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THEORYLemurianStarseed11/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 05:44 PM
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You could wear leggings with a longer sweater if you’re concerned about modesty or wear a tighter fitting sweater with the jeans! I don’t think baggy on top and bottom is a good idea. Men aren’t attracted to that
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 01:02 AM
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Nondenominational churches tend to be the most modern, I like to look for ones with connect groups for more community
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 07:55 AM
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I really don’t think I’m going to end up doing this alone. Even though it’s a short amount of time I’ve known him he has a proven track record of being a devoted and responsible husband and father of 18 years. He’s 100% in this with me and I am with him. We both have learned from the past mistakes of our relationships and are committed to making this work. He did have a problem with online sexual activity that he viewed as porn but now he’s not even watching porn which I can tell because he had …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 01:44 AM
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Thank you for the well wishes and advice! I’m glad you’re able to find a way to deal with this in a way that meets both your needs!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 01:36 AM
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We met a little over 4 months ago. It was moving too fast for me at first but in reality I’m closer to 34 than 32 and I really wanted to try for 2 kids so there was a part of me that wanted a fast moving relationship because my clock was ticking. I just wanted to make sure the person I moved fast with was the best choice. He was also referring to another pattern where his ex got all the best new stuff and he would always get cheap stuff and hand me downs. This is referring to when I told him to …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 11:04 PM
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Sauvage by Dior is the best one I’ve smelt!! Like a grown up luxurious version of Axe
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 11:01 PM
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Personally I can go 6 months between trims and gain waaaay more length then I could with regular trims and I do ok. This seems to be the consensus on r/longhair too
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 02:18 AM
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Don’t cut or trim for 6 months. Your hair will be ok and you’ll gain a lot of length. I also learned to trim myself since the hairdresser takes too much off. Mrs. Midwest had a good tutorial on this but it was in a vlog I can’t remember which. All you have to do is bring your hair to the front, half on each side, pinch each half between your fingers and snip a bit off and it actually comes out even.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:45 AM
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Follow her on Facebook, there’s a 30 minute intro video going around, then you can schedule a 2 hour intro call.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 06:21 PM
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https://secretlovehacks.com/home-page42464040
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 06:20 PM
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So I’m actually doing pretty well for myself. I used to make 6 figures doing massage full time at a 5 star hotel. Now I have more clients then I can handle and I also make $35/hr doing house cleaning and care giving. But I work part time due to my disability. Usually I don’t have trouble making ends meet but one of my main clients went on vacation for over a month and I also went on vacation to Kauai and had quarterly taxes too so it was a rough month.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 10:32 PM
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I would totally do it so long as you have enough savings (think 3 months) to cover your moving expenses back to your home state and living expenses to get you set up with a new should things go south. Maybe ask him if he’d be willing to contribute a lump sum into your bank account just as a buffer. He should totally be understanding as anything could happen, infidelity etc. I would also consider a part time job or side hustle/hobby that makes money to give you a sense of purpose and provide an a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 07:43 AM
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Agreed!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 05:37 AM
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Elementary school aged not sure the exact ages
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 04:00 AM
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He said they just grew apart and their communication became toxic. I guess they were happy for a long time though. He does have 2-3 kids with her. I don’t know many details about it tbh cause we pretty much just met! He wants me to call him tonight so I think I’m going to say it’s moving to fast and I’m not ready to be acting at talking as if we are bf & gf and that I need 2-3 months of dating to evaluate things especially since his divorce isn’t final until next month. He’s also taking one or t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 12:10 AM
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I signed up for a coaching program made by a therapist, called Love Life Hacks by Jourdan Blue. She has a dating hacks program and a relationship hacks program. Its based on attachment theory and getting to secure attachment. I think a combination of this with individual therapy is a good mix! Maybe see if you can find a therapist through your insurance so you only need a copay?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 03:22 PM
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I’m interested!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 01:26 AM
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Was just reading about man’s need to be admired in Fascinating Womanhood, you’re spot on!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 03:38 AM
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My step dad is 16 years older than my mom and in his early 70’s and they have a great marriage. While I don’t know the details of their sex life I know it happens. He’s still able to be active and is very healthy for his age. My dad is 18 years older than his wife and they have 5 kids they had while she was in her 20’s. They also have a very happy life so YMMV.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 07:53 AM
