardent feminists. Finally, this post seems to have very little to do with men…
/r/MensRights25/12/13 11:59 PM
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Exactly. Mistakes happen, and people be punished for them. That actually would discourage real victims from coming forward. But people who are caught lying deserve to face charges.
/r/MensRights20/12/13 06:41 PM
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If you get rejected, GFTOW.
/r/seduction19/12/13 11:49 PM
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Men do have places to speak in mainstream society - so long as they continue to perform masculinity. There's the difference between TRP ideology and the MRM. TRP is about the expression of masculinity. MRM is about changing society, making masculinity a choice. Both are well and good, but one of these things will get me what I want today, and the other may never.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/13 11:38 PM
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Things are rarely this black and white - here are two problems I see: If person B is not convicted, it doesn't necessarily mean they didn't do it. It just means there's a reasonable doubt that they didn't. People aren't perfect. Memories especially aren't great, so alleged victims can makes mistakes. I don't think they should be punished for that.
/r/MensRights19/12/13 04:56 PM
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evidence So, no.
/r/MensRights18/12/13 09:32 PM
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I think it's important to make a distinction here. If a defendant is found not guilty of rape, that doesn't necessarily make the accuser a criminal. However, of evidence is found that the accuser may have intentionally made a false accusation, then they should definitely be charged and go to trial. Does that make sense? It's an important difference. Edit: there's also an important difference between charged and convicted.
/r/MensRights18/12/13 06:44 PM
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Touch everyone. It will feel weird at first - it still does, for me - but it will get much easier. You probably became more outgoing by taking to everyone, not just hot women. It's the same thing here. Literally kino everyone.
/r/seduction17/12/13 05:24 PM
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For real, nothing beats field testing. Seduction isn't entirely black and white. There are going to be done routines, lines or attitudes that just won't work for certain individuals, but you can't know it until you try it.
/r/seduction16/12/13 11:11 PM
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My girlfriend and I broke up last week. We both knew it was coming, and I wanted it to be over before the holidays. I wasn't sure if I still had any kind of game, but then this happened. A few days before we had ended it, I met a chick through a friend that I had hit it off with pretty well. We were both still in relationships at the time, so I didn't do much about it. Turns out she broke with her boyfriend two days before I ended mine. As soon as I heard this, I sent her a message on FB. Quickl…
/r/TheRedPill16/12/13 04:50 PM
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Looking up triangular gazing. That may or may not help. If you feel like you should kiss her, you probably should have 20 minutes ago. The phrase "do you have any reason not to kiss me" is gold. You got this, dude.
/r/seduction16/12/13 06:16 AM
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This comment is spot-on. Notice how nothing was mentioned about your age - that's because it doesn't matter. I tend to find that guys hit their prime in their thirties, and even if they don't, pickup is pickup.
/r/seduction15/12/13 12:21 PM
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This is especially useful if you still feel approach anxiety. Go out and try to get rejected by as many women as you can. You'll be surprised by how much you can get away with.
/r/seduction15/12/13 12:17 PM
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I actually enjoy Suzanne Collins' work, but it's definitely grade school-level reading. If you want fiction, I recommend Stephen King. That mofo tells it like it is.
/r/seduction15/12/13 12:14 PM
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For sure. It's great to teach, just show them C major and F major. Instant kino. Maybe even make a little song up on the fly.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/13 03:41 AM
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Can it be both? Actually, when I first got started, I always found your guides most useful. They helped make a lot of difference in where I am today.
/r/seduction13/12/13 02:25 AM
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I've actually never agreed with the adage "don't stick your dick in crazy." Instead, I think it should be "Don't commit to crazy." I'd say go for it, but don't be afraid to walk away if you get bad vibes.
/r/seduction13/12/13 02:09 AM
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Keep fighting the good fight, my friend. You're getting closer.
/r/seduction13/12/13 01:47 AM
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Solution #1: Shutting down shit tests. Solution #2: "Next" Solution #3: Just do it. Treat them like an equal human being and tell them they're full of shit in whatever words that seem appropriate. What's the worst that could happen?
/r/seduction13/12/13 01:46 AM
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Your last sentence answered your question. On another note, how much do you day game? I recommend a nice mix of day and night game for finding your outcome independence. Go out and get rejected everywhere. Rejection is not a bad thing - it's actually great! It stops you from wasting your time and lets you move on to a better prospect. Once you realize that rejection isn't personal and you stop worrying about it, I find game in itself just comes so much more easily.
/r/seduction13/12/13 01:44 AM
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Along with this, avoid interviewing her. Statements are way more powerful than questions.
/r/seduction13/12/13 01:39 AM
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Hey man, if you're new here, welcome. Check out the sidebar for some useful links on being more social. Stand up real straight and start talking to everyone - it gets easier, I promise. Start making eye contact with people as you walk down the hallway. Read the guide on getting over approach anxiety in the sidebar. Do what it says. Read every guide ever posted by /u/bl1y. Use the search bar for specific things (i.e. day game, text game, approaching, kino), sort by top and read anything more than…
/r/seduction13/12/13 01:38 AM
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Isn't it great? It helps take the edge off life, and the ladies love it.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/13 01:28 AM
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For real: Read Book of Pook. If you can't find it, pm me and I'll send you a pdf of it.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/13 03:51 PM
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"Next"
/r/seduction12/12/13 05:17 AM
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Feminist friends were bitching about the article. They don't know I've read just about every single one of his articles.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/13 01:51 AM
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In a movement with little awareness, awareness is the first step.
/r/MensRights08/12/13 03:46 PM
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When PUA first started gathering steam, it seemed really manipulative. People would just memorize lines, stories and "techniques" to get with women. Depending on how you look at it, you might not like it. Things like negging (which is really teasing) brought a lot of hate to the movement, and the linguistics of one part (I can't remember the name) were downright strange. In contrast, the current trend is more of a self-help movement. Books like The Book of Pook and especially Models by Mark Mans…
/r/MensRights08/12/13 03:34 PM
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I agree. I am blown away by the responses here.
/r/MensRights08/12/13 03:10 PM
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That's a good thought. I think the biggest thing is going to be how I frame what I say. It definitely seems like it will be an environment where I'll have to choose my words carefully.
/r/MensRights06/12/13 06:51 PM
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That's a very good point. I had never really thought much about benevolent sexism in general - it'll definitely help ground my arguments and make it seem like I'm more aware of both sides (and h0pefully, I will be!) Thank you!
/r/MensRights06/12/13 06:49 PM
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Do have a good source for the Mary Ross thing? I want to add it to my list of MRA sources.
/r/MensRights05/12/13 05:05 PM
