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Irisandoleander/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 08:58 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 03:15 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:30 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 02:38 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 08:06 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 09:15 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives26/06/16 02:49 PM
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Irisandoleander/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 08:57 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 10:09 PM
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HOMEMAKINGIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives27/03/17 12:34 PM
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HUMORIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 01:47 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!Irisandoleander/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 04:48 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 02:19 PM
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GIRL GAMEIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives21/08/16 10:50 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives26/07/16 08:05 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives21/07/17 04:00 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:48 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 02:44 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 12:58 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 01:11 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives19/07/16 01:32 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives21/03/17 08:31 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 02:37 PM
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GIRL GAMEIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 06:24 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 02:12 AM
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FIELD REPORTIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives18/07/16 02:41 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives20/02/17 04:46 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 12:29 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 08:15 PM
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HOMEMAKINGIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 05:03 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 05:12 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 01:10 AM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 03:49 PM
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HOMEMAKINGIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 06:08 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 03:55 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 12:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 06:55 PM
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Recommended ReadingIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 01:04 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 05:38 PM
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GIRL GAMEIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives19/07/16 04:55 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:42 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 05:07 PM
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[FIELD REPORT]Irisandoleander/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 06:28 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:22 PM
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CULTUREIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives30/03/17 07:23 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 05:41 PM
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HUMORIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 06:16 PM
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INSIGHTFULIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives24/09/16 12:33 PM
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HOMEMAKINGIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 04:27 PM
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HOMEMAKINGIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 11:39 PM
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For fun!Irisandoleander/r/RedPillWives01/09/16 02:25 PM
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GIRL GAMEIrisandoleander/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 01:27 PM
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I wouldn't go as far to say she was treated like a bag of meat - but he did assume what many men assume. You come back to my place we are going to get down with it. Men are men even feminist men want sex.
/r/RedPillWives19/01/18 08:41 PM
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I'm so glad you're finding some tangible advice!
/r/RedPillWives17/01/18 11:59 AM
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I never got around to saying thank you to everyone who responded so THANK YOU! I love this community, you're all so amazing <3 <3
/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 09:16 PM
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Just because you are both introverts doesn't mean you are the same in your needs. You are both individual people. You're doing something we all do and you're trying to measure him by your own yardstick. I do it too! It's hard not to. You know yourself so well so you base your ideals on the things you know - but if he needs alone time he needs alone time.
/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 09:09 PM
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It’s always been like this where he requires his alone time. So you knew this going into the marriage? I guess what I’m looking for is him wanting to spend time with me just a tad more than his alone time. You want him to be someone else.
/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 09:04 PM
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You've probably seen this article, or at least heard about the original Babe article but I thought it was worth sharing if you have not - This is a prime example of how toxic feminism has become. Nothing is off-limits. This guy's career is probably toast all because he wasn't what she had decided he was in her mind. That he wasn't able to predict how she was feeling. Feminism truly is cancer.
/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 09:02 PM
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Looking forward to reading this one later today, Camille - happy cake day by the way :)
/r/RedPillWives06/01/18 05:42 PM
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Teaching kids consent and sex ed at a young age empowers them. So true! One thing my mom made sure to teach my sisters and I was that when we say no we should mean it. None of this "giggle giggle, why'd you stop?" bull shit. It just confuses the guy you're with. There are ways to be coy, flirty, and tempting without misusing the word no. Now, with my husband there is obviously more leeway as we know each other, he understands my tone, he can read the signals that are harder to understand on a fi…
/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 10:55 PM
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I agree with your sentiment. I don't think it's as big as a problem as the media makes it out to - BUT at the same time, it is important for parents to respect their children's bodies as their own. I don't support piercing baby girls ears or circumcising baby boys as those body modifications the individual should have a say in. (not that circumcision is equal to ear piercing lol but you get my point). When I was providing babysitting services for families one thing I made sure to always do when …
/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 10:52 PM
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t feel pretty overwhelmed. My husband wants to have 8-12 children and I don't know how I'll be able to keep up at this pace lol. Damn - but was this discussed prior to the marriage? Obviously you should talk about your well being and general health. Having a huge family is a dream of mine but it's not something I'll probably be able to handle mentally based on the toll the first one did on me. Keep the dialogue open with your husband. As for the clothing, how do you set up budgeting - can you ta…
/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 10:49 PM
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Single ladies are always welcome. :) One of the great things about learning strong vetting while you're single is if you do end up in a poor relationship you can see the signs and leave it before it becomes too serious. As opposed to many women who didn't see the red flags and now are looking for a fix that might not be there. Welcome to the sub! :D
/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 10:44 PM
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Great post. This one popped up in my baby bump group a few times. I appreciate how it talks about cultivating a life that lets you just live. So many times we create this life that's above our means, or we keep toxic friends simply to keep up appearances or the comfort of the normal and then we end up stressed and hurting.
/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 10:40 PM
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Congrats!!
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 10:21 AM
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Ooh I saw your comment after I replied. I'm all over the place. Yes zippered pillow cases would be so festive. Cloth napkins are my jam. They are inexpensive and easily maintained. I never though to make them though. ... now you have me thinking
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 06:27 PM
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I love wreaths. I enjoy making them. I swap them seasonally and the big holidays get them. I'm slowly building my stash. I think front door wreaths are such a small thing that make a big difference. Especially in making a front door look welcoming. Your pillow idea is fantastic. As long as you have the storage space to swap out seasonal pillows. Just making cases you can pop on and off. Plus they are homemade so you don't have the same Pinterest looking couch every girl does.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 06:23 PM
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I know! Time needs to stop haha.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 07:54 AM
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Thank you so much. I appreciate the kind words :)
/r/RedPillWives19/09/17 05:25 PM
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And then we don’t feel like wives. We feel like moms and maids. This is totally me right now! 8 weeks postpartum I've been living in nursing tank tops and leggings. It's not pretty. It's functional. Today I got up and I got dressed. I put on some makeup. I have always preached that I would be 51% wife and 49% mom. But I was ignorant to how hard that is right now. When the infant is glued to your boob and your stomach still looks about 15 weeks pregnant. The self-consciousness right now is draggi…
/r/RedPillWives18/09/17 06:41 PM
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Wonderful! Thank you for sharing. Also upvote simply for pancakes. They are my favorite 😉
/r/RedPillWives17/09/17 03:15 PM
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How fun! Love the infographic nature of this.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 05:34 PM
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Deep. I like it.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 02:04 PM
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I can make a list of all the projects I would like to be doing but can't because I have an infant that demands my attention. :0) But for real! I am sewing today - or at least making an attempt to sew today!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 02:04 PM
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Ooh you should start a post about the things we want to teach our daughters 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives11/09/17 10:22 PM
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You need to learn to quiet the hamster. Go do something for you and do your best not to think about him. You aren't dating. You hooked up and then he moved on.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/17 12:46 AM
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Can you edit the checklists? Or are they stuck they way she made them?
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 07:42 PM
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No. Michigan phased them out. I couldn't have survived the night alone so R had to stick around.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 03:50 PM
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Did your hospital have a nursery?
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 02:45 PM
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I find it funny we all have to "ask" him to hang out by our head when just about every guy has no freaking interest being down there during crowning HAHA.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 01:07 PM
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Totally agree on that connection. It's kind of unreal how you feel after going through something as epic as child birth. There is a selflessness to it I think and he sees that in you. You are willing to go through all that for him, for the family.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 06:51 AM
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My sister hired a Doula! She said it was the best thing money could buy during her pregnancy. You should look into one when/if you have a child. They are basically a patient advocate with some midwifery training. She would be your support person who's by your side every step of the way.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 06:46 AM
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Good mind set. He won't be a good coach or rock if he's queasy. Doesn't make him any less awesome of husband - but good to recognize it. I wish you two the best and hope you get your baby soon. 🤗
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 12:39 AM
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I needed him. There is no-one I trust with my life more than R. I needed his level head when the nurse said "we need to do this" he was the one that remembered to say "why - what are the benefits, what are the risks". I needed his strength when I more or less wanted to die. I needed him to tell me it's okay to take the epidural, you did nothing wrong. I needed his protection when I was scared. I understand why a woman would not want her man to see her like that. But we got pregnant together. We'…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 12:32 AM
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Agreed. /u/AshleyAccount, what has your husband said specifically that has you thinking he's upset about your job/making more than him.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/17 02:00 AM
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Can't hurt? Report back because now I'm curious :)
/r/RedPillWives01/09/17 03:38 PM
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having a guy who can do the handyman thing is FANTASTIC!
/r/RedPillWives31/08/17 04:44 PM
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This whole transition into parenthood has been more challenging than R and I anticipated. People say all babies do is eat, sleep, and poop - except they forget the horrible witching hour shenanigans of screaming and crying at 9pm at night. But R has been AH-MAZE-ING! He keeps his cool even though I know he's frustrated. Bonding between infant and dad is so much harder than infant and mom - we've been actively bonding for 9 months - we had a connection the day Fish entered the world. R ... not so…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/17 08:00 PM
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What have you done to resolve this problem? Nothing but cringe and try to avoid it honestly. Stop avoiding - you must speak plainly and bluntly. Find a time when things are calm and it's just the two of you. Explain the reasons you are done having kids. This is the only way you can have a discussion about this.
/r/RedPillWives28/08/17 07:59 PM
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Blueball the shit out of him & then tell him to finish himself off - that's what he does to you. AKA Tit for tat - How is this RPW advice exactly?
/r/RedPillWives22/08/17 02:44 PM
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I agree that in the current economic situation there are a lot of families who simply can not live on one income. And you totally hit the nail on the head about white color jobs and debt. But at the same time, there are families that could - it would just require more sacrifice and long term planning. I'll use myself as an example. I'm a privileged white chick, I live in an area where cost of living is pretty low, and my husband makes 6 figures. Many of my friends are in the same situation. But,…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/17 02:39 PM
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Those exist!? Off to Amazon!
/r/RedPillWives20/08/17 12:26 AM
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This weekend R and I are having our annual Craft Beer Potluck. What's your favorite adult beverage? I'm a hard cider gal typically. In the winter I make this festive yummy drink called French Toast it's 1 part RumChata and 1 part maple whisky (I use Crown Royal Maple).
/r/RedPillWives18/08/17 05:31 PM
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Was there ever a time when he did initiate more or has this always been his style? Sorry if I missed that part in your post I'm reading Reddit between baby feedings haha. I ask because I had a similar issue a few years back.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/17 02:07 PM
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That like will depend on the marriage. But like WhiteBunny said a lot of emotional fulfilment can come from female friends. Additionally I don't expect my husband to be my single source of entertainment. I have hobbies outside the home and participate in activities he does not. I betting the majority of woman here would say the same. If he's off with his friends on a Saturday night I don't sit around and pine for him. I sew, or hang out with my own friends, or watch trashy TV he doesn't have an …
/r/RedPillWives17/08/17 11:15 AM
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It's probably not completely unrealistic to find a man who appreciates you are still a virgin - but do you want him to also be a virgin? Because that will certainly limit your dating pool.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/17 08:17 PM
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This article has some really good (and some meh okay) points. But something that resonated is this quote: Our husbands are not meant to, able to, or equipped to meet all our emotional needs and we need to stop expecting them to. When we expect our husband to meet ALLLLLL our needs we're going to be disappointed. Some other guy will meet a missing need and that chick-brain will turn on and say oh - life could be better with that guy. But that man can't meet all your needs either. Women branch swi…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/17 12:43 PM
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what about a simple "Husband, I'm feeling neglected. Could we make dinner a no phone zone?" and just see what he does. I make a show of putting my phone on a board when I come home, hoping he will copy my behavior. This is a covert contract you are hoping he will read your mind. You must be direct with him. But then it's really up to him to make the change if he wants to or not. Are you home all day? What are your hobbies like? Have you tried sexy stuff to distract him from the phone? Random nak…
/r/RedPillWives07/08/17 07:03 PM
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When did this start?
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 01:28 AM
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Sit at the bar and order lots of courses of food. Split plates. Share food. Something about sitting side by side means less distractions. Cell phones don't seem to come out as much. More physical flirting, too
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 12:16 AM
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Fun! R and I did it a few times together. So much fun 😊
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 12:14 AM
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Hey, Miner :) I would caution you about setting up a house rule without discussing it with him first. Have you, and how have you expressed this frustration to him? How did he respond in that conversation?
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 01:18 PM
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Jane, my heart broke reading your post. This is not okay. Phantom and the other women have given some excellent advice I do hope you take it seriously. IF this is kink related I encourage you and him, as a team, to read up about safety in the bedroom. First off BOTH people need to be onboard and you obviously aren't which is a huge red flag!! And a big no-no in the BDSM community. Safe words must be established, used, and respected. This requires so much communication. Communicate well before do…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 12:36 PM
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As a member of the DAR my volunteer efforts tend to be with Veterans. Grave markings, cleanings, along with other projects. One project we did was taking clothing and altering it to better fit men who have lost limbs. We also hold drives to collect items to send over seas in care packages, or just sending letters and cards. Other projects include working with local schools and getting involved with history or civics classes to help with constitutional education. Things like that. 😊
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 12:26 PM
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Shout out to /u/Camille11325 and /u/PhantomDream09 for being so supportive during this whole life changing baby thing I'm so thrilled to be part of such a great mod team. Shout out to /u/StingrayVC for her always helpful momma advice! Shout out to /u/whistling_dixie for being an awesome friend!! We can geek out on genealogy and cause trouble on Facebook and generally just be ridiculous. So happy we met <3
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 02:53 PM
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I won't be afraid. I need my laundry done and they require stairs. I'm trying to avoid stairs as much as possible.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 12:43 PM
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Thank you everyone! the messages and DMs and twitter messages have been so sweet. Okay - so we had Fishy (yes he's staying fishy on the internet and no photos on twitter, sorry ladies) Monday morning just before 9 pm. He was 8#3oz and 21in. Labor was rough - fast and furious. If you want the gory details I will DM you but the general G version is that my water broke slowly Sunday night and because it was slow my OB wanted me in the hospital for observation. after a few hours of observation, I wa…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:12 AM
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Thanks!!! I still read but commenting will be limited.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:03 AM
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Labor was hell lol. like WOAH. But oh my gosh my husband was godsent. I agree it's a little overwhelming that I brought a baby into such a messed up world - BUT if we don't have kids and teach them to be smart, strong willed people, then the world won't get better I joined the local mom group while i was pregnant and they have been super awesome. Lots of hand-me-downs and a food train starting Monday so I won't really have to cook for 2 weeks. Ever grateful.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:03 AM
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Now that we've gotten the latch down better he's feeding longer and sleeping longer letting me sleep longer.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:00 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:59 AM
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Oh my gosh he's freaking adorable. R was adorable as a baby and this kid looks just like him. he's got pouty lips... I have taken an insane number of photos.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:59 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:58 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:58 AM
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Aww thank you so much, Camille!
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:58 AM
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Thank you Phantom :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:58 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:57 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:57 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:57 AM
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So much happy dancing :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:57 AM
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Doing well! First pediatrician appt today. I have a list of questions to make sure I'm not crazy - which also might make me come off as crazy.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:56 AM
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Thanks Tea! I'm so glad you're a late-nighter in the IRC so I have friends to chat with :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:55 AM
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Thank you love. I know that the poop does change over time as they switch from meconium to breast milk poop but noone had mentioned the 10-10-10 that's a good way to think about it :) I'm trying to sleep - R and I are trying to find our rhythm. I'm so grateful he wants to be super involved. :) I know some new dads don't know what to do so they do nothing - he doesn't know what to do so he's trying whatever he can to help and it's awesome. And yes SLEEEEP! My current canned response when friends …
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 09:54 AM
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No, feminism has taken over. Most dads have oneitus for their daughters anyway. That whole "wrapped around his finger" attitude
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 04:37 AM
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Great questions. Very curious what future H has said about all this.
/r/RedPillWives22/07/17 12:55 PM
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Hi tajak! Welcome to the sub. As Bella mentioned please follow our formatting for asking advice and I do agree with the additional questions Bella had. It would be very helpful to know what your future husband has said about all this.
/r/RedPillWives22/07/17 12:54 PM
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Validation seeking is never a guys thing. I did need a good laugh today.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/17 04:41 PM
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This is something that's been on my mind for a few weeks - how women will fall into this trap thinking they are encouraging and being supportive but in reality, they are being naggy. So feel free to throw out some examples when you have been caught in this trap - or seen a friend caught in this trap - and how you adjusted your mind set.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/17 04:01 PM
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does a happy dance *
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 10:41 PM
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the hashtag is spreading!!! :O
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 10:35 PM
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If I lost my job tomorrow, I would get another job. If I lost my husband, I would be devastated. Great point right here. Additionally, your boss will never love you the way a husband/family will.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 12:33 PM
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Thank you for sharing LGG! I had not heard of Penelope Trunk - but I'm certainly a fan now. Going to save her site for some reading later :) All her links are gold mines to read as well. It'll just take some time to get through them. On initial reaction though - "Why Women Still Can’t Have it All" Because no one can. Unless you are the 1% because then money buys you the flexibility to have it all. Can men have it all? No, I don't think so. I don't think ANYONE can have it "all". When feminist pu…
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 12:28 PM
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Happy Birthday :)
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 12:17 PM
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Thought this would be a great resource if you are a fan of podcasts. It's hard for me to get into podcasts but I am going to try to listen to these more regularly to brush up on Etiquette.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 12:01 PM
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mobile friendly - I would suggest setting up on the computer but then once you have a log in and such you can get the IRCcloud app. you'll need to use your reddit username as your IRC username :)
/r/RedPillWives17/07/17 10:09 PM
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Her behavior is a reflection of how you raised her. You do know you can get oneitis for your daughter, right?
/r/RedPillWives17/07/17 07:32 PM
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Great find! And yes it totally sounds like dread. I have found that in my observations of others relationships that if women are attracted to a man his girl feels the need to step up. When he is more attractive others will notice him and she doesn't want to be overshadowed by those people
/r/RedPillWives16/07/17 12:47 AM
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I was a little hurt but this, I feel like my enthusiasm wasn't met with the same enthusiasm. His reaction to the news felt akin to me telling him I found a $10 bill on the ground. How would anyone else feel in this situation while still trying to be amicable with your husband? My husband expresses his emotions in a different way then I express my emotions because we are different people. This is a simple case of you wanting him to act how you act. We all do it. The best thing to do is remember t…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/17 01:48 AM
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I did! R installed the car seat in my jeep a few days back (well the base, the seat came back inside) and today we had the fancy firehouse inspection with the licensed tech. And - of course - it was perfect the way it was :) So as we were leaving the fire house I was like -- see! you're so smart we didn't even have to come :) But now we can check it off the list!!
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 10:36 PM
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Ohhh I gotcha 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 10:33 PM
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I agree. I don't think life must have travel. Just saying travel is still possible with kids
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 10:06 PM
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Life doesn't have to end when you get married and settle down, it's what you make of it. Right because you can't travel with kids - or go back to school when your kids are teenagers - and you certainly couldn't ever advance your career while your kids are in college. Nope! Nope not at all LOL
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 07:08 PM
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Women are entrepreneurs, lawyers, teachers, CEOs, inventors, designers, researchers, writers, consultants and so much more. Women are going to college and then getting their masters and doctorate degrees. Women are endlessly working to climb up the corporate ladder. Women are key figures in our government. Women are changing the world with their innovation. Good for them - that's something some women want. And you can still celebrate that. But not all women WANT that. Some women want a different…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 06:44 PM
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do you have an ad blocker in your browser?
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 02:50 PM
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Obligatory COME JOIN US IN THE CHAT ROOM!!! https://www.irccloud.com/#!/irc6.quakenet.org:6667/%23RPWives
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 02:03 PM
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HOLY SHIT WHAT?!
/r/RedPillWives13/07/17 04:56 PM
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Good Morning H, please follow our guidelines for advice: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/advice Please edit your post using the above format and let me know when you have. Until then your post will be removed. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives08/07/17 02:10 PM
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we just needed to talk about it These words coming from a girl almost always mean "I want to change his mind" I do trust him and can recognize that we have something really unique. Except you don't - or you would not be here. You are in this "I trust him but..." phase. You want to trust him because you think that's what you're supose to do but your actions are speaking for you.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 12:25 PM
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A good man for a long-term commitment will put your wishes toward the top of his priorities, unless it cannot be done for reasons. A good man for a long-term commitment will consider your wishes while prioritizing long-term goals. Your wishes may be nonrational, silly, childish, or simply out of the question - he doesn't have to make them a top priority simply because you are his girlfriend/wife. But, he should certainly consider them and weigh the options as all good captains and leaders do.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 12:20 PM
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Love love love! But totally triggered cause I had a 15k wedding and your awesome attitude toward a cheap wedding makes me feel threatened to defend my decision of an elaborate party. 😉 teehee
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 12:55 AM
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Married sex is the best sex. TBH
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 12:15 AM
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Is this a hard boundary - if she does move in will you leave? If it's not a hard boundary - can you learn to accept it and STFU. Because if you can't accept it you will nag, you will fight, you will deteriorate the foundation of the relationship. Personally - And this is me - It's a hard boundary. I wouldn't stay with a man who lived with a female "friend" I just know I could not handle it. Period. End of story. No amount of trying to accept would ever get me to STFU about it. He's made a choice…
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 11:51 PM
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DIXIE!!!!! I'm so excited for you!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 09:56 PM
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I grew up in a big family so vacations were only really feasible if we went camping. So much fun. Wonderful memories. Are you more a tent gal or cabin?
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 10:11 AM
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I'm so glad you updated, g_e_m_anscombe! I wish the best for you and your husband. It's going to be hard but you sound really determined to better yourself and your relationship. Keep us updated :)
/r/RedPillWives05/07/17 10:59 PM
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You are a plate. You have put yourself into this position by not setting boundaries.
/r/RedPillWives05/07/17 02:46 AM
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Inner beauty - tell me if this counts but I'd like to move away from my dependency on social media. I'll be home 24/7 with Fishy and I don't want to rely on social media to entertain me. There are things to do around the house, things to do in my life, genealogy projects, sewing projects, raising the baby... etc. And not that I will step down from modding but I'd like to not be so addicted to the validating that social media brings (so thinking more Facebook/Twitter) Update: no real update becau…
/r/RedPillWives03/07/17 02:42 PM
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Feel free to edit your comment and I'll approve it :)
/r/RedPillWives03/07/17 01:19 AM
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When suddenly out of nowhere Big Foot appeared and said ".....
/r/RedPillWives03/07/17 01:10 AM
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Your gender is irrelevant. Please become familiar with our rules
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 08:30 PM
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but you can be in the closet about the Red Pill corner of the internet and not at all in the closet about your views on relationships. I think that's the point I'm hung up on with your initial question. My friends know I'm a traditionalist, that I view my husband as the captain and leader. They know I take issues with feminism and they know I don't agree with most left-wing political movements. But I don't have to say a word about this subreddit because r/TheRedPill is seen as SOOOOO toxic. I do…
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 05:01 PM
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and everyone in your real life knows it Know's what - what is "it"?
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 02:22 PM
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I'm curious what you think the benefit of A would be?
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 02:15 PM
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Plan the picnic - if it rains spread out a blanket on the floor of your apartment instead :) Fewer ants! Also, if you're nervous to cook something for him - you have a week to do a trial run.
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 02:09 PM
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How do you balance work/life (if you're a SAH, I'm including housekeeping, etc as work)? Any routine that helped it go from mundane? Any little touches that make your partner smile? Sit down and write out all the chores you need to do. Daily/Weekly/Monthly - then prioritize what MUST be done, and what can you skip if things get busy. Take into account your H's priorities. I'll even ask "What do you need me to get done today/this weekend?" Bigger items that are only done once a week, or maybe a f…
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 02:02 PM
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What do you mean everyone knows it? Do I use red pill terminology in conversation with friends? Nope. Do I reference any red pill bloggers on my facebook? Nope. Do I show respect to my husband at all times even in public - yup. Do I call out girlfriends who are being cunts to their boyfriend/husband - yup! (usually in private but sometimes I'll call her out in public. Do I avoid the crabs in the bucket - Girls Night Out - wine and bitch fest? Of course Being a Red Pill Wife TM is more about how …
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 01:57 PM
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THIS IS THE BEST BOT EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives01/07/17 01:15 PM
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Okay I tried to change it to a Canadian flag and I keep getting an error - I'll try it again in a little bit maybe I can figure it out :)
/r/RedPillWives01/07/17 12:53 PM
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But 'murica 😊
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 10:09 PM
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Hi! Welcome. Don't feel lonely. 😊
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 10:09 PM
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Welcome!!
