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Two things can be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:42 AM
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Don’t victim blame. Kids do lots of things in groups. I’m sure she didn’t think she was going to get drugged and raped in a movie theater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:04 PM
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They where talking for a year and SHE paid and flew out to him twice 🤦🏽‍♀️ And she even said they where “talking” about making it serious. Also her videos where so emotionally over the top and embarrassing. Like just take the L and learn from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:49 PM
1

That’s a really weird way to talk about your SO, do you even like him or having sex with him? Also you’re child free and basically doing nothing to prevent pregnancy? That’s some straight up 🤡 behavior. I hope you at least track your cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:47 PM
1

A simple iPhone like/👍🏽 reply would be fitting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:50 AM
20

Talk with them longer. If you’re not excited then I agree with the other poster don’t go! You could be doing something else with your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:33 PM
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Great job. This is just a little comment but I stg what is it with men and saying or doing stupid shit that they need to overtly apologize for?! The last 8 guys I’ve been semi into have just said or done the stupidest random thing and it’s like why?? There’s like no critical thinking skills hey maybe not say this to a woman you are trying to date!! Also the absolute shock when I just walk away 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:10 AM
15

I can’t think of any man that I ever talked to has had anything positive to say when I mentioned therapy. I would bring it up bc they obviously needed it haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 08:28 PM
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As someone whose experienced both. I think the ones who are really into you don’t say things that are inappropriate or that they know would scare you off. Love bombing feels off and it’s a little like is this guy for real? It’s confusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:52 PM
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I’d be upset and break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:33 AM
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He is ✨aspiring✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:23 AM
1

I thought it was gross. You mentioned consent. When did Carrie give consent to have two people screw in her kitchen? Or for them to smoke weed in her house? I absolutely hate the smell of weed it makes me nauseous, I wouldn’t want people smoking weed and fucking in my kitchen. It is absolutely vulgar to fuck and do drugs in someone’s house when you’re suppose to be helping out a friend. But to your other point. I’m watching TV, I don’t want to see ugly people, male or female or non-binary, havin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:42 PM
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All those paragraphs and yet he would still pick a live woman he admits. That was just his attempt at a scare tactic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:56 PM
7

Costco doesn’t have jewelry under $500
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:59 PM
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Okay but you’re not realizing how important his boner is!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:30 AM
71

Yes! I tell them my dad’s amazing. They hate it lol. *also they seem to hate when you talk about good friends etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:14 AM
28

Men are gross and I don’t respect them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:09 AM
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I heard he can’t get it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:24 AM
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There’s a great podcast called break the dating code, has good tips. I heard about in on fds. It’ll suck up a lot of your time and is not worth it but I get it fomo lol. Have pics that kind of make you look like a goody two shoes. No crazy party pics. Smile. No coffee or walk dates. Pay the extra money and see who likes you or just look at who messages you first, don’t waste time swiping. Match or hinge, not tinder or hook up apps. Match their energy, if they just say hi, do the same. If they do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:30 PM
3

Every time I dated a man from OLD, I wished I’d never met him. LOL why is this so true??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:21 PM
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Girl he hates you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:41 PM
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The narc also has codependency issues as well. I’d say more so. He doesn’t know what to do with himself without other people staring in awe of him. His whole post sounds like a love letter to himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:35 PM
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I picked that up too. Like bro don’t date then??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:25 PM
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Jumpers for the win!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:25 AM
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I almost downvoted this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:04 PM
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Sex is such a spiritual thing and I’m just suppose to have it with someone I can’t stand? Or someone who’s energy is ugly enough to think like that? There’s no way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:21 PM
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They’ve been catered to so much their brains no longer work. They don’t know their own reality, whatever answer caters to their ego is the winner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:29 AM
2

Interesting! Too bad I love men with body hair but I just cannot date baldies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:41 AM
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It is just too bad men can’t do better. That is more sad than any breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:54 PM
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Get a womanizer and a dildo. I guarantee you’ll be sexually satisfied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:28 PM
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It is really not that hard to get a man to fall in love with you, look at the simple things he is looking for at the bottom. It’s just 99% of men I want nothing to do with. I’m in the best spiritual and emotional place in my entire life, I want someone at that level. Not just oh he’ll do. That is so boring and purposeless, I could be spending time cultivating myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:56 PM
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☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:19 PM
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We have eyeballs after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:27 PM
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What a loon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:18 PM
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Are we really not allowed to ask men what the hell is wrong with them that they want to cause physical pain to another living person??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:26 PM
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I’d say a walk date. At least the come over ppl are being honest that they want to f
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:00 PM
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Why is this so true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:59 AM
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Humans love and understand nuance, allegory and ritual and these fools love to pretend we are robots. They are afraid to feel (as an Aries I would say this outloud to them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:19 PM
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I ran across this the other day. The guy had another similar photo with his baby and then a photo with just the baby. https://imgur.com/a/5tp50MC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:40 PM
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Mothers will absolutely worship their sons while degrading their daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:21 PM
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I agree with you. Reality comes quick for men AND women. Who are these women that are so pressed on a guy in the beginning? No wonder there’s so many hurt feelings, you know nothing about him, keep it breezy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:08 AM
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Okay. You asked for opinions and I have you mine :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:23 AM
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I think the subjects she brings up are something women need to hear sugar packed or not. When you say she looks down of her viewers. That’s not something you know. That’s something you feel. Maybe it’s based in reality maybe it’s not. I find when things bring you a strong reaction you need to sit and realize that it triggered you in someway and work on that triggering rather than the thing on the forefront. It’s like there’s a shadow and the shadow is more important and beneficial for you to unr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:15 AM
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How can I argue with someone about videos they’ve never watched? That’s not confrontational
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:04 AM
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Your take based on a couple of opinions with no actual examples? You can actual point to shallon and call her daddy examples, I doubt that with shera.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:19 AM
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I love shera. But I’m not looking for an all knowing guru or following that I have to agree 100% with. I have my own mind to critically think with. I don’t agree with everything she says, for example she didn’t vote because she thinks it doesn’t effect her in a real way. Initially I was disappointed but then I got what she was saying, because it wouldn’t affect me in a real way also. It affects people I love and the environment, but I make enough stable money where I will be okay. It’s selfish t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:11 AM
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Maybe because a lot of us actually watch Shera’s videos and aren’t taking what OP is saying as gospel like you seem to be doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:52 AM
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It all boils down to women’s bodies = bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:47 PM
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Omg lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:09 PM
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Just unmatch/block and delete. All the worries and overthinking gone 😊 clean and easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:48 PM
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This has nothing to do with dating. But I’m just super annoyed by the policing of women’s bodies by other women. I had to unfollow two women on IG. One was a plastic surgeon that said because of masks, women should now have more concern about their bodies. I was very surprised by the second one, by all accounts she was “woke” which I should know better and know that’s a joke. Basically she posted a meme stating red states are breast people and blue states are ass people and therefore superior. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:31 PM
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Shera 7 was a mortician, she said widowers would be trying to pickup women at their wives funerals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:32 PM
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Men know they are suppose to pay for dates. Esp the first date. It’s not something you have to think about too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:38 PM
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My fetish is going on a million first dates so I can try a bunch of $200 bottles of wine :))))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 08:39 AM
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I really shouldn’t have read this. This man is utter garbage and belongs in the trash. I hate him more than trump. The whole I decided to receive blowjobs, wow sir thank you for your contribution to society! He deserves zero access to any woman, he shouldn’t be allowed to look at them and be anywhere near their “imperfect” body part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:46 AM
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🤯 right on the money!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:24 AM
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Do they even sell single flowers? He probably pulled it out of a normal bouquet and didn’t spend a dime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:10 AM
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He did that because he knew he raped you. So sick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:22 AM
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Women being tortured a-okay. Men paying for dinner now you’ve crossed a line!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:03 PM
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How the hell can a 20 year old have a god complex?!! Male audacity and a personality disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:38 PM
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Omg! I like the book because the writing is beautiful. The protagonist is obviously deranged!! Sneaky and evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:51 AM
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I always see this when people talk about fds oh they are just bitter and/or abused women. Oh really? And just who is the cause of the bitterness, who dishes out the abuse?? Figure out the cause and solution and fds will not be needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:58 AM
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No I need enthusiasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:58 AM
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Agreed. I’m terrific company, can this guy say the same? Or is he just a wallet? Does he need this woman to breath excitement and pleasure to his life? I’m going to go with yes. That sir is why you pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:44 PM
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There’s an excellent podcast I heard about here from scene on radio about men. They talk about this! Why would it be beneficial to cut out half the labor force? It makes no sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:42 PM
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Fast money. Us the working class are being exploited by the 1%. A typical week or two paycheck in a single night. That’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:56 AM
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Agh when I hear this it reminds me why I am off OLD. I’m triggered lol. It’s just so exhausting dealing with men that have no social skills. I remember one called me a dork? I think it was. Like why? What do you think that is going to accomplish with me? I stopped replying and then he started panicking and calling me gorgeous etc. Boy bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:35 AM
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And a lot of them are realizing their sexual power for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:00 PM
9

And moderate politics. Make up your mind!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:56 AM
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I love this post on IG https://www.instagram.com/p/CFCoz-Chw4O/?igshid=1wrwio659yhf5 I think sex is one of the things that makes life delicious. Exploiting myself for the amusement of men is my idea of a nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:44 AM
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I literally just had to block a pickme from askwomenover30 that was complaining about her sex life. She got so defensive and thought I should sleep with a ton of men before I could give advice. I finally looked at her previous posts and realized it’s a lost cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:22 PM
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Works once if that.. More confidence at 40. How dare women?! More confidence in knowing in the depths of their soul they don’t need a man to have a happy fulfilling life :) Where as men think the 19yo waitress is just oh so interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:05 AM
3

