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| 3 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?mirror his actions be very passive and passive aggressive so he has to plan dates and do everything If a guy hints cheating on me, i dont blame him or rather, i go on a date with other guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:48 AM |
| 85 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.You can outplay fwb by not doing any of these things or either dating multiple guys. If i wanted fwb, i uuaully shut the guy down unless he talks about something sex related between us. If he talks about personal stuffs, i refuse immediately to discuss. One time, my fwb suggested i see his friends, and immediately refused. The look on his face was memorable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:17 AM |
| 2 | How to vet without moving in together before being engaged/marriedThe best way is to take a close look at his family and friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 03:35 AM |
| 8 | You don't need to beat yourself up if some man didn't want youThats why i date multiple guys. Even when im in exclusive relationship just like now i still have my door open . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 03:25 AM |
| 28 | Never going to date a cheap man ever againWhy would you date an indian guy in first place? My ex’s friend who is indian is literally harassing me to meet him just bc we matched on tinder https://imgur.com/a/4YiOyYi Below is the screenshot i took in DMs. I always wondered why women go for indian men unless she herself is from the same ethnicity. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Lot of them have beerbelly when young and overweight I dont even bring my wallet except for my ID on dates with men. I usually agree on cheap dates and dont show up. Also how do you de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Have you noticed this distinct hypocrisy in men?Yup. He-my ex did the same thing thar your ex did to you. He expressed his concern regards my male friend and cheated on me with his female friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 12:02 PM |
| -1 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?I’m extremely passive aggressive so i dont blame them but i do the exact same thing he does. If he texts late on purpose i take2x to reply, if he hangsout with his female friend constantly, i go on a date, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 10:46 AM |
| 8 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Yeah if you compare lot of guys ex vs guy’s wife whom they committed immediately, clearly the new girl in general is more pretty. I dont want to sugarcoat things. Lot of guys feel unsure of marriage until they meet their ideal girl in terms of looks and personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:48 AM |
| 25 | New lows in dating effort for menThis is something commonly brought up in redpill community. I had a guy who asked if i could join him for tennis game, i agreed and didnt show up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:44 AM |
| 54 | We need to teach our children about the dangers of hookup cultureMost guys compartmentalize girls they met on tinder as whores. You’ll barely find a guy who will put effort in meeting you. I used tinder for years and accumulated communication skills and dating culture across the world but the core is same. If you want the guy, dont have sex for six months i’d say. Dont spend a single penny on meeting a guy. Meet his friends and family to decipher his true personality and traits. If you’re asian be wary of dating guys from different race. Its not brought up of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:34 AM |
| 22 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Dont call him out or blame him. But always act feminine in a way by mirroring him. act passive. I want the guy to chase me so i exert my feminine quality and act nice but i dont suggest anything. dont overshare | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 12:06 PM |
| 9 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatYeah and the fact that their president married his highschool teacher. Whatever they call it, i think french people in general have very different standards of ethics and morals. Thats just my experience. Many Americans romanticize about french and paris just like how it was portrayed in Emily in Paris but paris is not that great. Its dirty and also common demonstrations going on and as korean from conservative culture, i cant resonate in different levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 11:14 PM |
| 40 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatHe’s french. What do you expect from a men who’s from a country/culture where affair is considered normal and prevalent... Hence i never date french guys. Literally all he french guys i’ve gone on a date with whether young/old or rich or not, they have this screwed up mentality that affair is normal and for them, its so part of their lives that they dont think its immoral to do it in the first place. French co workers and colleagues i had in my grad school were worse also. When i go on a date wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:26 AM |
| 20 | What is with Snapchat?I weed out guys who use snapchat at my age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:59 PM |
| 13 | So many bitter men over the age of 24Most women who are non FDS dont realize most guys join tinder after their breakup or for free sex. Most guys compartmentalize girls they met on app vs girls they met in real life thinking latter girl is more of quality. I wouldt datr 19-22 year old as they dont have their shit together. Lot of them dont. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Reminder to pay attention to wordsWhat i do is i agree and don’t show up to any of those low effort dates. I’ll act jolly and happy to see them in entrance of the park ... and i just ghost them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:57 PM |
| 7 | Something I noticed....If a guy doesn’t ask my day i dont either. But sometimes its better for them- narcs - to talk alot so they spill out their trueselves. Let them talk and boast about themselves and it saves you so much time trying to decipher his true personality. The more you know more about other perso you can use it against them. During the date if he only talks about himself, pull your phone out and start using it while he talks. He’ll be offended and you tell him that you’re listening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:46 PM |
| 12 | Always look into a man’s background before meeting them like this (it’s free):I always look him up on instagram, type his following and friends on ig and locations he was tagged at. I look up his linkedin but the best thing that worked? Once you start dating, you meet his family and close friends. If they’re neurotic and narcs almost 100% he is also like that. Also his grammar, his vocab, how he takes his photos these little things will show his true personality. People will say anyone can fake these things, but it shows their traits in these routes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:43 PM |
| 15 | I know this is 7 years old, but I looked up “push pull relationship” online and found this. He actually stated this behaviour makes him seem like a HVM? I bet people still use these horrible tactics! I wouldn’t label this “seductive” either, more like ABUSIVEPeople with high social intelligence or common sense usually notice these things without being aware of these strategies theoretically. It just will look weird if a guy keeps doing that. Its called intermittent reinforcement and its something similar to training a dog. What you do is when a guy do these things, you will start to feel confused. Its not from my personal experience but this is whats written on psychology books. What you do is you you firmly state your boundaries and ignore all this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Women who struggle with dating are patheticAs introvert its true. I’m also INTJ and dont like socializing outside of my circle and i know almost immediately if i’ll like someone or not. While i do goto galleries and some events, its with my friend or alone. Dating isn’t hard but its hard to find people with good morals and the type of looks that i like. I’m also doing pretty well on my own financially and emotionally so i never needed men’s validation or emotional support. Rather than going to cheap travel destination with ghetto guys, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Asian Men are Sexy as FuckYeah as asians they’re sexy. But i’m not into asian american. I’m only into asians who are raised in asia not in the states. Lot of asian guys here lack sense of style. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:36 AM |
| 1 | What do you all think of the women who consistently date "out of their league" in terms of their appearance? What makes them different?Yes ugly girls who approach hotter guys would land LtR when young but they have to make more effort to keep the relationship. Seriously hot girls never approach a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:31 AM |
| 3 | What do you all think of the women who consistently date "out of their league" in terms of their appearance? What makes them different?Date and hooking up is different. All my friends who are really attractive and have good qualities date guys who approach them within their social circle. My ex had fat gf who approached him. And he was way out of her league but since he had insecurity, he started dating who approached him, not the other way around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:30 AM |
| 1 | 8s, 9s, and 10s: would you date a guy who’s a 6 in the face and tall?I’m not sure if i’m 8,9, or 10 but yes, my ex were all good looking in my eyes as some were ugly as my friends said but they were all tall and slim. I am 5,2 and i really prefer guys who have kind face as i believe personality really is portrayed on your face and atmosphere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:24 AM |
| 2 | Peak female ageIts not something that can be defined by numbers. As korean, we age slowly? So theres so many youthful looking 30s and 40s women here. Just eat clean and have good genes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:19 AM |
| 1 | The women's fat positivity movement must be stoppedNo let them go on and die early with all that disease. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:15 AM |
| 0 | Srs Question, Why are British women so ugly?I lived and worked in London and seen some seriously beautiful girls. But maybe because girls i’ve encountered are usually wealthy girls. Now i live in new york, people say theres lot of attractive girls here. Yeah they do exist but most of them are teen girls are college students. I’m korean and its crucial that woman remains slim and beautiful in 20s and 30s but lot of woman in nyc are overweight and unkempt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/20 07:13 AM |
| 3 | We need to stop normalizing the 'men are indecisive' narrativeThats why its important to date multiple men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 06:49 PM |
| 26 | 20-minute video where a guy discusses how a man can know instantly how he feels about a woman. "Just being in her presence has been one of the most wonderful things he's experienced in his life"Its true. Most of my male friends told me that they know that they’ve met the one right away. Its usually woman with their physical type, and elegance combined. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 07:10 AM |
| 1 | If you blame single mothers for picking poor men to hook up with, you should also blame men who get left or "divorce raped" for also picking poor choices for marriage.Yes i agree with the statement. Sometimes i’m really surprised at how lot of single childneas men in the states would be open to dating singlemoms and those who dont would be blamed for it. Where i’m from in east asia, 99% of the guys would never marry or date single moms unless they have kid themselves. Its just common sense. I would never marry a guy who already have kids. Its not about young singlemoms or dads but you really have to think interms of kids perspective. Sure if the singlemoms or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/20 05:40 AM |
| 22 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡As korean, i dated chinese guys in nyc and they usually treated me really well. But i came to think they liked me for my looks. I knew how chinese men put huge importance on being skinny and pale just like korean men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:58 AM |
| 11 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡As korean, men here usually have very very high standards when it comes to choosing a woman for marriage. And even after marriage, you have to be beautiful, slim and elegant wife who cooks and cleans while keeping the house beautiful. You’ll never see a guy who is better looking than their spouse. A guy can be fat and rich while their wives are always skinny and beautiful. Lot of my friends who got married are really pretty. I heard she- the chinese woman - on the video mareied german guy and mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:53 AM |
| 6 | Don't EVER move abroad for a man.Just curious, They toldyou they moved for their boyfriends ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:50 AM |
| 76 | More reasons why casual sex sucks (particularly for darkskinned black women). Be careful out there ladies.As east asian agreed. I had my ex’s friend who was indian harass me in DM as i refuse to go on a date with him and also meeting Indian via OLD was disaster. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 06:46 AM |
| 6 | Saying a man will act right for the “right woman” is deeply misogynist and a huge lie.In my culture- korean, we have a saying that 3yr old habit continues till you’re 80yrs old. Most men dont change and i especially never date guys whos been abused or from abusive household. My no.1 standard in a guy is whether he’s from loving family so i never date guys who had been abused or from single parent household. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 118 | When they complain about being expected to provideGuys marry for sex and housework duties done by their wives. At least they should provide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:25 AM |
| 206 | John Cena was with his ex-girlfriend, Nikki Bella, for over six years and didn’t want to marry her. John has now married his next girlfriend after dating for two years. Ladies, if a man doesn’t want to get married HE’S NOT THAT INTO YOU.As east asian, i’m so surprised at how so many men consider women over 30as damaged goods and the age gap. But in reality, most guys arent rich as they claim on redpill and most 20s dont find wrinkles and sunburn skin attractive unless the guy is millionaire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:24 AM |
| 1 | are British men actually gentlemen?I’m east asian and yes US men are the worst. British men are less worse than US men. So with US men, i dont even try to be nice, i stay really passive as possible and dont even talk much. U S men and culture is really toxix and first i coudlnt get why guys complained of singlemoms as theres not many in nyc, but i could see why after seeing tv shows. Also dont expect US men to age like wine unless he has $$. Even in nyc, i only date east asians or EU expats who are good looking. British men are b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Why do women across all culture (at least in the civilized world) so obsessed with their looksTheres something called minimum standards and i feel like lot of guys in US dont even qualify that. Mostly short or overweight with extreme poor sense of fashion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/20 11:55 PM |
| 9 | “Women should be more indulgent of affairs”. Excuse your mouth?this deluded old man thinks his real life is like the show he's starring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Should men put in as much time & effort on their appearance as women?I had an ex bf who was tall, slim and athletic body with good shoulders and he always would wear same clothes which were mostly h&m and look way better than most guys. He looked like a model. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/20 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Why do women across all culture (at least in the civilized world) so obsessed with their looksMen should look good as well. I really dont like dating in the states due to this reason. I only date expats as they’re mostly slim and taller than guys here at least. If i date a guy who isn’t my type, i expect him to work and put much effort in other parts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/20 06:12 AM |
| 5 | Why do women across all culture (at least in the civilized world) so obsessed with their looksWhy not? Thats all guys care about. When i moved to the US, i was so surprised that how american men put such high standards in beauty compared to men in EU countries and dont regard personality that much while most of them were short and overweight and have 0 sense of style. But at least, guys usually make more money as they get paid better. I thought i was lesbian until i moved to london and berlin. At least there, guys are slim, tall with athletic body types with above average appreciation to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/20 06:09 AM |
| 1 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?Yes but being passive aggressive or just passive always works. Passivity is good in a way that he cant blame you. I always stay quiet when on a date and guys tell me i’m mysterious. If you dont like low effort dates or they suggest hookups, agree and dont show up. Never say no or dont complain. In extreme cases, i send police or send hookers. But i use fake number and fake name when using OLD. If you dont like something that LvM does, do the same thing- mirroring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 7 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDphysical features such as jawline, and how slim they are. better sense of fashion, the School they went to. I can distinguish almost accurately even though I'm East Asian. most white American guys have rounded jawline and its very obvious. If the guy is overweight, its always US men also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:53 PM |
| 1 | How to date men less smart than youIf you want to date high calibre man, you have to be smart and beautiful. I dont mind dating a guy who is less smart than me as i dated guys who were in Phd and still stupid in street smart sense. I would take good looking guy with good personality over smart guys at any time of the day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:55 PM |
| 24 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDI’ve been taken to fine dining or nice dates on OLD. But they’re not american men. If a guy suggests low effort date, agree and ghost. Tell them “ i found something about you and dont feel safe meeting you”. I’m in mid to late 20s and i dont date artist, freelance types. Those guys are never worth it. Phd Students? Nope. I dont date french, american, israeli and indian guys. Also i screen them with their degree. If he went to low end school, i swipe left. If they have photos which show their abs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 7 | Short Kings or Scrotes?I’m around same height as you but i only date tall guys. All my bf has been 6ft and up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 03:19 PM |
| 89 | Hookup/pickme culture in Emily in ParisAnnnnd.... most french men dont look like Gabriel on top of them being sleazy. Personally, french men are the worst among EU guys. At least that part is portrayed well in Emily in Paris. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:32 AM |
| 9 | Lets pour one out for our sisters who start interactions with men by saying they have a boyfriendI straight up pretend that they’re invisible. I had to call building security as the guy kept flirting with me. I act as if theyre invisible. I do the same thing continuously I lose my temper (but remain calm emotionally) and call someone who could really take care of the situation such as police or security. I find out his instagram or facebook and tag him and tag his friend and co workers and write lengthy situation on what happened and how he tried to harass me. I really take it to the next l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:23 AM |
| 21 | The unfortunately common “Madonna-whore complex” - a user friendly guideThats why i always act ljke innocent around men. It works. If they bring up something sexual, ask him to explain it to you. If he asks me to google it, i tell him that i want to hear the definition from his own words. Make him feel embarasded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:18 AM |
| 1 | *internal screaming, forever*Dont tell a man anything. Its in The Rules. Let him not do the toothbrushing and left to be toothless later on his life. If a guy is fat, you do not tell him to lose weight. He’ll probably get diabetes of some sorts later on his life and its his own loss. I had an ex who kept eating crap and his health went shit. I never told him anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:16 AM |
| 16 | I can't read relationship subreddits anymore...When i first read relationship posts on reddit i was shocked. I read relationship posts back in my country but women in general had more sanity and common sense. But i feel like girls on the relationship posts here in the US (i assume) are straightup dumb. I’m sorry but she is. Like why would you date someone with such a big age gap? I honestly dont get dating multiple people like open relationships which includes sex and paying half of the mortgage. Where are her parents? Doesnt anyone tell her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 03:07 AM |
| 4 | Is it just me or has negging become the default for men?When negging gets this severe, the guy needs to check into the hospital or get mri scanned for the brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolIts usually two things. The guys who feels insecure and is working at low end jobs or either ones who took too much of a pride. Just lie, lie and lie. Shera advises not to tell a ma something specific. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 08:29 PM |
| 8 | Woman gets negged by her husband and is wondering if she’s overreacting for being upset.Its always the short, fat or ugly men. My ex negged me for not doing my nails and my makeup. So i brought my big hand mirror and try to put foundation on his face. He got so mad and i told him if you want to do makeups and nails so badly, you could do it for yourself without telling me to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 08:00 PM |
| 34 | Woman gets negged by her husband and is wondering if she’s overreacting for being upset.My ex was slim but he had man boobs. I gifted him victorias secret bra infront of his friends. He was narc so he got so mad and his whole face reddened. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 07:57 PM |
| 3 | Wife benefits vs girlfriend benefitsMe too but personally, i’m against meeting a guy when he’s not in his best mood. I dont want to meet a guy when hes at his lowest. Most guys dont appreciate being taken care of later on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:11 PM |
| 18 | Is it just me or has negging become the default for men?What i noticed is negging is more prevalent feature among US and indian guys. If he negs, i take out my phone and swipe on tinder or call someone. BUT, before you do this, hold out your had infront of his face and tell him that “could you wait for a moment ?” And you di the following actions. THIS WILL hurt most persons ego. If he negs again, i innocently ask back acting like you dont know what he says. Lets say a guy tells you that you’re fat, you tell him that you’re aware of it and ask if he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:10 PM |
| 7 | Wife benefits vs girlfriend benefitsNo cooking for a guy. No taking care of the guy personally. If my bf gets sick, i send him sympathy texts and see him once, but thats all. If he’s sick, he should goto a doctor, not me. Also if a guy texts me he is sick, i don’t reply. This seems cruel to do so but later on, i tell him i didnt receive any text from him. If he goes yada yada I tell him i sent him sympathy texts (lie) but he must have not gotten it. Always put the blame on him or on the situation itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:00 PM |
| 9 | Wife benefits vs girlfriend benefitsWife benefits: sharing responsibilities Girlfriend benefits: emotional support and sometimes sex if the guy is hot and my type. I’m against traveling together unless the guy pays for everything and we use separate room. My time only if its once a week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:58 PM |
| 4 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?I’m not encourage cheating but i personally am all for dating multiple guys until married and keeping guys friend without bringing it up to him. So even if i’m in exclusive relationship, i’ll still go on dates but without having sex. Being very passive. I am aware that american or western culture encourages women to be more direct, but i strongly encourage women to speak less and be very passive in relationships and dating stage. Let him do all the work. Theres korean dating show and there was t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:46 PM |
| 7 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?I always ask the guy to get tested and show me the papers before having sex. If he insists he’s clean i’ll send him a hooker. Theres plenty in nyc... 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:44 PM |
