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thank goodness they're exes and out of our lives. sorry that you experienced such a menace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 02:53 AM
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this is chilling and spot on, i actually clicked on the link and the example of "doesn't like kiwi one day but does the other" made my jaw drop. my ex would want to be together one moment then after a week or so wouldn't want to be together. i always thought "is he filling in gaps and that's why he keeps changing how he feels?" and based on this study, he was. and he never remembered what I did for him, but can remember something from the year 1220 (which I'm sure he was born that year, given he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:49 PM
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there's this one guy that's always posting about this wife on ig. and of course the children...follows like 6,000 people and half are women who look nothing like his wife....nothing and he likes those pictures too... with no care in the world. and oh he's aged a million years from the last time i saw him so something else is probably going on....cheating and being scared of being discovered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 03:53 PM
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She told him to not be too available and instead of regulating his emotions and figuring out the best course of action to better attract women he decided to turn into a demon. a tale as old as time. "the "nice guy" turning into patrick bateman"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 08:03 PM
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she wrote a whole thing (it was deleted) justifying her stance, that's why i wrote what i wrote, but thanks queen, i'll be kinder in response next time. I meant no harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:20 PM
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I'm not surprised honestly, accountability isn't a strong suit these days. I agree we have to call each other out, i've said some stupid stuff, i've been in bad situations too. we have to be able to not allow access to men who've harmed us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:16 AM
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I wasn't being harsh. she called him low value for years, I don't think someone who knew they were causing harm and then all of a sudden does something nice for one birthday should have access. you don't have to hate your ex, you just have to move and lose touch. nothing everything is nuanced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:27 AM
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You still have pickme vibes + behavior, but best of luck to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:04 AM
78

no offense but why does he have your new address to be able to send these gifts? he seems to still have access to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:33 PM
223

