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No wonder why some men do what they do, I cannot blame them
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 04:39 PM
21

We can never win
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 04:37 PM
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Get your alimony king, get your bag
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 11:47 PM
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I think he will try to get more time with his daughter
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 11:24 PM
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Never beg her, try to get more time if it's not 50/50 and try to talk as little as possible to what woman next time
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 11:23 PM
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That is true. Hopefully he will not harm your son. Is she not being a difficult coparent?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 04:54 AM
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How descent can he actually be? A guy that is fucking a married woman
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 04:36 AM
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That's what your mother told me that you are.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 09:12 PM
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Oh wooow.... so you mean to tell me that in a group called "Divorce men" you did not expect to find bitter men, men with dark thoughts and overall negative due to the experience that they suffered with the one woman they loved the most... OH MY GOD I wonder if you think the same of all the female man-hating focus groups subreddit that this website has, I doubt it do, fuck you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 09:11 PM
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They are not lying
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 04:32 AM
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They make it known
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 04:24 AM
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I was weak, I let her walk all over me.... but never again, I will never be played like that again
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:28 PM
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Good for you, there you go!
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:27 PM
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Yeah, yeah, whatever...
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:25 PM
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Maybe, but damn... My parents and grand-parents were just too great, almost like saints. Specially my mom
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:16 PM
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Women always blame the guy for the bad things they do. My post was shared on another sub, and you can guess the kind of stuff of they are saying, most of them assuming I was abusive in the marriage. This world is such a joke.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:15 PM
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I don't know... I had a different view of women before what my ex-wife and daughters did to me.... My mom was just too great, almost like a saint. I am so disappointed about everything
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:05 PM
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You are cheap
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:02 PM
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Shut up
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:01 PM
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No, because I have an actual brain and because of the type of text messages I am getting from them and things they say when I am with them. You can leave now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:01 PM
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I expected it
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 06:00 PM
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I got destroyed in a divorce, there is no way I will marry again. I wish things were different since I still believe in God but I don't know... There is no way I will get married again, I will not even cohabitate
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 04:03 PM
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We live in a different world now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 04:01 PM
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They tell me or make it obvious, bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:59 PM
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If you know how to dance is very easy, I know how to dance bachata, merengue and salsa and wow. Women do like a man that can dance
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:58 PM
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Good then
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:55 PM
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Whatever you say
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:55 PM
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They seem to want a relationship with me, I just use them for sex
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:24 AM
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That seems to be the way
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:06 AM
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So true, I put up with so much crap for her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:05 AM
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It's shockingly easy. I wonder if it was as easy for my ex's ap
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:05 AM
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I did as well, it was all for nothing. We wasted our time
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:04 AM
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I will never be the same. I get angry whenever I think of all the time and resources invested for essentially nothing—it was all for nothing. 'You didn't love me the way I deserve?' Like, who do you think you are, bitch?
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:02 AM
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We got played man
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 04:20 AM
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just dance a little with them and they are already talking about connection and having feelings for you, it's easy as hell
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 04:12 AM
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What is there to forgive?
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:19 AM
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Truly hope so, but if it happens now I am prepared
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 01:21 AM
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Things a re good with the little one, She into karaoke lately and korean stuff, I've been taking her to korean restaurants from time to time
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 01:17 AM
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me
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 01:15 AM
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I will die on that hill for sure and no matter the consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 05:08 AM
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Nah dude, I will do plenty of those activities on my own time. I will not be made a fool again.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 05:03 AM
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therapy still doesn't work
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 04:51 AM
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therapy doesn't work. Waste of money.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 04:37 AM
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Yeah, I loved my kids too which made it easier for her to use me and mock me
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 04:36 AM
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Exactly man, it's soul crushing but it's what it is...