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 10:09 PM
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Personally, the best attitude is -- it will get better :) Yes, it's super sucky right now. But see if there are other ways you can be intimate with him that might help with the stress of 2hour long sex before finishing. Sleep naked - shower together - make out - feel each other up in the car a little before going into a restaurant. Make sure he knows that he can tell you when he's feeling neglected. Don't shame him for that - also you need to tell him when this is too much and you shouldn't feel…
/r/RedPillWives29/06/17 01:41 PM
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If he feels like this is an issue he needs to talk to his Doctor - none of us are MDs (that I know of) so it's best he talk to a professional. open communication between you and him is good! and it's awesome you're trying. but it can be hard when sex becomes a chore. So i do hope you're able to find some answers :) Mental health is mega important though, and that should really be priority #1 right now.
/r/RedPillWives28/06/17 04:37 PM
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/u/Red-Curious - I approved your thread only so I could comment publicly as opposed to in the mod queue. We can't fix your wife. You can't fix your wife. Your wife must want to make changes on her own. You can encourage change by growing as a leader but there is no promise she'll follow even if you do lead. As for book recommendations, there are plenty (Laura Doyle is popular. Elisabeth Elliot for a Christian perspective). There's no reason she can't read NMMNG. We do discuss taking care of your…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/17 02:35 PM
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My argument to #2 is simply that most women are wearing the wrong sized bra. And when you do it's super uncomfortable. Pre-pregnancy I was sized properly and my bras were like 2nd skins. I loved them. I walked around in just them. I felt fun flirty, pretty. .... now? I'm not fitting properly into a single one I own. I'm also rapidly changing due to the pregnancy. So yeah. It comes off when I get home cause fuck being in a bra that doesn't fit. I can't speak as much to your other points and I gue…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/17 01:40 AM
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The actual quilting doesn't have to be super detailed or intricate to look beautiful. All you're doing is sewing through many more layers of fabric compared to when you are sewing clothing. You'll make the quilt top - very much like how you sew clothing - and then you'll sandwich a batting between the quilt top and a solid piece of fabric for the quilt back. the most challenging part for me is the edge - I use bias tape. There are lots of excellent youtube tutorials. I have faith you can totally…
/r/RedPillWives25/06/17 04:36 PM
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I do :) I mostly make baby quilts for friends. My momma is a really talented quilter and I learned a lot from her. Baby quilt 1 baby quilt 2 Step 1 do you have a sewing machine? if you're good there I would suggest checking out the Quilt Kits at Missouri quilt If you find a pre-cut it can help ease you in. This way you don't have to worry about fabric selection or cutting you can just jump straight to the sewing :) Their instructions are pretty good, too.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/17 11:26 AM
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Obligatory Friday -- COME CHAT WITH US!!! :0)
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 04:26 PM
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To me individually, the male friends thing. /u/PhantomDream09 had a comment once that really struck me - about her relationship with Occam Yes we joke with each other, have conversations about many different topics etc, goof off and have fun - but in every interaction, there's a level of sexual interest/flirtation/romance that would be wholly inappropriate if it existed with anyone I do consider to be a friend.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 05:27 PM
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Or you pick UP a healthy habit like increasing water intake, collagen supplement, more lotion, less damaging sun --- next thing ya know he's all about touching your skin cause it's just so soft now <3
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:32 PM
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I'm an ESFJ a good number of my traditionally minded women friends are xSFJ :0)
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:25 PM
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Wife goggles are a thing - but not quite what I mean with my comment. The quote we're talking about is: He doesn’t see the thousand nitpicky flaws you obsess over in the mirror, but he does notice the general shape of your body in comparison to when he met you (if not the particular dress you put on it). Women are going to be very nitpicky about ourselves, a zit, a blemish, but in the end our husbands are more focused on the bigger picture. So don't stress about the tiny things just make sure th…
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:21 PM
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I liked that line, too. Men look through men's eyes. Women look through women's eyes -- and we really do see things differently.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:00 PM
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Welcome! I'm so glad you decided to come out from lurking :) Do you happen to know your full MBIT?
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 10:04 PM
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Inner beauty - tell me if this counts but I'd like to move away from my dependency on social media. I'll be home 24/7 with Fishy and I don't want to rely on social media to entertain me. There are things to do around the house, things to do in my life, genealogy projects, sewing projects, raising the baby... etc. And not that I will step down from modding but I'd like to not be so addicted to the validating that social media brings (so thinking more Facebook/Twitter) Romantic Relationship - this…
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 05:26 PM
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I'm taking this straight from Notes From a Red Pill Girl ... here’s a video from Marion Le Pen (the even more outspoken niece of Marine Le Pen, who is running for the leader of France) and her take on feminism. Watch. Consider. Discuss. Do you think she is right? Too much? Not enough? Please share in the comments!
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 02:38 PM
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Death in the family is definitely a huge moment in a relationship. When R's momma died I wanted him to feel he could lean on me but I was grieving hard. This wasn't just boyfriend's mom - this was my fiance's mom. This was a woman who was supposed to come pick out a wedding dress with me in the spring. This was the woman I was going to share a married name with. So I couldn't be there for R as much as I wish I could. But he was understanding and we both found trusted friends to lean on. Of cours…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 02:22 PM
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Please do. And welcome to the sub 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 10:45 AM
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Have you read this? https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4dohin/shit_tests_101/
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 10:41 AM
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I'm glad you did :) I think it's really important that you pointed out how he asked you to do something, that thing made you kinda nervous, but you did it and you did it beautifully :)
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 01:10 AM
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if nothing else you made me giggle :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:12 PM
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In the eyes of TRP he's a formidable writer, blogger, and general Alpha-he-man. So yes, he's the example I chose.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:03 PM
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Shit! someone better tell Rollo - pretty sure he's married with a kid LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:50 PM
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Step 1: Be a man worth respecting Step 2: leave shitty relationships if the girl doesn't respect you. Step 3: ???? Step 4: Profit. or something like that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:36 PM
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etiquette is a dying art. :(
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 03:26 PM
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Ask a good number of endorsed contributors in RPWives we don't want a RP man - we simply want a good man. Example - my husband is very much against TRP as a whole and views it as a toxic environment for men. Women often use RPWi as a self-improvement subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:18 PM
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I agree with you to a point. Yes, it does seem like something any normal spouse should do. Be that emotional support. But it might just be in OPs style of writing. What I'm reading - and we'll need more details from OP - is it sounds like OP saw an opportunity to "protect" her husband, but he may or may not have needed her to protect. Women wanna momma bear everyone, right? So she did - she stepped in to be that barrier. I pulled him aside at one point and taught him how to properly introduce me…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 01:36 PM
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Perhaps I should have explained how much I was struggling with some of these things before Yes :) Do that!! It's always nice when a field report shows these are the things I was struggling with - and these are how I handled those struggles.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 01:24 PM
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I bought R a card that was like "you got this, dad-to-be". He was kind of still asleep when he came into the kitchen this morning and read it. "That's nice, what's it for?" "Well it's your first fathers day" "..... oh. Yeah, coffee first." Haha. And then we went to babysRus and bought stuff for Fishy's room. So nothing crazy 😊
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 04:04 PM
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Right now my prepwork has been prenatal yoga and education. Our bodies were designed to do this. Plus there are always drugs 😉
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 04:32 PM
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I have a labor/birthing 2-day class today and next Saturday at the hospital - so I would really love any other momma's input on how they mentally prepared for Labor. Tips and tricks to stay calm? I've been practicing prenatal yoga and basically just reminding myself that in the end, I bring home a baby!!!!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 12:39 PM
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Fruit Juice icecubes are my favorite because as they melt they don't water down the drink :)
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 06:44 PM
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yes! the entire week has been ... wait it's only yesterday? Today REALLY should be Saturday
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 06:41 PM
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I'm second guessing all my answers LOL this will take a while. I'm an ESFJ though :0) Nothing says accomplishment quite like MRS Degree!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:19 PM
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mofongo I had to google it..... HA
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 02:46 PM
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Two things come to mind while reading this. First - Women often fall in love with a man's potential. and then we push him and push him to get there that we totally miss out on the opportunity to love and respect him today, as he is, right now. Second - "You excused yourself for not being perfect. Now you can excuse [your husband] for not being perfect also." - /u/HappyWifeLifeX
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 01:07 PM
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The fruit is just whatever is seasonal and/or on sale. I do prep my own by making a batch of hard boiled eggs. I tend to eat the leftovers from last night's dinner. So my lunch is always changing. His is pretty much the same fuel every day always.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 10:23 AM
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I prep on the weekends so he has lots to pick from - but his schedule at work is nutty and I never know if he'll eat at his desk, or in a meeting, or snack all day between meetings. So he packs his own. I just make sure that fruit is cut up into containers and all the fixings he needs for sandwiches are fully stocked so he can just grab and go in the morning
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 06:48 PM
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Yeah that's probably good - but also maybe some tips on "what makes a good goal" "how to track goals" "Do your goals have metrics" "Macro goal v micro goal" Example: Goal: Lose weight. Okay....... how much? How fast? How in general? Better goal: Lose 10# in 1 month by limiting caloric intake to X calories/day, increasing exercise by blah blah blah. :)
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 04:03 PM
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I felt super hurt and unloved the first time R decided to sleep apart from me. He was tossing and turning. Work had him very stressed. He wasn't going to sleep so why wreck my sleep in the process. It took me MONTHS to get over my feelings - to start seeing this arrangement as a good and positive thing. Hopefully, you two will get there. You are already receptive to a lot of the ideas here and that's the first step.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 01:24 PM
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But for real - you could make an awesome thread on how to set personal goals for a relationship setting.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 01:21 PM
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Intimacy is not limited to sharing a bed. Any moment, any room in the house, any THING you do can be an intimate moment with a couple. We have sex all over the fucking place. but if my husband or I am sick we're not going to sleep next to each other breathing gross germy breath on each other when we could sleep much more comfortably and restfully in another room. If he snores and I can't sleep I'll go sleep in the guest room. Sleep is important to a person's health. Health is important to a pers…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 01:05 PM
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Yay wedding planning!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 11:33 PM
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We aren't for or against religious advice. Rather neutral. Since OP and you share your religion there's no reason you can't comment on it. Mods would only step in if people were getting preachy or that kind of thing. 😊😊 I really appreciated your comment Jess, haven't seen your username. Welcome to the community. Hope to see you around more.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 11:30 PM
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Quality sleep is the most important sleep. Who cares if you share a bed if you end up getting shit sleep.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 09:18 PM
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You cant spend your whole marriage sleeping apart. Why can't you? My grandparents did - married over 50years.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 09:09 PM
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MRPers just being MRPers
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 09:05 PM
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BOTS ALL OVER TODAY! Okay -- I'm going to leave this one, but I took the other one down haha
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 07:09 PM
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Pretty much: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94IdL3djJVU
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 06:57 PM
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Yes!! Spot on LGG But the other importance of threads like this is - just because you didn't vet at first doesn't mean there aren't things you can do now. It's just simply harder. Additionally, we try not to say things like "Welp, shoulda, woulda, coulda" because that doesn't really solve anything. It is possible to fix after the fact..... just harder
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 05:55 PM
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When a man like this sees his wife working hard, but still being sweet, loving and caring, he is often inspired to step up. YES!! I see this with R right now. I'm trying to stay cheerful while I hate on being pregnant. But just like how I feed off his energy, he ALSO feeds off my energy. So if I throw on a smile and get my shit done he does too :) It's wonderful. ALSO, he's more sympathetic to my crying when I DO need to cry because he knows I'm trying super hard to remain positive and I'm not c…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 04:53 PM
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Your comment was removed because it's not at all helpful. This is not about what OP's husband needs to do. This is a thread about OP and how she can do things to improve her own situation.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 04:12 PM
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I will let the girls talk to you about the rest Well bless your heart, thank you.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 04:02 PM
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And your feelings are valid. I really like the way you and Stingray are talking about goals - I do hope that helps :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:42 PM
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I do enjoy when the menfolk explain it to us ;) I'm under much pressure to keep us afloat, and when I get home, the entirety of the domestic duties are supposedly on me to. OP is simply saying, "we divided the chores A chores are mine and B chores are his. And B chores don't get done." Which totally sucks and I can sympathize with. It sucks when you agreed upon a division of labor and feel the other half isn't handling their part. StingrayVC has made some really great comments and I agree happy,…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:26 PM
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I remember another RPW who said that putting her ring on every morning was her little daily mantra. I'll have to dig up who that was. After reading the comment I also put something similar to practice. Every morning when I put my ring on I do so in a grateful way. Grateful that I'm blessed with this symbol on my hand. it was /u/blushinglilly on this thread https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4l85x8/daily_mindfulness_rituals/
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:29 PM
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those are wonderful readings :) Thank you for sharing. We only had one... my husband is not religious so nothing from the Bible. Ours was from his mom's favorite movie haha. Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love... true love …
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:27 PM
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I will respect your independence, and be understanding when you need chill time. I love this! Is your husband an introvert? mine is - and sometimes I'm so bad at respecting the chill time.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:26 PM
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short and to the point :) Why did you pick this one over the other?
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:59 PM
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I love mantras :) I have one taped next to my bed.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:55 PM
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In line with /u/StingrayVC The dishes don't get done? You haven't failed. Laundry laying around your house? You haven't failed. Have you thought about hiring someone to come clean say once a week? or every other week - something so you feel the burden is lifted. That way you don't have the nagging voice in your own head saying "this shit needs to get done"
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:52 PM
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Our vows were written by our officiant, she wrote our entire ceremony after interviewing us each individually. The entire ceremony was personalized based on those interviews and I cried reading them the first time with R when she sent them to us. At the reception people asked if our officiant was a family friend because she "knew you so well!" but we had only met her a few months before. She is just really really good at what she does. I, Iris, take you, R to be my husband, my constant friend, m…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:48 PM
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I'd like to draw your attention to your own words. Getting your man to ... In this sub, we do not "get our men" to do anything. We focus on OURSELVES. We work to improve OURSELVES. We look in the mirror and realize that we are in control of ourself and only ourself and no one else in this world. You married a man who has no interest in household chores. You married a man who has little to no interest in his health You married a man who is not driven Do you see a pattern?
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:00 PM
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Sample size 1: My mother in law would have cut me if I had said bad things about her boy to her. She ALWAYS defended her son over any girl in his life.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:38 AM
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don't get married to someone you haven't seen completely sleep deprived and stressed LOL. IT's a wonderful testament to who they truly are.
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 02:34 PM
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Respect, like love, is far more than a feeling. To attribute it to a feeling only is to tremendously undervalue it. Respect and love are actions. Do it. Well said!
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 02:26 PM
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It's easy to identify the obvious ways a woman might cause feelings of disrespect but what are the subtle, insidious ones? This has definitely been on my mind - especially lately because I'm a total crab fest. I'm exhausted, I'm hot, my ankles are swelling, I'm fat (lol @ the IRC chat last night with you and Phantom).... but is that an excuse to be a crab fest?! NO! No, R doesn't deserve, ever, to be on that end of my crankiness. I end up catching myself mid-sentence a lot lately. It's hard but …
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 02:25 PM
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This article is a bit of an old one - I shared it on facebook a few years ago and popped up in my memories today. I have gone back to this concept a few times. If love is unconditional, then the light of love always shines in your marriage, even in its darkest times. But if your love is given in direct proportion to your spouse’s ability to “earn” it, then it will inevitably diminish and fade over time. I've seen a few community members commenting lately with a tit-for-tat attitude. And that's c…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 12:39 PM
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It's not okay for anyone - but you have control over your OWN actions - you don't have control over him.
/r/RedPillWives12/06/17 04:04 PM
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Personally I have shit reading comprehension compared to many of the other users here. While I took a philosophy class in college.... I don't remember much. I'm all for expanding ones book shelf though. So I may have to do some reading if there are good suggestions.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 10:56 PM
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/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 10:54 PM
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Hi /u/MetalDevils your post has been removed as we are not a debate sub. Our sidebar is fully populated and easily accessible for you to read. If you have specific questions please feel free to reach out to the mod team. Your post is low quality and we don't need to justify ourselves. The other users have responded to your basic question though. TBP was created to criticize TRP. Are you actually interested in engaging on this topic or are you trying to get enough responses to have a laugh at?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 12:10 PM
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I continually seek comfort from Occam. I am really big on cuddling, and spending time together. It doesn't bother him because 'sitting in the same room while doing independent activities' counts as spending time together for me. R is the same... even if I'm working on my genealogy and engrossed in census records he prefers that I'm in the same room as him. So I often will hang out on the guest bed in his office while he Is in the room playing video games. We each did our own thing but together.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 02:24 AM
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When we started hanging out - prior to dating exclusively - R use to say "I don't care if you (activity) I just wouldn't date a girl that did." Typically it would be like going to the club, frat parties, type things. He wouldn't care if I went but he also wouldn't upgrade me if I did. It always put the ball back in my court to SHOW him what my priorities were. Looking back he was probably a manipulative ass 😉
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 02:20 AM
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and eye for an eye --- what a shitty way to view marriage.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 07:32 PM
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People don't need to know everything going on in your life. Like phantom said - you provide the image of your life by what you make public. I'm with happywife - I don't say anything to friends I couldn't say to Husband. Last night I reached out to a trusted friend to cry and get my thoughts straight and then I took my concerns to Husband. I am 33wk pregnant and hormonal. Yes, trusted friend, but also the conversation was about me, NOT husband's shortfalls. And it allowed me to get through the em…
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 03:14 PM
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I need way more info here VBL.... it might help to use the questions from the side bar or at least give us a general understanding of the issue. We're all kind of anonymous here. Or if you're uncomfortable with that you can pop into the IRC chat today and talk to the ECs who hang out in there
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 11:20 AM
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yes immaturity - but also women don't call out their friends enough when they are being trashy. AND you look at shows like Kardashians - and they do shit like this to their guys
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 11:35 PM
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sorry!!! - Tumblr link http://desdemonia.tumblr.com/post/152702287166/dear-teen-girls
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 11:10 PM
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I'm not going to tell you what to do Cherries - you're a grown woman. Make a choice and live by your decision.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:54 PM
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But relationships are so much more than liking someone, cherries.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:23 PM
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I adore him and I find him ridiculously attractive now, but I just want to make things work :( I'm sure he's a really nice looking person but like /u/PhantomDream09 said - Your relationship is too young to have this many red flags Early, young relationships shouldn't BE that much work. They should be fun and flirty, and sexy and rather easy. You can't shove a square peg in a round hole without a lot of struggle. If you're mis-matched you're mis-matched. and THERE IS NO HARM IN THAT! You're not a…
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:02 PM
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Hi /u/caygirl - haven't seen you around before. Would love to hear what you took from this video and kick off the discussion.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 08:11 PM
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I do ask my husband what are the top 3 (or whatever #) things he would like me to get done. This is how I prioritize - from there I do a mix of his priorities and my priorities and we both seem pretty happy :) But i'm a work outside the home wife right now.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 04:35 PM
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PS I still eat Taco Bell LOL I'm actually eating a crunchwrap right now (easy to eat while holding Baby). I just only eat a crunchwrap and not a crunchwrap and chalupa, nachos, and a burrito etc :) CICO works wonders! Anyone who gives up Taco Bell is crazy! Crazy I say ;) But yes, my order has become smaller. I don't NEED 14 things off the menu, one or two is plenty enough :) Congrats on the weight loss what a wonderful accomplishment.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 11:06 AM
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oh that's so sad :( I'm sorry that sucks to have unreliable people around.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 11:01 AM
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your username just made me bust out laughing.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 12:10 AM
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I'm grateful for the opportunity to tutor young students in my community. I really do enjoy seeing the lightbulbs turn on. Had a good session tonight with that Ah-ha moment :) Again, just so so greatful for my villiage of freinds - R and I came home today to a box on the porch. His co-worker purchased our crib and had it sent to our house ahead of the shower this weekend. I cried... not going to lie. Just so thankful for the love these people have for our little Fishy. R. :) my rock. Who thinks …
/r/RedPillWives06/06/17 11:58 PM
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Sluts never orbit reallynice guys JAOGL
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 04:08 PM
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The chat is always open
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 02:58 PM
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OOH! And everyone should join us in the IRC chat today :) https://www.irccloud.com/#!/irc6.quakenet.org:6667/%23RPWives
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 02:30 PM
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Oh for sure!!
/r/RedPillWives04/06/17 02:39 AM
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Spouse first, parent second.... that's my goal. We'll see how I do in practice.
/r/RedPillWives04/06/17 02:12 AM
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Can you link the thread, I'd love to read it.
/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 10:20 PM
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Some RP men think of raising a daughter as being the ultimately cuckoldry. Interesting, I've not seen this attitude but I generally avoid the male RP subreddits.
/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 10:08 PM
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Now she's nearly 3, and we're expecting our son in 3 months, and I've learned over time to appreciate the fact that my daughter won't have to fight that inner battle when she has kids. Her father will be there for her! A wonderful father for your children is worth it, and if I want attention from my husband, I just have to call him forth. He didn't go anywhere; he's still in there. I just have to trust when the signs aren't as obvious. I'm glad you were able to come to that understanding. I thin…
/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 05:20 PM
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Favorite recipe to grill out? This is my new one. Super yummy! I cut the OJ in half and then used 1T canned chipotle peppers in adobo sauce. http://thewanderlustkitchen.com/grilled-citrus-marinated-mexican-chicken/
/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 04:04 PM
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I saw that going around and was hoping it was satire.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 04:49 PM
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Women almost always vote for toward nanny states, too. Which is why many feel women should not vote.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 03:50 PM
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How have we veered so far of course? Because we have women who still try to say 1st and 2nd feminism was okay but it's THIS feminism that's toxic. When the truth is it was super toxic right from day one.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 01:24 PM
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I'm grateful for my village! Over the weekend the women at my childhood church threw a beautiful simple baby shower in one of their homes. We were blessed with a safe car seat and practical pack and play along with lots of cloth diapers. I'm so happy to have a loving community. I'm grateful for R cause he put up with my zoo of a family all weekend. 11 adults, 3 under 3 and 2 dogs in one house.... it was a zoo!!! and he was awesome :0) I'm grateful for the amazing OBs I meet with to keep little f…
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 05:12 PM
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Cool :) I'll put it on hold at the library, it's checked out right now.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 01:44 PM
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Welp, I live under a rock because I have not heard of it. Lol. Though the book rings a quiet bell. I will definitely check it out.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 10:27 AM
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Do you always take light hearted Friday shit post shinnaigans so seriously?
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 03:00 PM
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Yes how materialistic of me that I think it's tacky to throw a party for yourself that was literally started as a way to give gifts to an expecting momma. But I'll leave this here: http://www.etiquettehell.com/?p=1295
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 12:33 PM
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Find a proper bra boutique in your area! Every woman needs a good properly fit sexy bra. A higher end department store even. Just a shop that carries more thank one brand. As for sexy texts you can keep it simple. "Couldn't stop thinking about you in the shower this morning, can't wait to see you tonight" then go about your day. Personally I would be cautious with photos just because your relationship is young. Sexy words can be just as good, if not better than a nude pic.
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 12:57 AM
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Rather normal reaction. This space is for women, he's not a woman.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 10:03 PM
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Most every woman here has a long term goal of LTR/marriage. So when something in a relationship becomes rocky it's best to first identify the actual problem, not the surface one, but the deeper one. Then attempt to fix it. 9 times out of 10 the problems the women bring to the sub for advice are much deeper than they present. On the surface, yes they may be incompatible in the bedroom but there is almost always something deeper creating that. To just throw away a possible good relationship to be …
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 07:28 PM
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What part of "break it off and enjoy being single " is rpw?
