I’m a FDS member for a little while and try to imply all boundaries as much as I can - especially the one when it comes to men putting in effort in planing and talking.

I ‘meet’ this one guy with who I had a interesting conversations so I allowed him to add me on another message app. However, he asked about a date and i let him know that I only agree if there’s proper planning and he tells me days in advance. First he agreed and seems to be fine with it which looked like a good sign for me but it’s almost funny how the last few days before the date he started to send me pictures of spots close to his home (- 1 red flag, I said I won’t travel that far) and mention he would like to “show me around” (essentially “walking” there, - another red flag).

After seeing this I responded only shortly because we didn’t even meet yet nor did he planned something and he already expects me to be excited about a second “walk date” 🤦‍♀️

So now it’s one day before the “expected” date day and he writes me a short hi, no question how I’m doing or anything and send me a picture of another park. No mention of any restaurant where we would have lunch (this was what we both agreed too), no meeting time, no mention of picking me up from the station etc.

My Intuition tells me that he never wanted to actually take me out on a proper date but instead “sneaking” a walk date in and then hope I would had forgot about the rest. It only proofs the point that men will try to scam you if you let them. Surely I won’t go on a date with him at any future.

Oh and this is in Japan. Proved the point that it’s men everywhere in the world trying to be lazy and low effort 🤷‍♀️