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RantSmartRepair688/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 02:48 PM
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Success StoriesSmartRepair688/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 09:13 AM
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Not at all brother, I needed therapy too, when she cheated on me the first time, I was broken/hurt and needed professional therapy to intervene and help me process the pain and all. I even got us couples therapy to make our relationship stronger. As bros, it's fine to joke and call it a nuthouse but there is nothing wrong with seeking or getting mental help brother
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:53 PM
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I see, the comment by the dad sorta put things into perspective. The way things work out is crazy but as long as you are in better place is all that matters. Will do brother, thank you for the offer. Cool thing about this RV is that it has gone through the hands of a bunch of Vets that fell on hard times. It’s a small 2006 15ft Thor Wander Toy Hauler that’s barely hanging on lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 12:30 AM
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I had a inground pool for my house and I had spend close to $45k to fix the crack due to shifting in the landscape. The amount of knowledge i have about pool it’s pointless since I’m not in the industry and no longer have a house with a pool lol I live in a RV haha I’m glad you stuck to your guns bro, I gave my ex so many passes that I prolonged and encouraged her disrespectful behavior towards me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 12:18 AM
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Wait, above or in-ground pool? If above ground, did you build a deck to fit the Fiberglass pool mold? If in ground, since you mentioned about digging then I’m guessing you probably went with concrete with like a plaster finish? Maybe pebble tech? How deep was the pool meant to be and did you finish it?
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 12:12 AM
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I appreciate the kind words, and no worries, my dude. 🤙 Yeah, my marriage honestly drained me, and my mindset towards dating now is to find a woman who meets my expectations. Honestly, just like on here, I am very clear about my expectations and “wants.” Many women definitely look at me like I’m crazy during our dates (which usually means no second date), but I appreciate their honesty because I don’t want to waste time. Heads up, you shouldn’t rate yourself on a scale like that. I’m sure you ar…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 10:08 PM
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I wrote about my situation in a previous post, specifically to bring some joy to our fellow brothers, I’m sure you will get a kick out of it too. previous post
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 09:39 PM
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I can’t wait to read about your success story in the next couple of years or so. Just keep chipping away, baby steps and you will climb out and be a better man than you were yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 06:48 PM
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I’m sorry but no? I never said I don’t want kids, I said, I don’t want to date someone with kids or raise someone else’s kids. I would love to have my own kids and a family of my own. I have traveled overseas countless times and have met a lot of amazing woman in (Japan, Philippines, India, etc) that were able to have very meaningful and intellectual conversations compared to the woman I have met or interacted with in CA, TX, NY. If you want me to go into detail, let me know. The reason why I’m …
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 06:46 PM
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Good job brother, I am sure her insecurities like you cheating either due to past experience or perhaps she was considering doing it herself and needed validation to do it. It's a red flag when someone accuses another baselessly and out of left field
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 05:27 PM
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I can related about missing her and not wanting her back. I struggled with that for about a year and a half and honestly took time to explore why i felt this way. I came to the conclusion it was because i honestly loved her and enjoyed her companionship. Think back, i did have her on a pedestal because i valued her differently since she was my wife and i assumed that was how it was supposed to be. I was a lesson learned.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:34 PM
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Wow, very similar to mine, caught her cheating every year of our 3 year marriage, literally every year. I can relate to having a relationship like my parents as well, but read my story on how I ended my marriage with my ex, it may bring you some job.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:29 PM
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I hate to be skeptical and might come off as a a-hole but since I'm asking you and your opinion, I hope it's appropriate. What was your honest opinion about the validity of her claims? feel free to decline, if you don't wish to answer, no pressure.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:26 PM
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I hope you are in a better place now brother, don't listen to what people think or say, most of the general public outside of your direct or immediate circle will forget bits within the first month, and 3 months it's old news since most people have more pressing things on their mind like "Who is tossing Kim Kardashian's salad now?" or "Did Diddy diddy those diddy endorsed diddies?". Your ex showed you her true colors and you know what signs to look out for and know what you want and don't want i…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:18 PM
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Damn, How did that resurface, was she actively repressing it and did not know of it? How did it evolve into the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:09 PM
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Thank you for sharing brother. I hope you are your family (Kids) are in a good place now and hopefully your ex gets the help she needs to ween on the pills and drug issues.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:06 PM
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Sorry, but i don't have children but i do want some of my own. I see what you mean by naive but i would debate that my previous statement is a popular opinion but I'm assuming it's popular with the older generation since i don't understand the current culture.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:38 PM
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You are a better man now, don't look at your past relationship as just a failure. I am sure you have grown from it and hardships like this help a man become stronger. You are a better man than you were before, don't dwell too much on the past and now you know how the red flags and signs with the relationship. I wish you nothing but success and know if and when you are ready, you will make the right decision for your and we as fellow brothers are always here to support and guide you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:34 PM
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How do you operate by the holy spirit? genuinely curious since my knowledge and exposure have been very limited to Christianity. The only times i ever willing went to Chruch was during Boot Camp in the Marine Corps to get away from getting Drill Instructors and their fun games. I am glad you are different tho, what steps did you take to become different?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:31 PM
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Could you provide more detail to help others better understand what you mean?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:27 PM
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I thought having children would make relationships stronger, would you be able to provide more detail to your situation?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:26 PM
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I am so sorry about the miscarriage. What made her a different person? Was it her personality? Did she develop bad habits? I just want to better understand what you mean.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:25 PM
