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Welcome to SF. It's easy here. Honestly. Stop giving a shit. Also, stop peacocking. It's a crutch. You're interesting enough without the blingy shit. Act like it.
/r/seduction17/11/14 04:24 AM
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I never said my life is hard. It's great.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:30 PM
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Thanks for the congrats! So here's what I've realized... It's tough with a language barrier. Nuanced flirting, subtle body language, and euphemism often will not even come close to cutting it. So shift gears. Focus on shared experiences. Put yourself in situations where you're not just having a drink and a chat. Go to an aquarium, go dancing, do anything where you don't have to talk the whole time. Body language becomes key. Kino is everything. Moreover, when you do talk, be direct, and keep it …
/r/seduction10/09/14 11:46 PM
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Pick up is anyone's game. I started out because I wanted to attract women. Turns out it helped change my life in a lot of other positive aspects, and I've been focused on that, primarily, as of late. But there's nothing wrong with being single and having fun at any age. Why do you think after 29 you need to stop doing whatever makes you happy?
/r/seduction10/09/14 11:42 PM
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Yeah I agree. I'm willing to risk getting hurt here. To me, the risk is worth the potential reward. And I'm ready for it. Thanks for the kind words.
/r/seduction10/09/14 11:40 PM
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Not unhappy in the least, just moving on in a way.
/r/seduction10/09/14 07:48 PM
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Maybe what you're discovering is that women can't make you happy or fulfilled. Take some time to reflect on what really makes you happy. Not what I'm saying at all. I don't need women to make me happy at all. I'm already happy. I'm just over sleeping with a new woman every other night. If fulfillment is where you are lacking, and women aren't helping, you need to shift focus. You are winning the battle while ignoring the war, at this point. I don't think you understand, I'm fulfilled in every wa…
/r/seduction10/09/14 07:33 PM
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I'm not whining. I'm venting. And I'm sharing a bit of my story. Here's some unsolicited advice: stop being negative. It's unbecoming in any situation.
/r/seduction10/09/14 07:30 PM
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Ha, thanks for jogging my memory on that last bit. Great words, great advice!
/r/seduction10/09/14 02:28 PM
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I guess. I can only speak for myself, and my initial goal was never to find that. My goal was to be more confident, to inspire others, to be someone that others want to be around. I've been at that point for a while, now, I think. This is just a thing that has happened, and I feel ready for it.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:42 AM
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Yeah I've seen it happen. Thing is, like I said, I've been single for 6 years. When I "pick up" a woman, it isn't some act or routine. Not anymore. I'm just being me. I'm being the me I've become over the years by learning and growing. And when I'm around this woman, well, I feel incredibly comfortable with her. I'm never "running game," attempting to kino, dealing with shit tests, or anything like that. I'm hanging out with a friend. This friend just happens to be incredibly attractive and lets…
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:39 AM
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Hahaha, I definitely will. Although the challenge this time around isn't the girl, it's me. It'll be fun to sort this one out.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:36 AM
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Yeah, I do a bit of that as well. Typically on another account of mine. =)
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:35 AM
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I'm curious.... If you get the chance, I'd love to hear about it.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:35 AM
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Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Allow yourself to open up. That's the tough part. For me at least. But I'm gonna do it for once. And yeah, if nothing else, I'm gonna learn stuff, and that's rad.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:34 AM
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Maybe I'm both an optimist, and a hopeless romantic, but I'm hoping there's no leaving at all.
/r/seduction10/09/14 04:55 AM
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*brofist* Although I've found the whole waiting for sex thing doesn't change shit. I don't place any intrinsic value on sex, and I'm not looking for a woman that does. But that's just me. Maybe it's a growing up thing. I'd venture you and I are on the "older" side for people in this sub.
/r/seduction10/09/14 04:07 AM
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Inner game vs outer game, I assume you mean? Inner. All the way. I mean, ideally, both. You want to be the full package, right? But inner game will help you do more than get laid. This can help with friendships, your career, business relationships, etc. That's been my experience, at least.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:59 AM
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Thanks man! I've had my fun, but I also know what I want. I'm not one to settle, but this girl is something else. I'll consider myself lucky if I manage to convince her to stick around. =P
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:56 AM
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Oh man don't I know it. I might write up some old FR's some time. I actually learned some neat lessons due to language barriers which I think would be legitimately helpful for some folks here.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:55 AM
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No problem. It's super weather dependent, and I'll assume you know how fickle the city can be. Considering it's getting darker earlier, I'd make sure to get there by 1 or so.
/r/seduction14/10/13 04:07 AM
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Stay away from tourist spots. On the weekends, Dolores Park is always solid, and GG park can be depending on what's going on. The panhandle is where I've had most success on a nice day. Any bar with good outdoor space is awesome, too. Zeitgeist is always kick ass because of the beer garden style seating which kind of forces you in to sitting near strangers. The mission in general tends to be less touristy and more suited to day game.
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:58 AM
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Yessir. Live in the city actually. I have a couple of friends who just moved from Man Jose and can't stop raving about how amazing it is to be able to actually find women. All the time. That said, the city is small and I've definitely burned a couple of bridges with women that I shouldn't have. I've got a couple of bars I avoid like the plague now. =P
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:40 AM
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Lol just realized your username. I'd venture you live in the south bay, huh?
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:28 AM
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Nope. Don't try to be "on" all the time in the sense that you always have to have something witty or whatever to say. Same exact thing I wrote above applies if you two are alone. "So are you two dating?" "Us? Oh he's not my boyfriend!" "Ha, ok. Awesome. So I know at least one reason you can't shoot me down when I ask you out later!" Go with something cheesy like that if you must. I don't know. I mean, personally, it's not something I typically ask a woman. I just assume they don't have a boyfrie…
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:13 AM
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Yeah but that linked video was... terrible.
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:10 AM
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I feel like a lot of people will chime in here with something snarky, or witty, or whatever, but my first instinct? "Oh, ok!" With a smile. Then move on. Don't make shit awkward for anyone. Don't make the dude feel bad if he's in to her. Don't make it weird. You don't need a canned response for everything a woman might say.
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:07 AM
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Eh, that seems really negative to me. I can almost always find something interesting about someone. But that's me. I've been actively trying for a long time to keep most of the stuff that comes out of my mouth positive overall. It's had a magical effect on my life.
/r/seduction30/09/13 11:41 PM
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Probably because that comment didn't contribute, it just criticized without offering any further insight. Had you tacked on the bit about a wry smile afterwards, people probably would be less likely to downvote you. As it is, that first comment just makes you come off like a condescending jerk.
/r/seduction30/09/13 11:39 PM
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Definitely not.
/r/seduction27/07/13 12:42 AM
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Fair enough, but I disagree. I've had it work many times in the past.
/r/seduction12/06/13 02:05 AM
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This is probably going against the grain here, but my favorite story is getting shot down by a supermodel while in a foreign country. I was in the middle east for work, ended up at a bar with coworkers, and saw a drop dead gorgeous woman surrounded by others. Everyone was taking pictures with her, swarming her, until eventually she got some space to hang with her friend. I found out from some locals who she was and decided that I may as well give it a shot. A few minutes later her friend goes to…
/r/seduction11/06/13 04:09 PM
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Exactly this. I knew she was only in town for the weekend and played to that. Also, I think it helps to break down any asd that might occur. Now I'm not just some guy that wants to fuck her, I'm her "boyfriend," if only for the weekend.
/r/seduction23/02/13 12:28 AM
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Agreed, which is why I don't do it anymore.
/r/seduction27/12/12 08:00 PM
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Oh don't get me wrong, I don't come out with it immediately. I mention tidbits here and there and eventually tell people the whole scale of my work. Probably much the same as you.
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:51 PM