| 3 | Your weekly reminder not to ever ask a man outIs he good looking? If not, he doesnt have the right to say that... 😅😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Men emphasize character because we understand male machiavellianism. Until women vet for character they will always have bad relationships.I think any sane woman will vet for character. Its just common sense. Would you date a rich, good looking guy if he made his net worth from exploiting from good hearted people or illegal things? I bet most wouldnt. But one thing i noticed, america guys and girls put way less importance on personal traits than where i’m from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/20 06:56 AM |
| 5 | PSA: If your boyfriend is only nice to people when they are serving his interests, he isn't nice.there's quote saying if you want to know trueself of someone to see how he treats someone he doesn't like or someone who he has no interests in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:46 AM |
| 8 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similartrue, what I noticed is LVM heavily relies on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 4 | Individual women cannot change who they are attracted to the way they change outfitsNot me. And if the physical attraction doesnt factor in, then i put other factor more. Let’s say im dating a guy and he physically isnt my type, then i expect him to have better personality and make more efforts in other parts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:28 PM |
| 5 | Individual women cannot change who they are attracted to the way they change outfitsWhy should i force myself to be attracted to someone who’s not good looking ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:06 PM |
| 7 | Shut down an LVM at work who tried to treat me like his personal secretaryI had something similar happen to me at work. I told my male co worker that i’d help him and never bothered till the deadline. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Another gem from IncelwithouthateIgnore ugly white american Look into guys net worth and his education His height matters Its always the US white guys (chad is american name) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Another gem from IncelwithouthateThey mean ethnic as in south asian, south east asian, probably hispanic girls literally women who are non white, non latina and non east asian. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:47 AM |
| 19 | Respect - A view on men who change it up after you reject a lowball offer/dateLet me tell you, when i put my best pics, not skin-showing bikini pics but pics that tell me i have a rich taste such as going to art basel, going to exclusive resorts, not a single man asked me for hookup nor cheap dates. Not a single man. THEY KNOW that girls like me wont respond to cheap dates. Its pick me shit and lame excuse saying guy didnt know better. Most guys know and they treat woman according to how she presents herself. If a guy suggests low effort date, i agree and dont show up at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:37 AM |
| 27 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarYes its always the lifting. I just laugh whenever the comment is about lifting in the redpill sub. If you only have butf muscles, the body looks very unbalanced. But redpillers think having burf body makes them attract more women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:31 AM |
| 18 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarUsually guys who coerces younger women into sex and using them and getting upperhand in relationships. You can just goto e/asktrp to look into what kind of posts and replies is posted regularly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 20 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarsame here. if a guy is short with 6 packs, he's just a short guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:50 PM |
| 22 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarI’m just not attracted. Its not xenophobic. Its called preference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:12 PM |
| 26 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarSame here. Guys dont know that most women dont care about 6 packs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:58 PM |
| 64 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarI usually let the guys do most of the talking, acting like i empathize and let them spill info about themselevs. If they ask where i live, i tell them very vaguely. Where im from? Tell them i’m from the states. With whom i live with? My family or my brother. About my ex? Tell them i only had one ex bf. Tell then very vaguely or something really generic so they cant pickup on anything. Also i barely show my negative emotions. I smile, act like i enjoy their company but then ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:23 PM |
| 35 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarIts american guys or either indian guys i noticed. But those two are the ones that i dont date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:16 PM |
| 51 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarYes i avoid bitcoin investor junkies. Its very obvious if you take a peek into their ig. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:42 PM |
| 3 | I recently posted one of these, and here's another. I didn't curate this at all, it is just the top of r/relationships today. And people wonder why women are gravitating towards FDS...I was actually shocked on all the advice on relationships sub. For real? I thought US culture was direct and progressive and some muslim country back in the 1900s. And whats with the age gap? 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Explaining your standards to men?If a guy is a size bigger than he’d next you. I’m short but i only date tall guys like over 6,1 to 6,3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 12:26 PM |
| 8 | Can We Talk About FDS Use of "Wife Privileges"?Do not add any single value in to his life until married. Absolute no’s - giving lectures, advice - sex (i dont give orals) - cleaning - laundry - any kind of advice which he could learn from (even if he wears cargo shorts, its his issue to fix it) I try to stay passive as possible when dating a guy. He plans the date, i listen to his stories and i never share whole details about myself. Date multiple guys so thar you wont be occupied with one guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:21 AM |
| 14 | Explicitly stating past trauma/personality is not an excuse for engaging in said behaviorShera talks about this. Before a guy bring this up, you punch the line first. G: I like humble girls, my ex was very materialistic But... if you’re smart, You tell him this first You: i like generous guys. Guys say they like low maintenance girls but i never seen a single guy who locked down low maintenance woman. If he brings up his trauma, act like you empathize but set your standards firm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:18 AM |
| 3 | Just a mini rant on boundary pushingHe screamed. It was long time ago. But my point is to not just let the guy touch all over you. I either walk away or do the same thing or grab his dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Just a mini rant on boundary pushingOne, you put your hand on back of his neck pretending like you’ll be giving him massage and actually twist his flesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:35 AM |
| 2 | WHY THE FUCK DO MEN ALWAYS BLAME WOMAN FOR CATFISHING WHEN THE ONE WHO CATFISH THE MOST ARE MEN.Was he american? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:37 AM |
| 3 | WHY THE FUCK DO MEN ALWAYS BLAME WOMAN FOR CATFISHING WHEN THE ONE WHO CATFISH THE MOST ARE MEN.Im asian and don’t date fat guys period. I usually only date slim guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAlso American men just have lot of mental issues. Either its because they came from ratchet household or internet or incel stuffs, it just is. I avoid American men like a plague. They’re not even attractive. Why date them? The only good looking american guys are usually the ones around late teens to early 20s. College athletes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Do you notice a higher concentration of HMV/LMV in certain cities/places?I always said one of the worst men is french men. But not as a men but just as a human they lack lot of morals. Theyre not even good looking guys as europeans. While american guys are direct and simple, parisian men are extremely sleazy. So in order to counteract that, you have to be more sleazy to outplay them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Dating in NYC vs TorontoYes spot on. I dont meet guys who dont live alone or have mediocre jobs in nyc. Also i wait a year for the sex to happen esp if i’m dating someone whos not from the same race. Just go on and meet guys and ghost them if they bring up sex or hookups. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husbandSame and it includes looks for me. Even if a guy does all hv things for me, if he’s not my type, hes just no one to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | "Going with the flow" is bsYes go with the flow but dont call him out and stay firm to your boundaries. Say yes and if you dont like his low effort, ghost on him or flake. Or mirror him. But tell him you’re going with the flow :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Should I leave him or can we work it out?Is he french? Anyways, i’m same age as you and id leave him. Guy should always pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 7 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolJust dont tell them everything or either lie to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:16 PM |
| 5 | Demi Lovato broke up with her narc fiancé and is living her absolute best life while he’s ‘crying’ on Instagram🧚🏼♀️In terms of career wise, she’s way out of her league. Both her and selena needs to date better guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:45 PM |
| 21 | How many men have actually given you orgasms?Thats why its important to have sex with someone you’re really attracted to. If you have money, would you go and buy cheap bag or designer bag? Treat yourself as high value and only sleep with someone you really like. Most guys are mediocre looking so i know that even if they go down on me or do other things, I wont be into them. Really good looking guys make me aroused without all the actual sex involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:45 PM |
| 10 | Radical Directness Feels AmazingTHIS. By giving lectures, you’re adding value to his life. He doesnt deserve it. But one thing is, i use mirroring in every stage of my dating life and act always vague. Funny thing js LVM go crazy on their own. The best way to fuck up someone is to make them go crazy on their own and sabotage oneself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Radical Directness Feels AmazingDo the same thing sis. Thats what i do. I had an american guy cancelled on me on last minute. And i did the same thing when he drove 2 hrs to see me. I always tell my female friends to never point out what the guy did wrong. You’re adding value to his life which is something i’ll never do. You do it by showing it in actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:06 PM |
| 7 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAmerica is known for dating multiple until youre exclusive but i’m sure most men cheat. But heres a way to counteract that. You date multiple guys. I always tell my friends that if you want to be gold digger, go for american men as they could be really stupid (low social IQ) than men of other nationalities i noticed. Americans in general are very gullible i noticed compared to east asians. They believe things very easily. Thats why when i go on date with someone i met on dating apps, i make sure… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:49 AM |
| 1 | What are some professions that have the most LVM/NVM?I dont know as she is friend of my friend but she wanted some connection and she ended up dating this guy who was harvard business graduate. So i felt like they were mutually using each other. But id never date someone like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:35 AM |
| 5 | One of the best things I’ve learned on FDS is asking a man to explain himself when he makes a dumb sexual joke. This was a quick unmatch.Andrew is ugly. Even by his profile pic, i can tell. Look at yourself in the mirror, Andrew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 5 | The fact that she feels the need to ask if she's an asshole...I would have chopped him off instead of the garlics. Any man with common sense wouldnt do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:10 AM |
| 2 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereyes I never date Indian men unless they're from u.k , the culture is too different from mine. but I feel like American culture makes people generally ugly. I'm sure its the food. because I noticed caucasian here have very different facial feature than the people in EU. Same with East Asians. I rarely find asian Americans attractive while back in my countries, guys actually put effort in their appearance. I can't wait to move out. of here. but then, U.S. is good for making money. so when I was su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:58 AM |
| 7 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI recommend you to not date American guy at all. personally if I were European, I'd never date American white guy. like guys there are hot at least. I live in nyc, and I rarely see hot guy unless I goto Brooklyn or soho where EU expats live. lot of my female friends say they don't find guys here attractive. even in my gym, equinox the good looking ones are always aren't from here. American guys are walking gmo foods; cheap price, cheap quality like why would you wear cargo shorts and baggy suits… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women heretotally agree. dating US men is easy when you are everything or at least hot. then they'll do everything for you and you can make them do everything while in other countries, it doesn't work that way. but funny thing is when the man himself isn't hot, he's looking for someone who's fit and hot. that's why I call it audacity as I think its really delusional for a guy over 20s to want someone who's not their equal/. but even when I'm all that, I don't want to date an American guy. I just find thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:42 AM |
| 5 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereinteresting because when I was traveling in Sweden, guys treated me super well. also in U.K. guys treated me really well. but here's the thing. I'm only attracted to EU guys and not attracted to American guys at all so I rarely dress up when I'm in New York. why should I when all I see is overweight guys...sigh... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?I eat really clean due to my adrenal related symptoms. I mostly fast and dont use plastic utensils. I’m korean so its must that women have good pale skin in my country. Always use spf, use retinol allover my body. Use spf on lips and hands. Cold shower. Use oils and vaseline at night. I use tretinoin, tca peel and some good facial oils for skin. I use olay serums and sheet masks also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:53 AM |
| 2 | How did you guys feel when your ex treated the next better than he treated you?If you read stories of serial killers who married few times, you’ll notice their habits never change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:50 AM |
| 2 | How did you guys feel when your ex treated the next better than he treated you?People dont change. But i noticed guys treat their ideal girl (in look wise) treat much better than their ex. Fds is against this idea but from what i’ve observed generally, guys treat the most beautiful girl they’ve dated the best. But still trash is trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:44 AM |
| 2 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backOh no but i know the restaurant you’re referring to :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:22 AM |
| 4 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereHonestly also, i wonder how american women date american men. I’ve dated high income guys to med students who were american but they’re just UNATTRACTIVE. most americans, even in nyc are fat. You never see tall slim and athletic guys. Thats why i only date american guys as sugardaddy. That’s what they’re good for. Generous when it comes to sex lol. If i was white american, i’d never have dated american guy. Like why? Theres way better looking guys outside of this country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:30 AM |
| 4 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI always tell my friends not to date white american men. Since they’re the most sought after in the states, they think they’re the king. If the guy offers you low effort date just be nice and agree and ghost on the last moment. Its easy. At least american men are stupid so they show their true colors very early on in dating. I personally would disagree on french men. They’re like snakes. And out of all European men i’ve dated, they’re the shortest and the smallest as on body frame. The real good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:43 PM |
| 30 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backI live in nyc and live alone in nice apt. The ratio plays huge favor to the guys so average joe here thinks he can be casanova and theres pickmes that cater to it. Anyone who traveled outside of the states would know that average joe is actually ugly joe anywere outside of the states. If a guy makes less $ than me, thats immediately next for me. But also good looking, well off guys refuse to settle looking for better next thing. Thats why its important to outplay them but dating multiples and ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:58 AM |
| 4 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYeah i find that funny also since most US men barely workout, and their workout consists of running on treadmill and lifting weights. In the redpill, they always tell guys to lift weights. Lifting weights is good but it doesnt make men attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:21 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYeah i laugh at myself looking back, but i was so curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 16 | To the frustrated woman still waiting for him to change: He won’t. An inside peak at their thought process....Yes thats why you dont fix a man, you choose the right one instead from the start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:17 AM |
| 14 | My profile mentions I’ve played tennis since I was a toddler.He’s mentally ill. Whenever I come across someone like him, i just pity them thinking they’re born with illness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:20 PM |
| 24 | To the frustrated woman still waiting for him to change: He won’t. An inside peak at their thought process....Theres a saying in my culture that person dont change period. You cant fix anyone but yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:12 PM |
| 17 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereGermany i believe. They can be cheap but at least respectful and naturally fit and tall. Moderately stylish and respectful of boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:54 PM |
| 22 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAt least men in UK are good looking, men in US are fat and ugly. If they’re fit, its usually bulging unattractive muscles. I never find american men attractive including Hollywood actors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:05 AM |
| 36 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYes i moved to the US and honestly men here treat women horribly. Worst than as how indian men treat women there. Things i noticed about american men White guys are the worst and entitled af Just because you’re white doesnt mean you’re better - goto EU where guys actually take good care of themselves. Here, guys do not have sense of style, rounded face and yes, i dont date guys from mediocre university. I dont care how expensive the tuition is here but if you didnt goto good school, for the love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:56 AM |
| 25 | Shout out to Ellen Pao, CEO of Reddit in 2014, first leader to ban revenge porn and unauthorized nude photos. Ellen Pao sued venture capital firm Kleiner Perkins for gender discrimination, and calls out companies like Pinterest for sexism in the workplace. Round of applause for an all around queen.I’m korean and sometimes astounded by the kind of content that is allowed to be shared on this platform. But then again i remember this is AMERICAN platform where incels frequent the most. And of all the guys i’ve encountered, american guys had the highest proportion of LVM. Thats why i avoid american whites like a plague. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Why do men generalise women based on nationality?As korean and living in the US, usually low tier korean guys do that. Low tier as in poor education, poor background with low income jobs. But we have a stereotype that white girls are easy. But its the same with white guys who fetishize asian girls. If i sense the guy is LVM, i tell that i’m american. And use fds rightaway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Just a mini rant on boundary pushingI did this to a guy. He tried to touch me again so i put my hands on back of his neck and squeezed it really hard until he screamed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:43 PM |
| 7 | Pickmes in nycoh, I'm sorry to hear. but I find most white and asian guys here ugly to be honest. too overweight and poorly dressed so sometimes I wonder how women here find men here attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:52 PM |
| 13 | Pickmes in nycYeah progressive in their career but lot of girls are pickmes in their dating life i realized. Thats my experience with friends who are american. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:54 PM |
| 2 | What are some professions that have the most LVM/NVM?Thats interesting. I live in nyc and i felt like finance guys i met were extremely sleazy and sociopathic. Most were using red pill tactics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 06:26 PM |
| 26 | What are some professions that have the most LVM/NVM?These type of guys keep excel sheets of female theyve slept with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:59 AM |
| -7 | Racial fetishization and pedophilia. He wonders if he should learn to speak Chinese so he can have a better chance of targeting women that have the body type of school boys. Reddit is a cesspool of depraved LVMsSo asian girls dont like typical muscular white guys. I live in major city in the US and the type of white guys that most americanized asian date are LEFTOVER white guys. Yeah leftover as in type of white guys that white girls ignored and refuse to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:10 PM |
| 6 | My LV ex crept back in to my life to suggest we sign an agreement, with actual terms, to be friends with benefits...Agree to meet him and ghost | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:07 PM |
| 3 | Dating a guy who seems hvm but physically not your type?Thanks for your genuine advice. I dont know if its me or the nyc, but most good looking guys in nyc arent looking for something serious. Also im not into american guys so i only date koreans from korea, chinese from china or European expats. But as i’ve done LDR in the past, and the struggles i tend to avoid them. Yes and OLD the hardest part is you never truly know what kind of values they have as they could lie and mask their true selves there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:23 PM |
| 5 | A HVM will cut off contact with their ex if it makes you uncomfortableYeah next time, if some guys does this to you, do the same thing. The day i found out that my ex went out with his female friend, i downloaded tinder and went out with a guy. Whats his (audacity) is yours also. So do the exact same thing. Men do not learn things in verbal words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:15 PM |
| 4 | Dating a guy who seems hvm but physically not your type?Yes i was never attracted to alternative types ad so called popular actors. Not into guys with tattoos or have gym bodies or certain race. Not into guys who work in arts as they’re emotionally too sensitive. Not into guys who have red hair or pale. So i divide guys i’m dating into 2 groups Group A Good looking guys Group B Have good education Good job And makes over certain amount who can treat me things But i wont be having sex with them as i’m not attracted to them unless we’re engaged | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:58 PM |
| 14 | Dating as asia FDSerPersonally i dont prefer white guys who grew up around asians. I prefer someone who grewup around their race. And as korean i agree that standards are pretty high in korea. A girl must have good education (top uni) comes from non divorced family dress modestly pale skinny ( size 0 in US size or smaller) tall shouldnt have dated foreign guys in the past as if she did, most guys would think she’d be slutty And this is considered stacy in korea. Literally over 90% of so called asian american ig inf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:38 PM |
| 4 | Dating a guy who seems hvm but physically not your type?Its usually the ugly guys that have the audacity. Check out the tinder convo i had yesterday with this LVM. All he asks about is where i work. I deleted my school and work after this. https://imgur.com/gallery/IoWres9 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 36 | Dating as asia FDSerTbh white guys who have dated mostly east asian girls are all LVM. Its very rare to see an exception. And among these guys majority are american whites. Hence i never date white americans. But american guys are good that they pay everything mostly. I’ve met numerous socalled ivy leagued 6 figure jobs LvMs who had asian fetish. They had few things in common considered unattractive by their own race of women usually too skinny or overweight doesnt dress well -american whites Even in my nyc apt, i … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 11:47 AM |