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Wow, I am sorry about your experience. Were there red flags or signs during dating or before marriage that may have hinted at her behavior?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:24 PM
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Not at all brother, I’m not smart enough to write a book lol If you are really interested, look into dark psychology, some people smarter than me have already done lengthy research on manipulating, influencing, and other strategies related to it. Best way I can describe it, people are all on different spectrums and wavelengths, if you want to be friends with someone, you match their energy but if you want to exploit them, you learn their energy and use it against them. I’ve had a lot of practice…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 11:44 PM
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Her financial situation had changed right after moving into our house because she got hired for a new job. Prior to that she relied on me. She met her new man at this job which led to the separation our annulment. I’m sure she understands what has happened now but probably too proud to admit it. During the time of our separation and annulment, she was too occupied by her new found relationship to see what was going on behind the scenes. I knew her attention would be stretched thin and wouldn’t n…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 07:34 PM
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Wow! Congratulations on the 1.1m brother, that is honestly a huge milestone that most don’t even see. I hope to someday get to your level. I’m 32m and slowly chipping away at trying to be successful, my situation set me back but as a man, we just persevere and a get back up. I’m surprised you were so giving to be honest (it’s very generous of you, but why?) Also, I completely agree, it’s been like a blessing in disguise as if the grand architecture was guiding through the overall process. I felt…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 01:13 PM
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What did you do bro, share away
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 09:55 AM
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Im honestly hoping things don’t change, in the next 5 to 10 years these wannabe cultural follower are gonna sink in their own shits. Im going to just get a female from overseas like Philippines, Romania, or India that would be grateful for a man like me. Im excited for the future to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 03:18 PM
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100% agree with you bro. The only reason I mention the “6’ tall, 6 figure…” line is to display the hypocrisy and double standards that women clearly state that have a preference and laugh about but if men like me says that, we get shamed. Honestly, I don’t care for fun Bro, I crave a household like building a family with a (actual) woman. I already failed once with my ex-wife cheating on me for 3 years so I’m feel like I failed in the eyes of God, so having fun (casual sex or no-strings attached…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 05:28 AM
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Yes, that’s true, but I avoid single mothers because I can’t take that risk. If for whatever reasons the relationship fails, the man in this situation loses the child and the spouse because the kid was never yours to begin with, so why even put myself in that position. They can even put you on the hook for child support because you agreed to be the father figures. Look, I’m very transparent with what I want, I don’t lie or sugarcoat. If a woman wants to be in a relationship with a man like me, s…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 05:16 AM
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That is totally different, if you want to have fun with no strings attached, bro this is like the ideal situation for you lol and honestly, take full advantage and enjoy life bro For me, I am old school and crave like a household. I feel like I’m doing something or going against god by just having “fun”, I honestly feel I failed in the eyes of God as being a divorced man tbh (even though I did everything to prevent it) and having fun like that would only make me fall deeper in the pit. Just to b…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 05:02 AM
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Thank you for your insightful comment and I appreciate your feedback. I use online dating because I’m limited on time due to work. Where do you suggest would be a good place to start to meet good woman? Work is out of the question because I don’t fraternize with my employees, I’m very strict with my boundaries at work
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 11:46 AM
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You don’t have to explain why you are on any subreddit and I’m sorry you are going through relationship hardship. Because I have gone through divorce, I feel for you just as much as my bros. Yes, alot of men are attracted to a woman that is creative and don’t have to rely on those sexy cookie cutter costumes. They probably just felt threatened but I doubt they would have done anything. In my experience, my ex use to get butthurt if another girl like a server at a restaurant would give me some at…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 11:12 AM
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Yeah, I don’t plan to conform to attract anyone, im honestly very harsh and very honest with myself and others. A lot of my friends and previous employees reach out to me all the time cause they know I will give them my complete attention and full blunt honesty. I’m open about what I want and how i feel about it. People are going to try to shame you but honestly, I rather be happy alone than miserable with someone that doesn’t meet my standards.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 11:01 AM
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Well, I’m not attempting to have a psychological breakthrough or cure a society issue (norm) through Reddit, the purpose of Reddit is to connect and communicate, it’s simple as that. Asking questions and getting the wrong answer is an obvious risk, everyone is aware of that. It’s more about the data 📊 than understanding the psychology behind the questions. I’m asking around X & Y to collect data. Ex. Why do dogs get aggressive around cats? Do dogs hate cats? What did cats do to the dogs to cause…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:58 AM
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You are failing to realize this is Reddit and people tend to be very open minded, raw, and honest behind the anonymity factor. Getting outside perspective, opinions, and real understanding regarding situations actually helps paint the bigger picture. I appreciate and respect your input but no.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:39 AM
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I appreciate you sharing your opinion and experience, no one cares that you are lurking on the page, it’s ok your right to do so. Duracel bunny for Halloween sounds awesome actually but why did Jenny ask you to leave? But Did you talk to her man or someone she was interested in? Can you explain more in detail? Can you expand more on how you know American woman act in such manner? Hopefully I speak for all men here, that you are completely welcome in the subreddit and shouldn’t feel any type of w…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:34 AM
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Thanks bro 😎 I guess you are one of those 6’ tall, 6 figure income, and 1 ft long dick size men that woman openly wants but if I have standards, I get shamed lol
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:24 AM
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Bro, so much care and profound knowledge, let me just marry you man. Your the type of bro that will reject cookies from websites during Ramadan in support of his Islamic bros 💕
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:42 AM
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Looks like they removed it
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:28 AM
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I’m protected from the hosing market, used a VA secured home loan, even if I default, it won’t impact me, plus federal employee, I will look into wartime pos, can you dm me with some details or where to look?
