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| 3 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryMy dad is a workaholic & a HVM. If he’s not working, he’s volunteering (most likely through his church), if he’s not volunteering then he’s caring for my disabled mom. He’s the type that is always has to be doing something. He doesn’t watch tv / movies except for when he’s multitasking. Even on vacation, he still answers work emails. It’s just his personality type— if he doesn’t have work to work on, he makes more for himself by finding a task that is productive in society. Even though he’s a wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:10 AM |
| 4 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryMy dad is a workaholic & a HVM— set a great example for me in what to look for in a partner. My mom was a SAHM. She unexpectedly became disabled when all of us kids were in elementary school. Instead of placing her in a nursing home like the insurance companies and even doctors said to do— he fought the insurance companies & spent their entire life’s savings on an in patient therapy program (and even borrowed money from both sets of my grandparents). The program enabled her to have enough skills… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 05:57 AM |
| 18 | Men Have Lower Empathy Than Women--Science Saturday!Higher testosterone = less empathy within the same individual so it only makes sense that men on average would be less empathetic than women. It’s well documented that men’s testosterone drops throughout pregnancy of their partner and early infancy of their child— it’s thought to be a evolutionary tactic to make men more capable and caring partners during a difficult time period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:24 AM |
| 110 | 'When a man in our culture days no, it's the end of the discussion. When a woman in our culture says no, it's the beginning of a negotiation.' Just bought the gift of fear and was giving praises just 3 pages in.I learned how to say no in church growing up. My churches girls retreat in middle school was pretty helpful for this. They basically said that while it’s unfortunate, our society often places the onus on women to place boundaries when it comes to intimacy & that we should practice boundaries with small things like holding hands and kissing with our future boyfriends— and that we should immediately leave any boy who pressures us in anyway with those small boundaries because that means he doesn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 04:06 AM |
| 49 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsMy degree is in economics. I wouldn’t blame capitalism. Any economic system requires a higher ratio of younger people in order to support the older population. Older populations are a drain on societal resources so the economic growth that comes with a larger younger population helps support them. Negative population growth is a bad thing for economies regardless of how they are structured. If anything capitalism is on our side, Marxism/communism historically has been very oppressive to women (m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:40 PM |
| 12 | Petition against Minnesota’s overturning a rape conviction because the victim had alcohol. Essentially that makes it legal to rape a woman if she becomes intoxicated voluntarily. Please sign to let them know this law needs to be changed.Technically speaking, victim intoxication (drugs or alcohol) could impact what degree of murder /manslaughter someone is charged with or the sentencing depending on the circumstances. But you don’t need a specific law about it because it’s kind of common sense— e.g. if the victims intoxication/high led to them doing something like running out into the road, the driver of the vehicle might get off completely or get a lesser sentence for killing the person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.I grew up in a very religious family & a good church community can do a lot for helping this. Mainstream culture is such a strong force that a tight knit community of people with strong moral moors helps prevent a young person from being sucked in. My dad is definitely an amazing example of a HVM so set the bar high. So many churches can have toxic communities (especially for women). Hard part is finding a good church community— perhaps it’s even as rare as a HVM but at least a church community … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:54 AM |
| 15 | Scene From HBO's Chernobyl MiniseriesActually it’s not so much because they are male and hire other males— it’s how men search for jobs. I took a course in college on the economics of discrimination. Men reach out to their network when job searching & are more likely to apply to roles they aren’t fully qualified for according to the job listing. Women use job search platforms & are significantly less likely to reach out to their network. If you search for a job like a man, you won’t be that impacted by it. It’s significantly helped… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 01:04 AM |
| 19 | Guess I'm Strange AF ThenDepends on the situation. My husband is going to get one when we’re done having kids so I don’t have to go back on birth control. I trust him— plus I want more kids than he does in the first place lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:35 AM |
| 7 | Spread the word lurkers. We know what's upAfter I got engaged— I had way fewer men approach me for a “friendly” conversation. This is definitely a thing. I always worked my boyfriend (now my husband) into the conversation with something like “oh my bf says the same thing” to give them a hint. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:11 PM |
| 5 | A full stomach is a happy stomach 🤭Personally, I’d rather watch kids than cook any day. I despise cooking. I’d have to live off of unbuttered toast, fruit, ramen & microwave dishes if my husband didn’t do pretty much all the cooking. I have an old family recipe for fried chicken— that is like a 3-4 hour event to make it. It’s not kid cuisine. I’ll make it once a year for my husbands birthday. It’s a lot of freaking work to make it properly. On the bright side, even most restaurants can’t hold a candle to my fried chicken & gravy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 12:35 PM |
| 8 | In MemoriamTerrible precedent for them to set. However, it’s not 100% the same. There is a technicality there— Obama was a lame duck president, while Trump is up for re-election. I think it makes sense to start the proceedings for her replacement (research into their background, senate interviews, etc) & if Trump loses the election, the senate then tables his candidate. No way they’d get someone fully confirmed by Nov 4th anyways— that process takes months and the election is only a month and a half away. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:27 AM |
| 4 | What are the criteria for HVM and LVM? And do those same standards apply for HVW and LVW?HV people attract HV people. If you want a HV partner, you need to become HV & have standards for vetting that person regardless of your gender or sexual orientation. | /r/askFDS | 01/09/20 11:16 PM |
| 10 | Can a objectively unattractive guy be ever considered high-value?Most women I know are attracted to men who are as tall or slightly taller than them. Being tall won’t matter all that much to most women unless they’re also tall. I’m 5’10 & before meeting my husband, I mostly dated guys between 5’9-6’2 so they were all rather close to my height. My husband is 6’ & while he is technically tall, I’m taller than him when I wear heels and it doesn’t bother me at all. | /r/askFDS | 30/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 10 | Can a objectively unattractive guy be ever considered high-value?I looked like a young teenager until about 24. I’m 26 & still get asked all the time what I’m majoring in. I’m female. You won’t look like a teenager forever! | /r/askFDS | 30/08/20 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Women are not romantic in generalI guess it depends on your definition of romance. Most women I know, myself included, will make a meal that requires significantly more effort to cook than a normal meal that our SO enjoys in order to be romantic. Or we’ll make a desert such as cookies or pie). Or we’ll mix his favorite drink or grab his favorite beer to hand deliver to him ( for example, I’ll make my husband a tequila sunrise to be romantic). Pre-covid, I’d put silly notes in his lunch box (though admittedly I don’t know any ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 05:16 AM |
| 2 | Q4All: How true is the idea that women give “bad” advice to their male Friends/family members?I’m happily married to a wonderful man so I guess pretty good. He’s also by trp standards a “Chad” - over 6’, strong, attractive jaw line, gorgeous eyes, natural leader, good career (former military then graduated college). Women (and gay men) have hit on him in front of me; which is always amusing because I know he’d never cheat on me. Guess he ultimately wanted to marry a good Christian girl 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Q4All: How true is the idea that women give “bad” advice to their male Friends/family members?If a man ever asks me for advice, I ask him what his goals are. If he’s looking for marriage, then I’ll give him advice. If he’s looking for a hookup or something casual— I’ll tell him I’m not equipped to give him that advice & to ask another man who seems successful in this area. My advice has always been, confidence will make you more attractive than you actually are. If you meet someone you find attractive, confidently ask her out on a date quickly because otherwise she might categorize you a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/20 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Update: Looking for guidanceGlad to hear <3 Praying for you! | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/20 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?I didn’t even care about them being 6’+. If I’d been 5’4, height never would’ve been an issue. I was more attracted to men who were at least a few inches taller than me, so I ended up with a preference for 6+ given I’m 5’10. It had to do with how I’d end up looking up into their eyes— which just made me feel more protected and safe. If I’m at eye level it’s a gamble but if I’m looking down, I just don’t feel that same sense of protective energy from a man at all. To me, I’d rather have an averag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/20 08:13 PM |