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Oh man... Jeffy... I have stories about that guy. Kind of a total d-bag. I gave a girl that was "seeing" him tips on how to get him wrapped around her finger, ended up stealing her away from him, meanwhile he begged her to be his girlfriend. RSD is a joke.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:50 PM
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Seconding this. The book is amazing. I read it at least once a year. It has made me a much better, more successful person in most aspects of my life.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:46 PM
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Eh, I have a fucking awesome job that people are typically interested in when I tell them about it, so I just answer honestly. I work in a kind of niche industry, though, so it's pretty much always been that way for me.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:40 PM
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I sort of agree, but chances are he isn't running in to this person out and about, and doesn't have her number, so there's no reason not to go for it. Just say "Hi! Long time no talk!" and go from there. If it works, great, if not, whatever.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:38 PM
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This seems like it would work only if you fly Southwest, or one of those other airlines that herds you in like cattle.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:35 PM
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Step 1: Don't do dinner on a first date. It can get expensive, it's cliche, it's trite, it's boring, and every girl has been taken out on a dinner date. Do something fun that's not sitting across from each other chewing food and talking. Go play mini-golf, go-kart racing, ice skating, trampoline jumping, anything but dinner for the first (or second or third) date.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:32 PM
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It's not really as mainstream as you might think, except in places like LA and San Fran where a bunch of the PUAs do bootcamps on a nightly basis. Eh, between "The Game" and VH1's the Pickup Artist, it's gained enough notoriety. But I've never used canned routines, so I don't mind. And I used to live in LA, now SF, and have run in to the bootcamp crowd while out and about up here (not in LA, strangely), and had a blast with it. Watching a rookie try to bust in on my group and make headway is enj…
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:25 PM
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I don't know why i can't remember the name of it, but there's an Irish bar on the strip that has beer pong tournaments. Great for day game stuff.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:22 PM
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Seriously. Sounds like it was written by a 19 year old at a dorm who realized that girls at college like free drugs. And I'm an occasional smoker, too. I'm all for it, but most of what the OP wrote is pretty ridiculous.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:21 PM
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You may be a 3 time Vegas veteran, but I don't think you've done it on NYE. It's a disaster I avoid the like the plague these days. That said, a few things to add to your points: for a group of guys, buy tickets for clubs EARLY and in groups of 2(Most open 10pm). Get stamped and come back later to the re-entry line. you'll be waiting for a while if you don't do this. Great idea, but some places on NYE won't allow ins and outs. It's a pain. if you pull , get a cab ASAP The entire strip is closed …
/r/seduction27/12/12 03:53 AM
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I hate canned stuff. Hate hate hate it. I pretty much have one opening "line" if you will, and it's really easy to do. Are you ready? Walk up to any girl. Any woman at all, and say the following: "Hi!" That's it! Do it with a big cheesy grin on your face and be warm and welcoming. It doesn't take much more than that. Now where to go from there is a bit more difficult, but honestly, if you aren't a good conversationalist, no canned opener is going to save you.
/r/seduction27/12/12 03:39 AM
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My pleasure, glad it helps!
/r/seduction11/12/12 03:06 PM
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Jeeze. That's extreme. I'll have to think about this one.
/r/seduction11/12/12 03:02 PM
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For me, I don't think so. I really wouldn't have handled it any other way, history or not, but that's just me.
/r/seduction11/12/12 03:00 PM
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It's not about being fake, it's about looking to find the positive things. Sometimes it's difficult though, I admit.
/r/seduction11/12/12 07:39 AM
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Thanks for the respect man. I might be getting redundant here, but I don't think you handled anything wrong. I really just wanted to caution you and others against the affect that being "that guy" can have in the rest of your life. Maybe some can control it, but I certainly couldn't, and had to change. And I'd venture it's not uncommon, you know?
/r/seduction11/12/12 07:15 AM
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Eh, I wasn't pretending to be gay, I'm just a bit of a ham anyway. And a nice dude that does, in fact, want to befriend everyone. I like making friends, you know?
/r/seduction11/12/12 07:14 AM
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Oh I get ya, and again, I don't think what you did was wrong by any means. And of course, context is everything. That said, I think a lot of material puts so much emphasis on being "alpha" and defining it as this almost jock-like mentality that you always have to be the best dude at everything in a given situation. I think it's far more "alpha" to know and embrace your weaknesses and deal with them accordingly, but again, I digress. Anyway, if the guy isn't being a total creeper, and you just wa…
/r/seduction11/12/12 03:17 AM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction11/12/12 03:02 AM
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Sure thing! Sorry if I came off as a bit aggressive there, didn't mean to. But let me just chime in with a personal anecdote here. And also, I'm not saying you did anything wrong at all. Obviously, you were and are successful. I'm just saying what I've learned from experience. Before I tell a story, let me make it clear that I used to be more like you, and again, it started affecting other walks of life. In fact, I nearly lost a client, and did lose a friend because of my assholery, even though …
/r/seduction11/12/12 02:09 AM
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This exactly. I feel like if I ran in to a dude like this trying to move in on a set I was working on, it would be pretty easy to put the targets off of him. The bad boy persona doesn't always work. I know, I used to be that guy, but I realized that far too often, I just came off as an ass to those around me, even though I'd end up with the girl. These days I play the nice guy. The non doormat nice guy, that is. It makes me far more successful, not just with women, but with friendships and in bu…
/r/seduction11/12/12 01:03 AM
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Seconding this for a first date. Some of the best first dates I've had were just me and a girl bar-hopping and getting a bit tipsy. Wandering around a city at night is always good fun.
/r/seduction26/11/12 04:40 AM
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Seconding this, for the most part it's pretty accurate. Especially the "beach town that's never grown up" part. I moved there when I was 18 and left when I was 20 for that exact reason. Seconding LA or SF (I used to live in the former, and currently live in the latter) as much better options. Personally, I'd recommend SF. Gaming is cake here, there's a shit ton to do (almost always something within walking distance if you live in the city proper), and you don't have to drive much if you don't wa…
/r/seduction26/11/12 04:37 AM
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That last paragraph is about where I'm at. Although not in a committed monogamous relationship yet, I get it. However I'm not one to rush in to things, and neither is she, which is awesome. But yeah, I think, for me at least, at this point in time, I find far more value in spending time with someone that I know, care about, and trust, than I do in chasing women and bedding a new one every weekend. The former makes me much happier overall. Don't get me wrong, every now and then I get this urge to…
/r/seduction25/11/12 11:38 PM
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No worries! I only know this stuff because I've been through it, failed, and learned from my mistakes. There's that old adage that says "A smart man learns from his mistakes, a wise man from the mistakes of others." I'm just trying to keep people wise is all. =)
/r/seduction25/11/12 08:37 PM
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Murray Hill or North Beach/Marina Alright, you from NY or SF? =P And middle management was just one of the first things that came to mind. They are more than fine for golf, I wouldn't wear them anywhere else, ever though.
/r/seduction25/11/12 08:36 PM
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Sport coats are usually made of different material (not wool), often more than a single material, are not made to match a specific set of pants, and are very often not as long as a suit jacket.
/r/seduction25/11/12 08:34 PM
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I might steal the selfies bit from you though, that seems like gold! It almost always gets a laugh, just make sure you do the super high myspace angle, and duckface it out like no one's business. Ham it up as best you can.
/r/seduction25/11/12 06:05 AM
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Here ya go. Say, for example, you're out with a girl and she says "Just so you know, we are not going to have sex tonight!" Your reply should be along the lines of "Whoa, easy there tiger, we just met!" or "Don't flatter yourself hun, I'm not that easy. You've got to wine me and dine me before I put out." Basically, you're agreeing with her that you're not going to have sex, and taking it a step above to the point where the entire premise is completely outlandish.
/r/seduction25/11/12 04:07 AM
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That just makes you look like a one-upper.
/r/seduction25/11/12 04:01 AM
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That's a huge compliment, thank you!
/r/seduction25/11/12 03:47 AM
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I can't say. Have you already hooked up with her? Are you interested in more than that from her? Personally, between being second fiddle (I understand if you've got a friend you'd rather hang out with, that's fine), and being lied to, I would drop her like a bad habit. But if there's a bit of history there and you're interested in pursuing things, well, I'm confrontational. Next time we went out for coffee or whatever I'd simply say "Hey, what happened last Friday? You said you were too tired, b…
