Idk if you were replying to me but I’ll answer. As much good as my life is without it, I’d like to have it. Quality sex fills a different well so to speak. Solo sex just doesn’t do it for me. I’ve tried toys too. But it’s like trying to tickle yourself. By myself there’s no sense of desire or anticipation of not knowing what happens next.
I got emails with notifications that bot accounts which seemed to be sexual in nature followed me in the last few months. I don’t know if the organization of the site changed but I found it overwhelming. I currently enjoy Twitter. The tweets are SPICY and dragging the clowns.
I’m down. Also conrads are generationally wealthy young men with no actual talent who’s family owns multiple vacation houses and yachts. They’re also misogynistic and vote against women’s rights and policies on restorative justice for “minorities”. I put minorities in quotes because globally there are more “minorities” total than what is now considered “standard”. conrads would wear the khaki shorts and sperry boat shoes.
Yes people are now recognizing all of the isms present in general medicine. Yet when it comes to mental health systems most people aren't ready to touch it with a 10 ft pole. The idea that you can completely know someone who you've just met for like 5-15 diagnose them and then if you have certain licensure prescribe something to “fix” the person doesn't sit right with me. Especially when the ppl prescribing and defining function / dysfunction are part of a demographic that has historically oppre…
I guess some 24hr shift training is good for in case of emergency. I heard some schools make you sign a contract saying you won’t ge a job so you can focus on studies.
Or the fact that they put y’all Health care students on 24 hr shifts. Y’all are paying to be worked to the bone or when it gets to the point where you’re paid but not yet full status doc you get paid crumbs.
Yes those cases matter too but I didn’t want lurkers to take what you said to say even women say abortion is bad for the woman mentally and use it to push anti- abortion.
Dogs will actually protect your safety. Can herd and hunt other animals. Can be trained to bring you things. A Japanese dog “Hachi” would go to the train station every day for years after his owner died.
There's a bit of research saying that people with mental illness are more likely to be hurt than hurt someone else. If that's different between male and female idk.
I just don’t remember them that way and haven’t seen the critique of them before. I’ve seen the It’s physically impossible for Barbie to exist as a human thing but never anything about Bratz.
Idk I’ve never had exposure to a large Muslim community or been to a Muslim majority country so idk what career options women in places like KSA, Malaysia have.
I never saw where the men get put to death. I don’t think they’re Muslim but Islam says the money a woman earns belongs to her and is not obligated to anyone.
My k!nks are tall, financially stable, fit, either does housework or hires someone, FINE in the face, zozo that is nice in all the ways and doesn’t look like a raw hot dog.
Yeah when we ask for representation of Black women with big noses and dark skin we get told some Africans have slim noses and light skin. Yeah some do but we’re tired of seeing those people.
I’m over 20 but under 25 and my body goals are Chloe Ting, Pam Reif and Auntie Flacks. I feel bad for not having the body type that black and Latina women are expected to.
Yeah like the normal reaction to difficult circumstances is not smiling ear to ear. What we need is affordable housing and health care, quality employment. Not just pills with the same horrible life.
I did Chloe for like 3-4 months and didn't get muscle definition. I just lost a teeny bit of fat. I got mad and gave up exercising because of it. I'm going to try strong curves style workouts. I really want a body like Auntie Flocks.
Prescription psychotropics to my understanding and personal experience do not induce euphoria. They have made people feel less extremity in their emotions.
In this group we talk about how being overtly vulgar is nasty. So I don't get the problem here aside from the outright rape stuff he said. I'm still a newb don't flame me please.
I may be missing something but I want a man to hold my hand or touch my shoulder first before going for a kiss. I don't want a random kiss. The issue here to me is the taken by force statement.
They forget that you’re only supposed to have 4 wives if you can treat them fairly (Islam). Emperors were literate, skilled in things like archery and actually could afford to feed and clothe their women luxuriously.
I was like that's it? That's what kids in school were hyping up? Then when I actually had piv because I wanted to it didn't last long enough. He didn't ask me if I wanted oral or manual stimulation before or after. This same person gave me an orgasm one time with his hands in a situation where piv couldn't happen.
Any black people here? Where the black woman doesn't have a thicc body or super defined abs. I'd like to see a normal looking black woman with an afro being shown love.