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:26 AM
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You are a diamond 💎 I’d marry you bro
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:23 AM
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Really, you are one! Can you expand on your experience and is there a subreddit you recommend for this, where I can learn more? Pro and cons?
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:01 AM
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Thank you for your profound insights, I genuinely appreciate it. Can you expand more about people are more open about their toxicity? Feature? And bug? Where do you recommend looking? Wow, can you go more into detail regarding what you parents told you. I am genuinely interested in hearing more from you to better grasp my understanding.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:00 AM
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Of course, Amazon is good too but if you just need one or 2 of each time, it’s more worth it to get it from Walmart than Amazon but anything that requires tech or is over 20 dollars at Walmart like iron or hair clippers and are able to wait 2 to 3 days for shipping is worth it on Amazon since Walmart only has select few but Amazon will have off brand Chinese products that work just a well at half the cost. I enjoy being frugal so ask me anything
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:48 AM
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I have a house and planning to purchase another house for passive income. I use to have another house but had to sell due to the settlement and she got half the equity or profit that she NEVER put a dime in. I have some funds in the stock market and been part of wallstreetbets before it was cool, GME and all the crypto bs I’m concerned if bros are moving to Columbia and never being heard again 😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:28 AM
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No no, I genuinely want the traditional marriage between a biological man and woman, have kids, and raise kids together. I don’t care for sex, I can pay for sex if I want too but that’s just not how I am. I am already fit, successful, and financially debt free aside from my mortgage which is an assets and growing equity.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:19 AM
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Completely understand, but would you agree this was not the case 20 years ago that the dating pool was not this toxic in 2000s. I’m in my 30s and this change or shift in society happened fairly recently like within the last 10 years. I do agree, I may not find the type of woman I want online.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:11 AM
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I am completely calm brother. I have no ill will towards you, sorry if my response seemed that way but that is genuinely what I want and there may be some truth to what you are saying
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:08 AM
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I completely feel where you’re coming from brother and I agree. What are your thoughts on passport bros and how they are getting so much hate from women.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:02 AM
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I made another post to get some insight from Women and see what their honest opinion are, for those curious, here is the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/askwomenadvice/s/l4IgE0Oku1
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 01:40 AM
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I want a slave is what you want to hear, that probably made your flappy-doodles twitch. I want to build a family that I can protect, provide, and preside over. I want to partner that understands the importance of both role genders in a relationship and wants to help me build this family by sharing the responsibilities, like raise kids, and live together until death does us apart. You know the tradition sense of family not whatever it is now. I don’t want a woman that cares about IG likes or foll…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 01:17 AM
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I’m sorry about your experience, another bro that was used as a damn stepping stone. This is exactly why I’m say, men need to have standards, if they don’t meet your standards, don’t waste your time. All women want to do is wear make up, dance on IG, and chase after men that are 6’ tall, 6 figure income, and has a cock the size of Obelisk the tormentor. Majority can’t cook, clean, and hold a discussion. Wake up bro! I’ll see you at the Gym and we can discuss ways to tug on our pork meat candles …
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 01:01 AM
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Brother, as much as I would like to do that, I work 60 to 65. Hours a week and generally do all my household chores and errands. So I’m using online dating out of necessity. I don’t date my employmees at work, that is a huge no-no due of fraternization, just breaks the trust they have in their leadership and the cohesion crumbles. Meatworld would be ideal but I genuinely don’t have time. I worked hard to get where I’m at and don’t plan to lower my standards or jeopardize my career over some funb…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:47 AM
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I know I’m a catch bro, but issue is the lack of genuine women available. My rant is majority of women honestly have nothing to offer anymore, they don’t want to play the gender roles and other than sex appeal, are just lame. The most someone knows is how to bake…like cool, but I don’t plan on eating a cake the rest of my life. The delusion is real, they want a 6’ tall, 6 figure income, bbc having dude and if they settle for you, within 3 to 4 years will attempt to date the work-hubby or their b…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:39 AM
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100% agree 👍🏽
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:28 AM
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I most definitely will, I seen you comment on various other comments and offered nothing. What’s your opinion? This is a subreddit for divorced men = failed marriage, I’m one of those failed men that provided for my partner that couldn’t keep her legs closed while I was deployed. So, sorry, if my standards are too high for your likening but I don’t plan to settle for anything less. If anything, I’m tired of men assuming women can only offer their sex appeal. Women are more than just front funbag…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:27 AM
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Yes I’m in early 30s, 32, but bro, the first 25 years of my life was all about education, career development, learning to live, and the last 5 years I was married. So honestly, I have another 50 to 60 years in me still. Scarcity is definitely a factor but women overseas like Thai or Philippines are honestly an amazing options, don’t settle for less or assume your standards are too high. That’s what toxic people what you to believe. Yet, women can say they want a man with 6 figure income, 6 ft ta…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:20 AM
