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| 377 | women shouldn't make men wait for sex proved with "data and psychology""Maddona-whore sEdUCtiON technique" "Make HIM feel great and stroke his ego by acting like an "easy girl" but just for HIM, you're the serious girl with other men, and the easy girl only for him" This is literally a pickmeiesha's technique. I had done this at the advice of a libfem. I had done this when I was at my lowest point of no self respect whatsoever. He just repackaged it as a "technique". It's the same scrote BS of making women lower their standards so that they can use, abuse and disca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 11:21 AM |
| 149 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??I like how he backpedaled in the article when a comment talked about the amount of expenses a woman has to put into to be presentable for the date. It is he who is entitled. He is expected to pay. End of story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:35 PM |
| 32 | Vetting Strategy: How soon should I meet his friends?I agree with all of this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 05:58 PM |
| 44 | Vetting Strategy: How soon should I meet his friends?Meeting his friends soon after meeting him and feeling like he's testing to see how you interact... 🚩? Abandoning you in a social context when you're still dating/early relationship (like going with his bros and leaving you to fend for yourself)... 🚩? Preference for hanging out with the friend group over hanging out with you one on one... 🚩? All of these immediately clocked as red flags to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 05:57 PM |
| 10 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"Love or no love, if a man makes your life objectively worse, that's not a healthy relationship. That's not a good situation to be in. Exactly this! I blocked and deleted a guy immediately when he was playing mind games- the last (very short) straw was when he was playing peek-a-boo going online and offline on a social media platform and did not bother texting me for hours. This is why I don't get it sometimes when posts like this show the woman putting up with the suffering- I will never be able… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 05:39 PM |
| 11 | Men are two-faced & will say one thing to you & a whole other thing about youSame here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:38 PM |
| 3 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.It's financial abuse and you are right about him taking pleasure in oppressing someone like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:27 PM |
| 2 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himAbsolutely true. I felt something was off the moment we texted. He even got spooked when I instinctively guessed and immediately told him what he was doing (taking a screenshot- on whatsapp). Turned out to be a 100 percent scrote. Don't underestimate your gut, it truly is a wonderful safeguard against danger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 11:54 AM |
| 53 | Pickme women in the workplaceDon't go out of your way for them, don't do shit for them, don't express emotion in front of them, don't do overtime for them, don't talk about personal matters with them, don't be a therapist for them The holy senary- I'm memorizing this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 8 | 39 Domestic Violence Lethality IndicatorsIf your boyfriend “playfully” (at first) pinches, shoves, grabs, or physically makes you uncomfortable Just even thinking about it always had and always will make me angry and a resounding "HELL NO" played in my head. Be judgemental. I always thought the opposite but in reality always exercised this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 09:16 AM |
| 286 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.Spot on. No wonder why I immediately disliked the recent posts on "what would HVM think about bla bla bla." It gave pick me vibes and at the time I could only think "but you are still centering your life on a man...." Thank you for this amazing and clarifying post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 09:02 AM |
| 83 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.I do get what you are saying as well. Unfortunately, with men we have to be ruthless. I hope you safely and successfully get out of this situation asap 🌸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:50 AM |
| 24 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.Exactly. It's way overdue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:44 AM |
| 65 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.Red flag are stop signs though.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:27 AM |
| 8 | Female Political Strategy Podcast: EP 12 - Could We, Should We, Desexualize Breasts?I haven't listened to it yet, but from the title alone I'm going to say that yes, and no. Everything is contextual. Yes, desexualise it for breastfeeding- there's nothing sexual about a child being fed. However, if we say to desexualise it completely, then a whole can of worms is opened. Because frankly, men DO see breasts as a secondary sexual characteristic, and they DO get aroused by it- we shouldn't ignore that. There is a reason why there is this whole boobs vs butt debate among men. Boobs … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 07:02 AM |
| 3 | "Your broke ass car" "And your craigslist couch" was on the lyrics 😂That is a surprisingly useful advice. at most its weaponized incompetence and he’d depend on you to dress him. 😬 yes, that is true. Reminds me of this LV boy who expected me to complement his shitty clothing, and to be nice I said "it's okay", only for him to later turn around and say that that I will be "with a badly dressed unkempt man" 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:50 AM |
| 29 | When a man blatantly says he's the jealous type, you better believe he's a toxic, controlling and manipulative man.😂😂😂 I a 100% agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:30 PM |
| 10 | Low effort men rantOmg. I hate it when they send songs- it makes me cringe so hard and I just get pissed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:16 PM |
| 16 | How'd You Find FDS?I was on google searching a question about guys because I was curious about the boobs/butt guy question that seemed to be floating around a lot at the time. I must have worded it in a way (I was angry and disgusted with the previous libfem/male responses on another website) that made an FDS post the first search result. I wasn't dating, wasn't in any relationship, young and just curious about what the deal with men was. At first I was skeptical about reddit- I never used it and I heard that redd… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:14 PM |
| 218 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceWith the male comments who "regret" and still mope around for the "one that got away", even if he did have the "love of his life" as his wife, she would either become "barb the builder" or a "starter wife", and he would soon larp on about how he "didn't get to experience the single life"/"married so soon and didn't get to potentially meet 'the one'"/ there is "someone better out there", and he would leave the proclaimed "love of his life". Men don't fall in love with women, they fall in love wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 05:47 AM |
| 5 | Why do so many men have bad breath?Unrelated but I read "frugal" as "fungal" and it took me a while to notice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:27 AM |
| 17 | Beards change way men look a lot more than makeup. Makeup comes off every day while you only see what men looks like if they shave. Don't trust men with beards.I don't buy this The fact that beard drastically changes the way men look? (Just like the title says) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:08 AM |
| 2 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.Thank you so much! This is eye opening advice. I’m saying you need to be able to handle mentally if a guy rejects you when you least expect it I completely agree. This makes me realise that I would be extremely upset if a guy just used me as a masturbatory object/ an emotional validator at this stage of my levelling up journey - still a ways to go to reach the ruthless queen peak. This is also a cue for me to read Limerence, a book suggested here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:15 PM |
| 50 | Free vs SlaveBeautifully elaborated! Every woman here knows what saying "no" to men (and internally mysogynistic women) does, and sadly that is a uniting factor in our experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 01:50 PM |
| 9 | Free vs SlaveYou're welcome. I'm glad it made sense😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 01:42 PM |
| 37 | Free vs SlaveBy saying no, as a slave that cannot say no? Yes a slave cannot say no because they are punished if they do so. It is also this Fear of punishment that makes them unable to say no- it is instilled in them to expect punishment and so they are always afraid. But there is a possibility that they can become free. Women as a class (who are already enslaved in this patriarchal society) CAN Become Free if most of us start saying NO ( and uphold out boundaries) and stand up against patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 01:31 PM |
| 10 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?... so she is vengeful as well. Your gut is telling you what she is like. This is not safe for you at all OP. Please listen to the comments. What she did is not acceptable at all. Hell, my friends even blur out/conceal my face in pictures when I happen to get caught in it in the background. She completely direspects you and disregards your safety and privacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:04 AM |
| 12 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisbrought out a wine bottle! I got scared- I though he was going to bash it on her head and drag her body inside the car | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:55 AM |
| 12 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesIt's not even meme science Yes I know. I always thought the same. I was being sarcastic since men love to use the biology card to scrote around, yet also force women to love the "dad bod" 🤮 So if any man is going to use the bIoLoGY argument, I'm just going to throw the "it's also in your biology to be fit, not flab" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 10:23 AM |
| 24 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesSince men love to use the "biology" card, it's in men's biology to be fit =) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:06 AM |
| 21 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.So many red flags. She didn't really vet him, she got easily impressed by his straightforwardness (she already has him in a positive light in her mind, hence laughing easily), had a drink date, and did not stop to think it weird that they had exactly the same likes (he was mirroring her) BECAUSE he mined for information while being a "great listener" aka ask her questions and say "omg me too!" They are barreling towards intimacy (she only knows him for a few weeks, they already have inside jokes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Observe on how he treats you when you're sick or in a bad situationI'm confused - isn't it advised in FDS not to be inebriated (alcohol/drugs) when you're with a guy as it can affect your judgement and vetting? I'm not really sure how long you are dating at this point so I'm assuming that it has been for a short amount of time. Granted that he was showing green flags when he decided to stay with you, but one thing that is firing alarm bells in my head is how did he not notice you were feeling sick when everyone was (the staff)? And how come when he insisted tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:31 AM |
| 2 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.Yeah, you are right. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:29 AM |
| 28 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.I'm sorry that you had to go through the destructive criticisms. I really hate it when society expects women to be positively receptive towards any and everyone. Unfortunately when I got confronted about not laughing at "jokes", I overcompensated and laughed at every stupid joke. Fortunately, this past two years of quarentine did undo that nonsense. You are right, thank you for reminding me that not every strategy works for everyone. And this- Your immediate displeasure or shock forces the other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:26 AM |
| 53 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.I got the "control your words" part down already since I'm mostly quiet ... then my expressions betray me😂 If a guy is acting badly enough to upset you...just don't see him again. Thank you, I will do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:16 AM |
