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I'm not saying it's a major issue, but if it's something that a woman is concerned about then far more of the blame especially in the modern era lies on her choices vs anything else. I was not trying to imply it was in competition with anything else. Simply that feminism pushes women towards life choices that increase risk regarding pregnancy and child birth.
/r/AntiFeminists29/07/22 06:14 PM
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Thank you... also I think there's a valid argument that the risk of death or complications in pregnancy/child birth at this point in time is primarily due to feminism. Our bodies are most fertile and best suited for pregnancy in our twenties through early thirties... but feminism has pushed women to wait longer, take drugs that alter normal body chemistry for long periods of time, and abort pregnancies to avoid "ruining their life"... all of which can have negative effects on fertility, overall …
/r/AntiFeminists29/07/22 04:02 PM
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Standard practice doesn't mean mandatory... name one practice that is mandatory on an infant. The reason I know there isn't one is because I can legally have a home birth without any medical professionals involved. When I had my daughter in the hospital last year you consent to all the care before the birth even happens and you can specifically opt out of any treatments or tests you do not want... if you're not happy with options at your hospital you can find a different hospital, go to a birthi…
/r/AntiFeminists26/07/22 08:16 PM
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What other medical test or treatment does the US government force upon children without due process or consent of at least one parent? The answer is nothing. Also if you're dismissing my position based on my sex, then you're no different than a feminist who says that men's opinions don't matter by virtue of their sex.
/r/AntiFeminists26/07/22 05:57 PM
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I won't make any assumptions about who made the chair... but as a design they just look terrible. Uncomfortable, impractical, awkward and not even aesthetically pleasing.
/r/AntiFeminists26/07/22 01:19 PM
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I'm still fully against mandatory testing for all. It's a violation of our rights for the government to require medical testing without consent. It's something you can have if you want it, and I think all the laws surrounding family court, child support, etc need to be improved, such as making paternity fraud a crime like other types of fraud... but I just cannot agree with giving the government that kind of power over people's lives to demand they have certain tests just for basically existing.…
/r/AntiFeminists26/07/22 12:43 PM
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You don't need the mother for the test. If you have access to the child you only need a swab of the child's DNA and yours. If you don't have access to the child then you can have the test court ordered. But you do not need the mother's consent or even knowledge that the test is being conducted. Of course it can be an offensive thing to ask for, cheating is a very immoral thing, and the only reason someone would ask for a paternity test is if they think the mother was unfaithful. People generally…
/r/AntiFeminists26/07/22 12:17 PM
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Assuming you have access to the child, you do not need the mother's consent to do a paternity test post-birth. If you do not have access to the child then disputing paternity should be your first step in the courts and they can order the paternity test.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 11:20 PM
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So why not just make paternity fraud an actual crime like any other kind of fraud? Y'know with actual prison time and paying restitution to the victim... rather than forcing people into expensive tests against their consent. Forcing people to pay for and take tests against their will though is just as egregious as places that are attempting to force their citizens to take a vaccine against their will. Especially in the US you cannot be forced to take medical tests or treatment without due proces…
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 05:09 PM
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It's definitely not what people are saying... mandatory means there's no opt-out ability. If you agree it should be offered just like the litany of other tests during L&D but not forced, then yes I agree that's perfectly fine. People should have access to whatever medical tests they want to have and pay for, without threat of government force... and other people shouldn't have to pick up the cost either. Just like I don't think female health costs should be charged to everyone who has insurance …
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 02:43 PM
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If there's an opt-in or out option then it's not mandatory... it's already a test that you can ask for at the hospital, or get done as genetic screening during pregnancy. I'm not against people having the option or ability. But I draw the line at using government force to make people do things without their consent.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 01:05 PM
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An individual committing something that should be a crime, is not the same as giving the government the right to determine your choices and expenses for you. Once the baby is born there's literally nothing stopping you from performing a paternity test if that's what you want to do. But opening the door for the government to start mandating medical tests is to give the government permission to ignore individual consent without due process... there's no way it would stop at paternity testing.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 12:54 PM
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It makes me a feminist because I think it's a bad idea for the government to remove personal consent from people? How?
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 12:12 PM
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Because when we remove consent for one thing it opens the door for the government to remove our consent for other things.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 12:09 PM
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But then you have extremely prominent second wave feminists like Simone de Beauvoir who argued "No woman should be authorized to stay at home to raise her children. Society should be totally different. Women should not have that choice, precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one. It is a way of forcing women in a certain direction." So yes, feminism has been at odds with being a house wife or stay at home mother for decades... it's often treated disdainfully a…
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 02:35 AM
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Studies actually indicate that housewives report greater happiness and satisfaction levels than career women. Likewise female happiness has decreased as female labor force participation has increased from the 70s until now. Now as an anecdotal observation, I have never once seen a mom in any of my mom groups who wanted to work full time when part time or staying home were options. A lot of moms actually struggle terribly with depression when they have to return to work and leave their kids, even…
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 02:27 AM
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At the rate we're going the feminists will manage that all on their own. Afterall they can't even define the word woman anymore.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 12:58 AM
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This also has the same feminist tones that imply that having a family is worthless... yet I would argue that overall societal happiness has taken a nosedive since people started embracing this concept. Is having a family the only thing you need to be happy? Obviously not. But it sure as heck is a lot more fulfilling for the vast majority of people than a career or bumming around without any goals.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 12:32 AM
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My first thought was... "So gay porn only?" I personally think porn is a terrible "career" choice for anyone, doesn't mean you can't pursue it if you want to though.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 12:20 AM
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So their personal consent to medical procedures and tests doesn't matter? Personal choice doesn't matter when you think you know better? By this logic, what's wrong with the feminist stance of forcing men to have vasectomies? Afterall, they clearly know what best for society regardless of the individual's consent or opinion.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 09:49 PM
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I think fixing family law and child support is the correct option here... otherwise you're essentially adopting an "I know what's better for people regardless of what they want" approach, which is exactly the same attitude feminists use to bully people into the choices they think should be made. Make paternity fraud a crime... not only should the man be reimbursed any costs but the mother should face the same penalties she would face for any other types of fraud.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 09:44 PM
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Which would contribute to increased insurance costs for everyone... so again you're still forcing people to pay for it who do not want it. They're just paying indirectly instead. I already disagree with maternity coverage not being an add on choice for those who want it because it results in men and child-free people being forced to share the cost when they don't use any of those services... and I say that as a woman who has needed and used that coverage.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 09:38 PM
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So basically we should void parental and individual consent for a medical test or procedure, and force people to also pay for that breach of consent, and that's not a problem to you? No one who wants to have their children tested at birth is unable to do so, you can even test during pregnancy if you like... so why force people who either don't care or don't want it to pay for it and undergo tests against their will?
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 08:05 PM
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That still doesn't mean it should be mandatory, if either parent wants it or chooses it then that's fine. But forcing either tax payers or couples to bear that extra cost without a choice to opt out isn't a good solution.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 08:00 PM
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Most of prenatal and L&D costs is covered by insurance as long as you have it. Very few people are actually paying $30k out of pocket. My final costs under two different insurances, both of which were high deductible plans were around $2k for vaginal delivery. However, insurance won't cover anything that's not considered necessary, which includes pretty much all genetic testing. I've opted out of the genetic screenings offered for both pregnancies but I remember bring told they were around $750-…
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 07:55 PM
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Yes, but considering it sound like she's still a teenager I think the blame is mostly on her upbringing and education... many girls never even realize that this is a problem and grow into absolutely toxic, unhappy women. I think teenagers and younger deserve some pass, they're still just products if their environment rather than really developed as individuals... they certainly didn't create the society they've been raised in.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/22 04:05 PM
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Yeah they never want relationship advice from me, the happy and stable married woman... because they want the "easy" path that their perpetually single friends brag about. Ever notice how every relationship guru online is some washed up 35+, multiple divorcee? Or for men, literally guys who act like peacocks but have no relationships or are caught cheating and lying about everything? Yeah.... great role models guys, 10/10.
/r/AntiFeminists21/07/22 06:31 PM
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Exactly, I just let people with behaviors that repulse me naturally fall out of my life. I'm too "boring" for them, and quite honestly as entertaining as the train wreck can be to hear about I just can't force myself to pretend to condone or sympathize with their nonsense.
/r/AntiFeminists21/07/22 06:04 PM
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While I agree, traits that are masculine are actually necessary and good for society. The fact that people have aligned those traits with being toxic is just a way to shame men out of being strong, independent adults... it's a power grab. Note traditionally feminine traits are also attacked as lesser by feminism as well... because if you let women be naturally feminine they make choices that feminists dislike. Masculine traits include things like perseverance, protective instinct, honor, discipl…
/r/AntiFeminists21/07/22 02:55 PM
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He said there's "no sexualization" and the situation seemed pretty wholesome. The situation being that the older women were flattered by basic compliments from the kids.
/r/AntiFeminists19/07/22 10:46 PM
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They aren't because they're not held to account... we already have lowered standards for women's behavior and all that has resulted is even worse behavior.
/r/AntiFeminists18/07/22 08:37 PM
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Men and women being different doesn't mean that we should lower standards and expectations for women. Plenty of people are immature, that doesn't mean that should be the standard. Standards such as modesty, kindness, humility, responsibility, etc should be equal for everyone as well... if people don't meet those standards it's not a gender problem it's a personal problem.
/r/AntiFeminists18/07/22 01:02 PM
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What specifically is sexualized here? Both comments are just talking about how they felt nice after getting complimented, which is pretty normal. If a kid told you they though you looked cool or complimented your shoes, and you felt nice about it, does that mean you're sexualizing them? Obviously not. Don't get me wrong predatory behavior definitely happens, I just think it's a reach to call the screenshot above an example of sexualizing teenage boys.
/r/AntiFeminists18/07/22 11:56 AM
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Now I recognize that many people are not religious, but the idea of having sex when your spouse is in the mood even if you aren't is at least as old as the Bible. Certainly much older than feminism. Of course with adultery being one of the worst sins, the way they attempted to prevent it was by saying that you belong to your spouse and them to you, and that both man and woman are obligated to fulfill the sexual needs of their marital partner. Feminism may also state this at times, but the concep…
/r/AntiFeminists16/07/22 12:51 AM
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Mood swings are fine, acting out or behaving poorly because of them is not. I'm not going to act as if people are obligated to be in a good mood all the time, because that's ridiculous. But even if you're in a bad mood that's no excuse to take it out on other people, doing so is abusive... hormonal mood swings are no exception.
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/22 08:57 AM
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Because if antifeminism is just about "one group has unfairly low standards so everyone should have unfairly low standards, society be damned" then it's not really any better than feminism. People point out all the ways we're worse off for not holding women accountable for bad behavior, but when men behave poorly it's just "well he could've behaved worse"? No, the solution has to be hold everyone to that same higher standard or all we're doing is speed running society into the ground. The one ch…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/22 08:55 AM
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I'm not saying he shouldn't have every right to leave. I even think the mother should be held legally responsible for committing fraud and for the psychological harm to the man and the child. But we should still understand that as adults we have a moral and social obligation towards the wellbeing of children. It's part of the reason why people feel so instinctually upset when bad things happen to children, even when they have no relation to the child. The psychological harm to this child is due …
/r/AntiFeminists14/07/22 09:55 PM
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I mean I think you can blame him to some extent. If I shot my spouse because I was emotionally devastated, I'd still be held responsible, as I should be. This is the mother's fault that the situation got this way, but he could have dropped the child off safely at home with the mother before leaving. Putting the kid in a possible position of harm isn't really excusable.
/r/AntiFeminists14/07/22 07:14 PM
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Its really sad... why would it ever be a bad thing to want to take care of your family (including the boyfriend in this category)?
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 10:49 PM
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Honestly, at this point when people post all the time online about how wonderful their lives are I just assume the reality is dead opposite. Afterall, if you have a happy, healthy life in the real world would you really be focused on putting everything online? I barely remember to post updates on Facebook for extended family until they ask for pictures of their grand babies.
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 10:45 PM
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No... then all the feminists would be whining about the woman being subservient and domestic, calling her a "pick me". Feminism is more blatantly misandrist, but it's also covertly misogynistic... afterall traditionally feminine things and behaviors are seen as a sign of being manipulated by men and of low intellect.
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 10:34 PM
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It's not even a blanket statement though, afterall he never said all women are mean to unattractive men... but that it reveals their true nature. I can only assume this would be offensive to people who know they're not a nice as they'd like to pretend, but anyone who is actually kind is actually being proven such.
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 09:34 PM
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I'd avoid the stuff that claims they originated in the 19th century. They've been in European cultures since at least the 16th century. And part of the reason that antique corsets also have such tiny waists is simply because people were smaller. For example the average Norwegian man during the 19th century was 5'4", today it's 5'11"... women also got larger (overall, not just fatter). I also picked Norway because they're one of the taller populations.
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 02:55 AM
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If it's not about making and raising children, what would even be the original purpose? Why would there be a principle that sex is reserved for your marital partner? Yes, we've since attached other things to marriage such as tax benefits... but that's not the original purpose of marriage.
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 02:10 AM
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Actually there was more nuance to the corset than just that. Yes, there was tight-lacing... but the average corset actually served a similar purpose to the brassiere. It was supportive for both breasts and posture, "well-fitting corsets were quite comfortable, did not restrict breathing, and allowed women to work, although they did restrict bending at the waist, forcing one to protect one's back by lifting with the legs." Tight lacing was not as common a practice as once thought and instead actu…
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/22 02:02 AM
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I know they're using the quotes to make a joke of it, but idk it does rub me a little bit the wrong way. Nothing wrong with a paternity shoot, heck I think it could even be done with some really fun themes. But this almost reads as belittling what maternity entails. Should everyone get time to bond with their child? Yes. Does everyone actually need time to medically heal/have irreversible bodily changes from the process? No. They should get to be proud parents, but I don't think making a joke ab…
/r/AntiFeminists09/07/22 11:01 PM
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Everyone I know who had an unplanned pregnancy literally used zero methods to prevent it. Meanwhile my spouse and I successfully planned our kids by using condoms and tracking my ovulation. Both pregnancies happened exactly when we planned them, and no pregnancies any of the other years we've been together... almost like there's some measure or regularity to when ovulation will occur in an average woman.
/r/AntiFeminists06/07/22 02:25 AM
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That's a fundamental misunderstanding of Numbers 5:11-31 btw. The full context is that if the woman had committed adultery then she would be cursed to die (further texts also state that the man she was involved with would also die), but if she had not committed adultery then she would be blessed with fertility and surely get pregnant. It is her breaking her oath to God that causes the result as well, not the water. Likewise this is not specifically an ordeal for only pregnant women, whereas rule…
/r/AntiFeminists06/07/22 02:21 AM
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We're also not as "true blue". Almost the entire blue block here is Catholic.
/r/AntiFeminists01/07/22 01:26 AM
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By contrast, 0 effect here in San Antonio.
/r/AntiFeminists30/06/22 09:44 PM
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Well condoms aren't 100% effective even with correct use... the whole abstinence argument is that it's the only 100% effective way to prevent pregnancy. If you absolutely do not want to risk pregnancy then you should be having sex, otherwise you can play the odds.
/r/AntiFeminists30/06/22 09:42 PM
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I think even calling that "underpaid" is incorrect though. If you are being paid appropriately for your skill level then you're not underpaid by definition.
/r/AntiFeminists17/06/22 01:14 PM
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Yeah this is absolutely spot on. It really is a sex based difference. Sure there are guys who are more sensitive and women who are less sensitive... but my husband just is not capable of(and thinks it's a bit crazy that I do) things like crying during movies or that I just don't get as mad about things... We process and feel emotions very differently and I don't think it's because of society or how we were raised. I distinctly remember not being much of a "crybaby" until the middle of puberty, a…
/r/AntiFeminists14/06/22 01:46 AM
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The issue I have with this is that it only focuses on power as who has wealth. Even when women largely had unpaid domestic roles they still had plenty of power in society, it was just a different power. Women organized the community and had social roles that effectively functioned as positions of power. The issue is that everyone's bought into the hyper-materialistic feminist definition of "power", which ultimately ignores or obscures the positive and special attributes that come with femininity…
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/22 10:36 PM
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That's the thing, when you let bad people be loud it does far more to turn away other people and makes it far more likely that some of them would de-radicalize than trying to silence them and pushing them into a echo chamber box where they cease to have other contact and information. Anything less than people actually planning/participating in criminal behavior really shouldn't be banned.
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/22 01:35 PM
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Yes, because no doubt they're also the kind of people who expect their partner to fork over hundreds of dollars a month towards their "maintenance". What they don't realize with this metaphor is that not that many men are going to want to invest deeply in an old, run down trailer when it's cheaper and easier to "buy" literally anything else.
/r/AntiFeminists23/01/22 03:24 PM
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Well in part its because feminism has become so pervasive and preaches to people that money and power are the number one thing in life... and other metrics don't really matter. Fewer women excel in those metrics because they just don't want them badly enough to sacrifice everything else in pursuit of them. It's the same reason why women tend to be the parent that opts to stay home with their kids when they're ill or are more likely to take on caregiving roles for elderly family members. Feminism…
/r/AntiFeminists08/01/22 05:43 PM
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Yes, that's why I can believe the numbers might be a little low for female convictions... but I don't think the numbers are so wildly off that it'd support females being the majority if that makes sense? Closer to 50/50 would be something I could potentially believe given crime statistics in general... especially since women are more likely to involve themselves in the less "violent" criminal behaviors. Women in trafficking operations primarily work as a "lure" to capture vulnerable people, but …
/r/AntiFeminists31/12/21 01:34 AM
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That's Ghislaine Maxwell... y'know Jeffrey Epstein's partner in human trafficking and pedophile sex rings.
/r/AntiFeminists30/12/21 02:16 PM
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I'm actually not very surprised. Women can definitely operate better as a lure to entrap other women and children. Though they were serial killers Myra Hindley, Karla Holmolka, and Cindy Hendy were all notable examples of women who used the "safety" of them being female to lure victims for their partners... and it was not because they were "threatened" by their lovers.
/r/AntiFeminists30/12/21 01:42 PM
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Yeah I posted the quote from their press release. Now, I was too lazy to go through the 2009 report which this references, but the press release does state that the majority of convictions continue to be male... so I would guess that it's trend.
/r/AntiFeminists30/12/21 01:35 PM
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"Globally, most persons prosecuted and convicted of trafficking in persons continue to be male, with around 64 and 62 per cent respectively." This is a direct quote from the UN report cited. While I wouldn't be surprised that female offenders are more likely to fly under the radar or cry their way out of convictions (ie "I had to or else I'd have been hurt...") there's no evidence that supports the claim in this post that a majority of trafficking is committed by females.
/r/AntiFeminists30/12/21 03:12 AM
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https://www.unodc.org/unodc/data-and-analysis/glotip.html Here's the UN report (albeit this is the most recent one).
/r/AntiFeminists30/12/21 03:02 AM
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Those people are seriously demented. Children are such precious, wonderful, innocent people. Sure they can be exhausting and frustrating... but actively daydreaming about harming them is beyond cold blooded. It's just evil. And to put the crimes of another onto a little child because of how they were born... sick, sick, sick. These people shouldn't be allowed to be part of society.
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 11:48 PM
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Yeah, my spouse and I would like 3 about a year and a half to two years apart(making me around 32-33 for the last one)... my obgyn has zero concerns about this plan because I'm a normal, healthy woman. Heck, we may even go for 4 or 5 depending on how things are in a few years. High risk pregnancy isn't necessarily tied to fertility either. Twins are considered high risk but are usually a sign that a woman is very fertile. Placenta placement can make a pregnancy high risk, which again nothing to …
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 08:24 PM
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Geriatric pregnancy is 35+. I'm not saying it's not higher risk, but he said cannot get pregnant... which is false. Those are separate issues.
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 05:47 PM
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Also at her age, the "good ones" are probably already married, and the younger guys aren't looking to wife up a dried up, mean old biddy.
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 04:14 PM
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Uhhh you really need to fact check yourself. Fertility drops a bit but most women can get pregnant in their 30s without any issues... as you get closer to 40 is when it actually starts being more likely to have issues conceiving. Up to 35 is still considered to be a normal pregnancy age group, and fertility is only down about 10% by age 39 of where it would've been in a woman's early 20s.
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 03:38 PM
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Ehh I kinda agree here, most people have kids mid to late 20s. So average age to be a grandmother should be 50-60. Regardless, her fertility is probably very poor at this point in her life and will definitely be an obstacle for most men looking to settle down and have children.
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 03:29 PM
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The part I find so stupid about this (as a woman)... is why would you even want a partner you can't kiss or you have to crane you neck to look at? No thank you neck pain. My husband is 4" taller than me, and honestly when he's in his work boots that extra inch actually annoys me when I try to go in for a kiss...
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/21 12:52 AM
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It depends. A child in proper seat/restraints is actually fairly safe. That's why we have car seats, booster seats, and seat belt adjustors. If those aren't used or are used improperly then yes, it's way more dangerous for children. So I suppose you could make the argument that particularly petite women probably should be using adjustors to help their survival chances... just like I bought adjustors for when I was heavily pregnant to make sure everything fit properly and was the safest option.
/r/AntiFeminists21/12/21 09:41 PM
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And I love men. They're awesome and strong. My husband is my rock and I rely on him. I love how he makes me feel feminine. I love taking care of him. I love watching him play with our children. I appreciate all the things he does for me, even the silly little things like opening the pickle jar. But I also am very aware that society is weighted against him, and that's not acceptable to me. I hate the fact that if we had problems it would always be mine over his. I hate that people can freely say …
/r/AntiFeminists21/12/21 08:37 PM
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The thing is this kind of stuff targets young girls who aren't usually old enough to have a fully developed brain, and even more often had some kind of problems growing up (single mother household's, sexual abuse, etc.) It's basically the inverse of the stuff that boys get into from similar backgrounds (like crime, gangs, etc). They're ways that troubled kids try to create an identity to protect themselves from being hurt by trying to become "tough".
/r/AntiFeminists19/12/21 02:57 PM
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The thing I find the worst about it is that they usually minimize or completely omit the truth about what their partner does though. I just don't believe there are that many men who are that bad. I'm sure there are some, but like my spouse worked construction on 10 hour shifts... giving him an hour to zone out and play video games when he got home wasn't a sign of him being a "man child".... it was just how he liked to have an hour of idle distraction to get the work stress out of his system. Bu…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 05:55 PM
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In fairness even with a fantastic spouse, being a mom can be tiring (so is being a dad though, and a lot of these women don't acknowledge anything the father does as being "good enough", which isn't necessarily his fault.) I'd never trade it for anything, but man those clingy "I only want mommy" phases do take a lot of mental energy out of me.
/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 04:59 PM
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Does this mean my P238 represents that I must have an obsession with small dicks? Cuz I honestly just thought it was because I felt it was a good size for a CCW. Thank God feminists exist to let me know that it's sexual!
/r/AntiFeminists06/12/21 03:27 AM
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I don't even understand what kind of person feels the need to check out and judge random dude's dicks though... that's pretty creepy imo. It's just gross, selfish, and sexually objectifying...
/r/AntiFeminists23/11/21 02:49 AM
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That honestly sounds like satire, yet the fact that I know it isn't makes it even more insane... sadly this book is a major reason why so many women think that the Healthcare system is out to enslave them or something... just bonkers.
/r/AntiFeminists14/11/21 04:08 AM
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Isn't the whole point of drag shows, that you know they're not women? I was pretty sure it was supposed to parody.
/r/AntiFeminists13/11/21 05:16 AM
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I think we live in a sexist society geared unfairly towards women. But the structure is patriarchal because of what the actual definitions are. I just think it's more correct to say it's gynocentric rather than matriarchal since most do not carry their lineage and surnames via women. So we live in a patriarchal society by definition (assuming we're not giving credit to the made up feminist definition), but society is also gynocentric because there's far more to society than who takes surnames an…
/r/AntiFeminists30/10/21 01:35 AM
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That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm just saying it's simply a way to order society. There's nothing wrong with it. My example of using the west was just to point out it really doesn't matter if a country is "enlightened" or more equal, we still use the system to create order and track generations. "The patriarchy" is what the feminists made up and complain about, whereas patriarchy itself is simply just the system of family organization that is used by most people.
/r/AntiFeminists30/10/21 01:30 AM
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"The patriarchy" doesn't exist. But there are still many patriarchal societies... Even most of the West still carries patriarchal tradition such as women taking their husband's name or children being given their father's surname rather than their mother's. So there's not really inherently any issue or problem with patriarchy by its actual base definition, society has to have some level of basic family structure and relationship tracking... the problem is that people just made up an entirely diff…
/r/AntiFeminists29/10/21 05:33 AM
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Ehhhh I don't think the first is true. I think it's true most of the time, but there are definitely violent, unhinged males out there. They're not as common as men reacting in self-defense though.
/r/AntiFeminists15/10/21 03:11 AM
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At this point I think it's because they don't know any better... single moms raised by other single moms surrounded mostly by broken men their entire lives... they probably don't really think about what their contribution is because the problem just seems to be endemic rather than anything they can fix or change. Not to mention by the time they might cone to terms with their contribution to the issue it's too late. A guy can clean up his act, get his ducks in a row, and go on to have a better li…
/r/AntiFeminists14/10/21 08:13 PM
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In a way, feminism wouldn't have gotten anywhere without men. Women couldn't vote or participate equally in the workforce or in education initially afterall... Men voted for women to have that power. It's also worth noting that feminism actually struggled to gain widespread female support until after they started pushing women into universities and passed a lot of laws that incentivized single motherhood in the 70s. That's not to say men are to blame... but it's really not actually a gendered is…
/r/AntiFeminists14/10/21 03:21 AM
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I think feminism actually is a social programming for women to reject/ignore their empathetic traits tbh. I agree that men care about women more than the other way around in general. But that's because women are supposed to expend most of their emotional energy towards infants and children. Biologically men care for women, and that frees up women to care for the offspring. Feminism belittles and undermines motherhood though... unless it's motherhood in the least ideal circumstances (single mothe…
/r/AntiFeminists13/10/21 02:15 PM
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All my male relatives had the Pfizer one though? I don't even think the other options were available in our area.
/r/AntiFeminists13/10/21 01:53 PM
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Here's my issue (and what woke me up that feminism gives terrible "advice")... feminism teaches these women and girls to actually NOT get involved with reporting to the police. First they tell you that the police will harass you and victim blame you. Second they tell you the police won't do anything anyway. Third they scare the victims into believing that escalating the situation to the proper authorities will mean losing jobs, friendships, social standing, etc. Then the cherry on top is after s…
/r/AntiFeminists27/09/21 05:51 PM
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I'm very pro-free speech, and I agree it should all be allowed, no matter how hateful. That said I also honor the property rights of the reddit owners to make and enforce whatever rules they want "within their own house". I just wish they weren't pussyfooting around how hypocritical/unevenly applied their rules are... just admit you have a set of beliefs and be open about it. That's where my main issue lies with many of the big platforms.
/r/AntiFeminists27/09/21 06:22 AM
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That's what I would expect. MGTOW isn't really the problem, it's the trolls and the men still deep into their anger at feminism who occasionally show up and lash out in the comments. This sub also has that minority group, and I've been directly harassed by some of them (pro-feminist trolls who are misogynistic when a woman dare think for herself, AND men who are angry and upset because of how much feminism has screwed them over) but it's really not much of a problem from my perspective. It's def…
/r/AntiFeminists26/09/21 04:09 PM
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You cannot have a system that's good for women without caring about the good of men. The concept of a war between the genders is no good for anyone, we are created to be two halves of society that rely on each other. Feminism is more insidious in how it harms women than how it harms men. It leads women to think the only way forward is to abandon our femininity, to lose out on what actually fulfills us, that if we think for ourselves it's proof that were stupid/controlled, and to disregard our ac…
/r/AntiFeminists26/09/21 03:35 PM
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Yes, which is why they're being more active here. It's not necessarily a bad thing, the issue isn't the MGTOW principles as much as the vocal group of people who participated in bad faith and were being legitimately misogynistic. I didn't visit the sub much so I couldn't tell you how much of the sub was made up of those bad actors, but from my experiences in other "wrongthink" subs I'd guess it was just a loud minority section of the members.
/r/AntiFeminists26/09/21 05:54 AM
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They're also misogynistic. They might be more open about discriminating against men, but they (especially 4th wave) also insult women by insinuating that we have no personal agency, no ability to comprehend actions and consequences, no ability to think independently, oh and men are better at being women than women are... that's why so long as a man claims to be a woman it's suddenly fine to put him in our institutions (like prisons), and why lesbians and straight men are harassed to enjoy "girld…
/r/AntiFeminists26/09/21 05:15 AM
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Assuming it's not sex trafficking, then the sex worker does have their desire fulfilled... it's just a desire for money rather than sexual gratification. But God forbid we treat adult women as capable of making their own decisions and having any agency.
/r/AntiFeminists23/09/21 05:11 PM
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And don't settle for someone who doesn't respect you enough to reciprocate. The base for a successful relationship isn't passion or love, it's respect and honor. Love is still important, but it doesn't keep the relationship functional.
/r/AntiFeminists23/09/21 02:43 AM
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I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but in my personal experience it is less common... especially the closer women get to their most fertile years drawing to a close. Men may have bad experiences with it of course, but they also don't hit 35 and realize their chance to settle down and have children might come and go because the only intimate relationships they've been able to have in the past 5 years are casual sex leading to messages left on read... which is exactly where feminism leads a lot of …
/r/AntiFeminists22/09/21 08:11 PM
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Here's my female perspective: Feminism teaches western women bad lessons which actively harm both women and men... and the result is that people are physically, mentally, and emotionally harmed. Some examples of how it harms women: "Just teach men not to rape." Men already know this, if this was effective rape would have been eliminated centuries ago... it was considered a capital offense as far back as at least Classical Greecian times. This does absolutely nothing to help prevent victimization…
/r/AntiFeminists22/09/21 04:37 PM
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I think it honestly needs to be added to sub rules since so many people don't seem to realize this one is parody. That's not to say I don't enjoy the satire, but if it gets reposted here it should at least be labeled as satire or trolling.
/r/AntiFeminists20/09/21 12:21 AM
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Yes. And I had to admit I found this one pretty clever.
/r/AntiFeminists19/09/21 11:03 PM
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Yes. I meant idk in response to your question. Not as a counterpoint lol.
/r/AntiFeminists15/09/21 02:08 AM
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I don't know. I can understand the "not all" approach when used honestly (not just to get out of saying nasty things)... but there are still obvious differences between the average woman and the average man. Women tend to be more interested in family and children for example, while men are more interested in other aspects if life. That doesn't mean all women are more family focused or that men don't care about family... but overwhelmingly the sexes just find different aspects of life to be more …
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 09:51 PM
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I'm so tired of people replacing equality of opportunity with equality of outcome... so what if women only make up 12% of manufacturing jobs? As long as they're allowed to work those jobs if they want to, then the only reason they don't is their own freedom of choice. Same reason why you don't see as many women in executive positions or as politicians... no one is keeping us down, most of us simply have other priorities and recognize those careers aren't a good fit for us. I don't see myself as …
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 05:37 AM
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Thank you. I think it's ridiculous. I told my husband that a proposal for Christmas would be nice so we could celebrate with our families... and we picked out and paid for the ring jointly well before then so I could pick something I'd like to wear. Surprise proposals are pretty dumb imho. You should have discussed marriage as a team beforehand anyways considering it's supposed to be a monumental, one-time deal.
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 03:16 AM
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To those unaware the linked sub is a satire version of the real FDS... so they're obviously joking.
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 03:11 AM
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That's also true. I was thinking about the particularly radical male feminists with my response.
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 02:14 AM
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I can say from a female perspective it comes across as a pathetic attempt to get laid... which tends to be backed up by the fact that a lot of male feminists get outed as creeps towards women. Now I have no idea if that's true, but that's been my personal experience. They're also the type who tend to be shocked and in utter disbelief that women don't all think exactly the same way (ie very militant and insist that we're confused or brainwashed if we express we don't agree with modern feminism). …
/r/AntiFeminists13/09/21 08:00 PM
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No. I never felt any rage towards men. I'd say my red pill moment was realizing how terrible and harmful the feminist narrative had been in my life (and I was never wildly feminist). The breaking point for me was realizing that by them telling me and other women that reporting legitimate sexual assault would basically be futile (because of victim blaming/ stating the system wouldn't do anything to help) that it actually discourages real victims from seeking help... meanwhile they simultaneously …
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 03:11 AM
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I agree to some extent. I think the particularly loud ones are narcissists. But I also think a lot of the "milder" feminists are simply sheltered and misinformed... and because they lack any experience with critical thinking (because let's face it, that's not a skill that our higher education institutions actually teach anymore) they genuinely don't know how to process opposing information and that what they've been taught might not be correct. The latter group has a much higher chance of coming…
/r/AntiFeminists09/09/21 03:40 PM
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I mean you can just sub woman into any blond joke and get a joke about dumb people in general. Though yeah, it's dumb that women get shielded from everything that might even slightly ruffle our fee-fees... ironic considering how feminism claims that women are so strong, yet God forbid anyone criticize or depict a woman as anything but perfect.
/r/AntiFeminists09/09/21 02:58 AM
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My husband's bachelor party (which I actually helped to plan since his best man lives out of state) was to go drive a tank and shoot weapons like full automatic stuff, use a flame thrower, etc. My bachelorette was going wine tasting at a few local-ish vineyards. And I can say that was the trend for all of my friends at least (no strippers or sexual content). We both think the stripper thing is weird, kinda gross, and just trashy... like isn't the point supposed to be celebrating that you're gett…
/r/AntiFeminists31/08/21 03:30 AM
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I never understood why that would be misogyny (as a woman)... like I am straight and I still think penises look a bit... weird, and female genitalia is 100% not my cup of tea. Almost like genitals in general aren't actually the best looking part of a person. I only mind the times I've had gay men literally be rude about it. Like, you don't have to like me, but don't be an ass about the fact that some of us are born female... I can't help that anymore than they can help being gay. That said those…
/r/AntiFeminists29/08/21 02:30 AM
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Honestly though I think the bigger problem is raising kids to have such thin skin and to think that they're entitled to have everyone cater to their feelings. This is just a life lesson in reality, people don't care about you that much, and people who say things you dislike should mostly just be ignored... especially online. Instead they feed the trolls exactly what they want, and don't have the emotional intelligence to comprehend that they are never going to scream other people into caring abo…
/r/AntiFeminists24/08/21 03:40 PM
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Well sure, but I'd rather be surrounded by family and loved ones than die alone in some state run nursing home. I obviously don't speak for everyone, but I don't think that's an unpopular opinion... male or female.
/r/AntiFeminists23/08/21 09:09 PM
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I think modern feminism is currently dying. For 2 main reasons, firstly half of it has been overtaken by TRAs who are actively victimizing real women and taking opportunities away from them under the badge of "intersectional feminism". Secondly, because in general makes women miserable... because women don't want to die alone and are getting angry that they've been lied to. Unfortunately I don't necessarily see that as addressing men's issues currently because women are only just starting to rea…
/r/AntiFeminists22/08/21 08:52 PM
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My spouse is literally an electrician, and there's one woman in their company... and guess what? She's not physically able to do several aspects of the job, like carry heavy stuff... and it's not like she's weak by female standards. So yeah, sure women might have been barred from entry (70 years ago)... but let's not pretend that means we're physically able to do those jobs in the same capacity.
/r/AntiFeminists22/08/21 07:08 PM
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It was horrific, I barely made it out with my life!
/r/AntiFeminists22/08/21 06:12 PM
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Unfortunately those careers are necessary. Even with tons of safety protocols and training accidents still do happen... so as nice as it would be that danger didn't exist in the workplace, it's not something we can eliminate at this point in time or even in the near future. People NEED electricians, garbage collectors, pilots, roofers, farmers, etc.
/r/AntiFeminists22/08/21 03:10 PM
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Uhhhh excuse me... my job is plenty dangerous. I got a papercut once!
/r/AntiFeminists22/08/21 03:01 PM
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She's 100% that it gets better on the other side. I've often said feminism was a good thing for the female outlier (those who don't want children and are career driven and rewarded) but terrible for the average woman. Obviously becoming a parent is a defining moment in anyone's life but my spouse and I were talking about it literally yesterday because I said something to the effect of "I would have been completely miserable without you and our baby. I cannot fathom a life without having more kid…
/r/AntiFeminists21/08/21 06:54 PM
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I'd recommend attending church functions, charity and volunteering for Catholic charities, and getting involved in coed hobbies that you're interested in. This will help you to meet and make friends with similar core values and interests. You can meet potential dates and if you make good friends you can also meet new people through them who have already been partially vetted by them (as friends rather than as a partner, but I think there's a lot of overlap).
/r/RedPillWives21/08/21 05:26 PM
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When my husband was struggling with this, I brought it up in a calm, non-judgmental, but "I'm concerned you seem to be shouldering a lot emotionally" kind of way. I also stressed that if it was depression that it's a legitimate medical issue, and that it's no different from going to the doctor if you have a broken arm. A lot of men particularly have a stigma attached to admitting they may need help for mental issues because it's not "masculine". You want him to feel comfortable and safe to open …
/r/RedPillWives21/08/21 04:45 PM
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Is it possible that he's depressed? Sleeping a lot, lack of drive to do things, anger, etc can all by symptoms of a depression-guilt cycle. So an example would be he doesn't have the willpower to do anything because he's depressed so he drops the ball, then when the repercussions of that come up he feels guilty which is expressed as anger, then when the anger wears off he feels worse again and ends up depressed with no drive to do anything and the cycle repeats. Now obviously I'm not saying that…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/21 03:21 PM
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I don't think I'd want to be fertile into my 80s. That's a horrifying thought LMAO. I love kids, and I love my baby... but good god I would not want to be geriatric and pregnant. Y'all can keep that "privilege". xD And I also have no idea what the heck they think male privileges are, considering half of them are dumb enough they literally argue that woman are more legally restricted than guns ffs.
/r/AntiFeminists20/08/21 04:36 PM
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Obviously I'm only going off your descriptions, I don't know him, I only know what OCD is like personally and from group sessions with other sufferers. And I know OCD isn't only the typical presentation, the way you brought it up made it sound less like an ongoing issue and more of a newer one with the new home. So I apologize if I rubbed you the wrong way there, I'm obviously just making an observation based on what is available to me not a clinical diagnosis or anything. And you're right, if h…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 11:22 PM
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The talk therapy is most likely going to be CBT and it's really helpful, and probably not what he's thinking it is. It's a series of mental skills to enable the patient to be able to rationalize rather than act emotionally. And it consists of the patient doing "homework" which would be the exposure therapy portion. If he is open to therapy, look up CBT and find a therapist who uses that approach. It works for the full spectrum of anxiety disorders. Now all that said your description still doesn'…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 10:39 PM
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I know this is particularly the point, but is he diagnosed with OCD? Because I am, and what you are describing about him is NOT OCD. If he had OCD he would be doing those things himself because it's a kind of anxiety driven "coping" mechanism (I put that in quotes because compulsions don't actually help with coping long term or fixing the problem which is anxiety). I'm not going to lecture on "don't misuse real diagnoses" because honestly I think that's a silly argument and I don't care when peo…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 09:05 PM
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Also what is his line of work? If it's something potentially dangerous I actually do agree with him that you need to make sure you have a fallback plan if something were to happen to him. My in-laws relationship is that way, my FIL worked as a cop and then later as a member of the FBI Hostage Rescue Team. Both are very dangerous jobs. So my MIL continued nursing until their boys graduated high school. That said, she only worked part-time and had her hours planned around when her kids needed her.…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 01:35 AM
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Ehhhh... IDK my children have more accountability than they want. But I suppose that's because we're "old fashioned" and actually believe in teaching kids consequences.
/r/AntiFeminists15/08/21 02:53 PM
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I kinda want one for my husband's desk toy collection... No one needs the negativity of turning down banana dog in their life.
/r/AntiFeminists12/08/21 08:38 PM
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What... Ma'am that's not how marriage works... hell that's not how any of this works.
/r/AntiFeminists11/08/21 08:58 PM
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My husband has ADHD. If you both think he has it then honestly have a discussion about how to ask for help/tasks to be done. What you might otherwise consider "nagging" may actually be necessary to some degree and may not even bother him if he's aware of being forgetful. I regularly remind my husband of things I need done/help with because we both know he'd forget otherwise. I usually make jokes about it in a light hearted manner and just stay pleasant about it. Also stick to one thing at a time…
/r/RedPillWives09/08/21 12:19 AM
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It's okay to ask your spouse for help, especially if you're also working full-time. Managing the house and extra stuff is part of the housewife's responsibilities because she's not contributing financially... I'm sure your spouse would understand considering how much you're currently shouldering! Don't forget that husband's like being able to help and be useful too... it's part of what makes them feel needed and fulfilled, and it's not like you built your current life up by yourself, it was made…
/r/RedPillWives08/08/21 11:33 PM
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Sure, I agree they shouldn't bring that kind of stuff here. But I don't think they have ill intent either, and brigading implies that their purpose in coming here is to cause problems. While they might cause problems, I don't believe it's because they're actually trying to do so.
/r/AntiFeminists06/08/21 09:23 PM
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I wouldn't say they're brigading, they've been displaced from their own sub. I just think brigading makes it sound like they have bad intentions.
/r/AntiFeminists06/08/21 05:44 PM
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No, it's fine. I muddled my meaning, so that's on me. :)
/r/AntiFeminists06/08/21 05:31 PM
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I worded it poorly then, because I meant that women use it as an excuse. I think feeling however from hormones is fine for anyone, I just don't think it's an excuse to act crazy. The question in the video is "why isn't it okay for men to be horny if it's a hormone thing, when women use hormones as an excuse", I think it's fine for men to be horny and for women to be emotional because they're hormonal. I also think both sexes should observe equal boundaries on how they treat other people as a res…
/r/AntiFeminists06/08/21 02:31 PM
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I don't think they do, nor is that what I meant. I meant that being hormonal is not an excuse for women or men to act poorly... how is that sexist?
/r/AntiFeminists06/08/21 02:18 PM
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I will say I hope no guy is ever as horny as postpartum hormones made me a crybaby... I've always been in good control of my emotional state regardless of hormones until that point, and losing that control for a few weeks felt pretty bad. I still didn't do anything bad or use it as an excuse for bad behavior... but still not an experience I'd wish on anyone male or female. Also it's fine for people to be horny, being horny is natural as long as you can still respect other people's boundaries (sa…
/r/AntiFeminists04/08/21 01:18 AM
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I think it's entirely unacceptable. It's your duty as a spouse to work it out if you aren't "feeling it" anymore, cheating either emotionally (like the people who just flirt or talk to other men for validation) or physically should never be pursued by either party. While I also don't agree with premarital sex, I'm a little more forgiving towards it because young people are stupid (and I'm not going to pretend I wasn't also a moron as a teenager) and pressured by literally everything (media, horm…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 06:22 PM
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I agree. One of the dangers I think particularly for singles is that there is a certain desperation to get your needs (whether it's sex for the guys, or a relationship for the gals) met... and they stimble upon this toolbox that's suddenly something that actually makes sense AND has better results. So they get really invested into it because after years of getting screwed over by failed BP attempts they're finally seeing and feeling progress... so they start to accept things that maybe they shou…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 05:40 PM
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Like you said, dread can inspire change. But pushing the dread game too far eventually breaks the relationship, whether they're just a plate or your spouse. If I do everything I possibly can to make my spouse happy, and they still were pushing dread or not fully invested... you'd reach a point where you give up. And stuff like that can really break a person mentally and emotionally... I don't see how someone can claim they "love and protect" someone while doing something that may force that pers…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 05:27 PM
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I conceived while on a calorie deficit. Obviously I gained weight during the pregnancy and didn't restrict calories then. But I'm now 4mo pp and I lost all the pregnancy weight. The problems people have with pregnancy weight are from things like "I'm eating for two" or "I can treat myself to anything I want whenever I want". Just eat normally with a couple small extra snacks though and you'll be fine.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 12:05 PM
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I don't think you can help people who aren't interested in helping themselves, but you can give them a nudge if you do so tactfully. Someone else pointed out that some of your description does sound like possible mental health issues. Is your sister happy? I'd probably start there, if you come from a place of compassion and love she might open up to you. If she says she's not happy, maybe explore what she thinks would help. Allow her to be an active participant in brainstorming the solution rath…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 02:43 AM
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I'm the OP from that other post. And I agree with everything you said! A few people took what I was saying as "RP men suck!" and "Male RP BAD!"... which is not how I think at all. They want what they want, we want what we want. Just because they're different doesn't make the things that aren't my cup of tea innately bad. But it does mean that for other people who want the same thing I place importance on (marriage) that I think it's important to recognize there are some issues to look out for. S…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 12:17 AM
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That's certainly true from what I've seen. Though I still don't think he was intentionally misrepresenting the issue, most people still cite the older statistics from what I've seen and don't necessarily keep up to date on them. 40% is still a pretty high number, and I wonder how the decline in divorce rates may be correlated with the declining marriage rate... of course any explanation of that correlation would mostly just be theoretical but I can't help think that perhaps it has something to d…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 07:50 PM
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It really depends how you look at the data in all fairness. The source you posted does state that nearly 50% of first marriages in the US do end in divorce(lasting an average of 8 years), and also states that women are the majority who seek divorce. (Consecutive marriages have an even higher divorce rate as well.) So he's not actually wrong, and I don't think he's trying to be disingenuous when he brings up those numbers.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 07:21 PM
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being INCREDIBLY judgy and saying you are right and they are wrong....kind of childish Men's RP is a dating strategy for how to get sex without getting screwed over by the legal and social systems in place. It is not about getting married. This isn't a moral argument or judgment, it's simply the core goal of the male RP. Things like self-improvement are methods to reach that goal, but they can also positively help in reaching pretty much all other goals. That doesn't make men's RP wrong or lesse…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 04:34 PM
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I know people who legitimately think those are forms of child abuse... which I cannot fathom.
/r/AntiFeminists02/08/21 03:14 PM
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Unfortunately it looks like it's a private sub so most people won't have access.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 05:04 AM
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Yeah, hence why my first point on why this is stupid advice is pretty much only a male issue - divorce rape. And yet all the new RP content creators seem to acknowledge it exists, then tell men this kind of stupid stuff. And the worst part is they legitimately try to convince women they're right about it too... (and invite on only young, usually pretty dumb/oblivious girls to "debate" it with so they can be certain they'll never actually have to deal with any valid counterpoints).
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 04:08 AM
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I mean I don't think it's exclusive to typical teen girls... a lot of typical teen boys end up falling down the porn rabbit hole and getting an unhealthy obsession with it. (I'm not anti-porn necessarily, but it's definitely something that can be overdone and start messing up other parts of life for some people).
/r/AntiFeminists02/08/21 03:58 AM
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Okay based on rules I think I can reference directly to the sources (mods if I'm wrong then I apologize). Fresh and Fit Podcast and Kevin Samuels are just 2 examples of content creators that have blown up in the past 6 months. They have discussed being RP in the past and will occasionally reference it and use it to describe themselves (so they clearly either think they are or they're just trying to use it for approval from others). Both these channels have numerous videos where they state that w…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 03:32 AM
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It's all over the "manosphere" on youtube currently. Granted a lot of them are using the "RP brand" to gain followers despite not necessarily living up to the RP ideals... however considering that many of these podcasts and videos get hundreds of thousands of views and lots of positive engagement in the comments I think it's pretty safe to say this concept is starting to become normalized for men who consider themselves RP... Let me check the rules to see if I can post an example (on phone now),…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 03:20 AM
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It's not as if tomboys won't get married, especially considering how small the supply of traditional, feminine women is these days... they simply aren't men's first pick for marriage in most cases. A lot of them will end up getting married though simply because there are more of them in the market since feminine values have been on the decline over the past few decades. However you almost never see feminine women left in the dating market after their late 20s, but you'll see a lot of tomboys and…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 02:24 AM
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When I asked men on a different sub, what their thoughts were about this, I got mixed replies. Silly me to assume all men preferred femininity as a character trait in a woman, but more men than not stated they prefer the tomboy over the girly girl. They saw the girly girl as a sex object, but too high maintenance as a partner. Keep in mind that reddit isn't actually a great sample for what the world is actually like. There are a lot of younger people on this platform and what they say they want …
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 01:36 AM
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While I know single mothers do damage their children at a significantly higher rate, I knew plenty of girls in my high-school like this who were all from intact, nuclear families... their parents just either had no idea what their kids were up to (bad parenting) or refused to actually enforce consequences instead preferring to just "talk it out" because confrontation is "harmful" (also bad parenting). And that was almost 15 years ago... I'm currently watching the other moms in my generation talk…
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/21 09:30 PM
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Is this feminist? It is highly disgusting and disturbing, but to me this is more of a "why teens shouldn't have unlimited access to the internet, and why modern parenting is failing the next generation"... I suppose you could argue that's caused by feminism, but I don't think it's the most direct link.
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/21 09:07 PM
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The thing is I do think he gives plenty of good advice, but not necessarily for women... and the cult following he has and the "protect him from any and all discourse that isn't ass kissing" mindset is really bad. Like no matter how smart someone might be, how can they possible continue to improve if everyone around them is constantly sheltering them? It's part of the reason why I think despite being more correct than blue pill, the red pill theory that is being pushed isn't the key to happiness…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/21 03:28 PM
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For the average woman it's actually ideal for the vagina to be longer than the penis, because the cervix isn't exactly a fun body part to feel thumped... Although there are some women who enjoy it, but it's definitely the minority... you'll have to just take my word for it, but it can be quite painful. Heck, it's bad enough that a lot of women opt out of cervical checks during late pregnancy until they go into labor... and the doctors actually try to be as gentle about it as possible, and it sti…
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 11:16 PM
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I was making a joke because 6'+ men exist... 6' dick size men don't.
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 04:40 PM
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I never said we don't joke around... I was specifically responding to the title of the post which refers to what would be considered "body shaming".
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 04:28 PM
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I know plenty of guys who happily married women who weren't their exact "type"... so it doesn't seem to be as much of an issue for guys as long as the woman is generally attractive and nice. For instance, my husband likes red heads, but I'm not a red head and that hasn't been an issue. Which I've always considered a bit funny that men are considered to be the more "visual" sex... yet it's the women out there saying they would never date anyone under 6' and then clinging to that despite being stu…
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 04:26 PM
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Ehhh... I'd have to generally disagree. Girls may call their friends "their b*tches" but generally no, they don't bust the chops of other women they actually consider friends. Like the fat girl friend will generally never be teased about being fat... but guy friends will joke about that kinda stuff and treat it like "no biggie".
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 04:21 PM
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I assure you when women say 6' they ain't talking about height... that's the real reason they're all still single.
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 04:07 PM
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I was flat chested until around 22 (being late/slow developmentally is normal in my family)... and I was horribly self conscious about it in a detrimental way. The issue is that women tend to "joke" in order to be mean, so they can always back peddle to "but it was just a joke!", and not in good faith. Which is why they tend to be overly sensitive about stuff like this... of course the solution would be to actually teach girls that backhanded jokes and acting like a b*tch isn't funny or acceptab…
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 01:05 PM
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But that's just because the best color is obviously green... duh.
/r/AntiFeminists31/07/21 12:52 PM
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The part that disturbed me the most was the "don't you know who he is?!?" attitude towards Whisper and the "you'renobody and I'm banning everyone who talks back so he won't be bothered"... yes, of course I know who he is. But him being the founder of the red pill sub doesn't make him a God or mean that we should just shut up and thank him for bad advice... and the completely nasty and manipulative method of deleting comments and then responding with irrelevant information to even further undermi…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/21 11:46 AM
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Practice the "art" of being happy. I know it's not possible to be happy all the time, but being a cheerful person is definitely a skill that you can polish. Positivity is a choice, and it's one that will pay off not just in relationships but all walks of life... no one wants to be around someone who is negative after all.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 08:23 PM
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Firstly, you need to work on resolving your issues about her past sexual history... your opportunity to have an issue with that fact was prior to marriage, and certainly well before she got pregnant. At this point you don't have the luxury of letting this bother you. YOU committed to her, and YOU have to put aside your issues for your CHILD. You didn't vet properly, you didn't take your reservations seriously in the past, and now you have to deal with the consequences... ie raising your children…
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 08:19 PM
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This is why movies like The Blind Side do so much better... yes, she's a strong woman who puts her foot down and yes she can be obnoxious at times, but it's always within her role and duty as the mother figure. Yet she's never strong or obnoxious just for the sake of power, she only does that when she feels she needs to protect or foster her children (including her adoptive son). Her energy and drive is towards motherhood and family, she has a positive relationship with her spouse, etc. Almost l…
/r/AntiFeminists30/07/21 01:17 PM
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I'm pro-life. As for eggs, I just don't like them. But theoretically if the chicken lives a good life and it's unfertalized I don't see any issue with it. I'm also fine with honey since I understand how beekeeping actually works (the bees will leave if they are unhappy, so in a way they're basically consenting because they stay with their keeper).
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 12:18 PM
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I'm vegan as well... and don't associate with vegans either, because 1 they're crazy, 2 they're crazy, and 3 they're crazy. What bothered me the most was that the rules state you must be pro-choice. While I abided by them by just choosing not to engage with any of that nonsense... the one time a young woman asked for legitimate advice and I offered the possible solution of open-adoption... it became very apparent it's not even about "choice" its just "pro killing babies because admitting there's…
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 01:43 AM
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A few years ago it had a lot more experienced women... but almost all of us got purged. And now it's just a landing spot for young girls looking for advice and mostly being given advice from men... even though they think they're getting advice from other women. And most of the women left because the male mods really cracked down on the "men can do no wrong" and "don't you dare talk back to us"... I don't know about you, but I don't feel I owe submission to anyone but my spouse and my family. And…
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 12:02 AM
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I'm not disagreeing that they behave that way. But I'm saying that by saying things like "they can't help it" we're diminishing their level of responsibility by not holding them accountable. Half the reason women don't face the proper consequences for their actions is because of the pervasive mindset of them not being in control of themselves. You see this same line of thinking when you hear the news spin female offenders as just being "manipulated" by a man... no, no, no... she's an adult and s…
/r/AntiFeminists29/07/21 11:57 PM