/r/seduction25/11/12 03:44 AM
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Personally, I would have done the same thing you did, or more likely, not responded at all, which is more my style than lying. However, it seems you were her backup plan, her second choice. I personally don't like being someone's second choice, so I don't deal with it, but that's me.
/r/seduction25/11/12 03:34 AM
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Heh, glad I could help. Was scared the wall of text would scare off most people.
/r/seduction25/11/12 03:29 AM
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In the future, just for your own sake, I've always been very upfront about what I want and don't want. Hell I've typically let women know I don't want a relationship before I even get their number or anything. I put that shit way out there and make sure it's very well known so there are no surprises and I can't be labeled the asshole because I won't commit. People assume things when you're dating/sleeping with them. It shouldn't be the case, but it is. Be upfront and you'll have less problems.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:52 AM
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I just like to make 'em pose and turn it in to an impromptu photo shoot. Then again, I used to be a professional photographer, so that kind of comes pretty naturally to me. I also start taking pictures of my self (full on myspace angles and duck lips). Tends to get some good laughs and whatnot. I don't think it's a shit test, personally. People like having their photo taken is all.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:50 AM
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Hahaha, you're on the right track, mate, I promise! Most dudes at 24 don't know a damn thing about fashion, so good on ya for stepping it up!
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:45 AM
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Fair enough. Didn't mean to come across as condescending, I just know I was making the same mistake of "SUIT JACKET ALL THE OUTFITS" when I was your age. Like I said it's a solid start, but not the end all be all. And go with sport coats if you're not rocking the whole suit. Much, much better IMO.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:40 AM
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Ah, so young, so misguided. Like someone else already mentioned, fit is the first rule in fashion. If it doesn't fit properly, you look like shit. I don't care what the name brand is. Suit jackets are incredibly versatile. You can throw on some jeans, a t-shirt, a suit jacket and some dress shoes and look like a million bucks. I disagree. I hate this look, most times. And hell, I rock it here and there, but usually to work. But i have a very casual work environment, so that's kind of classing it…
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:29 AM
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Less is more indeed. Don't text much. For your own sake. How old are you two? I'm going to guess somewhere between 19-23.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:17 AM
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I'd like to chime in here with a personal anecdote that may help some. Throughout the last few years I've been pretty... successful, I suppose, with women. I've had my fair share of dates, one night stands, hook up buddies, and the like. I'm at a point in my life where the constant chase no longer excites me, though. In fact, it's a bit bothersome more than anything. Going through the same stuff with a different girl with the same goal in mind. I'm kind of over that aspect of it all. But I digre…
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:14 AM
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the only thing standing in the way from making it happen is your own ego This shit right here is so fucking important. Having an ego is not having confidence. Don't mistake one for the other. If you are truly confident, the rejection will not bother you. If you just have a big ego, that poor thing gets bruised easy. Don't let it bother you, because nothing happens when you get rejected, except you never have to wonder again "what if." So in reality, only positive things come from being rejected.…
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:54 AM
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Now what I do when I deal with AMOGs: I befriend them. Works everytime, especially when women are around. Seconding this. Works like a charm. Get them to talk about themselves. Their interests, hobbies, job, etc. They'll love you because you're interested in them. They no longer AMOG you. It's the easiest way to deal with this, and you never look like a chump for making friends with someone.
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:50 AM
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This is... the worst thing ever. We've gone from dudes that don't know how to "neg" to dudes saying "just flat out insult a woman and she'll be all yours because she's used to guys telling her she's hot." Fuck, it doesn't work that way. Not right off the bat. You need rapport to tease. This dude is either full of shit or got pretty lucky that worked well.
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:47 AM
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A little insight from someone who has dealt with a similar situation. I am now a bit of a social butterfly. I wasn't always. Most of my oldest friends are... shy, I suppose... when it comes to women. I remember a few years back I was out with three of them. I ended up bringing a two set of HB8's to the table, and the entire time the three of them said very little, looked down at their feet, and lightly chuckled at my jokes while I talked to the two. I eventually got up to go for a smoke, and sho…
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:43 AM
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Exactly!! Seriously, man, it took me some baby steps to get out of my horrible social anxiety and shyness. Probably over two years total until I felt good and comfortable about who I am. And you'll get there as long as you don't give up. It's a struggle but a worthwhile one, I promise. Just keep at it!
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:35 AM
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Depends. Is it a first date? Third? Been dating for a while? I mean, I've been seeing a girl for a few months now, and when she hands me her purse to hold or asks me to do X, Y or Z for her, I don't mind one bit, because at this point, it isn't some sort of shit test. We have rapport. She likes me, all of her friends adore me, and she knows I'm not just some random dude at the bar trying to get in her pants. So, on a first date? Well, I'm a cheeky fucker and love a bit of a laugh at my own expen…
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:03 AM
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It's true. You've been rejected. What.. once? And at the end of the day... what happened? Oh, I know what happened, you don't have some bullshit to regret 6 years from now. You did it and you know the answer. Load off the shoulders. Awesome! So go do it again. And again. And again. I've been rejected more times than I can count. You realize, eventually, that rejection just... doesn't matter. It's horrible at first, but with each time it gets easier and easier, I promise.
/r/seduction24/11/12 03:43 AM
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Confidence is way sexier than a little black dress, IMO.
/r/seduction24/11/12 03:42 AM
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Don't worry man. Despite what most dudes in here say, I think the majority feel the same way at least sometimes. The trick is to ignore that little voice in your head that's telling you she's out of your league, and realizing that there's only one league, the one you're in, and if you practice enough, you're capable of anything. Five years ago I couldn't bag a homeless girl with a fistful of money and promises of warm food/shelter. Today, I'm currently dating a smoking hot tall blonde scientist.…
/r/seduction24/11/12 03:40 AM
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Yep. This right here is correct. My ex cheated on me with a dude who was her coworker. We had met a few times, he was chummy, whatever. All said and done, I cut her out of my life and have never said a word to either of them since. It's not easy, but it's the only real option. Being "alpha" in this type of situation means cutting the negativity out of your life and continuing to live well.
/r/seduction22/11/12 08:49 PM
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Sorry for the late reply. I'd venture it's because it usually doesn't have lyrics, it's not really intrusive, and not too slow or fast. Just neutral stuff.
/r/seduction03/04/12 06:08 AM
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Nope, this is just how I write. Look at any of my other FRs.
/r/seduction29/01/12 04:27 AM
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If you're in a big city... OKC is a cake walk. Not even joking.
/r/seduction29/01/12 03:39 AM
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It means absolutely nothing. Especially if you're in your late 20's and beyond. The older you get, the more relationships people will have had. They're usually a significant event in their life, so it may be an interesting conversation topic, or just on their mind for whatever reason. To me, the whole rule of "never talk about your ex on a date" is so out the window it's ridiculous. I've dated a lot of women and have a shitton of great stories about them. Likewise, the same is true for many of t…
/r/seduction29/01/12 03:12 AM
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You know what I had to do back when I wanted to not give a shit even though I did? I pretended. In short, fake it 'til you make it. No matter what you think about this girl, you need to act as if her actions and words don't have any significant effect on you. At some point, you'll become an emotionless, soulless, heartless bastard like myself. =P In all reality, this is where you really need to keep the "abundance mentality" in mind. This girl, like most others, isn't anything special. At least,…
/r/seduction29/01/12 03:09 AM
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My pleasure sir! Just trying to help everyone be awesome and get laid more, because those are both great things.
/r/seduction26/01/12 02:15 AM
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My bed is low as fuck. The frame I have raises it maybe 3-4 inches off the ground, and I have no box spring. Again, I always get complimented on my bed. Go for it. I, personally, love the look of it as well.
/r/seduction26/01/12 01:47 AM
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Sounds good. I'll be home in a few hours and take care of it then. I'll send you a message when it's all ready.
/r/seduction25/01/12 10:46 PM
8