| 35 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.That is a really great point. It will weed out pornsick and mysogynistic men. I just have to now find out a way to avoid manipulative ones who would actively tailor their responses according to my facial expressions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:03 AM |
| 32 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.I try to keep my face "soft", soft eyes and soft relaxed mouth/smile muscles and I find that helps take the tension and expressiveness out of my face Yeah it does make sense. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:01 AM |
| 24 | "I claim that rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire." - Robin Morgan, 1974Ikr. Sometimes when I come across such "rules" I don't know whether I should laugh or cry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:08 AM |
| 29 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himIt's a step away from slapping- I saw a video where the bride was slapped by the groom for her teasingly taking the cake away from him when he tried to bite it. It's similar to the man taking out his aggression on objects, but in reality wants you to KNOW that he is capable of and WILL hurt you in the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:39 AM |
| 42 | "I claim that rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire." - Robin Morgan, 1974Lol in Islam when a woman refuses to have sex with her husband for whatever reason, the angels curse her until morning. And not to mention that her prayers and good deeds with not ascend to heaven. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:25 AM |
| 15 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthMy ex complained all the time that "nobody cared" about him and his wellbeing The last time I heard the phrase "nobody/you don't care" I got up and left. So peaceful 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?the abuse got real scary real fast. It's the default setting for desi/muslim men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:07 PM |
| 4 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?he was telling me I “had” to do something by getting close, looming over me, pointing his finger in my face and in one argument “pretending” to choke me. This is SO COMMON in desi and muslim men. If you ever hear their wives/gfs say otherwise, she is 100 percent afraid/has internalised mysogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 28 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wifeWhen I heard about 50/50 for the first time in a random comment, I thought it meant that the husband gives 50 percent of his income to the wife, irrespective of whether she works or not. Granted it's because I grew up in a religion/culture that the man provided EVERYTHING to his wife (still does even now, but there is toxic patriarchy). So in my mind, everything that is her's is her's, and everything that is his is hers. That's why I was shocked when 50/50 was not what I thought it meant and the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:08 AM |
| 3 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?A scrote before and still a scrote after. Blocked and deleted within the month. 100 percent not recommended. It wasted my time, pissed me off, got more resentful and felt like a ducking idiot for getting back together. There comes a time when you ask yourself "Are you seriously that fucking stupid? How much grovelling on your face do you need to do before you you finally use your eyes and brain?" I WISH I could turn back time and never let it happen. Oh my cat died so yeah, I was in a vulnerable… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:28 PM |
| 42 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesgain context for life" The scrote is banking on his fellow scrotes to do exactly what he did, so that he can slap the "See! Every man does it! It's not a big deal!" at his daughter. Men like him will never ever admit that they did anything wrong. once they grow up and have even more context, they are going to resent him much more Exactly. This infantilising I-know-btter-than-you "growing up" phrase that they throw around really does backfire. Once I "grew up" and gained more context in life, I r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:10 AM |
| 4 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 08:41 AM |
| 25 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?I a hundred percent agree with everything you said about them. They are the worst hypocrites and they honestly believe that whatever they do is right, even raping children - and they wouldn't even label it as rape or pedophilic! The pushback after calling them out for their behaviour is so insidious. I've noticed this collective silent agreement in men here - they SAY something is wrong, yet they all DO IT ANYWAYS. They SAY that women are "equal" in the eyes of God, but they ACT otherwise! It's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 08:40 AM |
| 41 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 12:00 PM |
| 249 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?but the culture he had grown up in had still shaped all of his thinking THIS If porn shapes how men treat women, why do we turn a blind eye to culture! Muslim and desi cultures are a cesspool of scrotery- it is ENCOURAGED. You are property and nothing else! My heart breaks whenever I spot a western woman chaining themselves to these men. And I mentally count down the divorce day, that is if she manages to not get acid thrown at her face, beaten up, put in jail, trialed for blasphemy, locked insi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:19 AM |
| 141 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Don't. Don't ever date either of them. What you wrote doesn't surprise me at all. They way they treat you is exactly what you described and worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:13 AM |
| 17 | Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him powerThis reminds me of the phrase "there is plenty of fish in the sea", that is, there are plenty of good women for GOOD men. However, sadly not the other way around because there are droves of awful scrotes. Hence we shouldn't settle for scrotes because it only makes them feel entitled. We should just let them rid themselves from the gene pool by not procreating with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:20 AM |
| 180 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutAll of those phrases irked me. My intuition's doing good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:38 PM |
| 4 | Men Who Block For No Reason?I've been reading your replies and now I am confident that I have inattentive ADHD as well. Everytime I read about ADHD online, it didn't often apply to me. So thank you. I would have never known about the small nuances that identifies adhd in a woman if it weren't for your comment. I have to first and foremost work on on my discipline as well as inattentiveness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:02 AM |
| 4 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.Being "too honest" like that can really backfire when you're downtrodden You are right that we are conditioned to fear. But I've noticed that I was downtrodden BECAUSE of allowing people to step all over my boundaries. Once I started saying no, without explanations, without justifications, and without thinking that I have to prove why I don't have to do anoother's bidding, I felt better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:43 AM |
| 13 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.Emotion combined with thought is dangerous to LVM. 🎯 I hate it when I'm questioning something a man does and he says "don't think about it" or "don't worry that pretty little head of yours"(🤮). It always did and always will make me furious when such garbage is spewed out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:05 PM |
| 5 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.You hit the nail on the head, LV fathers are just as bad as any other man. We need to stop making excuses for these men and either go low contact, grey rock or cut off completely. Completely agree. The irony is that he started the process, for years I tried to get close to him and form a bond, but it just never seemed to work. It just felt like I was talking to a brick wall. he isn't and wasn't fit to be a parent. Same. I sometimes wonder why didn't he spend his life giving financial support to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:00 PM |
| 12 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.Thank you!🌸 I wouldn't have been able to if not for this subreddit and every wonderful woman here. It took me a while, I read through so many posts from wonderful queens here, I have learned SO MUCH. Everyone's story, advice, experiences and support here helps me and women value ourselves and our fellow women more, and helps us level-up in short. If it weren't for FDS and the queens here, I would have been stuck in emotional turmoil for many more years. Once FDS clicks, you cannot unsee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:51 PM |
| 32 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.I love the emotional bluntness of kids I do as well. I was blunt as well, and very attuned to my emotions, until I was abused out of it. Adults however, invite people they despise to their wedding Social etiquette be damned, I am never inviting anyone who abused me, nor any people I dislike to important events in my life. In my graduation I hated that my father's relative showed up- he was and still is abusive. I've learned that a friend of your friend is NOT your friend (I used to believe the o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:27 PM |
| 24 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.Same goes for self-sacrifice! Exactly! I kind of forgot about it because I haven't been detrimentally self-sacrificial for a while ever since in HS, when my project partners took credit for most of my work. I was a classic doormat and people pleaser, always wanting their approval. At one point I snapped and didn't want to cover up for them anymore, refused to be used anymore and coincidentally, that is also when I learned how to say no and be more vocal about my desires/leave groups where my des… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:18 PM |
| 45 | FDS changed me and gave me a heal-gasm.Thank you for your kind words!🌸 It is hard at first, and it took me quiet a long while as well. I felt like I was in an emotional limbo of sorts. Personally, the most important message that applies to me from FDS (among the treasure-trove of advice) are: trust your intuition, and if he wanted to he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:58 PM |
| 2 | He is rightFor story-telling purposes, I'd say x took hours. Cue "Surely it didn't take hours!" Not the point, shut up. Omg this. I remember in my HS there was a guy classmate who asked me how long I took in completing a project while we were waiting to hand it in to the teacher (I've always been good at both the artistic and information aspects of presentation and projects). When I did tell him it took around 4 hours, he just outright said no way, it's not possible (Like please🤚I know I'm that good.) It f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 01:20 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of hearing about women who take scrotes backSo many women are afraid to cut off toxic men because it would threaten the love they think they're getting. Love this line. It especially amplifies when we are insecure, give men a "benefit of doubt", refuse to listen to our intuition, believe that our sole worth is to "make a man stay with us" (no matter how toxic they are.) Additionally, we have developed a strange sadistic stockholm-esque sense of accomplishment and glee when we manage to "keep" the man.... Off tangent- why do most women nee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:04 PM |
| 34 | This is all for usI agree and co-sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:40 PM |
| 59 | This is why setting clear boundaries from the beginning is important. He showed his true colors before wasting any time. I had ghosted him many years ago after a few dates and always felt bad cause I thought he seemed nice, so I decided to respond when he reached out again and this happenedYuck. The content of his texts are so disgusting, literally on the first sentence. His text messages are disgusting and it reeks of condescension and smugness. His tone is implying that you are crawling back to him on your knees. Never text anyone that you have blocked, ever. There is a reason why they are blocked in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:13 AM |