Bops her on the nose with a newspaper or takes out the spray bottle. But seriously best case scenario gives her the angry silent treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:45 AM
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I’m so very tired of everyone pretending dick is at or anywhere near the same value as a woman. Even outstanding dick barely compares to any woman. It. Just. Isn’t. I know it. You know it. Your momma knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:35 AM
1

Omg thank you. I could not read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:31 AM
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There must be some sort of brigade, most of the comments are yta but the top and highly voted comments are nta. Aria-Raine-88 4h I bought my bfs gaming chair and he won’t let me use it. Why? Cuz it’s his since I bought it for HIM and I got myself a bean bag chair and I don’t care for his chair like he would even if I don’t move it anywhere. Not even mad. It’s his property. Lol @ this pickme. Someone told her to buy some self respect haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:14 AM
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His future. His future is secured. He is making sure his future is secured. Don’t get it twisted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:57 AM
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If I wanted children, sperm bank is what I would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:50 AM
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She’s doing it for the kid, I don’t think that’s her being a clown. She’s sacrificing herself for her child’s wellbeing. Will it work? Probably not, but she’s thinking of her child, not herself. Can anyone else the pigpen say the same?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:48 AM
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My (23M) wife (23F)wanted me to be rough with her in bed. Now she is afraid of me and won’t speak to me. What do I do? From another subreddit. Bdsm is the stupidest thing on planet earth. I am entirely grateful that I don’t have trauma. And that I don’t need a bunch of perverted, extensive and complicated shit to orgasm. I am thankful for vanilla 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:44 AM
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TL/DR: Just give it to me straight y'all: do I not get to be with anyone who excites me and also respects me because I'm plus size? Do I need to just chose a boring guy? It sounds like you’re avoidant. They are afraid of intimacy and rejection, not a great combination. Being 140+ lbs overweight didn’t come without a reason, that’s something you should work through (I’m speaking about the reason not that you shouldn’t date plus sized) before dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:46 PM
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Don’t drink and don’t be alone with him, not even alone in a car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:20 PM
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Hmm they don’t smell bad like a dog or a ferret. So I guess I never noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:11 PM
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This is the main problem with all pickmes, they think men are these deep cavernous emotional oceans when in reality they are puddles that want to stick their dicks in as many different women as possible. It’s really simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:23 PM
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Level 3: I ask for video chat, they say they rather meet in person. Test of accommodation. NOT ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT, DUDE. Well now we won’t be doing either 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:16 PM
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Cats don’t smell like anything? Are you rough with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:02 PM
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I’m a Disney person. It didn’t impact my relationships. If anything it made me not interested in settling. I will say the biggest impact on my life was growing with with a lot of strong women in my family who absolutely adored me. Men where an option, and only excellent men like my father where tolerated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:59 PM
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Someone told me I should be a hand model. I spent $60 on my manicure, had on lovely rings and I make sure my cuticles are well moisturized. I mean I deserve the compliment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:50 PM
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I had a guy tell me he was too anxious to show up at a popular restaurant, he planned the date!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:35 PM
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I’ve literally said, why would you think I want to hear about other women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:26 PM
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OMG too funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:38 AM
1

That’s great that you gave examples. I gave an actual life and death one. I don’t see how it’s ridiculous as people are naturally afraid of their child dying, death does happen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:04 PM
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I wouldn’t want to be in 95% of the marriages out there so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:45 PM
1

Why can’t I respect myself. Why don’t you? This is what you need to be asking yourself, not anything specific about this guy. Self reflection, therapy like another person suggested, if you want to start out small there are a million excellent books out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:42 PM
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Ok bye 👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:08 PM
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There are other ways to pick a man over your child, a fire is just an example, so yes it does matter. Example starving a kid while the man is as big as a house, just think of all the cases like this in the news. Also when someone tells on themselves like this, believe them. Don’t make excuses or tell yourself stories to make yourself feel better. Accept reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:05 PM
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2-3 months is where is becomes something or not. The excitement of the new rubs off. At least you didn’t sleep with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:56 PM
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I’ve never thought of that! I love the screenshots here and the ones I exchange with my friends. I’ve posted my own, easier to send a screenshot that type it all out. Where is all the proof?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:25 PM
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There’s a book called the body keeps score. It could give you some insight while you’re waiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:17 PM
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It’s violence. Where does this need for violence come from? Not anywhere healthy. It doesn’t lead to anything truly fulfilling. It’s very very sad. There are lots of resources to improve mental health and we should take advantage of all these modern opportunities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:39 AM
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He’s really showing you up! Just look how wonderful he is ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:04 PM
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Most men are just too lazy for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:58 PM
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Mean while they can’t even look a woman in the eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:30 AM
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No worries :) good luck on your search.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:00 AM
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Most relationships I’ve seen is the woman taking care of the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:09 PM
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You should write down all the things he did and keep it as a reminder for when you feel guilty or miss him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:50 PM
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I can’t believe there are people walking around out there this out of touch and delusional. All his “points” are completely stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:43 PM
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I mean all I did was threaten you..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:18 PM
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why did you block me? I didnt want that. Jc!!!! Honestly I would have texted him -get f*cked- and then block, because it sounds like he can’t stand to know he is a bad guy in someone else’s eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:10 PM
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Okay back in my OLD days this PhD student asked to meet for coffee. I agreed (🤦🏽‍♀️) and told him what time and the general area where I was going to be. Tell me why this man came back with oh there’s a McDonald’s there, here’s the address, let’s get an ice cream. A. McDonald’s. Ice. Cream. Would even a pick me go for that?? $1 ice cream. That’s worst offer than a walk date imo. He is lucky all I did was unmatch. Cause I wanted to dress him down or agree and not show up. Now when I see PhD stude…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:01 PM
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I actually lol’d Too funny 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 08:36 PM
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Colostomies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:23 AM
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Sounds like you where being pretty passive aggressive with him. Not a cute look. Keep it easy breezy. It’s obvious that’s how he treats you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:48 AM
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And you’re looking for misandry not misogyny. And btw I love men. Just not the shitty ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:20 PM
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Okay pickme 😂 But seriously, have you ever asked yourself why you have extra empathy for men? I linked a podcast and corresponding book in previous comments, have a look, hopefully it provides some insight. If not, then I’m just a bitch and that’s fine too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:18 PM
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That is why I love this subreddit and books, attachment, the body keeps score, men loves bitches. The validation/confirmation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:12 PM
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The claim all this biological bs, polygamy, “visual” blah blah blah yawn. Sir. All our intuition THAT is an actual survival skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:04 PM
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Nah other women aren’t competition. That’s EXACTLY what men want you to believe. A smoke screen. To the real issues. Including that most men aren’t worth chewed gum. Let go and start designing life the way you want. If wallets and dick follow. Great. If not that’s great too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:55 PM
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I wonder what men around 25 think of her First of who cares what men think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:53 AM
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Himpathy. I was just listening to a podcast about the excessive empathy society has for men. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scene-on-radio/id1036276968?i=1000420995544
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:12 AM
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This is why I love this sub. I’ve noticed this too!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 10:08 AM
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I hated the satisfyer too. Luckily I got a trial womanizer in that order. Love. I have the premium version but my friend got the classic and she says that’s great too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:53 AM
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The ONLY guy that NEVER did told me the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:42 AM
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Any man that uses the 😘 emoji belongs in the trash. It’s almost as bad as 😏 Also I’m so sick of men that are frightened and nervous. Good god have some confidence. All this texting confidence with the stupid kissy face but can’t actually speak up. Loser. And it is such a damn time waste! And least the over sexualized f boys can be unmatched quickly. But the back and forth for days sh*t is annoying af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:57 AM
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Reminds me of the Barbie meme. Is that what you smoke? Crack? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:20 AM
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Yeah how dare women expect a smidge of respect and common decency!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:17 PM
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Anddd unmatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:46 AM
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My bff went on a walk in the park and a guy walked asked to join her. She ignored him. When she told me I got so scared for her. I was like don’t ignore him! Just smile and pretend you didn’t hear him. Can’t even ignore these fools out of fear. This world we live it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:45 AM
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nothing extravagant He really knows how to make a girl feel special. An offer that’s impossible to resist 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:29 PM
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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love Please read this book. It’s all there. You being anxious and then the “rush of relief”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:56 AM
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Do not take it personally!! Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love I highly recommend you read this book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:53 AM
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This is online dating bro. Less words, more pictures. Oh wait you’re unattractive.. Ofc he is a cancer. I just finish reading the attachment book so I’m a bit obsessed but this guy is definitely avoidant. Thinking he is holding out for the mythical “one” when in reality the issue is him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:32 AM
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I’ve made a great social worker friend. Let me tell you I highlyyyyy recommend!! Introspection 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:59 AM
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72 virgins in the afterlife...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:38 AM
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Wait according to subreddit drama or unpopular opinion fds is for this kind of male behavior 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:21 AM
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I’ve been listening too. It’s really good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:53 AM
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Men are reallyyyyy impressed by their own dicks. You can literally buy one the perfect shape and size for $29.99.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:57 PM
7

That was literally all made up in his head. Aren’t men suppose to be the logical rational sex?? This is pure delusion. Do some self reflection and work on your self otherwise what you find at the end is going to be very very sad for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:30 PM
5

