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| 9 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatYour thought process is so similar to mine. I also started questioning Why Now when I saw this; its not like incel violence has just been introduced to our living reality. I think you re on the right track. It IS their way of acknowledging - upcoming - attacks on women. The problem is these attacks are not just caused by incelness, but the patriarchy at large. By singling out these individuals and their rottenness (and rightly so), they divert our attention away from fighting the system and ever… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 05:48 PM |
| 38 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatHey I also went to an all womens college in the south and btw it was the only place/ time period in my life where I felt safe and sane the most. I feel sick too seeing this unfolding in reality and confirming that I wasn’t too paranoid to have thought of the possible extent of their depravity. I hope my school n all other women focused spaces will be on high alert now that these incident are happening more and more often 😨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:36 AM |
| 318 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threat“In the case of 40-year-old gunman Scott Paul Beierle, there were countless warning signs. The man who opened fire inside Hot Yoga Tallahassee — killing two women and injuring four more before committing suicide — had previously been fired from multiple teaching jobs, barred from bars and apartment buildings, and authored a 70,000 word revenge fantasy about a boy turned serial killer, according to the report.” After years of being in abusive relationships and finally wisening up, can’t I just go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:30 PM |
| 65 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?OkayyyI've been through this experience. "Is it Aspergers or he's just an asshole?" He claimed he was "somewhat autistic" and that's why it's hArD tO bE eMpAtHeTic.After YEARS of trying to diagnose and fIx him and minimize the damages these "symptoms" had on my mental well being, my hindsight is that I should have just left. Even if his behaviors weren't entirely on him (and I have to emphasize--it's very weird to say this about a 30+ y/o), I gotta take them for the impacts they had on me. I sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 09:24 PM |
| 136 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.I was in a similar situation 2 years back. It was toward the end of my 11+year relationship and 9year marriage. His whole world and mine were 99% intertwined, financial,emotional, mental, etc. It felt almost impossible but I needed to stick to my intuition so I did these 2 things. I found them so so crucial to me being fully detached from him. A) Take stock of all the annoying shit about him and how it makes you feel. This will cement your resolve to stick to your intuition. B) Do one thing a da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:07 AM |
| 30 | HV relationships, age difference, and poll.10+yrs??? Are the incels voting??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 89 | Cause of death: the audacity 😉 Share a story of a time a scrote either mansplained something you’re an expert in or made a hilarious statement like below. I’ll go first in comments!Reminds me of this white dude sitting next to me at an Asian fusion bar downtown. He was bragging how he knew the food here was authentic (mind you its Asian fusion cuisine—how the hell the food can be authentic??) because he ate something similar when he was at an authentic Chinese restaurant in Tokyo 🥴🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 07:21 PM |
| 5 | J. Peterson speaking against polyamory, dating, hookup cultureI see. I didn’t realize that he was alt right. I just moved to the US and so I’m a little behind on a lot of topics. What he said seemed to make sense and in line with my personal beliefs I didn’t realize the problematic ideas behind, at least through this podcast. Will check out the podcast you recommended. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:14 AM |
| 0 | J. Peterson speaking against polyamory, dating, hookup cultureI know we generally dislike his fanbase and ideology but I came across this dialogue today and I think he made some valid points such as how Tinder (among other things) is a machine that’s turning our monogamous culture into a polygamous one. I also enjoy his commentaries on contemporary dating culture it especially regarding hookup/ ONS/ dating app scene: “We allow our culture to be run by the pathetic fantasies of immature, adolescent delusion” I'm curious what are your thoughts on this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:35 AM |
| 12 | I just discovered that my boyfriend had been on Tinder for ALL of 2020 and only stopped because he kept getting rejected.My theory is that in his mind, OP is “wayyy out of his league”. I know this is redpill language but this is how his brain registered it; but because of the scrotastic nature at the core, instead of appreciating her, scrote thought he was “it” and tried to branch out 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:51 PM |
| 514 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.Im with you! The response doesn’t sound like a “woman” wrote it 🤔 EDIT: Especially the “you know why? Because you care” part. The tone sounds so forced as if taken from some low budget movie script. Only women in movies sound like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:18 AM |
| 5 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡Seriously when I first heard of them my head had the image of a scrote throwing a tantrum cuz he didn’t get his way with a woman nOw i Am gOnNA gO mY oWn wAyyyy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:20 PM |
| 19 | Quick safety tips following the banWell NOW they can actually carry on doing what they were intended to 😙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Dating an LVM is Labor: Quit from the Thankless Job ASAPAt least with the internship I get to put it on my resume and talk about the experience in my next job application… the LVM? All Im left with is time wasted and then some more at the therapist office because of some traumas he left me with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Unpopular Opinion: Why you should date in your own leagueThis 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 11:08 PM |
| 28 | Unpopular Opinion: Why you should date in your own leagueI agree with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:33 PM |
| 22 | Avoid people who act victimised when you set boundaries and standardsHey same here. Also 7years in the same industry where we are trained for “empathy” and he would only perform that at work (to some extent). That completely puzzles me 😵💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 04:02 PM |
| 129 | "You need to forgive!"This. What they did changed us on a biological level. Thats why we react. Thats why we have “triggers” that intrude our lives. While they are doing nothing to help us heal and reintegrate the ugly past, scrotes will expect you to participate in their lie gaslighting yourself (“you nEeD to…”) and also themselves to absolve any sense of guilt 🙃 I think this whole Forgiveness thing is taken from Buddhism but in the wrong way. Forgiveness is a by product of working on yourself and reconnecting with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:17 PM |
| 11 | Imagine if we became a collective mindI work in tech and I think this is a great and viable idea! It might even turn into a sustainable/ profitable business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 04:56 AM |
| 17 | Staying objective by journaling your relationshipYes. This is just standard HR process. I have a note in my Bear note app for each and everyone of them. If something they said that struck me weird and I didn't know why I put it in the file... it's great to have all your feelings and evidences out on a page where you can see them. Almost everyone's note has the same pattern, started out poetic 😪 then the subtle negging ensued when I seemed 'hooked' emotionally and then full on triangulation and talking about how younger girls are more 'liberate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 04:20 PM |
| 15 | Kind of Peeved After “Build A Man”Of course she would say that. Every liberal pickme I met has a delusional tendency to pride themselves on their ability to bargain with patriarchy and the opposite sex. If I don’t demand physical attractiveness from him he won’t from me The delusion being that they re considered equal to men and that the world is fair. Also, her being a psych. major doesn’t give her the right to diagnose someone as being healthy or unhealthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:34 PM |
| 3 | I(26F) married a LVM (37M) and now I feel like my only way out is suicideTHIS. I'm an immigrant who obtained her status via marriage. I did the application myself and have read everything about this subject online, in their information package forward and backward multiple times. The IRS issues SHOULD NOT affect her application at all as the only thing you need to prove with USCIS is that your marriage is TRUE, based on "love" and not just as a means for you to obtain a green card. It's the least that she's entitled to as his spouse. I have bad feelings about her cas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:40 PM |
| 212 | Yes! I always felt that people gave too much shit to Miranda and none to LVM Nate 🙄I had the same thought when watching the last episode of Friends: Rachel gave up her job in PARIS with LOUIS VUITTON to be with Ross??? Because he confessed to her at the airport??? I was like ???? That's just manipulative!!! If Louis Vuitton offered me a job in Paris, I would be GONE. I hate how they always try to groom us, using a character with beauty, charm, drive, a dream career, who "later on realizes her relationship / family is more important" blerghhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 8 | Translation: Don’t be offended when I say something rude or meanI love these translation posts, I'm learning so much. Please keep them coming!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:49 PM |
| 11 | This is just so sad. Them LVM got her manipulated that one night stands are really going to have any benefit to her.I used to be like her, I thought as long as they're not mY tYPe I am not going to catch feelings. Now I realize that we--especially if we're vulnerable enough to be part of the hook-up culture, can be subjected to feelings with just any mofo that exhibit certain actions and play the psychology game on us. The way to not catch feelings? Get out of the hook-up culture and work on yourself lady. It's not about someone being your tYpE or not. That's some scrote logic which they use when they need to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 07:18 PM |
| 20 | He belongs to the 🗑️ Don't cry don't make him understand don't explain 🤾♀️✌️👑My exhusband of 7 years exhibited similar behavior. At the beginning of the pandemic he asked me what I thought of the severity of the situation, since he was worried for his “friend” and needed the info to comfort her who was overwhelmed by what was happening... Guess who was also extremely overwhelmed and scared for her family and future because of Covid chaos? 😡 I told my parents and his parents about this and he jumped at me, i cAnT bElIeVE u tOlD pEoPLe tHInGz beTWeEn uS 👹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 04:59 PM |
| 52 | Am I surprised ?I'd say that this is THE MINIMUM! Depends on how fucked-up and/ or exploitative the guy is as well. I was married (no wedding 🤡) to a pedophilic pseudo-entrepreneur whose goal is to reach $X of net worth in a short amount of time. Imagine the amount of specialized therapy / research / personal AND business coaching I had to perform in addition to the above items. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Be careful with men who watch anime. Pay attention to lifestyles.I get skeptical of even seemingly innocuous guys who say they only watch the seemingly innocuous stuffs like studio ghibli. What if they (very likely) consume other things as well and are just using those shows to virtue signal ?? Especially they as a demographic have very very low self control and easily get hooked on seemingly okay at first and then increasingly depraved things. I have never met a guy that has a few brush strokes with anime (Sailor moon, studio ghibli, pokemon, etc.) and then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 07:03 PM |
| 6 | Quiz: A man calls you dudeDude = wank buddy / gamer bro He has nothing to do with me whatsoever ever and also needs to go back to his home planet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouOmg this so much!! They always ask me, what do you actually do ? with a weird tone. I work in startups and so have to travel to meet clients and investors 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:57 AM |
| 41 | For the moms, inspiration to give your daughter an FDS mindsetI don’t have a kid yet but I started doing this for my sister. Its only been a couple of months but the result is astounding ♥️ I didn’t have to say much about FDS principles to her but she already started saying No to offers and friends who aren’t worth it, and she keeps her eyes on her career and personal growth now only instead of who “notices her” at parties 🥰 THANK GOD 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 02:13 PM |
| 57 | How abusers use your anger against youOmg I did the same— started talking like a robot. Then something about it was so funny that I had to straighten out a smile on my face. He saw this and said I was condescending of him 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 02:48 AM |
| 3 | Anybody else feel re-traumatized and/or re-victimized over the way they're treated when they try to talk about their painful experiences with men?I think staying silent can be detrimental to your health, as your intuition informed you, and also I admire that you're very brave to have stood up to protect your truth. The backlash feels harsh on your stress physiology right now and you might want to counter-act it by taking control of your daily life experiences. Specifically design your day as to add NEW experiences where you feel POSITIVE and YOURSELF. If you can, unplug from it all for a little bit. You can always come back. This happened… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 01:42 PM |
| 34 | Most men are not dating to marryThey have an actual “wall” but strangely they just seem oblivious to it 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:49 PM |
| 3 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️Its funny how they seem similar with me (being anti marriage, anti convention, anti social) yet for vaaaaaastly different reasons | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:37 PM |
| 2 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️I did this too 🙉🙉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:35 PM |
| 3 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️I did this too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:34 PM |
| 56 | The men are projecting again!! Why does it bother them that women are 30 and single?This sounds like a great title for a book btw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 22 | Discussion: A Shrinking Society in JapanI used to live in a developing South East Asian country, the number of Japanese men migrating there every year is STAGGERING, building factories, offices, marrying women from my country. This had me thinking A/ men literally are so desperate. B/ perhaps soon Japan as well as other developed countries will be rid of all the men 🤔 Not only Japanese btw, but also Korean, Chinese, American men are migrating in troves to developing countries to “invest”, while we all know what they re looking for 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 06:10 PM |
| 24 | “I don’t remember ordering my relationship off the a-la-carte menu” 💀The whole thing was come up by a man/ suspect scrote. Whaddayall expect 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 03:18 AM |
| 57 | And you can be a whole Dragon Queen and end up with a JackassMy thought exactly when I listened to the previous podcast. Fiona should have been the ultimate pickme :\ Especially considering that the origin of the tale is pretty modern. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:37 PM |
| 1 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?I’m on phase 2 of No Contact: narc ex tried to reach out fOr wORk rEaSOn because we still own a business together, which Im also dissolving. I put a communicator person between us so I don’t speak with him directly anymore. This month I also need to find a coach with whom I can feel safe discussing my dreams and plans with. After my previous business with my ex my self esteem is now at the bottom of the ocean. I need to get it back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:18 PM |
| 18 | LVM trying to keep you from raising your valueNot only that, they would also like to knock ALL the females in their and YOUR circle down a few pegs. There was a narc jerk I used to talk to out of loneliness in the past, who after I shared that my sister worked in Fashion responded, "Ouch!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:15 PM |
| 27 | Poor girlWhy do they always have to include the love disclaimer I truly love my husband at the beginning of every single post of this type? It's like they're so scared of being found out they don't love their husband?? is it like a crime or something?? I love him uNkOndiShEnAllY, but he [insert terrible garbage ass behavior] I bet this stems from the husband/ boyfriend always equating their parters' love with compliance / putting up with their absolute garbage ass behaviors. That's not love, sis, that's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you <33333 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:02 AM |
| 32 | A great way to vet for LV behavior is loudly and enthusiastically complimenting another woman. Then just watch how everyone reacts.I need to get back to doing this, it has always felt natural for me because I like to help others recognize and realize their potentials. What happened in between is when I was with my ex, with whomever I complimented or paid enthusiastic attention to, he would go after and... flirt with that person (tRyiNG tO leARn fRoM hEr 🤡) Sometimes they would be on the phone talking until the middle of the night 🥴 I honestly don’t know why he would do that, maybe thats just something assholes do 😫 I didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thanks 💕💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I think you re right😆 they re almost like little kids , “ mommy looook” 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I got a few DMs saying that exactly. I don’t care. They had to do what they had to do to cope with our rejection to their entitlement Poor kids 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:45 PM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Wow hot pink color is super cool 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you so much ☺️ Hope you ll go for it ✨👑👑👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I was going for I-m-enjoying-I-dont-care 😂 Thanks for appreciating it 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I was trying really hard hehe thank you 🙏😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:53 PM |
| 3 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you 🥰💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:53 PM |
| 5 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋THANK YOU 😍I ll try to live up to the name of Vietnamese Queen 🥰 Yes they can all die mad. I didn’t realize before that my sheer presence has such power over them 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:52 PM |
| 3 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:48 PM |
| 71 | “Don’t keep score in your marriage! 🥰” is patriarchal propaganda. If we tallied and kept score, there would be millions of divorces.Short version: we re lied to. Long version: Its sad really each generation we re often led to believe “it’s different now. We have progressed. love/ marriage is different now” Most girls in my generation in my circle and social media often act like they invent love (I did this too) and just because scrotes shapeshift into forms different from previous generations doesnt mean we re excluded from terrible treatments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:50 AM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Yess I actually got inspired from seeing them 🤩 If you feel like it I think you should be allowed (by yourself) to enjoy these little joyful things. Mine didn’t cost much tbh if you do a quick search on Etsy or Amazon you ll see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:06 AM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Yes although Im not exactly there yet, it certainly gives that energy 🥰 and motivates me to try to level up and match it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Hey thanks dear 💕 I got it from Etsy 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:47 AM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋So according to you that way it also works like a .. scrote-be-gone charm 😂 But I know what you mean. Since wearing it I ve been consciously making some modifications to the way I feel and think of myself as to match with the energy of the crown | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:46 AM |
| 5 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank youu 🙏😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋😍 wow thats an awesome idea. I ll try it out tomorrow morning 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:43 AM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:43 AM |
| 10 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Oh This is a good idea. I ll remember to use it for my bad days too🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:42 AM |
| 2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Wow 🤩 Thats so brave of you. I haven’t yet had the opportunity to witness a crowned queen in the wild but Im sure your presence must have been magnificent ✨💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:18 AM |
| 21 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Im a little flattered that my manually applied blurred patches on the photo constitute a filter for you 😂 They are there because I had to hide the initials on the back of my phone. “There’s nothing real about that photo”— Ouch this hurts. I appreciate your concern about the implication of my photo but I feel that there must be a less ... personal way of voicing it 🥴 Also as another commenter has pointed out, we are all at different stages on the journey. There are so many things we need to try t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:14 AM |
| 10 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋It is! Go for it 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:37 AM |
| 45 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋You made such a good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:36 AM |
| 34 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thats a great point! My theory is that maybe they re bothered but its only one day they can be mentally prepared for it beforehand as well. If ya jump out of the wood all of a sudden outshine them then they definitely cant take it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:24 AM |
| 11 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Yeaaa go for whatever you feel like. I looove sparkly headbands too ✨🤩 they re super versatile you can dress up or down to whatever suits your mood 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:20 AM |
| 55 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋TBH I was really hesitant before buying and even after receiving the crown, something in me was calling me an obnoxious b*tch 😓 for just enjoying a gorgeous headpiece. We re oftentimes kept so apart from our true selves that we cant fully embrace our interests n the little joyous moments they bring. I hope you ll find your way back to flower crowns soon; they are super gorgeous! Im sure you ll look and feel amazing with one 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:17 AM |
| 9 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Hiiii go for it 😍 I got it from Etsy btw 🥰💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:05 AM |
| 112 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Go for it 😍😍😍 I don't think it's fair that we have to wait until the mOsT iMpoRtAnT dAy oF oUR LiFE our "wedding" in order to wear a crown or tiara. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:27 PM |
| 387 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋GUYS... I've been getting some threatening messages and comments from scrotes on this post being enraged over me seeing myself as "royalty". I can't imagine how mad they'd get if this is normalized and we all do it on daily basis. Seriously, wth has the urge to troll a total stranger on the internet for... feeling good about themselves?🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:23 PM |
| 43 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋OMG YESS ME TOO!! I've been getting some threatening messages and comments from scrotes on this post being enraged over me seeing myself as "royalty". I can't imagine how mad they'd get if we all do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:21 PM |
| 18 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS!! ♥️♥️♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:02 PM |
| 67 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Hii I got it from Etsy 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 21 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I got it from Etsy. Its super well made and sturdy and quite heavy too 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 09:31 PM |
| 70 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋OMG you re so kind!!! Im still working on building my queenship and hoping I would get to feel it 100% inside out some day. Also, not gonna lie I was a little nervous about my nails when I posted because they are ungroomed 😅 Thanks again for the kind words 🥰😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 08:06 PM |
| 23 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you so much 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 08:02 PM |
| 25 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Thank you 💕💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 33 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Yayy please share a photo too if you feel like it 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 412 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋My crown came yesterday but I was so hesitating to wear it I didn't even know why. Today I put it on for the first time and HOLY SHIT it looks & feels absolutely amazing! I wish this would get normalized so I could wear it.. idk to the supermarket or something 😂😂 100% recommend ladies <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Peyronie's Disease (Permanently Bent Penis)Yessss I heard the same from my ex 😳😳🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:09 PM |
| 12 | What did he expect when he told her he wanted to sleep with another woman ?TBH that's a good question to vet. She probably wished she asked this question 8 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 03:39 PM |
| 95 | Yes ladies. It's OUR fault.STOP EXCUSING MEN'S BEHAVIOUR. STOP JUSTIFYING THEIR BULLSHIT. STOP NORMALISING ABUSE WITH EXCUSES. STOP TREATING THEM LIKE CHILDREN. I wanna run this in a big ass ad in Times Square. Some day when I have more funding, maybe I will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 03:33 PM |