| 7 | Dating as asia FDSerHmmm. Tbh i’m not sure but usually as korean, all my rich and well educated korean friends from korea dated only koreans. Thats with any other race i think. People on the top of the society status usually date within their own race i think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 08:58 AM |
| 5 | Dont ever ignore the gut instinctYour ex was a psycho. I assumed my ex was cheating and joined tinder and went out with a guy that day. I now realized not to blame guys but rather mimic the same things. I think thats why having multiple guy is important even in exclusive relationships as its important to not focus on just one guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 11:08 PM |
| 14 | How is it ethical from any perspective?In asia, at least in East, practicing open relationship is automatically lvm thing to do. He kust self proclaimed that he’s LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Sharing a drink and wanting her to buy him bubblegumMost german guys I’ve met treated me really well. But some were cheap. But not like this. I’d have backed of saying nein nein as soon as i met him for being late. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:04 PM |
| 22 | OLD strategy for unacceptable datesFunny thing is i put my classy pics wearing expensive clothes taken in exotic places, thats when i got offered nice and real dates. Funny how dumb LVMs are so good at compartmentalizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:33 AM |
| 113 | A HVM will cut off contact with their ex if it makes you uncomfortableThings i dont understand in western culture of dating keeping ex as friends having female friends and being cool about it when clearly she’s not his female friend hookup culture sending nudes moving in together before marriage having sex on first day of meeting onlyfans being normalized (only online as no one that i know of is aware of things like onlyfans) Its not even HvM or not when a guy cant cut off his ex. He’s NVM. Just like how some guy cant helpnhave female friends. If a guy does this t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Pay attention to the relationship his parent’s have, and the relationship he has with his parents.I always told this to my friends that its very rare from HVM to happen in abusive and toxic family environment. I immediately next all the guys who was abused by their family members. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:40 PM |
| 10 | Do NOT blame yourself after getting ghosted after a first or second date!Just text him saying you’d like to meet him for third date as sex and ghost on him when he arrives in the date place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:24 PM |
| 6 | I hate how normalized sex isWhen i moved to the west, i was so surprised at how prevalent hookup culture is. Theres no gain for women from this culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 04:52 PM |
| 8 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsYou dont have to sleep with the guys you meet on OLD. I met many guys whom i talked for weeks and they’re willing to wait for me when i got prettier. I weed out most of them and went on date with those who were left, it was good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 04:14 PM |
| 16 | Why "walk dates" are a thing on OLD and why they should be trashed every single time.Agree on a walk date and ghost. I never unmatch but agree on the dates that i dont like and just flake. I dont want them to learn anything from me so i just flake making them wonder what happeneed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Another reason NOT to accept drinks dates.I rarely get drunk so most guys black out before i get drunk. My first OLD date, I called uber with his phone and sent him back home to where he belongs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:02 AM |
| 7 | Why do men online always have such a negative reaction/hangups over dinner dates?? Yet they want to meet you ASAPIf you have high quality classy pics, i noticed that guys take me out to dinner far more. Also agree on a date and ghost him. I never say no to a guy, my no=ghosting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Do not date "newly single" or "recently separated" men. You are not an emotional support animal.If newly single guy tries emotional support bs with me, i always make sure that i treat them as emotional trash dumpster. I let out all my stress at work and complain, complain and complain... if the guy brings up his ex, just next him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 09:49 AM |
| 2 | Research on pedophilia is increasingly showing us that exposure to porn and pedophilia have strong connections. This is part of why there are so many more male pedophiles, as men are socialized to use pornI agree. I hate to say this but for this reason i do not date a guy whos been abused in the padt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:05 AM |
| 1 | There is a double standard when it comes to cosmetic enhancement because natural selectionNot my cup of tea. I only dated genetically gifted guys and even if they had some imperfections, i prefer the guy to embrace it. As korean, i never liked kpop guys due to surgeries and too feminine looking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/20 08:23 PM |
| 1 | New to the sub - thanks for support;)My ex came up with lame apology which in the end meant i was the one with the issues. So going forward, i dont date a guy unless he spends$$ on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:18 PM |
| 1 | New to the sub - thanks for support;)Some people have really low EQ. But with him, i think he’s very aware of his actions and do not care at all. Ghost on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Dear Ladies & Anyone Reading This - Stop letting the men around you get away with EVERYTHING & ANYTHING, PLEASE.Issue is most of the times north american men arent better looking than european guys or guys that arent north americans. Lot of them are fat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:36 AM |
| 2 | Dear Ladies & Anyone Reading This - Stop letting the men around you get away with EVERYTHING & ANYTHING, PLEASE.So true. I wrote a post of not dating american guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:34 AM |
| 1 | What do most of you do on dates that requires planning?My first dates are usually in upscale bars or restaurants. If the guy suggests low end place, i just ghost. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/20 01:59 AM |
| 2 | New to the sub - thanks for support;)You should have texted NMB(= not my business) when he mentioned regarding fail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:14 PM |
| 5 | Stumbled across this exchange.. typical LVM reacting to a rejection 😂Yes its always the indian guys thats why i 100% refuse to date indian guys. No wonder they’re onf of the least sough after ethnicity for dating in US. And also it was the ugly ones thinking that their redpill strategy works. This is why i say, “i’d like to meet you but my work’s been holding me lately.” He’ll keep waiting and waiting to realize that he’s been blocked. Then block. Also do not eveegive out real number. Use google voice number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Am I too sensitive?Block him. Does he have a brain? Some guys, i wonder if they have IQ of two digits. When guys gaslights you, you do the same and block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:36 AM |
| 2 | Male (7 years older) wants me to go visit him in different state that’s in lockdown.Girl. You should have said yes and ghosted on him. Waste his $$$. I did this once and the guy was furious. But he also didnt know my real name or age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, do you use dating apps?If you want to meet variety of guys yes. But guys i met later revealed later down the road that they were LvMs no matter educated or good looking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Be difficult for abusers to loveIf you dont mind me asking, your ex husband’s ex is she german? My ex was middle eastern and i’m east asian and he had a thing for blonde or russian girls. After that i do not date guys from middle east at all. Also | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:13 AM |
| 4 | Am I just a bitch? The amount of times he mentioned my school drive me bananas. I think I may just suck at this online dating thing.I’ve had some guys swipe on me because of my degree and they were still LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:04 AM |
| 1 | Am I just being a prude or is this too much for someone who has only spoken to me for 5 minutes? #datingwhenyoure30If i were you, id write “so what”, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:02 AM |
| 20 | What is your experience with “women’s intuition?”Its 100%. Lets say a young girl doesnt know anything about the rules or fds handbook, the best thing she could do is trust her instinct. Also i avoid guys wherher good looking or not, the ones who have hazy eyes? Their gaze is very blurry like drug addicts or half awoke person. The other commenter mentioned = cold eyes. Usually these guys are LVMs. They say eyes are windows to persons souls and thats one thing you cant change with surgery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 09:20 AM |
| 7 | Thank you, ladies. I told a man to fuck off for the very first time and feel incredible.He should have gone to therapist not on dates. 😂 no wonder he’s separated from his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Do any of you just sit still and listen during the date ?Rules def worked for me but also being passive helped me alot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:16 PM |
| 2 | DatingThings i vet for Physiology ( look/examine their eyes and their gaze) Upbringing Their OlD profiles and the types of photos they put on Education Grammar and choices of words Attire How they talk about other women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot handle me now that I’m not a pick mePickmes will learn it in their own way. Always try to delay responses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:51 PM |
| 0 | Do any of you just sit still and listen during the date ?Why is it wrong? Ofc i use my fake name/age on OLD. If the guy asks to come over and comes off as rude this is what i do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Do any of you just sit still and listen during the date ?Yes and i think it should still be the same after marriage and relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:55 AM |
| 3 | The notion that attractive women only go for 'chads' in their 20's and settle for ambitious 'beta's' when they hit the wall is a lie. It puts the blame of bad male behavior on women and also doubles as a narrative where single women are punished for not choosing LVM (the narrators) in the 1st place.Agreed fully. I only go for genetically gifted in looks guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:02 AM |
| 4 | The notion that attractive women only go for 'chads' in their 20's and settle for ambitious 'beta's' when they hit the wall is a lie. It puts the blame of bad male behavior on women and also doubles as a narrative where single women are punished for not choosing LVM (the narrators) in the 1st place.IME, uggos need to play games for sex. While for good looking guys it just happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:58 AM |
| 2 | Whats your non fds standards ?Personally ultimately i prefer guy with no social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:08 AM |
| 3 | Whats your non fds standards ?Yeah same here personally. Bc i found guys who are white collar jobs who were really dumb and had their knowledge limited to books and variable cases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Whats your non fds standards ?Its not the standard of beauty and no race is superior or better than others. Lot of women and sub here in reddit rave Eurocentric beauty standards and i feel sad that lot of young girls are taught to believe that they are less beautiful than others. Because its not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Whats your non fds standards ?Not really. I prefer soneone of my race. East asians as i resonate to them more. I think you’re making pretty big assumptions here. I never said some race are seemed less than others. Thats what you said in your comment. I never mentioned i find blonde hair and blue eyes beautiful in any of my comments. In fact, i never dated one. I grew up with east asians and i just find them more attractive. I think you should think of your harmful ideology first before you make hefty assumptions thinking i t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Whats your non fds standards ?Its not racist i just dont prefer their looks over other ethnicities or race. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:47 PM |
| 0 | Whats your non fds standards ?Personally i’m not attracted to their appearance and regarding indian guys i find them too aggressive and extremely sly for my liking. For people who’s saying i’m racist everyone has preferences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend of three years still refuses to give me his passcode to his phone. Is this a red flag?What i did was i peeked at his phone when he was typing in the passiword. I took his phone while he was in kitchen or somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Be honest: Males and females with no kids do you automatically disqualify someone if you find out they have a kid?Yes. I’m just surprised how American culture is way too accepting of this. Of course people can have kids and get divorced but having kids before 20s? Early 20s? What were you doing at school? Also why should i date someone with kids when i don’t have one. Kids are cute but they come with huge responsibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 11:09 AM |
| 3 | Told him I wasn't comfortable riding his bike on our first date, he accuses me of "baiting" himReport him. Thats why you dont swipe on guys with motorcycles. It consists of their entire identity. Agree to go on a date with him and ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:58 AM |
| 9 | Whats your non fds standards ?They like to do the talk&talk without actions.! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:42 AM |
| 9 | Know it all dummiesThats what dumb people do. Have you noticed stupid people talk alot? They donnot listen and wont shut up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:25 AM |
| 0 | Just another 3 decade age gap. Nothing new under the sunBrad’s gf is married to 70? Indont understand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Just another 3 decade age gap. Nothing new under the sunAt least he’s rich. Most old men arent like brad pitt. So you cannot make use of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:04 AM |
| 14 | He said I was too difficultYou do not confront LVM or NVM. Just mirror him and act like youre texting other guys and hide your phone when he comes in. Or ghost on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:46 AM |
| 66 | Why 50-50 men make undesirable partners: The hidden ugliness of the 'equality' mindsetwhen he expects 50/50 let him pay full and tell him you like taking rounds. tell him that you'll pay next time and ghost on him. thats what you do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:44 PM |
| 18 | A pathetic, LVM method of "asking" a woman out on a "date"Agree on a date and ghost him. Thats what i do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?Yeah met french israeli guy once and he was ugly af. Respectful but sleazy, had smallest dick ive ever seen and way overweight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Fetishizing a race is so gross, dehumanizing, and insulting. No woman wants to hear that you find her attractive because your depraved ass thinks she looks like a "small boy going to soccer practice." So gross and so sorry to my other sisters out here being fetishized like a porn-hub category.Just put white guys on stricter standards. Do not meet guys who didnt goto certain schools or certain careers which is lucrative. Usuallythese LVMs are bad at sports or overweight or scrawny so go for athletic whites. I strongly suggest to avoid american whites. Literally too overweight no sense of fashion and what dressing up properly means. Good looking whites are usually from EU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:42 AM |
| 3 | All the comments were a variation of “WeLl HoLd On, iT’s NoT nEcEsSaRiLy FeTiShIsAtIon” - the bar truly is in hellFetishize him in reverse. Tell him how you like white guys big fat wallet and his white dick lol. If a guy this to me, he is immediately downgraded to walking $$ to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:35 AM |
| 3 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslyI understand but i was just stating my reasonings. Ofc some guys are shitty no matter how they were brought up. But im talking based on my experiences and probabilities. Therefore i refuse to date a guy who had unstable childhood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:23 AM |
| -1 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslyYes but again, i refuse to date guys from single moms. Everyone has different standards and preferences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:21 AM |
| 0 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslysure but I think ppl misinterpret my post as coming from 2 parents = spoiled. I'm not talking about affluent 2 parents household. I'm talking about whether the guy was brought up with love from good mother and father figure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:42 AM |
| -6 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslyI’m not demonizing single moms but i stated i do not want to date a guy who was raised by single moms instead of 2 parents in stable environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:18 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on Bella Thorne making $1 million USD on onlyfanshttps://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2020/08/26/bella-thornes-onlyfans-debut-a-contrast-to-disney-bestie-zendayas-career/amp/ I think their different path has to do with their upbringing. Its different from normal people but someone who works in entertainment industry couldt let go of hefty $$ they used to make and how she curved her-bella thorne image, im sure she wasnt getting lot of brand deals and casting roles. So she took up opportunity for easy money. That and also how unstable childho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/20 08:33 PM |
| 8 | What are the little red flags you look back on and realize you should have paid more attention to?I dont date guys who had been abused by their parents or been bullied at school. They always had ego and self esteem issues which portrayed by abusing their partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:30 AM |
| 4 | Physically, what is your type and how easily have you been able to get into STR/LTR with those men?Physical Over 6,1 Slim with wide shoulders Have defined jawlines Looks young Its been relatively easy but i wouldnt say these men were men of quality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 09:31 PM |
| 25 | Had a conversation with a male friend today that confirmed FDS strategiesThis is 90% of the men. Thats why withholding sex is important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:52 AM |
| 13 | Fds has my block finger strong. Even asking annoys me.Why ask out on andate when he can just save his money. Thats what i tell guys. These guys are immediate LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Some of these men have deep rooted misogyny, and a superiority complex that outshines the sun. The delusion level on this one is also alarming 🚨This mostly happens in SEA and what they dont know is high class SEA woman dont marry whites. If you’re uneducated low income guy back in your country its the same here. I never liked army guy. When you marry outside of race esp whites see which uni he went to and how its considered in his country is he rich? how are his family? is he well perceived by woman in his own culture? check his past gf mostly use him as $$ as much as possible | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?I wonder why theyre like that. Partly i’m glad i used tinder as in the future i wont ever be getting together with north american guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?too emotionally expressing. when you're old enough you need to contain your feelings but I found them too aggressive for my liking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 08:19 PM |
| 3 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?yeah totally agree! I mean how could you have beer belly at 20s? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:50 PM |
| 7 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?Yeah i sympathize with this and not proud of it as korean woman. They think foreign (western white) are easy and its common stereotype. Thats why lots of korean men refuse to date korean girl who had dated white guy in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?Oh god my worst ex was saudi. He bowed to the god few times a day... for what? Honestly i wanted to ask their parents why they kept hving sex and bearing a child if they cant even raise one son properly ( he had 7 other siblings) and mostly in saudi lot of things are tax free so usually i heard what you earn is 100% yours. I honestly wanted to question his mom and dad. Some delusional people they are... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?Didnt know but i’ll keep that noted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:19 PM |
| 7 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?I find them not my taste physically so i only went on dates with 2 of indian guys thats all as i value physical attractiveness. Lot of guys lack on those depts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 02:11 PM |
| 6 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?So true. I never dated them seriously or went something further than 2-3 dates but from what i heard they really have low morality. Catcalling happens so often here in nyc or so called eyefucking strange women. Its disgusting. Also i find them mostly too overweight for my taste. Usually they’re couple inches shorter than EU whites i noticed. I wonder if its diet or something but shorter with small shoulders. And jawline is so different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 10:42 AM |
| 6 | Any women here who dont get along with certain ethnicities?I live in nyc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 02:11 AM |
| 1 | According to European and general male logic, if you're perceived as "ugly," you're not allowed to have standards and self respect.Yeah i heard that all the time from my european co workers. Mostly males. I had to think about it from outer perspective as i’m not american nor european. Here in the states any of kind of shaming belittling is so prevalent compared to EU. And yes i feel the same way about american men. Theyre less educated and less attractive but i think its due to cost of education here. To get good education here it costs millions and generally Americans are fat backed by numerous research. The good food here… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:47 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone’s boyfriend pay their rent/bills?Yeah HV isnt rich men. Guy with bad morals is bad guy no matter what. They can be sociopathic for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:51 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone’s boyfriend pay their rent/bills?So i think it can be dangerous. Because its likely youncan be beta in relationship. I had a guy paid for my rent in terms of living in his luxury apt and i really felt anxious at the time passed as i felt like i didnt have enough free time? If this makes sense. I couldn’t just randomly go out at night or on weekends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:49 AM |
| 2 | LVM on CMB with 1 Pic trying to call me fat. Thank goodness I am well trained in FDS.Tell him youre right and report him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:13 PM |
| 4 | Is it just me, or is most couples' advice from therapists/psychologists/counselors just goddamn AWFUL for women??Yeah sometimes i wonder how they got their degree. My therapist attended columbia u and her advice was so generic. The best advice i could give to relationships and dating subs are cut him off. After FDS and fully absorbing it, i just ghost on every guy if convo doesn’t well. When i told her of my PTSD and how abusive my ex was she gave me generic advice. Thats wheni realixed its better to educate myself and lookout for myself rather than going therapy. I hate that norm for Americans is to goto … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:01 PM |
| 3 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?One thing i read was that for women its either or not when it comes to dating a guy. Guy can date and future fake someone who’s not her type and then dump her when girl of her dreams comes along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:49 PM |
| 7 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?Thats why FDS is crucial. Im sure there are abusive women just like men in dating world also but mostly its men. Women can be emotionally vulnerable while men are less likely to do so. So they know future faking and faking romance could get them very far and herding all the benefits. I actually read into asktrp rules to gauge the guys i meet on online. Surprisingly lot of guys who seem nice follow redpill rules and FDS works like an armour for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:44 PM |