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If I could go back honestly I wish I did something like accounting even though I’m not passionate about it, you can get a good paying job directly out of school. For me, I would just want to start my own bookkeeping business that I could do at home part time. That’s what I wish I did instead of a psychology degree that I don’t even have the means to finish anymore either!! Hope it all works out for you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 03:04 AM
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I’m pretty sure dietitians need to go to grad school to be licensed? Not 100% sure on that but I thought that was the case. I wouldn’t recommend grad school if you want to be a SAHM. It also is very science heavy, you have to be able to do multiple college level chemistry classes as long as you think you can handle that, as well as a long unpaid internship. I also wonder how easy it is to get part time work or move in and out of the field. Don’t want to get you down on it but I’ve considered it …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 02:49 AM
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I did that out of high school. Recommend esthetician school instead, massage has a high burn out rate and I pretty much can’t have a regular massage job anymore, only occasional clients.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 02:45 AM
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Thank you for this great advice! I agree that it’s a responsible thing for him to do to not introduce me to his kids, I know they mean the world for him and tbh him being a great dad is the hottest thing to me!!! I know the yeast infection thing is cringy, I told him that because hanky panky was off the table. I just told him I was having lady issues and of course he pushed further for more details.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 01:46 AM
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A little longer than 4 months
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 01:14 AM
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Yes, I’m also confused as to why he offered this in the beginning of our relationship but not now. Maybe he thinks I would ask if I did need something?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 01:12 AM
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Yes I understand that, but I’m thinking more along the lines of him dropping off a care package outside my door.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 01:10 AM
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You’re totally right, thanks. If I told him I needed something he would 100% do whatever he could to make it happen, as long as he was able. I’m sure of it!! That does make me feel better!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:28 AM
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Yeah my family discouraged me too and the vaccine requirements were one thing that held me back as well. Sadly I went to the opposite extreme and started pursuing a psychology degree with hopes of becoming a therapist which is soooo much school and debt. I think as long as you don’t do what I did you will be ok! You could also pursue something like early childhood education which will be hugely attractive to a man who wants a SAHM.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:23 AM
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Nursing could be a good career with little or no debt since you can become an RN with an associates degree from a community college.. definitely what I wish I would have done. Then you can meet some handsome doctors :) plus male nurses who can make 100k plus if they pursue nurse practitioner careers.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:07 AM
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Target juniors section aka wild fable has very cute dresses, skirts and shirts :) I’m 33 (but look young) and I love wearing them!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 06:37 AM
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I’d look into St. John’s wort, light box and daily cardio. Try the natural solutions before medication which can have a lot of bad serious side effects. Exercise alone is proven to be as effective as medication but once a week isn’t enough.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 07:41 PM
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It turned out awesome!! Thanks so much ☺️🙏
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 10:11 AM
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Ok thank you so much!! How many chicken thighs would you do with this? One full pack?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/22 07:28 PM
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He’s going to teach me to make steak cause he’s a steak master ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/22 07:28 PM
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I agree. Steak dinner is a classic, I’ve made it before but I feel like I need to practice first. I will try your tip with the rosemary!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 08:33 PM
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That’s my fear, screwing up the steak! I will have to practice my steaks and roasts so I get it down.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 08:32 PM
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Those pasta ideas sound great!! Thanks for the tips :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 08:31 PM
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Digital meat thermometer is a great idea. I think I’m going to practice my steak with this tip. Thanks also for the tip on dark chicken meat!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 08:30 PM
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I think I’m leaning towards this!! I wanna practice steak before I make it for him since he’s such a meat aficionado. Approximately how much white wine and butter? Any ideas for a white wine to use that would pair well? I don’t really like dry wine but am open to suggestions!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 08:30 PM
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As a woman who’s a few pounds overweight, there are men who genuinely prefer this body type. I know because they tell me I’m perfect as I am and that they don’t like skinny women. But yeah, morbidly obese women are probably at a disadvantage.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 08:53 AM
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Why do you advise to not meet men online?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 10:08 PM
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I did. Hope that helps. I’ve pretty much gotten all the advice I need anyways. I wish there was a way to turn back time and meet him somewhere else. Honestly our connection was so strong it had me wondering if he was my soulmate :(
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 08:35 AM
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Yes he’s the one from that post. He is currently having financial problems so he is not paying me at the moment. I really hope he’s not just using me, but it feels so good to be in love that I’m giving it another month before I see where he really stands with me. I hope he will be honest. I have a goal of being able to do some vocational rehab and going back to work a couple days a week so I can stop seeing he other guys.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 12:47 AM