do you all notice how he described his ex-girlfriend and his wife. If by his definition his ex wasn't a good person why is he still in love with her nearly his deathbed but not in love with his wife who he deems to be a beautiful person? See that ladies, do not be nice to these men even if you're nice and loving to them they still secretly hate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:40 PM
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when she said "i don't know how to have needs and not scare people off" that shit hit me like a ton of bricks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:01 AM
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they want us to be miserable and not grow ourselves to be the best versions of ourselves so we don't have to date their ugly asses. if we don't evolve we'll continue to chase or accept their bs and that's their main objective. this subreddit doesn't make women hate men...men did a pretty good job all by themselves. there are like a billion stories on how women are left by their partners for getting sick, for losing a job, for cutting their hair short (yes this has happened to folks), etc. it's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:22 PM
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my friend's ex just turned 40. ​ he's on clubhouse with thousands of followers and adding young girls on social media every day. he told her he was serious about marriage and kids but somehow ended up never marrying at 40 and now is hitting on women half his age and on an app day in and out, when he acted all busy and occupied when he was with her. ​ dating these men should come with compensation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:27 PM
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and one on the way so this loser wants someone to raise his kids. i bet you he looks old as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:22 PM
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i had this misfortune of having seen her page via instagram explorer and i was so sad for her. the self-esteem is truly in the gutter..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:13 PM
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how many of us have dated men who we felt crazy around and the moment we left them we felt better. her behavior had a lot to do with who she was dating. these men will literally turn you into another person or use your weaknesses against you. it's on purpose and the intent is harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:12 AM
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there are men in the world who show a personality to the world but in private are abusive. i dated one of those. ​ people loved him, thought of him to be this amazing guy, but he was so cold and cruel to me. when i saw that footage i had to turn it off because it brought me to a place i have long put behind but i recognized those tears and that anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:16 AM
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lol!!! ​ lvdemons always sleep well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:16 PM
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very true. but also some men don't have regrets they think they're right. my ex the last time i checked his social media platforms was joining all these groups that screamed "I am a victim"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:16 PM
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"my boyfriend said he sees no future with me, does it mean i'm his past soulmate, please advise."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:47 PM
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men are simple creatures...you're right - he means this and it's not a joke. the struggle relationship olympics makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:13 PM
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he is. but their beliefs beyond being red pills is that they give out a lot of bullshit information. aba seems like a maga sometimes especially when it comes to the vaccine and basically telling people not to get it because of race relations...when he is an Ethiopian Canadian who doesn't share a history with African-Americans. He's in Canada for fuck sakes...all around loser who uses emotions instead of logic...it's not our fault your can't get laid, have the personality of a wet paper towel and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:40 PM
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all of these men are losers. ​ aba is clearly going through things and seems to be red pill. he hates women and it's obvious. the truth is what these men preach is very scary and their followers are incels who will and probably harmed women. i wish they'd all be banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:07 PM
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he is fake as hell and just wanted to make her feel bad. i don't watch the show but from that clip seems wildly unhinged. she dodged an abuser and their relationship would have aged her 15 years. ew. good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:44 PM
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this is the thing tho...even if you lower your standards, make the first move, all this stuff you'll still feel a sense of defeat (if you have any emotions) and will be miserable and unhappy. having a man who you actually want and he's good to you is better than just settling. it's so demoralizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:40 PM
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it's like we all have the same story. they're so sick and they make you question your own sanity and you start thinking you're the abuser. my ex sent me a checklist of toxic behavior and coercive abuse and i was crying and shaking and was telling myself i abused him. i am sure he still is liking that on social media...i mentioned this on here but he also started following things on social media about how to learn how to not let your gf take control of you and how to lead in relationships. i was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:05 AM
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thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:59 AM
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thank you, i found it (hugs)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:56 AM
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thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:17 AM
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can you please provide me where in that book it says this? would love to read that book and that section. thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:13 AM
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screaming of laughter. do we have the same ex. when i used to check his socials he'd like shit like that... he liked shit about dating toxic women and how can someone he loved him so much could hurt him. they are truly insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:12 AM
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also do you see how much we are being downvoted by these loser men on reddit? for talking about our experience? another day waking up and still being a heterosexual woman sucks lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:03 PM
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even i who was once the biggest pickme would rather drink paint a whole house with nail polish than do this... ​ i wish people knew their value. he's about to hate her and she's able to be miserable for a very long time. here the b...no...the abuse...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:56 PM
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yes! a day where we never think of these losers! hopeful that day will come. you seem very very close to it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:03 PM