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Not with that attitude.
/r/MensRights05/12/13 05:03 PM
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They're probably not deserved. You using your words shouldn't be deserving of physical violence.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/13 04:43 PM
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If you want decent over-the-ear headphones, look at brands like Sennheiser, Bose or KRK. Look to spend no less than $30-$40, but keep it below $120. The Sennheiser $30~ pair are pretty sturdy and great for most listening.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/13 10:56 PM
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That's clearly not what he is saying. What someone would do and what someone is legally bound to do are not the same thing.
/r/MensRights06/11/13 05:58 AM
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I'm trying to do the same, but hard to find people who care enough. Next semester, Im presenting to my school's pro choice and secular student groups about make reproductive rights, so I'm hoping to get some momentum there. One way or another, you have to get the dialogue started.
/r/MensRights28/10/13 08:32 PM
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It's just the hamster in action. Any time an alpha shots her down, she rationalizes that she didn't really like his qualities anyway. It's like saying "you don't fire me, I quit!"
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 01:47 AM
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Why?
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 12:06 PM
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Is there a solution that doesn't land you in jail for a very long time if it backfires? Only one I can think of is MGTOW. Another thought: That's another problem with marriage. It's harder to just walk away from the relationship. Like Vox says, women are creatures of fear. When you get married, suddenly you have a very literal investment in the marriage, and the fear she has of you walking away diminishes.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/13 09:16 PM
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She has hot friends ;D
/r/TheRedPill11/10/13 07:34 PM
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One of my female friends tells me she wants to find a guy and get married by the time she's 25, which is surprising to hear in today's sexual climate! Now if only she took care of herself and looked attractive, it might work for her. I can't tell her that though, or I'm an "asshole/misogynist/virgin/loser."
/r/TheRedPill11/10/13 06:37 PM
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I don't care, it doesn't make you a bad person. I have a preference and won't date somebody like that but somebody else would Sound familiar? You're a great guy, and any women (besides me) would be lucky to have you. Cheating is a failing relationship strategy for women, similar to being a Nice GuyTM for men.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/13 12:53 PM
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Isn't it my right to do what I want when I'm single? You can do whatever you want, but that doesn't mean everyone else has to be okay with it. Actions have consequences.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/13 04:13 PM
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I own more shoes now than I ever have and it's great! The wrong shoes can destroy your outfit.
/r/seduction30/09/13 06:29 PM
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For real. Back in my virginity days, I was shot down for mentioning it. When women hear that word, they instantly put up their slut defenses.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/13 02:44 AM
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because I still believe that how I look is not important than how intelligent I am. Obviously not. If she really believed that, she wouldn't be extremely unattractive. She'd actually do something about it. But no. It's easier to just bitch and demand that other people lower their standards.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/13 05:17 PM
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I've always thought that was due to men peaking in their 30's and women peaking in their 20's. We're always more attracted to someone in their prime SMV.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/13 03:36 PM
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Then why are you here?
/r/TheRedPill11/08/13 07:31 PM
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Makes MGTOW sound better every day. In fact, that's kinda where I'm at right now. I wouldn't mind the next year just being woman-free so I can focus on myself and get in shape.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/13 03:34 PM
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Agreed. My definition of success actually involves never having kids - they'e something I don't want in my life.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/13 03:20 PM
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I've also noticed that they have a tendency to treat generalizations as personal attacks, which defies the definition of generalizing.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/13 03:05 PM
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I think it involved not featuring the moderators of MRA, but not sure. It was a pleasant surprise to find that all the ad hominem attacks against MRA were downvoted to hell.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/13 01:05 PM
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Agreed. I started lurking there in January, and the change in quality since then is obvious. All the old posts about actual game are what really helped me out.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/13 12:25 PM
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Body language, especially eye contact. Here's an excerpt from The Book of Pook on embracing sexuality and showing desire. So when I was at dinner with my beautiful innocent girl, I started eye contact and never looked away except to eat my food. People think eye contact is simply staring into someone else's eyes. It isn't. Eye contact is displaying your desire into her eyes. I let it all out. All my desire I've had for her, all the frustrations she's caused me (I am on this website because of he…
/r/seduction07/08/13 02:25 AM
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Use the search function a lot there. The older posts (1-3 years) definitely have a higher level of quality.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/13 01:43 AM
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Only use the sidebar at /r/seduction. If you have any questions from that, come here or search /r/seduction and read posts that are 2 or 3 years old. Not all of the new stuff is shit, but enough of it is. Also, read anything by /u/bl1y
/r/TheRedPill07/08/13 01:42 AM
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I dunno, being indirect gives her an opportunity to rationalize it in her own way. Being direct with just "yes" is more likely to make her feel like a slut and end it.
/r/seduction06/08/13 11:34 AM
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Seeing the world as it really is and not being spoon-fed bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/13 11:14 AM
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He's referring to The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. His books are criticized as being manipulative, but remember that knowledge is amoral. It's your choice on how you use it.
/r/seduction04/08/13 09:14 PM
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You'll see things red but react blue. This is exactly right. There will be moments where you fall into old habbits, even when you know better. However, just the fact that thinking about it and picking up on mistakes puts you ahead of a lot of guys out there.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/13 08:51 PM
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Then do that! She probably thinks you still want a LTR - you need to break this frame. Treat her like you would any of the plates you're trying to spin and show some outcome independence. Hit on other chicks and show that you're both high value and just there there have fun.
/r/askTRP04/08/13 03:31 AM
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That's the classic college date! I don't think i've ever finished a movie - its almost hard not to escalate.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 11:16 PM
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It seems like every fat girl I know bitches about being hit on all the time.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 10:58 PM
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A great argument for MGTOW
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 10:55 PM
