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Welcome Queen! Yeah I hear you. I gave up OLDS a few months ago; best decision I ever made.. I swear 99% of the guys on there are LVM & only talk to you so they can fuck you (don't seem interested in relationships even though they say that they are. They're just saying whatever you want to hear so they can get laid). I had went on one website about 2 wks ago, just to see how it was; it was just awful & much worse than I had imagined. With all this free time I'm able to focus on my hobbies, journ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:35 PM
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hugs thank you! You too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:29 PM
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Yup I 2nd this ⬆️ 💯. Don't bother responding. He's just using you.point blank
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 06:25 PM
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Yea I have considered it as well. Maybe eventually I'll start dating again (but not this year). I've got to focus on myself and my own needs. Therapy has been helping a whole lot & I'm learning more about myself each day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 06:15 PM
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You're welcome. I'm glad you're safe & sound. You don't need to be his personal punching bag. He needs to take care of his damn self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:26 PM
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hugs I hear you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:06 PM
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Same. I've been hit on before a few times & some guys approach me but they aren't my type. So I shut them down swiftly. I have never encountered a HVM in the wild. (But to be fair I'm hardly outside, socializing. I'm more of an introvert. I keep to myself a lot). And yes the guys I seem to attract are just all awful; they too just want to fuck and can't be locked down in a relationship for whatever reason. I can't date right now. Way too much crap going on and I need to focus on myself..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:46 PM
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Yea I was going to mention this before but this is straight up stalking/harassment. I would advise him that yes you will be contacting police if he continues to contact you. Hugs I hope that he leaves you alone soon. This pandemic is making many LVM/NVM act very unstable. Please be careful. Set up a safety plan if need be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:09 PM
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He sounds like he's treating you like his personal therapist & you really don't want any part of it. I would seriously ignore, delete & block him immediately. You don't owe him a damn thing... Your mental health/well-being comes first. And he's an adult; he can take care of his own damn self. I've had some experience with a LVM who would come at me with different email/email addresses (after I had changed my phone #). You need to get a restraining order out on him. Listen to what you're saying; …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:50 PM
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He looks old enough to be someones grandpa.. geeeez 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:49 AM
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Honestly I would just ignore, delete & block him. That's just me. He's obviously got a wandering eye.. he wants both of you and he isn't doing a good job of hiding it. Perhaps hes one of those poly-amorous ppl? But I wouldn't want to be put in that position.. I'd rather cut my losses and leave while I could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:23 PM
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Yea I concur. I've been single now for 4 yrs; got out of an abusive narc LVM relationship.. I've been slowly healing & there are days that I'm lonesome too. But I remember that I have to be single in order to heal. It's not going to be forever. It's just part of the recuperating process. I'm in therapy too which has been working wonders
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 09:01 PM
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Omfg that's hilarious 😂 I spit out my water. I'm adding that to mine too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:45 PM
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🤣🤣 a male robot that doesn't speak.. that line killed me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:34 PM
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My pee pee!!! My fee fees!!!!! GTFO what a dang loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:47 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:39 PM
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I don't like penis. My vibrator on the other hand.. is way better and doesn't talk back to me & actually pleases me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:04 PM
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You're absolutely right. I'd say that 99% of them on OLDS are only seeking a FWB situation, at most. They just don't want commitment & will say just about anything to get into our pants. I'm truly sick of it. I'm grateful to be single. At times it can be lonesome but it's better than having to put up with a man baby who needs constant attention/ego stroking. I'm essentially looking for a partner & most of these "men" aren't partner worthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:15 PM
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Thank you for sharing hugs yea I wanted to see how it would be on an OLDS site; just curious. As I expected, it was so awful. I was on it for maybe 2 hrs. I had to delete it again. Not many replies & the ones that I did receive weren't even worth a response. Guys are boring; let's just be real (especially online). They hide, with their tails between their legs, and then expect us to just talk & meet, at the drop of a hat. This pandemic shows how truly depraved & mundane most guys are on there. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:02 AM
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Yea it seems they are all getting much worse. This pandemic has really opened my eyes to many different things. One of which is that I'm alright with being alone. Dating's just not for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 09:55 AM
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I was on an OLDS site not long ago (3 days ago or so). I seriously only had my profile up for not even 3 hrs. I had to take it down. The depravity knows no limit.. it literally made me sick 🤢 I just knew I wasn't going to be dating for the rest of this year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:57 AM
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Omg same!! My thumb is hurting 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:50 AM
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You did.. You're gonna level up & he won't. Just the truth.. i know exactly how you feel. I did take revenge (more than a few yrs ago) & it didn't really do much of anything. It didn't come back to me but I was afraid that it would eventually. Don't seek revenge; it will find its way back to you somehow. Be careful hugs I'm proud of you for leaving him alone. Guys like that should be left alone to rot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:13 PM
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This is disturbing beyond words. I am sober and live my life as best I can. This guy just doesn't understand the consequences of his behaviors.. he needs therapy, meds or both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 08:27 PM
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Exactly.. I've decided to be abstinent as well. Focusing on myself has been the best investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:02 AM
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Yea me too. That's why I'm just focusing on myself right now. Guys aren't that important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:00 AM
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Yes exactly! I'm still healing too.. staying sober now for 448 days and going too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:10 AM
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This stupid Cosmo article may give other LVW the idea that hey if they're doing it why cant I? Sort of mentality. Omfg... This isn't a game. This is real life. People are sick and dying out here & all they can think about is dick. Buy a toy.. geez. Dick is not all that great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:50 AM
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I think they needs meds and therapy.. lots of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:45 AM
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Your vagina isn't a McDonald's.. you definitely won't be loving death. That's for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:43 AM
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I understand as well. I slipped up too. But I explained to him not to email me again. It felt empowering but I too have been struggling with being alone. It's not easy at times. But through all of this you will gain much strength & perseverance. I told myself that I deserve much better & I have to be patient. I have a lot of work left to do. But I believe in you. Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:24 AM
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Yea I took a look at one OLDS a few days ago; OMFG most of the guys on there are so desperate, weird & disgusting. We're not missing anything 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:05 AM
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Samesies.. I have seriously no interest in dating. Last time I dated was November of last yr. Guy showed his true colors in less than 2 months (so I'm fortunate for that; didn't have to waste any more time on him). Just celebrate yourself. Be there for yourself. Love yourself. I'm also an introvert so the whole dating a few guys at a time isn't very appealing to me. I don't see the point. And yes having to play detective and figure out what his true intentions are. Nope I'm good being single..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:02 AM
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So true! I had an abusive narc bf for a couple months.. I was in throws of addiction.. he would supply drugs, I would get the alcohol. We had chemistry but our relationship was never good. We both had demons but we didn't conquer them. We just kept feeding those demons.. until it almost consumed me. I am lucky to have gotten away from him. Found out a few things about him: he was married (not separated). He had some deep-seated issues. I had put him on a restraining order.. I got an email from h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:47 PM
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Wtf 🤦 I don't even know where to begin...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:36 PM
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Omg same!! I get more questions from my family about being single than anyone. I just tell them it's not a priority for me right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:28 PM
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That's great!! I have a couple on my block lists as of right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:53 PM
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So true.. stay safe Queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:08 PM
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This is disgusting.. I'm appalled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 05:56 PM
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What a loser...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:40 PM
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He's inconsistent, not listening, Very erratic.. I wouldn't tolerate someone texting me at odd times of the day (for example from 9pm to 8am). It shows a lack of respect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:18 PM
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hugs don't blame yourself for his inadequacies. It's his fault; not yours.. You're welcome! He's not being careful during this difficult time but you are. You'll be much better off without this guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:30 PM
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In all honesty, if I were in your shoes I'd be upset too but I would have to just move on. Anyone's who's willing to violate a self quarantine to see anyone (even if you're dating , married, going steady or whatever) is a huge red flag to me. It shows he's very selfish and desperate; I personally wouldn't deal with him any more. You deserve so much better Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:53 PM
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You're good enough. He just doesn't see it... I understand you're upset. I would be too. Just remember you still have your dignity. Don't forget that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:11 PM
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Intuition never lies.. yea and you did the right thing. He would still be lying to you right now if you were together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:03 PM
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No you aren't. He's showing you his true colors. Believe him the first time. You won't regret it. I did the same thing.. I avoided a incredibly messy situation and I'm glad to be single right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:49 PM
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Yea I never get approached by HVM outside in the wild. It's mainly LVM or NVM... I must have a sign on my forehead or something. But I don't like being approached either. I'm shy & very reserved. I will tell a guy to seriously leave me alone. Or I will just call one of my friends/brothers and he will walk away. Although I have had a few really nutty ones just stick around and I would have to physically move away and go to a safer area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:47 PM
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Yes I agree.. I'm proud of you!! Also I wanted to add too: he's lying about this. Then what else is he lying about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:45 PM
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Yea the smoking/drinking is a huge deal breaker.. nope!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:41 PM
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Drop him like a sack of potatoes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:19 PM