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I agree my are standards are high, after getting a divorced with someone I had to settled, if I get married is going to be with someone that meets my standards.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:11 AM
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Anything related to necessity is honestly worth it at Walmart. Just get the generic in house brands for Towel, toothbrushes, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 08:23 PM
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I feel you about the “hate speaking to women”, certain type of women trigger the memories of my ex and I get super detached from reality and have to leave asap. Wow! You are 32 and have 90K left on mortgage. If you are this close! Have you considered different investments strategies like doing a cash out refi to leverage your equity for another property for a rental income and obviously building more equity. If you plan to move overseas in the future for retirement, consider building a wealth st…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:14 PM
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Prenuptial? Or putting the funds into your mom’s name? I’m genuinely curious, please spill the beans
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:08 PM
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Pay for sex seems like a bad investment choice, focus on acquiring FWB and invest the funds you save into a legitimate Roth IRA 401K plan if you fall in a lower tax bracket or do a roll-over investment account into SPY. This will allow you to improve your interpersonal skills and grow a healthy retirement supplement plan to eventually pull and use in the Thailand, you’ll be able to afford all the girls and ladyboys you can imagine
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:59 PM
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Wot!? If you get rich, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT GET IN ANY RELATIONSHIP lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:53 PM
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Interesting, I’m not too familiar with K1 process or USCIS process but will definitely look into it. Last thing I need is a one of them illegal Aliens 👽 to steal my job! (South Park reference, chill) lol 😆
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:17 PM
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Mormon missionaries in Peru is abit more concerning lol however, horrible situations, I’m honestly considering retirement in the Philippines like in 20 or 30 years. Were these men in on the idea like did they have no idea this would happen?
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 05:41 PM
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100% agree, idk why people assume kids are not impacted by these revolving door relationships Kids are an innocent party in these situations that are heavily influenced. It’s like invisible trauma.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 05:37 PM
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I’m so sorry about what you went through and your experience, the bright side is at least the kids saw what a real men goes through and your perseverance won’t go unnoticed I wish you all the best and hopefully 4th time is a charm
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 05:32 PM
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100% true, I will not disagree with you. Curious, how old were these men? Just to get a better understanding
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 05:27 PM
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Please share more of your insights, I absolutely agree and would like to hopefully avoid myself in that type of situation in the future. I’m in my 30s and already have 1 failed marriage under my belt because she cheated. Obviously, The first 25 years of my life was all about education and building myself and the last 5 years I focused on building a relationship that failed. People are going to disagree or shame me for my mindset but we all have such a limited time to build something beautiful to…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 05:06 PM
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How do you feel about the ones with half naked photos along with their cashapp info, I’m sure they are on there looking for their Mr. Right lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:52 PM
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Well brother, if those flesh balloons make you happy, then I wish you get to play with a new pair everyday lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:36 PM
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Real solid advice, appreciate it brother.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:27 PM
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Bro, you are on a divorced men subreddit, literally a subreddit of FAILED MARRIAGES for men subreddit, not some failed dating experiment. Majority of these divorced men were legit good men, worked hard, only to have their spouse leave them to move up the corporate ladder or change their social status. Oh also, took half of their assets and god forbid, if they had a child, they lose 2 relationships instead of one and now little Billy has another male playing father figure and you only have 50% sa…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:26 PM
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It seems like you’re backtracking on your previous comment, while I’ve been consistent with my viewpoint throughout this discussion. Let’s be real—women often have their own checklists when it comes to dating, and we all know it. So, why is it a problem when men have theirs? There’s no reason to shame men for having preferences just as women do. I’m guessing now you agree but won’t admit to it. You’ve also misinterpreted the word ‘submissive,’ assuming it automatically implies a power imbalance …
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:12 PM
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I never compared my wealth to the likes of Bill Gates, “dude”, you introduced an argument and I applied a simple logic test to help you understand my thought process. “Dude”, The same applies to the average successful person that would be in my league, for example, within a 20 to 30 mile radius, individuals making 6 figures will be about 10% to 15% and we can assume 20% of those men and women are already married. Pretty much, the moral of the story, you can only move up so often. Imagine a pyram…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:53 PM
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Yes, let’s use that theory, like Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk by that standard are definitely superiorly “more valuable” than an average high value man. But with the same logic, how many of these high value men are actually available and how many will actually give these women any consideration, realistically speaking?