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he still believes somehow someway that he still owns you. they never change to better themselves they either try to come back into your life to cause more chaos or to go act like the victim. ​ my ex who controlled our whole relationship and was truly a person who was not flexible and cruel...he would break up with me constantly, was turned off by commitment, never did anything romantic....the last last time i saw what he was following on social media and watching was videos on how to be more ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:30 PM
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completely agree. i know for a fact he was lying to his therapist and was using going to therapy as accountability -- to show that he was "different" the fact is that these men go to therapy not to change, not be better, but to find ways to manipulate and harm the women in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:51 PM
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he was such an interesting character. he literally blamed his ways not to commit on his childhood or his previous partners. no accountability whatsoever. now that i think about it -- he was a very scary character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:11 PM
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i don't think people should put too much weight on if a man goes to therapy or not. my ex went to therapy and he used that shit all the time "i have to talk to my therapist before i text you...i want to know her opinion on this matter" and somehow his therapist would always side with him. some therapists are continuing to feed these lvms ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:09 PM
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hahahhaha... ​ i once had an ex tell me he didn't believe in titles because his stepdad forced him to call him "dad"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:23 PM
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I love her! What a woman! he is soooo envious it’s hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:25 PM
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wow...i'd be on an episode of first 48....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:23 PM
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i once dated this guy i almost basically died for (long story) in order to help him during the winter season (no one else was around) and when the commitment conversation came to surface he was acting like i was twisting his arm...yet during that time i was loyal, wonderful, blah blah...he wanted commitment on his terms but because I was still a main clownette in the circus of delusion.. i stayed...and stayed...and stayed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:21 PM
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i once had a close male friend (so i thought) and he gets frustrated with me because he didn't like something i said...i showed him an article about marriage and he said i triggered him (apparently yearsssssssssssssssssssss before he was supposed to get married but decided not to). he says i triggered him and I apologized and said we can talk about it if you want...he then start sending me crude messages saying i purposely made him mad and then sent me a picture of his dick and told me to block …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:11 PM
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just thinking the same thing. i am sure he's at least 40. she's living in a nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:06 PM
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i've only dated successful accomplished men a few came from money and they were all trash....i have the years of mental abuse to show for it....keep vetting and let go without a ounce of remorse when you see a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:23 PM
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Damn this reads a lot like my story with my ex. This shook me to my core. All these men are like the same...scary. My ex wanted me to accept him and what he gave me...when I’d disagree we would fight. I hate the worst anxiety and got sick and sick and sick. Take it easy on yourself and I hope you’re getting healthy emotionally and psychologically and kicking the C’s ass!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:47 PM
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such a beautiful story. when the time is right i will share this with a colleague of mine right now who is battling cancer and her bf left her at the hospital and never talked to her again.... i will remind her there are good men out there and she will be fine! feel better and good luck with your recovery!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:47 PM
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queens, Two nights ago, i was watching tv and saw my colleague's ex on tv talking about empathy and providing people with services for mental health. ..that guy left my colleague as she was diagnosed with cancer. literally as she was in the hospital. i was so sickened...i am afraid to ask if she saw him but i do not want to trigger her...imagine your stupid ass ex who left you during the lowest point of your life on tv talking about FUCKING EMPATHY. ​ The fact that he's well and she's suffering …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:02 AM
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yes they're very good at hiding their darkness. men scare me. even one you think is great, kind and loving can switch up at any moment. when a close colleague of mine got diagnosed with cancer the guy she was with left her and he said he needed to heal himself and couldn't be there for her. HEAL FROM WHAT? and by all accounts this man is educated and seems normal. ​ MEN WILL ALWAYS PUT THEMSELVES FIRST. ALWAYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:09 AM
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I'm so sorry. men are truly sick. ​ I remember once having sex with a guy who needed to jerk off his dick to get it all the way hard and then said my vagina was too tight and he needed some wiggle room. i went on thinking something was wrong with me because i was tense and unable to have sex with him but then realized he was a sick fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:24 PM
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passive aggressive men are the worst. they come off as nice, gentle beings but underneath it all is a man with such low-worth and morale that he will do everything to destroy your joy. stonewalling should be a crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:51 PM
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it's a Sunday another day we find out how completely cold men are. he does not love or respect her which is why he has no empathy for her. we are just vessels to these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:43 PM
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I am so sorry this happened to you. i know the feeling. ​ a couple of months ago, i got very sick, landed in the hospital and nearly died. i had emergency surgery. at the time i was talking to my ex, we were in the middle of reconciling and when I got sick he was very much "there" but then without a moment's notice he started being very cold and cruel and was yelling at me while I was in the HOSPITAL. telling me he was thinking about commitment and doesn't want to be with me. HE DID THIS WHILE I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:08 PM
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This ring also eliminated any LV and NV from your life completely. how on earth can you expect less in your life when you gave yourself THIS? QUEEN SHIT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:19 PM
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men pick and choose every aspect of their lives like a menu. he wants to have sex before marriage and not get married legally but raise kids to be very religious and obedient. he also kept going on and on about homosexuality without me even once mentioning it (I wonder if he was self-obsessing). He put on such an act and that's why we must always vet. It was a complete 180. I was petty and told him I wasn't even physically attracted to him and was giving him a chance and that he had poor diction…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:18 PM
