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Early morning is usually met with rejection, though it does sometimes work. It’s never as frisky as she prefers night time fun. In other words, probably gonna be a quickie (which is ok sometimes for me). Midday is an elusive beast, and when it does work, it’s almost always a quickie. Fine, but I gotta be cool with a quickie. I don’t get the gag option. I’ve done the “let’s get fucking” one a number of times. Does tend to speed things up, but I’m usually confronted with “I want to feel loved”. I …
/r/askMRP04/02/23 02:21 PM
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I have done this before and it worked, but like 3 days later she shared with with me that she about cried because it felt like I was raping her. She was actually raped before, so I’m thinking that sort of approach triggers some trauma. While I was doing it, she submissively took it, but it’s hard for me to imagine that a good long term plan.
/r/askMRP04/02/23 02:17 PM
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As someone that tried the withholding affection thing, I agree with Condor.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 04:20 AM
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Age: 33, Married for 10 together for 12 with 3 kids. RP for 11 months. 5’11”, 194lbs, BF% probably around 13% as I bulk this winters Lifts: Bench: 280lbs, Squat: 365lbs DL: 430lbs OHP: 165lbs Read: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, TMMSLP, PFS, Pook, TRM, Reading: MAP, AOS Mission: maintain a frame in which I’m joyful, satisfied, fun and content and then help others do the same because I enjoy it. Fitness: Last week I said I need to stop ego lifting. This week, I did it again, but I was more aware an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 02:48 PM
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I said the same when I found out I had low t. “I don’t look feminine!” Now that I’ve been on TRT, I realize just how feminine I was.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 03:15 AM
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As someone that’s had shoulder issues, one of the worst things you can do is to stop working out the shoulder (unless it’s an actual tear situation that requires complete avoidance). Lighten the load and do supportive exercises to strengthen the shoulder. Avoiding it will only backfire. My PT would approve this message.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 03:12 AM
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OYS 1 Stats: Age: 33. Married for 10 together for 12 with 3 kids. RP for 11 months. 5’11”, 194lbs, BF% probably around 13% as I bulk this winter Lifts: Bench: 270lbs, Squat: 365lbs DL: 450lbs OHP: 165lbs Read: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, TMMSLP, PFS, Pook, TRM, Reading: MAP, AOS Mission: maintain a frame in which I’m always joyful, satisfied, and content and then help others do the same because I enjoy it. Fitness: This is great in terms of frequency, except I need to stop ego lifting. I tend t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 02:37 AM
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What makes you say she isn’t good wife material?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/22 02:05 PM
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Cool. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RPChristians01/07/22 11:18 PM
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I think stating desire assertively is good. I think that aspect of what I did likely sparked her desire which was initial responded to by “whining” about my “whining”. Alan Roger Curie talks about how “good girls” initially present disgust to assertive desire statements, but then unfold after some time. This seems to be what happened. After basically “demanding” that I come upstairs with her this afternoon for alone time, she told me that she’s been tempted to masturbate because I keep falling a…
/r/RPChristians29/06/22 10:37 PM
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I asked what you’ve read and it seems to be non-distinct/general posts. The red pill group will be much more “gaming” than say the Married Red Pill Community. Again, it’s a spectrum. That said, I with genuine kindness assert that it doesn’t sound like you understand those distinctions and have mostly focused on the PUA side of red pill. Your assessment of that is largely accurate, though oversimplified. Dread game up to a degree is not explicitly non-Christian. Much of dread is just evolutionary…
/r/RPChristians28/06/22 04:31 PM
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I fear you drastically underestimate my desire to sleep 🤣
/r/RPChristians28/06/22 12:58 PM
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*Update: 5 days since this post and my wife has approached me about 3 times telling me she’s been “feeling like she needs loving” and that she wants to have sex and feels frustrated that I’ve been going to bed before her.
/r/RPChristians27/06/22 09:51 PM
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To me it sounds like you haven’t actually read much RP as your comment doesn’t account for the fact that RP exists along a spectrum of relationship types from “PUA one-night stands to lifelong monogamy. What RP books have you read?
/r/RPChristians27/06/22 12:12 PM
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For all intents and purposes, she is a SAHM. I have some things that I have enabled her do work-wise that allows her respite from the kids. This is incredibly flexible and she only does the hours she really wants. But I work and am the breadwinner. I do chores because I like having a orderly household. Not to get sex. So, yes, I motivate with my actions, as well as gentle words as I believe we can see in Christ’s example and words to the church.
/r/RPChristians27/06/22 01:37 AM
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If I want to have sex 3-4 times a week, I can make that happen. But genuine desire seems to be absent beyond my own. So, when I lay off to gauge her raw desire, we could probably go at least 1 to 2 weeks with no sex before she starts showing any interest. What’s crazy to me is that in the beginning of our relationship, I literally was basically a loser. So, why now the lack of interest is what I’m baffled by. She’s even hinted at being turned on by things, and when I have made an effort to incor…
/r/RPChristians27/06/22 01:26 AM
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Sure, I’ll give an example of how I’m sharing the gospel. We had a neighbor that everyone shunned, not for bad reason as they were a bit rough around the edges. Despite it becoming a “leper” situation where I might be labeled just for talking with them face to face, I approached him to check on him and spent about 1.5 hours listening to him about his childhood and abuse and current struggles. I gently told him about what Christ had done for me and how due to the coming judgement, he should repen…
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:46 AM
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She has fulfilling work that she does, but probably not how you think. If you’d like to share the reasoning behind the question I can probably answer it better.