| 3 | What’s something that you did with good intention, too early for a man, and now look back in it with so much regret?I did the same thing as OP but when relationship went downhill, i stole his passport and ran away. He’d always mention his female friend and after a year he came back wanting to talk and i told him to talk to his female friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:02 AM |
| 5 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Go on coffee dates and friendzone him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:00 AM |
| -1 | Guy spends days talking about plans Sunday to go for an early run and then brunch. Saturday he stops responding to my inquiries about time and place at 1:30pm. Sunday morning expects me to jump to fulfil non-plans. Thoughts?One thing i realized is they dont do this with girl they seem valuable. Sorry to break it to OP but he didn’t like you that much. When i lost weight and put better pics on tinder guys never breadcrumbed me or did this. They asked me if i’m available on weekends and set time and date and showed up. I’m sure that guy would have canceled on you if girl of his type came along. Regardless his manners show he is pos. I wouldn’t even do this to anyone. When a guy did this to me once, i said yes to his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:43 AM |
| 35 | Where's The Lie Though?They say they like down to earth simple girls but my friend who loves designer clothing and apparently rich gets swiped by every hot guy on tinder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:02 PM |
| 14 | I'm an Asian woman and I have given up on white and Asian men.Late reply but yes. As korean can confirm this. My friends and i went to EU trip when we were incollege and first few things that they said was it was surprising at how theres average white girl + hot white guy couples while in korea guy being hotter than the girl is almost non existent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:09 PM |
| 13 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.So to say it as korean who was brought up in korea, The thing is korean men dont take foreign women seriously just like white guys dont take asian women seriously. In korea, marriages matter lot of social class so your educational background, family background, your looks such as height and face matters alot. Personally i never had issues dating korean guys i as i can see bs very quickly and stay in certain social circles but its true that lot of things are lacking compared to more developed cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 03:28 PM |
| 9 | I am... appalledthis made me laugh so hard. one of the most stupid things I've heard in few months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 10:04 AM |
| 3 | Do you meet more quality guys compared to east coast?Oh thanks for the detailed advice. I felt like i got along more easily with guys from the other states than east coast as they always had entitled attitude that i have to do things for them. Typical chasing, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:55 AM |
| 8 | I'm an Asian woman and I have given up on white and Asian men.I forgot to add, there was this girl in my neighborhood who stole my package. She was Chinese and was living with white guy. The white guy looked like literal hobbit from the lord of the rings. So i’d say to my asian sisters if you cant get a good lookig white guy, at least go for guy who is rich. Look at wendy deng. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:03 AM |
| 13 | I'm an Asian woman and I have given up on white and Asian men.I’ll comment on this regardless whether the guy is good looking or not i’d say to go for rich white guys at least. Use them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 03:56 AM |
| 3 | How do you find the state of modern dating and "hookup culture"Personally thats one of the things that shocked me when i moved to the states. Its not about having sex but its about the risk that comes with it. Sex diseases and what if the guy is a criminal? If you notice it lot of serial criminals find their victims through online apps or websites. I always wondered how people can have sex so easily. I’m east asian and for this very reason (hookup culture partly) is that when korean guys think of western girls they label them as promiscuous and easy. But i … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:07 PM |
| 2 | American dating style?Truth is when i go on a date prior to knowing the guy isnt my type, i dont have that excitement going on for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 11:54 PM |
| 1 | American dating style?Well i’m not attracted to conventionally good looking men. So its really hard to find a guy i really like and is my type. My type is skinny, tall with wide shoulder and thin long fingers and i’ve only met only 1 guy who fits all to my standardss. Sadly he’s not from the states. He also always have poker face as i’m not drawn into guys who reveal all their emotions on facial expression. I’m from korea so we dont have culture of being so expressive and its really a huge turn off when a guy cant hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Did anyone else struggle with creeps because of your baby-face?Yes and i’m also east asian. Creeps especially white american guys. What i do is wearing expensive formal not revealing clothes. It def keeps the creeps away. They know that im rich and have expensive taste. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:56 AM |
| 1 | What is your action plan for getting out of a date early? / Why you definitely need one.I tell them that I have plans, have to goto bed early or tell them I have to use take the phone call saying I'll be out talking on the phone and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupYeah most LvM if they’re old and in suburbs they goto south east asia to find a wife. Like 18yr old wife. These poor girls are sold to these guys in exchange of money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupWhen i moved to the states i was so surprised at how so many LvM are here compared to korea. Then i realized i used OLD to meet these guys in the states while in korea i met guys in real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Be careful of married man on OLDAlso to add imagine your long term bf or husband doing this behind your back on OLd when you have kids together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupWell in korean culture, family environment influences you alot. That is why i never date guys from abusive environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupWhite guys in general are more attractive i think. I’m really against dating american guys as they’re too chubby for my taste with rounded jawlines but when i was working in thailand, some european white guys are extremely attractive. First, most of them are tall and slim and they know how to wear proper suits. But i’m not even attracted to any American actors except will smith and tom cruise. I wish guys should be bodyshamed more in the states so that they know that buling gym made muscles is c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Definite red flags after dating in 20sYeah but i dont want to compromise. I feel sorry that these guys couldt choose the environment but doesnt mean i have to date them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Be careful of married man on OLDHe’s lawyer. I looked it up and he was licensed. He’s on avvo.com | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Be careful of married man on OLDHe couldn’t even use fake name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Be careful of married man on OLDLuckily i’m extremely proficient in digging up the guy’s info. Guys i met usually are direct and i respect that. But its extremely common among American men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Definite red flags after dating in 20sI’m korean and i dont like the idea of my future husband having lived with other girl. And thats how it is considered here. Regarding financial stability, im talking of general situations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupYeah its different kind of shit test for sure. In korea lot of things can be considered flaw. Divorced parents? Nope Parents with disability? Nope Degree from low end uni? Nope Short and chubby? Nope Dark skin? Nope Etc And theres hvm here but you never know until you get married to find out you married to LVMㅋ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:28 AM |
| 7 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupYeah some of my korean friends who has good careers says they never want to get married and i do too. After my last relationship i realized the cost of being in relationship. I’m not talking about monetary loss but emotional cost. Most ppl dont realize that sometimes highs and the lows that come in during and after relationship. Also i rarely seen good looking white guy marry korea guys. Most asian girls think her husband his handsome but they’re not. I was soooo surprised when in the states tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:15 AM |
| 2 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupSo true. If i told my korean bf that i used to date white guy, most guys would breakup with me instantly. Thats why i was really hesitate to progress the relationship when dating foreigners. I felt like i’d be contaminated to say it extremely. To be blunt, i dont like american man but i really do like central or northern european as they’re more quiet and athletic body types turn me on as lot of korean guys usually are tall and not well groomed. If i married a korean guy, i have to fit into cert… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:02 AM |
| 6 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupYeah because they make more money on youtube and even if they wanted to be employed, they couldnt. How could they? Its really hard to get a job in korea unless degree from prestigious uni (the reason why i studied my youth off) and with actual skills. For example, soccer player park ju ho is hVM and he’s rich on his own as he makes good money with his career and treats his wife well. But that’s rare. And his wife is obviously HVF. If you see both of their parents, their parents are High value an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:55 AM |
| 5 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupWould that word be <fake> ? Korean guys ask too many private questions sometimes or can be very fake. They judge alot on looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:47 AM |
| 7 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupSo true. Sadly, all my koreans friends who came from rich family with good education, even when they living/lived abroad like in the states 100% only marry Koreans. Its the same with korean guys. I dont think they view foreigners seriously. Just like white guys fetishize asian girls its the same with asian guys. Except korean guys hate hate and more blunt about hating certain body types and beauty. First, status matter and family background matters as koreans tend to think ones personality comes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:40 AM |
| 11 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupI can make objective comment on here as south korean born and raised. Korea is very xenophobic and competitive country. What these LVM dont get is Korean High value female KNOW that they’re losers. Korea girls are not naive. The difference is we do not voice our perspective. Like do any of my korean friends consider dating english teachers who come to korea to teach? I dont think so. Because we have this stereotype that they came here as they couldnt find a job in their own country. We put high … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:34 AM |
| 21 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupSame here. Lot of western-man assumed that i’m naive asian girl who only lived in my country and moved to the states. When they find out i grew up in multiple country in international and boarding school surrounded by other western students, they seem shocked. Because they know that i dont view 4 guy as 9 just because they’re in asia. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:24 AM |
| 16 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupI read on the redpill similar topic to this. Its true that lot of asian girls esp ones from developing countries have white worshipping culture. But that doesnt give these lvm to be predators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:22 AM |
| 3 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansLooks matter alot but in korea, we’re more direct about it. Standards are different from the states. Even with guys here, if they date caucasians, they wouldnt necessarily prefer american girls. They’d prefer slavic girls qs they’re more pale, slim and has doll like delicate features. Even with korean girls, standards are more gear towards slim, pale, feminine face (baby face) not too strong jawline. Most guys in korea prefer female celebs like Suzy and IU for a reason. They seem docile, pure an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 7 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansYeah i’m korean and i was treated really well with korean guys. But heres the thing. Korean guys are very look oriented so when i was overweight i was practically invisible. But if youre pretty you’re treated like a queen. But theres LVM everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 06:03 AM |
| 3 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.Definitely. Once you have kids, and have responsible matters that are real serious you’ll know that money does dictate almost everything in life. No only that but you have to see how he keeps his place. Is it organized and clean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:12 AM |
| 19 | LVM dress low valueHe’s American right? I’d just walk out if i were you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 5 | Gaslighting: Table for 3Its always 100% north American guys that slyly about their height. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:23 PM |
| 25 | this keeps happening to me.I tell guys I'm here to meet people. but in this case, this guy should be reported as it goes against hinge's policy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:35 AM |
| 1 | These men really have that much audacity...These kind of guys only exist in the states. How can someone be so ugly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:24 AM |
| 2 | how do i respond to "what are you on here for?"Be vague. Just to see whats out there. Do not ever tell them anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:23 AM |
| 2 | Is this method really effective?Ugly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:59 AM |
| 0 | What is the right gesture of sympathy in early stages of dating?Dont do anything. I just let him grieve on his own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Sicko of the day award goes to Randy (: Why cant you be 10x younger???Just ignore them. They’re elderly so im nice to them but remember these LVM would be in ICU or buried in ground in 10years. Have to show sympathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Sicko of the day award goes to Randy (: Why cant you be 10x younger???I just report them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Sicko of the day award goes to Randy (: Why cant you be 10x younger???Randy will be dead in 10years anyway.RIP Randy considering he looks like he’s in 70s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:35 PM |
| 2 | The guy I was dating gaslighted me about my own boundary regarding Instagram ModelsJust remind yourself that these guys arent guys that you will be with when youre in 50s or 70s. People come and go and lvm like this barely shouldnt make a dent in your life. What works for me the best is ghost on them and PRETEND that i didn’t receive any text from them blaming on their phone connection even when i purposely not reply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:04 PM |
| 21 | The guy I was dating gaslighted me about my own boundary regarding Instagram ModelsI hope i can give you realistic advice. My ex did this to me with his female friend. Whenever this happens i have trauma and my body temperature rises as it reminds me of all the memories. So when i come across a guy doing this, during date i look at other guys or bring up other guys 100% to make sure i MIRROR him. Or do things he has trauma for. Then ghost him. He had audacity to cross your boundaries so when he does that, completely remove romantic feelings for him instead treat him as POS and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:16 PM |
| 6 | I kicked someone I was dating to the curb due to his inconsistent behavior and game playingYou did the right thing. Ghost on him and never respond to any of his texts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 10:13 AM |
| 22 | LVM makes gf have sex with his two friends then treats her like shit and manipulates her because of itTheres a word for him for guys like that in korean. 미친새끼. It means fucktard. Cant even followup with this guys logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 10:07 AM |
| 8 | Don’t let any man waste your time, no matter how short.Guys suggesting places for his own convenience is hard no. Lets say a guy lives in upper east in nyc I suggest place in downtown to see how much effort he’ll make. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 10:05 AM |
| 27 | Don’t let any man waste your time, no matter how short.Sis, just let him initiate another date and ghost on him just like other FDSer did. Let HIM wait an hour just like he did to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:06 AM |
| 6 | Being feminine on fds mindsetmy perspective is, in modern day its well encouraged for young girls to be assertive and take equal part in relationships. but those stigma should be shunned. first, most guys do not appreciate assertive and women who do 50/50. they use it as an excuse for them to do nothing or bare minimum at most. being passive was hard as it takes alot of effort to stay control of my feelings but I try to stay present and date multiple guys if I can so that I have this abundance mindset. just realize in life,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:41 AM |
| 8 | Being feminine on fds mindsetI got attention from scrotes as i was overweight and i had baby face along with being east asian This all stopped when i stopped wearing in my best self and lost weight. And for me, LVM arent human, they’re literally invisible to me. At my work, i avoid most guys unless i work with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:01 PM |
| 9 | I love men who are 5’7” who neg on dating apps! I’m physically way out of his league and this is his approach.I had guys like this on their bio ‘not looking for anything serious’. I just laugh. Even if he was looking for something serious, no one would care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:49 AM |
| 1 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.Dont block him but... Continue seeing each other and tell him you’re exclusive. Its not cheating as youre not in relationship. I did this few times and guys went clingy and kept asking me questions which led me to cut them off. Always make sure that their nonsense backfires AT them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.What most women dont know is guys treat prostitutes better than girls on OLD. If a guy doesnot invest anything but asking for sex, just ghost on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:32 AM |
| 1 | What a guy TRULY means when he says he just wants to be FWBsWhen i movedto the states for work, i was SURPRiSED at how sex was easily done here. Do you know one thing i heard common from European guys of American women? That they’re easy and promiscuous. Girls really should be taught that sex comes with risk and can be used against them to bring unwanted judgmental views. Its ridiculous at how women will have sex with mediocre man. Remember. Guys don’t respect women who have sex early. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 06:32 AM |
| 2 | What a guy TRULY means when he says he just wants to be FWBsYeah i thought so until i literally overplay their game. I give them my fake address and ghost on them. Or ask them their height and tell them they’re not tall enough or even if i meet the guy i keep bringing up other guys. Fwb can work if the guy is good personality can host at least 8+ mentally stable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 06:18 AM |
| 1 | What a guy TRULY means when he says he just wants to be FWBsWhen a guy say this, i make sure i reap the benefits as much as possible. ($$) and ghost on him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:12 AM |
| 5 | You are under no obligation to be nice to men with bad intentions. Their reaction is not your responsibility.imagine these guys are like invisible to you. what REALLY hurts male ego is to ignore him. I'm apathetic by nature and guys told me it really hurt them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Online: Keeping a Relationship Private vs. a Secret?So true. No sane, serious and normal man should be posting constantly on social media. Ppl say its not a big deal but it is. Narc guys tend to lean towards social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 06:07 AM |
| 3 | HVM or LVM? Having a hard time telling with this oneHes LVM for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 05:58 AM |
| 61 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.one of my ex said I look hot and sexy when I'm mad. the best way is to pretend they do not exist and block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 01:48 AM |
| 27 | Men battering women for rejecting them must come from more than just a sense of entitlement.I never had this happen to me as i generally look busy and always with my phone answering my work emails when im out. If a guy sat infront of me, i’d move away and leave the place asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 02:41 PM |
| 63 | Men battering women for rejecting them must come from more than just a sense of entitlement.I always give them my fake number or different number. When they tell me i didn’t answer i just tell them nothing came through and blame it on them. One thing i realized dating western guys esp americans and french is that i got very sneaky and smart about my approach. Do not ever tell them no directly but either silence or give something which can be turned around to blame them. With fds and psych knowledge in combine, it can work wonders. If a creep asks you out istead of saying no pretend he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 02:39 PM |
| 32 | The Best Revenge Isn't Revenge: It's SILENCE.Opposite of love isnt hate, its indifference. Silence always works on guys whether the guy is narc or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:24 AM |
| 18 | The Best Revenge Isn't Revenge: It's SILENCE.Yeah thats why i never use my real number to guys i dated or date even for longer term. When on OLD , Use fake name/age Link second number to whatsapp Use nickname on fb Never post photos on facebook I never got stalked by ex and gotten phone call for this reason as i never give my true info or dot talk too much about yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:20 AM |
| 5 | My no.1 tip for vetting narcisstic guysyes but thats them being brought up as spoiled. being raised properly and loved vs spoiled is completely different thing. my exwas like that also. except his family ignored him when he didnt live up to their expectations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:58 PM |
| 22 | Guy admits following Insta models desensitizes him to his GFIts easy. If your bf does it, do the same thing while he’s present. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Why is the bar so low for men in the states?Yes its true that asian parents put more importance on education but i was talking about how men treat women solely in getting to know each other and dating situations not their family wise. And you’re right, your ex should have defended you as so many women in my culture get divorced because of their in laws. When i see my friends who are married, its sad but all of them are well educated, pretty( well maintained and skinny) and from good family with their parents still together. I wont deny th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Why is the bar so low for men in the states?The best way to weed those guys out is to he gold digger so only responding if he adds monetary value in your life or if he is considered good looking within his race. To be blunt, among my asian friends 100% rich and pretty friends only dated asian guys. Pretty as in fob type not instagram tanned and heavy make up type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 10:25 PM |
| 3 | Does physical attraction grow over time?Yeah when it comes to looks i always had high standards. I cannot date american men for that reason as most guys here are short overweight with round face and doesnt know what grooming means. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:27 AM |
| 9 | Don’t give a man your real phone numberYes i linked my second number to my whatsapp so they never know my real number. I even use fake name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 5 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryMaybe plain janes tolerated more of their acts and decided to go for low maintenance women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:14 AM |
| 3 | I’m moving to NYC this fall and I keep hearing that dating in NY is awful. Is finding HVM even more difficult in a place like NY?All the great guys i met from from west coast. And even when i did tinder, the quality was night and day. Here i’d match with 40s finance guy while in SF id match with hot start up or finance guy in 20s. The difference is huge. Also ive met european expats but they become entitled and docuhy once they move here thinking just bc they live in ny means theyre ultimately chad. Im planning to move to SF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:00 PM |