| 3 | Today in 'having a kid together won't fix your relationship'I never understood what my friends saw in Zayn. He's a south east asian and a "man". Do people really think that culture does not seep down? I am a third culture child and I will never recommend a single western woman , especially none of us FDS women, to ever chain yourself to any men from developing, Asian, Middle east and African countries. Looking at them through an FDS lens, they legitimately make me reel in disgust whenever anyone mentions them- that is how strong my reaction to them are b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 09:22 AM |
| 2 | Developing dating/marriage strategy for non-western womenExactly. I always despair when I see a western woman with a southeast asian/ middle east man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Seemingly HV until you find out how he wants to raise your childrenBut he will always tell strangers that his favorite place to be is at home with his children and wife. Cue the 'awwwws.' Of course that's his favourite place. He gets to play god to his slaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 08:43 AM |
| 69 | Men Double Textinga guy would text a girl specifically for the purpose of cutting the conversation off early by saying that he "had to go". It was in order to put the girl in the "lesser" position of reaching out to him while the guy could withdraw back and remain aloof. This makes so much sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 06:14 AM |
| 49 | When you follow your intuition but still question yourself / feel bad for enforcing boundariesIt's not wise to fight your intuition. In moments such as these where scrotal conditioning creeps in... that moment where I shut him out keeps playing in my head ...I personally like to imagine that there is a heinous and horrifying scrotic gremlin crouching in the dark recesses of my mind under the trap door (my boundaries) I'm standing on, poking and prodding at me while having a smug grin so as to make me doubt my boundaries and intuition. Stand firm. You control your boundaries. Don't fall d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 04:12 AM |
| 123 | They condition you young.Yep. Well the is joke on the teacher because once she made two guys sit with me, one front and the other behind (column seating arrangement) and I just allowed them to continue talking😇 They even talked to me for a bit.Guess who weren't sitting next to me in a few days 🤣 I am the quiet well mannered one, and always sit next to girls. And I unconciously made the teacher regret her choice. I do remember thinking "what makes her think that I will do anything to stop them from speaking?" 🤷🏽♀️Young … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:16 AM |
| 22 | Men who don’t hold doors openThis is so sweet! Its ALL the little and big thoughtful things that makes or breaks it. Sending hugs and well wishes for good health, and for continued happiness from your beloved! Yes I compeletely agree with not teaching them. I don't ever teach them. Maybe I'll allow an offhandedly suggestive comment by observing it happening to someone else. But I never outright tell them. I just greyrock/fade and escape. It helps that I have always been the reserved and quiet type (unless we have a one-on-o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:04 AM |
| 175 | Men who don’t hold doors openLet me share something with you OP. If a college guy I barely talked to exclusively opened doors for me and waited (I'm Gen Z)... why is a guy you are dating not doing it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 02:41 PM |
| 8 | Love is never enough!Never share trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys know how or why our posts here would show up on this site? Y'all be careful, I legit just stumbled across this while searching my own reddit username out of curiosity. *Sorry in advance if this violates any rule and has to be removed.Let them. The young/curious/newbies just getting into rp are less radicalised by rp rhetoric at that stage as they still recognise mysogyny and are more likely to be suspicious of rp rhetoric once they hear women's stories of men's depravity. Of course don't post identifying info like the FDS mods have had suggested and recommended over and over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:14 AM |
| 41 | A weird form of negging, but I can’t quite put a finger on what I should call itAnd arm chair psychologists! They piss me off to no end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 05:20 AM |
| 16 | Just a reminder that negging is not always going to be so forthcoming, these scrotes get intricate and creative because they are cowardly and hoping not to completely miss out. I mentioned in my bio that I’m a writer as well as my intelligence being clearly communicated block and delete guys.good morning beautiful Copy and paste script. Mine said it in addition with good night. Every. Single . Day. It was exhausting. I know better now. They say it so that they could create a false intimacy and think about them the whole day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:00 AM |
| 7 | Just a reminder that negging is not always going to be so forthcoming, these scrotes get intricate and creative because they are cowardly and hoping not to completely miss out. I mentioned in my bio that I’m a writer as well as my intelligence being clearly communicated block and delete guys.notice the way he says hot girl instead of beautiful woman. He’s infantilizing her. Now it makes so much sense why when the scrote called me hot (who used to call me beautiful in the beginning) I was not on board. That's also when subtle negs and the domineering attitude started pouring in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:57 AM |
| 10 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!This reminds me of a convo at school between my literature teacher and guy classmates before finding FDS. Both the literature teacher and guys hated cats, except for one guy who adored and loved cats (who in hindsight showed clear HV signs). I found it off how they disliked cats and juxtaposed their behaviour with dogs, and I'm there sitting thinking that with cats you need to earn their love and trust while with dogs, they love you and trust you immediately. I couldn't get a word in because the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:47 AM |
| 71 | How to vet if a man is pornsickI found out that he was a porn addict in a similar way. But he was more subtle. He weirdly always took his phone and earpods with him to the bathroom, and when I asked why he said it's only to listen to songs. I pretended to be into bondage and he revealed that he does watch porn, but "only couple porn". Didn't comment at all on the bondage, and immediately got all wierd and defensive. I asked about when he started watching porn and surprising he did tell me, (12/13- which I think the age around… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:12 AM |
| 11 | LVM and their need to mommy zone you (Wrong & Strong)Every time I've done something caring for a boyfriend, it changed the dynamic one way or another. I once got concerned about a scrote I had a situationship with who underdressed for the cold winter weather. I let him know that I was worried and suggested him to wear something warm so that he doesn't get ill.... Guess what? He continued to underdress for the weather, despite him clearly freezing. He infantilized himself repeatedly from then on, seeking this Mommy-love. It was absolutely GROSS I n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 08:59 AM |
| 14 | Should I go out with this guy?AskFDS? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:30 PM |
| 39 | This post will probably be removed.Don't forget that this community is getting a lot of newbies as well as incels and scrotes due to recent publications such as vice (and the others that I forgot). And there are scrotes that actively downvote, and conspire to bring down this sub. What is the best way for them to do it? Infiltrate with marginal FDS values, not read the handbook, karma farm, swamp the mods with hate mail and troll posts, do everything against the rules (such as name calling that you mentioned), burn out mods, divid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:06 PM |
| 26 | This post will probably be removed.I love everthing that you've written here! I think it’s important to show these red pill posts because many women, especially who are new to FDS, are aware something isn’t right, but can’t put their finger on it I never even knew what red pill was, what an incel believes (subtract the fake flowery "I just want love" BS that they spout to hide their true beliefs) or any of the other manosphere subs. So I definitely agree that these posts makes you AWARE about the reality of how men think. it’s ea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:48 PM |
| 21 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.It does hit hard. Sending virtual hugs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:31 PM |
| 88 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.Yeah, Bandcroft does stress it a lot - that abusers require years of therapy to become marginally "less" abusive. Even then, they would have to do all the heavy lifting on their own. I have had already made up my mind via childhood that I will NEVER tolerate a single iota of abuse. And Bancroft cemented it: When I see it, I'm running. No confrontation. No pleading. No "communicating". No trying to "get his perspective". I'm running. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:29 PM |
| 20 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.Thank you for sharing the link! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:23 PM |
| 22 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.And even then, you'll be responsible for their progress Bancroft openly advocates against the thinking that women are responsible for abusive men's actions and their progress. Rather, he lays down the fact that abusers takes a long time to become "less" abusive, and that they are responsible for their own actions. And he also encourages, but not forces, the woman to leave and focus on her own well being, and to heal herself. It's social and patriarchal conditioning (as I guess you meant to point… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:21 PM |
| 82 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.he doesn't enjoy living with the consequences of his actions. Yeah. That is why I completely agree with Bancroft mentioning that if they are not given consequences, they feel entitled to continue acting abusive. Even the author mentions that him saying sorry is to only placate the abused and to make her "shut up", hence why he says to not accept his apology, and rather see how he acts afterwards; and that it's better to pack up and leave and not return because abusers need months and years of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:07 PM |
| 44 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.I had read this book before my ex came into my life (rather than after I had been through hell and back with that ex). I hear you, I wish I had as well. during the abuse, I was too soft and let him gaslight me into thinking HE was more correct in his ways. Me too. Funny thing is that when we are abused, we try to soften ourselves towards the raging abuser, because at that point we are projecting what we would have done in his shoes- taking responsibility, being understanding, taking the steps to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:02 PM |
| -2 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)Men aren't going to reject other men for moral / political beliefs even when their own careers depend on it. That's why they are where they are. This. I was kind of confused because I have been listening and lurking in FDS for quite a long while, and I personally did not differentiate between those on the left and the right, and instead focused on the actions of people. So when FDS said anything, I thought it applied to EVERYONE, not on the left or right leaning women/men in particular. So I am … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 09:11 AM |
| 10 | New reddit challenge: try to find a thread on dick size where women with a preference for larger dicks aren't downvoted/ignored and women with a specific preference for smaller penises aren't upvoted. And they think we're the ones coping......Not saying people can't prefer smaller but hmm....In the same boat as you, and for me it the opposite 😂😂I really thought 6 inches is on the average side (using the length of my hand as reference- anything less=small) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 12:11 PM |