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love I highly recommend you read this book. You sound anxious and he sounds avoidant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:52 AM
9

OMFG How can I shake someone via the internet? Peace be with you but, girl, he hates you 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:13 PM
3

Same 🤦🏽‍♀️ If she was getting something I would get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:08 PM
36

This is what men mean when they claim to be the rational sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:25 AM
3

Do this to my sister?? Nah evict if it’s legal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:43 PM
17

2-3 months is about where it either becomes something or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:45 PM
33

Oh god. Cut your losses and run! 37 and has never had a dude lay pipe correctly 😢😢 how sad for her!! The cyst is gone, time to dump another cyst and get it done right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:30 PM
104

A hvm wouldn’t be running to reddit asking for advice when he could simply talk to his gf about his concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:52 AM
90

Interesting his response https://level.medium.com/confessions-of-an-internet-famous-cheater-9d6295b7bce3 cannot outshine a reputation I mean sorry but you aren’t a good or even decent person. It’s not just the cheating. But the cheating and going out in public as a relationship expert. That’s just depraved. It’s like those preachers that are so antigay, protesting and such but later being caught with meth and a male prostitute. How can anyone including employers EVER trust you, esp if it revolve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:37 PM
11

😁 justice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:42 PM
22

How embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:41 PM
3

My heart is pounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:18 PM
13

In my worst “relationship” (really it was just a five day vacation. Don’t get attached to people online that you don’t actually know!) we fought every night. One time I really felt he was going to hit me, so I asked are you going to hit me? And his man says why is that what you’re use to? Like he was just dying to do it and all he need was the confirmation that it happened before. I can picture the disappointment in his face and the defeated body language when I confidently yelled NOPE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:44 AM
11

Ugh. He really saw it as his green light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:36 AM
6

Ask “Why are you going to absolve me??” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:35 PM
35

There is absolutely no way you should be moving to another country without a ring! It makes no sense! IDC if it’s a stone’s throw away, he can rearrange his life. Listen to yourself you already know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:13 PM
32

The first time I tried eharmony and found the best OLD relationship I’ve ever been in. But I tried it again and honestly now it seems like a bunch of guys that don’t get noticed on “normal” dating sites. Or at least no one I would be interested in. Either they’re very unattractive, have too many kids, or have poor paying jobs. It could just be covid but I’ve been on there 6 months and there is nothing there, total waste of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 07:30 PM
1

Nice going to baseless insults as a rebuttal 👌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:30 PM
6

Like I said I’m not about the kink references. I love vanilla sex, and I get super wet 🤷🏽‍♀️ And being wet is a sign of being turned on? And yes, I don’t care about the children’s exposure. I wasn’t even allowed to watch the simpsons, for me it’s up to parents to control what comes into the house. When did I say I spoke for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:48 AM
4

I went on a mini vacation with one. He didn’t open doors or get my luggage out of the trunk. And that was the least of what was wrong with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:42 AM
53

“I was awake all night because of what you said” I wanted to say good!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:07 PM
6

Me too. And extroverts 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:02 PM
7

Sounds like he wants to you to chase him. He could have apologized and give a meaningful response. But no just text me. Get out of here dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:36 AM
2

First off don’t accept bad behavior ever again. Great podcast I heard about it here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:29 PM
6

Fabulous! Wonderful! Great! Date those women then!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:42 AM
13

I was going to say get the hint but then it’s not a hint, you straight up told him today and a year ago. These are the same guys that say: well you never told me xyz. Yes! Yes, I did you just didn’t listen and/or comprehend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:41 AM
10

Enjoy the life you built for yourself 🤷🏽‍♀️ He sounds completely well adjusted and fulfilled lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:14 AM
23

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:05 AM
3

Would you really be that bothered if he did something nice for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:09 PM
24

While reading this, you may think that STFU only applies when your SO says something to you that hurts your feelings. However, this applies to a variety of feelings. Not just hurt ones. WOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:05 AM
2

I think it’s because they are emotionally stunted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:56 PM
2

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:21 AM
8

I accidentally gave instructions on how I want to be treated to a man 😫😫. It was just a sentence but even that no! At least I immediately recognized it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:13 AM
10

Women are just so giving and amazing. I see it every day with my friends and family. I’m not going to waste my love on a man that doesn’t adore me. I know this harsh but I love this IG post from shera7
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:05 PM
16

I know damn this intuition, honing in on it 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:56 AM
36

Right?? I don’t want a pen pal! Women get accused of using old for attention. I want a real in person connection, so don’t I need to know if meeting in person is feasible??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:26 AM
19

I was visiting family myself. I wanted to check out the talent (or lack of) on the biggest and easiest dating site. He was unmatched obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:20 AM
15

Exactly. He doesn’t want to marry you. What else is there to talk about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:26 AM
2

He should have at least acknowledged it. What else would he feel comfortable ignoring?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:36 PM
3

I would send that reply it’s 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:16 PM
18

I take solace that her stupid comment was downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:04 PM
2

Ooo man I’d have to X him quick. Otherwise I would definitely want to make a smart ass comment back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:55 AM
8

Rofl. He obviously fucked up multiple times, and yet he’s surprised he’s been ghosted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:28 AM
5

am I just reading too much into this? Yes Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:18 AM
1

⛪️⛪️⛪️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:16 AM
22

I love the spontaneous out of no where compliments. This week I had a coworker stop mid sentence to tell me I had really shiny hair :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:42 AM
19

Lol men are dumb. It’s sad that they love stupid games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:35 AM
3

I don’t think of 45 as advanced. I know older 60+ women divorced (at 45+) with grown children that want someone with enough money to send them furniture on a whim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:12 AM
7

Yes! One time I said this to a guy I wasn’t too excited to meet. Thank god because he started telling me about his fireplace that was “amazing for cuddling”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:02 AM
6

I’m an Aries/fire sign. I will never ever date cancer’s again!! No woman I know has an emotionally stable relationship with a cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:48 PM
10

No one wants to think they’re the bad guy in their own story. He had to perform mental gymnastics, prove the he could treat the “right” girl decently, but in reality if he was a even a semi decent person he wouldn’t have treated you like that. Delete him off your sm, if you can’t get rid of him and the connections to him, I’d consider starting whole new profiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:42 PM
10

I know many many older women would love a relationship like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:33 PM
27

There will always be another man 🤷🏽‍♀️ No matter a woman’s age, there is always men sniffing around. Even if it doesn’t work out, life ALWAYS goes on. No need to get hung up on one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:09 PM
1

😱😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:01 AM
3

Oo good god 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:39 AM
9

I was told this guy I was out shopping one day and he told me to buy some black lingerie for him. I told him most guys would pay for the lingerie, he said something like tell me your size and I will. I just ignored him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:40 AM
4

Ugh that shit is always so cringy and embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:03 AM
2

I wonder this too. If we have good rapport, and he doesn’t say anything off during the texting/talking phase, then I don’t see why we couldn’t get through a dinner 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’ve never had a first date or first meet up where I felt I needed to run away screaming. But now I’m not doing coffee or drinks, I’m just not leaving my house esp during a pandemic for bs. I need to see effort and generosity from day one. Show me your colorful feathers and nest otherwise I’m happy trodding off alone. Also a lot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:06 PM
17

From watching the show it seems like the same issues which is: men ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:20 AM
2

Take it as it comes - Vivian Girls Fds theme song, and the video is real cute too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:36 PM
10

Pick me’s 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:49 PM
27

God, these low value idiots are ruining the ONE thing they have left to offer us 😂 Facts!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:10 PM
33

I took a huge break from dating and when I came back the amount of men who couldn’t get or keep it up... astronomical. First I was baffled, I though maybe cause I was dating older as I was older. Nope, just porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:38 PM
14

ROFL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:35 PM
6

He may have the best heart, and you may too, but if you’re walking around with an extra 40 lb, why would he look your way if there’s plenty of fit and attractive girls with also good hearts? I absolutely disagree with this. It just screams insecurity. Men aren’t just attracted to one type of women, that would be boring. That’s just brain washing and media/patriarchal propaganda. I love men and the ones I’ve been with have all been different and different looking and I love that! The only thing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:12 PM
2

Good dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:08 PM
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Wait wait wait. Y’all are telling me I can I work a hard satisfying 12 hr shift, then grab Sunday brunch to vent with my mentally stable girlfriends, shower, get a bomb a** 90 minute massage, blast Taylor Swift’s I did something bad in my 2020 vehicle, go to my gorgeous apartment with million dollar views to pass out just before seeing (and not replying) messages from three beautiful, interested, financial stable men with all their fucking hair??? OMG 😛😛😛 this life. Am I bragging? 🤔 Maybe 🤔 Sorr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:42 PM
10

A man who is trying not to release this info 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:46 AM
4

You are severely underestimating the lengths men will go through to get sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:09 AM
1

It hasn’t even been a year!! Of course you are still angry. Hell I’m angry for you. He just wants to go on pretending he did nothing wrong and isn’t a “bad guy”. So typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:03 PM
2

Hinge. If you don’t have premium you have to match or X the ones that like you one by one to see the next one that liked you. Everyone gets a free month of premium within a week of signing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:36 PM
1

Me too!! I talked before about this horrible guy I went on vacation with. We where at some waterfalls and he stomped off ahead of me down the side of the waterfalls. It was steep obviously, I was lagging behind taking photos and such, and there was a couple in front of me, the man held out his hand for his partner to get down. I was having difficulty and the coupled man held out his hand for me!! He said something sadly apologetic like he left you behind. So embarrassing but I had already know b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:26 PM
2