| 15 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryYes i think being pretty is in a way, ultimate guide as you have a lot of guys who’d be treating you well than lot of LVMs who doesnt add value in ojr life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 09:06 AM |
| 55 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryIts sad but when a guy says this and you compare his ex and her current gf, current one is always the one who’s prettier. Thats why its importatnto know who he dated in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 08:23 AM |
| 1 | “It’s normal to feel attracted to others in a relationship.”Thats why you date multiple guys until engagement because you never know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 08:19 AM |
| 6 | Maybe means no. Men will move mountains if you're important to them. Don't settle.Its sad but when i lost weight it was astonishing at how most guys would go out of their ways to impress me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:43 AM |
| 6 | girls are out here with standards lower than the 9th circle of hellAfter learning FDS whenever i see couples on the streets, i dont feel jealous as you never know what really happens between those two dynamic wise. The bar is really low for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 02:02 PM |
| 9 | Cringiest tinder profile i came acrossyeah he himself belongs to the streets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 10:44 AM |
| 3 | How do I politely avoid a kiss on the second date if he tries to make a move?Personally i hate when a guy hugs me or kisses me on initial dates. I would move away from him to let him know that i’m not init. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 08:57 PM |
| 26 | It’s alarming how men treat powerless womenSo true. Unlike men, women are vulnerable to so many hidden dangers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | The media will tell you that no matter how much you improve yourself, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, you should keep the same low standards, when it comes to a partner. Also notice how it only works one way. It's going to be a no from me.Yes thats why dont even consider LvM as men. Inmy eyes, they’re invisible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 12:33 PM |
| 26 | A sad realitySame here. One guy suggested we could do walk date. Remember guys treat prostitutes better than normal girls they find on tinder as they pay for the hookers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:18 AM |
| 3 | Best dating strategy that is universal?Yeah i actually disregard all seemingly LVM if they don’t give me any benefits unless its my work related. Most guys prefer when they’re ignored actualy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:54 AM |
| 3 | Best dating strategy that is universal?Yes because they’ll be dumbfounded. They could never know the exact reason why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Guys who treated me the worst were ugly guysYes i was just speaking from my experience. Usually the worst lvm i met few were good looking but has really bad physiognomy. I grew up reading roald dahls book as a kid and i do believe what he said could be told in terms of physiognomy. Plastic surgeons say no matter how many surgeries you do, it cant change someone’s looks or soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 02:41 PM |
| 39 | Third marriage, blames everything on ex wives, willing to leave kids. One big red flag.His face itself is redflag lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:51 PM |
| 1 | When you are straight forward about your standards...the worst is when they call you full of drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:31 AM |
| 17 | For reference, he claims to be a lawyer. This is the quality of men OLD provides.Yeah dont deal with leftovers. You should just ghost him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:59 AM |
| 20 | For reference, he claims to be a lawyer. This is the quality of men OLD provides.What i do is agree on dates and ghost them. Its literally backfires at them and i just leave them ar read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:59 AM |
| 20 | Amen! Anyone else got any similar stories?My ex did this and i started mirroring him. Before you leave your guy, if he does this make sure you do the same thing so he suffers trauma from you. After this, whenever guy nags, i make sure i do the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 03:10 PM |
| -1 | Walk dates as first dateI didn’t specify it but i was going on date as practice. Therefore used fake name and age. I wouldnt have gone to july 4th alone. Its just not me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 10:42 AM |
| -19 | Walk dates as first dateI could have but didnt want to go alone in july 4th. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 04:51 AM |
| 2 | How most guys compartmentalizeI didn’t specify the conversation, but along those conversation he made extremely rude comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Never give them the benefit of the doubtWhen these thingshappen, i try hard to remain my cool. What works best is ghosting them for few days or express blank expression or apathy. Then they’ll realize we’re serious and stop their act. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 11:42 AM |
| 15 | Never give them the benefit of the doubtSame here. When i met my ex i thought he looked so poor. I’m not saying he was poorly dressed but he just seemed like such a cheap person and it was true. The biggest turnoff was that he always victimized himself when nothing happened. He told me he was afraid to date in bangkok because theres transgenders, afraid to meet wonen in cuba as they’re known for doing anything to get caucasian men and many other reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 11:32 AM |
| 16 | Struggle is realYeah, so i always ghost on them or always talk about other guys. Those guys are the type that can be never satisfied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 11:07 AM |
| 1 | How to get his words out of my headI avoid those guys like a plague. I always ask how their relationship with family is when growing up. Its crucial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 10:12 PM |
| 8 | Posted it on /heartbreak, but I guess here I could listen to much more real opinions. Feel so awful now:(I’d just ghost him. Happened to me long time ago and when he came back i gave him taste of his medicine. I strung him along and ghosted him on his bday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 09:27 PM |
| 2 | How to get his words out of my headWas he abused when young? I noticed guys who were neglected/abused by their parents tend to do this moreso. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 08:41 PM |
| 1 | How to get his words out of my headMy ex always made comments on my body, my make up and my nails. His projection on you is coming from his insecurities. Ofc i didnt like my ex’s body; man boobs and had ugliest birthmark on his back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 08:35 PM |
| 14 | A lot of men need to see this. Hold the door open for everyone, speak politely to everyone, don't speak ill of women you're not attracted to, period.This is proved to be truth when you use OLD. You’ll find the bare truth in what men thinks behind their phones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Don’t take OLD too seriouslyWas this guy named felix? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 05:55 AM |
| 6 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanYeah same here. I wouldn’t say i had terrible experience but i always felt so uneasy as if i had bad food or food that i couldn’t digest (stuck in my stomach) after the date with them. In my culture we value honesty but i feel like french guys dont. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 12:41 AM |
| 8 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanYeah tiptoeing as if racism doesnt exist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 11:36 PM |
| 14 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanIts because they’re not taking racism as seriously as US. When racism/discrimination issue arise, its usually regarding black or muslims thats included. For them, asians is subpar. So those french guys i encountered in my trip, i was surprised to see how they act like they’re normal to their caucasian gf. Its quiet well known among white guys that asian girls are easy. I dont want to go through this but i was apalled at how some EU countries take measures against racism issues against asians and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 11:35 PM |
| 7 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanLol. How did he end up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:29 PM |
| 18 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanthat's what I heard from my British female friend who was in Paris for exchange student. It's so common that its norm for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 08:19 PM |
| 32 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanYes i experienced my first obvious racism in berlin. It was in the bus and little kid was pointing at me which to my surprise, his mom was right next to him. You know what they say. Like a mom, like the son. So is very obvious that where his racist actions came from. Mind you, it wasn’t even rural area in Berlin it was area called pranzaleur berg? Which is one of the affluent areas i was told. After that whenever i encounter german, internally i’m very wary of them. My friend who’s been living i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 07:26 PM |
| 46 | Sometimes I think to myself “It would be nice to be married” but then I see stuff like this and say to myself: “nah.”Thats why you make sure not to add any value in the guy’s life. He already has to be fully made before we build them up. No cleaning, no basic chores. If he has arms and legs with brain, he should be able to do that. My ex used to passive aggressively nudge me to do those things and i left all the dishes just as it was and house as messy as before. Then finally, there were flies everywhere which forced him to clean it. I never ever tell guy what to do, i just passively sit back, relax and let th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn't ask me about my dreams, passions, hobbies, goals etc.Where did you meet him ? 30yr old man with dating experiences would know thats disrespectful to just meet someone in last minute. I’d cut him off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/20 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 17 2020I met guy on OLD been chatting, he lives 2hrs away. I’ve been been really emotionally numb and apathetic but i also dont want to get hurt. How do i make it more interesting and approachable ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 06:56 AM |
| 2 | What do I do?Issue is, it’ll come back but you might not know that or recognize one as it comes in different forms. But know that people rarely change and you’ll be glad you broke up and moved on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 06:49 AM |
| 1 | How do you shift your mindset of being attached too much on looks?so where do you have met your SO in the past and currently? same here, I don't mind six pack, but I prefer unconventional attractive guys who have unique looks. So I never had crush on male models or actors in general. personally, I wanted to move to EU for dating and marriage even though I live in nyc as guys there are really my type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:41 PM |
| 4 | How do you shift your mindset of being attached too much on looks?I didn’t know they were abused until knowing them for long period. I liked them becsuse of their initial personality and looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 06:01 PM |
| 8 | Men who think they can do betterBecsuse he’s not used to female attention. If he was ugly more so. That’s why once he’s more established in career he thinks he feels like a boy in candy store. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Do you accept the idea that your partner could have had different standards in different situations?Tbh, its not that she viewed him as more relationship worthy guy or saw his worth. Its opposite. I can guarantee he wasn’t that attractive as the other guy. Also its his fault that they clearly didn’t define the relationship. The most good looking guy i’ve ever dated was the only guy i suggested sex to. I knew i was attracted to him so i didnt want to wait and we both had limited time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/20 10:47 AM |
| 12 | Winona Ryder says Keanu Reeves refused director Francis Ford Coppola's request to hurl abuse at her until she cried on Dracula set.Physiognomy, from what i know has been studied in China for hundreds of years. When young i didn’t believe it but the older I get, it seems to he true based on my experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 04:01 AM |
| 4 | HVM and his group of friendsIME, likes attract. This has been my experience all my life and it has been proven all along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 02:29 AM |
| 27 | Winona Ryder says Keanu Reeves refused director Francis Ford Coppola's request to hurl abuse at her until she cried on Dracula set.I'm not Chinese but what the person said is considered true in out culture also. You know the guy you meet on OLD who triggers your gut feeling? probably there's a reason why. I always trust my instinct when it comes to physiognomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 02:20 AM |
| 69 | Winona Ryder says Keanu Reeves refused director Francis Ford Coppola's request to hurl abuse at her until she cried on Dracula set.So true. There’s actually study on it. Its called physiognomy. If you try OLD, i can intuitively pick up on guy’s personality and character by his pics usually. What you think really shows on your face, the more you age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 10:09 PM |
| 7 | Men only take me seriously when I look “hot”Yeah also can confirm this. Guys dont fuck with girls who think are bougee or in higher status on socio economic hierarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Men only take me seriously when I look “hot”Yeah its so true. I actually wrote a post about it. Guys do compartmentalize. I agree with FDS handbook but honestly, 10/10 woman gets treated way better than average woman. And they do not have vendetta against men. Why? Because most guys will be favorable to her. I have really gorgeous friend. She’s 10/10 not only in looks but her style and her intelligence. Also, she comes from super wealthy family. The kind you see in harrods’s London. She tried tinder and never had any problem matching with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:01 AM |
| 2 | How deal with the fear of never meeting someone?I’m older than you in 20s and its better to have fear than regrets when it comes to relationships. not having a guy is better than nvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 04:52 AM |
| 11 | The concept of surprise proposals gets weaponized by LVM and used to keep women on the hookThats why i date multiple guys at once. Less energy and less mess incase something doesnt workout in the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 10:13 PM |
| -13 | Apparently I am too hash. Does that even make sense?I did this once on OLD. I always get back at guys who canceled on dates to see how they react. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 10:03 PM |
| 19 | Apparently I am too hash. Does that even make sense?No, if you had given him another chance, he’ll take you for granted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 10:02 PM |
| 24 | TIL that we should be okay with our boyfriends watching half-naked women all day because that’s how their brain is wiredThe key to solving this issue is MIRRORing him. If he looks at half naked women on ig or on the streets, do the same without any hesitation. Then usually they shut up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 09:58 PM |
| 13 | How do you deal with guys who look down on you?I was pickme back then so i liked their looks. But to find a guy who’s socially intelligent and financially stable with looks of my type has never happened for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 06:34 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone here pulled an “Elle Woods” and gotten a “revenge degree”?But important thing is, when he compares you to other girls regarding career or xx, its big red flag telling you to avoid him. My older brother changed his career in his 30s and doing better than his friends who had set career as doctor or lawyer at younger age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 04:14 PM |
| 12 | Has anyone here pulled an “Elle Woods” and gotten a “revenge degree”?I didnt get degree but i made tons of $$. With that money, i pursued my masters and currently living alone in manhattan. That’s when i realized LVM arent worth a shit. My LVM is still living with parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 02:13 PM |
| 8 | What do I do?Im sorry to hear that. I usedto confront, blame and use all my energy on belittling him. I’d just block him. Karma comes back, and he’ll be the one who’s suffering soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 02:10 PM |
| 21 | Short is Not the ProblemSame here. The hottest guy i’ve ever dated was 6,3 slim german guy. I prefer to date tall guys. Genetics matter alot. Sorry not sorry but no amount of money or good personality will be enough for good genes. Generally good looking guys also have well mannered personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 03:39 AM |
| 8 | How can super introverted women find a partner?I’m asian so i could resonate with the example you have given. Mina has lot of fans due to her calmness and her vibes which is from her introverted qualities. I’m very introverted but i put myself out there once in a while also. I recommend doing meditation and have the mindset and others are just like ‘people’ just like you. It gave me different perspective when interacting with them after this. If you really want HVM sometimes you gotta go out of your boundaries also. Online dating is nice whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:09 PM |
| 39 | You do not need to teach a man to treat you well and constantly put up boundaries so he 'gets it.' It is exhausting. Just leave.The thing is guys compartmentalize. I did tinder experiment and guys NEVER suggest hangout or come over dates to women they think out of their league or more in higher tier. Why? Because they dont want to ruin the chance of getting to know her with hangout type of dates. Don’t try to teach any men anything. Just ghost them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Hinge’s “most compatible” algorithm is totally wrong and racist. It doesn’t seem to be based on your usage data as they claim to be.Yeah, thats why always look hard to approach when i’m out at night. By wearing my most expensive clothes and dressing in classy way, those low tier guys never approach me. I actually have never been catcalled before. Those incel and red pill type are very obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Hinge’s “most compatible” algorithm is totally wrong and racist. It doesn’t seem to be based on your usage data as they claim to be.I used to use tinder but i put my best pics to weed out low tier guys. Uneducated? Nope Not living in manhattan? Nope Doesnt have sense of style? Nope Overweight? Nope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 08:57 PM |
| 2 | I wish I'd found this sub sooner.I dated a guy who claimed to be ‘minimalist’, and in truth, they’re just lazy. I’m real minimalist and i really spend time picking out the clothes that fits me and enjoy my lifestyle but i keep my place clean and have basics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 05:17 PM |
| 21 | Someone please tell me to block this LV piece of trash... apologises for not making enough effort 2 weeks ago, already back to pushing me away when I'm trying to make plansWhere did you guys meet ? He seems flakey and inconsistent. When a guy does this it 100% indicates he’s unsure of your presence. Block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 12:53 PM |
| 4 | What are some pills you've swallowed about dating?Pretend thar you didnt hear him or tell him it takes some time for you to develop sexual attraction towards a guy. I usually say “I only have intimacy when my feelings are solidified towards a man”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 11:39 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?He’s not married but ‘if’ he gets married, it wont last long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 09:06 AM |
| 10 | What are some pills you've swallowed about dating?I like well fitted blazers, with dress under it(form fitting), boots and designer bag for colder seasons. In summer, i wear silk shirt and jeans with sandals. At work, silk blouse with black trousers with good quality blazer. I try to dress with fewer clothes as i dont like shopping that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Cohabiting before marriage?I mean some LVMs have this fantasy that women have to look good all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Level Up- your favorite clothing sources?Are you me? I’m usually all for ethical brands or high fashion but recently got into princess polly due to their color tones. My fave brand is usually everlane and reformation but they’re bit pricey so i shop at princess polly also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 12:25 PM |
| 2 | How do y’all do it?!?When you realize you have control of your time, thats when you enjoy being single. I work alot so i cherish my weekends more than anything. Also, being singe id better than settling with mediocre man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Choose what makes you happyYeah always be conscious of your thoughts. Its the core essence of buddhism and living happy life. Dont over think and worry but always be mindful of your current feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 12:10 PM |
| 3 | Your forgivable male flaws?I dont mind guys who dont dress well but i strongly prefer guys with born good genes. Tall, slim with broad shouler with young looking face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Cohabiting before marriage?I did cohabiting for few months due to my lease. Lot if guys write on other subs that they lost interest in their SO romantically after living together. They expect women to be dolled up and be feminine. Funny story I’m not that diligent and was working alot, so i didnt cook breakfast or dinner. Always ate at my work and took shower in my gym. Domestic stuffs were all on him as i only stayed in my room when at home. He suggested it and i ignored saying i’m busy. He eventually broke it off and i … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 11:44 AM |
| 21 | What are some pills you've swallowed about dating?Yes, i dont invite guys and also dont go to theirs. Its always been like this for me as i’m not interested in going to others home. Also if idea of sex comes up, i pretend dumb so he shuts up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 11:38 AM |
| 67 | What are some pills you've swallowed about dating?So true. I grew up in East Asia, and when i moved to the states, i started dressing more casually(leggings). Then i realized, the quality of men who approach me in OLD dropped significantly. When I put photos of me in more formal/feminine clothing, i get way more matches with men who are HVM. I dress up to be seen like high maintenance so i dont attract ‘wrong’ type of men. Its always best to look your best. I dont play cool girl anymore and tell them outright i have expensive taste.( which i do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 11:13 AM |
| 15 | Ladies normalize dating men you don't have to "build"Yes! Dont date -cant clean -cant organize - doesnt have career path laid ahead - out of shape - emotionally immature Most men over 20s with basic IQ should be able to grasp this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 01:14 AM |
| 4 | Being passive aggressive is the keyYeah i always regretted dating when i lowered my standards. Its not just the guy but if you dated those guys, the place you go for dates and everything, expect the quality to be 1 to 2levels lower. You’ll be going to panera or mcdonals instead of local cuisine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:25 AM |
| 4 | Being passive aggressive is the keythe affections of unsuspecting minorities women. ReplyGive AwardshareReportSav guys who use BML movement for their own benefits are straight up LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:24 PM |
| 10 | Being passive aggressive is the keyOne thing I realized after being in relationship, if the guy operates at EQ level of 80, make sure you do the same thing. Do not ever try to reason with a guy who cannot understand your logic. Why? because it's out of their spectrum of understanding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:17 PM |
| 4 | OLD is a lot more fun when you know that it’s all entirely up to youIn my experience, (at least in nyc) better looking ones are european guys with better pics. Personally i dont swipe on artist types(musician, painter, etc) with no education listed (and even if they do, since being ny, i prefer to date someone who went to higher tier school no distance shown looking fot fun type pic with a girl profiles with videos Most finance guys are fuckboys in my experience and i’ve had guys asking to come over. I’ve sent police to their address and hookers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:40 PM |
