A guy (25) that I (22F) had dated followed a number of women and had many female followers on instagram. Granted he ran a poetry page but on both his personal and poetry account there are just a number of women who he seemingly considers as “just friends.”

This made me wonder if this is a red flag and how I might be able to distinguish this characteristic as “just a kind guy” from a “player”?

When we were dating he would often FaceTime and play games with a number of his closest female friends which at first I wasn’t bothered by because they were friends before he had met me. Yet something about it irked me and I couldn’t tell if it was my own problem of being easily jealous/envious of the attention he gave them.

One of his close female friends had admitted to having feelings for him which he rejected and he still keeps in close contact with her almost every day saying that “she’s the one who values our friendship but I feel bad for her bc I tell her she’ll find someone eventually.”

This led me to distance myself and no longer talk to him but am seeking advice on the matter of men having platonic relationships with women.

Thoughts???