| 18 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Just dropping in to say I love Charlotte too! I hate how they give her seXuAl iNcOmPaTIbIliTY (and because she didn’t sleep with him before marriage) as reason why her marriage didn’t work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:30 AM |
| 5 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youNo I didn't realize that. Most victims/ survivors of Narcissistic abuse are almost always asked. Why didn't you escape? Why didn't you scream? Why didn't you fight back? Surely at some point you must realize you were attacked/ manipulated. Truth is, we don't know why. If you're genuinely interested, Dr. Ramani on Youtube has better explanations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:50 PM |
| 11 | Why I don’t feel bad about having uncompromising standardsThat would be an awesome idea for a prank 😂 You could send the letter to these single men with the sending address being Tinder, INC or sth. Idk if I have a bigger budget I may attempt 🌚 Or run an ad on a big ass billboard in my city “LEVEL UP YOU USELESS SCROTES” 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 12:15 AM |
| 18 | Beware of Hidden Forms of ControlIm suspecting the “[suggesting A action] .. if you re okay with it” then you said No. Then the suggestion pops up again also with the “if you re okay with it” for the Xth time. This gave you the illusion of respecting your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:59 PM |
| 53 | Why I don’t feel bad about having uncompromising standardsImagine if scrotes were treated in every aspect of life as if it was a university application process where only a % is supposed to get through.If he was unkempt, useless and/ or violent, he would be rejected maybe by an elected council of women from ever entering the dating pool. Imagine the ensuing madness of these scrotes, and the power structure held by the ruling elites would be so destabilized. Instead, the high power scrotes install patriarchy and turn women into a serving class that woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:00 PM |
| 3 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youI have been collapsing on and off since November.... I know a little bit how you feel. I wish you get all the help you need. Don't be afraid to reach out to people, friends, professionals, therapists for help, you deserve to receive support now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Do not hide 'your smarts'!I founded a tech business and virtually every scrote from OLD’s opener was : “what is your idea? Can I see it? You raised investment? Can you prove it?” Not even a Hi Hello How are you... It told me how obsessed/ bothered they are at what I was able to accomplish that they had to get it out right away 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:01 PM |
| 16 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youI did a little bit of this too. I matched their energy and then it just gave me more stress because then I also joined in his filth :'( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:25 AM |
| 10 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youYes and it's so tricky to know that's what they actually want. They want all the benefits without even the bare minimum of effort. If you want anything, you have to do it yourself. If you complain, you're spoiled and annoying. "Buuuut I just want you to fall in love with who I am". Dude you scroll Facebook endlessly and watch anime all day. No one should fall in love with that mess. They possibly would never in love with me without my makeup and expect me to respect their mediocre ass ugghhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:23 AM |
| 17 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than you“Strategically incompetent” wow this is a very accurate description of how they are He told me that he could live with just a couch and a TV why did I need so much stuffs and processes. For a loooong time I thought I was the “incompetent” one for needing so many things in order to live 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 11:31 PM |
| 19 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youWow my ex-scrote-husband checked every single one of these list 😲 When I asked him about being 50/50 on what went wrong and having half the accountability he said no he didn’t do anything I started it. 🤦🏻♀️ Why it was so difficult for me to discern that he was manipulative by my feelings is that Im used to being treated that way by the adults in my family. My system didnt ring any alarm. I thought that was just how I normally felt all the time 😧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 11:00 PM |
| 20 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youThese men 🤯 I got out recently and I still feel like you said, all squeezed out. Every single last drop of me! The manipulative , the abuse usually starts small but it builds up and by the time you realized what has happened, you re already deteriorating Wish I had a ledger somewhere that has all the records of them. I seriously don’t want neither myself nor my sister to run into one again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:56 PM |
| 77 | In order to manipulate you, they don’t need to be more mature than youOMG You're right about the dog or toddler's ability to do it. My friend has a Russell terrier and I've noticed him doing something similar but I didn't register it as manipulation (..cuz "he's just a dog!"). Once I came over to her house for a weekend gathering and the house was already full of guests. Everyone was catching up and talking loudly and all of a sudden the dog started to cough violently as if something stuck in his throat. We all panicked and rushed over to check on him and especial… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:42 PM |
| 41 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.Doesn't this feel just ... gaslighty to y'all? They're verbally denying the reality that they're being a fucking burden to your face, while at the same time IS BEING a fucking literal burden to you in material reality. And if we kept answering those questions, which seemed trivial to us, because OF COURSE we've seen the damn car key, we would continue to feel the burden. We would also wire our heads to mind and take note of car key whereabouts, at the same time gaslight ourselves that noooo our … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:31 PM |
| 29 | If you cannot yet leave but are in a bad situation, the art of detaching will save you while you’re knee deep in shit and paralyzedI actually did this for most of 2020 (my relationship was 11 years long) and it has saved me from that situation. The moment scrote told me, “what do you think of polyamory?” Something in my head clicked, “gotta parachute outta here 🪂” Now Im working toward shedding that layer of detachment because it somewhat has kept me quite numb 🥺 if any of you has any tips on how to overcome this period and regaining joy I would love to know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:01 PM |
| 9 | /!\Ladies this situation right here, is why we need to cut toxic women out of our lives and vet our female friends too/!\Eeek 😧 I worked with and mentored this girl who later went on a date with my ex right after my breakup 🤢 She also believed his side of the story that I was a “gold digger” Given I nowhere was as invested as “Sasha” but the betrayal stung me badly and served as a caution for me to ruthlessly vet everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:29 PM |
| 7 | Your stupid if you marry for loveI partly agree. I think if you marry #only for love then you re naive and screwed, like I was. The point of the invention of the concept modern “love” is to “empower” individual choices. While one can argue that it has empowered women too but it did more so for men than women. For women it has alienated us from certain parts of traditions (courting, for example) that would have protected us from being abused with the ongoing global scrote pandemic 😷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Does anybody else feel like men use them?Yes Im so done with the whole “treating others how I would like to be treated” and giving my all to men. I would rather devote that energy elsewhere 🤧and demand return on investment. Im naturally charming and a good entertainer and I can’t tell you how many times I ve been played bringing that energy to a relationship 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 05:07 PM |
| 39 | Men truly believe that a part of being in a relationship is using their girlfriend as their therapistI can’t.. at the part where the pickme trashed the ex for having healthy boundaries 🥴🥴 Why does it sound like these people live in an upside down world?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 03:29 PM |
| 19 | An important way scrotes trap you and how to overcome it.This explains so much. Scrote ex always joked that he wished we could be biologically one person; I used to think that was sweet 🤮 He also called us “a unit” in front of family and friends. Nobody called out how weird this was, the whole community gaslighted me 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 03:11 PM |
| 2 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?Thanks for contributing ❤️ No.5 is so similar to mine. He told me that he had no weaknesses and I was judgmental to imply that he was in the wrong every time 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:27 PM |
| 39 | You are the prize. Your only number 1. Don’t forget that.I'd rather spend time mastering the art of pleasing myself and making myself safe and happy, rather than bending myself backward (backward because they're always behind me on everything) to gain some fake validation from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 09:55 PM |
| 21 | And the decor in that house is just fabulousShes not pretending; she’s a literal princess! 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:16 PM |
| 56 | Block early. Block often. Save yourself from brain damage, ladies.I would like to add that the damage is reversible. Please look into neuroplasticity. I am also fairly new into this but there are methods you can practice to unfreeze and rewire your brain. I know it sucks in the mean time feeling like you re not 100% yourself. The fact that I can’t think straight sometimes freaks me out as well because now Im actually defenseless for not being able to scheme my way out of a situation. That being said, there is hope. It takes dedication and commitment to reclaim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 05:19 PM |
| 9 | Women who have experienced trauma, what have been some of your levelling up wins?I don't have any noteworthy wins to share yet, just an important realization about myself that has helped me so much on my recovery journey. I started therapy pretty late only a few months ago and I still have so much work to go through. For context, I have layers of traumas from childhood, from escaping multiple families and from my 11 year relationship that just ended a few months ago. MY realization is this: That my brain has always been in a freeze mode (for 20+ years). Because I've always b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:43 PM |
| 8 | 🚩 RED FLAG ❗️🚩 making you live up to the “cool girl” personaThe cool girl is supposed to go with the flow, have it easy, effortless. In his 7year old brain, if I have issues at work and want someone to share with, maybe I am not truly and inherently cool 🥴 Funny thing is when I tried to break up with him for the first time because hes too much effort. He berated me for not working hard enough for the relationship 🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:11 PM |
| 31 | 🚩 RED FLAG ❗️🚩 making you live up to the “cool girl” personaI feel ya. Im angry at him for doing this most to my beloved hobby (reading) among other things. Now every time I read, I feel lots of anxiety coming up because I could hear his voice in my head. “Books are useless, and outdated. Not practical” Reading is how I self develop and save myself from shitty situations 🥺 Now I cant read a book without constantly checking over my shoulders | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:05 PM |
| 12 | Our society lives on women's unpaid labourAlso we also gave them career counseling, stylist, nutritionist, therapist etc. 🙃 that were crucial to their career development 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 02:55 PM |
| 13 | How do you learn how to control/manage your emotions?I feel that it would be better for you to work with your emotions, instead of "controlling" or "managing" it. I understand this is how emotions are talked about out there in society but this language is propagated by men and I found it to be not very healthy psychologically. The more you try to "control" the more it'll backfire in the long run, and that shortcut cure you're looking for, is going to stop working every time. Right now you're feeling out of control, because you haven't worked with,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:50 PM |
| 28 | Bright minds of scrotes.I cant read it with a straight face 🤣🤣 these scrotes look up to those “values” like they re parts of a superpower | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 25 | Being the "dream girl" isn't specialI was the dream girl to my ex. He told his ex before me (red flag) and several friends that I was his dream girl. He liked me but I was beyond his reach. And you know what happens to dream girls? Years of being cheated on emotionally, psychological abuse, trapping, scaring tactics, all exercised with the sole purpose of bringing me down to his level. I remember consciously thought I was this guy's dream girl, he would treat me well. He wouldn't want any one else & I avoided the curse of being th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Rape is just entertainment for them 🙄This. I got so uncomfortable when I was watching movies and shows as a kid and a rape scene came out of nowhere. Can we start a movement to shame this practice?? Its lazy writing at best and a scare tactic at worst (to remind us of our own vulnerability en masse) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:31 PM |
| 20 | Textbook narcissistic abuse. Luckily, most people warned OP!My ex was like this. Speaking of numbness, over the time the numbness will spread, from your face, to your body, to the way eat, the way you walk... and regrettably sometimes to the way you think. Months after I got out, I can feel parts of my mind still remain under a numbing/ freezing spell. I m afraid to even think new thoughts, which is not who I am at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:26 PM |
| 42 | The Friends with Benefits Hollywood narrativeAlso, don't forget Sex and the City. The ENTIRE show was built around this concept. As my generation was growing up they were essentially telling us: THIS is what love is like, THIS is what dating is like. My favorite character is Charlotte who according to the premise of the show is too prudish. It's funny that they punish her by giving her sExual iNcOmPatIbILitY with her 1st husband Trey because she doesn't want to have sex with him prior to marriage. Aaand somehow her marriage goal is magical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:35 PM |
| 10 | Patriarchy as psychological warfareWow I did the same thing. I sized up the impacts (physical, emotional, financial), picked a timeline, feigned being too sick, avoided confrontation, gradual removal of his attachment. etc. I told myself the same thing, this is a war, I have to strategize to minimize impacts. I thought I was the only one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:53 PM |
| 120 | Men scientifically conclude porn doesn’t affect their perception of women 🤡Lol it's like asking a fish what water is. Of course it doesn't affect their perception of women, especially if it's already a misogynistic one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:42 PM |
| 51 | Weird Red Flags?Soooo many but this is my most recent addings to the list: Traveling to X countries Having X amount of laptops / jobs / companies / Having X partners Or anything that basically says he sees his life in terms of ... counts ( to me it means that he's a quantity > quality kind of guy) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:39 PM |
| 58 | Weird Red Flags?Disliking cats is spot on The entire idea of cats (besides adorableness to us 😍)is boundaries/ permissions. You cant get close to a cat without first earning his or her trust. Any man that either hates or tries to hack around this in some way is not to be trusted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 06:20 PM |
| 5 | Any online self defense resources you can recommend?I use an app called Noonlight it works like a panic button. If you feel unsafe you can start holding the button while walking , if the button is released someone will call you. If you don’t pick up the phone they ll send help your way in like a few minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:10 PM |
| 5 | Reading about Ayurveda and even the ancient teachings from 2000 years ago say the at men ain’t sh*t 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Second this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:03 PM |
| 9 | The “ideal” women are those that are easy to manipulate. Studies show human frontal lobe matures at 30 YEARS OF AGE (the number used to be 25 though). Is it a pure coincidence that its the same with the mythical “wall” for women???🙄I find it fascinating that they all act like this as a group unquestioningly. A few of my exes who never even met or interact or date a 30yo woman subscribe to the same myth and it actually protects them. Imagine how much more rejection they would get if the wall didn’t exist and they tried to get with actually “more mature” women. Of course Im aware the wall serves as more of a control tactic on women than as a caution for men. But it also works that way. I know acquaintances that did get to da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 04:16 PM |
| 6 | The “ideal” women are those that are easy to manipulate. Studies show human frontal lobe matures at 30 YEARS OF AGE (the number used to be 25 though). Is it a pure coincidence that its the same with the mythical “wall” for women???🙄Im sorry if my question is intrusive but would you think that traumas especially those causes by LVMs, has an impact on our ... baking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:53 PM |
| 6 | The “ideal” women are those that are easy to manipulate. Studies show human frontal lobe matures at 30 YEARS OF AGE (the number used to be 25 though). Is it a pure coincidence that its the same with the mythical “wall” for women???🙄Guys I can attest to this!!!! I have been (somehow intuitively) pushing myself to do the steps except for meditation, which I only discovered recently, since I was young. My life has always been improving, I led teams in my company despite starting from the bottom and I was super confident in my thinking ability, well until my ex caused that trauma. Still Im proud of my brain to always scheme my way upwards and out of dangers. I have a question though. Would you happen to know if these steps app… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:36 PM |
| 2 | HelpAwww Im glad I was of help! And yes my eyes are healing now thank god 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:29 AM |
| 14 | HelpIn my experience, my compulsion came in waves. I recently JUST came off an episode where I cried until I scratched my eyes out, literally, since I went to the emergency room and my optometrist confirmed that I had a few missing tissues in my left eye. So what can you do to avoid the waves?I. Before the wave hits I notice that I had a few quaint moments of euphoric recalling (I would remember the good times and the sensory experiences during those times). This is the time to actively rewrite the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:11 PM |
| 14 | The increasing number of men such as him scare meBesides the obviously terrible that OP pointed out, I just wanna say: Moving in to live with bf whilst in the middle of (your and especially both's) study is dangerous to your learning in my experience. I lived with my ex beginning sophomore year, I was constantly nagged and jabbed at for the things I learned as I was trying to learn & absorb them. He would pose stupid questions like "why people need that kind of knowledge for?" and it discouraged me so much. Looooong after the breakup, despite … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:02 PM |
| 10 | Globally we perform 66% of the work, earn 10% of the income and own 1% of the property. It makes me shudder to know there are women out there hApPiLY squandering that 10% away on a 50/50 date or rElAtIoNShIPThis is back in 2015. Im sure they only counted “actual work” and excluded ummmm traditionally feminine tasks like project managing for house chores , family relationships, holidays , giving therapy sessions , etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:00 PM |
| 2 | I said what I said. Stay mad.Find what? Men would fuck a wall 😕they dont get to “find the one” Just saying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:39 PM |
| 15 | I'm seeing a lot of comments like "I hate that FDS thinks they're feminist"Imagine saying, “anti-racism should be non-threatening to white males” 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:36 PM |
| 12 | Globally we perform 66% of the work, earn 10% of the income and own 1% of the property. It makes me shudder to know there are women out there hApPiLY squandering that 10% away on a 50/50 date or rElAtIoNShIPI remember having a conversation with my ex about violence against women and the constant fear for our life that we always carry with us whenever in unusually close proximity with a male. My ex who’s been with me for 11 years eMpAtHiZeD with me saying that IS similar to how he was once socially shunned by his drinking buddies 🥴 I tried to tell him its not the same but he insisted that its on the same scale 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:32 PM |
| 11 | Globally we perform 66% of the work, earn 10% of the income and own 1% of the property. It makes me shudder to know there are women out there hApPiLY squandering that 10% away on a 50/50 date or rElAtIoNShIPEither we have less taxes or we have subsidies🥲 Its not fair otherwise!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:26 PM |
| 350 | I said what I said. Stay mad.Excuse me while I go n barf. pOlYaMorY. Such audacity. They can't even please one woman what makes they think they're entitled to more??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:34 PM |
| 6 | Cutting Off Business Side of my Relationship with ex-NVM—Please wish me luck!!Thank you for reminding me that I need to cut my losses. I think you're right! It's just some part of me that's still hanging onto it. I hope the time will come when I can finally see that it was a gaining experience instead of a loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:09 AM |
| 3 | Cutting Off Business Side of my Relationship with ex-NVM—Please wish me luck!!Thank you for your encouraging words <3 I'll try to soak them in. I know in my head those are what I should believe it's just my emotions aren't there yet 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:08 AM |
| 11 | Cutting Off Business Side of my Relationship with ex-NVM—Please wish me luck!!Hiiii!! Thank you so much for commenting with such kind words!! It's so exciting and encouraging to hear from another lady from tech and startup <3 About the technical requirement, I realized that half way in....that I know about formulating a useful solution and working on rapid prototypes more than any of the "tech" bros in my company including my ex, since all they were familiar with, was coding large architecture stuffs that work for big companies and post IPO products. But I think at the sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Cutting Off Business Side of my Relationship with ex-NVM—Please wish me luck!!Thank you so much for the encouraging words!! 2 NVX?? How did you overcome it if you wouldn't mind sharing? You must have made of steel--I'm barely recovering and building my life with, as I often tell people, the tiny shreds of self esteem lost in an ocean of confusion and that's the reality my ex has left me in. Sometimes I do feel angry; especially when I remember how I often went networking and came back home to find him watching Netflix or playing games. Then he even had the nerve to tell m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:33 AM |
| 122 | Awakening to the Problems of Liberal FeminismI went to an all women college in early 2010s and thank god that most people I spoke to were radical feminists. I believe there were opposing groups on the campus too but I just didn't gravitate toward them for some reason. Maybe I Just didn't like their tone, which is very similar to the TA's in your story, "women should be scientists [not because she chooses to or likes to] but to prove that we're as "badass" as men". I think Gail Dines summarizes (as in the video below) it very well: the stan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Not sure if I'm in the "hoovering" stage... wish I had gone no contact AT ALL COSTBesides my ex, I have so far cut out most of (or all?) of male friends due to certain behaviors and attitudes toward me. I realize that it is hard even if it's just a friend, but at some point, I can't tolerate another second of their entitlement and self-pity the-world-is-against-me bOtH mY mIsTrEsS AnD mY wIfE thInK I Am iN thE wRoNG :\\\\ I don't know why or what got me into friendship with them in the first place. Urrgh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 06:25 PM |
| 22 | Alone but not lonely.WowW you are me 4-5 years ago the only difference is I wasn't as bold; I realized the relationship was shit but I thought I was the problem and didn't leave. Now I'm 29 building my life again with the tiny shreds of self-esteem left in the sea of confusion about reality he has left me in. Still I count my lucky stars that I got out. Sometimes I shudder at thought what would happen if I stayed for another 5 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 06:20 PM |
| 17 | From the dating subreddit, "Men shouldn't be expected to carry the entire weight of the dating experience, and women shouldn't be afraid to scare men away by "chasing" them and providing support."I'm merely projecting (and maybe half speaking to my former younger self who used to think like she does): I bet she's in her early 20s. The trauma of patriarchy hasn't got to her yet... so much spare time, money and energy. I wish she would use those resources for a charity that benefits women, instead of "carrying the weight" for men--aka hurting herself and being a mouthpiece for pickme culture that ultimately hurts all of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 05:30 PM |
| 6 | Ladies - consider splurging on an expensive gym membership!I'm glad you've managed to avoided the overt LVMs. But for the fancier versions of potentially Z/LVMs that you've just met, for all you know, they only act HV. Don't fool yourself, you're not safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:08 PM |
| 90 | Men can’t handle life changing eventsYour post reminds me of the scrote majority of the OLD world in the beginning of this year, "How are you COPING with the pandemic?", "My life has done a 180 since the lockdown *sad faced emojis* " "I just wish everything was back to normal" "I hate masks!!" and the scrote king of them all--my ex, he went into depression and tried to "open" our relationship to polyamory as a way of coping. ... and I was like? Dude I'm taking online piano lessons, learning Spanish and brushing up my resume with a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:34 AM |
| 36 | Great Men are Not Good PeopleI was with a relatively known “great ” man What happened to me made me doubt if any of those were truly great if it weren’t for the women around them. Well considering how we ve always been left out of history and silenced for centuries; we d never know . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:19 PM |
