🙏

sassenachpants · 2021-01-31T00:34:25+00:00

Big mood.

I got a Google calendar notification that my ex had deleted the wedding date off his calendar. I might throw a bullet dodging party.

NotSoSmartChick · 2021-01-31T03:52:57+00:00

This is it right here. I can look back at every ex I was nuts over when I was younger, and I shudder to think how miserable I’d be now if it hadn’t ended.

One ex in particular, he’s truly a wonderful person - but I’m so thankful we didn’t work out, he’s too hippy dippy for me; after I dumped him, he went and found himself a hippy dippy woman and they’re living in hippy dippy bliss.

pizza_connoissieur · 2021-01-31T04:15:05+00:00

It's absolutely insane what love bombing can do to your head! I was manipulated and love bombed by a NVM and grew attached; in hindsight it was a trauma bond. I'm thankful I dogded a bullet because:

He made me feel less than
He made doubt myself
He is manipulative
He is too invested in video games (literally on the mobile game 24/7)
He is a misogynist
He got upset when I called him out on his stuff
He was speaking to other women and making me think I was crazy for even thinking that (I had proof too)

And 10000000+ more red flags. I thought that if I cOmMunIcAtEd with him, it would get better. It was pretty much a situationship built on manipulation and lies.

He is literally disappointment personified. The epitome of the bar being set so low that it's in the inner depths of hell. Bless the higher power above because I blocked and deleted him from my life. No thank you, satan.

Lykah · 2021-01-31T00:24:53+00:00

Damn right! A few years ago, I was really convinced I wanted to support a stay-at-home husband. That I'll work hard and he'll appreciate it of me, he'll keep a clean house, cook yummy meals and raise our children right. As if any man could actually do that without secretly resenting me for being the breadwinner, feeling 'emasculated', doing a half-assed job at homemaking and parenting, and then ultimatum cheat on me with someone he can afford to impress, on my money. You can even find a post I made about in my history, so emberassing lol

What the hell I was thinking..

Fun_Sherbet · 2021-01-31T00:35:06+00:00

Every single day I'm so glad things didn't work out how I once wanted them to!!!

dancedance_83 · 2021-01-31T05:25:16+00:00

At the end of the day I am glad I didn’t end up with any of my exes, either. It just took a while for my emotions to catch up to it when it happened (with the exception of my most recent ex... I was left emotionally drained so I didn’t care anymore). They were all losers. I had a pretty strong Loser Picker (TM) for a solid 10 years. Maybe they’ve gotten better, idk. Good thing is they are blocked and I don’t care to see or know them anymore. I don’t know that version of me anymore.

kiksuya_ · 2021-01-31T01:16:13+00:00

I got what I wanted... but at a massive price lol

girludontbringhome · 2021-01-31T04:23:40+00:00

After my first break-up, I remember crying every so often about how long I had been single (8 months, 1 year, then 1.5 years), it would really wear me down. Finally, I was in another relationship, but this guy ended up being worse than the first (and he seemed so perfect in the beginning - they always do I guess). Anyway, someone recently asked me how long it's been since my last relationship, and here I am doing the math seeing that it hasn't even been 1 year yet! I actually want it to be longer because I just want to be even more disconnected to my pick-me past and that LVM lol. I cannot believe I used to fret about being single for a few months. I am loving it and don't even want a man at all right now!

ApfelEsserin · 2021-01-31T04:35:21+00:00

If I had been married like I so badly wanted to be, I would owe him alimony rn. 🙏

Barbie-girl · 2021-01-31T08:09:55+00:00

I don't really blame my younger self and to be honest I never got too attached to any guy because I always knew inside me that they weren't right for me. But I was surrounded by low quality guys. No matter whom I would date, everyone around me (especially other guys) would laugh and make fun saying "you could have done so much better". I knew that but there really weren't many good options around growing up in not so affluent area in a poverty-ridden country and no dating apps and internet around.

waddamelone · 2021-01-31T08:45:51+00:00

Praise the Lord because I probably would’ve spiralled into a depression. Thank God for intuition and the gut feeling!

volcanic_equation · 2021-01-31T01:14:46+00:00

Blessed indeed. 🙏🏼

LevelingUpQueen_ · 2021-01-31T09:36:46+00:00

*with what society brainwashed me to think I wanted. Thank God I am not a married housewife.

Extreme-Vermicelli · 2021-01-31T11:55:49+00:00

God yes. And what's more, my former self being upset over "losing" these no value exes, when I can now see that they were lucky I even allowed them into my life. I sometimes have nightmares in which I am back with them, and even unconscious, there is part of my brain going "What the fuck are you doing? Why are you with them again?"

I wish I had a time machine so I could go back and tell her....

alli4202 · 2021-01-31T23:27:04+00:00

I joined this over a year ago.. because a dude was treating me like complete shit.. And I made excuse after excuse for him.. I kept coming back to this.. And finally.. I can say I am SO thankful that is eliminated from my life.. I can say I am SO glad I found FDS ❤️

ShondaGives · 2021-01-31T02:30:18+00:00

Facts!!!!!!!✌🏿

ThrowRAanonymouspick · 2021-01-31T19:51:57+00:00

Thank you universe for ending relationships that would have been TERRIBLE for me! ❤️🙏

empresselevation · 2021-01-31T05:55:48+00:00

Amen. I just hope this doesn't come true in my career though lol

blackcherry333 · 2021-02-01T03:26:35+00:00

Oh man, if there was ever something I should get tattooed....

Title	🙏
Author	alli4202
Upvotes	2156
Comments	32
Date	January 30, 2021 11:28 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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