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omg yes! this man literally thought I was this quiet, feminine woman who wouldn't bat an eye to his caveman beliefs. he assumed that based solely on my appearance. when he found out I wasn't who he thought I was, he was COMPLETELY turned off. he couldn't believe I'd refute his points and disagree with him. the low self-esteem JUMPED out. he was supposedly religious to the point of exhaustion, but wanted to have children out of wedlock, and got mad that I wouldn't show him my body over video beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:41 PM
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YUP! he was trying to do whatever he could to try to lower my self-esteem because I had different view from him. he was so fixated by me because of who he thought I was and how I looked but when I appeared to be human he retreated. it's funny how men are nice to you when they think you're someone they want to be with but once you don't check their non-existent box they become cold and cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:10 PM
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Preach. also these "masculine men" are actually deeply suffering from low self-esteem. What kind of normal human being wants their partner to be their servant and to have no autonomy? This guy I was engaging most recently was CONTROLLING beyond belief. to the point he said he wanted to teach his children what career path to take and wouldn't give them the option. This fucker didn't know the difference between "you're and your" in a sentence. WHO GON' TEACH THE BABIES? ​ YOUR ILLIERATE (spelling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:37 PM
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I recently let go of guy who said "we'd work out if you tell me YES to everything I ask of you, but it seems like you won't" he made himself out to be an HV only to be an NV. that's my fault for giving an ugly guy attention. ​ men want us to give them children, suck their dicks on command, be their therapist, love them like their mamas only for us to get nothing in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:27 PM
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I did this today and I am not proud of myself. I didn't see it as pick-me behavior because he wasn't even attractive (sadly gave him a chance because he was NiCe).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:29 AM
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A BOSS BITCH IF THERE EVER WAS ONE! ​ ​ YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS QUEEN YES!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:08 AM
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I once dated a guy who was 39 who said he was not into labels because his step-dad forced him to call him 'dad' I was young and felt bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:44 PM
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preach. also many men now use therapy to learn how to abuse and manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:46 PM
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this man is incredibly passive aggressive. my friend had bad luck with men and recently met a great one. he sends her money to get her nails done just because he says "I want you to invest on yourself" JUST IMAGINE IF YOU HAD NO FAMILY AND NO MONEY TO RELY ON? He would be okay with you being homeless. There was no safety in this relationship and that's a very important part of any relationship; romantic or otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:12 PM
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muahahahaha sounds like Oliver Twist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:21 PM
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man this isn't my story but a friend of mine was a child of war and while she is super strong she always needs to feel secure and safe in relationships with men. she told her ex "hey, i am a child of war, if i feel like there is no commitment, I cannot date you." this man used that against her and when he left her he basically said it was because she was a child of war...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:53 PM
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ladies please please listen to this with every fiber of your being. the scars and pain after leaving someone you gave too many chances to is so excruciating. always put yourself first and don't feel guilty for blocking and deleting. nothing is worth more than your peace of mind. this isn't a game and it's your life. don't mess it up because you want LoVe sO BaDly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:51 AM
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fantastic. and let me tell you something he will always remember you because you stood up for yourself. good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:49 PM
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the damage is literally unbelievable. i feel like i am not myself anymore from the relationship. we should sue these fuckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:29 PM
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why did this make me tear up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:41 PM
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leave. i stayed with that horrible feeling on uncertainly for a long time and I paid the price dearly. you owe yourself to be with someone who makes you feel secure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:33 PM
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sorry that you were in this abusive relationship. but the future is much brighter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:00 AM
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thank you, he left he relationship saying I was the bad guy lol. i've learned since not to tell a man about your past. if here's one thing they'll do is use it against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:37 PM
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my ex that never fully committed to me, i used to tell him how it felt unsafe to me and gave him detailed childhood experiences as to why i need security and i kid you not he then made it WORSE for me to feel like he was not all in this was so beautifully stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:57 PM
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you guys have me cracking up hahahahha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:36 PM
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i am still dealing with healing from the abuse. the last time we spoke he screamed at my while i was in the hospital.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:06 AM
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I swear I read the same line and thought about it ALL night. confusion is absolutely abuse and men who are passive aggressive do this often and then turn it around you and make you feel CRAZY. i would ask to do something with my ex he'd say "sure, sounds good...let's discuss later" and when I'd ask again days or weeks later he'd say "no", I'd get visibly upset and then he'll say "why are you so enraged?" they are always ambiguous. and they do this on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:43 PM
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she really did. me on the other hand, i got played for 3 years lol with the whole "let's wait and see, let's build a future together...i don't like labels". but we all live and learn. you too will find someone who doesn't seemed shocked that we want to be married and not lifetime girlfrinds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:53 PM
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let me tell you guys something my friend recently met a guy and he's been courting her. she told him she wants to be engaged by the end of the year and he is actively still continuing to pursue her and is asking questions about he needs to do. if they wanted, they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:48 PM