How so? Most of the things I've mentioned make my life easier or better regardless of having a girl over. However, it's always good to be prepared.
/r/seduction25/01/12 10:45 PM
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Let me know if you've got any suggestion for the formatting and organization. I've added a few things I've seen in the comments this morning, but have to get to work. I'll take some more time to clean this up tonight and add in everything with more detail/better formatting and PM you when it's all done if you'd like.
/r/seduction25/01/12 05:21 PM
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You've got to be almost overly confident with this. I use this often in many situations, and it always elicits some kind of (good) reaction. Usually laughter.
/r/seduction25/01/12 05:17 PM
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Please go right ahead!
/r/seduction25/01/12 05:11 PM
8

Ha, no worries. And I'm jealous of your tempurpedic. They're amazing, although a bit wonky to have sex on, in my experience. Well worth the money though, I'm sure. Now go grab some new sheets! (And make sure they're nice ones!)
/r/seduction25/01/12 10:02 AM
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Hey man, thanks for the reply even if you didn't have much time to put in to it. Again, wasn't knocking you, just didn't quite think it was the best suggestion for the OP. Thanks again!
/r/seduction25/01/12 09:09 AM
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Good call. I used to live in a city where I had to drive all the time, but not anymore. I think I've been in my care 3 times in the last 5-6 months, so this didn't occur to me. Adding this to the top.
/r/seduction25/01/12 09:03 AM
2