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Yaaass! It's been so quiet and not stressful at all... I had quit dating last yr (in November). Haven't looked back. I have had some ex's pop up (from different #'s) but I promptly ignored, blocked & deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:13 PM
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hugs I'm so sorry and I hear you OP. I concur as well. You have to reach out to suicide hotline & speak to them or reach out to a professional. He's ultimately in control & he needs help asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:42 AM
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Me too. I've sacrificed myself time and time again to just be used and discarded.. never again. Guys only see us in terms of how "useful" we are or aren't. I don't want to be useful (especially towards the wrong type of guy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:28 AM
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Omg Queen! don't do it. I don't care how fine he is.. it always ends badly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:34 PM
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Same.. my parents were very strict. They sheltered me when I was a kid & even as a young teen. I understood why but I think it was pretty extreme. I wish I knew half of this information when I was younger but I'm still relatively young (37 but I look like I'm in my mid 20s). I am in therapy & working on myself and my self-esteem/self-care. Its been working wonders getting out of the dating game. Guys just cause me to have too much anxiety. I'd rather work on myself & acquire more money 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 07:08 PM
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To add to yours: passive aggression is a big no from me. My father acts like that all the time. It's straight up emotional abuse. I call him out on it all the time.. The constant bringing up of my body/body parts is a huge one. I will take a few compliments (there's time & place for it) but it only gets you so far in my book anyway. Also alternatively if he despises his mom that's a huge red flag right there.. may be some messed up childhood issues there. (Not gonna play therapist w any guy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:58 PM
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I guess some guys need to learn how to color coordinate 🤷‍♀️ so they rely on a female to do it for them? It seems incredibly desperate & very "mommy-issue" to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:36 AM
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Nope.... I'd rather be single everyday than have a guy who's LV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:32 AM
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Ummm nope. I don't serve any m*n.. acting like she's his dang momma and shit.. GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:30 AM
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Yea congrats! Very proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:48 PM
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Yea I concur 💯. I am in recovery from addiction & I hate to say it but it sounds like he's taking drugs, perhaps a couple. He doesn't seem stable. Plus the texting in very early morning hours seems very odd too. I don't really buy into the Ambien excuses. He used it twice which is telling.. if he's lying about that what else is he lying about? Just all over the dang map and back again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:45 PM
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Ugh gross. He probably doesn't even look like a "Brad"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:27 PM
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Yea you look amazing! 💕 Queen energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:01 PM
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The world’s biggest maker of condoms warned of a global shortage as supply falls by almost 50% while its stockpile is set to last for just another two months. Malaysia-based Karex Bhd., which makes one out of every five condoms worldwide, only restarted its factories on Friday after a week-long closure, working with just half its workforce to comply with a lockdown that the country imposed to contain the spread of the coronavirus. The company said condoms are mainly made in China and India, whic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:36 PM
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💯 I'm not dating this year... Period
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:55 PM
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That's so true! Excellent point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:30 PM
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Some old jerks weird plastic face 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:30 PM
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Right?? Isn't the child's welfare more important?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:32 PM
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A lightbulb!? How does that even work (j/k) 🤣👀 that's pretty sad and pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:30 PM
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I seriously don't find OLDS to be a good place to find HVM. Every single guy I encountered "virtually" thru there is just awful. Very boring m*n even if they're relatively cute. And it's just a 💩 show. Who knows how much longer this will go on for.. I'd be hesitant to date after all of this too because these guys have been without women for awhile. They may get too handsy or worse. I'd rather just stick with being alone with my cat. It's too much of a hassle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:24 PM
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Yeah throw the whole POS outside.. disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:20 PM
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I feel exactly the same way. That's why I want to wait. I have too much on my plate right now. I had a guy that I very briefly dated try to text me earlier today (mind you; it's been months since I even interacted with this doofus). I just didn't bother replying. I don't understand.. I'm not a doll on a shelf that you can just come by and "pick up" and use whenever it's convenient. Some of these guys out here really need to assess themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:46 AM
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Same!! I can cook & bake.. but I only do it for myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 11:40 PM
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Omg I was just thinking that too!!! I feel like it's going to be dreadful.. absolutely dreadful. I am on hiatus from dating until 2022.. until then I'm focusing on work & myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 11:02 PM
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Omg same!! And I even got ex texts too.. from different numbers! Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 11:00 PM
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He's like Pillsbury doughboy's cousin... I can count the rollls 🤣👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 08:38 PM
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I've had so many different awful experiences with guys. I've seriously lost count.... I remember once I had walked home from high school (must've been 15-16 at the time). I walked down a very busy main Street, wore shirt and jeans (not my high school uniform, which was plaid skirt. I put that in my bookbag). This older man (probably about my dad's age) pulled over, asked me if I needed a ride. I just ignored him. But the fucked up thing was he kept following me. This was before cell phones and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:43 PM
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I'm totally with you. I don't like kids.. It's also risky as heck to carry a baby, especially with all that's going on in this world right now. And you're absolutely right.. the world isn't going to get any easier to live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:32 PM
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💯 I'm with you Queen.. I don't see a point in dating because I don't want kids. I don't want to be married either. It's a scam, pure & simple. Even if I do date again, I am just repulsed by m*n. I am much happier without one. (I'm 37. Single for 4 yrs)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:25 PM
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Yea I'm done with OLDS.. guys lying about their age and looking worse than a gargoyle... Ummm no thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:05 PM
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Til Tok is garbage..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:01 PM
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I'm with you.. I'd offer to clean up everything if I can just get a plate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:57 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:53 PM
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True.. so true. Even my dad was talking to me saying "well not all guys are like your X". I'm in therapy & getting my life together. I don't even want to try & put myself out there... I'm good being single. I don't need a guy in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:41 PM
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Another example of a guy not communicating properly... They say us females are tricky. Nope this is some Pandora box level crap right here. I'm not making a big deal.. wait yea I am... Wtf? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:36 PM
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I'd be grateful as heck. That spread looks amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:34 PM
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It's inappropriate.. it shows his lack of communication skills 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:04 AM
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Same!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:02 AM
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Right.. and I don't even give men attention anymore especially if I am getting catcalled. They don't deserve an iota of any of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:59 AM
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Me too!!! I dont really view them as potentials any more. In fact I'm abhorred by them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:02 AM
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Because when people fear you, they respect you (in their warped minds anyways). I had asked my narc abusive ex that one day.. Why push away almost everyone who cares about you? What do you gain from that? His answer was the most jarring thing I've ever heard.. "I don't want to be understood. I want to be feared" He grew up around abuse. So chaos was the only thing that made him feel comfortable.. when there's no chaos there's nothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:58 AM
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Yea I literally just spoke about this to one of my gf's. I tried a few OLDS last yr. The guys I spoke with... boring AF, have nothing valuable to contribute to conversation. And I don't even mention going out. Then guess what? They never bring it up..& I'm not one to just say "hey let's go out!" I want the man to initiate!! Do something! I'm not your therapist. I'm not your friend. I'm not your penpal. This isn't 7th grade.. GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:36 AM
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Hate to talk about this guy. He makes me sick 🤢.. but he was incredibly damaged; probably abused by his grandfather/bullied.. definitely a hardcore narcissist. As much as he said porn is bad.. blah blah. He obviously enjoyed viewing it. He viewed females as potential rivals. So killing & then possessing their body gave him the upper hand. Blaming porn when you're a fucked up serial killer is like blaming food when you're a morbidly obese person.... eventually you realize that you're the villain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:25 AM
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Exactly!! At least I have my black kitten to keep me company 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:04 AM
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Thank you hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:53 PM
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I'm so sorry you had to go through that hugs you're brave for discussing it. I too am lonely but I can't go back to where I was.. both of my ex's were very awful human beings (if you can call them that). If you need anyone to talk to, you have us to talk to. I feel lonely but not as lonely when I am able to post & chat in here. I have 3 friends whom I adore but I haven't been as social lately with them. I've been taking time to reflect & meditate.. as well as properly love & care for myself. May…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:39 PM
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That's wonderful! Good for you! I've been staying sober. I'm 440 days sober today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:33 PM
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That's awful.. yea my folks would warn me not to get pregnant. But offered to help if I did get pregnant (i.e. take care of baby). Ummm wtf? 🤷‍♀️👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:28 AM
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Me too.. I'm glad I'm single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:26 AM
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Yea I agree with all of this.. Watch out for signs of passive aggressive behavior too (it's emotional abuse). I can't tolerate that. A man should be able to communicate clearly how he feels and if he can't then seriously don't continue the relationship. Honestly it can be subtle and some guys are better at hiding it then others. Watch for subtle insults.. like saying oh this was good but so and so did it better or something along those lines. Any stubbornness is a red flag for me.. if you have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:20 AM
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Yea I hear you loud & clear. That's why I'm not dating for awhile. Prob not til next year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:02 AM
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Yeah I hear you... I always hear too that women are trying to find "their better half".. nah sis. You're a whole person, never a "half".. (wth?)And you're better off without any m*n