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all of this! do not forget they will test you to see what you'll do if they don't call you. do not contact them or ask how they're doing. you're the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:35 PM
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this issue hits home. my dear friend recently got diagnosed with cancer and the man she was dating (it wasn't the healthiest relationship) completely abandoned her and on his way out of her life called her every name under the sun. he has since not spoken or engaged her in any way. not even contacted me her friend to ask if she's ALIVE. but the funny thing is a guy she dated back in the day came back to her life and he's been taking care of her...so yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:34 PM
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that's what they love to do. you ask for something BASIC. response: why are you so demanding and controlling? this reminds me of when I was bullied by chad in my mother's wound and i am triggered. stop asking for so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:38 PM
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absolutely. no talking. block & delete and pretend you never met the idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:43 PM
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it's super weird. I am on the shorter side and tall guys are so into me. i think it's all about sex and fancy. so they can pick us up and throw us every which way...these weirdos are all porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:26 AM
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yes, they are actually that manipulative. my ex who knows I had life-threatening surgery is on social media following young women on social media whose profile pictures are them basically with their breasts hanging out. these women are YOUNG and he's successful and well to do. you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:48 PM
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don't believe this shit about this story regarding his therapist. but sometimes therapists enable their patients. my crazy narc ex said his therapist was surprised he still kept in touch with me. the same mofo i basically gave my all to. believe none of what you hear and half of what you see with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:31 PM
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beautiful! let me go ahead and get myself a dang ring! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:14 PM
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exactly and because they assume when that are in their early 20s are not interested in commitment and because they're not they think they're easier to control and to use their bodies as masturbatory vessels. it's nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:51 PM
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and to kick it off they think they're a CATCH...and will make your life miserable to boot because they think they're rare...MOFO you're just a man with a JOB. ​ you're 40, yes you have a career and a good paying job. BUT you're 40, & never been in a serious relationship. THEY'RE INSANE and my friend's ex is literally drooling at women HALF his age on social media. following half naked women. and she's stunning, successful and a sweetheart. The level of disgust is palpable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:50 PM
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the lawyer in me is questioning this whole thing...but whatevas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:45 PM
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some men are truly disgusting. my friend who happens to be African American showed me this profile where they a bunch of African American men (including her LOW VALUE EX) are on talking about how they are faithful, wonderful and are the prize. This is the same man who is 40 (way older than us) and has never been married or been in a long enough serious relationship and follows women half his age on social media. she spent the entire relationship writing him dissertations on how to be nice to her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:10 PM
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i suggest you leave him and I am saying this because of something i read on another forum. I know we can't link other forums but this woman married her husband who still had feelings for his ex, she had so much evidence, she still stayed...her husband and ex didn't see each other for years because the ex moved away...somehow they run into each other at a party. her husband nearly cries near his exes presence and is showed she's back in town...fast forward he goes behind his wife (she went throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:56 PM
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i started using tooth powder recently and it has been a GAME CHANGER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:06 PM
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that man's hips are bigger than mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:44 AM
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true. my friend is currently dating a guy who just got out of a nearly decade old relationship about 3 months ago. she said he's already "committed to her" she doesn't comprehend there's a pandemic outside and he's using her to heal and get on demand sex without the hassle. Jesus be some self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:33 AM
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i do not want to and i am not going to be cruel about it but this is something she's been doing for years and years. we have talked to her, told her to go to therapy for some issues which draws her to men who are useless in every sense of the word (and i am not perfect but I'd never date a broke bum), her inability to be alone, etc. nothing ever changes. she literally dates the same men over and over again. once we were on vacation and she met this guy and randomly almost hooked up with him (he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:38 AM
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i also feel used. she uses her friends for her emotional needs but once a man is in the picture we are no longer of value. i will take your advice. i am going to not call her as much & not pick up her phone calls (not that she's calling anyway given she's literally in some loser's armpits).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:37 PM
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i am just tired of her! ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:35 PM
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I am thinking of ending a friendship. A close friend of mine who I adore is a pickme but the worst kind, she's desperate beyond belief and it's shameful. any man who shows her interest she dates. she doesn't care what he does for a living or his aspirations. she also sleeps with them after meeting them for at least 2 days in a row. they all turn out horrible but beyond this whenever she meets a man she doesn't talk to anyone. they become her world. but the moment the man shows his whole behind a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:57 AM
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he was not golfing...point blank period. i remember back in the day i was getting ready and I realized my date had not picked me up and he never showed up called me the next day telling me he fell asleep. years later (yes I still kept him as a friend---eww) he told me he was out that night. these men are liars and cannot be trusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:44 AM
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screaming. i would notice stuff like this and vanish. I don't play with spirits and shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:36 AM
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nutty mofos. my ex called me his girlfriend before I did and when I mentioned he started sweating. i am like "crack, is it crack?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:34 AM
3