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He does! But he doesn't use it to attract; he does the opposite.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 06:59 AM
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I'm one of those. Given that, it's something I look for in an LTR situation.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 06:55 AM
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I wish my 20-year-old, unemployed, pregnant "friend" felt the same way. I mean, damn.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 06:50 AM
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Consistency is the difficult part. I have 20 years of bad habits to break.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/13 07:31 AM
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A woman who was a total bitch to me tried to reestablish our old friendship. At first, I thought I'd decided to try to be a nice guy and give her a second chance. Fuck that. She has not and will not change. I've decided that we're not going to speak anymore, and she'll figure it out soon enough.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/13 07:27 AM
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These subs are golden. I'm still fat, but I'm less fat now, and people are starting to notice.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/13 09:20 AM
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Exactly. As soon as she broke it off, she stopped giving a flying fuck about him. OP deserves better, and he's got a long time before he even peaks.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 10:37 PM
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That would never happen to my relationship! My woman is special and loves me and always will! /s Any time I bring up not wanting to get married, there's always this argument. But here's the deal: every guy thinks he is the exception when he gets married. She may like you now, and your marriage may never have any trouble. But if it does? As soon as she crosses the line into disliking you, she can completely fuck you over. Every guy who walks into divorce court thought that it wouldn't happen to h…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/13 11:01 AM
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Urban Dictionary suggests it's Australian slang for tongue kissing.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/13 10:45 AM
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GFTOW
/r/seduction23/07/13 03:44 AM
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I made a fake account of a moderately attractive female on PoF to see what would happen. In a little over a day, I had about 150 messages. The next day, it had another 100 or so. The more attractive ones could literally get one hundred messages a day.
/r/seduction23/07/13 03:43 AM
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Or ditch the extreme oneitis and GFTOW.
/r/seduction20/07/13 01:13 AM
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I don't want to be taken seriously. I want to have fun, and interview questions don't usually fall into this category.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/13 02:47 AM
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We say gold, but all they see is green. Im okay with it.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/13 03:37 PM
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For sure! Check out the sidebar at mfa. Even the basis there still get you do much farther than most guys.
/r/seduction09/07/13 02:44 PM
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How I picture this going when I try it. I find myself doing this a little bit naturally when I'm feel like I'm in a really good state, but with more of a smile. Maybe doing this intentionally can help me get into that state. Any thoughts?
/r/seduction08/07/13 02:29 PM
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That last paragraph fit my experience perfectly. When she found out that she wasn't special and I had other options, she threw a massive. The result? We don't talk anymore.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/13 11:34 AM
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I'm 20, and I lost my V card about 5 months ago. Honestly, it wasn't a big deal. However, the realization that it wasn't a big deal was a pretty big deal. After that, I was able to mentally knock women off of the pedestal I had put them on for so many years. It wasn't necessarily a confidence boost - just a reality check. The reality is that women are just people, man. I am horrible at talking to women people. Just start from the beginning, man. Work on improving yourself into the person you wan…
/r/seduction06/07/13 04:18 AM
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I dunno, man. I don't stick around long enough to put up with it. That's a personal issue that he/she needs to deal with, and I sure as hell ain't gonna be the one to fix it.
/r/seduction05/07/13 02:05 AM
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In my keto experience, the first is still effective even if you're not perfectly in ketosis. Just the restriction of carbs and the increase in fats helps it with weight loss
/r/TheRedPill04/07/13 11:07 PM
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I'm currently working on my weight problem with that. I'm not losing weight as fast, but my waist size shows the difference.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/13 10:54 PM
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A great man once told me: GFTOW But seriously, dude! There are billions of women on the planet - they literally outnumber us! She turned you down? Too bad, she's missing out on your awesome life! Go share it with all the other great women that walk by you every single day of your life. Stop texting this other chick. If she wanted to be a part of your life, she would be. Everyone deserves someone who wants to be with them, including you.
/r/seduction02/07/13 05:23 AM
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Holy shit. That was mine, too - I just never realized it before now! I'm really glad I dumped her.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/13 04:53 AM
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Being 20, how do I approach older women during the day? I'm talking 30's and maybe early 40's? What is your experience on dating coworkers? Where do you go to day game? I'e done some searching in the sub, but I'd like some more thoughts. I live in a very conservative city - not sure if that makes a difference.
/r/seduction02/07/13 04:37 AM
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On a larger scale, I'm a music major, and a lot of my life will depend on how well I network and how much people like me. Seddit has helped me so much in my day-to-day interactions with everyone. On a daily basis, I guess I never really stop trying to get better. I don't have a time where I game, and then a time where I don't. For example, I was at Walmart about an hour ago and the line was backed up. While waiting, I had a conversation with the lady behind me to pass time, while everyone else w…
/r/seduction02/07/13 04:29 AM
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Regarding your first thought - I'm not sure if it helps, but I never ask girls for their number. Instead, I ask them how they want to get in touch about whatever future plans - it's now their idea for me to have their number. It's a small distinction, but I think it helps set me apart from the guys who ask for her number.
/r/seduction30/06/13 04:23 AM
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I'd say no contact, dude. She's not stupid - she's deliberately ignoring your text. This woman doesn't respect you even enough to give you a response. You need to respect yourself and realize that you can do better.
/r/seduction29/06/13 03:27 PM
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I was just reminded of a bulletin at my music school. For the entire year, it had a poster that said "new and original does not mean good". This should be applied to her entire profile.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/13 01:21 PM
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Well. that's a little different. With night game, the difference is that girls are more likely to expect being hit on, and will probably have their shields up. I think the principle of being different still applies, though. Approaching won't be guaranteed to make you stand out, but it's how you start.
/r/seduction27/06/13 03:24 PM
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It might not be because they think highly of themselves. I think the reason it comes across as bold is because so few people do it. One of my favorite ideas that I picked up from The Game is that you have to be different from every other guy out there - this is why cold approaching is so great. It's direct, it's honest and it's very intentional. Think about how your average nice guy works. He's afraid of rejection, so he's indirect. He'll be friends with a girl to try to develop a relationship, …
/r/seduction27/06/13 02:54 PM
1

