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GLOBAL RESISTANCEPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:48 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:07 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!Practical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:17 PM
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FDS HUMORPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:39 PM
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How-To High ValuePractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 12:25 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:25 AM
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Story time ☕Practical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:52 AM
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#JustLVMThingsPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:24 AM
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DISCUSSIONPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:15 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:32 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:34 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEPractical_Appearance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:41 AM
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I honestly don't know how any person with a sense of morality can support porn. It's disgusting. I hope those women and children can get out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:06 PM
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Haha I now kinda want to re-activate my OLD profiles and use all of these as my profile pictures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:04 PM
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On the last coffee date I went on (and with last I mean the last I would ever agree to) the guy paid for the coffee, and told me I could pay for the next date. A few minutes later he suggested a really good, but very expensive, restaurant for the next date. Lol no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:34 PM
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Loved this one, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:50 AM
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Men don't care if you're wearing a ring. If you look closely, a lot of men on dating sites are wearing wedding rings because they are too damn lazy/stupid to take them off. I love rings and I love wearing them. If someone asks about it, I will never tell them it's an ex who bought it, I'll just tell them something like "oh I got this one in Bali, and this one is from Belgium, or this was a gift someone bought me in Paris" etc. If they are insecure they can get me a more expensive ring but I won'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:33 PM
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They'll be like "she's like a sister to me" and then watch incest porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 07:10 PM
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I might be the odd one out here... When I was 15, my best friend of the time was dating a guy 2 years older than us. He also had an identical twin brother. While they were dating I became friends with the brothers because of my friend. Their relationship only lasted a month. After they broke up we all still hang out as friends. Me and her ex became closer but nothing ever happened. She noticed and gave us her blessing if we ever wanted to date because she moved on. But I moved to another city a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:25 PM
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Being employed, having good hygiene, being able to cook and clean, having a clean home, exercising and eating healthy, having friends, having hobbies are all bare minimum requirements, NOT green flags!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:22 AM
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I once mentioned to a group of friends that generous men are more likely to be generous lovers as well. Suddenly at the end of the evening all the guys wanted to cover the entire bill for everyone. Men have fragile egos 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:59 AM
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Lol men on dating sites are the worst. I matched with 2 guys today. Both asked me 1) How am I doing, followed by 2) What am I doing.. If they ask further questions it's the same OP mentioned, followed by what is my career and hobbies. I listed all of those in my profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:27 PM
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A guy telling me he is "temporarily" staying with his parents while he decide what to do with his career. Sir, you are 35. No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:19 PM
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It's been witchcraft for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:04 PM
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I do animation in the creative industry, and prefer to date men in a more academic field. Would never date another creative, I find them to be too competitive with me when we're in the same field. Last creative I went on a date with tried to one up me in everything and wouldn't stop talking about work. Intelligent and stimulating conversation is extremely attractive to me. With that being said, intelligence in my opinion is a strait of a HVM, but that does not necessary mean he is an academic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:55 PM
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I was about to make the same joke 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:00 PM
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Guess I'm never gonna be a real girlfriend then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:23 AM
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Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:20 PM
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Like I mentioned, I met him on OLD. We had pretty decent conversations via text. He came accross as intelligent and nice. The self depreciation only started when we were talking in person. He also seemed to know exactly how to keep the text conversation flowing. It's only later during our date that he admitted to finding me online and using my Facebook and LinkedIn profiles as inspiration for text conversation topics. His photos was also a bit enhanced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:19 PM
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I've always been strictly childfree so I've never dated a man who expressed any desires to have children. In my experience CF men have not been less inclined to provide. With that being said, they are also not more likely to be HV. A CF man has more resources available so it's so much easier for them to provide for a woman. My most recent ex used to say that no wife of his will ever HAVE to work, if she works it will be entirely her choice and I really respected that. My money is for me, my part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:11 PM