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On the dating site he chose 3 different tags, one was emotional connection, one was friends and the other NSA. My tags were emotional connection, friends and romance so he saw that when he contacted me. We didn’t have that talk because I wasn’t sure what I wanted when I first met him either. I started developing feelings for him by month 1 and tried to talk about it but like I said he changed the subject, but later thanked me for sharing my feelings with him. Right now I want to give him some sp…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 12:22 AM
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Yes I know. I usually try not to do this but we met under unusual circumstances. I will do my best to avoid this in the future if things don’t work out with him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 12:16 AM
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You’re right about this. I think I have to go with man A because he is the one I love. It’s getting really hard to even be with man B and that’s not fair to any of us involved, which will also help man A feel more special. It’s definitely not just the financial provision that makes me love him, although it’s meaningful to me as my love language is receiving gifts which I explained in my dating profile. I hope I have vetted him enough, I guess I haven’t known him long enough though. He works 3 jo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 07:50 PM
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They aren’t old men they are 47 and 41 respectively. I’m almost 33. Unfortunately the disability amount I would qualify for wouldn’t be enough to live on anyways. The system sucks
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 04:23 PM
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These are really wise words thank you 🙏 part of my job as a SB is putting my very best foot forward so I’ll have to think about how I can show more sides of myself. Hopefully it will come naturally with time. I haven’t spoken to them yet about my disability so that conversation will have to happen before I get serious or exclusive with either of them
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 07:42 AM
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Thanks so much for your concerns and suggestions. You’re right it’s still very new and things should become clearer as time goes on.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 07:31 AM
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You’re right, I hadn’t thought of that. It is a vulnerable situation to be in. I’d make sure at the very least we were in a stable BF/GF relationship before I make any plans to move in.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 07:28 AM
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This is all very sound advice. You’re right, I should be very cautious before I move in with either of them and make sure I’ve seen their not so good side before making any formal commitments. I hope the jealously wouldn’t linger too long as I’m sure once I chooses one of them I will forget about the others pretty quickly. Somehow through all this I’ve really preserved my ability to pair bond. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 07:26 AM
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Anyone who’s actually in the disability community knows that you will very likely be denied once, twice or even three or four times before they finally approve you. It’s a very shitty system that contributes to the homeless problem here in the US
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 11:28 PM
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I love Mrs. Midwest and have been following her since 2019. I think one of the biggest takeaways I got from her is her discipline in keeping her home clean. She literally doesn’t sit down until her house is tidy and makes sure to put her kitchen to bed each night. I follow her on Instagram too and always watch her stories. One my favorite stories of her said “tidying is just in your mind” and shows how she cleaned up her messy living room in 5 minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 07:24 PM
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SkinMedica Revitalize peel
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/21 07:39 AM
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Ohh that’s really good to know, my hair thinning isn’t that bad yet but it’s hereditary to go super thin on top so I’ll keep that in mind!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 06:04 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 06:00 AM
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My hair is both thin and damaged. Any suggestions?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 01:13 AM
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I have gone to the dermatologist… they said to just use very basic gentle skincare like cerave and no fun anti-aging products for me… I have found that I’m able to use Shark Sauce so that’s the best I can do.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 08:07 PM
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I think I’m to the point of needing a facelift unfortunately :( that would take care of a lot of the damage. I found a mini facelift surgeon that does it for under 3 grand. Will have to make that the long term plan though…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 08:15 AM
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I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. You can start by counting your blessings every day. Focusing on the positive and gratitude will help your mental health and well-being, which can impact your physical health in a positive way. I don’t know the nature of your condition, but I also have a somewhat debilitating illness that will likely prevent me from having children. I’m also 32 and single. Having a supportive husband by your side is such a blessing so don’t take it for granted! In the …
/r/RedPillWives02/02/21 11:38 PM
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Studies show a BMI of around 20.7 is most attractive to adult men, that can go down even lower (18-19) for college aged men.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 10:15 PM
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Right now is a lonely time for almost everyone with COVID. I watch a lot of YouTube which keeps me company. I follow certain YouTubers closely and feel they can be better influences and company than the people I know in real life honestly. I think that does help keep me from feeling too lonely, even though it’s not a perfect solution.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 05:55 AM