| 119 | SLUG UPDATE: SHE DID EVENTUALLY LEAVE THE GUY WHO WAS FEEDING HER SLUGS! [EXTREME NSFL IN PICS 2 AND 3]This guy needs to be on an offender list somewhere. I do not want to come across him at all. Imagine if hes doing it to the foods of everyone around him because apparently it looks like hE wAS jOkInG | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 08:24 PM |
| 100 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininitylmao that's funny you know because he's actually 10 years older than me (he's 39, I'm 29) So literally he thinks I'd become like him or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:50 PM |
| 28 | Not sure if I'm in the "hoovering" stage... wish I had gone no contact AT ALL COSTYou're probably also really, very lonely, Ooof this hits me right in the face. It's true! I just realized this 2 minutes after posting... I feel like I've undone all the good work I've been doing for the past months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:48 PM |
| 32 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.Its the same with saying, i Am nOt lIkE oTHeR mEn Basically positioning himself higher than your current suitors/ partner(s) This type is dangerous. He’s basically insinuating you don’t know yourself well which can be true but to them it means you re ripe for manipulation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 364 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininityaaaaand when you finally perform , you “look pretty” and exude confidence, there WILL STILL be scrotes who bemoan, “are you humble though?” OR from a guy I briefly spoke to back in my OLD days, “You have at best another 10 years” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:57 PM |
| 52 | Is it just me?My ex got on a bunch of dating apps whenever we had a fight and also 5 minutes after we officially broke up. He couldn't wait to get on them. It's where people like him belong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 04:01 PM |
| 4 | “I’m in love with you and all your demons”He is telling you that you have demons When I was young I couldn't say for sure and I was always ashamed of myself so I thought I ... "had demons". While in fact I had none. I think whoever say this is trying to make you adopt his demons 😧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:18 PM |
| 21 | “I’m in love with you and all your demons”Are they ever cleansed though? 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:14 PM |
| 12 | Opinion | Women’s Unpaid Labor is Worth $10,900,000,000,000Yes let's go gold-digging away my friends.Collectively they OWE us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:32 PM |
| 8 | Can I just say, I LOVE IT HERE!To be honest sometimes - and perhaps it's the skepticism in me after years of being gaslighted- that I'm a little concerned how influential this sub is for the life of someone like me. But then I realize it's just a gateway for me to move forward onto a better life. I am empowering myself too. I'm going to therapy, journaling, reading more on radical feminism and talking to other women in my life who have gone through the same journey. I'm happy to have found FDS because now I feel like I'm part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 10:04 PM |
| 231 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!Can we make "boundary shame" a thing? That would be life changing for so many girls that I know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 40 | People who say "redpillers and pickup artists are only a tiny percentage of the population, most men aren't like that"My ex had had ideas such as “its just a numbers game” or “low hanging fruits” wayyyyy before redpill culture was a thing. He came up with those by himself, its in his blood. When he first applied it to business he found it to be effective. So he applied it everywhere else | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:52 PM |
| 8 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerI feel like theres no fixed ratio. Even for me that ratio changes for example when I have period or when Im sick vs when I have more energy. The rule however is that I shouldn’t feel tired and if I do he should notice it and take on more load. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:06 PM |
| 11 | Guys on OLD who write “Message me first” 🤡They think they figured out the pickme delivery system 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:21 AM |
| 3 | Just a friendly PSA- You are not his therapist and not required to beMy ex used those on me sometimes when I needed his emotional support :'( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:55 PM |
| 25 | Guys on OLD who write “Message me first” 🤡Bumble went popular during the peak of pickme-ism in 2015/ 2016. Even though I was a covert pickme, I didn't believe in the whole sexual liberalism and the literature behind 50/50 dating culture. However I would bend over backward to build a career for my exhusband instead of starting out for myself. Deep down I knew it was a cope because I had this sexist idea that $1 or 1 unit of anything invested in him would generate more for our household. But even then as a pickme, I knew something was wro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:56 PM |
| 40 | For the first time, some friends told me that I’m “picky”I did the same thing OMG I sent the recording to my sister because in my gaslighted state I couldn't tell what was right or wrong and she texted me back. "LEAVE HIM. IMMEDIATELY" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:50 PM |
| 10 | Gaslighting me by telling me not being comfortable with sex talk with a stranger is “unhealthy” 🤢 Analysis in the commentsOMG the analyses in your comment as well as other ladies' are GOLDEN. Thank you!!!! I would love to add: My ex talks like this, wanting to discuss everything, every topic, every angle as if he wants to LITERALLY pry open my mind and to probe apart its contents. He would label me as "having Trust issues" and "too damaged to be open-minded" when I told him of my boundaries. And I DIDN"T KNOW THIS WAS GASLIGHTING!! AND FOR A FUCKING LONG TIME I thought I was the one with issues, despite that it is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Why do men hide behind the excuse that 'some men dont have father figures there fore they are unable to do basic things' . So women should be more sympathetic ?She told me that she tried to teach him but he didn't show any interest. Well I also didn't show any interest, in fact I absolutely hated it, but my brain went into this mode where it understood that here is my parent making an effort to teach me something so this must be very important and I should listen. I saw this in my ex too. We're in the same industry/ company whenever our mentor said something, I would listen and take notes. Sometimes I disagreed and questioned what he said but my ex abs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:41 PM |
| 7 | 1 year post leaving a LV relationship - SUCCESSI moved to a new city, started a new job, increased my salary by 20%, and I’m starting to take more courses on the side. I’m starting to volunteer as well. Woah this is so motivating to hear!! It's been almost a year for me as well but I'm nowhere as ahead as you are. I gotta work harder at my recovery ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:16 PM |
| 62 | What we're NOT gonna do is spread the "age is just a number" pedophile agenda by using feminist hashtags. The example pictures were cherry picked celebrity women with younger husbands. "Age is just a number" ONLY benefits men who want someone way too young for them. I can't believe it's normalized.They confuse love with lust / male depravity--as this is the ONLY thing in life that has no limits. Love has limits aka proper boundaries especially when the dating pool is full of LVM predators waiting to take advantage of you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:54 PM |
| 4 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?Caught him jerking off to them. Ewwwwwww OMG I'm sorry you went through that. It must have been so jarring. How does one ever recover from that??? I caught mine jerking off to a movie scene while we were watching movie together. He thought I didn't see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:37 PM |
| 3 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?Oh dear I wish I have the mental endurance to see this as a contest. If you were unhappy and suffered from your relationships, your sufferings were valid. Others sufferings don't make yours less true. It wasn't my point to make this thread. As some other commenters said, it's cathartic to write out the deeply disturbing reality of who they really are. In my case, for the past days my brain got stuck in thinking my ex-husband was HVM (??), somehow it only reminisced the warm moments. I'm trying t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 3 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?Teen, incest, rape, anal exclusively. I swear EVERY man I met so far is twisted in some way of this direction. Even the ones I'm not romantically involved with, I just smell it, something they say, the way the act, I just stay the fuck away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:22 PM |
| 3 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?Ewwwww, especially 4 &5 Shame on him. What a manipulative loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:18 PM |
| 3 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?I’ve been a mentally weak mess the past week. I feel that way about myself sometimes and I know it is societal conditioning that makes me question my mental stability and strength. It may take me a long long time to undo it and to really feel that I'm not weak. I hope you feel better eventually... He was the loser, the weak one, not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:14 PM |
| 4 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?It sounds like I would have listed those 5 for my ex as well. Especially the fact he refused to go to therapy, the porn addict habit, the LDR, the emotional neglect--I still really struggle when the holidays or special occasions come around (Christmas, Valentines, my birthday etc.) because of the scars he left me. He even told me that if I got pregnant, I might had to drive myself to the hospital because he doubt he could do it under the stress. I'm sorry you went through this. This guy REALLY… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 05:11 PM |
| 2 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person""Wow, you're really going to make them think that I'm a bad guy?" eh??? They really think that you can make them the "bad guy". As if there's some definitive part of them that's pUrElY gOoD and that alone makes them good and that "goodness" is immune to judgment despite how they behave 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:13 PM |
| 5 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"Omg did we date the SAME person? The game addiction The cooking, he said the same thing! When I stopped cooking he started eating crappy foods like once he ate a pound of almonds and gave himself constipation and blamed me 🥴 The lack of apology, you know what his reaction was, “my mom did not teach me this, our family never did this, Im uncomfortable with apologizing” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:15 AM |
| 4 | Women are always shit on for acting on sexual desires but men NEVER areI feel the same way about her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 02:23 AM |
| 7 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"Not being compatible isn’t excuse for being terrible partner 😠 No one is “compatible” given how men and women are raised and socialized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 10:10 PM |
| 9 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"This. I hate the compatibility myth. “Looking for someone matches with my personality” = looking for someone I can exploit with minimal effort on my part THEN When he doesn’t put in any work = oUr pERsOnAliTIEs cLaShEs 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 10:08 PM |
| 6 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?Good idea!! Nowadays I sometimes feel like I want to do that and I think I should, if only the police would take me seriously now that those incidences was years ago. He told me those things around the time I had an abortion and my hormones were going haywire with grief and regrets and everything else. I wasn't sane enough to know how to get away or how to act. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:06 PM |
| 12 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?I just can't fathom it %!%&@^#%@1 I've never been in that mode. Even when I wanted to pee in the middle of a road trip I usually would just wait sometimes for hours till I got home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:02 PM |
| 10 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?He looked miserable when he told me about it, sorta victimizing himself. Like, pOoR mE, plS tELl mE u sTiLL lOvE mE! I guess on some level he knew he was sick but too proud to look for professional help and instead relying on my compassion to make him feel better. Thank you for the kind words, I only wish my recovery can be faster because it's interfering with my work :( I guess I'll have to be much more patient with myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 14 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?I think he thought that I was too naive to see that as depravity and he was desperate to tell someone (to feel accepted maybe). In fact I was naive, as a 20 something who'd previously been too traumatized and also ostracized by my entire close and extended family, I guess I was an easy target. I eMbRaCeD 🤡 him for his goOD nAtUrE. I had no support system and I had to carry his secrets with me for a long time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:56 PM |
| 13 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?but also the fact that he felt like that was an okay thing to admit to? You're right. That also struck me weird sometimes, why did he admit that to me? He admitted much much worse stuffs but I'm not ready to write out yet. I honestly till this day don't know why he had to say that to me? and then expected me to be not traumatized by it? Physically yes I have escaped, I'm still working on the mental prison that that relationship has put me in, I can still see his thoughts and presence in my mind … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:33 PM |
| 32 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?OMG it's common? That's so gross!!! 😰 The people that do that are the ones that would go around & RAPE everyone if there was no legal consequences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:57 PM |
| 13 | “Looking for a woman who can keep up”Yes because they want to find the one that mAtChEs their kInD oF aWeSoMeNESs and lOvE them for wHo tHeY aRe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:40 PM |
| 59 | “Looking for a woman who can keep up”I haven’t been OLD for a month or so but my pet peeves list is like 99% of the things came out of their mouths: “What do you for fUn” “Did you have a fUn weekend?” “Are you a fUn person?” —WTF I’m not a 6 year old?? “How are you coping with the pandemic?” —Im not, Im winning it 😩 “What’s your Tech startup about?” — No hello how are you etc. “Are you humble?” —after I responded to their compliment with “Yes I am aware I am beautiful” “I thought you were joking about the non-profit” —😑 “Looking fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 05:56 PM |
| 32 | Women had no history—so they were told; so they believedI want to start a library (online or physical) with all the records of women's achievement in history both well-known and lesser-known as in the case of wives, daughters, mothers of "famous" men. The latter is really important to help people realize that most of the "man-made" hallmark inventions and advancements are contributed by the women around them either directly (networking, editing, brainstorming with them as in the case they're both in the same field) or indirectly (care, household mana… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 04:49 PM |
| 52 | FDS Podcast Goal: 15k downloads in our first 30 days, which would put us squarely in the top 1% of podcasts. 2 weeks in and we're almost halfway there! Help us smash this goal by sharing the podcast with friends and family! 🙏I have listened to each 3 times at least. I ve been soooo thirsty for materials like this for sooo long 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:39 PM |
| 14 | The nest post reminded me of this gem where a woman finds her husband's cumrags and thousands of piss bottleshe said maybe thousands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:54 PM |
| 34 | The nest post reminded me of this gem where a woman finds her husband's cumrags and thousands of piss bottlesIF I COULD understand the need for the bottles, it STILL DOESN"T explain WHY HE HAD TO STORE THEM??? WHY?? SO HE CAN LOOK AT THEM?? Is it some weird attachment disorder ??? I don't get it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:52 PM |
| 3 | women only hotelswoahh this is such a great piece of information. I've mentally bookmarked to come back to this once I'm done dealing with the mess from my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:42 PM |
| 14 | How to spot a pedophile?Like you said, the vast majority of men you've interacted with are pedophilic--IF you let yourself see it. So I think getting into the mindset of never playing down your intuition is important and so is getting on high alert when it comes to their behaviors around this topic. So far, my intuition acts up in these scenarios: When a guy I had been talking for a few weeks suddenly brings up the topic out of nowhere. To me it means he *really* wanted to know how alert I was on this issue i.e. if he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:00 PM |
| 15 | I am officially ready to leave this accursed website after recent events, and this fictional man made story being promoted to me as funny.And a lot of women confirmed her story, talking about how men called various hotlines and pretended either to be a woman or talk on behalf of one. wait... why would they do this??? I don't get it ?? am I missing on something? like the basic knowledge on how deprave they are? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:58 PM |
| 20 | Why are some men so obsessed to keep women's standards as low as possible?Theres a mentality people forced on young girls that in order to be deserving of true love, you gotta love others for who they are inside, not their jobs or money or how they act outside. Scrotes take this to mean that they can be absolute scumbag and low to others (also they would think that being a “plumber” is low while we do not) and deserve to be loved unconditionally i.e.“fOr wHO i Am iNsIdE” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:49 PM |
| 13 | Some great bites of insight into abuse and narcissism.The hardest, most confusing part for me is not just experiencing all these, but having my ex told me that HE was the one that experienced that soul crushing sadness, that sense of abandonment I so cruelly left him with as I was struggling both at home and at work. Up until today I still have sneaking suspicion that I was the narc in the relationship. I made him feel unwanted, I didn’t take his emotions into account while I was pointing out his comments about my mental illness were hurting me. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Getting messaged by scrote lurkers?I was about to say the same thing about cows. They're cute.... and as are all animals!!! I often wonder why they always project their hatred of all living things on Earth onto us... calling women whales, cows, pigs ? ? ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Let's show a little love to the aspiring HVM who lurk on FDS. These messages were in response to my post "HVM are not offended by FDS"This 100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 06:55 AM |
| 8 | What would be a healthy response?Scrotes shapeshift and adapt to these kinds of interviews. The ONLY vetting strategy work so far is stay happy with my life, BLOCK and walk if something smells suspicious 🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 04:09 AM |
| 15 | The Empathetic i Am oN yOuR sIdE Maleohh they want to be recognized as the enlightened one without actually doing the work I've never seen anyone this thirsty for validation, and they said women are vain 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:02 PM |
| 16 | The Empathetic i Am oN yOuR sIdE Malejust stroking himself why didn't he just watch porn it's faster and coming up with that text wall lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:58 PM |
| 32 | The Empathetic i Am oN yOuR sIdE MaleI have a "public figure" facebook profile and omg there was a time period where there was a PR campaign every day I had to deal with the influx of messages that remind me of a confession box at Church "I know cheating is bad, it east me up on the inside..." 🙄 "I know I'm not good enough for her..." 🙄 "I've thought long and hard about it..." 🙄 The funny thing is I used to be a "public figure" because I was active in the BUSINESS community, my content was always about business and not even anythin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:57 PM |
| 22 | The Empathetic i Am oN yOuR sIdE Malewhy does he need to insert himself into the conversation? This struck me as weird. Is it ego? is it subconscious? Does he need my validation and does he need to think that since he can rEfLecT that means hes nOT lIke oThEr mEn?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:52 PM |
| 26 | The Empathetic i Am oN yOuR sIdE MaleThe moment he says, “I do,” his PornHub and OnlyFans accounts become immediately deactivated, and his desire to objectify women dissipates. It leaves his body as a silent fart. A harbinger of the shit to come. Of course this effect wouldn't occur for just any woman, any forever girlfriends that life throws in his way. It only occurs for the mAgikaL woman -- his dream woman ... ya know the one that has the body of a porn star and can eloquently protect her stance in a debate on existentialism in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:49 PM |
| 62 | The Empathetic i Am oN yOuR sIdE MaleThe undercover scrote 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for setting my head straight ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 07:38 PM |
| 92 | Completely "Unconditional" love doesn't existMy exhusband told me that he believed there's someone out there who will love him fOr bEinG hIM. uNcOndItIoNaLly. Being him is to watch Netflix for 4 - 6 hours straight sometimes until Netflix ran out of shows for him to watch, to play video games at dinner table & to read manga before bed. He can't read books because he finds non-picture books intimidating (Wow he sounds like an 8 year-old here) Being him is also watching porn & masturbating at least 2 times a day in public restrooms back in hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 03:43 PM |
| 54 | Derrick Jaxn LVMI have been skeptical of his character for a looong time... just based off the fact that he capitalizes off "the bad guy" narrative and most of his "cult"/ paying fans are women HVMs isn't usually loud, IDK. Although I gotta admit sometimes the message he spreads does help put things in a different perspective for me (back in my pickmesha days) Again a reminder to look at what a guy does not how he talks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 03:24 PM |
| 174 | Be a queen ladies, a real king will follow.Yea this had me confused when someone called him HV here 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 02:04 PM |
| 229 | She told him straight and held to her ideals - a Reddit GOAT post from years ago.Still calls her a “mom” despite she said no early on. This is what happens when they don’t work to undo the patriarchal brainwashing to see reality for what it is. Its unimaginable to them that a woman giving birth to a child can deny being a mom. That script is still in their head and when the world doesn’t correspond they get mad lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 05:20 AM |
| 121 | Re-read the best seller "Memories of a geisha" after 9 years and I am shocked at the misogyny/pick me brain washing!Not just a book. Its a narrative composed in a very specific format—memoir 🤢 I cant help but imagine what was going on in his brain when he employed his creative power to project the life experience of a little girl 🤢 who’s being trained to service men 🤢🤦🏻♀️ Ewwwwwwww Sth about this tells me he has an obsession that is very specific and very weird | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:01 AM |
| 6 | Ditch the LVM and get the Doctorate: A Cautionary Tale.You're so strong and amazing to have gone through this sis. Congratulations on your thesis!! Hope you will celebrate it nonetheless, you fucking deserve it and so much more!! I'm sure someone in your friends and family would love to celebrate with you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:24 PM |
| 22 | Try to get to a place in your life where desperation is no longer a motivating force in anything you do.I definitely agree with you, desperation makes you vulnerable to exploitation, but it's not our fault you know. I'm no longer "desperate" in most aspects of my life but I gotta to admit that comes from having privilege. Not taking a job out of desperation requires having some cash cushion or good network that you can rely on. Not sleeping with a guy on first date requires having the knowledge that it's bad, which I didn't have until recently. Most of the times, unfortunately, when people are dow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 07:22 PM |
| 52 | The Every Single Gen-Z & Millenial Man Starter PackThis is awesome BTW, the anime photo needs to be bigger. And we need to add E-sport too! Not only do they play video games whatever time and brain cells they have left they devote them to watching other people... playing video games. I'm like WHY? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 06:55 PM |
| 1 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itEwww , he didn't believe in engagement?? I hope all your friends and family block him out!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:27 PM |
| 2 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itI was stupid enough to think if he was young, his pedophilia could be cured :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:26 PM |
| 4 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itI'm sorry he did that to you.... Men are such joy stealer. My ex did that too, I still feel sneaky about listening to certain kind of music even when there's no one around :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:25 PM |
| 2 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itAwww thank you so much for the kind words! Your comment helped me feel more confident about my writing. I really appreciate it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:23 PM |
| 2 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itI see. You are right to be bitter though. It seems he begged you to stay because he wanted to exploit your last stretch of health and energy not because he wanted to help you (he would have done a better job if he did want to). The best course of action to take with these men is yes, disengage and cut our losses, preferably early on 😂or if not, asap lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:22 PM |