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It's sweat stains. Most men prefer to shower in the morning (if they even shower at all..) and get into bed dirty. Also not regularly changing and washing sheets makes it so much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:24 PM
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I like to go on what I call "practice dates". This is for men I'm not interested in so I don't really care if these don't go well. It's a great way to practice new flirting techniques, reading body language, making small talk, etc. Since I started working from home last year I don't interact with as many new people anymore and it feels like my social skills are getting a bit rusty. It's almost how you would do a practice interview with a friend before that big job interview. So that guy who asks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:18 PM
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The HVM response in this case in my opinion would be to still text you (not call in case you are sleeping), and ask you if he can help you in any way by having some essential groceries or food delivered to you. And of course he should pay for this. That's what I did for my friends and family who had covid. This is something you would probably reject as to not give him your home address, but still
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 06:53 PM
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Boogers? As in, snot from his nose? Sometimes I struggle to understand just how men manage to be this disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:30 PM
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Yes this 100%. I hate how people put the blame on you when you find out the truth by snooping. Snooping was how I found out about my ex husband cheating. Snooping was how I found out about an ex boyfriend wanting to have sex with a woman he claims was his best friend. ​ Remember to check his recycle bin as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:40 PM
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I'm childfree and for me that means no children ever - not my own, not adopting children, and no step children. That also means not dating someone with children. If someone is open to maybe having children with the right person, or willing to be with someone who already has kids, or can go either way when it comes to children, they need to find another word to describe themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:29 AM
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So excited, I made a new friend last weekend. I used an app called We3. She's new in my country and studying here till end of next year. We had a nice lunch, took a walk in a park and then went shopping. Tonight I'm taking her to my favourite pizza place. I've met 2 other ladies from the app previously. One was a total pickme who had to ask her husband's "permission" to have brunch with me, and the other was only in my area for a few weeks so I won't be seeing those 2 again. It can be very hard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:00 PM
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The Human Centipede (first sequence) passed the Bechdal test, but Gravity did not. So I agree, the Bechdal test is seriously flawed. You have some great suggestions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:41 AM
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The Take is a great channel!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 09:22 PM
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All the men I know who constantly post on social media are gay. Find it kinda weird when straight men do it. Don't know why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:13 PM
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Agree with this 100%. Absolutely no video games or anime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:56 PM
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Broke up with the last guy I dated because he had a tooth abscess, refused to get treatment for it and just drank heavily to numb the pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:42 PM
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I used to cook for my first serious boyfriend (about 12 years ago) 2-3 times a week. I love cooking but I told him that I couldn't afford to feed him anymore. I was a broke student back then. So he asked to see the receipts from the last time I went grocery shopping and started giving me money for groceries plus some extra to spend on myself. Still took me out for dinner at least once a week which he of course paid. Since then I've always maintained a balance where my long term partners take me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:11 AM
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So true.. My Negative-VM ex husband would only buy me fresh flowers and new dresses whenever he wanted me to host and entertain HIS friends/family or co-workers/business partners. So that the house and I can look pretty... I love cooking and hosting people and he would abuse this. I'd spend days planning an event for HIS benefit and he would take all the credit. I'd do all the cooking and prep work from scratch, with beautiful table décor and welcome drinks. He would complain that my shade of li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:12 PM
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This isn't being brutally honest, this is just being brutal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:08 AM
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Nothing to feel guilty about. 1) He was supposed to choose a location and let you know in advance instead of letting you wait out on the street. 2) He was supposed to make reservations wherever he wanted to take you to ensure that you'll have a comfortable place to sit, he couldn't do that because of, see above. 3) He only let you know that he was late after he was supposed to already be there. Extremely rude. 4) He should've confirmed the date earlier in the day, even if it's just a "looking fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:05 AM
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Yes, this! Same thing happened to me. Get all the papers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:09 PM
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You first need to make it impossible for him to say anything to you to doubt your decision to leave. BLOCK him on all social media platforms and on your phone, and mark his emails as spam. Whatever it takes to prevent him from contacting you. Then DELETE all his contact details so that in a moment of weakness you won't be able to contact him. You can't text/call him if you don't have his number.. Sometimes blocking the other person isn't enough, you need to block yourself as well until you have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:48 PM