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I had a friend who was really overweight, the opposite of what a “good body” would be considered and she never failed to find a boyfriend through dating apps and I wouldn’t even consider them low value, just normal guys. What she had was a great personality and a lot of self love and confidence. You shouldn’t have an issue finding someone if you’re persistent.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 08:44 PM
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Yeah, I’d probably rather be with a guy who’s ok talking charge and making the first moves. Asking me out first, calling & texting first, telling me he likes and loves me first. I’m pretty old school in this regard. I told him that too so who knows. Modern dating is kind of a different ballpark but I’m not that interested in participating. Seems a lot more stressful to me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 10:17 AM
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I feel like that’s pretty much what I do already, but I will try and be more aware of these things!! Great tops, thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:41 AM
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I feel like I was doing that. I think this guy is just impossible to please. He’s 42 and single and I guess he just can’t meet a good woman. Maybe that’s why.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:32 AM
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What would you do to show you like a guy? I smiled and laughed at his jokes, talked with him and was interested in him, accepted the date and was excited about future plans. I’m not sure what more to do!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 12:59 AM
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Yeah those use to work for me before my skin got ruined by a Skinmedica vitalize peel :(
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 10:52 PM
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I’ve heard that sometimes the machine can malfunction so I think it’s a gamble. I went to a reputable med spa in the hospital for my peel. Others have gotten injured by lasers from reputable doctors and places too but YMMV. Good for you for listening to your intuition!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 09:31 PM
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I think it’s easier if you’re in a humid climate. I never would of been brave enough to try it in Colorado, but now I’m in the South and it’s a breeze!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 04:48 PM
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Peels really hurt my skin! Lasting damage. Lasers have done the same for many. Just a warning for others, I’m glad if it works for you. I’m almost 32 and less is more for me, my skin reacts badly to any kind of inflammation.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 06:03 AM
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Me too! I stopped using makeup to give my very sensitive skin a break and it’s so freeing. I actually started doing the caveman regimine so I’m not doing any skincare besides an occasional splash of water and blotting with tissue paper. Honestly this was my last resort for my hypersensitive skin but it’s improved my skin so much, more than any product I’ve tried. My skin was dry for the first few days until my natural oils built up. After two weeks my pores are smaller, my skin is dewy and all t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 05:59 AM
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I second getting professional help. It sounds like your first time was traumatic because you got drunk and were taken advantage of. Do you think you would count this as borderline assault/coercion? This happened to me before and it was very traumatic. That type of manipulation is taken seriously by sexual assault agencies (there’s a network of them so likely one in your area) and they could provide you with free counceling, including trauma therapy like EMDR.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 04:13 PM
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Maybe try a different app than Bumble? Something rubs me the wrong way about an app in which men take the passive role. I think you may have better luck being pursued by a man who takes initiative.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 10:47 AM
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Maybe take a break for a while so you can refresh yourself? Carrying that kind of exhaustion could be a self fulfilling prophecy. Focus on what you love and are passionate about other than your desire to be a wife and mom. You might meet the right guy without even trying :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 09:28 PM
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I think she deleted it or has a new one by now.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 11:56 PM
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Paralegal?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 06:28 PM
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Cynthia L, Inspired by Nikki, Sweet Magnolias, Thyme and Tenderness
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 04:24 PM
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As someone with a mood disorder who is on medication, this thread gives me so much hope. I totally encourage you seeking further help and it seems that would really improve your relationship. I’m still fine tuning my medications a year and a half after I first sought help and I’m still learning how to manage or improve the side effects I experience, but it is worth it to have more stability and to be able to sleep finally. I also aspire to being able to go unmediated. I have heard stories about …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 08:45 PM
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I would say you were a 6 or a 5 at the absolute worst on your worst angle/worst day, I’m not saying this to be nice at all. Luckily, you already have a devoted husband so you don’t have to worry about it!! I hope you can learn to love yourself as you are and appreciate all that you do have.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 05:25 PM
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I actually think you look rather average and even pretty. I wouldn’t call you unconventional at all and I’m honestly a pretty harsh critic. I don’t see how your looks would affect your ability to make friends or get jobs... so many of your posts center around insecurity about your looks. Perhaps this is something you could work with a therapist for as it seems more like body dysmorphia than an actual shortcoming.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 12:41 AM
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Did you wait until you were engaged or married?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 02:38 AM