What a chump! Tell him to look for his ego boosts elsewhere and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:05 PM
1

Honestly, this is my ideal situation as I don’t want kids and I probably don’t want to get married. I wouldn’t want to do date or friend things with the other person. But that just could be because I’m not a people person. Keep your emotional distance. When I hear low paying job, for me it’s hard to be attracted in a serious way. Most important after always using a condom, is make sure he is and stays respectful!! Unfortunately where my fb thing fell apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:56 AM
4

How long has he been in recovery? I’m pretty sure over a year is what AA recommends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:43 AM
6

His teeth, horrendous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:03 AM
2

So absolutely no woman in the world is happy with their life, or cool, funny, or smart? The projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:39 AM
14

This sounds more like poor boundaries than “true” love. Have true love for yourself. Stop making other people responsible for how you feel, people with poor boundaries make healthy people extremely uncomfortable, and as you’ve experienced makes you vulnerable to predators. Let’s say you had a child, I would hope you wouldn’t tell them every single thought and trauma you had. That is not love, that’s using others to emotionally heal yourself. It’s actually very selfish. A man with good boundaries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:57 PM
4

Aww I think a lot of it is because you have a lot of uncertainty now with the job search and all the new beginnings that come with graduating. And honestly covid, the isolation and fear, not just about staying healthy, but I think a lot of people are fearful (and rightfully so) that things will never go back to normal. The entire world has changed this year and there is so much uncertainty. It’s a scary time for all of us and he offered companionship and comfort. I get it, it’s extremely disappo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:45 PM
12

Day to day, real life cleanliness is extremely important if you are going to live in the same household. It sounds like you aren’t very excited about him, no point in keeping him around in a serious manner in that case. Chivalrous in what way? He gets you gifts and is attentive in bed. But what? Does he not open doors or like he would run away in you were both in danger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:16 PM
2

Oh geez. He’ll probably tell the next girl how he’s hung up on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:22 AM
3

How about, it’s too hot out for me, but I’d be down for dinner (a day you are free) If he really starts pushing the sport, or says coffee or drinks, then you know it’s a lost cause. He could have just been trying to make an easy connection with the sport.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:12 AM
8

Good for you. It’ll get easier and easier. Out of curiosity what did you ask him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:23 PM
3

Where is the lie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:20 PM
22

Me too. I just couldn’t have sex with someone like that ever again. Letting and trusting that man with my body? No, I just really couldn’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:17 PM
58

They are so use to stuffing their feelings deep down it seems like they get resentful of other women for not doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:09 PM
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Eww I can’t imagine being sexually attracted to someone after this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:13 PM
13

Why have the app at all if you’re exclusive? Fishy af. Can’t matches or messages be deleted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:01 PM
22

Why don’t I bring along the knife and duct tape for you too. Make it extra convenient 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:53 AM
14

*Maybe *or Boy bye. That is a swift block in my book. I probably wouldn’t even give my usual “I hope you find what you’re looking for, good luck out there :)” sentence before the block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:44 AM
8

I have a: So next time when you speak to a guy or try to get into a relationship remember these words! Maybe it will save you from a failed relationship like this or the ones before! Woo! 😂 it was straight up wild getting into arguments with him. The gaslighting! Mid convo “facts” would change. I’d never experienced it before. Like there are people out there really trying to rewrite history. I felt like I was in 1984 or something. Even this message, I never ever ever say anything about past bfs,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:55 PM
7

Yes! I made a comment about it here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:43 PM
16

That’s the thing though, people (men and women) will straight out tell you who they are. Listening, believing and not thinking you can change them or they can change is the hard part. Life becomes a whole lot simpler when you accept people for who they are, not saying you have to put up with them, just acknowledging is enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:16 PM
9

I took screenshots of his profile to remind me what a scumbag he is, blocked him on Tinder, then went and blocked him literally everywhere else. Yes keep reminders! I probably would have sent him the screenshot with laughing emojis then blocked. This boy is a damn mess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:46 PM
75

Too dirty for the dog!! 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:39 PM
10

It’s so sad I know a friend has got a good guy when he doesn’t give me the eyes or try and touch me when she’s not looking..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:36 PM
1

I told a guy any colored roses but red. Guess what color I got 😁😁 but seriously I didn’t mention it. And why we both knew what he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:33 PM
7

Yes this is what most posts on r/relationships are about, couples fighting about chocolates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:27 PM
31

NSFL I was looking for some new podcasts and ran across I Survived. I thought it would be similar to the tv show where the stories are about surviving the wilderness. Nope. It’s about women going about their lives, minding their own damn business and these men coming along to torture, rape, and murder them. The women in the these stories obviously survive but let’s face it how many don’t? It’s made me nervous tbh. Oh and ofc there are comments, why is this podcast only about women, men get attac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:57 PM
10

they’re weak people at core. ⛪️⛪️⛪️⛪️ Mentally healthy people aren’t interested in fucking over other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:10 PM
12

How sad that women's kind hearts are exploited. Red pill in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:04 PM
16

Lol right. No sir you’re so obviously a great human being 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:32 AM
23

The biggest thing is when a man is into you you’ll know. There will be no questions or guessing. Don’t get attached or worry about what they think, they’re your dancing monkey not the other way around. That’s just the truth, sorry to the male lurkers. They have to try and keep options open because they don’t have as many as us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:26 AM
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This is a man. Either that or she’s really young, naive, and inexperienced. One day reality will come crashing down oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:14 PM
2

One time I woke up and my ex said here’s your phone and immediately handed it to me 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:51 PM
4

I didn’t stay for the comments but he was all I’ve catcalled too 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:16 PM
19

I feel like his reputation has been tarnished and my parents no longer like him. How can I fix this? How can I girl is in deep..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:29 AM
1

I wanted to downvote this lol. Have fun looking for Ms virgin supermodel pick me that goes 50/50 while you make minimum wage and look like a toad. Literally what does he care if five cats get a loving home? Oh yeah his male ego can’t stand women living their own lives instead of worrying what his peepee thinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:56 PM
3

I get the premium versions of apps so I can see messages and likes. You don’t have too but it cuts to the chase for me and I always pay for convenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:57 AM
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What’s the point of having a bf if you aren’t doing fun stuff together? Who did he go to the spa with? That’s a great couple thing to do. Sounds like the relationship is going stale and he has no interest in keeping his connection with you strong. Always mirror their actions, you’ll get a better understanding on how they feel about you. Emotionally disconnect, either he’ll scramble to keep you or keep disengaged, either way you’ll get your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:32 AM
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No. Every single time I have I’ve regretted it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:15 AM
5

Maybe when your masks touch 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:11 AM
8

Don’t look for ego boosts on dating apps. You need a thick skin for it. I recommend not swiping on anyone and not liking someone who liked you without sending a message, unless they meet most of your basic requirements. Just look through the ones that send messages esp ones that personalized messages for you, not copy pasta. Those are the ones that have actually lead somewhere for me. But if you’re not in a good headspace you might find yourself accepting things you normally wouldn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:08 AM
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Nothing good comes from forcing a man to do anything that he doesn’t want to do. You can plant the idea but not out right say it, sheraseven has a lot of great ways to do this. Personally what I have done is not accept every date that’s offered, you’re busy and have other things to do besides get wrapped up in the honeymoon period with some guy you’ve know for two months. Why are you so sure you want to be exclusive with him before he knows if he wants to be exclusive with you? Keep it light and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:00 AM
13

If it wasn’t would they like it? Why kid yourself and act like it’s not reinforcing trauma?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:45 AM
21

What. The. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:27 AM
2

I mentioned this in another thread but this 85 year old patient of mine was asking me to marry him, he had a million dollars and not that much time left, he needed someone to care for him, he wanted to go back to Russia before he passed and he liked my look etc. Not something unheard of in geriatric medical community. Anyway I made the mistake of sharing this with a man I was dating about it. He got so mad about and said how’s his dick game? I just thought it was funny! Also I went on a horrible…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:03 PM
4

No one’s taking anyway anything from you. I’m just saying maybe take those pretty little IG photos with a grain of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:03 AM
16

You can’t trust what people put up on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:50 PM
3

Idk I’ve definitely said -he can’t afford me- out loud...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:52 AM
15

How boring. He just hates women. There’s absolutely no winning with these guys. If this, then that, if that, then this. It’s a circle with them. He has no objective in “relationships” so no one else should want them either? Enjoy living in what sad definition of the world you’ve built in your own head, it sounds miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:25 AM
18

I was watching who the f did I marry, I had to stop. Heinous torture and another where the guy sexually assaulted his new wife’s daughter then brutally murdered the daughter. I would never forgive myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:10 AM
29

Why do I need to keep a man? Did all the other ones die or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:43 AM
27

I’m all for the unmatch. But this would be fire as a reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:25 AM
43

Porn and video games yes quite the personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:31 AM
7

You already know. Don’t ignore yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:17 AM
5

That’s every date I’ve had with Indian guys tbh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:11 AM
1

I always always get called a “good girl” and what I think people mean is that I don’t get played like other women do because I don’t put up with bs. And I have self control, self esteem and can manage emotions without seeking attention, sex, drugs or alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:48 AM
17

Same! This guy lied to me, telling me he was away for a family celebration, no, he no longer had a job in my area. He begged me to visit him, so I went and visited him for 5 days. Never have I been around an abusive type person. But I was stuck. The sex was so bad, he thought sticking it in was more than enough and he got so passive aggressive when I went out and bought a pocket rocket type thing. I should have know better but he love bombed me and I was on the rebound. So many red flags I ignor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:01 AM
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This week I had a male coworker tell me to smile.. while I was wearing a mask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:27 PM
30