| 1 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itWow so he basically punished you for what his mom did to him. He left you when you had surgery??? What a piece of $#&^* Mine suggested that we had an open relationship when I was clinically diagnosed with depression because.. same reason.. my depression was affecting his "mental health" I hope you recover well from your surgery and are in better health soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 03:01 PM |
| 5 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itCongrats on getting the orchid for yourself! Orchids are such eccentric beauties and they make the air in your room smell.. fancier 😍I haven't seen them in the grocery stores around me yet but I'll definitely check out Whole Foods in my next flower run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:26 AM |
| 3 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itHe was worse than just flowers. He never wanted to go cinema, he never wanted to go out to eat, he never really wanted to even leave the house. It killed my own passion for life. Mine also got that. It's a package deal I think for these men. And they always blame it on their mom for not allowing them the freedom to enjoy these things when they were young and now they feel guilty eating out at a restaurant. But I notice my ex only ever felt guilty when he went with me. When he ate alone he didn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:15 AM |
| 3 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itThanks so much for your kind comment!! 🥰It really means a lot to me since English is my second language and I haven't always been so confident about expressions or ability to write at all... I really appreciate it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:08 AM |
| 5 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itThank you for your words of encouragement!! I did a flower arranging course when I was in high school and some flower preservation course when I was in college to know how to handle and transport flowers without too much damage. I will try to find out if there's something similar in my area, as I can never know too much about flowers :P Perhaps I can do it part time, the practice of trimming the stems and putting the flowers together is very calming to me; it also tends to put me in a trance tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:01 AM |
| 3 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itAh we were young and I was stupid. Both were 20 years old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:45 PM |
| 4 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itThank you!! You're so kind I don't know what I did to have deserved such words!! Wish you all the best on your Level-Up journey as well 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:44 PM |
| 3 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itOr like that dude on Hinge or some dating app someone shared on FDS a while back that says things about his kids like they are "pretty chapter of my life" 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:43 PM |
| 19 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept iteh??? fuck him!! I LOVE bubble tea by the way!! Your ex reminded me of that one male classmate from high school that sat next to me and told me yogurt was bad for my health. I wAs oNLy sPeAkInG tRutH. so annoying !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:41 PM |
| 5 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itThank you for spending time with my post! And I really appreciate your comment too!! ❤ I also love writing but so much of my voice has been stolen that I lost confidence in my words. That being said, I'm so glad to know you found some value in my post. Unrelated but FDS is such a nurturing community I am soooo GRATEFUL to have found you guys!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:17 PM |
| 7 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itWait how did he manage to connect abusing an animal to a girl wanting to be gifted with flowers? What a self-righteous manipulator, I think he was born with a guilt deflector in his brain as to being unable to take any responsibility for his action!! Glad you got rid of him!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:13 PM |
| 11 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itI remember he insisted that we are "equal", he wants it eqUaL and consequently I'm not a "queen" 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:09 PM |
| 43 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itHe was only cheap when it came to my needs, Yes I realize this is true of my ex too. Those same men would buy flowers to keep Halle Berry - just not us. I used to believe in the whole men and their dream girl or destiny girl narrative However, I now know for a fact that even if they manage to get Halle Berry somehow they'd still degrade her and deny her of the things she finds valuable and endearing. I used to be my ex's dream girl. He told all of our friends and even his previous girlfriend thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:08 PM |
| 14 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itMy ex told me that video games taught him the "virtue" of working toward a goal 🤣😂🤣 OMG so wrong 🤣😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:32 PM |
| 21 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept ita budding florist. Looks like we have a budding florist on FDS, this is so stunning! Thanks for such a nurturing comment!! :P I fantasize about becoming one sometimes (it'll be the best thing ever tbh I often tear up thinking about it!!!) but I'm not 100% comfortable with it yet. I still have a lot of internalized shame that keeps me from doing things that speak to me emotionally. I'll work on it. A man saying he’s “not a flower guy” is one of the most pathetic excuses for plain old thoughtles… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:29 PM |
| 7 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itHe was 20 when I discovered. [Trigger Warning though] His [teen] porn was illegal; I'm sorry for calling it teen earlier. I still haven't gathered my thoughts around it and it's another thing that I don't quite know how to deal with yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:09 PM |
| 44 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itthe reminder to hold tight to my joy. Yes!! Thank you for understanding my post! We're such a targeted group for brainwashing and social conditioning so sometimes it's hard to see clearly our values and inspirations. I wrote this out as a way to remind myself as well. These days I'm very strict when it comes to protecting my joy and things that are precious to me. If a guy I just met even comes nearly as having a "remark" on .. say.. my writing habit (a date once told me "you need not to write s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:07 PM |
| 4 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itOH wow your ex said the exact same thing ? It sounds like a type then. I didn't know this. Your photo looks stunning by the way, I love how you captured the flowers (I loooove white roses too!!) as well as the light! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:57 PM |
| 17 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itI don't understand it either. My ex called it 'stoicism' but I'm not sure if he understood it right. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:52 PM |
| 8 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itYes!!! I just get them along with my weekly grocery (as to minimize the amount of mental gymnastic I had to go through in order to allow myself the purchase) but if you don't have that mental habit, go for the absolutely stunning and luxurious one at a flower shop 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:49 PM |
| 4 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itawww thank you for noticing 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:47 PM |
| 25 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itAwww thank you so much for noticing I bought 2 separate rose bouquets and 1 lily stem to mix. Arranging flowers is very calming imo. If i can afford more flowers and more free time I'll spend my whole day arranging flowers 😍 The fact that he didn't buy gifts felt small to me at the time. I thought since he was ambitious, and not alcoholic like my dad that should be enough. The flower thing was not a factor in my decision of leaving. Later I found out he's addicted to (TEEN 🤮) PORN and he demande… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:39 PM |
| 112 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itI think they consider them as "basic" and central to their maleness so you cannot separate them from those hobbies i.e. it's a "must" that we support. If you ask them things they consider as making them "happy" they'd probably say "threesome" or [insert something dehumanizing] that they're not allowed to do by the law. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:31 PM |
| 14 | Why are women shamed for wanting to date providers?Shame in this context is a tool of control society uses to coerce women to date (aka open access to her resources to) worthless males On an individual it enacts as an unsettling sense that she who doesn’t split nothing exists outside their system of control. So they devalue you (shame you) hoping you crave for their validation enough to adopt their way and submit yourself to being under their control | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:26 AM |
| 4 | That’s a lot of words for “on call booty”Ohhh I think you re right I have seen there are more covert narcs on Hinge - the nerdy type who calls themselves sigma males 😵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:08 AM |
| 8 | In case you doubt the value you bring to a relationshipI bet a few years down the road he would start the whole speech on his UnhAPpiNeSS wItH a cApTiTaL U again not realizing his rigidness is central to it. If his 2nd wife brings up the issue he ll start dismissing her ... sHE diDnT sAy aNyThIng!! But Im getting ahead of myself since hes not sure he will marry her yet 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:06 AM |
| 8 | In case you doubt the value you bring to a relationshipOmg I totally forgot about the kids. They would need so many things that wont be accounted for on his spreadsheet and he ll probably blame them for not being frugal enough 🥲🥲🥲 The woman does sound sweet to have taken in his depressed ass. I wouldn’t go anywhere near that liability of a man. 3months out of a 20year relationship and already dating 😵😵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:01 AM |
| 12 | In case you doubt the value you bring to a relationshipThanks so much for writing this out!! This guy feels eerily like my ex on the topic of “early retirement” and well pretty much his enLiGhtEnmEnT on other subjects. The 30k/ 50k detail he kept mentioning doesn’t vibe just stingy to me but rather petty. Imagine being his ex constantly having to hear these numbers on a daily basis or every she wants to eat something nice 🥴 she’s probably traumatized With the new woman who basically nursed him back to life he the audacity to say “Maaaaaybe we ll get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:24 AM |
| 10 | Advice telling women to "communicate" is gaslightingI got this advice so much ... that I started recording our conversations, like HR people do in conflict mitigation. I was so frustrated, not sure what I left out. Before that I had changed my voice, even done plastic surgery to make sure I don’t look antagonistic to him. Etc. Since I started recording I also played the recordings to my dear sister to which she responded. Get. Out. ASAP. Altogether my family just stopped telling me to communicate after hearing the recordings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:42 AM |
| 19 | That’s a lot of words for “on call booty”Hinge has gone down these days.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:51 PM |
| 20 | K-pop in general has been disappointing but I'm pleasantly surprised to discover DeVita 😍Though I wouldn't say her songs are fiercely FDS as they're probably in the non pickme region. But it's so rare nowadays to find songs & artists that don't sing eMpOwermEnT while wearing a shiny unitard while dancing provocatively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:48 PM |
| 97 | Just broke up with a porn sick man. Thanks FDS for helping me assert my boundaries and hold my own.I remembered who the fuck I am and I broke up with him. This is beautiful! You're my goals sis. The fact that you have a high sex drive just shows the masterful level of self-control & self-respect you have when you to decide to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 03:11 PM |
| 158 | That’s a lot of words for “on call booty”"Have fun" "What do you do for fun?" "Fun personality" "Know how to have fun" "Doesn't take her life too seriously" Why they always talk like a dog??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 03:05 PM |
| 8 | Women who are divorcedHey I'm also from South East Asia and I'm going through a divorce. My mom was frowned upon a lot (for failure in teaching me). They can't do it to me because I go no-contact with almost everybody in the family. I only write them hate emails every now and then when I'm in the mood. But yea, being independent & self-protecting in SEA might mean that you'll have to disown pretty much everyone in your family in order to maintain sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:54 PM |
| 16 | How to make the first move, but not reallyThis is great advice. However, it seems to me even if we do this, they are the ones to make the first move (of scanning) so it's more like we reciprocating them? TO those who are unsure of whether they want to do this or not, maybe try it out. But also know that you don't have to. In my experience sometimes I intentionally reciprocate, look at them and smile back etc and sometimes I don't. They still come over anyway ~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:57 PM |
| 36 | Who the hell wants to put up with a man for %10 percent contribution?OP you spotted the first layer of the BS: yea who the fuck needs the trouble to just bring up 10%? There's another layer to this: "When a woman is already almost full, a man is nAturAlLy hIghLy mOtiVaTeD to bring her to the top" BULLSHIT. They're highly motivated to TAKE MORE FROM US!! THEY DON'T BRING ANYTHING. NOT EVEN 10%!!! If you have money, they'll take your money. If you don't have money yet, they'll rob you of whatever intangible assets that you have, mental wellbeing, emotional well bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:47 PM |
| 21 | "YoU'rE sO JaDeD!!" and "nOt aLl MeN" are not valid retorts for women setting boundaries.A while back somebody made a thread that's structured like a dictionary of things scrotes say about themselves. I feel like there needs to be one about things society says of us and we can rewrite all those definitions "crazy cat lady" "too jaded" "given up on men" "stuck up" "selfish" "vain" "cold career woman" etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:14 PM |
| 6 | The “talking” stage and why it’s not flattering or beneficial to womenGetting sex and cute “good morning” texts without actually committing to you. And if he goes out with another girl, you can’t complain, remember, because you’re just ‘talking’. I think this is due to OLD culture. It gives them the illusion of access to many women at once hence the low effort. Especially when they first use it, the apps give new users a boost and they get more likes, right swipes, it makes them think they're hot shit. The high and the validation is enough--that is actually the va… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Having Pickme Dreams?I seeeee I was so mad at myself earlier for fEeLiNGs of mIsSiNG my ex 🤦🏻♀️ How can our body betray us like this I do not understand 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Having Pickme Dreams?Yes my therapist also said the same thing. I recognize that I will still have thoughts and images about him years beyond this point. I just hope that the emotional effect will eventually fade :( Thank you for your kind words <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Having Pickme Dreams?Now if i do think about him, it's with disgust and pity. This is goals to me. I do have moments like this but they are sparse. Sometimes when I have a super bright day I would think of him and feel like this. I guess this means that I'm not 100% stable yet. The divorce lasted 1.5 years for you?? Wow!! It's probably weird to ask but did you start feeling disgust toward him before the 1.5 year mark or after? I'm still emotionally attached to my ex and I'm so scared to find out if he's dating other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:14 PM |
| 6 | Having Pickme Dreams?Woah I didn't know this. Thanks so much for enlightening me!! I checked Flo and YES, today is my 1st day of Ovulation 😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:09 PM |
| 17 | "Men want to be judged on their intentions, not on their actions"YES. He INDEED debated with me about why I picked beef over chicken despite stating the opposite prior. I remember telling him that I always thought of chicken because it would be softer (I had problem with chewing) but because I hadn't had beef in such a long time that I started craving for it... So I changed my mind to beef. Then he asked me, Why is there such a thing??? I was ???? I think it gets more ridiculous the more I tell you 🤡 I didn't know it back then, but this was the beginning of m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 5 | Pick-me - internalizing the needs of othersMy growth journey is very similar to yours I think. Although I wasn't initially as attracted to them, the validation I got was so compelling that I just caved in and re-drew my boundaries. To most (*) people I am no longer like this. I went through a few phases before getting to the point of not wanting to melt myself into whoever's demands and needs: (I'm aware this is in a context more general than just dating, but I feel that it still applies): Phase A: Complete Exhaustion. I could barely get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:33 PM |
| 2 | "Twin flames" and "Soulmates" are psychopaths and narcissists mirroring and grooming youa game to get p*ssy. Yes, hard cold truth. But true. Also when you call their BS and they insist, "BUT THIS IS A ONCE IN A LIFETIME OPPORTUNITY! " hoping to manipulate your emotion with FOMO. I was like, YEA once in a lifetime FOR YOU. For someone on your level to get someone like me. It will never happen again, not in a million years. UGH. Then the "I hAvE nEveR fElt tHIs cOnNecTiOn bEfOre!" Of course you never have, you were such an ass and a failure nobody in your life wanted to have anything… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 09:41 PM |
| 19 | "Men want to be judged on their intentions, not on their actions"A very similar thing happened to me!! I told him that I was going to have chicken for dinner instead of beef, then I changed my mind and he flipped out on me, demanding an explanation “There had to be a reason” Or while we were walking together in a park and I saw a shadow coming toward us and had to change course and he said I got aggressive with him? I remember being so frustrated!! 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 09:15 PM |
| 36 | I'm leaving my unfulfilling relationship and couldn't be more excited. Thank you all.Im so happy for you!!! I wish I had gotten out sooner when the future still felt bright for me. Now Im still working on undoing the damaging habits and recovering from mental and health complications left in the aftermaths of my 8+ year relationship 🥴 Your post gave me hope though!! Some day I will be as excited about my life as you are about yours 🧡🧡🧡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 08:56 PM |
| 3 | If I could do so with no health issues, I'd stay morbidly obese foreverFeminist AF I need this on my T-shirt, embroidered with silver and gold threads | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Having Pickme Dreams?Oh yeaaa I have the similar experience with leveling up in terms of diet I was going low-carb for the first time and I would dream of having red velvet cake to myself. Sounds like I'm indeed going through withdrawal! Thanks for enlightening me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | A testament that FDS does change how a woman approaches dating (VERY LONG DATE STORY -- hopefully inspirational).My ex is Asian. Would be super weird if that guy you met was him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Having Pickme Dreams?Thank you for sharing your experience. I made up my mind to block him out of my thoughts because I know I would be tempted, but I can't practice it 100%. I was married to him (luckily no kids) and now I'm going through a divorce. I have a lot of things tied up with him including a business we founded "together" that he abandoned as well and I'm having to deal with the staff and the investors by myself. It's like.. torture every time I have to work on those paperwork. Everything won't be over I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Media consumption and animeIf you're sensitive, then I'm extra-extra-sensitive xD I cannot stand anime of all kinds culture. Even Ghibli movies triggered me. Why?They infantilize women and girls emotions. Take anger for example. When women and girls in those movies got angry, but they still look cute. My stupid LVM ex once brought up the "issue" that I looked scary when I'm angry and he couldn't reconcile it with the fact that women in anime don't look scary when they are angry. This dude made 6 figures without a college … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 03:45 PM |
| 7 | Michael B. Jordan Shows Lori Harvey What A PREPARED Man Looks LikeIf we accept that a guy can be "ready" or "unready" idk to me it seems to imply that a LVM can change into HVM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:26 PM |
| 12 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?He asked me, word by word: "What if hypothetically I'm polyamorous?" What the fuck is hypothetically polyamorous? After he said that I had to rush to the bathroom and vomit because it was the middle of a dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:19 PM |
| 9 | A testament that FDS does change how a woman approaches dating (VERY LONG DATE STORY -- hopefully inspirational).He "dated" someone for 8 years? Also BTW sis it sounds crazy to say but I think you went out with my literal ex. The car purchase intention, the 8 year relationship ended last August, the conversation pattern, him being immigrated to the US later, the insistence on "not just hangout", the fact that he gave you a specific kind of crazy vibe. But maybe not since it's not surprising that there's more than one of them in this world lol But literal or not you're right about the fact that he either A/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:29 AM |
| 17 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexHaha yea I just replied saying fully agreed that we're clearly not compatible when it comes to intimacy, wished him well and blocked and deleted. Made myself a lovely lunch and now enjoying some bubble tea and a relaxing rest of my day. Will definitely put my toy to good use later too 🤣 Wow you really know how to take care of yourself! I hope I would get there someday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:11 PM |
| 15 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexWow I feel queen energy through your post!! Scrotes are probably mad and downvoting it for this reason. Happy vetting!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:52 PM |
| 2 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityThank you in believing in how I feel. Since I post this, much like the officer incels have been messaging me about the hOnEsT mAn's mIstAkE which really open my eyes. They would protect each other like that in unified disregard for our safety and wellbeing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:40 PM |
| 1 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityThank you I'll look it up!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:38 PM |
| 1 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityYea what's up the government rant?? We're not a therapist, nor are we capable to change that situation for him?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:36 PM |
| 2 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityWow I'm sorry you went through that. It must have been so traumatic!! The more we grow up the more we realize of all those images were merely sold to us so we continue to think of them as good and don't resist their dominance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityYes I did this too. I took my sister to come see apartments with me, I was still not 100% mentally functioning then but on some level I knew I had to do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 11:03 PM |
| 12 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI think after my research I will make a thread about this--how to increase our security living alone. It's so important that we feel safe as to A/ survive and B/ not to be pressured into a relationship (lack of safety was in the past a factor for me to get stuck in a relationshit with an LVM) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:59 PM |
| 12 | Seeing parents relationship through a new lensShe’d tell me and my sister she wanted to leave him but couldn’t. I remember the nights my mom came to me when I was studying and told me the same thing, that she wanted to leave him. I was in the whole thing with her--his alcoholism and it's hard now to believe what came out of me then but I coldly told her, "just leave him". I was 9 years old at the time. Over the years she never actually left and I got tired of giving her therapy sessions so I stopped talking about it and told her I needed to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:30 PM |
| 5 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI'm leaning toward thinking it was an accident but I'm not 100% convinced that I'm safe. They do have background check procedure on prospective tenants, and you kinda have to have medium-high income too... but that's not the point. I'm still not comfortable. What if he talks about this incident to his friends or someone and they learn A/ that I live here alone and B/ that I (potentially) forgot to lock doors. I'm not comfortable when any male on this world is in possession of this piece of infor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:50 PM |
| 4 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilitywhile you were in the shower??? That's scary sis!! I'm glad too that you moved. Stay safe!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:39 PM |
| 3 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityThe NSA??? Wow good for you sis for having a gun!! May I ask was it hard to obtain a gun ? I'm thinking of getting one. Is there a type that you would recommend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:38 PM |
| 16 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityBeing a woman sucks but being a poor woman is straight up DANGEROUS. If you are a woman without resources and "people" you have a target on your back, and nobody seems to be discussing this. My heart goes out to you sis. I'm in your exact situation; I'm recovering from a mentally devastating relationship and training myself into a job so that I can get more resources. I'm mentally & physically weak right now and I wish I could get into an even safer place. Some day I'm so so exhausted but the vu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:06 PM |
| 11 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityYes I'm seriously considering this. However I fear I might not be able to take care of the dog well because I"m recovering from trauma from my ex and also training myself to get a new job. It would be unfair for the dog. But once everything settles down and I'm more stable yes I would get at least a dog and a cat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 22 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI see. This is the reason why I flinch at the smallest weird noise I hear in my apartment. If I can't tell where it comes from or what it is right away I can't sleep. I guess on some level my intuition understands that evil takes so many forms and infiltrates into our lives in so many different ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:56 PM |