Realistically, I would put a large city I live close to. For example, instead of Marlborough, MA, I'd just put Boston (I don't actually live here). Same thing for neighborhoods of big cities.
/r/seduction27/06/13 02:22 PM
1

I hear he's also a real looker <3
/r/seduction27/06/13 01:45 PM
1

I actually just did a search of "Dancing Monkey" on Seddit to give him some links. Billy's guide to DHV is my favorite that came up.
/r/seduction27/06/13 06:08 AM
2

Exactly! I'm in the same situation as OP, and I only respond with silly stuff or banter. There's this one girl I went to a dance with who texts me from time to time. I told her I had to go abduct kids in my van - she thought it was hilarious and had no idea that was just sitting on my ass.
/r/seduction27/06/13 12:51 AM
1

He did all that by himself! Not some stupid hat Exactly. I think peacocking can be a useful tool, but generally it really shouldn't be the biggest thing you've got going for you. When I go to college parties, I wear a kitten shirt with an unbuttoned dress shirt over it. I open people like normal, and when the conversation begins to die, they notice on their own and are like "OMG kittens!!1!". From there, I may do some push-pull about our future together or we'll name the kittens or some shit. Ba…
/r/seduction25/06/13 04:04 AM
1

Yeah, in the closing section. It's a good tool to set goals and track progress and whatnot.
/r/seduction23/06/13 07:22 PM
3

I'm working on the challenges in the back of Mark Manson's book models. I did my 5 approaches yesterday, and I need 13 in the next five days to get to 20/week. So far, I've gotten 2 numbers, a facebook friend and a lot of confidence.
/r/seduction23/06/13 02:09 PM
10

Literally hundreds of guys. I made a profile of a moderately attractive female on POF and had over 200 messages the next day.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/13 05:15 PM
-2

Exactly! All that stuff on here about body language goes both ways. You can use it to communicate attraction or the lack thereof. I generally prefer a more direct approach where I actually tell her what I think she's doing and that I'm not interested. However, I then forget about it - I don't let things get awkward around her. That would discourage her from approaching the next guy.
/r/seduction22/06/13 01:10 PM
2

There's actually some pretty good stuff already out there.
/r/seduction22/06/13 01:04 PM
2

That post will be deleted as soon as a mod gets on. They've been doing a great job of keeping Seddit free from most of the drama. The top rated comments are from people who don't regularly post in /r/seduction, and one of them even posts in srs. It's not representative of the rest of the subreddit.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/13 05:06 PM
2