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 05:22 AM
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I did not expect them to meet my adult emotional needs, I was betrayed, I was betrayed by my adult kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 05:08 AM
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I am the one that wants little to do with them after what they did. I only have a relationship with the third one who is not an adult. You are scum
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 02:43 AM
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That's the thing with you women, you think can simply do whatever you want to us with no consequences whatsoever. You were a POS to your dad, shame on you
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 02:19 AM
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There is not need for me to take the initiative to fix anything after what my two adult daughters did to me
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 02:05 AM
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There was a guy here that his daughters stopped communication and he found out that his oldest one is getting married and he is not invited.... If that was me I would never forgive her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 12:21 AM
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" I didn't give my dad the time of day as a child/teen/young adult" After the stage of your life you see your dad the least it's when you start to care about him... how about before...
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 11:44 PM
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That's all I was in that family an ATM
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 10:23 PM
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I am truly happy for you. I was not as lucky, and I would say I did everything a dad is supposed to do for his kids, it worked for my dad and his dad, but not for me
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 09:56 PM
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Well, my daughters tried to manipulate me so I did not get the part of the house that I BUILT WITH MY DADS HELP, and they also knew about their mom infidelity. I am telling you, I never expected such level of betrayal from someone so close... I guess they resented me for working too much (?) I guess...
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 09:45 PM
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Oh adultery subreddit... I don't know what to say...
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 11:21 PM
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Hmmm... don't get surprise if there is a workhusband... sorry bro, this life sucks
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 11:41 PM
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yeah, right...
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 01:33 AM
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It's a difficult position indeed
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 11:57 PM
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Wow bro, I am sorry.... Did you tell her that her accusations are bullcrap and that she has no excuse?
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 11:45 PM
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I wouldn't accept the hug of those snakes
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 03:53 AM
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No way I am cutting off my family, the only people that give a damn about me actually. My family from my other side are communist cubans, and I hate communism.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 07:50 PM
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It's an unreasonable request to ask me to cut off my family because they like a politician. I am dominican and cuban and I have family that liked Castro on the cuban side, guess what, I still talk to them
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 06:50 PM
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I wouldn't go... I you don't feel like going, just don't go. Remember that you might do everything right and still get betrayed by your own kids, one of my uncles did everything wrong and his adult kids love him, so if you don't feel like going just don't go.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 12:55 AM
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It's good that you were able to be honest with her and tell it like it is.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 06:54 PM
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Ah yeah, I took her to one of those korean restaurants she likes so much.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 04:41 PM
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Ah yeah, I took her to one of those korean restaurants she likes so much.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 04:41 PM
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It's interesting how kids specially daughters do not see or do not want to see all the bullcrap their moms put their dads through in order for the dad not to be in his kids lives. Let me guess the bride did invite the mom, right?
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 04:05 PM
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I would change the church
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 11:21 PM
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Really sad bro, but it's very common
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 02:29 AM
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You see them complain about their husband's mom all the time on reddit, I don't deny there are legitimate cases on mother in laws being awful, but with what I know now, I don't doubt the mom in many cases is trying to protect the son from the bullshit
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 02:10 AM
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They support what their daughter is doing? Leaving the marriage for another woman?
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 02:29 PM
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what a bitch that woman is
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 11:39 PM
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" She sent me an innocuous email today about something she needed for a certain account and my reply was emotional. " When you sent her an email letting her know you discovered her cheating, did she say anything to you?