| 10 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityIt took me a lot of therapy to get to the point of realizing... that blaming myself only allows the situation (especially those out of my control in the first place) to fester to the point of no return. So now I guess I'm one of those entitled women that scream at the first sight of a smoke or anything remotely alarming. I learn from FDS that it doesn't matter how I look like, it's self preservation if I don't do it, no one will. Thanks so much for your kind words!!! I'm so lucky to have found F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:53 PM |
| 4 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityThank you! I just feel so lucky that nothing happened. Time to learn how to use a sword I guess! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:45 PM |
| 9 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityhahah as you predicted, the courtesy officer did tell me something long that line. What about the guy??? He was scared too, hE cOuLd hAvE bEeN sHoT 🤡 I did have more about that interaction in my update above if you'd like to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:45 PM |
| 10 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityUPDATE: I found out that guy was a neighbor of mine and he confused the floor, he lived right below me. I just got called into the building's office and met the officer again and they explained it. As some of you ladies predicted yea the male officer started with the whole wELl iT cOulD hAvE bEen dAnGerOuS fOr hIm tOo. hE cOuLd hAvE bEeN sHoT 🤡 ??? Eh???? so what??? I should feel less traumatized??? The building manager said she met the guy this morning and he seemed embarrassed about it. So obv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:43 PM |
| 30 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilitySoooo according to porn, their own ignorance for trespassing other people's safety doesn't get them punished but also rewarded in the most perverted way? No wonder why the world always feels a little upside down whenever you interact with an LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 20 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI went to an all womens college and lived on an all womens campus. It was a magical time. If we can't do city yet can we just have an all women's apartment complex or something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 07:11 PM |
| 10 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI can get a katana and learn to use it. I think the chance of someone intruding me who also knows how to use it is slimmer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:58 PM |
| 52 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI guess men suffers trauma too. It's the trauma of having your privilege taken away from you for the first time in your life /s No offense but your bother sounds LVM, if you can, please move away from him. His way of attitude and behavior will eventually affect you more than you realize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:51 PM |
| 20 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityOoof.This is so succinct. And truthful. My ex told me this before but I thought he was joking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:44 PM |
| 12 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityYea it's the exhaustion only known to us unfortunately :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:35 PM |
| 35 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityWhat the heck??? Why do people (mostly guys) just casually walk into wrong apartments like that??? OMG this reminds me, I've only ever known one woman who ever accidentally walked into an apartment that was not her own. And you know what happened to her??? She was ASSAULTED by my ex's uncle. His family had to bail him out of jail. And this guy isn't the typical violent type you could identify out of a crowd. He's a software engineer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:32 PM |
| 9 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityOh dear!! I think I would move if I were you but I understand that it's not always easy to make such an arrangement. You're so strong to have lived through it sis :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:20 PM |
| 106 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityI really don’t think they realize how much violence and shit we have to put up with on a daily basis. I have been cat called since I was on a training wheel bike, men have recorded me exercising as a teenager, people on this website have threaten me with rape and violence just because I post on the sub Reddit. Living as a woman It’s like walking through a minefield. Every time I go out I have to face the reality that I might be raped. Yes!! Actually even the "good guys" benefit off the "bad guys… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 05:24 PM |
| 26 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityYes I'm okay (and lucky I guess). Thank you so much for your comment! That's such a good idea though, I'll find out if I can get a large dog, it definitely will help me feel safer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 05:19 PM |
| 6 | Opinions on anime?I probably will get a lot of hate for this. But men watching anime of all kinds -- that include Studio Ghibli movies -- is a no-no for me. He doesn't have to be into it, just watch it regular enough here and there. Unless they themselves can point to me what's wrong with it. IMO if they're familiarized themselves with materials that have over-simplified & INFANTILIZED representations of the human emotions (especially those of women), more often than not, those representations will form their exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:23 PM |
| 15 | Reminder: Never waste your time on someone, who didn‘t appreciate you the first time aroundIt takes a certain level of discipline and realization of self-worth because you'll always feel that emotional pull, especially if you're badly wounded from growing up and from relationships. You always want to feel better in the moment, like the desire to eat unhealthy food. It's easy in the moment but detrimental in the long run. Then you also need to realize the life you're struggling to barely put together in the aftermath of that relationship is fucking too precious & right now, too fragile… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Learning how to not gaf about pleasing menTheir attention is cheap and boring and ends in trauma. This is what we need to teach younger girls. I remember being young and warned by other women but I thought to myself "So what if LVM are attracted?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:33 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with the feeling of loneliness?I think it's worth exploring if that loneliness has always been there running at the background your whole life even before & during your time with the LVM. Chances are, if you were with a LVM, you were likely just distracted from feeling it for a little while when he hadn't shown his true face. I'm on somewhat a similar journey and I see this loneliness as a calling to reconnect with my deeper, wounded self. In the past when I was in the relationship I only ignored this calling because I was bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:14 AM |
| 8 | The majority of men WILL NOT do 50% of parentingIts hard to see the extent of our accountability. The media and culture at large pits woman against each other, creates stereotypes and divisions among us right down to the way we re dressed since we were very young. Thats why it was hard to hear other womens voices. Then theres the “Im not like other girls” mindset you mention which is actually a coping mechanism we self selected to survive in a toxic environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?I get it. Additionally I think , whatever role we have, they will always devalue it (think of "female" doctors, actresses, "female" anything) although arguably it's more extreme when it comes to SAH because of history. Individually at this point I think each of us would better save ourselves and nope out of the narrative so yes you're right about that. On a societal level though, we will see that need (or whatever it is that's fulfilled by the SAH role) bleeding into other aspects of life --and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Unless being married meant he is legally obligated to give me half his paycheck, then sure. Yes, this is what I want as well. I had a 10year relationshit where I performed housewifery duties for free and walked away with nothing to show on my resume. I wish women everywhere would wake up. Until they all recognize that it's an important job and give us real benefits AND clear future directions LIKE ANY OTHER JOBS AND we are NOT putting up with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Capitalism has always been a pyramid scam. YES!! "It needs undervalued woman pumping out future wage-slaves to fill the new bottom layer. This is what I meant to say as well, I can't believe I forgot such an important point! IN addition, it also needs undervalued woman to be the FREE caregiver, the FREE personal assistant, the FREE therapist to all the garbage men in her life to keep society functioning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?I appreciate in the input. Like you, I don't believe that it's women's fault. I clearly said that it's the men in power overborrowed our capacity, because they diminished the role of caregiving and they don't think of it as important. Now it's them who created all this mess.It's their fault. To borrow capitalist terms, it's like a CEO asking a graphic designer (or any job title) in a company to also do customer support because the leader doesn't think graphic designer is a difficult or important… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?I get the sense you feel that women "belong" in the house (with no money or independence, trading sex for food, remember!) and that we should somehow want to go BACK to being housewives "for the good of society." NO FUCKING THANK YOU Hello. Wow. Ah no, let me just clarify: I never meant to say that we should want that. No. Nuh-uh. I simply tried to say, I believe that SAH-Caregiver (Mom or Dad) role is important. Someone should do it. It should be held with respect and recognition arguably highe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:45 PM |
| 40 | Another round of free publicity for the sub. Stories about FDS men come up with amuse me every time. Really? I think you attribute "threatening someone with violence when they reject you" to the wrong sех.I honestly don't like where this is going. IT's almost as if someone intentionally manufactured these lies FULLY KNOWING what we're about. What could be their agenda? To turn the public against us? Remember they're not stupid. Like some of the commenters in the photo said, it's so easy to see what we're about. I feel like it's a male tactic to fully know what's right/ wrong but intentionally act in the opposite to further an agenda. Their disposition is clear though, that they don't like that we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:38 PM |
| 14 | Men straight up tell on themselves. If he doesn’t pursue you like you’re his dream girl, then he doesn’t deserve access to you.I WAS ,,dream girl" to my ex (who told all of his friends and even his ex before me that I was). Guess what that narrative kept me stuck in that relationshit for 10 years!!! I walked away heart, mind & spirit broken. Terrible things happen to ,,dream girls" too!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:30 PM |
| 67 | Men straight up tell on themselves. If he doesn’t pursue you like you’re his dream girl, then he doesn’t deserve access to you.Part of me wonders if they're actually aware that this is how they operate? That they will devalue the thing the moment the dream is achieved? Is it why they're so miserable? Because their unchecked desires keep jerking them around? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:43 AM |
| 19 | The journey from liberal to radical feminist.I went to an all women college where the libfem movement was loud and strong. I actually questioned myself a lot because despite being surrounded by all that I didn't feel like 100% agree with everything that they said, about how sex is empowering, advocating against SAHMs instead of for SAHMs to have more real benefits, blaming women for their choices etc. So I didn't really bond with most of the women, except for a few. I wish that I pushed for it harder when I was there and discovered radical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:39 AM |
| 22 | Found on fb. This just seems like “things a decent spouse should do,” hardly worth a 4 page essay.I think the essay is to convince herself to feel more resolved in her choice to settle for him. I bet something at the back of her mine tries to tell her... this is not what you want... but somehow she tries to squash it with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:30 AM |
| 10 | Stop telling yourself “deep down he’s a good person”My ex showed up on Tinder 10 hours after he broke up with me. I couldn't believe my friend when she told me that. We had a history of 10+ years. I felt so heart-broken and then I realized it was BECAUSE OF THIS SCRIPT running wild in my head: "I know deep down he loves me... ... And he's ruining a beautiful thing we had together by doing that" NAH, there's no deep down to this man, or if there is, it's a depraved black hole where all living things go to die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:14 AM |
| 44 | [Mildly Trending] /r/FemaleDatingStrategy - Female Dating Strategy (+559 subscribers today; 140% trend score)TBH for the past 8 months that I'm here, I've never seen 10K members online at the same time. This is interesting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:08 AM |
| 142 | Men straight up tell on themselves. If he doesn’t pursue you like you’re his dream girl, then he doesn’t deserve access to you.What right does he have to ,,dream"? They're not the picky sex, they don't have a ,,type" It's just an egoistic mentality, they think of dating like ordering food from a restaurant. It makes both them and the women in their life miserable. AND FUNNILY ENOUGH, even when he got his ,,dream girl" he would still treat her like shit, or probably even worse cuz his audacity is now off the chart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:04 AM |
| 9 | Loss of Self-belief -- An underestimated impact of toxic relationshipsEveryday you are faced with a decision to either get closer to your goals or not, so I just make sure I do whatever I need to do to get closer. And none of these things are in service to anyone but myself, and I think that's just how I will carry on now - at work when I get a job, when I get a boyfriend next - I will just make sure to serve myself. Oh wow this is very helpful to know. I will try to focus on this. It's been a few months for me and I'm getting impatient at myself for not being com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 08:51 PM |
| 182 | Even the men on Twitter are defending FDS over Dominque. Regarding the whole Vice article, this was one of the responsens on the Vice twitter. Meanwhile not a single person has been patting her on the back and told her she did a great job- quite the opposite.Yay more publicity!! TBH I think the whole thing backfired on them; they were trying to recruit supporters for their little hate campaign but ended up giving us free advertising space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 2 | An underestimated impact of toxic relationships: Loss of Self-beliefAh Yes I just did. Thank you so much!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:48 PM |
| 123 | Reality check.Yep to all the COVERT narcs in my life, don't expect me to be quiet from now on. I don't need to be the nice quiet girl that you all decided that was what I needed to be. If you mess up with me I will fucking scream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Wow you just described my ex and me basically 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:19 PM |
| 4 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Wow that’s amazing sis 🤩 I used to think that I talk like this because Im bitter that my ex rejected me, but the truth was I would rather be left alone by him and I would rather that aging scrotes like my ex would leave younger women alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Yay!! Thank you so much !! Im in this delicate position though cuz I don’t wanna leave a bad reputation as it might affect my reference so I need to keep the customer service face up. But its so exhausting 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Im interviewing at another company altogether. It will be a fresh start for me 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:38 PM |
| 165 | There's been an uptick of women defending SAHM on FDS. This is why we don't do that.Most women I knew who entered the life of a SAHM (including my mom) bought into this LIE: that they will get paid with something they need innately, that money cannot buy -- emotional connection/ intimacy/ security, that their husbands will appreciate them, their kids will thank them when they grow up, that society will be forever grateful for their sacrifice. What a bunch of BS. These are also the women who have been too traumatized in childhood to see clearly that it's STILL a job, a role wher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?I really wish there's something I can do about it, besides just voicing my dissatisfaction and raising awareness for the younger generations :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:24 PM |
| 10 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?It used to be that women worked, but were part of an extended family and village support network of small towns, big farming communities and big families - where everybody was in charge of raising the children. This made childrearing a bit easier on the women, as aunts, grnadmothers, neighbors, older children would all chip in and watch the kids. Multigenerational households were the norm. Ohhh yes I remember reading about this too! I felt like I should have included in the post. The movement to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:22 PM |
| 17 | Accurate.Your comment gave me a weird idea. I suddenly wish there's a library somewhere (physical or online) that has all the historical accounts of the wives/ mothers/ daughters of all these historical figures. I'm not sure for what yet and I don't mean to diminish their contributions to humanity and civilization, but I feel like we were never taught about the women figures in their lives. Despite the common wisdom is that when you're married, you're essentially one with your spouse somehow only the men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 12 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?They will never self correct, but they will look to find new ways to steal the products of women's efforts for themselves. This is so true and I LOVE how straightforward your expressions are. I've read countless self-help books where they always refer to this act of thief in a metaphorical way, e.g. men "stealing our winds" "soiling our inner garden" etc. While I appreciate how it is quite entertaining to read, addressing the problem non-confrontationally doesn't help me think and improve in pra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Dan Savage, sex & love advice columnist, encourages a woman to stay with her husband who SEXTS his COUSIN. 🤢🤮 You can Google “Dan Savage” & “cousins” to see how much Dan Savage has defended incest over the years. Why hasn’t he been cancelled yet???OKAY You just remind me! My ex said something of similar nature about HIS AUNTS and MY MOM and MY SISTER. I can't recall exact words because they were too traumatizing that my brain blurred it. I also dismissed it in my head thinking he just needs help and the rIgHT lOvE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:46 PM |
| 10 | Dan Savage, sex & love advice columnist, encourages a woman to stay with her husband who SEXTS his COUSIN. 🤢🤮 You can Google “Dan Savage” & “cousins” to see how much Dan Savage has defended incest over the years. Why hasn’t he been cancelled yet???I think the porn is both the cause and the symptom of their depravity, it's an endless cycle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:42 PM |
| 24 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?The epidemic of people with attachment issues, particularly avoidant attachment style- I wouldn’t be surprised if it was correlated with being put into daycare at a very young age. There are studies out there confirming this. I came across a few back in my college days but most of my friends disregarded the argument saying those research articles agenda is to oppress women by making them responsible for their babies attachment issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 33 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?It probably explains why the rush for automation and software controlled everything and automating everything. I work in Tech and it's interesting to see. I guess the scrotes in power can sense it coming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:08 PM |
| 20 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?It all comes from a disregard for the work of women. And in this instance, that important work is the act of mothering. It is discarded as something that's NICE but not imperative but that just couldn't be further from the truth. Of course there will always be outliers, but overall, no one loves or cares for children more than their mothers. No one sacrifices and strives for children more than their mothers. No one nurtures or forgives or has patience for children like their mothers. Yes. This i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:05 PM |
| 81 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Another thing I have seen is that men my age are very much rejected by the women our age group. They start going after younger and younger women its creeping me the fuck out. I hope the younger generations will also nope them out of the dating pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 22 | Dan Savage, sex & love advice columnist, encourages a woman to stay with her husband who SEXTS his COUSIN. 🤢🤮 You can Google “Dan Savage” & “cousins” to see how much Dan Savage has defended incest over the years. Why hasn’t he been cancelled yet???What is it with grown ass males and their cousins?? Seriously!! I can understand having a crush on your cousin when you're little but to be 40 and pining over your cousin?? While we're on the subject, I maybe called crazy but one of the reasons I walked away for good from my ex-husband is that I'm convinced he's secretly in love with his cousin. From the way he talks about her, takes care of her, and he also confessed to me a while back that she used to share about her first sexual adventures an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Men’s Depravity, Capitalism and What the Future Holds?Phoenix__Rising2018 Ruthless Strategist Moderator of r/FemaleDatingStrategy, speaking officially 8 hours ago · Hiii yes I just did!! Thank you so much <3!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:01 PM |
| 2 | If we don’t give space for the scrotes being what they are, they will be obligate to change!I will say No and reject out of my need for self-preservation. I appreciate the message but I'm done looking for the bEsT wAy tO eDuCAtE mEn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:37 AM |
| 18 | There-is-No-Unmarked-WomenFasold is also intrigued by species that produce individuals not involved in reproduction, like honeybees and leaf-cutter ants. Reproduction is handled by the queen and a relatively few males; the workers are sterile females. "Since they do not reproduce," Fasold says, "there is no reason for them to be one sex or the other, so they default, so to speak, to female." Wow this paragraph is superrrrr interesting and came to me at the right time as I was trying to understand something tangential to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:14 AM |
| 17 | Bodies that have been lived inOur worth as people, as women, as humans, doesn't depend on how physically attractive other people (men) find us. I need to save & remember this. Going extremely off topic here but it reminds me that I don't get men's obsession with sex & their projection of said obsession on everything around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:41 AM |
| 5 | If You’ve Forgiven Your Ex for Being Shit, but Not Yourself for Being “Stupid”. You’re Still Loving Him More Than You Love YourselfYes. I didn’t realize this before 🥴 and kept wondering why I could not forgive and if I was a bad person 😨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 10:39 PM |
| 11 | Guy begs and pleads with me to keep him entertained during his flight 🤣hahahahaha I can't endure the prospect of facing the empty void that is himself I guess. He needs your adoration to reassure him of his worthiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 08:34 PM |
| 30 | This Particular Brand of Male Selfishness Drives Me Up a Walltheir absolute refusal to consider the emotional stakes for women (totally aside from the physical high stakes that come with meeting strangers for dates, casual sex and the risks of STIs/pregnancy, etc.) When you give them this description, it means they're sociopaths sis EDIT: to add that I realize that I'm a bit extreme (and maybe objectively wrong) with my definitions since I'm not a psychologist. I guess I meant to say that they're sociopaths to me , guys who couldn't see and empathize wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 08:25 PM |
| 42 | The problem with men wanting “independent women.”serial farter I thought you meant literally 😂😂I had to google search because I was unfamiliar with the term. But my ex was exactly that both figuratively and literally. And yep, he also wanted "independent women". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:50 PM |
| 11 | If You’ve Forgiven Your Ex for Being Shit, but Not Yourself for Being “Stupid”. You’re Still Loving Him More Than You Love YourselfOMG I'm not even Christian (well my circle is mostly Buddhists) and I've been through all of the stuffs you guys mentioned. I get so annoyed with that. Like even when you're at your rock bottom they STILL manage to make you feel worse and absolve the men of their shitty deeds. My therapist did me a HUGE favor by constantly reminding me that I am perfect where I am. Mentally and Emotionally there's no other better version of myself to be achieved through acts of "forgiveness" (and HOW DARE they a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 05:49 PM |
| 76 | Crazy ex trope-do not fall for it queens.If it was, it would be quite accurate though. He literally didn't do anything. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:58 PM |
| 42 | Men seem unable to differentiate between criticism and hate.Criticism can help change things, granted I know that not all forms of criticism can engender change but to criticize is to still have hope that things will change for the better. Hate doesn't have this connotation. But they can't tell the difference because they're not going to change anyway. They want to hold onto their boyhood and True Self™ and blame us for wanting to change them. They're hopeless and they know this and so they project it onto us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:42 PM |