| 9 | Being passive aggressive is the keyIf a guy asks uncomfortable question i either bring out my phone and put my hand in-front of him, to tell him i need him to stop talking so i can get this call, or either focus on my phone. But if he brings up that kind of question in the first place, he is LvM. I either ask him same degree of question which could hurt him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 12:29 PM |
| 11 | Being passive aggressive is the keyI just say reply with one of the following - I'm virgin (which is a lie but this can be useful in a way that he'll show his true self way faster than when given other replies, as if he wants to sleep with virgin and insinuate one, he's trash) -I never had boyfriends (for the same reason above) so he thinks he can do whatever he wants with you - ? (pretending that you ddint hear him) - I've dated only one guy before you (which gives you know how dating works but not a lot, so you're purposely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:53 AM |
| 14 | Being passive aggressive is the keyI think dumb fox method is the best thing or just straight up act like they're invisible right in front of you. I'm used to doing this at an very young age so when I used this on a guy, usually they fix up or just leave you alone. If a guy sends something really offensive in the text, just keep replying with ?, and he'll eventually stop talking. With this kind of method, you avoid manipulators coming back and trying their shit again but also their actions backfiring at you such as them doing rev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:42 AM |
| 13 | Being passive aggressive is the keya saying “you cannot spit on a smiling face” meaning you cannot be angry to calm, gentle demeanor. So i s yeah, I still remember the date where I met the guy right after the work. He was being very manipulative to bring up things about my sexual past and when I confronted him saying he could have asked directly, his response was "I didnt' want to for my own safety"putting me into abuser's position. So when we met in person, I purposely met him right after work without getting dressed up. I was a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:39 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?I wouldnt be surprised if he ends up divorced. As the other commenter stated, thats why you dont give chance to ugly guys. I’m sure he read all through red pill tactics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 06:19 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?Yeah, its the same with couples on tinder. If you study their photos, their bodylanguages are obvious even though we dont know them in person nor their dynamics in real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 05:56 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?Yeah i notice body language also. When you see couples pic, if the guy is facing the front but the girl is leaning more towards the guy, its a sign that she’s trying harder in relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 05:29 AM |
| 19 | [update{Guy who refused to split the billI ddint know it was him until he started talking. He hd different pics | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:49 AM |
| 5 | He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVMYeah its psychologically proven that people dont really change. Even my parents who are in their 50s told me, based on their past experiences that people rarely change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:31 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?I dont know the exact video as i watched it long time ago but you can google it. He splits everything and theres one where he gives advice for a guy who thinks 100$ date is waste and he has to see dating as investment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you been called stalker by your ex who played victim in every scenario?Did he try to contact you after that? Thats wht idid and my ex has been emailing me like crazy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Have any of you been called stalker by your ex who played victim in every scenario?So what did you do in the end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:15 PM |
| 7 | Have any of you been called stalker by your ex who played victim in every scenario?Yeah and also learned likes attract. His friend was pos just like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:11 PM |
| 3 | The F*cking Audacity of Them to Use Me and My Sisters for Good PR. Duck them and Duck All Who See Me This Way!!Is this for real? Shouldnt it be taken to court? This is dehumanizing 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 07:45 AM |
| 10 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?I just feel bad for his gf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 01:28 AM |
| 3 | do you get turned off by guy's hygiene ?Yeah i realized that. I was really hindered by his good looks as he was so good looking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:24 PM |
| 13 | do you get turned off by guy's hygiene ?Yeah i should have but i was so hindered by his looks. The sex was amazing but now looking back, i should have ghosted on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:17 PM |
| 13 | NVM calls rich, 24 year old gf a spoiled brat and undermines her success. Asks if he's TA.He wants her to suffer the stress and the pain 50/50 also. Not all people are born equal. Thats just the way of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 04:47 PM |
| 1 | A guy picking out flaws and telling you? Please let me know your experiences.Yes i understand but most guys i dated, who were in mid 20s seemed like they didnt get past their past. Maybe every individuals experience is different. But I live in major metropolitan city and dated people from different ethnicity and background and the most abusive ones were always the ones that had trouble growing up, at least the guys. Its different dynamic for girls as women in society if we express too much of emotions, we’re deemed to be valued or seen as the ‘crazy ones’. I’ve had few f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:33 PM |
| 1 | A guy picking out flaws and telling you? Please let me know your experiences.Because he grew up that way, he’s conveying hisnparents behavior towards people around him. He might not realize but its toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:04 PM |
| 16 | A guy picking out flaws and telling you? Please let me know your experiences.I noticed usually ugly guys do this. So if they neg me like this, i bring up their abusive past or height. Or what i do is, i simply pretend theyre jist invisible Something they cant change and i’m aware that its another level fuckery but thats when they will stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 12:23 PM |
| 5 | A guy picking out flaws and telling you? Please let me know your experiences.I looked into this psychologically. If X person has insecurity issues or have been brought up in a way that X person criticizes you, thats when this happens. So its not just so called mistake that X person is doing, its deep rooted psychological issues. One thing i realized is when it comes to guys, i never date guys who was abused when young by family after i broke-up with my abusive ex. Even my guy friends who were abused when young convey narcissistic and abusive behaviors so to prevent these… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 12:19 PM |
| 9 | He said my personality was amazing and we're sexually compatible but I'm just not his type.Im asian and i hate white american guys for this reason. Tell him to go get his dream girl. But dont go back to him!! Or tell him your type is tall muscular man. What he did was gaslighting!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:08 AM |
| 7 | He said my personality was amazing and we're sexually compatible but I'm just not his type.Is he asian ? I’m petite and have long straight hair with pale skin and LVm once told me he prefers tall, and tanned golden skin. Then why meet me in the first place ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:31 AM |
| 3 | OLD low effort date guy update, he unmatchedSame thing happened to me recently around April ? I hope he gets infected with covid19. Its crazy to suggest walk date. What i started doing is, i agree to meet and ghost on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Why women should NOT date down. She seems so smart and is so beautiful and still being a pickme. First FWB and then open marriage #nahsisWhats her insta ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:45 AM |
| 12 | Time to cultivate indifference towards anyone who detracts from your light.If the guy is bringing up uncomfortable matters or being rude, i adapted the tactic to treat him as someone invisible and focus on my phone. It always works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 06:23 PM |
| 15 | Guy keeps spreadsheets and rates sex with his GF....didn’t fit in the screenshot but he also has spreadsheets of all his ex’s too 🤮🤮🤮 why oh whyyyyDont date someone whos much older than you. Hes leftover by women around his age. Unless he has significantly good traits; money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 05:59 PM |
| 26 | Guy keeps spreadsheets and rates sex with his GF....didn’t fit in the screenshot but he also has spreadsheets of all his ex’s too 🤮🤮🤮 why oh whyyyyMy guyfriend told me girl he went out on a date with, they decided to stay as friends. One day she called him saying her bf has secretly been keeping Pros/cons notes about every girl they dated. Hers was bad skin but smart. The audacity ... but she was dating him for the sake of connections as he went to harvard. If i were her, id add some few pros/cons under the file which amplifies the traits and make him intiate the breakup. Eye for an eye. Gotta treat psycho with psychotic actions. Thats wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 05:51 PM |
| 93 | I thought I was the best girlfriend.My friend told me this last year. Human are born alone and die alone. So no relationships are permanent. But some people are meant to be in your life to teach you a lesson and once they do, they exit out of their life. My first bf was narcissist and very emotionally abusive ( more abusive than any reddit posts you could see on dating advice sub) but i took time to heal and study on psychology, and it made me grow immensely and be socially savvy after that. But on the other-hand, he- my ex is sti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 06:33 AM |
| 76 | I thought I was the best girlfriend.Can you elaborate what exactly happened ? He didnt meant to be in your life and itll be the same cycle with his new gf. You now know you deserve a much better guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 05:12 AM |
| 10 | Always put yourself first, ladies.This is crazy. But its good that she didnt end up marrying that guy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Would you date someone who’s has morally gray ethics ?Same here. Id have been more understanding if they were living in the slums or ghetto, but mind you, the place they were living in ( i used to live in the same apt) is expensive area in manhattan. And for a girl whos in 20s to do that and his bf to be understanding of it. Well LIKES ATTRACT so no wonder theyre couple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 10 | Has anyone else started to lose faith in men in general?Yeah i did. I joined sugarbaby website at one point, and mind you the guys there are top1% in success we generally talk about. It really opened up my eyes in how men view women. Its all about looks. Looks, looks and looks... its sad but true. In that website, unless the girl really stands out, theyre ignored and easily discarded unless the girl is beautiful. Having strethmarks from weight loss ? Next ! Size 4? Next Luckily i was thin so i had chance to meet guys earlier on but theyre the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Real reason why pickmes and scrotes are opposed to women getting a decent engagement ring.I think pickmes accept the low effort if the guy is out of her league. At least IME, if the woman is aware that the guy is below or within her league, she never accepts the low effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 01:05 PM |
| 4 | Would you date someone who’s has morally gray ethics ?Yeah glad to know women on fds is likeminded and sane. I thought i was the insane one. Because i know that if i was that guy, id dump my gf asap. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:34 AM |
| 2 | Would you date someone who’s has morally gray ethics ?So true, i just got back from business trip that week so my thought wasnt processeing accordingly, but now coming to think of it its weird that she’d do that in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:33 AM |
| 4 | Would you date someone who’s has morally gray ethics ?Yeah i was really mad but coincidentally, this happened few days before lockdown started. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Lesson Learned: Always trust in his actions, not his wordsIts english test required mostly for UK based schools for international students. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 06:00 PM |
| 7 | The Male Pick Me: Nice Guys Can Be Just As Low Value as ChadDont date a guy who cant be alone. He jumps from relationship to relationships with no time of self reflect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 6 | Being treated differently as im FOBYeah after years of dating and working on myself, what conclusion do i get ? I want to live alone. If i have money and healthy body, id live alone. Sure kids and having soul mate is good but i feel like it comes with too much of a emotional burden aside from real life issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 11:27 AM |
| 6 | Being treated differently as im FOBSome didnt state this openly, but i definitely could read between the lines as they told me the dynamics of their past relationships. Have had many guys whether they work in professional jobs with high incomes or not tell me that asians do cater to guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 08:11 AM |
| 23 | Being treated differently as im FOBThats so cringe, i avoid ugly white guys. Mostly i noticed was short and guys who have baby face nut with unfit body go for asians. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 02:32 AM |
| 12 | Being treated differently as im FOBThanks but The issue is, even i dont know and im sure most other girls dont know if hes good at hiding it until youre few months in getting to know him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 02:32 AM |
| 16 | Doctors and LawyersLol I live in nyc and can fully confirm that’s how it is here. I blatantly tell these guys that if you’re genetics didn’t do any favor even with your money and status won’t be much of a help for you. Last year, I went out with Brit who was working in Bloomberg. He kept pushing me for sex and sexual talks. Seriously ? I lived in London and I am aware how londoners at your age take good care of themselves unlike you who have belly sticking out of your shirt. I just dismissed him and went home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 06:59 PM |
| 16 | Doctors and LawyersTell me about this. Smh. I’ve briefly was seeing guy from Princeton and he had fetishes for hookers and was actively engaged in sex tourism in Thailand. Almost every convo with him ended in him telling me about his Thai hookers and hoststess. I finally had to yell at him over the text saying you’re doing that because you can’t get even average white girl in the states. He’s currently dating Thai waitress just so she could come over to his place on her off days to Cook and clean for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 06:51 PM |
| 0 | How could I overcome my unreasonable feelings about not deserving a HVM because I'm not "pretty enough"?I used to be overweight but now skinny. Being fat taught me how to use it to distinguish LVM and HVM. HVM would fall for your other characters than look | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Dating ugly menHave gone through similar experiences. This guy I wasn’t attracted to ask me out, I agreed and he literally snatched out the menu when I was trying to order desserts. Well you’re the same guy who asked me out in my apt building randomly. That guy had audacity to ask me out on valentines for a walk, when it was raining. Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only one who find men’s taste in women’s look truly weird sometimes?I’m Korean(born and raised) and can fully confirm guys chose face over body almost all the time . Korean guys fawn over pale, innocent and cute girl next door type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one who find men’s taste in women’s look truly weird sometimes?It’s same in Asia also. Guys really dig in for girl next door type, who smiles constantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 11:20 PM |
| 4 | Men remain in possession of the absolute audacityMirror every one of his actions. The minute that a guy shows disrespect, i ignore his texts for days until he apologize and makes up for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 06:57 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, be wary of men using the Couch Surfing app.I have lot to say about this. I met host who was 27M in Berlin. He had korean gf. His gf and I became good friends. He was working in fintech and so his co workers and other friends and I went on a picnic, his co worker was constantly flirting with me when I didn’t respond. Later a month, I rented a room in Berlin and joined tinder. Guess whom I saw there? The guy who hosted me! and he was having a date with a polish girl on Couchsurfing meetup also. His gf was visiting his country and I took a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 06:44 PM |
| 18 | women aren’t attracted to moneyI noticed unattractive men tend to be more critical of women’s looks way more than attractive ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 07:24 AM |
| 11 | I don’t trust men who glorify ‘low maintenance’ women who ‘don’t ask for much’. They just want a woman they can put in as little effort as possible for, who will be excited over the tiniest bare minimum things they do for her because she doesn’t know any better and doesn’t value herself enoughThe best way to show is be apathetic as possible. It’s what guys do. I used to mirror exactly what my ex did. Create drama If he complains, ghost on him or show blank expression. Then after few days come back as nothing happened. Psychologically this is form of manipulation and getting addicted to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:53 AM |
| 13 | I don’t trust men who glorify ‘low maintenance’ women who ‘don’t ask for much’. They just want a woman they can put in as little effort as possible for, who will be excited over the tiniest bare minimum things they do for her because she doesn’t know any better and doesn’t value herself enoughI realized over the time the best way is to show apathy. When the guy complains about me, I just ghost on them for few days and come back on the text. Then it cools down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:39 AM |
| 7 | I just dumped my LVM thanks to FDS and he is outragedSame here. One is my ex was like this. Very well educated, has very high paying job but outside of his work, all he does his talk to prostitutes and watches Netflix. Empathy? No, low emotional intelligence? Yes. I realized I was draining myself when interacting with him. We always got into argument. He’s say I’m too sensitive. Well I thought I was but I wasn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 05:13 PM |
| 1 | If a guy mentions that he has another date that week...He did this to me and was still on the dating app, so I didn’t want to use my brain and energy to figure out how much he’s interested me. Rather I did the same. I just went for multiple dates and told him I met some guy friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:33 AM |
| 3 | anybody else unable to tolerate normal relationship subs anymore?Yes same here. First they always try to be relational and forgiving. First sign of red flag, anyone should leave the relationship. People don’t know that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 11:18 PM |
| 7 | Would you date Damaged guy ?What happened exactly if you don’t mind sharing ? Yes I do like nice things but I was wary of him as first, I don’t like to date guys who’d jump from relationships to another one, aka the one who can’t be alone. Also, it’s his fault that he let his ex get away with like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 05:47 PM |
| 10 | Would you date Damaged guy ?Yes so I cut him offand blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Is it red flag when a guy is into one country ?Lol. Where did you meet him ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 01:07 AM |
| 11 | If your boyfriend/husband is uncomfortable with one of your guy friends because he "knows their intentions," 90% of the time your husband/boyfriend has those same intentions toward someone else, and that's why he's suspicious of your male friends.I can’t agree more. People see the kind of people they are themselves. Your ex and my ex was one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 09:23 PM |
| 64 | If your boyfriend/husband is uncomfortable with one of your guy friends because he "knows their intentions," 90% of the time your husband/boyfriend has those same intentions toward someone else, and that's why he's suspicious of your male friends.Literally same thing happened to me. My ex would tell me a male friend of mine isn’t my friend and told me to cut him off. Few months after, he was cheating on me with his so called female friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 05:44 PM |
| 4 | Do men really like smart and intelligent women?From what I noticed, it all comes down to looks. Many intelligent women who holds certain career have hard time finding husband, but if they’re hot and intelligent she likely won’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 04:02 PM |
| 7 | High value and LVmYeah it was back of my mind always so whenever he brought it up I’d be offensive towards him. So how do you normally meet guys ? I’m still on my journey in FDS but now I value their character more than anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 08:45 AM |
| 20 | High value and LVmThank you so much for this advice. Yes I admit I was into this guy because of his looks and his career then the more I got to know him, I was turned off and in my mind I kept wondering if I should keep seeing him. His history of sex tourism in Thailand, rudely commenting on other girls looks and him seeking only asian girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 08:19 AM |
| 32 | Is it red flag when a guy is into one country ?Yeah I forgot to add, he dated hooker and was having sex with multiples of them. He still talks to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 07:23 AM |
| 16 | Is it red flag when a guy is into one country ?He said he likes Thai girls. Him speaking Thai and whenever he seems so enthusiastic when something related to Thailand comes up is red flag for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 06:49 AM |
| 41 | Is it red flag when a guy is into one country ?Thanks he explicitly said he likes girls from Thailand as they’re easy and care free. When we get into an argument he always replies to me in Thai. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 06:23 AM |
| 3 | Lesson Learned: Always trust in his actions, not his wordsYeah my ex would always talk about his accomplishments in the past. I’d act like I’m listening to him, because I knew that he couldn’t even pass basic IELTS test. Finally I told him, you do you and I left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:48 AM |
| 4 | Quarantine or GTFOYes send him back home so that he gets infected with covid. Men that unstable emotionally at time of this is someone you don’t want to be with even if this pandemic didn’t occur in the first place. My ex started texting me, one is in uk another in Germany, I told him I don’t have any intention of talking to them as we won’t meet as I’m afraid they might have been infected with corona virus. I told then that since uk and Germany aren’t testing the people thoroughly as most people don’t know they’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:42 AM |
| 6 | New here. Bf ghosted me after I said I love you for the first time. Seeking adviceThis guy is like a amoeba. The audacity to talk behind you and block you. Block him too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Unpopular Opinion: There's no way women hit the wall at 30I think it depends on the person. Russian supermodel Natalia vodianova met her SO who is heir of LVMH group when she was in 30s as single mom. Ofc her beauty factored in and played a large role. I do believe most women who’s old but not pretty will have a hard time even if she is smart and level headed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/20 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Ended things with me and he’s already getting serious with someone new. Help please.I’ve just been through exact same situation. Guy I met for few times told me we can’t meet as he started dating other girl. And he’s just like the guy you mentioned. He jumps from relationships to relationships. Worst is this guy I met was so desperate that he even dated a professional hooker. Take a step back and analyze the situation rationally. Would you like a guy like that ? NO It means he’s not self sustainable. Probably if you marrry him, as soon as you’re dead, he’ll be looking for anoth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 10:56 AM |
| 41 | Stop giving him the opportunity to leave you on read. He gets off on it.One thing for sure, he has plenty of extra time to do that. I had crush on a guy who was LVM exhibiting this behavior, I dropped him. I stopped replying to his texts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 10:32 AM |
