Hello, A few months ago I have discovered this sub and oh my god, did it bring a new perspective. I have been lurking for awhile but finally decided to post, thanking yall for the memes and just generally for the support.

Awhile ago i was literally in a situation with what yall r describing as a LVM. He was just leading me on, promising things and never delivering on anything. At first we were just friends since we had so much in common and had a good "wibe", we took classes together in uni so it wasn't anything serious. Later on he started to pursue me, wanting sth more than a friendship but knowing that he had a gf, I made it AS CLEAR AS IT CAN GET and told him FUCK NO. He told me that I had nothing to worry about since him and his gf have been over for months (its a long distance relationship and I honestly dont even know her name)

So naive me, thinking that he was telling me the truth decided to accept that... he tried his best to pursue me further, saying that we should just hook up and what not, that no one needs to know and it will be "our little secret", to which I said that it hasn't been long since he broke up with his gf and that I dont wanna be a rebound. So he tried for a few weeks, until i learnt that he actually didn't break up with his gf. That they were just fighting and he decided that suddenly its ok to cheat since apparently she cheated (i mean... thats what he said so I wouldnt know if its true). He apologised, said that it was a shitty situation and his gf fucked him over and what not. Hoping that its true, I gave him another chance.

So... long story short the exact same thing happened for the second time and thats when I told him to fuck off. He posted a pic with his "ex" gf making out, while still trying to get in with me so yeah. As soon as I saw that, I sent him a short msg, like 4 lines, saying that he has met my expectations exactly and how he can just fuck off. After that I blocked his ass on that app and just moved on.

When all of this exploded in my face, I was just glad that I never gave into his begging. Never slept with him, never even kissed him, never invited him over and never let him stay over. Idk y, not like i was doing it on purpose, it just never occurred to me to do that. I saw some signs and I just decided to not let him into my private space.

So fast forward 3 months, I receive a msg from him (I blocked him on the social media but forgot to block his number). There ..... it was just bad.... he clearly didn't give a shit. He was asking for some uni help and said that "I know I fucked up but can u pls help me with this thing. If I don't hand this in, I'll fail the class and im out of this uni" .

Half a year later, I receive another msg. And thats when I really learnt that he doesnt see the problem. I told him explicitly why he's a shitty human being (half a year earlier) and this "apology" showed that he either didnt feel sorry or that he doesn't care. At first he didn't even say a fucking sorry or acknowledge his wrong doings. He just said "oh its been awhile whats up". When i didn't respond, 5h later he wrote a paragraph, saying that I was right and he felt bad (NOT SORRY!!!!) for .... not answering my msgs. He didn't even say sorry. He didn't even say that maybe pursuing me when he had a gf, lying to me TWICE about breaking up with her, all of that, that maybe its fucked. Nope. Thats when I learnt that from a trashy man like that, I should have never expected an apology. They r not capable of that.

Seeing all of the posts here, how guys msg the "its been awhile hope u r doing well" kinda msges, it shocked me. How r all of them the same ? Using the same words, msging in the same way, even in the same time frame, how r all shitty guys so damn similar ???? Guess this sub help me see the bright side of this and helped me move on, better my self and always be aware of LVM.

I have shared this sub with many friends, who have also been in situations that r scary similar to what yall r describing here. I just cant believe all the similarities I came across... so yeah. Thanks ;)