| 86 | If You’ve Forgiven Your Ex for Being Shit, but Not Yourself for Being “Stupid”. You’re Still Loving Him More Than You Love YourselfBeware too of the forgiveness narrative. I realize that oftentimes the reason why I blamed myself but not the perpetrator for a bad situation is because I was forced into a forgiveness narrative by male relatives, ex boyfriends, ex husband, friends. They always say things like, I need to forgive, I need to be like Mother Theresa, to let go, to forgive is to grow up, to feel peace within myself, that inner peace is important etc. etc. All of those toxic positivity shit. The kindest thing I could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:33 PM |
| 63 | Pickmeisha (probably a scrote🤡) shames women‘s day and calls women insecure hypocrites who „criticize“ menHahahaha this guy's logic is that if you don't like the abuse, stop being the victim. Like any of us chose to be one. Pretty sure it's a 20 y/o comp sci nerd guy who never socializes or even talks to a woman because they all reject him from a distance. What an insufferable loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:12 PM |
| 24 | Don’t let men leech off of you to meet their needs & feed their egoBecause so often, you are just a life force to them that they hope to extract some form of validation from & are unable or unwilling to see you as a whole person to exchange effort, energy, & love with. THIS. is why OLD apps SHOULD PAY for us to be there. Granted we talk to them because we need to vet as part of dating. But since the chance of encountering a decent one is EXTREMELY SLIM, we're doing those apps a service by brushing their loser users ego, or even just saying "hi" to men we normal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:08 PM |
| 9 | Happy Women’s Day To You!Thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:26 AM |
| 10 | I wish I could invoice my abuser.I was thinking the same thing and I think it's worth looking into. Also I would really love to hear from some of us who are lawyers or have professional expertise in this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:16 AM |
| 18 | Why Do Men Expect Their Partners To Treat Them Like Children?Hmmmmm my exhusband was like this. WHY IS IT that as A WIFE I am always expected to be both the CARING MOTHER and the FUN GIRLFRIEND at the same time??? I don't get it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:09 AM |
| 8 | Forms Of Levelling UpI love leveling up for myself and it's weird that people assume I do it for male attention. I constantly research on how to eat healthier and polish how I look. I admire beautiful features in myself and in others, I've always enjoyed watching fashion shows and fashion models since I was 3. I wear light makeup at home and most importantly I want my reflection in the mirror shows (to me) how I feel about myself and how marvelous I am. I want my exterior to match with how I feel about myself inside… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:43 PM |
| 16 | What do you ladies think?Yesss. I know a married couple where the wife gotta be personal assistant to both the in-laws and the husband, especially when his parents were getting sick and needing someone to help and keep track of doctors visits 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 03:23 AM |
| 9 | What do you ladies think?Yepppp Or at least charge for it somehow 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:48 AM |
| 9 | What do you ladies think?Ah no you're fine!!! I just appreciate the new information. TBH the years are always a bit fuzzy to me. I know you meant well!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:41 PM |
| 13 | What do you ladies think?Noted. Thanks for correcting me <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:28 PM |
| 24 | Men will date you while still looking for his wife ..You're not hypocritical or unrealistic. It's those people that expect equal treatment on men and women ARE hypocritical and unrealistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:27 PM |
| 89 | What do you ladies think?Well we ARE traumatized, from putting our resources into raising man-babies in personal relationships. Man-babies that their mothers failed to raise themselves because they were too drained, because 50-70s propaganda pushed women “into the work force” while women had always been IN THE WORKFORCE it s just that domestic labor wasn’t counted as “work” 😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 04:50 PM |
| 210 | What do you ladies think?I agree and I would also add that EVEN for childless women they also depend on us for: our emotional labor, our ability to empathize, care, resolve conflicts, connect resources, our ability to keep the customer service attitude and “make nice” , be it in the context of a relationship or an organization. We have been blindly complying to perform femininity at zero cost to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:07 PM |
| 26 | This is ✨genius✨OMG I hate it when Lyft drivers start random conversation with me that goes beyond a Hello/How-are-you. Once I (stupidly) outwardly resisted said I needed to focus on something, the driver became very aggressive with his driving (sharp turning, speeding up and then sudden stop at red lights etc.) I reported him but God I do not want to live through that again. I wish there's an option for women users to match with just women drivers!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:20 AM |
| 17 | I cannot imagine anything more disgusting than being pulled back for forceful kisses when I already moved away once. let’s get rid of these harmful romanticism, they’re destroying young girls and grooming them for more abuse as they grow into young women.Thanks for the recommendation !🎀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:54 PM |
| 8 | Seriously?I'm sorry but I don't get why it's funny :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:49 PM |
| 72 | Seriously?I saved your comment. I think it's what happened to me for real, but part of me still doesn't believe it. I am often told I'm way out of my ex's league, often told (yes external validation is still important on me--I'm working on it) I'm beautiful, smart, charismatic, well-versed in multiple topics. I raised a company from the ground up, went on TV shows, etc. Yet I was with a guy who would spend his hours watching Netflix until they "run out of shows for him to watch"--his words, not mine. Yes,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:20 PM |
| 100 | I cannot imagine anything more disgusting than being pulled back for forceful kisses when I already moved away once. let’s get rid of these harmful romanticism, they’re destroying young girls and grooming them for more abuse as they grow into young women.OMG this is one of the big reasons why I can’t stand K-dramas. Sometimes the guy legit drags the woman around by her hand or collar and they play romantic piano music in the background 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 07:57 PM |
| 27 | If you’re going to do OLD, I recommend OkCupidMy narc ex uses OKC with this mentality of ordering from a restaurant. “I fill in the questions, they gave me a woman that fits my criteria” Its so wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 03:03 PM |
| 76 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.He said himself that “I dIdN’t kNoW wHAt i wAnteD” when he wanted to have baby. Thats when I started to question ifff thats the case then whats ulterior motive inside his little scrote brain that he did not (want to) see???? 😡 “I dIdN’t kNoW wHAt i wAnteD” And he had the nerve to play the clueless man card 🤬🤬🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:53 PM |
| 223 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.I bet he was subconsciously jealous of her success and independence and that was the start of his obsession with seeing her with a baby 🤬 From what I know about men now, this is not just an attempt at a pity party, some part of it he sounds like legit bragging. How sickening!! He didn’t want a baby, he wanted to see her destruction. Now that it’s affecting him he wants out??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 34 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menHahahaha fREe dInNEr, like I need it!!! My lipstick alone costs more than that crusty pizza slice you re so afraid Imma steal from you 😱 And even if my company can be equated to monetary value, you CANNOT AFFORD it 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:15 PM |
| 7 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menI ll be happy to co invest if you need extra help 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:10 PM |
| 10 | How has FDS affected your live otherwise than dating?Wow so many things but I'll list a few: I can selectively defend my opinions (and some of my women friends) in online groups when some dicks tried to be offensive to my friends, instead of sliding back into mental anguish and helplessness. If they directly attack me I block. I also constantly block out people that weigh down my day and use that time to read & refine my thinking. I wake up feeling validated & supported & not crazy because I know I'm not alone, I'm not the weird, unbearable woman … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 05:49 PM |
| 8 | On Remarrying Trend: As women, we're often seen as "DESPERATE" to get married. STATISTICS however say otherwise!Oof sounds so familiar. My ex didn’t get a prostitute but he went on dating app saying we broke up whenever we had a fight because I was too busy to make him feel nice after the fight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:53 PM |
| 26 | On Remarrying Trend: As women, we're often seen as "DESPERATE" to get married. STATISTICS however say otherwise!This word always applies like magic. What is said of us, is usually what they're like themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 63 | On Remarrying Trend: As women, we're often seen as "DESPERATE" to get married. STATISTICS however say otherwise!For men, it's not a mistake. They whine about how unfair marriage is, but divorce is cheaper than years of hiring a daily cook, maid, therapist, nanny, personal assistant and prostitute. This is so true!! And the worst part is the things we did for them cannot even be put on our resume for a less abusive (aka other normal) jobs. Thanks for the list though. I'll be sure to bill my ex husband with the help of my lawyer for each of these items. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 11:02 PM |
| 21 | On Remarrying Trend: As women, we're often seen as "DESPERATE" to get married. STATISTICS however say otherwise!I wish someone wrote a book to call this out so other young women would not fall into it >.< | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:29 PM |
| 74 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youI love this!! Thanks for the reminder <3 Some part of me was thinking ... "although I do wish to rename it, "Healthier, Less Damaging Kinds of Love Everyone Can Have" instead of "Other"" Just a minor thing though :P EDIT: wording | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:17 PM |
| 78 | On Remarrying Trend: As women, we're often seen as "DESPERATE" to get married. STATISTICS however say otherwise!The more I think about it, the more it feels like the whole thing is a marketing campaign. They always say, "Every woman is always desperate and dreams of [using this product]. Look how beautiful she looks on her wedding day!!" when we were young and open-minded.But unlike a product company that's actually open to customer feedback they turn around and blame it on us. Marriage -- the product gets shittier and shittier until we all use it just once and are forever traumatized by it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 09:25 PM |
| 7 | I'm finally (becoming) one of you !!I am in an eerily similar process as you are. The 12 year acquaintanceship/ relationship. The apartment thing. I slept on the floor of my sister's bedroom and at that point was too shattered to care that I was sleeping on the floor. I started therapy and journalling. I discovered FDS and that I was not A) alone in this and B) not crazy like he said I was Now I have much more clarity (6 months later) I'm deciding on a career change I'm getting lawyer to sue his ass off for the damages (we were ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Is dick worth it?Hello lovely ladies!! Yes please help me expand on it. It was just a sneaking feeling that I had... inspired from reading OPs post at mid night 😅 I hope it opens a door worth exploring to all of us 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:49 PM |
| 66 | Is dick worth it?Heres a crazy idea. Im starting to believe “intimacy” in bonding with males is a magical concept marketed to (injured) women. When we experience “intimacy”, it’s actually us reconnecting reaffirming channelling in our use-to-be-unloved but true selves. Since birth the patriarchy system damages us, separating us from true ourselves , thus creating a demand, then falsely lead us to believe that we should only look for it in our bond with a male, while in fact we can be intimate with and by ourselv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:24 AM |
| 88 | Why do they call FDS female incels?Yep at this point I'm tired of deciphering their scroten logic. My default answers are usually: Because he can OR Because... projection Why did he pee around the toilet? Because he can Why does he watch porn? Because he can Why did he ignore me? Because he can Why did he hit my cat? Because he can Why does he think I want validation? Because projection Why did he say I'm a slut? Because he can and because projection I'm REALLY not saying those are not valid questions to ask... and I really hop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 12:03 AM |
| 3 | If a man abuses you like this it will escalate to physical violence. Leave and don’t let him know your location.Good job for the girl who filmed it. Her lawyer might need it later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:26 PM |
| 1 | I don’t want the men I used to want anymoreI have this happened to me sometimes. Although Im not sure yet what mental tool I used even on a subconscious level to melt away my interest in them . I wish I know so I can whip it out on command 😭 what do you think you did that contribute to that moment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:21 PM |
| 200 | Why do they call FDS female incels?One word : projection 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:46 PM |
| 1 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!I wish women everywhere would wake up and collectively uninstall their apps !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 09:51 PM |
| 9 | My dad scares meI was like you. I used to be embarrassed to have fear toward a housemate living upstairs that never quite seemed to wear pants when he came downstairs. I didn't quite know why. It had nothing to do with me. What he did seemed innocuous. Now I know that it was because I was constantly teased by my own mother and father about being "too sensitive" about my reactions all the time as a kid. So even now when I have a defensive reaction toward something, that conditioning from my parents immediately k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Scrote wants something casual but wants to choke you and exploit your trauma. 🙄 The repulsiveness and audacity is off the charts.I'm low-key worried for the pet (dog or cat I couldn't tell) in the photo >_< | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:53 PM |
| 3 | How it feels to hear that other women have shared experiences with men/no longer having to gaslight yourself about how you were treated:I'm with you on this. We can start with small things. We can help women protect themselves from scrote-exposure. For example, we demand tech companies to give us more protection, dating apps with ratings, ridesharing apps with the option to match to only women drivers (only for women users etc.) Idk I just wanna do something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:07 PM |
| 40 | Period! A man who wants to, willIt's not that simple tho. Even if it starts out like that, I think the key is to CONSTANTLY VET and WALK AS SOON AS HE MISBEHAVES. In my case, my ex did start out liking me more than I liked him and I thought I was "safe" using this logic. After the love-bombing phase, his behavior & attitude gradually shifted and I was still stuck with the impression that he liked me more at the beginning. The confusion kept me stuck in that relationship for longer than I should. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"It may have something to do with "purity". Come to think of it. Men are dirty AF. Like, literally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:15 PM |
| 3 | I keep seeing this topic of “women not having hobbies” come up, and this is a great video on why that’s a problematic question.I love writing contents and sharing on social media and I'm often met with "Your hobbies are vain" "You have nothing to say to the world" grrrrr | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:12 PM |
| 2 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!How to you deal with men at work expecting you to be "friendly" or "welcoming" to them? I work in tech and am dealing with the same problem. Sometimes I got called a bitch or "sensitive" cuz I was stating an opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:59 PM |
| 6 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!I had the same feeling about the culture around wedding. Once day it dawned me that the only reason why I want a wedding was because I wanted to wear the poofy dress and had a party thrown in my honor :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:47 PM |
| 32 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!Someone once mansplained to me an Einstein’s quote that goes, “The definition of insanity is doing the same (stupid) thing over and over and expecting different results” Only when we apply it to dealing with them they start complaining 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:04 PM |
| 14 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!OooOoh I want to try this for the long term too but some part of my brain is still resisting it. Great to hear its worked out for you, that gives me hopes!! And yessss men are energy thieves, I cannot agree more 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:01 PM |
| 31 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!Yessss!!! I can’t believe I didn’t think of this before!! You are so right about the energy part. I found out that I was able to finish so many items on my list this morning 🥴 I used to think of myself as a procrastinator who cant finish tasks but now it seems that it was because I felt drained all the time 😵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:36 PM |
| 27 | Don't waste a single second of your precious time on someone who doesn't respect your boundaries. Dump him. You can do a lot better.I find it beyond triggering and it really scares me, like it’s puts me so much on edge you can’t imagine. Even though it seems such a minor thing you can just laugh off but I just 💥 after the psychological abuse I endured, when somebody says something like this to me I will snap and react as if they just had shoved me or something. I can’t cope with manipulations AT ALL anymore 🥴which is why I’m sure I’ll never date again 😞 I’m 30s btw Heyy I'm in your exact boat!! Went through the same shit sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:15 PM |
| 41 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).He's the kind of person that even if you tell him that, he would be like, "but I didn't need you to put on so much makeup... Just be yourself!" :\ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:05 PM |
| 1 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Eeesh I realize I got some negging comments perhaps from LVM on this post. I'm reaaaally thankful that they got removed before they could get to me!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 08:38 PM |
| 14 | He chose porn over meI'm sooo happy for you!!! I was in a situationship with a porn addict as well and I was in deeper before I could realize . Now I'm still clawing my ways out the dark pit of despair and low self-esteem he has dug for me, with my help of course. Reading posts like yours gives me hopes!!! I hope to someday feel as strong and confident about my value as you do! What you did was just and what you 're feeling now is justified. You're right to be angry!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 08:37 PM |
| 13 | Image being so addicted to porn that you associate winged eyeliner with being a c*msl*t... DisgustingThank you for the kind words <3 I was with him for 10 years so partly it was my fault to put myself in that situation. (TW though) Around the time I was about to leave (but didn't know yet I was going to leave), I was deep in depression and was suicidal and I told him about my plan for my funeral. Then he told me that my funeral would be so high maintenance and expensive. I dunno what happened in my mind but something snapped. I thought .. so far I had been afraid of dying alone.. now I'd rather… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:57 PM |
| 77 | The myth of getting a husband "hooked" when you're young.I think the obsession goes beyond looks and has to do with another fact that younger minds are still impressionable and willing to listen and subjugate to their creepy BS without questioning. They want to not only extract beauty but also totally dominate your mind and soul. They want to look into your eyes and see total submission and reverence for their brokenness. Once you start to have agency i.e. as you gain experience and grow, you have less tolerance for their BS. As we mature, we approach… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:21 PM |
| 82 | Image being so addicted to porn that you associate winged eyeliner with being a c*msl*t... DisgustingMy ex had this behavior too. I had a major plastic surgery because when we argued he said the way my mouth was structured made me look angry. After the surgery he said he didnt see that much of a difference 🙂 Same with when I put on makeup. But when I asked him if he thinks I was pretty he said “anyone can be pretty with makeup” ?? I used to think it was because of his low EQ and he lacked the ability to connect with me (or any other human being) that he couldn’t recognize the physical changes. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:56 AM |
| 41 | Man "pwns" woman who asks what men have to offer by showing her his neckbeard nest and "brown cuddling pillow" LMAOOThe legos scream 5 YEAR OLD for me :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:53 PM |
| 14 | Man "pwns" woman who asks what men have to offer by showing her his neckbeard nest and "brown cuddling pillow" LMAOOIt's lunch hour where I am and I'm no longer feeling hungry :( But I'm glad that I have that kind of physical reaction toward da scrote lifestyle. Thanks for the check-in sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:51 PM |
| 2 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?I feel you, the first 2 years of dressing like a romantic people gave me that comment about me being a housewife-wannabe or that I "am trying to be cute". Your style sounds amazing BTW! I still have no idea how to work with jewelry but I can't wait till I got a chance (enough saving :P) to explore. Thanks so much for your kinds & inspiring words by the way! I love how supportive FDS is! I truly have never experienced this level of inspiration & encouragement my entire life to be honest!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:02 PM |
| 3 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?I definitely understand this, but I gotta rewire my head somehow to immediately think like this every time someone has an attitude toward the way I dress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:58 PM |
| 67 | There are worse things than dying alone.There are worse things than to die alone. This. Was the realization that dawned on me 24 hours before leaving my ex. I was at the bottom of my depression, started to fantasizing about death and planning for my funeral. I told my him broad strokes of what was happening inside my mind. I said I wanted to be buried underneath a sunny meadow because that would be so peaceful. He told me flat out, "Who has the time and money to maintain the meadow? it would be so expensive!" My heart was broken but t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:48 PM |
| 5 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Why would they be angry? That sounds like a very extreme reaction! I think the cultural narrative of "every woman needs a man in their life" was sooo deeply entrenched in everyone's mind that they think we're doing everything to be attractive to men and can't fathom otherwise O_O | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:28 PM |
| 3 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?I understand how you feel. At my size, although I wouldn't want to be smaller, I sometimes wake up still feeling "gross" about my body and I know that at any size I would continue to feel the same. I recently learn that it was because of the internalized hatred that other people had toward my body type as I was growing up. In my culture being curvy or a bit hourglass-y is considered attracting attention and people are grossed out by it. My mind was so malleable then that I learned to internalize… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:25 PM |
| 3 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Wow I am in the exact situation as you. Although Im not in a rural area, my surroundings are mostly “techies” that worship Zuckerberg or cool girls that “love” Star Wars and playing beerpong 😥 and they’re the most feminine hating work environment you ll ever find imo. I used to have people at work telling me to “chill, relax” , “why you dress up so formal/ so much” “you cant sign contracts dressing like a housewife” I didn't realize that, probably it was because I was with my LVM ex for too long… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:19 PM |
| 1 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Thank you! Your username sounds so fragrant by the way! :P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:12 PM |
| 2 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?I didn't take the test. I sorta just self-diagnosed myself. I took pictures of me in the different styles and compare them against each other to see which version of me I'm most comfortable with :P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:11 PM |
| 7 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Wow I am in the exact situation as you. Although Im not in a rural area, my surroundings are mostly “techies” that worship Zuckerberg or cool girls that “love” Star Wars and playing beerpong 😥 and they’re the most feminine hating work environment you ll ever find imo. I used to have people at work telling me to “chill, relax” , “why you dress up so formal/ so much” “you cant sign contracts dressing like a housewife” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?My anxiety with my feminine dresses also started in puberty. Every time someone catcalled me on the streets (I was 12!) my mom would say it was my fault because of that spaghetti strap dress I was wearing and told me to put on some jeans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:53 PM |
| 2 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Thank you for your lovely suggestion! May I ask if it's something like an Instagram account or a book? I tried googling but all that came up was some news articles about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:50 PM |