About 7 years ago... 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:26 PM
6

x1000. In my experience matches that don’t immediate start with a message don’t go anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:00 AM
1

Next time don’t say sorry. What do you have to be sorry about? If you feel you have to say something back, just say no. And if you’re feeling extra talkative add good luck out there. Then block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 03:57 AM
2

Tell him to buy you something or an emergency came up and you need money. Play with him, no sex or just you getting oral or something. It’s fun to play the long con when you don’t give a fuck. He played with you. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:11 AM
44

There was a Reddit post about how someone's wife was being raped by an intruder and the guy had no idea because of his gaming headphones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:53 PM
8

Aww he thinks he’s special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:46 PM
3

Yes, you aren’t their therapist. They know exactly what they are doing. Something small, okay, make one simple comment about how that’s unacceptable but never over explain or have a million conversations about it. Men aren’t that stupid. And trust me other men will come along. 2nd guy is wasting your time, if it’s been over a week, cut him loose. It seems he’s very concentrated on looks and the convo is going no where. 3rd should have been immediately blocked after the without me comment. He’s l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:30 PM
3

I would have just replied no. End of sentence. But with his lame backpedaling he can get bent. No one’s stupid, he meant what he said. I’d tell him I’m no longer interested, then block and delete him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:33 AM
12

But having 12 white claws, doing coke, and having unprotected sex with randoms is healthy self care!! /s Agreed that kind hate of “other” is indicative of deeper issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:21 AM
2

Unmatch sooner, no point in wasting your time on fundamentally incompatible people. You need a tough skin for OLD, good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:08 AM
6

Why change yourself to get a man who actually isn’t into who you actually are? Unless you’re super rude and unpleasant of course. I’d rather have one genuine connection than a 100 superficial and fake connections. I do believe in always trying to better yourself. As long as you’re always on a journey of self improvement I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s funny in the past would never call myself calm, it’s nice and surprising to hear people complimenting my calmness because it’s something that I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:48 AM
23

Lmfao 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:28 AM
17

I don’t get it either. The entire thing is ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:22 AM
5

Don’t worry about why I’m here. I’ve had a similar philosophy for my entire life. I’d be more worried about you thinking there’s no possible way you’ve ran into a predator for your whole career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:33 AM
9

not one out of the thousands I worked with was ever inappropriate with a child. There is absolutely no way you can know that. Lol @ effort time and money being a deterrent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:51 PM
9

Aww I’m sorry he is such a slim ball. You never told me, you never told me! BS, personally I’m someone who has no issues speaking my mind and confronting people and even I’ve heard that. I’m sure he’s ready to twist the narrative. Let him, he’s the past now and now you know better. Thank you next. Ride the emotions and don’t forget to delete him everywhere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:18 PM
149

Your career < the one class he took Anyone who’s ever been employed should know HR isn’t methodical. Tf. What’s wrong with men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:33 PM
35

Then says he’s not getting me my gifts since I was mad for so long & I should apologize to him for being upset for no reason. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 what a fucking clown. Such a lame manipulation attempt. “For no reason”, I am angry for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 12:14 AM
3

I was bewildered lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:19 PM
11

They get to date women, who are amazing and attractive. We get stuck with men.. Idk I just remember that I’ve gotten over break ups and pain before. And that’s why I’m picky to begin with and don’t ignore red flags, they need to be actually worth energy expended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:16 PM
16

I got rid my fb. He was good at sex but eventually became so disrespectful with my time. I honestly didn’t/don’t get it because I’m a million times hotter. Ya think they’d be grateful, but nope he just became resentful. The reason I picked him was because I knew I wouldn’t get attached, because of his looks and his actions, but that didn’t stop me from getting my feelings hurt multiple times. Even now idk if the orgasms were worth the emotional energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:56 PM
13

Ruthless I love it. And why not another man will roll around anyway tbh. Why did he have to tell you this evening.. he could have said the next day.. fishy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:46 PM
24

I am so sick of the male gaze. I go out wearing a mask, no makeup besides curling my eyelashes and gained quarantine weight. Wtf, leave me alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:42 PM
51

Right. And I want great sex. What are the chances this guy is going to make me come?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:20 AM
11

Why did you message him first? And when you didn’t have the time to text? Control yourself. Improve your dating game by only being attracted to men who are very into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:05 AM
21

What a loser!! That much mind warping and obsession with porn and not being able to have sex! Ironically hilarious. I don’t recommend message him again, but a link to porn addiction counseling or something would be funny. But truthfully this guy sounds dangerous, like one of those men that try to rape but can’t get it up so they murder the person instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:56 AM
30

Intuition!! I’ve literally walked out of men’s homes for less. Omg imagine being in the same room with this guy much less having him touch you 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:45 AM
17

Exactly this is horrendous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:41 AM
48

I never understand those “other “females” pay“ guys. Great! Fabulous! Date those women then 👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:37 AM
3

Oh man now I wanna say this too 😬 When I get asked what am I looking for now. I say good dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:50 AM
2

The beginning is the best it’s ever going to get! Idk I’d dump him. Or tell him simply you’re not going down on me enough. Not whole paragraphs or whole conversations about it. But honestly I’d move him to the disposable category and emotionally detach. Why risk a life without good oral sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:40 AM
39

Other than that he is just peachy 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:57 PM
0

As far as the feminine “presentation”, isn’t that idea really kinda misogyny- based? Femininity is a construction that’s very binary with so much implied and outright negativity applied to the supposed female assigned traits. No it’s not misogyny based. She is a woman 🤷🏽‍♀️ She is not a man. Therefore she is feminine. There is nothing wrong or negative about being a woman or feminine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:24 PM
4

A lot of those girls are so young and under 18 :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:10 PM
4

I’m so proud of you for getting up and leaving💜 Let him enjoy his little videos obviously they mean a lot to him. I hope they work out for him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:09 PM
4

He is not the one. It’ll just be a waste of your time and energy..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:01 PM
94

Imagine being so emotionally stunted that your only coping skill is to destroy a “loved“ one’s happiness. What a gross person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:38 AM
22

How did you sabotage yourself? Sounds like he broke up with you because you wouldn’t eat his butt. Either you where going to do it or not, and that was his dealbreaker. You already told him you where not going to do it, how many conversations does there need to be about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:16 PM
25

You were so polite. I would have to told this guy it’s too bad he has poor social skills and he could fuck off :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:08 AM
29

Some pickme deluded him into thinking he is a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:15 PM
2

What a weak ass “man”. I hope you blocked him. I’m sure he is going to try to weasel his way back in with some sob story. Feel better 💐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:08 AM
10

I had one say “I can’t believe you’re calling me selfish after all I spent on you”. Wut I’m not taking about money bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:31 AM
16

How is that less stressful? Any silences pick up your fork or drink lol. Less stress on his wallet. I like your response polite and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:38 AM
3

I wanted to ask what the response normally was. Cause if I was interested, idk what I could possibly say to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:20 AM
21

Fuck they are stupid. Blinders on for their bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:04 AM
9

Oooh no what a lost for that poor woman! 😱 Where ever will she find another cheap ass?? She’ll just have to cry into her pillow every night 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:36 AM
20

So angry. Someone doesn’t want to “fuck” you, calm down psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:41 AM
18

Agreed. I’m introverted, I really have no interest in talking to strangers when I’m out in public esp men. Like get away from me 🥴 I have to be in the right mood, and I can do that with apps. But tbh I’ve been off them for a couple months. I will say my favorite part is it introduces you to people you’d never normally come in contact with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:13 PM
95

If he wanted to he would. But I gotta say block and delete ❤️ all the anxiety and overthinking, gone, faster than a blink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:20 AM
26

If I bring it up it gives him the chance to apologize and try to be manipulative, but it would also give the possibility of a straight answer. Your instinct that he is just going to manipulate you if you talk to him again is dead on. Listen to your gut! The straight answer is he’s an asshole, no need to investigate further, some people are just assholes, send him on his way. This sounds like the dread game, google it. If you don’t want to ghost, just send a one or two sentence message max, then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:15 AM
24

I got this in my inbox one day: Elegantly beautiful pictures, Like Gods art in her finest strokes. Your hard for me to describe as a poet. Like a texture to the fingers or a desert. Your pictures fill with elegance radiating beauty in a way my words cant tell. Sable skin tones glow as a gift from the sun, am jealous of its light. My fingers envy the wind that floats through your hair. Your the image of heaven I read about in books that lighten my imagination. Your pictures warm to my sight and p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:04 AM
23

Once I told a guy I didn’t do coffee dates. And he said something sarcastic like what do you want to do skydive for a first date? I wanted to say if you think that’s an appropriate first date.. But I just unmatched. I don’t agree with asking them to “correct” their first low effort offer. I’ve literally had offers to immediately meet for dinner, etc. If they are seriously interested, they’ll come correct and trip over themselves to get your attention. Edit to say I don’t think you are desperate.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:23 PM
5

I occasionally get flashes of anger when I remember something specific about past relationships. Usually I let myself feel the feeling and tell my bff, I just remembered xyz about whomever. Talking about it helps, even writing it down. But when I find myself possibly going on a spiral about it, I take a step take and ask why am I thinking about this, and it’s always because of other uncontrollable circumstances in my life. My mind wants to take me down a negative road so why not add to it. Once …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:54 AM
8