| 24 | Let me guess, Wayne Couzens was involved with the manosphere and the rampant bro culture and misogyny amongst male police officers is why his ‘ties to indecent exposure’ went ‘missed’Despite him swearing blind. I never trust a man who does this. Instantly raises red flags and just like you felt, I too intuitively feel that sth is off. Just an insecure opportunistic scrote using me to pump his fragile esteem & gain more social clout amongst men. Gave me flashbacks. They get ECSTATIC when they successfully manipulate us. They will not ask if you are happy with them. And when they do ask, these scrotes want to see where he stands in his quest for use and abuse. And the audacity… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:45 PM |
| 32 | How are we meant to know?🎯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:03 PM |
| 66 | How are we meant to know?They'll support him and still pin the blame on a woman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:30 PM |
| 7 | One of the MANY things I’ll never do for a man: compete for him. You think you found better, then go!!!!!! Please!!! Get as far from me as you can!!!!! Feel so bad for this woman…He is 100 percent benifitting from her 100 percent efforts, and will still leave her. He made it clear that he is leaving her by putting a " 1 year" timeline. Why such a long time? Because he of course wants to continue cheating on her with the woman while simultaneously gets to use his wife as a backup. She has a path out, and the miscarriage -no matter how awful and heartbreaking, is a blessing in disguise. Her body rejected the fetus due to extreme emotional trauma, and her mind has subconcio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By NarcissistsDo you by any chance have a summary of the points made in your post? Your post got removed due to "copyright" (scrotes got mad) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:29 AM |
| 3 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By NarcissistsDoes anyone have a screenshot of this post? Maybe a different person can comment a small summary of the points made in this post, or maybe each comment can write one point each to prevent this inconvenient copyright strike. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:27 AM |
| 2 | What should you do when you can't trust your own intuition?Ah I see. Then it's your intuition that you don't trust, because you want to find the "reasoning" behind xyz. Intuition is not "rational" in the way you think it is. There is no "concrete evidence" that you can clearly SEE on the spot. Your intuition has ALREADY seen all the (even minute and almost imperceptible) signs, links it together and creates a RATIONAL outcome that you are not Consciously aware of At The Moment. It's also a feeling. That feeling telling you that something is wrong, even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:13 AM |
| 6 | What should you do when you can't trust your own intuition?The problem comes when my attraction is lacking yet they seem nice, then my rational mind analyses why I'm not into that seemingly nice person Social conditioning ("nice guy") "pick-me" women's rationalisation (why am I not into this "good guy") "Oh, guess I'm broken and will never find the right type of guy attractive." Low self esteem and self confidence, pick-me mentality, trauma bonding traits. Keep hanging around here in FDS and with enough exposure to LVM's scrotacity, your mind slowly bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:11 PM |
| 1 | What should we call Male Karens? Darrens?Keith, Steve, Jaxon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 11:22 AM |
| 17 | Why do males think it's okay to rank women?I sort of think women should just start leaving their unwanted rankings of men on random Reddit posts Most of these scrotes are so ugly that they aren't even worth putting a number on. We are too busy throwing up a little in our mouth when we see them than even thinking to rank them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 10:12 AM |
| 17 | I am so uninterested in relationships nowhe just let me think he was unattracted to me I don't understand this- why do so many women continue staying when the other CLEARLY is not interested? I personally don't understand why. When a man says he's not interested, I end things. When a man makes me feel he's unattrated to me via his actions/words/behaviour, I end things. That's it. Maybe I'm still young so I don't understand or have experienced the trauma-bonding phenomena yet? But then again, I immediately dumped a scrote I had talked t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 08:10 PM |
| 13 | 100%Can't you read? Maybe you should heed your own words. I didn't say going to a strip club is tradition Neither did I say that you did, nor did I say it myself. It's a "tradition"- like you mentioned before and here again- for the groom to plan the party. The man knows about this "tradition", so it's not a "secret". He also knows that a strip club is a possible option his "friends" will make, so he has to have a spine and let his friends know that a strip club or hiring strippers is NOT an option.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 08:53 AM |
| 26 | 100%If it's tradition, it's not a "surprise", so he knows about it. He should have a spine and tell his "friends" that he does not want to have strippers in his party. And if they break his boundaries, are they even friends to begin with? And if he finds it "funny", he is not that differnet from men who makes mysogynistic, gaslighting comments and cloaks it with "joking". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 06:06 AM |
| 1 | When you don't set boundaries in the beginning LVM will not respect you trying to set them later.Thank you ❤ I will and I am | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:05 AM |
| 2 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsI can only unlearn so much. 😓 Me too. But we will continue to make the effort to unlearn them one step at a time in some cases, and in leaps and bounds in others 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 08:59 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, do you consider seeing a man once a week (every Saturday) as fulfilling dating?Just a suggestion, type "love languages" on the search bar in the FDS page, you'll get a treasure trove of info about how it's used as a scam by scrotes. I know one of your main requirements in a relationship is communication, however, don't fall into the trap of having only "one" love language BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 08:46 AM |
| 15 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsif I HAD to pick between the one of the lesser evils of men I disagree sis. This is the trap pickmes and many women fall into. It's similar to the: if you had to choose between a tall man with a big dick but has an ugly personality vs a short guy with a shrimp sick but good personality" argument that scrotes make. (Many similar arguments are made by scrotes. Again, it's another form of pushing your boundaries and seeing what BS you'd tolerate.) Women are already coerced to stay in awful relation… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Is there a benefit to not adding men on social media, to "keep the mystery" and require them to invest time and effort into getting to know you? What are your thoughts?I agree with what you say. I'm gen z as well, and most of the guys only want material to fap, ridicule, orbit, gossip, harass, stalk and share the material with their "bros". If they have not made the effort to get to know me and not tip off my creep radar, why should I let them peep into my life and relationships? It's creepy to find out that Jason and Jackson know about my genre preference from a bookshelf in the far distance and my best friends upcoming trip when we both have no clue who the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:51 AM |
| 17 | Is there a benefit to not adding men on social media, to "keep the mystery" and require them to invest time and effort into getting to know you? What are your thoughts?Never added them, including both HS and college. Even now in uni. It's called stalking. It's creepy. It's downright dangerous and terrifying. Don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:38 PM |
| 65 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsYou should be meeting have to face it talking on the phone; make him put in the effort to take the time tho know you I can never stress enough on how true this is. I had a textationship with a scrote, and when I suggested a call, he vehemently said no. It stung and I was very suspicious, but I brushed it aside and continued texting. Guess what? He started to fade after a while. I blocked and deleted - no fucks given. I swear it felt like a weight was taken off of my shoulders. I'll digress and r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:27 PM |
| 9 | "Tradition" - Halseys new song interpreted as about prostitution, sexual harrassment, and human trafficking, and how it has been normalised as a "tradition" - a mentality that poisons character, similar to the "biology" argument of scrotes. Throw the whole scrote into the well of Barhout.inclusion of the queen as being a victim Wow, I really didn't pay attention to the second half the the lyrics due to my excitement to share the song here 😆 Misogyny is the tradition and it effects the lowliest most vulnerable girl and the woman who “has it all” Perfectly summed up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 07:58 PM |
| 35 | The hardest target isn’t a woman with a boyfriend, but a woman who’s already accepted a life of being single, refusing to compromise on her standards out of fear of being alone.Yes and hence why the scrotes screech and froth at the mouth when talking about FDS. Add husband to the mix. The scroach gnat loves to project and declare that a woman (yes, pickmes are loyal to the lowest of the low) would also cheat on her bf or husband as they do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 59 | If he pulls away, don't give him space...Then he comes around again and says: "Baby, I missed you (and) I swear I'm gonna change Trust me" Remember how that lasted for a day? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 40 | "Tradition" - Halseys new song interpreted as about prostitution, sexual harrassment, and human trafficking, and how it has been normalised as a "tradition" - a mentality that poisons character, similar to the "biology" argument of scrotes. Throw the whole scrote into the well of Barhout.There are many songs that celebrate and encourages pickme culture, and despite Halsey being one of my favourite artists, I am well aware that some of her songs afall into pickme category (eg 3 am), and I dislike her songs that disseminate pickme mentality. Hopefully songs like these would knock some sense into pickmes and see predatory, abusive and exploitative behaviour of men as they are: predatory, abusive and exploitative; rather than coddling them and doing a deep dive into their demon well… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 37 | Just opened the app to have this ad play in my face. So this is why they want sex on the first date.... To get their money's worth out of thos pills/ injections...Yes, they do find any and every excuse to remain selfish, hence the healthy penis statement. Most men with a healthy penis cannot make a woman orgasm, what makes people think that a porn fried man with ed will care about a woman's orgasm? The point of my comment was why bother being with a man who has ed when it's 99 percent due to porn (whose consumption comes with a slew of other red flags), and he will only chase his own orgasm and have no care about whether or not he can make a woman orgasm … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:43 AM |
| 134 | Just opened the app to have this ad play in my face. So this is why they want sex on the first date.... To get their money's worth out of thos pills/ injections...🤣🤣🤣 ED aside, they don't even know how to make a woman orgasm while having a healthy penis, let alone a pied 🍤 dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:19 AM |
| 23 | When you don't set boundaries in the beginning LVM will not respect you trying to set them later."a man will change for the right woman." A scrote told me something along these lines when he randomly started talking about men beating their wives. I called BS and replied with "men never change", and I truly believe in it. A scrote remains a scrote. And a man becomes an HV man when he has put in years and even decades of work to become an HV man. It is NOT an overnight transfromation that many scrotes seem to believe it it. It is conscious effort every hour and every day, but knowing their br… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:10 AM |