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 07:14 PM
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I'm glad you made a post. This is a sticky situation and I know you are definitely trying to figure out what the situation is so you can improve your relationship, which is great. As many others probably didn't see my earlier comment I'm post similarly here. There are men who aren't high libido as well as men who don't initiate much - or what they believe to be initiating behaviour we totally miss. People joke "men don't get subtle hints" but lots of women don't get hints because we expect peopl…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 07:14 PM
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The reason it's called a shower is to shower the bride, or new mom, in gifts 😊
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 06:19 PM
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The reason it's called a shower is to shower the bride, or new mom, in gifts 😊
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 06:18 PM
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how did you end up dealing with in in the end? I stopped projecting the idea of what I thought R should be onto him and accepted that this was who R is And is he still that way? Yes, because this is who he is. 😊 It feels a bit soul-crushing to be initiating all the time, I'm hoping it's just temporary, I don't know if I could hack it for too long :/ Why? Why would jumping the guy you're attracted to be soul crushing? 😉 I get it though, you want to be desired. Do you know his love language? Maybe…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 01:11 PM
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I'd suggest you write a post just on this to get some more visibility and provide more detail. Use the questions in the wiki about asking for advice to help. Could be a few things - could be a mismatch of libido, could be his stress, could be something else. Not all relationships are in the throws of passion in the beginning, or ever. Perhaps you're projecting an idea onto him instead of embracing what he wants in the sac. To be honest I did this a few years ago with R. I was becoming upset beca…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 05:28 AM
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Because the reason you have a shower is actually for the big stuff. You should already have the carseat the crib etc That's why people have started having gender reveals. You can party but it's not a gift oriented party.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/17 11:39 AM
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I'll upvote you for honesty but also judge you harshly 😉 There are so many ways you can throw parties and entertain. Don't do your own baby shower at least let it appear that someone else is doing it. Like don't have it at your home or mail the invites yourself. PLUS you'll be 30+ weeks pregnant so sit the eff down and let someone else host 😊😘
/r/RedPillWives27/05/17 11:36 AM
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ooooh yes!!!! Bachelorette parties! They can be done classy they can be done trashy - and trashy is currently winning it seems like.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 04:11 PM
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But my baby needs THINGS!!!!
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 03:53 PM
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If your other friend is so awesome have them make you dinner. Amen, Sister!
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 03:53 PM
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PLUS if you wear proper stockings you probably would not be so cold as to bitch about how A/C is sexist and favors men HA
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 03:53 PM
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That's super cute!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 10:05 PM
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I'm pretty sure my kid will be nameless for a bit - but it's okay. Cause..... it happens :) haha.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 12:54 AM
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That is the same sentence I really disagreed with too! Debated not posting it for that one bit. But I also thought it would make for some good conversation. 😊
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 11:41 AM
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He also accidentally gave me a bloody nose that same night .... good times good times.
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 06:38 PM
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Right? I kick R out of the kitchen on the regular lol. I don't go messing around with your tools don't be messing with mine haha.
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 10:42 AM
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Because SJWs
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 10:40 AM
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Want to hear a joke? Women's rights. My HS boyfriend said this to me on like our first "date" (we hung out in my parent's basement and watched TV. But his delivery was so bad/odd it was hilarious I couldn't stop laughing
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 07:14 PM
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I'm not saying you can't have the birth you want it's that if your kid is breech or babies heart rate is dropping it's okay to do what needs to be done. You aren't less of a mother because you had a c-section. There are women who want naturally so badly that they feel they did something wrong when that didn't pan out. But it's not all in mom's control, baby is going to do what baby does.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 06:21 PM
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I wouldn't say we have a lot of shared hobbies outside of the entertainment we enjoy (tv, movies, concerts) but we do respect the passion the other has for their own hobbies. Like R respects me enough to listen to me ramble about genealogy but has little interest in it. I will sit in the garage while he works on his car but I don't really help him.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 02:38 AM
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My thought too.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 02:11 AM
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What age was he talking about? Unless a child knows how to talk well enough to communicate then crying really is one of the only forms of communication. Was he talking 6months or 6 years? Big difference
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 01:20 AM
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We're almost due date buddies!! I'm July 25th 😊
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 01:17 AM
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My hospital is split into labor room and recovery room. I just told family I will not take visitors until I'm in the recovery room. Plus nurses help manage visitors. Our hospital won't let anyone into the ward unless momma says they can come back. For the safety of baby usually
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 05:13 PM
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When was the last time you had a general physical with your family doc or saw your OB? If you know you want to do this is might be a good idea to just get a check up of your overall health with a professional. Are you a good weight? How's your blood pressure? Things like that :) Since you are doing NFP I'd suggest you start your prenatal vitamins now just in case and for sure be on them 3 months before you start TTC. Since you aren't yet pregnant you can use this time to ramp up any sort of chan…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 03:27 PM
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Google different birth plan templates and sit down with your H and figure out what you want questions you have. Then call your midwife and get on her schedule to go over it all. One of my favorite questions to my OBs is "Why do women choose to or not to do X" and I love that they give me both perspectives! You can get a lot of misinformation from mommy blogs as to why you are/aren't to do something. My yoga teacher reminded me "There is no medal for having an all natural birth. The baby has need…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 03:23 PM
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I had to ask R! .... he didn't remember either. 😂 so I think this is a good sign.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 10:59 PM
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Interesting!! Do you have a source?
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 10:57 PM
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I have found this too! So many women don't actually know anything about feminism as a moment.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 08:31 PM
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Here's a sign that you have serious issues - you can't socialize like a normal human and go for 9+ months without drinking. This was a big point for me too. Many people have said "But you could have a glass of wine, Iris!" yes, I could..... but I don't need to. The reason they want me to is so that THEY feel better about themselves. They feel weird that I can do it without drinking. R rather likes having a full time DD anyway :D
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 07:06 PM
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I posted this on FB stating it's not sexist and this article is dumb AF. I'm surprised how many self-proclaimed feminist friends agreed with me.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 06:40 PM
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Okay, I watched episode one and got super confused. HA! I'm supposed to read the book for book club this month and have not. So.... I look forward to everyone else's thoughts so I can act like I read it on Saturday haha
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 01:46 PM
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Thinking about this topic it's scary/makes me feel sad that to think that there's a possibility he doesn't see a future with me :( If he didn't see a future with you he would not be with you. Period. It's what kind of future he sees you need to find out.
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 12:47 AM
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I really don't understand all the secrecy and refusal to discuss marriage within a relationship. It doesn't ruin anything to be upfront abiut your goals and intentions. You don't have to be engaged by 6 months but I'd be concerned if one or both parties literally has mo clue about what they want the future of the relationship to be. This right here is such a solid point! It doesn't ruin anything to be upfront! Though it DOES ruin things to not be upfront. Imagine spending an entire year of your …
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 11:26 PM
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Very good point...I haven't read the book 😉 haha. Maybe I should!
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 11:24 PM
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All stuff! Anything that has to do with your future. If you don't tell him then he doesn't know! And when I get a minute I'll probably comment more 😊
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 09:13 PM
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After the exams are done then totally sit down with him. You need to make a list of your own goals - where do you want to be in 1, 5, 10 years ideally - of course the whole thing could change, but ideally where would you want to be. And then say "Boyfriend, now that exams are over I've written down my own personally goals and I'd really like to share them with you - is Tuesday night good for you? I'll bring a bottle of whatever" Then on that evening you have set aside share your thoughts. And th…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 07:18 PM
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Do you live together? or at least see each other pretty regularly?
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 06:25 PM
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Do you think a couple should have had a marriage/future discussion by the 6 month mark I think it should be understood pretty early on if you're marriage minded, and one way to make that known is to vet before putting out sexually. (your line may vary) and is it a red flag if they havent No? Only because I don't think young adults are good at having talks in 2017 - so it could simply be that they don't know HOW to have that talk. I've been with my SO for 4 months and we haven't had that discussi…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 05:55 PM
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Agreed, and most individuals will know earlier than 6 months if there are redflags or not, if they are looking. If you're dating with a purpose you should know pretty quickly if this is something you should continue to move forward with. As to actually getting married after 6 months - that's totally a different question, /u/ThatStepfordGal. For example R and I were in college so getting married was not the most practical - i was still living off my parents and had I married him my parents wouldn…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 03:20 PM
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Did you try anything to boost production? My sister had an underweight baby, and due to a heart defect they wanted baby to gain a lot of weight quickly in case they needed to have surgery on baby's heart. She mad batches of these lactation cookies and would binge them. Her production shot up. She would have to pump between feedings. But it was also great cause she had a huge stash of milk in the freezer for babysitter, and dad so others could feed baby
/r/RedPillWives14/05/17 07:16 PM
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Yay! I'm so happy you posted this. 😊😊 what a great write up.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 11:11 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 08:40 PM
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WEEEEE
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 04:11 PM
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you're not his PR manager I think women become PR managers when they feel like their SO/H embarrasses them. Like - he's making ME look bad so I need to make HIM look better so he doesn't reflect poorly on ME. If that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 12:17 PM
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Ooh I have friends like that too! They love to sit around and vent and drink wine. I just drink wine (well not now haha)
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 09:40 PM
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We're going to have a regular monthly pregnancy/mom/parenting thread on here soon. 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 07:24 PM
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"Perks of maternity leave".... in a country that has some of the worst maternity leave of all developed nations in the world. Did that part just go over her head?
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 05:53 PM
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I think those of us who have an easy time of it don't often speak up for whatever reason, maybe because we don't want to be insensitive to those who struggle. Correct. If you say it's easy people think you're a bitch.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 05:46 PM
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YUSSSSSS
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 05:08 PM
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I'm 29 weeks right now. It's a blast. I love being pregnant. Just stop reading the internet now :) haha. The people who talk about pregnancy only talk to complain so all the good stuff goes un-talked about!!! Though if you want to read (Shameless blog plug) this is the piece I wrote about baby prepping -- https://irisandoleander.wordpress.com/2017/04/02/pre-pregnancy-body-prep/
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 04:21 PM
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I'm at 29wk and no marks yet ... you think they'll still come?
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 04:03 PM
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TBH I truly think a good number of women (who have never had a baby) are blissfully ignorant of human anatomy and biology and the reproductive system. It's not taught in most schools. Sex ed isn't reproductive ed - it's gonorrhea 101. So I DO think there is just a general sense of ignorance to why 6-8 weeks is NEEDED medically for recovery.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 01:55 PM
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I saw /u/Zombies_InTheSnow 's submission yesterday and remembered this woman's hilarious response - so I figured I'd share with all of you, fine ladies. Personal favorites 6&7: All of your non-sleeping time must be devoted to some sort of selfless service. Volunteering for a charity doing something like building houses or bathing badgers. There are no specific instructions as to how to carry out your duties in this service, and all the advice you can find online is conflicting. One thing you wil…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 01:53 PM
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sab·bat·i·cal səˈbadək(ə)l/ noun a period of paid leave granted to a university teacher or other worker for study or travel, traditionally one year for every seven years worked. "she's away on sabbatical"
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 01:45 PM
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Thanks Jayms :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 10:01 PM
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Hhahaha that makes sense! Has he ever read RPWi? Or was he so repulsed by TRP that he never got around to looking? I don't think he's ever read RPWi that I know of But who knows!
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 09:59 PM
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Can your man be honest with you about things without hurting your feelings or causing problems? Totally, he's very analytical so I know a lot of his opinions on things are void of emotion. It's just how he communicates - but there are times when he is honest and it hurts my feelings, sure. I just gotta accept that those are my feelings. He never does it intentionally. He's not out to hurt me. Are there topics that he either ignores or skims over in an attempt to avoid causing problems? YES! We d…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 03:35 PM
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A few phrases I like to use when my husband is stressed: What can I take off your plate today? What's your priority list? Exams are something that is a one-time thing that disrupts the flow of the normal routine. They automatically become the priority and the time you have to dedicate to other things becomes less. So, it's best to know what his priorities are so you can help. Also, you can focus on the bear minimums - keep his clothes clean and his tummy full :)
/r/RedPillWives06/05/17 05:22 PM
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Great resource! Thanks Happy wife 😊
/r/RedPillWives03/05/17 04:16 PM
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I just started buying garlic in the jar LOL. I'm super lazy.
/r/RedPillWives02/05/17 03:46 PM
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Using other sites may lead to easier doxing. Just be careful, please!
/r/RedPillWives29/04/17 04:33 PM
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RPWi doesn't have a stance on anti-depressants because all women are different in their needs. Self-care is importance. We'll support you :)
/r/RedPillWives28/04/17 05:20 PM
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the answer was "change you" Ding Ding Ding
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 04:53 PM
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If anyone receives odd messages or notices a user 'following' them around on reddit - please let the mod team know. We want everyone to be as safe as possible. Yes, no one needs a puppy! Even if he is a mod in another sub....
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 02:12 PM
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The menu should flow but be simple. Like in an outfit you have a statement piece and the rest is all a little understated. You don't need 5 huge dishes. A few small ones that are simple and compliment one major one. Or! If you are not doing a sit down dinner and are more apps/desserts/finger food then look for simple but elegant presentations. You don't have to go overboard if you have a few glitzy things, the rest can be rather plain. Take into account possible diet restrictions. (Don't put mea…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 10:11 PM
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I want to FIX things. And I am asking for suggestions. Stop nagging.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 07:03 PM
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TBH it sounds like you two are a bad fit. If you can't learn to stop projecting your wants and priorities on him you're not going to be able to fix this. This is not something Boyfriend has to fix. This is something /u/OneAndForAll has to fix.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 07:01 PM
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You want your unreasonable goals to be his goals. But But! I thought people in relationships always had the same goals always always! /s
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 05:34 PM
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Have you spoken to your DR about your concerns/inability to lose weight? Also, the ladies of /r/xxfitness might be of help
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 01:48 PM
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If he's so terrible move out. You aren't married. Truth!
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 01:30 PM
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Yes, this is a rant. I agree with /u/Anoulie you need to have a discussion. The most important thing is you must have a distraction free discussion that you can explain what's up and ask for his input. Boyfriend, I have been feeling very stressed and I was hoping we could sit down tonight and discuss the division of labor in the house. This is you saying, in advance, you want to talk - and what you want to talk about. You've set a time frame and this gives him time to think about the conversatio…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 01:25 PM
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Its not much Correction, it's much! Congrats girly :) I hope you are able to stick to your goals.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 04:38 PM
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It seems odd to me how much she agonized over how much to talk to the housekeeper. Me too - but her point, in the first piece, is that as a society we do seem to look down at these jobs. She felt embarrassed that she was being picked up after when she was totally capable of doing it herself.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 01:47 PM
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I just met up with my local mom group on Sunday for brunch. About 9 of us... super fun.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 11:41 AM
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Are they consequences to him though? Like does he think there is a problem. Or is this a problem you have? Look I'm all for family time, meal time, dedicated conversation time.... but maybe he really doesn't care to make meal time that time. Is there another time of the day you could reserve for this? Also.... What is your date night schedule like? Do you think you are lacking in intimate nights together?
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 01:03 AM
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Mom group, volunteer, have hobbies.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 10:07 PM
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What do you think the benefits of eating together will be? Maybe we can make a plan that focuses on your "WHY". :)
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 07:37 PM
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What kind of medical treatment are you seeking - any?
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 12:48 PM
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Generally curious -- how does one forget about it and learn from it?
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 01:20 AM
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The best thing to do is remember this lesson, and make better choices moving forward. Don't beat yourself up about this endlessly, but don't brush it off either. These two sentences are essentially: how to grow up. Living life looking back at mistakes blows, but you shouldn't forget them either. Learn and move on. Keep yourself in check by using the things you learned but don't let them control you to the point of not moving on from them.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 11:30 AM
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I love gossip! But since it bores the crap out of R I text my bestie and that's my outlet. 😊 I totally agree if it's not hurting your relationship it's not really a problem.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 11:22 AM
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You sound like me in college. Spooky. Do you know your Meyer Briggs type?
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 12:37 AM
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I've read your post a few times but I'm SUPER hung up on this -- The problem is with me and I'm not sure how to fix it. I am a very jealous person and he is a very good looking guy. He has cheated on all his past relationships before me and slept with a lot of more attractive women than myself. He is a very honest person and has repeatedly told me he is not cheating on me and he doesn't want to because he loves me and he has what he wants. Personally, I could never trust a man with that track re…
/r/RedPillWives22/04/17 11:26 PM
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Thank you. I just feel like I'm all over the place. Like other than bitching about feminism what is the call to action... how do we fix or at least improve this situation?
/r/RedPillWives22/04/17 12:54 AM
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Yes I stopped saying that and started saying "can we talk about X tonight?" He comes to the conversation totally open and ready to go as opposed to "we need to talk" um... about what?
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 10:31 PM
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Sometimes I call my mom even when I know what to do (ish) but I kinda just wanna talk to my mom :) I think she knows that though haha. Like I try to be sneaky and call under the guise of a home issue and she totally sees through me. LOL
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 05:07 PM
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I totally agree. Additionally there are a multitude of ways to run a household. The way I see it as small businesses often have an office manager who might do some clerical work, accounting/payroll, even handle light janitorial work. the OMs job will be kinda different from office to office depending on the type, size, and culture of the work environment - this is the same for homemakers. I handle ALL the day to day finances. But other homemakers do not touch finances as their husband does those…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 03:04 PM
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I had some rambling thoughts this morning on my drive. Basically --- Feminists are the reason young adults suck at "adulting". I haven't fleshed out my entire thought - but here are some rambly thoughts so I can put them into text somewhere. (Since this is my safe space teehee) So the original comment in my home making group was this "Do you think some women are naturally good at homemaking or do you think it goes back to being taught early on? I'm a naturally organized and precise person, you w…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 02:37 PM
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PARTY!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 02:26 PM
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This whole pregnancy I keep reminding myself "I'm a fertility goddess" when I'm in a poopy mood haha edit a word
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 06:18 PM
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Thanks! Everything has been so so smooth. It's quite the dream pregnancy. It was a bummer I had to stop working out and um... other pelvic activity.... um.... BUT it's okay :) because it's really been the only blip the last 26 weeks :) And I totally agree about your comment with and open heart allowing for better communication. Very true! :)
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 04:43 PM
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Thanks :) I truly think these women are blind to the what they are doing to themselves. And I'm sure I'm blind many times as well - but at least I'm trying really hard not to be?
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 04:24 PM
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Thank you :D
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 04:17 PM
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Yay! I'm so excited for you. what wonderful news!
/r/RedPillWives15/04/17 12:25 AM
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I think that's a great idea :) Perhaps we can work it into the rotation of topics we do on Saturdays.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/17 08:13 PM
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Please present findings where a woman is paid less than a man for the exact same job when they work the same hours and have the same qualifications.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/17 09:23 PM
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I do. The current newborn screening for 58 conditions is $102. A private company would bring the price down with economy of scale. So in Michigan, if I wanted the 10wk screening it would have been around $450 because my insurance would not have covered any part. I'm young, healthy weight, with no family history. So they can't bill it as diagnostic, it's my choice to have it done. Cool that Cali pays - but most states I don't think do. We opted out simply because screw paying that much. A woman i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 06:36 PM
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Don't breed with shitty people? Have the balls to say "I'd like a paternity test"? I don't know why we have to make this a nanny state issue where every child everywhere is tested because of a small % of people being raised by non-bio dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 06:21 PM
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But with our fucked, our USA healthcare system is you really think the $ will come down? Hospitals will charge your insurance $100 for an aspirin. The parents wouldn't have to get the results if they don't want to. So then what's the point of testing? Like I said - you can offer it as an option but there is no point in making it mandatory at birth. Though I would argue it should be mandatory before a court can order a man to pay any sort of child support. That should be common practice. If mom w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 06:19 PM
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Please present studies - goodness this is Reddit after all. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 12:39 AM
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I'm not opposed to it being offered - but making it mandatory would be silly and expensive. So I was just curious what way your original comment was leaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 12:32 AM
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unnecessary testing is what causes medical prices to go up. Either you know who the father is. OR - you don't and it doesn't matter, or you don't and it does matter. In only 1 or those 3 situations is testing necessary You could offer as an option at the hospital prior to a birth certificate being signed, but it's rather silly to make everyone do it when - as you stated - the number that would come back "not the father' would be a very small percentage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 12:28 AM
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Are you arguing it should be mandatory at birth or offered?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 12:26 AM
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I'm so sorry Liseux.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/17 12:12 AM
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Thanks! I think it's important for wives to remember that you can go through the exact same event with your husband and end up with super different feelings/thoughts/emotions on that event.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 04:06 PM
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I'm guessing no ;)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 04:03 PM
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Aw! Thanks for sharing Tempy :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 03:40 PM
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But what's the quality like?
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 10:36 AM
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I was trying to get an ingredient list but couldn't find it. Can't have alcohol without a sugar, right? Usually I end up putting a few shots of flavored vodka in a coordinating flavored sparkling water. I want to try this stuff though.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 10:04 PM
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Right? Perfect for summer bonfire nights :)
/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 07:19 PM
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Negative feedback from him (towards my career) just puts me in the worst state of mind What does he say? Is he criticizing how you DO your job, or is he criticizing how your job makes you act? Maybe something else? He isn't in the field, but for some reason I'm correlating my career success = his approval of me. I just crave for his enthusiasm in my work. I guess that's quite selfish. I don't think it's selfish. My love language is words of affirmation. I basically get off on my guy telling me "…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 06:16 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/5hfw3x/how_do_you_define_cheating/dazvx0f/ I always thought that the couple should decide what is breaking the rules of commitment within the boundaries of the commitment they made to each other. So I don't think there's any hard and fast definition of what cheating is. That said, I personally think cheating is however a man improperly allocates his resources of value to YOU to another person. So some women think that cheating is when a man sleeps w…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 06:00 PM
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/u/Sunhappy_DC had a really good comment quite some time ago about how women feel most threatened when their resources are threatened - I'll try to find it.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 05:35 PM
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If you're being a hard place then you need to work on that. I do get why you're uncomfortable. This woman makes you feel insecure and you don't want your SO spending his resources on her. But if you trust him to make the right decision then encourage him to do what he feels is best. He's a bleeding heart - he will always be a bleeding heart. Plain and simple. Do you want to date/marry/spend your life with him when these are the types of arguments you will have for the rest of your life? HE may n…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 05:07 PM
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I trust my boyfriend to do the right thing. Do you? Really? He asked again today about bringing her out to live with us... apparently she is "out of options". If you trust him why does he have to ask?
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 04:48 PM
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BJ while he games :) Can you fit under his desk?
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 09:32 PM
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I have a plastic dishtub I bring out and fill up with warm water and I give my H a foot rub and scrub :) then I clip his nails and file them haha. He loves when I dig my thumbs into the bottom of his feet.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 09:31 PM
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I think it's a great idea because it will help her both learn, and push her limits. and like RedPurpleWhite said it also teaches mindfulness. Martial arts is certainly mental and spiritual.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 07:44 PM
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What are your husband's hobbies/interests?
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 07:42 PM
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We have a really good post about vetting - maybe it needs to come out again. But I think we could also have a pretty good conversation on the things you didn't think to vet! For example -- I think it's really important to know how your SO behaves when they are like 3 days sleep deprived. R knew how I'd be because of my degree in college, he had seen me after 3 days straight in the architecture studio. So now, pregnant, tired - it's like he knew what he was in for. But how many people don't? I ke…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/17 07:18 PM
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Basically, it all boils down to this. Your failure to vet, set boundaries, and come to a clear understanding with the man you chose to be with snowballed into even bigger problems months and years later. A failure to vet & a failure to set boundaries OP is actually comfortable with - and now it's all mucked up. This is such a big problem with women today - lack of vetting, lack of boundaries. Not just OP - but it highlights that bigger issue with the dating scene.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/17 07:08 PM
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I love him so much and we're incredibly compatible and, but for one issue, massively happy. You are not compatible. I don't say that to be a bitch - but honesty and trust are THE MOST important thing in a relationship. You do not have any. Additionally, sex is a pretty large part of a committed relationship - and your issues revolve around his sexual needs. For the first 3-4 months we were together, he reserved the right to sleep with other women. He never did, but that issue was still there, an…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/17 03:05 PM
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Brand? Details? Thoughts? Review? LOL
/r/RedPillWives05/04/17 01:53 PM
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I'm grateful for the Equal Pay Act of 1963 ;) I'm grateful for a healthy pregnancy. I'm grateful for a guy who is working his butt off so I can stay home with this baby come July :) I don't own a food processor - I'm starting to regret this and I'm looking into getting one.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/17 12:15 AM
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Exactly! But math and statistics are hard for most feminists. They took gender studies. :)
/r/RedPillWives03/04/17 05:29 PM
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What tea said - But seriously. STDs can exist with no symptoms in both men and women. So if you've never been tested go get tested. It's awkward, but it's something you just gotta get done. Don't beat around the bush just be up front. If he gets defensive/argumentative I'd see it as a red flag TBH. Now I have no experience with IUDs but I have a few friends who have them and love them. A little painful/cramping right off the bat but it faded quickly and they enjoy the benefits of it.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/17 01:32 AM
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Right, so you and your SO have a certain boundary and perhaps make exceptions for situations as you mentioned above. That's cool if that's what you do.