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:45 PM
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Yes, let me clarify the child in the situation is never at fault. Kids are totally innocent and rarely understand what is going on. But the fact women will so candidly able to introduce new men to their children and switch them so often probably has more of a negative impact on the child than not not introducing a new father figure to begin with. Imagine being a child and you are rarely see both parents and get told hey this is going to be another person to be a father figure and 6 months later,…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:40 PM
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I totally respect your opinion, but why is it that women are allowed to have a checklist, yet men aren’t? Almost every woman I see, even the ones who aren’t that attractive, openly say they want a guy: -6 feet tall -makes six figures -hung like a horse But the moment a man says he prefers a conservative or submissive woman, it’s suddenly a huge issue? That’s a clear double standard. You’re speaking from a position of privilege, but women overseas often understand the real struggles of life. They…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:28 PM
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Sorry, but no way! I’ve consider women with kids in the past, but bro What’s to say they won’t find someone else while they are with you? Especially if they have done that in the past You built a relationship with a child and her and and put in all the time and effort (kids are no joke) and all the sudden, she doesn’t feel like she loves you anymore, guess what, you just lost her, the child, and the time and money invested.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:20 PM
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Yes, I currently cook and clean for myself and bring in a good size income that allows me to have my house, 3 cars, and my toys. I would like to share it all with a woman that would want to cook and clean for me and fill in the role of the opposite gender and also is loyal and doesn’t lie. I don’t like fake tits, I’m more of an all natural type of guy, I don’t care about size as long as they are what god gave her lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:16 PM
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Already did that, I paid for couples therapy and individual therapy while I was married and getting cheated on. Don’t try to shame me for my opinion, situation, or feelings. If you disagree that’s your right but I feel how I feel.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:09 PM
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Im 32, successful, own a house, 3 cars, 2 motorcycles, no kids, no debt aside from my mortgage, Veteran, planning to buy another property for rental income. Look for a women younger than 32, fit, submissive, conservative, knows how to cook a good meal, enjoys traveling since I travel, doesn’t cheat, lie, and is loyal.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:05 PM
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32 divorced and 18ft toy hauler
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 10:29 AM
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Everything you said is pretty logical Actually Idk man
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 12:58 PM
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Please Don't, she's gonna record you approaching her and cry it was aggressive and violent and how she feels, only for me to watch the Joey Swoll respond to the video that this isn't what should be done at the gym and to mind your own business and only for Hodges twins to make a separate video that cum on my feed on what the girl was wearing and how wet her walls must be and probably make my nuts tight and I prefer not to be aroused by you my man, let that crush stay a crush
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 07:09 AM
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Sorry man I didn’t have kids with my ex and I feel for you Just take it easy and start doing stuff you enjoy It will and does get better ❤️‍🩹
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 10:05 PM
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Leave her ASAP and focus on you and your kid. Screw her and she can enjoy her online affair.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 06:52 PM
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Oh she said she did this because I was emotionless and didn't give her attention. Which isn't true at all, I made alot of effort, we traveled, got her gifts, worked on myself to be more available, read 5 languages of love (good book btw) and made alot of effort.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 01:14 PM
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100% agree, same
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 01:11 PM
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I mistakenly gave her too many chances and worked hard to provide her while she was cheating on me. She was from LA with that twisted LA mentality and liberalism, so many red flags but I thought with our religious and cultural belief it will change and get better. Huge mistake on my end, found out when I was deployed, she was cheating and never stop talking to other men. She enjoyed that attention. Got us Marriage counseling and individual counseling, family intervention, asked for her sister's …
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 01:10 PM
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Gotcha, I will make it happen then I'm just worried I guess
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 02:38 PM
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Trying man
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:34 AM
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No friends or family in the area They all live super far
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:34 AM
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Will do, I'll start with like a brisk walk and some push ups and abs. Start simple and progress to more reps.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:05 PM
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Well yeah, but sometimes other might have more concrete insights that I might not be privileged too, such location, career, or veteran information. I'm just reaching out for advice or tips since I'm sure there are other divorced men that had to jump start again. I'm not asking for validation, just insights.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:04 PM