| 8 | Hard to apply FDS on guys I likeYessss!!! I do mediations to help me take control of my emotions but I should become monk instead. Yes having roster of men is encouraged here but naturally I gravitate towards only one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Feel BadSame here but I dated guys from my country and I realized sex isn’t even the issue. It’s vetting the guys. So many guys with low morals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 07:50 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible for a straight man to have multiple platonic relationships with women?but let me tell you, I think you already know the answer to your question. you know its wrong. His time spending on with his female friends is questionable. Guys that age generally want to hangout with their guy friends. I've gone through similar situation. He spent way too much time with his female friend. turns out he has feelings for her. If I were you, id cut him off before things get further down the south and hurts you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 07:46 AM |
| 7 | Is it possible for a straight man to have multiple platonic relationships with women?Yeah the guy whom I thought was HVM and innocent, good guy told me all his female friends are platonic friends. My gut was telling me something is wrong. Guess what ? I was right. If I blame him, I’m the crazy one. So I just left. I stoped confronting him. I’m bit older than you and trust me. What your going through happens in my culture and USA dating culture also. Guy claims his female friends are strictly just friends and hides the texts with those girls. Why ? Because he has something to hid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 05:43 AM |
| 4 | Best way to spend time being quarantined?Taking high dose of vitamin c. I mean High, high dosage. In China, they’re already going through clinical trials of injecting vitamin c as IV drip to infected patients. I take liposomal vitamin c 1000mcg and 6pills per day. Reading Doing things you wanted to do Working out at home with YouTube videos Sleep a lot Talking to friends I love doing chores | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:55 AM |
| 11 | Share your top leveling up strategy tested and worked for youFor me was simple but something that is Very and what most people have hard time sticking it to it. It’s staying present in the moment. We as a human tend to daydream and think of possibilities. So I always tell myself to think about the guy I’m dating or seeing only when I’m with him in person. I always try to stay in the moment and ask myself if he’s adding value to my life or not. I always ask myself if what he does makes me feel good. This is simple, but with this trick, I’m sure most women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:51 AM |
| 8 | Deleting Social MediaI don’t have social media and absolutely stay away from guys who’s has every media of social media and into them. In my experience of dating, it’s never a good idea to date those guys. But Instagram or Snapchat could be one way to find out if they’re hiding something from you or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 08:54 PM |
| 13 | LV-ex texted me againLol so he could spread his covid19 disease. Tell him you’re suspicious of him having it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Is it red flag when a guy doesn’t get mad at you or blame you ?I took your advice and stopped replying. Even when my friends make low effort on text I assume they’re not into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 11:33 PM |
| 0 | Is it red flag when a guy doesn’t get mad at you or blame you ?Yes so I blamed this guy ( I know I shouldn’t haven’t done it as confronting guys doesn’t work according to FDS rule) for something that made me upset and he didn’t agree nor disagree but started talking to me less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Would you date a guy who has had sex with hooker or used to date one ?Thanks for sharing this. Yes even though this guy was nice to me, all I could think of was his past of dating a hooker. If I date him, it’s just more than me risking my health, it’s devaluing myself and bringing myself to the same level of hookers. In my country, if a guy has a single past of using prostitution most girls cut off the guy immediately. I knew deep down, that even if I should carry out relationships based on my standards if I accept him, it’d be devaluing myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:43 PM |
| 9 | Would you date a guy who has had sex with hooker or used to date one ?Well, I’ve dated guys who were damaged by their ex. They won’t stop thinking about them. I would cut him off. Tell him sort out his trauma first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 12:51 PM |
| 15 | UN Matching so many guys on OLDAlso I used to say I don’t do those but o just unmatch. Like I stated, they know what they’re doing. I doubt that they’d suggest coffee dates to 10/10 looking girl. Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 12:48 PM |
| 15 | UN Matching so many guys on OLDYes, I used to suggest first date ideas and never. Guys know what they are doing. So now whenever I’m in relationship or in dates getting to know them, I just follow or mirror their behaviors exactly. If they try to play games or act clueless I just do the same. Coffee costs at most 6$ and I’d rather not date a guy who’s getting to know me for 6$. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 12:39 PM |
| 15 | UN Matching so many guys on OLDLol somehow mostly ugly guys or offer this. I’ve had two asian guys offer coffee dates just yesterday. I unmatched them immediately. Other guys who suggested drinks were unmatched also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 12:13 PM |
| 6 | Am I overreacting ? Or is this gaslighting ?And I still feel hurt that he did during the date. After that we had huge argument, and he told me he didn’t do anything wrong. His attention is on a new girl and I told him to delete my number and stoped talking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Am I overreacting ? Or is this gaslighting ?Yes I did. He also liked other girl he was seeing better than me. She’s from South east Asia and he told me he likes girls there for them being easy going. He knew that if this kind of situation arises when he’s with her, she wouldn’t blame on him. She’d agree to almost everything he does even if he hurts them. He agreed on it also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 01:03 PM |
| 14 | Am I overreacting ? Or is this gaslighting ?Yes I hate that the excuse is so coy. First insult to her was insult on me also. And I never fell for his lies and just like you, I really was indifferent if he was into her or not. But his lies just made me lose attraction towards him drastically. Sure you can look at her, makes me easier to weed you out but don’t lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 05:29 AM |
| 16 | Am I overreacting ? Or is this gaslighting ?Yeah but somehow I thought I’d feel bothered at him looking at her but didn’t. I was just indifferent. But what bothered me to the core was his comments of her. You don’t have to make comments on someone look right infront of their presence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 05:11 AM |
| 9 | My friend’s bf (both 34) messaged me on tinder while she was overseas at a funeral. He didn’t recognise me.Had this happen to me also. I met this girl an we became good friends. Met his bf also. He seemed like a mature good guy. I was visiting That city again and this time, the girl went to her country for visa issues and she was worried that her visa in Germany won’t be renewed. While she was worried to death, I saw her bf on tinder. Lol the major part. His bio had one word, “big”. He was also using Couchsurfing meet up tool for meeting other girls. He was on a date with this polish girl. Told the g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 04:51 AM |
| 89 | Why do men expect women to submit to them, but the moment she wants a provider he accuses her of being a walking ATM?CAN CONFIRM THIS FOR SURE. Recently met a guy who makes over 300k as consultant. Went to Princeton and UPenn for medical school. He divorced his high class Malaysian ex wife for her being too demanding and started dating only low class Thai women. In Thailand there’s highso meaning high society- rich people who have power and money( I believe) and he told me he doesn’t like girls who are highso also as there lie white American girls. I asked him why he doesn’t date American or European girls as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 04:33 AM |
| 0 | But can HVM be just friends with women?Same here. In my country it’s generally well known that men and women can’t be friends. My personal experience proves this 100%. When I met my guy friends and if I don’t dress well, they always comment on it. If we’re friends why care ? I never made any directed criticism on their appearance. They had sexual interest in me all along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:16 PM |
| 12 | How to turn a drinks date to a dinner date?So true. Almost always when the guy suggested drink dates, it didn’t end well. It either didn’t go further meaning we didn’t meet for longer period or they were LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 04:35 PM |
| 2 | What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?Congrats ! That’s how I want myself to be. So how did it end ? Did you cut him off ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Asking to split the bill from tinderYes so true. I still can’t believe he asked to split. I thought it was a joke and later it was confirmed it wasn’t when he referred it as debt. Debt ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:32 PM |
| 4 | What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?I told my ex who’s been abused “ no wonder why you’re like that. Because you’re raised by fucked up parents. Good luck with that. And next time tell your new gf of your childhood abuse. Abused people abuse others. “ then I ghosted him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:14 PM |
| 7 | What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?So he wanted relationship as soon as you lost weight ?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:12 PM |
| 10 | Asking to split the bill from tinderOfc not. I’d tell him I left my wallet or something. But I’d be more worried about my time than my money with him. It was literally pain talking to him. I don’t know but he looked like he had some kind of communication skill problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 12:58 AM |
| 25 | Asking to split the bill from tinderYes I’m sure even if we saw each other again, it’d be another hours of meaningless boring conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 04:57 PM |
| 41 | Asking to split the bill from tinderYeah, I mean the way he worried out offended me the most. Repay the debt ? Seriously ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 03:24 PM |
| 10 | How do you politely reject a guyYes. I hate it guys when they play games and act like (for real they are unaware bc they don’t care innthe firstplace) how I’m emotionally unstable and moody. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 01:08 AM |
| 3 | Is this a red flagBut how do you know unless he tells you further on in knowing him ? I got into this guy to find out that he was hoping on to girl to another girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Dating a guyHe’s White American. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Dating a guyI had feelings for him the more I saw him. Or maybe because he was who I wanted to be. Went to top Ivy League school and now working in big consulting making over 300k/year. But he datedhooker from Thailand and he told me he really liked how his ex would do all his housework and he’d compensate with luxury trips. Secretly since none of my bf had taken me on trips I envied that. None of my bf were this rich. But also he’s divorced and seemed like he’s only into Thai girls. He kept telling me how … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Ladies that do OLD- how often do men...Literally all the guys who seems liked HVM no matter their career or looks, as soon as we had they lost interest. There was one exception. My ex who had interest in me up til a year until he started abusing me emotionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Yes, they go to Ivy Leasue schools, too. LVM in old movieYes I tried to overlook his past but I just couldn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Yes, they go to Ivy Leasue schools, too. LVM in old movieLol o met LVM off of tinder. He went to Princeton and went to UPenn medical school. He works in big consulting firm now. He got married early, then divorced immediately. Went to Thailand and had sex with multiple prostitutes and when he moved to japan for work even there he found a Thai prostitute and had relationship with her. We met when he came back I made a mistake of having sex on second date and after that he never initiated dates. Sure, he paid for every date and agree when I asked to mee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:39 AM |
| 5 | You can passively be a pickmeisha.Had similar experience. He payed for everything and we had fun talking. Time would fly. But I knew that with my intuition that we didn’t have same level of interest. He didn’t seem romantic around me and I regret not cutting him earlier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:26 AM |
| 2 | What's wrong with central european men?Can confirm this. I used OLD in Germany and it was the best dating experiences I’ve ever had. First guys are reallly hot, even compared to nyc and respectful with British accent. I don’t think I’ve ever had a guy who asked me to come to their place for sex. Overall good experience as using OLD in nyc is a shitshow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:38 AM |
| 6 | Dating in Asia vs the westYeah id say majority of them have been brainwashed/taught from such a young age that their god matters the most and that led them to think in irrational way that religious beliefs surpasses realistic matters. They live in their own world and ideals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 06:52 AM |
| 12 | What do you tell yourself if he picks another girl over you?To answer that, you can’t. He may or may not see you as option but do you want to waste your type trying to be his type ? Even if you did, it means you’re getting far from your authentic self. It’s waste of time and energy and mostly it’s tiring. I had my fair share of time thinking over this when I started dating and had crushes and you just can’t. But guys usually like high maintenance, beautiful and girls who have their head straight. And for other girls, they’ll see it either as pump an dump… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 04:48 AM |
| 2 | What do you tell yourself if he picks another girl over you?I messaged today and he read it but as usual, he didn’t reply. He thinks I’ll be back but I won’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 04:04 AM |
| 3 | What do you tell yourself if he picks another girl over you?So we met two times and on second date, we had sex. Third time he stopped making less effort and asked me to come to his place which I stupidly agreed. Then after 4th and 5th date he came to place I suggested. He always paid as for him money isn’t problem. But he told me he don’t have romantic feelings for me so his Saturday was occupied already and when I wanted to meet him I had to ask him out and it was always last minute. So I said no and kept going to see him and I think he knew then, that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 03:50 AM |
| 3 | What do you tell yourself if he picks another girl over you?Happened to me, he wanted to stay friends so I said nope. We met few times after that but his actions proved that he doesn’t value friendship so block and delete. I wanted to keep him in friendsgroupnbc he had some qualities I wanted in a bf. Cute, laid back personality, smart and makes $ with a good job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 03:38 AM |
| 16 | Dating in Asia vs the westI normally don’t date guys who’s been influenced by Muslim culture. So I stay away from middle eastern guys. My ex was Muslim middle eastern and he was the most fucked up person I’ve ever come across. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 03:36 AM |
| 19 | Dating in Asia vs the westSame here. I’ve met HVM in New York as well but what I’m saying is the proportions are immensely high. I feel like guys who move to nyc have this mindset that girls would be all over them or somehow they have to turn it into a game. I definitely enjoyed dating in Germany. Even if it ended in hookup it was enjoyable and felt like it was a genuine date rather than guys only aiming for sex. In nyc, guys are only in it for sex. They take me to fancy places just to have sex and I could see through th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Nyc and OLDHH as in Hilton hotel ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Nyc and OLDI go on dates and always tell guys that I have work tomorrow starting early and give them tired eye. They never say no to this. If a guy insists sex tell them you’ll meet him at his place and ghost him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Strategies/suggestions to gain self confidence and increase self esteem?After therapy and spending time in nature I gained my self esteem my working out. If I look good I feel much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 11:07 AM |
| 3 | Dress Code for a HVW?I actually used to dress according to a guy. If I was dating a guy who can’t afford to shop at Harris’s or Neiman Marcus, I wear my cheap clothes. If a guy is well off and takes me to fancy places I put on my CELINE coat with Chanel bag. Most of the times I layer it up. But I realized HM wards off LVM guys. I hate guys who wear same clothes everyday claiming their minimalist. Bro, you’re not. You’re just lazy to wear different clothes or moreover if you have one, it’ll be wrinkly untidy ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:47 AM |
| 14 | I can't even. I'm good enough to fuck but not date wtfI’m in late 20s and i resonate. But let these guys live that way, they’ll ruin their life with their own hands. All you can do is ignore and live your life. And unfortunately guys do rank women according to their looks so I try my best to look good but not for men’s sake for my own self esteem. I know that I can reject guys like those and not even look back because much better guys are around the corner when you’re prettt and have a lot of options. Don’t settle for those bearded guys( I hate bea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:42 AM |
| 17 | I can't even. I'm good enough to fuck but not date wtfI’m currently meeting guys on OLD after going full FDS mode to practice. I need guys to practice on. Just like guys see women on OLD as pump and dump material, see them as use and ditch type of guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:32 AM |
| 10 | Apparently, my sister and I are "shallow" because she doesn't want to date a guy and I'm telling her she doesn't have toI’m very visually oriented so I resonate with your sister a lot. I can’t date a guy if he’s ugly in my sense. Your sister didn’t do anything wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:21 AM |
| 2 | Nyc and OLDYes but HVM can look HVM on surface on can be LVM. I’ve met attractive guys who are extremely wealthy but had LvM character. But still it’s better than broke LVm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:00 AM |
| 4 | Nyc and OLDSame here. I don’t date guys out of manhattan and certain parts of Brooklyn. But one thing I realized is financial stability matters a lot in New York but I don’t want to go all the way to meet a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:06 AM |
| 7 | Nyc and OLDYes omg I surprised we have similar experiences. When I was chubby, I’ve met really good looking guys who are wealthy and very genuine and respectful what I noticed was these were the guys who were never blatantly fat shaming and respected my boundaries. After this experience I never date guys who are not established, they have obvious chip on their shoulder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:40 AM |
| 6 | Is There A Way To Tell If A Guy Is Going To Pay Before Going On A Date?Well, you don’t have to bring your wallet. So the restaurant assumes the guy pays. I live in nyc so I tend to to date financially stable man but have met guys who work in big corps and suggest Starbucks date, what I do is I just walk out without explanation. Why ? Because I’ll never see them again. If the man is cheap with money he’ll be cheap with other things. You don’t need those guys in your life. One thing I realized after going on 60+ dates is I’ll never date someone who’s not financially … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:55 AM |
| 7 | How to answer questions about your OLD dating history?If I were you, I’d get out or either pour my heart about how stressed I was at work or something about my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:27 AM |
| 31 | How to answer questions about your OLD dating history?This is triangulation. Act disinterested. What I do is I ignore him for a while unless he curbs the topic into something that is worthwhile to discuss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:29 PM |
| 9 | How to answer questions about your OLD dating history?Yes they almost always ask about how long have I used it. I just tell them a lie. Tell them you recently joined and met only one guy who was a tourist. No need to give them the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:24 PM |
| 1 | The love of my life prefers chubby women. I’m thin. Should I gain weight to be desirable to him?He’s using triangulation. Tell him to gain weight and admire his curves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 08:43 PM |
| 4 | FDS Therapy Tools: The Stages of ChangeMaintenance. Trying to read every inch of the handbook and internalize it so I never forget it and make mistakes ever again when it comes to dealing with men. So far I ditch every dates and unmatch every guy if I see red flags. No excuses. Bette to be cautious than regret it later on. Tactics that helped me. Don’t over share but rather listen and let them unravel. Just be passive overall- don’t set up plans, don’t ask them out, don’t text first. Don’t neg them and don’t teach them anything. Show… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:44 PM |
| 4 | Getting Dumped by a HVMHe’s not HVM. If he was, he wouldn’t have strung you along while his feelings werent in clear order. Kudos for you for getting rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 02:19 PM |
| 4 | About His Social Media Posts: Everyone doesn’t need to know your day-to-day business, but EVERYONE should know you’re a couple. There’s a big difference between privacy and secrecy. Don’t get played.One thing I realized is guys don’t post pics of the girl if he thinks the girl is ugly. Even if he knows that it won’t be lasting, If the girl is pretty he will post it on his social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Dating with age?I think it would if you don’t take care of your mind and body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:40 AM |
| 1 | So many of us believe HVM are in short supply but even when we find them do we stand a chance? Even HVM's are drawn to damaged women.. I've given up on ever finding one in my 40s. Thank GOD for FDS helping me realize my self worthiness!Yes but in real life guys say it too that HVW is rare. It is, in real life, good looking, fit, healthy minded people with good morals is rare. Its like how you cannot attract good looking guys when your average girls unless you’re willing to do other things that makes you stand out. HVM guys just wouldn’t go pursue you just because you’re a woman. You need to bring similar values to the table, empathy, kindness, motivation and other things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:36 AM |
| 6 | When is it acceptable to do nice things for him?Don’t ever buy a gift for him. Guys like pursuing girls and the more he invest the harder is for him to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:31 AM |
| 19 | Don't reveal your hand to men, until you have THOROUGHLY vetted them.I can’t agree more. Don’t ever verbally say it to the guy what you want, show it through actions. Guys consider verbal words as negging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:59 AM |
| 11 | Don't reveal your hand to men, until you have THOROUGHLY vetted them.Yes so true that men will exploit anything that they don’t cherish. It’s like to guys how ugly girls are invisible and only for hookup material. Yes so always make the guy pay and plan. And withhold sex. You never know if his intentions to you or pure or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Don't reveal your hand to men, until you have THOROUGHLY vetted them.Same here. I used to pour my feelings out but I actually lie about my upbringing or other things. So what I do is I treat is as therapy session and pour my feelings but don’t tell them about myself much. So they can’t use it against me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:23 AM |
| 6 | Don't reveal your hand to men, until you have THOROUGHLY vetted them.I used to tell guys fake stories about myself. Telling them I have siblings, which I don’t and I grew up here and even changed my nationality. Because deep down I knew that I don’t want to leak my info to random strangers whom I’ll never end up seeing. Plus guys love mysterious girls. They think the girl is like that just bc she has some interest in him but in most cases, it’s opposite. However it’s very easy for me to be vague and mysterious to guys I don’t like because I don’t feel like talkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:16 AM |