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:45 PM
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Intuition never lies.. you know what's really going on here. Leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:32 PM
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In all seriousness, if I had to choose I would pick my child. Case closed..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:33 PM
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Yea be careful. You're a Queen; if your intuition says to move on then maybe it's time to move on. I'm tired too. I just decided I was going to care and love myself instead of looking for someone else to fulfill that love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:29 PM
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I would suggest that you seriously stop communicating with him. He no longer cares for you in the same way that you care for him. I hate to say it but it's true. You had romanticized an image of him into your mind & you cling to it. I would also suggest meditation or yoga.. some exercise to keep you disciplined & in a routine. As for the self-esteem, I too was a tomboy. I never much liked dresses either. I don't wear makeup. I have learned to view myself as more of a gift. Your parents prayed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:38 PM
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I come from a family of addicts.. my dad was an alcoholic/heroin addict. I was with my narc abuser/addict for a couple months. I was also in active addiction.. he supplied sex/drugs but there was a cost. I also had to pay for these substances &/or food/booze.. he was alone constantly and made me feel guilty for leaving (even if it was to see my family/friends). I was in too deep.. I was people pleasing, even when I really didn't want to. I just had had enough one day. Filed a restraining order. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:29 PM
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Or they say they're younger.. it's like nope GTFO.. you're in your 40s...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:48 PM
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Yes thank you. Thank goodness. I am safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:50 PM
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I empathize with you hugs very brave of you to speak your truth. You aren't alone... I personally have to abstain from viewing any porn (as I have an addicted personality).. haven't viewed any since last yr (last early March, to be exact). I've been centering myself thru meditation. I used to have a rather high sex drive but it's been diminished a ton because of my last relationship. He was abusive. He traumatized me & I have depression.. But I am re-learning to love myself again and care for my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:49 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:34 PM
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Yea bathroom/gym selfies. Hard pass... Also if they have pics of them holding a baby or a child (umm who's kid is this??) Or if they say anything about 420 friendly (pot smokers are not my cup of tea; in my experience they're all lazy, unkempt & don't care much about anything). Anything racist or anything about "casual" (i.e. just wanna get laid)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:56 PM
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Exactly. This POS can't communicate properly & tell her "ok I can't do this anymore. You do it yourself"..that's all he had to do. This guy doesn't love her. He's intentionally harming her while she's vulnerable. Any guys who are lurking here on this page.... This is why us females are extremely cautious around males. You have the capacity to hurt us & potentially kill us. Even if we know you well, we may not know you at all... This is why FDS exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:25 PM
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I cringed so hard after reading that. Incredibly disturbing behavior.. my X (who shall remain nameless) was very sadistic & this is on par with the sort of things he used to do. She needs to seek her doctor or some other medical professional. He will hurt her more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:20 PM
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Ignore.. block delete... Next!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:05 PM
4

Physical/mental strength & vitality (seeing a female therapist; nothing against guys. But females know fellow females better. I tried male therapist; there's definitely a disconnect there). Journaling & getting into drawing again. It's been a lifesaver. I also make sure I stay connected with my friends (allbeit I don't have many but I'm working on it. I have 3 close friends)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:36 PM
3

My ex was same way.. oh well 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:10 AM
8

Yeah definitely. I doubt I will touch a guy ever again.. just simply repulsed by the lot of em. Don't want to know what they'll be like when this is all over.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:35 AM
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Yea same.. I honestly don't understand some of these hoarders. Having large quantities of TP won't save you from getting it.. it just makes you look like an douchebag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:34 AM
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🤔👀 probably.. Mother nature knows best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:32 AM
6

Yea me too.. me too.. not any more!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:08 AM
5

Yea I stopped over at my brother's place once . He literally had hair.. every where in his bathroom. I almost threw up and I just left out. Guys have no concept of maintenance or even just keeping things tidy and clean. He said well my gf usually does it and I don't have many visitors. Wtfff. Guys are so repulsive...I Never went back there since
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:24 AM
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Yea definitely. I don't understand how being clean is such a vague concept 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:22 AM
3

Right??? WTH?? I'm even looking at my hair getting longer and thinking I need a trim so badly.. but I can't leave the house due to the whole quarantine. So I'll just wait 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:21 AM
10

Yea tiktok is weird..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:13 AM
5

Omg my ex was like that too!! He would literally go weeks without even trimming or maintaining himself properly. Who the hell raised you????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:10 AM
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Omfggg 🤢🤮 wtf is it with guys leaving their hair everywhere?!? Is it like some territory BS or something? It just shows they literally don't give a f*** about themselves or general cleanliness. When I see my hairs I either vacuum them up or I use a broom, pick them up and toss them. What is wrong with cleaning up?! It's a huge pet peeve of mine... It's disgusting as all hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:07 AM
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Yes in fact he's lower than an amoeba.. at least they have a purpose in life 🤷‍♀️ yes block him.. don't look back. You deserve so much better hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:00 PM
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Ughhhhhhh.. gross 🤮 my last ex wouldn't even shower every day. And then wondered why I wouldn't want to have intercourse 🤷‍♀️🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:58 PM
21

Exactly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:55 PM
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Yes. Get him the hell out of there. You don't have to explain. Just tell him to gtfo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:54 PM
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💯 yes I never liked giving them. It's very gross. Very demeaning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:52 PM
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I would bet my left tit that he's having casual sex with his "friend" sometimes. Why argue about it? Why would he feel the need to keep this "friend" around"? It's all BS. Lies on top of more lies.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:39 AM
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I agree. Please tell her, somehow. I had outted a guy like this to his wife and well let's say she didn't remain with the guy after he was exposed. It was a very messed up situation. If it were me, and table was turned all the way around I would appreciate someone letting me know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:58 AM
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Trying journaling or try a new hobby. I would also recommend meditation too. If you don't know how there's plenty of YouTube videos on how to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:45 PM
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hugs I too have been feeling overwhelmed by everything. I also work from home (thank goodness); I have been since last yr. I hope that everything can resume back to normal but try to see the blessings this time has given to you.. I'm able to spend a little more time alone (which I am coming to terms with). I was just about to try to be more social and go on more dates then all of this started happening. So there's something I am failing to see.. I need to focus on myself and care for myself... I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:33 PM
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I'm proud of you! He sounds like a Narc; very selfish.. definitely NVM. You're a Queen. Remember that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:45 PM
4

Ugh yea tinder is a cesspool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:43 PM
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Unfortunately you can't make her see. She's gotta do that on her own. I have a gf like that too. Her bf is an awful human being.. I just can't keep trying to help her any longer. I did what I could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:43 PM
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🤣 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:41 PM
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Honestly, that doesn't surprise me... This is why we live longer and are smarter than m#n. They don't care 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:52 PM
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Yaaaaassssssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:36 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:25 PM
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Yea it's very sad tbh how some ppl choose to ignore the warnings. It's like they never went to school and learned about viruses or basic science concepts 🤷‍♀️ ignorance is supposed to be bliss but it will take you to an early grave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:24 PM
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Yup block delete..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:30 AM
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Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:33 AM
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Me too... You'd be surprised how many guys are looking for this type of situation.. and they can't even satisfy one female 👀 so you're gonna have 2 dissatisfied females?!? Eekk 🤢 I blame porn for this.. this so-called expert must be a man Oh nope.. it's some lady who has no idea what's going on. I read some of her advice. How is she an expert? Wtf 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:28 AM
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My pee pee... My fee fees 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:27 AM
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Yes 💯💕 be you're own support system. Serve yourself; love yourself. don't let another man take advantage of you. Men are hunters; They've been pillaging, raping, conquering for centuries. We must take the future for ourselves. Don't forget who the f*** we are... We are Queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:16 AM
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A douche canoe 🤣🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:10 AM
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Or keep it "casual" and then say something about their momma... Wtf 🤷‍♀️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:08 AM
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I totally feel the same way. I have a bestie who's in a totally awful relationship with a Narc AF guy. He doesn't work (lost his last job cause of his "temper" so you know what that means.. he's abusive towards her. He smokes pot he smokes cigarettes. She doesn't do any of those things). She works, she cleans, she cooks. She's a lost cause. I tried to talk to her sister to sister but she refuses to listen. I think she feels like she has to settle with him and she has to be with him. I don't get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:02 AM
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Ugh 🤮 yea I had an ex text from an unknown#.. ignored, blocked & deleted.. its because they are built to be thirsty, whining and constantly competing. So naturally they are doing this at this pivotal moment. They could be doing much more useful activities.... Their dick overrules everything apparently 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:54 AM
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Me too. I'd rather shoot myself in the head than have to be with a man like my father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:46 AM
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I've been through some messed up relationships & last one almost wrecked me completely. He was demeaning & abusive. I thought maybe I could help him. But you know what? He's a grown ass man. He can take care of himself. I too have not met any man whom I felt safe with or comfortable with. Thank goodness for therapy.. Queens: we weren't born to serve any man. I'm sure as hell am not going to do that any longer. I want to serve my own needs. And I just need myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:43 AM
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Nope.. I had a guy that I dated that was just like this. Kept a lady friend "hanging on" cause he felt "bad for her". Translation: I'm still using her/planning on using her. Desperation can be a very ugly thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:21 AM