/r/RedPillWives01/04/17 12:53 PM
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I do think its good to think about how you behave in public because it does reflect on your husband/relationship so I totally get what you're saying.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 09:14 PM
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I do get what you're saying but at the same time what if you were out with your brother? They may still think that about your husband. So in that regard, I don't worry about what other people think.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 09:06 PM
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The whole season is quite dull. He's a terrible fighter.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 07:06 PM
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Feminists and whoever keep wanting to frame this as a way that Pence does business. But he doesn't avoid meetings with women - he avoids social settings that resemble a date, with women. Now I'll say sure -- I'm sure business gets done on the golf course, or during the social times -- but he just doesn't drink in mixed company. He's still THERE, you can still TALK to him. gosh.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 07:04 PM
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Oh for sure! Already on the list. XD
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 04:21 PM
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I think the key difference is that RPWi focus on changing ourselves while fully recognizing that it may or may not influence others to change. Basically - no matter what we do as wives our husbands are not going to change unless THEY want to. We may create a more harmonious home because we chill the fuck out, but that doesn't actually change our men. If she is "winning," then I am losing. If I am winning, then she is losing. And because of this way of thinking, a man can rejoice online to his co…
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 04:03 PM
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They are men who didn't vet their wives prior to marriage - or let themselves become fat slobs who didn't do shit and now they are trying to fix it from the back end.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 04:01 PM
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In case you missed it I announced Fishy's gender on Twitter
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 03:55 PM
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Feminists have long argued that while women have made large gains in the workplace, the home front was still in play. As Gloria Steinem put it, way back in 1995: "We've proven that women can do what men did, professionally. But we haven't convinced ourselves, or them, that men can do what women have done." When she said that, views on gender roles in the home had been bending towards equality for two decades. Women actually do want to be in control. But they don't want to have to answer to anyon…
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 03:50 PM
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Look at any great man and you'll see a support system. Really successful men don't do their own laundry - like seriously, they just have it sent out, or have a maid, or cleaning person - or whatever. So of course as wives, if we can take certain things off our man's plate he can better focus on OTHER things.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 03:14 PM
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Is that a feminist quote? I actually love that quote, lol. because of what you said: A great woman gives great support, structure and all he could need to become a great man
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 02:08 PM
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wine... Exactly.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 02:07 PM
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but he WILL meet one-on-one with women, he just won't fucking DINE with you. You want a meeting, he has an office.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 02:05 PM
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Okay I'm watching the movie :) Will report back!
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 12:26 AM
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if he can't handle you when you're bat shit crazy he's obviously super duper insecure about his manhood Tumblrina
/r/RedPillWives30/03/17 07:48 PM
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I agree this is a big part generational, and a big part religious. But additionally - this points to why so many people (cough r/relationships) freak when someone says "my boyfriend has boundaries what do I do?" Because boundaries are so 60 years ago.
/r/RedPillWives30/03/17 07:46 PM
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Let's talk about boundaries in a relationship -- This article has caused a huge buzz this week in the twittersphere. What kind of boundaries do you have in your relationship? For the Vice President: In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a woman other than his wife and that he won’t attend events featuring alcohol without her by his side, either. My husband and I have similar ideas in that my husband doesn't dine with women alone and I don't dine with men alone - while h…
/r/RedPillWives30/03/17 07:27 PM
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BABY!!!!! That's so exciting!
/r/RedPillWives30/03/17 07:20 PM
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Well.... SJW can fuck off ;)
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 06:22 PM
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Hey m_vassone a few questions -- What made you feel attracted to your SO in the first place? How long have you been living together/how long were you exclusive prior to living together? In the timeline of dating - moving in - to where you are now where does him leaving the job fall?
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 04:50 PM
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Masculinity is a tool, as is femininity. Tools are not bad, tools are used to do both good and bad things. You can use your femininity to whore yourself out, get STD ridden, and end up a single mom with 3 baby daddies for your 4 kids, or you can use your femininity to date and vet potential husbands, start a family, live a charmed life. Masculinity is a tool that can be used to build empires or destroy them. It's all in how it's used.
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 04:29 PM
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That's totally true though. A lot of mom's put on this "super mom facade" and their kids have no idea how much work is going on behind the scenes.
/r/RedPillWives27/03/17 02:18 PM
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I think rent-a-grandparent should be a thing at the library. A community resource if you want to learn a hobby. people could sign up to be resources and then you could see a list and say ooh I could call Mrs Betty Smith who will teach me to bake breads from scratch!
/r/RedPillWives27/03/17 01:35 PM
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It basically boils down to this: If I want to learn to cook, I am not going to go to my friends who all know the same level of cooking that I do. Instead I am going to talk to the woman who brings a homemade dish to every Bible study session. Instead of pulling away from the previous generation we should embrace them. We should be taking advantage of the wealth of knowledge that these women have to offer. The previous generation is a WEALTH of knowledge - soak it up while you can :)
/r/RedPillWives27/03/17 12:35 PM
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Love that idea! Sometime around the time we started living together I stopped trying to "book" things and started making little memory boxes. So like each major vacation has a use little photo box to store the stuff. I am way not organized to scrap book. More power to ya! If you have tips on staying onto of scrapbooking please share as I want to have a good one for baby. 😊😊 And yes, we both have Rs 💗
/r/RedPillWives25/03/17 05:31 PM
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If you can't be a little gay for each other who can ya be a little gay for?
/r/RedPillWives25/03/17 12:31 PM
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I give my guy foot rubs all the time for very selfish reasons haha. His feet get really dry so I always lotion them up and cut his nails so he doesn't scratch me in bed haha. But no, it's totally "for him".
/r/RedPillWives25/03/17 12:30 PM
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Everything revolves around food!! I love baking, my man doesn't like sweets. So .... stumped. I have a project I am quietly working on behind his back all sneaky. Which is hard, we live together. But I'm hoping to have it done by Christmas. It's a lap sized flannel quilt. He says I steal all the good blankets.
/r/RedPillWives25/03/17 10:31 AM
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While I have always liked the phrase when you marry the man you marry his family because I like family --- this is a topic that comes up on a lot of "relationship forums". If he doesn't want to have dinner with your family why make him? Truly, just go alone. Is that not an option? The one and only thing you can control in this situation is how YOU communicate. I guess my only suggestion is you could phrase it. "I know X task sucks, but you agreed it needed to get done. Do you want to do it on A …
/r/RedPillWives24/03/17 06:37 PM
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Be you. Because the mask falls off in time no matter what Don't bring up topics that are no-nos with new people. (Politics, money,etc). He knows his family better than we do and he's choosing to introduce you. So just follow his lead.
/r/RedPillWives24/03/17 12:41 AM
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How so? There were quite a few women's colleges that came along before women had the right to vote. /u/TempestTcup and I were actually talking about this earlier today and she might have some really interesting points.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 07:35 PM
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But even before 1st wave feminism women had the right to an education. What makes you think they did not?
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 07:19 PM
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We're all here to learn. We were all fed this idea that feminism is pro-women. But it's just not - even at the turn of the century it wasn't. It's hard to see that when we didn't experiance it. It's simply how it was taught to us.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 06:56 PM
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At the beginning of our relationship I was very good at surrendering and STFU Slacked on STFU as I'm letting my insecurities consume me. I should have just STFU What is the STFU method to you? Because as I'm interpreting your post you're simply bottling things up. That's not healthy. When women in here talk about STFU what they mean is: Letting things go. Not bringing up the past. Not bringing up arguments that have already had a resolution. (in hopes of changing it) You aren't letting anything …
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 05:11 PM
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You missed an important questions - FYI Do you have an active bedroom life?
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 04:55 PM
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Would it be such a bad thing if a SAHM/W were explicitly paid a salary by the husband to perform that work? I'm paid with a roof over my head, food in my belly, and in exchange, I care for home/house/children. It's actually a bartering of sorts. Or alternatively use his salary to pay a more qualified person to perform those duties more efficiently and at a better price? Then what the fuck would I do? a better price??? I do it for FREEEEEE
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 04:14 PM
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"Everyone's life is better then mine" - women today
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 02:47 PM
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Feminism is only about "choice" when they are fighting that any repercussions due to that choice shouldn't matter. Life is full of choices - lots and lots - and some are good and some are bad - and some aren't quantifiable as good/bad just simply different paths one could take with goods and bads on both paths.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 01:34 PM
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You should read /u/stingrayVC 's comment on this thread other waves of feminism were just as eager to throw away the family model.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 10:40 AM
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Phantom darling, I love when you swear. I don't know why I love it but I do. Like ... Momma bear has come out with claws. :-*
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 12:38 AM
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haha, right? Sometimes I agree.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 09:44 PM
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I make an okay amount, but once you take out childcare it's not worth it. It's not worth the drive, our disposable income is gone. But if I'm at home my car expenses go down, I can be more frugal in other ways - it's so much more economic for me to stay home and not pay for daycare.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 09:04 PM
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Agreed -- there have been lots of people who have pushed this idea of taking kids from the family structure and giving them over to the nanny state. This idea that children from intact families are the "privileged" ones instead of saying children from un-intact families are actually disprivileged.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 09:03 PM
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Do you respect first or second wave feminism? It's the same thing - first wave - the desire to vote. MOST women had no desire to vote, it was pushed by a very small group of people.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 09:01 PM
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Well, and who's to say these people have the skills that align with open jobs, or what the market needs? Who will employ these women, who will train them should their skills not match the job market? Additionally, what if you CANT find employment because there is always a % of unemployed.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 08:59 PM
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I find it fascinating that a woman taking care of her own child is more or less worthless, yet if you're paid - a daycare provider - you are now worth something. Because paycheck.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 12:09 AM
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Jump him, all the time. Men like to feel wanted :0)
/r/RedPillWives21/03/17 09:59 PM
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Thanks for sharing this article. I'm left with a slightly nauseous feeling after reading, and I can easily see similar ideas being pushed in the US (unfortunately). You're welcome. I have a lot of the same thoughts you did, just haven't had time to put them into a comment yet. Hopefully tonight. My biggest beef boils down to -- A person's worth is completely dependent on how much they are being paid by a boss man. Which is sad. Money is NOT everything. And like you mentioned she skips over how v…
/r/RedPillWives21/03/17 09:50 PM
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Sounds like your H is the kind of guy who needs it more often - What's stopping you?
/r/RedPillWives21/03/17 09:24 PM
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Your gender is quite irrelevant in this sub.
/r/RedPillWives21/03/17 06:51 PM
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You're not to blame. As you said this has been going on for years - it was probably going on before you met, or at least before you were married. Some guys have porn and your guy has this. Cut the victim mindset right now. You are allowed to be uncomfortable about this. You're entitled to your own feelings. You're also allowed to tell him this makes you uncomfortable. The thing is he's entitled to HIS feelings, and if he does not feel this is cheating he may not be willing to stop. Most any guy …
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 11:18 PM
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And what about non-binary people? Do they get their own walk symbol?
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 09:13 PM
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I can only assume it's because she's from Australia and we should be looking at her upside down. ...
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 06:24 PM
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That's right Ausi ladies, you TOO can now cross the street with the implementation of the female traffic light. Wait - isn't it sexist to say we all wear skirts? Are we gender assuming this figure?
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 06:17 PM
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I heard they were changing - was it really because of this?! haha
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 02:45 PM
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"I'm failing because of someone else" is always a go to for feminists. Even if a woman doesn't call herself one. Amy isn't funny to everyone. Sure, more people probably made it a point to one-star her than other comedians they dislike but so what? She has a fan base who will keep her working and rich.
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 10:29 AM
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5 to 7 :0)
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 05:08 PM
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Broth to make rice is sooooo yummy! :) I will throw broth in a pot and simmer some chicken parts (typically chicken breast/thighs. Then drain and put them into my stand mixer. Shred it up real fast for the week.
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 03:23 PM
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Thanks for sharing. The movie looks really interesting. I'll have to add it to my Netflix watch list :)
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 03:18 PM
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My towel load is all towels from all over the house. Usually 4-6 bath towels, 2-3 hand towels, some wash clothes, some skoy, and any others. I let them pile up on the laundry room floor until I have enough for the load. Usually every 3 weeks.
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 01:02 PM
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If you're using paper towels every day I suggest getting some reusable/washable microfiber towels. You'll save money in the long run. Also, Skoy Cloths (available on Amazon) are a life safer as they are super absorbent and machine washable. my tip - never leave a room empty-handed. Always be picking up after yourself. It just makes life easier. oh! And if you're wiping down the toilet daily start with the cleanest place and work your way to the dirtiest lol use some toilet paper and flush it :)
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 07:47 PM
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Thanks :D
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 01:39 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 01:28 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 01:28 AM
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Thank you 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 08:54 PM
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Thank you!!!!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 07:42 PM
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.... jots down tips and tricks into her notebook ...
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 07:34 PM
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Thank you Phantom!!!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 06:16 PM
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But back to original point, you are basicsllly saying u only want guys from good families and good father figures/ male role models, naturally athletic, grew up in safe and loving and heathy environments. Nothing wrong with having standards :0)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/17 05:32 PM
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Thank you :D
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 03:07 PM
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Thanks Happy :D
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 01:39 PM
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Oh hello :0)
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 01:30 PM
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Yeah. Sometimes I'll leave an argument and brush my teeth, or change my outfit. It sounds silly but it's like a mental reboot for me. R thought it was super odd but he gets why I do it now :)
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 01:07 AM
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We totally go to bed angry haha. Well kinda. We will often table things and get sleep as to have better, more rational discussions, after sleep. But it's like a conscious decision to say... we're tired, neither of us are in a good frame of mind. Let's take a moment to regroup.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 11:46 PM
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Productivity - when my husband is getting ready for work in the morning, (when I remember) I try to ask him what I can get done for him during the dy. If there extra errands to run, or anything I need to call, or anything in particular he'd like to get done. I try to do what I can to make things easier on him/run more smoothly when he gets home. This could be done the night before - depending on how awake your husband is in the morning. There is even a spot in my planner for daily tasks to do fo…
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 07:26 PM
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Did you mean to post the same link as this post had? Or did you mean to post a new link?
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 06:59 PM
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I thought of another book! :0) This one is not in any way related to the RP community - but it's something my husband really likes. The Leader In You by Dale Carnegie
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 02:30 PM
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Two questions I've asked my Husband -- and I've legit emailed this to my him to give him time to think about them before responding. What would he like you to have accomplished each day? What are his desires for you, as a homemaker?
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 02:27 PM
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It's hard to figure out what my husband expects of me. Have you asked him? I am not sure if he wants me to get a job or not. Have you asked him? I budget the finances so that we can save up for a house ( which he expected to have awhile ago) have some free money to travel, and then all the necessities. Great! so he delegated something to you, and now you're handling it. We can either live more towards our comfort and wait a couple years or we could either cut deep into our finances for a year, o…
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 02:17 PM
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It's the perfect way to deliberately talk about priorities, financial philosophies etc and dreams. Agreed! "Deliberate talk" as you call it is a serious part of vetting. And something we don't do well. When I was taking the class there was a larger assignment to do with your husband. And we were instructed to let him know first that we needed to do this with him, and then find the time to do it without distractions (kids, TV etc). It's a fantastic exercise.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 10:18 PM
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This would be great to cross post over to /r/FeminineNotFeminist/. That sub is all beauty all the time, whereas RPW is more relationship :0)
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 04:18 PM
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I keep a Pinterest board called "Bumpersticker wifey" for things like this :) Here are some of my favorites: A lack of boundaries invites a lack of disrespect If the people around you, especially other men, aren't aware of your boundaries it's easy for them to disrespect your marriage. It's important your boundaries are clear. Weather that's not getting coffee alone with another man, or limiting how you speak to other men. Each relationship is different but your boundaries should be known to tho…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 04:17 PM
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No, everything is still comfortable. The issue right now is that his job is SUPER demanding so when he gets home he needs time to mentally unwind - and then I'm tired. LOL. We'll get there. Just still trying to figure it all out.
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 07:20 PM
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Yeah this whole being pregnant thing has made me narcoleptic in the evenings. Have got to get back into a better groove. He's been understanding but I know I can do better.
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 02:07 AM
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Please define what you consider a "good job".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 01:09 AM
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Correct. Trade schools are down, skill trade jobs are open. We treat these people like they are low class and them wonder why no-one wants the job. I have a constant need for skilled tradesmen and while we have able bodies looking for jobs they lack the basic training that a trade school can offer. Hell put trades back in highschool. College is not for everyone. In the words of Miranda Lambert "it takes all kinds of kinds"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 01:06 AM
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Your intentions seem really good, and he did ask for your support with this endeavor - but I encourage you to watch yourself. It's an easy trap to fall into where you put a lot of faith in what he could be, instead of what he is today. Women love the idea of their man's potential. And even after all these books he may not change so as long as you accept that you can best encourage him with out bias or prejudice.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 03:52 PM
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Great suggestions Stingray! These are great masculinity resources.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 03:47 PM
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No more Mr nice guy. I'll jump on reddit later today and expand my response but that's a good book. It's not RP but it's rather liked in the RP community. Understand that your husband may not appreciate the ideas of TRP even out side of reddit's toxic main sub. Tread lightly. And truly think about your motives here.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 12:35 PM
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$449 usd ppl think it's pricy but it's totally worth it.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 12:08 AM
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From Finland. You can order it online 😊 they ship world wide if you're willing to pay for it.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 11:52 PM
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My husband's grandpa was first generation American. So I have a small obsession with the country.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 11:23 PM
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Ya'll!!! My Finnish baby box arrived!!! WEEEE! I posted some pics on twitter Link explaining the Baby Box
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 08:29 PM
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more than half the SAHMs I know have some sort of side gig to bring in money. Perhaps the PPD community just defines SAHM as a lazy ass who does nothing but watches daytime TV while the rest of the world defines them as women who put family before working.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/17 12:40 PM
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Almost every homemaker group I belong to is primarily families in lower income brackets. and while I don't have any hard numbers to back it up I doubt you have hard numbers to back up the silly idea that "only wealthier families can afford SAHM"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 06:09 PM
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And a quality of life for the individual families in your community mean nothing to the overall quality of your community.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 06:03 PM
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I don't have to do anything. He's quite capable of looking good on his own :)
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 05:58 PM
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In a perfect world I wouldn't want any nuclear codes ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:55 PM
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I am sure that SAHM are valuable to their individual family but they are worthless to society Tell us how you really feel about us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:32 PM
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My mom ran a daycare out of her home - so what the heck does that make her LOL. She was a SAHM. She had lots to do!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:30 PM
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I do believe they are going to continue based on the ending of the article What’s next for this project? The plan is to go into a studio and film these debate excerpts, shot for shot, as they were televised on TV. My colleague Andrew Freiband from the Rhode Island School of Design is especially interested in non-vebal cues—all the unconscious information that gets thrown at us based on physicality, tone of voice, and gestures, but also camera angles, shot length, and the size of the lens. He’s h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:23 PM
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Yet people love Betty White for being as crass as she is. She's loveable and old dirty woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:20 PM
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haha fantastic!
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 05:18 PM
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Thanks for sharing that link - fascinating!!
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 02:45 PM
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perhaps they have no desire to run an entire large brick and mortar business. Because that doesn't allow them the flexibility of actually raising their own children during the day. But if they have a hobby that can also bring in money why not bring in money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:40 PM
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many SAHMs volunteer in the community, at the church, in the schools. Many SAHMs have small businesses through money-making hobbies. They may homeschool, too. Additionally so what if gardening is not needed is very much wanted by many families as it saves money. Having 1 car while mom stays home couponing and gardening in order to have more free time as a family in the evening/weekends can be quite desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:06 PM
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I posted this to FB and the only person to comment is a woman who adores HRC. She responded "It would have been no contest. Smh" So I asked, did you read the article? Her response: "I did but I don't buy it." Her argument was Sara Palin is very similar to Trump but didn't do well simply because she's a woman. HRC didn't get the presidency simply because she's a woman. The world is against women in power.
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 01:37 PM
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Agreed, learning to give yourself grace is something all homemakers must do. Noone NOONE is perfect. So don't compare, /u/MrsBobber. Perhaps sitting down and making a list with Husband and looking at the priority of all things is your next step. Perhaps your priorities are not his and some things can sink lower or higher accordingly.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 06:05 PM
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Lotion, that's my answer to the bonus. I can't go without my hand lotion. I need it after I wash my hands because I wash so much!
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 05:53 PM
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Hire out whatever you can afford. :) If you don't have the time because you're working put that money to work. Or get a new job that allows better flexibility.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 05:50 PM
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Also, I want to point out I didn't believe her when she said they have been together TWENTY years, because she looks like she could pass as 30. Self care ladies, self care!
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 05:13 PM
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I have found some really great resources in homemaking classes. Most are geared toward Christian SAHM/Homeschooling moms - but they are fantastic resources nonetheless. https://homemakersacademy.com/ - This one runs 2x a year, includes a planner, a facebook group, and takes about a month. She also has videos, which I own, but haven't gotten around to watching (oops!) https://homemakingministries.clickfunnels.com/sales-page9424498 - this one is a full on ministry. Includes many bloggers, videos, …
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 02:45 PM
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Facts? Common sense? WHO DO YOU THINK YOU'RE TALKING TO?!?!
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 02:41 PM
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The best, really ;) haha.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 02:34 PM
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Curious -- What does marching on this day accomplish in your mind?
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 02:16 PM
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Right? A friend asked me if I would be participating and I said no. She asked why - Well, because the people around me are very good people, and they show me respect on a regular basis. I think it would be disrespectful to turn around and "strike" in this way. She didn't have a response ;)
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 02:59 PM
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Quote of the piece: Make no mistake, March 8 will mostly be a day without women who can afford to skip work and shuffle childcare and household duties to someone else. Luckily so many women are privilaged to do just that. :)
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 02:40 PM
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As controversial as it is I truly think if you get knocked up on your mission/leave/whatever. You AND he should be ousted. When my grandfather was working in the navy he got very badly sunburnt (blisters, the while 9 yards) And he couldn't tell anyone because he would have gotten in so much trouble for it. For a sun burn! Something tiny compared to a pregnancy. So Yup, if you get knocked up while you are out on the boat you both can gtfo. You want kids then choose a different path. (Get it! Free…
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 03:18 PM
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Right now it's a matter of following through with what I say I'm going to do and to get done what he has delegated to me. That's what's most important. Following through.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 10:32 PM
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Oh, is this becoming a thing in the sub now?
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 02:07 AM
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DONT discuss anything with him, just LEAVE/call the cops." Reddit in a nutshell
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 08:47 PM
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Well, men probably are out to get us -- but most of us want to get got ;) HAHA At least that's how I ended up with a terminator baby inside me Also come to the IRC I have ultrasound pictures :D
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 07:34 PM
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Thankfully R is generally unaware of what he's unaware of. He has kind of been learning along with me - BUT he has had a few "you shouldn't do X" and if I explain it to him he shrugs and is like -- oh, so it's not that bad? No, it's not that bad. And we go back to doing what were doing :) But that's all this is - first-time dad syndrome. Dad's hormones can change when mom is expecting a baby! It's totally a thing.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 07:29 PM
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Cleaning use to be a struggle for me - I really enjoy this woman's blog: http://thankfulhomemaker.com/category/cleaning/ She has some really good short routines that made it so so much easier :)
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 05:42 PM
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Oh! I can see how that was read. I was more just expanding on your idea, not arguing against it. :)
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 06:14 PM
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I still have a degree I don't use LOL and a lot of debt because of it :(
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 03:21 PM
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My degree is was in Architecture and it wasn't well explained in HS what I'd need to actually work in the field as an architect. A masters years of internship type work 7 formal tests (think 7 bar exams) After all that you can become a licensed architect. So it's hard to get going - and because I wanted a family I should have looked into something that was easier out the gate but maybe didn't have as much lifetime earning potential. Right now I work in HR (Staffing) and had I gotten a degree in …
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 03:09 PM
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I didn't watch the video, yet. But YES! If a child has an interest in X, we should encourage that. No matter who the child is. The problem is that we often push women into STEM who don't really want to do it. Because they are good at it. I'm an example of this. I never wanted to go into Architecture/Engineering. But I was good, I excelled in math, and my HS guidance counselors pushed me. So I did it - And I wasted a lot of my parents' money. I got a degree I don't use. If my counselors had had a…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 02:37 PM
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ALL THE GRATITUDE!! For Beeb. Thank you for sitting so PERFECTLY at your ultrasound. You're a pro. Measuring exactly where you should for 19 weeks. And giving the tech an awesome view of your perfect little heart with awesome echo. And for the little kicks you let me see. That was very sweet of you :) For my friends who, when mentioning we'd need help painting/moving furniture immediately volunteered to be there and help as much as they can. For R who bought me lunch today :) and held my hand wh…
/r/RedPillWives28/02/17 05:53 PM
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While you can be a rpw and career driven, I suspect those women are few and far between.