| 0 | My mum's attitude fed so badly into me growing upSame exact words my ex used to say. Whenever he was gone, I had to find it out from his female friends insta story of his whereabouts. trust your intuition cut him off immediately if he blames you in reverse, tell him ok, you’re right but I’m tried. I’m not mad at you but you’re such a drama queen. Then ghost. -or mirror him exactly. Guys hate being begged so I learned the hard way to initiate the exact things they do. If he cheats ? I cheat more with 2 guys. If he negs me about my clothes, I we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Feeling Not Good Enough?I’ve been in exact same situation. My ex was a narcissist and even after two years of breakup, till this day I don’t know if he liked me or not. The best compliment he ever given me was that I’m cute. I used to cry by his side because he made so much criticism against me. Just leave him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/20 03:17 PM |
| 26 | Unpopular opinion: If you're dating men in their 20s, pay more attention to their work ethic than their actual incomeI used to be in Sugarbaby website and met numerous wealthy man and it’s not correlated with their character. I can 100% testify this. I’ve met investors, lawyers, bankers, you name it and some of them had the most beautiful home I ever been to and some of them were good looking. Wealthy men can have very good work ethic but if their upbringing was trash and themselves have bad morals he’s a trash. I describe it this way. A girl can look beautiful on Instagram. But that doesn’t mean she’ll look b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:07 AM |
| 12 | “The one who loves the least is the one with more power in a relationship”I think this works only if the guy is LVM. I know that guys are evolutionary wise, hunters but still if the guy is forever into chase and playing games it’s not worth your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 04:03 PM |
| 7 | Pretty girls get treated better ?Personally I never had that experience, bc I lived in the states and other countries so I don’t think I ever felt like they were taking advantage of me being the foreign girl. I don’t have accent when I speak English so they assume I’m from the states immediately. But I was just talking about guys in general no matter the culture/country he’s in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | What is the proper response for being asked out on a low effort 'date'?I mostly agree on coffee, drink dates and then ghost them. It leaves them wondering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 07:35 AM |
| 3 | Watch your thoughtsI told myself to only think about him when I’m with him in person. If not, it’s sort of waste to my time and energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 04:53 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, losing weight was the best remedy to my pick me ways.I used to be size 4-6 but since I lived in nyc and London and growing up in Asia, size 4-6 is considered obese. But it depends on your height. One thing I realized was guys I ultimately wanted, they preferred someone who’s slim. Most wealthy guys wanted slim girls. I don’t know if it’s big city things but guys wanted slim girls who they wouldn’t mind taking in public places so it hit me insecurity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 04:45 AM |
| 14 | Ladies, losing weight was the best remedy to my pick me ways.Yeah it’s sad to say but I think for me being obese was one of the ways to become pick me. Guys don’t take fat girls seriously to be honest. I hate to say this but it’s true. Because taking care of oneself is basic. It’s directly related to controlling your desires to eat. When I finally hit size 00 my mind just instantly changed and guys would take me even if i was being bitchy to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 04:43 AM |
| 16 | Gut feelingsI do think some guys who have sharp intuitions and in touch with spirituality have this. But most of them don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 06:04 PM |
| 5 | Less attractive and OLDInteresting how old was your ex if you don’t mind me asking ? I’ve received lot of dick pics and I always blocked them right after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 05:36 PM |
| 28 | Gut feelingsYeah in my culture ( Korea) there’s a study I think in English it’s translated as physiognomy. They say the older you get, the life you lived and your attitude is exactly portrayed in your face. So the guy can be attractive but if he’s shitty person, it’ll show in his face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 05:06 PM |
| 20 | Gut feelingsYeah why lie about job ? I once had a guy who told me he went to Harvard business school but he actually went to NYU. He’s successful no matter what but I couldn’t understand why he had to lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 05:04 PM |
| 1 | ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INTUITION.I can wholeheartedly approve this. My type was skinny nerdy guys but 100% they were bullied when young either by parents or peers, and came with avoidant attachment issues. After that I don’t date those guys. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Just bc the guy is nerdy doesn’t mean he’ll have no idea how to handle manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 02:04 PM |
| 18 | Another reason never to date down...People who constantly criticizes others, it’s proven psychologically that in truth, they’re the ones who have low self esteem. They’re the one with the issues and that’s why they project their insecurities to others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Would you date a guy who’s been divorced ?I thought so too. But somehow I don’t have many options as I’m not that attractive and I’m chubby and among all the guys I met so far, he’s the best overall. I’ve met hot guys but one of them was narcissist and other guy was avoidant attachment style. But this guy seems emotionally mature and I really like that about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Are Asian men normally very distant?I’m asian from Asia and I don’t think he likes you that much. I dated Japanese, korean and Chinese and I’m korean myself and if the guy likes you, he lets you know and you wouldn’t be confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 12:56 PM |
| 4 | I don't have to be his friend. I don't owe him anything!!!If you don’t mind me asking how was your relationship and how long was it ? I was in similar situation and this guy wanted to be friends | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 12:27 PM |
| 15 | I don't have to be his friend. I don't owe him anything!!!I’m in now exact situation and cut him off yesterday. You don’t owe him anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 12:23 PM |
| 7 | Is a man saying he wants lots of kids a red flag?My ex was Muslim and he told me he wanted 8 kids. Let me tell you this. I hate to say this but his parents fucked him up and shouldn’t have had sex producing narcissistic children. He told me he was abused when young and he was the most extreme covert narc I’ve ever came across. It’s not about lots of kids or not, it’s more about if he’s willing to put in equal effort in raising the kids properly and if his fianances will be able to back it up. He has to have the mature and responsible mindset a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a guy who’s been divorced ?I do feel the same. He's in much better position than me. went to Ivy League, earning 300k and I'm just working in client services and just starting on my career as late 20s woman. but I don't feel comfortable about the fact that he has an ex of 6 yrs whom he divorced. I feel like if I date divorced man, I should be in the same position meaning unless im divorced I shouldn't be dating those guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Would you date a guy who’s been divorced ?I;m sorry but could you elaborate what it means exactly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:43 AM |
| 2 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?So are you going through similar situation ? I think this sub helped me a lot. Intuition is there for a reason. Everyone I noticed intuition it ended up in disaster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 07:52 AM |
| 9 | Men love providingTrue, to the end of the relationship, my ex suggested splitting. I was stupid enough to pay. Don’t ever spend $ when you’re with a guy. You just have to show up and look beautiful and be a good company. A guy who’s broke shouldn’t be ever dating in the first place. Guys show his love for your with their time and money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:16 AM |
| 2 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Yeah bc I was friendly to him right before the text. I really like him and that’s why it was more of my feelings vs my rationality issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 03:10 AM |
| 2 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?I sent him this Anyway disregard what I sent. I really don’t think I can meet you. I think I’m feeling the same confusion I felt when I broke up with my ex. And never have I ever felt so confused about someone. Bc he wanted me by his side for his entertainment and suggested friends but he never showed that he valued me. And I think it’s the same. I doubt that if I was ugly as that Japanese girl you’d want to be friends with me. You obviously know that I like you so you’re willing to keep me by y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 02:50 AM |
| 8 | Experiences With Selfish Men?I go the high way and act more selfish when dealing with those guys. Usually I don’t get involved with selfish friends or selfish guys as I sense from very early on but one of my roommate was selfish. All the past roommates moved our less than 3 months because of her. What I did was I ignored her completely. Like she’s invisible. You should do the same. When they’re talking on date, just take out your phone and do something else. I usually reply to my work emails. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 03:35 PM |
| 4 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?I cut him off finally and I can’t even if I want to as of now. I was going back and forth and he even told me he’s unsure of my feelings towards me. I felt so hurt and confused same as when my abusive narc ex suggested friendship after breakup. I told this guy that and that’s why I can’t be friends with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:50 PM |
| 4 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?I agree with going on dates but I don’t think I can do fwb ever again. I didn’t like this guy at first and we slept two times and hanging out as friends and my feelings developed for him really quickly and that’s when all this emotional turmoil happened. I think it’s just relationship with men or nothing. I don’t even believe in male friends tbh. All the male friends including this guy had sexual interest in me and never lasted long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:38 PM |
| 4 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Yes I just texted him saying I can’t do it and texted him ciao. I want to meet someone who values my feelings not just stringing me along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:22 PM |
| 4 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Yeah we had sex two times and I was really hurt that he told me he has romantic feelings for other girl he met few times and wanted to keep me as friends. I initially agreed and said no and kept going back and forth about it but I just can’t do it. My gut tells me to cut him off even though I like him. I want to have relationship not friends. So I just had to cut him off anyhow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:18 PM |
| 9 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Yeah I just blocked him. I liked him but he said he wanted to stay as friend after sex. I told him I’m not looking for friends and blocked him. Taking too much of my mental energy and time. Time to move on I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:09 PM |
| 2 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?So block him ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:06 PM |
| 9 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?But I’m curious I was reading fds handbook, and it says HVM knows early on that they’ll be keeping you as gf or not. But he and I, we’re like friends and he wants to stay as friends but I’m not sure about it. But also at the same time I don’t want to lose him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:37 PM |
| 28 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Thanks yes I turned off all notifications for now and I’m focusing on myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:25 PM |
| 29 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?no I don’t double text but I noticed it’s taking longer for him to reply. I’m slowly shifting into thinking of cutting him off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:25 PM |
| 36 | A cautionary tale of a narcissistic finance broI never date these kind of guys. I’m in nyc and they have low EQ. Little do they know that these kind of behaviors lowers their value even more. What I learned after encountering these guys is I hurt their ego as much as possible. I’d ghost on them if they say something offending, walk out on dates or say something brutally honest which most women are afraid to do. If I were you, I’d casually call out on his height since he has insecurity over the height. And guys do always come back to women wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Photo uploaded on Instagram ?!I can’t believe he did this intentionally to me while I really cared for him. That’s why it’s such a huge trauma for me. I’d Mildly understand if I was just normal gf to him. But I was really caring. But in truth or at least in my observation , I don’t think he was 100 percent attracted to me. He just wanted to try me out as I was nice to him and he was in a situation where there weren’t many girls around him. So as soon as he moved to London and girls more of his type came along he ditched me l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Photo uploaded on Instagram ?!He didn’t have a gf but I don’t know why he did that. Sometimes we walked by side by side in public like very public places in London. Till this day I don’t know. I think he was embarrassed of me bc that’s what ppl do if they think their partner isn’t attractive enough. Don’t you think ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Nope. A man who’s interested will post you on social media, don’t try to justify their actions like thisI have similar experience. Sad to say this but I don’t think he liked your looks. I might get downvoted for this but if the guy doesn’t like you physically attractive enough he’ll string you along and never post pic of you socially because he knows that people would think poorly of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 02:13 PM |
| 9 | Him: i love her as a friend! Yeh she has a nice body and she’s a flirt... but we’ve known each other for years!My ex pulled triangulation also. I have severe trauma bc of this and quit all social media outlets. People who can’t distinguish friendships and relationships are not worth keeping period. If your bf pulls this one, do exactly mirror him. I did this to my ex and he went crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 01:38 PM |
| 20 | What is it with who talk about themselves all the time?Mostly narcs are like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??I think you should just break up. I don’t think he cares. My ex was similar except that he was jealous and he’d just blatantly label my male friends as toxic even if I didn’t give much details. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??The only way in that case I could cope his stop asking him questions and just ghost him and make him curious about your whereabouts. If he asks, tell him it’s not his business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 07:52 AM |
| 18 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??My ex left severe trauma bc of this. Adding to this, he did triangulation with his female friend and me. Whenever he’s gone he was with her. That’s why I don’t believe in friendship bs. Or if I do, I’d treat him exactly like how I treat my female friend. Guys who can’t have clear cut relationships and friendships or LvM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 08:53 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with Gas Lighting?My ex was very good at it. What I do is I completely ignore them and act like he’s invisible infront of me until he properly apologized for it and makes up for it. If he does it again, leave. Don’t explain. Over the text if he gaslights you, ghost and come back and text, I just read this. What did you write ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Are HVM always the most attractive men in the dating pool?I’ve did. Two of my ex were literally 10/10 in looks. But they were all LVM. And also recently a guy who asked me out was LvM and was ugly also. So I don’t think it’s regarding looks but it’s tied with their upbringing environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Are HVM always the most attractive men in the dating pool?Ugh I resonate with you so much. I think it has to do with nyc is the city that never sleeps. So most guys are in nyc for their career and they want to max out their opportunity. I have harder time as I’m just average girl. I heard that joining sport events and work events helps you to meet HVM. Personally I kept deleting and re installing OLD. I’ve met one HVM. Most of the hot guys I know aren’t looking for relationships as they know they have abundance of girls they could go around and sleep w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 12:33 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone ever dated a covert narcissist? What were the signs? How did you escape it?I did, my ex is prime example of covert narc. There were red flags but I was so naive that I regard it as him looking out for me. He’s always critique me and tel me what to do. He had multiple short relationships, extremely conscious of how people view him so he’d spend long time before going out. He lied a lot, and always turned the blame around me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Are HVM always the most attractive men in the dating pool?Personally I think by observing my fellow nyc friends, girls who are really pretty attract HVM and LVM. But my friends who are really attractive end up with good looking HVM. And HVM doesn’t have to do with looks but if you want good looking HVM, I think on looks scale, you have to be attractive than them. Let’s say you want 8 plus guy, then your look have to be over 9 or 10 in looks. Guys are visual animals no matter what. I tend to go for nerdy average good looking cute guys in nyc but I’m asi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Are HVM always the most attractive men in the dating pool?I did, in the past. I live in nyc. I’m no model in anyways, but he was less physically attractive than any other guys I’ve dated but I really admired his masculine personality. When we think of masculinity we think of muscles and physical traits, he didn’t possess those but had masculinity inside. He was respectful of my boundaries and always called Uber for me when I went home late at night. But I agree, guys who were really genuine towards me were mostly guys I wasn’t physically attracted to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Are men only HVMs for women they actually want?There’s a saying in my country which says, person can’t be fixed. People in general don’t change. He can be loving at first but it’ll eventually wear off. It’s not what it seems on the surface as you don’t know what really goes on between your ex and the girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what are your standards vs the men you end up with? Do you ever lower your standards?I’m chubby but I ended up with slim and toned guys. But I’m opposite. I don’t mind the body as long as guy isnt morbidly obese but I hate to date a guy with a bad taste and guy who’ve been abused when young which leads to having victim mentality even when they’re adult. So even if the guy is hot and toned, I avoid these guys at all cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 10:45 AM |
| 5 | Never explain, never regret: Don't let them guilt you into oversharing, sis.So how should I respond when a guy asks too much questions and blames me for being too secretive ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 10:35 AM |
| 1 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?Thanks I cut him off and now reading fds sidebar thoroughly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 06:44 AM |
| -1 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?Yeah I think it’s bc I rarely come across a guy I like in the first place. All the guys I like do not like me and guys that like me or ask me out or guys I wouldn’t bother as there definitely ugly or worth giving my time to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:57 AM |
| -1 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?First I cut him off telling him how upset I was and he came all the way to my neighborhood and we had a talk for ours over the drinks so I got drifted away in the mood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:45 AM |
| 0 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?Thanks I know pain will go away eventually but I don’t have that many options. When I try OLD I get match with decent guys but those guys don’t talk to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:20 AM |
| -4 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?I read all the sidebar and I tried dating multiple men. But the issue is I don’t have that many options. So I don’t have guys I could see other than him. And I genuinely enjoyed meeting him. Guys who are interested in me are usually broke young students even though I’m not broke or young and living with roommates . I’m 27. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:19 AM |
| 2 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?Thanks. I lied because I knew that if I don’t put distance I’d develop feelings for him and would continue pursue meeting him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:09 AM |
| 1 | I lied to a guy what should I do ?Thanks but I also lied so I feel guilty of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Help- how should I go about itThanks. We didn’t date but just went for a date few times. He initiated sex on second date. I hate myself for letting that happen. He came to my neighborhood and we went for a drink but later when had drinks for few hrs, he told me he has feelings for me but not romantically. Issue is, I lied few things to him prior to meeting him on the first date and he didn’t like that a lot. I lied bc I’m always careful of men I meet on OLD. He told me few times he loves hanging out with me and I do too. But… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Help- how should I go about itSo he told me he wants to stay as friends since I’m cool and interesting. But I should still drop him right ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Just my personal observation of IUD and sex cultureTotally I agree. I understand the benefits of IUD but if it’s for the wrong reason, it’s not worth it. It’s putting metal in your womb and I don’t think in long run it’d be healthy for the body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 02:45 AM |
| 5 | Am I weird that I never get along with French men ?Haha same here. I had date with French guy in soho, London long time ago. He was bombarding me with questions and due to that I couldn’t even pick up my fork to eat. Then he asked to split the bill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Stop Calling Men "HVM" after two or three datesI wish there’s a way to spot HVM from day 1. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 11:11 AM |
| 37 | Just my personal observation of IUD and sex cultureI understand in that case but I’ve heard numerous girls wanting to have IUD bc their bf suggested it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 03:46 AM |
| 18 | Am I weird that I never get along with French men ?I read the comment also. I just find most French guys IME as fuckboys and having low quality character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:15 PM |
| -13 | Rich guys & skinny girlsBut I realized, that most guys treat pretty girlfriends way better than their plain girlfriends which is sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 08:48 PM |
| 7 | To all New Yorkers- Do you believe that guys here are more socially smart than guys from other cities ?Yup, can’t agree more. My rule of thumb is if a guy shows slight signs of jerks, I cut them off. I feel like nyc guys prefer strong or bitchy women as they say. I became like this because some guys have no basic respect when going on a date expecting me to come to their place and bow down to them just because they’re banker or make lots of money. They think that money and status can justify their lack of morals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:49 PM |
| 6 | To all New Yorkers- Do you believe that guys here are more socially smart than guys from other cities ?Yes, and if they do, they decide to get divorced. But I also think that nyc men aren’t particularly attractive. I lived in Germany and in uk and liked there far better. Though they’re not all into career or wealth as nyc guy do. I hear so much from my older friends that guys meet them and it’s going great( going on dates and having intimacy) to find out they recently broken up and want to take things slow and casual. Plus dating multiple girls on the side. Honestly I felt deceived also because t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 06:55 PM |
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