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Honestly I would say it depends.. but I would go with every day. Even if it's just a text to say hello and to check on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:14 AM
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Yea I deal with guys thru my current job. Some of them are completely oblivious and walk around with an air of entitlement. Nah dude . GTFO... Just cause your mom decided to keep you doesn't make you entitled to my body or my time/energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:35 PM
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Yes exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:25 PM
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Yeah it happened to me once. I went out to a nice restaurant downtown after work. I enjoyed the meal so much. The waiter was kinda giving me these flirty looks but I didn't reciprocate or anything. After I had already paid the bill he runs up to me (right before I had to chance to get inside the bathroom) and hands me a paper, just saying "oh take a look when you are free". I immediately crumpled it up because I knew what was on it. I took a pic of it and sent it to his manager. I never saw that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:06 PM
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Omg yes me too! Glad you're here! 💯 love exists but it's not for me..... Even my father has the "appearance" of hvm (he cooks, got 2 jobs, stayed with my mom, helps run errands). He's so berating, he's obnoxious, he's Narc AF, he's passive aggressive. I ignore him for most part. I don't know how the heck my mom puts up with him. If a man said to me half of the crap that he says to her I would've been gone a looong time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:57 PM
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It's also the fact that women are seen as commodities..... we're nothing more than baby machines in some of these m#n's eyes. Well you know what? I don't want to be one & I choose not to. So what does that make me then? And also we're labeled right from the womb... You have to do this.. you have to "get a m#n". Nah... You have to get a job, you have to make money. You don't need or have to have a m*n
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:52 PM
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True.. I honestly have been feeling much better without a m*n. My MI is being addressed and taken care of and I feel like I can do this. I don't want to serve a m#n for the rest of my days. I want to serve me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:48 PM
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Wtf 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:46 PM
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Tbh I wouldn't take the risks too.. pregnancy is risky as hell. And where I live the rate of pregnant women dying after they give birth is staggering. No thanks.... I'd rather take my chances with the world at large
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:44 PM
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I have been told I act very masculine too. I am direct, assertive and I take no BS. I am also bi; it took me awhile to realize that fact too. I don't embrace my femininity because I was shamed as a child. Didn't really like wearing dresses and my parents would force me to do so. I never felt confident in my skin but now that I am alone and been focusing on myself more I am growing in my confidence & I feel like I can do anything. I am also very self sufficient. I don't rely on anyone to do anyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:38 PM
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Omg I am the same! I don't own any make-up at all. And I don't see the point of buying and wearing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:34 PM
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I am like that as well. I've been called a female dog a few times. And you know what? I'm going to continue to be "difficult".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:33 PM
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Exactly... Kids are just annoying as heck. Animals, on other hand, are very adorable and you can nurture & cuddle them. Also I've never heard any animal talking back to me or any mom I know 🤷‍♀️ it just seems mn don't have a nurturing streak.. and if they do they attempt to conceal it very well. Guess they don't want their buddies knowing they have a caring bone in their body. Plus to be perfectly honest I wouldn't want to destroy my body thru childbirth. I am petite. I don't want to put myself …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:46 AM
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True.. true. He probably would want to stay close by to be able to see them on a regular basis. Yet another drawback... Nope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:04 AM
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Omg same! I don't have any kids and I don't date men with kids.. point blank. I honestly can not stand kids. I don't know what it is about them. I have a nurturing nature but only towards animals mostly. Not only would most of the attention, time, money would be spent on the kids; you won't be able to spend a lot of time alone with your mn. You can't travel anywhere too because of the kids; gotta stay relatively close by... Bottom line: kids are just going to drain you mentally, physically and p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:01 AM
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This is why vetting's very important.. a m*n can appear to have all his ducks in a row, seem relatively normal, hold down a job and all that. But behind closed doors we all know what they're about. Their true nature shows eventually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 03:45 PM
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Probably... But to be honest with you I don't think much of him 🤷‍♀️ I would never in a million years say that to anyone... But apparently he let that slip out. I am just done with dating.. probably won't be going back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 03:18 PM
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Thanks for sharing OP hugs that man sounds like...yuck 🤢 My last date was very awful too. I empathize with you 💯. On paper this guy seemed very together (car, place, seemed cordial) but then when we met to have dinner, he had asked me if I had butt implants 😒 so I decided to just leave. I didn't say why or go into any explanation. This was my first date I had in a few yrs. He tried reaching out afterwards.. but I never replied. His texts started to get more and more passive aggressive. And I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:21 PM
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Yea you make an excellent point. I read somewhere (on some dating advice site) that guys "assume" when you're single that you're psychotic or worse... 😳 Umm nope. We just are fed up and we aren't going to take it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:10 PM
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Well I'm ambivalent, as far as how I feel. Yes there's times I feel very sad.. but I am also a little happy because I don't have to answer to any man any more. I'm honestly somewhat at peace with it. With this whole virus quarantine going on it's forced me to examine my life. My last relationship was with an abusive, narc m*n. He was deplorable, horrific... He has 2 kids and I feel awful for them because they have to grow up knowing their dad is a POS. I was glad that I was able to get out & bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:18 PM
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Yeah this was very disturbing. Justice was served.. RIP Jyoti
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:19 AM
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Honestly there's red flags before it even gets to this point... I feel for these ladies. I really do. You gotta recognize that you deserve more... So much more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:36 PM
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Omg samesies.. my therapist said if you don't want to be in a relationship you don't have to 💕💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:45 PM
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Also (loosely translated): I won't change. In fact it's going to get much worse from here on out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:34 AM
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Is it really that? Or is it something else? like they just seriously can't admit they're lonely. Just Skype/facetime with some friends, pretend to have a dinner party or whatever. Be creative.. geez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:33 AM
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So true. He's got other females. Ignore block delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:30 AM
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Omg how could anyone be bored at a time like this? There's so much to do and not to mention books you could be reading, crafts, writing, cleaning up and straightening up your space.. learning new skills.. whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:18 AM
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Tell me about it.. just focus on ourselves 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:16 AM
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True.. I don't tolerate BS anymore.. not from anyone. I am quarantined with my folks for now (saving up for a place). I work from home & actually worked from home since last year, due to some medical stuff. Well my dad's been super passive aggressive lately, just very short with my mom. I don't give him attn or my time of day any more. Work's more important and so is my own personal sanity. I don't tolerate any BS from any one including members of my family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:27 AM
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That's great.. nicotine is the dang devil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:50 PM
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Not surprised.. glad I left when I did a few months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:01 PM
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I dont even have to check. These thirsty ass m*n are straight up scum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:55 PM
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Yea I totally hear you. I haven't found any m*n on there. Just boys...... Honestly most of the guys on there are LVM or NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:32 PM
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Yea I've learned not to take anything my parents say personally. And even my job we have the craziest customers. Had 2 customers just go off on me, cussing up and down. I just maintain and try not to let it get me down. Gotta focus on ourselves during this time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:13 PM
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Yea I agree.. I don't really keep up with the news much any more. It's just exacerbating my MI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:05 PM
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I'm just continue doing what I usually do.. just hardly go outside. Avoid OLDS. Just work and be at home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:03 PM
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Super pathetic.. what did you all expect?? I for one won't be dating for a long time.. forget that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:01 PM
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WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:00 PM
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Lol 😂 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:27 PM
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I got rid of my FB page ages ago. Too many LVM's to count on there. I still have a few social media pages up. One of my ex's from forever ago texted me.. blocked. I even had some new ppl pop up invitations on one social media. And guess what?? They were all m*n.. denied. Blocked. See ya.. never
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:24 PM
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That's awesome 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:10 PM
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Yeah I feel the same.. I don't want to waste my time and energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:27 PM
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I'm sorry.. m*n are awful..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:25 PM
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This is the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:43 AM
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Yaaaaassssssssss you look mah-velous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:42 AM
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Yes I can't stand those shows.. even American Dad.. ewwwww that guy who made these shows has some real mommy issues 🤷‍♀️ just sayin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 10:42 PM
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Nah sis.. ignore, block, delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 10:33 PM
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Yea proud of you for reducing! That's Awesome 😊 Hugs just gotta be careful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 10:26 PM
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I used to smoke.. about a pack every week. I quit last July. Honestly you should consider quitting. It's not gonna get any easier to stop to be honest with you.. I am worried as well. We all are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 08:32 PM
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Samesies... In recovery here. It's a hard pass for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 08:10 PM
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Welcome Queen!!!! Yaaasssss I'm 37; wish my parents could've given me half of this advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:40 PM
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I would add.. Lysol wipe down your phone/laptop too! Especially if you're always on it like myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:39 PM
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Animals have more decency than that. Come on now........ M*n are the real problem here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:39 PM