| 9 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission over small things for his benefit?Could you ask if he’d be alright with you putting vegetables in some foods and just not telling him which ones? That way you aren’t lying by omission, he’s fully aware that he doesn’t know the ingredients. My husband gets really stressed by finances but it’s soothing to me to build spreadsheets and budget models. So, I manage our finances. He doesn’t know how much extra I put towards the mortgage principal each month or how much is going into retirement each month. He trusts me to handle that. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/20 04:45 PM |
| 4 | Is FDS good dating game theory advice for women? How does it compare to r/RedPillWomen?The “how to high value” flair is used more for successes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/20 07:51 AM |
| 8 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?I’m happy and my husband is happy— why should it matter what my selection criteria was? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/20 02:47 AM |
| 5 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?I’m sure a Reddit comment captures everything I value about him /s There is nothing wrong with having characteristics you find attractive & having preference. I don’t believe in divorce (unless there is infidelity or abuse). Even if we ever did divorce, I couldn’t marry or date again until he dies so just glad I picked a good one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/20 02:29 AM |
| 5 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?I did go on a few dates with men shorter than me but i just could never see myself with them long term so it never went anywhere. I really didn’t want to waste anyone’s time or money on pointless dates so I realized it’s better to stick with a general rule of them being taller than me, but I would have potentially made an exception if a man had other great qualities so it was more of a strong preference. Being taller made me feel unfeminine and self conscious so it wasn’t their fault. Maybe it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/20 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?I got married young due to growing up in a religious community. Every guy I’ve ever dated met my dad. If they mentioned he was intimidating, that was such turn off. After being told my dad was intimidating the first few times, I just started asking guys what they thought of my dad. Didn’t realize back then I was testing them but realize it now. 🤷🏻♀️ Edit: a word | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?Not sure why they would be tbh, but many guys were intimidated by him. For context, I grew up in a religious community so all dating was for marriage. My parents are also wealthy & I lived with my parents back when I was dating so that could probably have played a part? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/20 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?Idk about NBA or professional sports— but they’ll probably be pretty athletic. I have a number of family members who played college sports. My dad was working out with 300lbs until a few years ago when he tore his rotator cuff (not while working out) and doctor made him quit lifting. A test I use to use to vet a man for marriage was how intimidating they found my dad; my husband passed with flying colors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/20 10:05 PM |
| 5 | Is there a difference between having a height preference and having a weight preference?Happily married woman. Nothing wrong with preferences for dating as long as you’re not rude about it. I had a height and weight preference when I was dating. Being 5’10, I wouldn’t date guys shorter than me & had a preference for a guy to be at least 6’. I wasn’t likely to date an obese man because I myself have a BMI fluctuating between 17-20; someone overweight just wouldn’t work with my lifestyle. I also had a slight preference for blue eyes. My husband met my physical dating preferences & I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/20 09:03 PM |
| 24 | This disturbing Tiktok has more than 33 million views. An app meant for children. Kids are going to grow up thinking this is okay...I went and looked at her tiktok page. It’s not real. Injuries are from her falling off a cliff in an accident & she made this as a joke. Still not okay to joke about but the injuries are not actually from bdsm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/20 01:12 AM |
| 2 | I FINALLY get to be a Housewife!Thank you for this! I could be fine with him bringing in nothing (we’re in excellent shape financially—no debt other than our house, which we’ll have paid off in 10 years if he stays home but in 7 if he continues working), but I don’t think he would be once push comes to shove. I suspect he’ll feel like he failed if he doesn’t manage to make at least a small profit. He seems to think that he’ll be able to get to the point where he can pay himself a small salary off of his games. I see it as a ho… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/20 10:45 PM |
| 2 | What are your proposed solutions to make dating fair?I’ve never used dating apps (since they’re essentially what men who are interested in maximizing their hookup count gravitate to) so my experience may be different. Have you tried dating for a LTR / marriage? Are you going to social events? If you’re religious, do you regularly go to church as well as attend events at churches of the same denomination in your city? Like you can’t be anti-social and expect someone to just fall into your lap— but it’s easier for men who want a LTR to find one than… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 09:33 PM |
| 2 | What are your proposed solutions to make dating fair?Women have it easy if they want casual hookups; but it’s incredibly hard to find a committed relationship. It’s the opposite for men— it’s easy to find a committed relationship if the want it, but hard to obtain casual hookups. (Based on averages so not absolute) Problem is the thing that each gender typically wants is the thing that’s hard for them to obtain. Dating = searching for a LTR and future spouse. Hooking up with random people or FWB is not dating. Hookup world is easy mode for women, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 09:12 PM |
| 4 | What are your proposed solutions to make dating fair?Give a time limit (e.g. 6 months) before an account expires & auto deactivates if that gender has a waitlist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 09:04 PM |
| 1 | What are your proposed solutions to make dating fair?Dating = looking for a LTR & future spouse. Hooking up is not dating. To make it fair, people who are just interested in hooking up need to not pursue / message / lead on/ make false promises / etc to those who are actually interested in dating. Would not be opposed to real people whose career is matchmaking (where they vet all candidates for relationship / marriage potential as well as willingness to commit & match them with people who’d be complimentary). Super wealthy, Orthodox Jewish and Ind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Why are some women always offended when someone doesn't support sex work?It’s never made sense to me why people react so horribly to my opinion on that. Your comment was like a light bulb that put it into perspective why they do that— women seeking out such a solution are such a vulnerable group & if I was the type of person who attacked them or called them names for pursuing that course of action, I’d be contributing to their emotional trauma when they’re already going through a traumatic experience. So while they’re in the wrong to assume I’d be like that, it makes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:40 PM |
| 3 | someone pls pick herTeens of tiktok? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:09 PM |
| 7 | someone pls pick herA lot of tiktoks are people using another sound (from someone else’s video typically) — so I think she is lip syncing to the words & it’s not her original sound. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:06 PM |
| 0 | Why are some women always offended when someone doesn't support sex work?“Many people think that just because you don't support certain things, that you will behave unacceptably towards those who do them. Couldn't be further from the truth.” Woah this makes so much sense. I have a rather unpopular opinion & when I’ve asked that we not talk about the subject, people have found out I hold that opinion & are horrendously rude to me. It’s not even all the crazy of an opinion— but for some reason, it ticks people off like nothing else, especially because I’m a woman with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:50 PM |
| 16 | “He called me Mom during sex” The biggest pickmeisha/cockholm syndrome sub is FULL of that kind of stuff.I saw that thread. When I looked at it, most of the women were telling her to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:22 PM |
| 7 | Seeking advice: being more affectionateMultiple times before he finally got caught. One of the tenants of RPW is VET strongly. He’s got a ton of red flags. I’m happily married to a wonderful man — who I vetted very well. My advice: until you’re married, treat dating like you’re interviewing a man for the most important important position in your life (because you are). A LTR is just an internship for that position so you don’t need to give him the job offer (aka marry him / stay with him). If he doesn’t meet your standards, you need … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 01:55 PM |
| 1 | We all know the infamous OKC "study" where women rated 80% of men below average and that everyone drew different conclusions from these results. My question is: what do you think would´ve happened if these women rated OTHER WOMEN or THEMSELVES? would it have created an accurate, bell curve result?Honestly, I think it also has to do with how well men tend to take photos. Simply put, a lot of men are not photogenic & have never put in the work to learn to be. They don’t hold themselves in the right manner in a photo to be above average attractiveness even if they might be that irl. Women would be judging in regards to how they perceive men IRL rather than just how they perceive photos of men, thereby skewing the results. Women tend to know how to hold their head and which expression to use… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/20 07:10 AM |