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My last ex did this to me the first time he took me to meet his parents. It was for lunch at his parents' friends place. The men went off to play golf while the women stayed home to cook. I knew no-one there. The one lady had some personal family issues and went to the kitchen to discuss it with the other women. They asked me to wait outside because she wasn't comfortable discussing it in front of a stranger. I sat outside alone for hours, couldn't get hold of my ex, his phone was turned off. Co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:33 PM
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This is so true. If a guy is constantly texting you about every single thing that is going on in his life, it means that he does not have much of a life. When I'm out having fun with my friends, or busy working, or just busy with whatever, I don't have time to keep someone updated via text about everything I'm doing. My ex would text me constantly when he's out with friends. I find it to be very rude towards his friends. One text to say that he is safe and having fun is enough, I don't need to k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:24 PM
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I asked a guy from work about this drinks/coffee/walk dates phenomenon and he said it's because they don't want to be catfished. If the woman shows up and she doesn't look like her profile pics, it's easy to leave after a drink. If she looks like her pics and she's nice enough, then they will suggest dinner. They want to keep their options open. This kinda makes sense to me because before I came across FDS men would ask me out for drinks and it would usually turn into dinner only after they see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:09 PM
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I just blocked a male "friend" (let's call him Michal) today. Been "friends" for 15 years and stupid me really believed that we are really good friends. I got divorced a while back and ended the first relationship after my divorce about a month ago. First thing after my separation with my ex Michal asks me out on a date. I tell him that no, I am not romantically interested in him. We continue friendship after that, talking about stuff like hobbies, families, work, pets, etc. Out of the blue, aft…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:25 PM
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It's called "Lobola" and it is a long standing tradition in some African cultures. If this guy wants to marry her, he needs to respect her family, culture and traditions. While it might seem weird for a Westerner to pay to marry someone, it is not in Africa. Many of my friends have been through this and it is seen as a beautiful tradition, and a lot of men take pride in paying this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:54 PM
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And that's still what many friends and family think. That I just walked away. I did it to regain sanity and respect for myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:09 PM
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This is true. I walked away after taking reasonable measures to save the relationship so by the time I actually left, I was done. Ex still messages me occasionally but I ignore those mostly. It has been a year and a half and I am very happy with the new man in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:58 PM
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Some people are childfree but if that is something you prefer then that is 100% okay too! There are some non-nonnegotiables in life, and those things are worth asking about before the first date. That's what the whole vetting process is about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:51 PM
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I would always great politely, but NOT introduce them to the company I'm in. If they initiate a hug, I would hug back, and then leave soon after. I do not hold any more resentment towards past relationships. It's healthier for you to let go, and move on. If you ever see them again they are simply a acquaintance. Be polite, but do not linger. You have a life to get on to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:48 PM
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Good for you girl. I'm a separated but not yet divorced yet woman (tomorrow is my court date for the divorce!). This is something that should be mentioned BEFORE the first date. You are allowed to have standards. Don't want to date someone who is married or has children? DON'T! Fuck his feelings, put yourself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:43 PM
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I'm 31. Earlier this year I shared an apartment with a "friend" who is just a huge stinking pile of LVM who also claimed that women hit the wall age 30+. Once we were at a mall together and I was waiting outside the shops for him. He is 32. The security guard came up to me to ask if I'm okay and when my father will be back lol. He mistook my 1-year-older than me male friend for my father. I nearly died laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:36 PM
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This is a couple of years in the past so I don't think you need to tell them unless they ask. Then be honest but don't give them too much information. I have been separated from my husband for a year, and we're busy getting divorced but with the whole covid thing it's taking so much longer than it should. Been dating for a few months now. I tell guys right after they ask me out on the first date. Just kinda "Hey just so you know, I am busy getting divorced, if that is an issue then it's fine". I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:41 PM
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"I know if I only had sex when I really wanted to he'd be out the door in under a month" Girl, listen to yourself. As a woman, I don't think it is really our job to make sex pleasurable in the beginning, he needs to prove himself first that he can give you an orgasm before you put in any effort with sex. That crazy wild sex should wait till later. If you have experienced trauma in the past, it's crucial that you work on yourself first before even caring about any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:30 PM
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Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:55 AM
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Thanks I also really needed to read this. The guy I'm seeing now is being over-the-top incredible with all the qualities you listed. Only 2 years older though so the age gap is fine. Eventually there will be something and I need to stay aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:42 PM
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This works great! I personally prefer not to block but rather to ignore. I find the increasing desperation in their messages amusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:35 PM
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I'd say around 5, depending on how comfortable you are with him and how much effort he is putting into dating you. And if he is even trying to get you to invite him in for coffee then you can tell him to fuck right off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:25 PM
