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You don’t sound like a “soft little bitch” to me. Divorce fucking sucks my man. It hurts. And being gutted by it does not make a man soft at all. Just human. I’m still going through the process myself - 5 months post D day. It honestly feels like a lifetime has passed since then because so much has happened and changed. All in all things are better – especially now that I’m living in a different place. Everyone says “it gets better”, and while that seems to be true most the time I hate to say it…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 04:26 AM
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I have no pearls of wisdom to share that you haven’t already heard about (being only two months into this process myself). But I can assure you that you are very much not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 02:17 AM
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I have. Got myself off the couch finally to go for a walk - now I’m off to pick up my daughter from school so I trust that’ll put me in a healthily distracted mindset for the rest of the day. But yeah man, today for whatever reason I’ve been just unable to motivate myself to do jack shit this after having a “better” week, although I use that word very loosely
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 11:16 PM
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I’m 1.5 months into this terrible situation myself. I don’t have any pearls of wisdom to offer outside of the usual ones you’ll read about, but take solace in knowing that you are one one of many men who are going through the same sort of hell right now. And although that fact itself is very sad, I for one take comfort in knowing that I’m not alone in this pain.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 06:19 PM
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Yo mods - this post seems ripe for deletion
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 11:46 PM
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Currently taking Zoloft. I believe there’s zero problem with seeking any form of viable treatment that could potentially help in this immensely difficult time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 11:12 PM
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I’m 6 weeks in, but it sounds like the same situation as yours. 13 years of gaslighting, belittling, ignoring, controlling, and so much more. Textbook narcissist. But for economic and coparenting reasons we are still living together. Life is such shit right now I can’t even describe.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 01:28 AM
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The stakes are much lower in my line of work (studio musician). But here’s hoping for a better day/week/month/year ahead for both of us 👊
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:43 AM
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Thank you. I’m sitting here in a professional work environment right now (taking a break) and I am doing everything in my power to keep tears from welling up. Most days I’m able to remind myself how miserable I’ve been the last few years our marriage and I’m able to cling to that as a means to stay grounded, but today I’ve been unable to do that for some reason. Better luck tomorrow I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 12:26 AM
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I’m rooting for you man. That sounds like an intensely painful reality you’re dealing with. And while I have no concrete evidence of my STBXW’s infidelities, I strongly suspect I’m right there with you. Either way - I too am headed for a divorce and facing the fact that the second half of my life is going to look dramatically different than the first. Not a fan of life. Again thanks for sharing your story, and solidarity brother 👊
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:46 AM
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On it 💪
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:12 PM
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Yeah man. Well the guy I’m suspecting is involved here is a newer coworker so it’s not a matter of “years” for sure. But I’m not as stupid as she thinks I am - this likely has been in the works for a while. Money branching - that’s a new term for me. Ugh but it makes sense ….
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:12 PM
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Thank you. Operation “me” is well underway and I’m going to keep the ball rolling. Also operation “focus on our daughter and what’s best for her” is full steam ahead as well. And I’m trusting in time (because I know it’s true from past experiences) that I will care less and less what she does. Hell, at only a month into our planned separation, I’m sorta proud of myself for being able to see things as objectively as I do at this point - one of the benefits of being in one’s 40s is perspective. Bu…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:10 PM
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Yeah man, I accept the fact that it’s a roller coaster. Riding the waves over here, but being physically active is one of the ways I’m choosing to ride those waves
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 10:21 PM
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On it
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:55 PM
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Thanks - you pretty much summed up exactly where I’m at at this relatively early stage. STBX is hard as a rock (always has been) and is completely unwilling to compromise/make changes to herself and the way she behaves in our relationship. No point trying to draw water from a stone.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 07:12 PM
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Man that’s a terrible situation, and I empathize deeply as a man in the very early stages of divorce himself. However I have to agree with a lot of the sentiments being expressed here - namely, yikes. People divorce for a myriad of reasons, some good, some bad, some debatable. But unless it’s something truly heinous (murder, sex crime,. etc) or even something like infidelity (which an actual live human), it’s NEVER for one reason. And I’m sorry I simply don’t buy for one minute that your wife wa…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 08:59 PM
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Thank you. Yes, I am not naïve to the fact that, despite the mutual intention of civility, things can devolve very quickly. And given our history of terrible communication with each other, I’m sort of holding my breath to see what happens. Externally I am keeping my cool and will be seeking mediation, but internally (secretly) I am getting my s*** together, seeking lawyer consolidations, etc
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 09:57 PM
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Thank you. I’m keeping as a level of a head as possible given the circumstances…. And I’m going to do everything in my power to make sure I don’t get screwed as a dad. Because I know that happens. And even though that scenario seems very unlikely in our current state, I am not naïve to how things can evolve (or devolve) in a situation like this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 10:29 PM
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Thanks, I am interested in all perspectives at this point. I will say up front that while it’s true that I am deeply mourning the loss of this relationship, I’m not at all in a place where I’m looking to reestablish it. And as disinterested as I am personally in that regard, I know for a fact that my wife is even less interested. We simply don’t work as a couple, and I don’t believe there is any scenario that would change that. Too much mutual resentment built up over too long. However, we are s…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 10:25 PM
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Thanks for your reply, and I’m sorry you’re going/went through the same awfulness I’m embarking on. Solidarity, brother. 👊 Yes, I am certainly going to be speaking with a lawyer for simple consultation at this point. Out of curiosity, did you bring any documents to that first meeting? Tax returns, etc? And yes, I’ve already begun the process of seeking out therapeutic options. In fact, I did suggest to my STBXW that we consider some mutual counseling to figure out how to once and for all communi…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 08:57 PM
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