| 9 | If women cared about male n-counts then how come they still sleep with/date men with high n-counts?Happily married woman here. Back when I was dating, one of my deal breakers was if a man had ever slept with a woman outside the bounds of a committed relationship (cheating / ONS / FWB / etc). Reason being, he’d be more likely to cheat on me & less likely to be willing to fully commit. There are definitely women who care & refuse to date men with high n-counts as I was one. My goal from a very young age was marriage — a lower n-count leads to better success in a marriage so I never slept around… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/20 06:35 AM |
| 10 | this makes me so sadI agree that he could be autistic. Sounds for sure like he has SPD (sensory processing disorder) which is often present in those with autism or ADHD. I have ADHD & slight SPD— finding a piece of clothing that isn’t distracting and uncomfortable is about as rare as a lightning strike. If I find something that is a comfortable fit, comfortable material, and holds up in a wash— I buy 2-3 in each color. As a kid & teen I used to throw tantrums / get very upset about my sister borrowing my clothes be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:55 AM |
| 2 | How widespread is the notion of shaming women and girls for their femininity?I think you hit the nail on the head. I grew up in a moderate family in a conservative area. I still live fairly close to my parents. I’ve never felt shamed for my femininity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 02:39 AM |
| 2 | I FINALLY get to be a Housewife!Sort of— he wants to develop video games. He already works on it nightly & is very dedicated. Problem is 95% of indie video game developers don’t make a profit & 80% don’t even break even. It’s just not a good career to ever support a family. His ego would be fine. He hasn’t had any issues with me out-earning him so far. He sees a career as a means to an end (supporting his family) rather than a source of pride. He’s exceptionally smart so has advanced very far in his career in HR. He already ta… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/07/20 10:28 PM |
| 3 | I FINALLY get to be a Housewife!He’d like to be a SAHD so he can turn a few of his hobbies that don’t have good job market prospects into a career ( once up and running “successfully” he’d be making at most 1/4 of what he makes now). I also don’t know if it’s possible for him to pursue his hobbies while taking care of the kids — we don’t have any yet but from what I’ve heard they’re a full time responsibility in and of themselves. I was told that it would ruin our marriage for him to do that so I’m nervous about. When he menti… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/07/20 08:57 PM |
| 21 | She should chose neither tbhI wish more women knew this... I’m happily married & my parents taught me to treat dating like you’re interviewing a man for the most important position in your life. Very thankful for their guidance (which is surprisingly similar to the FDS strategy). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Communicating standards: no commitment no sexPosted it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:04 AM |
| 9 | LVM Bingo Time!Happily married woman here! FDS was founded after was already married but it’s very similar to the strategy I used while dating. I was taught by my parents to treat dating like interviewing a man for the most important position in your life. I’m surprised by how “controversial” FDS is to men on reddit— when it’s basically the same dating advice my own father gave me a decade ago. Most of them are in the handbook but red flags I looked for while dating: —not willing to pay for the date or wants t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:04 AM |
| 2 | The red pill.Thank you! This makes a lot of sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/20 04:52 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?My husband does most of the cooking since I work significantly more hours (I work 70-80 hours a week & he works 40). Some weekdays, I’ll work right up to dinner time then head right back to my home office to work more— so making dinner is just hard to squeeze in. I’d like to get into meal prepping so I can do more cooking for him as my Sunday evenings are generally free. Any tips / resources on meal prepping? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/20 04:43 AM |
| 17 | Communicating standards: no commitment no sexGlad to help! I was taught by my parents to treat dating like interviewing a man for the most important position in your life. I’m surprised by how “controversial” FDS is to men on reddit— when it’s basically the same dating advice my own father gave me a decade ago. Most of them are in the handbook but red flags I looked for while dating: —not willing to pay for the date or wants to split the bill. (reason: potentially unable to provide or sees dates as a transaction of “date for sex” but has b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:25 AM |
| 6 | Communicating standards: no commitment no sexI’m happily married but followed a similar strategy to FDS back when I was dating. I told my husband on our first date that I wasn’t going to be open to physical intimacy beyond holding hands / hugging at the end of a date until commitment. I told him that I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted to wait all the way until marriage for sex, but I was leaning that way & id let him know if that changed. We didn’t have our first kiss until he asked to be exclusive. It took about 2 weeks after our first date— so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Why do some men seem to put out no effort in themselves in pursuit of a relationship?I’m from the south too. That’s weird to me that people literally taught their sons not to cook and clean.... my great grandparents taught all 7 of their kids (including their sons) to do this — they were raising their kids was back in the 30s, 40s, and early 50s. My great Uncle actually did all of the cooking in his household (his wife worked as a nurse) for 40 years. Funny story about my great grandfather, he was expelled from high school in the 1910’s for “fighting”— he threw a dictionary at a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - July 25, 2020I feel so bad for my mom 😂 Now that I’m in my 20s I’m close with her again though. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/07/20 11:32 PM |
| 10 | Couldn’t have said it ANY better.Interestingly enough, it was my now Husband who told me my period pains were NOT normal & said I needed to go to the doctor. He was very concerned & made me promise to go— even though I was convinced it was normal. It’s literally the only time he’s ever referenced his exes in comparison to me and he only did that because I was so convinced my pain level was normal. Gynecologist suspected endometriosis and recommended an IUD— which has helped immensely. I haven’t had a period in 5 years; it’s bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 08:59 PM |
| 4 | Beware of#himpathy: when a man only cares about women's issues as it relates to women in his life (wife, mother, daughter,etc.) Ex: His daughter is part "him" and therefore suddenly she counts in a way no other woman did before/ learned empathy when having a daughter/etc.Wait what?! Grew up very religious & abuse /infidelity were basically the only socially acceptable divorces. The church I grew up in literally had a program for helping women escape abusive husbands. Church preached forgiveness for those who wronged you, but to also keep yourself out of dangerous situations. Why would someone advocate for someone to go back?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 06:35 AM |
| 10 | 😌I actually know a man whose been falsely accused. He’s never brought this up when people are talking about rape, unless someone brings up false accusations— and only to say they are incredibly rare and that he’s experienced it but actually being raped is worse. For context: the woman has serious mental health issues that lead her to make up false stories to get attention (which is incredibly rare as most mental health issues don’t have a component of making up fake stories— I think its actually … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:31 PM |
| 4 | Tools for women to communicate with menThere are 3 reasons I talk to my husband about my problems: 1) I need to vent. I don’t need actual practical advice or help solving the problem. 2) I need advice 3) I need his help He’s pretty good at picking up on which reason, but if he can’t tell he often asks me if I just need to vent, want advice or if he can help somehow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Birth control and femininityThank you! I hope you find a solution that works for you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Birth control and femininityI had a decent experience getting it put in. It felt more like a really painful pinch that lasted a few seconds. I was actually expecting it to be way worse than it was. I’ve heard the pain level is influenced by the experience of the doctor inserting it & my gynecologist at the time had inserted over 1000 IUD’s at that point. Thank you! My career has ended up much more lucrative than my husbands (not a very red pilled scenario, but he’s very comfortable in his masculinity (he’s former military)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 02:23 AM |
| 2 | Birth control and femininityVery true— getting one removed is a huge inconvenience. Husband and I were originally going to start TTC in April but my ob/gyn stopped taking non emergency / non pregnancy related appts (due to covid) & I don’t trust my GP to remove it because she doesn’t have a lot of experience doing it. We finally got an appointment set in August for the removal though! Probably a good thing our TTC date got pushed back— just found out my manager’s wife is pregnant. My manager and I are the only ones with in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 01:41 AM |