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I struggled with this myself. I think it’s a great approach you’re taking, although I’d like to be clear about my boundaries and then watch and see how respectfully they honor them. Mrs. Midwest speaks on this topic in her video in red flags and lists failure to respect physical boundaries as a red flag, though nearly all the men I’ve tried to set boundaries has crossed them. I think it takes a special man to respect them, but I believe those kind of men with integrity and respect are worth wait…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 09:47 PM
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I think (good) Christian men, especially those who are reformed Christians with a past themselves, are more forgiving than you’d think.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 09:44 PM
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Ok, maybe I read that wrong. Still, I know of many instances of this where is not true. Check out Kian Tilton on YouTube. She openly had sugar daddies and sex for money and even she was able to get engaged with a high value handsome male while waiting for sex till marriage. Look at Megan Goode and her husband, Justin Bieber and his wife. Paul and Morgan on YouTube (not sure why people hate on them, I think they’re great.) Many born again Christians are not virgins but become “born again virgins”…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 09:33 PM
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That’s simply not true. I know many high value, Christian men who saved sex for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 08:19 PM
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I just tried the sex kitten liquid eyeliner from Tarte and I love it! It lasts all day even though its not waterproof and the tip is thin but not too thin, so I think its well suited for beginners. I had the Elf pen before that and didn't like it nearly as much. The Tarte one is very much worth it and has clean ingredients for sensitive eyes as well. It just takes practice, although some may not be as good at having a steady hand and its a bit like art. Eye pencils and powders with an angled bru…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 07:24 PM
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Are you diagnosed with Boarderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar Disorder?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/20 09:41 PM
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Adding to this conversation, I have no family history of autism, so it’s not genetic in my case. I’m sure the higher instances of autism based on genetics is comparable to having an older partner, even an older male partner. I recently learned that the chance of bipolar being passed on is only 20%, so I imagine the risk would be something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 11:05 PM
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I don’t feel discriminated in the dating market. I don’t even necessarily feel the need to expose it since it is so undetectable, even to mental health professionals. It mainly manifests as me having intense special interests, above average verbal skills, less need for social interaction and being a bit fidgety. Had it not been me having an aspie partner I likely never would of known.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 11:00 PM
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She’s totally allowed to have a difficult time with her brother, but it seems unfair to categorize all autistic people as complete nightmares when that’s simply not the case.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 09:42 PM
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The thing is, autism is called a spectrum disorder because there’s so many levels of severity and ways or expression. Spreading this kind of attitude is just perpetuating stigma. Nobody would be able to even tell that I have autism, thus I didn’t get diagnosed until I sought an evaluation for myself at 31.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 05:35 PM
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I have a mild form of autism and life is definitely worth living for me. I want to be a mother and my aspie former partner / best friend also wants kids. I think it’s safe to assume you might be the primary caretaker but it is possible if it’s something you want. I don’t think you should let stigma hold you back.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 05:19 PM
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I have personally seen four single mom friends, in their 20s with 2-3 kids, some from different dads end up marrying a quality guy. I think there’s truth that many men will be turned off by kids, but there are certainly enough men that are ok with it to not make my four friends experiences a statistical anomaly.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 06:32 PM
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The wall is real but it’s not nearly the death sentence TRP makes it out to be. How hard you hit the wall depends on your genetics and lifestyle. For me, at around 30 I noticed a few more fine lines and a slight increase in skin texture. Most of this is undetectable unless you’re studying my skin up close like I would in a mirror. The truth is some men actually prefer to date women in their 30s due to their maturity, self awareness and compatibility of life stage. Just take a look on any online …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 02:42 AM
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I am working on adapting a daily routine that includes exercise, meditation, bible reading, cleaning and healthy food prep. This seems to be the hardest goal for me to achieve, yet also seems to be the most important one of all!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 06:13 PM
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You can definitely still get married. I would say the majority of men don’t expect virginity and would be happy with a n-count of one. I also suggest a video made by Paul and Morgan, a Christian YouTube couple on this very topic. Morgan was not a virgin when she married Paul, although he had saved himself for marriage. Paul was able to forgive her past even though he has very strong Christian values and standards. They have a great marriage and so can you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 05:48 PM
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I am getting rid of jeans, shorts and T-shirt’s in favor of dresses, skirts and blouses. Trading sneakers for flats/heels and trendy accessories for classy, elegant and timeless pieces. Swapping my big ugly bedtime T-shirt’s for more feminine and form fitting pajamas. I’m 31 by the way, so the style evolution has been a journey for me. When I was 27 I started getting rid of much the clothes I got in the junior section. There is a nice consignment shop, Crossroads (maybe you have one like that ne…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 04:47 PM