/r/RedPillWives28/02/17 01:52 AM
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But she may one day get married and then she will probably change HER name :) sooooo..... you might not be name twins for long.
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 11:57 PM
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Then don't worry about what other people think. If husband is happy and you are happy no one else matters.
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:54 PM
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Are you a praying woman? Perhaps a mantra every morning - I like mantras. Find something that sinks in, say it DAILY, until you change your attitude. "My husband watching porn does not make me less of a woman" You are capable of changing your thinking, and your attitude - you just have to stick to it daily!
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:49 PM
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Exactly -- if this is the lifestyle your husband wants then fuck the haters.
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:47 PM
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I think it depends on what your husband thinks. Sure - but does he know he can say "I want you to take my name"? In society today he'll be bludgeoned for having the opinion.
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:45 PM
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You don't live with her. What's wrong with having the same name? Hell lots of people have the same name within a family.
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:42 PM
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I think the career reasoning is a cop out - Even Beyonce changed her last name. ;)
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 02:50 PM
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I'm a stickler about changing the last name -- I think it's disrespectful and a slap in his face to keep your last name. That's just my $0.02
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 02:46 PM
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I wonder how many of these couples were only unhappy for part of the time and had they stuck it out they would have found happiness again - unhappiness can be a phase. A funk in a relationship isn't a reason to leave it. And while we may encourage leaving a dating relationship when things get rocky - marriage should continue to weather the storm. For me and R - divorce just simply isn't a solution to any general marriage problem. It should be reserved for the extreme situations. (unfaithfulness,…
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 02:39 PM
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Love hatchet! So good so so good!
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 07:36 PM
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And at that point we are arguing semantics. As another commented mentioned. But I agree, you're a team when it comes to the kiddos.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 10:52 PM
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Well maybe not those people but the people they are married to. 😂
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 10:30 PM
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I do lurk around that sub. But like most of reddit I do take it with a grain of salt.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 10:01 PM
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Well I'm pregs with baby #1 also. So other women may be able to answer better 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 08:56 PM
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I start my 6 week yoga class in April -- so around 25 weeks
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 06:54 PM
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As I'm thinking - Another would be to never back talk their father in front of them, or say you can after dad said you cant. Also, in my childhood there was no "don't tell mom/don't tell dad" No secrets were kept between a child and one parent from the second parent.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 06:44 PM
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I guess these are just semantics. Quite possibly. When it comes to articles like this they don't click for everyone, but if they click for someone (like me) I find them helpful. Other's may get to the same solution with another wording.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 06:32 PM
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Always leave energy in your day for your husband. Don't let your children drain you to the point where you don't have energy to spend on him. You might have to put the child to bed before you have time to spend with your husband, but the energy to do so should be there.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 06:14 PM
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That's what I'm torn on. Knowing and managing to keep it a secret! LOLOL. It's more keep it a secret from those around us IRL then all of you. So IRC may find out. We were talking names earlier this week LOL
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 04:30 PM
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FANTASTIC -- there is this really odd pain kinda in my inner thigh/groin area -- like a tightness of muscles. I'm doing yoga with a friend Sunday, and she knows how to modify for prenatal. It's hard to explain - we were doing fire hydrants in our workout Wednesday night and I felt like a stiff hinge. Didn't quite want to open HA I have an OB monthly check up today :) gonna hear the heartbeat again. And then Tuesday we go in for the big fancy ultra sound :D unsure if we'll ask about baby's sex, b…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 04:18 PM
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BABY!!! i'm only 18 weeks along! So exciting :D
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 03:49 PM
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Thanks Stingray :) I think it hit me most when Ryan asked me "What happens to us if we're unable to conceive" He was concerned my desire for children would end my desire to be in a relationship with him if we couldn't. And that was a moment when my focus shifted. My relationship MUST be with Ryan first - and THEN with any children we are blessed with.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 02:15 PM
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It's definitely going to go in waves. Especially with a new baby - those first 6 weeks you aren't even cleared for sex so intimacy drops, you're both tired, you feel like a milk cow, your body is healing. The hope is you bounce back quickly. And the better the foundation of your relationship the easier it will be to bounce (I hope!!) :D
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:53 PM
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So many stories -- we're staying married until the kids move out.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:52 PM
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I'm posting this as a response to some comments in /u/TempestTcup 's latest post. As I start my family this is something I go back to often to remind myself not to get sucked into putting the kids before Husband. When you marry your husband you may have plans to start a family, but they may or may not come to fruition. In the end, though you married HIM. You vowed to be with HIM for the rest of your life - until death parts you, right? So all the other stuff - jobs, friends, even kids, must come…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:37 PM
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Naw my kids will totally be 3rd fiddle. Lol
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 12:03 PM
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Often a woman becomes more a mother than she does a wife. She let's herself go, she focuses all of her time and energy on the kids. At the end of the day nothing is left for Husband. The women who stop planning fun dates. The woman who blows off time with just him instead to bake the cupcakes for tomorrow's bake sale, or finish kiddos science project. That's why many of us say you must be 51%wife, 49%mom.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 11:40 AM
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If you don't respect him, someone will. If you don't appreciate him, someone will. If you don't love him, someone will.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 12:15 AM
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Sure, except that "very" skinny is totally miscalibrated by today's society. A visually healthy weight woman by today's standards is still a fat woman.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 06:50 PM
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Their legs are as thin as my arms So? No, really - So?
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 04:03 PM
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I shudder at the look of some other german girls who look like skeletons with flesh attached. Hey now, no skinny shaming ;) But for real, maybe that's just more natural for their body. I had like NO curves until I was maybe 20-23. It wasn't that I had too low of a body fat %, I simply was a stick. Throughout my 20s my body started taking on a more womanly proportion. My boobs grew it, my hips gained a bit.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 03:51 PM
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"I don't mind it, but I can make them myself". His reaction is almost like he feels infantilized by me. Perhaps he feels you are infantilizing him. Grown men can pack their own lunches. Mine does. :) I always pack it wrong according to R and so he packs it himself because he knows what his schedule is for the day. My husband could go from 52 meetings a day, to only meetings at 7am and 3pm leaving lunch open. So he packs based on his schedule. He might snack all day between meetings or he might p…
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:19 PM
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Exactly. And I should have made that point, too, in my original post. Men who were drafted for Vietnam were not all in food solider roles.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 12:14 AM
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YES! Vacuum in them -- But really it's practice makes perfect. First - find yourself some good, quality, shoes. Not too tall, not too short. Every woman has a different sweet spot. From there it's practice. Wear them around the house while doing chores, get use to them. Feel how your body moves differently.
/r/RedPillWives20/02/17 07:37 PM
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Yup! That's definitely my attitude too :D
/r/RedPillWives20/02/17 05:05 PM
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Here in RPWi we like to poke fun at feminists and normies and their constant victim mentality - but the truth is we are ALL susceptible to it. There was recently a post about how one might handle when others hate on her choice to be a SAHM/W. It got me thinking about the victim mentality and how it's everywhere, not just something feminists have. So after reading the article posted I'd love to hear how you shake the mentality in your daily life.
/r/RedPillWives20/02/17 04:47 PM
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It's hard to know what you meant when you provided nothing other than a question with no information behind it. We ask that those who come for advice answer these questions so we better understand your specific situation. It's on the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 03:35 PM
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IRL I don't give people enough information about me to respond negatively. I feel them out first, I get to know them first. I surround myself with women who don't feel negatively about SAHMs People like to judge, people like to give advice/opinion/unsolicited word vomit. If you don't give them ammo it's harder for them to gossip about you later. Cultivate a don't-give-a-fuck attitude. Though I will say "Housewife" has some serious connotation behind it. I'm not surprised people respond that way …
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 02:49 PM
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Hi chattrshep, might I suggest you provide some details. There is a list of questions you can use over on the side bar.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:38 PM
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When you have fallen I to a pattern and it makes you unhappy you simply break it by doing something else. Try looking at Pinterest or googling "dates at home" or "free date ideas" that's what you need you need date nights! If you can't afford to budget for a night out, or can't have a sitter then you must get creative. A picnic on the floor. A tent in the den. Whatever you need to do to mix it up.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:35 PM
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Facebook is a cesspool. Depending on who you are friends with. After college and drifting from sorority sisters, I wasn't actually friends with I just started unfriending/unfollowing people. It's made facebook so much better. I have maybe 200 people on my friends list and it's mostly family, in-laws, cousins, etc. and the people I actually call a friend.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:23 PM
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Yes! Bella Grace and Taste of Home - my mom renews my subscription every year for Christmas :) She get's my husband a handyman magazine he enjoys, too.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:18 PM
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Nice! Plopped it on my amazon wishlist
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:16 PM
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Scream for equality you might actually get it - oh nos!!!!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:01 PM
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ooh nice, thanks! Do you think I could sub egg back in? Since I'm not vegan I don't have any of that egg replacement thinger in my house.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:51 PM
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Oh fun! I wonder if other women find us through those types of posts
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:44 PM
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Right - there are LOTS of ways to serve outside of being a footsoldier. And those jobs/roles are mega important to the overall picture.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:22 PM
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Thanks :) If you find other funny mommy-blogs like this I'd be happy to provide my snarky commentary on Fridays :)
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:16 PM
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I will do so :)
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:15 PM
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Thanks bot!! You're helpful :)
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:15 PM
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way better lol. And it's 100% because of Iris and not R. I was just saying to Tempy in the IRC "I think more importantly -- I stopped putting expectations on him and embraced who he ACTUALLY is" While I still am actively working on this (old habits) it has made our relationship better. I think I'm going to write myself a response to my first RPW post, maybe next week. I think it would be a good exercise.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:08 PM
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This is my introduction to RP world - I was engaged and scared I wasn't going to make a good wife. I was intimidated by how awesome and cool his mom was and how I might never live up to that. So I posted here
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 03:45 PM
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That being said I think we should have a draft for men and women and anyone in between Yes, I definitely lean that way. Legally we should just say - 18yo must register for the draft. Because if we don't we're going to start seeing "oh, I identify as a cat, not a male, so .... I won't register". Easy to fix that. Are you an 18 yo? you register. Done, Legal, Equal.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 03:35 PM
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I'm making a pulled pork dinner for 6 this weekend and R wants "all the sides!" What are your favorite sides? If you have a yummy recipe link it for me :) Definitely thinking coleslaw, beans, mac and cheese. Maybe a corn bread?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 02:31 PM
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I don't necessarily like Milo other than for the entertaining shit show it always is - but I'm glad that Maher is defending him for coming. “If Mr. Yiannopoulos is indeed the monster Scahill claims — and he might be — nothing could serve the liberal cause better than having him exposed on Friday night,” he continued. Exactly, don't ignore the other team - listen to them and then debate their points with yours. Responding to Scahill’s decision, MILO said that “if you can’t turn up and defend your…
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 08:41 PM
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I don't know anyone who shames a dad for being an involved parent - I think dads are expected to be involved parents as part of their role in the marriage/relationship. It's not that - it's that women are just quick to assume he's a predatory person when she doesn't know who she is. But those same women probably support their friend's husbands being involved parents.
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 04:17 PM
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Traditional gender roles works well when BOTH parties participate. You can't cry for equality and then turn around and say "men do the dirty work" The other thing I'm seeing here is that many of these stories are assuming men are predators to children/women. Which is part of what pisses off TRP. Society seems to just assume the worst in men. My dad had 5 girls and we just grew up in a nice community where my dad was well known so as far as I know he never really got that dirty look when he was o…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 03:15 PM
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YOU WIN! I'm 17+1 and was like fuck jeans today! Thankfully my sister just sent me some hand-me-down maternity clothes :D
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 03:02 PM
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I am ready for children Congrats! You already have a child. I probably laughed harder than I should have at that.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 11:30 AM
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This is my issue with October's BC awareness months... yup we are aware! Now what?? But heart disease is legit the biggest killer of women but February hardly has anything other than 2wear red" okay... but what does that do?? We could lose weight, we could avoid fast food all month, we could go to a gym. We could fat shame all our friends cause they will probably die from the fat stressing their heart out We need actionable items here people!
/r/RedPillWives12/02/17 01:57 PM
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Ever go into the Shit Cosmo Says subreddit? Hilarious.
/r/RedPillWives12/02/17 01:41 AM
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I have a tutoring session with a new student that night. So I'm pretty stoked. Other than that.... no plans 😊
/r/RedPillWives12/02/17 12:54 AM
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How to get things repaired around the house! LMAO - soooo If I want that cabinet door repaired I should walk around the house half naked? And yet MRP says Chore Play doesn't work ;)
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 03:36 PM
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I'm obsessed with this chicks voice - Maren Morris - Drunk Girls Don't Cry I feel like we all have that friend who is completely nieve to her own relationship. She stays with a loser and complains, and brings over wine, and vents to you, says it's all gonna change and just does it again. lol
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 03:34 PM
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It's a terrible decision that a woman might have to make - and I pray that fewer and fewer women are in that position every day. It's unavoidable in some cases, and it's scary, and it's sad. I wish we taught young girls biology, and to understand their own bodies better. Knowledge truly is power, and avoiding pregnancy would help avoid abortions. I consider myself pro-choice on a political stance though because I don't believe in making seriously choices for other people. Additionally there are …
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 02:49 PM
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I suggest you read more from the sidebar and learn more from the endorsed contributors and mods. Your view of this sub is only partially correct Above all being a redpillwife is not a one size fits all. We are not all religious, or conservative, we don't all have kids, some of us are even the breadwinners. So of course we are not all going to have the same view on issues as hot as abortion.
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 12:19 AM
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One of two things is happening here. Possibly both. You don't trust he can handle it. You married a financially incompetent man Please answer the questions that Tea has linked to and provide more detail so we can help get to the bottom of it.
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 12:10 AM
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Well welcome!!
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 10:49 PM
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My biggest take away from this is that young couples should still get married if they intend to have kids. This means vetting your men and giving a hard next to anyone who doesn't think marriage is a priority, but still considers kids. That is a great take away. Vetting the men you sleep with and possibly even withhold sex until you find a good marriage minded man
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 10:48 PM
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I kinda of want to file this under "No Shit Sherlock" but I know it's not that common for everyone to understand this. I have been told, especially lately, that because of my family and home life I'm Privileged. Which always drives me nuts. I will not feel guilty about it even though I hear that in these people's tone. I'm not privileged, I'm normal - kids in crappy home lives are dis-privileged. Students who are in privileged homes often have really nice private schools with tiny class sizes an…
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 08:48 PM
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it seems like every march, event, protest, whatever, involves people running around naked, wearing genital paraphaneilia, and demands that I acknowledge their bedroom life. KEEP YOUR LAWS OUT OF OUR BEDROOMS!!! But watch our parade where we parade around with strap ons and such toys waving around
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 06:13 PM
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Like - being feminine is totally un-cool unless you knit a pussy hat. And I just want to scream SEE TRADITIONAL FEMININE HOBBIES ARE FUN YOU CRAZIES!!!
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 05:38 PM
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my husband deserves a clean home more than my friends deserve somewhere clean to visit What a wonderful way to think about it!
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 11:14 PM
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or breaking things in our bedroom lol. HA! I find having a small bedroom makes it easier to keep clean - because there is no room for anything else. Like 2 pieces of clothing on the floor and the whole place feels cluttered
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 03:11 PM
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I found this light article this morning after checking out Hilary Bernstein's site for the first time. It's a really simple trick :) (Yay Click Bate) ;) But it's also one I have seen work in my own life. As some of you may know I'm a big fan of online homemaking courses. While many are Christian based (And you do NOT need to be Christian or a traditionalist to be a RPW) as a young homemaker I'm always looking for new mentors and teachers. While R and I have lived together since December of 2010 …
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 01:02 PM
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Makes total sense.
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 11:03 PM
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Ooooh. I don't see girls with yellow gold very often anymore. I bet it is fantastic brilliant.
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 10:43 PM
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Perhaps. Only if you like babies! Haha. But this is not about me! I wanna see the bling! 😍
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 10:25 PM
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Yay! Oh V I'm so so excited for you! And so excited you are back!!
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 10:07 PM
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The horror!! Where is my fainting couch?
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 04:24 PM
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If I make French toast today and still have yummy batter left, how long will it last in the fridge? A day, a week?
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 02:04 PM
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Oh and another point will I tell my daughter gpa was better than gma or dad is better than mom. That's because that's what you actually think. That how much you are PAID by some boss man developed into how much you are WORTH! how about teach your child how much you are paid is not the only factor into how much you are worth. And who you are and what you contribute to your family/village/tribe is way more important than the monetary dollar you make as a wage slave in a cubical.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 01:54 PM
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Oh gosh. I never liked Audi anyway. Give me an American car and I'm a happy girl. 😉 But seriously! His like about how companies like Audi shouldn't have political views on things that don't pertain to them. If the gender gap was real why not only hire women engineers? Pay them 20% less? But you don't. 1. Because Audi actually tweeted a response to the video they pay their women equally to their men. 2. Few women actually want to be in STEM. Leading to 3. Good women engineers are simply hard to f…
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 01:52 PM
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I'll be shocked if they do - Walmart just opened 2-day shipping on ALL orders regardless of size - so they'd be letting Walmart have the edge. And Walmart is their largest competitor - still a baby compared to Amazon though
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 05:26 PM
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You are not alone!!!
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 04:11 PM
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Baby Announcement - Bump has arrived (Well it kinda showed up about 2 weeks ago but it was really only visible to me) -- Now taking bets on how long before I have to give up my one and only pair of jeans that I wear. LMAO. I'm at 15w+3d today so comment below and the day I can't button my jeans I'll come back and see who's a winner! And you get... Um.... bragging rights I guess :) If you aren't familiar with how dates are measured its weeks + days. So you go 15+5, 15+6, 16+0, 16+1... etc :)
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 02:07 PM
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I really like your response Phantom - It made me think of a quote I heard once "Do not teach children what to think, teach them how to think." Like you said - don't worry about teaching her to be or not to be a feminist - but instead focus on giving your child the building blocks and foundations to build a great life of her own.
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 08:41 PM
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each your daughter to have informed opinions and she'll always be able to handle new or contrasting ideas without being swayed. My parents often did this by respectfully challenging our opinions at the dinner table. If we had a strong opinion we might get asked why we have that opinion or how we came to that opinion. But it was always phrased in a non-judgemental way. For example "That's an interesting viewpoint, have you considered X?" Or "What do you say when someone challenges you by saying Y…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 08:38 PM
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Maybe something simple like, "Would you be happier if I went back to work?" I find simple questions are often the best. It's a way to rephrase what you heard. If he responded - "No, why would you think that would make me happier?" it opens up the discussion to "You said X, I heard Y" which a lot of couples don't realize is happening and that's where they miscommunicate. R makes comments about how he would like to be a SAHD, but at the same time he thinks being at home would drive him crazy. So b…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 08:33 PM
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Right I'm all up in his face. LET ME LOVE YOU OMG LET ME HEEELLLLPPPPP haha.
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 11:49 PM
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Why fix when you can just buy. Exactly! Especially since I know my mom will be making us a beautiful handmade queen sized quilt within the next few years - I just need this thing to last until then. I was working on it when some friends stopped by and the wife's response was "Everything is on sale - why not go buy a new one" "cause this costs the thread...." "Oh, well yeah, and a ton of stress and time." It was not that stressful LOL
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 08:54 PM
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NEW JOB!!! PARTY
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 05:23 PM
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I'm grateful my mom taught me to sew - I was able to repair the big comforter on my bed for the cost of thread and an afternoon. Grateful for you ladies and all that fantastic support last week :D Grateful for a husband who buys me pizza on my birthday lol
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 02:43 PM
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I did that so many times I asked Phantom to block my non-RPW account so I can't accidently do it again :) If you're worried about people Doxing you ask a mod to block your non-RPW account from this sub.
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 02:01 PM
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Perfect timing. R and I are in a bit of a first trimester baby rut. So we need to bring it back! I'm excited :) Let's get it on :0)
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 01:02 AM
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And there's almost always an anime influence. I don't get anime hype. Dated a guy in college who was into a few different anime series - I couldn't get into them with him.
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 06:30 PM
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The same reason feminists will talk about how they like being dominated in bed - In the end they want conventional beauty and hot alpha males who aren't afraid to pull their hair. Fun article Phantom - I don't really follow these women on any social media cause they just make me want to punch things so I wouldn't have noticed their skinny avatars. The avis are actually pretty cute girls lol
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 06:04 PM
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This could be slightly off topic, but that post also made me think about a quote from First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: "Never do for your husband what he can do for himself." I am not sure what she meant by that, and it seems contradictory to several pieces of advice mentioned here, such as being husband's soft place to land, assist him in ways that will enhance his life, etc. I wanted to respond over the weekend but didn't find time to. /u/cats_or_get_out covered it pretty well. I've no…
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 02:11 PM
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This is what stood out to me My theory is that this is the blue pill version for females. Men were sold the “Be nicer. Be more sensitive. Be more like a woman,” line at the same time women were being told, “Be tough, be outspoken, be more like a man.” We fail when we forget what gender we are. We fail when we try to relate to men as men instead of as women. We can make all the money, we can even bring home the bacon. But in the end we are women are we are DIFFERENT than men. Red pilling is about…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 12:45 PM
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I agree asking questions is definitely a place to start. Making sure you know exactly what he wants you to handle will save a lot of confusion later. And I feel the same about the OP with him dumping the task of nutrition on her. If he has a goal he should certainly be involved. My H only told me "I want to eat healthier" so it was about shopping smarter and having better food on hand. If he wants to track his calories that's on him. 😊
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 10:05 PM
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Complete selflessness is a RP strategy to keep a husband, not to find one. Being completely selfless while dating will get you walked all over.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 08:36 PM
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I think selflessness in a lot of ways is the natural result of RPW. Yes, but WHO you are selfless toward matters. We don't give just anyone respect. We don't defer to just any man. We defer to our husband who earned/got/received our respect during courtship and now has it as our husband.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 08:16 PM
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Is selflessness RP? Who are you being selfless toward - Your husband, absolutely! The guy down the street - Maaaaybe not. :) I would add though that you can't pour from a cup that's empty. Self care is an important part of being a RPWife Does selflessness exist in an RP marriage, where the wife is certain to reap benefits from her 'selfless' actions? You might be edging toward a covert contract with that thinking. While I do reap certain benefits in my marriage I also have a role to play so we b…
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 08:02 PM
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This was actually a really good question - and a really interesting discussion. Why did you delete it OP? Did the whole account get deleted. This makes me sad :(
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 07:53 PM
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If it had been called what it was - a Pro-Choice, Pro-Abortion March I would not have hated on it as much lol. I was more mad that they called themselves a Women's March when they forgot so many TYPES of women.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 07:48 PM
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I agree with both of you. How I read /u/Littlewifey was - until Wife has enough information she does not feel she's able to do this correctly. But I agree you shouldn't just say "NO" when you haven't tried - Perhaps Wife can try but make sure Husband knows her reservations.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 04:16 PM
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Ding Ding Ding! Now, I'm all for "It takes a village" But I would like to pick my village. And my village can be small as my church, or my mom group. It's the people who are raising their children in a similar mannor. Not just anybody off the street.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 02:52 PM
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I still can't find anyone who can explain what rights a gun has that women don't. Really - Anyone? Please enlighten me. I'll listen with an open mind and everything!!!
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 02:20 PM
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Remember - If you read to your kids you're unfairly disadvantaging other kids! I can't facepalm enough.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 02:18 PM
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July 25th!