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It's mod team is almost entirely male FYI. That's why a lot of the actual women moved to this sub. I got banned permanently because I called out a mod who had deleted one woman's comment about healthy weight loss(she was 100% correct in what she said, and not advocating anything dangerous) and then left his response up basically calling her crazy, using random quotes from her history that were over 2 years old, and making her sound like she was mentally unstable and wrong for correcting the real…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/21 11:52 PM
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Just FYI the mom and pregnancy subreddits are full of some of the craziest, nastiest, rudest, and most miserable people I've ever seen... and they're proud of it. I got trashed on for just telling someone who stated they didn't have the ability to raise a child and who also didn't want an abortion that one option they could look into would be an open adoption... while everyone else was pushing for her to go through with the abortion she didn't want... yet apparently I was the judgemental one for…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/21 11:44 PM
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Women can't help but get mad and start hitting people like children. Yes they absolutely can. Stop with the excuse that women can't control themselves... that's the exact reason why so much bs is manipulated in the favor of women rather than treating us like adults. And perpetuating the myth that women aren't equally accountable for their actions is exactly why we see such a plague of disgusting, childish behavior in modern women...
/r/AntiFeminists29/07/21 11:07 PM
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Honestly I feel like this was the moment that my parents started to take my complaints about school seriously. Prior to this they just thought I was being a normal kid who didn't like school. Once they heard straight from my teachers mouth that she actually did shame and punish me for reading too fast they were like "what did you just say?" This isn't to say I was the best student in the world or anything. But I was advanced in reading and reading comprehension... so English and history were par…
/r/AntiFeminists27/07/21 02:29 AM
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Yeah, while I didn't go into a STEM field... I liked it just fine and it literally never occurred to me to even think about the genders of the great innovators or scientists. All I thought was how crazy and amazing it was that they took it to the next level or thought outside the box. I didn't end up going into STEM because between STEM and law, I just didn't really see myself working in a STEM field. It was just a hobby rather than something I wanted to do full time. Not once did anyone ever pu…
/r/AntiFeminists27/07/21 12:50 AM
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Yeah. Even if you disagree with tradcons, it's not like anything she said he was actually totally factually incorrect. Women are weaker than men. Women can get pregnant. The only iffy one is the debilitating periods point, I personally do experience debilitating periods and can say that most women I know do not have it as rough as I do (losing consciousness, unable to eat or drink without vomiting, unable to stand up due to muscle weakness during the pain, etc.) but it's still definitely not sun…
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/21 03:17 PM
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It's funny to me that most of the list also describes the typical FDS user... and they wonder why they attract these types. That's not to say that anything on that list for sure makes you a less valuable person (especially not the stupid shit like male pattern baldness), but it's pretty hypocritical coming from them.
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/21 03:06 PM
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Yeah, as a female I think I'd find it weird. It'd be like being called "Champ" or "Bud" or some other form of socially acceptable endearment more commonly used for guys. Then again these "ladies" would probably blow up if they got called "sweetheart" or "dear" in the same context (though I've heard my husband called these things too, primarily from older women, we live in the deep South so it's just a polite but informal way everyone talks).
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/21 12:53 AM
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Don't get me wrong I actually understand the rationale behind the war, and we actually were winning at the time we decided to withdraw. I'm very split on this, personally I hate the US acting as a world policeman... it's not our role and it's certainly not worth sending our young halfway around the world to die horrific deaths, or to be so traumatized that it essentially ruins the rest of their life, however if it had enough popular support and enough voluntary enlistments then I also have no is…
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/21 05:48 PM
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Yeah, at the end of the day I firmly think it's unethical and an abuse of government power. I want it done away with all together. If they need more people to join a war then it's up to them to convince and incetivize people or to come to the conclusion that the war isn't popular enough for the country to support. (This is proven by the public backlash to Vietnam... even though I understand what was happening on a grander scale, that was still a clear abuse of the draft and government power.)
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/21 05:19 PM
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My issue is that "active threat" is vague. Was there an active threat that forced young men to fight in Vietnam against their will? I'm not opposed to voluntary service or maintaining a strong military at all. But as long as the definition of "active threat" is defined by a handful of people who are exempted from the decision... I just don't think that's good enough.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/21 05:12 PM
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And yet it denies people their protected rights under the 13th Amendment... and has been abused to force young men to fight in foreign wars against their own interests and good conscience.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/21 05:09 PM
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Is this equal treatment? Yes. Is this ethical? No, because the draft is unethical and unconstitutional. I want it to be gotten rid of for everyone. So do I agree with this? From an equal treatment under the law standpoint, yes, from an overall standpoint, not at all... the correct solution was never to expand the power of the federal government in an inherently unethical and immoral manner... it was to abolish the draft.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/21 04:02 PM
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You can get marginally better at IQ tests with practice and experience though. So it's certainly not infallible. That's the main reason people with more education, and more practice taking tests in general, do better during their first attempt, while other groups tend to do better on their second attempt... Which means if they all retested Maria (the most educated) would most likely not have much change in score, while the marine (least educated) she was judging would be much more likely to actu…
/r/AntiFeminists23/07/21 03:27 AM
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She's the type of person who tells you she's nice, and you instantly know that she's anything but. Also the whole basis for her saying that about him was because he joined the marines instead of going to college. But that part was cut out... in fact the entire group was extremely rude and judgmental towards him because "people who join the military are stupid".
/r/AntiFeminists23/07/21 03:19 AM
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I agree. There's an age threshold where I think children (my definition being anyone under 18) can reasonably make some decisions about things like activism. But I still have deep reservations about letting them take that online where it's preserved forever. It should be the case that we don't judge people for dumb stuff they did as kids, but unfortunately that's just not the case anymore. Videos are the most exploitative as well because even if you use a pseudonym your image and likeness is out…
/r/AntiFeminists23/07/21 03:17 AM
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The best part is that she talks so much about "emotional quotient" which aside from being entirely made up, she's definitely the most lacking based on her own definition of EQ of anyone in the group...
/r/AntiFeminists23/07/21 01:27 AM
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Honestly, yes. There's a lot of history and legal issues at play, and small children are still working to grasp basic morals and codes of behavior. They also lack the ability to comprehend what they're doing and cannot consent to their image being used on the behalf of a political movement that they don't even understand. As a teenager I think is fine to start discussing issues more in depth and working on their critical thinking skills. It's also the age where the child can truly start choosing…
/r/AntiFeminists22/07/21 09:17 PM
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Those poor kids. Parents who use their kids for political videos are just some of the worst scumbags... regardless of if you think the principles are right, it's absolutely not okay to put the weight of adult issues on kids. It's not specifically feminist, and regardless of your perspective on the issues she talks about, but just go take a listen to Greta Thurnberg describe her depression and anxiety as a young child over an issue that she was way, way to young to grasp. To me that's blatantly c…
/r/AntiFeminists22/07/21 06:08 PM
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In fairness, if I woke up looking like Lisa I wouldn't be unhappy about it. xD But overall I agree, the kpop standom is one of the cringiest, worst corners of the internet. I like kpop but I just refuse to take part in that stuff.
/r/AntiFeminists22/07/21 02:18 PM
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Ehhhhh I somewhat disagree. Yes, they are more feminine than their Western counterparts, but they're still attractive and more importantly they're rich and famous. Most of the boy groups do have at least one more mature looking member with six pack abs as well. And even with their appearance Korea still does have more structured gender roles, and they definitely play to the trope of "idealized romance" that's basically been replaced by raunchy sex in the West. Regardless bar for looks is differe…
/r/AntiFeminists22/07/21 02:16 PM
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Well I am definitely not a "sigma male" lol, even though I know we're supposed to pretend biological sex doesn't exist anymore these days. I'm also just not a huge fan of the labels, they're silly. Either you have discovered meaning in your life and live according to logically coherent values or you haven't... this perception that you have to fit into molds and labels is ridiculous. The whole beta thing for example is just used as a tactic to shame men who don't fit into this ridiculous "this is…
/r/AntiFeminists21/07/21 04:36 PM
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Especially when I see male feminists... at least feminism pretends to care about giving women what they want (obviously that's not the result, but it is the marketing)... but how can anyone with an ounce of self respect proclaim themselves to be a follower and supporter of an ideology that actively goes out it's way to demonize them? Maybe that's sexist of me, but I feel the same way when I see white people apologizing for being white in the bizarre hope that they will get validation and "headpa…
/r/AntiFeminists21/07/21 03:58 PM
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I'm going to be honest... I don't agree with that part of the book. If it's something that personally bothered you before I'd slowly rope him in by first involving him more and asking him more questions. But if it didn't bother you prior to reading the book, and since it pretty clearly doesn't bother him, then I'd just ignore it. My husband has the final say in everything, but I manage the finances so it's one less thing for him to worry about in his time off of work. I don't see how that would …
/r/RedPillWives19/07/21 04:46 AM
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I seriously thought I was in r/botchedsurgeries for a moment. Good lord almighty this is terrifying to look at.
/r/AntiFeminists18/07/21 04:07 AM
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Smells like victim blaming... Yes, males are physically stronger than females... but children (yes, teens are still children by both legal and social standards) CANNOT CONSENT TO SEX. While it's technically within reason that a 16yo boy could probably kick his female teacher's butt, it should never even be a situation that happens in the first place.
/r/AntiFeminists16/07/21 06:59 PM
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Chris Hemsworth when he's jacked is basically what I would call "universally attractive"... barring an individual's personal taste, pretty much everyone knows that he's attractive, men know this too. He's rugged, but not too rugged. Pretty, but not too pretty. Tall, wide shoulders, narrow waist... like that's just the basic attributes that define ideal masculine appearance. Likewise women know that men like girls with nice perky tits, a healthy butt, narrow waist, and who are generally slender a…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/21 02:22 PM
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But he looks great in the second one? Like he's looks good in the first... but it's just a lie to say women aren't attracted to muscle definition. Back in high school my entire friend group was pretty much drooling over the brief scene in Thor where he's shirtless. (I will say I do find it incredibly unfair how many films show women in their undies, and not men... but obviously that's not "muh oppreshun").
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/21 03:50 AM
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Yeah... it's why I avoid Austin like the plague.
/r/AntiFeminists14/07/21 02:16 AM
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My family is what I would call "West Texas Feminists"... in the fact that they would probably all tell you they're feminist because they believe in equality, but they're so far removed from the actual culture war and what's really going on that you have to keep it in mind. Also watching my one woke cousin(who everyone considers crazy)get red pilled by her boyfriend has been entertaining... But in the wild? Nah, I have no time for people whose ideology is that I'm some dumb child who is a victim …
/r/AntiFeminists14/07/21 01:58 AM
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You don't talk to them about it... you ignore them.
/r/AntiFeminists14/07/21 01:35 AM
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Can I just say I find it extremely offensive that feminists assume that because I'm a woman I'm not respected... the only reason they aren't getting the "respect" they want is because they're incapable of earning it with their current behavior. Also men should feel "scared" walking alone at night, y'all are way more likely to be the victims of violent crimes... and I truly believe half of that is the misinformation campaign the feminists put out that gives men a false sense of security and confi…
/r/AntiFeminists13/07/21 10:03 PM
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Yep. Even though I know it's just in jest I don't particularly like it either... although I don't really mind non-gendered insults and slurs. And I definitely have thicker skin than most other girls we've had around... but I don't pretend that I'm the same as the guys at all.
/r/AntiFeminists13/07/21 01:54 PM
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Yeah... I need a break from the boys sometimes too lol. I have my own hobbies, I don't need to be attached to my husband all the time. I can play games with them on the weekends, but during the week I like to relax and cook, take the baby to her play groups, do my nails, etc. Only time I "make" my husband not schedule bro time is during dinnertime... and I don't really have to enforce that schedule at all.
/r/AntiFeminists13/07/21 01:42 PM
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Yeah. I get that's a guy thing, I just stay out of that level of joking and surprise, surprise... none of the guys cares at all. Almost like you don't have to be "one of the guys" to be friends with them.
/r/AntiFeminists13/07/21 12:30 PM
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Yeah, getting the bill split is just a hassle for the servers. It's fine for first dates when you don't know if it's gonna go anywhere, after that though it's just a pain in my experience.
/r/AntiFeminists12/07/21 09:45 PM
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My husband and I were literally talking about this last night in regards to girls who claim to be "one of the guys", yet get butthurt and upset when they're treated like the guys in the group. What they really mean is that they don't consider themselves a girly-girl, but try engaging them in smack talk and paling around and suddenly they're upset that you teased them even though they were dishing out jokes at everyone else's expense. I hang out with my husband and his friends a lot, but I'm not …
/r/AntiFeminists12/07/21 09:02 PM
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Y'know I never split the bill when I was dating... we just took turns. Yeah I guess it wasn't exactly an even split that way, but pretty much everywhere we went was around the same price range so it was probably pretty even. For big holidays that were pricier, I asked that my husband take me nice places rather than give me big gifts, and I always try to get him nicer, more expensive gifts (like if we go for a $200 dinner for our anniversary, he'd give me like a $10-15 present and I'd usually get…
/r/AntiFeminists12/07/21 08:56 PM
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53- describes herself as totally unapproachable and invisible... wants to think she's still attractive to men, thinks men don't really care about fertility they just pretend they do... and spends time on FDS. Sorry hun, but it's not just pretending... Men are very much attracted to fertility and you're very far post-wall with seemingly nothing else to offer besides what you think is your "attractiveness". Now I'm not going to say women post-wall can't be successful in dating, however you have to…
/r/AntiFeminists11/07/21 05:49 PM
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Maybe... but she's blaming her problems on having had Barbies...
/r/AntiFeminists09/07/21 01:05 PM
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I mean I wouldn't be on this sub if I just mindlessly agreed with that nonsense... I very much know it's social pressure from other women... I just don't have any problem with makeup or dressing up, it's fun and I do like keeping myself nice looking in public because it also reflects well on my husband. I'm also not against earning the right to vote, I think everyone should be able to pass the US citizenship test in order to be able to vote. It's appalling that most natural born citizens don't e…
/r/AntiFeminists08/07/21 08:45 PM
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I wear makeup when I want to look nice. My husband doesn't care much either way, if anything it's mostly to keep up with other women. Although I understand that it's creation had to do with attracting mates, now if anything it's more of the social pressure from other women. Like has any straight guy ever cared if a woman wears the same dress to multiple formal occasions? I'd guess no, but you'd still never catch most women willing to do that.
/r/AntiFeminists08/07/21 07:52 PM
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What? I'm pretty sure I played with mostly "girl toys" and I think I turned out fine. What exactly were you taught/given that made you become a porn star? Cuz that isn't really that normal.
/r/AntiFeminists08/07/21 02:29 AM
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Ah my bad! That's less you and more that I'm bad at detecting comedy via text.
/r/AntiFeminists05/07/21 01:22 PM
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People like me and my husband who like to go chuckle at the lunatics there from time to time.
/r/AntiFeminists05/07/21 01:14 PM
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Yeah I couldn't even understand what you were trying to say in the screenshot comment until you summarized it here. The feminists will still be dumb, but you're missing opportunities to win over the spectators if they can't easily decipher what you're saying.
/r/AntiFeminists05/07/21 01:02 PM
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If you follow Dr. Peterson then you'll be familiar with the fact that women are more agreeable on average right? A trait that serves us much better socially, and in care giving type activities, than in business. To an extent women are more nurturing on average, just like men are more aggressive on average. Feminism tend to treat both of these as bad things, but they're neither necessarily bad or good, they're just a product of the ideal "roles" for survival. Men cannot breastfeed or give birth s…
/r/AntiFeminists30/06/21 04:32 PM
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Well fashion is dominated by gay men. I could only find the pdf, but it was a 2017 study. I think he says women are more likely to pursue the arts, but that doesn't mean most (a majority) women pursue it. We do statistically go for lesser paid job though, that's very true. But the most highly female dominated industries are predominantly "caregiving" types of work. Ever been to a hospital for instance? How many nurses did you see who were female vs male? It's not like most of them couldn't have …
/r/AntiFeminists30/06/21 03:51 PM
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That's just not backed up by evidence. Yes, women pick lower paying careers, but most women are not seeking "artistic" jobs. Besides the only statistics I could find on the fashion design industry show it's around 60% male.
/r/AntiFeminists30/06/21 12:43 PM
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I feel like my eyes were assaulted trying to read that. Punctuation and there/their/they're... Also I don't think women predominantly work artistic jobs, most professional musicians are men for instance... they predominantly work in what are considered nurturing fields like childcare, education, social work, nursing, etc.
/r/AntiFeminists30/06/21 12:27 PM
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I think he's arguing that by allowing them to spread their crazy theories, what is actually happening is that they're making their own nooses with which to hang themselves. Personally I think this is the approach that should be taken with all the subs concerned. The radical incels (people with abusive personality issues rather than just being bad with dating) definitely had their share of issues which were rightfully criticized... just as we criticize FDS. The problem is that some brain dead idi…
/r/AntiFeminists27/06/21 07:42 PM
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I think for the set a wedding date really depends on your situation, largely based on if you want kids and where your biological clock is at. If you're 35+ you might have to be a bit more upfront to avoid losing time on men who are in no rush... afterall we do not have the same luxury of time. If you're younger though it's much more reasonable to expect that men in your age group simply haven't thought about it much yet and may be more nervous if it's brought up before they get a chance to know …
/r/RedPillWives27/06/21 04:34 AM
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I think the thing is that I wasn't looking for a "normal guy" or "most guys". I was looking for someone special... expecting them to have a little self control and take care of their own needs for a few months isn't exactly a high bar. The whole point is that you have to show them what you offer that's exceptional beyond just the bedroom, and them to display that they value you beyond just a person to have sex with.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/21 04:24 AM
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The dumbest thing about this is that no one shops at VS because they want to feel represented... if I'm spending $60 on a single, lace bra that's not even comfortable it's only for one reason... to look sexy. Their brand was always about selling fantasy, not reality... and the Angels were part of that. Women go to places like Target for their normal, "reality" bras that only cost a third of what VS charges.
/r/AntiFeminists27/06/21 02:21 AM
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That's very true. I think it can be a normal, positive, healthy human interaction. If you're approaching it as "I'm excited about this let me share with you!" It's a lot different from "I'm feeling insecure please spend 20 minutes reassuring me and building me up while I put myself down".
/r/RedPillWives23/06/21 06:34 PM
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I don't even understand what they're saying? Of course motherhood is a care giving role... so is fatherhood... children require additional care. That's not because of the "patriarchy". Sounds to me like a really long winded way of excusing the fact that she's uncomfortable realizing that disliking this particular set of adult responsibilities earns her a lot of negative judgment... because y'know society tends not to look too favorably on negligent and abusive parents (rightfully so).
/r/AntiFeminists22/06/21 06:19 AM
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I hate it, but I feel similarly. I'd be too concerned about the safety and treatment of my children especially, which is pretty much the only reason I won't use my real identity to speak out most of the time. Feels awful though.
/r/AntiFeminists20/06/21 04:37 AM
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I agree with this. I will not get any of my boys circumsized because it's wrong. If they want to get circumsized as adults they can (though I've never met a man who wanted to do that and most of my exes were uncircumsized). Same reason why I think it's a bad idea, but if an adult woman wants a labiaplasty then that's fine imo. Adults can make their own decisions about their bodies, children and infants cannot.
/r/AntiFeminists19/06/21 03:58 PM
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Depending on how your relationship is and how you broach the subject I am personally kinda iffy about this rule. If I do something around the house that I'm particularly proud or excited about I want to share it with my husband and I do. However, it's not to fish for compliments, it's just that he's my number one person to talk to and I think it's natural to want to share positivity like that. It can be very endearing and cute to be happy and excited about stuff, even if the topic might otherwis…
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 01:36 AM
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The jobs thing is one of the most common things that irritates me. Like her point that women can and do exist in those fields is proof that equality of opportunity has already been achieved... so what are they even fighting for? Yes, I could be a big rig truck driver... I just don't want to do that. Heck, a lot of men don't want to do that either... no one should be forced or propagandized into doing things they don't want to do which is the only next step they cry about wanting "equality" in th…
/r/AntiFeminists18/06/21 12:20 AM
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I don't think MGTOW is inherently toxic. Just like red pill isn't either. But you are correct in your earlier point that there are a lot of people who get drawn to those communities who haven't properly done their work and evaluated what it means. Neither is actually about hating women, they're just strategies for dealing with toxic feminism which does exist in reality.
/r/AntiFeminists13/06/21 05:07 PM
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Yes, but this content was being shown and taught to 5 year olds in the pre-k classes WITHOUT their parents being informed. We can discuss that kids do need to be taught sex-ed and how the reproductive system matures and functions... but I think that content involving masturbation and anal sex is obviously inappropriate for the school to teach AND as content for 5 year olds. 5 year olds should be learning basic consent in the form of asking to play together, asking to share toys, no hitting, etc.…
/r/AntiFeminists12/06/21 06:23 PM
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Okay our lives are similar in a lot of ways (first time mom, baby so late I needed and induction, 4 dogs, wanting to stay on top of everything). My LO is going to be 3 months in 10 days. Firstly induction is not that bad I promise. I was very resistant, but I decided to kind of just relax and not let myself get worked up that things didn't go the way I envisioned. I wish LO had decided to come out on time, but everything went smoothly and I don't have any regrets. It was still the most amazing e…
/r/RedPillWives08/06/21 08:34 PM
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This seriously sounds like he's never actually seen a woman before. We're mammals, it's natural that we have hair. Just where is this hair that he hates so much? You shave a lot more areas than an average person does... and yet to still have such a visceral reaction? That's truly bizarre. Where and how did he get such a crazy expectation and standard?
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 05:59 AM
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Why is Ryan Long is a prettier feminist woman than real feminist women... LMAO
/r/AntiFeminists03/06/21 04:28 PM
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This is pretty much my plan. I don't mind them going to school, but I want to make sure they're old enough to be able to tell me if something happens and yo think for themselves. I absolutely do not want them learning "morals" in school as young kids, that's 100% the parents job not the schools.
/r/AntiFeminists03/06/21 02:41 AM
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Meanwhile one of my dogs is so dumb even several trainers gave up on him. Luckily he's also too dumb to misbehave and very submissive naturally... now if only I could get him to stop licking the walls and doorknobs... But I'm glad this worked out for you. It's nice when we can see the results of changes so quickly!
/r/RedPillWives02/06/21 07:13 PM
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"but it was well intentioned"... No it wasn't... I would put my entire 401k down on a bet that says they didn't even stop to think about what they were doing, and they were probably surprised when people got angry. Even then the only group they were even thinking about was the female students... I don't personally have any boys yet, but I cannot in good faith send my children to be taught by other people at this point. I don't want my daughter to have this behavior and treatment normalized to he…
/r/AntiFeminists02/06/21 01:49 PM
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https://youtu.be/oACng87P9I0 Keep in mind it's not really the same thing, but it is marketed as a female viagra. Overall the reasons no one takes it is because it's just really not worth it. It's the same reason why men would rather use a condom than take the "male birth control pill" that was discontinued after having really terrible side effects... Addyi shouldn't have been approved btw, but the feminists basically threatened the FDA into approving it. I'd probably say lube is the best equival…
/r/AntiFeminists02/06/21 01:04 AM
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There's actually a female "viagra" which feminists legitimately bullied the FDA into approving some years back... despite the fact that it doesn't really work and has some pretty nasty side effects. But pushing dangerous/worthless drugs on women for "equality" and "empowerment" is definitely modern feminism in a nutshell.
/r/AntiFeminists02/06/21 12:47 AM
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I'm so confused about the "breastfeeding AT men"... like I agree we shouldn't stigmatize breastfeeding publicly. Mothers have to enter public sometimes and babies need to be fed whenever they demand it... it's not always at convenient times. However, most people understand this... and although it might get you a few looks (because it's not a common sight + natural curiosity) I don't think any men really think women feeding a baby is an issue.
/r/AntiFeminists02/06/21 12:40 AM
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Apparently it's also emotional labor to have to communicate with your partner too. (This is the part that drives me the most nuts). God forbid you have to ask your partner for help with a chore! Obviously they should just know what you want and do it the second they get home from work without you having to say anything! It couldn't possibly be that they don't read minds, no it must be that they're a terrible person.
/r/AntiFeminists01/06/21 01:45 PM
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While it was mostly marketing, the concept behind gifting a wife jewelry was to give her some financial insurance in the event she was widowed. Obviously that is archaic now since most women no longer fulfill the homemaker role rather than working full time.
/r/AntiFeminists31/05/21 08:16 PM
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Well why not let their husband change his last name at that time if wanted? It could definitely be done... though I don't think that'd be very popular. Still better that hyphenated last names though... no one should doom themselves to a 20 character last name just for "feminism"... just don't change your name at that point.
/r/AntiFeminists31/05/21 08:11 PM
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Of course it's the government so it's a foolish dream to think they'd ever do anything that godforbid was actually easier for everyone lol.
/r/AntiFeminists31/05/21 06:05 PM
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I haven't legally changed my last name yet, but it's really only because the process is a huge pain and I'm not comfortable with mailing my original documents to get a new SSN card. But our daughter, pets, and all my professional documents carry my husband's last name. I introduce myself with my married name as well. They really ought to allow you to legally change it as part of signing the marriage certificate rather than as a whole separate process.
/r/AntiFeminists31/05/21 03:56 PM
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I read this as countering the extremely toxic feminist narrative of women who lament the fact that their child is a "white male" and then virtue signal on twitter and tiktok about indoctrinating their sons from birth so "they won't be awful". (Not that it only matters if a woman is concerned.)
/r/AntiFeminists30/05/21 04:19 PM
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Correct. I'd have much more respect for feminism if they were focusing on ending mistreatment of women in the third world, heck I'd even join in. Ending childhood FGM is something I can legitimately support, just like I'm adamantly against the continued cultural norm of infant circumcision in males. (If adults want to get these things done, then I'm fine with that.)
/r/AntiFeminists29/05/21 06:18 PM
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Nude leaks only really make headlines when the people involved are relatively well known, and probably the subject of fantasies for many people. Doesn't make it right, but that's why there's more interest in them... if I had nudes of me leak, pretty much no one would be out there desperately wanting to see what my body looks like because no one cares about me or even knows who I am. (I guarantee you that plenty of women for example would be very interested in nudes of Chris Hemsworth or Dwayne J…
/r/AntiFeminists29/05/21 06:13 PM
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Yes, but part of the bias is from the idea that boys are "more poorly behaved" which makes teachers think of them and treat them more negatively which also goes back to my point. It's not worse behavior, it's simply more male behavior. (Not sitting as still, less group oriented, less interested in the reading materials assigned, less socially mature at the same age, more energetic, more competitive, etc.) It's also why boys receive much more severe discipline than girls. Add to that the actual p…
/r/AntiFeminists23/05/21 10:37 PM
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I don't think a majority of them are actually aware that there are very real gender differences... so they just see misbehaving children and not the wider issue that we've created a system that essentially rewards female behavior and punishes male behaviors. Until that is more widely recognized the system will never make the necessary changes to level the playing field.
/r/AntiFeminists23/05/21 09:15 PM
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The problem is still more of what the other commenter said... school is designed around female driven traits and skills. It's not even "sucking up", it's just a natural difference between most boys and most girls. Likewise this carries over into the structure of the common syllabus items. We know for example that boys vastly prefer non-fiction literature, yet almost every school across the country is completely devoid of any assigned materials in that category when it comes to reading/English cl…
/r/AntiFeminists23/05/21 09:09 PM
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Exactly. Debate is only worthwhile when there's an open audience... because its not about winning over the person you're engaging with, it's about winning over the audience.
/r/AntiFeminists22/05/21 01:22 PM
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They also refuse to acknowledge that they're the originators of some of the "sexist against women" policies they love to try and use as proof of "inequity". Like their point about women gaining custody more often... it actually used to be that children would stay with the father because the father was the actual provider. But then feminists argued that men are less capable as care givers and got family courts to take their side out of pity... And now they want to whine that it's because of the p…
/r/AntiFeminists22/05/21 03:17 AM
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How can their perfection be improved on? Obviously they're just too perfect for this world, and that's their only fault.
/r/AntiFeminists21/05/21 10:01 PM
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Online via a mutual friend who invited us both to play a League of Legends game with him... So not exactly intentionally. But we hit it off, soon realized we actually lived very nearby, and decided to meet up IRL. 5 years later and we've been married for 3, and had our first baby in March.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/21 07:19 PM
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I do think it's always going to be a factor of attractiveness. Now that said I was never dating for a child-free lifestyle so the men in that scene might be more flexible about their partners. I think that finding someone who wants the same lifestyle is going to the bigger barrier than age honestly. Not saying that as a negative thing, I only wanted to date and marry a Christian for example so that automatically dwindled the dating pool... the child-free lifestyle is basically the same type of l…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 04:12 AM
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Yup. We can make the house a home and provide emotional care that I think is often overlooked. Obviously men can provide emotional care too, but it's something I think people have kind of forgotten is part of the relationship "transaction" and how many men like to receive it. A lot of men just want to feel cared for, and will be proud to provide for a partner that offers them that experience.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 02:41 AM
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There are a few states trying to pass "until birth for any medical reason" bills. Virginia and New York have both attempted these bills, and their authors even admitted that would include things like the mother being diagnosed with depression in the 3rd trimester... which I would hope any reasonable person would find appalling since we have records of premies surviving when born as early as 21 weeks (and growing younger all the time as medical advances are made). I personally only agree when it'…
/r/AntiFeminists20/05/21 01:41 AM
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My husband made many comments prior to having children that he wanted me to be a housewife... so it's definitely possible. For him it was something he enjoyed because he liked coming home to a clean house and a hot meal with a wife who wasn't tired from working all day. He described it as more relaxing. We weren't planning kids yet when he started feeling that way either. So just throwing out that for some men it's also just about the atmosphere and environment that a housewife can provide, even…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 01:31 AM
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I do also believe that women are generally more geared towards nurturing than men which people then assume makes women better and more gentle... but I think those are actually less related than people think. I get more enjoyment and fulfillment from nurturing behaviors than my husband does as an example... but that doesn't have anything to do with our individual capacity for violence because he's not a violent person either despite not having the same level of nurturing drive as I do. As for mak…
/r/AntiFeminists19/05/21 07:08 PM
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Women are less violent only because it generally isn't in their favor... not because they're incapable of being bad people. By this I mean that if I, a woman, tried to attack a man, assuming he instinctual defends himself out of self preservation, that is very likely to end much worse for me than him as I cannot biologically over power him. Even if I was to fight another woman it's going to be a toss up and I'm still taking on unnecessary risk. That's why most women who commit violent acts do so…
/r/AntiFeminists19/05/21 04:28 PM
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At least most of them will be unlikely to procreate and further their genetic line. But there is a special circle of hell for those who are wrathful, which would be the 5th circle where they will be damned to fight among themselves in a stinking, repulsive swamp for eternity.
/r/AntiFeminists18/05/21 11:21 PM
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I don't think caution, or even fear, is the problem... it's the blaming everyone else for it that is. For example it may not be incredibly rational that I'm constantly checking my surroundings and my baby when I'm out, especially since I live in a very low crime area, however that biological drive to protect myself and my baby still serves its function of improving our safety outcomes. While yes, it's obviously the rapists fault not their victims that the crime happened, by improving awareness a…
/r/AntiFeminists17/05/21 09:35 PM
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Yep. Also there's extremely few people who are out of touch with reality enough to not realize that criminal behavior is wrong. Criminals just don't care. That's why it's absolutely ridiculous that these feminists go around screeching things like "teach boys not to rape" as if anyone in their right mind doesn't already know this. I don't understand why they can't fathom that some people are just not good and don't care, and teaching people to recognize bad people and protect themselves isn't "vi…
/r/AntiFeminists17/05/21 04:30 PM
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The real irony is that these people want to act likevwomen have it so rough (we don't) but then go on to make arguments against people taking practical steps in their self interest because "you shouldn't have to do that (whatever self preservation decision one makes)! Just tell rapists not to rape!" That's the dumbest part. These people are horrified when I say I conceal carry... anyone who cares about the safety of actual law abiding citizens wouldn't be upset by that though. But they'd rather …
/r/AntiFeminists17/05/21 01:51 PM
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This is accurate. Almost all rapists are closely related to the victims as either family members or friends. A majority of rapes actually occur where the rapist has been invited in by the unsuspecting victim. The "rapist in the dark alley" trope is actually incredibly rare and unlikely. Rapists also tend to be pedophiles, or target under age people, because those victims are easy to overpower and control with fear.
/r/AntiFeminists17/05/21 01:46 PM
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I particularly enjoyed the explosion part. ​ Only thing my husband ever wants for ANYTHING is 1. Not to have to talk to anyone outside the family during "his" days. (So I play interference and divert calls from the extended family and friends for the day.) 2. If I get him a gift he wants something practical 9/10 times. Although this year I'm getting him some Path of Exile themed desk toys/ decorations since he's to the point in his tool collection where I don't know what inventory he already has…
/r/AntiFeminists10/05/21 02:27 PM
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It was a deal breaker for me. Just because some people might not care, doesn't mean you can try and force someone who does care to be fine with it. I didn't sleep around, and I didn't want a guy with those values either. Likewise I knew guys who didn't want a girl with limited experience.
/r/AntiFeminists09/05/21 03:26 PM
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That Biden doesn't seem mentally competent, and Harris isn't popular enough to even make it to the primaries on her own.
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 08:41 PM
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I think it's her brother who is responsible for all the other elements, like the melody and beats, and personally I actually do like his work. Unfortunately it's all branded under her.
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 07:47 PM
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I also hate the whining when people have preferences that exclude a majority of the population and then they're upset that it's harder to find a partner. Most men are not 6'+. Most women do not naturally have 32F cups. If you have to have those things in a partner then that's your problem, don't cry about it. Pretty much everyone who realizes that adopts some level of flexibility in their dating pool. Like I prefer taller guys (as most women do), but I'm happy as long as I don't feel gigantic in…
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 07:39 PM
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Ahhh yeah I forgot I turned that off. A lot of trolls sending me really nasty DMs, especially during the election. I got tired of people using it as an excuse to send things they weren't courageous enough to say where everyone could judge them.
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 07:25 PM
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Making fun of height is like making fun of a woman for having small breasts... only feminism has convinced us that one is acceptable while the other isn't. That's not to say I don't think it's okay for people to have preferences about those things(everyone has preferences for what they find attractive to some degree). But it doesn't give you a free pass to be nasty to people who aren't your type.
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 07:16 PM
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Huh. I was wondering. I just gave birth about 2 months ago, but the "big tummy" goes away after a couple weeks after the uterus goes back to it's normal size. As for the boobs, just depends on how full they are. But even that's temporary since breast feeding doesn't last forever and the breasts should return to normal once the baby is weaned. So basically it's just a slightly less direct way of saying fat?
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 07:11 PM
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If you ever want a more long form discussion you can feel free to reach out to me if you'd like. I am more than happy to discuss the issues from a female perspective over discord or so. Heck my husband will probably enjoy me not talking his ear off about social and political issues for once. xD
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/21 07:01 PM
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I don't know, I think would argue that Feminism actually hurts women more. The wonton sex and hookup culture that Feminism has essentially single-handedly created certainly benefits men more than women. Maybe on a social level, but on a legitimate life-altering consequences level it's men who are by far and away the victims. We can see this in effect in family courts in almost every Western country, unequal prison sentencing/criminal justice outcomes, educational outcomes, life expectancy, suici…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 09:27 PM
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That's why I responded again even though I figured he would run away (which he seems to have done). Well, who knows maybe one day he'll feel comfortable enough to actually have a discussion. Right now though it seems like he just really doesn't like the cognitive dissonance of having women around in the anti-feminist community because he cannot yet understand that feminism actually hurts everyone. It may hurt men more, I think that's pretty much inarguable... but that doesn't mean that women don…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 07:51 PM
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Agreed. That's why I can only hope it's just a phase... I'm willing to give anyone a phase to work out their complicated emotions without judging them too harshly as a person. But that doesn't mean I won't challenge them just because they're struggling to reconcile those emotions... However if the response to challenges is to just call names, refuse to engage, or to cling to anger then I'm going to have less patience and willingness to deal with them. Ultimately everyone deserves to have an oppo…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 07:19 PM
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Well I can at least understand where the anger phase comes from. For men it's the actual discrimination they experience on a day to day level, for women it's because they're been indoctrinated to think they're being discriminated against (like the pay gap). I know that women have it easier, and I really don't think there are any women's issues left that require a political movement anymore (well, only in the West, there are women in places like Africa and the Middle East who definitely are secon…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 06:51 PM
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rape is simply a useful tool The easiest way to prove this is to look at the self-reported survey questions that they ask, and then conflate with rape and sexual assault in their "findings" to make it sound much, much worse that reality. For example the 1 in 5 or 1 in 4 women are sexually assaulted in college number is based on a self-reported survey, and included questions like "Have you ever felt uncomfortable with attention that you received?", if someone answered "Yes" then it was counted as…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 06:31 PM
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So, why would this post interest you or you even care about it? Because there are plenty of men in my life I care deeply about? Including my own father who had to deal with my crazy mother trying to screw him over in family court when she decided she wanted a divorce. I mean if you're going to respond to me and make accusations about what I do and don't care about, don't try to run away by claiming that it's just "rhetorical". This is the first post from this sub I've interacted with in around 2…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 06:16 PM
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That post didn't pop up for me... hence I didn't engage with it. I don't check every post on every sub that I subscribe to (who has time for that?!). As for the post linked above, I'm against child support in all situations. If the parents want to privately work out a child support option that's fine, but it shouldn't be part of the legal system. Same thing for alimony.
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/21 05:54 PM
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For me personally it's about overcoming the female ego of "I know the right way to do things" and accept that there are many right ways for things to be done. To use a silly example, I cut sandwiches into triangles and my husband cuts them into rectangles... does that matter? Not at all, sandwich tastes the same either way. Now by expanding that to other matters we can admit that there's no perfect, one-size-fits-all way to handle many things in life... we have to remove our ego about how it sho…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/21 05:07 PM
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Love it... couldn't possibly be because this is a very unique situation where all childcare and schools were shut down requiring a parent to have to stay home... has to be sexism. Seriously, for a bunch of so called "feminists" their hard on for policies such as shut downs is what is directly responsible for this... In prior recessions public schools and daycares weren't closed, now they are, so what did they think would happen? A company is just going to keep on a bunch of employees who can't g…
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 04:32 PM
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I personally wouldn't because there are a lot of people who do give really bad advice there, and a lot of men still going through their anger phase. I would recommend more male-centered YouTube content where the focus is still on relationships. I think The Roommates has some good content, very much about men being men while also still actually wanting relationships. Make sure the content you suggest is by men and for men though. But even then, if you know that's what you want from him, then you …
/r/RedPillWives04/05/21 03:25 PM
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The older woman was pretty funny though. That deadpan "you're telling porkies"... xD
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 02:59 PM
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Exactly. Anyone who tells you they care about victims but tries to shut down the conversation on behalf of the "victim" is not doing it because they actually care. Prevention is the best medicine afterall.
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 09:00 AM
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Yup
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 02:04 AM
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I was not raped, but I was in a situation where had he not been extremely drunk I would have been (and I was completely sober). He ripped my clothes and had pressed my head into the pillow so hard that I couldn't even breathe. Unfortunately I didn't do anything in a timely manner, mostly because I was in so much shock afterwards that I didn't really process what happened until around a week later. I'm not upset that he didn't get punished for the scare he put me through though, I'm more upset wi…
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 01:29 AM
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I agree. But if you're keeping it in your mind, then no one should ever know besides the other people in the fetish community. The fact that people have enough experience to state they don't like being fetishized is purely because there are just enough people who cross the boundary out there that it's created complaints. I don't think that reflects on the fetish communities though, just those individuals.
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 01:11 AM
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So I think it really depends. If you don't mind engaging in the fetish, and the fetishist treats you like a human beyond just a source to wank off to, yeah that's fine. But I do think there are fetishists (in both genders) that kind of remove the fact that the subject of their fantasy is still another human being, likewise you shouldn't involve someone who is blatantly opposed to being used that way. Ex: I had pregnancy fetishists DM very explicit sexual messages just for posting a question in r…
/r/AntiFeminists04/05/21 12:25 AM
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Trying to find a job but you have no skills. Worse than that... not only with no skills, but anywhere remotely decent is going to check online to make sure that you're not a liability. And a history of sex work is 100% a liability.
/r/AntiFeminists03/05/21 11:45 PM
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They don't care whether or not the idiots paying them money are good or not. I'm not talking about that though. I'm talking about when they inevitably complain RIGHT NOW about not being able to find a "suitable" boyfriend. And then you're right, another 5 years after that, when they're completely washed up and broke, they'll have gone from "there are no good men" to "it's men's fault" because they have to realize that they aren't as valuable as they thought they were. "No good men" is them basic…
/r/AntiFeminists03/05/21 10:46 PM
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Here's my thing... if a girl wants to e-thot? Be my guest, that's fine. Just don't you dare cry and moan that there are "no good men" or that getting the man you want is impossible later... Only a dumbass is going to wine and dine a woman he has access to for free or for $5/mo, and newsflash MOST MEN AREN'T STUPID. Those men that these girls want? They pick the women who worked on themselves and didn't take the "easy" path.
/r/AntiFeminists03/05/21 07:06 PM
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Damn I guess using the Stephen Fry voiceover for my GPS is sexist against men... sorry guys I'll do better!
/r/AntiFeminists03/05/21 03:06 PM
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I disagree. That's the whitewashed definition of feminism, but the history of feminism is not quite so noble. Even then the movement has changed, the meaning of feminism has changed along with it, and although there are people who may not like it feminism is no longer represented by people who actually strive or care about equality. It just is what it is, if someone describes themselves as a feminist, even if they have all the best intentions in the world, they are aligning themselves with a lot…
/r/AntiFeminists02/05/21 09:14 PM
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Just wait until they hear that we plan to homeschool so our kids aren't bullied by woke, feminist teachers (especially if we have boys). Either that or the school that our church runs, but that might be a bit too pricey depending how many kids we end up stopping at.
/r/AntiFeminists02/05/21 01:38 PM
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Not necessarily, it's just a bunch of crabs in a bucket who need to validate their misery by convincing young, impressionable but otherwise normal teenage girls to become just like them... miserable.
/r/AntiFeminists02/05/21 04:57 AM
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Ah yes I'm a "pick me" because otherwise if I didn't let my husband control me and make all my decisions for me then he would obviously leave me and our child on the streets for a younger, hotter girl. But that's okay then I could be free from my internalized misogyny and be one of the stunningly brave "don't need no man" single mothers! In fact I should just become a feminist now, how could I have been so stupid all these years and think that I've actually been happy when I could have been ridi…
/r/AntiFeminists02/05/21 04:54 AM
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Yeah points for honesty I guess? There's not many dishonest people who tell you to your face that you can't trust them upfront.
/r/AntiFeminists01/05/21 04:44 AM
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You forgot single moms. ​ Though I will admit that the woman is right to complain about performative woke men who treat women like shit. The only reason why men would be "feminists" despite all the evidence is to try and get laid, not because they have any respect for women as individuals. It's why literally everyone hates actual white knights and simps.
/r/AntiFeminists01/05/21 01:51 AM
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You care about sexual pain like cycles, then approach all sexual pains as a whole and so on (for example being horny 24/7 as a man is not as fun or pleasurable as you might think). I think these can just be summarized under the umbrella of women's healthcare and men's healthcare. I personally don't think there is a problem with acknowledging gender in regards to healthcare... after all if you go to a gynecologist they're not really going to be very helpful for you, likewise I'm not going to be v…
/r/AntiFeminists01/05/21 01:35 AM
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acknowledging someone else's issues doesn't mean your issues aren't there The world would be a much better place if people just figured this out. Did you ever hear about The Red Pill documentary by Cassie Jaye? She literally talks about how she had to basically redo all the work for the documentary because initially she was so stuck on "man describes a male problem in society>> her internal monologue BUT WHAT ABOUT HOW BAD WOMEN HAVE IT?" I don't blame anyone for having that kind of thinking ini…
/r/AntiFeminists01/05/21 01:21 AM
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I'm not sure that is based on trauma though, more like ignorance. There are some very ignorant stereotypes out there that promote racism/sexism/etc, like the idea that Asian women are by default these submissive little dolls. Someone who has no experience with Asians might believe that and end up believing other negative stereotypes as well purely because they're stupid and ignorant, but not because they have any actual trauma. Since it's literally impossible for someone to have gone through lif…
/r/AntiFeminists01/05/21 01:00 AM
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I can't help but wonder if people like this are the result of untreated childhood trauma. I struggle to come up with any other explanation because even though most feminists are misandrists, they still want to date men and live out their fantasies involving men... the radfems who legit cannot control their issues with men have to have something psychologically wrong with them beyond just normal social conditioning.
/r/AntiFeminists01/05/21 12:30 AM
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Disgusting. Although I guess it's nice that she put out there that she's a trashy person to better help people avoid her.
/r/AntiFeminists30/04/21 10:46 PM
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Noone can consent to submitting, being beaten, choked, penetrated, etc, noone can consent to being harmed. And when they do, it is because they are mentally unwell/ill, which makes the "consent" invalid. This is one of the feminist arguments (in general not just about BDSM, though this is a perfect example) that really, really pisses me off because it implies that women who make their own decisions MUST have something wrong with them. It's extremely misogynistic to dismiss women as individuals u…
/r/AntiFeminists30/04/21 08:19 PM
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Variety is your friend. All plants have some proteins in them, however most do not contain all of the amino acids that people need. You can easily get plenty of protein by just eating a variety of plants regularly. Beans, corn, grains, nuts, seeds, and legumes are all great sources of protein. Assuming you're not going vegan there is also dairy and eggs.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:01 PM
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Firstly, I am very sorry to hear that, rejection is always hard. However, I do believe that these things happen for a reason and she has probably saved you more wasted time pursuing someone who is not the best for you in the long run. Secondly, as harsh as it may be it's not necessarily bad that she actually gave you reasons. That doesn't mean you have to take them 100% to heart, nor does it mean you should try to change just to win her over, but it is a place to start looking at yourself intros…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/21 04:04 PM
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I think it's also courageous for guys. I suppose once you get a bit older you can handle rejection just fine, but considering the amount of pressure and awkwardness of the first couple times combined with generally being a teenager definitely can't be easy which is when most guys have to work up the nerve the first time. Also teenage girls are terrifying, so glad that part of my life is over lol.
/r/AntiFeminists30/04/21 02:29 AM
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Men will make fun of women like this. No only scumbags make fun of someone who works up the courage to ask them out... everyone normal finds it flattering even if they're not interested. Nothing is quite as much of a compliment as someone finding you attractive enough or interesting enough to want to spend more time with exclusively you. Sure there are less effective ways to ask people out, but all the people at FDS are projecting how they feel about guys they don't like when they turn them down…
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 10:26 PM
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Okay that was one of the funniest things I've seen in a while.
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 04:22 PM
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Yeah I have heard that Russia still has fairly strong gender roles and traditions, not necessarily a bad thing if everyone handles their role equally and are personally happy with it, but some things really can be let go of like refusing to take a seat when you're clearly exhausted...
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 03:24 PM
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Are you me? Nothing you said is an issue, so I wouldn't worry about it if I was you. Men may not particularly care if a woman has a career and enjoys it, but they're not going to generally find it a turn off either. Likewise being logical is a very good quality and I find it's very well received by most men because it makes you more relatable and easier to talk to. If they determine they can rely on you to be grounded and logical rather than emotional about problems then they're not going to thi…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/21 03:15 PM
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I also give up my seat to just about anyone, even just people who look like they've had a rough day. As much as I would like everyone to have the decency to look out for each other and to be kind to strangers though I also know that most people either aren't paying attention or just don't care much. Granted I think most people would give up their seat to someone who asks for it, especially if they're pregnant, injured, disabled, elderly, etc. Most people are aware enough that it's rude and not s…
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 02:53 PM
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Sure but the fall risk for most pregnant women, especially while holding the supports provided on public transportation, really isn't that high. If a pregnant woman is concerned about her instability then I think the onus is on her to ask politely for a seat. I also don't think you can compare a healthy adult woman who is pregnant to an elderly person. Falls are more severe for the elderly because they have much more brittle bones so even a mild fall can harm them. A mild fall of the same calibe…
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 02:42 PM
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giving birth to someone is something to be celebrated I personally don't think giving birth is the part that should be celebrated rather than being parents and welcoming a new baby into the world. There's a reason we have both a Father's and Mother's day, because those are important roles that are required for the species to function properly. Yeah that doesn't mean that every parent is a good person or that they made good choices leading up to pregnancy, but that doesn't mean that there isn't v…
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 01:57 PM
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I'm going to chime in here as someone who just gave birth 6 weeks ago (hence just finished experiencing pregnancy). I agree that if a pregnant lady(or anyone for that matter) asks politely that the decent thing to do would be to accommodate them. However, pregnancy does not by default make women so fragile they cannot stand on a bus or the subway. If someone's pregnancy is so high risk that they cannot safely stand for the amount of time they're on public transport then THEY SHOULD NOT BE ON PUB…
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 01:38 PM
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Why was this even a post? Women aren't disabled just for being women... I think it would be different if it was someone elderly or disabled, because then yeah the decent thing to do would be to give up your seat to someone who will have a harder time staying standing during all the jostling of the subway car. I'm female and I always gave up my seat to people who looked like they needed it more or even anyone who asked just because it was the decent thing to do. I know a lot of people include pre…
/r/AntiFeminists29/04/21 01:24 PM
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Even when they don't get downvoted they're never receiving lots of upvotes. I usually see them sitting at the bottom with like +2 or +3 if they got any traction at all. Likewise I think it's pretty likely that most of those comments are the result of trauma or actual lived inequality... I don't think that justifies the misogyny, but I also don't think they're automatically bad people. I also think most of them will outgrow their anger phase given a little bit of time, empathy, and more life expe…
/r/AntiFeminists28/04/21 09:12 PM
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One of the things that I have learned over the course of my relationship with my husband is just how differently he and I process emotions (and I think this is generally the case between men and women). Initially it used to be kind of a sticking point for both of us because we didn't realize how differently we react and it made understanding each other difficult. When I process difficult emotions or stress I tend to default to sadness as the primary output and emotion, my husband on the other ha…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/21 08:44 PM
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"Prejudice (n): an unfavorable opinion or feeling formed beforehand or without knowledge, thought, or reason." Likewise for misogyny and misandry it must be a prejudice AGAINST the sex, a basic observable biological difference isn't against anyone. You (I hope) wouldn't call it misandry if I said "Men can't give birth"... because it's not against men, it's just the truth. I think biology provides an apt enough reason for stating most men are more physically capable at most tasks. That doesn't lo…
/r/AntiFeminists28/04/21 06:33 PM
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I don't think misogyny/misandry has to be irrational, the definition is just "dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women(men in the case of misandry)". Making a true observation such as "women are not as capable physically as men at most tasks" is not prejudiced against women because it is just the reality of biology. "All women are false accusers" however is patently false and highly prejudiced... Many women will never make an accusation, let alone a false one. Does that mea…
/r/AntiFeminists28/04/21 05:37 PM
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There are definitely some misogynistic people around who band together, though I believe they're the minority of people on the sub so it's wrong to label all MRAs as misogynistic, but it is something that exists. Btw I'm not counting harsh truths, just things that if the roles are reversed would be misandry. Ex: women don't contribute anything to society, women aren't capable of accomplishing anything of value, etc. I do see these sentiments fairly regularly, though they're basically no differen…
/r/AntiFeminists28/04/21 05:03 PM
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Just because he's a HVM doesn't mean he's going to look elsewhere. Most married men are (sadly) content with wives even if those wives are a lower value, which doesn't sound like is the case for you as you're stepping up to fulfill your role in both maintaining yourself physically and taking care of your role around the house. You really shouldn't worry unless he's specifically giving you reasons to be worried, but it sounds like you're only worried because of completely external sources rather …
/r/RedPillWives27/04/21 04:40 PM
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Derogatory terms men are commonly called: bellend, scrote, dick, jackass, bastard, knobhead, dickhead, prick, himbo, beta, incel, cuck, etc. The idea that there aren't a ton of insults thrown at men is just ridiculous, which is pretty much the point they're trying to make.
/r/AntiFeminists24/04/21 01:48 PM
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I mean depending on the stay at home mom it can save you a lot of money, time, and stress. I won't begin to act like all SAHMs are remotely equal because I've run into too many spoiled, nasty, lazy women who other than "watch" their children really don't provide any value to their partner. But a good stay at home parent will make the working parent's life much easier, save money, and create a good atmosphere in the home. I think the problem is that too many women see staying at home as "giving u…
/r/AntiFeminists23/04/21 11:01 PM
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"Feminism cares about men's issues though! After all we're fighting the toxic masculinity that causes them." (Ignores the fact that feminism does everything in it's power to shut men out of conversations, remove their resources, belittle them for not being like women, and generally blame men for not being perfect little "do whatever the women tell you" robots.)
/r/AntiFeminists22/04/21 04:27 PM
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Exactly. Before getting married I turned down a couple "fuckboys" because I'm turned off by slutty behavior. I didn't just date anyone I was physically attracted to, they also had to actually show through actions they behaved like responsible adults. No one shamed me for that or tried to convince me otherwise... that simply doesn't happen to women. Though plenty of women try to shame men into dating them and think men should overlook all their faults...
/r/AntiFeminists22/04/21 01:41 PM
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Also why do other women care about this stuff? If she's happy and likes her boyfriend/spouse even if he's not your type then isn't that fine? It's not like you're being told you have to date someone you aren't attracted to. Really this isn't just insulting to the men, but also the women who are happily dating those men.
/r/AntiFeminists22/04/21 12:58 AM
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I've certainly seen plenty of men be very emotional though, the difference is that they don't ever get to use that as an excuse for their actions... similarly testosterone is pretty well known for inducing greater feelings of anger/aggression and "roid rage" as it's known. Again though I think a lot of the difference in emotional output and behavior is mostly due to socializing.
/r/AntiFeminists20/04/21 10:07 PM
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So I will say, as a woman, that even with the hormonal swings that contribute to mood swings I have always thought this was a rather stupid excuse for a lack of self-control and personal responsibility. Yeah there have been moments during my pregnancy and postpartum hormone swings where I was more emotional than normal, but that was never an excuse to let that control my behavior or actions... it's not like men don't experience heightened emotional states either, only men are actually expected t…
/r/AntiFeminists20/04/21 09:14 PM
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My husband and I started dating before my husband really had his life figured out, however he was always ambitious and certain about what his goals were like owning a home, having a family, starting his own business, and being financially comfortable. Those might sound somewhat vague but he's the type that doesn't need to be passionate about his line of work so long as it meets his needs and goals, he already knows his real passions are outside of work. Even though he was a long way off from all…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/21 09:01 PM
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So I have looked at a lot of the studies on it and there are several issues I have with the studies on the topic of same sex couples vs heterosexual couples regarding child outcomes. Firstly we just lack long term data, same sex couples haven't had enough time to build up evidence of longitudinal outcomes yet. Secondly many of the studies rely on self-reporting surveys, which are basically worthless. Thirdly, almost all of the studies only look at a small selection of metrics mostly how well the…
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/21 09:25 PM
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Maybe they wouldn't be so sensitive about the truth if they actually believed that being promiscuous was a good thing... like if someone calls me a prude or makes fun of me for being a "breeder" I'm not insulted because there's literally nothing shameful or bad about being in a committed relationship and having children with my spouse. It's hard to feel or be "shamed" for something that you're confident and proud of. Likewise throwing out insults is pretty much a sure sign of insecurity, which i…
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/21 02:31 PM
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As the young lady said, why would women side with black men, when they can have their needs met other ways? It's honestly a catch-22 situation entirely created by excessive interference in the family structure because unless you can dismantle the government interference (which is outside the control of the individual) the only real solution if for men to step up and become better providers than welfare however at the same time because the social unit of the nuclear family has already been destro…
/r/AntiFeminists18/04/21 11:55 PM
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I will never forget the day when my husband admitted that he finally understood why I hate when people leave the seat up... because he almost fell in the toilet in the middle of the night. Having had the same experience this is why putting the seat back down is one of those hills I will die on when potty training boys.
