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I confronted her directly (via text so it was documented) and said how dare she make an such a ridiculous allegation. My daughters sleep in their own beds now but co-slept with us for a long time and it’s not unusual for them to go to one of us in the middle of the night. She should be careful backpedaling as fast as she did, could trip and hurt herself. Claimed she didn’t accuse me of anything, just asked a question blah blah blah. Never tried anything remotely close again and never brought it …
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 02:08 AM
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My STBX did something similar with my biological daughter (our oldest). She’s seven and had come into my bed in the middle of the night. Next thing I knew my STBX barged into my room demanding to know if my daughter had clothes on. I’ve never been so disgusted in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 02:04 AM
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Between the equity and the increase in monthly payments after refinancing at a significantly higher rate it’s simply not feasible.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:08 AM
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Good luck man, buckle up for at least the next few months
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 11:55 PM
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I see a lot of people mention the ring mark. I was married for 8 years and within 1-2 days the ring mark was gone. I hadn’t gotten a tan yet, so no tan line. Maybe it was just too lose or the weight I had gained during marriage didn’t go to my fingers? Lol, no clue but I’m grateful to not have to bear the reminder and sorry for those who do.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:21 PM
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This, my stbxw didn’t cheat in the traditional sense, but she’s been up all night multiple times a moron with another woman for 2+ years and I hear her say things like “I’ve completely devoted myself to you.” Gee, wonder why she didn’t have the energy to work on the issues in our marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 10:53 PM
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I’m still not even through the process and I’ve learned this is true. I went on two dates with another woman, we weren’t romantically compatible, but being in her company was so much more enjoyable than being in the home with my stbxw. It’s not going anywhere but those dates left me confident that I’m gonna find someone who makes me exponentially happier than I have been for the past who knows how many years.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 10:51 PM
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I don’t know, my stbxw is the one who had an emotional affair with another woman, refused to give counseling a shot and instead decided to upend our daughters’ lives and blow up the family. I don’t think about her with anything but disgust. All the promises and vows were just a hollow lie, she tries to spin it like “people change” but all I hear is I didn’t mean a word I said or wrote.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 02:43 AM
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Yes, once the bank said she couldn’t assume the current mortgage and its 2.75 rate, the whole thing was shot as the monthly payment would increase over $500 without even taking cash out in a refi
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 10:41 AM
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My wife tried to buy me out and bank wouldn’t let her assume the mortgage. I was prepared to ask for a few thousand bucks as compensation for the furnishings of our 3 bedroom colonial. Wouldn’t have made it a sticking point in a settlement though.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 09:59 PM
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I was aware of how dumb it was when I made the offer but I would have done it for my children. It’s off the table now though, house goes on the market next week and should be sold the week after
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 03:46 PM
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She feels nothing toward you. She sees only what she can get for herself. I wish that wasn’t true but I’m going through the same thing and it is just clear as day. Every time I try to do something kind for her, the truth reveals itself. I even foolishly offered to stay on the mortgage so she could keep the house for the sake of our daughters and she countered with I should take a small portion of the liquid assets, leave, and stay in the mortgage. Take all the risk and basically go be homeless f…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 12:55 AM
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Maybe I’m naive, but I’m not quite on the other side but I can see remarrying. I’ve been on a date and talked to a couple other girls on some of the apps and it’s made me feel good both about myself and the fact that they’re are still normal, compatible girls out there. I’m not gonna let my crazy stbxw ruin the rest of my life and turn me off from trusting and committing ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 12:19 AM
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Hell yea, get your kids man, is anything more important?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 10:55 PM
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Goin through this myself. I desperately wanted to keep the house for my kids. I was stunned when she said she wanted to buy me out of a house she claims to “hate”. I’m glad my kids get to stay in it half the time and keep the same school but fuck. I’m watching it turn into a dump as I get ready to move out in the next two months. It hurts but I’m gonna make my next place my kids’ happy place.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 02:42 AM
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I think it’s patently absurd to compare a marriage to a career. I could say more but I don’t think I need to.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 09:12 PM