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:42 PM
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Well done, I salute you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 02:39 AM
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Don't be surprise if he wasn't the only one.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 01:00 AM
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Just be ready just in case anything happens, simps are the most dangerous people on earth
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 09:05 PM
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I just feel so used by them, but I guess with time I will be able to control it
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:51 AM
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I wish my heart was like yours, in my case my heart is full of hate I hate them so much is not even funny.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:19 AM
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One of the biggest ones
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:33 AM
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Never again bro, I cannot even do cohabitation
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:32 AM
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And then they get mad when you point out how courts are against men!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:53 PM
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Never ever fall in love, always be ready to walk away.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:11 AM
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By the way, this woman went through a weight loss journey, surprise, surprise.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:59 AM
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Some women be like: "Things are going good, let me destroy the family"
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:51 AM
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Having to pay alimony is what makes me angry the most, specially because she a cheater scumbag
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 11:06 PM
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Make the divorce official bro, do the process. You cannot trust women words on issues like this.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 11:05 PM
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I would stop texting him or trying to contact him, he is an adult and a fellow guy, if he cannot see the sacrifices and contributions you did for him at that age, well... he can f off. I speak as a guy that betrayed by his adult daughters
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:10 PM
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I don't feel sorry at all, I am glad and celebrating she is struggling
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 04:09 PM
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There is someone else in the picture, mine tried that crap with me and it turned out to be that she was having an affair. Either way don't be her friend
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 10:47 PM
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Women cannot be trusted, truly... I am starting to hate them for real
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 06:40 PM
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It's time to ask for a divorce bro
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 01:01 AM
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Wow... She is willing to move everywhere else except for the place where you would get the most support... damn... these women are good at what they do, they know exactly how to make you lose your crap. Fuck that cheap hoe
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 04:52 AM
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Mine tried to do that with me, but I don't really argue with women , so she just said the classic I love you but I am not in love with you, and yes she was cheating
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 02:52 PM
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That's exactly how it is, she used you. Act accordingly.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 01:49 AM
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I recommend you to start guarding your heart for what might possibly happen between your daughter and you. The so call connection between daughters and fathers is a myth, and I learned it the hard way
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 01:47 AM
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Don't buy her the toys, she has to earn them
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 01:45 AM
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It's truly disgusting how we get discarded like trash after all the time, and investment we put in our marriage. And then they want to act like we can be friends and crap, why would I want a friend like her?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 10:41 PM
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I get "triggered" when I see all the posts painting men as not doing anything around the home, but they never say how much a husband sacrifice in general during a marriage
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 10:29 PM
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One hast to put the fear of god in those people, don't fall for that friendship, civility crap, you have to give the idea that if something happens you are capable of k*** them
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 04:52 AM
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I would have told my daughter to stay out of my business
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 12:27 AM
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Yeah, but what are mere words supposed to do? Every time she tries I tell her to fuck off.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 12:41 AM
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Yeah, I was during the marriage. That is why we divorced, and she is struggling hard, working for the first time of her life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 11:36 PM
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The chores is just an excuse, it's all about control
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 09:13 PM
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Forgot to mention, in many cases even if the woman works, the burden to pay most of the bills and all the stuff is on the man
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:54 PM
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I am very clean myself, my mom was crazy about cleaning, and I am not able to sleep well on messy places, but how unfair of my ex, demanding that I clean 50/50 even though she wouldn't work
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:24 PM
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working 40 hours in another city, come home and work another 30-40 hours remotely. The apartment would only get clean when I began to clean it, I guess the shame would overcome her when she sa Oh crap so true, in many cases she would complain because I didn't do things around the home the same way she wanted even though the results would have been the same. It was just about control, nothing else
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:22 PM
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. In a divorce, hard work and sacrifice, mean nothing, in fact, it is often used against you. Time w Exactly bro, and how very sad. Oh how many days I just wanted to spend more time sleeping and be with the kids or I wanted to visit my parents, but I couldn´t because I had a duty, I worked very hard for what we had, and I provided her a comfortable life and yet what did I get from it? nothing but pure betrayal from her and my two adult daughters, disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:21 PM
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Sorry man. I often see on other posts people saying how grateful one should feel because their kids call other men dad, that is so crazy to me I can't even begin comprehend. It's like a cuckold mentality
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 04:18 AM
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my two adult daughters were like that, I cut them off and made them miss me. Now they want a relationship with me but it is not the same anymore. I don't have the same image of them
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 12:11 AM