| 3 | Birth control and femininityI’ve had a good experience with the hormonal IUD— used to have extremely painful periods doctor suspected possible endometriosis and advised it. I haven’t had a period in 5 years which is nice for me. Took about a year for them to stop after getting it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 01:19 AM |
| 7 | I FINALLY get to be a Housewife!Congrats! We’re happily married & about to start trying to have a baby. I’d be interested in advice as well. I make more than my husband and we could theoretically live off of just my income (he’s very secure in his masculinity and supportive of me so me outearning him hasn’t caused any issues). Would it be too weird for him to be a SAHD when we have kids? I’m in such a high earning career (I’m in tech) that it just doesn’t make sense for me to stay home. My income has a significantly steeper gr… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/07/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - June 27, 2020We want to start trying for a baby very soon. I make more money than my husband & my career path has greater earning potential (he’s very supportive of me so that hasn’t caused us any issues as he’s very secure in his masculinity). We could theoretically live off of just my income & I also have the option of working from home in my current role (it’s common in my career even pre-covid as I’m in tech). Would it be weird for him to be a SAHD? We do have a traditional relationship component where h… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/07/20 10:34 PM |
| 2 | How do you filter out bad guys?I didn’t wait until marriage with my husband— we ended up having sex before we got married. I knew I wanted to marry him & he had indicated he wanted to eventually marry me. We were in a committed relationship and talked in depth about our future before taking that step though. One thing that I worried about was getting pregnant— so we agreed that if I got pregnant we’d immediately get married even if it didn’t fit our desired timeline for marriage (I wanted to graduate college first). He even i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | "What even is Red Pill Women lolol?? pLaTe sChOoL???1?"Oddly enough — I’m my party’s cleric (my husband is typically our DM but when he plays, he’s a fighter) 🧐 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | "What even is Red Pill Women lolol?? pLaTe sChOoL???1?"Lol I play league with my husband sometimes & support is my favorite 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Is it a good idea to propose before grad school but wait to get married until after grad school?I’m (f26) happily married so here are my two cents: Marriage before age 23 (bride’s age) is associated with an increased likelihood of divorce— with each year before that age increasing the likelihood significantly so 22 won’t increase that likelihood all that much. A PhD program is basically a job— especially the latter half where you’re primarily doing research. The advice about waiting to graduate and get a job or more about the maturity level due to age than the graduating / getting a job pa… | /r/askFDS | 23/07/20 02:44 PM |
| 28 | Insecure around certain women?I’m (f26) happily married to a wonderful man. When I was your age, I’d feel uncomfortable around women who did drugs, partied, slept around, and just generally acted like what this sub would call pickme’s. It made me uncomfortable because I was worried they’d negatively impact me or influence me to be more like that. I’ve found its important to surround yourself mostly with people you look up to and want to emulate. Is it possible that you’re mistaking feeling uncomfortable with them not being p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:48 AM |
| 4 | Couples to look up to?I’m actually the one that primarily manages our finances! I see it as being the CFO in our marriage. It’s important to note, we didn’t merge finances until after we were married. I make the budget & handle paying the bills out of our joint account. I’m better with money than my husband is so he trusts my decisions. He sticks to the budgets I build. We have regular check ins where I update him on what’s going on with our finances (about 2 times a month). When he has an unbudgeted large purchase h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Couples to look up to?His big thing is you and your spouse have to be on the same page about finances for you to be financially successful. Since money fights are the one of the leading causes of divorce in the US, it’s such an important area to invest in working on together. From personal experience, when you don’t have a lot debt looming over your head it makes life significantly less stressful. We followed his plan & paid off $20k in debt in a year and now have a 6 month emergency fund. Our only debt now is our ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 03:15 AM |
| 12 | Couples to look up to?Financial-wise, I suggest looking into Dave Ramsey. He’s a financial expert who specializes in helping people get out of debt. He has a radio show (also has a podcast / YouTube channel) & had talked about his wife and their marriage a lot. He’s definitely a positive role model! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 03:07 AM |
| 9 | How do you filter out bad guys?Happily married woman here. I have a high SMV, have never slept around, and no underlying self esteem issues so I wasn’t willing to settle. Red flags I looked for while dating: —not willing to pay for the date or wants to split the bill. (reason: potentially unable to provide or sees dates as a transaction of “date for sex” but has been “burned” so many times they don’t want to pay unless they get guaranteed sex for paying for a date) — doesn’t ask me questions about myself with follow up questi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 02:21 AM |
| 9 | I don't get why LVM shame women for wanting expensive weddings or wedding ringsHe is definitely a HVM! I really lucked out — was already happily married before this sub was even founded, but it’s a very similar strategy to what I used while dating. He does 50% of the chores without me asking so there isn’t any imbalance of labor in our house. For most of our marriage he’s made more than me but over the past 10 months I’ve had 2 big promotions and significant raises so I make slightly more than him right now (he’s up for a raise at the end of the year that’ll probably chang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:04 PM |
| 13 | I don't get why LVM shame women for wanting expensive weddings or wedding ringsMy husband was saving up for a ring & wedding for us (I knew as he’d told me he wanted to marry me and was putting aside money for this). I had inherited a ring worth $6k from my grandmother that fit my ring finger perfectly(never had to get it resized). I wanted a house more than a nice wedding & brand new ring. So, I suggested we use my grandmothers ring and put all of the money he’d save towards a down payment. We got married at my parents house & spent less than $1k on our wedding in total. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Ladies i’d like a second opinion on this man, since i can see pros and cons of a partnershipI’d say the guy from your post’s potential drinking issue is an orange flag. Proceed with caution. He still might have potential, just be careful. I had very high standards while dating & used a strategy similar to the FDS (sub was founded after I was already happily married). My husband is only my second serious relationship and the first one I’ve had as an adult. He rarely drinks though he did say he used video games to get through the stress of being active duty military. He still plays them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Ladies i’d like a second opinion on this man, since i can see pros and cons of a partnershipMy (f26) HVM husband (m31) did 4-5 years in the military (tried a semester of college right out fo high school and just wasn’t ready for it). Then he went back to school after he got out— we met at a college group church event. Although we have a slight age gap, we were at the same life stage (college) when we met. I ended up graduating a year before him. We’re both college graduates, have great jobs, and we bought a home a year and half ago (with a VA loan). We both have adhd too— which I think… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 03:05 AM |
| 125 | How do you stay hopeful about dating when hearing story after story of cheating, emotional abuse, violence, stealthing, pathological lying, and porn addiction among many things experienced by women, as a woman?Back when I was dating I knew good men existed because I grew up with great examples in my life. I didn’t settle. My mom survived an aneurism when I was in elementary school that left her paralyzed and unable to speak. Doctors said she’d never recover any function and wanted to put her in a nursing home for the rest of her life. My dad saw she was fighting and put everything he had towards getting her the rehab she needed. She spent 1 year in the hospital, 1 year in an in patient rehab facility … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/20 02:08 AM |
| 24 | This is what pickmeishas and LVM do to families. I am so glad I don't have any brothersIt’s the dad that posted it from the looks of it. But yes, he needs to encourage his daughter to press charges. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:15 AM |
| 13 | I lost my baby.Yes, being born stillborn means she died shortly before or during labor but before she was born. It’s often not known what was the cause. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 02:28 PM |
| 91 | In case you were wondering why men have zero self awareness, this study may shed some light- 67% of male and 25% of female participants opted to electrify themselves rather than sit alone in a room alone with their thoughts for 15 minutes. Men are a joke.I can’t believe it’s even more than 5% for either gender... it’s only 15 minutes... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:26 AM |
| 102 | Queen shittytBest advice I’ve ever received from my grandmother: The best revenge is your happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 10:11 PM |
| 38 | What's your best HVM story?My Dad is a HVM. My mom was a teen mom with my older brother & she met my dad in college. My mom survived an aneurism when I was in elementary school that left her paralyzed and unable to speak. Doctors said she’s never recover any function and wanted to put her in a nursing home for the rest of her life. My dad saw she was fighting and put everything he had towards getting her the rehab she needed. She spent 1 year in the hospital, 1 year in an in patient rehab facility and 2 years outpatient d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 09:28 PM |
