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You can only do so much prove so much give so much. I had lost myself self worth and who I was trying to be to keep my family together. My reward was divorce and being painted as a horrible person. Please it’s so hard I just did my first drop off and my daughter started getting upset. It killed me but I know I am doing the right thing. Once I have my apt. I’ll have the only thing that matters to me. I have started to remember who I was and wanted to be. I have been shown that I am not what stbxw…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:24 AM
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Just say this tells it sticks: YOU DESERVE BETTER! Ur a back up plan once she starts to walk away it’s done. You have proven you can handle it. You have proven you’re a good man. Please do what I said above.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:16 AM
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Dude pull the trigger even more so if you don’t have kids. It’s not worth it you deserve better if it wasn’t for my daughter my stbxw would be dust in my rear mirror. Keeping saying this tell it sticks YOU DESERVE BETTER!
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:12 AM
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Seeing my kid everyday that’s it
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 04:28 PM
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I don’t miss stbxw I miss the idea I had of not having my daughter in broken home. Of not being able to see my daughter every day. This is the only thing that hurts … but I could never go back …. It sucks one day it will be better.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 12:49 AM
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I hear u man I miss my kid the most while I too sit in hotel room. Rebuild my will happen… money comes and goes …. But I cherished every day with my daughter and hurts to be away. I don’t miss my stbxw … just my kid. Hang in there I’m told it gets better one foot at time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 11:58 PM
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One is fucking enough …. I didn’t want the first one and feel like sucker for now for trying. It’s not happening again. Girlfriend for life or keep it moving.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 11:48 PM
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For real it’s almost like there is play book for women to follow… o wait there is
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 01:30 AM
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This was me … I looked everywhere and if ur male getting divorced and have no support …. Ur fucked. As u said from the police , lawyers, judge and support services are all women based. I found zero support for me. I always thought that men who walked away from kids are worst…… now I understand because I am man who is a great dad being forced to leave my kid…. Because society doesn’t give shit because I am man.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 10:15 PM
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Thank you! It’s nice to hear a women’s view too and I welcome it. I’ve not replied I feel nothing is best answer as my stbxw statement is enough. Also based on advice I was given here. Yet ur right maybe no mom is better than one that doesn’t care.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 03:01 AM
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I will and I ll start writing things down. Thank you!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 01:40 AM
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Yeah but harder if I didn’t have my kid so ur right we have to step not just us but for them too. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 01:32 AM
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Thank you! I’m stealing ur line if that’s ok. I pray for same thing for my daughter thank you again for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 01:04 AM
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I have there was misunderstanding she is giving this to me. Where I would have over 50% of custody.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 10:31 PM
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Thank you! I tried so hard to get her involved during our marriage but she wanted more time to hang out with her friends. Always complaining about being stuck at home. I will do the best I can for my daughter but my heart feels full knowing my daughter will be with me who would do anything for her not my wife who feels like she is burden.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 10:22 PM
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Thank you! This is wise advice I come here for. I will my daughter is everything to me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:51 PM
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Ok thank you! This is great I’ll keep silent as this is what I want more custody for me and less for her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:37 PM
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Ok thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:36 PM
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Where i get what looks like more then 50%
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:35 PM
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Yeah and I messed up she is the one wanting less time and giving me more.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:23 PM
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I am getting most of time she only wants what seems less then 50%
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:20 PM
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I’m sry there is miss understanding she is giving this to me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:14 PM
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Yeah she is giving this to me and I hope the courts approve it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:07 PM
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Ok thank you good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:02 PM
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Yes correct she wants less time with our kid. Thank you I could never do what she doing.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 08:50 PM
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Yeah sry my ex wants less time with my kid she’s not taking more time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 08:47 PM
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You’re right thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 08:43 PM
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Thanks you !