That's the magic of Seddit. Read through the comments on these - that's part of why I chose them. There's some great discussion on different ways to view the topic, so you can find the angle that works for you.
/r/seduction21/06/13 12:59 PM
3

It could indicate that she views her body as an object seperate from herself. Is that the same as not respecting yourself? Well, maybe, but not to her.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/13 03:52 AM
5

Note the voting brigades that happen a month after the original post. All of TofuTofu's posts (1 month old) are downvoted to hell with majorly upvoted comments (1 DAY old) about "sexual assault".
/r/TheRedPill21/06/13 02:37 AM
34

Please don't waste your money on a pdf about text game. These Are All You Need
/r/seduction20/06/13 10:49 PM
2

Really? I thought it was easy! As soon as I got tired of it, I just started calling her out on shit tests every single time! By the time she got pissed off enough, she thought it was her idea to end things. Not being attracted means it's so much easier to not give a fuck.
/r/seduction20/06/13 10:29 PM
0

some people are just bitches. Exactly, don't let it get to you. There will always be people who won't respond well to approaches for whatever reason. Don't take it personally - she's the one missing out on you.
/r/seduction20/06/13 03:10 AM
1

I very much agree! Unless it's business related, I never use voicemail. I was more thinking about using calling as a tool to keep track of long distance friends. But a girl I don't know very well and/or want to attract? Definitely would use text to set up the date.
/r/seduction19/06/13 06:00 PM
21

I don't know why this is just now hitting me, but shit tests build off of each other. They more you fail, the more you'll have to deal with. It makes so much sense.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/13 05:17 PM
5

Seriously! And when she gets called out on it, there's some epic rationalization about how we're all inherently wrong (with no actual evidence to back it up). There's even a nice Hitler analogy in the ad hominem thread.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/13 05:08 PM
45

I agree completely. Any time someone brings up texting, or online dating or Facebook for that matter, I tell them the same thing. It's a tool to get together with people in real life. Even if you want to just stay on the radar of someone who lives far away or someone you haven't seen in a while, phone calls are so much better. It's more personal.
/r/seduction19/06/13 02:09 PM
5

Maybe consider changing how you view Facebook and your phone. Stop thinking of them as ways to socialize. Instead, view them as tools to get together in-person. If all you do is text and FB chat, you're going to lose attraction. I only use FB for keeping in touch with old friends and setting up get-togethers between friends.
/r/seduction19/06/13 02:25 AM
1

I agree on the last paragraph. I'm working on a weight issue, and I never joke about it - there's really nothing funny about being unhealthy like that. I mean I'm not a dick, but I won't joke about it to trivial the issue.
/r/seduction19/06/13 02:18 AM
0

Learn to love dancing and read about how do open, escalate, etc while dancing. Man, once you get out of your head, it's so much fun. You just have to fucking do it all out with no shame just once, and it's like it clicks. This is how I approach loud parties, and I have so much fun that I don't care if I close or not. People seem to be drawn to this.
/r/seduction18/06/13 04:45 AM
1

You know the idea of false time constraints? I do something similar. I usually say "I'm not on here much, but we should talk more" pretty much verbatim. If she's comfortable, I get a number. From there, read up on here about how to get from # closes to dates. Specifically, check out this link from the sidebar.
/r/seduction18/06/13 03:55 AM
10

You can also use it as a tool to end certain relationships. I was in a FWB with a girl who would shit test me all the time. When I got tired of it, I just started calling her out on her shit. We don't talk anymore, and she thinks it was her idea that we ended things.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 01:29 PM
2

I actually love the smell when I'm around it, but I can't stand actually getting it in my lungs. I usually keep a pack with me for when I go out. Spare cigarettes = instant friends.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 01:23 PM
1

Exactly. And if you want more specifics, use the search and find posts more than a year old. There's some good stuff in the archives.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 05:20 AM
1

How do you think those friendships start? It's a process, man. Just talk to everyone and try be friends with as many people as possible. The people you don't click with fade out on their own, and the people you do will become better and better friends just naturally. You have to put in the effort to make it happen in the first place.
/r/seduction17/06/13 04:32 AM
4

Man, I used to be in the exact spot as you. Start at the beginning. Make eye contact with as many people as you can. Whenever you walk down the street, make eye contact with people and smile. Then start saying hi! Keep working at it until it's easy. Literally do this to everyone. Here are some links that help me a bit: This. And this. This, too. After those, this. I've always thought that many people find themselves introverted just because they've never had any practice at being extroverted - t…
/r/seduction17/06/13 03:10 AM
1

Here's how I see it: Anything that's not in-person interaction will either leave things the same or actually decrease attraction. It's great to stay in touch with people, but will rarely make them more attracted to you than they were when you were in person. Use anything that's not in person (FB, dating sites, texting) solely as a tool to move to in-person interactions, where you can actually increase attraction.
/r/seduction17/06/13 02:29 AM
1

Exactly! And pull in those number closes with both girls and guys! All those people will invite you to more parties with more of their friends.
/r/seduction16/06/13 04:12 PM
7

I got a number from a cold approach and felt awesome! Then I chickened out on approaching another girl the next day. Gotta work on it, man.
/r/seduction16/06/13 03:56 PM
3