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I’ve been in semi nun mode since I was 29 (31 now) and I can say that it’s totally ok to take this time for yourself. You will feel and look better if you take the time to better yourself inside and out. I dated a couple guys during this period, so it was more on and off, but even then my focus and aspirations primarily remained on improving myself. I’m finally to a place where I feel like I will be ready to seriously date with the intention of marriage in a few months. Depending on your genetic…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 04:21 PM
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I got incredibly ill from botox and know others who have lasting damage from it. Consider yourself lucky to have a husband who loves the natural you! There are certain peptide/venom creams that work like a gentle botox and are much safer.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:29 PM
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I seriously dated a 25 year old when I was 28 and had plenty of younger guys trying to date me, so I don’t think it’s as big of a deal as you think. Figure out ways to preserve and enhance your youth and connect with guys in your target group. You may of had a few bad experiences but if your only 26, I doubt it has that much to do with age unless you are very prematurely aged.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 03:21 AM
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I read somewhere that guys are into contouring actually. Idk, it was such a dramatic transformation you might be able to learn something to give you an extra boost of confidence. This kind of makeup is good for night time, dinner dates and parties, etc. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cPshdP-hOvk
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 04:41 PM
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There’s a YouTube makeup tutorial I saw, how to catfish in real life, literally took this girl from a 5 to a 9. Maybe check it out and brush up your skills!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 04:32 PM
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Faith in Home, Humble Homemaking, Cynthia L, The Daily Connoisseur, Sweet Magnolia, That Feminine Housewife and Mrs. Midwest are my favorites :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 08:33 PM
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I’m not married but I take my homemaking skills seriously. I’ve found the most helpful thing is assigning certain tasks to each day. I have a day for dusting & vacuuming, kitchen and bathroom cleaning, DIY day, laundry day, errand day, clean the car day and a day of rest on Sunday! Everyone’s weekly schedule looks a little different so it’s all about finding what makes sense to you. Lots of inspiration online about this. I also love to watch different homemaking YouTubers who have many great sug…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 03:11 AM
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Maybe you can try a waist trainer for special occasions or when you go out for some extra confidence?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 08:10 PM
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I just edited my comment with the bit about cortisol. It sounds like for some reason you have some stubborn weight around your stomach which is the unhealthy kind of fat. I would look in to ways to decrease cortisol and lower stress. Maybe there is a food intolerance that is causing bloating?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 08:02 PM
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I am 5’4 and currently weigh 136 pounds. This is not my ideal weight and my stomach also feels huge. I feel so much better at around 120 and my stomach is small and flat at that weight. I would definitely focus on weight loss before you consider surgery. I’ve been looking at intermittent fasting / keto and it seems like that can help with bloating and cravings. I also watched a YouTube video about how high intensity workouts increase cortisol and therefore increase fat storage in the stomach. Ma…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 07:58 PM
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I liked the book “How to Choose a Husband.” It’s on audible and meets both those criteria!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 02:06 PM
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I think that’s totally true!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 12:49 AM
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I’ve had 8 official boyfriends (I know, shouldn’t brag about this), always waited till we were committed and honestly never had a problem with this sexual compatibility thing. They were all good in their own ways. I think sexual compatibility is over hyped, or maybe I just got lucky?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 09:52 PM
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I started up a home exercise routine and started calorie counting again so I can lose 20 pounds. Ordered some new Nike running shoes (they are having a great sale!) so I can train for a half marathon. Doing Pilates and Zumba YouTube videos for cross training. Getting out for walks aside from training just to get some fresh air. Also pulled out the embroidery and weaving projects I have been meaning to get back into and am going to get some deep cleaning done that I’ve been putting off for awhile…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/20 11:01 PM
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Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus Fascinating Woman for The Timeless Woman How To Keep Your House Without Loosing Your Mind First, Kill All The Marriage Counselors All on Audible :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 03:39 PM
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My goals are to follow a daily AM & PM routine that includes self care and meditation, creating and following weekly cleaning and exercise routines and to lose 2-3 pounds. I’m on a medication that causes huge amounts of weight gain so this is a struggle, however I was able to lose 3 pounds in 10 days on a green smoothie cleanse and figure I can continue to lose weight through calorie counting. It may take twice as much work to lose the weight due to increased appetite and slowed metabolism, howe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 08:03 PM
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Clean With Me was suggested by Cynthia L
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 05:35 AM
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I am listening to “How to Choose a Husband” and “First, Kill All The Marriage Counselors.” Both are great resources with a distinctly RP worldview.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 01:30 AM
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Thank you everyone, the downvotes are harsh yet the advice is priceless. I’m seeing him less through the rose colored glasses and realize a stable neurotypical guy who doesn’t have a tendency to pick up other women/drown himself in debt is my best bet and that 6 months of focused nun mode and finding my own stability will give me a better shot at that. Really appreciate the help!