Have you ever considered the option that perhaps your being a bit ... try hard? Nope, not at all. I personally detest dinner dates. Not only because of the fact that I think women find them boring, but because I find them boring as well. It's not my cup of tea to sit across to or next to someone while talking and chewing food. Just not in to it. I need a location that provides me with the right logistics What logistics, exactly? Just out of pure curiosity. They run me about 20-30 dollars which i…
/r/seduction25/01/12 08:58 AM
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Best way I've found? Get some trial sized lube samples in the little foil packets. You can easily fit that, and a couple of condoms in a business card holder like this one. Easy to keep in an inside jacket pocket, or the back pocket of your pants. Looks reasonably classy, and not as goofy as keeping that stuff in your wallet, which you're probably going to be bringing out a few times over the course of an evening.
/r/seduction25/01/12 08:42 AM
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My point is that every girl has been on a dinner date. Like I said they are boring and contrived, and in my opinion, your choice of first date is a pretty good reflection of the type of guy you are. Taking a girl out to dinner signifies that you're a lot like every other guy out there. Ten says most girls you'll take out have never been on a first date to go curling, or for a midnight picnic at the top of a mountain. I make sure that when I take a girl out for the first time, everything I do mak…
/r/seduction25/01/12 08:36 AM
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Nope. I've used it many times, and not as a response to anything, I bring it up myself often. I mainly get two responses: Total laughter, or a giggle and then them asking if I'm serious or not. Either way, it gets them laughing, and piques their interest. I've had women outright try to reach down my pants right then and there to verify that statement. Say it with confidence and a smile, and you're not digging yourself a hole, you're opening a door. Something I've learned over the last few years:…
/r/seduction25/01/12 08:29 AM
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Heh, there you go. I'm not a big movie or tv watcher as it is, nor am I a gamer, so my desktop with two large monitors or 42 inch tv with a roku box works fine for me as far as entertainment goes.
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:31 AM
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Another comment here... Candles are awesome. Look nice, and more importantly, they make shit smell nice. Always a good thing. Vanilla and sandalwood scents are my jam. Reasonably masculine but not overpowering. Books are always a good thing too. Conversation pieces, and they show intelligence and motivation, depending on what you read. As for movies, eh, I've got the internet and netflix. Haven't owned a dvd in years. But to each their own.
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:16 AM
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Mine is firm as all hell and I've never had a complaint about it. Only praise.
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:13 AM
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Whoever said not to is an asshole. It's not gospel (then again nothing really is) but it's a great intro to the community and good reference material. It's also the book that was the catalyst for changing my life, just not the guidelines for it.
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:06 AM
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True story. My bar is far more well stocked than I wrote up there, but just having the basics is enough. Although I've had many dates start at my place with the intent to go out, and never leave because we have everything we need at home. Good for saving a bit of money as well.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:39 AM
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I never do dinner dates. Ever. They're boring and cliché. These are two things I am not. I've done picnics, ice skating, arcades, go kart racing, curling, mini golf, and, well, you get the idea. Never gone out for dinner. I'll do that when I'm dating someone, but never on a first date. Ever. I'll take a shitty, grungy dive bar over a high end restaurant as a first date any day.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:35 AM
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Plus one for the decoration aspect. All the furniture in my room matches and is well coordinated, and I always receive compliments on it. There's nothing wrong with having some style and class.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:25 AM
8

Ballsy answer: It means I have a small penis.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:18 AM
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I swear I have so many guy friends that do not understand the importance of this.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:14 AM
4

Good call. I'm going to add something similar to the top.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:07 AM
15

Not a bad idea for our dorm dwelling brothers. However, I'm in my late twenties, and having something like that in my home and specifically my room would just be out of place. If I've got a woman in my house I no longer need a conversation piece, I need things that will make her feel comfortable being there. Besides, I like my space to have my own style, and a pink fluffy pillow doesn't fit the bill for me. However, like I said, not a bad idea if you're in a dorm or throw lots of parties at your…
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:06 AM
1

They certainly do.
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:02 AM
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Ha, thank you. You're welcome over any time darlin. :-P Have you got anything to add? Oh, and one more that I forgot: I always keep a bar of Dove unscented soap in the bathroom. Gentle enough for almost any skin type, great for washing off last night's tryst.
/r/seduction25/01/12 05:44 AM
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Yep. That's where I keep mine. It's not weird at all. It's hygienic. If a woman thinks it's weird, she's the weird one.
/r/seduction25/01/12 05:36 AM
1

This is a very casual winter look for me. There are days when I'd stand out anywhere. But yeah, not sure what fashion is like over there.
/r/seduction23/12/11 07:06 PM
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I don't really give two shits about making myself look cool on the internet, so I've really got no reason to lie. I've had many women strike up conversations with me because of my attire, however I'll admit that the offer of a drink was certainly a first. But hey, believe what you want to believe man.
/r/seduction23/12/11 05:44 AM
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Ah. gotcha. Didn't think you were, to be honest, just wasn't entirely sure. But yeah you're totally correct. It was a strange off-night for me. I had no idea where it was going to lead and got super lucky. Weird FR if I do say so myself. I'll post something better shortly, I promise.
/r/seduction23/12/11 04:19 AM
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To be honest, I'm far from an AFC. I'm not sure if you're insinuating I'm one or not, but I assure you, well, I'm not. I wanted to post this particular FR because I think the fact that I really, really didn't give two shits how this date went played in to things quite a bit. If it weren't for that, some luck, and a bit of confidence, I know I'd never have had a chance.
/r/seduction23/12/11 04:07 AM
1