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 11:37 PM
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Thank You Phantom! I'm so excited for this new chapter. It's something I have been looking forward to for a very long time.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:54 PM
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Yeah that's definitely a good way to do it.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:17 PM
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I might pay for it later lol
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:17 PM
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OH yay! But if you think of anything I can add to my little list of FAQ stuff let me know - Since I'll be doing that list every month or so :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:29 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:13 PM
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Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:13 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:13 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:13 PM
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I'm going to hit the store on the way home. Pick up some steak to grill up and maybe something else. He loves red meat and I've been trying to eat so much cleaner/healthier he's been feeling a little forgotten when nothing has beef it in. OOPS! Okay! I'll remedy that tonight :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:46 PM
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Thanks Jade! :) When I attended her shower I wasn't pregnant and she passed out those little single serving bottles to everyone to take home. They also had root beer for the kids - If I had known I could have taken one of those haha. I actually haven't even told this friend yet because I want to tell her in person. Can't wait for her reaction :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:42 PM
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Yes you can have all the Karma :D Thanks Mabeol :)
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:41 PM
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Buy the DAR scene is hilarious. Mostly because that's not at all how the DAR is. Like a local chapter can't really stop you from joining. I died laughing at that
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 10:53 PM
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I see your point.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 07:23 PM
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The cute outfit, the coat the hat! The Fantastic brits :) OH! And it had such a fun kinda clockwork orange vibe to it Loved it!! AND YES! OMG why did it not end... like it's going to end here right nw... still going... okay it's gotta end now... wtf why is it THIS BAD
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 06:42 PM
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I would watch that!!!
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 06:41 PM
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Emily's story was BY FAR my favorite part of the Netflix revival. ALSO the scene with the Life and Death Brigade :) Cause that was just so much fun. WTF was the play thing -- I legit fast forwarded through that part.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 06:10 PM
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HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MIND BLOWN!!!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 05:39 PM
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Woah! I did not know ANY of that!!!
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 05:12 PM
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OMG ALL THE SPOILERS No, it's cool I've seen the Netflix ;) I was team Jess the whole time - but it's hard because like you said, "she wanted to be the captain of her own life". Because Logan grew up with money and had that bull shit attitude I just never was keen on him. I liked Dean as the first boyfriend - because a first boyfriend is an important part in a girls life, BUT how she lost her virginity makes me hate Dean a lot. So - I want her with Mr #4, whomever he is. And I wish the Netflix h…
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 04:45 PM
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Very true - In the public eye almost EVERY politician's wife will appear RP of sorts. Mrs Obama played her role quite well in the public eye.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 04:34 PM
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19? Ooh baby! I wanna get down to that. I hover pretty steadily at 21%. I know what it will take to get to 19 I'm just apparently too lazy to put in that work. But I applaud you Oneandforall! That's really fantastic :)
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 01:46 PM
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Welcome to the sub!!!
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 06:01 PM
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I'm grateful for my husband who has so kindly been cool with me crashing and falling asleep at like 9pm for the last few weeks. I'm grateful for you all who give me a constant source of fun and entertainment in the IRC I'm grateful for the lack of snow.
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 05:23 PM
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One of the notes I received in my wedding/marriage advice box was "Cherish the boring moments, that's when you know everything is going well" And I liked that - I liked that perspective on "boring". A lot of the crabs in the bucket mentality I notice is when you mention you're bored and women pounce on you to be like - You should totally never be bored, he's boring, leave him, spice it up, find something new. But honestly - the vast majority of LIFE is boring haha. If it's spicy every day it's h…
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 06:34 PM
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Oh you are very welcome indeed 😊
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 11:31 AM
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I have stacks of papers to go through I have no idea when this one made it's way to my files. But I found it last night and it just seemed fitting for a little Sunday night gratitude. How long have you been working on your family tree?
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 11:31 AM
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Glad you liked it. 😊
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 11:29 AM
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Hillarious CQ! Thanks for sharing :)
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 01:08 AM
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So tell us that, haha. We only know what you tell us. What I'm saying is - even without living with someone - you should have ample opportunity to tell if he's a good captain.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 11:43 PM
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He doesn't get to dictate your major career moves without some major commitment. Agreed! And while I'll always advocate for marriage/family over career you can't forget that you need to take care of yourself /u/rpwthrowawayyy . You have said you don't know if he'll make a good captain because you don't live together - but there should be lots of opportunity to see that in a man well before living together. You just don't seem thrilled about him. I say take the job. You're only 22 and if your SMV…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 11:06 PM
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Yay baby! When are you due?
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:16 AM
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That's what I own haha. The problem is my genealogy stuff is to big (binders don't stand up in the cube but need to go angled) and quilting notions are little. So cubes are being reallocated to the new family member and I am buying myself.... something lol
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:03 AM
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I literally just have cardboard boxes with labels and I'm just trying to sort. I have no idea where to put this stuff. Or how to store it in a way that makes it all easy access/pretty. Joann's has 40% off storage stuff... but IDK what would make the most sense.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 01:29 AM
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Today I spent time cleaning my mess of a craft room. Lack of an organizational system has turned into the "dump that stuff in here to get it out of the way" room. I know I've made progress (2 trash bags) but it almost feels worse. I'll be back at it tomorrow Then! I have some burp clothes to sew that match a baby quilt I made a few months ago. Beeb is past his or her due date so I'm on borrowed time for my friend. Thankfully she doesn't know I am making them so if I don't no-one is the wiser hah…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 12:31 AM
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get a full spa day Oh that sounds fun! I have never done a spa thing either. I always wanted to go to one of those places where you sit in a mud bath.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 05:21 PM
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Love!
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 10:58 PM
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This is gonna sound lame... but bowling. 1. It's legit fun. And 2. Like every bowling ally has fundraisers. Who doesn't love some wholesome family fun!
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 10:56 PM
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I've had 2 older women I am friends on facebook express their discontent for the lack of inclusion of pro life women in this march. Both consider themselves feminists, but I would venture to guess since they are older they are a little out of touch with today's feminism. They both make the point that feminism is becoming more selective of who's allowed in and by kicking out pro life women they are kicking out the women who haven't been born yet who could be saved by pro life movement. I apprecia…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 10:21 PM
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The most sincere apologies are simple and to the point. It is then your behavior AFTER the words that speaks the most. No buts, no explanation - Apologize and move on. Then strive to do better.
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 06:45 PM
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Love this idea! I took a pre-made lasagna to my neighbor after she had her baby. She was like - Oh my gosh I'll put it in the oven right now. I was about to order pizza I'm so tired. I was like - well good! Lasagna is better :) This tradition of bringing food is falling away. I've asked my friends if they do it - or why they may not and the biggest answer is either A) They person kept saying they don't need help B) they don't know the person's dietary concerns. Both I think are silly responses. …
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 04:41 PM
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I feel the same way about people in the trans community as I feel about people who want to selectively amputate their arm - They have a mental issue of some kind. I don't think they are necessarily bad or disturbed people, but something is chemically wrong in their brain. And we need scientists to really research what is going on. I'm not against them, I worry about them. The statistics show that the suicide rate doesn't really change for pre or post op trans-folks. A group of humans is depresse…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 04:32 PM
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Oh, i'm totally full of my self most days 😉 do you follow me on twitter? Cocky A.F. haha. But thank you. We are all glad you are here, too!
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 10:48 PM
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My girlfriend always says that when she talks about getting through her first pregnancy. The delivery was bad. She lost a lot of blood. She ended up severely anemic and needed two transfusions. But she was so happy and positive. And I asked... how? And her response was that she gave herself grace every morning. That she would get through the day one way or another. She might not get the dishes done and she might forget to wipe down the counter but she would get through the day. She's a big heart…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 10:32 PM
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I see your point. We need to give ourselves grace on a regular basis though. Some are stuck in the "am I wearing the right shade of RPW lipstick phase" and some of us are in the "over analyse what we said cause we're hormonal" phase but no matter where you are in your RPW journey you must give yourself grace
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 10:17 PM
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I'm feeling the same. I don't want to say NO! I'm not okay with you playing video games! But at the same time I know I'm going to want to crash at exactly 8:37 so maybe play with me now and play with your friends later? lol
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 07:27 PM
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I wrote this one down quick this morning based on some conversations in the IRC lately - I would love all the feedback from you ladies :)
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 05:18 PM
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The OP of the marriage vs. dating post seemed to want a hard core timeline such as: date 2, kiss; month 3, exclusive; year 2.5, proposal; etc. so she could mark the dates in her day planner and check off relationship goals. Well, my 30th birthday is in 4 days So I have 4 days until I hit THE WALL!!! Quick - what do I do??? But no really - I just heard about a girl who planned her relationship like this. She wanted to be married by X date, so he must propose no later than 4 months prior - which m…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 04:23 PM
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An example of how I'm super not perfect. Last night I told R what he wanted to hear, instead of the truth. And then sulked when he didn't read my mind. It was over something small and trivial. I should have just answered truthfully. But instead, I totally set him up to fail by telling him what he wanted to hear. and THEN when he took that - and DID IT (insert shocked face) I pouted. I freaking pouted like a child. Like the hell Iris? Who does that - well, children do that. And this was after ran…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 03:07 PM
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When R's mom was going through treatment a lot of what we could do was take home workload off her. Make sure things were taken care of so she could focus on getting well. I'd make dinner when I could. But when she was feeling well she wanted to be normal. She wanted to cook, go for walks, do her normal thing. If she's going through chemo you might want to gift her a really nice comfy robe, or blanket. Something that keeps her warm in those chilly hospitals. Stage one - like others are saying - i…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 08:16 PM
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Overly controlling. My friend's ex insisted on checking her texts and emails, and tracked her location. No thanks! Fuck off! That's nuts. I'd be outta there so fast.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 08:07 PM
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If you are blessed with a child remember you only have one child. And your husband is a father, a husband, a partner. You don't need to baby him. You don't really need to care for him. he's an adult. Care for the family as a whole. Additionally being a wife should always come before being a mom. 51% wife, 49% mother. Check out the book: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 08:02 PM
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I really liked this part Rather than considering the idea that their lives could perhaps be better if they would only learn new skills and habits (or, more radically, that perhaps contemporary models of childrearing and housekeeping have failed them and they ought to seek help from different, older sources), adherents of “the myth” are more likely to lash out in fury at those who suggest it is entirely possible to overcome their maternal roadblocks. I find a lot of friends who will say "I don't …
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 07:47 PM
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lol, I can neither confirm nor deny such rumors....
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 07:30 PM
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Are we the same? R's response was like. "Already?!" in this really sweet cute meek voice.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 06:38 PM
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I'm not great at putting thought into words, and that's really why I never post anything. I felt the same - and now I blog. Just gotta try it out :) Also, if you get into a habit of our Monday or Tuesday weekly threads it might help you get some ideas out without having to write an entire post yourself.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 04:34 PM
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Hey bettsdressed, Both /u/Littleknownfacts and /u/littleeggwyf have covered the basis and given great advice. I agree with both of them. You're really overthinking this, though. What's got you so stressed? Is there anything else? A lot of your questions make it sound like your walking on eggshells around his feelings. We all want to be respectful of our husbands and his feelings but he's a big boy. Should I just not talk about pregnancy stuff or baby stuff at all with him through the whole 9+ mo…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 04:32 PM
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Sholders. Yup. <3
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 04:18 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. When I look back I feel lucky. Like I did a horrible job of vetting I just let myself get swept up in my emotions and that lovey dovey feeling but I ended up with a great guy. I gave it up before our first date. I kinda just was trashy in a conventional sense. Thankfully R is a really awesome guy. And a good leader. He's got an amazing head on his shoulder. But, had I behaved that way for a guy who didn't I know I'd be in a really really crappy situation right now.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 08:16 PM
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Aw! Well thank you!
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 07:30 PM
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I completely agree. When it comes to my dating I don't talk about it because it's bad advice - when it comes to my marriage, where I'm applying RP principles I'm happy to give advice.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 06:53 PM
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it doesn't and shouldn't matter HOW you get a man Okay good - Cause I got R in a super trashy way LOL
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 03:55 PM
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A woman is not going to make herself terribly vulnerable for a man who's with her for a fling. That would not be smart. But girls stupidly do. And that's where we get the phrase "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!" :)
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 02:00 PM
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Though what about the whole RP theory on letting a man take charge and make decisions for you? There is a common misconception that Red Pill women don't make decisions. Deferring is different than throwing up our hands and saying you're never making a decision ever again cause you got this great man now. I'm in a first mate/Captian relationship - I like to say "I have the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want. So long as it fits within the Captain's master plan." It's like having a budg…
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 01:56 PM
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And every relationship is a little different. Some may choose to only have sex with a husband, and others may choose to live with a boyfriend. Personally, there was a distinct line in the sand in regards to our finances. R was never on any of my accounts until we were married. And I wasn't on any of his - even though we were living together. We still maintained our own finances in our own way. Once married we had a sit-down and discussed how to move forward.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 01:45 PM
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Beer is a good thing to bond over :)
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 10:10 PM
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Oh, I really like it!!! Very sweet :)
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 07:51 PM
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Creative cooking - when I get a little nutty and fun, and sometimes it's a disaster. Any sort of crafting project - whether it's sewing or wreath making. Something fun and artsy. Geneology because I'm an addict. Those paint with wine classes you take with your girlfriends - they are my favorite. Music - singing mainly. But just enjoying music while R is DJ. That's aways really nice in the evenings. The kitchen is a dance floor :)
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 06:48 PM
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This is why a good number of hospitals no longer have nurseries. Babies almost never leave their mothers recovery room. People aren't just switched at birth. You're watching too much ABC family.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/17 01:40 PM
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Second - you just lost your mother. I would not be concerned with appearing feminine to your husband right now, you're in an extremely vulnerable place and he's your protector and your lover. Let him comfort you. I realize you might be concerned with letting your emotions out given the circumstances of your mother's passing, but if there's anyone you should trust with your feelings, it's your husband. This this this this!!!! He's your rock OP, go ugly cry sister. Whatever you need to do <3
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 08:31 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. This isn't going to be easy, and funerals suck because people want to be there for you and you really just want to be alone to cope. I understand that. My suggestion is to keep your husband close, let him be a physical barrier between you and people. Let his body language keep people from hugging you. I was that person for a friend at a funeral for his parents. I just held his hand at the door as he greeted people and people seemed less likely to physically touch him …
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 07:41 PM
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I can see R getting a HODAR pin - but when he's old, and retired, and bored out of his skull so he wants to do something and we have the time to volunteer more. :)
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 03:23 PM
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Almost like our men want us to have happy and fulfilling hobbies where we express our individuality ;) R's eyes kinda glaze over when I talk about cemeteries and dates and census records - but he does like seeing me geek out about my hobbies. haha.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 02:56 PM
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I bet B was thrilled to see you happy and he was probably just as excited when you came home in that joyous mood. This is awesome Dixie. I'm so happy for you. 😊 music is powerful stuff man.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 11:10 AM
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Deal! But not until this zika thing blows over haha.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 03:03 AM
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I love how fun your list is. Room service is the bomb ☺
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 10:16 PM
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You and your cool maternity leave :(
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 08:36 PM
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Help SO understand that he really wants a dog I'm giggling. Love this one cover my income and I can work from home for when my maternity leave runs out. About this one - are you in the US? Because a lot of companies require you come back or they don't pay for the leave. Will you go back to work at all after baby?
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 08:20 PM
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Okay - my pre 40 bucket list is as follows: Hike a portion of the AT (With Kids) Visit Alaska (With Kids) Visit Finland (kids debatable lol) Second honeymoon (NO KIDS!) Sew an entire queen sized quilt myself Jump out of a plane! I'll add more as I think of it
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 07:27 PM
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ooh, maybe I can hit 10 sups by 30 -- Just gotta figure out how to finance 4 more. Page at State ... or CC, but I don't think CC is in the question for THIS summer ;)
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:26 PM
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Going off the pill was like finding colors I didn't know existed. I'd been on it about 8 years - my life was "normal" I didn't realize I wasn't as colorful as I could be. I had moods, my sex life hadn't died on the pill - I didn't realize how dull everything was though. If that makes sense. Going off it was like WOW. Something was different. Like breathing after a bad cold when you totally got used to the stuffed up nose. But more.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:20 PM
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I always intended to have it filled/colored/shaded - it never happened, and now I just kind of like how it is.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:07 PM
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Thanks! :D
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:06 PM
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PMed you a pic :)
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 02:11 PM
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PMed you. R helped design mine - he had quite a bit of say in it. I loved that he was involved in the process.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 02:10 PM
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Waldof has an awesome reputation!
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 02:21 AM
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Haha do not apologize! It is your social media account. You do you!! And be proud of it. 😊
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 12:44 AM
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They are on your instagram a lot I notice. 😉
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 12:34 AM
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Welcome 😊
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 10:34 PM
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You get what you pay for. And you have to find an artist who works WITH your body. Instead of plopping a bumper sticker on you.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:59 PM
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my high school actually expanded their trades classes recently. OMG i'm so excited for your school!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:59 PM
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I hate acrylic/gel nails that make your nail bulky like that. Paint/Shellac gel is fine and nice looking. The acrylic - to me - was always a sign of white trash where I grew up :/
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:58 PM
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Are you in the US? A lot of skills/trades classes have been cut - I know my HS offered like 1 class that was home ec light, but that's it. We hardly even had trades classes by the time I graduated. I would like to bring back home ec though. Seriously, learn to sew a button kiddos!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:49 PM
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I think it's hand in hand with the attidude of "High school didn't teach me how to be an adult, I never learned to do my taxes! waahhhh" Okay - Did you learn how to read? Did you learn basic math? Did you learn how to follow directions? Did you learn how to google when you don't know? Congrats! Highschool actually taught you how to adult :)
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:32 PM
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Can we stop wearing underwear as clothing? I'm fully anticipating another summer of girls walking around wearing a bra and bloomers as an outfit, and it's gross. I don't even care if you're super fit, stop it! I know I have stronger views on modesty than most, but you can't be made when you get objectified and cat-called when you are literally inviting it - and YES, you are - by walking around in your skivvies. You don't like the American Eagle Coachella concert look of bralettes and highwaisted…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:29 PM
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as a girl with tiny feet they just look weird on me :( I love my rounded toes!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:27 PM
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Chokers Yes. kill them all. Light them on fire.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:26 PM
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I'll send you a picture of my tattoo it's classy as fuck! :)
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:25 PM
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There is such a difference between accepting who you ARE, and accepting being FAT. For example. Personally, I don't care for the shape of my face, and my jaw is narrow, and I should have had braces as a kid. It's something I'm self-conscious about. But it's also something I can't change without ridiculously pricey surgery. So! I have learned to accept it. I smiled brightly in my wedding photos, and I love my photos. I don't hide. BUT if I felt I had gained some weight - or maybe I didn't like th…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:25 PM
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This is a great post! I shared it on my facebook :) Will share if I get any really good comments.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:19 PM
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I'm wearing leggings and a perfect T right now. 😇
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 12:47 AM
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Oh no! But I'm laughing really hard.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 11:05 PM
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I dislike unneeded new spellings of names.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 11:04 PM
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LLR leggings are the best leggings but leggings still aren't pants.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 11:03 PM
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I put ketchup on my ketchup yo.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 11:02 PM
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We have a light switch that allows us to dim the lights... gotta set that mood
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 11:02 PM
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Avocados are gross tasting plus they are really overrated.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 08:52 PM
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Thanks for sharing G_N :) A lot of times I have to stop myself and say is this really that big of a deal? Like am I going to ruin a day over clothes on the floor? Meh!
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:56 PM
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So, how old are you, roughly? You don't have to be exact if you don't want to. I'm 28 :) What's your relationship status? Also, how many years? Married 603 days -- but who's counting Do you have kids already, and if so, how many, how old, etc. How old were you when you had your first? Feel free to elaborate on your kiddos, any way you want. :) None yet... Come join us in the IRC for fun chats on Iris's road to motherhood LOL When you were a kid, how did you view motherhood? Did you play with bab…
/r/RedPillWives07/01/17 11:01 PM
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The left 10% just needs to be slapped. I can agree with this lol
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 07:17 PM
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Ultimately, Ravi's white girlfriend could learn to cook Indian food and dance to Indian music, but she would never truly be Indian and thus could not understand the complexities of the culture. This is a good point -- You can learn a lot about a culture but there is an experience you'll never have that someone who grew up in the culture would have.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 03:42 PM
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I guess I don't see it as we need to cater to the center - I see it as there are reasonable people in the center who would pull right if they had a reasonable discussion. But Milo doesn't want reasonable, he wants the shock and aw.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 03:28 PM
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Dating someone outside your class or religion has a number of its own challenges and I think dating outside your race is similar in that it has its own challenges. I really love learning about my heritage and celebrating the countries and cultures I was born out of. So that's something I want to share with my children. If my partner had a clashing background/heritage/culture that could lead to challenges I may not want to deal with. But also - People are attracted to who they are attracted to. A…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 03:26 PM
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No, and I lost interest in him the more I learned about him. I don't like people who yell to get their point across. He's a smug asshole and while I agree with a lot of the points he makes I think he does more harm with the way he presents it. I've always believed in the 10-80-10 idea where 10% are really extreme A, and 10% are extreme B.... and 80% kinda just chill in the middle. He alienates the 80% when he acts the way he does. But there are lots of people in the 80% who would, after a ration…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 03:01 PM
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Welcome :) Your top level comment was really spot on. I appreciated you writing that whole thing out.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 08:59 PM
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Typically it's appropriate to make the first comment as a submission statement -- Why did you post this article? What were your thoughts on it? What questions do you have for the other's reading it?
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 06:23 PM
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There are many dads that do split the tasks with the mom. And in that case, let's respect them for that. Now, in your situation maybe he never changes a diaper, whatever. But whatever he DOES do should be respected.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 08:37 PM
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The article wasn't talking about how dads should do MORE - it's really talking about how we need to give men respect for what they DO do. Dad's aren't babysitters, they are parents.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 07:42 PM
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"But your wrong! You need to know this thing!" This made me giggle. I think a lot about learning to communicate with someone is understanding how they think and process information. As an engineer my husband is very open minded to changing his mind when presented with new information. So yes, how I present it will show the respect. And he has expressed that he's aware I have this knowledge he doesn't so he asks a lot of questions. I can't blow his questions off, I need to be respectful when I he…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 06:27 PM
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Thank you! It was such a funny little epiphany I just had to share. Those little moments can really deeply effect the foundation of respect in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 04:21 PM
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I was so happy with how this post did on my facebook. Like the amount of women who were in agreement and took a moment to praise how awesome their husbands are. We all know hufpo is crap but even a broken clock is right 2x a day 😊
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 04:20 PM
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aww, you mods are the best! Happy new year ladies!!!! Can't wait to see what 2017 holds for everyone :D
/r/RedPillWives31/12/16 04:07 PM
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We had to pace ourselves because there are only 2 seasons and most of the episode are ridiculously hilarious.
/r/RedPillWives30/12/16 03:01 PM
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Better off Ted, on Netflix 😊
/r/RedPillWives30/12/16 02:00 PM
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Kids just need pillows!
/r/RedPillWives29/12/16 06:32 PM
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Aww Bella! You'll get your puppy.
/r/RedPillWives29/12/16 12:08 AM
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Yeah. I have probably type A moments so I see what you are saying. I'm a bit of a control freak. Walking our dog helps. I have learned not to say anything when I'm not holding her leash.... which is hard because I'm her handler when we run agility and train. But it's a good exercise in letting it go.
/r/RedPillWives28/12/16 11:53 PM
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I think you made a good point too! Wedding planning DOES seem important to her, or this wouldn't be as stressful as it is on her.
/r/RedPillWives28/12/16 11:37 PM
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Okay. So the task is his, let him handle it. Do the STFU thing now. 😉 don't stress over it. He's either got it or he doesn't. Focus on something else. Let it go from your mind the best you can.
/r/RedPillWives28/12/16 11:32 PM
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He said he would do it. Trust he will do it or let it fall. You don't even want the big wedding. Why stress? Enjoy your engagement! Personally save the dates are stupid and if your budget is under 5k they aren't even needed. Pop a message on FB or shoot an email to family. Done! The only people who really need Save The Dates are those that are having a destination wedding. I'm not addressing your root issue here though.... I know others will. I just hate on std cards haha.