| 15 | What's your best HVM story?So my husband doesn’t really like cats & from the time I was 12 years old I’ve always wanted a Ragdoll (breed of cat). I’ve checked shelters for them— they just don’t get surrendered in my state. I legit almost drove 12 hours each way to adopt an adult Ragdoll in another state but it was adopted out locally. Few months before we got engaged he BOUGHT me a Ragdoll kitten for Valentines Day (they’re not cheap, mind you). He put a deposit with a breeder in the area (one of two in the entire state) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 09:11 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend wants me to improve on being an effective helper and nurturer. I'm not quite sure what this means for a man.I kind of see it as being the CFO (Chief Financial Officer) of our marriage— if that makes sense :) Managing money stresses him out a lot (even talking about money increases his stress level). We got a little busy and we went a few months without the bi-monthly updates (just sticking to budgeted purchases)— right when we had paid off the last of our debt and started building a good emergency fund. He was pleasantly shocked when we finally had a financial update check in. He was like “we have how… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/20 06:29 PM |
| 9 | FDS for women loving women?My advice— be very wary of getting into a relationship. Vet very strongly. Treat dating like your interviewing that person for the most important position in your life (because you are). I’m happily married to a wonderful man. He’s my second serious relationship and the first one I had as an adult. The more you’ve been emotionally wounded by past partners, the harder it is to trust and be emotionally available for a HV partner. When you can’t trust or be emotionally available, it makes it nearly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:54 PM |
| 35 | FDS for women loving women?Goal of the sub is to help you maximize for your benefit while dating— wether you’re dating men or women. Most of the content will be in relation to dating men though (as you’ve probably already seen). I think most of the guidebook and principals apply— but there might be minor adaptions like for wlw, you might end up being the one to approach / initiate / pursue which is not recommended for women seeking relationships with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 06:32 AM |
| 48 | FDS for women loving women?It’s not specifically for women looking for men— you’re very much welcome here. I’ve seen other wlw post here from time to time :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 06:21 AM |
| 51 | My no.1 tip for vetting narcisstic guysI definitely think HVM tend to raise HVM sons. My paternal grandfather is a HVM & so is my dad. My younger brother (22) has HVM potential but still has some growing up to do— which he knows so isn’t dating right now. I grew up surrounded by HVM so I had great examples and knew what to look for. My husband is a HVM & his father is as well. Women are socialized to give a lot in relationships, so even if you come from a difficult background I think it’s easier for women to overcome the negative inf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:58 AM |
| 6 | did anyone else fall for the trap of asking men for dating advice (regarding other men) when they were younger?When I found this sub, I saw someone mention it elsewhere REALLY hating on it. Then I read the guidebook and was like, this is very similar to my strategy when I was dating— it’s common sense. My dad taught me to look out for myself first. He wanted me to be able to be self sufficient and never rely on my husband for anything. My dad also totally spoiled me growing up too (I got a horse for my 8th birthday). He was the type of dad who pulled an all-nighter helping me on my research paper in high… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 09:39 PM |
| 11 | I'm pretty uncomfortable to expose my body hair which I think is more than usual and I've been getting anxiety with all the thinking. I think it's because of my hormones but I how do I get stable??I have PCOS & one of the issues I have is facial hair. Mint tea is a natural anti-androgen so will reduce your testosterone levels if you drink it regularly. Not a replacement for speaking with a doctor about your hormone levels, but it can help. I drink two cups a day :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/20 09:23 PM |
| 16 | did anyone else fall for the trap of asking men for dating advice (regarding other men) when they were younger?My dad (whose a HVM so was a great example for me growing up) gave me dating advice starting from when I was in middle school & it’s remarkably similar to the FDS strategy. I’m also now happily married to a wonderful man. I’ve never been in a serious relationship with a LVM because I was so picky. My husband was my second serious relationship & my first one as an adult. My husband does 50% of the household chores, actively cares for our nieces/nephews when we watch them (not just have me watch t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:12 AM |
| 20 | This may be the most honest profile I’ve seen...Judging by the other picture cutting off his head too, I think it’s probably a full body picture that the app just centered on his crotch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 02:11 AM |
| 20 | My boyfriend wants me to improve on being an effective helper and nurturer. I'm not quite sure what this means for a man.I’m happily married. I don’t know how to specifically answer your question as I’m too strong willed to ever be a “yes woman” to my husband (whose a natural leader). However, perhaps an example of how we handle an aspect of our lives will provide you some insight. I handle all of our finances. I make the budget & handle paying the bills out of our joint account. I’m better with money than my husband is so he trusts my decisions. He sticks to the budgets I build. We have regular check ins where I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/20 04:37 AM |
| 38 | I’m actually disgusted and lividMy husband has been watching our 3 yr old nephew all by himself at least 3-4 hours every week since March... it’s not even his kid that he’s caring for. How could a man not watch his own child??! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:47 AM |
| 2 | I dont wanna text or call in between dates but i want the in person time/ affection etcI do this.... I have ADHD & struggle with Object Permanence— which unfortunately includes people. I adore my friends, family, and my amazing husband when I’m around them but I’m not great at remembering to reply to their texts or remembering to call them regularly. This doesn’t mean I love them any less. I know this is a struggle of mine so I have implemented coping mechanisms such as recurring calendar reminders to check in & setting adhoc reminders to reply to people’s texts / emails later all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:17 AM |
| 3 | How to be feminine while you're with a short partner, by societal standards.Totally agree. My husband is 6ft and I’m 5’10. We started dating when I was 19 & he was 24. I had other girls telling me I was too tall for him & that I was too young for him. He’s an amazing partner & I truly lucked out with him— especially since he was my first relationship as an adult. He actively cares for our nieces / nephews when we watch them (not just have me watch them) for our siblings. He takes care of 50% of the housework and 70% of the cooking as we both work. We actually do cleanin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/20 07:12 PM |
| 6 | How to be feminine while you're with a short partner, by societal standards.I’m 5’10 and my husband is 6’0. I’m taller than him when I wear heals. We have the same height difference as you two. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 13 | What's up with guys photoshopping anime characters into their pictures nowadays?!?I mean, she’s kind of the ultimate pickme. Himiko is obsessed with Midoriya & knowing everything about him. She is also obsessed with killing anyone who gets in between them... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:53 AM |
| 36 | What's up with guys photoshopping anime characters into their pictures nowadays?!?I’m a big fan of MHA so recognized her immediately. I think its a million time worse when you know the context around her character. Like a normal anime character in a picture is a red flag— this particular anime character is a MAJOR red flag. Even Pickme’s need to be running from that guy... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:45 AM |
| 32 | What's up with guys photoshopping anime characters into their pictures nowadays?!?When you know the context of that character it’s a million times worse... That is Himiko Toga from My Hero Academia. She is a total psycho (she craves blood & is a serial killer) and like an ultimate pickme. She is one of the villains who is obssessed with the main character romantically.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:40 AM |
| 10 | She's a marriage therapist...has several other posts like this as well. Mostly men salivating over her posts as expected.Terribly phrased on her part (since she is implying the woman is the issue), but a man who doesn’t equally contribute & requires his wife to tell him what to do isn’t worth the respect. So, if a man finds himself in this situation then yes, he is acting like his wife’s inferior and he needs to start contributing like a grown adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:13 AM |
| 5 | Imagine being such a pickme that you flex that you post your nudes for free and hating on girls who wanna get paidMy husband of 2 years doesn’t even have nudes of me. No one does nor ever will. I’m also very attractive by societal standards so they can’t say it’s because I’m not attractive enough— I’m tall, thin, with curves, nice face, still look like I’m barely 20 despite being 26, etc. I was even scouted by model agencies as a teen, but they wanted me to lose 5 lbs despite already being underweight for my height so I told them no. Who tells a 16 year old who is 5’10 & 110 lbs to lose 5 lbs??? My doctor w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 04:04 PM |