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I'm also a giver. I rarely if ever take. I too had that realization in therapy; that I was doing for other men is what I had wanted for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:16 PM
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Exactly.. you confuse the turbulence for love, affection. Oh he must care about me. Not really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:07 PM
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Omfg Same... I literally don't understand why men like this crap. My ex was really into and I told him I didn't feel anything and would rather get my 😻 eaten tbh. He didn't even know what to say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:06 PM
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Samesies... I didn't go on dates really. It was more like "group activities". I would just say I had an emergency or I'd just not show up 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:51 PM
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You make a lot of excellent points modernmedusaa. I was raised by parents who honestly had no idea how it would be for a female growing up (I'm the oldest & I have a few younger siblings who happen to be men). They were hands off; not really there for me (still not but this is for another time). I had to learn how to be very self-sufficient & care for myself. My grandma told me once to never, ever rely on a man for anything. And she was 100% correct. I narrowly avoided a serious relationship wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:04 PM
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OMG yes I read that too. Queens: honestly we all need to just stop dating guys.. especially these LVM/NVM in these times of Corona virus (& whatever else is waiting out there).. They are just a drain on our time, resources & really don't add any value to our lives whatsoever. I say we seriously go on dating hiatus.. We gotta stay safe and stay vigilant. Our health is way more important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:22 AM
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I'm so sorry.. what a traitor! (Not you, your friend)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:15 AM
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Gross.. the world's gone completely mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:13 AM
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Yea I too had that issue (before all this virus crap was going on). I eventually just stopped texting said guy (only went on 1 stupid date). He got the message, loud and clear. No response is a response.. but I did eventually block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:10 AM
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Yea honestly I've been happier & healthier not dealing w any guys and their BS. They are just so freaking melodramatic..... and they say women are emotional 😒 I'd say men are even more so!!! What sane man does that type of crap and then doesn't even clean up?? And when he does its just chaos? Nah dude.... You're out of here . Or better yet I'm leaving never coming back..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:01 AM
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Yea I agree with ⬆️💯. You have to be firm and walk away. I think he's afraid to tell his parents about you. And honestly that's a bit disturbing. doesn't really sound like he's all in... if you know what I mean...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:56 AM
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Yea I too feel lucky to be bi. Although I was in a relationship with a female (she was my very first) she had cheated on me w a mn (a married one). But she had a ton of issues & I won't go into dets on here. In all honesty though, mles have done far worse things to me/hurt me way more than any female has and if I do decide to date again, it's going to be females only 🤷‍♀️ but I will vet like crazy. I don't want a repeat (& definitely no polys)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:43 AM
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That's m*n for you... My needs above everyone else's. I'm Superior!!!! F that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:17 AM
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I hate those words "ididntaskyoutohelpme".. ok then. My abusive ex would say that to me.. its just the most triggering NArc thing I've ever heard in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:14 AM
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I'm bi but tbh I don't have the energy/time/womanpower to date mn (or women) rn. Especially given the current situation we're all living in. At this rate I'll be done with therapy in a couple yrs and I'll be about 50. Probably have a few more cats by then. I'll probably be joining both of you there with my special dildo as well. F** the patriarchy.. m*n never appreciated us to begin with. They never have they never will... Signed, jaded but seriously loving the single life (marriage ain't for me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:12 AM
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Apparently mn die or whatever if they don't have enough sex... Cry me a f**in River...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:04 AM
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Yea honestly after reading that, I'm going to go bleach my brain and never touch another m*n again. Repulsive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:01 AM
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Yeah me too... I would've just packed up my stuff, my animals and left.. that's just me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:48 PM
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Yea it's a bit unusual. Her friend's acting like his personal assistant for dates. Wth lol I don't like when people do this kind of stuff. It reeks of insecurity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:38 PM
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Yes... This ⬆️ they want stuff 50/50.. we know we deserve more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:15 PM
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Welcome 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:14 PM
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I've found they specifically go for "good women" (i.e.. you're a nurturer, you are very kind. You want to help whenever possible). I too succumbed into an abusive relationship (been single for 4 yrs now) because I truly believed I could try to help him.. try to help him change... Wrong! He can only help his damn self.. and then you get sucked up into their whirlwind of BS. No more. I've been in therapy, working on setting boundaries (even with family. Fam can be toxic too) & loving myself. We al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:45 PM
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That's messed up.. m*n suck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:41 PM
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He's a low down dirty m*n.. weasels are actually pretty smart & they're not douchebags 🤷‍♀️ just sayin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:40 PM
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Welp. You didn't miss anything.. he's nothing special. He's still pornsick and probably won't find what he's looking for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:25 PM
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I too am fearful-avoidant. When stuff hits the fan I just wanna get the heck outta there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:20 PM
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Also I'd like to suggest: Keep a diary like you did when you were little. Or just write. It's helped me immensely. Call friends/family or seriously if your cabin fever is real bad just go for a short walk. I've been doing it almost every 2 days (just maintain the whole distancing thing)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:11 PM
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Yeah I once stayed in for 1 wk (Not in the Rona quarantine). I work from home so it's just a normal Tues for me 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:08 PM
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This is so disturbing... May they rest in peace. Hope this guy rots in jail for what he did.. sounds like a textbook sociopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:03 PM
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💯 Not your responsibility sis. Ignore block and delete.. he's looking to take advantage of your kindness. F that!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:08 PM
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I just barfed in my mouth a little 🤢 seems like he's unemployed (a "musician".. puhleasss)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:06 PM
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My fee fees.... My pee pee.. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:01 PM
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Yeah me too. I don't drink any more. I am in recovery for it. I won't go into dets... But I just say nope don't drink. And if they poke & prod... Well I just don't explain anything further than that. They are reflecting their fragile masculinity onto you.. making you think drinking should be mandatory. Nah.. gtfo.. you drink. You get alcohol poisoning. See how much you enjoy it after that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:57 PM
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Eh I partially blame mine... They weren't very good.. just saying. I mean my mom didnt even have the "period" talk with me. I found out the hard way; thought I was dying. My grandma had the talk with me & gave me some solid advice that I still take to this very day... Don't ever ask him out. Don't rely on a man to get what you need and want (when you can get it yourself) 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:59 AM
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Omg.. I too attract the worst of the worst myself. I'm glad there's social distancing right now tbh w you. I don't have to worry about socializing or being around guys. Last date I was on in November this guy asked if I had a butt implant... I just left. No explanation... He seemed alright (job, car, place) but I probably avoided a huge nuke with my name on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:18 AM
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What are you all doing during this whole social distancing thing? I can't see my therapist for a few weeks. So I've been writing more, reading. Catching up on some of my shows & watching older movies that I enjoy. It's nice to be single and not worrying about dating rn. It was a mega-huge anxiety black hole for me but now I'm just focusing on myself, working from my place and doing more self-care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:14 AM
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Block to the block block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:09 AM
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hugs I too am a little toy to m*les. I'm 5'1", but also referred to as "cute" or "sweetie" or "snuggly" (ugh). I don't think I'm gonna date again tbh. I have had enough of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:00 AM
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Yea ghost em both.. they don't seem very secure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:41 AM
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Yeah exactly.. this may go on for couple of months... This isn't just going to "disappear" especially with all the mn going out and not washing their hands 🤷‍♀️ just saying... They are infinitely more gross than you could possibly imagine. I went into a Petco last Sunday to grab stuff for my cat. The ladies bathroom was out of order so I went into the men's bathroom real quick.. Guess what Ladies?? Sinks were *bone dry like they hadn't been used in awhile.. ewwww 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:58 PM
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Samesies... One of my ex's was in IT; a system admin. He was vicious, manipulative, callous, narc as all hell. And he didn't even look that good. He would gaslight constantly. So glad I'm single. F m*n!! (Not literally) 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:43 PM
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🙋‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:31 PM
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💯🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:29 PM
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Here here!!! Stay safe everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:14 PM
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Nah sis... Just focus on you. Clean up your place, learn a language, binge watch a show you've been wanting to see, read a book. For the love of god don't go on tinder!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:31 PM
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I'm sorry. I think you may have a drinking problem. I'm here for you if you need some support. I too used alcohol/drugs to help me but I've been sober now for 1 yr and almost 3 months. You can do it too. I believe in you and I support you. Take a break from dating too. I have been there though. I know what you're going through and it can be awful and lonesome. You have sisters here who can help you and listen to you. I'd suggest therapy as well and possibly medication. It's helped me a lot. I su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:20 AM
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Honestly if you don't really feel like your "feeling him" I'd say cut it off after like maybe 2 wks. Then just tell him that you're just not feeling him the way he's feeling you. The mutual attraction and chemistry is very important. If you start to feel like you're falling for him then just keep it going..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:12 AM
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🤣🤣 I did too!!!! I'm like not sorry... GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:07 AM
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Guys do that cause they are just sad and pathetic. Who else is gonna see it?? No one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:06 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:04 AM
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Yea probably.. he looks like he's balding too. I'd say more 50-51
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:03 AM
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🤢🤮 nope I'd rather f*** a sandpaper-wrapped dildo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:57 AM