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I don't know the names of any pornstars, except for Jenna Jameson because she was in Zombie Strippers. But this is such a good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:13 PM
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Yip. The ugliest guy I've been with was also the most horribly abusive. I also feel like the uglier guys were the ones who try harder in the beginning to get the girl, but once they have her they will treat her like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:08 PM
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No and you shouldn't even be responding to his messages anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:56 PM
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Thank you for the advice. He has none of my personal information aside from my cellphone number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:12 AM
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I will never tell a man how many people I've slept with. He didn't ask either. The only emotional information I gave is that I am currently going through a divorce which is taking much longer than it should due to the courts being closed for a while and the ex living on another continent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:11 AM
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That's what I'm thinking too, he's just being a little TOO amazing. I do not know where exactly he bought the necklace, he just said it was the same shop than the one he bought the cufflinks from. I googled shops in his area that sells cufflinks, and all of the shops in his area are nicer places (like I said he lives in a very upmarket area). So an educated guess would be at least $55. It's small and delicate, with small diamonds on the pendant. Don't know much about his background except for wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:07 AM
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Haha at least he said he'll be making slow cooked oxtail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:59 AM
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I prefer not to discuss too much about past relationships but from the little that was said I think he might just be very inexperienced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:59 AM
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We're bot non American, we are from the same culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:55 AM
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I will. Miss the regular get togethers I had with my girl friends where we discussed these things, so now I'm sharing with the lovely supportive ladies on FDT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:32 PM
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Very unflattering photos, all of them blurry. Lives a bit too far away and didn't say anything in his bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:27 PM
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I just watched it and wow, men are so lame with these games that they are playing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:21 PM
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I get the feeling that he might be a bit insecure about his appearance. And comes across as eccentric which doesn't bother me so much. But yes, will his behavior be sustainable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:12 PM
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I told him I am only available on Wednesday and Saturday so am trying to limit our time together. With the exclusivity thing, the way he brought it up was like, he asked if I want him to delete tinder. I told him it's too early for that and he replied saying not for him, his mind is made up. He has no interest in dating other women. I just smiled and said nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:07 PM
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What is the DENNIS system?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:03 PM
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That is something I'm concerned about and looking out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:03 PM
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Not all, but most men I know that have a manicured/curated apartment or home, are either gay, or it was another women's (ex girlfriend/wife or mother) work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:27 PM
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Yes it is a absolute deal breaker. I am in my early 30's and have a 32m as a roommate. We were friends for many years before we decided to share an apartment. I never realized what a big loser he is. My reason for having a roommate - I'm getting divorced, moved back from another continent where I lived for 2 years with me ex, and came back with only 2 suitcases so I have to rebuild my life. Already saved up enough for deposit on my own place and to buy al the furniture I need. His excuse for hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:49 AM
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I had 2. First date was pleasant enough , he paid for lunch, we talked. But he admitted that he has nothing going on in his life at the moment so he has nothing to talk about. Second date with another guy sucked and I made an entire post about him insisted we split the bill. And also with the quarentine we couldn't sit close to each other, no alcohol could be sold, it's just not fun. So no, no successful OLD dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:42 PM
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I save a mans number on my phone as something like "tinder bald car pic guy" or "tinder broke vegan guy". Will only change the name if a relationship happens. Their names are a non-issue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:23 PM
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I'm so scared of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:33 PM
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When the date is just awkward, I'll usually just turn it into a "practice date" and try to negotiate the situation with as much class and dignity that I can. It helped me in other areas of life when I had to work with a rude co-worker or a difficult client. Sometimes you will end up in a situation where you won't be able to just leave and bad dates makes me feel better prepared for these other situations. But when the date is really bad, and not just awkward, I will leave. Once were on a date wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:31 PM
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I think that's something we should all decide for ourselves, how much are we comfortable with and where to draw the line. This guy mentioned in our text conversations that he has bi-polar disorder. That is something that I can deal with and can support someone I care about. It's not easy. My best friend has is also bi-polar and it took me many years to learn how to support her and deal with her when she's going through an episode. As long as the person is willing to get the treatment and medicat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:14 PM