wow so you defunded him and now he's about to be defunded by society? sorry had to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:34 AM
34

so adorable. I am thinking of getting a pet too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:59 AM
5

you did the right thing and did not waste any precious time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:57 AM
12

what Jessica Simpson said about him in her book made my skin crawl. he's a demon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:15 PM
16

people find it cute and make jokes about it in hollywood. what's funny about a guy dating women younger than 25 when he's on his way to 50? something is off about him and someday we will all know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:14 PM
8

Yes, Tina also used to ask every man after Ike if he was a Scorpio. she was so done with that sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:13 PM
12

now he's dating a woman who is half his age who is in an open-marriage. Jennifer would have aged like a raisin has she continued to stay with that loser. who by all accounts is said to be abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:12 PM
47

OMG Yes how can I forget her?! Also she no longer goes by Bezos! Ms. Scott, if ya nasty! HA! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:18 AM
15

this doesn't seem genuine to me. when people announce things like this, they're looking for applause. boy go ahead and give them flowers and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:10 AM
3

I am screaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:12 PM
10

yeah, I am starting to outgrow a friend of mine because she's not growing and leveling up. she dates the same kind of men over and over again (my other friends are also annoyed) she vanishes into thin air when she meets a man, and when he shows her he isn't shit we get calls at 2am in the morning for weeks on end. we have the right to let go of people who no longer serve us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:50 AM
8

go girl! show us when you get it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:48 AM
5

You sound amazing! Wishing you all the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:46 AM
9

my mom is very HVW.pShe has always made my dad feel like he's the boss, but he never has been. Sometimes I do not know how I turned out to be a pickme (now reformed) but still. My dad loves my mom more than she loves him and they've been married for what seems like a million years. But my dad also is HVM, so it was probably easy for my mom. Nonetheless, I have learned that some men will never know what love is and will leave at the drop of a hat. They can literally wake up (when the nigth before…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:43 AM
2

he seems unhinged. BULLET DODGED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:02 PM
21