If you’re tired of it then stop entertaining men that sexualize you right away. They are already telling you what they are about, you need to listen. You may think “our” chemistry is great and this is different, but if you get sexual right away most men are going to think you do that with everyone. Also you sound a little aggressive. You can check out not_ur_typical_woman on IG for tips on femininity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:00 PM
6

I’d ghost this guy so fast his head would spin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:40 AM
14

🤮 gross I wish I didn’t know that. And a comment: she gotta get that bag Porn sick, and people hearted that comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:52 AM
15

What in the ever loving fuck? I get it maybe you stick around for your young kids while he pays for your lifestyle but this shit absolutely fucking not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:42 PM
5

But you are? Sex does not need to be done under casual or married. There are middle grounds. Or maybe that’s not really done in your country? And yes, you can do casual, ons kind thing, but take the linked OP, she in her own words is freaking out. She is allowed feel her feelings, not just dismissed under the guise of you are strong independent woman. I understand being under quarantine and then being out would be rather tempting, but I also understand, as with most encounters with men, you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:30 PM
14

A woman’s sexuality isn’t Madonna or whore. That’s still the patriarchy talking. Sex is fun, but like it or not, you run huge risks and consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:08 AM
20

We aren’t wired to love anyone else? But we have children?? 🤔 I guess it’s sexism to love your own children over men lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:16 AM
14

You’d really be okay with a happy birthday text in the afternoon? That’s it. Not a “low key” celebration but a text in the afternoon. After your friends and family called you all morning and got you flowers and gifts? That’s acceptable, a text when the day is almost done? Even at work we have food and cake for coworkers. When does it end? No celebration when you get married, have a child, have an anniversary or get a promotion, are possible children not going to have a Christmas or any holiday? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:11 AM
5

Yes! And it’s not like they’re just slightly unattractive or something you could work it - it’s a dumpster fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:06 PM
20

I don’t mind going Dutch on a dinner, but in return I want a partner who is eager to please me in bed Why not both? I can pay for my own dinner and make myself come, what is he adding to my life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:05 AM
28

She’s a flight attendant?! She could be flying all over having a great life, not trying to keep this guy’s attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:37 AM
51

I regret telling her the real reason. So he can’t use her anymore. I don't normally go for girls that young. I actually prefer my women older, but she pursued me heavily and we met through a mutual social group. I thought it was okay. And this is why we don’t pursue. If he doesn’t want you, he doesn’t want you! Why why why do that to yourself???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:06 PM
7

Wow a lot of people defending poor social skills, I guess it is reddit..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 06:32 AM
3

The block isn’t about them, it’s about freeing up your head space. What’s the point in having reminders of this person occasionally pop up? Good bad whatever they’re doing, who cares?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:20 PM
4

I recently unsubscribed from that sub, and a few other dating subs. Just too depressing and redundant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:52 PM
8

Suspicious. Either this whole story is fake or he is.. I’d say have your fun with him for a couple months (NO sex) but you sound too attached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:23 AM
14

I just wanna take some time and thank the block button ❤️ for protection against the losers of the past, present (get bent asshat, you are extremely lucky you got to look in my direction much less sleep with me), and the future. I’ll be sure to use you more swiftly in the future ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:32 PM
3

I really didn’t want to see this thumbnail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:07 PM
13

I’m 33 and I just “released” my 2nd piece of semi long term garbage. Nothing too horrid thankfully, vigilance always!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:17 AM
18

Oh honey, I ain’t yo momma, no sweetie, get to the back of the line..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:08 AM
12

He’s his own worst enemy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:31 AM
5

? You’ve never went down a Wikipedia or YouTube rabbit hole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:21 AM
21

Uhh no a lot of people have come here due to reddit bitching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:29 PM
6

I’d just up and leave 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:17 PM
5

No, I’m American Indian and Hispanic. I agree, if I was Asian and heard that I would just up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 04:06 PM
8

Eek cute is never okay in my book, in your situation it’s even worst! On a first date. I had this guy lean in and in a serious tone he said “by the way you’re very cute”. Wth? Very cute? Ya couldn’t have just bumped it up to a pretty or beautiful? And the way he was so serious about it, like I was just dying to know that I was “acceptable” to him or he had thought hard about it and this was the determination. I found out he washed his hair once a week. It smelled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 03:16 PM
11

Keep it simple. I love my dad but he isn’t a good guy. Or something similar, just enough that she knows to keep her eyes open. Hopefully she sees that it means lot coming from his daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:28 AM
27

I was more committed to him than he is to me Boy 👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:26 AM
3

and I liked how he followed up right after. This was unnecessary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:41 PM
8

Why did you over praise him for following up? That’s common curtesy. Delete and block. And to your other comment. It was a first date that’s when the real evaluation starts. And you never stop evaluating anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:55 AM
9

She’s absolutely mesmerizing to watch, like stop and stare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:50 AM
39

Something’s wrong with him. And that’s his problem. BLOCK HIM and delete. He’ll try to come back after he realizes how much you did for him. Don’t let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:41 AM
13

I’m an atheist but this person needs Jesus. What a sick, depraved, animalistic individual. Just gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:30 AM
25

Do it. Don’t forget to block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:38 PM
5

There are so many memes, TikToks etc out there with women calling themselves clowns and stupid for running back to a loser man even when they know they are being dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:26 PM
5

What type of therapy did you try? CBT? There’s a lot of exercises out there to stop negative thinking, but you do have to put in the work. Read feeling good by David Burns. I heard about it here and it’s very helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:27 AM
10

This guy thinks his gf broke up with him because of his ED. In his post history. Edit: I should probably mention that I can get and maintain an erection with porn but with a partner it takes a lot of work. And medication. The thing is I don’t watch much porn and by no means am I addicted to it. Uhh yeah that’s not how medication induced ED works bro. You are addicted, deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:59 PM
9

Don’t try meeting people now, there’s nowhere to go! No reason to get attached to a pen pal, only to find out there’s no actual chemistry. Don’t worry about conversations slowing down, just move on to the next. You want someone that’s enthusiastic about you and keeps the convo going. Why are you worried about them losing interest and ghosting? They’re complete strangers! They should be worried about you doing that to them and if they aren’t, then they aren’t into you enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:16 AM
3

This is just what I needed to hear, thank you. I love this sub ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:40 AM
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Women are the emotional gender 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:29 AM
18

You can’t trust the honeymoon period, his feelings and yours. You reached out way way too many times. In most of my relationships I’ve texted someone first maybe once or twice the entire time, if you’re on someone’s mind they will reach out. I use to text my ex on my 16hr shifts from the bathroom (don’t recommend btw), he can find the time! He seemed promising until he wasn’t. You know in Pulp fiction when Marsellus Wallace says “That's pride fucking with you”. You’ve got to drop your ego and re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:52 AM
13

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:16 AM
9

Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:12 AM
34

Stroll through r/relationship or similar subs and read the absolute shit women put up with just so they “have a man”. It’s kinda like scared straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:04 AM
24

Great, enjoy your desensitized limp dick 👍🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:00 AM
2

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns It’s a really great book with CBT exercises
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:08 PM
3

You are 20 do you really want to be talked to like that for possibly the rest of your life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:53 PM
28

I’m a nurse and the amount of times I’ve heard “but they are soooo nice” about people that absolutely suck at their jobs is about 1,000.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:51 PM
174

What a douche, how about you just live with the FACT that you are a horrible person instead of looking for absolution from the person you hurt? Selfish till the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:36 PM
2

🤣🤣 you gave me a laughing turned coughing fit. Like a stray cat 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:51 AM
17

“I have zero emotional attachment” lmao. Good to know this person meant zero to you other than their looks after 2+ years. And saying what famous person she looked like just so the other lvm will get a visual 🙄 It’s like he knows that this should have taught him something but he is too stupid and egocentric to figure it out with his pea sized brain. “I have nothing but admiration” Well no shit she didn’t do anything wrong, unless you count walking away from his loser ass an issue, how dare she?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:04 PM
44

When a man is into you, you will know. There won’t be questions or guessing. Remember, actions over words and mirror their actions minus one or two is what I usually do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:44 AM
30

Nah, you’re not a hospital for broken men. I agree with your last sentence x1,000. Not attractive and desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:07 AM
85

Did this woman come ask him what he thought of her? No, then he should keep his mouth shut! Fuck the male gaze. And then trying to pit her against you, it’s a contest that NO ONE asked to enter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:01 AM
3

😂 dirtboy lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:24 AM
4

👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:48 AM
4

Maybe twice if I’m into them. If it’s just an OLD guy or someone one I’m not into, then immediate next. Not continuing an OLD convo depends 24-48hrs give or take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:46 AM
29

Honestly, what is wrong with this guy? Here’s how to add even lower value losers to the loser pile you have to sift through. How much free time does he think women have? We understand men want to fuck everything under the sun, yet they cannot comprehend women don’t have that same motivation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 12:21 AM
37

Does she chew up her husband’s food and spit it into his mouth too? What won’t these girl’s do for their “prize” of a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 07:30 PM
6

That AMA was like reading a mini twilight story lol Per example, a huge part of the sub's ideology is that women should not be seeking men's attention/validation and that we do not need it to live a happy life. I agree with that wholeheartedly. But what is every other post about? Online dating, which IS going out of your way to meet men. It's actually relatively rare that we read about someone here being asked out by a guy she met by chance (what happened to me), and not because she was actively…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:14 PM
16

No offense but sounds like you’re projecting a lot on to him. You’re sounding a little pick me and thinking way too much about him. If he wanted to kiss or touch you he would 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:17 PM
21