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 11:44 PM
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Warm baths, Biomat, weighted blanket, cuddling pillows and getting massage have all helped me!! :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 03:56 AM
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Congratulations!! That’s amazing and so encouraging to hear!! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 05:00 AM
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Just look up “orange peel skin from microneedling.” I’m having pretty much the same issue after a chemical peel. I’ve spent 100s of hours researching it at this point and have seen so many horror stories, so I’m happy to share what I can to help! It’s a very small percentage that has this reaction, any kind of over exfoliation can do it too. Best thing that’s come out of it is being motivated to make my own skincare line, since my skin is so sensitive now, I literally have to! Just whipped up my…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 12:06 AM
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Truth!! I actually had an old roommate who was 24 or 25, but she legit looked 16. She was dating a prominent YouTube guy who was in his 30s, and he was really uncomfortable about taking things further with her since she looked so young and it wouldn’t look good to his YouTube followers. I’m sure any guy who cares about what general society thinks wouldn’t want to appear to be dating a teenager. For me, it was actually a problem attracting so many young men who wanted to date or pursue a relation…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 11:09 PM
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Weird!!! Same thing just happened for me with an ultrasound. I guess maybe since I just turned 30 he thought I could go either way? I’m 1/4 Asian, so I think genetics have something to do with it. My mom doesn’t wear sunscreen or take very good care of her skin, but at 53 she still looks pretty good. I got “hot mom” comments amongst from guy friends up until a few years ago. She has a lot of sun damage but she doesn’t need fillers or a brow/facelift or anything. She’s 1/2 Korean. Genetics really…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 06:52 PM
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Again, I’ve seen so many accounts of women having their skin WRECKED with invasive resurfacing procedures, even retin-a and glycolic acid. I’m not trying to be a Debby downer, just want to get this knowledge out there. I became aware that lasers and micro needling could cause problems. Didn’t realize I would have so many issues from a “gentle” vitalize peel! Hands down 10x more aging/damaging for my skin than 10 years of smoking and tanning was, overnight. It might work for a lot of people, but …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 06:34 PM
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I did botox and got really sick from it. My face was atrophying and so many other issues. It was like botsulism poisoning, with atrophy to the point I wanted a face fat transfer or fillers. Luckily I was able to heal and my face mostly bounced back from it. Unfortunately some aren’t so lucky :( I pray that never happens to you! Everyone should know there more risks than doctors let you know about with injectables and there are other ways to slow/prevent aging. Bangs help with the forehead, and y…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 06:23 PM
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AMEN! Been applying it religiously every 2 hours for the last 3-4 years, and I swear it half stopped my aging, even though I was smoking! I think they say sun is about 70-80% of skin aging? I apply it even if I’ll be in the house and almost always wear a hat when I go outside. About to start busting out the old school driving gloves at this point haha
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 06:16 PM
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You’re welcome! So glad I could help :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 04:51 AM
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That’s a lot to squeeze in a one-two month nun mode. I am 30 and looking at nun mode for at least a year. I say take the time you need now to accomplish your goals and establish a great routine. Start going to some meetups or things where you can practice being social, talk to people in line and at the gym, etc. I would give yourself at least 3 months if you have a lot to work on. It’s so easy to get swayed off our routine when dating someone new. The number one tip I have is to make sure you es…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 04:45 AM
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Pull yourself together girl!!! I attracted a high SMV man, who was 2.5 years younger when I was 28. He committed to me wholeheartedly in a serious relationship after he played the field for 2 years before me. I’ve never been treated better in my life. I messed it up because I was brainwashed by feminism and traumatized from an abusive 3 year relationship I got out of a couple months before meeting him. You’re in therapy now. Do you need nun mode? Take the golden opportunity now so you don’t find…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 01:30 AM
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Holistic anti aging and skincare is one of my greatest passions, so I have plenty of tips for you! I’ll break it up in 2 sections since I have a lot to say. Part 1: Beauty Tips and Tricks Sunscreen is your best friend. Reapply every 2 hours! I noted my favorites below. The mineral powder sunscreen is good in theory. You’d literally have to cake your face opaque to get the advertised SPF, but I guess it’s better than nothing. Humidifier is crucial if you live in dry climate. Another of my favorit…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:12 PM
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Part 2: Perils of Med Spas and Invasive Treatments I tried the Allergen/Brilliant Distinctions/ breast implant / botox / TNS Eye Cream / chemical peel route, and came to the conclusion that Allergan is evil and all of their products lead to one problem after another, continuing the ever desperate anti aging spiral as a woman rapidly looses her looks, shelling out whatever she can and thus Allergans wallet continues to get fatter. I kept being sucked into their system with all my reward points fr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:11 PM
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My HG sunscreen was Juice Beauty tinted moisturizer. It’s zinc oxide spf 30 with vitamin c. I had a bad chemical peel last month, so the only thing I’m able to use now without my face burning is Elta MD UV 41 Mineral Shield. I even tried the most natural, basic badger sunscreen, which burned my face so bad! Ironically, the one with more chemicals is the only thing that doesn’t irritate my skin. It also has a nice tint so can replace foundation. You can only get it at a doctors office or online. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:07 AM
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I recently turned 30 as well, am in nun mode, and I have a lot more work cut out for me than you do! I’m giving myself at least a year, for you I would say 3-6 months, depending on how quickly you heal. If it takes a little longer, then that’s ok too! 3.5 years is a long relationship. It will take some time to heal and integrate what you need to learn so you don’t get in that situation again. It’s also a perfect opportunity for nun mode since you’re planning to move to a new state soon. I’m actu…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 03:52 AM
