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10 months for me and it does get easier after the first 6 months if you are able to put in the work. Focus on what you can control and it truly is a one day at a time process. I am a believer that God has a plan for all of us and he closes doors so others can open. I found out 2 months after my divorce was finalized (only took 90 days) that my ex was having an affair and was now pregnant. The dude dipped out on her and she is soon to be a single mother while I on the other hand just accepted a n…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 10:12 PM
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Dated her for 2.5 years before I proposed. Engaged for 9 months. Yeah man it was pretty fucking wild I never saw it coming. We suffered a miscarriage after being married for 8 months and two months later she was done. Total nut case and I dodged a bullet.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 02:47 PM
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I’m also seeing a woman who is 38. It’s a 9 year age gap seems a bit much but there are no games at all with her. She seems to be a very high quality woman with all her shit together. That’s more of me figuring out what I want with her because she’s given me the green light.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 01:20 AM
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At this point I absolutely feel like I was a sperm donor. I already had a child so she clearly knew I was capable on my end. Having more children was a bonus to me but to her it was all she wanted. It was transactional and I was a means to an end. When that ending didn’t turn out how she wanted she just discarded me. Like 2 months after a miscarriage and you’re done?? My life and future I thought I had with her ripped away in an instant. I deserve better 100%.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 02:39 PM
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I guess when she looked at me and my boy it would always be a reminder. I tried my best to speak positivity into her and show her strength. There was nothing I could do to reel her back into my arms. I wasn’t perfect but I did do a very good job. I mean we had just been married I was loving life and wore my band with honor. I always told her I knew what I had to lose and I’d never do anything for that to happen. I took care of her, my son and would have done the same w/ our child. Grief is a cra…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 01:24 PM
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I am worth more and I deserve better. I know what I bring to the table. I’ve gained a lot of wisdom and now know myself better than I did before. Plenty of room for growth and the only way to go is up from. That’s the choice I’m making. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:28 AM
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Thank you sir. My son and my family need me. I know in my heart this will make me stronger. Through this my relationship with my boy has strengthened and I’m truly grateful for that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:25 AM
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Sorry to hear you’re in this situation man. My divorce was finalized two weeks ago which was initiated by my ex. This was our problem too. She has bipolar disorder and coped with depression with alcohol almost daily. Became an absolute different woman when drunk. Not the flirty/cheating type just a complete slob. Rolling out of bed, spilling all over the house, dropping wine glasses, always in the restroom vomiting. We had a calm sober talk 3 weeks before we split. She said she’d make the change…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 07:21 PM
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Following this post as I have the same questions. I’m 29 and was only married for 10 months, legally a year. I was just settling in to the husband role before the rug got pulled from under me. The divorce was finalized last week. I’m in the gym, playing a lot of golf, working, spending time with my family/friends. Soon I’ll be going back to school to finish my degree. I just don’t find real excitement in anything right now. It’s all to try and distract me but even that doesn’t really work. My tw…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 03:10 PM
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So I’ve been told lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 09:04 PM
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My ex filed for divorce one month after she saw I watched porn and two months after a miscarriage. I think she was insecure about her own body. She didn’t even want me to talk nasty to her while we had sex. Like wtf can’t we spice it up a bit? It was just an excuse.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 07:52 PM
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Similar story for me. Ex wife had a miscarriage in May and I watched porn in the period of time we couldn’t have sex. This was the first time it was ever discussed and she instantly flipped. She was absolutely using it as an excuse as a reason for divorce. She still continued to have sex with me afterwards about the month we were still together and even two days before we split. Filed for divorce two months after the miscarriage and we were only married for 10 months. She didn’t love me, only wa…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 07:46 PM
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That’s what I’m doing brother. Luckily I’m only 29 and already in good shape. Working out daily and focusing on leveling up. The heartache is excruciating and I hope time will heal.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 12:27 AM
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My ex’s father was a Christian pastor of a larger church. I too thought divorce would never happen as long as I was faithful and non-abusive. I kept my word and my vows but still she wanted to divorce. On the grounds of insupportability (difference in personality). I went into it knowing it would not be fantasy. It was going to take actual work and accountability. Outside of the emotional turmoil I made it out lucky. No children, no assets we were only married for 10 months. I hope to look back …
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 10:54 PM
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My marriage only lasted 10 months. I keep asking myself how did this all happen so fast? She filed for divorce 10 days into separation. I fought for the week that she gave me but there was no use. She wanted a wedding and a baby. The honeymoon faze died fast for her, miscarried in May, ended the marriage in August.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 07:59 PM
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My stbx wife was the drinker in our relationship. I would drink on occasion but not everyday like her. She has bipolar depression and is medicated for it. Up until now I could never understand how she could get so drunk so fast and just become a zombie. I now know she wasn’t even supposed to be drinking with that condition. When I repeatedly asked her to stop due to the health reason I was labeled as an abuser. Never once did she recognize that her drinking was emotional abuse to me. I wasn’t tr…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 04:37 PM
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The whole thing pissed me off. Don’t email me if you’re the one who wants this. I wouldn’t call signing divorce papers a damn “favor”.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 02:10 AM