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 08:36 PM
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I think sometimes u miss understand us trying to move on as hate. For me I don’t hate my stbxw but I hate what she is doing to me and my daughter. I hate that she is putting herself first instead of the family. For guys like me we need to move on! Staying in place where we miss what we had missed being married only harms our mental health. I need to move forward and feeling sad about what I lost only keeps me stuck.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 02:02 PM
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Hey man this is great can u provide more. I current txt only with my stbx and just yesterday she was txting. The txt was that she had not grab something for my step son he wanted. She forgot cause she was to busy yelling and eye rolling at me and I had call the cops to get her to calm down. This ( all my fault) caused her to rush. I didn’t text her right away and after 2 hours I got. “I saw u read this txt”. I’ve since turned off read receipt as u suggested. I then respond I’m busy but as this i…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 12:47 PM
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It’s a she said he said my friend just call the cops they will tell unless u can prove a crime has been committed there is nothing they can do. First u would have to prove that the items are even real. Then prove she sold them then depending on total amount it would be small claims court. You would have to sue her and hope in small claims court they would side with u after once again proving all the above. Being a man in divorce is the worst thing I have ever experience the one sided bullshit is…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 07:00 PM
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I have been taking photos of txts we send as proof and I’ve spoken to the police and they said I can call them after she attack or harms me again but I need to wait for it to happen again. I also am bit afraid of the police as lot of what I have read shows that men are arrested and blame in a he said she said DV call. I do have some video after but just her taunting me for recording her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 04:55 AM
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Thanks I am trying really and trying to work too and care for my daughter. It’s just a lot to deal with Sry I’m not trying to upset u. Just don’t know where else to talk about this stuff. I’ll stop posting.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 04:49 AM
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I can’t move and I’ve asked family and they offer emotional support they can’t help with watching my daughter. I am trying maybe it will help as I just found out today she hasn’t filed yet. She said next week so that’s why I don’t have alimony. Sry I’m not try to convince u I’m just venting looking for support. If I have upset u I’m sry just having a tuff time dealing with it. Part me thinks she is not filing due to being worried about court order. I’m current on legal match.com hoping to be ass…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 04:46 AM
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Yeah I am trying to find one that will work for less then 3k to 5k or payment plans anything. So far nothing and the free lawyers are no help at all the just advice.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 02:48 AM
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Where as most lawyers don’t work in all county’s ? I’m in Florida too
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 02:28 AM
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What state? Man if I could find that i could make that work out if the lawyer was good.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 02:26 AM
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I have no money for that I will calling again for 3 week in row to find anyone who will help for low cost or something but all the places I call want 3k to 5k down non refundable. I was sthd she made all the money.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:47 AM
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I agree but I dont have 3k plus to spend just on fees or I would.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 11:19 PM
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Yeah I have no lawyer ived call and keep calling they all want so much money down.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 10:33 PM
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I am only on the deed
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 07:45 PM
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No I have not yet as all free help isn’t helpful. I have some money but just enough to keep me and my daughter safe. If I were to get child support and spouse support I could afford it but stbxw is going to fight tooth and nail against it. She said she paying 300 child support that is it. I was sthd dad for 6 years plus I’ve turned down two jobs cause I can’t work in office 40+ hours and care for my daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 07:17 PM
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No custody yet but she isn’t fight me that as she seems to not want any responsibility. I’m not on mortgage just deed. She has no real the money that can bargain with. It’s really just house money and they want me out so they can sell supposedly.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:15 PM
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Yeah I see both sides and both have risks I just can’t see what is best.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:09 PM
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I have a few apt with realtors this weekend and next week.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:01 PM
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We have I kid she is currently with me as I don’t trust my ex at all she very absent mom. Current balance is 327000 left owed on loan.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:00 PM
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That’s what I am worried about that stbxw is just trying to screw me
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 05:59 PM
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yeah i assume her parents would help her fund whatever she wants. Based on what u said what would you do?