| 16 | Watching children’s cartoons with my cousin and realized somethingI don't agree with the way the scene you described presented the male and female temperament. The scene that you described is still teaching boys and men that they are entitled to a woman who is understanding and forgiving of their mistakes. This "entitlement to forgiveness and kindness from women" mentality seeps into other areas of their life and they grow up thinking that cheating (physically and emotionally), raping, abusing are all "mistakes" and that they are entitled to an "understanding,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 06:59 AM |
| 3 | Why do men love using this excuse when they f*** up?It was a case I saw months ago. I didn't bother following up anymore because such cases always ends up with the rapist being pardoned, and the victim being demonised for "tempting" him 🙄🙄🙄🤮. The middle east is the pinnacle for patriarchy, mysogyny and scrotery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Why do men love using this excuse when they f*** up?Actually, there was a case from one of the middle eastern countries where the rapist of a minor legitimately said to the judge that he "tripped and fell inside her"... I was so done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:15 AM |
| 10 | WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes?I just have one rule: when he says something that feels off, I drop him off 🚮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:10 PM |
| 151 | Breakfast first date?Turns out he’d reserved a room and suggested we continue the date there. It's because of porn. They have a category called audition porn where they have a sort of "date" preceding the rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:10 AM |
| 6 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everOh okay. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:04 PM |
| 101 | Why do so many guys and girls say size doesn't matter? Do they genuinely believe this? Because it does matter for me....I too am guilty of saying size doesn't matter to a guy when he repeatedly asked me (at first I didn't understand that he was talking about the junk). BUT hear me out. I did not even know that micropenises existed. What I percieved as small was a size that is the length of my hand... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 29 | I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention.The whole frame shift thing he is spouting about is basically encouraging men to actively view women as masturbatory sleaves. The whole article article can be summed down to: entitlement, mysogyny, women=objects/masturbatory sleaves, manipulate, triangulate, neg, ultimatums with a rapey demand, escalate to get sex asap, make her chase you cause yOu dA KiNg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:14 PM |
| 46 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everWait, why does your comment say "removed by Reddit?" Did reddit seriously removed it? I'm curious as to what you may have written. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:52 PM |
| 6 | Left-wing men are just as misogynistic as right-wing menLook, we are overlooking a crucial point in that sentence: the common denominator is MEN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:48 PM |
| 16 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?She reared the ugly jealousy induced negging. Pickmes continue to neg and disrespect because they believe they are better than you, which is dangerous for your own mental wellbeing. If I had a "friend" that said that, I'll never come across her again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:40 AM |
| 17 | “Oh the breadcrumbs Look Gretel, there are a lot of sweets down this path but it will end in a fiery oven for you or you have to shove his ass in to save yourself.” 😭Eww. The amount of cringe I got from reading that screenshot. Seriously? Perfume on his shirt? The same scrote who cheated on you, lied to you, ghosted you over and over, and even after you lose your trust for him you are still performing a circus act for his entertainment? Pickmes are such a glutton for self-destruction. I hope she wakes up before he shoves her into the blazing oven instead, or she willing steps inside to "prove her love" 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:29 AM |
| 14 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:50 PM |
| 14 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!This is so spot on and so handbook worthy. So many women get sucked up into the cycle of people pleasing or ego stroking strangers. The only time I praise someone for their achievemnts is if they are my close female friends and family. Anyone else (especially men) a monotonous "good for you" ,or "congrats" with a small smile is sufficient. ( I'll start using the helpful advice of changing the topic or adding my experiences into the conversation as OP wrote). When it comes to men, I think "Who tf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:39 PM |
| 23 | *Internal screaming*I had the same reaction. I just stopped at the second line and left the site. It's just going the be the nth version of every other shitstorm we have seen and read about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inI just wanted to thank everyone who bravely trudges through the cesspool called preddit and take screenshots of comment threads and pointing out the redflags. I am currently focusing more on learning how to spot red flags, reading the handbook for the xth time, and reading the recommended books, and I am not yet prepared to actively venture out on my own and spot red flags out in the wild as I would like to first strengthen my foundations. Thank you FDS ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:06 AM |
| 5 | Ugh, expect?I'm afraid it's this. Their entitlement and depravity knows no bounds. They are already pushing to lower the age of consent, so I'm not surprised if ugly, wrinkled, balding McScrote believes he should "expect" sex from literal children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 07:02 AM |
| 8 | Ugh, expect?"Hey maybe instead of jerking off you should lick your palm and pat your balls, you'd feel more pleasure and it'd be hotter" 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:58 AM |
| 11 | Ugh, expect?he's just salty that he can't compete with these inanimate objects women use This one scrote I talked to got extremely insecure and started foaming at the mouth just because I mentioned sex toys 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:56 AM |
| 18 | Mate-retention strategies: benefit-provisioning vs. cost-inflicting behaviorThis is an amzing high quality post. Handbook worthy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:37 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inI find it wierd that when growing up (may not apply to everyone), most of the boys used to be "eww a girl" or "you ugly" or some other teenage/toddler mentality. So while the guys grew up making fun of and bullying girls, along with given the excuse "boys will be boys", girls were taught to look pretty and kind and nice to boys, otherwise we would not "have a future". I think this differnet standards of upbringing creates a sense of insecurity in girls, so as she grows up, she has a dichotomous … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Regretting meeting and old male "friend"The long nails comment... I swear they must be following a script because a guy legit said the exact same thing to me. It's so disgusting and disarming. Like scrote, we have JUST started talking and that is the sort of depravity you decide to show? Seriously? Have you not a single shred of respect towards a person? Like wow, you must be so daft, unintellectual, socially inept, miserable, insecure and have a 🤏 if sex is the only thing you thing about 24/7. It's utterly repulsive. I had zero amoun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Regretting meeting and old male "friend"The long nails comment... I swear they must be following a script because a guy legit said the exact same thing to me. It's so disgusting and disarming. Like scrote, we have JUST started talking and that is the sort of depravity you decide to show? Seriously? Have you not a single shred of respect towards a person? Like wow, you must be so daft, unintellectual, socially inept, miserable, insecure and have a 🤏 if sex is the only thing you thing about 24/7. It's utterly repulsive. I had zero amoun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:21 PM |
| 14 | Regretting meeting and old male "friend"The long nails comment... I swear they must be following a script because a guy legit said the exact same thing to me. It's so disgusting and disarming. Like scrote, we have JUST started talking and that is the sort of depravity you decide to show? Seriously? Have you not a single shred of respect towards a person? Like wow, you must be so daft, unintellectual, socially inept, miserable, insecure and have a 🤏 if sex is the only thing you thing about 24/7. It's utterly repulsive. I had zero amoun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:20 PM |
| 58 | LOL. This one clearly has never been with an actual woman, to the point that he's convinced himself he needs to "pick out the red flags" to spot FDS members. What besides "trying to manipulate women into sex" would he be avoiding, with these "red flags"?That's what I was wondering as well. Why are you "finding" them in the first place? It just sounds like his actual intention is to find and "harm" (not "avoid") women with FDS standards. Edit: and the "emotional abuse" is his hurt feefees because FDS is calling out their bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:27 AM |
| 37 | "dO yOu eXpEcT A mAn tO pAy FoR EvErYtHinG fOrEvEr": How Women Talk Themselves Out of Following FDS Standards By Creating Imaginary Problems.This is so interesting. It does make sense. On the other hand, a woman getting shackled by the wrong guy only increases her stress and hastens her death. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 08:29 AM |
| 8 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.It feels so bizarre when you look back and recognise all the times you put up with a scrotes BS. I can personally identify with much of what you've written here- we did date the same person 😂😂😂 He kept pressuring me to be in a bullshit relationship He emotionally manipulated me into it, and later began to gaslight me and refused to acknowledge that we were in one. All the things I despise He was a gambling, drinking, lying, hypocrite, "woke" person, (he was a covert racist always forcing the nar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 6 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.I swear these scrotes just love self sabotaging and projecting their insecurities onto us. I agree with everything until the last paragraph where we both have different perspectives. I am not confrontational, and do much better when I disengage, ignore and ghost them out of my life. I do agree with the point of striking back responsibility when someone strikes- I'm personally just too used to turning into an ice queen and not expending any more energy once I deem the scrote not worth the effort … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:15 PM |
| 4 | What do you guys think of Botox?Well, I learned that botox is a neurotoxin obtained from a bateria. We know that it is able to paralyse a chosen area, hence why the "freeze" effect. However, it can also be a solution for extreme migraines. So for me, botox is fine as long as I were to have extreme migraines, and if I want to personally do it. I also think it's much better than fillers, because (hyaluronic acid) fillers can last for up to 10 years (it spreads across your face, hence the puffy faces of people who consecutively u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:31 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.I LOVE this! Sending warm wishes for your relationship to continually flourish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:16 PM |
| 18 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.😂👏 Yes, I should have said that and blocked and deleted immediately. It was unfortunate that I was too concerned with not "hurting his feelings". Sending that would have obliterated his over inflated ego caused by scoring a beautiful woman. To this day I regret entertaining him for a little while longer and not blocking and deleting him immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:07 PM |
| 37 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.I thought I was a good person for looking past someone's looks. This. I thought I was awful for being attracted to good looking men. (Francisco Lachowski is HOT.) I also "GaVe hIm A ChAncE". I deeply regret. Never again. Its one thing when an average looking man treats you like a queen and respects you (he automatically becomes the hottest man for me), it's another when the below-average looking man treats you like shit. Their scrotic behaviour towards you just makes them even more disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:02 PM |