| 5 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Okayyyy I'll wear the flowers! :P Thanks for the encouragement! It's lovely to hear from you as I'm in a very similar work environment, tech , which is heavily dominated by men who worship Zuckerberg and his all-week one Tshirt style 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:47 PM |
| 3 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?I can totally feel your Dramatic vibe from your response! :P I had the same problem with my LVM ex. TBH I'm still struggling with some of the things he said to me during the relationship. He even had the nerve to say that he's "okay with it". "you're shallow.. but I'm okay with it, it's fine. It's in your nature to want men's attention" >__< I'm happy to hear that it's gotten better for you. I hope to get there some day. Dressing can be a political act and people know, although almost subconscio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:43 PM |
| 6 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?I would have less of a problem if they say it to my face you know. Then I can solidly prove how much of an idiot they're being. In my case the difference in how they treat me was noticeable (but hard to prove) between when I dressed in one style vs when I dressed in the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:34 PM |
| 1 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Wow it's great to have friends who sets good examples. I'm still working on that (years of being a pickme and in loooong situationship with a LVM left me no good women friends) For this reason I'm extra grateful to have found FDS! About my sister, when she told me that I also felt so sad. She never dares to put a silk or flowery dress although, interestingly, that's basically what she makes (my sister is an aspiring fashion designer) She still has some involuntary gag reaction when she sees for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:31 PM |
| 8 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Oh woah thanks so much for the encouragement 🥺 You re so lucky to have classic style, its always in season whereas as a romantic i gotta titrate the feminine part otherwise people can’t take it for longer than 5 minutes let alone the whole season 😂 Classic ladies look like such badasses in my opinion! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:51 AM |
| 4 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Yeaaa they brighten your mood, dont they ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:45 AM |
| 6 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Thank you so much for your respond!! I agree with you and will try that attitude again. I think the problem used to be that I worked with my ex (whom I was married to then) and every time I display that attitude not to him though, but to others, he would punish me for it later; calling me ungenerous, unforgiving towards others 😥 So that part of my ability to have a response and a defense is messed up. Thanks for the encouragement. I ll work on having my resting bitchface back 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:45 AM |
| 34 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.How about, the man loves the woman more than HE LOVES HIMSELF or his ego. 🧐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Be a 50/50 lady, they said. Anna Bey gets it.Idk what to say, except that so was mine. Im still recovering from it. Im sorry it happened to you too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Trigger warning - but I wanted to share a monologue by a HV female JudgeOmg her voice pierces my heart . I cried watching this although I don’t know why | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:43 AM |
| 147 | Be a 50/50 lady, they said. Anna Bey gets it.Omg I remember when this video was made, she got a lot of hate and had to take down from Youtube because people were reporting it 😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:13 AM |
| 5 | FDS thoughts on virginityFor me its another weird concept that perpetuates patriarchy. The connotation of losing something innately “me” by virtue of having sex alone is laughable. I didn’t lose something, I gained the experience. Well unless the guy is terrible then I would lose my time and patience 😂 Nowadays I just call it, “the first time I gained the experience of sex” not that “I lost virginity” . Surely im not saying this to trivialize it. It is still an important mark and in my opinion should be done in an empow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:08 AM |
| 30 | Study finds only way to stop men from urinating on the floor is to give them a ‘living’ target to aim at and kill with their urine.I love your analysis and I agree with every single word!! Additionally, I would love to add a personal experience with this account. Interestingly it was my ex who told me about it. And what was rather disturbing was that not only he didn’t see it like we did, he said it was amazing how simple and efficient the solution was. He was trying to prove his point about every bad behavior had a simple solution to fix the damages 🤔 Apparently the mens lack of hygiene and cruelty were just too normalized… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 09:40 AM |
| 135 | And yet so many of them start out damaged! But oh, they’re not “psychos” or “crazy” everI hate the assumption that "they're ready to settle" means they'll stop being damaging. They'll STILL be damaging, but the new un-damaged victims are just oblivious / too inexperienced to see through their BS. The whole thing just feels sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:07 AM |
| 28 | Why are the hideous guys the most audacious?Because they are often excluded (for being ugly and audacious) from socializing which might have helped with their antagonistic audacity. They don’t let the world in / moderate themselves (appearances thoughts behaviors) the way we were coerced to since birth so their entire being is usually just a bundle of flawed logics... Thats why they don’t make sense in most aspects of life and most of their behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:47 PM |
| 4 | I’m sick of being “trapped” into conversations with menMe too. I hate it when I take an Uber/ Lyft and the driver tries to talk to me past the point of "How are you?'" as I am trapped in the same car with them. Once I refused to talk and this guy suddenly started to drive aggressively, it was scary! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 34 | Why is it “gross” for women to have body hair despite the fact that every adult woman's body naturally grows hair, but when a guy has hair on his body and armpits it's okay?Because they hate themselves and see themselves as gross and they project it onto her. I personally like shaving not out of fear that someone would see me gross but because I just don't want look like men (They're gross to me). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Is it just me or...Even if they spent the effort to do the research, it's just useless. My ex once brought this speech policing thing on me during an argument. Him: "You've got to use "I feel as if..." not the "YOU" statements because they're hurtful. AND IN THE SAME BREATH he proceeded to use the You statement, saying "YOU were too aggressive" and I corrected him using his OWN logic. And you know what he said. "Well I did it, because your aggressiveness was hurtful toward me." I was like ???? ???????? ???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:52 PM |
| 27 | Never feel bad spending a man's money: If he gives you shit, dump him!Yeh... sometimes their money is not even worth it. A bad interaction takes me hours to recover and I'm not even paid for those hours and for all the hours I still feel gross thinking about it :\ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:44 AM |
| 2 | The average male redditor starter packOMG, being humble is a huuuuuuge thing in Vietnam. Anything you do out of line is considered not humble. I spoke English in Vietnam sometimes and I was told that I wasn't humble :\ Actually in my case I've found that if you're pretty just opening your eyes and breathing is considered not humble (I was called "chảnh" a lot but I don't know how to translate into English) My user name is just a fruit tho :P But I checked out Lime they seem cool 😂Do you follow Vpop? If you do I was about to gossip a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:31 AM |
| 144 | What are some of the most difficult realizations you’ve had about men ?That they actually think you're beautiful to them & worth more to them when you have your makeup on. Most nowadays won't admit it because they don't want you to know your worth (in their eyes) and that you're winning at a game they themselves designed. That the whole beautiful thing is just a game they designed and you don't have to play it. That they're jealous, full of anger, depraved of healthy emotions and ABSOLUTELY terrified of emotions in themselves and in others, in theory and in practic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:11 AM |
| 132 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.I think the submissive Asian women trope was come up by Western men as projection of their fragile ego. It soothes them to know that they still have this possible prospect of getting submission from a woman albeit from a farrrr corner of the earth. Also this is from my personal experience of growing up in Vietnam, our mannerism seems submissive to foreigners BUT ONLY because the men in our culture are outright controlling and violent. I grew up hearing stories of women beaten up , burned alive b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 12:34 AM |
| 2 | The average male redditor starter packTBH I'm quite embarrassed about that post I made because I really don't want to come across vain; but I had to write it... it was like an itch in my brain I gotta scratch 😵 Society is so confusing lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:35 PM |
| 2 | The average male redditor starter packOh hi there!! No I don't mind at all and wow i'm honored you read my post history! I read yours weeks ago I think, you're fucking iconic!! I'm also Vietnamese--not a bitch yet as I'm still in training 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:35 PM |
| 95 | The REAL reason men are on dating sites often isn't to find a date.Yep they still do those things that male children do to get attention of girls in their school (pulling their hair, hiding their pencils, saying obscene things) I've learned then the best is to ignore their pesky existence. Once I threw a chair at a guy but I did it mostly for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:24 PM |
| 28 | I feel so badly for this womanMy ex was like this. The funny thing is, in my case, he didn't "con" just me. I think he lied even to himself that being "eQuAL" is what he really wanted. I've seen him doing this in other areas in his life too. He lied to himself about being a vegan, a founder, stock trader, etc. while he wasn't just any good at those. He just never has the self introspection to see where he was failing and not even living up to his own words. But then I realize it doesn't matter if it was intentional or not, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 09:07 AM |
| 16 | Leveling up and relearning how to be by myselfOMG I'm going through the exact same thing! I bought myself a keyboard and started learning to play piano as a way to heal and vent my anger. And also I remember that I'd always love playing piano as a kid (but had to stop because my teacher got creepy). I went to the store, made the purchase, lugged it all the way back to my place and assembled it all by myself (Granted keyboards are actually quite easy to put together but I'm just so proud of myself lol). I'd say do something that lights you u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:52 AM |
| 5 | The average male redditor starter packYour words are so vivid I can't begin to imagine what you've lived through | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:44 AM |
| 8 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?I have a problem with this phrase: "To treat others as I would want to be treated" as I found it to be utterly unfair (and a bit gaslight-y) Let's have a thought experiment, let's say you (with the physique of a woman) punch a guy while FULLY expecting to be punched back. YOUR impact on him would never quite be the same as his impact on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:51 AM |
| 8 | Another way of saying 'I like women that are insecure because as a man " I cannot handle having a women that is beautiful and know it on social media or in life ". What is sad is that many girls have been told this lie that they don't seem to see anything wrong with it . (SWIPE TO SEE COMMENTS )I once argued with a guy (I now know I shouldn't have) that "beauty is power" and there's no need to deny it. And he came back with, "Only_Lime2520, you have at best another 10 years" And he was supposed to be... err courting me then, WHAT THE FUCK? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:36 PM |
| 8 | Example: Saying the Stanford Prison Experiment reflects human nature when not only were the subjects all male, the only woman mentioned in the experiment (the scientists wife) is the one who put a stop to it.I think Imma start using "just masculinity" thing instead :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:23 PM |
| 36 | So-called "petty" deal breakersPeople don’t realize the implications of “petty” things. For example Food represents our relationship to our body; I eat carefully and consciously because of this. My ex on the other hand constantly ate foods that irritated his stomach. Normal people would have stopped to re-evaluate but no, he was stubborn like a five year old. Not only it affected his health, he gassed up our bedroom post dinner and ruined many of my restful nights because of this. Cleanliness represents a person’s relationshi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:27 PM |
| 51 | Example: Saying the Stanford Prison Experiment reflects human nature when not only were the subjects all male, the only woman mentioned in the experiment (the scientists wife) is the one who put a stop to it.Its like you often hear the term “toxic masculinity” but not “toxic femininity” as if masculinity isn’t inherently toxic 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:42 AM |
| 37 | The housework user typeDid you date my ex??? To me that just says that he's super unaware of how he conducts himself. He's super afraid of actually looking at the reality of patriarchy because it would mean looking at his behaviors in a bad light that he says those things to you (and to himself) to appease his fragile ego. It took me awhile to put together how he acts and how he talks. Besides the housework issue, here are few others: 1/ MAKEUP Ex: You don't need makeup to look beautiful. *Me skipped blush & lipstic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 09:27 PM |
| 4 | I was groomed online (TW)I'm almost hitting 30 and I am enlightened & thankful for your post. Post my divorce I also got into a messy online thing with a guy (40+ y.o) out of loneliness. It started out as a game for me because I thought and I was so proud that I was distant from my emotions that I could feel nothing for him. It got really really messy and I'm still trying to get out of it. There are days when I doubt myself a lot (for not being nice to him etc.) and your post hits a something in me. I still got a lot of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:40 AM |
| 17 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManUnrelated note: Sometimes I wish we could change our name into FemaleLifeStrategy I ve applied so many of the rules here into my daily life ; it just doesn’t include dating or looking for a HVM anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:08 PM |
| 28 | Neurodivergents & the Manic Pixie Dream Girl TrapIm 100% with you OP. I work in tech and have an artistic flair, needless to say virtually most of my dates were like, “whAt iNsPiRed U tO sTaRt uR CoMpANY?” NOT because they were interested in ME but because they wanted a free personalized motivational speech to liven up their mundane week. My attitude is usually “are you an investor?” and some of them even said yes lmao. Thats why I cant use the “see if he’s interested in me as a person” in my vetting because its .. tricky how scrotes move and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 03:13 AM |
| 16 | Boundaries are for you to be protectedMay I ask if you felt sad afterward? If you did, how did you deal with it? For me it's as if the moment I stand up for myself and acknowledge their behaviors are harmful to me, I have to also acknowledge the fact that I have no one. It's super hard for let go of connections for this reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 09:34 PM |
| 11 | Saw multiple men repost this on FB - especially the "if I'm giving her (money), she giving me money" took me out... What's your take on that ladies?lol why does he sound so angry? Does he actually think the hypothetical woman he spoke of will be so enlightened by his self righteous logic and male angst that they would jump into a relationship with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:11 PM |
| 8 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.Who is he?? He deleted it obviously could sense a backlash building up in his inbox. Anyone has a screenshot of the article? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:04 PM |
| 2 | The myth of male leadership.I co-founded a startup with a scrote. Mind you he called it “delegation” 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 02:41 PM |
| 20 | !!Time is our friend. Men are not. Although we have always been brainwashed into believing that time is our enemy and men are our friend 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:00 AM |
| 10 | Tik Tok & Other Video Platforms As A Weapon Against Abusive MenI'm an advocate for being vocal (well not just active but LOUD, ANNOYING, OBNOXIOUS, OPINIONATED etc.) on social media. I think it can be used to our advantage, if we unify, speak up, identify deeply entrenched issues that we've been gaslit into believing were our faults for example. I have hopes that it will be this platform to help us fight stronger together. I have encountered numerous posts of women posting about their past relationship that ultimately SAVED the girls in their friend list mu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 07:03 PM |
| 1 | I just got dumped and I’m having anxiety about the futureThank you.. I needed to hear this 🌷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:48 AM |
| 5 | “Why aren’t my OLD matches comforting me over my ex’s death??”Im curious about his (likely) contributions toward his ex’ death 🤔or am I too cynical? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Why do these questions rub me the wrong way?Girl I am the same and I thought I was weird. “What do you do for fun?” =>Spend time alone with myself. Lol. Definitely not your twisted version of fun. Things I do have a purpose an agenda that serves to better my life. When I need a break I will spend my day alone at a spa or on a mountaintop 🤷🏻♀️ They ask that question because they are mentally still a child that constantly looks for ways to distract from real life responsibilities. Its also possible that they are looking for the manic pixie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:07 PM |
| 8 | I waited for a year to have sex with my bfPersonally I set a goal to not have sex unless it reaches X amount of money that he invested in me. Out of curiosity, did he date other people during the time that he was becoming your friend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:12 AM |
| 3 | I finally did it, I leftOMG sis I feel like you are writing my story... to make it worse I am a few steps behind ya. I only just started, saw ALL the redflags but don’t have the mental conviction to break away yet 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 30 | I believe there is some truth to it for sure. Any thoughts ?Yes I do this too, I dont know why. I think partly it is driven by my need to get closure. My version of closure is often that I need to feel ABSOLUTELY HORRIFIED AND SICK OF THEM. Why do I do this to myself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 10:39 PM |
| 29 | PSA: thank you FDA mods who go over and beyond 💛I have this irrational fear that we might get shut down some day. I honestly don't know how I'm going to deal with that..I can't imagine my life without FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 5 | Men who dismiss what you said and counter with their own opinionMost infuriating is when they tell my lesbian friends, "Maybe someone (men) will change your mind *wink*" 🤮🤢Or when I said I've never been with a girl and never will I want to as I'm just not attracted to women and they'd be like, "It can be fun..." :( WHY? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 27 | So fun to see scrotes get frustrated when they realize they cant invade our space. 🤭Yes. Every time I think about it, I want to send them flowers & muffins <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:00 PM |
| 33 | May be FDS or may be that after I saw myself in a picture with my “hot” crush I was more attractive... either way, even hot men are meh now.If he’s married / narc , very likely his “mommy” girlfriend/ wife dresses him up and goes shopping for his wardrobe 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 04:01 AM |
| 8 | When women travelUgghhh Im from South East Asia and every time a guy told me, “I went to Thailand X months ago” I had a chilling sensation down in my heart. I wonder if its because I know what he presumes of me based from where I am from.. or Im just too traumatized by men in general 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 11:28 PM |
| 12 | I’m actually so fucking triggered right now.Sorry for the random question.. May I ask what was the health issue that she was dealing with? BTW I love how you put it 🥺 “forced redemption” My ex did this to me, I had very similar experience with the girl in this post . I got out just recently and am trying to reclaim my life . I just dont quite have the vocabulary yet to express the why and how and the every aspect of it all. Im very thankful for your post and comments for helping me along with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:23 AM |
| 10 | Men Shaming Anger, Gaslighting/ Manipulating Down Your Concerns, then Getting Angry When the Problem Pops Up AgainPeople you know in common, will act like your taking too long to take a stand for yourself is more problematic than his actual disrespect and once again he’s off the hook and you’re sorta taking the fall as a crazy or unstable person, with poor communication or emotional regulation. Instead of “why did he disrespect her like that?? that’s disgusting” the real question to them becomes “well why is she just taking issue with it now?? what’s wrong with her...” THIS. I'm going through a lot of this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:29 PM |
| 8 | Men Shaming Anger, Gaslighting/ Manipulating Down Your Concerns, then Getting Angry When the Problem Pops Up AgainTHANK YOU for giving me this empowering verbal validation --and so clearly put too-- the words that I need to claim my experience and the words which have been long taken away from me, as someone who's suffered from this very experience of being gaslighted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:23 PM |
| 7 | This is what porn does. This poor child is being sexually harassed in her own home because of her step-brother’s pornsickness. I hope that she can get the frick frack outta there and that he gets put into intensive therapy (and subject to constant surveillance by his parents) before he escalatesThe same thing happened in my past, but with my cousin. Nobody believed me, he even came into my shower one afternoon. I never quite recover from it. The shower is a pretty scary place for me. Plus, like her the feeling of "maybe I'm crazy" still haunts me and makes me question my life experience. >.< | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 15 | This hits too close to my pickme teen years.Sometimes I wonder if they subconsciously do it (destroying our self esteem) or they learned it from somewhere? I'd known my ex since high school & I was pretty damn sure that he'd always been this way the entire time of our 8 year relationship? Where could he have picked it up from such a young age?? It puzzles me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 9 | Female/ Male Double-Standard on DisrespectI remember the LVW in my life used to "advise" me, "it's normal for a man to have an ego, but it's disastrous for a woman to have one" And all of them accept and "practice" it like it's some kind of ancient wisdom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:55 PM |
| 7 | How to Know You’re A REAL “High Value Man” 💎I sympathize w ya. To be honest, I did the same -- looking up his old videos but I still don't trust him 100% Perhaps it's because I know he capitalizes on pickmes, GRANTED though that his content was quite aligned with FDS values and intended to help them "wake up". There's something about him... a confidence almost that irks me... like he knows that his words mean more coming from him... I don't know perhaps I'm projecting my own internalized misogyny. In short, I still don't trust him >.< | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 05:23 AM |
| 3 | IS THIS a new breed of pickme? HUSBAND had (afaik) emotional affair at work and she went on mental backflips trying to blame HERSELF 😩Would you like to share what you found interesting about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:35 AM |
| 50 | Security Reminder: DO NOT Respond to "Journalists," "Researchers," or Anyone Else Seeking to "Interview You" About FDSLol are we like a new breed of panda or sth that they feel the need to gather intel on asap?😫 Like how dare we exist beyond the realm of their probing in the name of “science” and “knowledge” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 2 | AccurateVery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:58 PM |
| 13 | My narc ex lived like this 🤢My narc ex showed me a picture of his uncle's living room and said this was all he himself needed too. I should have ran then but I was so young I thought that was a joke and didn't mean anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | The Dictionary of Scrotes"Just relax..." = You should drop everything and just run because before you know it he'll guilt you into lowering your guards / standards / boundaries & at the same time invalidates your feelings as over reactions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:54 PM |
| 13 | IS THIS a new breed of pickme? HUSBAND had (afaik) emotional affair at work and she went on mental backflips trying to blame HERSELF 😩I too believe he did & she fell for his manipulation to the point she invents all these reasonings (that she's a sociopath--which BTW I've never seen any sociopathic men admit and that the person he was cheating on with had more Empathy than her and that's the reason why). She has a PhD in Psychology so I hope she'll see clear through his BS soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:47 PM |
| 14 | IS THIS a new breed of pickme? HUSBAND had (afaik) emotional affair at work and she went on mental backflips trying to blame HERSELF 😩The thing that puzzles me is that I saw other smart women also do this--enduring bad treatment and internalize it as their own deficiency. I used to be proud of my intellectuality until I realize that it was used to weave all these webs of justifications that took me years to untangle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:34 PM |
| 23 | Most men my age are permanently undateable because of porn. Yes, permanently.Thank you for sharing the info. On a different tangent, upon reflection I feel a bit concerned about some of the messed-up things that I was “trained” to do when I was under the age of 10... such as thinking of myself (my body, mind and spirit) as being of service to others, always giving into others’ demand, thinking of myself as nothing . And I wonder if such conditioning has been permanently baked into my brain . I am recovering from my past abuses and to be honest some days are very hard to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 02:14 AM |