They’d be thrilled to have sex with you and are bewildered that you don’t feel the absolute same for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 03:51 AM
17

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:24 PM
27

I’ve dated a clueless man like this. It never gets better! You want someone thoughtful. And keep in mind it’s nothing to do with you! Some people just don’t have social skills or common sense. Next time someone is “sarcastic” like this, I’m ending it immediately, it doesn’t lead anywhere good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:46 PM
2

And how does that guarantee they will be any good?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:11 PM
9

I don’t even think men like sex. I think they like the conquest and ego boost. Which is why they can’t just pay for escorts, they need someone “to really like them” 🙄 And compared to the orgasms I can have theirs seem really lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:07 PM
22

Oooo he has put me in such a trance that I now need to have sex with him 😳 I guarantee it will be fun I’m so sure. This is like Dennis when he says I am a golden god. Delusional. I bet he has epic temper tantrums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:17 PM
2

Damn girl you really played yourself. When people tell you who they are listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:31 AM
1

Next time you’re out hold eye contact. Try to look open, friendly and that you have time to chat. Not that you’re in a rush or preoccupied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:29 AM
3

Laugh in his face and tell you him you try not to get too jaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:15 AM
3

It is so so good! I’m the same age and I love it. I am so capable and confident, highly recommended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:54 PM
11

They can lack self-awareness, 🤷‍♂️ self-regulation and self-soothing🧸mechanisms, empathy or sympathy to some degree ⛪️ Preach!! ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:37 PM
14

Ahaha yet women are the emotional ones! Dude get a grip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:35 PM
20

Men make me sick. When I think they’ve reached the bottom they just keep on digging. I pray she broke up with him!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:28 PM
42

She had expectations but just didn’t admit them to herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:39 PM
2

I have a “and nothing of value was lost”. I should delete him I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:47 PM
28

I finally decided to make the investment a couple days ago, I cannot wait!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:09 PM
14

So sad this is how it has too be! I’m still trying to accept this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:08 PM
14

Was he having a stroke while texting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:06 PM
3

Agh I’m annoyed for you. What a time waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:01 PM
13

I’m sort of the same way, try dating a couple men at the same time as fds recommends. It does work. The trouble is finding even someone remotely suitable, plus just finding the time to date. I get what you’re saying in the second part, they are so lucky they get to date women and we’re stuck with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:01 AM
4

There are other types of bonding, it’s not only romantic love that is fulfilling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:35 AM
18

Wow, you were talking to this guy for two weeks, that’s a lifetime on OLD, and that’s the best he could do? Boy please. I’m not leaving my house for that. So cheap, it’s very unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:04 PM
10

Those aren’t the worst ones, at least they weed themselves out quickly. The ones that waste your time with endless texting or are boring or rapid fire interview like questions and don’t know how to have actual conversations. I’m soo very tired of those types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:20 PM
20

I’ve decided to take a break possibly forever from OLD. In memory here is a photo dump for you all! Part one and the older, part two
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:04 PM
1

I think you do need to experience dating, with this guy or not. Sheraseven (YouTuber) says it’s better to have your first heartbreak young rather than older. You’ll get wrapped up quick. It’s quite the skill to stay interested but detached, he could be good practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:54 PM
5

My best male friend always wanted to/would pay when we’d go somewhere, I never understood his insistence until somewhat recently (and no he doesn’t want to sleep with me, which is why I love him so much!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:12 PM
5

Boss move! I like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:26 AM
16

It was definitely an education on the nature of males, and I wasn’t naive to begin with. Everything was an experience for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:28 AM
33

I worked in a jail as a nurse so I definitely wasn’t going to complain about officers, I needed them get anything done, and of course to keep me safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:09 PM
248

Whaat?? You don’t want to be pumped and dumped? Don’t you realize how badly men want to pump and dump you? They have needs ya know. Seriously though I had people at work tell me, you really should go out with *coworker, he really likes/loves you. Yeah after he told everyone how he wanted to “make me bleed” and his continuous offers to take me to a motel, yeah I’ll jump right on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:11 PM
26

I commented on that dumb post. Further down she says she’s just looking to hook up. What a waste of time that post was, women in their 30’s already know it’s easy to hook up with a random.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:54 PM
9

I lost my high school bff to point 3. At a certain point you have to let go of your ego and embrace reality and what’s good for your mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:11 PM
8

Nah, that sounds like his problem. Dude is probably realizing OLD isn’t giving him the sex buffet he thought, and bread crumbing you for future easy sex and attention. Block and heal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:29 PM
2

I’m mirroring this guy's messages, because all he started out with was Hi -name- and omg I’m boring myself. You’re 40 years old, don’t you know how to have a conversation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:23 PM
8

If he’s not ready then he’s not ready. It wouldn’t be good for your mental health to spend time with him, don’t put yourself through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:35 AM
2

What did you say to that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:26 AM
6

Honestly when they complain about this all I hear is ‘I’m mad that I’m not attractive or charming enough to have sex with attractive and charming women’ 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:23 AM
4

I agree. It’s the one thing I can’t just work hard and give myself. If I wanted a child I’d go down to the sperm bank and spend the money. Vetting and maneuvering is tiring, and then when you finally have a “good one” you wait for the other shoe to drop and still have to have a guard up. I’m an introvert! I’m tired of meeting new people. I just need one though, so I keep trying and am in no rush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:10 PM
9

Ooo I’m going to use this one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:56 PM
23

Wow, I wonder if he considered just staying quiet. I had a guy refuse once to kiss me during sex, he said it was because he just ate? He would gorge himself with food at the end of the day, thankfully that was an extremely short mistake on my part, never again. I love kissing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:34 AM
8

Not having sex before commitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:58 AM
20

They are always just so fucking deep and wise, the next Confucius 🙄 Please gtf over yourself. You’re just an asshole in a sea of assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:45 PM
1

I wish I knew! I stupidly gave my cell number to someone I’m not interested in at work. Wth was I thinking idk, I had no idea he was interested in that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:08 AM
11

Jesus fuck that is horrendous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:46 AM
3

I really hate the idea of dating anyone younger than me. I’m 32, but the only attractive men I see online are 27 to maybe 31, then the wall really starts hitting them hard. It doesn’t help that I work with a bunch of young men, their drinking and non sunscreen using ways haven’t caught up with them yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:27 AM
3

Even asking them to have a nice head of hair is too much 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:20 AM
2

Nice for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:58 AM
6

Do women like this live a vacuum with no other available men? I don’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:50 AM
6

Why the need to insult her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:13 AM
6

Silence is golden. Now it may not fit your personality. But you don’t need to give your warmth to everyone unless they’ve earned it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:36 PM
6

🤣🤣🤣 omg such a mess! Thanks for sharing I needed the laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:54 AM
10

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:03 PM
10

Hey now, they can also get your oil changed and pump gas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:19 PM
36

Omfg can you imagine?! We found some cardboard it was so romantic 😍 These pickme’s are too much sometimes 🤣🤣🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:51 AM
12

On OLD they have to double text at least once. Filter filter filter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:05 AM
6

How did you come to that realization? These men have pretty AND plain gfs?? Lol Also this sounds a lot like insecurity on your part. You have to remember sometimes what’s going on in your head isn’t always reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:05 PM
4

I accidentally whacked a guy in the nose when we were play fighting. I thought he would get upset but nope, although that’s more to do with my childhood experiences than romantic relationships. I wouldn’t do it purposely but just an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:59 AM
25

Seriously my bff makes 6 figures and will not live with a man without two separate master suites and him financing everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:47 AM
29

Fucking preach! They do hate themselves for needing us 1000x more than we need them, see TRP. They are completely afraid of actually loving someone/something, can’t handle the pain, total chicken shits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:44 AM
2

And we’re suppose to be the weaker sex 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:32 AM
27

Good news you don’t have to worry yourself trying to figure it out BYE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:30 AM
1

Those are my favorite! Just seeing the weird shit they say. I do agree about the responding though, it’s pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:22 PM
4

He’d go on a second date if you felt like it? Too low effort, he’s looking for easy company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:55 PM
8

You should have ordered a bunch of take out food, paid and then left 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:00 AM
3

He has the eyes of a heavy drinker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:52 AM
1

He means feminine as in a less powerful position 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:50 AM
0

Don’t tell me what to do 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:49 PM
0

Nope actually this sub is very forgiving, we’re all human after all, but you acting like there’s no possible way a man can change even after an extended time sounds like blaming. Even if you do everything right they can still get in and fuck up your life. Which is why guards must always be up. Perhaps that makes you uncomfortable? Just a thought. I’m kinda done replying. A man should know he wants to marry you, just living together without a future plan means he is still weighing his options aka…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:34 PM
2

do your research BEFORE you marry him That sounds like blaming. Men can change how they act, esp with pregnancy. And yeah we know, that’s pretty much the whole point of the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:03 PM
2

That sounds like blaming women for men’s behavior change 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:36 PM
16

You’re taking in circles. It is hard to drop people, that’s why fds advocates dropping people! Just take a look around Reddit, a lot people can’t even block an online match they haven’t even met! Much less some slob and cheater of a husband that can’t even wipe his own ass. Lol at avoid unpleasant situations, I don’t think you realize how prevalent “unpleasant situations” are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:26 AM
2

You are still thinking about what he is going to say in his next message, if you block you don’t have to worry about that anymore. Or you can tell him you’re not interested anymore. You wanting to leave him on read/punish him shows you still care imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:01 AM
9