Dick gives a warm sensation even through the condom. Plus its a nice full feeling. I crave being seen as the most beautiful woman in his eyes. I want him to give me multiple orgasms. I want him to cook me amazing food.
Ah that's awesome you have International family. Not to pull the card but because of colonialism my family was separated. So I don't have a connection to the motherland.
I don't have $$$ to travel to Europe. I don't have any friends who can travel yet. I'm too afraid to travel solo. I hang out with a friend when possible. I want a man to think I'm the most beautiful and one of the most intelligent women that he's met.
I mentioned romantically too. So it's not just about sex. It's about a man I'm attracted to taking me to a nice dinner or a musical. On the sex side its about him giving me an orgasm. Yes women can buy things for ourselves but it hits different when a man who you want to have a romantic and sexual relationship with does it.
Congratulations that you don't care if men find you romantically and sexually attractive. Let me know when you bottle that into a pill and I'll buy some.
Why does he ask about the woman's job when in Islam the man is supposed to pay for everything? I thought it says that the money a woman earns is not obligated to the family.
The visual board is that vision board aka what we had before Pinterest? I'm not particularly satisfied with my body. I tried working out using a famous yt but didn't get results. So I eventually just stopped. I liked my body better when I didn't fail at achieving a looks goal and I just did yoga to relax.
I look back at my first bf and am like “ I thought he was cute”?. I genuinely didn’t have eyes for anyone else. I loved him/ was afraid to be alone but I definitely didn't want to have sex.
I never had preferences for hair and eye color. Are the men in your family brown hair and brown eyed? That’s probably why because we’re supposed to like people who are genetically different.
David is too swole. I’m into men like Leon Grey and Dr.Mike. I don’t have defined abs so I’m a hypocrite. I tried a famous yt workout challenge and was drinking some protein for over 2 months and didn’t get definition. I eventually just stopped because I didn’t get results.
Been single for over a year. I miss male body heat. I want to be see as both a sexual being and an intellectual. There haven’t been any in person events really so it’s hard to make friends because the zoom meetings for clubs are structured. Not really any open discussion. I’m not getting enough hours at work yet can’t get paid work in my field of study because there aren’t many paid jobs for those with bachelors in the subject in my area. So I have to find another job that isn’t particularly enr…
My interests are female dominated though. My professional field is women dominated so the student orgs for it are. I was in a cultural club and it was also female dominated. So a man is just going to have to notice me at the grocery store or we’ll meet at speed dating?
I didn’t know people said things like that about dating Jewish people. Tbh I currently don’t understand the use of Jewish as an ethnic descriptor. I have to take time to look it up.
You can search via LinkedIn to verify their profession. Jus put yours in private mode so he can’t see you. Check criminal records of where he currently and previously lives / lived.
So women are only allowed to have sex with one man according to him but also we should do it like porn stars. I’m guessing he did none of the dishes that night?
Yes the real scary things in life concern over mold and mildew and eating ice cream. Meanwhile women are dealing with addicts who spend all their money on the object of fixation.
Some get off on being better than the wife. They’re proud that their body hasn’t been “destroyed” by child birth and that they don’t have wrinkles yet.
I’m sure most people don’t want herpes. It’s our job to ask for a partner to get new sti/std testing with us. While the consequences I mentioned aren’t guaranteed it’s a risk.
You can actually get viral encephalitis from herpes. To my understanding it’s not super common but it’s possible. Babies can be blind because of herpes. So yeah herpes should be given some thought.
I watched a video of her in high school psych. It showed how people couldn’t even fully remember a grocery list and other things. I learned that the brain will make up details to complete memories.
I definitely agree that now some younger girls are deliberately pretending to be adults however you can just ask for ID if you have doubts. The reason these girls do that is because they’re constantly exposed to media that pushes sexual attention from older men as valuable.
Yeah I’m introverted and quarantine hasn’t really bothered me. Like I really only have one friend. It’s always been like that. I’m not autistic or Aspergers either. I liked to read by myself as a child.
How much time do you prefer to spend with a romantic partner that you’re not living with? Also are you introverted or extroverted? Once a week seems okay to me?