| 10 | The Dictionary of Scrotes“So and so are high maintenance” = He is low effort 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 01:38 AM |
| 9 | A HVM know what they want.IMO 8months is too early to label him HVM. My ex was like this with the “Im not like other guys” rhetoric. Proceed with caution. Thats all Im saying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:40 PM |
| 16 | Honestly, this wakeup call really is what I needed to turn me off the idea of spontaneous blowjobs for goodWe women are taught from a young age that compliments are to be earned from being impressive or doing impressive shits, not generously given. When we grow up, its also how we operate. If you - a man - want compliments, you gotta be impressive, not just sitting on your couch and breathing, and honestly, after the shits I was put through , IT IS hard to impress me now 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:02 PM |
| 6 | The Dictionary of ScrotesThis thread should be compiled and published!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:52 PM |
| 17 | The Dictionary of Scrotes“I see you re going through tough time and I want to rescue you” He sees you as an easy target whos also vulnerable and easily manipulatable and who willingly accepts whatever pathetic ounce of affection he dishes out. You cant demand much later when you get better.. because he rEsCuEd you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:49 PM |
| 19 | The Dictionary of Scrotes“I want an equal partner” He refuses to acknowledge the systematic problems and the sufferings women endure at the hands of patriarchy. Its the equivalent of white people saying, “I dont see colors” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:42 PM |
| 21 | The Dictionary of ScrotesOmg this hits hard. 🙊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:38 PM |
| 5 | There is no honeymoon period just healthy vs unhealthyYou sound like my ex for some reason 😳 Perhaps Im still traumatized by this type of response/ comment (he would go on for hours about biological facts whenever I bring up some emotional/ intimacy issues we had) I also think the point of OP is not about the concept but how its being used by scrotes to justify bad treatment toward us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 31 | Love LanguagesMy marriage counselor told me to use his love language (PhYsIcAl ToUcH ) to solve our intimacy pRObLeM & I responded "But he didn't even look at me in the eyes", and she was silent for a good 2 minute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 12 | Broken moral compass = 99% of menMy ex told me that children should be recognized as self autonomous adults. I thought it stemmed from the fact that he was abused / disrespected by others in his childhood. Then I found child pornography on his computer. Go figure... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 07:02 PM |
| 6 | out in the wild...couldn’t be me 🤮🤮Oof. That was exactly how the discussion on every other trigger topic went for me. I always ended up either feeling crazy/ unreasonable for saying no, or conceding to his viewpoint & losing myself to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:07 PM |
| 15 | out in the wild...couldn’t be me 🤮🤮I think besides the obvious, it's also the "hypothetically" that sets me off. It was like he was trying to stealthily sneak in the concept to test the water with me. I feel disgusted just remembering that part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 66 | out in the wild...couldn’t be me 🤮🤮OMG as much as I'm trying to work on my trauma, I'm still triggered by this term "poly" EW My exhusband one day, out of the blue, in the midst of me cleaning up the Covid19 crisis our business was going through, came to me and said. "Just hypothetically ... What if I'm poly but I didn't know it?" Then I found myself getting on google and starting to type, "How do poly relationships...". somehow even before the results showed up, something snapped in my brain. "EW" On that same morning, I started… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:45 AM |
| 27 | Well, since we can’t choose our sexuality, yes ladies we are raising our standards!Is it just me? I think the appeal or prospect of men or anything about them should not have you question your sexuality. It's time to decenter them from the entire field of our being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 3 | I feel like kids have less tolerance for offensive and annoying behavior than adults doWonderful thoughts you had there.. I wish I had this kind of revelatory mindshift when I take the shower 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 08:34 AM |
| 8 | I called myself hot and a man said I was being conceitedWow I didn’t realize its a trope.. I wish we had a wiki for all these tropes ... I would be so excited to contribute and to look for contributions from others as they evolve all the time 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:58 AM |
| 10 | I called myself hot and a man said I was being conceitedI do this too. I call myself hot all the time. Then every time I got compliments “ you re pretty etc.” I usually respond very proudly “I KNOW!!!!” Once this scrote had the nerve to lecture me, “but its so vain to base your value on blah blah blah” and proceeded to tell me that “YOU have at best 10 more years” I was like huh??? then hung up and blocked. Just 15minutes earlier he said I was his soulmate lmao 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:56 AM |
| 23 | On HingeIts amazing how they always talk AT you rather than TO you like another human being. “You re so beautiful” - thats how I talk to a Chanel purse 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 11:13 PM |
| 4 | And who’s gon check me?Damn... I love her response!! I'm very active on social media. I love sharing stories about my days and my job, both the good and the sad moments. Once this guy I told me that I should share the sad moments with just him, not on social media and not with anybody else... because he was umm "worried". And I said I knew how to defend myself if I got attacked for what I shared and he patronized me, "do you actually know? How? Tell me..." It creeped me out , I don't care if he tried to "care" for me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:52 PM |
| 2 | From a thread where a man said that they need explicit instructions for them to do something for their SOs. Imagine being the wife of this man, how sad is this :(My ex told me this in a factual manner, like, it's a norm to be respected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:48 PM |
| 5 | In what ways do you practice assertiveness? (STEM pursuers)TBH I'm sometimes torn about this too! Either way it costs mental processing power... but I realize when I play dumb, it reinforces the system rather than challenges it. Someone's gotta start doing this until it becomes a movement ya know... On an individual level playing dumb is also risky because with no resistance NVMs will persist the behavior, they may also start to test your boundaries on other things and it'll get hella annoying soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:32 PM |
| 5 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄I think they're too insecure. ANY women when put enough focus on herself will become beautiful, but this also means she'll put less focus on the men around her. Certainly that was my case and they felt it. Insecurity aside, they also have this need to police everyone around them. This is so different from how women would react to insecurity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:23 AM |
| 5 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄OMG thank you so much for your support!! <3 I love this sub so much for encouraging and actually celebrating for our strengths and powers. This is the only place I feel like I can talk about this without having to try to sound like I'm not a vain person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:20 AM |
| 5 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄Contrary to popular belief beautiful women attract a lot more LVMs than HVMs because they’re insecure with something to prove to other LVMs and want to neg women into thinking that he is on her level. I know from personal experience. OMG I got these comments too. I'm very active on social media because of my job, which of course hit them so much worse. They always negged me about how shAlLOw my job was. I mean if it's a comment from anyone I wouldn't mind since I'm aware of general societal hypo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 4 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄Omg at first I wasnt sure if they were intentional about it or not. They were always like, you look best without makeup, but keep it nATUrAL 🥴 I thought they were just trying to compliment me 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:35 PM |
| 11 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄I notice whenever I was in relationship with them I always gradually started wearing tshirts (those are not flattering to my shape) and just everything black eventually. When I saw that in the mirror I knew I had to get out 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:33 PM |
| 4 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄I tried to ignore and not sweat it too but they kept bringing it up 🥴 honestly I had noone i could talk to or be on my side in real life about this because its kinda nuanced bullying to me. everyone girls and scrotes alike is like.. OmG yOU’rE so vAIn to bE intO yOUr lOok... IM like, yes leave me alone please stop talking about it and move onto another topic please 🥴🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:31 PM |
| 12 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄The first few years I heard this I thought they were erm actually nice guys for saying that (I bought into the inside beauty crap) , then I thought they just tried to not sound vain but now I realize its pure manipulation 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:25 PM |
| 5 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴You're right. I actually rarely use it and when I do it's always in quotation marks. I forgot this time, my head was a bit cluttered these days... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:07 AM |
| 2 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴Its organized too.. like a fantasy novel 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴Its no effort for them... their brains spin these things while on autopilot 99% of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 09:28 PM |
| 18 | Can a HVM still casually hook up if she’s not currently looking to be in a relationship?From my personal experience and observing my friends, if you re not intentionally looking for a relationship with a HVM (or be content with being single), ANYTHING ELSE (hookups, fun dates, romantic flings etc.) usually ends in one or two ways: A) You develop feelings for them , get your heart broken B) They develop feelings for you, start pestering you about it. A guy my friend was casually hooking up with started to like her. He became psychotic , stalking her and such. Either case the risk is… | /r/askFDS | 18/10/20 07:31 PM |
| 10 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴They don’t dehumanize women? This guy who was considered “sigma” couldn’t stop frothing about his ex, who had been ermmm absolutely evil to him in their divorce... that I had to block right then and there. He also got his friend to talk to me about him. Whats this? A new level of triangulation? How surreal!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 33 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴Tbh I wasnt sure if I should flair this as “Male Depravity” or “Lies Men Tell” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:36 PM |
| 5 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴Needless to say, I also blocked that friend of his. How crazy it is to reach out to someone you never met to fake hype about your own friend. Do they think Im still in high school or something ?🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:17 PM |
| 21 | A man who is into you will make firm plans when it comes to being around you and take initiative. “You can come if you want” is not it.When I was with my ex husband, I remember sometimes he would jokingly say that I'm an example of a "Nice To Have", when he first learned the concept from some economic book. He emphasized that having me around is not absolutely necessary, I can stay, I can leave, he doesn't care. It was the same energy with this post but my judgment was so poor that I stick around despite how damaging it was to my self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 21 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Y’all ever notice that Hinge gets more busy from Wednesday onwards. The amount of guys that matched with me as well as general correspondences increase drastically, compared to Sunday, Monday or Tuesday. My theory is that they try to shortcut it, and only show up from Wednesday since its closer to the weekend. They want to put in the least amount of effort to get laid as soon as possible the moment they start chatting with you, because their game addict brain is hard wired for instant gratificat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:11 AM |
| 24 | Stop looking through FDS everyday, and then jump in our inbox to harass us.I wonder if there's a way we can restrict them from downvoting too (I'm new to reddit so..) I want their dirty paws rendered completely powerless in our place. Like they have no use whatsoever here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:11 AM |
| 6 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!Essh so many inappropriate things... the conversation, the hugging, the general dynamic that bred grounds for that conversation in the first place, his attitude for your relationship as reflected through that dynamic with the co worker... Those are LVMs behaviors. I hope you see that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 04:16 AM |
| 6 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!About the jealous argument , I wouldn't be jealous with them if I met them on the streets. I'm even more beautiful and successful than most of them. Why would I be jealous with them if they weren't directly competing for my partner's attention because of his poor judgments?? To imaginary ex in my head: I react because you violate my standards, not because I'm a jealous type. Stop deflecting it back to me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:13 AM |
| 5 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!Yes dear. I'm sorry I should have credited you in the post first for getting me pay attention to this super common issue that we're all experiencing. I will do it in my next edit <3 I'm glad you were firm on your standards, do not let anyone call you crazy or paranoid! I'm so happy for you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:09 AM |
| 8 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!Mine did this too. When he told them problems in our relationship and cried to them, they must be like, "wow a man that can feel... poor guy" and consoled him. I don't blame them though, they didn't know better that their time could have been used for other things. He walked away feeling "understood" and "being kind to" and then compared me to these women and how "unfeeling" and "cold" I was to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!What's even scarier for me to realize , now that I'm away from his influence , is that the average age of his "female friends" group keeps dropping over the years. Last time I knew of him, he was running a Discord group, some of them I heard were 13 - 14 years old (He was complaining to me about their parents banned them from socializing with his group) I don't want to assume anything but I'm .... relieved now that I am away from that fucked up mess he's cooking 🤢🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!You were not crazy dear, just like I wasn't. I hated it so much when they lied and manipulated us like that. It's scary to realize how often I heard it and was on the verge of believing it, both in previous relationships and current dating situationships. SO now whenever I get the chance to ascertain for girl that she wasn't crazy I will say it 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 12:50 AM |
| 25 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!You deserve your partner’s undivided attention, each and every minute of the relationship. Thats like the most basic thing you can expect. Its not right what he’s doing and you know it... I knew this during the relationship with my ex husband and I was in constant anxiety, not because I was insecure or jealous with the other women. But because my soul knew I was betraying myself by not acting according to what I believed. I know walking away doesn’t feel easy now. I would suggest stick around FD… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 18 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!I thought this too. Also, I read through the comments and something (else)feels a bit off. I can’t put a finger on it 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 01:54 AM |
| 34 | How to Vet STEM MenI worked in Tech and then co-founded a company with an LVM (before knowing he was LVM). I don't think I would ever date anyone in Tech or broadly STEM because of the pure male-egocentricism energy that still permeates these environments. But I would gladly change my opinion if someone really, really good, really impressive shows up. That being said, from observation and personal experience, the bad seeds of these fields tend to: > Have a disregard or tend to put down people from other fields. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 10:33 PM |
| 9 | 'He only bullies you because he fancies you'Also from the perspective of the boys, they bully because the act in itself is enjoyable to them. It's when the little seed of cruelty in their heart start to manifest. If adults are complicit and don't stop them right then and there , that seed will grow into a tendency (or even a full blown twisted desire) for violence against women (and other vulnerable beings) when they're adults. They have no idea when they say "boys will be boys" they're actually complicit in perpetrating crimes against wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Why we insist on dates with meals.Not only first date, but also first OFFER should be a meal. From my own and my friend's experiences, quite a few of them would try to offer coffee / walk dates first. When you reject, they would move onto saying, "Who says that was the only offer?" 🙄 I was like... Sweet. How manipulative. When I was about to hold back my judgment even after the low-balling offer, they just revealed themselves haha. Convenient but so surreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 08:31 PM |
| 43 | On Disclosure: Your Past is None of His BusinessYep. And be careful when they start harping to you (no matter how long into the relationship) about loving you for who you really are. Your good and bad sides. Your "dark" souls. So that you'd be compelled to spill it all out to them, because you naively think someone finally embraces the totality of your being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:35 PM |
| 13 | If they didn't do it for themselves, they're not going to do it for you.Instead, he'd just ask if we could get back to things being nice as if there was some magical reset button in my brain that would let me ignore whatever he'd done and pretend it was all great again. And then he'd get distant or pissed off with me if I didn't immediately bounce back to cheerful and flirty. Thanks for articulating this, my ex had this exact same behavior and I thought it was very unfair to expect that from me. I think in my case he had that expectation and attitude because of the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:21 PM |
| 27 | The 'funny' ways in which men hurt women. 'It's just a joke!'Holy shit. This triggered a repressed memory in my mind. I have always hated being tickled. When I was young even the movement would make my body freeze and I would just stop breathing. My dad did it ro me when I was four and I started crying. So my mom came to me to console me and my dad got so pissed. He threw a full tantrum and I remember feeling so guilty after. Even today I tell people it's a dealbreaker. I have to emphasize it because if I say I don't like being tickled they will still mos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:34 AM |
| 54 | When a man has only female friends - red flag?My (stb) ex-husband was like this. He had mostly female friends which I felt a bit icky about early on, but chose to ignore my intuition. Later on I found out: -He would tell them everything every time something went wrong in our relationship. I assume some of them played the therapists with him. - He said that they taught them things which I thought was .. okay until now after reading FDS I just found that predatorial of him. Why couldn't he learn it from others or from books? -The pickmes of t… | /r/askFDS | 13/10/20 05:52 AM |
| 7 | What posts do you enjoy seeing on FDS and what would you like to see more of?AS someone who's slowly but surely coming out of her pickme ways, I would love to hear more about gender dynamics (in practice as well as philosophy behind everything) as to understand clearly what harmful habits I need to unlearn right now... and the belief structure that's enforcing these habits. I guess more materials that could help us deprogram would be great. I would also love to hear more on how to deal with LVMs in my daily life, not just dating because let's face it they're everywhere a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:35 AM |
| 13 | I think I hit the goldmine here. “Imagine how a man feels thinking that you are scared he will rape you.”My very-soon-to-be-ex once commented on a conversation about rape that "There's NOTHING worse than being falsely accused for rape" NOTHING. 🤦♀️ I was a coward to have let that one slide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:26 AM |
| 2 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\Woow what you said is sooo interesting and eye opening to me 🧐 SO knowing someone for X amount of time can work against us (especially us, females because we let our guards down ...and maybe even buried in the ground lol). I Know I sound like I was born yesterday as I'm still unlearning a lot of things taught to me specifically by the males in my life. Every time someone hurts me my mind immediately goes, "Oh was he intentional? Oh he was depressed... he didn't mean it... i knew him when he was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:44 AM |
| 1 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\I feel good about your idea of not translating him for now, thanks for suggesting it 🌷 I think I'm comprehending about 60 - 70% of the materials suggested by FDS, but surely it has opened my eyes. As I am unlearning a lot of the shit done on me, I will go back and reread to make sure I get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:33 AM |
| 5 | Gaslighting women is society’s standard practiceAnd it doesn't take an extreme event (like sexual assault, rape, physical violence) to see this practice of gaslighting playing out. On a daily basis, every time I told them I was miserable in a relationship my own family were always putting the blame on me. "You're too ambitious" "You're too difficult" "You should study less so that you could find someone" "You're too high up there" "You shouldn't be famous, no husband wants that level of attention on their wife" OR when my male employees disre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:27 AM |
| 2 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\Hi, thanks for stopping by my post.. it is rather curiously odd isn't it? I agree with you, it is very likely to be negging, I thought of this too. What is hard for me to reconcile is that I knew him since high school and I wouldn't have thought of him as capable of that. Perhaps I was naive and maybe I still am... I guess my next question is... do males do that consciously, fully intentionally or they're just naturally selfish like that ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\Hi thanks so much for directing me. I'm sorry in advance if this is the wrong place to ask... It seems that I am not allowed to post AskFDS. As soon as I posted, there was a notification saying that my post was removed by the Moderators there as well. I did look around for rules and protocols to post there, but I couldn't find out why. Would you mind letting me know what I could do to get the post up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:09 AM |
| 1 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\Thanks so much for your input dear. I meant, "soon to be ex", I'm sorry it wasn't clear. I left him approximately 2 weeks ago and now am filing for divorce. I'm working my way through the book and it makes sense of a lot of my experiences (I thought I was going crazy). Despite my research through the book and beyond, this particular behavior is still puzzling to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:03 AM |
| 1 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\I left the house 2 weeks ago and am now filing for divorce. It feels like waking up from a nightmare as I'm reflecting on the things he did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:00 AM |
| 1 | About my STBE-husband's tendency to "debate" with me... Lovely Ladies of FDS, please help me explain this phenomenon :\🙈I agree with your reaction. Back when I was living with him, I knew something was wrong when I had to do that. I'm not proud of it. Recently I've been documenting his behaviors mostly for my own reflection and I feel that understanding this odd one might help me gain a fuller picture of what he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:52 AM |
| 39 | Was just forced to deal with a LVM for all of 5 minutes and it was 5 minutes too manyI told him very upfront and he started being all sleazy. I even asked if he had anything else still open to buying something different and he just started saying how great of a deal I was passing up. He did not offer me a different option, just kept trying to sell this gross car. He was so angry with me. My dad kept apologizing to Unfortunately 95% of the time they don't & we have to deal with this on a daily basis not only in our dating but also in our professional / business life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:45 AM |
| 1 | What would you do if a NVM took you to a grocery store and gave you $50 on your first date? I’d take the money and go straight home.OMG this reminds me of this guy I was talking to on social media. About 3 or 4 conversations in he emailed me a... $50 Amazon gift card. I was like WTF ? I blocked him later on because of other things, but I still don't know how to interpret that behavior?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:36 AM |
| 8 | Professions of undying love.Omg I sooooo relate to this. Every man that I talked to for more than 15 minutes be like, “I have never felt this way about anyone before...” Before discovering FDS I was like yea well you haven’t met me yet. I said that because I knew I always put effort into interactions even if its only 15 minutes 🙄Now after discovering FDS I just think they are so entitled and annoying that the females in their life generally dont bother or actively avoid them and for good reasons 💁🏻♀️ I also relate in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 10:54 PM |
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