Any experience this, Divorced now for like a year but I'm still low key in love with my ex, I lose interest in current love affairs cause they never live up to her?

Isthisthereddits · 2024-03-14T22:53:11+00:00

I don't think my situation would allow for that to happen. Coming to the conclusion that I was emotionally and mentally manipulated/abused throughout my last relationship culminating in at least one situation of infidelity that I knew about towards the end of the relationship. I hold nothing but regret and disgust for that woman. Papers are signed. I eagerly await the day our home sells so I know I have no reason to speak with her ever again.

Long-Review-1861 · 2024-03-13T18:31:11+00:00

I've been cheated on by 4 different women, it's left me numb. I'll never trust a woman again. Can still enjoy their company but i don't expect them to be loyal for very long

NothingIsEverEnough · 2024-03-13T16:09:48+00:00

You’re not ready to date. As simple as that. There may be a million reasons as to why that is, but bottom line is you should just work on yourself and let time heal.

Limit contact with the ex is a must

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-03-13T13:55:18+00:00

You take realistic expectations to another level. It is nice you are honest with the girls you talk to but know chances with them are none to nill. I know getting your ex out of your DNA is no small task. It takes time. Sounds like you are not ready to date yet, still loving your ex - no matter how low key it is. Take that low key love and use it for something positive in your life. Is she in low key love with you? Probably not. Realize that and start your life without her. She still has control of you. Let it go.

rsmiley77 · 2024-03-13T12:53:39+00:00

I find your wording odd. I think it may start with how you view things.

You call your dates as ‘love affairs’. An affair happens when you’re married or in a long term relationship. You’re in neither of those things. You may still think or believe you are but you aren’t. You then call women ‘females’ and say you’ll talk to ‘girls’ here or there. You then admit it feels like you’re doing something wrong.

Your issues may be more than a random internet post can help with and I’d encourage going to therapy. I’d also say you do not need to date right now until you can get over your internal issues. Don’t waste the woman’s time either.

Finally I’d say you need to respect yourself more. Your ex cheated on you. Knowing how these things are she probably tried to humiliate you too. She thinks you’re weak. Probably says you always were weak. Stop proving her right. You deserve better. Move on and live your best life.

New-Amoeba9042 · 2024-03-13T12:50:27+00:00

Firstly, yeah, if you’re not over you ex, probably shouldn’t be seriously dating, and ladies are right to bow out if they’re aware of this.

But as how to get over her..time helps, but honestly, ‘physical relations’ as you say will help. They’re good at destroying bonds, and weakening their hold on future ones.

1555552222 · 2024-03-13T12:45:54+00:00

It helped me to make a list of all the things I didn't like about her and all the crazy messed up shit she did over the course of our relationship. When I found myself wishing I could be with her, I'd review that list. Often, I'd add to it as I remembered even more things.

This helped me to stop idealizing her and our relationship. Often, we are longing for a fantasy that only exists in our minds and we need a little help remembering reality.

Consistent-Cut-7608 · 2024-03-13T08:00:21+00:00

You sir are a nice man. And nice people tend to suffer.

Men are usually perceived as cruel monsters. But I have seen more women cheating and taking advantage of decent men. Unfortunately I am one of those men.

All I can say is give some time and you will overcome the attachment to her. Dont fight the feelings, they are completely natural, seek some therapy and address those feelings. I wish soon you find a loving and caring partner that you deserve.

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