FACTS ON FACTS ON FACTS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:02 AM
7

this post is totally triggering but an ex of mine did a lot of horrible stuff but nothing compared to when my half-brother died tragically. The ex and I had a fight the night before and woke up to the news. I was screaming, fell to the floor. I thought i was going to die. i sent him a message to come over and needed him and told him my brother had die, and he said "we broke up last night, go talk to your friends. I cannot be there for you anymore" i reached out to friends who drove and picked me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:17 AM
5

I needed this today and you should be proud of yourself for not responding or engaging and focusing on yourself. i almost broke no contact and I am so happy I did not. trauma bonding is surely the devil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:20 PM
2

yikes. now that I think about it this guy did use "your" instead of "you're" in a sentence. I do not date dumb men. cemotionally unavailable yes, dumb no. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:14 PM
2

exactly. delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:13 PM
1

he's not even that attractive. and it did seem like a put down but I updated what happened this morning. These boys are stupid and foul as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:13 PM
1

An update queens: he sent me a text (I don't have his number, don't know how he got mine: totally invasive) and I was strong enough not to respond but then for reason I am fed up with men and wasn't having a good morning, so I responded and said "why did you ask if I as married?" and this little boy goes "well if you were married I am sure your HUSBAND wouldn't like you talking to other men" WTF. Nah, that's not why you asked. A liar to boot. he also asked to call and check-in and I said "I am b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:08 PM
17

thank you so much. this forum has taught me so much that i wish it was created years ago. but it's never too late. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:20 AM
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I responded and asked what he meant then told him that I am logging off for the foreseeable future (on the social platform he contacted me) and signed off. I am not interested in him. he's not someone I want to spend my life with and I have to start making smart decisions for my life moving forward. I spent 3 years in a toxic relationship and I have to look out for my self and not do anything out of desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:17 AM
65

and he actually thinks I'll be like "OMG, like he remembered me, yes let me give him a shot" nah, man. in those 6 years he didn't think once to hit me up to see if I was ALIVE, but now that the world is upside down, I should somehow open my legs and arms. he isn't as cute as he thinks he is...that's FOR SURE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:49 AM
9

ETA: Typo: ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:26 AM
1

I too cannot find this, please provide a link. thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:43 AM
6

thank you for this. i needed this badly today. overwhelmed with everything going on in my life that I ALMOST reached out to my ex (who is not someone I can emotionally rely on). this post serves as I reminder that I am going through the motions and that I do NOT need him back in my life. this isn't love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:42 AM
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if you need anyone to talk to, please reach out to me. i am here for you. please take good care of yourself especially these trying times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:46 PM
10

i am so sorry, I pray that you're doing okay. and thank you for being so kind to share it means a lot to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:40 PM
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this was devastating and I am still shaken. A girlfriend of mine has colon cancer and this just added to the pain we've all been dealing with now I am more scared than hopeful. if anyone has any resources or knows of any support groups on reddit, please send them my way. i had a breakdown an hr ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:46 PM
15

This isn't really about pick-me, it was about status. They used each other and somehow it didn't work out in her favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:49 PM
1

Thank YOU, queen. These covert narcs are everywhere it's truly sick. But this is just a lesson we unfortunately had to learn, never AGAIN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:32 PM
2

thank you! I needed all of this and I am now going to be joining what you've suggest. TIRED of being a victim to what happened and just want to find peace and happiness within myself without needing validation from outside sources. it's hard but I am determined to grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:53 AM
1

thank you, this was appreciated . taking it all in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:52 AM
3

thank you so ! good luck to you as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:51 AM
13

yawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:51 PM
3

amazing!!!!!! take no shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:06 PM
7

yes! good stuff! bread crumbing destroys the soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:48 PM
10

hahahahahhahaha. I am with you, let me know when and where.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:54 PM
16

girl! fucking monsters is an understatement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:53 PM
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ex is incredibly successful and since we've broken up he's been following "young women" on his socials and adding a ton of women. it made me realize (he doesn't care that all his professional colleagues can see what he's liking. he followed a girl who said "she gives good head" on her bio she was young and this man IS NOT! makes you wonder who the fuck these men really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:51 PM
10

and there are people out there who think sexuality is a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:13 PM
1

it sure is, that's why i've been able to sleep like a baby these days. lol i've realized he's a phony and a narc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:05 AM
5