/r/AntiFeminists16/04/21 07:54 PM
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There are also studies that show most women feel better about the product when it costs more. Likewise a lot of the time, maybe not this case though, the products actually are different. You'll see people bring up men's razors vs women's razors as if they're the same when they're actually pretty different. Women's razors need to be more flexible, able to work well underwater, cover a larger area, and have a different handle to improve grip in those conditions. Yes, they're both razors but they'r…
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 02:07 PM
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You can try seeing if anyone is accepting food donations in your local area via things like Facebook groups and such. Whenever we have things we don't need I post them on the "Buy Nothing" group for my city and then people will swing by and pick them up off my porch. For perishables I simply put them in a cooler on the porch shortly before the people who want them arrive and let the people know to leave the cooler but take anything in it that they would like.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 02:04 AM
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Nor should you.
/r/AntiFeminists23/03/21 10:43 PM
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Just because you've personally rejected some women doesn't mean they couldn't get laid if they wanted to. They might just have to drop their standards a bit or try other methods. But a woman doesn't really need to be all that attractive to find someone drunk in a bar who would be willing for the most part... a guy who is equally unattractive will have a much, much harder time on the other hand.
/r/AntiFeminists23/03/21 05:33 PM
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I asked him to guide me during the act for things I was less certain of.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/21 02:38 PM
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Thank you so much. Part of my reason to want to hold off is that "running late" runs in my family. I think the earliest baby in my family was 41+3, so that's why I just don't see the urgency to induce especially when by all metrics both me and baby are in good shape. I will not be using this OB next time. The practice is generally nice, but they're really, really pushy about certain things and I should've gone with my gut instinct to switch back when I first started. The only reason they've give…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/21 11:53 PM
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I've been lucky to have a man who likes to lead and tells me what and how he likes things. Combined with paying attention to his reactions when I move certain ways or try certain things I've pretty much learned all of his "sweet spots". So much of sex just relies on getting to know your partner with time and experience, rather than being knowledgeable or experienced beforehand. Also just be open to him and his suggestions. Let him know that your desire and what turns you on is pleasing him, and …
/r/RedPillWives14/03/21 11:32 PM
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Not exactly on the same topic but have you been induced before? And if so how did it go? My OB is really pushing induction at 41 weeks even though I would rather wait it out until week 42, and I'm pretty anxious about the whole thing.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/21 11:17 PM
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Is it manipulation if she overtly states what she wants in a PowerPoint? Seems pretty straightforward to me... ultimately just sounds like you need to determine if you want a relationship or not. If you don't it's probably best to tell her bluntly and let the plate break though, because at this point she's basically put all her emotions and wants on the table... stringing her along without a proper response is just going to result in more drama than just making a decision.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:05 PM
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She also stated that she didn't feel physically attracted to him in her story despite getting along with him well.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 12:46 PM
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Just so you know almost all of the studies are done on animals, not humans, or aren't actually very conclusive about anything. Again that's not to say IF isn't a great tool that work for some people. I absolutely think it does help some people. My point is that it isn't a miracle solution to weight loss that will be something for everyone, and the mechanisms by which it does work can be applied to many other methods so long as there is a consistent calorie deficit. Pretty much any time that some…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 12:16 PM
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That's not necessarily true. IF isn't actually that well researched, and recent studies actually suggest it may actually increase muscle loss: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/article-abstract/2771095?guestAccessKey=444bbcb2-7e13-4dc6-998f-5de5e27aa19e&utm_source=For_The_Media&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=ftm_links&utm_content=tfl&utm_term=092820 But again, this is one study and like I said IF isn't that well researched at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:59 AM
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I'm not saying it doesn't work, but it works by the same mechanism that any diet works (at least the weight loss aspect, not talking about any of the other benefits) which is calorie expenditure. It's also something that I think is a person to person preference. Some people are just not comfortable or compatible with stuff like OMAD. There are many different ways to control calorie intake and it's perfectly fine for people to like different things.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 02:49 AM
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Thank you. I also felt uncomfortable seeing such blatant misinformation. While things like IF work for some people (and that's great if it's a tool they like) it's still entirely down to calorie control. Likewise a lot of studies show calories are equal regardless of their source. The reason why nutrient dense foods are considered "diet foods" is only because things like fruits and vegetables are much more bulky and satisfying than say an equal amount of calories from cake. 300 cal of cake is a …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 02:18 AM
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Hate to disagree with you but at the end of the day it is just calories in vs calories out. Calories are a unit of energy, when you have more than the baseline your body needs they get stored as fat for later use. Yes the body has many ways of handling and processing calories, but ultimately if you eat too many calories for your needs you get fat. Grandma back in the day didn't need to count calories because times were different. Portion sizes were smaller(fewer calories) and life was more activ…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 01:28 AM
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Well don't worry to much, you will meet more guys and one of them will click for you. Everything I have is joint with my spouse because it's just easier that way, but plenty of people maintain personal accounts and it's never a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 01:15 AM
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to be financially independent. However I will stress that once you are in a committed relationship you should never lie or hide any of your finances from your partner. That doesn't mean you have to give them access to your accounts, but they should know if you have a "rainy day/contingency fund" set aside. Having your own money is fine though and most men won't have any issue with it so long as you're honest and transparent. As for not meeting men you are attra…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 01:06 AM
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I mean... this isn't that stupid if you just apply it in general. Bad people exist, but we can't just know who is a bad person, so it's foolish to behave in ways that makes yourself an easier target. That's why we lock our car doors or avoid areas with high crime or ask someone we've vetted and trust to watch our drinks, etc. Nothing wrong with that. The issue is when you start harassing groups because of your biases towards them like the "all men do x" or the "yes all women". That's when you cr…
/r/AntiFeminists11/03/21 03:05 PM
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I'd be willing to bet money that he's one of the feminist creeps that sends women unsolicited dick pics, sexually harasses them, and generally lords their power over making women feel uncomfortable. But it's okay because he's "woke".
/r/AntiFeminists11/03/21 12:42 AM
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One of the worst things about feminism is how confused men are by all the ridiculous rules... literally no one is happy with the outcome. Women like men who act like men, will protect them, exude safety and confidence... men like women who will care for them and dote on them in return. Literally nothing wrong with just admitting most people are happier with their partners when the relationship balance is more traditional. Also kinda why feminism had to target children and teens, because happily …
/r/AntiFeminists11/03/21 12:37 AM
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In my house it's misogyny when my husband does cook... I love that man, but I banished him from the kitchen long ago after I found out what he considers "food" lol.
/r/AntiFeminists10/03/21 10:32 PM
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I'm due to have my first this week. I sure hope I can keep up, it's definitely possible to do because women have managed for decades, just a bit of a learning curve I'm sure.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 12:09 PM
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Women weren't allowed access to education or other sectors if work for large portions of Western history though. I'm not going to act like women had it worse than men, but to act like they didn't have actual barriers preventing them from participating at the same rates as men is disingenuous. It's just not a good point of comparison... it'd be like arguing that black Americans made fewer contributions of technology during American history, while ignoring that they were denied equal access or opp…
/r/AntiFeminists09/03/21 05:04 AM
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I grabbed this from Facebook, the people sharing it were at least 100% serious.
/r/AntiFeminists09/03/21 02:21 AM
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It can also be entirely psychosomatic with no physical causes. ED is such a tough thing because not only is sexual performance something men tend to use as one aspect of self-worth, but it can be caused or driven by a bunch of things. I agree this requires a team approach, it also requires understanding how sensitive the topic is. While women need to feel sexually desirable, men value their sexual performance more. So it's something that the sexes don't necessarily understand or see eye to eye o…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 12:39 AM
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My husband had some issues awhile back. My only advice is that it's an extremely sensitive issue for most men. My husband had issues when he gained some weight and as a result felt unattractive. So even though I didn't mind or care at all, he was mentally sabotaging himself... then he'd feel worse because it's not very "manly" to not want to have sex or to have performance anxiety. So it was creating this whole anxiety/dread loop in his mind, and he did not want to talk about it because it was s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 12:32 AM
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That's kind of my position. A lot of women do have mental health problems, and I don't think that should be minimized, however I also think that a lot of women also have never been taught or expected to self-regulate their emotions and act out as a result. For example many women truly don't see a problem with hitting a man just because they're upset or annoyed. Or they'll use crying or other emotional manipulation techniques to get their way (I don't even think half of the people who do this are…
/r/AntiFeminists08/03/21 11:20 AM
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Being more upset because some people are assholes has nothing at all to do with being female or male. Men are just as likely to get bullied, and are more likely to be physically assaulted... I would say that's a bit more severe than someone said a "mean word" to you. As for depression rates, men don't seek help as much because they feel emasculated for admitting to having issues by society. Men commit suicide at 3-4x the rate of women... so I think that pretty much destroys the idea that women a…
/r/AntiFeminists07/03/21 10:57 PM
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I'll say as an American woman I have never felt like any portion of my life was worse because I'm a woman. In fact my life has been pretty great... and definitely better and easier than most American men I know. The whole narrative that being a woman is hard is pretty ridiculous, especially when you look at almost any statistical data. By comparison men have more problems and far, far fewer resources than women do. I'm here because I'm tired of people acting like being a woman is sooooo hard bec…
/r/AntiFeminists07/03/21 06:52 PM
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Trauma isn't logical though. You yourself said you would be uncomfortable in a men's facility, now imagine if you were a rape victim and the person you're asked to share a room with is physically a male. Regardless of if they're a victim too or not, that might be extremely triggering for your PTSD. That doesn't mean the MTF doesn't deserve resources or help for their trauma, but it's not okay to just lump people together by saying "well they should be able to think rationally because they suffer…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 06:58 PM
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Note that I put trans in quotation marks for the convict situation because I'm skeptical if they're legitimately trans or if they realized they could game the system to gain access to females (keeping in mind we already know this person had a history of raping women). The fact that they were even allowed to be let loose in a population of women prior to any surgery or length of transition is extremely concerning. Yes rape happens in prison but this is like releasing a shark in a tank of guppies,…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 06:27 PM
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Yes having self esteem issues will hinder you. Not only will it prevent you from showing others the best of yourself, but esteem issues will cloud your judgment and prevent you from making the best choices you can. I suggest working on things to improve your self esteem, if your university offers any kind of therapy or peer support groups I would encourage you to take advantage of these. The best thing for self esteem is to start working on positive affirmations. Come up with a list if things yo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 04:12 PM
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Lol, I've never even tried to use those subs so it's really no skin off my back. Besides I like TiA, I'm not going to apologize in order to appease some hoity-toity, miserable, reddit neckbeard mod.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 04:01 PM
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I think people are too wrapped up in the word. For example I really don't care how good someone is at passing, if they make an effort and act like a normal person then I'll go with what they want on an individual level. I don't see any harm in that. However there are lines that I don't think MTF or FTM can/should cross, because at the end of the day they do need to accept there's an innate difference. These are things like participating in sports based on gender preference rather than defined ge…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 03:57 PM
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The skull fracture thing was a big deal because Fallon Fox withheld the fact that she was transgender and robbed her opponents of being able to make informed consent to the fight. It also wasn't a small difference, Fox had the advantage of full male puberty prior to competing as a woman. Her competitors commented before knowing that she was trabs that they had never felt so physically overpowered in a fight before... do I understand why she chose to hide it? Yes, however I still find it inexcusa…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 03:26 PM
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Thing is, you have very very likely met many trans people in your life without noticing. Would you start calling them their birth name if you found out? If so, why? You would’ve already gotten used to their name, why go out of your way to change behavior. You definitely did imply that I act a certain way... Intersex is not just a hormone imbalance, it's a variety of conditions where there is a discrepancy between the external genitals and the internal genitals (the testes and ovaries), most of w…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 12:46 PM
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Dude you're making a ton of assumptions about my stance on trans people that I've never said. For example I do know several trans people. I have no problem with them, and I don't mind using their new names and pronouns. However if they were to come to me and say "I'm a biological male" then no, I'm not going to play along. If they demand people should date them or else, that's not okay either. If they demand the ability to control how other people think or feel, again that's not okay. Yes asshol…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 11:54 AM
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She wouldn't have lawyers in this case though. Criminal prosecutors represent the government, not the victim. So they pressured her to give them a suspect, then altered the information from the investigation to fit. She wouldn't have had any control over their actions.
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 03:35 AM
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Some of the subs do have a bot that will automatically ban users from "hate subs". Offmychest is known to be one of the subs that uses that bot.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:09 AM
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None of that even has anything to do with what I said... which was just that 2X chromosomes LITERALLY does not apply to trans women. And likewise just because you want to call someone a woman doesn't mean they're a woman. If I woke up tomorrow and told you I was an alpaca that wouldn't make it true. That obviously doesn't mean that we should go out of our way to make people feel bad, but we also shouldn't go out of our way to deny reality just because some is mentally ill. That's not healthy for…
/r/AntiFeminists06/03/21 02:38 AM
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R/pregnant is the sane way... 85% of the posts are just people complaining about how horrible their friends, family, partners, etc are... the offending factors? Overused pregnancy jokes and people using the pregnancy as small talk. And don't you dare try to be a voice of reason and point out that it's just people trying to be polite and connect a bit. Like I guess I know where the stereotype of pregnant ladies being crazy comes from... but something tells me these ladies weren't exactly the most…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 05:28 PM
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I don't get the weird hatred of bisexuality... I guess y'all are too close to us despicable heterosexuals?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 05:23 PM
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Superior? No, not at all. Sometimes screwed over by biology? Absolutely. I don't think it makes me a better person because I've fainted in a puddle of my own vomit due to severe menstrual cramping... and childbirth isn't perfectly safe (or fun), but if you live in a developed country it is pretty low risk. Do I find what female biology and anatomy does fascinating? Yeah, because it is... doesn't make me a better person or mean I think people should wallow in the "woe is me being female is sooooo…
/r/AntiFeminists05/03/21 05:19 PM
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What? People are actually trying to gatekeep sweatpants now? Some people have too much time and too few brain cells I swear...
/r/AntiFeminists05/03/21 04:39 PM
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I couldn't say I've been banned specifically because of my participation here. But I have been banned in several subs because of commenting in Tumblrinaction or in Conservative. A lot of those subs have ban bots that auto ban people who have a history in subs that are deemed "hateful" even when that person has never participated in the sub they're getting banned from before. I don't particularly mind, but I do find it funny how sensitive and pathetic people can be... I might have different opini…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:32 PM
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I actually think Buffy is a good example of a strong female character, but this is mostly because we get to actually watch her grow up, make tough decisions, and grow into an actual person. The problem with current female leads is that they're completely flat characters with no development or growth. The only thing interesting about them is that they're amazing... which of course is why they're so boring. No lessons are learned, and no progression or depth is created.
/r/AntiFeminists05/03/21 03:01 AM
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He's not. The trans movement actually does have issues with the word "female" because it's "exclusionary"... He's just pointing out the origin of people acting like the word female is an issue.
/r/AntiFeminists05/03/21 02:57 AM
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I mean... a lot of video game characters are pretty unrealistic(males included), people don't play games because they want a simulator of the mundane world usually. The only female characters I have an issue with are the ones the feminists clearly created. Lord knows that none of the women in Mortal Kombat are even remotely close to reality, and that's still a highly enjoyable universe.
/r/AntiFeminists05/03/21 02:53 AM
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It's particularly funny because transwomen quite literally do not have 2 X chromosomes, which is in the very name of the sub... But we're the science deniers for stating the obvious.
/r/AntiFeminists04/03/21 06:21 PM
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Girls are absolutely worse than the guys because they don't face the same social repercussions for being inappropriate. People might silently avoid those girls, but that's about it.
/r/AntiFeminists04/03/21 04:42 PM
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I think it's important to understand that a femcel doesn't actually mean a woman who can't get laid. Rather it means a woman who can't gain companionship or manifest any relationships. Men and women have different priorities to a certain extent. Women are biologically driven to try and find the best partner to support them through the child bearing years, and men are biologically more driven to spread their seed. (This still applies to subconscious thinking regardless of someone's conscious desi…
/r/AntiFeminists02/03/21 05:19 AM
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I got called an incel for having a comment history here... which is hilarious because the person had to overlook all my comments on RPW and MarchBabyBumpers to even get to my history on this sub... but yeah, guess it's a case of immaculate conception and my daughter is going to be the second coming of Christ...
/r/AntiFeminists02/03/21 05:13 AM
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My husband had a drug problem in college, but he's been completely clean and transparent about it with me in the 6 years we've been together with no signs of relapse. Not quite the same, but just wanted to throw out my own personal testament that people can overcome bad decisions in their past. As for him being brusque... honestly I feel the same way you do. Were I in his shoes that's not something I would want to share with people I don't know that well yet. It wouldn't feel helpful to me emoti…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 03:23 AM
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A lot of people knock SA for not being as hip and fun as Austin... but we still have plenty to do with far fewer crazy people.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 04:01 AM
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Ooft. I live in SA and while people are more normal our local government is atrocious, and people keep voting in completely useless politicians.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 03:08 AM
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What you don't believe all wahmen??? Honestly everyone should start hard disqualifying wokeness... way too many people get burned by trying to cooperate.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 02:57 AM
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I bring this up because I’ve noticed being sexually inexperienced is a turn off for a lot of men despite them claiming otherwise, I have a hard time believing men are ok with virgins since most men prefer a more willing and sexual women than stay stuck to a boring inexperienced girlfriend I disagree. They want someone experienced for having fun with, but they want a committed, faithful woman to marry. It's okay not to be the kind of girl that guys pursue because they want fun now, without a focu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 04:44 PM
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I felt like I was too young to get married and when she asked about our future I had this big fat question mark over my head Marriage is a big deal, I won't sugarcoat it even though it is the goal of every unmarried woman in here. Since this girl as you describe it was perfect, was it really only your age that held you back? If so why didn't you express that to her? If you did express it to her that you felt you were both too young to get married, what was her reaction? I don't think that you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:46 PM
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Words of praise and affirmation. I make sure to verbally recognize the things he does and express my gratitude. For instance "I just wanted to let you know I noticed that you took care of x, and it means a lot to me that you noticed and went out of your way to do that." or "I just saw the x that you were working on, it looks great! Better than I had even imagined!" I usually also follow up with then asking what he'd like for dinner or if there's anything I can do for him in return. (In my house …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:50 PM
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Yep. I think all of your concerns are valid, but this is the most straightforward thing you can change with just little adjustments, that'll have the biggest impact on everything else. It's crazy how obesity creeps up on people so they don't even notice that it's causing a good portion of exhaustion, aches, depressed mood, etc. I can speak from experience on it since I'm also on the same journey.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 01:30 PM
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I think weight loss is probably the best solution. You don't even need to lose that much to start feeling better physically. Plus it should help your energy levels and overall health long before you see any changes in the mirror. Eating better and getting a bit more activity should also help improve and stabilize your mood. Not to mention this can all be as simple as going on a walk once a day to get some fresh air and stretch your legs, and cutting your portions down a bit. You don't even need …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 06:03 AM
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The whole point is that drunk people will make stupid decisions. The fact that you're drunk doesn't exempt you from other consequences from your behavior, especially if both parties are drunk. If both are drunk, our society automatically assumes that the male took advantage of the female despite them both being equally impaired. Likewise, I will say being drunk is not an excuse for bad decisions. If I get drunk and then decide to drive, even though I'm too inebriated to make any decisions... eve…
/r/AntiFeminists22/02/21 02:26 PM
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The irony is that the whole idea of the sub is to share potentially unpopular stories and opinions, except you can't post there if you have unpopular stories and opinions.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 08:57 PM
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It's why r/trueoffmychest has to exist. They also auto ban people for posting on subs they dislike, even if you've never gone to r/offmychest. I got a notification I was banned awhile back because of my activity on the "hate subs" r/tumblrinaction and r/conservative... even though I've never even visited their sub or engaged with them in anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 08:55 PM
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Is it possible that when you are helping others they might perceive it as being condescending or patronizing? I personally can have a bad habit of being a bit of a "know it all", and it just really rubs some people the wrong way if you don't learn to reign it in. Nowadays I usually only offer advice when someone asks for assistance. I'll also pose advice in question format, like this "do you think the issue could be caused by x?" By making it a discussion it prevents them from feeling like I'm j…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 11:14 PM
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FDS should really be renamed "Dating with Untreated Borderline Personality Disorder"
/r/AntiFeminists20/02/21 04:02 PM
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That's a satire account btw. Also can I identify as a double woman and get $10k? Thanks.
/r/AntiFeminists19/02/21 06:35 PM
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If we're just considering temperament, then feminists no doubt are some kind of nasty little dog that pees in the house and attacks everyone while their owner(the feminist movement) makes excuses for them and acts like they're actually a great dog, we're just not giving them a fair chance because we obviously are biased!
/r/AntiFeminists19/02/21 06:31 PM
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Also remember that coming home to a clean house, hot food, and a happy spouse is not only just helpful for him, it's emotionally therapeutic. This way he knows that he can truly relax and enjoy his time off rather than come home and possibly need to work those extra 10 hours anyway doing chores. The emotional fulfillment of being a provider, and being taken care of by a housewife, is truly valuable to some men. Might as well make the most of it, and while you're at it you can definitely look for…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 04:59 PM
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I think that it's important to accept things that make us unique and that are "not within our control". For example, I hated my nose and small breasts growing up. But you know what? A lot of my insecurity around those two aspects of myself were completely silly. My husband likes the way I look, and while I'm sure I wasn't every guy's type I never actually had any issues finding people who were interested. At age 28 I'm very glad I never went under the knife for those things, it would have been s…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 08:52 PM
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In fairness some men end up in the ER for sticking things like that up their butts... Some people just have problems, the issue is that feminists are trying to normalize and encourage those problems.
/r/AntiFeminists18/02/21 03:44 PM
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I think you're confusing career driven with financially responsible. Well rounded, financially stable men do want a woman who appreciates and acts responsibly with money. That does not mean that she has to be a career woman at all. If you are career driven, that's okay but it's not inherently a positive in dating. For instance what do you think men are more likely to prefer: a woman who is family focused and who lives within her means and makes good choices OR a woman with a strong career drive …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 03:31 PM
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Is this list outdated? Those are not the top 3 richest women in the world according to a quick Google search. All 3 of the wealthiest women in the world inherited their fortunes from their parents, which while less impressive I personally don't think there's anything wrong with. Men get inherited fortunes as well. I agree divorce settlements and alimony are abusive practices though, but I just don't like the misrepresentation of facts here.
/r/AntiFeminists18/02/21 04:21 AM
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RPW is not about landing yourself a RP guy. This is a common misconception. RP theory for men is basically "how not to commit while getting you sexual desires met", vs RPW which is about locking down and maintaining commitment with a good partner. They're pretty much opposites. RPW is more about finding a partner who has some RP qualities, like leadership, but who doesn't subscribe to the RP lifestyle. A RPW partner should actively want and pursue marriage vs sexual fulfillment.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 10:11 PM
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You're correct it's not rpw to actively choose those options or suggest them in most cases. But we should also remember that a lot of people coming here for advice are asking after having already made those decisions. They can still embrace rpw even if they're past their 20s. There are also some cases where I do suggest people stick with their choices. For example the recent post by a girl in medical school should probably stick to finishing medical school because it would be a bad life decision…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 01:27 PM
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You can be nerdy and still be feminine. So don't worry about having to change that part of yourself. Since you're young and have a lot on your plate I would suggest small steps, here and there. Maybe set aside a little block of time to pamper yourself once a week (paint your nails, put on a face mask, enjoy a bubble bath, do a hair treatment, etc.), something you can do in like 30 minutes that is caring for yourself and makes you feel good. A lot of femininity isn't about one particular style, i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 02:38 PM
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It's great that he brought it up already! Children are an absolutely wonderful topic because you can really get a feel for what someone's ideals and values are when discussing such an important and life changing topic. Plus it does mean he's definitely looking for marriage so both of you can be open about vetting for a life together without being concerned about seeming too forward. Afterall you wouldn't waste time vetting someone who you weren't seriously considering.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 06:03 AM
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Come up with a list of the most important life goals you have for the next 5-10 years. Then during your next date bring up where he sees himself in 5-10 years, ask what he wants in life, and then discuss and compare with each other. For instance, if he says he'd like to settle down and have children in the next 10 years, you can then talk about if you want to be a parent, what type of parenting you look forward to, etc. And it'll very quickly let you know what his priorities are. The most import…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 04:29 AM
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If he really feels that bad that she's a better runner then he should work harder, not complain to her about her performance. It's never appropriate to tell others they need to do worse so you can feel better about yourself. If her husband really enjoyed baking and was better at it than her we wouldn't encourage her to guilt trip him about it. Ultimately I think it's best to just ignore those types of comments, if he continues to make them and is having that big an issue with insecurity, then th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/21 02:48 PM
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This is a great suggestion. I always try to remind people that therapists are not a "one size fits all", as frustrating as it can be you may have to "shop around" to find one that you feel is helpful. That said you do not necessarily want a therapist who is just a cheerleader, good therapy will push you emotionally at times and can sometimes be difficult. Ideally you want a therapist who connects well with you so when it's time to hear and handle some of the tougher parts of therapy you're able …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 02:35 PM
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Honestly, I strongly suggest finding a therapist you like. Trauma like that needs to be worked through, and a good therapist will really be able to help you in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 01:36 AM
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I definitely think it can be an impact, but I think promiscuity is more a symptom of deeper issues (like the issues you allude to) which if left unresolved affect pair bonding. Many, many people cannot accept that they made mistakes or that their decisions were flawed so they refuse to think critically about their own problems and how they relate to their actions. Simply put if you are truly following RPW strategies and theories you will have to face your issues, take responsibility, and attempt…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 12:11 AM
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I know that getting rid of social media apps has a certain "Fear of mission out" aspect, but the reality is that I only use Facebook and I deleted everything else... I was worried about missing out on memes and such, but everyone that I cared about and who wares about me adapted and I'm not missing anything. As long as I engage with them on the one platform I do maintain for that contact, then what's a few dumb memes on the others really matter? Obviously do what you need to do, but I also promi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 02:50 PM
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Out of curiosity, why don't both of you discuss cutting back on Instagram? You may not agree with me, but I think of all of the social media apps it's one of the more toxic ones to mental wellbeing. It's very, very hard to use that app without it affecting self perception and perception of what other people look like in general. Nothing you or he look at on there is probably real, and even if you're fully aware of how much editing goes on your brain won't really register it and you'll be left fe…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 02:41 PM
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My husband doesn't like confronting his stress full stop. He is of the mindset that it's better to just bear with it, keep his head on his objective, and work through it. It has nothing to do with emotional availability, rather than him just feeling uncomfortable with talking about himself and his feelings in general. My advice is to just be emotionally available and as much of a rock as possible for them, but let them come to you. We've been together for 6 years and my husband is much, much bet…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 02:29 AM
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It's not a conversation topic we've had, so I was genuinely just picking a random celeb that's roughly our age lol. I have no idea what celebrities he likes, or if he even has any that he likes tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 01:14 AM
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I'm not condoning being a bitch though. But the world doesn't become a better place if everyone starts off treating each other poorly just because they "might" be rude. In most cases a simple act of kindness costs almost nothing, for example if someone short asks me if I can reach a book on a high shelf at the library for them, what's the harm in giving them less than 2 minutes of my time? Now if someone is consistently rude or entitled, then yeah I'm not going out of my way. But I just don't as…
/r/AntiFeminists04/02/21 11:15 PM
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Would I think someone was kinda a dick if I asked for help and they responded "do it yourself"... honestly yes. But that's because I was taught only to ask for help when you actually need it, and to help others who ask for it. I think this is more like, "omg I can't believe I had to ask him to help me, he should have just known!"
/r/AntiFeminists04/02/21 08:37 PM
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Honestly I personally think that's fine. Several of the most successful marriages in my family(going on 30+ years) involve men who are shorter than their wife. But I also don't think it's wrong for people to have a height preference. Just like people can have a "no fat chicks" preference... at the end of the day physical attraction is important.
/r/AntiFeminists04/02/21 08:32 PM
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Tbh I think it's mostly just egocentric, unhappy people in general. Like the shrews over in FDS: super insane standards for everyone else, proud of being b*tches, completely out if touch with how low value they themselves are... It's just that the people who were raised better aren't out posting any nonsense so no one remembers that perfectly normal men and women exist outside the online culture bubbles.
/r/AntiFeminists04/02/21 08:28 PM
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I'm from a Southern conservative Christian family and all the ladies in our family have basically had this type of party, so maybe it's just a regional thing? I just chose something I personally thought was tasteful and it was well received. Though there were some gag gifts, robes, pajamas, etc. Overall they're just fun little gathers for us ladies, and since we're very Christian the idea behind it is that since we waited until marriage most of us didn't have any lingerie in the wardrobe. Which …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 05:25 PM
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From a personal standpoint I do advocate making these types of questions part of the general "getting to know one another" discussions typical of the first couple of dates. While a lot of people are concerned about this "scaring off" men by being too forward, I see it as not wasting his or my time/money on dates if it turns out we have big fundamental differences in life plans. But that's just my preference, I personally felt like dating someone casually and not getting the important stuff out o…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 09:25 PM
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Vetting is something you can and should do openly and honestly. Example: "Are you interested in having children in the future?" or "What is your current goal in life?", perfectly normal questions to ask a potential mate which helps you in the decision making process. Other forms of vetting just involve pay attention to details without actively doing/asking anything, examples: Do they have good manners? Are they well groomed? Do they have a pleasant personality?, you don't have to set up anything…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 08:41 PM
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Not necessarily the same, but are you doing a groom's cake?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 04:59 PM
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Well that's more of an issue for the family court system. Alimony is absolutely ridiculous and shouldn't exist, and we should revert to the system where children stay with the primary provider in the event of a divorce unless mutually decided otherwise. As for people backing out of mutual agreements, again this is a vetting issue for the most part, after all this is a huge breach of trust and very selfish... usually people who are willing to backstab their partner like this already had many warn…
/r/AntiFeminists01/02/21 04:15 PM
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Ok fair enough, like why keep asking me then if you're just going to keep dismissing my ideas? It just seems really unfair. And have you addressed this with him or asked him why he keeps asking about house updates when he seems happy with what he has? From my perspective I don't think he's trying to dismiss your ideas, he simply isn't as concerned or serious about the topic as you are. And then you're doing unnecessary amounts of labor and getting upset that you spent time doing it, and while I …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 04:04 PM
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I'm not sure what you are implying you need to stand up for yourself for in this situation? If you don't like spending all day giving him ideas and browsing Pintrest, then just don't do it? It sounds like he just struck up a conversation about things he knows you like, and then when it's less interesting to him than you, you're getting upset for "doing a bunch of work for him". Forgive me if I'm wrong, but from your story it doesn't sound at all like he asked you to spend all day or a ton of you…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 03:44 PM
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Considering I know very few people who are SAHMs in real life I can't really say... but what you're referring to is my point about it being less about the roles and more about the values. There is a big difference between a relationship with traditional roles and modern relationship values, and a relationship with both traditional roles and values. Traditional values I think are best summed up as "ask not what others do for you, but what you can do for others", while modern relationships are the…
/r/AntiFeminists01/02/21 03:30 PM
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When people say that traditional roles didn't benefit men throughout history because women were just comfortable at home, I have to wonder if they have any idea what domestic work and female work actually entailed for most of human history... Yes, I agree the modern housewife needs to go above and beyond to have a comparable level of work to many male dominated careers, but that's largely thanks to very recent technology which made housekeeping significantly easier... but the same can be said fo…
/r/AntiFeminists01/02/21 01:58 PM
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The big thing for me was keeping in mind that the initial stages of dating are more about vetting, feeling things out. This is your chance to ask them lots of questions without it being weird or overbearing (because the whole point is to get to know each other better). To display yourself as more wifely and feminine why not suggest dates that show off your skills? Offer to pack a picnic basket and go on a hike as an example. Most of the very initial dates will be about asking questions, talking …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 11:09 PM
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Making a little bit of extra money at events, doing something that one is passionate about is completely reasonable so long as it's balanced with everything else. Maybe try suggesting that he focus more on events rather than night clubs (quinceneras, anniversaries, birthday parties, weddings, etc). That would give him the flexibility to schedule out when and how long he wants to work in advance, and for the most part involve more tame atmospheres than a night club.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 07:39 PM
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Making a little bit of extra money at events, doing something that one is passionate about is completely reasonable so long as it's balanced with everything else. Maybe try suggesting that he focus more on events rather than night clubs (quinceneras, anniversaries, birthday parties, weddings, etc). That would give him the flexibility to schedule out when and how long he wants to work in advance, and for the most part involve more tame atmospheres than a night club.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 07:39 PM
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It seems unfair to me to expect men to be strong and confident when feminized society is doing its very best to tear them down. This is why movements like Red Pill and MGTOW are important, and why I think men have a role to play. Yes, society is awful... but moping about it and giving in just perpetuates the problem. I may not think that either RP or MGTOW are 100% right in their approach, but I think they still prove that men can rise above society and re-establish themselves rather than just g…
/r/AntiFeminists30/01/21 04:48 PM
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I completely agree. Or at least it's a case of valuing sex over personal standards and self-respect. Everyone has heard of the golden rule, but the inverse is also true "you do not owe anyone your time, energy, or money who does not treat you the way you expect to be treated".
/r/AntiFeminists30/01/21 03:54 PM
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While I think this largely is a problem caused by feminism, I think men need to take some responsibility for this phenomena too. Too many guys are willing to accept a terrible deal for the chance at having sex, don't vet their partners seriously or even at all, and are unwilling to put their foot down on setting their personal boundaries and what they find acceptable. While FDS is unabashedly toxic and rife with double standards, they are right that you should hold potential partners to the kind…
/r/AntiFeminists30/01/21 01:53 PM
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In such a serious situation I think that's the minimum that you should do, ultimately I still cannot advise staying with a partner who has volatile anger issues which escalate into violent outbursts. It's also concerning that you would have to ask him to seek help after this. If this wasn't a wake-up call for him that he has issues, then he's still in denial about needing help. Therapy cannot change him until he comes to terms with the fact that he needs to change.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 06:00 PM
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It's always hard because victims often don't recognize the real danger until they feel trapped. While maybe her husband really wouldn't ever escalate to hitting her, this is still how it begins for too many people... and domestic violence can escalate until someone winds up dead. Because of the potential severity, no matter how great he is the rest of the time, it would be irresponsible for us to overlook the major warning signs.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 05:42 PM
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There are a few specific things that are absolute red flags and violent behavior is one of them. Violence and anger especially are escalating forms of abuse (and please keep in mind that abuse doesn't necessarily mean that someone is consciously trying to cause harm, many abusers are simply out of control emotionally, however it is their responsibility to address their emotional issues BEFORE entering into things like relationships, parenthood, pet ownership, etc.). Just because he lost his temp…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 05:31 PM
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I have legitimately been saying this since I was in high school. Being a bitch doesn't make you a strong woman, being a dick doesn't make you a strong man. Strong people can stand up for themselves and their ideals without putting anyone else down, belittling others, or being negative/loud/pushy/rude. Anyone can learn to be a strong person, but it takes a lot more work than just being a bitch/dick...
/r/AntiFeminists29/01/21 01:12 AM
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My husband also struggles with bouts of depression, work related stress, and anxiety. Firstly, I let him vent without interruption. I may ask occasional clarifying questions to show that I'm listening and taking his issue seriously. Secondly, I make sure I know what he wants out of the conversation. Is he looking to blow off steam and a shoulder to lean on OR does he want advice and suggestions? Nothing is more frustrating for someone if you start offering solutions when all they wanted was an a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 07:49 PM
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The real "Wall" is different for everyone, it's certainly not like the moment you turn 30 it sets in. But at a certain point as people get older they do become less sexually attractive because of aging, for women this is a bit earlier because a lot of our sexual market value is tied to our child bearing years. That in mind, a lot of women have children in their 30s and have no issues getting married. I definitely think there's more pressure though for women who want to find a mate and settle dow…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 02:04 PM
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I will say I have no idea how the laws in your part of the world work, and in the system you describe that's something I do understand making it more difficult. Here in the US common law only exists in a few states, and even though the family court system is definitely sexist against men it's still not as bad as places like Canada (and Europe). So there are definitely ways here that you could arrange a long term relationship without entering into the legally treacherous territories. I'll also fo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 09:55 PM
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For me the issue is the people who haven't even experienced anything negative or any setbacks themselves. If I wanted to open my own business, but my neighbors business failed, I don't just give up my goal of opening a business because it might not work out. I try to find out what mistakes they made or what they wish they would have done differently, and then I apply that knowledge towards my own strategies. I honestly don't fault guys who are weary of marriage and kids, that's just the smart po…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 09:24 PM
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Yes, my observation was mostly geared towards the younger men and women in these communities that I think are poorly served by the message. Having already had a failed relationship or other traumatic event is very different from not even trying in the first place because someone else had a bad experience. Learning from other's mistakes is valuable, but not if the lesson you take from it is to give up before you even try. Plenty of people fail to get their own business off the ground and lose a l…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 09:18 PM
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Men abandon women and marriage not because "they were hurt". Men do it because men, especially smart men, are logical beings that realize that in this day and age, marriage is 100% destructive to men. I don't think abandon is the right word, because it implies that MGTOW men are dropping their responsibility to women and marriages which I don't think is the case at all. I think some men are avoiding women and marriage because they can be disadvantaged by those systems. Just a minor nitpick, beca…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 09:01 PM
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Men only get banned for giving unsolicited or bad dating advice. For example if you came in here and tried to suggest that we should enter more casual sexual relationships because that's what men find "hot" then you would get banned. But just coming in to answer a question respectfully, especially questions that involve male positions and perspectives, is perfectly fine.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 08:55 PM
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There's r/BarefootandPregnant but unfortunately the sub is basically dead. The Christian subs aren't very good either, they're mostly got astroturfed by political redditors and a lot of them don't even know anything about the scripture or care about Christianity at all, they just talk about what they "think" it should be.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 08:52 PM
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There's a reason why we have sayings like "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." and not sayings about how "just give up and wallow in self pity" is admirable.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 08:46 PM
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I never said that I don't think there are valid points in those communities, however the conclusion of "I'll just give up without trying, because trying sucks" is honestly stupid, and applies to more than just relationships. Those who do the hard work are those who reap the rewards, sitting around scared and moaning about how much life sucks rather than doing anything to help yourself is dumb. If that's what someone wants to do with their life, well it's their life and they're free to do that, I…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 08:36 PM
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I don't have a problem with MGTOW or WGTOW personally. That said I think they make some false conclusions, and I don't think what they preach is a path to happiness for 99% of people. A good relationship is extremely fulfilling for most people, no one wants to be lonely and most people really get a lot of value out of a good partnership (regardless of sexual orientation I will add). Whereas RP and RPW are strategies for interacting with the opposite sex to maximize the benefits for oneself, MGTO…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:24 PM
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What in the world... beyond the troll cuckery, is that an actual article? You know what? Actually I accept this. Anyone stupid enough to write or agree with an article like that is 100% better off not having kids and furthering their genes.
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/21 09:37 PM
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Like 95-97% of those deaths are from rabies infections btw, not maulings or attacks. A disease that is both treatable and preventable, and largely eradicated from domestic animals in the developed world. This suggests that many of the people who died would have actually been fine were they somewhere with access to modern medicine.
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/21 09:16 PM
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They made those numbers up btw. Only like 30-50 people die annually from dog related injuries in the US. If you're looking at worldwide statistics it may be as high at 20k but not because of the bite but because of rabies (something that's essentially been eradicated in domestic dogs in most of the developed world and is both treatable and preventable).
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/21 09:13 PM
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Exactly. My husband knows about ALL of my accounts, and I know all of his accounts. To keep things extra transparent our entire paychecks get deposited into our joint account first and then our recurring transfers to things like our IRAs, mutual funds, brokerage accounts, etc all come out. I have no concerns about my husband's fidelity, in any capacity. If he was to make a bad investment and lose money I know he would tell me, and it wouldn't be the end of the world because we set up our investm…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 07:38 PM
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No one knows the contents of the prenup because it doesn't even exist yet, so you're just assuming that it's going to be unfair to her. Obviously it's a legal document that requires mutual agreement, and she should have a professional review it before signing... But she opened the door to "well I need an escape option" so it's only fair he wants an escape option too since that's now the premise of the marriage. Maybe they can recover the trust in the relationship to the point it's not needed, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 07:20 PM
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I don't think his reaction was immature. He just found out his fiancé was lying to him through omission, that lie was categorized as preparation for the relationship ending, and that she never committed to the relationship in the same way he had (ie she did not actually combine finances with him, and did not tell him that she wanted to keep a separate account when they were discussing finances initially). Of course that sends a pretty clear red flag to him that she is not as committed and she is…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 03:27 PM
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Ummm that's really not what menses is, so while I hope this is a joke I've also seen some really bad women's health info circulating out there. Menses is the uterine lining, blood, and an unfertilized egg (the human version of the poultry product that most people consume). A miscarriage on the other hand would involve a fertilized egg or embryo, along with the uterine lining and blood. (And in most cases it's probably kind of cruel to remind people of their loss by reminding them that their baby…
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/21 12:31 AM
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I mean I personally don't think either is disgusting. That's not the same as wanting to touch them, but really everyone has bodily fluids and as long as those fluids are where they're supposed to be and not diseased then they just don't bother me. Vaginal fluid keeps the vagina clean and disease free, blood obviously transports nutrients and oxygen to keep us alive, sweat helps us thermoregulate, saliva helps to keep the mouth clean and begin the digestion process, mucus helps keep the respirato…
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/21 12:21 AM
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So are nose bleeds from dry climates.
/r/AntiFeminists25/01/21 12:06 AM
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Yeah, my husband and I are around the same age but we met at a comparable maturity level. I think that women probably respond more to maturity that is more common in older men (no offense to younger guys but they can be overgrown goofballs God bless them though). Women feel that biological clock much earlier, so it make sense that they're going to be more responsive to men with better paternal qualities, which often take a bit more time and life experience to accrue while guys in their 20s proba…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 04:51 AM
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It's also one of those thing you would think would open people's eyes to the fact that modern feminism doesn't care about equality at all... like men are actually just better women than real women now, but yet cis men are the scum of the earth... So who wins? Cuz it's not 99.9% of the population.
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 10:34 PM
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It's an Executive Order. So it's not really a law, but it acts like one for the sake of how Department of Education funding is distributed. And yes, it's worded that it prohibits discrimination based on gender identity. There is no legal standard for gender identity, so you can self-assert and it must be honored now.
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 10:15 PM
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Before the rise of "rapid onset gender dysphoria (ROGD)" the DSM-5, prevalence rates of gender dysphoria are estimated at 0.005 percent to 0.014 percent of the population for natal males, and 0.002 percent to 0.003 percent for natal females. That number has increased dramatically (along with the number of people de-transitioning) in relation to the boom of online communities such as tumblr that idolize victimhood and prey on vulnerable children and teenagers. The issue is that while this isn't g…
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 09:28 PM
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According to the new EO? Yup.
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 08:33 PM
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What do you mean? All that's required to be a female now is just to say you're a female, in fact that makes you an even more authentic female because you decided to be legally and medically female. Maybe those cis females should just practice more, duh.
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 06:49 PM
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Public schools will lose federal funding if they do not allow transgender athletes to use the locker rooms and join the teams of their choice without any restrictions (ie you only have to say you're trans, no doctors note or HRT or transitioning is actually required). Trans athletes must also be eligible for scholarships for the gender of their choice. Doesn't take a genius to figure out that this ruins fair competition specifically for the girls. ETA: This was one of the Executive Orders Biden …
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 05:55 PM
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Funny considering that Biden just deleted fair competition for teenage girls... But of course that's still the "correct choice". *eyeroll*
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 05:44 PM
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I think they have value, but I deeply pity them just as I do people who are raised in a cult. They've been lied to by everyone, many since childhood... and it's honestly very sad. That doesn't mean I'll be quiet in opposing them though.
/r/AntiFeminists22/01/21 03:25 AM
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You just soak them off with nail polish remover. Takes a little longer but just as easy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 01:47 PM
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Also if chipped polish really bothers someone, the lamp and gel polish kits are very affordable nowadays.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 10:17 PM
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I also see a lot of these "woe is me" posts coming from our younger girls, and I have to wonder if they have a distorted sense of what they should look like since they've grown up with Instagram and social media icons who use a LOT of deceptive editing and a LOT of help from things like fillers. Simply put, even in their "natural, no make-up" photo there's a lot of extra help going on that doesn't reflect reality. Statistically most of us are probably average, but that's fine because average is …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 04:02 PM
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Simply put? Modern feminism made me unhappy in my personal life, and after seeing the actual statistics about a lot of things I realized it makes more women unhappy nowadays than it does anything to help them. I feel the same way about all grievance studies.
/r/AntiFeminists20/01/21 03:31 AM
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I think romantic love is absolutely conditional, and that it's healthiest when it is conditional. Everyone, regardless of gender, should be encouraged to have basic standards that they hold others to. Some of the obvious ones are things like no cheating, no verbal abuse, and no physical abuse. Unconditional love exists for those we either cannot reasonably hold to certain standards or those we have a biological imperative to support. My dog might annoy me, and do things that are bad, but I love …
/r/AntiFeminists19/01/21 07:11 PM
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Firstly, romantic love is absolutely conditional, as it should be, and it goes both ways. You cannot build a solid foundation without the proper tools and materials after all. Secondly, y'all care so much that some men don't like you that you spend an inordinate amount of time b*tching about how "You're not allowed to do that! Only I can reject you!" Thirdly, isn't the whole premise of your theory having higher standards? I suppose the drawback being that y'all aren't happy that high value men w…
/r/AntiFeminists19/01/21 07:06 PM
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There's a big difference between being legitimately busy and still making an effort to at least talk and a verbal commitment, and making it an excuse for no effort and no verbal commitment. Most people can genuinely understand that some people have very demanding schedules, my dad raised me as a single dad, fresh out of law school, and between working an extremely demanding first job as an attorney and raising a 2 year old by himself, he still managed to make time and effort for my now step-mom.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 06:33 PM
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Everyone also conveniently forgets that the second wave brought with it the birth of modern radfem theory, which can only be described as misandry.
/r/AntiFeminists19/01/21 02:01 AM
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(I’m targeting my late 20s/early 30s for that because people who marry then are the least likely to divorce. I'm going to be honest, I don't think this is actually so much to do with age as it is with maturity. If you're both mature, and understand the level of commitment, getting married younger is no more or less likely to end in divorce. There is nothing wrong with dating for marriage even as young as you are now, heck it might even help you filter out men who do not hold the same values or w…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 03:32 AM
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So the "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" thing is definitely also true to a certain degree. I do not think I'm a very attractive woman naturally, but my husband obviously disagrees. You might not be able to get 10s, but that doesn't mean that you have to limit yourself to unattractive men. You might be surprised how other people see you vs how you see yourself. That said you do have to be reasonable, most women are not going to get a guy that looks like a Hollywood A-lister. So my advice wo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 10:27 PM
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The base word "men" is the Greek word for "month". Pause is pretty self-explanatory in English, menstruation is from menstrual or just meaning "monthly". Mental comes from the Latin base of "mens" which means mind. Literally just like most words in English, they're derived from other languages and have nothing to do with modern sex/gender terms.
/r/AntiFeminists16/01/21 08:18 PM
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Oneitis is more of an issue for the men's half from my understanding, since RPW actively pushes for finding and creating a lasting pair-bond it's not necessarily an issue for us. The sidebar does have a list of books though, or at least it used to have them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:27 PM
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That's fine, I wish you the best. We just sometimes get posts from people who are looking for something outside the realm of what RPW is for, no judgement from me for it. But it does mean we're not the right people to ask, like you wouldn't ask a dentist to fix your eye glasses.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:04 PM
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Try looking at the sidebar... I'm not sure this sub is a good fit for you though considering that you also seem to be looking to do a "hoe phase" and this sub is about dating for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:00 PM
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The problem is that social justice is not necessarily justice by default. When you start making "justice" for some groups or trying to right perceived wrongs or inequalities then by definition you are actually not operating in a fair and just manner. Justice and fairness is just giving everyone access to the tools to be successful, when you start trying to manipulate the outcomes of personal choice then you're inherently biased for or against certain groups (which is what social justice is other…
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/21 02:38 PM
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My biological mother actually tried to sue a university (and got kicked out for being a bully, which she absolutely is) a few years ago because she thinks "online forums" for the students to use are "sexist towards women" and shouldn't be allowed as a place for students to gather because it could be discriminatory. Honestly, social justice is a mental disorder. (Please don't ask me how this made any sense, she's legit crazy and I don't keep in touch with her.)
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/21 02:16 PM
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Significant Other
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 02:05 PM
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I want to just let you know to try and stay positive, as hard as it may seem. I have several good friends who have struggled with many conditions regarding their fertility (including one of my friend who has endo) and gynecological health all of whom were able to go on to have happy, healthy babies. Modern medicine has come a long way in fertility treatments and options. I will of course keep you in my prayers, and I hope that your second scan is more conclusive because I know how awful hanging …
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 02:05 PM
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Out of curiosity did you ask your husband what he does like? My husband specifically told me he likes when I were sleep dresses because he likes that they have "easy access" even though I personally don't think they're that sexy in comparison with matching sets and other things, BUT that's what he likes and they are comfy so it works for me.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 09:13 PM
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And that's really all you can do and need to do. I would mention it to people who you see after a few dates if you think things are heading in a more serious direction, but if you've got everything under control I don't think it needs to be something you disclose immediately. Ultimately part of the problem is not even you, but the fact that there are people out there who think having mental illnesses are "cute" and "quirky", and then do use them as an excuse for toxic behavior. Unfortunately tha…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 01:13 AM
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In fairness Einstein lived in a time period when women actually did need men to support them considering there weren't the same number of opportunities, and being a divorced woman was pretty stigmatizing. (I do not think that this holds true today by any stretch of the imagination though.)
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 12:09 AM
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It might for some people. The big thing is you being responsible and aware of it. If you're taking your medication and being proactive about monitoring and getting therapy/help when needed then a lot of people won't necessarily find it to be an issue. It's not like anyone wants to have a mental illness, the big thing is are you a responsible adult about it or do you use it as an excuse for poor behavior? The latter is what people don't like.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 12:04 AM
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When you raise your standards and don't request but expect that people respect you, that is going to get you some hate. LVM will hate you for having the discipline and self-respect to have nothing to do with them. The sign of being a "high value" person is first and foremost treating other people well. There's a big difference between being a doormat and a b-word. These women don't understand that distinction in the slightest... so while they want the mythical HVM to pursue them, they in turn co…
/r/AntiFeminists12/01/21 02:11 AM
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Nope, you'll be fine. You would definitely feel cold and want more layers if your health was at risk from the temperature. If you feel fine then you are fine.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 08:41 AM
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In what way does marriage benefit men more than women?
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/21 05:27 PM
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He has learned that you are a safe fall back, he can sucker you in, lie to you for a bit, and then go back to doing whatever he wants. Simply put you're a doormat, and he doesn't want to have to go shopping for a new one. Find a friend or family member that you can stay with for awhile, and completely cut contact with him. Block him if you need to, ask for your friends and family members to help you stay clear of him. While breakups are never what we want to suggest first, this is a matter of 12…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 05:38 PM
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I just don't understand how anyone would think that picking up another drunk person in a bar, whose name you don't even know, and having bad, barely remembered sex, is a sign of anything positive. These women want to be the 10/10 model that guys work hard to get into bed, without doing any of the work or just facing reality. And then fantasize that anything they're doing has anything to do with relationships... making a guy jump through hoops, just to maybe have the pleasure of you shutting up a…
/r/AntiFeminists08/01/21 10:09 PM
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I think they confuse the ability to get laid easily with being "high value". Most women can get laid without much effort at all, and because it's so easy it holds no meaning, but because media and society glamorizes hook-up culture these women think that it means they're much higher value romantically than they really are. It’s looks over substance now. And a woman doesn't even need to have amazing looks to get laid, so it leads to the inflated ego. They just still don't understand that being so…
