Stalling For Time

blushinglilly · 2016-09-16T20:45:56+00:00

One of the lines of thinking brought out in this article really bugs me is the complaint frequently made in feminist leaning articles that men in their 20s and 30s don't want to settle down, so therefore single women in their 20s and 30s are doomed to be single for ever.

First of all lots of the men I knew in my 20s, married in their 20s. They weren't bums either, they were university educated employed men. I don't live in some weird nether world time warp, I live in a pretty modern and normal place. This is normal.

Secondly if you want a marriage minded man why not restrict your dating pool to men who are over 30 and in that mindset? I did that and when I was dating I saw hundreds of profiles of marriage minded men over 30, perfectly nice and suitable men. They are out there in huge numbers.

And finally don't wait for a man to be over 40 for him to want to marry you. In my view if he doesn't want to marry before he's 40, he's unlikely to want to marry after he's 40.

I have/had very low SMV and I still managed to meet more then one man who was interested in marriage and interested in me. Marriage in your 20s or 30s is achievable even if you are pretty ugly like me.

I know this wasn't the main reason you posted this, but it was just something that stuck out that really bugged me because it's just not true or fair in my opinion.

Irisandoleander · 2016-09-16T20:16:32+00:00

I think the general disregard for nature and biology is one of my biggest pet peeves with feminism.

We, as women, are pushed into college and then with all this debt we can't "afford" to have kids.... 10 years when we are finally 38 and debt free we struggle to get pregnant.

We are screwing the next generation so we can screw around.

am3liia · 2016-09-19T16:37:36+00:00

Call me a cynic, but I think if a woman’s had a cancer serious enough to warrant chemotherapy I’m not sure her capacity to conceive a child is really her most important concern.

So I am actually a cancer survivor who did fertility treatments (I froze eggs and took drugs during chemo to protect my ovaries). It’s absolutely something doctors take very seriously, especially because lots of cancers that are serious enough to be treated with chemo still have cure rates above 90%. I am very glad that doctors take fertility concerns seriously!

That being said, the fact that women opt to go through this stuff instead of just the natural way really bothers me. Fertility treatments are painful, tedious, expensive, and often risky for both the mother and the baby.

I had tons of visits with the fertility specialist during the weeks that we were preparing to remove my eggs, and I asked him a lot of questions. He did say he treats a lot of women with biological fertility issues, or medical issues like mine, but that a lot of his patients were just older women having problems conceiving or freezing eggs for later. Even the number of eggs they are able to remove depends on your age - as an example, I had 41 removed. His clinics average is 9-12, and he said a woman in her 40s may only be able to remove 2-4. Each cycle of IVF costs about $15,000. If a woman can’t give a lot of eggs, and none of them take, she may have to do multiple cycles. On top of the cost, there is a lot of work done before the removal. You have a few weeks of 2-4 at home injections a day and ultrasounds every few days.

Having children is something women should really think about and consider when making life decisions. If having healthy children is a priority, your career shouldn’t interfere. The majority of women can find someone great to settle down with in their 20s. I can’t imaging risking the health of myself and my future baby just because I wanted to sleep around and party for decades. If you want to have marriage and kids, it should a priority instead of a second thought to everything else in life.

aTweetingBird · 2016-09-17T01:32:06+00:00

Here I am, pregnant at 29 with my first, and worrying about how many more I can pop out before 35, and women are waiting until close to 40 to have their first!? Yikes!

I really hate the "I can have it all" attitude. I really feel like the children suffer when a woman puts her career first. I'm just glad I saw Motherhood as my career and pursued that with all my might!

Jeanwulf · 2016-09-18T19:36:40+00:00

OH NO WOMEN WANTING TO FIGHT NATURE.

MEN NEVER DO THIS.

Apart from alchemy, buildings that are used as records of person existing, literature, medicine....

People need to calm down about women fighting for their best interests. Men pursue their own interests so why cant women?

Why is nature held so high that fighting it is bad?

Hypergamy is bith masculine and feminine trait. Its literally ambition.

Title	Stalling For Time
Author	Camille11325
Upvotes	5
Comments	29
Date	September 16, 2016 7:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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