Let's see if my half of a philosophy minor is good for anything. It sounds like you're changing the definition of knowledge. Knowledge can be simply put as justified, true belief. So, take your first example about the "shy" girl. It's justified (you can reason out that she could just be shy) and it's a belief (you believe it), but the idea that something becomes true because you instantly believe it so doesn't quite work. Truth creates new knowledge, but knowledge doesn't create new/change truth…
/r/seduction15/06/13 03:17 AM
1

That's sad news! I'll be there for a week, and plan on spending a few nights at the bars. Oh well, a little challenge is good, right?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/13 02:53 AM
5

And then?
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 01:36 PM
1

Most of the people on Seddit will tell you the whole "if you want to learn to fish, don't ask the fish" thing. Most of the top comments on that comment are calling it out as crap. I really don't think that post is a fair representation of the subreddit.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/13 01:21 PM
1

I like that! With step 2, should I worry about exes coming up in a bad way?
/r/seduction08/06/13 11:37 PM
0

I tell my sister about my thought processes with women when they're more red-pill. She now thinks I'm an asshole.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/13 06:12 AM
13

I now associate that feeling if anxiety with a call to action. Instead of freaking me out, it convinces me that the time's right to act.
/r/seduction04/06/13 06:33 PM
5

Aw man, I wanna get that tattooed on my body. Take no shit, give no shit.
/r/seduction03/06/13 04:55 PM
2

Can you tell about what drugs you've taken and how they've affected your personal game? Like weed makes me worse at game. That's the only example I have, personally.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/13 04:06 AM
1

I can totally dig this. Yesterday, I smoked right before I went out and and I did NOTHING. No game whatsoever. Like, it flipped a switch where I didn't feel like doing anything. I mean, it always does that, but I was so motivated beforehand.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/13 04:04 AM
14

"Have you slept with someone?" "What, you mean like, today?"
/r/seduction02/06/13 11:58 PM
2

A lot of universities have clubs for these, too! The club often host dances and are always willing to help people learn. I'm big on east-coast swing and lindy-hop, myself, and there are so many girls in it. Most of them are not only attractive, but really cool people. I don't know why more guys don't do this.
/r/seduction01/06/13 11:44 PM
1

Hey, no problem man. We're right in the same boat. Best of luck!
/r/seduction01/06/13 11:19 PM
9

Meet as many people as you can, especially in the first week. It's a great way to get invited to a lot of things. Furthermore, ever heard the saying "never eat alone"? Follow it with just about everything. Bring people to parties, or invite groups to lunch or dinner or whatever. The more social circles you're in, the better. One thought, though. Don't let it get in the way of your studies. That shit matters. That being said, use some of the skills from here to help network, if your degree needs …
/r/seduction31/05/13 10:55 PM
1

When I'm out, I usually go outside once every hour or two and just look at the sky. I completely clear my mind for a few minutes. It sounds like new age bullshit, but if you can get yourself to a clean slate, it's much easier to get back into the game.
/r/seduction31/05/13 04:43 AM
1

The entire thing is a game, man! Leave all you're AA at the door. People say you'll never see the people you hit on ever again, but that's not always the case if you're near where you live. It's actually a pretty small world. But you've got just the opposite! You're at a music festival in a completely different area. You will literally never see these people again. Have no shame. Try out things you from here that you don't think will work, escalate harder (but don't be a creep) and open everythi…
/r/seduction31/05/13 04:31 AM
4

That's every day for me on this sub. I've had so many blue pill moments now that I think back. Surprisingly, though, I did have some RP moments, and the results were amazing. Hindsight is 20/20, right?
/r/TheRedPill31/05/13 04:03 AM
1

Thanks for all the info. I'm only 20 years old and I'm just starting to get into this stuff, and it's pretty hard to get a feel for what the future will bring. That's what makes this such an interesting perspective for me, with you having already gone through most of the crap I still have to face. What advice would you have for us younger guys as we go through college and move forward?
/r/TheRedPill31/05/13 04:00 AM
8

Wow, who the fuck would subscribe to that? Actually, they'd probably say the same about us. Funny how that works.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/13 03:47 AM
2

There are two types of people at cons: the people who love it and this is a big part of their year, or the people who just want to check it out and see what it's all about. Try to figure out which one you're approaching and act accordingly. Chances are, you'll have very little competition either way. The most important thing is logistics, especially if you're going for a SNL. Do they live in town? Where are they staying? How long will they be around? Be prepared to meet girls who have no logisti…
/r/seduction30/05/13 01:34 PM
1

That's a good point. I've been so caught up thinking that this is my first time crossing a border, that I didn't really think much about how similar our countries might be. Oops :P To follow up, is being in the city going to be much different than in a suburb or at university? Doesn't seem like it really should.
/r/seduction30/05/13 05:30 AM
31

Just because it's honest doesn't mean it's not drama, in my book. I would guess that if she associates a normal sexual interaction with rape, she's got some deep issues that she needs to resolve. There's nothing wrong with this - rape is a very traumatic experience. However, why should it be your job to deal with that? It isn't, and you live in abundance. So why linger on this girl? You're not her therapy. Harsh? Maybe. Oh well.
/r/seduction30/05/13 01:04 AM
1

Do you have any links to these? They would be great to bring up when talking to people about this.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/13 10:55 PM
1