/r/AntiFeminists08/01/21 07:54 PM
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Guys with actual value will see what you have to offer and probably not put you in the possible GF pile. Guys with actual value will just "next" them you mean. High value men aren't going to wade through a bunch of shit tests for a low value sociopathic harpy...
/r/AntiFeminists08/01/21 07:46 PM
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Yep, you're going to have to make some concessions if you want a long term relationship to work out. Everyone has their own little quirks, behaviors, preferences, etc. That's why you have to vet for the important factors first and foremost: values and life goals.
/r/AntiFeminists08/01/21 04:55 PM
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I live in SA, if you're not in the city conservatism is just the norm so people will just assume unless you're like the blue-haired stereotype or something. In urban areas usually people assume most people are left leaning, because most people are left leaning in those areas. Ultimately you shouldn't really have too many issues in this region, people might think it's a bit silly but they usually will be polite and respectful/not really care much at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/21 01:19 AM
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Age doesn't have a role in calculating BMI unless you're talking about the difference between children and adults, which we're clearly talking about adults. The other two do, and still by those standards I can guarantee those two women are obese. Unfortunately obesity and overweight body types are so prevalent in today's society that most people don't realise what obese looks like until someone is very, very obese. Here's an example, the woman on the far right is medically obese and is still muc…
/r/AntiFeminists04/01/21 10:53 PM
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There's nothing wrong with being analytical, that's not what I'm trying to imply. But relationships are partly subjective, and not purely objective... just because someone might tick one or two more boxes on your list doesn't always make them a better choice if they don't make you feel as excited or as happy as the other person does. Physical and emotional attraction are not something we have as much control over as vetting for other qualities, but they're just as important. All things in balanc…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 08:04 PM
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Since it sounds like they're both excellent, I think it really comes down to your heart. Put your analytical self aside and really think about which man you feel more deeply connected to, who makes your heart flutter more, who are you more excited to see or talk to, if they both called you at exactly the same time who would you answer and who would you call back? If you truly feel exactly the same about both, then I don't think you're ready to make a decision yet, and that's okay. Ultimately, yo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 07:53 PM
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There are still health risks associated with being obese because of excess muscle mass, although different. Joints, swelling, sleep apnea, circulatory issues, etc. Is it healthier if you're obese due to muscle mass? Yes, but it's still not optimal for long term health. Edit to add: You're also talking about extreme outliers of the population. 99% of people are not obese because of too much muscle. It's also a completely unrelated issue from the post.
/r/AntiFeminists04/01/21 06:50 PM
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They are obviously obese. If you don't see that then your perception is skewed from reality. A BMI over 30 is obese, go look at pictures of people with a BMI of 30 and you'll see that all of those people are smaller than the models on those covers.
/r/AntiFeminists04/01/21 06:47 PM
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This isn't accurate at all. The human body simply is not designed to sustain being obese or overweight for large periods of time. Just because someone isn't presenting with health issues right now does not mean that they're healthy, nor does it mean that they're not going to develop problems if they carry on. For example your joints are simply not designed to support that kind of weight, even though you might feel okay now every day spent with that excess weight is slowly wearing down your carti…
/r/AntiFeminists04/01/21 06:45 PM
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Considering that 75% of Americans are overweight sadly I'm sure these articles actually do very well...
/r/AntiFeminists04/01/21 06:39 PM
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I think the expense angle is a great way to look at it. I'm currently expecting and will be transitioning to a part-time remote position while taking on more of a role as a SAHM. My husband likes this idea and was very enthusiastic about it because it has meant: less chores for him, cooked meals EVERY dinner since I'm no longer getting home after him some days, lower household expenses such as gas/eating out/childcare, and I will still be able to transition back to full-time work if need be. But…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 04:49 PM
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I can't comment on that since I don't even use those apps. But the advice about pictures was something both my female and male friends agreed on, so I figured it was probably a pretty basic way to make your profile better. (Also just because some people put no effort in, doesn't mean you should copy them.)
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/21 05:37 AM
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How is your profile set up? I hear from some of my single friends that they're looking for someone who is smiling in all their pictures, at least one full body pic, and no obvious filters. That's the first thing, basically people don't want to get catfished. Likewise, you may get fewer matches if you're being honest about looking for a relationship versus those who are more casual. That's not a bad thing though, you want to filter out guys just looking for a quickie. But what you can do is try t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/21 04:19 AM
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I would argue that you shouldn't be getting your virtues from magazines anyways. Magazines are primarily light reading that offer up some interesting information such as recipes, articles about more shallow topics such as fashion, very bland dating advice, life of celebs, etc. They're also meant to appeal to a much wider audience from young teens to women in their 30s and 40s. Personally a lot of magazines aren't my cup of tea either, even the crafting and cooking ones are more clutter than they…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 01:55 PM
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I mean forgive her in a inner sense if that's something that helps you move past emotionally. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Forgiving someone abusive, while not bringing them back into your life, can help people move from feeling emotionally attached to indifferent. And that can be a good way to let stuff go so it doesn't affect you long term.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 11:04 PM
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You can forgive her if that helps you move past it... and you don't even need to tell her you forgive her. Forgiveness is not the same as forgetting or opening the door back up though. It can just be a way to emotionally let go and cool off that can be very cathartic though. Edit to add: I may not have been clear, if you choose to forgive her you can. But absolutely don't let her back into your life, remember that you broke up for a reason.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 09:17 PM
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He's playing to your ego by buying you gifts and showering you with affection in the hopes that you'll turn a blind eye to the reality of his situation long enough that he can get what he wants from you, a highly desirable young lady. Sometime we need to put what feels good in the moment aside and think about "where does this lead me?" Assume that he doesn't change, because it's very, very unlikely he will change himself at this point in his life (and we cannot fix people, people can only fix th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 07:42 PM
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My best friend is 5'10", nowhere near model thin, and has been happily married for years now. My aunt is 3" taller than my uncle, they've been happily married for almost 40 years now. She's never been thin. I tower over my husband when I wear heels because we're the same height. We're all Americans as well. ​ My point being, a confident man will not care. You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but that's true for everyone! Modelesque women have their own issues to deal with, and not every guy is …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 02:04 AM
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I agree with Freja. I would do it the one time, take a bit of time to calm down, and then approach him once I had moved away from the emotional upset to the rational upset. I think it's perfectly fine to say, "I like doing things for you, however I didn't appreciate that you've grown to expect that I will do your laundry for you without asking. We're not married yet, and I do not expect you to handle my present chores or expenses. Next time I would appreciate you just asking me for help if you n…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/20 05:48 PM
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I have no problem with giving gifts regardless of who makes what, but it's also just naturally the way I like to dote on my husband. He's the type who will mention that having "such and such" would be nice but will never buy anything for himself (seriously if I left him to his own devices he would wear socks with holes in them for years), so I tend to be the type where if I see those things while I'm out and about then I end up getting them as little presents throughout the year. We actually do …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 09:48 PM
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Also if you feel that strongly about what kind of presents you want, then ask for them in advance or give your SO a list of ideas... Nothing drives me more nuts than the "Oh I don't really want anything" behavior only for someone to then make a fuss that they had very clear ideas about what they wanted (this is something I mostly see in women, but men do this too and it drives me batty).
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 09:23 PM
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Personal responsibility, emotional maturity, and being fun. We want partners who are going to be responsible and make good decisions or at the very least, someone who learns from their mistakes. We should hold ourselves to the same standards, and it will go a long way not just in the romantic sphere but in life overall towards encouraging people to respect you. You cannot build any kind of positive, meaningful relationship without mutual respect. Emotional maturity such that you can handle life'…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 08:36 PM
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I can't even attest to them mistreating her. From the sounds of it I don't think most of the guys she's talking about even thought of her as anything more than a "fling" and she just assumed that there was something more there... She sounds like a plate, not a girlfriend, and then she's upset because she didn't get what she wanted when she admits to being a doormat in hopes that they'll do what she wants after they've probably made it clear in many ways they're not looking for anything serious.
/r/AntiFeminists26/12/20 07:27 PM
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I think it's fine to think someone who isn't tidy isn't an optimal partner, but you yourself must also be an exceptionally tidy person. That's where FDS falls apart, it's all "rules for thee but not for me". I am not an exceptionally tidy person, but I am very controlled about where my "mess" is. My desk is messy, my junk drawer in the kitchen is messy, my medicine cabinet is a bit messy... but my bathroom is clean, my kitchen is clean and everything is put away nicely, my living room is also cl…
/r/AntiFeminists26/12/20 07:13 PM
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I'm going to disagree with the concept of her taking the red pill. She took the blue pill even further, or perhaps the black pill when it comes to dating. Red Pill dating theory for women is probably actually what she needs to get back on track. RPW is ACTUALLY empowering and not the fake "I'm so perfect, woe is me that all men suck" way that FDS is. The problem is that while she recognizes her faults in not properly vetting past boyfriends, she's refusing to accept responsibility and improve on…
/r/AntiFeminists26/12/20 06:54 PM
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As a currently pregnant woman (who is anti-elective abortion) I actually don't think maternity and paternity are "rights". I don't believe in positive rights without consensual arrangement (see this if you aren't aware of positive/negative rights). So along that same principle, while I do not think anyone is entitled to paid maternity/paternity leave I do think it's a very nice benefit for companies to offer. I have no problem with the private market offering those sorts of options to parents th…
/r/AntiFeminists26/12/20 03:32 PM
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If it worked why are there so many unhappy, angry women on FDS? (In response to the title of her post.) I personally subscribe to RPW, which is a different dating strategy for women, and I will admit that it doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but it does work when you put the effort in. Of course RPW actually requires you to work on yourself first before seeking a partner, places strong value on traditional relationship roles, and suggests that when something isn't going well look first at…
/r/AntiFeminists26/12/20 02:31 PM
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I agree it's never too late, but just like you noted the later it gets the more realistic and flexible you might have to be. At 35 you're probably not going to find many single men who have washboard abs, a six figure salary, no personal baggage, a perfect personality, and also want to settle down with you. Those guys are few and far between even for younger women, and the older you get the more flexible you're going to have to be about what you need in a man versus what you want. The dating mar…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:54 PM
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I'll also add there's a healthy range on BMI for a reason. It's not like you have to be a BMI of 18.5 or you're not healthy enough, you have to find what feels and looks best for you. I have a very slim bone structure so I don't look or feel too skinny at the bottom of the healthy range, yet my girlfriend who is curvier truly starts looking too thin under a BMI of about 22.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 08:28 PM
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Not as many anymore, but I had quite a few during high school and college. A lot of them went SJW crazy and cut me off in the last few years (which honestly was kinda funny).
/r/AntiFeminists18/12/20 01:33 PM
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Student 2011-current... what degree path takes 9 years? Because I know this person isn't in a medical sub specialty field...
/r/AntiFeminists18/12/20 02:30 AM
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I mean it'd be nice if my husband made 6 figures a year but it'd also be nice if I did as well... Though I will say all my obese girlfriends did always have the most insane standards for guys out of all the girls I knew... they were also always single (and I mean always single, as in 26 and never even been on a date single). Never understood if they really thought they had a shot at those types of guys or if part of it was they were too insecure to actually put themselves out there for real.
/r/AntiFeminists18/12/20 02:27 AM
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This is actually really good. While this sub obviously talks a lot about how negatively feminism affects men, this is a great example of how toxic it is to women as well. Not in the same ways, but psychologically and emotionally damaging to the point that so many women hit their mid-30s and realise that they're fucked... all the good men are gone, plus they have done nothing to attract them, their childbearing years are dwindling, their career doesn't make them happy, and their facing down a lif…
/r/AntiFeminists17/12/20 10:55 PM
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I'm far more bothered by what she did to the hair on her head rather than her armpits... just why? Is the ancient Chinese men's look really what you are going for? (Granted the fact that the style represented submission to the authority is honestly quite fitting for feminists.)
/r/AntiFeminists17/12/20 10:38 PM
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I hate to say this but , you cannot make anyone love you. There is no way to control other people's emotions and actions, and a lot of what you will find here (since this is primarily a subreddit for dating strategy) will tell you not to try to fix men and to simply look for a better man. Unfortunately that's not something you can do with a family member, but the advice is still accurate. You cannot change him, you cannot make him a better person, no matter how much you try or care or work with …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/20 02:05 PM
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My husband loves gaming gloves that offers him wrist support, and I also got him a massager for the back of his chair that he uses all the time. You could probably make the gloves yourself if you know how to sew.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 05:38 PM
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I don't understand why they decided the heavyset guy also had to have a neckbeard and a fedora...
/r/AntiFeminists09/12/20 11:01 PM
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Then that's not excusable. I was just reacting to the picture. For example if a 16 yo girl sneaks into a frat party and acts like she's 18+ I wouldn't hold the frat boys responsible for her being a minor. But there needs to be strong evidence that the adults did not know or have a reasonable assumption that the other party was a minor.
/r/AntiFeminists08/12/20 01:49 PM
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The reason that police ask what the victim was wearing is to help find evidence, such as witnesses or finding the victim in pictures or videos... But that'd make too much sense.
/r/AntiFeminists08/12/20 04:42 AM
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I'm pregnant with my first, and I don't particularly feel any attachment or interest in other people's kids... and I don't really find them cute on an emotional level either. I'm very invested in my baby and excited about being a parent. But I also feel weird talking about it or trying to drag my friends and family into baby stuff. The ones who are excited bring it up and the ones who don't really care avoid it. Honestly that's fine with me because I don't really have any expectations that every…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 04:32 AM
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The only time I felt like the bar was set lower for men was when my high school PE classes required both boys and girls to finish their mile in under the same time limit, do the same amount of push-ups, sit-ups and chin-ups... I'm sorry but can we cut the crap that men and women are the same? It's not like I'm applying for the special forces and asking for the bar to be set lower for me because I have ovaries, I just don't think it's balanced for the guys and girls to have a required class grade…
/r/AntiFeminists06/12/20 03:40 PM
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I'll be honest if there is concrete proof that the underage person lied about their age I 100% agree that the adult (regardless of their sex) should not be found guilty. It's not common, but there are young teens who look old enough to pass as legal and there are teens who lie about their age for a lot of reasons. But I do think you have to be able to show that you had legitimate reason to think they were old enough to consent.
/r/AntiFeminists05/12/20 08:02 PM
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u/Ringthrowaway77 As a married Catholic woman, I'll add on to this that although I hope that no one ever divorces I absolutely understand that sometimes it's necessary. I also know that it is not my place to judge, someone's past divorce is between them and God, and I don't think that's a particularly uncommon view among Christians. Be honest, own your life and your story, and maintain your faith and that will speak to others far more than a past divorce will.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 04:47 PM
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First thing I would do is schedule regular time for each other, and don't flex on it, no matter how busy you are at work if tonight is your date night then you have to learn to tell yourself you will finish your work later but your plans come first. Second thing I would encourage is talking to your SO about what your career goals are and come up with a reasonable timeline and expectation of when you will hit them. If those goals mean working like crazy for just a short period of time, to afford …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 03:20 PM
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I think anyone's parents can mess them up emotionally and mentally. But I also think that as adults we have the ability and responsibility to fix ourselves and not to keep blaming our parents. That doesn't mean the mother is blameless, but it's still his fault if he continues to make poor choices and behave in bad ways as he gets older. Same is true for women, my mother is severely mentally ill and I did not have a good upbringing... but I still hold myself to high standards and address my issue…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 02:58 PM
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I'm sorry where in the terms of service does it say dating apps are only for people looking for LTRs? More than half the people on them use them for casual sex and hookups, and there's nothing wrong with that especially when you're not leading someone on about it.
/r/AntiFeminists04/12/20 07:06 PM
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So someone can't be open and honest about not wanting to commit, and look for consensual human interaction, without it being akin to prostitution and getting a stranger to coddle them? Anyone who isn't interested can just swipe right past him, no harm or time wasted. But judging someone that you know nothing about just because of their age and the fact that they're not interested in what you think they should be interested in absolutely makes you an asshole.
/r/AntiFeminists04/12/20 06:24 PM
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No one should have to be ready or want to commit. But also we know nothing about this guy... sure there are people in the dating market who are creeps or never grow up past acting like 16 year olds, but there are also plenty of people who went through traumatic divorces or losing a loved one who just aren't ready to jump all the way back in. It's pretty disgusting to criticize someone just because they don't want what you think they should.
/r/AntiFeminists04/12/20 04:36 PM
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Right up there in stupidity levels with that cartoon of steers with udders... which as a semi-rural Texan never sat right with me.
/r/AntiFeminists04/12/20 03:42 PM
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Not to sound dismissive, but you do get used to it as well. Any adjustment is hard, when you're used to seeing or speaking to your SO far more regularly, or being far more busy, there's always going to be an adjustment period. It's perfectly natural to feel more lonely when you're adjusting and it's still a new routine, but it gets a lot easier once you're more used to it. My husband works nights so even though he's actually home the entire time I'm at home(because I also work from home) it's no…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:45 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for a little independence and trust. Just let him know that while you're always open to constructive criticism, you'd appreciate if he brought up any critiques he had when you weren't in the middle of doing something. This will serve a couple purposes, firstly it'll let him have time to consider his words more carefully (and maybe he does have a good point but currently he's not articulating it well) and secondly it'll let you finish the task with…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 01:58 PM
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My husband and I were introduced online through a mutual friend who invited both of us to play a video game together. We hit it off during the initial games, and I pushed to keep playing together after our mutual friend left for the night, and I would message my husband whenever I got online (he was always on first). But that led to him then asking me out on our first date and things obviously progressed from there. Now that said, he was clearly enjoying our time together online just as much and…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:46 AM
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Oh well then like someone else said, he's just indulging in junk/comfort food. As obnoxious as it is if you offered my husband Taco Bell he'd probably take you up on it over pretty much anything at home. It's going to be a weird balance to strike, and I honestly would probably just work on letting this go for awhile. It's the holiday season, COVID threw lots of lives out of whack, and it's possible your boyfriend and his friend are also kinda using food as a comfort and way to socialize while th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:34 AM
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I do find this odd behavior from both of them. Have you asked why she brings food over or if she will give you the recipes so that she doesn't have to bring food over all the time? If it's something cultural then it's best to just get an explanation and move on from there, if it's not cultural then honestly I have no idea why another woman is bringing your boyfriend food multiple times a week. It may be perfectly innocent but you should probably as them for more information in the most polite wa…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 11:55 PM
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I would never go out of my way to talk about my period because it's a totally weird thing to talk about. I will say though, I do think it should be perfectly reasonable for me to say "Sorry I don't feel well, it's my time of month" without people either making disgusted faces or feeling awkward. Like it is just a normal bodily function, I wouldn't act revolted if you told me "Sorry, I'm feeling a bit nauseous so I think I'll take a raincheck." Now if I started talking about the details, yeah tha…
/r/AntiFeminists01/12/20 08:08 PM
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Just depends. My husband has ADHD so planning ahead and sticking to schedules are not his strong suit, that said he always made himself available at short notice for things I wanted to do and didn't mind if I made plans in advance (I just had to make sure that any plans for more than 2 days out needed to be in his phone calendar to remind him). I think you're spot on that she can test his interest and commitment by her taking initiative to schedule dates further out that she's interested in and …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 07:44 PM
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Okay so slightly off topic to your question because a bunch of other women have addressed fertility. But from personal experience being blue pilled during your early-mid 20s wouldn't mean that you enjoyed your 20s at all. Instead you'd be suffering the effects of blue pill, following advice that makes you miserable, and wondering why nothing is working out like it does in the movies or romance novels. I think it's very common for people to spend their early-mid twenties (and sometimes beyond) fe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:48 PM
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Just based on the post, I'm going to be honest I don't have a problem with men or women who date several people causally when there's no established relationship going on. But you should be open and honest about it... especially if your goal is to find "the one". That's already starting the potential relationship off with dishonesty, I wouldn't call it cheating though since it doesn't sound like she's committed to a relationship with the people she's seeing. Just be open and let people know that…
/r/AntiFeminists30/11/20 07:43 PM
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What gets me is that most people don't shame women for not being virgins... I mean unless they actually want to start standing up for women in other parts of the world who do get shamed and even killed for being suspected at not being pure. Cuz then sure I don't think anyone would have an issue with that... but acting like that's commonplace for anyone with access to IG is obviously stupid.
/r/AntiFeminists30/11/20 04:11 PM
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I know that this is instinctual and men won’t treat me delicately the way they treat other women until I’m perceived as attractive (working on it), but I don’t even have any male acquaintances because men are instinctively rude to me. I don't find this to actually be true at all. I'm not conventionally attractive, but I wouldn't say that most interactions I have with men are poor. They may not treat me "delicately" but they're not rude or inconsiderate either. If all of your interactions with me…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 03:30 PM
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I can't speak for everyone, but most of my friends (myself included) prefer the rugged look to clean-shaven. Just like guys tend to prefer women with natural makeup.
/r/AntiFeminists30/11/20 02:13 PM
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I will say a lot of my "normie" friends are boycotting Amber Heard movies which is nice. But I don't know how much impact that'll have.
/r/AntiFeminists28/11/20 08:24 PM
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If she's depressed then get her to deal with her depression, the lack of motivation and poor choices are both symptomatic of depression and just pushing her on those issues isn't going to get you anywhere.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 09:30 PM
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I think it would be harmful to me psychologically. Firstly, this is a perfectly good enough reason. Secondly, have you ever met a sex worker and gotten to know them as a person? They're not happy people. I've personally known a few girls who turned to it because it was easy money, and at the time they had a "f the world" type of attitude. Not one of them has been able to have a successful relationship, the industry has deeply, deeply damaged their ability to trust others romantically. They tend …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:54 PM
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No kids are not required to settle down at all. But make sure you are upfront about that when you do start dating to find your SO. Better to get out of the way early than be brokenhearted later because he wants children and you don't. Plenty of men don't want kids either though so not something to worry about. And if that's why you're stalling that's a perfectly good reason. I'd just say don't think you have to sequester yourself for years to achieve your goal of working on yourself. Do what you…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 12:24 AM
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It's not a hard and fast rule, but if at 25 lets say you have a SMV of 8 that means that you will be more likely to be able to match up with high value men, than if you have a lower SMV. Now if you don't want to get into a relationship and settle down that's on you, do whatever you want. But just be aware that the market of marriageable, high value men will become slimmer as you get older. Doesn't mean it'll be impossible to meet your match, but it may take longer to meet "Mr. Right" or you may …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 11:03 PM
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Yes and no. Obviously the fertility thing won't matter as much, however fertility is strongly linked with attractiveness. Men even rate women more attractive when they're ovulating versus other stages in the cycle according to some of the studies I've seen. So even if you're not planning on having children, if you want to maximize your peak SMV while finding a partner this will probably be easier in your 20s as opposed to your 30s just because we're biologically programmed to pick a partner for …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 10:20 PM
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It's PE, short for Physical Education. :)
/r/AntiFeminists24/11/20 09:26 PM
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Those are still conditions though, and as I said it's up to you and your partner to mutually agree and discuss your conditions and deal-breakers.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:12 PM
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I'm Catholic and I don't think any adult relationship should be unconditional. When we consent to each other and make vows to each other, we are agreeing to conditions such as faithfulness. There are things that should be deal-breakers and the expectation should always be that we must uphold our part of the "deal". Now what those deal breakers are for you and your husband is up for you to each determine and set as boundaries, with the mutual understanding that these are things that cannot be con…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 04:54 PM
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Look even if the statistic is true, it's still not "All women" as proven by that statistic. It also fails to account for the fact that most rapes are committed by serial offenders. Something like 90% of rapes are committed by 2% of rapists.
/r/AntiFeminists23/11/20 02:15 AM
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We ended up around 18 months, but that was because I really wanted a 3 day weekend for the wedding to make sure people had time to travel without relying on everyone to be able to take off work to come (and I didn't want to try and cram all the planning into 6 months). That said as soon as I had the ring on my finger we started picking out our timeline and planning everything. So I wouldn't consider it a "prolonged" engagement, since we never planned to stay engaged for longer than necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 05:21 PM
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3 or 4, I'm currently pregnant with my first at age 28. My husband agrees with 3 so that's most likely where we'll stop, but who knows? I do plan on being a SAHM so I'm going to be limited by what I can handle, but we also live near great-aunts and grandparents who are all very, very interested in babysitting and helping out. I don't think we'll end up with less than 3 unless something really changes, but I've been blessed with an amazing pregnancy so far and I feel pretty positive and confident…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 12:26 AM
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In my household it's OUR money. Everything is joint. If either of us wants to make a big purchase we just communicate and talk it over. It will continue to be our money when our little one comes in March and I stop working. The only purpose to splitting the funds I could see is if you're not on the same page with your spouse budget-wise, in which case just ask him about the finances. If you're married I can't see why anyone would care about sharing that information.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 02:04 PM
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What people fail to realise is that just because women are more agreeable than men on average, doesn't mean we're saying "all women are more agreeable than men". People hear the latter statement and then get offended thinking we're saying ALL women are like X... Of course these are also usually the types who are fine with spouting the feminist tropes of "Yes, ALL women", "Believe ALL women", "Women's issues (when around 50% of women disagree with their premise of what women's issues even are) sh…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 01:56 PM
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But the woman is held accountable, the average amount for child support in the US is $430/mo. The woman is still going to be picking up a fair amount of the child related costs, if she is the primary caretaker it will also affect the jobs and hours that she can work, where she can afford to live, her life outcome is going to be significantly affected especially if the father is not interested in participating in the child's life. It's not like she gets off scott free either. Like I said, neither…
/r/AntiFeminists18/11/20 04:07 PM
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I think a lot of psychology research shows that women are much less comfortable defying authority than men are. Women tend to score much higher in agreeableness and conscientiousness than men, and part of these personality trait is compliance and trust. It's usually considered an excellent trait for prosocial behaviour. However high agreeableness does not always lead to prosocial behaviour, in a Milgram experiment conscientious and agreeable people, when forced by ill-intent authority, are more …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 04:00 PM
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I think there's a level of joint responsibility that cannot be avoided. Which is why it should be determined before the sex not after. You sign a pre-nup before marriage, not after for a reason. Without the man there is no pregnancy, that doesn't mean he's solely responsible, but you can't participate in the act then dip out because you were too dumb to plan ahead or be responsible in the first place. If you don't want the potential responsibility of a child then you should always make sure that…
/r/AntiFeminists18/11/20 03:47 PM
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I agree with this. I don't like the "well if he wants an abortion but she doesn't then he should be exempt from parental responsibilities"... It's just not that simple, she couldn't have gotten pregnant without the sperm, your chance to avoid the responsibility was BEFORE the sex not afterwards if she doesn't agree with what you want. People want to ignore it but every birth control has a failure rate, even vasectomies and tubal ligation have a failure rate. People also get misdiagnosed as "infe…
/r/AntiFeminists18/11/20 02:24 PM
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Depends on the context, if we're talking about parts of the world where female infants are being killed solely because they're female (India, China, Pakistan) then sure I think that's a discussion that can be had. The problem of course being that modern, western feminism doesn't really care about women facing actual oppression because then they would have to admit that western women are actually very well off comparatively. Just using the term to define any female victims of homicide or murder? …
/r/AntiFeminists18/11/20 01:10 AM
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Okay so it sounds like you want him to be more dominating in the bedroom, and it sounds like he perhaps has low confidence which makes him less willing to try new things. So what we need to do is find ways to boost his confidence and also get him comfortable with new things. I would try picking out some extremely basic, entry level items to spice things up a bit, and at first specifically focus on things for his enjoyment. Maybe get a lube that tingles or warms, start talking dirty to him and co…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 12:44 AM
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Honestly because good people are hard to find... women and men can be equally nasty, they just act it out in different ways. I'm 27, I have 2 female friends who are amazing. I do not have any other female friends, for similar reasons to what you stated. My best friend I actually met through her husband, and we ended up closer than I ever was with him. I would maybe suggest browsing local women's clubs, try them out and see how it goes, if it doesn't go well try another one. They can be clubs for…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 12:23 AM
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Just depends on the Christian. My church has instructions on how wives should submit, and how men should care for their wives in return. This article does a pretty decent breakdown of the scripture and meaning. Keep in mind though, Christians play for marriage which is not the same goal as TRP.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 12:16 AM
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So it sounds like maybe you need foreplay and oral sex from him, because it's really not that easy for a guy to stay erect (and not cum) and please a woman entirely through penile insertion. This may be especially true if he is uncircumcised as he will have full sensitivity. When you say vanilla though, how vanilla are we talking? Is he not comfortable trying new sexual positions, or not comfortable with using his fingers/mouth, or not interested in fetish-play? Just trying to understand what pa…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 12:09 AM
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So basically the facade that feminists care about men's issues, by creating an entirely separate sub for men's issues because we can't have that stuff clogging up the actual feminism sub...
/r/AntiFeminists17/11/20 09:34 PM
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I personally wouldn't move in unless he proposed, which is just a general rule of thumb I would offer to any woman on this sub. Otherwise you're basically allowing him to have the wife experience without having to commit to making you his wife, and you're making it more complicated on yourself if the relationship stalls/ends. It sounds like in your situation it's maybe just a little too soon to take that step, and I think any decent guy will understand if you simply say that you don't want to mo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 09:24 PM
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It just goes against who I am on a basic, moral level (this is not to imply it's bad it certainly works for some people and doesn't bother them, I just personally feel bad "playing games" with people's time, energy, money, and feelings). I personally am a big proponent of being open and honest from the get-go. I would tell my dates what my expectations/intentions were, what I was comfortable with, and then let them make an informed decision about if they valued our time together enough to want t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 02:46 PM
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Being pretty is like being rich... it can make your life easier, but it doesn't fix anything on it's own. I firmly believe that being a good person will always give you a happier outcome. You may not be as rich or as pretty as the "Stacey" type, but you will have real, meaningful relationships and you won't end up 80 years old in a nursing home wondering why no one ever visits you. Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder is also definitely true. I do not consider myself to be conventionally…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 02:27 PM
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Honestly it just feels really natural to split 50/50 because that's obviously the "fair" thing to do right? Of course my husband needs like 3500 cal a day and I only need like 1500... I actually started using different sized plates for us. He gets a full dinner plate full and I use a salad plate, works pretty well to help with portioning.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 07:41 PM
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https://cafedelites.com/slow-cooker-chicken-cacciatore/ https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/281927/baked-chicken-thighs-with-apples-and-onions/ https://therecipecritic.com/baked-sweet-hawaiian-chicken/ https://www.jocooks.com/recipes/mexican-beef-and-rice-casserole/ https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/giada-de-laurentiis/chicken-saltimbocca-recipe-1942157 http://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/251003/pork-broccoli-thai-noodle-salad/ https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/spaghetti-squa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 07:12 PM
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A few follow-up questions: How much do you enjoy cooking/what level of cooking experience would you consider yourself? What kinds of foods do you both enjoy? For example: if you were going to eat out what kind of foods would you get? As for healthy, bulking up meals with extra vegetables is my go-to. It fills you up faster with fewer calories, while also being nutritionally dense and adding some nice variety. For example tonight I'm making teriyaki chicken with broccoli, baby corn, bell peppers,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 06:45 PM
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If that was honestly what feminism was then that would be fine. But what you're describing is egalitarianism and freedom of choice, not modern feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 06:37 PM
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Being feminine is more about the way you speak and interact rather than what you talk about (although avoiding crass language and topics is best). You shouldn't feel a need to hide your interests or pretend to be someone you're not just for the sake of fitting into some idealization of being feminine. Being feminine doesn't have anything to do with excluding genuine interests or not being "too smart"... but rather how you present those things. Good listening skills are probably the most importan…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 03:38 PM
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Well my first suggestion is taking another look at your finances. Are there any ways that you can slim down your expenses? We shop bulk and generic almost exclusively, all of our meals are planned out ahead of time, and we mostly use frozen/canned produce. Is it fancy? Nope. But you can save a lot of money by being thrifty with the shopping, and you'd never know the difference once everything is cooked. There are also a lot of channels on youtube on things like feeding a family of 4 for less tha…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 02:07 PM
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I can imagine if you have a lot of children below school age there might be days where you can't get to everything (doctors appointments, activities, family visits, etc) but there are definitely quite a few women nowadays that think it's normal for their spouse to return from work to find chores to do simply because being a mom is a "full time job" but apparently being a father and sole income provider isn't?
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 11:03 PM
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"the perfect man will know you're upset before you do" (or something like that) Honestly there's this one article (or maybe more than one) that floats around the BP dating verse that basically sums up to "you should never have to tell your spouse to do anything, they should just know to do it"... and of course the story is along the lines of "my spouse came home and didn't immediately start the (insert chores I wanted him to do today here) and I get so sick of having to tell him what to do like …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 10:55 PM
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I suck at cooking but I can tell my husband loves when I make him a meal, and he loves coming home to a clean house. I'm always very vocal about the cooking because you really do not have to be an amazing cook! So many women do not understand how happy a simple sandwich will make a man. I packed my husband lunch everyday before we both started working from home, and it was as simple as a ham sandwich, a bag of chips, a cookie, and a piece of fruit. Took less than 10 minutes and just that was eno…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 10:48 PM
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Well also from a looks perspective, it can be easily fixed by dressing in a flattering way, making sure your hair and makeup are simple but well-groomed. You don't have to put in a ton of effort to look good. The number one thing is just looking clean, well groomed, and like you actually care a bit about taking care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 07:23 PM
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Well the messaging is certainly there underneath the surface, and the problem is that it enables people to easily excuse or ignore their own faults in favor of repeating the common sayings which make them feel justified in doing whatever they want. I would hope most people wouldn't take it to the extremes and understand that all of these sayings have nuance, but unfortunately that just doesn't seem to be the case. I would probably say that 8 out of 10 of the ladies I went to high school with abs…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 06:46 PM
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Obviously it wasn't a one-size fits all example. But it was an example meant to provide a very clear example of the current "woman is always right", "happy wife, happy life" narrative told so often in the blue pill sphere. The issue being the myopic viewpoint taught to women which not only excluded their partner from being an equal (thus reducing respect), but also creates the very issue of women feeling unfulfilled, bored, and "falling out of love". My husband and I both work as well, however o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 05:36 PM
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The reality is that modern feminist dating/marriage strategy presupposes that women are by default perfect. Every piece of advice that tells you that you do not need to apply introspection, you do not need to better yourself, that you do not need to do anything proactive is absolutely toxic. Within all of these messages is also the message that men should change to accomodate us, if men come to us with concerns or problems then that's their problem alone and they need to just get over it, his si…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 04:34 PM
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I think there's way too much emphasis on the "need to test-drive" mentality. When you choose to put in the effort and work on a relationship things will work out for the best. For example, sex will get better as partners get more practice. There is no reason that it has to be perfect off the bat, nor that it won't end up being excellent later. Waiting makes no impact on the outcome. As for living together, you do not have to live with someone to understand the way they live. Visiting each other'…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 06:48 PM
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You do not need to be paranoid. That was terrible, and honestly sexist, advice. Even non-religious men have full control over themselves and can exercise restraint.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 05:11 PM
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Honestly is it bad that I don't mind feminists who admit that feminism has nothing to do with equality/men's issues? They're still terrible people, but it's such a breath of fresh air that they're at least honest about it.
/r/AntiFeminists12/11/20 12:30 AM
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One thing I did was I thought about all the women I know and particularly the ones I admire, and then I worked out what qualities I admire about these women. What is it that they do that I want to be more like? As an example my grandmother was extremely kind, she would help anyone and she was just a warm person in general. That's the first thing anyone who knew her would always remember, and that's something that I can work on modelling myself after. It doesn't feel inauthentic or combat my inte…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 07:28 PM
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I mean if someone isn't going to ask you out (man or woman) for dates... is that really someone you should invest in? They should want to spend time with you enough to do the inviting on a regular basis. I'm assuming that they would want to go on the date, but depending on what is involved may feel bad/awkward admitting they can't afford it if the inviter is expecting to "go dutch". For example, if a successful lawyer asks a teacher if they'd like to try going on a hot balloon ride (or anything …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 06:59 PM
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For me I always assumed that the person doing the inviting is the one paying. If you don't have a fat wallet then you should only invite them to do things that either cost very little or nothing at all. On the reverse if they want to invite you to do things that are expensive then I think it is only rational that they should be intending to cover the costs.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 01:27 PM
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Because the whole premise of the show is that women can and should have sex like men, and that it's empowering... pretty sure they explicitly state that in the very first episode.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 02:31 AM
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If he doesn't want to talk about it, then you should make sure not to press the issue or bring it up. He will bring it to you when he's ready. If you're really concerned you can ask him "do you want to talk about it, or do you want to focus on something else?" He may just not want to have to deal with it all the time, and you bringing it up isn't helpful, maybe he really just needs a break from his stressful home life and it would be more helpful for you to be a positive distraction, rather than…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 05:45 PM
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A couple of questions: Has he shared with you what his career goals are? If it's a higher position, he might have to put in the amount of time he's putting in, but the outcome will be very rewarding. Have you ever worked 70-75 hours a week? I have, and I can guarantee you it's not fun. It was the most draining, exhausting year of my life, and I genuinely don't think I could do it again. Seriously, I got a lot out of it but it is so, so incredibly hard to work that much. It's a huge sacrifice. If…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 10:21 PM
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I was about to say... it's also a standard for men. So clearly the concept isn't exclusive to women.
/r/AntiFeminists03/11/20 09:36 PM
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No that's not what I think. The OP asked if a woman has a history of being a mistress will that affect the men who will date her. I think it will, but I think men that hold monogamy as a lower value, like consensual non-monogamy, are less likely to find this a deal breaker as they might feel more comfortable bringing this up and establishing a relationship where monogamy is not expected/ therefore "cheating" is not an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 07:26 PM
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I don't disagree. But I'm saying that if you have a record of not honoring monogamy you're only going to attract partners who also don't honor monogamy... it's far easier to transition to a relationship with consensual non-monogamy than to convince a man who believes in monogamy that you're worth dating.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 07:24 PM
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But the question is that what kind of men can/will someone who has low value in monogamy attract... regardless of consent, if this woman is open with future potential partners about her past choices then I think she's mostly going to appeal to men who do not value monogamy either, which includes people interested in consensual non-monogamy. They may even see her willingness to ignore traditional relationship boundaries as a good thing because they themselves don't want those boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:55 PM
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I mean there are swingers and other "polyamorous" lifestyles that do have relationships, they just don't consider sleeping around to be a deal breaker... Not for me at all, but no shame if that's what others want to do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:08 PM
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I think it's a personal thing. I think it will definitely be a turn off for a lot of men, but that some men won't care. The issue is, which of those groups of men do you align with? The first group is definitely going to have stricter morals, but that also means they will have higher standards for their own behavior (or should). Personally I would only be interested in men from this group, I want someone with strong morals and standards with whom I can raise children with and feel confident that…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 03:50 PM
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If you don't believe men can be monogamous why does it upset you? Why do you hope for something that you think is impossible? Do you also wish for a pet unicorn? No, you don't. Just like I don't think you honestly believe men can't be faithful. And yes, men can absolutely be monogamous. They're not slaves to their sex drive, just like women aren't. It just so happens that this man is not interested in monogamy... for me this would be a deal breaker, regardless of his SMV. I am not interested in …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 01:58 AM
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I think part of it is decision-making. Someone who has a lot of sexual partners is putting themselves at a much higher risk for things like diseases, as opposed to someone who doesn't have many sexual partners. I don't personally think it reflects all that well on someone to put their health at risk for most likely drunk, bad hookup sex... and let's be completely honest most one night stands really are subpar sexual experiences.
/r/AntiFeminists02/11/20 08:10 PM
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I mean I suppose it depends on what you consider "tall", if you're dwindling your pool down to guys only 6'4"+ then yeah, it might be a bit restrictive since there are just simply fewer people in that category. Otherwise just continue focusing on yourself, improving your fitness is a good goal. You also mention that you "think" you can be very agreeable, are you unsure about your behavior? If so, you should reflect on ways to improve your behavior as well. Even for not the "right guy" it never h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 04:24 PM
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I don't think having a lower pitched voice is anything to be too worried about. I think your mannerisms and how you speak matter more. But a lot of people find women with sultry voices to sound very feminine and sexy, so it's obviously not inherently a bad thing. Have you tried asking the opinion of people you know what they think about your voice pitch? It's best to ask people who will be objective and honest with you. I mostly say this because I think most people think their voice sounds weird…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 02:42 PM
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My husband and I are at least equally intelligent, but our areas of knowledge are vastly different. When something falls into his wheelhouse of knowledge I let him handle it entirely, and vice versa. When it something that falls in the middle then we make a joint decision after both doing our own research and having a debate over it if we come to different decisions. I stress that it's a debate because it's definitely not a fight, it's just us bouncing the ideas off each other and seeing what ma…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 01:36 PM
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I am pregnant with my first now(I'm 28), and we waited almost exactly the same amount of time(I'm 2 years older but wanted to start at 25). There's an argument for waiting and an argument for not waiting, and I don't think either is inherently better or worse than the other. Waiting has the pro of making sure that you can afford everything that you want for the baby, less stress with jobs and living situations(as you will generally be more stable). Working from home with a baby will still realis…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 11:21 AM
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Yup, if you genuinely enjoy doing all the extra-steps of DIY and from scratch that's perfectly fine. But you should never feel like you HAVE to do those things or you're not good enough. Also bonus points to men for generally being far less picky and detail oriented about this kinda stuff in general. While they will appreciate you for what you do, they're not going to notice or care if your house isn't "perfect". Heck, I don't even think my husband notices that we have different wreaths on the f…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 03:51 PM
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Pot Roast(slow cooker recipe), Baked Ziti(slow cooker recipe), Chili(slow cooker recipe), Beef Stew(slow cooker recipe), Broccoli Cheese Soup(slow cooker recipe), Smothered Pork Chops, Creamy Tuscan Chicken(slow cooker recipe), Meatloaf, a variety of casseroles, a variety of stir-fries... I will make fancier, more difficult dishes on the weekends. But during the week I need easy dishes that don't make a lot of mess, and that don't require me to spend a lot of time on. A lot of the standard 1950s…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 03:11 PM
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I think this is going to depend on the person, what your preferences are and what is important to you. For me personally I have a couple categories: The fewer ingredients needed for a good outcome the better. (Mississippi Pot Roast a good example of a family favorite and is 5 ingredients.) Recipes that require less prepwork are always preferable. (Mississippi Pot Roast only requires that you place everything in the slow cooker, and you're done, no muss and no fuss.) Recipes that can be made usin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 02:38 PM
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Exactly. Plus I think a lot of people confuse self-improvement with "I need to be perfect", but we would never expect anyone else to be "perfect" so why do we give ourselves impossible standards and then feel guilty and stressed out because we can't hit them? I think the holidays especially bring this out of people since you're more likely to have guests over and larger gatherings/feasts. It's okay to feel overwhelmed, I don't even do any crazy recipes for Thanksgiving and I still feel hectic mo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 02:25 PM
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Yeah I work from home and I still use my crockpot at least 2x a week. I think a lot of women feel pressured to be like mini-Martha Stewarts, and while there's nothing wrong with that if it's something you enjoy, I've found that most men don't even notice or care that much. A home cooked meal, a clean home, and love from their wife is all they care about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 02:42 AM
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My mom was such a horrendous cook that I took over all the cooking at age 12. Here's some basic advice: There is nothing wrong with making easy, simply recipes. I've been the primary cook in my house for 16 years now and I still rely on basic, easy classics. They take no brain power, they're popular for a reason(cuz they're delicious)... honestly you can't go wrong. Fancy recipes are fun to try out, and if you really end up liking cooking, but in my experience no man is ever gonna snub the easy …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 10:39 PM
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I 100% agree, but it's still something that a lot of guys nowadays feel pressured to live up to(really it's a very sweet sentiment even though it's not necessary/shouldn't be necessary). I can't really fault guys for feeling the pressure either considering how I would be lying if I said that instagram models don't make me feel pressured into looking a certain way(and I fully know how fake all those pictures are).
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 02:56 PM
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Ahhh poor guy. To be honest this is why I hate the "big proposal" trend, it really does make it so much harder than it needs to be and it misses the point of what a proposal actually means in my opinion. That said, I do think it's very cute and very sweet that he cares so much about trying to come up with something to knock your socks off. I would just suggest talking to him about marriage, and "settling down" and reinforce that what you care about is your relationship and life together, not the…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 02:51 PM
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So I am now married, but I want to say that I went through a very similar situation. My husband is fairly introverted and even though he knew I wanted a Christmas proposal with the families, he bombed and choked. Then he was going to try and propose later that week to recover the situation(since he knew I was deeply disappointed) and without going into detail we'll just say no good situations popped up for a proposal. Several months went by and while he did propose and we're happily married, I d…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 02:28 PM
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I'm not sure that this post fits the sub fyi. What specifically do you find fishy? You need to flesh out your thoughts more so that you can actually address what you're thinking, not just go off a general sense of unease.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 02:14 PM
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Just proof that feminism isn't even about helping women. The more they bend over backwards for intersectionality the more apparent it becomes.
/r/AntiFeminists29/10/20 12:36 PM
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And biological women are now being called "menstruators" or "fetus carriers".
/r/AntiFeminists29/10/20 02:34 AM
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Okay so I'm going to be brutally honest, my husband does have a lot of these same tendencies if left entirely to his own devices. Clutter just doesn't bother him, he's not a naturally tidy person, and he does have ADHD so if he puts something off because he doesn't want to do it... well it'll never get done. Because that is something that he and I both know(the ADHD) and had conversations about, I definitely am more of a "nag" than a traditional RPW. However, because my husband is cognizant of h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 03:24 PM
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Also just adding, a limited amount of time doesn't mean you don't have time! YOu're just going to have to use your time wisely and I'd really recommend for someone in OP's position to read through posts on vetting, you don't have to take all of the advice in those posts but it can help you narrow down a list of things to check-off when meeting new people. Too often we let ourselves be scared of "not enough time" rather than focusing on how to best maximize that time. As a doctor you wouldn't tel…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 02:16 PM
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Sure, and a lot of those girls also cry and bitch over being single and "where are all the good men?" Heck I had a friend from high school who was like 200lbs overweight but only had eyes for Chris Hemsworth type guys... and guess what? She's still single to this day because she can't understand that her standards are unattainable for someone like her(or heck me and most other women).
/r/AntiFeminists27/10/20 11:59 PM
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Outside a very select few guys who were actual assholes in high school... I've never had guys comment on my features in a rude or joking way. In general most guys either stay away from the topic entirely because they know it will only end poorly for them, or they admit that they really don't have crazy preferences for things like breasts, they mostly just like boobs in general. No "body shaming" is actually a pretty uniquely female trait in my experience. Girls size each other up, make internal …
/r/AntiFeminists27/10/20 09:07 PM
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I think him trying to find his way out of the woods and back to the beginning of the trail probably trumped much else that was going through his mind in order of importance. If you were lost on a hike, would the first thing you think about be rescheduling dinner or finding your way back? Likewise don't you think you might be both mentally and physically fatigued from getting lost in the mountains? Regardless of how he played it off, that could have been a genuinely dangerous situation he and his…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:22 PM
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I offered my husband a prenup(not because I care one way or another but in case he did) and he turned it down. He saw it as a document second guessing our choice to get married and didn't want that to be a shadow on our partnership. That said we're religious and while divorce is allowed, it's not something that our faith views too kindly unless the situation is really bad(abuse, cheating, addiction, etc). You're expected to work through everything else, and so we knew that and had that perspecti…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 01:22 PM
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If he's happily in the relationship then he already made whatever initial comparisons he was going to make and judged you worthy. I would just take it as a sign that you passed the test and move on from this line of thinking because if it was an issue he would either have addressed it or not stuck around.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 03:19 PM
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I'm also Christian, and there's a reason I recommend pre-marital counselling to everyone regardless of faith. It was eye-opening to me in not only learning how to bridge natural communication gaps between men and women, but also in learning ways in which I can express love to my husband such that he feels the expression most clearly. That said I do not think any adult should have unconditional love for their partner, the love between partners is built on certain foundations(conditions), and I th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 02:07 PM
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Yesterday was pot roast and today was chili, tomorrow will be sloppy joes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 12:12 AM
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I know it's hard with COVID but do you have any time/activities carved out just for you as part of your schedule? Things like joining a book club or crafting classes or just a girls night, as a few examples. Just something that you can do with friends on a regular basis, that's engaging enough that you can put your home life aside for a few hours. Hobbies are a great way to give yourself some mental stimulation and work on yourself as an individual as well. If your mind and hands are entertained…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 01:37 PM
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Oh I know that. I'm just saying, that 100 years ago you could actually make the case that women didn't have the same access that men had. After the 60s I wouldn't argue that women were still behind in rights, they just hadn't had time to catch up/weren't interested in "catching up" the way feminists thought they should be. From that point on feminism started to wage a cultural war on women to get them to fall in line, which is how we got to now where women are better off than men by most metrics…
/r/AntiFeminists25/10/20 12:23 AM
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It might have made sense 100 years ago(before women could vote or work where they wanted or buy things without permission), but that society is long gone. It makes no sense to claim you care about gender equality anymore and not have men's issues at the table with equal representation.
/r/AntiFeminists24/10/20 12:50 PM
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I agree 100%. I think there is a certain group within society that holds up sexual promiscuity(for men and women). The female feminists want this because they see male traits and behaviors as superior and want women to emulate men, and lets be honest the type of shady, creeps who glom onto the feminist movement hoping to gain sex from it... and that these groups convince women to be more promiscuous because "men are doing it, and they love it"... Heck just watch the very first episode of "Sex an…
/r/AntiFeminists24/10/20 12:46 PM
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Yes, and I also appreciate that they politely acknowledged that Maisie Williams is just young and not a scholar. I was of a similar viewpoint when I was still that young, and didn't have any experiences or actual knowledge about feminism. I don't fault young people for thinking that "if feminism is about equality, not feminist must mean you don't support equality". My patience wanes when people get older or more involved in feminism, and they still refuse to acknowledge that it really is not a m…
/r/AntiFeminists24/10/20 12:31 PM
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The thing that they don't understand, is that a large majority of people also dislike the "man slut" type... Being a fuck boy is 100% a turn off. They think it's a double standard because they don't hear the private conversations between those men and their friends/family... but it's really not a double standard in the way they think it is.
/r/AntiFeminists24/10/20 12:20 PM
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Not to disagree with you, but I always saw "fake it, until you make it" as better advice for behavior rather than confidence(which I know is not the intended purpose of the saying). To me it means choosing behaviors and actions that are the kind of person that I aspire to be, even if they're not my gut reaction, and then repeating them until I don't have to put as much effort into being the kind of person I want to be. For me, I always think about my grandmother and what would she do, and even i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 02:34 PM
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I also don't fault young women, they're being raised and brought up with toxic values and especially when you have no experience in dating, how can you know any better? However, when you're not happy and not having a good experience you have to turn inwards and re-evaluate yourself(like I did), and use those experiences to grow. I will not fault someone for making mistakes or being led astray, but I will fault them for continuing and not holding themselves accountable. For guys, I don't fault th…
/r/AntiFeminists22/10/20 05:32 PM
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I did my thesis on rape reports to prosecution rates in the US, in order to try and come up with reasons why these reports are so unlikely to go anywhere. And the number one reason is that the person who makes the report is unwilling to cooperate or will even ask that the report be dropped. When questioned, these people were scared of being judged and did not want to continue. This brings me to a couple of issues, is there actually judgment in the system? And ultimately after reviewing how these…
/r/AntiFeminists22/10/20 04:05 PM
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The worst part to me(as a woman) is that if we just didn't instill toxic beliefs in women(and yes, I think it mostly stems from women because I think most men just try to keep up to what they think women want when it comes to dating) when they're young about dating and men, there wouldn't be so many emotionally scarred men AND women. Luckily I got myself together while still fairly young, but I easily could have lacked people around me that pushed back on/questioned the feminist dating tripe tha…
/r/AntiFeminists22/10/20 01:39 PM
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Not in some states like NY, they removed the protections for unborn babies and extended the availability of abortions in a recent bill.
/r/AntiFeminists22/10/20 01:33 PM
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So how many times does someone have to say no and say they're uncomfortable before it means no? Pressuring someone after they've said they don't want to go any further is not okay. It's manipulative and a form of coercion to bring someone into your room and then continually push them past their boundaries while disregarding their consent. The fact that she states she had said no multiple times before getting to that point and he kept pushing anyway is not okay, it shows that from the offset he w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/20 12:39 PM
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This gets down to semantics a bit. For example what does appreciation and respect mean/look like to you? I'm going to try to outline the premise you are asking about, then I'll give my thoughts. Men are do-ers and builders and providers, they are more naturally driven by the caveman mindset of bringing home the meat, for which praise and admiration make them feel appreciated and most importantly needed. Without that acknowledgement, they may feel that they aren't very important and aren't actual…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 12:49 AM
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She's absolutely right, no one should be hitting anyone. But if you do, don't come crying to me because they equalized the situation. Sure, most men are stronger and bigger, all the more reason not to pick a physical fight with them... the aggressor is the one in the wrong, always.
/r/AntiFeminists21/10/20 12:12 AM