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I understand. I'd say give him a chance... Maybe eventually you will have more feelings for him. Spending time together, trust & communication obviously are key to any relationship. I have barriers to my own personal trust issues & it seems like you're protective of your emotions (& I seriously don't blame you). I would be too. I've been burnt before as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:47 AM
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Bwhahhaa 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:40 AM
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Yup.. they are inconsiderate of others. I have been staying in for the most part. Haven't dated since November. Queens; be careful. Stay safe. (I know you all will. We're smarter than them). This is why we live longer and healthier lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:07 PM
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Also he looks like Elmer fudd... J/s 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:55 PM
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Pigs are actually cleaner than he will ever be 😂 pigs don't sweat but he looks like he does!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:51 PM
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37... I make better looking 💩 when I use the bathroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:49 PM
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Yea I would just not play these games and just go. I don't know how my mom puts up with his crap to be completely honest with you. I think they just "settled" on one another and had kids.. ugh.. not for me. Just want to be alone for awhile. Get my stuff together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:50 PM
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Yea I simply can't tolerate that BS... One second they absolutely love you and the next they wanna rip your head off... That and passive aggressiveness. My dad does it all the time. Even though I constantly call him out whenever he does it. People need to be held accountable for their actions and words. When it really doesn't add up then there's a reason why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:01 PM
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They are very desperate. Trying to find a female and Toilet paper. Ain't happening... Not on our watches. Just look out for yourselves and your loved ones.. these LVM's are gonna have to be on their own.. #sorrybutnotreally 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:55 PM
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True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:38 PM
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Ugh mn are seriously f**ed in the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:22 PM
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💯! I saw a documentary on Ted Bundy. He would pretend as though he had an injury to lure women to help him with his car or something. Don't assume.... Always question m*n's motives and don't believe a word they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:12 PM
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Yea and why do we have to reciprocate in any way, shape or form? Don't smile. Don't acknowledge them. We can be a bitch.. but some men will have their fee fees hurt. Gotta be vigilant. Gotta be on the alert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:18 AM
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I'm so sorry. I hope you're alright hugs I live in a major city myself (Chi). I have been approached by men on the train/bus or when I was out at night (which isn't frequent, especially nowadays.) They start out with saying something stupid and I honestly don't give them any attention. That's what they want... Your attention and your time. I just take note of what they look like and what shoes they are wearing (one of my police friends said.. always look at what brand/color shoes that they're we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:14 AM
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Ugh 🤮 men are gross Af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:08 AM
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I also have pepper spray. It works wonders when you're threatening a guy who's been harassing you/following you. They just don't get the hint sometimes 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:07 AM
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Yea definitely. It's just I don't see myself dating for awhile (especially because of this pandemic going on). Its really opened my eyes to the reality of it all... Queens: we are just simply used by men. And they honestly would do it to another female and then once they're done they will move on to the next and so on. I find it just very repulsive.. I can't even think of dating. It makes me want to throw up (especially cause of my last dating experience. Ugh). Men have never been good to me. In…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:02 AM
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Right?!? They think we're abundant; can be "used" and then discarded. It shows desperation when we use OLDS (any of them, for that matter) so it opens the door for LVM to wiggle their way in. F that... I'd rather stay in during this pandemic and not be in quarantine with some moron who doesn't know what the hell to do...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:53 AM
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Yeah I am glad too. My therapist suggested it. Have to work on myself. I'm more important than some dude off the street.. I heard some story of a lady turning 100 & she said her secret to living so long was staying away from m*n 🤣 I'm starting to believe that 💯. My skin looks better. I'm eating better. I can sleep for however long I want to. I don't have to bend Willie nilly directions for some guy who doesn't really appreciate it... I've just had a very sour experience the times that I have use…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:46 AM
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Exactly!!! I feel like dating is just a waste of time. I felt like I could've been doing something else way more productive. Instead I gotta sit there and look "pretty" and pretend to give a s***
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:50 AM
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Yea me neither.. it's a waste of time, energy and money that could be used to level yourself up. Queens: we don't need to be wasting ourselves on these useless BS dating apps. It's all trivial, degrading, disgusting. It's like we are putting ourselves on a platter for them to see us and try to manipulate us and deceive us. We all deserve better!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:46 AM
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Omg samesies... I am 37, never married no babies. Just a kitten..... my family isn't as emotionally supportive as I would like. I got out of an abusive relationship 4 yrs ago & still sifting through all of the pieces; going to therapy. Doing substance recovery too. They just don't get it. They think a "man" will solve most of my issues. Nope......... not even close. In fact men have added to my issues exponentially..I am healing just fine without one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:44 AM
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Yea I don't want to even be around men. Previous date I had last yr turned me off so much that I really don't want to go through it ever again. My therapist says I am developing a repulsion towards them. I don't really feel the need to invite another one into my life. I'm not here to serve a m*n. I'm here for my own happiness. And if it means being alone so be it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:39 AM
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Yes.. my abusive ex was named Tony... Umm gtfo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:16 AM
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True...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:39 PM
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Omg me too!!!! Hugs Still go to therapy. And write a lot. But dang... M*n are the straight up devil!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:37 PM
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Probably 🤷‍♀️ or his brain's the size of a walnut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:34 PM
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Yea I dislike smokers too (of any kind.. i.e. cigarettes, pot, crack, meth whatever). It's absolutely disgusting. And if they smoke cigarettes, it clearly shows that they have no self control or discipline (there's been studies done on this that have proven it).. and you know what that means. If they lack self-control in one aspect of their lives then they must be lacking in other areas as well 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:31 PM
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Omg I had a guy that texted me from..... Tinder... And I had not used this app in about 3 months!! 3 freakin months!!! We had stopped talking.. did not save his #. He tries to text me the other day, saying oh let's hang out.. netflix/chill, yadda yadda. I said nope.. not going anywhere. WTF 😆 plus I don't even know this m*le.. he could have the freaking virus!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:20 PM
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Omfggg that is insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:17 PM
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Ewwwwww super gross 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:15 PM
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Vibrator is better than any FWB IMO.. won't ask you for money, won't lie, cheat or steal. And you get to enjoy yourself 😊 no stress, no BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:30 PM
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The wall damn slapped him upside his head 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:59 AM
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🤮 ok I'm never touching a man ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:58 AM
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Omfg yeah.. we aren't "forcing" you to watch. You have fingers and hands. These LVM mn are out there,seeking out this debauchery. I had an ex who said this exact same thing "mn are visual creatures" yea whatever.. it's all BS. Justifying addictions like a damn crackhead would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:52 AM
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Yup. Totally understand. I just leave my work at work. That's it 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:46 AM
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That is an excellent point about guys using drugs/alcohol to self medicate. I have seen it time and time again.. it shows a lack of self care & that they expect an "easier way out" (i.e. lazy way to end goal).. Nope.. you gotta get professional help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:18 PM
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True.. still. Gotta be vigilant. Don't give him any more information or anything. Lock it down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:59 PM
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Don't trust a single word this guy says. He's testing you, he's trying to see where your vulnerabilities are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:56 PM
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So true.. My ex had some severe MI going on. Even tried to get me back! Nope to the nope nope. . I have my own issues I'm working on & tbh I've been feeling better day by day. I haven't dated since last yr. And I won't be for a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:47 PM
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Yea amen to that. I haven't been on a date since November.. honestly less stress dealing with dating/m*n
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:17 PM
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Yes they take and take and take ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:35 PM
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Yea been off of em for a few months.. been amazing. My therapist says they are vacuums of the soul.. I felt every ounce of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:30 AM
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You too! It's nice to know that there's other females out here experiencing similar issues. I sincerely hope the best for you as well 😊 I may just buy a huge house and adopt a bunch of rescue animals... You can never have too many! That would be my idea of heaven!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:03 AM
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hugs good for you for taking care of yourself. I know it's very difficult I got out of a real bad relationship about 4 yrs ago. Still working on myself and still have a lot left to work on. I too had major issues with OLDS. I enjoyed some of the attention from some of men on there but at same time it was very exhausting & stressful. It was a huge source of anxiety for me.. so much so that I had to stop. . Yeah I can be lonely and I explored a little further as to why I keep seeking validation fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:59 AM
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That is kind of strange. I've encountered it before and tbh he may be gay. Or he's afraid of you? It just seems a little weird because he should at least be trying like kissing you or touching you? Something... I wouldn't necessarily bring it up to him. But don't initiate anything either. I would try to give him another opportunity but if he doesn't at least attempt I'd just block him and move on tbh..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:49 AM
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Hmm yea I don't like that either. If he doesn't tolerate your furbaby well now imagine how it will be when you have a baby? Babies are just as messy and needy.. he doesn't sound like he's a good catch.. just saying. If a guy I was dating complained once about my cat, out the door you go!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:40 AM
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Hmm... smells like BS & manipulation to me..... this is why i honestly never accept gifts from men. I can see exactly where this is heading... It won't end well. Men expect certain stuff from women.. and tbh there's a few other red flags here. You're obviously into him and he's into you. The constant bringing up of (not having) sex is a little off-putting. It's almost like hes pulling reverse psychology on you...... Why the f**** seek the exclusivity then?? Do you see the mind games he's got you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:29 AM