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 03:15 AM
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Before any fees or realtor fees around 73,000. Currently owe 327000 my current research shows that house could sell for 400000.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 01:38 AM
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My stbxw and her mom
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:28 AM
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Yeah I’m Florida and I don’t see it picking up next year. If anything I feel it’s going to be harder to sell the longer I wait.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:15 AM
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Not on the loan just the deed.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:07 AM
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Right this is what I am thinking the longer I stay and pay anything it just eats into my profits. I would rather move and start dumping into the new place. Also if I take the money I’m off the hook on repair costs.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:06 AM
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No this is good it’s what I feel calm happy and free tell i talk with stbxw and then im miserable. That in that I want her back in more of it brings up all shit we went though and stuff. Find peace anyway u can and hold onto it cause at any moment it can go and will go all to hell
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:53 PM
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I’m only on the deed and what is DOTSA?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:43 PM
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The fight over who pays for what like mortgage and utility’s. Have her and her parent coming in and out. It’s really then fighting over payments that is stressing me out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:42 PM
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I did and they are selling around 400000 amount or lower.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:36 PM
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So months of mortgage payments and utility cost. That I can fight with her on. What would u do? Take cash and be done or wait and see?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:35 PM
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Right or stop paying letting it foreclose which is had also been threatening . Also we constant fight on who is paying for what. For good price it could take 6 months or more
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:28 PM
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It seems in Florida seller pays most of closing cost. It’s the 6% realtor fee that is really high. What do u mean “if you get the upside “?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:26 PM
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Thanks yeah it didn’t even cross my mind to even do that. I guess all I would have to do is fine a place for us to stay. Thanks you gave me something to think on my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 02:44 AM
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She is filing and I don’t think she would let me leave the state. Even if I could it would take me awhile to even come up first last and deposit on place (4K easy). We will have to sell the house we bought at some point but as soon as it’s sold I and my daughter will need place to stay. I want to have a new place before we sell the current house to keep a stable home and as easy transition for my daughter. To be honest my stbxw should do the right thing for our kid and back the fuck off. Provide…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 02:37 AM
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Yep I am work now make just enough part time doing gig jobs to keep us kind of going tell i can figure something else out. It’s crazy to think I care for my daughter since she was born. Now care for her alone while trying to make ends meet and she can be taken away from me. If I was women this wouldn’t be an issue and everyone would feel sry and help / understand.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 02:31 AM
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Yeah that’s more marine thing but very true
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:56 AM
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I just want to be clear I can get work I’ve had to turn down two jobs now cause they require me in office 40+ hours week. Child care cost around 1,500 to 2,500 for normal care. My daughter has special needs this up that amount to 2,500 to 3,500 a month. This is why I stayed home cause i would be work just to pay for child care. Not food or rent just cost of having someone watch her. So issues isn’t can I get work. The issue can I work and also keep my daughter safe and well cared for. No friend …
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:49 AM
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Please if u have see some of the other post here. In every divorce one person has moved on while the other hasn’t. It’s super rare to have two people both ready to have moved on. That’s why divorce always sucks cause someone is holding on or caught unaware and the other has emotionally and or physically moved on. You have to move on urself because thinking about that could drive u crazy. Past is past living in future is only way to go. Wish u all best we are all as I used to say in military “ in…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 07:26 PM
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Due to being a stay at home dad caring for my autistic daughter full time. It’s not a matter of can I work is more how do and keep my daughter safe and continue her care.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:55 PM
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Really?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 05:04 AM
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Yeah I worry that will be used in divorce or court if/ when we get there. I’m not sure how judge will take it even if I prove I needed it for legal fees and had no choice. I was even think a loan… but don’t want to give her more ways to screw me
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:30 AM
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Yeah will be on phone all day it’s seems that is the only hope.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:19 AM
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No she moved to accounts I don’t have access to.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:18 AM
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I always read about some of this stuff but to be in it and see and feel and experience it …….. I know that my stbxw knows what she’s doing is wrong and doesn’t care….. and wants to say I am the bad guy???? Being a man I was thought was hard enough when I grew up with dad who like John Wayne but dam would rather wrestle bear seems I would have fairer fight.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:17 AM
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Yeah I will keep calling so far all want a retaner
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:09 AM
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Yeah I thought I need a lawyer I was trying to look up if I can do it myself but it’s seems very complicated where I can’t even find a form to fill out. I’m going to try some more low income options tomorrow but seems hopeless.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:57 AM
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Correct no family and no installment suggested even when I ask
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:43 AM
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She maxed all credit cards and moved the money and won’t let me use it for legal fees or really anything… I was stay at home dad ….