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Also for context, my husband and I met through online gaming as well and had spent hours talking online for weeks. I normally wouldn't ask him his take, but since the situation was so close to ours, I asked my husband for his take on your story. He was disturbed and creeped out reading this post, and said that he didn't think that behavior was acceptable either. He said it reads like this guy was just trying to groom you for sex, and that when you said "no" that should have been enough to stop.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:44 PM
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He wouldn't be able to assault you in a public place though. There are a lot of options for public places that don't require you to actually be near people, such as parks or forms of outdoor entertainment.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:32 PM
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Okay so I might come across as a little blunt here, but if you were my friend in real life and you came to me to ask advice this is exactly what I'd say given everything you've just said. Drop him. I almost never advocate nexting right away but this has major, major redflags. Firstly, the first time you meet was no effort, not to bond, straight to him trying to score sex. He pushed you into positions you said no to repeatedly(this is legally sexual assault). When you spoke to him afterwards he i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:00 PM
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She said somewhere else that it was 13 year old girls, but that it's "not pedophilia because they could have started puberty". Edit to add: she also clarified that he downloaded it from the internet, it was not sent to him by a girl
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 03:41 PM
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Oh I see, it's not a deal breaker for you because you're also comfortable with pedophilia.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 11:36 AM
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It is absolutely disgusting and blatantly wrong to imply that large groups of men are pedophilic. You must be a troll.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 11:28 AM
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This is someone who has been to prison for looking at and possessing sexual content involving children, and you're trying to tell me that he just happened to see it innocently and then saved it on his devices? For the record I have never seen CP, I don't look for it, I don't go places that it might be shared, and I certainly have never possessed it. You have to actually go out of your way to obtain that content you know... and who would be interested in that content other than pedophiles? Having…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 11:26 AM
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She's divorced from the reality that CP is child abuse and rape... even if her bf wasn't the one doing the rape itself he was watching the rape for pleasure, and incentivizing the people who did it. It's not any different from being an accessory to a crime.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 11:14 AM
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You do also realize that all of this is him admitting that you're not his ideal type right? What happens when you start to get older and even less like his ideal type? Are you okay with knowing that he's with you out of convenience and possibly as a cover for his abusive preferences?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 11:04 AM
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There's a difference between having started puberty and having reached maturity... puberty is not an overnight change. Look at high school freshman as an example 14-15yo, you wouldn't confuse any of them for adults...
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 10:56 AM
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I agree with private settlement when possible 100%(also since I don't believe marriage is a business the government should be involved in). But just within the current system, if the child is a result of the marriage, then there needs to be some kind of equitable split in regards to the child's welfare. I do not think there should be child support in all cases, but unfortunately I don't think it can be eliminated entirely until the government gets out of marriage entirely.
/r/AntiFeminists19/10/20 05:32 PM
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I would suggest nun-mode for a bit. Give yourself some breathing room, discover things that make you happy without anyone else required, try some new activities, just experience life a bit without seeking out a relationship. Heck, take a small vacation by yourself to do some self reflection and discovery! And once you're comfortable with yourself, relaxed, and generally positive about your life then start looking for a new partner. I know it feels like there's scarcity of good men out there, but…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 05:26 PM
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Sure, but there are cases where the financially responsible parent cannot take the child. My dad as an example was out of the country 6-8 months of the year for work purposes, and wouldn't have realistically been able to raise me had my parents divorced. Not saying that's usually the case, but it's not like everyone can also drop or change careers while going through a divorce in order to accomodate being home to care for the children in ways they didn't before. Edit to add: Also what if both pa…
/r/AntiFeminists19/10/20 05:14 PM
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Yeah. Almost like the whole concept of alimony is dumb and should be gotten rid of. I don't think it's unfair that if you want a divorce you also have to come to terms with losing the lifestyle you may be accustomed to, if you're not married anymore then no one owes you jackdiddly. At least with child support in divorce situations it's more likely that the child was a choice made by both parents at the time of conception, and I do think the parent who doesn't have custody still has an obligation…
/r/AntiFeminists19/10/20 04:12 PM
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Thank you! And good luck. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:34 PM
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I want at least 3 children, and I'm currently pregnant with my first now at age 28. I would have liked to start maybe a little bit sooner, but overall my goal was to start and finish having kids before the age of 35 so I'm perfectly happy. Plus, we're just in a much better spot now than we were 2 years ago. It's fine to have a schedule in mind, but also to be a little flexible. Afterall getting pregnant isn't as simple as just deciding it's time, it could still be awhile before you actually conc…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:27 PM
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I think the thing that rubs me the wrong way the most is not that I'm not in contact with her, because it's generally been a very positive thing for me. But when you see people talk about how important good relationships are with parents, and using that as a red flag. For a long time it made me question if I was broken, and why no matter how hard I tried my relationship with her brought me nothing but stress and anxiety. The last time I ever saw my mother was right after my husband(boyfriend at …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 02:42 AM
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My mother is severely mentally ill, she suffers from paranoid delusions, and part of her paranoia is refusal to admit she's the one with a problem(rather it's a plot by everyone else, because we're all out to get her). This makes her behavior erratic, often abusive, and volatile. There is literally no way to know what will set her off, and once she's upset and engaging in her delusions there's no way to interact with her without allowing her to be extremely toxic towards you. Unsurprisingly this…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 10:27 PM
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Just depends on the date. But my rule of thumb is that I'd rather be slightly overdressed than risk being under dressed... so if they ask you out to dinner and you don't know where they're taking you, dress as if you're going to a nice restaurant, even if they end up taking you to a wing bar. Men who are interested enough to ask you out aren't going to be thinking negatively if you greet them looking your best, even if it doesn't fit the restaurant. Of course if you know the restaurant you can d…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 08:35 PM
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The thing is, as much as I hate modern feminism, being a strong, independent woman is still important. The problem is that people often have the wrong idea about what makes someone strong, and you see it "manifested" as toxic, hateful behavior that can ultimately be described as selfish(not in anyway to say that about your mother, and also to add that certain situations require a certain level of callousness and self-before-others and I do NOT think that's wrong of them). But when you're not in …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 03:17 PM
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Isn't it funny how comfortable feminists are with both misogyny and misandry? Almost like they're just a power hungry, authoritarian political group rather than anything they claim to be.
/r/AntiFeminists17/10/20 02:34 PM
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Men are much more problem-solving oriented, less feelings oriented. There is much more expectation for them to be able to brush things off and not dwell on feelings, so keep in mind this is probably not something he has really any experience with. While you might feel like he is scoffing with the "what do you expect me to tell them" question, make sure to recognize that men are very frustrated by problems that do not have clear cut solutions. He does not like seeing you upset, while simultaneous…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 03:08 AM
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Wow that's worse than your post lets on. As for your boyfriend this really falls on his lap. I'm sorry but if they are commonly this rude and disrespectful of you, I don't understand why he would continue to allow them over? He has the capacity to draw a firm line with them. Some people might see this as "picking someone over someone else" but the reality is whether he wanted that situation or not it has already happened. His lack of direct and firm confrontation with his friends has allowed the…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 02:52 AM
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It is fine to assert yourself. You don't have to be rude about it, but when they do things you dislike you can say something like "I don't appreciate x, would you please stop?" No one is a mind reader, if you don't tell them calmly and politely that you dislike something they have no way of knowing. If they continue to be disrespectful afterwards, then you might want to tell your SO(again be calm and simple about it). If marriage is on the table, then he should not be letting his friends walk ov…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 02:34 AM
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Also I've always felt that leaping right to a dinner date is inconsiderate for whomever is paying. That can be a lot of money for something you might know isn't going to work out after 5 minutes. I personally would feel uncomfortable having someone spend $50-60 for the first time we're even meeting. Now obviously you can offer to split the bill, which resolves that partially, but it's still more out of pocket per person than a drink or a coffee might be.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 04:03 PM
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I’m starting to realize my exes cheating, serial lying and inability to take accountability may be related. The demise of all his previous relationships were never his fault. I think you need to be careful with this line of thinking. Yes, he may have had an unstable development but as an adult it is his responsibility to work on himself and be accountable for his actions. I say this as someone who grew up with a severely mentally ill single mother, who was violent and abusive. Yes, that obviousl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 03:55 PM
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Sure, but then they also are shocked when they don't get their way in elections... which is probably more to do with their total inability to understand basic responsibility.
/r/AntiFeminists11/10/20 06:24 PM
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Does your LTR reddit? If this is a situation that bothers her then I'd strongly encourage you to have her share with RPWomen for advice. Based on your explanation she sounds very much like she would enjoy the RPW group and is already fairly trad-con when it comes to relationships. If nothing else it can be a nice place for her to get support and interact with likeminded women. Because it's her mother, it's probably best for you to let her handle the situation rather than you necessarily getting …
/r/askTRP11/10/20 05:51 PM
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The thing I don't understand is it doesn't have the desired effect of making anyone who didn't already agree with you see you positively or want to support you. Not only do the people who do this know that it doesn't strengthen their cause, they relish in the fact that they are "fundamentally pure" of the imagined sins of those they attack. Yet, after excluding everyone else abd giving them good cause to vote against them, they still wonder why they lose elections and don't get their way.
/r/AntiFeminists11/10/20 05:42 PM
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Poor kid... why aren't girls expected to have this level of self control as well? (This is mostly a rhetorical question btw.)
/r/AntiFeminists11/10/20 05:38 PM
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Well even if he is with someone else you can't know without talking to him. As long as you gracefully back off if he is already taken I dont think there's a problem. At the very least it'll be nice to reconnect with someone who has experiences that are similar to your current situation.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 03:46 PM
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I guess it depends. I don't see my husband on the job, so if I was only basing my assumptions off how he behaves at home(a goofy, game loving lump who never talks about work) I would think he wasn't very motivated. His boss lives down the street, so I ended up finding out that he's 100% different at work than what I see at home. Even still he's not hugely career motivated, he does his best at work, but he has many other things that are simply more important to him than being a career man.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 04:00 AM
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Firstly, if they can't be bothered to respond to you in a timely manner then you really need to weigh out the reasons. Is it because they're genuinely that busy or is it just because they're not as interested in fostering a relationship with you? If it's the first then I don't think there's any reason to hold back. It's entirely acceptable to respond quickly and when they're clearly available. If it's the latter I would honestly just stop reaching out, of they want to make the effort again thats…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 11:18 PM
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I hate fitness for fitness sake. I have 0 motivation, and I just can't commit to it. The outcome benefit takes too long to be enough for me to get over how much I hate the process. What I can commit to are activities I like and I'm interested in, like dance and taking my dogs hiking. Perhaps it's the same for your husband? My husband is getting into working out now, and also isn't happy about his body. But growing up his parents really pushed him into things like running and lots of cardio for c…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:54 PM
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Statistically something like 90% of rapes are committed by the same 2% of rapists. Known and proven rapists are almost always serial offenders, it's not a crime that the average criminal engages in. Likewise, most serial criminals know better than to flaunt their criminal behaviors around other people. The other 98% of rapists were either domestic abusers or what are often referred to as "crimes of passion". There's little evidence that these rapists actually thought of what they were doing as r…
/r/AntiFeminists04/10/20 05:44 PM
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He'll want to vet me if he's relationship minded in which case I don't think he's going to be as interested in talking about sex as opposed to values/goals/lifestyle/etc, likewise he won't mind if I state openly that I'm only looking for serious commitment. Otherwise it is about sex and he won't necessarily care about vetting and bringing up sex will derail the purpose of the date. Likewise I do think it makes you look bad to be overly focused on sex when you know basically nothing about them so…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:28 PM
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But it's not the same thing. If I tell the average male about my sexual preferences, they're gonna have a one track mind about it. Regardless of what my actual values are, what they're going to be thinking about is sex and not listening to anything else. They may even feel compelled to ignore things they otherwise wouldn't because I've introduced sex as the value rather than romance/relationship. If I tell the average male what my values and expectations are without mentioning sex, they're much …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 03:07 AM
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My perspective on politicians is that I don't care what their personality is, I just want them to do their job and not to flip flop from what they campaigned on. It's like hiring a plumber, I'll take the one who's rude but does impeccable work over one that's polite but sloppy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 01:24 AM
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Sure, but what purpose does it serve on a first date when you don't know really anything about each other? Would you rather know someone's values or distract them about talking about something you won't be getting down to for awhile. The sex talk can come after you know the more important stuff. It's not even worth bothering with if the person you're meeting doesn't meet any of your life goals(they hate kids vs you love kids, they're very religious and you're not, etc.). Sex is something that ca…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 06:20 PM
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I assume you mean the topic as a conversation? It's probably inappropriate, especially considering that most date settings tend to be rather public. If you have very specific kinks and stuff I think it's more understandable to bring up, but otherwise I'm not even what purpose talking about it would serve.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 09:26 AM
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Exclusive just means that there is a mutual agreement that the two of you are now in a relationship, not just "seeing where this goes". There's no exclusivity(ie established relationship) expected generally on the first couple dates when you're still testing the waters. It leaves the door open for either of you to decline further dates easily and without fuss. It doesn't mean that either of you necessarily is out on the town with a different person every night prior to becoming exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 05:08 AM
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You don't have to specifically avoid it, but it might feel a bit weird if you force topics to come up rather than having a natural conversation. There really isn't a formula of what has to happen on the first date, you're just feeling each other out and getting basic introduction stuff out of the way. My point is simply that if those topics do come up or you really want to ask about them, it's a perfectly normal thing to talk about with someone you're vetting for a potential partnership and shou…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 01:28 PM
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He should be open to the possibility of committing from the first date. That doesn't mean that the date leads anywhere or that he's expected to commit right away. But if you can't talk about your life goals in 5-10 years without him sweating then that means he's not really ready for committing in general. You should be able to discuss things like "I really want kids in the future." without taking that to mean that you want kids right now or even with the person you're talking to. It's a complete…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 03:42 AM
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It means that your relationship with them wasn't building enough respect to overlook little things. No one is perfect, but if you find someone's flaws are driving you nuts and you can't look past them, then it really begs the question how much do you even like them in the first place? This isn't to say they're a bad person, but that they're not necessarily compatible with you, either on the basis of attraction or on their ability to earn your respect.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 03:29 AM
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Be yourself, don't feel pressured to make it work. If it doesn't work that's okay, be kind and polite but save yourself the time and effort and move on. You can't force attraction or respect, you can only foster something that's already there. And if one little thing can change how you feel about someone, then they aren't up to snuff. Make sure you understand your values and lifestyle, and express how important they are too you. If a man is really into hiking and the outdoors, but you'd rather s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 10:25 PM
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I know exactly where you're coming from, I fell into the trap of exactly the same thing when I was younger and didn't really "know what I was doing". I also think as females we really need to step back and think about our romantic relationships in a different way than we would think about other relationships. After all, we naturally are more inclined to talk to our friends about all sort of stuff that bothers us, including social affairs. There's a certain level of maturity that people reach at …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 06:47 PM
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Be proud of your man, talk him up, verbally and nonverbally display your affection and pride in him. The way you talk about, and act in regards to your relationship will be the biggest thing to make people take it seriously. You also need to recognize that you've spent 4 years of setting poor expectations and it's going to take some time to reverse that. They may wonder, or think things like "well they're happy now but I know how their relationship always ends up going", the only thing you can d…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 04:43 PM
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Out of curiosity what are you looking for in a male friendship that you feel you're not getting with your female friends? I do have quite a few male friends because my hobbies are more male dominated, and it's definitely a very different dynamic. I would also definitely say that actual platonic friendship with men is not something a lot of women actually enjoy, whether they admit it or not. Being in a platonic relationship where they're actually comfortable to be their rowdy, not PC, goober selv…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 04:34 PM
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I meant trading as in bartering/trading with neighbors in the community, not necessarily larger-scale trade. But as an example most traditional African markets are run by women, same is true in traditional Mexican markets, and many traditional Asian markets as well. The areas where you are less likely to see women involved in the markets are Islamic countries that don't allow women outside without a male chaperone, and in areas that are mainly corporate/industrial. However, it used to be mostly …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 03:24 PM
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I think it just largely depends, just like there are things the average woman doesn't really care about, there are a lot of things the average man doesn't really care about either. Do I care what brand of tools my husband buys? Not at all. Heck, I couldn't even tell you half of the inventory of his workshop and I know some of the tools in there are $$$. Likewise it doesn't make sense for me to run every decision or option by him, he doesn't care what body wash I get him or what dinners I plan ou…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 02:51 PM
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Actually historically most markets and trading, across most cultures, have been run and dominated by women. It doesn't surprise me that shopping is a task women largely gravitate towards over men. While men would go out to hunt or do hard labor, women primarily handled the domestic affairs which included trading and bartering with one another to get what was needed for their family. But I also agree, men don't tend to show much interest in the small details. While I purposely pick things I think…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 02:40 PM
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Sounds to me like he's genuinely excited to find a girl he can connect with in regards to his hobby. Not drinking is definitely a good plan though!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 07:17 PM
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Well my marriage started out in almost identical circumstances, and while my husband certainly wanted sex, it wasn't his only objective and he had no issues with putting effort into the relationship rather than pressuring for sex. Did you feel pressured for sex or get the impression that he was just gaming you? If not, then while you should still keep an eye out for those types of behaviors, I don't necessarily think you should assume he has bad motives. Also on a side note, a lot of guys really…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 06:25 PM
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Women are still people... they're not going to keep giving you their time and energy for very little in return. Would you continue to spend time thinking about someone, sending them things to make them happy, and trying to initiate when they constantly shut you down and half-ignore you? No, you wouldn't(or at least you shouldn't). Same thing applies to women, you have to give them something of value in order to keep them interested, and like others pointed out unless you have sky high SMV, that'…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 05:29 PM
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This kind of stuff makes me really angry, and sick to my stomach. I spend a lot of time, and as much money as we can afford(and we're not rich) giving back to my community. The utter contempt for the working class in the name of "helping them" is just appalling. A job at Walmart might not mean anything to him, but to a lot of people it's a lifeline and an opportunity they're grateful to have. If he really cared, he'd be out in the community actively making their lives better. Not going "well I k…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:53 PM
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It's the laziest, most self-serving possible way to act like you "care about the working class" while spitting on them. By contrast, when I want to help people, I volunteer and I donate and I offer my time and services so they can have nice things and they can have a break and not have to worry about their next meal, or childcare, or presents for Christmas, or vet care for their animals. I help fund programs in my area that offer free GED programs and career workshops. I don't go "Well really I'…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:47 PM
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Not to mention knowingly receiving stolen goods is criminal.%20Every%20person%20who%20buys,from%20the%20owner%2C%20knowing%20the) OP is now complicit and depending on the value of items she has received could be found guilty and face up to one year in prison according to CA penal code. Since he's been stealing for years, undoubtedly there is more than $950 dollars in stolen goods as well which increases criminal penalties. This is absolutely not a "slap on the wrist" situation like he's trying t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:33 PM
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Firstly that's gross receipts, not actual profit. The actual profit they recieve goes towards things like expanding warehouses, supply chains, new stores, etc. (AKA new jobs which people need) Secondly, when a store has a shrinkage problem they cut staff, freeze or cut store performance bonuses which again affects the working class people who work there the most, and sometimes even just decide to relocate the store. It's not corporate taking the hit, it's the working class people who rely on tho…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:10 PM
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he feels remorse for contributing to inflation and inconveniencing any workers; but not enough to forgo reaping the benefits I'm sorry but he's fully aware that he's causing problems for working class people, and doesn't actually care as long as it lines his pockets... That's absolutely wrong. Those people can lose their jobs, lose bonuses, and lose the opportunity for raises because of people like him, but whatever free IKEA for him is better than the single-parents working several jobs who dep…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:06 PM
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No, a real socialist wouldn't actually make working class people's lives harder/cost them their jobs.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:03 PM
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The joy he gets from eating away at the profits of those exploiting their workers with slave wages. BS. If he cared about the workers, then he wouldn't participate in something that affects things like employee bonuses, number of employees hired, can put locations out of business, and contributes to one of the reasons that employees at the bottom don't get raises/very much in raises. He's not hurting the company, he hurting the employees. Hurting the company would just not giving them your busin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 09:57 PM
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Not to defend IG, because they definitely apply their rules unfairly, but there are also hashtags for eating disorder inspiration and other equally screwed up stuff on their app. It doesn't surprise me that this is allowed considering the amount of pro-anorexics and underage sexual content they allow... It's a very morally challenged company.
/r/AntiFeminists22/09/20 09:43 PM
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Men don't prioritize feelings as much in my experience. It's not that they don't care about you, they just actually don't naturally think that way. While men obviously have emotions as well, they don't hamster the way we do. "Problems require solutions, not sympathy." This is how they show they care, when you are upset or have a problem they want to fix it for you. You on the other hand probably only wanted them to listen to you and express sympathy. Not the best article but this is from the mal…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 01:26 AM
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My degree is poli-sci(had originally planned on law school but changed my mind)and I work in banking. I've never had an issue getting a job, although you may have to be flexible about what career you end up with. Otherwise you need to make a decision now, and work on gaining qualifications over the next year to get you into a specific field.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 01:13 AM
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There's RPW for women... no sense in pointing them to the men's forums.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 07:46 PM
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Why does it matter if hobbies are childish? Growing up doesn't mean that you can't enjoy childish things or that you have to kill off your inner child. My husband and I play video games together, enjoy DND, anime, manga... you know the nerdy-"childish" works. Doesn't make us any less of an adult, we still work hard, pay our bills, do our chores, etc. Who really cares how we relax and let off steam? As long as you are getting enjoyment from it, and you're not harming anyone else then it's not a w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 03:37 PM
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Look, you can say anything you want to say, no matter how horrible it is, and I think adults need to be able to have the self-control not to escalate to physical violence(regardless of gender). In this situation I don't think it matters what she said to him, she had escalated to physical violence earlier and that opened the door for him to rightfully retaliate in force. In short, women and men need to keep their hands to themselves, I don't care what someone says to you or how much it gets under…
/r/AntiFeminists21/09/20 03:09 PM
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Yeah, there are so many other parts of presentation that matter more in my experience. Being well dressed, healthy, and well groomed, confident and positive are probably the major factors and luckily all of them are easy to control. There may be some people that consider things like breasts before anything else, but let's be honest, that's more of a fetish thing and you're not missing out on anything by failing to attract them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 05:09 PM
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A lot of women are starting to "wake up" to the fact that modern feminism is toxic. Especially since the media has gone from "badass" girls to "WAP" type stuff.
/r/AntiFeminists20/09/20 02:11 AM
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I was super, super unhappy and uncomfortable with my 30AA size at your age. And without trying to sound patronizing, getting older really does help with perspective. Firstly, I realised it was never the reason I struggled with men, I struggled with men because my insecurity and lack of confidence got in my way. Secondly, my breasts did get a bit bigger as I got older I didn't really develop breasts until around 24-25 and I was a 32B by then so you may just still be growing and not realise it. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 07:39 PM
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To bad Brandon doesn't like kegs hun...
/r/AntiFeminists19/09/20 07:29 PM
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A lot of women are naturally caregivers, however feminism has taught a lot of women that this is a bad trait and to be ashamed of it. There are also many people that treat human interaction as transactional, including many people on this sub as an example. "Women get your time if they give you sex, otherwise next them" is a common sentiment, and I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with that so long as you're honest about it. Likewise, that type of behavior isn't going to go very far…
/r/askTRP19/09/20 07:27 PM
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I know where you're coming from. There are some things you can practice that aren't even necessarily "RPW" for starters to help. It sounds like you let stress get the best of you, and redirect that stress in ways that you know isn't okay. For this I'd recommend finding stuff that helps with stress, practicing meditation is something great, it doesn't have to take a long time and there are lots of free guided meditation sessions on youtube that beginners can try. While it will not solve your prob…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 06:00 PM
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No problem. Another thing I'll add, good men have good friends. Your friends are a reflection of your values--to a certain extent, for example I have friends from different places on the political spectrum however we all hold the same value structure even if we apply it differently to our understanding of the world. A good man will have friends who are also good people, and they should treat you with a similar level of respect as your man does.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 04:07 PM
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Close almost codependent dynamics Dependance or reliance upon one another I would say RPW theory actually argues against codependence. We are not here to enable bad habits, a core tenet is developing oneself independently before engaging in relationships, and having a firm sense of personal identity. As for dependance or reliance... shouldn't everyone want a partner they can rely on? I don't think that's unique to RPW. Likewise, RPW stresses not to rely on your partner to do things you can do fo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 02:26 AM
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I have a lot of male friends(my husband and I play MMOs with a group of mostly other guys) and we know quite a few of them from real life. I met most of them prior to getting married, and not a single one of them is condescending or misogynistic towards me. Even my husband lets me fight my own battles because he knows that it's my preference unless I specifically ask for his help. If they're making you uncomfortable, then they're not good friends. Tell them in no uncertain terms what you dislike…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 01:10 AM
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She can get paid just as much, if not more, than a man easily. She just needs to enter a STEM field and then negotiate her salary instead of just accepting what she offered. She also should not take more time off for maternity leave than a few months, staying home for several years will let your peers surpass you. And she needs to be willing to put work and her career first. If she does that she'll easily make the same if not more than her male peers. If she chooses to "follow her heart" and mak…
/r/AntiFeminists17/09/20 08:07 PM
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Please don't take this the wrong way but why should you care what a bunch of miserable harpies thinks about FTM guys? Feminism has little to no purpose in the Western world anymore, almost all of their goals/missions either based on lies(the gender pay gap) or are straight up sexist/bigoted(like women "can't rape"/blocking proposed discussions about male suicide for international men's day/ etc). They ignore actual misogyny in places like the middle east and in cultures that are "oppressed" beca…
/r/AntiFeminists17/09/20 06:10 PM
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Wait, is she currently pregnant with your second child? Yes, pregnancy hormones do make women highly emotional which can make them harder to deal with. This post is lacking too much information for me to know what is happening. "She wants to stop but can't"... well was she like this prior to pregnancy? If so then it's a character trait, if not then it might honestly be the hormones. A woman will produce more estrogen during one pregnancy than throughout her entire life when not pregnant. Now eve…
/r/askTRP17/09/20 04:43 PM
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So your boyfriend clearly made a stupid decision, which by the sounds of it he was upfront with you about earlier in your relationship. I don't think that's something to hold against him now, people are not infallible and even wonderful, brilliant people sometimes make terrible decisions. What is important now is how that decision is dealt with, ultimately I think the responsible thing to do is to step up and take the paternity test and if the child is his for him to willingly take responsibilit…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 03:48 PM
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I agree with where you are coming from, however I also have seen an uptick in people coming for advice on improving their relationship, describing the issue, and then comments saying to "break up" even when that was clearly not an option that the woman asking was considering. Even if from the post I might think the guy deserves a "next" if the woman isn't considering it, then I don't think it's helpful of me to push that onto her. To a certain extent I think it's important that people come to th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 03:11 PM
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I don't work in childcare by any stretch of the imagination(although some of my clients at work certainly act like children xD), however I know exactly where you are coming from! For all of my early 20s I honestly thought that it would be a negative to admit that I like children to men. It wasn't until I got a puppy with my now-husband, that I realised that being maternal is very important and intrinsic to me. I didn't mind months of getting up in the middle of the night so our puppy could relie…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 02:46 PM
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CBT was also recommended to me by a therapist to help with my OCD, so I can confirm it's absolutely a valid suggestion. It doesn't work for everything, but it's a great tool for anxiety disorders!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 05:59 PM
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Marriage Market Value, as opposed to Sexual Market Value. It's also sometimes used synonymously with Romantic Market Value. Basically how much a man will value you as marriage material vs just sexually attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:10 AM
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Also a lot of orthodontics actually does improve things like headaches, teeth grinding, and long term dental health... it's not only cosmetic.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:08 AM
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I'm sorry but excuse me? You're making a lot of assumptions about my marriage that are honestly pretty insulting. I'm sorry that your experience is so poor that you assume that men are always going to cheat on you and basically steal your joint savings unless they "spoil" you(and what does that even mean?). Also just because he likes that I'm frugal doesn't have anything to do with him caring for me or my "needs" not being met... as an example spending $60 at a nail salon to get something I coul…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:03 AM
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I certainly haven't noticed any damage, and before COVID I was wearing them to work every day. Since they stick to the liner they don't get stuck to your actual lashes. They don't move around either, but you can lightly tug and they'll come right off(which is nice if you feel the need to reposition them).
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 12:09 AM
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Wait I thought "WAP" was super feminist?
/r/AntiFeminists15/09/20 10:40 PM
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All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.
/r/AntiFeminists15/09/20 10:12 PM
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Why? He and I feel the same about it. There are more important things in life than spending lots of money on things, and I don't think there's any shame in being frugal. I'd be upset if he started spending a lot of money on superficial things as well. We'd rather save for retirement, send our children to private school, go on nice vacations, etc than spend additional money on our appearances. Likewise, he's proud that he has a wife that is good with money, and I know he brags to his friends abou…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 09:23 PM
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I actually like my glamnetic ones the best, I bought a pack when they were on sale and they're soft and light. That said, don't bother with their non-liquid liner because the gel liner just isn't very good. I also suggest applying the magnetic liner over your normal liner(helps to use less of it) and make sure you give it like 2 min to dry before applying the lashes, for whatever reason every magnetic liner I've tried takes a long time to dry down.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 08:23 PM
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I agree with this. My husband is very pleased by my frugal upkeep, and would actually be upset if I was spending lot of money on my appearance regularly. I dye my own hair, do my own nails(taught myself acrylic and gel using youtube), exercise at home or in the park, eat well, about the only thing I spend extra money on is good hair products and good skin products, even most of my makeup is drugstore. I also really like the magnetic falsies, they're easy to use and you can maintain them and get …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 06:03 PM
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Also blonde can be really damaging especially if you have dark hair naturally. No matter what color it is, no one is going to like frizzy, dry, and lots of breakage. Nothing wrong in my opinion with accentuating your color, or changing it if that's your personal preference. But I don't think you should dye it just because you think it might attract more men, if it's not something you want to do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 04:41 PM
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I disagree on the blond hair. Long, healthy, well-styled hair matters much more than color. Healthy muscle tone, good makeup techniques, dressing better are all going to be simple things that boost how you look. There's also a matter of self-esteem, if you clearly look like you're uncomfortable or have low self-esteem, people are going to subconsciously pick up on it and avoid you over someone who is confident.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 04:28 PM
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I know this post was removed but I figured I'd answer it here as opposed to TRP since women aren't supposed to comment there. Personally I don't think the government should be involved in the business of marriage at all, including my own marriage. Marriage is fundamentally an institute of religion, and in my opinion the only authority that should have any say in marriage is the church(temple/mosque/synagogue/etc). I do not think non-religious people should get "married" as the vows and covenant …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 08:03 PM
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It's not a big deal to me because my husband doesn't watch porn, nor do I. That said I would find it disrespectful with him watching other women for sexual pleasure and I would expect him to feel similarly if roles were reversed. There is one exception that I did tell him. If there are any fantasies or things he wants to try, I am fine with him showing me porn clips of those things. Ultimately I am fine with trying new things, and some things just are much more simple to figure out with a visual…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:03 PM
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Oh god, I don't think I have a copy anymore. The computer I had it on has long since died and been replaced. But here's just some resources that you can look into(they're actually kind of hard to find because most of the resources are from a feminist perspective and are manipulated to get the results they want. How the police will treat you and your report process: https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/rsa/rape-and-sexual-assault/what-happens-after-you-report-rape-or-sexual-ass…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 03:23 AM
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For me personally? That if someone sexually assaults you, the police and authorities won't believe you and will judge you(so you basically shouldn't bother). "What were you wearing?" is used to help find possible witnesses, find the victim on CCTV or other camera footage, etc, IT IS NOT THEM JUDGING THE VICTIM. There's actually completely valid reasons for all the common questions, and it's to help the police do their job so they can catch the criminal. That was the bombshell that I discovered w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 02:32 AM
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Gotcha, I didn't see this thread until today and it was already gone by then so I figured that might have been it. Just like others were saying we do have plenty of lefties here, and most posts have nothing to do with politics so you shouldn't have issues. If you do the mods are good about it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 09:29 PM
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It does look like a bunch of comments were removed, so I'm not sure if that was what you meant but the mods are generally pretty good here.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 09:21 PM
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I am conservative, which I'll openly admit. But your life and my life are different, so we're not going to want the same things all the time and there's nothing wrong with that. I also recognize that most liberal do want the same things as conservatives, you just have a different theory about how to reach those goals than we do(and that's predominately what the disagreement is). Besides politics really doesn't come into the discussions all that often since the sub is about dating and marriage, n…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 08:06 PM
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Sure, it's possible but it's not going to be easy to find them. And more importantly even if you do find them a lot of guys who are liberal but not far-left are going with the flow and think they have to mimic/ say certain things(like feminism) in order to not get called sexist or whatnot by their peers. I am politically conservative, so it's not hard to find men who want to be seen and treated and act like MEN within my side of the political spectrum. However, there are still effeminate or deli…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 08:01 PM
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I think the "lower your standards" bit really applies towards women who have been dating and have been unable to find an LTR. There is nothing wrong with having standards, but if someone has been unsuccessful in finding potential LTRs after 5-10 years of dating then there's something else going on, like unrealistic expectations or impossible standards. By your own admission you've not really been on the market so I don't think you should assume there's anything wrong with your standards just yet…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 02:48 PM
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I would only say it's a gendered issue because society has instilled in men a false sense of security, which is probably why men are far more likely to be victims of crimes like mugging and armed robbery. Yet women are appropriately taught to be cautious of situations like this(and then taught by the feminist narrative that using good judgment, that men should also be taught, is just a sign of sexism).
/r/AntiFeminists21/08/20 03:29 AM
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I agree with this. My hubby has ADHD, and in a lot of ways some of his behaviors are difficult to deal with and I'm sure some people would be like"why put up with that?" (he does not medicate anymore because in college he abused his medication and decided he couldn't trust himself not to do so again). But really, that's not the end-all-be-all of who he is. Do I get annoyed when he gets distracted mid sentence and doesn't finish his thought? Sure, I'm only human too. But like most of his other AD…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 03:00 AM
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I have a couple bento cookbooks, and there's a wealth of those recipes on youtube as well. Many of them are very cute, very diverse, and all intended to be eaten at room temperature! I definitely suggest looking into bento recipes.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 02:33 AM
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I also have a parent that is beyond difficult and unreasonable. As important as family relationships are, sometimes you have to put up boundaries for your own sake. It's very difficult, but follow your heart on what's best for you and your family, not on how best to appease your father.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 07:09 PM
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Sure, but still better off being polite than skipping it just because it's silly. Especially involving in-laws, if for no other reason to try to reduce friction. Based of what happened, if her father hadn't been difficult at this step it sound like he still would've dragged his feet and been difficult in regards to other things. Ultimately, she wanted advice about how to deal with her father, questioning her partner's attempt to be polite really isn't helpful at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 07:06 PM
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I agree it's not necessary, but in many parts it's just considered the polite thing to do. I don't see anything wrong with him attempting to bring her parents on board by asking. It shouldn't be something that stops them though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 06:57 PM
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I agree that it's something that can only be fixed "from within". I think that's true for almost all cultural, community issues. White trash has their own problems, and they're the only ones who can fix those problems for themselves as an example.
/r/AntiFeminists19/08/20 05:02 PM
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I remember people getting mad that Donald Glover is married to a white woman(mind you these were not white people upset over this), and then there were people defending him like "you had your chance but pass up people like him for being "weird" or "nerdy". A lot of my black friends were sharing that, and ut was really the first time I realized that the "black community" has this issue. I also was totally shocked that interracial marriage was being talked about so negatively, I didn't think most …
/r/AntiFeminists19/08/20 04:58 PM
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I think this prediction has more to do with birth rates by demographic than racial traits. White/European/Caucasians are having far fewer kids than the other demographics. Now that said, I'm pretty sure they're separating Hispanic/Latino from white to get these numbers even though many of them have European roots as well, and are actually considered to be a white ethnicity. (I don't know the breakdown of how this is all determined, but we have to do questionnaires at my job for purposes of gover…
/r/AntiFeminists19/08/20 04:50 PM
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I'm not black, but I am what would be considered "nerdy" and I have heard basically every black person involved with the same hobbies share this sentiment at least once. The idea of me telling someone they're not "white" because they don't like the same things I grew up with is so absurd to me it'd be funny if it didn't also make me sad for people who get pigeonholed into certain things by their own community. Like why is it a problem for people to be individuals? That's something that only the …
/r/AntiFeminists19/08/20 04:38 PM
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I just said "toxic standards" I didn't say anything about drugs or violence. There are a lot of things that are toxic, such as the objectification and sexualization of black women, not talking or reading in standard English, not allowing for diversity of interests(such as art, "nerdy" hobbies, education, etc.) Let's take common themes in country music as an example of something typically thought of as "white" versus common themes in rap. Country music is more likely to romantically idealize rela…
/r/AntiFeminists19/08/20 04:19 PM
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It's certainly idolized by things that most black people claim is "black culture", such as rap and hip-hop music, and fashion. I agree with you that it's definitely street/hood culture, but it's also true that other demographics are specifically told they're not "allowed" or "authentic". And it's very common for black people to try and force others to conform by saying they're "not black enough" if they don't emulate those toxic standards.
/r/AntiFeminists19/08/20 02:24 PM
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I'm a tee shirt and jeans gal, and my husband only notices when I wear green(his favorite color) even when I dress up more... I will note that he doesn't really care much about his own fashion either, as long as he's clean and presentable. Some men care, some don't.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 03:47 AM
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Exactly. I'm not saying it would never work, but it also carries the risk of going from bad to life threatening depending on the criminal involved. Since you can't possibly know their reaction, and you have to assume that they're already willing to hurt you based on the situation it's within reason that they're also willing to kill you. People do get killed for fighting back, i had a male friend who was murdered by muggers because "he fought back" according to their confession.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 12:53 AM
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Okay... then compete against males. Solves the trans issue too if we're not going to separate by gender anymore. I mean, there might not be anymore scholarships or opportunities left for women, but hey we don't need those gender roles. I'm sure it'll prove women are athletically equal to men!
/r/AntiFeminists13/08/20 12:05 AM
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Because if you cannot stop the attack, pissing them off is only going to make it worse for you. As messed up as it is, if you're within feet of an attacker with no reliable way to actually stop them, then the last thing you want is to further provoke them. Obviously the best thing to do is avoid being in dangerous situations in the first place, but like the situation in the post thats not necessarily always easy(afterall no reasonable person would expect a criminal to be at their property). Ther…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 11:49 PM
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Not the same person but yes they train you on "stopping the target" in self defense classes. They will discuss aiming for the torso, not because you want to kill the person, but because it is the largest target and the most likely to succeed in stopping them. I personally carry a Sig p238, which is a fan favorite among a lot of CCW ladies. However, it's a bit on the pricey side and some people aren't a fan of hammer fired pistols, preferring striker fire guns like glocks. What you will want to l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:49 PM
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Ladies nights are always a lot of fun! A lot of the gals at our range shoot competitively and they're just really cool people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:39 PM
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No, think about the distance at which you can use it. By that point, as a woman, you are just risking enraging your assailant rather than realistically being able to flee. With a firearm, you equalize yourself as a threat and can prevent them from coming near you through deterrence, often without having to use the firearm at all. Someone may weight the risk of pepper spray and charge you, but they're much less likely to do so if you have a gun. And in the event they still choose to come at you, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:37 PM
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I conceal carry, and my husband does as well. Theres nothing that will equalize a dangerous situation like a gun. Pepper spray, tazers, batons, knives, rape sirens, etc can actually just enrage an attacker more making the situation worse(especially if they're on certain substances). Not to mention most only function if you are within an unsafe distance of the threat. A firearm doesn't have these risks. That said, gun safety and knowing how to properly use and maintain a firearm are musts. Even i…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:32 PM
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Sure... but I assure you that's not the case with the vast majority of the women who are complaining. I literally see "he's trying but I just don't care anymore" or "how dare he ask me questions or want any input" or "he got advice from the other fathers at work and I hate all the advice". Most of it is really just misandry, and it's so commonplace that people don't even step back and consider that by their own admission their partners are trying and have no way to read minds about why their spo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 08:44 PM
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I'm sorry that you made the choice to cheat, but you need to tell him and you need to accept the consequences. If you are feeling suicidal please seek help, but it is absolutely not something you can use as leverage against him. Simply put that would be abusive.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 02:24 AM
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I'm going to jump in and also answer this bit. My husband and I have never focused on exactly who is paying what, everything is joint and it's all our money. So who reached for the check makes no difference, there is a lack of surprise with gifts because obviously both of us can see the charges pop up on the bank statement in real time but overall it's not an issue. As for who provides and how much, we're both currently working full time however I would like to transition to SAHM once our baby i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 10:40 PM
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Obviously it's not as emotionally charged for me, but at least in my experience myself and most women don't particularly enjoy having periods either... certainly not something we want to be proud of... Also the idea that men are repulsed by women over periods and that somehow being sexist is ridiculous. Every guy I dated was just like "oh okay" when I said things like "I'm not feeling well because of period cramps so I want to stay in". Really the stupidity of the pro-bleeders is just something …
/r/AntiFeminists02/08/20 01:56 PM
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But I'm not saying to be proud of the organs... I'm saying that women can be proud of their effort involved in the process(ie all the extra stuff we do to try and ensure the best outcone). I've said this multiple times in multiple ways. I never once said anything like "wow uteruses are just so amazing, I'm so special!". I repeatedly talked about the additional effort women go through to have healthy babies, that is exclusive to women.
/r/AntiFeminists02/08/20 01:26 PM
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You had no hand in it. People don't magically get pregnant... I actually had quite a lot to do with getting pregnant, same with my husband. Out of the two of us, I'm also the only one that has to be careful about my diet for over a year, adjust my exercise, go to work despite morning sickness(which lasts all day), and deal with all sorts of nerve pains and discomfort which also affect my ability to sleep. I'm not even complaining, I'm happy to do it... but it's definitely hard and it's definitel…
/r/AntiFeminists02/08/20 12:12 AM
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Then we're talking about intrinsically different points.
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/20 04:28 PM
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Right but I was specifically saying that women can be proud of bearing children, I wasn't talking about just having the bodily function.
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/20 03:14 PM
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Except making children requires me to do a bunch of things, I suppose I could risk my health and the baby's health and not do those things... but it's a bit dumb to act like humans go about the mating process the same way as animals do. I have to go over a year carefully monitoring my diet and exercise, when breastfeeding I may have to stay on an even stricter elimination diet for the baby's health. And even doing everything in my control does not mean I may not develop life threatening complica…
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/20 02:46 PM
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I agree with you on that.
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/20 02:38 PM
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Right, but if so why choose to get pregnant with them? A lot of the women complaining are also open about the fact it was a planned pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 02:37 PM
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Ehhh I think women can be proud of bearing children. Not condescending and crazy about it, but it's still an amazing bodily function that we have and choose despite the fact that it can be very dangerous. That said, I have no idea how I'd manage without my husband. He's been great and he's very much an equal part of the whole process.
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/20 03:08 AM
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Yay for winter babies!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 10:29 PM
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Honestly, I see this mindset in various pregnancy forums and it genuinely breaks my heart for the baby boys who are going to be subjected to it. Or even just the women who are constantly bad mouthing their partners, talk about how emotionally they hate them now, etc... I really detest those posts, but I see them regularly... there's absolutely no appreciation for the fathers by these women, also if you hate them so much why did you actively try for a baby(through most of their own admissions)? I…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 06:39 PM
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Why would trashy women particularly care though? That's already the demographic they end up with 9 times out of 10 anyways.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 10:18 PM
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But someone would fuck them... Most girls don't have to improve themselves to get sex. They might not land 10s but they'll still get laid if they want to.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 10:05 PM
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loathe: Also the dishes for me, although folding clothes always seems incredibly tedious when I'm doing that(no joke 99% of our closet is hanging just so I can avoid folding.) I do like the rest of the laundry cycle though. I love mopping( and yes, I completely use this as an excuse to "figure skate" around my house blast music and generally spend probably more time being silly than actually doing the chore.) Sweeping and vacuuming are in the same category because I can largely be silly and danc…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 05:21 PM
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My dad said that watching little kids playing was the eye-opener for him about how different girls and boys are. He was talking about me at daycare at like age 2, and he'd come to pick me up and the boys would be chasing each other trying to kick each other and the girls would be sitting and playing politely, and no one made any child play with any particular group we just naturally split along gender lines. I started feeling like being girly, or being praised for my choices(pink, dolls, playing…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 02:48 AM
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Agreed. I'm conservative on pretty much all spectrums, so I definitely know where you're coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/20 05:24 PM
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I just don't want anyone who is moderately left to feel like I'm accusing their demographic. I haven't had any interactions with moderates that rubbed me the wrong way, left or right. Afterall conservative/traditional values at home, don't necessarily mean someone must be politically conservative.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/20 05:13 PM
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Honestly the only people I ever felt judged by were women who were politically what you might call progressives. I know this is not a political sub, and I'm not trying to make any jabs, but generally the women in my family who were more moderate were perfectly happy for us kids to do whatever we wanted so long as no one got hurt. I always knew it was a compliment when my dad called me cute, and would pick out beautiful flouncy pink dresses for me. My politically charged family members on the oth…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/20 03:49 PM
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Church is a great place if you're looking for available religious men, I also suggest community outreach volunteering, and group events that are not specifically centered around dating. Things like : salsa nights at local bars, rock climbing groups, DND(for nerds like me), etc. It's hard right now due to COVID, but I think any group activity built around a mutual interest rather than for the sole purpose of dating works really well. Not only does it give you something fun to do and keep you busy…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 03:39 PM
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The only exceptions to this that I haven't felt uncomfortable with were either the same friend group but not close(just civil for the sake of everyone else), or this one time where he and his ex who grew up together as childhood friends, dated for like a week in middle school said it was the most awkward and terrible idea(she later came out as lesbian)... Really didn't mind that at all since they very much had the bro vibe together, and you could genuinely tell they were grossed out by the memor…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/20 03:56 PM
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Depends where you are in the US. But I would say that I noticed the same thing when I went to the UK for uni... I just felt like there were a bunch of trashier girls who might have been 8s but ruined their looks with some garish, wannabe LA looks and it was horrific. The rest of the girls were just very plain imho.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 04:05 PM
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I am also 5'6". I have always been a bit taller than average when it comes to girls and never had that "storybook" height difference. That said, I've never had people around who were rude enough or misguided enough to make it an issue. I think you've had some bad influences around, because ultimately there's not issue and it has nothing to do with femininity or masculinity. My aunt is taller than my uncle and they've had a happy, healthy relationship for 45 years now. The only time they bring up…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 03:40 PM
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Here's my feelings on it. So long as we allow culture to excuse people's bad decisions and excuse them from the consequences then how can people ever really grow up? If everyone was jumping off a cliff would you jump off too? We hear this from the time we are small kids, it's on posters in classrooms, it's reinforced over and over again when people are growing up. But recently it's become acceptable to treat the behaviors of young adults as if they were children and to shelter them from the cons…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 12:46 AM
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I have picked slow and steady, and I don't need to be rich or famous to be happy. I don't have a problem with people who make the other choices, we all deal with our own lives and our own consequences. I can only control my life, and I find no value in judging others for their choices. That said, I wholeheartedly detest the idea that society or culture makes anyone do anything, it may be a factor but it doesn't remove someone's responsibility or agency.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 12:33 AM
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Credit where credit is due. She just admitted that she was being hypocritical and addressed that, which is good enough for me. Based on what she's said while the content was hypocritical I believe that her experiences are something she's still coming to terms with, and I'll give her the benefit of the doubt because those experiences are undoubtedly going to show you the worst of people.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 12:06 AM
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Nope, she just responded to my comment saying that it's okay that she sold porn because it was for money. But it's not okay for girls to post content on instagram because they're doing it for free.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 11:32 PM
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You were still responding to me after people had started asking you about your OnlyFans account. So let me get this straight... it's okay to objectify yourself for money, but not for your own personal pleasure? Am I understanding that correctly?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 11:31 PM
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The lack of male role models, namely fathers, has been shown to increase criminal behavior, limit academic achievement, and increase mental illness primarily in boys. These are not outcomes that being judgmental or puritanical fixes and there is a lot of research around the negative outcomes of fatherless homes. I apologize because I was unclear, I was acknowledging your point that fatherless homes create problems for young men, however I disagree that the primary issue is "crass behavior" or th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 10:57 PM
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I find it interesting that she felt the need to try and dig through my history to get the upper hand on me, and I acknowledged it. But she's completely ignoring people asking about her post history since then. I'm beginning to wonder if this is a troll or something.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 10:39 PM
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Interesting that she complains about her boyfriend watching porn occasionally, while she sells nudes and porn online according to her onlyfans account. I'm beginning to wonder if this is a troll?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 10:29 PM
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The thing is, I advocate for teaching children good morals and impressing on them how I would want them to behave. Which yes, means that I would not want my daughter to be hyper-sexual on instagram or my son to be rude towards women... But once they are adults, those are choices they get to make for themselves. It's no longer my place to monitor and control their behavior, it's now their turn to learn the real world consequences for themselves. My judgment of their behavior isn't going to be as …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 10:17 PM
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Here's my issue with your argument, it's that you're trying to sum up other women's actions to the influence of society and in doing so you remove and diminish their responsibility and personal agency, as if they are not fully in control of themselves. Your basis for your criticism is not that these women have expressed discontent, but that you personally disprove such behaviors. If you want to discuss the deeper issues with social media then focus on that, you can do that without essentially sh…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 10:08 PM
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If you want to point out logical fallacies or logical inconsistencies with hyper-sexual culture, be my guest. That would be exactly in line with what I do on fatlogic. However, that's not what you're doing. You are trying to take a moral high-ground and judge people for making their own decisions that ultimately have nothing to do with you, other than the fact that you disagree with those actions and think that they should be eradicated from society. It wasn't like the point of this post was tha…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 09:27 PM
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I completely agree that a lack of proper male role models has created undesirable effects in behavior, particularly in young men. That said, what do you define as "unacceptable behaviors"? If everyone participating is a consenting adult, which is true for the most part, why is it our job to step in as the culture police and act puritanical about it? I will always advocate standing up for yourself when you have been personally wronged or do not like something, but given the response to my comment…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 09:15 PM
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Prostitution is called the world's oldest profession for a reason. Plenty of evidence exists that show humans have always been highly sexual, it actually wasn't until the Victorian era when modesty became more commonplace. Sure, the methods have changed, but once again no one is a slave to society. It's absurd to imply that people don't have the free will or intelligence to make their own decisions. why do these strangers deserve to behold that side of ourselves? I’m all about celebrating beauty…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 09:05 PM
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I’ve seen smart, creative, lively women in my life reduce themselves down to nothing but bikini photos of their asses on Instagram because they know it’ll get the most attention. ​ That's their choice though isn't it? If they want to get attention and use their sexuality to do so, no one is forcing them that's entirely their decision. While that's not something I would do, I don't understand why the implication is that smart or creative or lively women can't or shouldn't desire sexual attention.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 08:27 PM
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Yes, but it's pretty brutal. They basically break your legs in several places and then force the bones to heal "longer"... probably not worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/20 09:12 PM
1