| 26 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.🤮🤮🤮 NEVER again. I was always attracted to good looking guys. I will never compromise on my standards again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:44 AM |
| 7 | No, an abuser does not "lose control." He is perfectly in control of his faculties when he is abusing women. He knows exactly what he's doing. The first time an incident like this happens, walk away, block and delete, and never look back.The "remorse" these scrotes feel is also just a facade. To placate, make "amends" and ensure that your "kindness and forgiveness" wins over your anger and fear. They also put up this front because they think "she is dumb anyways and will stay with me no matter how much I abuse her. But WHAT IF this is the last straw that will make her leave me? Better act quickly so that she stays." And the woman stays. And he grows bolder. And his abuse gets worse. He knows he himself is disposable and a piece … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:22 AM |
| 7 | im so sick of men saying they're viewed as "success objects" and comparing it to how women are viewed as sex objects.Literal brain damage. Yep. I just had one trying to understand their "lOgIc" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:13 AM |
| 36 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?"You probably wanted me to kiss you when we said goodbye." I couldn't believe he could be so far off-base. This. It resurfaced memories from the recesses of my mind. "You probably wanted me to ..." I don't know why they do that. No. Just no. It happened to me quiet a few times and every single time this entitlement and assumption puts me off and I'm mentally creating a way out. Such people also sometimes have the propensity to become unwarranted and unprompted armchair psychologists (another att… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:49 AM |
| 5 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.This whole thread should be in the handbook and never be deleted from the website either. The insights I gleaned are priceless.Thank you all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:43 AM |
| 9 | Do you think childfree men are less inclined to provide or less or more likely to be HV than non-childfree men?😂 Never knew, (nor still know what ppd stands for), but with your eloquent and highly entertaining explanation, I am saved from venturing into the shit stained rabbithole. Thank you for saving my time and brain cells. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:45 PM |
| 15 | Sports-related behaviors to watchThank you for all of these points. I personally don't like sports at all, and I am slightly into gaming myself. But these points actually make a lot of sense. I do have one more point: Hooliganism. I had a guy explain it to me because I had no idea about it until quiet recently. I was horrified. And he kept on trying to justify that it's normal, it's a fit of passion, its loyalty to the team etc etc. I was clearly not buying it at all. I am still shocked to this day every time I am reminded of i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:57 AM |
| 10 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningLV men also do good things amoung a sea of bad. This "medium value men" is just going into the territory of "settling" for a man who is in reality a LVM. Don't put yourself in a position where you are gaslighting yourself into settling for a man who is "good-ish". We don't do "ish" here. It's either a yes or no, not maybe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:05 AM |
| 31 | Blocking is therapeutic.🤭 I'm proudly guilty of doing that as well 😂😂😂 It felt SO good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 08:09 PM |
| 7 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"ALL OF THIS. Don't give them any ammo. Just be vague and observe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:48 PM |
| 20 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"He was really surprised when I was confident enough to end the date early. 😮 This makes me so proud of you! But sure, MAYBE I MISUNDERSTOOD. One thing though, don't bend over backwards to give scrotes your time, explanation or energy. They will always gaslight and blame you no matter what you say. They are well aware and they know. They just don't care. Ignore them and let them die mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:43 PM |
| 7 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"This post confirms my suspicions of a scrote attempting to mold himself. He never asked the question about what is my ideal type of man directly (I found it really distatsteful and suspicious) but he used to covertly ask it by sending me pictures of random men and asking me what is my type. (Me not knowing celebrities and their personality characteristics also helped.) Now that I think back on it, I gave him a hell of a time when it came to him trying to make me spell out what I like in a man (n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inI'm just gonna say "omg! Congratulations! Did you get pregnant?" sarcastically when they start shaming mom bods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:45 AM |
| 37 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Yeah, he did definietely did it on purpose. They pretend to be incompetent and damage items. He intentionally damaged her books and wants us to believe in him being dumb, so that his malicious intent is not revealed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:18 AM |
| 48 | Women don't have it better at any ageI see the latter as a win for me. The quicker they bin themselves, the less time we waste on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:11 AM |
| 93 | I had some scrotes ask why women ghost on dates and rather than listen to the why I was told I shouldn’t date.They already know. Its not new that you got gaslighted. Plus, you gave them new ammo for abusing another woman. Don't bother with helping scrotes because they intentionally abuse women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:07 AM |
| 9 | I had some scrotes ask why women ghost on dates and rather than listen to the why I was told I shouldn’t date.I completely agree with you here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:06 AM |
| 15 | Vetting a man while chattingUsually scrotes have scrotic friends. So it's best to stay away from them as well. The chance of an HV man associating with them is slim. Even if a seemingly HV man does chance himself in the company of scrotes , I would be skeptical of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 23 | Childfree POV"strategic incompetence" as well. I've found men will often ignore chores simply because they know eventually their partner will get frustrated and just do it themselves That's a 🚩for me. Dump, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:57 PM |
| 22 | When he says "You're so insecure"...Funny thing is, triangulation is a legit romance killer. Any chance they had is instantly killed off when they use stupid tactics like this. The truly insecure woman would stay behind, not because she actually likes or loves him, but because she is led to believe that she should "keep the (scrotes) attention" . FDS women just block and delete. Even if the insecure woman is given a 100% chance with a hot, loyal, empathetic, intelligent, passionate, rich, HV MAN, she would choose him in a heartbea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:44 PM |
| 27 | When he says "You're so insecure"...All of this. After I backslid (into friendship, not back into a relationship - 100% don't recommend, trust me they get even worse, you are only setting yourself up for failure when doing so, FDS provides proof of this over and over), the gaslighting and triangulation turned up to a 100. I never bothered telling him my boundaries anymore because he intentionally stepped all over it. Ghosted, blocked and deleted. Didn't part ways amicably like before, didn't bother explaining, didn't bother giving… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:24 PM |
| 11 | When he says "You're so insecure"...And the "you're insecure" thrown at you at random with no pretext whatsoever to hope that you take the bait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:02 PM |
| 14 | To the ladies who say FDS is "hot girl strategy"That is true. At the end of the day, levelling up, proper vetting, listening to your gut no matter how HV he seems, and being prepared to dump or break off with him at that first red flag will help us waste less time with scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Cry me a river.I laughed out loud when I got to the "darkness inside me" bit 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:19 AM |
| 4 | The new dating scam.Edit: Even in a business setting, the person who has suggested a meeting outside of the office is the one who is obliged to pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:06 AM |
| 12 | Return of the city scrotesTHIS. I used to do this a lot back in school. The crowd of students would literally part their way, and to those who don't see me, I would just assertively say "excuse me" and they would part. It really works. When I hit a rough patch a few years later, I stopped walking with confidence and just meandered aimlessly, and the students would block my way, not give way, and I had to navigate my way around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:45 AM |
| 45 | The new dating scam.This whole 50/50 split should only be reserved for coworkers, not dates. I also have to reiterate that the coworkers should not be romantically involved either. If a coworker likes you (still don't date within companies), he should ask you out on a REAL date instead of cloaking a normal outing as a date. Always be assertive. Never let a gold digging man use you to subsidise his whoring around town. Speak out when he reeks and reject his advances after. Right afterwards, don't let yourself be in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 03:02 PM |
| 7 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?LISTEN TO YOUR GUT! And invest in some security measures. Do not engage with him as he will interpret it as your compliance and will use it against you. But be vigilant of your surroundings. Do not let him condition your dog to be friendly with him. And do not let him cloak his evil intentions with his "friendliness" towards you- he will use it against you. Your gut already told you that he is dangerous. Now what you should do is protect yourself- if you don't, who will? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:52 PM |
| 24 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?if this was asked anywhere else on Reddit you would be told you’re being dramatic and need to let this guy into your life And when you do take their shit advice and are harmed in the process, they say "you should have known better" 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:45 PM |
| 5 | YouTube scrote almost pops a blood vessel during his rant on how men are the “logical” sex. Anger is an emotion ladies!!!Dont link. Just take a screenshot. Why are you giving them views? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:32 PM |
| 6 | Low value people lack nuance.Oh my god. The post is incredible! I got intense horrible flashbacks when I read the covert narcissists paragraph and the subsequent two paragraphs elaborating on it. It's funny how that one guy fucking up makes you arm yourself with all the knowledge (FDS!!❤) you can to never, ever, let yourself limbo with the bar placed in hell. The only regret I ever have was not being consistently keeping up with FDS posts when I came across it, partly because I never ever visited reddit prior to FDS. It wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:18 PM |
| 786 | Again with the height thing....🤣🤣🤣 The scrote can't even write a decent fictional work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 09:52 PM |
| 21 | When his family participates in grooming you to accept his LV/NV behaviourOp's red flags are spot on. All those red flags contribute to a destructive marriage, as well as a hostile environment that damages yourself and any children that you have. As a child who has experienced (edit: and witnessed) most of the OPs red flags from my father, these red flags are very obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:24 AM |
| 6 | When his family participates in grooming you to accept his LV/NV behaviourThis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:16 AM |
| 24 | If any lurkers are still on the fence about porn use please read. And please do your part and spread the word, online and offline.Sometimes I can't decide if I should pity or laugh at such men. It's so obvious yet these lOgiCaL men cannot comprehend numerous studies that point out the problem with pornography. I'm at that stage where I don't feel empathetic for such men who willingly engage in such self destructive behaviour and their self created problems. There are so quick to give women shitty " honest" (overflowing with mysogynistic) LogiCaL advice (e.g. yOu ChoSe to Do xYz, etc), yet these same men blame everyone but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:11 AM |