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Will do brother, thank you for the great advice I will definitely look into mutli unit dwelling 🙏🏽
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:48 PM
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I think I can stop drinking cold turkey I have one drink prior to bed to sorta make me fall asleep but I will stop it starting today 👍🏽
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:47 PM
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No kids yet unfortunately
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:45 PM
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Not at all brother, I've come across many individuals far more interesting than myself If I wrote a book, it will just bore you to sleep lol For example; My highlight for Valentine's day was I treated myself to a hat while I was at home depot lol my current hat has been rough times with dirt, paint, and sweat stains, it was time.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 12:04 PM
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I got hurt in the Marine Corps and was discharged honorably but will not let me rejoin without a wavier and even then it may be a liability. Border Patrol is a federal agency, meaning as a Veteran I have perks to join and it's a easy transition. In my opinion, is the closest federal agency to the military in high tempo operations. Border Patrol also has BORTAC, their special operations team equivalent, that I am very interested in, given I get medically cleared after my physical therapy. My care…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 11:35 AM
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Please elaborate more on the question, i don't mind answering but would like to understand what you are asking
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 11:18 AM
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Please tell me more about the transition from CA to TX? Where from CA did you live? What issues did you have during your move? What to look out for? What issues did you run into? Is there anything you would do different during or before moving there? Any and all information provided will be greatly appreciated Sir, Thank you again for your response and guidance.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:40 AM
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I genuinely appreciate your input brother, I use to be part of the 100 mile club in the MC and black belt in the MC Martial arts. I'm sure if I put my mind to it, increase the protein, vitamins, and electrolytes I can get back in shape just sucks I got into such a bad spot. I will definitely look into Mounjaro, currently I take no supplements just prozac and occasionally I drink to go to sleep. I know that's my biggest bad habit, but I cannot go to sleep at night so I drink and force myself I gu…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:17 AM
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Gotcha brother, I appreciate the kind words, king
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:11 AM
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The guy does seem level-headed, we should try to get him on here and tell his story. Im sure a lot of people can relate to his situation. Sucks he's going through such a hard time but it will be better soon.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:16 AM
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Would you get a pension? You could look at being a cop. 25 years and you’d have a fat daddy pension. I believe the retirement program would be FERS, but I'm honestly interested in the BORTAC for BPA. Their tactical team works in hand with the military and does some high level operations. Local law enforcement would seem good later but i feel i have more to offer now in that capacity.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:09 AM
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Thank you, if you do think its a bad plan, please let me know. This will be sorta like my last ditch effort to become successful again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:55 AM
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Look at the divorce rates, look at the children born out of wedlock. Marriage for the most part, is a business transaction between you, your wife, and the government. Its normalized. Thank you for the solid response. I will def look into the VA career fares. The business would just be like handyman services like helping the local community with handyman stuff just to stay busy, not really for the money but just staying busy. I also have a dream to start like a local boy scouts type chapter to te…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:54 AM
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Yes sir, worst comes to worst, i will make it work. Yes, I am open to other states just prefer TX. And yes, I am considering getting a female for relations but marriage might be a far out decision unless I am sure, like 10,000% sure. I would really like kids tho like my own seed, but open to adopting. I hate onlyfans people and just all the people that screwed up traditional values and what marriage use to be.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:36 AM
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If BPA had previously given me an offer but I had to deny it due to an issue with my Ex. If they were to deny, I would apply for CPBO, another LEO agency, or local law enforcement, options are endless and I have savings set up to ensure I can get back for at least a year. Additionally, I am considering starting a small business. I am very hesitant about getting married again but I'm first generation and want kids like from my seed. I would my adopting too but would really like to have my own as …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:29 AM
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They put down dogs for not passing the school? Dude WTH?
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 02:16 AM
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Failed out of cattle school? Lol I'm imagining puppies with backpacks at desk and classroom setting haha I didn't know they had cattle dog school, tell Koda alot of successful people don't have degrees so he will be just fine lol Is there a website where you can adopt a dog that didn't make cattle school?