I'm sure they're recruiting participants for studies about things like this if you actually want to join a study. Sexual and cultural research has increased by quite a bit in the last few years.
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 07:46 PM
1

Sexual interactions have changed drastically in the last 50 years, wanting to study its effects on the population isn't just about personal bias, are you not at all interested to know what effects changes in social interactions and society at large are having on the population? As an example of an different change, there are a lot of studies about outcomes of childhood development and technology, effect of social media on happiness and contentment levels, etc that are all just trying to see how …
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 07:42 PM
2

Nothing is making you stay and respond. I don't have any power over what you choose to do...
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 07:34 PM
1

How can you determine it's a bad argument without any facts? How can you use opinion pieces about an unrelated issue(should you or your partner care about "body count") which are only argued on the basis of feelings as confirmation that studying something is not worth doing? If you want to bring up flaws with the statistics, that actually indicate an issue with the study then please do. Claiming it's not even worth doing a study in the first place because you don't agree with the outcome is just…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 07:31 PM
1

I'm not civil because i won't attack the argument I'll attack the one arguing it for arguing it because it's not a worthwhile argument. So ignoring our debate, does this mean you're just 100% certain that your opinion is always correct and that you never need to have facts? I know that I'm wrong all the time, I debate for the sake of learning not for "winning". Maybe there are actual great studies out there that back your position, and honestly I'd like to see them if you know of any, I couldn't…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 07:14 PM
1