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Well, If objectively I didn't do anything wrong to deserve such treatment from my daughter, I would do the bare minimum. Many daughters in that situation take advantage of their father's desperation to have a relationship with them to get money from them ​ So I would do very little, and if she decides not to ever talk to me again, then whatever
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 05:28 PM
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d. Now in my 40s I barely ever speak to him, and actually carried more anger and resentment due to him NOT trying harder. The birthday wishes and so forth quickly became a formality, and But were you alienated from him? Because let me tell you, it is not easy to take abuse from your kid specially when they are young
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 03:38 PM
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how are things now between you and her?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 10:10 PM
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Well I salute you. I'll never be remotely friendly to the hoe that I married though. Sorry for my daughters, but that is how it is.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 11:41 PM
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She is struggling hard now that she has to work for the first time ever
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 02:00 AM
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Exactly, if we are going to be the bad guys anyways, at least make them respect you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 03:40 AM
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I should have asked her: Why is the house not clean? What did you all day? What is going on and what can we do so you start cleaning as the person who stays all day home?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 03:39 AM
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I think I would do it that way as well... I am so scared of Alzheimer is not even funny.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 12:39 AM
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Good luck to you too man. I've been thinking about traveling alone in Europe for like two months.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 12:10 AM
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I agree. So many man are in horrible situations with their marriage and kids, they just stay quiet because they don't want to "die alone", only to end up dying alone and abused anyways. I will die alone and with dignity.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 12:08 AM
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A good percentage of them get a better position or a higher salary because of sexual favors. No all of them, but a good percentage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 08:50 PM
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It does, in many cases it does. On the top of that.. a good percentage of them get the position that they get due to sexual favors.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 07:39 PM
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She had it so easy with me bro, all she had to do was to cook for me and show some appreciation, but it looks like cooking for her man was too much for her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 12:49 AM
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Hahahahahahaha!!! I am so looking forward to see her working, I am so grateful to my ex-in laws, they are true Christians
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 12:47 AM
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I hope your new wife stays that way. sincerely, My ex wife was amazing at the beginning, then...
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 04:42 PM
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I understand brother... I say it from my perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 04:41 PM
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I just don't see how I could let go of that after what she did, she was vile bro.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 01:41 AM
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Oh sorry about that, they are adults. If they were kids I wouldn´t care.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 10:51 PM
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I won't let them walk all over me just because I am their dad, not anymore. f that
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 04:12 AM
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They are adults, let me clarify that on the post
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 04:02 AM
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I don't know why they had to do that... they are adults though
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:57 AM
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Well I was talking in the context of good parents
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 05:58 AM
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Right? The two people that told me to suck it up I think they are women. It's funny that we live in a society where they ask us to show our feelings and express ourselves yet the minute we do they tell us to suck it up, that is not about us. It just shows how society is not really ready for men to truly show their feelings
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 05:08 AM
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You read wrong, my youngest daughter loves me and I see her as much as I can. The two adults did something really wrong, but they have been trying to contact me and have asked for my forgiveness we will meet this weekend. Good job at trying to hurt me emotionally, you women are really good at that, I will give you that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 03:00 AM
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Maybe in the failed concept of parenting in the United States, where kids trash their parents as much as they want. But by every objective measure and metric I am a good father.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 02:47 AM
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I won´t accept your humiliation ritual. If you see me at the same level as step-"daddy" then choose him
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 02:28 AM
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It´s clear as a day that see your step-dad more like a "dad" than your actual dad, and then you wonder why I feel the way I do. Who asked for divorce your mom or your bio dad? In my case I never wanted this divorce but the witch cheated on me, and now I am left with debts, seeing my kid less that I am supposed to, and living at a long distance from my child is not wonder I can´t be as present as the guy she cheated on me with
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 02:18 AM
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Oh so the actual man who was working hard for you and his family is at the same level to the guy who just attended some events of yours and give us a few talks. My uncle did the same for me and I never saw him even close to the same level of my actual father who broke his back for me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 02:08 AM
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I am even taking issues with the word: "step dad" Like okay... if the father is not present, but if the dad is present, you are nothing, you are just her mother´s husband like back off
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 02:01 AM
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Why a daughter would like to be walked by the step dad as well? If the father was a good dad? Disgusting. I wouldn´t accept such crap. The figure of the Father is such a joke nowadays
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 02:00 AM
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I am so depressed, my youngest daughter is all I have... I keep thinking about my parents, my grandparents and my uncles and aunts, they are no longer here, it would be nice to have them, life was so nice back then. I don´t deserve all this suffering
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 10:07 PM
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I never though I would experience something like this... Never in a million years I would have done something like this to my parents, and I did not deserve what they did to me. I am trying to let go of these feelings but wow... something really died that day, I truly cannot see them the same way as before
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 02:21 AM
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