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 02:06 AM
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I've never heard of that, I will look into it brother Nice, I treated myself to a hat from home depot, $10 I needed a new hat for a while but I'm too frugal so I tend to hold off and stretch things for years lol So its nice to have these fake holidays to help me go for it
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 02:01 AM
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I am with you with that brother Stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:55 AM
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Don't feel down brother, you are better than you were yesterday I believe in you and you will rebuild your life Stay up king, you got this
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:54 AM
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Well yes, for sure it is But I use it to show appreciation to my friends Ones I really love and appreciate and I treat myself Got myself a hat from home depot, $10 and good quality, it was a impluse buy 😂 so I am embarrassed but it's Valentine's day so why not
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:54 AM
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I'm just old school and traditional, I'm 32 and no kids and feel like I did some wrong and each day is stressing me out I guess
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:51 AM
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Wow that sounds amazing Bet you have a very good boy Share his name
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:48 AM
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Yeah, I feel you I treated myself and told some of my friends happy Valentine's day as appreciation since they were there for me when I was in a dark place
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:47 AM
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That is awesome and creative! Sounds like you have a great son too! Thank you for sharing sir
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:46 AM
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Nice brother! I hope you won king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:27 PM
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Sounds like a dream brother, I bet you are an amazing father and I'm sure your daughters appreciate you brother I treated myself a new hat from home depot, my old hat was become too used up with sweat stains, dried paint so I needed a new one. I'm too cheap but found a good one on clearance so I got it haha
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:25 PM
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I'm not too good at MTG tho Like the Lord of the rings version It's just super confusing with the ring and too over powered
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:16 PM
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If you ever need to talk, I'm here for you brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:09 PM
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Yes, but work on yourself little by little and get you self back there Believe in yourself and you will be successful You don't have to be perfect just be confident Don't be so hard on yourself king, you got this
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:09 PM
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That's what Im talking about brother, stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:03 PM
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Don't talk like that brother, stay up king You got this
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:02 PM
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You are my Valentine brother, stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:02 PM
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You are an amazing father, I'm sure your daughter appreciates you alot. Stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:00 PM
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Winning! Let me know what you end up buying brother Stay up king!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:59 PM
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I feel you brother, I'm content and happy too, stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:58 PM
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Sounds like you had an amazing day, stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:57 PM
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Humm we need to talk more brother I live in Australia, Japan, And various different places. So far Mexican girls from Mexico do seem genuine
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:56 PM
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I'm so sorry about what you are dealing with brother, stay up king, you got this
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:54 PM
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I hear you brother, stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:48 PM
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You are a great father man, stay up king
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:47 PM
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I bet your kids appreciate you so much brother, sounds like an awesome Valentine's day
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:46 PM
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Keep saving that money 💰brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:45 PM
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I had to look that up
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:45 PM
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That's what I'm talking about king!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:44 PM
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Facts lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:44 PM
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Nah man, I'm not saying fill that void in the sense you have too fill it with a female? For me, it's like the dynamic is different and dont know what to do. I wrote some of my friends Valentine's day card including my good male friends, not that I'm gay, but just for fun to let them know I'm thinking of them lol I guess I look at Valentine's day more like appreciation and admiration too. I respect everyone's views and opinions. Btw Happy Late Valentine's day brother, I appreciate ya
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:43 PM
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Idk why I thought Surrogacy was a place lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:50 AM
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Sorry about your loss man I love my mom too Sometimes the void can be like a blessing in disguise, maybe there is a reason for the void
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:50 AM
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Very interested in the revoew, did you preorder the Tacoma? Did you get a certain trim, color, options, how much? etc?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:45 AM
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We saved closed to $250 lol win
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:44 AM
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Yeah, I totally get that I'm not much to celebrate stuff But good job on doing stuff for your daughter, kids are our future
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:43 AM
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Today my man, we just saved $250 bucks lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:42 AM
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To failure
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:17 AM
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Damn my doc gave me antidepressants Is Hone any good ??
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:08 AM
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Steak and lobster, damn man that sounds like a dream
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:54 AM
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Where at???