I never said that it makes people unhappy and unable to find a stable relationship. I said that it correlates with those things, and I also said that the studies could be wrong, if I remember correctly you said yourself that correlation doesn't necessarily mean causation. As for the civility part, do you think that being rude is going to make your position look better? Do you think it's going to inspire people to take you seriously or want to understand your positions? If I spoke to you the way …
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:58 PM
1

the constant judging from karens like you. Body count isn't the issue people are. Primarily people like you. ​ You literally created imagined judgment, applied it to yourself, and then told me that is the real problem. I never once said anything in judgment of you other than observing that you're acting angry(which you are) and that your primary argument is that the studies don't count, what counts is how they make you feel. That's not a counter-argument. I may not be happy about the daily limit…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:52 PM
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Then learn to debate better. Next time maybe have some real resources and some civility... You still haven't made any actual rebuttal other than: Calling names Claiming that the problem is people hurting your "feelings" Not providing any actual studies in support of your claims, or that counter my position(an opinion piece on feelings with no connection to anything I actually said from a random, unrecognizable online page is hardly "evidence")
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:36 PM
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Why do you care so much about what other people think? I don't care what anyone's body count is, nor have I ever actually asked anyone. Why is your happiness so dependant on what other people might think about you? No offense, but you're never going to get everyone on your side, is it really worth getting upset over?
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:28 PM
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No, you're offended. I have stated multiple times that you can live the way you want, but the research shows declining happiness and marriage outcomes for women with multiple sexual partners. I also stated that the statistics could be wrong, that it's correlation, and yet you're taking it personally.(Seriously, go back and look I said these things multiple times) You're acting like I'm dooming you and others to unhappiness. I don't think you need marriage or long-term relationships to be happy, …
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:24 PM
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Okay... this is a good article about not judging others. But has absolutely nothing to do with happiness, satisfaction, and divorce rates and their correlations to multiple sexual partners. I don't disagree that you shouldn't judge people for a body count, never said once that you should do so. But this article still has absolutely nothing to do with the points I made.
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:17 PM
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Sigh... do you have any resources or rational argument to counter my points or are just simply going to call people names and use your personal offense as the reason you're correct?
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:11 PM
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I don't see how that's manipulation. You've been cursing and calling me names(which makes you seem like you're angry and trying to shame me into agreement.) I don't really appreciate being spoken to that way, and I don't see how it's manipulative to mention. I don't think people should feel ashamed of their number of sexual partners, like I said if that's what you want to do then by all means go for it. That doesn't mean I'm going to act like it may not cause issues. For example, I don't care if…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 06:02 PM
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I'm a married woman so it's not my problem lol. I only said it's a theory and that the correlation exists, it's bizarre to me that so many people are getting upset over that. You don't have to believe it or find any value in the numbers, and that's perfectly fine. Doesn't mean the numbers don't exist, and that it might be something with negative effects. Also you can get experience in the bedroom without multiple partners... in fact you don't need multiple partners to achieve anything sexually. …
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 05:50 PM
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I'm just stating the studies. They could be wrong, but I can understand why they show a correlation between high numbers of sexual partners decreases satisfaction and happiness. Having more partners is also linked to higher rates of divorce, which does suggest there's a correlation. "having multiple sex partners prior to marriage sometimes leads to less happy marriages, and increases the odds of divorce... The highest five-year divorce rates of all are associated with marrying in the 2000s and h…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 05:16 PM
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Some people would rather defend the reason for their misery than question why they refuse to change, when they see other people are happier or more successful. What they don't realise is there's no shame in having made mistakes, everyone makes mistakes at some point or another.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/20 04:09 PM
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Yes, but human evolution takes longer than that to change. Which is the theory behind the declining mental health and happiness reported by women, especially among those with high numbers of sexual partners. I'm not saying there aren't women who are 100% fine with it, but those people are the outliers. The majority of women are less happy when they have lot of sexual partners, whereas there is no impact in happiness for men. Also you don't have to have a lot of partners to have a lot of sex, you…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 03:19 PM
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I'm just talking about the research that shows declining happiness in women who have a lot of sexual partners. Which from a biological standpoint makes sense as sex is a much riskier activity for women than it is for men. It makes sense that most women are less fulfilled with lots of sexual partners versus very committed partners. I'm not condoning men who do what you said. I'm just pointing out the reality that the child is a burden for the mother, less so for the father, if they are not in a c…
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 03:10 PM
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I'm not sure I follow? When we're talking about biology you have to remember that for the vast majority of human evolution and history birth control was not available, so there was no advantage for a woman to be promiscuous, meanwhile there is no real issue for men being promiscuous as they're not going to get pregnant and have a child that physically depends on them for years. It's not crazy to see how that would have affected men and women to have different sexual needs.
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 03:03 PM
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Nope. Men are biologically inclined to "spread their seed" as much as possible, while it's always been more advantageous for women to get commitment and a dedicated partner rather than lots of partners.
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 01:45 PM
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I think you need to leave her alone. I was a lot like your daughter from what you described and when I was younger I was so sick of my "controlling" mother that I pushed back super hard on the kind of person she wanted me to be. I know you only want the best for her, but she probably doesn't understand that yet. The best thing I think you can do is let her discover herself and find out what kind of person she wants to be, that may be totally different from you but if that's what makes her happy …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/20 01:10 PM
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Studies show that particularly women who have had multiple sexual partners have a harder time feeling satisfied and happy in relationships. I wish I had a link to the study, but it did show reduced positive outcomes for women(the higher the "body count" the worse off the outcome in pair bonding usually.) I don't really think it's surprising, biologically there is no good reason for a woman to be promiscuous, in fact the only reason it's common now is the feminist lie that "men and women are the …
/r/AntiFeminists15/07/20 12:41 PM
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"A born-again virgin, is a person who, after having engaged in sexual intercourse, makes some type of commitment not to be sexually active again until marriage, whether for religious, moral, practical, or other reasons, and is subsequently considered by some a virgin." -Wikipedia ​ So I guess whore epiphany is a great way to describe that?
/r/askTRP15/07/20 01:52 AM
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I will always advocate that this is a purely situational decision. If you're in an LTR with someone, and past trauma is negatively affecting the relationship then no one should feel like they must continue the relationship. Why? It's not because I do not feel for people with PTSD, but I am not qualified to care for them and that is something they need to work on as an individual. If you're in an LTR with someone, and they have past trauma that they have worked through and it is not affecting the…
/r/askTRP13/07/20 07:32 PM
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Okay that sounds like you're getting awful guys. What kind of guy is getting into a relationship with someone they apparently don't find attractive? Do you not find that bizarre and insulting? Ditch them, they're clearly cretins for making those kinds of remarks. If you have the body type you claim you do, then you're plenty high SMV for most men. Guys who don't appreciate that are either into something incredibly unrealistic, or should never have asked you out in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 06:08 PM
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I mean if you're happy with your body, and you have a curvy shape, what exactly are you trying to achieve? A lot of the instagram models are edited and use plastic surgery to create that "thicc" look, but it's not necessarily attractive to a lot of men. If you really want to gain thicker legs then the best way to do that naturally is to start lifting and building muscle. It's a bit of a slow process, but that's really the only way to naturally sculpt your body.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 05:38 PM
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As an example I met my husband shortly before he tested into his electrical apprenticeship... for many years of our relationship he has made less than I have, however he has a concrete plan and has been working towards it and he will definitely surpass me financially in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 04:11 PM
4

So I have a lot of sympathy for this particular situation. I was a 30 A cup from around 14-25 years old... and I was horribly, horribly self-conscious about it. I felt like I looked like a boy and like I was completely lacking as a woman. I would wear push-up bras, but also felt awful that I was faking it. Then I gained weight due to some health problems and I look back and see how foolish it was to spend so much time worried and upset over it, slim women with small busts are still beautiful. Me…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 03:58 PM
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Also to add to this... people can always increase their incomes(finding better jobs, working more hours, promotions, etc) but most people aren't going to be able to innately change who they are and how they operate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 03:22 PM
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What is it about marriage specifically that you don't want to wait for? Can you not enjoy most of those experiences with your boyfriend now? There's really nothing different about having a marriage vs a long term relationship, except the legal(and religious if that's something important to you) commitment. What do you think the purpose of marriage is? It's not necessarily about commitment, because you can be committed without getting married. It's either because you're religious and it is a nece…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 10:07 PM
4

It might not be uncommon, but TRP literally preaches being honest and upfront about your feelings, and not compromising on your positions(which is part of why it's not 100% compatible with RPW). Cheating is literally the opposite of that, I think the reason it's common in the married RP sub is a lot of men are using RP as an excuse to behave in certain ways in their marriages they started when they were BP. Just because they're doing it doesn't actually mean it's red pilled though.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 09:34 PM
3

Pretty much anywhere that isn't Austin or Dallas.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 09:21 PM
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Gains are slow, but anyone can make gains... if women can make gains and they're biologically less capable than men, then seriously what is your excuse? If you don't want to do the work to get that physique then don't, but also don't get upset that your physique doesn't reflect the work you aren't doing, and don't be jealous of the people who are putting in the work.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 09:21 PM
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Cheating is not red pilled. A red pilled man would have been honest with you that you were just a plate and that he was not interested in exclusivity. A red pilled man would have told you exactly what they meant and how they felt and would not be manipulating you. A red pilled man would not be so deceitful and disrespectful towards you, You need to move on. He has no respect for you and no reason to respect you even if you confront him now... break up, work on yourself and move onwards and upwar…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 09:09 PM
3

Holy moly? $800k? It's only $120k in my area of Texas for a 3 bedroom house and we're in the best school district in the city...even when adjusting for currency exchange that's crazy.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 06:26 PM
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This is going to be more blunt than I would normally say in person, but screw him. He had his chances, it's not your job to care for his emotional wellbeing when he ghosted you, don't waste your energy on feeling bad for him!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 05:50 PM
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Next guy #1... his behavior shows NO respect for you, and it's a waste of your time hoping that will change just because you give him attention again. Now for guy #2... A divorced man with kids is a LOT to deal with. Not only will you have to work extra-hard to fill the step-mother role and build relationships there you're also signing up to deal with the ex-wife. Despite how much you get along with the guy this is an incredible amount of baggage and drama that you're walking into... I wouldn't …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 05:41 PM
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You're very welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 10:19 PM
2

So firstly, I don't know anyone else in real life that uses this sub. Though I do know a fair number of kick-ass black conservatives in real life, and I know them from church(I also live in a much more conservative part of the country). Secondly, I encourage you to explore and be yourself. I am conservative politically(mostly a constitutionalist, who wants basic freedoms protected and the government to leave us alone when it comes to everything else.) While I'm not black I grew up very, very poo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 08:55 PM
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If you're dating a man, he tries to initiate sex, and you're not into it, reject him and move on to the next man... not for "trying to initiate sex", but for failing to get you into it. I don't agree with this at all. I turned my husband down many times when we first met, not because I wasn't into him but because I don't just think with my hormones and RPW goals sometimes mean keeping desire in check. Desire doesn't only have to be displayed as sex, and there is more that I care about than just …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 05:40 PM
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SWer? Edit: ahhhh she means sex worker... took me too long to get that. So then if she literally selling her body why wouldn't that be what her clients care about?
/r/AntiFeminists11/07/20 03:31 AM
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Critical thinking and logic are difficult for some.
/r/AntiFeminists11/07/20 03:31 AM
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In day to day life? Yeah, they're "women". I see absolutely no reason to go out of my way to be rude or treat anyone disparagingly. They're not bothering me, I'm not bothering them, we're all just minding our own beeswax is exactly how I like anyone in public to act. Now that aside, there clearly are some issues that I think do need to be sorted out. Women's and girl's sports as just one example, science just does not support that transitioning and taking hormones decreases the level of performa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/20 02:40 AM
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Well I mostly mean that because this is a relative, a bit more tact and pliability might be required to handle the situation, than one would need to use with a ONS, plate or LTR.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 02:01 AM
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She is a home claims adjuster for one of the nationally recognized insurance companies. I don't remember which one because she just switched companies. A lot of people in my current field also don't have college degrees and they make good money, six figures is not unrealistic if you put in the hours. (Mortgage Loan Officer)
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/20 12:10 AM
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I went to college and still didn't have a high paying, reliable job at 26! Took me until almost 28 to land the dream job because I had to spend 5-6 years beefing up my resume. Don't worry quite so much, you're still very young to have reached the end-game for your career! And you can definitely go to college now, as long as that is what you want to do. It shouldn't be for some vague "get a better job" unless you have a clear, strong plan about what job that's going to be and what you need to do …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 08:03 PM
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I don't care about LGBT people doing what they want, I also don't care about straight people doing what they want... do your own thing and float your own boat. I think that's pretty much how most people here feel. That said, I am not sure how much advice in RPW will apply to a lesbian relationship since it largely deals with traditional methods of communicating between men and women. That's not to say some stuff may not be very helpful to you, but some stuff isn't going to apply at all. Women do…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 07:49 PM
3