/r/RedPillWives28/12/16 11:02 PM
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But I just knew it would be okay for us and I'm so enthused seeing those instincts pay off <3 And this is all that matters. I liked what you said about measuring with your own yard stick
/r/RedPillWives28/12/16 07:54 PM
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YAY! I love your story!
/r/RedPillWives28/12/16 06:23 PM
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I love this idea, I've seen it before and to try to implement but habits are hard to break. I've never really had official NYE resolutions - just a lot of things throughout the year I want to try to improve on.
/r/RedPillWives21/12/16 06:55 PM
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The plan is at some point I"ll have a baby and I'll stay home until the baby (and any younger siblings) are in school full time. I hope to then remain flexible enough to still be very active in the schools when they are there. So articles like this are nice because I'm tired of being told I'm giving up my own potential - yes, I have a degree - but I truly feel the best contribution I can make to this world is well-mannered, well-adjusted children who will grow up and make their own contributions…
/r/RedPillWives21/12/16 06:49 PM
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Nice find QueenBee, I just about spit my water out giggling at this.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 02:29 PM
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You ... excused yourself for not being perfect. Now you can excuse him for not being perfect also. This this this! This is really hard for a lot of women. I'm so glad you pointed it out. Ooh I could find ways to include this in my own daily mantra.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 01:42 AM
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If she has control of the kitchen and the shopping list she has some control. Gotta really buckle down but at the same time she can't get mad when he picks up chips and snacks on them.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 01:39 AM
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I gotta say it to myself more often then I am proud to admit.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 01:36 AM
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A problem that affects the whole family needs to be a problem you two tackle as a team. You gotta sit down and say what's on your mind in a clear and logical way. Have him help you come up with a solution. Phantom gave some awesome advice that should get you started. But your attitude in the post is that of "my husband is awesome but". Drop the but. Tackle this problem with your awesome husband as a team.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 01:36 AM
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Repeat after me. I can't change my husband. Nothing I do will make my husband change his behavior. My change in mind set can only change my own behavior because the person I control is me and only me. This is YOUR problem. Not his. Work on yourself. Also I have struggled with something similar and I wrote about it here: https://irisandoleander.wordpress.com/2016/03/25/if-he-complains-give-him-head/
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 09:27 PM
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Hi! Welcome 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 01:18 AM
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Hi! Welcome to the party. 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 01:17 AM
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Mariah Carey is suing me over this one. Whatever, my dad’s my lawyer too. Snort!
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:54 PM
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Dying reading this. LOL
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:52 PM
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Right, and you didn't know how they would respond -- OR you knew they would respond by yelling/scolding/dissapointed and you just wanted to talk to them about it because who else do you talk to as a kid?
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:47 PM
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Is it weird I read this and thought it also was good advice for dealing with children? Like my mom always had a rule - you can tell me anything, always, anytime. I'll pick you up no questioned asked in the middle of the night and you'll get 24 hours before we talk about whatever it was. Like, I just knew I could be honest with my mum and she wouldn't blow a gasket if she found out I was at a party with no parents - she would come get me because i felt uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:29 PM
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That Instagram account is awesome!
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:57 PM
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Yes, /u/mabeol needs llama flair too! lol
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:55 PM
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Love it - we need some Llama flair lol
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:53 PM
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LLAMA
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:48 PM
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This is going around facebook and has been highly entertaining for me, Mrs Uppity, and /u/whistling_dixie this morning. I totally got it right though - so I remain un-llamafied. Just changed my profile picture to a llama because I lost a challenge. Solve this riddle. If you're wrong, you're committing to put a picture of llama on your profile picture for 1 day. I really thought I had it, too... Answer me in pm so that others do not see the answer and can participate... It is 3 in the morning, yo…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:27 PM
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Lol sorry!!
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 06:41 PM
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Right, I think she's just looking for how to cook for two different diets at the same time with out making it too complicated.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 05:41 PM
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It's really just going to be about portion control. Don't make each other's plates. Serve yourself how much you can eat with your goals in mind and let him make his plate with how much he wants. Just focus on healthy dinners that have a variety of the food pyramid. But make sure he is aware of your goal and don't get bummed if whatever you make isn't enough and he goes for a snack later in the evening. You do you, let him do him.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 05:37 PM
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There is a difference between a woman who is raising kids, unmarried. And a Single Mom (TM) When a women's entire identity is wrapped up in being a Single Mom (TM) and she is using her kid for all the internet/society points, and leeches off the system because she's too much of a cunt to find a decent guy to partner up with - then that's annoying as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/16 08:32 PM
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YAY BABY! Congratulations! This is so exciting :)
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 08:12 PM
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Also, /r/holdmyjuicebox/
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 05:25 PM
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Whenever I'm sad I google Turtles eating strawberries - because HOW CAN YOU BE SAD LOOKING AT THIS!?!
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 04:44 PM
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I have no dating tips - because I kinda fell into my relationship with R and we're married and I never really did the dating thing and we're a horrible example of how to meet and date someone lol. But I will say you must must MUST read this thread on vetting potential men. A Comprehensive Guide To Vetting Men /u/Camille11325 and /u/PhantomDream09 are both mods who have amazing contributions to this sub. They put it together and it's chalk full of information you will want to digest.
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 02:59 PM
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Mom =/= personal assistant. I don't see anything wrong with being his "personal assistant". Think of it this way: you are removing weight from the shoulders of the man you love. I love being R's secretary! I take such pride into taking things off his plate and taking care of them so he doesn't even have to think about them. My husband's job is stressful and he rarely can make personal calls on company time, whereas I can easily call up the Drs office and schedule something. Her attitude needs to…
/r/RedPillWives11/12/16 11:13 PM
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Are you asking us to find a thread for you? I'm confused as to the purpose of your post.
/r/RedPillWives11/12/16 05:04 PM
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Taco Bell better not be messin' up my Baja!
/r/RedPillWives11/12/16 02:36 AM
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Also illegal to decapitate a woman.
/r/RedPillWives11/12/16 01:38 AM
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No! You can't call them snowflakes it's psychological abuse!! So said The Guardian. 😂
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 07:05 PM
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Well, did you make him a sandwich?
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 05:55 PM
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Apparently a fetus has more rights than you - did you know? How does that make you feeeeeel?
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 05:54 PM
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Engine is on, ignore this made me laugh way to hard.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 02:27 PM
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I agree with what she is saying. And I defiantly see where she is coming from. When I met R he was in a platonic friendship with his first HS girlfriend. She hasn't ever really left his life. So from day one I knew she existed and I accepted it earlier. So I guess in my situation there has always been a girl friend that my guy has to lean on when he needs a sounding board. I've always shared that with her. If she showed up like 6months into us dating I would view it very differently. But I've al…
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 02:12 AM
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I guess emotional affair is harder me to define - No, it wouldn't be okay but I'm not sure if I would equate it to cheating.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 08:19 PM
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Physical intimacy with another person.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 08:02 PM
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That's a good idea - I might do that. Maybe not for this year but next. Could probably get a place mat at the dollar store. I think I have a metal ruler somewhere I could use as a straight edge while cutting.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 03:29 PM
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Yes, of course. :) I use it all the time.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 03:22 PM
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I suppose I could - But I don't think I'm skilled enough to make it right. haha.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 03:09 PM
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I regret not buying a new one - the one they are selling now has 2 sizes to the openings, the one i have is version 1.0 and is all equal size/spacing. The holly is a really cute idea!
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 02:46 PM
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Okay, so I'm kicking off holiday card addressing tonight (because they are supose to arrive tonight) and THIS fancy fancy tool is my favorite thing and I really think you should all get it. My envelopes are so much prettier now that I have this and I get really creative in the way I address everyone's letters now. :)
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 01:52 PM
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Okay, so I'm kicking off holiday card addressing tonight (because they are supose to arrive tonight) and THIS fancy fancy tool is my favorite thing and I really think you should all get it. My envelopes are so much prettier now that I have this and I get really creative in the way I address everyone's letters now. :)
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 01:52 PM
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I'm in the Midwest I'll hire them 😂
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 11:07 PM
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capture the fun-loving spirit and process of courting. Courting is no longer a thing - it's not part of growing up - it's not part of young adult hood and that's why this generation is failing at finding real relationships that stem into successful marriages. Serial daters aren't even good at dating.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 05:06 PM
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wood shop to schools. Can we bring any trade classes back please!!!! We are losing a generation of young men who are not tradesmen. All my welders are old, and they will retire and then I'll have none :(
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 05:05 PM
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Tempy, this is a great find. I do love how well spoken she is. I like that she includes studies and links. Her videos are really polished. Also, she has really interesting things to say. I'm definitely going to subscribe to her channel.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 05:04 PM
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Read this article this morning: Dear Millennials, Please Stop Trying To Ruin This Classic Holiday Song I think this really boils down to 1, no-one can take a joke, and 2, no-one likes/wants/gets seduction anymore. I love playing coy and "hard to get" with my husband when I know he's aware of what's going on. It's not an always thing but it's fun. If this song were truly rapey, if she didn't want to stay she would have just been more vocal. She's cool with it. Its funny, it's flirty, stop ruining…
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 04:26 PM
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I did not date anyone I was not physically attracted to. I have never met a trans person I was physically attracted to. Dating someone you are not physically attracted to is a stupid idea.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 09:22 PM
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I don't understand why any woman has to defend her ring ever. Like - I'm not asking you to wear it! lol
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 05:07 PM
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I think we should all keep in mind though, that if a couple does want to bring in their new marriage with all the bells and whistles, that you shouldn't shame them either. Agreed. I have two friends who have CZ rings. One is a really sweet couple that always shows respect to each-other in and out of public. The other... doesn't. Having an inexpensive ring does not equal better. It's the gratitude and attitude toward the ring, dress, wedding, flowers, ect that are a better indicator of the relati…
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 05:05 PM
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I have tried it but I don't seem to do as well unless I have someone who can give me some active feedback. I think eventually I could get into journaling once i'm better at internalizing
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 06:44 PM
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I'm REALLY bad at the STFU method because I'm bad at processing internally, I like to talk something through with someone. So something R and I have been working on is that when this happens I have to start the conversation in a way that he will understand I'm just processing. "Babe, I'm mad that I'm mad at I need to say this before it boils up inside" and then he can set some time aside to let me talk. It's been helping because I am very emotional (ESFJ) and my emotions drive a lot of what I do…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 04:00 PM
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You are just coming across as very LARPy. Do you see how others see that?
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 08:53 PM
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Sorry, that is disgusting. If you sneeze into a napkin, cloth or paper, you need to throw that away. HAHA Ahhhhh-greeed!!!!
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 05:09 PM
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"Don't raise your voice, raise your argument" Or whatever that quote is --- very good point LG!
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 04:58 PM
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I really respect CHS because she takes on a very real world approach to feminism - take this paragraph for example: Feminism is drowning in myth-information. Advocates never tire of telling us that women are cheated out of nearly a quarter of their salary; that one in four college women is sexually assaulted, or that women are facing an epidemic of online abuse and violence. Such claims are hugely distorted, but they have been repeated so often that they have taken on the aura of truth. Workplac…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 03:59 PM
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It happened when he became a drama queen and blocked anyone that hurt his feelz 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/16 05:07 PM
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I don't follow him on twitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/16 04:59 PM
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I can get behind that idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/16 08:50 PM
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almost none of us married red pill guys though, so that part is rather true. And we wouldn't advocate marrying someone who acts the way most all terpers act.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/16 08:14 PM
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Oh my gosh those look yummy!!
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 02:04 PM
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So I'm hosting my annual cookie exchange this weekend - super excited. I'm making my traditional Cranberry Orange Cookies I found these when I was looking for holiday cookies that weren't chocolaty because my husband doesn't really get into sweets like I do and I wanted something he might enjoy. He loved them so I made them for my first exchange party and now I make them yearly. I'm also going to make a second cookie, just not sure what yet. Additionally the first two years I had a hot chocolate…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 01:34 PM
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There are a lot of comments haha. But others bring up limits and such. But I think we all know our husbands well enough the limit discussion has probably been had.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 01:41 AM
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If you read the comments there were some more suggestions like yours. One I liked was leave notes with numbers. The numbers coordinate to sealed envelopes in the couple's dresser. So if someone finds a note with 4 they won't think anything of it.... while the note on the dresser is like "surprise me in the shower tomorrow morning!" Haha
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 01:28 AM
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What value would you bring to his life as a housewife? Would you work until children come a long? Or would you want to be home all the time children or not?
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 08:47 PM
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Good book? I'll check it out :)
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 08:36 PM
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So something I've always thought about is how men are typically emotionally reactive while women are the ones who are emotionally proactive. I have never thought about it that way but it really makes sense!
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 07:38 PM
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yes! thank you! I'll read up on it :)
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 07:31 PM
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when he's showing love or excitement in his way This is good, I might steal this ;) But, I think that's part of it. We look at life through our own eyes, and compare things to our own way of thinking -- but when you can embrace him for who he is it just makes a more harmonious union.
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 07:24 PM
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You reminded me of a piece I read a while back about a teacher who would not allow boys in her classroom to play with legos IMGUR LINK. But what most progressives don't understand (or want to understand) is that girls and boys actually do play and learn and experience differently as children. Which Christina Hoff Sommers writes about here
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 06:29 PM
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I've been working on a piece about covert contracts for a while but haven't been able to form it into anything more than word vomit. It's not something we talk about often but perhaps could talk about more. A lot of times wives will do something and already have it in her head what the reaction will be. And if the reaction is not the same its upsetting, and her feelz are hurt. But it doesn't have to be that way. I think it's a trap I fall into often because I'm such an animated person and my hus…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 06:07 PM
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It's not uncommon to talk about long term goals on dates, no? I haven't dated in forever but I assume you could ask him where he wants to be in 5, 10 years in general family terms. Does he want a family ever? Etc. No reason to talk specifics but a simple "I come from a big family and I've always thought I'd end up having a family.... what about you?" But again I haven't dated in forever.
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 01:19 PM
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I'm assuming the holiday collection is a make up thing? We have some good make up and fashion threads you can find in rpw that you would probably enjoy 😊
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 01:16 PM
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Oh hi!! Welcome to RPW 😊
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 10:54 AM
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This is a trap my mother told me about because she does it. She martyrs herself for the good of the family. It's something I'm always on the look for because I am so like my mom. What I have found is I can't just pre schedule me time into the routine because our life is not routine enough. But when I need the time I must take it. You can't pour from an empty cup.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 11:44 PM
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Nothing yet. But I have a suspicion what will happen.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 09:31 PM
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Something could go wrong... you could start hating Rory. I still haven't watched Fall!!
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 09:20 PM
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Great story Kitten!! I gave my husband a big smile, like "this is what I wanted!" YAY!!!
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 07:52 PM
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If we are he's rather good at sneaking around HAHA
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 07:39 PM
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That's fantastic CQ!
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 08:40 PM
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Seconded - Plus I would make sure you are using a tracking app /u/chairman_mau5 (personally I like Ovia) where you can track your period, discharge, mood, and sexy time.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 04:25 PM
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Of course! https://irisandoleander.wordpress.com/
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 02:38 PM
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Of course, just because we have different roles doesn't mean we are little dictators of those realms. We also both acknowledge that roles change over time. Those are both really good points that I could probably one day expand on in a future post. Because R and I both work he does handle a good portion of the cleaning chores, but as our family changes and if we're blessed with a child and I'm home then I would take on more of that.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 02:33 PM
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Thanks :) I'm glad you liked it.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 02:32 PM
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While I take care of day to day finances R handles the long term planning, which requires a massive spreadsheet. One time he calculated the cost and payoff of buying new fancy light bulbs.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 01:42 AM
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My husband is alllllllll about the spreadsheets. Lol
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 01:35 AM
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Thanks Camille! ❤❤
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 12:04 AM
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Aww, our blogs use the same WordPress theme. Super cute! I'll have to check your articles out when I have more time. But to answer your question there are quite a few full time, part time, and future homemakers in this group.
/r/RedPillWives27/11/16 10:29 PM
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Just keep practicing!
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 09:10 PM
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Breakfast you wanna be speedy with so you aren't eating at noon. But for pizza dough, or bread, you have time to do it early in the day and bake in the evening
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 05:11 PM
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I think most time I would let it happen slowly, but this time was nice.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 04:54 PM
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So I made cinnamon rolls this morning. My mom's new oven has a bread proof setting! It's amazing the dough doubled in size in like a quarter of the time. I want it so bad! Also, rolls turned out awesome 😊
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 03:17 PM
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Good for you! Old habits die hard but it is the little victories that help you move forward in making a better relationship.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 08:12 PM
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The comment you were responding to - was about a concert - I'm confused how that relates to your comment. That's all.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 06:51 PM
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I saw - How does this relate to Eric Church?
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 06:48 PM
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For sure!!! We have shit seats but like whatever IT'S ERIC FREAKING CHURCH
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 05:47 PM
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We both keep updated Amazon wishlists - so I have an idea of what he wants and he knows exactly what I want. :) I say an idea of what he wants because his is a * wish * list lol. Like 700 car parts and 1200 tools haha. But it gives me an idea of any future projects he might have. Usually I try to do a few small items and one big item, i'm not really into making gifts but I have no idea what I'll do this year. Next year I might actually sit down and make him a quilt, which he's been wanting - we'…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 04:52 PM
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When you find a hairdresser you vibe with you hit the jackpot! I adore my girl she is fun and sassy and is always up for trying something a little new with my color. I have been every shade from brunette to red and inbetween. It's so fun to hit the salon and be like.... let's try this! R hasn't complained (yet) haha. Probably because coming home I have a boost in confidence and wanna show off all fun and flirty.
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 12:30 AM
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I don't feel this is true. Well, he feels this is true. And his feelings are 100% as valid as yours. Look, I don't always like doing what my husband likes. I don't get video games and the garage is cold when he's wrenching on a car in November. But! I love time with my husband. So I find a way to be a part of it. If he's playing Fallout I am looking up maps and cheat codes on my laptop to give him while looking up recipes on Pinterest. If he's working on the car I have a book and a blanket. Tomo…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/16 07:19 PM
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This year the entire family will be at my parents. And we are exchanging gifts for the first time in years (the siblings kinda stopped buying each other gifts while we all settled into adulthood). Shopping for my nieces has been so much fun. And while I can't wait to host my own thanksgiving one year I know it makes my mom really happy to host still and have all her girls home.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 08:03 PM
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Oh man those are fun, had a buddy who had a set - we would play it in the student union and just be obnoxiously loud haha
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 02:41 PM
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Thanks :) We have a big yard and throw a lot of summer parties.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 02:04 PM
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Your Flair!!!!! ::Heart eye emoji::
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 02:00 PM
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I'm pro choice because my sister was one of those women you hear about who ended up on the operating table with a baby inside that was killing its self --- People try to act like abortion is Black and White - but it's the most gray thing out there.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 08:03 PM
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i hate pinterest. the layout of it is so ugly. I hate the social aspect of pinterest - I just like having a place for my own stuff. I almost never pin from someone else. Most people have broken links and are just saving photos. i don't believe in astrology lol, good!
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 08:02 PM
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Having kids after 35 is borderline irresponsible. The potential for health problems rise and the older the parents the worse of a position the kid will be in growing up, and be preventably forced to deal with their parents mortality too young. I totally agree - This frustrates me as well. Like there are legitimate health care concerns that women want so badly to act like aren't there.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 07:59 PM
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That is so very sweet of you! Thank you. You put a huge smile on my face this morning.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 10:56 AM
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Dude we're turning into real life besties I was dying laughing at your facebook last night. 😂
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 10:55 AM
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Great find Camille!
/r/RedPillWives13/11/16 12:38 AM
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Well then there is Barbra... https://imgur.com/PK6YiDr ... first woman to be I'm charge of the construction of a NY skyrise. Aka Trump Tower. She has openly said she was picked by Trump. So yeah, Trump hates all women.
/r/RedPillWives11/11/16 11:07 AM
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Nobody has a perfect anybody. It is not easier for everyone else but you. This is an excuse and feeling sorry for yourself will only sour your disposition further. OP needs to remember that you just see people's highlight reels, you miss like 75% of their story. People don't hang photos of bad times on the wall
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 08:12 PM
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Oh my gosh that's so cute! I love it
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 05:22 PM
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She said he wants to cuddle as she falls asleep - which can be challenging for some people. I love cuddling in the mornings, and I don't mind a bit of brief cuddling when we first lie down, but once it's time to actually fall asleep, the DH wants to remain cuddling or spooning, and I have to move away.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 08:52 PM
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Great advice - R is the same!!! and I'm very similar to you /u/StillTraveling I bet your husband's Love Language is touch.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 05:12 PM
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Perfect! 😍
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 07:40 PM
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Still gonna taste good!!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 06:10 PM
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Psh they will still be yummy. Make like double the icing 😂 that's the best part anyone.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 06:06 PM
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They should be okay. As long as they did some rising they won't be terrible 😊 happy thoughts!!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 06:00 PM
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Oh no! What happened?
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 05:56 PM
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went to an international stout day celebration at a local brewery last night you, I like you
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 04:23 PM
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I want to watch TV, cook clean etc. sort of noisy things. He tells me "don't worry about me just do them," but of course I'm not going to put on TV when he's 8 feet away laying in bed. Why not listen to him? You are making yourself into a bit of a martyr. He said do it, so do it. See what happens. Eventually after he's been asleep 7-8 hours, I try to wake him up. We just got in a bit of a fight, because he wasn't ready. Does he have an alarm? Does he expect you to be his alarm?
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 09:59 AM
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YAY!!!! Oh I'm so excited for you!
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 01:24 AM
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Hi Rollo. 😊 Have you had any pets that were not greyhounds?
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 09:18 PM
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Yes, years and years ago I vented to a friend. Because of that she stuck her nose so far into my relationship I cut her out of my life completely. It was an extreme case. (she seriously asking on a regular basis why I hadn't broken up with R.) I couldn't have her around any longer If she keeps bringing it up politely change the subject - if she doesn't get the hint you could say something like "I appreciate when you are a friendly ear to let me vent but I need you to understand that I have heard…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 04:22 PM
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I'll second you - mommas seem to have an instinct about these thing, I'll bet you have a girl :)
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 06:20 PM
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Oh that's brilliant! IDK if I could do mine - Was strappless, would probably need shoulder cover. Will consult fellow DAR gal
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 06:26 PM
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My tattoo is my husband's fat insurance. He was like "the day your tattoo gets stretched out I'm leaving ya"
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 05:52 PM
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Okay! I kinda love this idea! It's kind of a fat insurance - like can you still squeeze into your dress 5 years later ;) A friend of a friend of mine had her dress altered into a party dress length, and she does wear it every year around her anniversary. So that's an option for some girls :)
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 05:42 PM
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Good for you CL! Being that rock at a moments notice is something every one needs to be at some point in a serious relationship.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 03:57 PM
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a dead bedroom for almost the entire relationship. Why still be together? there are 7billion people on the planet
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 03:01 PM
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Your comment on MRP makes quite the statement though. Not all men are good and responsible spenders. If it was not for me we would be in the poor house by now. My Husband overspends constantly. But my voice is unheard.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 02:24 PM
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General Question: Why are men and also some women so eager to get the newest electronic device? My Partner has a iPad Air 2 so why does he need the iPad pro in the same size? R is the same way - He's always been this way. I don't try to change it. Plus it's his money & he out earns me by like 3x. So I live with it. Why do you think it's bothering you so much?
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 01:48 PM
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I'm just cranky because I don't gloat when MSU is doing better than UofM, but now of course... UofM fans being asshats as always cause my Spartans are in a rough patch. Like oh my gosh UofM you sucked the last HOW many years?!?
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 01:40 PM
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LOL, cause R finds it boooorrrring. BUT THE LIONS WON!!! WHHHAAAATTTT?!???! and the Spartans lost. :( :(
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 01:30 PM
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Good: The Cubs are going to the World Series! Why am I not shocked (I'm cracking up at my desk) that this is the first thing you say <3 <3
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 01:22 PM
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My goal is to have it pinned and ready to quilt tonight - maybe I can get to it early. We'll see the shower is on the 6th.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 01:22 PM
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The good - I stuck with a project and finished as much as I said I would finish in a weekend! Baby Blanket I planned to do the entire quilt top so next week I could do the actual quilting portion next weekend and still have a few days before the shower in case something comes up. It's like the silliest thing to be proud of because it's such a small goal and I really just wanted to be upstairs binge watching my new TV show but I stuck to it and I finished it in the time I gave myself. :)
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 01:12 PM
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Finally, why in the flying fuck are you comparing your man to how others would like to be in his position. That is the most narcissistic shit I've read in a while. Quite frankly if your man knew you felt like that he would be so right to leave you. Because she doesn't want her man, she wants those men. She just isn't accepting that.