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:33 AM
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Trying but like I told another guy unless u guys want liver for 5 to 10k …..0
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:32 AM
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I’m looking but other then selling organs on street not sure what else I can do
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:31 AM
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Right come on man please open ur eyes. Maybe ur ex wife is a good person. Most of us if not all of us are not dealing with that and the courts are bias towards women this is a fact. Taking the high road can only leave u exposed. My stbxw is lier and selfish so yeah I don’t hate women but I’m not stupid ether and need to protect myself and my daughter. Also u sound like women typing on sub for men. This place to support and help if it depresses u maybe try empathy first.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 06:43 PM
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It’s always easier to blame others than to look at urself even more so when we are dealing with shit we are on this sub. To be honest if more people could look inwards first the world and relationship would be much better. The reality is that blame others first I am never wrong is more common thinking it seems.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 10:21 PM
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In every divorce there is always one person who has planned the exit. In most cases that is another person or place to stay or better job it’s always something. The 1% that this doesn’t happen is when things end and both agree to end it. Sorry to say it looks like maybe she did the found another exit. Hang in there and try to move on it seems she has.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 10:54 PM
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Thanks I just need to hear all of this. Your right we just need to move on from this and hope for best. Still sucks but your right I can’t make her care so why wast time letting it bother me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 10:43 PM
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I know I am going to try for full custody on grounds she don’t give shit. Think I have pretty clear and easy case as I raised my daughter since she was baby and the lack of effort to stay in our daughters life after she left.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 09:38 PM
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Thanks man and happy thanksgiving to u too. I would cut off an arm first before walking away from my daughter but men are always getting shit on for doing this exact thing. Had it been me I would be burning on a cross with supervised visits if any.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 09:33 PM
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In my case I would be request spouse support from my stbx
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 01:25 AM
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Hey, if it was just me the house would be sold yesterday. The issue is my daughter who’s care takes up 90% of my time. Selling the house with no real work, place to live or income seems stupid And I don’t trust if I do sell that she won’t just disappear the moment it’s done. I would need child support and spouse suppport to star now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 12:21 AM
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Hey I am with u wife life me with my daughter 5 days ago. It’s been fucking crazy! What’s even more is that when I got married I told my stbx I don’t want get divorced are u sure? She said yes we will be together forever. Same thing when we had our daughter. I don’t want to be single parent are u sure? Same thing u don’t have to worry i will always be there. Yet here i am getting divorced and single dad. I’m still in the shit so I can’t say it will get better but I can say ur not alone. It’s har…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 11:52 PM
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Why if I can ask?
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 11:48 PM
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Thanks man i need to hear this. I just spoke with her and all she wanted to talk about is selling our house. She claims it’s what holding me back and sale of the home would solve all my problems. Saying I’m idiot for not seeing this and all other suggests are stupid. It really comes off to me that it would just solve Her issues not mine. I’m on the deed but not mortgage so from my understanding she can’t. She also said if i refuse she will stop paying for anything related to house. From my under…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 01:39 PM
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Ok I’ll keep looking I spoke to one but they wanted 3k that I don’t have and seem like they just wanted cash. I’ll keep looking
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:28 PM
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Can I do this without a lawyer? The child support spousal support would be huge. And yes she is working and I’m was primary caregiver.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:24 PM
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