I'm not particularly bitter. I just find it odd considering how harmless geeky stuff is comparatively.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 05:42 PM
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Because she's a family member, and you presumably care about having a good relationship with her(even if only to make family gatherings more pleasant), you should directly confront her about it. Just tell her that you noticed she has been upset but you don't know why, and you would prefer to fix things between you. It's not very redpill, but this is your step sister not a dating relationship or power structure so I don't see why people would care that you would handle this differently than other…
/r/askTRP09/07/20 04:59 PM
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My husband and I are both giant nerds, I always find it weird that our hobbies are seen as immature and a bad thing for adults by some people... Last I checked a friendly social game of DnD is a lot safer and more mature than people our age going to clubs and getting shit-faced. We all work hard, pay our bills, and enjoy what we want to enjoy with no harm to anyone. I'm not saying everyone has to like that stuff, but I never got why it's an instant turn-off and seen as "immature" in comparison t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 04:51 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 01:19 AM
1

Noted! And thank you, last thing I need is to be stressed out over something I can't do anything about.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 11:41 PM
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No problem! Half of these are things I was told, but I didn't really trust my mom's advice because I was being young and dumb. Overall I'm perfectly fine and avoided the worst of it. But I really wish I realized much earlier that I don't have to go to clubs just because other people are, especially when I would rather be at the free salsa class at the bar on the other side of town. I was too shy to go myself, and I should have just sucked up and done it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 11:34 PM
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1.) Casual dating might be common and expected, but it is depressing and unfulfilling. It's 100% okay to demand respect and effort from people who want to ask you out. 2.) Night clubs and partying honestly kind of sucks. They're too loud, men and women both are drunk and act like pigs, and they're filthy. Go once for the experience if you want to, but for real venues for dancing look for places that host things like a "salsa night". 3.) Being someone you're not in order to fit in is never worth …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 11:24 PM
3

We tried to get tickets one time but it sold out way, way too fast.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 11:04 PM
3

Thank you! I will try to find the bumpers sub for starters. For the registry I want to start but I'm waiting on my best friend to have some time to help me out(babies are her life). One because she knows everything about baby stuff and two because she's the type who will be really happy to be asked. I guess for now I'll try to get through the books on pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 11:03 PM
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Thank you! I'm hoping that the facetime thing works and the scan to hear the heartbeats helps him connect. And you're right, I'm completely baby-crazy right now. I'm trying my best to keep in contained to my two besties, but I know it doesn't help that we're not announcing to anyone for awhile. I am the absolute WORST at keeping my secrets too, other people's secrets easy, mine try like 2 seconds. I am glad to know other fathers go through this initial stress mode too and I'll just give him some…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 10:24 PM
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Because of COVID he's not allowed at my appointments or scans, I'm going to facetime him in but I'm not sure how well that will work. I'm personally trying really hard not to dwell on this aspect because I do find it really disappointing that he can't be directly included especially since it's my first pregnancy. I'll try ordering that book though for starters. (He's actually starting renovations on the nursery this week for me, so maybe the physical labor and productivity will help him work out…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 08:36 PM
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Make sure you document the harassment and ask other people privately who witness(that you know well enough) this behavior if they noticed the way that this research fellow is treating you, and by extension your friend. Even if they haven't noticed anything, they will be paying more attention next time you are all together. The more witnesses you have the better.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 07:39 PM
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My husband loves Jordan Peterson. I think JP actually really resonates with men, especially young men, so I would just suggest it to him or start now. JP really addresses some of the social mayhem that primarily affects men, and I think that's extremely comforting to a lot of guys to realise that they're perfectly valid for feeling like that.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 06:51 PM
3

Yes, I love that series. xD
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 08:19 PM
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I normally pack a Japanese style bento with my husband's favorite in it like tamagoyaki, karaage, salmon and tuna onigiri, and an assortment of vegetable side dishes. I only do these boxes for special occasions so they're highly anticipated. I love the fact that it presents really nicely and allows a lot of variety(and well-balanced healthwise).
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 06:26 PM
2

My husband is not romantic. But he always makes time for me when I ask, and I'm fine with that. Overall we're both fairly low-maintenance, I don't expect or care about big surprises or gestures(and I'm far too impatient to appreciate all that fluff). My husband is a rock though, he's dependable and responsive to my requests, to me that's much more important. Different people have different preferences though.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 03:28 PM
2

If they're big things then no, don't stick around. General rule of thumb is that people change very little just because other people want them to change. So if there's a major red flag, then just leave because that person has no plans to change themselves. If it's something smaller, then sure why not bring it up if you like the person? Kinda stupid to walk away without saying anything just because someone has an annoying habit/behaviour if you enjoy every other aspect of the time you spend toget…
/r/askTRP05/07/20 08:32 PM
4

Shouldn't this depend on how worth it the girl is to you? A girl you really enjoy being with who has a couple things that bother you is probably worth talking to, whereas a plate or a girl that you don't particularly care about is probably better off just walking away from.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 06:05 PM
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Tightness has to do with her muscle tension, not how "stretched" her vagina is. Yes, it's designed to stretch but it will return to it's normal size. It doesn't lose elasticity, although it may feel that way if her pelvic floor muscles are weak, which can happen after things like childbirth, hence the myth that the vagina can get stretched out. But like all muscles it can be improved.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 03:31 AM
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I was more into American Girl Dolls as a young girl, because it was a special hobby with my grandmother and my cousin. Other than reading all the books and playing together, my grandmother helped teach me how to sew clothes for them, braid and style their hair, and care for them. Not quite as lively as Barbie, but it was very much a "quieter" femininity. And of course all of the books told stories of perseverance, kindness, and self-work... I still have all of them today.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 02:57 PM
3

Thing that get me, is in a life or death situation I have no doubt that they'd expect their boyfriends to jump to their rescue or sacrifice themselves... but then they advocate to turn men into scared, little worms.
/r/AntiFeminists03/07/20 07:17 PM
5

If your body hair grows that sporadically all over your body... i think shaving is the least of your problems.
/r/AntiFeminists01/07/20 06:45 AM
3

I think it's a personal, and sometimes situational, thing. For me, I wanted two things before I would go all the way. First, I must receive unsolicited verbal commitment(usually the big L word). I do not tell men this, it's not a bargaining chip that can be played for convenience. Secondly, it had to be at least 1 month since we entered an exclusive relationship. There would be no sex of any kind with me until both conditions were met. That doesn't mean that's going to work for everyone. Just th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 06:43 AM
-1

I don't have personal experience, but I also don't know anyone who has been successful in getting an LTR. Also pretty much all the girls I know who use them are miserable because it's emotionally exhausting and you really see the worst of people too often online. I also am a big fan of meeting people by doing things. If you like pottery, go to a pottery exhibit or a pottery lesson. If you like hiking, see if there are groups in your area that organize bigger trail groups. Whatever you like, you …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 12:10 AM
7

Have you tried going to local meet-ups for the activities you enjoy? That would be my advice for meeting men in an informal setting with a common activity, it'll put you out there socially. Worse case scenario? There's no one interesting, but you can still have fun doing activities you enjoy. (As an example, I actually met my husband through an online video game we both enjoyed. Neither of us was actively looking.) ​ As for the vetting process, I was always open about who I was and what I wanted…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 12:02 AM
3

Do you have any male colleagues or friends that you can ask some more personal questions to and they would give you an honest response? ​ If so, ask them what they think about when they see an average woman walking down the street, or how they feel if a woman approaches them(not a hot babe, but just a woman in general). Ask them as well how hard it is to get responses in online dating and apps. ​ Guys may subconsciously notice things like "the way you walk", but trust me it's far from what they'…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 10:00 PM
3

Honestly, it sounds like she's more obsessed with the engagement and the wedding rather than with marriage as a whole. Now based on the other comments I can also see that she might feel insecure if she doesn't lock him down because she can only enjoy her lifestyle with his continued financial support and would be SOL if he left. I certainly understand that, but it's a grave she's dug herself by refusing to learn or accept any offers to help her be more self-sufficient, should he decide to leave …
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 09:48 PM
2

My husband and I bought a ring together, and I gave it to him to let him choose when to propose and how. Well after about 6 months and several failed attempts at proposing I finally just told him to give me the ring. He was not lukewarm about wanting to get married, but he's very introverted so the pressure of something like the "famous tv/social media/ dream proposals" made him very stressed out(seriously I have never seen him that stressed and anxious before or after). That said I do not think…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 09:35 PM
4

I always think people deserve the benefit of the doubt if it's their first time rescheduling/ "flaking". Things do come up at last minute that can definitely derail plans, if it's a one off situation I don't think it's necessarily fair to judge someone for it. It sounds like she was at a family event, and had not anticipated it running as long as it did. She may have responsibilities like driving someone home or helping clean up that you don't know about. If it happens again then I would take it…
/r/askTRP28/06/20 09:18 PM
7

I am a politics and economy major, so needless to say I've probably done more reading/research on these topics than the average-joe. I make a point never to speak as an authority or point out that I'm "more educated" or any other ridiculous tactic to try and undermine others, but it's exhausting that people will completely discount me as racist when for 10 years they would never have thought that, and now suddenly I don't jive with their new-found hobby it's me who is the ignorant one? I don't a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 07:03 PM
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I have experienced bullying and ostracizing behavior for about a decade now, starting with being the only libertarian in my college courses when every single other person was hard-left. It doesn't hurt so much when you were never friends in the first place as you see people's character flaws from the get go. But when your friend's start following intolerant rhetoric, and knowing in my case that it's probably only a short time before I get cut from the group, is still very painful. What hurts the…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 06:40 PM
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I only have 2 female friends, and they're very, very good friends. But lately one of them has started to drift more and more into social justice and has begun making statements that sum up to "if you don't agree with me you're racist and I will cut off contact with you" She's well aware of my political views, and has gone out of her way to say "don't worry you're fine in DMs" but it's deeply uncomfortable to me. I don't care if she believes in social justice or if we're opposite ends of the poli…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 06:26 PM
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Yeah, her exes were equally as bad(just in different ways). I definitely think she's horrified of being single, even though she clearly needs to be in order to work out her priorities and work on herself.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 09:05 PM
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'm saving this quote for later. Excellently stated!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 08:54 PM
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One of the girls in our friend group has an unhealthy obsession with "getting married" but it's pretty clear to me that it's just about the wedding. She's been engaged three times in about 4 years, and she's only just turned 26. Every single one of these guys has had MAJOR red flags, which ultimately has ended the 2 previous engagements. Her current "fiance" is a convicted felon who was busted for narcotics, and had been clean for about 2 years when they met. He's quit his apprenticeship program…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 06:25 PM
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For me the wedding was basically an opportunity for a family reunion, and with my grandfather getting on in years I knew it might be our last chance to have everyone in the same room. That said, for me the wedding is basically family time and a chance to bring everyone together, not a "princess day".
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 04:50 PM
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It depends on your age and goals to be honest. Be more upfront/ "aggressive" if you are "older" and want to address your priority for marriage/kids/etc as a pre-requisite that must be met sooner rather than later. If this is the case, getting down to business quickly will help you filter out potential mates much more quickly, as men who share similar interests (marriage/kids/etc) won't mind and may even like that you are direct, honest, and upfront. If you are young enough that goals like marria…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 06:52 AM
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Marriage goggles definitely exist. I put on some weight and my husband didn't notice, didn't notice when I lost the weight either. And I dont mean flattery either, I legitimately believe him that he didn't notice. It was like 20 lbs too so not insignificant. 😅 He gained weight too, but it doesn't bother me. I do think I'm more aware of his changing looks than he is of mine though.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 08:49 PM
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When we first started living together I apparently drove my husband nuts by pushing drinks away from the side of the table, so they wouldn't get knocked off, doing the same thing as you with all our with all our pots, double checking everything was off, making sure no cords were near the edges of tables, etc. I grew up as the oldest by quite a bit, so I have a lot of habits that I picked up from being around small children that I never noticed until I started living with someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 03:06 AM
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I mean I guess so, I've always had more male friends than female. I'm not good at dealing with catty, dramatic behavior, and I just don't have a lot of feminine hobbies or interests.(I do not think all women are catty and dramatic, but it was common in middle and high school so I struggled to get to know other girls and was regularly back-stabbed or emotionally hurt by girls when I did try to make friends). I'm also into activities like video games, paintball, and guns so I just interact with gu…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 04:54 AM
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It's just a particular scent that penises have. I really couldn't describe it. For vaginal intercourse you won't notice at all, you may actually even like the smell. I think part of what put me off was just that I was so nervous and uncomfortable(not in a "I don't want to do this" way), that adding the smell and almost gagging from not knowing what I was doing was a bit much. Doing stuff in the shower helped with the smell and since everything is wet, if you need to take a break from oral you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 03:55 AM
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"Cohabiting and sex will pretty much be an obligation for me" Don't let others dictate what you are or aren't comfortable with. If you're fine with this, then by all means go right ahead, but it shouldn't matter if your religious or secular if you aren't comfortable with this then don't feel like you have to do it. Just be completely honest with your partner about your boundaries, the worst thing that can happen is that you find out they won't respect your boundaries and you can decide if that's…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 07:48 PM
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This is very true. I remember when I first started having sex the smell men have down there really put me off. I got over it by suggesting shower sex, and now I'm comfortable in other settings. That said I still have some rules like "never push my head towards your penis" or that I don't want him to finish in my mouth. I know that's a deal breaker for some, and I'm okay with that. I'm married now though, so it's not an issue as my husband has never brought it up nor tries to do either.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 07:24 PM
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Agreed. I think women subconsciously want strong men, but are very mislead by what they've been taught and have a lot of inner-conflict about what they actually like vs what they think they should like. Men on the other hand have more simple goals*, like sex. When pandering doesn't produce results they're more likely to reassess, and since historically men have always been more conservative than women I think men are more likely to make the jump(not that TRP is necessarily conservative political…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 07:17 PM
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For us it comes down to the cost of private school vs home school, unfortunately a lot of learning disabilities run in both sides of my family. ADHD and dyslexia mostly. So I want to make sure that we have options with better teacher-student ratios and more specialized assistance. My little brother who has really bad dyslexia vastly preferred home schooling with private specialists to private school(he went to a school that was specialized for kids like him and he hated it), so it's something I'…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:41 PM
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This is great to know, my husband and I are leaning towards either home school or private school for our future children(we live in a good school district but we have a lot of reasons we don't like public schooling).
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:58 AM
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I apologize on that person's behalf, that was honestly quite rude of her to imply. I completely understand where you're coming from. I've seen girls overreact because a guy they weren't attracted to attempted to talk to them, and call it harassment even though they didn't just tell the poor guy they weren't interested. Calling guys creepy, stalkers, etc that just wasn't fair at all, how can they possibly know you're not interested if you won't even tell them? You shouldn't blame them for trying.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:52 AM
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I'm just turned 28, so hook-up/"dating" apps were available before I found my husband. I was not interested in them and never used them because they just seemed skeezy. I have friends who I know are active on those apps, and they talk to me about their experiences and I just cannot relate. None of them seem to actually like the system, after the novel enjoyment of getting new attention wears off. This leads me to believe that the apps might not end up really doing anything for relationships, and…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:42 AM
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My story probably isn't very helpful since it's super niche circumstances. But I'll hit the highlights: -we established very early on shared interests and beliefs through natural conversations(religion, politics, hobbies, future goals, family values, etc) -we both helped the other through small personal crises, for my husband it was no longer being able to afford university due to a family situation(I helped him brainstorm and research alternative careers) but we both established that we were su…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 06:02 AM
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Uncomfortable, unwanted attention sure every women has experienced that. Actual rape? No, nowhere close to a majority. Keep in mind a lot of the false accusations are actually what happens when girls sober up, and were in fact as consensual as sex can be between two drunk people, neither of which was able to make ideal decisions.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 09:23 PM
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Your masculine side isn't bad. I'm sure it probably serves you well in many aspects of life. However you've acknowledged that in your relationship being traditionally female makes you happier. Have you stopped to think about why you sabotage that happiness in order to feel in control? For me personally, I know that when I feel uneasy and insecure I tend to fall back on masculine aspects to assert the balance I need to feel secure. I then break down my insecurities into two distinct categories; t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 03:40 PM
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If you want to get him something more tangible, you can always book him something for like a "boys day out". A pre-paid pass for 2 to do paintball, a gun range, axe throwing class, etc is usually well received. Activities that let guys work out their frustration and stress a nice options. A gift card for a massage is another great option especially for guys with physically demanding occupations. You'll have a better idea what his interests are.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 01:47 AM
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If life is generally causing him great amounts of stress then I find most guys prefer a woman who is "quietly supportive". Express that you are there if he needs to vent, but don't press him to vent. He will either want you to quietly listen to him while he vents or he'll want you to be a distraction from it. If he wants a distraction then it's up to you to be that ray of sunshine in his day. The way you do that will be unique to your relationship, for example if my husband has a rough day at wo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 01:32 AM
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Do you think maybe you could explain the situation a little more? I don't have much to go off of in order to give decent advice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 01:20 AM
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In red pill theory there is also a women's dating strategy, which has it's own subreddit. It starts with the same core values(men and women are intrinsically different, and have different roles and successful behaviors) but obviously the end game for RPW is a committed and successful marriage. But the mainstream women's dating theory? Honestly, it's trash. It's manipulative, whiny, and "me me me me me I'm so special and if I don't get what i want it must be your fault me me me". I honestly feel …
/r/askTRP17/11/19 01:13 AM
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Ehhh... guys can age well if they take care of themselves, plus not every woman who seeks older guys is looking for guys 20+ years older. But the money, stability, and power that comes with age definitely is a large part of it. Plus older men and women tend to get a bit more straightforward with age: older women are more likely to be upfront about their desire for marriage and children, and older men also tend to outline their expectations more quickly. (Not all obviously, but studies do show ol…
/r/askTRP17/11/19 12:55 AM
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I'm surprised no one's mentioned "wife goggles". There's actual evidence that many men don't notice a decline in their mate's SMV once they've made a mating-bond(ie marriage + children). Biologically it makes sense, women will hit the wall and if they have children it's unrealistic that they'll return to looking exactly the way they were before children yet our species generally has relied on a co-parenting relationship between the man and woman for child-rearing. So if men didn't form an attach…
/r/askTRP27/07/19 12:15 PM
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I think he means that a girl who is a 10 isn't always better than a girl who is an 8 if the 8's personality is better. Not that you should get with women you find unattractive, but that among the women you do find attractive the ones with higher SMV aren't necessarily going to be the better ones to date in any lasting sense.
/r/askTRP27/07/19 11:58 AM
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Yeah we use 10qt dog bowls lol... they're pretty massive.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 08:25 PM
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My house is mayhem when it rains because I have 4 bratty, prissy Great Danes. Rain boots has been a godsend, I don't even care that they hate them
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 07:39 PM
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If you have dogs and carpet... invest in dog rain boots... lordy my carpet has taken a beating. xD Finally gave in and bought them rain boots. I admit, it's not as silly as I though it was.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 04:28 PM
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So just fyi we broke a lot of the big rules... even though it worked for us I still don't advocate it for the most part. We met for our first date, after having spoken over Skype for a couple months. We met playing an online video game. We lived 3 hours apart, and both worked from home at the time. So I would drive over to his... and then neglect to drive back for a few days... weeks... never... about a month in I started paying rent and utilities and never left. Part of me was tired of being pr…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 02:17 PM
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Another couple really simple things that anyone can do: -Eat a well rounded diet, maybe track your nutrients on an app like chronometer, when you balance everything internally it'll naturally boost your hair, skin and nail health. Supplement or add in nutrients your normal diet is low in. - Get enough sleep, your body needs downtime to repair itself. Try not to run yourself ragged if you can help it! Not only will it help you continue looking your best, but you'll feel better too!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 12:46 AM
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I'm the big Tolkien nerd. I have pretty much every book by or about Tolkirn ever printed lol.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 10:22 PM
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The Hobbit: Part 3 To be fair we knew it was going to be bad, but we had no idea it was going to be soooooo goofy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 07:42 PM
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I met my husband through League of Legends... which is online but also very unintentional. We hit it off quickly because we have the same love of dark humor... and then discovered we only lived a couple towns apart. It was pretty much a blind date, since we hadn't exchanged any photos of anything prior. But I felt safe enough since we had been talking via Skype for several months and he was traveling up to my city to take me out... we got coffees and were absolutely awkward and struggling, saw a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 07:02 PM
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Rice is one of those things I've just never quite mastered and I cook it all the time... so I'm really looking forward to getting my rice cooker.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:01 PM
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Is it bad that our Valentine's day gift to each other are things like having the house professionally steam cleaned(or similar)? Though this year I asked him to bench the holiday expenses we normally use for a nicer birthday present(my birthday is the first week of March). I really want a new rice cooker. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:17 AM
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I know we're not supposed to make ultimatums but this is the only one I ever issued to my now-husband. I explained that I would not invest my time and energy in someone who uses drugs, and that I was looking for someone to build a family with and a drug user could not be part of that. I explained that I would respect his choice without fuss but that he could either keep me or keep using drugs... We're married now so I think that answers what his decision was. If he had not chosen to give up drug…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 11:04 PM
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So you mention this primarily as a strategy for older women... I am not older so I can only imagine dating post-wall. I'm not sure I agree with continually meeting many men at the same time. I don't think it's a big deal to have several different first dates, but if you're not eliminating men on the first date then I agree with most of the others that were I a man I would see a woman who has multiple men in the works as a giant red flag. Even as a woman if I was going on a second or third date w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 10:53 PM
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Yes I work, my hours are comparable though my commute is longer.(Edit to add: I currently make more as he is only an apprentice but he will out earn my income considerably in a few years.) No, we don't hire outside help. My husband is in charge of everything outside the house(lawn, gutters, etc), he's also in charge of most repairs and maintenance in the home. There's nothing he won't do if I ask, but I'm kind of neurotic about how I want things about the house done so I do pretty much everythin…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 10:11 PM
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That's so sad. My own mother is very mentally ill(severe and untreated BPD), to the point that I'm on much better terms with my ex-stepfathers(I have 4 "dad"s) and I still keep in contact with them all, and I remember her wearing them down until they were basically beaten into submission. It's really, really hard to witness(and probably one of the reasons why I was so receptive to RP and even when I would describe myself as feminist I took a lot of criticism for pointing out how men get screwed …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 09:17 PM
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Yeah, I spend too much time on Pintrest. xD
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:19 PM
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One of my coworkers is scared of leaving her slow cooker on as well, but she raves about her instapot(of course this only really works if you're always going to be home first). But yeah it works out really well for us, plus it's sooooooo much cheaper and easier than the other recipe/ingredient boxes that I don't mind the ~$5 a month cost it works out to. I also like that you can favorite recipes and add them to your weekly list at anytime, switch between different meal plans whenever you want, a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:18 PM
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They have a partnership so you if you decide to go with it they'll give you 50% Shipt when you renew. It's honestly pretty nice since I can plan our meals(I pick a recipe or two from the vegan options and then pick his from the slow cooker options 90% of the time.)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:00 PM
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That's a toughie! I pack things like onigiri, "grown up lunchables"(where I remake the lunchable idea but with nicer ingredients and better portions, caesar salad wraps(just put the dressing in a little container on the side), Japanese soba, homemade eggrolls(which you can fill with anything you like), etc. Most of these can me made quickly and easily in a big batch. If he has access to a microwave at work I also know a few ladies who make homemade freezer meals so their man has a variety of opt…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 07:32 PM
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I honestly subscribe to eMeals for the slow cooker recipes. You get 6 recipes a week, and whatever recipes you want to use it will automatically make your grocery list for(we also subscribe to Shipt so they deliver our groceries via the eMeals app). My husband likes chili, brisket, beef stew, beef stroganof, and cheesy chicken casserole... And you can use almost any recipe for those and it'll turn out pretty good. I also made a leg of lamb in a redwine sauce last weekend that got rave reviews.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 07:23 PM
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Slow cookers are awesome for busy households. You can even buy the liners for them so there's almost no clean-up to do after as well. Pintrest has a lot of really easy food prep recipes. So for example this week my husband is getting "grown-up lunchables" with cheese, crackers, and charcuterie meats, with a side of grapes, and potato salad. (I made use of the Superbowl deals and got a big tub of potato salad for like half off, and the cheese and meats were also on sale.)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 06:48 PM
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It's the thought that counts, and of course having a nice little treat at work is a plus too. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 06:42 PM
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Haha this is one I use at home all the time. My husband really likes being requested to do tasks that are straightforward (building shelves, putting light bulbs in the lights I can't reach, helping me when I have computer issues, etc.). He doesn't enjoy me freaking out and nitpicking every solution he tries to offer, I only take those issues to him when I want his advice, otherwise I go to one of my female friends who I know will let me vent. Though I would say it's not that often that I have th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 06:17 PM
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I actually work more hours than my husband as well. I spend a lot of my day off baking snacks and prepping his lunches for the week. And the slow cooker is my best friend in the kitchen... I prep all the slow cooker ingredients into freezerbags. Thaw they overnight then just pop them into the slow cooker before leaving for work. I won't be home when my husband arrives but he comes home to a warm meal already to go.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 06:06 PM
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My husband didn't like packed lunches until he started working in a male-dominated industry with mostly other married men. Now it's basically a status symbol that he has a domestic wife who packs him lunch and bakes cookies and such every week... Men can be funny, but I'm not gonna complain I prefer him eating my lunches so I know he's not eating unhealthily. xD
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 06:02 PM
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I wouldn't say they prevent a girl from marriage or kids, but if you want to be a SAHM then you need to pay them off as quickly and aggressively as possible... I guess you can think of it as a ROI(Return on Investment) you've invested in education the purpose of which is to get a higher paid job and then you don't pay off the initial investment it's a net-loss. While men may not necessarily care how much money you make when you first start dating, once you've settled down they're going to care i…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 05:41 PM
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I'm sure if your Father/Pastor/Preacher/Rabbi/etc hear you're interested they'd be more than happy to guide y'all or find someone they know who does pre-marital counselling. In our faith you can't get married without it(at least not in the church or with a member of their clergy). Our church also offers groups for newlyweds, men's, and women's groups, and shockingly(/s) it's all pretty much RP(although the men's groups do advocate marriage and how to appropriately honor your wife.)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 04:49 AM
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I think it is different coming from a wife. Younger guys aren't ready to settle down, settled men have already made the commitment and really enjoy having their choice in settling affirmed from what I've seen.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 04:44 AM
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The best advice on "what women want" my husband learned was honestly through pre-marital counselling at our church. It was one of the best things we did for our relationship, and I strongly advise engaged couples to look into it(if you're not religious but good at taking the message despite the faith based discussion it's still worth it). Our Father talked a lot about the different ways in which men and women receive and understand love, how men and women communicate, and of course the obligatio…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 04:21 AM
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And you don't even have to be the most amazing household goddess... those two older coworkers have been brought sandwiches for lunch for the past 30 years and are still happy that their wives make them everyday.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:34 AM
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Yeah, one of my coworkers is currently expecting his first child. And apparently his wife is obsessed with the idea of being a SAHM... but she only just finished her doctorate in Psych and hasn't even made her first student loan payment. He's understandably upset by this because the whole point in getting that level of education was to help her get a better job, not to stay home. I feel for her, but she made that bed and it's completely unfair to expect him to take over that debt...
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:32 AM
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I mostly agree, although I do think it depends how often she travels to him vs him to her. If he's expecting her to travel over to his house significantly more often than he will travel to hers then he should at least be considerate enough to take the inequity of cost for the situation,unless of course when she visits him the expectation is that he's going to take her on a date and pay for everything. At a certain point it's ideal to make sure that one party isn't paying for a large majority of …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 11:56 PM
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Have you ever taken him to talk with your OBGYN? They might be able to get through to him that IVF really isn't a "walk in the park", and exactly how unnecessarily difficult and dangerous it would be to choose over natural conception.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 10:49 PM
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If restricting to 1200kcal is too difficult for you just look up the calories you need at your activity level for your desire weight. Then just eat that amount, the progress might be a bit slower, but it's more manageable for a lot of people In the end you'll get to your goal and maintain! I'm 5'6" I prefer to stay on the slimmer side of the healthy weight range because I think I look best that way, so my ideal weight is 120lbs. I do tend to splurge a little during holidays because there's alrea…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:11 AM
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I offered a prenup to my husband, I don't feel strongly about it, he rejected it despite being very aware of the risks. But I also think that we entered into marriage with more humble and realistic expectations than the average person. Marriage is a covenant with each other and God, and it primarily serves to create stability for having children. When we stood at the altar we put our individual interests aside for the wellbeing of the family and our union, life isn't always easy, and divorce is …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 06:17 PM
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I cook all the time. Although occasionally things don't come out as intended, it definitely is something my husband is proud of. His coworkers are apparently pretty jealous that he gets lunches packed everyday, which I do think is sad since it doesn't take much time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:34 AM
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I agree, I'm planning on being a SAHM anyways, but one of my biggest driving factors is that I cannot in good faith send children into such a bad environment. Unless something changes, we will probably home school until middle or high school.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 01:14 AM
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At your current age I don't think it's unreasonable for you to bring it up. You said yourself you both want children, neither of you can wait indefinitely. However how long ago was he actively ring shopping? Is it possible that he might have proposal plans you're unaware of(any trips or special dates planned)? I'd give him 6 months from when you suspect he bought a ring to bring it up. And don't feel put off if he might be having jitters, he may be nervous for different reasons than you think, m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 01:00 AM
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There are a lot of ways to be feminine, but I think one of the best ways to think about feminine energy is that it is harmonious with masculine energy. While in many mythologies the sun is portrayed as masculine, the moon is almost always the feminine, and it's a brilliant metaphor for how men and women are two halves of the whole. Feminine energy draws from the masculine, reflecting it just as the moon reflects light from the sun. Yet the moon is not lesser in beauty or purpose than the sun. Ta…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 04:37 AM
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Where and in what context do you usually meet men? From my experience I feel like this made a big difference in what men's expectations were towards me. Men that I met through mutual friends or doing an activity like badminton, ballroom dance classes, fencing, cooking classes, etc. I had better success forming ltr's with. Men I met out on the town, at bars or clubs, had one thing on their mind and might put some effort in, but it was just to meet their initial goal. My husband and I actually met…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 03:08 AM
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In university my final project was a research dissertation with topic of my choosing, at the time I was a feminist so I chose to write about the effects of culture and victim blaming on the low trial rate of rape cases. What I found probably wouldn't surprise you, female accusers were usually given the benefit of the doubt, more resources, more positive representation in the media, and generally more likely to be believed even with poorer evidence than their male counterparts. Not only that but …
/r/askTRP26/01/19 02:53 AM
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Wow I'm actually so excited to find out y'all are doing a book club! I'll join in as soon as I finish reading the Tolkien books! :D Never really tried these kinds of books before or a book club but it sounds awesome especially since the only book clubs I've been invited to were by my ultra- radfem cousin who while I love dearly I don't think I could handle reading through that nonsense on a regular basis.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/19 08:11 PM
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I concur with /u/Limeycat. There are lots of steps that can be made to change careers or overcome poor past decisions(like an English degree versus a Computer Science degree). But if you're 33 and haven't forged onto any of those pathways that signals to me that you aren't serious about it. My husband floundered a bit when we first got together, but he was 23 and realizing that he hated his college major and college in general wasn't for him(he was also paying for his degree completely out of po…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 06:16 PM
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What does he need to do for technical training? My husband is currently an apprentice electrician, training with his local IBEW. The only qualification they require is high school or GED, plus you have to pass an Algebra exam and interview. He should be able to get into some program with a little studying.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 01:50 PM
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So in my case cohabiting prior to marriage worked just fine BUT here's the difference: engagement and marriage timeline was on the table already, we also joined up our finances(which was honestly the biggest commitment to the relationship we could possibly have done), and it was simply far more frugal to share joint expenses. We were engaged 2 years later just like previously agreed upon, and married about a year later(I didn't want to be stressed with a short engagement for planning purposes) b…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 04:34 PM
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My husband and I were living together with combined finances by 2 months of meeting each other in person. We had already determined that we would get married (though waited on the engagement for 2 years to make our parents feel more comfortable). HOWEVER, we spoke online for months before meeting, we met via a friend and played online games together. We talked for hours every night. Five minutes into our first date I already knew he was the man I was going to marry. You can vet quickly, and when…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:50 PM
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My husband had an open conversation with me about his proposal timeline(date 2 years then engagement), I agreed to this since his reasoning was to make sure his family did not feel like he was rushing into something and cause issues(love my in-laws but they're very cautious). He knew I was going to leave if he waited any longer than that though. Make sure you stick to your guns unless he has a better reason for delaying, then you'll have to weigh what's more important.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 07:49 PM
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Well men have worked long, hard hours away from home for centuries, only boys used to be able to accompany their fathers on certain occasions as rites of becoming a man starting from a relatively young age. Likewise schools used to be commonly separated into boy's and girl's institutions, allowing boys to develop as boys.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 08:49 PM
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Also don't forget all men are different and show their dominance differently. My husband is a man of few words, he often leads through body language rather than verbally. But I've also come to realize that for many things he just doesn't have strong feelings one way or another and is perfectly content to let me do what I like. Letting your man know that his word is final and practicing it will naturally encourage him to take charge, but it's also worth understanding that sometimes he's not overt…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 03:46 PM
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I think you need to have a discussion with the father about parenting roles. Ultimately these are his children, and while its wonderful that you're quickly becoming more of a family together, you are still the newest element to the unit and ideally you want to make sure that you're preserving the power structure and only altering it in a way that is mutually agreed upon. Their father may want you to be the confidant and is comfortable with your decision making in regards to his children. He may …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 06:12 PM
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And to add to your point if men didn't want kids then there wouldn't be horror stories about men being denied custody or visitation rights, and no one would know their fathers to begin with because no men would ever stick around. Men may not experience baby fever the way women do, but plenty of men want their own children.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 06:29 AM
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Someone else said it and I agree with them 100% Marriage is not supposed to be about love, it's not supposed to be about happiness, it is fundamentally intended to be a structured unit which provides the best possible circumstances for having and raising children. This is probably why arranged marriages, and marriages between people who are devout in faith tend to last longer with fewer consequences. And the misconception that marriage is for any other purpose is ultimately why I think so many f…
/r/askTRP30/12/18 06:26 AM
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Wearing makeup to workout is silly, it's not good for your skin and will only cause more issues. While I generally agree that you should do things that please your captain, I also think that a good captain will understand if you have good reasons for not doing certain things. He probably doesn't know makeup while working out is bad for your skin and will affect your attractiveness negatively in the long run, if you just mention that you're concerned that wearing makeup to the gym will cause skin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 06:05 AM
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To a certain extent the family needs to act as a unit to maintain healthy function so yes. For example, good parents will work as a team even if their roles in that team differ, and they may have to be willing to sacrifice differences in opinion for the good of the unit. A group of friends shouldn't come with expectations of conformity, obviously don't be friends with people who you cannot stand to be around. But there shouldn't be the same level of expectation to put yourself aside for the grou…
/r/askTRP29/12/18 02:11 AM
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I've never really cared for the notion of a "tribe", I just focus on keeping a couple great friends around whose company I enjoy despite all our differences. To me a "tribe" has to act as a unit in some sense, and I don't think that's necessarily healthy outside of the family unit.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:25 PM
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That's why BPD is so hard. The sufferer self-sabotages but refuses to acknowledge any issue on their part, and the people around them are often collateral damage. It doesn't make them evil or bad that they aren't healthy. But it's also not your responsibility to go down with the ship. My mother used to often state that "I can't take care of others if I don't first take care of myself", and even though she is 100% right sadly she adamantly refuses to get the kind of care and help she actually nee…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 03:50 AM
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My mother has BPD. As a child I didn't understand and I believed her unconditionally... until I started to grow old enough to realize that despite the fact that she certainly does love me, there's no room in her psyche for me. Our relationship is purely one-way, or it doesn't exist at all. We haven't spoken in 3 years, she refused to come to my wedding unless it was on her terms, she has called the police on my husband whom she has never met to punish me for my political views, she has burned ev…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 02:57 AM
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Snark is such a great, yet underused, word.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 05:32 PM
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In the words of Marilyn Monroe: "Men grow cold as girls grow old And we all lose our charms in the end... There may come a time when a hard boiled employer thinks you're awful nice ... He's your guy when stocks are high but beware when they start to descend Because that's when those louses go back to their spouses" Right now you're a toy, and he's buying you because it's fun. If that's what you like you can find men who aren't married to do that, but it probably won't work forever...
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 07:27 PM
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I have friends who live that way, and I can respect them. But they don't also try to manipulate others into paying for their choices. Personally for me I would expect a man to be honest with me first and foremost. If he's happy with his job and lifestyle that's something to ask about, maybe it works well for you, but you should expect the truth and not a mooch.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 07:19 PM
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A similar taste, but different flavor of this: He stays in a dead-end, low-responsibility position and makes no effort to improve. One of my best friends fell prey to this type of man. When they first got together his position wasn't bad or good for their ages, but she failed to take into account that he had held the same position for 5 years already rather than pursuing higher education. During their relationship she later became aware that he had turned down multiple promotion opportunities in…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 06:33 PM
3

Almost like the virgin-whore dichotomy was always basically a female way to try to compete when sex is no longer a barrier for men, and never an invention from men to discriminate towards women...
/r/askTRP08/12/18 06:51 AM
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I do, but they live 2000 miles away. So I think it kinda adds to my distress that I can only see pictures of my friends and their babies but I'm missing out on actually experiencing it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 10:14 PM
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I wouldn't say stick around if she bitches constantly, regardless of beta vs alpha traits it's an undesirable character quality. No one wants to hang out with a Negative Nancy. But everyone has bad days, women just tend to need to "word-vomit" about those frustrations in order to get past them more than men do. You don't even necessarily need to be supportive, just let her get it out of her system and then redirect her. And if she starts becoming more negative and ruining the mood regularly just…
/r/askTRP05/12/18 08:47 PM
2

We have a litter of Great Dane puppies due around Christmas, which I'm very excited about. It'll be our first time having puppies instead of buying one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 08:38 PM
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Confirmed. Women want to vent, but most likely already know what their next step is, hearing it from you will make them feel like you're being dismissive towards their problems. They want you to listen and "empathize" but they do not want your solutions unless they explicitly ask for your advice... if you pay attention when they're venting you'll probably realize that at no point in their complaints do they ever actually ask for your input or your ideas. It's completely silly, but they just want…
/r/askTRP05/12/18 07:53 PM
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Does anyone have tips on surviving baby craziness? Long story short: Husband wants to wait until he can more comfortably provide in order to expand our family. I logically know he's right, and I want to be supportive while adhering to his decision, but it's like in the last year especially I've absolutely lost my ability to reason. I don't want my husband to feel uneasy, but I am struggling to cope with the idea of waiting another year(I've already been waiting about a year).
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 07:07 PM
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I've been struggling with the baby rabies for the past year, so I can definitely sympathize. It's not for everyone, but I have found that caring for puppies and volunteering in ways that allows my maternal instincts to be utilized has helped me with the otherwise grueling waiting. If you ever feel particularly crazy, feel free to message me. I'm going through a similar situation currently.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 06:59 PM
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