6'2" and about 150 lbs. Not a giant by any means, but definitely above average in height.
/r/seduction23/12/11 04:03 AM
1

Search Google for 7 diamonds Prague jacket. I bought mine at nordstrom a few years ago. I doubt they'd have it in store now, but I know that you can find it online.
/r/seduction23/12/11 03:40 AM
2

Yep, H&M. They were about $70.
/r/seduction23/12/11 03:37 AM
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Just replying here to let you know to see above, where I've posted a picture.
/r/seduction23/12/11 12:56 AM
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Do it. Nice dark indigo jeans, nice kicks, a good looking button up with a tie, and throw a v-neck sweater over it. If it's a casual place, roll the sleeves of your shirt up over your sweater. Casual but classy, and not many younger guys dress like that. Gets a lot of looks.
/r/seduction23/12/11 12:56 AM
2

And yes, girls often ask me if I'm gay. Same here, and I love it when they do. It has little to do with my personality and everything to do with how I look. It's a great compliment.
/r/seduction23/12/11 12:54 AM
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My pleasure. For sites/guides, I'd start right here at /r/malefashionadvice. Check out the side bar for a ton of good starting points. I'm also an ectomorph. Tall as well, so that doesn't help things. However, there are a few retailers that make shit for tall skinny dudes that fit really well. Zara's slim and super slim lines are great. H&M makes a lot of stuff that fits me amazingly well, for cheap, too. In fact I probably have 10-15 solid colored v-neck t-shirts from them which are great as a …
/r/seduction23/12/11 12:54 AM
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Sure thing. I was wearing this, but with one of my watches as well (I forget which one, sorry). Simple, somewhat understated, but everything fits me amazingly well, which is the most important part. This is more or less my casual winter look.
/r/seduction23/12/11 12:49 AM
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Basically exactly what I've related to you, just in more detail. I honestly wish I could tell you those details, because IMO that kind of shit is unacceptable, and a complete scam. However, she's asked me to not go in to any more specifics for the sake of her anonymity, and I have no qualms about respecting that.
/r/seduction27/08/11 09:43 PM
7

First hand account from one such girl, yes.
/r/seduction27/08/11 09:10 PM
7

In brief, he sets up bullshit with girls while running bootcamps. Girls he's already hooked up with. Yet he has them play along as if they've never met. In my opinion, if you're charging students for this stuff, you should be running legit game.
/r/seduction27/08/11 08:54 PM
9

Jeffy from RSD is kind of a chump. Seriously.
/r/seduction27/08/11 08:10 PM
7

I remember reading a tip somewhere a while back that has helped me quite a bit. I hate my forced smile but my natural smile looks quite good, in my opinion. Basically, when you want to smile and have it look genuine, imagine your target naked, pleasuring herself to the thought of you. It'll give you that confident, sexy smirk. Works like a charm for me.
/r/seduction03/07/11 12:20 AM
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Thank you sir. I genuinely appreciate the kind words. As far as my middle game, well, it's just like the opening. Aloof, funny, confident, etc. I honestly never have anything in mind when I open a set, I'm pretty good at improvising and a pretty funny guy, so I just roll with the punches as they come. Last night, for example, I was at a bar with a bunch of friends. One of them spied a two set and said something about how I shouldn't talk to those two girls, jokingly of course. I immediately knew…
/r/seduction18/06/11 04:16 AM
1

I'll tell you right now. The first girl, who I met right away, I actually don't have any interest in calling. I actually tossed her business card in the rubbish right after she walked away to the bemusement of my friend. The second, the I neglected to write about, I sent a text to the next day just telling her it was nice meeting her and making a reference to something I told her we'd have to do when I met her. A few texts back and forth and we realized that our schedules for the next week or tw…
/r/seduction16/06/11 07:51 PM
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I'm a mighty touchy person as it is, although always calibrated for the target. But when I'm in a car, it's not constant touching, but it's there. The two go-to's are just as marvintpa said, hand on the thigh/leg, or on her head/in her hair. I usually do them while teasing a bit with a cheeky grin. Examples: Recently I was on a second date with a girl. I had k-closed the first date, and ended up f-closing on the second. I picked her up and we headed off for cocktails somewhere. I got her to tell…
/r/seduction16/06/11 12:55 AM
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"I think I'm gonna go home soon ... I think this is about as far as I want to go tonight" Notice, at no point did this girl say "I'm going home right now," or "we are NOT going any farther than this." None of it was definite, and there's a reason for that. Most girls you take home on the first or second date will say something along those lines. It's classic ASD. She doesn't want to feel like a slut, or cheap, or have you think she's like this with every guy, so she's going to pull crap like tha…
/r/seduction15/06/11 04:32 AM
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You know I've heard about it before, obviously, but never used it. It was just the first thing that came to mind at that moment, and luckily, she just ran with it. Worked like a charm. I'll be sure to use it again in the near future.
/r/seduction15/06/11 04:24 AM
2

They are indeed. This isn't the first time it's happened to me. Hopefully won't be the last either.
/r/seduction12/06/11 08:00 PM
1

Nah, you're probably not doing anything wrong. It's just a matter of finding a person who wants the same thing. If you're not in a big city, it'll be a bit tougher. If you are, though, just keep looking.
/r/seduction12/06/11 02:08 AM
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Honestly, I'd say this has less to do with seduction and more to do with, well, the girl. Some girls are totally ok with it, and others not so much. Like you said, it always fades because she wants something more serious. A girl I recently F-closed on the first date hit me up the next day asking me if we could be, in her words, fuckbuddies. Of course I obliged. Neither of us want a relationship, but both of us want sex, so it works out. Once you've got a good rapport with the girl, though, just …
/r/seduction11/06/11 11:01 PM
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I actually don't kino as much as I used to. It works wonders on some girls, and creeps others out I wrote a post that had something to do with this not too long ago. Basically, I was out with 2 girls and 2 guys. One girl and guy were a couple, the other two (and I) had never even met. This guy was very touchy with the single girl, while I kicked back and relaxed, and honestly didn't give a shit. She was incredibly good looking, but I wasn't in the mood to deal with an AMOG. I was flirting like c…
/r/seduction11/06/11 10:55 PM
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Personally, I'd walk right up to a table that has an empty chair, sit down, and say, "Hey, I'm just gonna hang out with you guys right now." That's it. Sit there and smile. Do nothing else. Someone will say something eventually, if not right away. If they ask why, tell them they seemed interesting. If they ask who the hell you are, well, start at birth and work you way from there. It doesn't matter. Just be confident and smile. Don't be creepy. Keep 'em entertained.
/r/seduction11/06/11 10:50 PM
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You haven't been DHVing This I have been, in many, many ways. or escalating This, however, I've not. (otherwise she would've chosen you over him, or, you would've slept with her already). Turns out she'd been hooking up with him for a while before anything kind of developed between the two of us. I'm letting shit simmer for a while before I make any moves, though. If any. I'm still not sure how I want to deal with this one.
/r/seduction02/06/11 08:38 AM
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It depends on the girl, but this is one of my personal favorites that always seems to elicit a good response: "Hey you, what are you up to tomorrow night? Let's go out and make bad decisions." Obviously you can rephrase this a million different ways, but it leaves the door open to do just about anything (which is great if you don't have anything particular in mind, which I never do), and it's playful as all hell. I've never had a bad response with this.
/r/seduction02/06/11 02:52 AM
4

It's brutal in there. So much for reddiquette. Downvotes for anyone that has any idea as to what they're talking about. It's kind of irritating.
/r/seduction01/06/11 11:27 PM
2