| -1 | The use of "females" instead of women is so bad I found this in a literal LinkedIn job posting (sorry for poor quality)There are age associations for “men” which starts younger than for women— probably 35+ would be more likely to be called men. Mostly, “guys” or “young men” would be used to refer to males younger than 35. I’m not saying it’s the best or that it’s right. I’m saying that culturally, these terms have age associations with them where I live & grew up. This is something I cannot change. It’s like trying to get a region that calls soda “pop” to call it “soda” instead (speaking of, another weird thing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:26 PM |
| 4 | Are terms of endearment and pet names an orange flag?My husband asked me what I thought of pet names when we started dating. I wasn’t a big fan so he never used them! Closest thing is he will call me by a shortened version of my given name that no one else uses for me (think something like “chris” for “Christina”) as I always introduce myself as my full first name— but that nickname between us evolved over the years and he generally calls me my full given name in public unless he’s saying something privately just to me. I’d say it’s an orange flag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:59 AM |
| -6 | The use of "females" instead of women is so bad I found this in a literal LinkedIn job posting (sorry for poor quality)“Woman” implies a wise elder— so unless you’re old enough to be a grandmother people aren’t going to use it as a stand-alone. I’d generally be referred to as a “young woman” or if there is a large group of us about the same age as me— “girls”. “girls” wouldn’t be used for kids where I’m at— “young girls” refers to kids or “teen girls” to teenagers. It’s weird I know but that’s just the implied ages of those terms. Females means any female though so doesn’t have age associations with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:33 AM |
| -2 | The use of "females" instead of women is so bad I found this in a literal LinkedIn job posting (sorry for poor quality)Like I get that & I’ll use it online but if I’d I use it IRL I might get weird looks. People where I live don’t commonly use “woman” / “women” where I live unless it’s talking about older women. It’s cultural. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:22 AM |
| -6 | The use of "females" instead of women is so bad I found this in a literal LinkedIn job posting (sorry for poor quality)It could be regional or industry thing. After all it is a pharmaceutical company so maybe scientific terms just are more natural. Also, where I live, “women” often only refers to women 55+. To be called a woman kind of makes me feel old— because growing up it was only people my grandmothers age who were regularly called women. If you’re referring to a group of people who are likely all younger than that— you’ll say “young women” or “girls” or sometimes “females”. Like I use terms like “my female… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 12:51 AM |
| 9 | Toxic ex sent me a “friendly” email to try to get in touch with me again. Don’t fall for it!This advice spans all aspects of life. I was previously in a tech sales role— counting the “I”s to make sure emails were client centric was one of the reasons I was so successful in that role. Don’t miss it though— quota’s are stressful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:54 PM |
| 32 | Remember to not be that girl ever again!I really want to see this movie. Hope someone remembers the name of it lol Edit: googled it & its “Good Luck Chuck” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Harsh truthFirst step is to learn to love yourself. You need to know you’re worth it & exude the confidence that you are worth it before someone will be willing to wait for you. You have to believe it first. Someone who is willing to wait for you, is the kind of person that will love you how you need to be loved. It doesn’t matter what you’re body type is or how “pretty” you are (you’re probably way prettier than you make yourself out to be)— that standard is one that is based on diminishing value over tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:56 PM |
| 6 | Harsh truthI don’t know how good my advice will be because I have never experienced abuse & have lived a very privileged life. My dad is a HVM so he set the bar high for me as an example in a spouse. For some context, my mom ended up surviving an aneurysm when I was in elementary school. Doctors initially said she’d essentially be a vegetable the rest of her life but she wasn’t brain dead. My dad fought for her. She spent a year in the hospital then a year in-patient rehab, 2 years outpatient daily rehab. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:09 PM |
| 18 | Harsh truthMy HVM husband and I went from first date to a relationship in about 2 weeks. He was looking for a potential wife though (said so on our first date as I was a little younger than him and looked even younger than I was (especially with how I did my makeup that day in a natural look) so he wanted to make sure I was on the same page) & not screwing around— he also committed well before sex was on the table & was willing to potentially wait until marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:34 PM |
| 6 | What is your view on US politics?Moderate Republican. On the fence between Biden and Trump for November. Will be voting GOP down ballot for most positions though. Mostly republican because it’s a family legacy. My 6x Great grandfather was a southerner who fought for the union & joined the GOP in the early days. In the late 1800s, early 1900s, if you wanted to run for an elected position as a Republican(such as congress) you needed to get his stamp of approval. The party tried to get him to run for senate but he had no interest … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/20 04:16 PM |
| 41 | This guy doesn’t understand that it is not hard for women to find a man interested in herI’m happily married to a HVM now— but when my previous relationship had ended & I updated my FB status to single. I was FLOODED with messages from guys in the weeks that followed... One in particular, I was friends with his younger sister growing up in church. When I said I wasn’t interested in dating as I was still reeling from the breakup, this dude asked to be FWB; kicker is he was in Seminary at the time!!! Like dude... He’d had a crush on me since I was 15 — which I knew about but wasn’t in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 12:43 AM |
| 9 | Your insecurity about him watching porn is valid, and reason enough to expect a no-porn in your relationship.Agree. I think if you’re used to the porn addicted / non-committal type of LVM & then find a Misogynistic LVM it can be harder to identify that he is a LVM. So yes, vet VERY carefully! A lot of times the misogyny only becomes full blown after marriage but generally the signs were there ahead of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 09:06 PM |
| 14 | Your insecurity about him watching porn is valid, and reason enough to expect a no-porn in your relationship.I’m religious so I think that helped my chances of meeting a HVM. I actually met my husband at a church event. Wouldn’t recommend going to church to find a man unless you’re already religious, because there are more women attending church than men typically & there are still a lot of LVM at churches (typically the LVM there will lean misogynistic rather than noncommittal / porn addict type you might find in the wild). If you’re already religious, it’s a great place to run into someone who shares… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:32 PM |
| 45 | Your insecurity about him watching porn is valid, and reason enough to expect a no-porn in your relationship.Men who like porn will have unrealistic expectations for you— do not date them. My HVM husband has never liked porn — even as a teen. He’s said that he has no interest in it since it’s so obviously fake. My husband has said that porn being so normalized is terrible because a lot of men and women may not realize that it’s basically emotional cheating. He, unfortunately, ends up hearing a lot of the “locker room” talk of some of these supposedly committed / married porn addicts— he doesn’t go into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:05 PM |
| 23 | HVM Brother just dropped $6,000 on a ring, men on bumble on the other hand?A previous boss was a Muslim man that seemed to be HVM— very professional and respectful towards women in the workplace (didn’t participate in the “boys club” type of chatting or ever speak negatively of any woman); happily married (met his wife on a Muslim dating site that had a lot of questions you had to fill out). His family is Persian but he was a convert since his family was areligious (came to the US in the 70s). I don’t know a lot of Muslims— but would be curious if converts are seemingl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:33 AM |
| 20 | Imagine being a completely average man and thinking a woman needs to “earn” you😒Kind of looks like there could be a purse hanging off the back of that chair in the pic. I think you’re right that he is probably cheating... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Black ConservativesThomas Sowell is on of my favorite economists! Highly recommend any of his books or watching his videos on YouTube. I majored in economics in college— what I’ve noticed about his writing is that he has a skill for putting complicated economic concepts into terms that lay people (people who don’t regularly study economics / non economists) can understand. Most economists cannot do this; I can understand what they’re writing about but my friends and family would be confused by it. His autobiograph… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/20 08:11 PM |
| 7 | No sex before commitment.....with ex?Have to disagree. Sex should always require commitment from a man (unless you don’t want commitment I guess). If men only needed to temporarily commit to you to sleep with you once, then could break up with you & then sleep with you whenever they take an interest in you after that — that isn’t real commitment from them. That is manipulation. They could have a whole harem of exes they are playing that game with to get sex whenever they want! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 06:09 PM |