I especially like that last point. I literally do one kind of dancing almost the entire time, but I do it full out. It really draws attention to you and it's a whole lot more fun. (Maybe those two are related ;D)
/r/seduction28/05/13 08:00 PM
14

We talk about that last point a lot in swing dancing (the only dance I can actually do). The only not-good swing dancing is when you and your partner aren't smiling. Having fun really make all the difference, so be careful to get out of your head with whatever you're doing. Here's another thought on any kind of ballroom dancing. The great thing about them is that the guy leads. All the girl has to do is follow, which makes it really easy for her to learn the basics. I think it's a little harder …
/r/seduction28/05/13 03:05 PM
3

Twice I was stopped because I had mentioned that I was a virgin. It was instant, like flipping a switch. Keep that to yourself.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/13 04:45 AM
2

You're absolutely right. I think there's a middle ground. The women definitely decides whether it happens, but he's changing the mindset to say that he has a choice, too. Most guys tend to thing "How can I be good enough for this girl" to some extent or another when they their first thoughts should be "Is this girl good enough for me?" Just a thought.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/13 05:44 PM
5

I agree with you. There's a line. When it starts being obviously unhealthy is when it starts being really unattractive. For example, I was out swing dancing yesterday, and saw a woman who matched your description. Definitely the hottest one there. You wouldn't call her skinny, but she was still in shape, and it was awesome.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/13 12:35 AM
1

That's what they would do. They just shared a dorm room, so the marker was close to the door. He says usually the girl doesn't even notice or say anything.
/r/seduction24/05/13 12:43 AM
19

Find out if your roommate is cool with hookups happening in the room. If he is, come up with a system. Some of my friends had something pretty cool set up. They had a whiteboard on their door with a black marker. However, inside the room was a red marker that only they used. If there was any red on the board at all, it meant "do not disturb" for obvious reasons.
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:58 AM
1

As a bonus, learning the basics of a ukulele is really easy. Figure out 4 chords, and you can sing dozens of songs in a comfortable range. It's also incredibly fun :P I do it because I love it, the pick-up part is just a bonus.
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:35 AM
1

I can relate to the guitar stuff. Check out my username. Every girl that I've met at my university who isn't a music major seems to love it, and the ones that are think it's cute.
/r/seduction23/05/13 12:12 AM
1

Check out this post. It's pretty much spot on. Most useful, in my experience, was putting the banter on my profile. Everyone else's profiles are so boring! We all like hanging out with friends or watching movies. Instead, I have people message me about my interests, like ukulele or swing dancing. They're things I love that are kinda unique.
/r/seduction22/05/13 03:39 AM
7

0-2. 0 = Never 1 = If I'm drunk 2 = Yes
/r/TheRedPill09/05/13 03:30 PM
2

Exactly. If you're having fun, you're dancing well enough. That's all that matters. I used to hate dancing, and I never did it! Because I hated it, because I never did it, ad nauseum. Break the loop, go out and dance the self-consciousness away (alcohol helps the first time ;D).
/r/seduction09/05/13 04:56 AM
1

I think I'm getting it. Thank you!
/r/TheRedPill06/05/13 05:04 AM
1

I'm interested more in the nice guy. Can you give a specific example of how you would draw attention to them? Hypotheticals help me understand stuff :P
/r/TheRedPill05/05/13 10:28 PM
2

I have the same problem and I'm just now starting to get out of it. For me, what's really been helping is dancing. I dance like a boss when I'm drunk (even sober people say so!), so I started with that while sober. As I get better at dancing without being self-conscious, I get more out of my head with the rest of my game, too. Hope that helps, man. Keep trying!
/r/seduction05/05/13 06:46 PM
1

Question for you, dude. How did you get into LSD? How did you feel on your first trip? I ask because I plan on experimenting in hallucinogens later this year, though I's planned on starting with shrooms. Is there anything I can do to be ready for it?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/13 02:48 AM
2

I'm working on it because I think a lot of the social skills that I've early started learning will help in my career. For me, everything I do is about who I know and getting people to like me, and PUA is has already helped me out with that. Furthermore, it's a means of self-improvement. Instead of playing video games or random shit on the weekend that involves me and a couch, I'm out doing stuff and meeting people. The getting laid (or at least, trying :P) part is recreational.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/13 02:46 AM
1

Story time: My friend and I went to a speed dating event. However, right before the event started, we pulled out some masks. I had a Bill Clinton mask and he had a horse mask. I would talk about politics and Monica Lewinsky while he wouldn't talk at all and try to eat shit. Needless to say, we didn't get any dates (though I did get offered two numbers (which I turned down)). But there is a point! I looked around every now and then and saw a bunch of girls looking really bored. This wasn't the ca…
/r/seduction04/05/13 03:13 AM
1

That video was actually really helpful. Thank you! I think that's one of my lady friend's biggest problems: she just waits for guys to make all the moves. I'll try to break her out of that a little bit before we actually start.
/r/seduction03/05/13 03:17 AM
2

That's the thing. To your average sober dude, she's not really attractive. She's not unattractive, but she's average and too shy to make up for it.
/r/seduction03/05/13 03:10 AM
1