Yeah women who have experienced trauma may have lower self esteem. So they don’t have boundaries. Therefore they do things that other women who haven’t experienced trauma, have involved fathers and don’t lack attention won’t do.
It happens. Skinny shaming is a thing. Or it could be about a facial feature, skin tone, hair texture. People can have a negative perception about their personality too.
So bumble says if you signed up before Jan 18 of this year you can opt out of the arbitration agreement. I’ve had my account months before and I don’t see the option to decline that term.
And what is she providing in return? Sex, kids, housework. If a man is spending more money in the relationship even though the woman could afford to split the bills then he’s paying for access to her.
The man is still paying for sex here. He could still spend the same amount of money only dating and then marrying one woman as if he dated multiple and got married later.
No in Abrahamic faiths the man is supposed to be the financial provider. In Islam the woman is not obligated to spend any of her income on the household. Men are given bigger inheritance because of that. Families always tried to marry their daughter off to a equality or more wealthy man. Even the Duggar daughters go on dates where the man pays. They get a chance to know each other.
Withholding sex is not abuse! So I should have sex with him even when he’s being a lazy bum and not cleaning anything? Hell No! Women don’t have sex on the first date because we’re afraid of pump and dump. Men are vocal about how they don’t respect who do have sex immediately.
Plus we have the idea that we should help family. Having the attention shift from yourself to a younger child is tough. I hated everything about it. Like you want me to help my competition?
I just can't believe it. Yeah not everyone can afford childcare. Yet I've heard that daycare workers don't get paid very much. I wonder why it's like that.
I see ladies in the dc talking about how they have multiple suitors. I'm like HOW? I agree that the vast majority are trash. So I kind of hate how the ladies here say we have so many options. I'm not white so that limits my dating pool some because not all men are attracted to black women. I live in a large city so you would think that I'd have good prospects. Even on my university campus I can't get good results.
Well yeah then he’s just into sex. I’m not sure I feel comfortable calling people who only want sex low value. What’s low value is lying about it. I think it’s possible that some men just can’t get off from stimulation with hands. Like it can excite them but it won’t make them orgasm. However they can still orgasm from piv so oral isn’t a necessity. Porn does but a helluva lot of screen time on fellatio. I supposed I used a male preference because it’s my impression that men are more likely to l…
I agree that talking about sex early can make the guy think you’re ready. I’m what is most likely normal but called Demi-sexual in that I don’t want to have sex until I know someone well. I can’t get there with people I barely know. I think sex immediately is weird.
Some people do only want sex and will pretend to be interested in legitimate dating that’s true. However some people don’t want to get really attached then find out the sex is bad. You can talk about sex beforehand like at month 4 for example then at month 6 when things come down to it someone has lied about their preferences and either doesn’t want to do something on your must have to get off list or they try to pull something on your no list. For men it’s probably that they don’t want to be wi…
I may have a irl date soon. I plan on looking through our state records for crime. I found him on linked in because his first name is unique. He didn’t connect his social media to the app we met on. So I’ll use spokeo to get it. I wish it was illegal to put women’s information online without consent. I hate that I have to take the time to remove myself from these sites.
Codependency as I've seen it defined does not blame the person for having it. It's an unhealthy attachment to others where you are overly self sacrificing and stay in horrible relationships.
Not op but I want to answer. I never knew of anybody going on dates with multiple men irl. Very few men that I would like are interested in me so even if I wanted to I couldn’t. At least that’s my experience.
What is a normal amount of babysitting from an older child? I’m cf but curious. I never got paid for babysitting my niece who my mom took in. Sometimes mom would order us food but never paid me. I sat about 1x a month maybe. I mean I don’t feel owed because of living rent free and not having to pay for or cook my own meals.
Love? Idk about real life because I don’t have many friends let alone married ones but on here there seem to be plenty of who got married to someone they had sex early with.
Try being a woman on tinder and see how ugly the men are. Men are way uglier than women. There are so many posts from women about unhygienic men on here. I don’t see even 1/4 of that about women.
So because they used to in the past, they are obligated to continue having casual sex? Casual sex does not benefit women. We have the risk of being murdered and low odds of orgasm. It also does not give men the incentive to commit.
I haven't seen much more effort put in by black men as a black women. I've noticed that Asian men not like desi asian put in more effort. It's probably that they've read the research that says they're not very favored on dating apps.