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Yea, I was thinking they also are young enough that sharing a room and a relatively small space is still palatable if it means I can get a house in 2-3 years
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:34 PM
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Yea, I think I could get something on the lower end but it would really stretch me thin. Hoping to wait out the interest rates a bit while continuing to grow savings.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:31 PM
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NY, we’re on Long Island, hence I’ll probably have to rent for a couple years before I can buy a place of my own
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:26 PM
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Yes, I’ve also been thinking there needs to be some money for the contents of them home, which she is presumably keeping the vast majority of
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 03:13 PM
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Thanks, this is the headspace I’m trying to get to
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 12:32 AM
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Ha, fine by me, she’s the one who decided to blow up the family. She’s already made me the bad guy to everyone she knows, my friends and family know better
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 11:06 PM
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Yes, legal custody is shared and professional opinion is the way to decide disagreements, that part is more or less set. No signatures on anything but that aspect isn’t contentious
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 11:05 PM
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Sounds like something a husband would do haha. I also presume she’d call her father first, though I probably will leave something of a honeydo list as there are things she needs to know how to do herself that I’ve been doing and parts of the home that need attention I doubt she’s aware of. She’ll get that list after I get my cash haha
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 11:03 PM
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She out earns me (we’re both teachers and she started like 7 years before me). Shes also getting cash right now from somewhere (I’m assuming her parents) to be able to afford to buy me out and divide the other assets.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:59 PM
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Yea, I just hope my girls can come to have two equal homes and my place isn’t always the “other” place
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:21 PM
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She makes about 15k more than me a year and we both do ok. If she can get it, I’m happy to basically give it to her to close to market value without an appraisal so my kids can stay in their school and home. It is breaking my heart to think of them running to my bed in the middle of the night and me not being there but in my heart I know this is what’s best for my girls.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:18 PM
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I’m getting my fair share and she seems convinced she can assume the current mortgage with its 2.8 percent rate. Hoping she contacted the bank about this. I’m hoping that after 2-3 years of renting I’ll be able to by my own home in the district. I’m not nearly as picky as her, I’m good with about anything as long as it’s good for my daughters.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:09 PM
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Nothing is fully settled yet and I mentioned that to my lawyer. We are “close” on custody. I want 50-50 NOW, wife is asking for an extra day every two weeks (58-42). Sounds like the compromise is likely starting with her model with a written, guaranteed transition to full 50-50 within 6-12 months (that parts being negotiated). It would have to be brought back to court to NOT transition to full 50-50. It did cross my mind that she wants the home to push for more custody down the road as she has s…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:07 PM
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A quick google search tells me that Michigan prefers 50-50 when it’s in the best interest of the children. This means it’s possible but you have work to do. Take on as much parental responsibility and find a way to document it as well as any of her missteps.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 03:28 AM
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Depends on the state. My daughters are 4 and 7 and it is ultimately looking like I’ll end up with 50-50 though I’m not counting my chickens before they hatch. I’m in NY and wish they would follow the lead of other states and default to 50-50. It’s absurd that a walk away wife and decide to not only blow up the family but also take the kids with her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 03:12 AM
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They’re buying whatever nonsense she’s selling, leveling all sorts of false accusations at me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 02:33 PM
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Thanks, for now the plan is an order of protection against them, likely saying they must refrain from harassment, threatening, or violent behavior and possibly that they cannot enter our home. Waiting to speak to my lawyer tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 01:13 PM
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I don’t know man, we’re all still currently in the same home, which is a nightmare because I have to deal with her bs everyday but an absolute blessing because I still see my girls each and every day. When this is over and we are separated, I just feel like I will be living and breathing for the days that are mine with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:20 AM