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Yeah this exact thing happened to me! I had a LVW co-worker basically always complain about her LVM... Just generally not a good situation. I just made myself less and less available. Problem solved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:15 AM
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That's what I thought too!! The wife needs to leave before crap really hits the fan...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:53 AM
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Grosss 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:52 AM
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That's good. Yes just focus on yourself 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:45 AM
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Thank you 😊 Yea I just don't tolerate too much BS any more. If it doesn't feel right I won't put myself thru it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:28 AM
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I have depression too hugs It's crappy. I hate it... I don't like taking meds or seeing a therapist at times. I feel like I'm the black 🦄 in my family. I feel very misunderstood all the time. I don't talk to many people because my "close" friends don't live very close to me at all... It can be lonely but I have FDS & all of you lifting me up.. I'm still wrestling with what I want to do with my life. I want to help animals. I want to do something worthwhile while I'm still here. My job's extra sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:04 AM
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I understand where you're coming from.. I've beat myself up over my last relationship too.. I kept going back and eventually I had had enough. I too am in a lot of pain. It's shifting into anger a little bit 😔 I can empathize with you there. I doubt that I will be in another relationship, to be honest. I don't have the energy and time to be inviting another man into my life & entertaining him (let alone multiple men). My health/well-being come first. As should it be for you too. Take care of you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:57 AM
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I tried bumble & tinder but deleted both of them swiftly; haven't gone back (& I definitely won't). I tried a month of Match.com. again, same old same old. (Glad I only bought a month); I met a guy thru match but he was LVM; seemed nice on paper (job, car, "seemed" sweet & caring) but in person was very inappropriate & was just making me very uncomfortable. No 2nd date. Honestly I felt like crap after using these OLDS...... I found most men from tinder on bumble. And the conversations would go a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:45 AM
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Preach 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:02 PM
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💯 exactly! I just keep to myself. No one needs to know about me.. and I don't need to know about them. It's all work.. and that's all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:06 PM
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It sounds like these women who have these "work husbands" are very insecure. They should seriously consider getting a dog or a cat. People suck 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:56 PM
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Omfg yea this happened to me at my current job. Everyone just asking me personal questions (a little background: I've been working this job for 2 yrs now. just have 1 friend from work & I don't work in office any more. I work from home all the time due to the Corona virus). I just told them all "none of your concern. It's nothing you should know" 🤷‍♀️ yea my co-workers seem to have penchants for hooking up together and getting drunk. No thanks. I'd rather just be minding my own damn business ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:54 PM
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I'm a full blown introvert. I can go a week without going outside. I work from home so that's part of it. But to be honest I love just staying to myself. It makes me more content than I could've ever realized. My cat's name is Boo He's all black.. just turned 11 months old. One of my friends found him outside last August. He was alone, under-weight and his back rt leg was broken. Miraculously his leg had healed. He's healthy & thriving now.. I have Boo now so he's only man I need in my life rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:43 PM
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I too felt tempted but please don't... Reach out to us. We care about you. I care and I'm just another female on Reddit, experiencing similar issues.. I have pre-existing condition as well. So I am afraid to even go outside. I have bought some extra food on hand (I live in a major city). I have some family where I live. But tbh I have felt lonely at times. I don't have many "close" friends where I live as well. This coronavirus is making my depression super duper loud and I'm thinking f*** it. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:29 AM
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It's very sad.. I'm playing the world's tiniest 🎻....... 🎶🎶 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:07 AM
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Yea tinder is 💩..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:06 AM
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It's like they turn into werewolves and crap.. wth 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:31 PM
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Yeah thank goodness!!!! he will surely drop dead in a few yrs or so.. not in the best health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:05 PM
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Preach 🙌 haven't been on date since November
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:17 PM
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Yea my LVM ex was all like oh it's definitely more than X number.. said him & his friends would multiply it by 3 or 4. um no..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:13 PM
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🤣 yeah I'm 💯 with you. I just put my phone on Do Not Disturb.. and I don't bother replying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:42 PM
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Yea he's pure evil.. I don't know what's wrong with the world today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:26 AM
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Yes it was very crazy. And she kept trying to make excuses for his messed up behavior 😠 and then trying to talk to me more about it! Wth... already said how I felt & explained to her what had happened. I am glad both of us got out when we did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:37 AM
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💯 couldn't agree more.. I had an emergency fund too. Glad that we are both still here. Men aren't to be trusted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:28 AM
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Yes both are spot on... I would add: *always ranking females, solely based on their body & their faces (not on their intelligence or personality.... At all) 😒 *On their phone/laptop at weird times at night or early morning. I've noticed it as a definite pattern. Saying they're doing "work" or catching up. Yea they're watching porn *Not interested in your desires
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:17 PM
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It's not. I'd honestly hire a Private investigator. I did once and it was the best money I had ever spent. You have to know where they've primarily lived for most of their life. And of course full name (if you have it), birthday, SSN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:59 PM
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Yea 💯 agree... Yes definitely take a break from dating please. Focus on yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:54 PM
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hugs thank you. I love FDS. It's helped me in so many ways. I'm here for you... Unfortunately this wasn't my only experience with "13th steppers". That's why I only do virtual meetings now. I don't go to in person ones unless it's only female meetings. Addicts are a strange group of people. I know because I am one of them. Apparently this "man" whom had said this very inappropriate question to me, actually had a gf, who was at this very meeting but had left early for an emergency. When I brought…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:54 PM
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This is the best comment. I want to frame it.. had a long talk w therapist about it. That's why I haven't been on an app for awhile (& will more than likely never return)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:44 PM
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This ⬆️ 💯.. I definitely relate so much to you (& OP). Men are simple minded.. esp on these dumbass dating apps. They already "swiped right" they already "like you" so now they can put in minimal effort (like oh go out for coffee or dinner? Blah blah blah).. it's all a rouse.. they just want to get laid and they are testing to see if you take the bait. If you don't DM them then yes it's as though the chase is over they don't have to do a damn thing. I really think most men collect the pics and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:37 PM
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💯 never worked for me either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:27 PM
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I'm sorry that happened. I had an unfortunate situation happen to me at an NA meeting last January. Only been at this place for 2 prior meetings... I was speaking about my own addiction & how some friends were coming from toxic places. Etc. Etc. This guy came up to me after the MTG (he was one of the moderators btw) & asked me a very inappropriate question (basically one of my friends, who happened to be male, came in with me in a prior meeting). This dumb moderator was asking if we were sleepin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:15 PM
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🤣 I just spit up some coffee.. I think it's his IQ level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:09 PM
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I'm so sorry OP. Men are depraved.. I too am a survivor.. you have many supporters here. Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:34 PM
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Right.. only man who's ever made me feel safe was my dad. That's it. Every other man hasn't made me feel secure or safe. They are sneaky. They don't understand why we take extra measures when we go out. Why we check on each other as females. Why we constantly have our doubts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:16 PM
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Honestly I always was a little ashamed of myself even as a little child. My parents didn't really show me a lot of affection growing up. My father has an awful temper (which I also have but like I said I've been working on). So I try to "people please" a whole lot when in reality I should just be worried about myself more and my own happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:21 PM
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Yes I'm working on myself. And it's the best feeling..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:20 PM
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Omg same. I too have issues embracing my own femininity. I grew up as a tomboy & grew up with 2 younger bros; didn't really like dresses a lot or make-up. And i grew up with some shame around it. I'm slowly embracing it now that I'm in my late 30's. I'm still self conscious but I'm working on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:54 PM
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Yea great post. I too have been dealing with some personal issues. But it helps to not be very personal. And wait until you're 💯 serious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:33 PM
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Thank you 😊 yea it was draining. I just decided 2020 is going to be the year for myself. I won't be dating for awhile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:19 PM
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Yea me too. Now I wanna pull my eyeballs out of my head. For the life of me I seriously don't understand why she's still with this person..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:10 AM
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Yea I agree with you. I've used a few OLDS and I disliked every single one. I met only one man from it and he was awful.. he seemed to only want to get laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:02 AM
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I had went out with a guy briefly; had a fling with him. He popped up in July of 2018; almost 14 yrs after we had stopped talking. Kept saying that he missed me omfg.. nope to the nope nope nope.. I wasnt in a relationship at the time but he was NVM. Had some serious mental issues (of course wasn't getting any help). He apparently found me thru FB. Deleted all that stuff.. f that. Guy said he was living out of his car but had a job 🤷‍♀️ wth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:51 AM
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It's just a lot to deal with... There's many LVM's to sift thru. It's like trying to seriously find a diamond in the rough. And you probably won't. So I just didn't want to make my mental health go haywire. Just decided it's better to focus on me 😊 thank goodness for FDS.. my confidence is back & I feel better than ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:41 AM
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Omg me tooooo! I am not dating this year. I haven't been on OLDS in a few months. And it's staying that way. Its way too exhausting. I have better things to do...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:52 PM
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Samesies..... I had 1 date last yr that really rattled me. So much that I decided to pretty much stop dating this year entirely. Basically.. we had matched thru Match.com. started talking on the phone & texting. Made a dinner date at a nice Mexican place.. then he basically asked me if I had a butt implant. I just left mid-date, no explanation. Just said I had to go. I had to block and delete. It's too much for me to deal with on top of work & taking care of myself right now. I'm maintaining my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:41 PM