| 40 | The sad truth: women’s lives often get ruined by men while they walk away unscathed.When I was 4, I had thought George Washington was / always had been / always will be our president. Then I found out Clinton was the current president because he was all over the news ( I think it was during the scandal) & was so upset that he was president that I threw a tantrum— my parents couldn’t stop laughing which made it worse! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:52 PM |
| 11 | No sex before commitment.....with ex?Yep! Also, if we slept with our exes because we’d slept with them before— the redpill men would go around committing temporarily then breaking it off then having essentially a harem of exes to circulate through whenever they want to have sex, without ever having to fully commit to a woman. Sex is always dependent on current commitment no matter how many times you’ve slept with them before. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 05:47 PM |
| 24 | No sex before commitment.....with ex?I’d wait. No way to know if the ex just wants to get an easy lay or actually wants back with you. Sex is kind of a reward to your man for their commitment to you. If they can sleep with you without the commitment just because you’ve slept together before, why would they ever recommit? Without their commitment, it’s almost like they can have their cake and eat it too with you if you sleep with them & you’re left emotionally unfulfilled pining after them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Divorced ladies and name changesMy mom kept her name from her first marriage after her divorce. She only changed her last name again when she got remarried to my dad. I don’t think it’d be weird to just not bother changing it when the divorce goes through (unless you really hate his last name and want to be rid of it)— seems like it’d just be less paperwork for you to worry about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:41 AM |
| 36 | They want us to be legbeards so bad, but we're not: FDS Humble Brag / Femcel Theory Debunked!That’s very similar to how I found this sub as well. I saw people on other subs calling it a “hate group” and “basically female incels.” So I checked it out and realized it was a very similar strategy to what I used while I was dating (I’m now happily married to a wonderful man) & full of practical advice. I didn’t pay for a single date until I was in a LTR with my now husband— which has been my only LTR as an adult because I’m picky & was lucky enough to have met him in college. We also lived t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 02:46 PM |
| 6 | Marriage Is A TrapWhat is interesting is the divorce rate goes up for each successive marriage. Only 40% of first marriages end in divorce. 60% of second marriages & 73% of third marriages end in divorce. (In the US anyways) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:39 PM |
| 26 | Marriage Is A TrapJust want to say I’m happily married to a wonderful man. My parents are married and my dad goes above & beyond for my mom (who is partially paralyzed — happened when I was in elementary school) so I had a great example of a HVM growing up. Good men exist — when you’re ready to date just follow this subs dating guidelines & focus on yourself until someone worth your time comes along. Marriage to a LVM is a trap but marriage to a HVM is hugely beneficial. Note that most teenage boys are not ready … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 05:39 AM |
| 9 | Form an orderly queue ladies... He’s a keeper (1. Is referring to fake tan)What I want to know is why would someone want to repeal the 8th amendment?? Isn’t that the one against cruel & unusual punishments??? Edit: found the answer! The 8th amendment in Ireland is what made abortion illegal. 8th amendment in the US is barring cruel & unusual punishment. Just my American centric brain being American :P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 07:45 PM |
| 46 | We've got fans!Lol one of the main people/ mods literally named himself after this sub “FDS_Historian” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:13 AM |
| 2 | Make his pockets hurt sis🤪💸Well I think the stacks of money were for the effect since it’s tiktok— good percentage of every tiktok video is staged (id say 90-95% is a good estimate) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 07:00 AM |
| 29 | The fact that he posted this himself really says a lotThe “you could’ve been nicer to me” is a tiktok trend. I’m betting this was staged— but that doesn’t mean it’s not a reality for many women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 11:49 PM |
| 11 | Dating in college - a waste of time?I met / started dating my HVM husband in college & applied a similar methodology to dating back then as the FDS method. There are slightly different standards I’d apply to dating in college— instead of looking at how much he currently makes, look at what his major is & his future job prospects. Business/ economics / engineering major = good History / art / political science / English = probably not so good unless he comes from a well connected family Pay more attention to his family background &… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 02:18 AM |
| 5 | Safety: how many of you own a gun?r/ccw might have some good resources for you to look into. I’d suggest taking a class! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:48 AM |
| 1 | IT IS TIME TO #BLOCKANDDELETE REDDItMy HVM husband doesn’t use reddit 🤔 there might be some truth to this LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:43 AM |
| 10 | Has r/banfemalehatesubs been banned??If you delete your account, I think all of your posts and comments stay up but the user name for those posts will say [deleted]. Can anyone confirm this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:31 PM |
| 22 | Has r/banfemalehatesubs been banned??Would removeddit have the content saved? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 03:34 PM |
| 171 | Has r/banfemalehatesubs been banned??Pretty sure it’s banned to make it more difficult for the media to report on all the terrible subs that weren’t banned.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:39 PM |
| 137 | Has r/banfemalehatesubs been banned??Technically, there are more women in the world than men— so it’s ok to hate on women according to Reddit’s new policy since we’re the majority... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:38 PM |
| 8 | HANDBOOK TO DOWNLOAD - Protect your knowledge.The link to the discord isn’t working for me. How can I get an invite? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:28 AM |
| 39 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.I saw a comment on r/conservative today that perfectly explained it. TL/dr: Reddit banned a bunch of conservative subs & then the liberal subs that violated groupthink (especially the ones dominated by women). That way reddit can claim they equally ban subreddits on both the left and right. Note that the Right wing LGBT sub was also banned but did not violate any rules either. GC specifically was targeted because it had gotten attention from outside of reddit & liberal groupthink. This is cancel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:01 AM |
| 3 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.Ruqqus is another one that’s trending. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:54 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020r/pornfreerelationships is gone too... but r/gendercriticalguys & r/terfisaslur are both still up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 08:44 PM |
| 5 | "Post-wall" ladies, how do your red pill efforts shift with age? How do your efforts change in terms of still feeling attractive to your man? Does age impact how you support your man and family?Ah. Makes sense. Thank you! Most women in my family don’t hit the wall until much later than normal then. My mom is in her late 50s and looks like she is in her late 30s. My grandmother is in her 80s and looks like she is in her early 60s. My great-great aunt is nearly 100 & looks younger than some of the staff at her nursing home near retirement age lol We all sunburn instead of tan so none of them ever got into sunbathing — so that probably helps, but I suspect it’s mostly genetics. I’m mid 20… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 08:31 PM |
| 2 | "Post-wall" ladies, how do your red pill efforts shift with age? How do your efforts change in terms of still feeling attractive to your man? Does age impact how you support your man and family?Fairly new here... what is the wall? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 07:18 PM |
| 1 | It seems like Southern men are more attracted to blondes, even if their faces/bodies are average. Am I imagining things?I’m from Texas (so is my dad’s side going back 5-6 generations). I’ve got light brown hair with natural reddish highlights so I get a lot of compliments on my hair. I studied abroad in London during college and I pulled like crazy over there! I just thought men were more forward... Not to sound conceited but I’m rather attractive (I’m both tall and thin with curves— and I’ve got a fairly symmetrical face) so I just thought men were more forward over there. Happily married to a southern gentleman… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 03:10 PM |
| 21 | TeaExactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 06:57 PM |
| 53 | TeaMy HVM husband legit has a crazy ex but he is hesitant to call her that (he’s never actually said she’s crazy— I’m the one who calls her that). She is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. He dated her in high school & early college. He spent quite a few years single to work on himself and the trauma she caused him before we met. He’s even got scars where she physically abused him. Only reason we found out about the BPD is her husband is divorcing her and reached out to him to see if m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Give him the opportunity to ghost youMy husband has said before he didn’t realize he wanted to marry me until after an argument I left — and put the onus on him to reach out / repair our relationship. We’d been dating a year at that point & were basically living together (I still had my own place but was always at his). I found this out when I asked him when he knew I was the one & he wanted to marry me. I was surprised it took him over a year to realize this, when I knew I wanted to marry him less than 2 months in. He didn’t know … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 04:54 PM |