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I hear you. I was only married for 10 months and she had a miscarriage in late May. Trust me she wanted that baby. Sex started to feel like a full time job w/ all the pressure she was putting on conceiving. It’s not like there were years of resentment or planning. Only together two months after the loss.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 12:42 AM
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We were only married 10 months and have no assets together. Only shared a bank account which we split up on our own. I do not have a lawyer advice from my family who have been through divorce there was no reason for me to hire one. Yes it’s uncontested
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 12:26 PM
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Funny you say that. I hadn’t bought myself a new pair of shoes in two years so last week I did that and it was nice treating myself. Also the company I work for was just acquired by a large national one. I’m getting a pay raise, better work conditions, better benefits and a nice little retention bonus. The timing of this could not have been better for me lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 07:50 PM
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That’s what I have heard from so many men and they too all said never take her back. I don’t think I could ever trust her again, and I know she isn’t putting in the work to better herself like I am now. I’m seeing a therapist, cut out drinking, hitting the gym, eating healthy, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 06:58 PM
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Absolutely folded and threw in the towel too early. She saw our issues as unsolvable and there weren’t any major issues on my part. Her drinking was a big problem for me that she didn’t see as an issue. She said I was verbally and emotionally abusive which isn’t true.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 06:06 PM
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I don’t believe there’s any chance and she has even told me that. We were separated for only 10 days before she filed for divorce. I haven’t even seen her since Aug. 5th which was date of separation. There were no sexual problems and as far as the miscarriages, I don’t know. She never went in for any testing after the D&C. We were only together for 2 months after that so as far as what’s gone on in her life the last two months I wouldn’t know. She also blocked my number before she even filed so …
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 06:03 PM
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Thank you for the kind response. I still feel like I’m grieving the miscarriage and now grieving my marriage. It all just went by so fast we weren’t even married for a year. As for the thoughts I can’t really explain why I’m consumed by them. It’s probably jealousy and rejection. Also our sexual compatibility was really good. Almost every woman I’ve been in a relationship w/ have looked the same. I definitely have a type. It was also that I trusted her with my life. More than anyone and that was…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 05:19 PM
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Everything changed after we lost the baby. She began drinking almost every night which really frustrated me. The drinking had already been an issue and it only got worse. She also has bipolar depression so the alcohol didn’t help w/ that. I was doing everything I knew how to support her and speak positivity into her life. Home every night and available for her but she never came around. She didn’t want to work on our marriage and just completely cut cord. Blocked my number 4 days into separation…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 05:13 PM
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I feel you brother. I could’ve typed this up myself. My divorce should be final soon. Been separated for two months. The company I work for was just acquired by a large national company. I’m being retained, receiving a pay increase, better benefits and a significant retention bonus. It’s a great thing for me and truly a blessing for me during this time. This would have been a really good thing in my marriage financially and for my own mental health/happiness. It sucks that she dipped out right b…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 01:48 AM
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I was served papers 3 months to the day of us losing the baby. She was on birth control until we got married as well as anti-depressant meds. Got off of the BC, got pregnant, new psych. meds, lost the baby, then got back on original meds as well as starting a new birth control. Like a crazy cocktail of hormones and medications in such a short amount of time. Somehow everything I said and did was elevated to grounds for divorce in her mind.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 08:34 PM
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I didn’t realize she was unhappy until the process started. We suffered a miscarriage in late May so I assumed that was why she was acting depressed not because of me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 06:10 PM
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Same here. Never realized this until 2 months ago when she filed for divorce. I was raised by my single mom and grandmother. Father was basically absent and emotionally unavailable my whole life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 01:07 AM
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You’re not alone brother. I’m 29 and two months into the process. Should be final in the next few weeks. Only married for 10 months before separation date. This came two months after her second miscarriage. I wasn’t perfect but did the best I could. No cheating or abuse in my situation. We both had things that needed to be worked on internally but she was DONE. Only took her 10 days to file. I’m in the dungeon w/ you and it’s tough everyday. We’re still young and have a lot of life left ahead of…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 06:09 PM
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I wasn’t abusive. I had expectations and needs that were rarely met. Seems that emotional/verbal abuse is an easy claim to be made. I was warned before hand about her being crazy. I never saw it until now. How this has all played out is crazy and nobody in my family saw this coming. She made it seem like I hung the moon and I damage tried to do it for her. Everyone tells me it gets easier w/ time but right now time is dragging by. Every minutes feels like an hour. I am seeing a counselor and it …
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 10:16 PM
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I greatly appreciate the response! I knew she was, but of course now that it’s over I contemplate my inner thoughts about it. Probably just the loneliness right now. I have family history of alcoholism and have always limited drinking in my own life. If I drink too much I stay depressed for days. Have to make sure and set solid boundaries in my future when it comes to this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 01:05 AM
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29M. I wasn’t given much choice on when this was coming for me but here it is. My STBX wife has filed for divorce, should be final next month. I’m hurt, confused, lost and feel betrayed. The biggest problem in our marriage for me was alcohol. It had been a problem for a while and she finally had enough of me “controlling” her. “Verbally/emotionally” abusing her. I begged her a long time ago to handle the constant drunken state she was in. She never saw it as a real issue and I always forgave her…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 11:16 PM
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