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Yes he sounds like a real moron. That text is so cringy... I would've just ghosted and blocked. But that's me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:30 PM
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Yes it's one of my fav songs RN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:27 PM
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Yea they aren't your friends. They never will be your friends.. they are seeking sex and nothing more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:29 PM
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Priceless 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:27 PM
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Well honestly.. some men are very stupid. This one is pretty conniving & a jerk tho. He's doing it out of spite. It's incredibly gross 🤮😷 men are sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:19 PM
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Yup ghost, block delete. Waste of your time/space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:15 PM
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Or my fav: "we haven't spoke in wks but let's hang out!" But we've never "hung out"... And we never will. Bye!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:10 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:39 PM
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Or if they put any references to drugs on it (i.e. 420, drinks like a sailor & every pic is of them holding a beer or a shot & there's pics of them with other ladies). Umm big nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:37 PM
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Yea one of my ex's just popped up too.... Nope!! Denied!!! Blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:31 PM
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I hate that word.... I am not "cute". Yes I'm petite (but that doesn't associate with that word in my brain).... seriously the moment a guy starts to even mention that word I shut off. And don't wish to talk any more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:24 PM
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Or: "what's up".. no question mark.. nothing else after it. just that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:21 PM
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Or just not putting anything on it whatsoever... Wtf 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:52 AM
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💯💯 Ladies... We've got to stick together. Patriarchy wants us to be quiet, just smile, be nice little whores & handmaids. F that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:49 AM
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Yeah they don't like standards cause we're actually trying to find a decent respectful partner for the rest of our lives.... they'd f*** your heart if there was a hole there too... Just sayin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:50 AM
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💯 truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:29 AM
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Yea sounds like they have some mommy issues goin on.. run!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:20 AM
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🥺 this one.. just makes me throw up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:18 AM
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"something fun & casual" . They're just looking for sex. Nothing else.... When they IM you: "you're cute/adorable 😘" Um no. Last time I checked, I am not a baby or a small baby animal. F** off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:11 AM
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He looks like one of the characters from the Hills Have Eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:04 AM
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"I'm a selfish prick. I only care about myself"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:56 AM
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It's a cop-out.. it's like calling a woman a s*** or b**** when a man can't have you 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:54 AM
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Congrats. Yes me too.. 💯. Getting therapy and staying sober has helped me immensely. Plus staying single too. Breaking the cycle.. stay on your own course. Focus on yourself. I'm glad we're all here 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:01 AM
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Congratulations!! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:34 AM
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My dad said that to me as well.. but it was a "zebra never changes their stripe's"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:33 AM
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I'm so sorry. I'm glad your furbaby is ok... Men are stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:30 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:05 AM
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Sex is.. ahem.. overrated. I've never come from sex. It's not something that I want to do. I'd rather take my time with myself, love & enjoy myself than have some moron ravage me and not know what they're doing (even after you tell them exactly what you want). The risks far outweigh the benefits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:02 AM
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I'm 37. Yeah I have mixed signals about it personally. I'm dealing with depression from my last abusive relationship but seeking help. Getting better each day & I'm taking time for myself. It's great! Yea definitely look into buying a Japanese silk mitten to wash your face. It gently exfoliates and leaves your skin very soft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:58 AM
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Only issue is that if your guy's a little tech savvy he may find out that you had installed it. Some men don't even bother to open anything else on their computer other than Google and YouTube
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:54 AM
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You can search messages, call logs, websites, you name it . Even after it's deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:48 AM
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Basically you must download one of these programs onto the computer or whatever device. It monitors everything.. A bit extreme.... I know. but hey.... We gotta be tricky too 🤷‍♀️😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:47 AM
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https://www.clevguard.com/track/incognito-search-history/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:45 AM
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You too sister *hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:43 AM
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Honestly they don't seem to ever grow up. Yea they may progress (somehow) but they don't seem to handle their psychological issues very well (i.e. they don't go to therapy, properly care for themselves or take medications).. I personally don't want to marry so I won't be dating. Last date was just awful as hell. A man a few yrs older than myself asked me if I had a butt implant. Um i left. and never looked back. Thanks for the 30 minutes.............could've used it better by reading... Or sleep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:38 AM
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Yea that's what I would've done.. or waited til he wanted something from me. And said nope see ya.... Never!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:27 AM
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My LVM ex would watch it constantly. He kept trying to tell me that he would stop and he was getting better but I would find out (ladies...there are ways to find out which sites he goes into when he's "incognito"). Think that they're slick... Not really. 🤮 Last guy I dated said it best "We're men. Give us an inch and we take all we can get"... Let that sink in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:22 PM
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Yea I used to like some of his music. Now I don't 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:45 AM
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So true.. what we create, they destroy. Hmm... like we're the more sane gender 🤔 I've never heard of women shooting up schools or theaters...or running amok, trying to find someone to hit or stab?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:00 AM
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💯💯💕 truth..... Yea I've been single for 3 yrs.. going on 4 and honestly it's the best I've felt in a long time. I am dealing with my own personal stuff and it's so liberating. I don't have to worry about a man telling me how to spend my money or how to spend my time. I can spend it on take-out or take myself out somewhere nice to eat. I can lay out wherever, whenever. I can be messy (or not).. I can eat whenever I want.. I can watch whatever shows or movies I'd like to watch with no constant tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:29 AM
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💯 Men will either put up or shut up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:15 AM
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True. The body knows way more than you do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:45 PM
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Not giving a crap apparently.. I would seriously call the police. It's scary as hell..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:40 PM
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No more grief= more time for ourselves 🥰amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:44 PM
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Yeah I haven't been on a date since last yr. I don't see myself going on one anytime soon. More time for me 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:17 PM
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Yea in retrospect I felt like a "product".. and some of the responses from some men on OLDS were sick and absolutely disgusting. I saved myself a ton of grief by just deleting the apps and never looking back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:56 PM
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Good for you!! I'm 37 (been told by many ppl that I look like I'm in mid 20s) & also stay relatively healthy, work out, eat well & take good care of myself. Had a few dates last yr; last one was somewhat disappointing. I'm taking a hiatus from dating this yr to find myself and learn more about myself. I went on match (plus a few other OLDS) and I have to say.. most guys really don't want a LTR or marriage. I will build myself up again (confidence-wise) and then see what's out there next yr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:48 PM
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I too am at maintenance. I am a nurturer as well & in therapy, exploring why I feel urge to constantly seek validation from men and try to "help them" when they can't even help themselves. Had LVM ex of mine pop up again in my life, said that he's changed, blah blah. Wants me back... Too bad.... I just didn't bother with a reply. Just blocked him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:42 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:37 PM
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Yea I quit OLDS for about 2 months now. Never going back to it. I noticed how draining it was for me. And not only that it was daunting. Never actually met any of the men who matched with me because they either were very boring & couldn't even keep a simple conversation going. Or I could see thru their BS & knew they were only looking for a hook-up... Constantly being asked why I don't drink. Umm it's really none of your business. I just don't 😊😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:56 PM
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💯.. that's why I got rid of my OLDS a couple wks ago. Never going back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:22 PM
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I read it and I'm also very disturbed by it... even while I was in a relationship, I had made accomodations for my ex. Been single for 3 yrs now and I am enjoying it.. I really don't see point of marriage. Sex isn't a chore. It's about pleasure, connection and intimacy. I don't see myself going thru this again for another man and having to make accomodations because he wants it and I don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:07 PM
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I too thought I had "kinks" but I was just trying to appease men. I really don't enjoy any of this. Therapy is a wonderful thing..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:59 PM
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It is but you definitely have to have standards. I personally can't stress this enough.... but I can't stand passive aggression in guys. Either say what you mean or don't say anything at all. My father is passive aggressive at times and it literally drives me crazy. I just ask him why did you even open your mouth and say that anyways? Why even say anything at all?? I don't know how my mom deals with him any more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:52 PM
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Very proud of you 👏 I'm also sober today and one of my addictions were guys too. But no more. I'm enjoying being single 🙂 better than being lied to, cheated on and abandoned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:53 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:08 AM
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Omg same... I am repulsed by them. Been single for 3 yrs now. I went on a few dates last yr but they were all awful. Last date I had, guy asked if I had a butt implant so I just up & left the date right when it started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:51 PM
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So true. I just happened across this sub. And I feel so much better about dumping my LVM ex. I am dealing with waves of emotions. I can finally be free and not angry any more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:38 PM
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