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You don’t need foundation, especially if you’re not even wearing makeup now. I haven’t worn foundation since high school. Just use a little concealer and a good tinted moisturizer/BB cream with sunscreen. Every 2 hours if you want to prevent wrinkles! Juice beauty is my favorite and doesn’t break me out. You can learn to do your makeup with YouTube :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 03:08 AM
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Commit to a meditation practice and work out. That will probably help you more than anything :) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200609/mastering-your-own-mind?fbclid=IwAR2Z5op1g3uAQv9NbCoVo2g7QqPrzQb7Byi8f2TufGB0MBDwAOR-lB3HZQs
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 08:00 PM
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I have that kind of personality too, and it’s a deal breaker for some guys off the bat. Thats ok though! The right guy will love it, but I agree to try and keep it the extreme end of it (baby talk, super giggly and flirty) more for your guy than sharing it with ALL the guys. It’s ok to be bubbly, but try to ground yourself a little bit in public and when you’re on a first date. I’m working on not oversharing too much, so it’s good you’re a bit more reserved, but make sure you have passions and i…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 07:33 PM
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You are on the right track by not sleeping around without real commitment. It’s honestly the only way to prevent the “pump and dump.” I try to wait at least 2-3 months and make sure I have a girlfriend title before doing so. I suggest the book “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.” It will give you some really good tips on how to present yourself more as “keeper” material. Sure, some guys will lose interest along the way, but those aren’t the kinds of guys you want. I’ve had best results in men pr…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 07:17 PM
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I used to knit and loved it! Funny I’ve been thinking about it lately. A lot of my job I’m just sitting around and chatting, so it would make sense for me to start it up again! Good idea and nice way to hone my domestic skills ;)
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 03:27 PM
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Thank you!! My original intention to go to school was to understand the psychology and neuroscience of what I’ve been going through and create some kind of recovery program, so perhaps I will indeed become a professional “nun mode” expert and oxytocin addict rehab guide lol. Gotta put myself through it first, but hopefully I’ll be able to help others in some way, so it’s not all for nothing!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 08:17 PM
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HA fillers seem somewhat safer than botox but I still know women who are injured from them. I am taking collagen peptides and HA supplements and finding success with that. I got an LED mask from Dr. Dennis Gross, it was on sale but they are pretty pricey. There are cheaper ones available, not sure how good they work. I plan on using it every day though, so it’s cheaper than going to an esthetician for LED treatment. It’s FDA approved for treating and preventing fine lines. Blue light from screen…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 10:13 PM
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I strongly recommend against botox. Look up “Impaired Neuronal communication syndrome.” It’s possible for anyone. Also, there are studies showing it reduces sebum production which then increases fine lines. Paralyzed muscles sometimes don’t return and can cause atrophy, sometimes this spreads to the body. I got really sick from botox and it hurt my looks too. I am part of a support group for those injured from botox and fillers. Most women there are very sick and some permanently disabled. Some …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 08:49 PM
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Gosh that first verse speaks to me so much. It pretty much describes my life since I can have all these mystical experiences and states, but once I come back to reality of my quiet lonely existence it feels so empty without the love of a family and even close friends to fill my days. Sometimes I think I could be a literal nun or spiritual recluse, but I also know my heart and my deep desire to have a family that’s always been there before my abuse stated to shut it down. Family life is very much…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 06:41 PM
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Thank you. It’s not easy but I know there are others out there who have suffered bad circumstances and eventually found a happy ending. I am holding on to hope as much as I possibly can, doing my best to turn that hope into faith and positive action.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 03:11 AM
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The one who went nuts definitely did. Even his family members and closest friends told me so after he died, he always talked about loving and missing me. I think there were points that he didn’t for sure, but even with the cheating it was the purest love I ever knew. Goes to show sometimes it’s worth it to forgive a cheater if he’s a solid man by your side with honest intentions, sometimes they can grow and be better. How do I know it’s real love?? I’m not even sure at this point. A part of me w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 03:07 AM
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This is a harsh truth and I appreciate the honesty. Sick and tired of my mother, friends and therapists feeding me the “you deserve some perfect imaginary person and your the greatest woman on planet earth and everything is just going to work out perfectly so just don’t you worry” BS. I know very well things often don’t work out for people, especially single women of my age range who are not proactive to secure a mate, so I know I have to be proactive and find a way to move past all this. Some p…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 02:52 AM
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Wow I never thought about the breaking up and getting back together impacting pair bonding. It makes a lot of sense though, especially my last one. He had a chronic pattern of breaking up with me over arguments, it was once a month for the last 4 or 5 months! I felt all weird and traumatized after, and it’s no wonder our relationship started having more and more problems. He had the pattern of physically leaving if we had an argument or refusing to talk for days if he was upset. I know engaging …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 08:06 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. Yes, there are deeper issues and sheer stupidity as to why I wasn’t able to properly vet the more recent ones and get out of the abuse of my most recent relationships in time to not be damaged. My trauma added up to me acting out really badly in the last one. Definitely behaved worse than I ever thought I was capable of. Some of it was hormonal from 3 months in a row of morning after pill too. I learned so much from that experience and I’m finally letting go of any rem…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 07:44 PM
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