| 9 | Just a quick reminder: never ask a guy out.HVMs enjoy taking charge and putting in the effort so he’d feel that he failed in that aspect. I completely agree with this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 09:39 AM |
| 23 | Just a quick reminder: never ask a guy out.My understanding is that OPs advice applies to HVM as well. If he is not persuing you after you have clearly sent your " I'm interested in you signal", then he is not interested. No matter how HV he is, if he is not interested, he will not persue. Again it boils down to "if he wanted to he would." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 09:37 AM |
| 7 | "there's a darkness inside me"This made me laugh harder than it should have | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandal"I'm the beacon of truth" That's a God complex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandalManipulators and cheaters always believe that whatever they do is fair game because of this argument. In the same religious note, if he wants to use the God argument, he should also be prepared to answer God on why he is abusing the rights of people. The rights of people in my religion is the second most important right that God is extremely strict upon. Basically anyone who abuses the rights of people, God allows the person who is abused to make the choice of whether God should forgive the abus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandalThey can say one thing to your face but do another behind your back It doesn't need to be behind your back. I've had some who lie right at your face; the kind where they do or say something moments ago, and then deny that they did or say that in the same breath in the next moment. Worse, some men do it in the presence of witnesses and they STILL deny that they have ever done or said it. They BELIEVE in their lies and denial. It's as if they think that if they deny enough, somehow magically it ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandalTo shift the focus off of himself and refuse accountability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:32 PM |
| 22 | Why are so many men so unhygienic and disgusting?Tbh, from a country that uses bidet showers, I was really confused when my father ,who got to work with an international organisation, said that the men there really stank in contrast to what we are led to believe about "the first world countries" smelling fresh and having showers even up to three times a day. I still thought it wasn't so bad, because people here (and I mean including mostly men) mostly smell due to sweat, and sometimes bad breath. I only got to know through FDS that there are m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:02 PM |
| 10 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupI personally won't bother smiling (fake or real) nor saying hi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:28 AM |
| 17 | Texting all day is low value.Sounds like OP was texting some people she deems LV, but texting is just a tool, it is what you make of it. This is spot on. To many it seems like "common sense" but when we form a habit of texting a lot, we fail to see that we are misusing it. I used to text an LV person, and it got to the point where I was emotionally drained and exhausted. The emotional exhaustion to keep up with the superficial people pleasing attitude only made things worse. It got to the point where I dreaded talking to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:06 AM |
| 4 | 🚨Vetting Strategy: Watch how a man drivesTHIS. They gaslight tf out of you afterwards. This happened to my mother. And the worse part is that my scrote uncle had the galls to come and "inform" us that our mother tugged the steering wheel from HIM (my Mum was driving! Not him). I didn't believe him at all because he is known to be a pathetic liar and professional gaslighter (which worked its magic on my father- but then again, their whole family are professional narcissists, abusers, manipulators and pathological liars, and most probabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:11 AM |
| 5 | 🚨Vetting Strategy: Watch how a man drivesAggressively says "You think I'm a reckless driver?" while foaming at the mouth 🙄 Oh Gee. I don't know. Maybe it's the passenger who is speeding over 100km/hr, taking sharp brakes and turns and stonewalling afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:58 PM |
| 45 | Apparently even ancient Rabbis didn’t have time for thirsty dudes and their nonsense😂😂😂 I LOVE this post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:44 AM |
| 6 | I'm done with men and have never even dated oneI feel the exact same way! I can always intuitively tell that a person is sinister, or that something is off about them. I sometimes get this "not a good person" vibe of sorts the moment I meet/see/hear them and Every Single Time that person turns out to be awful/manipulative/scrotic. I noticed this back in middle school. There was this new classmate and I immediately got the feeling that he wasn't going to be good. I say "going to be" because he was initially "nice" (legitimately respected peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:01 PM |
| 21 | I'm almost entirely certain a man intentionally waited for me near my car at work.Read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. As quiet a few pointed out here: your response is valid. Your intuition told you the best course of action for a threat. The book helps in being better aware of similar (and worse) scenarios. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:59 AM |
| 36 | Shitty dudes will even neg your family membersThis is why men and pickme women hate FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 06:14 AM |
| 9 | Don't be a weekday chick!If I was ever expected to do the dishes at a guests house, that would be the "death" of a relationship. (For context, the other half of my culture has the guests helping out in the kitchen for the grieving family, hence why the "death".) And when did going to someone's house become a "date"? That's called being a guest, and the host is supposed to cater to the guest(s). Any further help eg washing dishes, is at the discretion of the "guest" (who at this point is a long time friend) - but for tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:48 AM |
| 57 | I'm alone in my real life when it comes to FDS mentalityNo no, you got it wrong. No way a woman can have any preferences for herself. Whatever she does is in relation to me - so when she says acts of service, it's obvious that she wants to serve me. The for me is implied. I am the man. /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:20 PM |
| 40 | SHIT LIST 💩 a "get the fuck over him" strategy for breakups.THIS. I have a very lengthy one (added redflags I recognised later.) And the times I slip up slightly and momentarily think about the scrote, I read the list and I get absolutely DISGUSTED and angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:46 PM |
| 14 | Is there anything about being picked like this to be proud of?I immediately thought of "fetish" as well, but when you expanded upon their thought process : "races/ethnicities I haven't slept with yet" list. 🤢🤮🤮🤮 I literally feel sick and disgusted of men on a whole new level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Porn is blatant abuseYou're Welcome =) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 16 | Porn is blatant abusehttps://overland.org.au/previous-issues/issue-207/feature-gail-dines-sharon-smith/ This is the full article | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:50 AM |
| 16 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨I wish I spent more time in FDS (I was just a few days into lurking here and was never active on reddit) before my first unintentional LDR. Could have saved me from a lot of headache from that situationship. The scrote definitely played the dread game, and he cranked his "game" to a 100 (triangulation, manipulation, gaslighting, negging, even literally asking for a fight) after the loss of a loved one made me contact him again after we parted ways (pre-fds blocked him). Blocked and Deleted him a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 07:56 AM |
| 46 | Stop centering your life around menThis is why we need spaces like FDS to help women realise this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 10:28 AM |
| 222 | Stop centering your life around menIt starts from birth. We are women/female. Cue the "special" upbringing only reserved for females: stricter parenting, shorter time to enjoy your childhood, ushering us to act "more mature", and to be "responsible".Men? "Boys will be boys". The man raped babies/ toddlers/ teenagers/ young adults/adults/old women? Cue the excuses, manipulation, gaslighting and triangulation by men and internally mysogynised women. Boys are "men", men are "boys" - they choose the term that best minimises their act… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:59 AM |
| 10 | Thoughts on intuition from an FDS NewbieSo true! I also wasted about a year of my life on an LVM. And despite my raging intuition to block and delete him (I always did this pre-FDS) the moment he disrespected me (the first conversation...a 🤡 I know 😭😭😭) I still ignored it because I wanted to "GivE hIm a cHaNcE". The gymnastics I performed to excuse everything that came out of his mouth could have landed me a job in Cirque du Soleil. It was all LDR- a situationship (the first and last I will ever be in). I was coerced into it - I was m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 23 | Ex is back. Ladies, help!... this sounds so familiar 🤔 Oh yeah I remember, a cheating scrote manipulating, triangulating and gaslighting. You know what else sounds familiar? The woman who takes back such a scrote being cheated on yet again 🙄 and wondering what went wrong. Block and delete, and get an adorable pet that will love you without this BS 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:04 PM |
| 3 | How to move on from a crushExactly. I remember telling the exact same thing ("you talk too much about your crush, and so you think a lot about them") to my high school friends years back. You could see the wheels turning in their heads. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:09 AM |
| 1 | STOP normalizing polyamory while we still live in a patriarchy. Tired of these “wax poetical” think pieces about the obvious.😴🤮Terrorizing and threatening the lives of people? And they call us EmOtIOnaL and cRaZy 🙄 K, bye" - such a satisfying queen energy response😌 Sidenote: 👏 to the person who told the school (yes I know that everyone should report, but the bar of responsibility and morality is in hell. Many scrotes would internalise and perform mental gymnastics to "HelP a bRo". ) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 77 | Yet Another case of a Man and His Fetish Destroying a Woman. Porn Isn't Just Fantasy- It Has Real World Consequences for Women! If He Watches Porn Throw Him Out 👏🏻He's lying about her parents "not doing anything" about it. It's 100 percent likely that he negged, bullied, gaslit, manipulated and forced her to continue being anorexic. He killed her. He knows that. Hence why he is trying to throw the blame on her parents. And now he feels "guilty" (which is unfortunately fleeting) that he bent his "toy" a little too much and broke it. He knows reddit and all the other scrotes will validate him and absolve him. He also knows that anyone else that is not a scr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 03:54 PM |
| 9 | STOP normalizing polyamory while we still live in a patriarchy. Tired of these “wax poetical” think pieces about the obvious.😴🤮The utter satisfaction 😌. This post makes my heart dance with joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:26 AM |
| 8 | Be cautious with your lifeFuck. Pick your friends as carefully as you pick men. This. Every time I did not trust my gut about a person, my gut always shoves the "I told you so!" when the person reveals thrir true colours to me. Now I just dump people - friends, acquaintances or strangers- that does not pass my gut test. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:00 AM |
| 11 | It’s okay to let men failAdditionally, even if you help him, he would belittle your efforts and yap that he "built himself up" as revealed in another post of this subreddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 07:31 AM |