Get with some other women and you'll probably end up getting with her later on. That's the plan. This one seems like she may end up as more than just another notch on the bedpost.
/r/seduction01/06/11 10:40 PM
1

Maybe you want a relationship with her, eh? HB10, crazy chemistry, friendship? Hmm? Lock DOWN. Heh, I'd actually consider it with this one but there are a few things standing in the way of it. Essentially, the timing is presently all wrong. We've glossed over that before in conversation though...
/r/seduction01/06/11 10:28 PM
1

Yes, well aware, that will happen.
/r/seduction01/06/11 05:39 PM
1

Fucked her already or moved on. Trust me, there are others. I'm not pining over her by any means, nor waiting for her. I'm not foolish. And she's well aware of these facts.
/r/seduction01/06/11 05:35 PM
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Do they make women want to sleep with you? No. Can they help or hurt? In my opinion, absolutely. At one point in my life, I was living in the attic of a large Victorian style house in the motherfucking ghetto. Somehow, I still managed to get laid. That shit didn't help though, and back then, when I had no game anyway, most girls didn't want to come anywhere near my neighborhood. These days, though, I'm an adult. A grown up. So my place looks like a grown up's place should. My furniture matches. …
/r/seduction01/06/11 05:32 PM
2

Here's my take on the situation, but, I'm just a dude from the internet, so wtf do I know? It seems as though you haven't really built rapport at all, or rather, you haven't shown her that you're interested in being more than just friends. Are you too going to be in the same group of friends again any time soon? If so, do just what I said. Be confident, be flirty, be touchy, be alpha. All that shit, if you've been lurking around here long enough, you know exactly what I mean. At some point in th…
/r/seduction01/06/11 05:03 PM
1

Text. I rarely call these days. It's almost pointless. As much as I hate texting, women seem to love it.
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:06 PM
1

Really need more context to help you out man...
/r/seduction01/06/11 04:58 AM
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You need, need, to grow some balls my friend. Kino is fucking important. Really important. It builds rapport and makes a girl feel comfortable with you. It's a fine balance to walk at first, as you can't be overly touchy and grabby, but once that touch is established and firmly rooted, it becomes a normal dynamic of the relationship. Incidental contact will only get you so far, but if she's not saying anything about it or avoiding it, you've basically got a green light to take it a step further.…
/r/seduction01/06/11 04:52 AM
4

It would help if you posted the article...
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:11 AM
3

if you and her can look at each other for five seconds without saying anything then she is willing to make out with you. I like this. Seems like a pretty awesome rule, and as far as I can remember, rings pretty true. I like to be super direct, however. On a recent date I made a joke about sleeping with her on our first date. Totally tongue in cheek, but ballsy as well. She laughed and said something along the lines of "What kind of girl do you think I am?" I told her "Not the kind that's going t…
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:54 AM
3

Best way for sure is relationships topic. Eh, I'm not going to say to avoid it completely, but if you're out on a date with a girl, or even just meeting them, it's best to steer clear of that topic. Same goes for religion and politics. They tend to be controversial and the last thing you want is to shoot yourself in the foot because you hold different religious or political beliefs than someone. As far as talking about relationships, well, you don't need to bring your baggage on to this flight.
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:51 AM
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I try to avoid questions entirely as well, as they seem so forced, and like you said, much like a job interview. However, sometimes, the conversation doesn't just flow. I went on a date the other night with a cute, sweet girl, who just happened to be incredibly shy. I was met with a lot of terse, one or two word answers to many open ended questions, and got little reaction out of stories I told or conversations I started. I was pretty much carrying the entire conversation at first. Eventually, h…
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:50 AM
1

I think you handled it well. Chances are she would not actually risk losing her job in an attempt to satisfy her urges toward a drunk guy that she may never see again. Thank you sir. I figured the same, however, to be fair, I wasn't anywhere near drunk (I was driving, so kept it to 2 beers over the course of almost 3 hours). No matter how well you were doing I have a feeling it was just playful banter and an attempt to throw you off your feet. Not so, good friend, as I've already got a date set …
/r/seduction31/05/11 10:16 PM
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I probably should have, but to be honest, she was clearly busy as all hell, and I was legitimately really tired. Sounds like a horrible excuse but I don't think I'll have any trouble with this later on.
/r/seduction31/05/11 08:56 PM
1

Get this shit over to /r/sex
/r/seduction31/05/11 08:27 PM
3

Forget to log in to your alt account? ;) And it really doesn't matter if it's about building attraction or not, it's about coming off as insulting, or playfully charming. Whether or not I'm actually interested in getting a girl's number/getting her in to bed/dating her/whatever, I still act the same way around all of them. Why? Because I want to be known as that fun, charming, entertaining guy. Because I want them to talk to their girlfriends about me. Because I don't want to come off as a creep…
/r/seduction29/05/11 03:01 AM
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There's a massive difference between making a girl qualify herself to you or "negging" her (fuck I hate that term), and outright insulting her. It seems to me that you accidentally did the latter of the two. An example that I've read many times here, and elsewhere, has to do with age. I'm getting close to 30, and am around the oldest of most of my friends. As such, I meet a lot of women that are a bit younger than myself. At some point, girls will ask how old I am, or I'll ask their age. Just a …
/r/seduction29/05/11 01:38 AM
2

Yeah that's very true. For some reason I have it in my head that being "alpha" is being that guy who is the center of attention, takes the lead on everything, etc. I was clearly not that guy, but I genuinely didn't give a shit about anything, to be honest. You were imperturbable, nothing fazed you, no matter what happened. That is Alpha. Thank you for a brilliant new affirmation/mantra/definition of what Alpha should be.
/r/seduction29/05/11 01:16 AM
2

Hmm, perhaps you're correct. his own actions by not showing propper calibration towards the HB8 I think you nailed it here in that he didn't calibrate towards her at all. She was clearly had the laid back/relaxed/surfer beach bum kinda attitude, and he was Mr. Let's Go Party, so I guess that played to my advantage. Oh, and I was the one that had previously hooked up with the HB10, not him ;) It was quite an interesting night for me though. Usually when I'm out with friends we're all bouncing all…
/r/seduction29/05/11 01:12 AM
2

I suppose so. I guess I never looked at it in that light. I just found it fairly, well, odd I guess, that I never made a move on this girl the entire night, and she almost literally jumped me. I can honestly say that I was not in frame at all, but it seems that worked to my advantage.
/r/seduction29/05/11 01:09 AM
1

Agreed, and reported for exactly that reason.
/r/seduction29/05/11 12:05 AM
2

For me, well, if it's not her scene, it's not her scene, and I'll try to gauge that immediately. But chances are, if it's just a bar, it's not about the venue, it's about what's going on between her and I. In this instance, we could have been at that bar, sitting on a park bench, or strolling along the beach. It didn't matter because what was important was the situation and interaction. If I'm on a date, one on one with a girl, my attention is going to be focused on her. This is the point where …
/r/seduction24/04/11 04:33 AM
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Arguably, you don't need to disqualify once she's already on a date with you. At this point, this is self deprecating humor which DLV's. But if it worked, fine You are completely correct, and I generally keep the self deprecating stuff to a minimum, but it is my kind of humor and I was pretty certain I could pull it off to get a laugh from her. Besides, at that point, I wasn't 100% sure of things, and felt that it wouldn't do much harm, if any. Nicely done. Thank you. She's the kind of girl that…
/r/seduction23/04/11 03:19 AM
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I fully endorse a version of this: Hey I saw you and thought you looked really interesting, and, well, I'd be kicking myself all day if I didn't come over and meet you. Only because I don't like the overt compliment right off the bat. That said, I've still walked up to girls and said pretty much the same thing: Hi, you're cute and I'm going to hit on you. Usually gets a laugh although it's such a clear statement of intention that I'm not sure if it's a good thing (takes some confidence to pull o…
/r/seduction23/04/11 02:31 AM
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Thank you sir. It's something I haven't seen much of so I figured I should post one. Everything I see here tends to be about approaching groups, getting over AA, and the occasional one night F-close. While many of these are great reads, I think it leaves a lot of people with questions about what to do after you get her number but haven't gotten in her bed yet. I'm not saying I'm an expert by any means, but I've got some experience. Maybe if I have time this coming week I'll post a few FR's from …
/r/seduction23/04/11 02:23 AM
5