That's basically all I could think of to do. Just introduce her to guys and such. Regarding you last comment, I might consider it if both of us strike out :P
/r/seduction03/05/13 03:09 AM
2

Haha, I agree. I love how direct people are here.
/r/seduction03/05/13 03:05 AM
1

I didn't mean to come off as not calm. My b.
/r/seduction03/05/13 03:04 AM
5

gotta You don't have to do anything. You've agreed to spend time together. That's as far as the expectations should go.
/r/seduction02/05/13 05:41 PM
5

He's right. You're not paying her to spend time with you, and she shouldn't expect it. If she's there for any reason other than she wants to be there with you, then fuck it.
/r/seduction02/05/13 05:39 PM
8

So you have to stroke the poor boy's ego. This pissed me off more than it probably should have. I was on the fence, but now I'm sure this subreddit is right for me. That's a load of crap.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/13 01:08 AM
1

Don't just say, "I like to listen to music". Exactly! Almost every single person on this planet likes listening to music, or watching movies or being with friends. When someone asks you what you like, don't give them bullshit answers like that. They're giving you an awesome excuse to be different from everyone else.
/r/seduction27/04/13 04:47 PM
1

Yeah, that's what I thought at first. I confirmed with her friend last night and FB this morning. She definitely has a boyfriend. I guess for her, dancing on some other dude when he's not around is okay, but that's the line. I'm not even mad. It was a good experience in kino and escalation, even if I got stopped.
/r/seduction27/04/13 04:43 PM
12

I'm going out tonight. I'm at approaching and talking to groups of people. I love doing push/pull stuff. However, even when I've established some good rapport, I'm not good at isolating. Any tips for me on just how to do it and what to expect if it goes well and/or poorly?
/r/seduction27/04/13 01:15 AM
1

I'm in college, and I'm a music student. I can play piano in most situations to demonstrate value, and I get a lot of stories about being in bands and whatnot. My username is a perfect excuse to bring a girl back to the dorm (though getting to that point is a lot harder :P). I won't be incredibly financially stable, even right out of grad school, but I love what I do immensely, and I hope that shows to everyone that I talk to.
/r/seduction24/04/13 10:06 PM
7

Dude, I don't know what to do either. You've already given up. Look at your post! That girl didn't avoid you. But another guy, who actually had a sense of self-worth, came up and kino'd the fuck out of her. You had a nice move of pulling her out to dance, but you didn't escalate. And why should you apologize? She made the choice to be out there dancing. How much of the top posts here have you read? How much have you practiced? All I see are posts in /r/ForeverAlone and this post. We want to help…
/r/seduction23/04/13 01:55 PM
2

Hell yeah, brother. Isn't it crazy? I know exactly how you feel. Love it.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/13 04:27 AM
1

Start talking to everybody. Talk to people on the bus, the cashiers, people in class. The more you talk to people, the better you'll get at just being you around anyone. We all walk around every day with our mouths shut, not talking to anyone we don't know. What a waste!
/r/seduction22/04/13 07:23 PM
2

Have you been to /r/seduction? Read everything in the sidebar about inner game. I think it really helps.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/13 07:18 PM
1

As someone who is fat, I completely agree. Anyone who says what we are is "beautiful" or "normal" is wrong. It's unhealthy, and I don't think that should be attractive. I got to where I am because of MY poor choices. No excuses. However, I'm making the choice to change my habits because I am in charge of my life. No excuses. (70 lb down in the 11 months)
/r/TheRedPill22/04/13 05:49 AM
1

I use the posts from years ago the most. They're pretty straight up. More recently, I ignore the field reports and read questions, trying to figure what guys who might be in the same boat as me are dealing with. There's still good stuff there, I think, but you gotta look for it.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/13 12:29 AM
20

That hurt to read. That was me in high school. He actually thinks it'll work, too. He really does.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/13 12:19 AM
1

I'm not sure either way. Why do you think that?
/r/seduction18/04/13 12:06 AM
1

If you march in a drum corps, this is almost exactly what they teach you during posture lessons. It's amazing how much you can project your body with the right posture, even on something like a football field.
/r/seduction13/04/13 05:54 PM
1

It's absolutely for you. Game was made by "unattractive" people. Take Neil Strauss, for example. In his book, he describes several of his first impressions by other people being that he's pretty average. Yet, he's one of the best. It's all about the mindset you have about yourself.
/r/seduction10/04/13 05:12 AM
8

I definitely agree with this. To reference The Game, you have to be what the other guys aren't.
/r/seduction10/04/13 02:38 AM
1

Honestly, I don't use it just for pick up :P I play mine every day and I love it. I'd totally recommend getting a cheap one, watching some youtube videos and seeing if you like it. Girls do seem to like it, though. Some of the chords are really basic, so you can teach them how to play a little bit. Easy kino. Then I have a cheesy little song I wrote that I can put any name into. It's usually works alright.
/r/seduction09/04/13 01:04 PM
7

I struggle with this, too. If you don't have your own room, I take full advantage of whenever my roommate leaves. Otherwise, work out a system with your roommate (assuming he's cool with it). As for getting her back there, maybe try "Have you ever seen a room in XYZ dorm before?" or something like that. It's a cheap excuse, but it's there. I use my username most of the time ;D
/r/seduction09/04/13 02:23 AM
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