| 11 | Give him the opportunity to ghost youMy husband has said before he didn’t realize he wanted to marry me until after an argument I left — and put the onus on him to reach out / repair our relationship. We’d been dating a year at that point & were basically living together (I still had my own place but was always at his). I found this out when I asked him when he knew I was the one & he wanted to marry me. I was surprised it took him over a year to realize this, when I knew I wanted to marry him less than 2 months in. He didn’t know … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 04:49 PM |
| 14 | What are some good ways to reassure a man that you don’t have sexual hangups just because you want to wait a while?If the guy is looking for a serious relationship & worth your time— he’ll respect you wanting to wait for physical intimacy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/20 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Hello ladies I want to improve my personal hygiene. Lets make a thread of about hygience practicesI would’ve had mine removed too in your situation. I lucked out and have had a great experience with mine— no periods at all in 5 years (took a year for them to go away completely though). | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/20 04:53 PM |
| 5 | Hello ladies I want to improve my personal hygiene. Lets make a thread of about hygience practicesBtw a new study recently came out— menstrual cups should not be used with IUD’s as it’s linked to a significant increased risk in expulsion (which could then lead to unplanned pregnancy). The study was only done with copper iud’s, but due to the similar physical design with hormonal ones it can be extrapolated to apply to hormonal ones as well. Saw it on the birth control sub a few weeks back. Edit to add: you can still use it if you want to of course, but check for the strings very regularly— a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/20 04:22 PM |
| 7 | This is some next level NVM bullshit. Could you imagine thinking your friends are more important than you wife in labour. Chuck him in the bin IMO.Some of her replies said this was the first time anything like this has happened. If that is actually the case (and she just hasn’t convinced herself it’s the case), it could be that he was scared of the labor / potential outcome of the labor (losing one or both of them). Still totally disrespectful & not ok at all (def LVM /NVM behavior)— especially since it was her who had to go through the labor. But fear is at least a reason while “cleaning someone else’s garage” is obviously some kind of ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 05:59 PM |
| 5 | From a FB group I’m in. NVM has financially ruined her.This is financial infidelity. If you and your spouse aren’t on the same page financially — you aren’t going to be financially successful. Number one reason for divorce are fights about money. He’s showing he doesn’t respect her or their relationship by going behind her back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 08:07 PM |
| 19 | He told his wife the Scratch Marks He Got on His Back Last Night were from being attacked by a spiritual demon 🤦♀️I grew up in a very religious community — cheating spouse was pretty much the only socially acceptable reason for divorce followed by physical abuse (but with the second people would still make comments behind a woman’s back that she should have known before she married him). If the reason for divorce was emotional abuse, drunkenness, laziness, etc you’d be looked down upon for getting a divorce though... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 07:40 AM |
| 27 | Ummm noI’m a younger millennial but my younger brother is gen z. I’ve noticed self degradation is seemingly more common in gen z in both genders than it was for my peers at the same age. Not sure if it’s just because they are still young and I’ve just forgotten all the self degradation used by my peers or something else though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 07:33 AM |
| 183 | HVM will not waste your time and know when games are gamesThis might be an ok timeline if you’re a middle school boy but if you’re an adult man this is ridiculous. I feel sorry for any woman who waists her time with that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 06:52 AM |
| 3 | Talking to a Guy Online But He Ghosted?If he’s not pursuing you, he may not be that into you or he isn’t ready for a serious relationship. I met my husband ~6 years ago (interestingly enough we met at church). He pursued me so I never had to initiate a conversation in the beginning. If he’s interested in a long term relationship that leads to marriage he wouldn’t ghost you. Unless he has a good reason (like lost his phone or a close family member is in the hospital) ignore him even if he messages you back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/20 06:08 AM |
| 27 | More LibFem Nonsense: Declaring that sex workers are “essential” to prevent males from raping and murdering is a tacit admission men are basically terrorists. They want us to throw a few women to the wolves as a sacrifice to pledge our fealty to patriarchy.I first saw this sub mentioned in another sub as “basically female incel’s” as well as a bunch of other insults. So I came to check it out to figure out what this sub could be about to tick people off so much & realized its really just good dating advice every woman needs to hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 06:16 AM |
| 3 | From AskWomen: For those of you married, what is one red flag you noticed and let pass before marrying your SO that you deeply regret glazing over?Looked in their rules. Under rule 10– there is a note about cross posting / linking still active threads to other communities. Apparently this results in an auto ban. They need to bring that up a level because rule 10 is titled “no stirring the pot” & that has a different connotation than no cross posting / linking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 03:59 AM |
| 4 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?I have to say that, in my experience, HVM are way more likely to fall on the “boring” side though. I’ve always liked nerds so I think that improved my chances— there are definitely more LVM than HVM, just a better ratio than among the non nerds. I’m happily married to a wonderful man— who is a nerd & I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:28 PM |
| 4 | NEVER DO HIS LAUNDRY SISHuge red flags can be found in relation to laundry... I could legit crumple my husbands clothes in a ball & shove them in the drawers (I’ve done it in a hurry with his socks before lol) — and he still wouldn’t criticize me. If his work shirts are too crinkled, he’ll just stick them in the dryer on high heat morning of or iron them himself. Every now and then, he’ll ask if I mind ironing a shirt because he has a big presentation the next day that he’s working late on so I’ll touch an iron maybe 3… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 07:05 AM |
| 3 | Would meeting a guy in his mid to late twenties that never had a girlfriend be strange to most girls?No past serious relationships would be a red flag to me. My suggestion: find someone you can be in a committed relationship with but hold off on physical intimacy until you know they are someone you want to be with long term & then wait a few months after that for good measure. Learn how to be a good partner without the physical aspects or benefits. Invest in someone without the need or expectation of something in return first. Be selfless. Love is built not found. Love is a choice not an emotio… | /r/askFDS | 03/06/20 12:32 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Another financial one would be the number of credit cards he has. More lines of credit you have, the more likely you are to carry a balance on some or all of them. I get that there are some people who enjoy life hacking the cc points — so will use certain credit cards for certain types of purchases to maximize their returns. So it’s not a hard and fast rule, just something to watch out for. In general the people I know who life hack for cc points (men and women) will mention it because it’s some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020IIRC 70% of redditers are male. Outside of this & other female centric subs, most of the community will be male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 03:19 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Some financial centric ones! Harder to spot early, but as money fights are the top reason for divorce— financial compatibility is very important: — always pays for everything with a credit card instead of a debit card. This could be a red flag for high cc debt. Some people prefer to use credit but are still responsible so this just means keep an eye on how he handles money. — irresponsible spending. Keep an eye out for impulse buying. Admittedly, I struggle with this personally so it’s kind of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Why What He Spends MattersI think it’s also a red flag if he isn’t open to joining finances once you’re married. Fine to have separate personal spending accounts, but everything should first flow through a joint account to pay all joint bills. Number one thing couples fight about that leads to divorce is money after all. Being on the same page is extremely important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 01:01 AM |
| 81 | TIL Emotional Intimacy with men does not exist without tangible commitmentIdk if I can comment here because I’m a female married to a wonderful man so not in the dating world anymore (I didn’t see anything in the rules against it).... This is true. When my husband and I started dating — he committed to an exclusive relationship well before we were ever physically intimate. A man needs to be committed to you before any emotional intimacy means anything to him. My husband, who is former military (we met after he was out & in college), is pretty open with me to tactics L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 11:08 PM |
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