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Just, what are guys thinking when they do this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:07 PM
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Haha I once came across the monthly budget of the guy I was dating about 10 years ago. He had the regular stuff in there - rent, electricity, phone bill, groceries, and then also a section with my name in there. I found it kinda nice that he budgeted ahead to make sure that he can take me out on dates and buy me gifts every month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:54 PM
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No, South-Africa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:24 PM
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To be completely honest, I didn't block him yet. Fully intended to but got distracted by reddit and then a long phone call with a friend. Just realized that the asshole didn't even bother to ask me if I got home safe or a thank you text or anything like that. He knows he screwed up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:19 PM
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Our text conversations were good. He texted me A LOT and it was paragraphs at a time. I thought that we'd be able to have a great in person conversation but it's like the guy has never left his house and met a women in-person. As for any weirdness, he's really into history and philosophy, and mentioned seeing a nutritionist but I thought he is just a guy taking care of himself. He didn't bring those topics up during our conversation today. Instead he talked about how much he loves dating shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:15 PM
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While he did come across as a bit inexperienced with dating, he also seamed like he was really into me. Asked a lot of questions to get a conversation going, would text constantly, send out long messages and never just one worded answers etc. Seemed like he was eager to please. In person he was almost the complete opposite. Could barely even ask me how I was doing, seemed incredibly nervous, and the whole conversation was forced, unlike our text conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:11 PM
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This guy didn't even give me enough time to offer, he literally grabbed the bill and immediately started ranting. I was the one who asked for the bill because we were sitting there for about 40 minutes without ordering anything else, it was close to the restaurant's closing time, and he was being boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:56 PM
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I never thought to do this because It's been almost 10 years since I last had to pay for my own part during a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:46 PM
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I kinda expecting him to be the type to lurk in this sub. He mentioned when we were leaving that he has started a new Facebook Atheist dating group. Don't think he realized that I was being sarcastic when I told him good luck with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:44 PM
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Well at least I'll have something to tell next time my friends and I compare bad date stories
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:41 PM
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I felt so bad for the waitress! You could see that she was uncomfortable too. And then he only gave her a 4% tip (Standard in my area is 10%). So I gave her 15% to make up for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:35 PM
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This is less than what the first date should cost him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:53 PM
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I guess the closest we come to a "hate" group is how we hate the low effort men put in en we refuse to accept that. This group changed my life for the better and the quality of my dates have improve drastically since joining. Their moderator probably related to the type of men we often complain about. The worst we do is ghost people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:48 PM
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This isn't worthy of your response. Men KNOW what decent dates are, don't for one second believe that this idiot is so naive to believe that a walk is a decent date. Ghosting someone like this is perfectly acceptable and should be done more often
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:42 PM
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I'm from Africa but lived in Europe for 2 years so that's pretty much what my personal experience was based on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:37 PM
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If it's the day before and he still didn't bother to let you know exactly when and where, then it is completely unacceptable. He should've made reservations at some nice place a week ago. Don't respond, and don't meet up with him. He should put in so much more effort, don't settle for this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:18 PM
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I never realized that we shouldn't accept drinks only dates before I came across FDS. Almost all my dates, ever, where the men only offered coffee/drinks turned into lunch/dinner dates. The exception being where I quickly realized the man was LVM and cut the date short myself. I did meet some HVM on dates where they initially suggested drinks and it turned into dinner. Last one even offered to pay for my immigration because he accepted a job offer on another continent and wanted me to go with hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:11 PM
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Don't ever do this! 100% agree. Most of them will eventually give up and come to you for this "one last conversation" even if it takes them 10 years. And then you'll realize that whatever they say is stupid so honestly, what's the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:02 PM
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It's called gaslighting. It is a form of mental abuse. My ex did it to me. It's more subtle and hard to prove, but it is very much real. Now that we're getting a divorce he likes to tell me how much he misses everything I did for him, but he refuses to give me the financial support that I'm entitled to. When I bring it up, he accuses me of being abusive and only after his money. He threatened to sue me to pay for his lawyer because he knows I'm not financially in a good place. When I threatened …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:34 PM
17