Personally I’m not going to pay for audible. I think my library app only has it as an ebook. I could check if they have it on cd but I have to see which device I have has a cd slot.
I don’t have any personal experience with abuse but I didn’t find it mind blowing or anything. I didn’t finish it. I’ve been having a hard time reading recently. I forget to do it/ haven’t enjoyed it as much. But last week, I picked up a fiction book and I was reading it well. I forgot all about it this week.
Well if I’m the common denominator what else am I supposed to think? If someone had no friends people would suggest that they might need to change some things. It’s not on my mind 24/7.
I have no problem having female friends. So it’s not that I have an atrocious personality. I’m not rich so it can’t be that people are tolerating me for money. I’ve been complimented by older women on how nice and pretty I am. It’s totally normal to want sexual and romantic attention.
When you don’t get much attention you feel lucky. I see so many ladies here saying they get sooo much attention. It’s not like that for me at all. I haven’t even been approached 5 men last year. If you’re not being approached must be something wrong right? Before you say go to therapy, I already am.
I admit I like very few men that I see. I'm not being approached by the types I like so it's a stalemate. But hey it's quality over quantity right. My person will come.
Of course women can perpetuate gender norms. While things have improved some they also seem to have stayed the same/ regressed. There is now a movement of men who want to strip women’s right to vote, it’s on Twitter as repealthe19th.Women are raped everyday and the perps go free . Women were only allowed separate spaces in the past as an exclusion/ purity tactic. Now our spaces are being stripped for the purpose of validation. Lesbians are being told they have to be with biological males or they…
Read some of Lundy Bancroft, he a researcher states that the majority of abusers are male. If men need these services then do something about it, men only bring it up as a gotcha when women are talking about their experiences. Personally I don’t see men advocating on their own. Again men have the majority of power in government and in the economy. So go complain to those men. The successful suicide is because men use more violent methods. Men have banned women from participating from war in the …
They actually refused to remove child porn when the victim wrote them. She pretended to be a lawyer and they took it down. I’ve heard they only have six mods. https://fightthenewdrug.org/ https://www.change.org/p/shut-down-pornhub-and-hold-its-executives-accountable-for-aiding-trafficking
The govt actually wants to ban tik tok from govt phones. https://www.foxbusiness.com/technology/us-senators-seek-to-ban-tiktok-on-government-phones-over-spying-concerns https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/01/us-to-investigate-tiktok-over-national-security-concerns-sources-say.html
You’ve straight faced asked and told why you want it? So do I ask, “Hey can I see your license, I need it for a background check. You’ve written his info from it down?
What’s up with the Med thing? I don’t mind having a shorter life if the quality is much better. I’d been in the hospital three times in one year before I had good meds.
Where do you go that you get hookup offers? Bars and clubs? I don’t even want to hookup because they don’t seem to work for me. I’m sure that’s frustrating. What do you mean by suits them best and accessory?
I don’t wear makeup anymore. I have a bunch too but I just don’t care about it. I’m in college. I do plan on changing my wardrobe some. But I’m not going to completely change myself into someone I’m not because I’ll be unhappy trying to keep that up. I’m into k dramas, stickers, exercise, reading. I like board and card games. It’s not cruel to go on a date where I don’t like the guy? Wouldn’t that be leading him on? I’m not good at acting like I’m interested, when I’m not. I don’t think I’d be a…
I’m doing DBT. I feel like the meds are helping with stability. I’m not experiencing much joy though despite doing activities that I like. I plan on going on a lower dose birth control. I want to improve my sex drive.
A man who is fiscally responsible, treats women with respect, is charitable, emotionally competent, good with kids but doesn’t want any. Etc. FINE is referring to looks, I need my man to be the 10 at the beginning that way if things slip due to aging he will never go below a five. That’s because in order to have sex you need attraction. I’ll give you some examples of how I’d like to look around 50+ and of a man.grandpa grandma
I’m trying to have a dating pool of quality and attractive men. Feelings can delude you and make you ignore red flags. Idk list first feelings second. I’ve been browsing a bit in FDS.
The point of knowing what type you are is that you then know how to market yourself. I guess I feel odd not fitting in. I’ve never really felt like I have.