Ha! I remember almost tripping on a paper in his living room once and when I looked down it was a detailed (I mean detailed) bullet points on what my ex wanted to achieve that year and I was floored. Yet had no vision or plan for our relationship "let's go with the flow" "let things just develop". You're so right we are just extras in their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:04 AM
1

thx for this, great advice. I appreciate you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:15 AM
2

perfect. just sent you a dm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:17 PM
3

you are a gem! thank you, I wish the same as well. but we are truly better off! I am grateful we did not waste more time, the funny thing is my gut never felt right about him and i could never fully trust him. he was also liking pictures of his ex, following her, and then unfollowing her, once he liked 5 pictures of hers. yet he said that she was "phony" and never liked him for him. everything about this man is a red flag, but I stayed longer than I should have, but we will live and learn. this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:59 PM
6

the worst, not even sure if I even believe in karma. these losers are always enjoying their life and ruining lives. sorry that you experienced this as well. the relationship was good in the beginning, but i realized it was only good because I basically did everything he wanted until I was like "wait a minute, I am not getting my needs met" and once I started talking about what I wanted, he'd sort of appease me, but never fully give me commitment, his time, affection or quality time. he wanted to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:38 PM
3

i've been doing a lot of improvements and finally starting to heal though it's been hard. my only thing is i am having a hard time with him saying "I do not want to be with you" and make it seem like I wanted him. when i didn't. this man is the one who couldn't leave me alone, yet now he's acting like "got rid of my crazy ex" i wish i never took him back and gave him so many chances, he used my kindness against me. but the best revenge is living a good life and I agree with you. he expects me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:18 PM
4

Thx, needed to hear this. what I realize how is that I was an accessory to his life, he was so into me when I wasn't talking about commitment and basically "tagging along" at his events and making everything about him but as soon as I wanted and had needs it was "you're so demanding, you're controlling, you're putting too much pressure on me" whenever i'd ask to go somewhere he'd passively aggressively say "I'll see" then say he cannot do it. unless it was his idea, or something he wanted to do,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:29 PM
4

thx! at one point I thought I was losing my mind! i totally want to get revenge on his ass, but then i'd be wasting more time. trying to level up now and do better. i am just so pissed that he thinks he's so perfect and that he's at no fault. i have so many stories, about this loser and writing about it makes me think "girl, were you on crack, how did you accept this for so long?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:18 PM
3

such a creep. he's been liking posts and pictures of women from months ago. if i told you how old he is, your mouth would drop. sounds like he's a teenager right? HA!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:49 PM
9

Absoutely. i realize i was too forgiving and allowed him to assert himself back into my life. so ashamed of myself, but learning to give less now. but I hate him to the core. he was so fake too "you are my ideal partner, I care so much about you" but as soon as commitment wolud be discussed or feelings he'd start shaking like a leaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:48 PM
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i am reading it now and he left the relationship thinking he was the "good one" and that I messed up the relationship. To add insult to injury, he's been adding young women on his socials, basically all he's been doing is adding women. i feel so angry that he wasted my time, but I am angrier at myself for being so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:33 PM
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oh and I forgot to add whenever I'd ask for commitment he'd say "I was pressuring him" and that I was too demanding he wanted to let things develop naturally and after we were dating for 4 months, i talked to him about exclusivity and he was like "sure" then started acting very odd and months later said I forced him into a relationship. This is a grown ASS man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:11 PM
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