Really? He doesn't know how to have a conversation with you over the phone? Or even just listen to what's going on in your life? He should be the one asking reddit for advice on how to have a phone call, stop accepting his excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:54 PM
16

I would've just left it and tell his dad that he is still busy cleaning that area when he comes over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:48 PM
21

If he REALLY wanted to call you, he would find a way. It's not that fucking hard, and he is just using his dad as an excuse. How is your LDR supposed to work if he doesn't even phone you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:44 PM
17

Strippers and prostitutes are an absolute deal breaker. The type of men who wants strippers at a bachelor parties, are exactly the type of men who will still go to strip shows even after they are married. Quite a few of my male acquaintances have admitted to me to going to strips clubs without their wives knowing. It's disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 07:25 AM
8

So true. Was talking to a guy who was bragging about how he printed 3D face shields to help those in the front line after he heard I do 3D animation. Turns out he printed 2, both were faulty and thrown out for being a potential health risk. I do however disagree with OP when it comes to "Their showering of compliments about how beautiful and too good to be true you are after speaking for 1.5 days can not be trusted." You are beautiful and too good for them, that's not a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 03:02 PM
16

My male housemate always complained about this until I told him how disgusting he is for not cleaning his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 01:39 PM
8

Thanks, i think the line you suggested of the physical attractiveness not being there will work. So far this guy has said nothing wrong or offensive. If he was being mean it would've been so much easier to end things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:22 PM
19

I recently came back from the Netherlands and with all those rediciously tall Dutch guys, you can safely assume that they will always be taller than you. Now that I'm back in my home country, I'll definitely have to remember to ask this next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:18 PM
20

I told him I'd be interested in going on a date with him before I found out how short he is. What should I say if he asks why I changed my mind?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 09:55 PM
6

Was dating this guy from work for about 3 weeks. It's my birthday, and a few of my co-workers and I go to a nice pizza place to celebrate. My co-workers are cool, we hang a lot outside of work. Bill comes, ex pays his part and hands the bill to my friend. Friend is like, everyone should pitch in to pay my part because it's my birthday. Everyone else then pays their own meal and a part of mine. We usually do this for birthday celebrations. Ex, who already paid for just his part, doesn't offer ext…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 09:49 PM
4

I offered to pay for it but he insists it's a gift and refuse to take my money for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 09:17 PM
20

Except I already drank some of it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 09:05 PM
21

I feel sorry for her because I used to be like her. Really hopes she wakes up and make a run for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:36 PM
67

Arrg.. At least he is up front about what he wants so it's easy to avoid him. Feel sorry for the baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:34 PM
22