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:53 AM
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What did you work on?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:52 AM
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We should get together and make some money off this Hallmark holiday
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:52 AM
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Nice, that's honorable my man
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:51 AM
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What is a rub and tug? Is that a place? Where at?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:50 AM
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Asshole is a beautiful name
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:48 AM
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MTG is awesome man I enjoy the phone card game I don't believe in collecting the actual cards cause im cheap and frugal lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:47 AM
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Really, I thought they would be abit more humble So where do you look for a female?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:45 AM
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Oh snap, did you have to go to school for this? If so how long?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:45 AM
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Why wouldn't you do Valentine's day with someone else?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:44 AM
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Sounds like a dream, where did you take them?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:42 AM
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What about the females in other countries like 3rd world countries
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:14 AM
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Same, my ex isn't like all hot or pretty, it's just I was use to that person for so long that became my level or standard of beauty
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:13 AM
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What's your dogs name? Sounds like he is a good boy
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:12 AM
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Unfortunately
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:10 AM
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Where do you work lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:09 AM
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This is a win 👍🏽
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:09 AM
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Well yeah, I'm just trying to see the temperature of the peeps in here
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:09 AM
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Yes, unfortunately as much as I hate her, I would prevent her harm if I'm near her. It's an obligation for all men to keep others, especially women safe. However, if she was to pass away, I wouldn't say I would care or have a reaction. Just prayer and thoughts, well wishes and all. I'm 30 and she's 28. I genuinely dislike her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:46 PM
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I need to look into what exactly is a trust and how that works, do you know any resources to share with us? Tips or advice if you are knowledge on it
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:41 PM
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Sorry to hear about your experience Hope it's all going well now with glad you're kids understand what happened
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:01 PM
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I meant unrealistic legally, like if you both live together After a certain time, the person home of record becomes that because you live together Like they say the tenants have more rights then the landlord, I'm curious legal if you don't get married but just have the religious, if they can still go after your assets, I wanna say yes but I haven't done any research yet
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:00 PM
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I can respect that, I was pretty hurt too No harm in speaking your mind
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 10:36 PM
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I'm barely 30 and wants kids and a family
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 10:33 PM
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That's cool but abit unrealistic I'm curious if you do the ceremony, if it still counts
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 10:31 PM
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As a man, you need to hold the standard. Females are ruining the overall foundation of marriage by "increasing their body count" and just throwing it all away. Screw that, find a real one that believes in marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 01:49 PM
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DO NOT GO BACK, she made her bed, Let her sleep in it. If you go back, you are telling her it's ok to do this again.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 12:07 PM
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Bro, I'm in the same position, My ex did the same, I kept te house for 2 years which was a mistake on my end, Sell it as soon as possible and get rid of her, Trust me, .... If she is on the deed, you are screwed, mine was a VA loan but the banks don't care as long as they get their money, just sell it and use the proceeds towards your future.... Next house, make sure it's under your name only or with son, but no females, This was an expensive lesson for me and she will get hers,
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:40 AM
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Gotcha, did you have improvements from the low dosage?
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:35 AM
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Yes, I've been considering TRT Not sure where to start, if I bring that up to my doctor He avoids it and says based on my results in in the normal levels but on the lowend but still normal
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 03:20 PM
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I don't know man, I don't think I have it I do have a overthinking problem Like my brain never stop thinking Ever...like I can't slience my brain to the point I get headache cause of lack of sleep and unable to relax And I can't be in public, I hate being around people I feel like I'm being watched by them and gotta over look my shoulder but I think that's normal I do have a VA psychiatrist lady and I did have a therapist but I hated the therapist She would just wanna talk about stuff that didn'…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 01:40 AM
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Thank you for sharing brother, you will be in my prayer for future success I just gotta get out of this Rutt I'm in Idk what happened just feel stupid but idk how to cope from the man I once was but I'll get there My cheating ex took alot from me tbh and my parents are looking to me for support so i just crumbled but I'm gonna focus hard Thank you again, I'm not sure what that bot thing is btw
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 01:36 AM
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Those are pretty solid plans my man, what career path did you get into? How much did you lose? I'm barely selling my house now so I'm going to have to give half to my ex and it's mentally draining, losing 20 to 30k, I think I need to really come up with a plan too Thank you for sharing and i love that you are teaching your kids to embrace other cultures, that's awesome man Thanks for sharing, genuinely appreciate it
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:21 AM
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I quit my job, weight gain, lack of interest and can't sleep too, crazy similarities What career did you get into? I will pray you get happier soon brother
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:14 AM
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Can you share your 1, 3, 5 years plan? I am moving on a secluded based to get back into working out for the next 3 months, but I'm worried I'm going to not take it seriously, idk
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:09 AM
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I can cook but I guess it's not really an hobby to me, I cook meals for myself to save money lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:06 PM
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No real hobbies, I just try to keep busy now. I use to enjoy the gym alot but I just feel bad when I go, probably lack of test
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:04 PM
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I will definitely consider it! I'm still figuring out what my path is. I just got out of the military and discovered my ex infidelity, so I'm recovering lol I'm trying to go or atleast go federal LEO. Do me a favor, save like 5gs and put it to the side, once your divorce is done, buy a plane ticket to Philippines or Thailand, no luggage, buy some shit clothes there, and go ham for a month. Go hiking, site seeing, get abunch of girls, use protection, and enjoy yourself. Take yourself out on a dat…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 07:13 PM
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Very true and you are absolutely right, my apologies to OP for not being sensitive towards your situation. divorce is rough and honestly sucks, but stay resilient, you will get through this and focus on yourself and your happiness my evil ex made me sell my house and took my money and years of commitment, now I live on a military base in a small RV but I couldn’t be more happier lol it’s blessing in disguise, you got this brother
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 06:52 AM
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How do you make $20K a month?
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 02:08 AM
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Would the same rules be applied to women? Cause I might just stop payments and ruin both our credit at this point, I don't see why I'm the only one making payments and seeing getting half and not even consider my ex-wife
/r/MensRights14/10/23 10:53 AM
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Plus marriage was nullified as if we were never married.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 09:36 AM
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Both our names but I'm the sole contributor and I'm considering petition abandonment of property.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 09:35 AM
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