/r/RedPillWives23/10/16 05:57 PM
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Yeah that is way more complex than I would do. Lol. My mom knows women who do quilts like that and they are always so freaking gorgeous.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/16 10:26 PM
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The quilts I make are hella simple. But they look kinda fancy. Lol. Buying precut fabric helps a lot
/r/RedPillWives22/10/16 10:16 PM
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I've been sewing today. Pics up on my twitter. The apron I started literally 2 years ago. It had a few elements I had never done and I just kept putting it to the side. But I finally cranked out a good portion of it on my husband's last business trip. Since then it was just waiting on pockets. Wrapped those up today. My sorority sister announced her pregnancy in the form of a shower invite so I looked over her registry and while I couldn't tell girl or boy there were lots of pieces with animals …
/r/RedPillWives22/10/16 09:51 PM
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I suck at self improvement. Really - quite badly - Like, everything I do I gotta be doing FOR someone. Accountability to myself I have none. Accountability to others I'm all over that shit! so..... that's my struggle.
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 07:11 PM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 03:59 PM
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Are you both on the Keto diet?
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 11:29 PM
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I'mma steal this idea ❤
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 11:28 PM
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Light role play - Go separately to the restaurant and treat it like a first date. Get all dolled up, send some playfully nervous texts from work ahead of time, have fun with it. Then let him talk you into going back to his place for dessert :)
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 05:27 PM
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Oh.... why don't I ever think to do that first.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 08:15 PM
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Do you have an active bedroom life? No And this is why we have you answers the questions ;) Please elaborate - what's up, why's it not active? I bet the women here can help you get to the bottom of what's going on.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 07:48 PM
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HI HI! Please see Community Rules #3 :) All users seeking advice must Answer These Questions. Posts will be removed until they include the necessary information. But, one thing I found really helpful is sitting down at the dinner table with R and saying - will you please tell me exactly what you understand has been delegated to me. We wrote a list. It was actually part of a home making class. From that point forward I owned those items. So perhaps that would help?
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 06:17 PM
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littleeggwyf, thank you for sharing, It's small videos like this that are easier for my non-3rd wave feminist friends to ingest and it makes them think. For example - women are out performing men in college. So my team-women friends can look at this and kind of wake up a bit. Thinking maybe it's not so bad for ALL women and just SOME women. I know we say "The first rule of fight club is...." But that doesn't mean you don't get to talk about feminism at all with your friends. You just need to lea…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 01:51 PM
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Happy to! http://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a49383/apple-crisp-cookie-cups-recipe/ I store them in the fridge and then microwave for like 15-20 seconds (for 1) and plop a small scoop of icecream on top. :)
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 05:19 PM
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We went apple picking a few weeks ago -- I made so much food with them. Apple sauce, apple pie, apple butter, this funky cookie thing :) I'd go again if I had the time
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 05:04 PM
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I quilt and I tutor students on the side - those are my hobbies. One to make money and one to spend money :)
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 04:02 PM
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Oooh something different!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 12:00 PM
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Why are we all cherries!! 🍒🍒🍒🍒
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 03:36 AM
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Yay!!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 02:36 AM
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Me too!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 02:08 AM
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Cherry. I'll take it. We, in Michigan, have the best cherries. 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 02:08 AM
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Our house is always bright/Energy. So when he needs a calming night because work was too much, or life is becoming a bit much then yeah - warm/soft/relaxing.
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 07:38 PM
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I need to be able to move - I usually wear capri length yoga pants with a long tanktop and sports bra with tennisshoes. I was thinking I could put together a rainbow bright thing. Ponytail, T-shirt skirt over shorts and leg warmers
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 07:31 PM
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OMG!!! Okay On wednesdays we wear pink I go to a fun fitness class - we are encouraged to wear costumes the week of halloween. WHAT SHOULD I WEAR?!? Gotta be able to work out in it
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 06:00 PM
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You joke but some countries kids have like 4 names to express their family history. I get all thrown off doing visas unless they explicitly fill out the forms with all 4 names
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/16 05:34 PM
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Not as much anymore - but yes it was extremely common at one point, now it's more like 50-50 of the girls changing their last name.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/16 05:33 PM
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Totally agree. My sister washes her husband's biking shorts in vinegar. Helps a lot.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 10:37 PM
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LOL, perfect gif!!!
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:36 PM
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Really?!?1 UGHHH
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:29 PM
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On other topics - outside of sex/bedroom, are you two good at communicating with each other. When other drama sneaks into the relationship can you confide in him and seek his wisdom? Or do you become easily emotional during conversations when you are talking about important topics?
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:21 PM
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There is so much of that here :(
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:18 PM
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Very true! You need a DR that's not just going to say oh I give all my patients abc drug - which mine did :/
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:15 PM
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True, it definitely can have good effects. Maybe I just live in an area where it's over prescribed. I hear about all these women who are like - I was perfectly normal, and regular, went on BC so we could have all the sex and now XYZ are all messed up with me.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:10 PM
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the pill is effing stupid. I get why many women are on it, but over all it's like the dumbest thing.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:59 PM
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So you have 2 kids with a man you aren't even married to?? Well that adds a level of more fuckedupness IMO I'm confused - she said Husband, but they aren't married? More caffeine is needed
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:55 PM
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Not a marriage yet. We wanted to marry when my Body started acting up. I called it of because I wanted to start marriage right. Oh Lord!
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:53 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:51 PM
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I legit read that like - he was taking walks to be alone at night. It's too early - perhaps I need coffee. lol
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:46 PM
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What app are you using?
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:39 PM
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Omg! Is that what nightwalkers are??? I've never heard that phrase before! EEK! No wonder I was like -- something is missing here.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:29 PM
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There has got to be more to this story - you may be withholding it, you may not be aware of it. But there has go to be more. Did you leave anything out - Jobs, Family situation, what other forces are their on your marriage?
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 12:18 PM
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"And the problem is, what I want to eat in the moment is different than what I want to have eaten. What we want to do in the moment is different than what we want to have done by the end of the day" Agreed with CQ - this is about discipline. Here is what works for me - I write a focus list of 6 items I want to get done each day. Just 6. My big 6. Could be lots of things. But these are the 6 items I get done. Most nights I create the list before bed, sometimes I do it in the morning. This is my f…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 07:43 PM
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OH! don't you hate when you just kinda spit out a sentance and it's way worse once you say it? Ugh, I kick myself when I do that
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:54 PM
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oh my gosh!!! Those are awesome
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:46 PM
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haha, I hear ya! I'm ridiculous in kitchen stores
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:43 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:40 PM
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to live in New England Can I visit :0)
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:39 PM
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Oh, yes! I saw that this morning, great post and good discussion
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:39 PM
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IT'S THE BEST THING EVER GIRL!!!! OMG GET ONE!!!! Mine is like this https://www.amazon.com/Polder-362-90-Digital--Oven-Thermometer/dp/B0000CF5MT/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1476207181&sr=8-5&keywords=in+oven+thermometer Actually this is the one I have. https://www.amazon.com/Polder-In-Oven-Silver-Thermometer/dp/B0051UQDFA/ref=sr_1_26?s=kitchen&srs=2598712011&ie=UTF8&qid=1476207250&sr=1-26
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:33 PM
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That one time I undercooked a roast chicken. Do you have an in-oven thermometer?
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:26 PM
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we toss it and order a pizza. This seems universal LOL Do you break up your pinterest boards - Like I have one for recipes I want to try, and one for the recipes I have tried with my notes.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:25 PM
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Thank you to /u/whistling_dixie for helping me prep this piece. The two examples are mine(ish) - so I'll share my story today as well :) Edit - so this is mine - this is a comment I made on my old RPW account that sometimes I have to reread to myself because I am someone who catches herself topping from the bottom. when I first started reading RPW I got really hung up on "what do you want for dinner - why wont YOU pick" My husband just doesn't like picking dinner. He has other things on his mind…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:24 PM
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The proper RPW way would of course be fine china, always let him carve the roast, and don't smudge your official RPW pink lipstick on your glass of sparkling water ;) But for realz -- Dinner is chill at my house, just us two. We sit at the table for meals often, but sometimes we cheat and we sit in front of the TV (horrible habit I am working to break!). I love to cook so if I stuck to the same 10 meals I would go a little crazy so I rotate fan favorites with new recipes. Last night was Pork Cut…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 04:43 PM
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If she's familiar with the sub and wants advice, she should come over here and post. What's with the uptick of these? My [friend, cousin, wife] found this sub and LOVES IT! I have a bunch of question on her behalf? umm.... k? Okay - not really that many, this is the second I've seen though. Silly
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 04:15 PM
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Now, another part of the red pill is realising that you can't change anyone else, she can't change him or ask him to change. But she can change herself, she can change the way she communicates with him and how she handles herself. He should want to please her, he should want to make her happy, and that cannot be forced. This is probably the hardest part new RPWers seem to grasp. Just because you are improving he may not change, improve, or grow. He is who he is, and you have to love exactly who …
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 04:14 PM
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lol, it would help if I used the right reddit account :) no1 -- yes! excellent :D
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 03:42 PM
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1 - I'm grateful for medical science - as many of you know (cause i'm tweeting about it, and IRC) my sister is in the hospital. And I have a lot of mixed emotions about the whole situation. But I'm grateful for doctors who are there, and helping, and searching for a diagnosis so she can become well again. 2 - I'm grateful for pleasant customer service people. I actually hate making phone calls to call centers and it's so nice when the person who answers is helpful, and willing to listen to me be…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 03:41 PM
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I would have her start here - The Ultimate List of Podcasts for Homeschooling and Homemaking Moms
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 09:43 PM
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Is she Christian? Because there are a slew of homemaking, femininity, traditional living podcasts. I don't know any that are free of religion though, sorry. If she wants anti-feminist information for that you start with Based Mom, Christina Sommers. Google "the factual feminist" sorry on mobile I can't do links well.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 06:58 PM
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This is a great post to bring back up. I remember when it was originally posted! I always struggle with leaving him alone because I get bored at home alone so I try to give myself a project I can do and be excited/proud to show him when he gets home. (Or the next morning)
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 10:44 PM
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I agree. The relationship is different once you marry. But at the same time. I know my boundaries and what I do and don't need to loop him into...and when I need to loop him in. So you do eventually just find a happy medium. 😊
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 09:48 PM
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Let's make this weekly. Can we do that?
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 02:55 AM
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I am grateful for good friends, one couple I had dinner tonight with I had not seen since the fall. I am grateful for a husband who drives me all over. To see these friends. Who let's me plan an entire vacation in another state just to see my friends for dinner once. I am grateful for technology which let me reconnect with this girl after we graduated college and hadn't seen/talked to each other in 4 years and now she is one of my best and dearest friends 😊
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 02:55 AM
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I don't really get video games, or enjoy playing them. So this is a way I can still be part of the fun.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 02:02 PM
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Hi Ealanor! Welcome back. 😊
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 12:34 PM
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Welcome! Hugs all around. 😆
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 12:33 PM
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Hi Lollie! Welcome to RPWi. So happy to have you. 😊
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 12:32 PM
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You are a ying, find your yang.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 01:58 AM
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My husband, when playing video games, enjoys when I join him too. 😊 I look up cheat codes, or find things he needs to collect in fall out 4.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 10:27 PM
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haha, but the picture totally worked! I was noticing when the twitter account picked it up and it was a self post that had a link twitter pulled the photo from the link. Makes it stand out more with a picture :) I've supported him by listening to him plan things, but mostly I've supported him by not rushing in and taking over the project, LOL! I'm like the opposite - I need to learn to include him on the projects he wants to be included on
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 03:13 PM
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According to him, I've helped him break the ice with some of his co-workers by sending him off with Christmas cookies or some kind of snacks or the tub of homemade hummus. This is wonderful!! I try not to send too many sweets because I know some of his co-workers dietary concerns but I do enjoy sending baked goods :)
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 03:11 PM
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Ooh yes. We watched through breaking bad. Haven't seen the other one. I will have to put it on the list 😊
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 10:55 AM
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Right now R's mission is a pretty stress free life before the crazy of babies starts. We had a few rocky years with the loss of his mom and the crazy of house/wedding. So while not all rocky is bad he's ready for a bit of boring right now. So that's his current short term mission. I support him similarly to Camille - I take care of so much at home so he doesn't need to think about it. I also handle day to day finances. I manage the cash flow for all the regular bills, (long term planing he handl…
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 07:29 PM
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The hate on Ivanka drives me nuts -- she is truly a woman who has it all. She's smart, she runs a successful business, she's poised, she's charming, and on top of that a great mom and beautiful person. 9 times out of 10 the first thing someone will say is -- well that's easy when you're born with a silver spoon in your mouth. So her accomplishments truly mean nothing? UGH! And TBP can hate on me - but I really would love to go shopping with her!!! I get her subscription emails and her fashion is…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 06:05 PM
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I think pearls are the most used gem for sororities, lol
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 03:18 PM
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Mine too :D
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 02:52 PM
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I wanted to comment because I like your username :) I agree with the other ladies who have posted. I think your best bet is to get up, get dress, go to church, and observe. Let him take the lead. If people as questions don't beat around the bush, but also don't elaborate more than you have to. Depending on the size of the church you may find a few new friends so do keep an open mind.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 12:47 PM
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We had this thing in college that every time we stopped to get gas we had to buy chewing gum. And we had really in depth conversations about which ones were better and why lol
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 09:38 PM
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Simmer pots are my go-to right before parties! Just have to be aware they make the kitchen super warm. Also don't let them boil dry.... then things burn Not that Iris has ever done that.... twice...
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 04:48 PM
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it's interrupting his goal This is so important to keep in mind.
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 01:14 AM
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It's not an article with a ton of substance but it is quality advice. And yes please ladies if I don't follow you on twitter hit me up! I am happy to follow any of you back. 😊😊
/r/RedPillWives24/09/16 12:54 PM
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You're welcome. 😊 our attitude was we are throwing a party and we want everyone to enjoy it. It wasn't "our" day. We wanted everyone to have fun. And we were told by lots of people they felt wanted. Our guests were like the main focus when we planned. I think that made a noticeable difference.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/16 11:14 AM
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Yeah I am the best at shutting up in the car - nagging it's going to help when traffic is lame and making him hot headed.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 06:30 PM
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I think it really depends on the how/where/when/why In public, I'm on his side. NO MATTER WHAT. I married a good man. I'm going to stand by his side --- but we may have a chat at home when we are in private. I do not always tell him how I feel, it depends on a lot of things. The other night my husband blew a gasket talking to the car dealer. I did not bring it up at home because it would not change how anything went and I totally understood why he did what he did. There was a time when he offend…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 06:29 PM
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Both the femininity and appearance of perfection --- but that's the POINT, it's digital art, it should be this fantasy perfection.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 04:46 PM
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I think destination weddings can be so lovely. My biggest pet peeve though was when a friend got mad so many people RSVPed no --- I think brides just need to go into it knowing it may be smaller.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 12:58 PM
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Lovely share!!
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 12:55 PM
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I love wedding planning :) I'm going to throw a lot of thoughts out there now and clean up later. Note - I'm in the states, so some of this may be culturally different then you :) Bugeting R and i had a rule with our parents, we are paying. If you would like to contribute please let us know. If we ask you to help (for example, my parents paid for the dessert) then you will be very involved with that decision (my parents went to the tasting, it was fun). guest list With the exception of some cous…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 07:35 PM
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15k, 100 people. Between my parents and his grandma we were more or less covered.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 07:18 PM
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Nope. You don't ask anything, it's his gift, a symbol of his love Holy shit would my ring be huge if he had
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 07:17 PM
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Congrats on your dating anniversary!!!! :D Glad you liked the piece.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 03:03 PM
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Do it! Celebrate it all! :)
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 03:03 PM
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I like using the washing machine and dryer as timers. But certainly longer chunks of time.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 02:52 PM
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What I found thought provoking in this piece was the way she adjusted her attitude toward a chore she generally disliked. After realizing what a mood lift I got from nesting, it dawned on me that it’s something I have been denying myself, another piece of the feminist narrative it’s high time to discard. There’s nothing “wrong” or “demeaning” in nesting. Quite the opposite — it’s surprisingly deeply gratifying. Nurturing — both to myself and others. There are chores I really do not like, but I d…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 11:44 PM
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I like when my husband points out ways I've matured/grown, it's nice that someone else sees my progress :)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 05:24 PM
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ummm.... Like last night ;) haha
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 05:21 PM
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For R, he likes that I know how to dress for whatever it is that we're doing. If we're going to the gun range on a day date I'm not in a sundress and sandals, but riding boots, jeans and a cute sweater - layers since we are outside. If our day date is the zoo then it's a great opportunity to throw on the sundress and walk-able sandals. So many women flop when it comes to dressing for the event. There is a time and a place for lots of outfits sounds like something you grasp and your husband appre…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 02:04 PM
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Ditto. Ignorance would be fun I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:45 AM
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1) age: late 20s 2) race: White, Northern European. Heavily freckled 3) Area of the world you're from: Detroit ish. 4) Marital status: married 5) Religious affiliation growing up, and currently: Christian/faith based healing.... not anymore. 6) Class status growing up: working/middle class 7) Current class status: middle class 8) Highest educational attainment: bachelor's in architecture
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:46 PM
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One problem is definitely women dating someone their own age. Where as, like you said, open the pool to slightly older men and you find marriage minded men.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 10:03 PM
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I think the general disregard for nature and biology is one of my biggest pet peeves with feminism. We, as women, are pushed into college and then with all this debt we can't "afford" to have kids.... 10 years when we are finally 38 and debt free we struggle to get pregnant. We are screwing the next generation so we can screw around.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 08:16 PM
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Now you have me thinking. Class could cause tension in the money management department. How they view money and spend/save money. Wouldn't affect all couples but many I am sure. Saw a post in /relationships. Mega wealthy GF, lower middle class BF. The guy was posting about how she always wants to take these extravagant trips. She never asks him to chip in but he feels uncomfortable because he was raised to chip in. People responded about similar stories. But also about how GF probably doesn't se…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 10:23 AM
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You're better off marrying someone from a similar culture and class. This is something I don't think people realize will have so much affect on their marriage. While you can talk in hypothetical about raising children once you start raising them if the two of you have different cultures you may start realizing how they clash. I have a friend, she married someone with a different faith and while in the beginning they agreed we're going to raise our kids in faith A, now that the child is older, an…
/r/RedPillWives15/09/16 01:58 PM
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kiiiiinda, It helps that I never really came into seeing/dating anyone with a comedic last name. So I never had to really think about it. I'm a genealogist, so women changing their name is sacred to me. My husband's last name is interesting, rare, fun, has a great family story. So I was thrilled but it wasn't like a deciding factor to pursue him lol
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 02:40 PM
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Reading up on MBTI has really changed how I strike up conversations with him. I try to think up all the questions he might ask before I approach the subject so I have more facts ahead of time. Has made things a lot easier, I think. Additionally I've stopped asking him "How was your day" because I would just get frustrated when he said "fine" instead I keep mental note of what meetings he has. "How was your meeting with X" gets him talking more at dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/16 07:29 PM
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I found it really helpful to see the differences between my husband and I... outside of male/female sexual dynamics. He's INTP, I'm ESFJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/16 07:15 PM
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naw, I know a few girls that are ISFJs :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/16 07:07 PM
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ESFJ!! You say potato, I say I love potatoes, especially fried. Oh, you like them baked? Yes, I agree baked is better. I'll make you some XD Because nothing says achievement quite like an MRS degree!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/16 06:54 PM
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you are letting your relationship tarnish just so you can pretend to shine it later. I LOVE THIS! So many women seem to do this. Maybe it's a bit of a victim status thing. Like... oh my relationship was falling but I FIXED IT GO ME!!
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 04:14 PM
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You can freeze a water bottle and use it as his ice pack and beverage at the same time. When he gets to lunch it will be melting. But any insulated lunch box should work. I'm a big fan of Rubbermaid blox. You can get them on Amazon. Has a bento box vibe.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 12:28 PM
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Oh it was a joke from an earlier comment. Thank you though. ❤
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 11:49 AM
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I love kids and have thought about it... maybe when my kids are school age.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 02:51 AM
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Yeah my friend told me about 1 site she makes money with. You just take a series of tests, if you pass you are in. Just wondering if others had ideas though.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 11:43 PM
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Oh yes, thank you!
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 11:35 PM
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No babies. Want to start doing something on the side before I even get pregnant. So.... eventually infant
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 10:18 PM
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Going simple tonight. Hot dogs and grilled zucchini. We try not go to out on week nights because we almost always go out at least 1 time on a weekend. Tomorrow is a group lunch out for a friend's birthday.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 10:10 PM
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What a fun factoid Sun! Has anyone read Astronaut Wives Club? When one of the astronauts steps out and eventually divorces his wife his 2nd wife is the mistress, the club would have NONE of it. They were completely cold to this girl. As they moved out of the 60s and into the 70s more couples divorced (high stress jobs, plus divorce was becoming less shunned) and each time they said mistresses who become wives would not be tolerated in the Wives's Club. It was a way to show the husbands we will n…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 06:06 PM
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I do that too!!!! "Realistic Dream Home" and "Dream Home" lol
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 05:58 PM
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makes sense, thanks Camille!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 03:31 PM
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Well none of us are perfect :o)
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 03:09 PM
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Cassie, What a tough topic. I'm sorry you had that darkness in your past but I'm so happy you have found a good place to be. Are you still seeing a counselor/therapist? (Assuming you were) I had a few friends in college who silently self harmed and I know the struggles now in their adult life is still very real. So I wish you all the best! As for topic of when to tell. I agree with Cooch very much. It will slowly come out, when it does just lay it out there. But you don't need to force the conve…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 02:50 PM
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I'll fan girl over Lana any day of the week!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 07:00 PM
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As an old post wall hag I do love the fall because things like my DAR meetings and local book clubs are typically school year based. So I am seeing so many ladies I haven't seen since May. It's wonderful! Fall is a great time to find local activities, such as book clubs, to get more involved in your community if you are no longer a student. Check with your local library or community centers.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 06:47 PM
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Pretty much. I track. I plan accordingly. I don't let it become an excuse.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 02:23 AM
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OMG I'm freaking addicted to twitter. I can always be found there I need a baby... and like a purpose in life 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 12:35 AM
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Any of our book club threads will have some good reading. The last one is here: https://m.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4qgt9z/fascinating_womanhood_discussion/?sort=confidence&utm_source=mweb_redirect&compact=true
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 05:53 PM
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This is the last one we did.... https://m.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4qgt9z/fascinating_womanhood_discussion/?sort=confidence&utm_source=mweb_redirect&compact=true
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 05:18 PM
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Every few months we pick a book for discussion. I'm on mobile but I think it's explained on the side bar. 😊
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 04:55 PM
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Has anyone read her book? A choice not an Echo. Perhaps an option for the next book club?
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 01:42 AM
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Hmm. I think things like home decorating is really dependent on disposable income. So start with listing your combined income than deduct the debt and staple bills (rent, electric, internet, etc) and see what you have left.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 12:06 AM
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A lot of home decorating comes in time. Do you want to paint. Pick out some paint chips, that's an easy budget line because paint covers X square feet. So you can get an idea of how much to paint. Then take your paint chip around some home good stores and look at different lamps, throw pillows, take photos with your phone and note their price. Throw them onto a design board of sorts using paint or illustrator. Hell even just putting all the photos on Microsoft publisher. Honestly my house will k…
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 09:33 PM
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Now we have this thing where we say "I really like you". Because it's a given we love each other but sometimes you have to be reminded I like you, crush on you, you make me blush, and my palms sweaty. So we say "I like you" it's flirty and fun for us.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:37 PM
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Aww that's actually a really sweet story
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:12 PM
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I said it beyond too early. Like Ted Mosby style. I'm not sure I remember the first time he said it but I know when he got close. He would say "I love .............. hanging out with you" and like I knew what he meant. But he couldn't say it yet. So it kinda became a thing for a little while.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:11 PM
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There is a really great interior design subreddit you might wish to lurk around. I am horrible at decorating and get lots of ideas there.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 02:14 PM
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