| 63 | Wife is in critical condition in the hospital, man blames lack of resources for fathers while spending paternity leave playing video gamesThis is the first time I have heard of the term "struggle love" and I'm instantly revolted. The man makes the woman struggle? Makes her life hell? How tf is that love? It's hate- pure hate and evil, not love. The word paints an ugly disgusting creature rearing its head towards me in my mind - and I assure you it's 😰😱🤢🤮. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 07:02 AM |
| 35 | What is the Bare Minimum? (A Reminder)Please add gambling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 6 | Men are given opportunities to defend women all the time they just dont want to or care enough to.Yeah, they always wrestle their way to maximizing self-interest at the expense of abusing another, especially women and children as their most preferred target. Cue societal gaslighting when they are called out for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:23 PM |
| 5 | Men are given opportunities to defend women all the time they just dont want to or care enough to.This is such a true and succinct response 🙌 It's not surprising that it's mostly women who value respect. Men are such a defunct prototype of what a human is with all their caveman logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 75 | Men are given opportunities to defend women all the time they just dont want to or care enough to.Men like men. They put in more effort to impress and respect their men than women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:16 PM |
| 7 | FDSers who observed Mother's Day today, how was it? What did you notice through the FDS lense?See, the problem is that scrotes like him think that if some else steps up, he is off the hook. No, he isn't. The happiness that your sister achieved is from YOUR gift, and it has no association with the scrote. YOUR gift made her happy. He did jack shit. His shit stained ass is not saved. Your sister will still think about how he did not put in an effort for her. And no, just because he handed it to her does not mean that he has any part in the smile that your sister received from your gift. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:08 AM |
| 16 | This 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 why 👏🏻 I 👏🏻 have 👏🏻 trust issues!! Take them to the barbers on the first date. 💈 🪒Fubes makes me shrivel up in disgust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:47 AM |
| 10 | Stop calling acceptable men “HV”?Yeah. Just because a man does it once or a few times doesn't make him a HVM. Consistency is key. Not the sporadic once in a blue moon effort. We dont want sporadic effort. Low value men and men who puts sparce effort are in the same category - becoming a HVM takes much more effort than that. The term HV is not a participation trophy we hand out to any man who does the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:32 AM |
| 41 | They never say *why* they hate FDS...Yes, I hope they do the math sooner rather than later. A heartful thank you to you and all the wonderful moderators for maintaining this women only space 🙏 Edit: spelling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:42 PM |
| 186 | They never say *why* they hate FDS...They don't want FDS to spread. They feel threatened. They want to maintain the gender status quo entrenched in society. They do not want women to gain any of the privileges they have enjoyed for centuries. Nor do they want to view women as humans. How else have they managed to create spaces (virtually and physically) where mysogyny, gaslighting, manipulation, rape and murder thrive if not for such an echo chamber? Even feminist subs are hijacked by them to talk over women and not let them get pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:00 PM |
| 6 | To counteract liberal feminists and beta males trying to manipulate us into thinking "dad bod" is the hottest male form, we will be instituting one day a week to post photos of actual hotties! Let us know what we should call it!Wonho. From Monsta X. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:42 AM |
| 38 | *warning nsfw language* Saw this on the She Rates Dogs twitter page - he said the quiet part out loudActually, trp and other similar spaces legitimately view women as objects. They even guide the male species to have multiple "plates" and to see the "end goal": fucking. That's literally it. They don't really see us anything else but as walking fleshlights. They even preach sexual harrassment, assault, coercion and rape as "game" tactics because they truly believe that "No" isn't real and hence encourage "escalating" unwanted sexual advances. So I'm not surprised the scrote caved and outed himse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:44 PM |
| 3 | The Occasional Terror and Utter Confusion of Dating in the Digital Age (it's about dick pics)"I’ve heard this rationale from men and boys, too, who say they send dick pics as a way to “get something back”—meaning nudes. " This is so so true. Especially beware of the one who sends it and says "I don't want anything [nudes] in return". You brushing off their repeated sending of nudes only conditions you to feel obligated to send one- to make you "feel bad" or "safe" when he voices that you don't have to send anything to him. Unsolicited repeated sending of dick pics+ reassuring the victim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 10:22 AM |
| 147 | A guy once told me, "I'm the last thing you need right now." Then got mad when I said, "Okay."They tell on themselves. And he justifies it with, "I told her so before. She denied so she is dumb and delusional. So it's not my fault she can't choose good partners. She had it coming." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:26 AM |
| 18 | Anyone else not bother arguing with men anymore?I think men refuse to research because in their mind, they think that since "a man" has come up with proof of a phenomenon, that intellect and "logic" extends to the whole male species. I won't be surprised if they do think "since a man has provided proof for xyz, men are smart, and so my own conclusion is also ultimately verifiable and is proof in and on itself". Hence why they argue without the need to back up their claims, or when they do, the "facts" are taken out of their arse. Men have thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:44 AM |
| 44 | Just friends, though!Yeah. That's what the "benefit" part means to the men. They are only thinking about the benefits they obtain for themselves. Don't forget that men are selfish and only considers things in relation to how much they can obtain. That is why you see them sabotage the life of women who have potential and better prospects, because otherwise they will not get the "benefit" if the women realise their worth and be just as selfish as the men. They don't care FOR the women they are with, they only "care" i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:51 AM |
| 37 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.They are purely projecting. That is how their thought process towards women actually are i.e. their (men's) endgame and how much can they theoretically gain out of having a woman = increased social standing amoung other men, emotional and sex slave, free labour, free therapist, free child care and many more benefits, with little to no cost on their part. They are extremely suscious of us because they have, are doing, and will continue to do shady shit that all women must be suspicious of. "All w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 07:40 PM |
| 68 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄It was very clear that he was trying to guilt trip OP and shift the focus from his own inability to listen to her 'communication' ( They love to fling around this term to conceal their own lack of care/selfishness) to Op's perceived lack of acknowledgement of his "efforts". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:28 PM |
| 199 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄"I buy things because I want to". He exposed himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 03:39 PM |
| 9 | I would absolutely leave if a man did this. LVM behaviorIf your assumption of him just asking her to tag along is correct, then he just wanted the social privilege associated with having a girlfriend amoung other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Manipulation through musicThat's exactly what he was doing, manipulating you. If he was so upset, why did he not "communicate" ? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:06 PM |
| 7 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.And also be careful of those whose "bros got their back." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:00 PM |
| 11 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.And with coerced consent (=rape), they will still pin it on the woman: "but she never said no"/ "she could've said no", "she agreed to it" etc. They will go to great lengths to deny being the problem, because to them, they will always think of themselves as "better than other men". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:58 AM |
| 15 | The man who shot and killed 8 people, 6 of them Asian women, in Atlanta massage parlors yesterday is now blaming his sex/porn addiction.Why isn't this called terrorism? There are five crucial components of terrorism: 1. An involvement of an act of violence :He murdered them 2. An audience : Everyone who has heard this news. 3. The creation of a mood of fear : The women, especially asians 4. Innocent victims - Self-explanatory. 5. Political goals or motives : Anti-asian. He is testing the waters to see if the government and law enforcement would do anything substancial about it (i.e increased security, his degree of punishment et… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Do men ever regret dehumanizing women?Nope. Men don't regret dehumanizing women -they would even deny that 'dehumanizing' is the descriptor of those actions. Rather, they would say that "the woman was crazy" or that they weren't "compatible". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:30 PM |
| 7 | 💯% true for me.Now sit back and watch how men will falsely claim to be gay so as to avoid repercussions for their action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:21 AM |
| 2 | Women who are divorcedDivorce for a man is emasculating, especially if it is initiated by the woman. It is seen as the man "failing to control 'his' wife". It's all about control, and a woman who defies cultural and societal (patriarchal) expectations, she is seen as a threat; and would (commonly) go as far as to murder her in the name of "honour". To them, it doesn't matter if they are abusing their wife; as long as he has them under their feet, they are "a man". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:15 AM |
| 2 | Manipulation through musicPlaying songs for your partner is sweet. But the sweetness dissipates when it is used to evade responsibility of action. When the song which is meant to show their love for you turns into a jail free card for commiting a wrong, it's manipulation. They even found a way to add manipulation to the 'prove yourself with actions' phrase. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 06:38 AM |
| 11 | Manipulation through musicThat is so disturbing. Exposing children to inappropriate knowledge (because each stage of growth has boundaries) is unacceptable. He was trying to mold your thoughts (through fear - hence the yelling) so as to make you submissive and accepting of unacceptable behaviour. Parents should teach their children how to respect themselves and defend themselves from being used, abused and manipulated, not to teach them how to be victims of abuse and manipulation and self-disrespect. No child should watc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 06:10 AM |
| 8 | Manipulation through musicExactly. That's why I am very selective to the type of music I listen to. Even to the point where whenever someone sends me a song, I first search the lyrics, then listen to it. If it has a catchy tune, I will still not like the overall song because the lyrics and message will always be at the back of my mind. Making a conscious effort not to replay the song also helps in not getting caught in the replay loop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:35 AM |
| 17 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.This reminds me of abortion rights, especially the Woman's March in Poland. There are men who support the movement, but how many of them actually care about the women who are adovating abortion laws for cases of rape, disease and health of the woman? Most of them only want the abortion laws in place so as to enjoy condomless sex, and oh so conveniently 'forgetting' about consent and STDs. At this stage, most would only want to be able to pin the blame on the woman, or find an "easy" way out of r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 07:49 AM |
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