You're crushing yourself before you even begin with that attitude my friend. To assuage your concerns, however, let me tell you that looks-wise, I'm not remarkable at all. I'm tall, which helps things (over 6 foot), but I'm also skinny as hell and white as can be. I've got friends that are far better looking than myself and have incredible difficulty with women. My best friend and wing, however, is about 5'5", stocky, and has bright red hair. He pulls hotter women more consistently than anyone I…
/r/seduction16/04/11 08:50 PM
1

Truer words, man. I was in a 5 year relationship as well and once I got out I had no game. I was horrendous. Took a couple of years for me to get where I am now.
/r/seduction16/04/11 07:11 PM
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Hmm, looks interesting, thanks for the link!
/r/seduction16/04/11 06:58 PM
3

Ah, didn't think it'd be worth mentioning as I've been hooking up with her for quite some time now. Friend with benefits situation going on there. I suppose I could do a write up on how I landed that one, though...
/r/seduction16/04/11 06:58 PM
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Thank you sir. I appreciate the kind words.
/r/seduction16/04/11 06:57 PM
6

This is a great question, and one that I think could actually be deserving of its own thread. Like I said before, if your goal is to, well, get laid, I think it's important to make sure she associates the idea of you with the idea of sex. That said, I don't think I can give a really concise answer. I mean, obviously I don't just say "Hey, let's talk about sex!" You've clearly got to be more subtle about it. In this particular instance, The conversation lead to me making a joke that was sexual in…
/r/seduction16/04/11 06:57 PM
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If the word get's out, you have to put up with AMOGs fucking around This is not something I'm ever concerned about, to be honest. If that does happen, I do the same thing with them as I'd do with a woman, agree with them. Continue to disqualify myself. Escalate it. "Dude I know! It's so small I need a microscope when I manscape!" When you're making fun of yourself even more than they are, it ends quickly, and everyone tends to get a laugh out of it. you're better off trying much more risk reward…
/r/seduction16/04/11 05:28 PM
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Ah yes, it's a favorite of mine and a go to when I don't have anything else exciting to open with. I don't really use canned openers, but I guess this is one, and it almost always gets a laugh. The best part about it is that it works in absolutely any situation.
/r/seduction16/04/11 05:26 PM
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I like that line of yours - I've realized at this point in my training I'm going to have to pack a few away for when I can't think of anything situational. Stealing the line. Which line are you referring to, good sir?
/r/seduction16/04/11 05:02 PM
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I don't care if you somehow managed to threesome-close with this, don't ever do it again. Gotta disagree my friend. I've used this more times than I can count, and it has always lead to success. you risk lowering your value so much when you could've gone a much safer (not to mention successful) option. The way I deliver it comes of as a total joke with a slight hint of seriousness. In other words, it's obvious I'm saying it for the laughs, but she's always questioning if there's a hint of truth …
/r/seduction16/04/11 05:01 PM
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Agreed. I swear every time I've pulled a girl from a dance club it's because I was actually able to talk to her without having to scream in order to be heard. In other words, out on the patio, or off in one of the quieter areas. It has never been from the dance floor directly. Granted, these things do happen, but man I can't dance for shit, so I don't bother making the dance floor any part of my game. Not to say that stops me from dancing, I enjoy the hell out of it, but it's not my go to for pi…
/r/seduction16/04/11 04:41 PM
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Oh man, girls like this are fun, but definitely tough since you don't encounter them often. You've absolutely got to stay in the same frame you were that evening. Completely dominant, and not putting up with any of her shit tests. I'm just like you, though, I love it when a girl can keep up with me like that. The last one I encountered, on day 3, while we were bantering back and forth talking a bit of shit to each other said something along the lines of "It's the third date and you still haven't…
/r/seduction08/02/11 07:45 AM
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I maintained control the entire time. I lead the conversation, initiated a bit of kino with the girls, kept the pair laughing, and was, well, myself. That said, when I'm really trying to include my two friends and they're doing very little to engage with us, it gets incredibly difficult. I mean, I can carry a conversation like you wouldn't believe, but when you attempt to bring a friend in and all you get is one word answers or just a simple nod and grunt, it's tough to transition out of that in…
/r/seduction19/01/11 06:20 AM
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AFC friends will almost always fuck shit up for you. The problem though, is that if you have "alpha" friends, they'll sometimes snipe your girls out from under you, which is also not cool. I consider myself very lucky in that all of my friends that are, in fact, Alpha are awesome naturals, but they know the game for the most part, and genuinely understand how to be amazing wings. My AFC friends, though, have no clue, and don't care to. I know I would have done better had I been alone, but I wasn…
/r/seduction19/01/11 06:16 AM
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Yeah wasn't really trying to game them. As I had said, the whole reason I was out was to catch up with my friends, but since the two girls sat down and my buddies made such disparaging comments, I figured I may as well open them, bring my friends in, and see what happened.
/r/seduction19/01/11 06:13 AM
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Good idea, but their lack of accent wouldn't help. Plus they're too shy to even talk to good looking girls, there's no way they'd be ballsy enough to pull off a fake accent and play it off like it's legit, I'd venture.
/r/seduction18/01/11 10:58 PM
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I don't think you were dealing with LMR there as much as you just kind of blew it. I mean, all of the signs were there. She comes over to your house with a bottle of wine, she initiates the kino, you're making out with her, she asks to sleep over, she basically threw herself at you, and it sounds like you pussied out. That is a major turn off to a girl. Don't just tell yourself you're going to escalate, you need to do it. And you need to be in the right frame for it. Sounds like you were constan…
/r/seduction18/01/11 10:57 PM
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Sounds like she's hoping for more than just dinner. I.E. you best have some plans for after dinner. Drinks, and improv show, a museum, anything! Protip: This sounds like a first date with this chick. Don't do dinner. It's boring. Every AFC takes a girl to dinner for a first date. You need to be memorable. Do something different next time.
/r/seduction18/01/11 09:47 PM
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Don't say you're disappointed. Ever. Here's the thing, girls don't want to feel like a slut. Period. End of story. They want to fuck you as bad as you want to fuck them, but society has conditioned them to think it's wrong to have sex with someone they just met. Recently, I met a girl at a bar/club. We had been dancing all night long, grinding, making out, etc. Closing time comes, and we're out in the parking lot making out. I tell her we should take our fun somewhere a little less public, and t…
/r/seduction18/01/11 09:41 PM
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I don't like the comedy club that much, because, like a movie, for the most part you're sitting there and not talking to each other, not paying attention to each other. Doesn't help build rapport or attraction, IMHO. I'm a firm believer in that the first few dates should always be some sort of activity. Not dinner or just drinks (although grabbing a cocktail somewhere over the course of a date is just fine), but something you can do/talk about/have fun with. I feel like I've mentioned all of the…
/r/seduction07/12/10 03:07 AM
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Hmm, not sure. Any museums or art galleries around? Those are always winners. Then afterwards, who cares if it's cold? Take a walk, hold her hand, and go get some hot chocolate or coffee. Bonus points if you can find a bar/lounge/whatever with a fireplace to warm up by.
/r/seduction07/12/10 03:00 AM
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Also I live outside Boston and am considering taking her to the Museum of Fine Arts. Do this. Totally awesome, plus there's tons of stuff to look at and talk about, so there shouldn't be any lulls in conversation unless you want them to be there. Then after you check out the museum, if you're hungry, grab some food. Don't plan it, just take a walk around the city and find somewhere that looks awesome. Spontaneous and adventurous is the key here, my friend.
/r/seduction07/12/10 01:48 AM
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I'm sort of with ya on this. Usually getting the number is part of saying goodbye for me as well. What is your # close method, if you don't mind sharing?
/r/seduction07/12/10 01:20 AM
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Hmm, since I don't know your area, tough to say. Are you close to a larger city?
/r/seduction07/12/10 01:18 AM
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Man, my best wing and I had a decent conversation on first dates and dates in general the other day. He brought up a couple of key points that, to me, seem like gold. First of all, spontaneity and excitement are key. Dinner? Boring. Drinks? Meh. If this girl really is an HB9, she's probably been out to tons of dinner dates, coffee dates, movie dates, and the like. Clearly, if those guys had piqued her interest, she'd be with them. Second, the kind of dates you take her on will tell her what kind…
/r/seduction07/12/10 01:12 AM
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Change it if you want to, but I see no reason to. Although getting dinner is boring. I've got a date later this week and we're going to get drunk at my house and then go ice skating. Cheesy? Yes. Corny? Absolutely. But, first and foremost, since she's coming to my house first, she'll be more likely to come to my house later. And ice skating provides lots of opportunities for kino, which means easy escalation. Consider doing some kind of activity, not just chewing your food in front of each other…
/r/seduction07/12/10 12:55 AM
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28/m here, and it's somewhere around 35-40. Although until about 2 years ago, that number was at 4 as I'd been in a relationship from the time I was 21-26, and was faithful. So I've been slutting it up the last two years.
/r/seduction07/12/10 12:52 AM
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I'm not entirely sure why this post is in Seddit, as it doesn't seem to have much to do with this particular community, unless you want to, well, date this girl. That said, relax, be yourself, don't have any expectations, and see where things go. If you want, flirt a bit, rock some kino, you should know the drill. But don't worry and relax. Be confident, friendly, and fun. The rest should come easily.
/r/seduction06/12/10 06:39 AM
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Thank you, sir. Going to try to post here more often, as I've learned a lot in the past couple of years. But one thing I'd like to point out is this: Even if you're dancing like a fool (within reason), you still look two, maybe three times better than all the other guys who are standing rigidly, drink in hand. You're wrong, you look a million times better than those guys. Even to the girls who don't like to dance. You're out there having fun and not giving a fuck. This is so critical it's insane…
/r/seduction06/12/10 06:30 AM
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the fact that you go out with 3 girls and 1 guy to dance is a very good thing for you. Oh well aware. Plus the fact that all three of those girls are damn good dancers, and very good looking doesn't hurt either. I'm quite lucky to have fallen in to this little clique, as when I go out with them and we hit the dance floor, I get stares all over the place.
/r/seduction06/12/10 06:26 AM
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My pleasure, sir! Just make sure you're genuinely having fun. I think this is one of those situations where "fake it 'till you make it" doesn't really apply, as it's painfully obvious when you're not really confident about yourself while dancing.
/r/seduction06/12/10 03:55 AM
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Can I hit on you? This is brilliant and I'm using it, thank you. And just to add something to this post, some openers that I've used. Some are good, some are bad, all have started a conversation and led to some kind of close. Hey, how are you girls doing? Have you ever slept with a gay man before? Well, your's is bigger. (Said to a girl last night wearing a pickle costume, ended up with her number 3 minutes later). What else do you two share? (Said to two girls sharing a massive carafe of booze,…
/r/seduction06/12/10 02:49 AM
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First thing I thought of. Damn willing to bet this girl was just giving off that "rapey" vibe. =P
/r/seduction06/12/10 02:39 AM
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This is tough. Not sure what to tell you here as for me, well, laughter is key. I'm not a great looking guy by any means, I'm kind of goofy looking, lanky, and fairly eccentric, but I've got a knack for making people laugh. Hell, on a recent date a girl told me I was incredibly funny, and I responded back something along the lines of "Yeah, it's pretty much all I've got going for me. I'm tall, lanky, and goofy looking so I've got to make you laugh constantly in the hopes you don't notice any of …
/r/seduction04/11/10 06:18 AM
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Pass over most of it why? I used to think the same way as the OP. I let others determine my self worth. I was in bad shape. I had no confidence, no self esteem, no game, and of course, no women. Could therapy help? Sure. I don't doubt that at all. But if the OP really wants to change, he's going to have to do a lot of work and no one is going to help him. One month at the gym isn't enough, and by the time you actually turn it in to a habit and see real changes, it's something you can enjoy, and …
/r/seduction03/11/10 03:48 AM
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In a few words, MAN THE FUCK UP. Now, in more words, for your reading conveniece. Your mindset is all, well, in your head. Right now, you have the mind set of a loser, a chump, an AFC. This is something that can be changed. It isn't easy, but no one is going to do this for you, and it isn't going to happen overnight. First things first, stop giving a fuck about women, and work on the most important thing in your life, yourself. This part right here bothered the fuck out of me: For a month, I wen…
/r/seduction03/11/10 02:14 AM
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I hate them both, but rarely call and almost always text, and here's why. First, if I get a girl's number, I'll either send her a text right then and there so she has mine, or send her one much later in the evening saying it was awesomet to meet her or something to that effect. And that's it. I generally don't respond to anything she says after that. I'm not trying to initiate a conversation, just want to make sure she's got my number and knows who I am. Beyond that, I have a busy, strange sched…
/r/seduction03/11/10 02:04 AM
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Again, though, for me, I've rarely ever got the girl at my house. This is for a few reasons... I don't want them spending the night, generally, may not want them knowing where I live, and again, I'm pretty aggressive, so I'll rarely wait until we're at her place or my place to initiate the physical side of things. So, to use a recent example, we were in an alley behind a bar having a smoke, about to finish up the night. We were making out and she pulled away and said she had better go. I can't r…
/r/seduction02/11/10 07:59 PM
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It certainly seems to work for me. But I'm not sure how serious LMR can get. Care to elaborate?
/r/seduction02/11/10 03:08 AM
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I've never heard of freezing out when you're trying to isolate. At this point I don't have them at my or her place, but I do have them isolated. At least as far as I understand it, isolation is just getting them 1 on 1, not necessarily back home. Then again I don't know all of the jargon here, so I may very well be wrong... If your phrase works for you almost every time, why worry? Personally I wouldn't use it on Japanese girls, but I can see how it would work on "normal" chicks. Oh not worried,…
/r/seduction02/11/10 03:05 AM
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This happened to me just last week. I had set up a date with a girl I've been out with a few times before on a Wednesday. I hadn't talked to her for a solid week, so come Monday I send her a text asking what time she'd be ready on Wednesday, and didn't hear back from her. Waited till the day of our date and sent another text letting her know I hadn't heard back from her, and wanted to know what time she'd be ready. Still nothing. I call instead of text about 6-7 hours later, and it goes straight…
/r/seduction02/11/10 02:48 AM
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Your link is broken my friend, when you enter text in the URL field, for a self post you just need to write "self," not "self.seduction." But anyway, here's a question for you, what does it matter if a girl has had plastic surgery? I mean, apart from being transgendered or something akin to it, what does it really matter if she has fake tits, collagen enhanced lips, or botoxed her forehead? If you find her attractive, you find her attractive, so who cares?
/r/seduction02/11/10 02:18 AM
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