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I’m in the midst of a divorce and fighting for at least 50-50 custody of my 2 daughters myself. Your buddy is either an idiot or needs to be committed. It would take every branch of the military to drag me away from these kids if I know I keep at least 50-50 custody. Kids come first, always and forever
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 03:37 AM
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I tried to do the right thing for Mothers Day and bought a locket for my stbx from our two daughters. I showed my oldest, 7, the pictures of the girls and their mothers that were in the locket the day before so she could understand what she was giving mom. She asked why I wasn’t in the pictures then said “but you love mommy, right?” Broke my heart. We haven’t talked to the kids yet because there is no separation agreement or even a parenting plan yet but she can tell things are changing. It suck…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 08:54 PM
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She could have tried literally anything. I was willing to put up with so much but now that she has filed it would take a whole lot to reconcile, though I can’t rule it out completely for the sake of my children.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 07:34 PM
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My wife filed a month ago but we’re all still in the same house. I’m giving her the anniversary gift I bought her for what would have been our anniversary 3 weeks ago as a gift. I also got her a gift for the kids. I will be going to see my own mother and she can do what she’d like with her family and bring the kids with her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 09:43 PM
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Also, 10 of 10 on the username. Bern, baby, bern!
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 10:10 PM
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I know for a fact the phone was another woman, I am told the weekends away were but I have called shenanigans. Obviously leads to her getting angry but not nearly as angry as when I say disparaging things about her “friend” and the role she has played in splitting up our family with those all night calls
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 10:10 PM
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Gross, I’m making sure there’s clauses in the agreement about when partners can be introduced. I got to have my daughter ask me “why is money all you care about” at bedtime one night. Meanwhile she thinks she some hero or role model to the girls via her decision to blow up the family and turn their world on its head. It is absolutely infuriating.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 08:14 PM
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Haha same, this is what women do and say. It’s ridiculous, gaslighting is overused but it’s clear she is working to create a false narrative
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 08:10 PM
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Well why should it change, despite my daily presence in their lives since each of our beautiful daughters I have been an absent father. All the midnight feedings, bedtimes, school conferences and registrations, feeding them dinner, nightly homework, vacations, trips to the playground, church on Sundays, I managed to do all that while also not being involved in their lives so why should I “suddenly” be involved.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 08:09 PM
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Significantly more nastiness of course. Suggesting she doesn’t need to talk to me about our daughters’ educations, that’s what we have lawyers for, doesn’t need to talk to me at all, stuff like that. No infidelity, no substances, no abuse, just a walk away wife who would rather spend all night on the phone and weekends away with another woman than work on our marriage which include two young children and somehow I’m the asshole because I want 50-50 legal and physical custody, go figure.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 07:59 PM
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Yup, you filed for this, why are you the one being so nasty? Literally asked her that question last night.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 05:15 PM
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This is the unfortunate story I am living right now, thank you for posting, hoping I can heal soon to not only see the truth in all this but to feel it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 08:46 PM
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I just picked up No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover based on recommendations of others. Just getting started but I see so much of what I’m going through in the things he writes about.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 08:30 PM
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Ha yep, that’s already begun.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 11:29 AM
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Can you say a little more? Do you mean I should argue that we have been parenting 50-50 or that I should accept the same bed every night but make sure the time split is still 50-50 moving forward?
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 04:59 PM
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It’s pretty split. We both work full time. She’s been doing drop off every day with her mother doing pick up, but I have documentation from my job showing I can change my schedule to accommodate drop off and my mother can do pick up. Homework and doctors are pretty 50-50 though I’ve taken more days off to stay home when they are sick. I put them to bed every night, most of the time they shower with her though I do give them the occasional bath. I genuinely think we have a pretty even split of pa…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 04:28 PM
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This is exactly what my wife is trying to get and I plan to fight tooth and nail for 50-50 custody. I’m in NY, hoping the courts see my case as the more reasonable of the two.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:44 PM
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