You are straight up playing yourself. How not to get your hopes up? Cut him off quickly. Fuck boy vibes? Not texting you back? Come on you know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:33 PM
62

A dude literally texted me “I’m going to teach you how to fuck me”. Uhh excuse me?? And this was days after I broke things off with him! I came maybe 25% of the time and that was because I went out and bought a vibrator when I was on vacation with him. Surprise surprise he passive aggressively hated that lol. Take a wild guess on how many times he came? He was completely boring in bed. I just stopped trying 🤷🏽‍♀️ He didn’t go down on me even after I told him that was a deal breaker, refused to k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:50 AM
18

Dude is gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:37 AM
37

Total cringe when you told him “I want you to be the first thing on your mind when you wake up in the morning and the last before you sleep". That sounds nuts, imagine a guy telling you this, you would run for the hills. There is no forcing men to do things they don’t want to do! I mean you can, but the result would be negative. You need to play your feelings close to the vest, you shouldn’t tell them every single thing that runs through your head, keep some mystery. Personally, I would be too e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:17 AM
20

All men need to be vetted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:41 PM
25

Exactly! This is why you have to love yourself and have other things going on in your life, you can drop these dudes before they can blink, it really is a skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 03:56 PM
15

They are so ego driven it’s laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 03:52 PM
45

Even he says it’s fair, but he’s not interested in fair. No LVM is. They want to squeeze everything they possibly can out of woman - youth, looks, sex, intimacy, children, emotional labor, a comfortable home, free therapy, a cook and a maid, and money. This guy can’t pick up the tab on a regular bases? Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 03:45 PM
12

Ok bye 👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:23 PM
65

I wonder why they are like this? I wonder if they wonder why they are like this? Sometimes I am so grateful I’m a woman and capable of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:45 AM
21

I use to offer, first time I was taken up - surprised pikachu face lol. Exactly female company is a privilege, they need us more than we need them, it’s inherent 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:59 PM
28

I got called entitled over at dating over 30 for being surprised a man split dinner with me lol. I guess I am entitled then because it was the only time I’ve experienced it lmao. Whatever let other women enjoy the company of those types of men, it’s not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:35 PM
3

It’s really pathetic and extremely unattractive. Get a life loser!! Yet we are the “emotional” ones lmao. These “men” are barely a step above Neanderthals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:27 PM
60

It’s funny how they are okay with paying for “a drink or two”, they inherently know it’s what they need to do. But they don’t want to pay for dinner because it’s too expensive! Why would any woman want to be with a cheap man?! I’m not cheap towards myself, why would it be acceptable for a man to be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:02 PM
34

Well first of all, change is uncomfortable. You need to concentrate on leveling up over finding another relationship. It sounds like it would be actually really healthy for you to be single for awhile. Work on your self worth, there are some good books out there to start with, see the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:07 PM
9

I would be completely turned off by a partner stonewalling communication like that. It’s extremely unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:20 AM
20

And they somehow think their pursuit for sex is more wholesome 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:43 PM
5

I had a guy tell me I was *allowed to be a crazy cat lady because I was pretty. I can’t even begin to explain what was wrong with all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:26 PM
9

Is this really how people live their lives??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:31 AM
20

He’s feeling guilty because deep down he knows you aren’t the one and that he is wasting your time. Dump and forget him. Unless there’s a ring do NOT take him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:09 PM
15

Men don’t believe that, why should I?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:34 AM
90

Jason Schwartzman met his wife at a shop while picking up a birthday gift for his then long term girlfriend. He said he knew immediately he would marry her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:52 PM
19

I got a “hey love, how are you doing?” this week as a first message. How did that sound like a good idea?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:42 PM
10

You do not need to have a conversation with him. If he wanted something more serious, you wouldn’t be asking these questions, he would be doing everything possible to lock you down. You are turning it in to a negotiation and you already know he cannot or will not give you what you need/want. Block, if you feel inclined maybe a sentence or two to explain your feelings but definitely block! Thank u, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:18 PM
18

I agree, they start to see it as a negotiation. It’s like a scramble for them to see what they have to say to get you to turn a no into a yes. Plus it’s exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:31 PM
21

All I ever see men write is that their love language is physical touch, most of them can’t even get it or keep it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:26 AM
54

Aww he’s so generous 🥰🥰 he is willing to let her debase herself for his pleasure! Where do I sign up??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:46 AM
6

It’s only happened to me once and I always offer to split. This was pre fds and even then while I didn’t have a concrete reason of why and I have the money, I still didn’t like it. I went on a first date with this guy and he wanted to hold my hand after the date and was asking me invasive questions during to determine if I was a “good girl”. I did get called entitled on datingoverthirty for this story lol. https://imgur.com/a/fT3U1DI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 05:49 PM
29

So does this guy look like Brad Pitt circa 1995?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:56 AM
22

Excuse me, but it sounds like you have sex to make your GF feel good. Not a bad thing by itself, but puts the topic in entirely different light. "Don't have pleasure, having pleasure reduces your ability to please other people". Errr, okay? Why should I care, again? Jesus fuck these people are worse than children! Such temporary measures for something so meaningless and empty. Really? That’s it? That’s all that there is to look forward to in life? I’d almost feel sorry for them if it wasn’t so g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:41 PM
7

Earlier today I just had someone I lost interest in because he said “I’m not ready for a relationship rn, just casual dating” reach out! It’s been 3 months at the most, what could have possibly changed lol? He told me who he was, it’s done, not responding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:58 PM
3

Personally I don’t rely on men for emotional support esp in new dating situations. Do you have friends or family you can unload on instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:11 AM
6

If it’s about the person and it’s about love etc etc, sure great. But we are talking about men. I’m not going to waste my time trying to figure out if they could sincerely be with another man or if it’s well nothing else was easily available so why not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:44 PM
15

I’ve been reading this book, The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. It is so validating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 02:48 PM
9

I have a morbid curiosity to ask him wth. I suppose he could be reformed, but then why have the tattoos showing? The aryan was backwards in a mirror. Eh I’m sure the most likely answer is he wants to f—- Still very odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:16 PM
23

I just got a like from a guy with 88 and aryan tattooed on him... I am not white.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:53 PM
71

Sometimes they want a free therapist. On a first date I had this guy look me straight in the eye and say very seriously “have you ever been betrayed?” 😳 Turns out his ex gf of 4 years had cheated on him for the 2nd time 6 weeks prior. Why date at that point? Too bad as he was very hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:27 PM
1

But basically, I’m just looking for advice on how to avoid as much bullshit and emotional trauma as possible from men You are going to need to learn to walk away from them. Don’t be mistaken it’s going to be very very very hard sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 03:46 PM
51

Why do men always need to low key throw in how much “better” they are? And then the immediate back peddle when called out? Guess it’s surprising that hey maybe we aren’t dense and we can recognize a dig! Good for you for cutting him out. I didn’t when a guy did something similar to me. I had a friend who didn’t trust him after, and told me he was going to hurt me again, and sure enough he did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 09:23 AM
8

Delete his contact number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:09 AM
2

I’ve experienced something similar. One part is the porn induced ED (which includes difficulty keeping it up). I think a bigger part is men rarely get to say no, so when they have the chance to turn down something out of their league, they jump at the ego boost. I find men absolutely hate when it’s women that don’t want to commit, maybe they recognize it’s something in them that’s lacking. Side note I had a different guy that had an issue getting and keeping it up he said something like “idk why…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 12:48 PM
22

It’s very unlikely you’ll get a satisfying reply. I know on one hand you just want to make your feelings known (because they DO matter!) and his reply doesn’t matter as much. But sometimes we hold on to hope that it could go back to what it was. It’s just impossible, he is not that man and you don’t want to be that woman. If he does “come back” then mayyybe let him know what a shit thing that was to do and block. Write down your thoughts, talk to your friends, maybe have a drink, and listen to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 10:45 AM
33

They idealize one and then that’s it for the rest of their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:18 PM
4

Yes! I had this exact problem. Here’s a little export from a book I read because it spoke to my exact situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 01:00 AM
52

That pussy was everything to me -Men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 07:37 AM
8

I saved this comment, maybe it’ll help? Sex is a big deal and not a big deal at the same time. I highly suggest finding someone you like and trust, and possibly inexperienced too, easier said than done I realize. Man or woman based on your other comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 07:29 AM
9

Have you made out or have been really touched by a man? What do you try to insert? If it’s something super smooth without texture and no lubrication, it’s really not the same. The rigid from the head and an upward tilt makes a big difference. And of course being attracted to the person attached. Have you seen the sex in the city episode where Carrie hasn’t had sex in awhile and says “I need to feel the weight of a man on me”, it makes a lot of sense, at least for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 05:42 AM
1

He pays me a lot of attention. Texts me everyday and when when I don’t want to say a lot he keeps the conversation going. I suppose it could be not related to the move that he isn’t texting? I’ve confronted him about other things twice. One a big issue that I should have stopped seeing him for, but he persisted and now he isn’t? Again just be my ego talking, why isn’t he trying at all? Like I said I’m higher maintenance than he is use too and I’m out of his league, so maybe it’s just too much wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:49 AM
2

Oh the wine thing of mine? We where texting like an hr early about it..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:39 AM
3

I’ve have never ever texted him first and like I said he always replies fast but this night he didn’t, and I was on my phone (texting two other people) and drunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 11:39 PM
11

Agreed. I’m in my early 30’s 🤷‍♀️ I’m a little insatiable at this point and I’m not a ons person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 02:08 AM
11

Horrendous, honestly that turned my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 08:30 PM
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