You're a beautiful woman acting with integrity, of course an insecure man will be threatened! Men like this aren't worth our time. I'm currently talking to a man I met via OLD, haven't met in person yet because of circumstances. Last night when he phoned me, he kept asking about other men I'm talking to online, how I'm so beautiful and many men must be chasing me, and then laying down rules about how things will be when we're in a relationship. He just comes across as so desperate, insecure and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:15 PM
8

I once asked my ex husband to buy cheese on his way home from work. He came home with some rubbery, over processed vegan cheese slices. The thing is, we were living in Gouda at the time. Literally the Dutch town the cheese is named after. You'd think that if you live in fucking GOUDA that you wouldn't have to specify what type of cheese to buy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:18 PM
24

There's nothing mean about exposing lies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:45 AM
8

Yeah they "just want to be friends" and then complain about being in the friendzone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:46 PM
16

When I moved to a new country a few years ago, I used the Couch Surfing app to make new friends. You have the option to host someone, or just hang out. Would message other women on the app saying something like "Hi, I'm new in the area and want to make some new friends. See you are open for hanging out, would you like to grab coffee?" Made some really good friends this way. The horror stories some of those women told me about the men on the app though! One of them just flat out said she refuses …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:43 PM
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I had an ex like this. First few times I fell for it. Later I just started recording his phones conversations and when he threatened suicide again, I forwarded the conversation to his whole family, told them I was really worried about him, and they handled him. Never heard from him again (he's still alive).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:10 PM
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Sorry this happened to you. But maybe don't send messages like this again. I know that you want to have the final "fuck you" but the best revenge really is moving on and living well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:07 PM
13

Of course I blocked him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:03 PM
3

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:01 PM
24

With this guy, I felt like he was treating me like a therapist/social worker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:00 PM
3

I got one dinner date lined up for after this is over, but that's it. Taking a break from OLD until life gets back to normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:01 PM
18

I agree with you. The thing that has me slightly concerned is he is making a very big deal about this, even after I told him that I don't think it is a big deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:35 AM
13

“I’ve been on a few very lovely dates. Why do you ask?” - I love this response!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:26 AM
3

Thank you for the reading suggestions, will definitely have a look at it! Am going through a divorce so I haven't been dating for a few years. So yes, inexperienced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:25 AM
3

Yeah that is exactly how it seemed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:22 AM
19

I felt really bad for the other woman. I told him that showing photos of her is inappropriate and I understand why he has trouble dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:20 AM
7

I'm fine with a lunch date but not breakfast. I'm not a big eater early in the day so that's not worth it to me. If it's lunch I make it clear that my time is limited, I have other plans for the rest of the day and I keep the date short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:41 PM
24

Wtf??!! Went looking for it and it's worse than I thought. It's sick and disgusting. If I found out a guy I know irl is watching stuff like that, I'd be scared of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:35 PM
35

These days I'm mostly using OLD and my dealbreakers while only looking at their profiles without even talking to a guy first: - Photos with kids. I'm childfree. Also it's creepy to use photos of children on an online dating profile. - "Ask if you want to know more". If you are too lazy to type a bio, I'm not gonna bother. - Smoking/drinking in profile photo. I do it myself and i don't mind it but, people tend to use their best photos for online dating and if that is your best, it's not very good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:32 PM
20

Reminds me of How I met Your Mother - "If I don't shave, I don't misbehave"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:24 PM
53

I agree with this. I have no problem with weed, but smoking it is not a personality trait. Too many men on OLD go on about being "420-friendly"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:16 PM
25

This is my first V-day alone in a while, currently going through a divorce. In a way it's nice to know that I won't be disappointed this year and can avoid those "what did he get you?/what are you guys planning?" questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:55 AM
9

Yeah I think that's okay to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:52 AM
54

I have one male friend who responded well to "no" and we're still good friends 12 years later. We actually decided to share an apartment recently and he's a pretty good house mate. Think I might have found a unicorn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:11 PM
14

So true. I found messages from my soon to be ex husband where he admitted that while he loves me, he still wants to have sex with other people just for the sake of it. So done with that bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:54 PM
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