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:37 AM
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How is that not what I said? I am discipling my children and others. How much more explicit can I get without just genetically quoting a Bible verse?
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:34 AM
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My wife wants to be around me all the time and says when I’m not it doesn’t feel right. That’s the point. The “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. Also, that book is an RP book, just fyi.
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:33 AM
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Ok, I may be confused then. Which part of what I was doing exactly is butthurt?
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:31 AM
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Yes.
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:30 AM
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How so?
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:29 AM
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Sure, I agree. You can’t negotiate desire. Just a note because I may have failed to communicate: Getting sex and the frequency of sex isn’t the issue. We’ve been up to as much as 4-5 times a week within the last 6 months. It’s the quality of the sex.
/r/RPChristians26/06/22 11:29 AM
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Nah, she just seemed to not want them around beyond the surface. I tend to think she has some detachment issues because of her abusive childhood and the fact that she doesn’t have any close long-term relationships. She’s been dumped by friends and even was once confronted by a group of her friends for being whiny and too anxious.
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 03:32 AM
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As in a job/career?
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 03:23 AM
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That’s a good idea. Will do that now. Edit* rethought it considering the lack of communication and decided I’d pass.
/r/askMRP25/06/22 03:20 AM
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I firmly believe it’s a manipulation tactic by many women. Other RP’ers of noteworthiness have said the same.
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 03:19 AM
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You could be right! Maybe it needs to improve. What is yours?
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 03:18 AM
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Happy to consider what you’ve said about communicating my mission. I’m sure I could improve both in communicating and actual mission. Would you provide me yours and how your sharing the gospel as an example to better inform myself?
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 03:17 AM
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I learn by stating things. Lots of people seem to take offense and get hurt when someone doesn’t immediately accept all their positions. So far you have some good things to say, though I can’t fully agree, so I’d like to continue the conversation. I’m cool with learning more about practical things like better discerning comfort vs fitness tests, so thanks for the reminder (I read your article and appreciated the “you vs I” differentiation point to tell the difference). Repetition is often needed…
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 03:09 AM
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Honestly, I’m much more fun now. Again, that’s why I’m confused. Do you classify any communication as complaining if it’s verbally expressing desire, even if it is genuine/natural need without negativity or pressure associated with the plain statement of that desire?
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 02:53 AM
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I am quoting from Practical Female Psychology when they say that LD women prefer men who are away regularly
/r/RPChristians25/06/22 02:45 AM
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Chore play is a reference to the popular “oh, when he does the dishes it turns me on” farce. Yes, I am very active in helping. I cook, do laundry, put the kids to bed, etc. etc. I have had to gently motivate her to do more around the house because especially in times past she has been lagging.
/r/RPChristians24/06/22 02:49 AM
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Ah, that could be correct, as well. What’s a concrete example of good advice I haven’t followed so I can get to work?
/r/askMRP24/06/22 02:46 AM
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You could be right. I probably should seek to give more value.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 10:20 PM
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Yeah, I have seen and hold true that I need more masculinity and to lead better. The “how” for the masculinity seems to be that I need to be around more masculine company more regularly. That’s the biggest difficulty I’m finding as there aren’t a lot of other men that I tend to look at and admire for their masculinity. I’m thinking I should start small and just fine one and then go from there. In terms of covert contracts, I’m doing the things I’m doing for me. But I’ve heard that doing so, shou…
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 07:57 PM
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Again, I’m sure I need to grow (and have since then) but it became incredibly painful to try to maintain those friendships due to the reactions my wife had towards their presence. Not saying that I’m justified, just processing it.
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 02:38 PM
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No. She’s not.
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 02:00 PM
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Nah, we’re good on that front. The reason she says she married me is because she saw so much of Christ in me. She sees me sharing the gospel and I’ve taught her how to do the same, for example. Just ask about it instead of assuming and I’m happy to share more details.
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 02:00 PM
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No. We have been very close and have a robust life of hobbies, discussions, business building, sharing the gospel, raising the kids, etc. If anything, I think the problem is that are lives are too enmeshed to provide for polarity that creates sexual charge. In PFS they talk about how low sex drive women sexually prefer a man that’s gone regularly vs being present. Can’t help but wonder if that what’s going on here.
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 01:58 PM
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She’s not on the pill.
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 01:56 PM
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Thanks for the response. I am cool with the idea of becoming less needy and have plans in place to execute on that. Beyond that, I am adamantly against chore-play, as I believe the redpill community is at large. Is that what you’re suggesting?
/r/RPChristians23/06/22 01:55 PM
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Will read through the links soon. Thanks for that. Just a couple things, 1) she doesn’t go to her parents about us. Never has. She goes to mine as she came into my world when we began dating and left hers. 2) When I made some posts early on, I was unsure what everybody was using jargon-wise, so I said LTR. We are legally married. Hope that clarifies a bit. Again, thank you for the thorough linking.
/r/RPChristians22/06/22 05:48 PM
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For sure, ultimately I let them go. That said, I am curious why those friends were met with her rejection. Perhaps they weren’t up to par and the “sabotage” was due to needing to choose higher level friends. Maybe it was a compliment of “you can do better” to which I passively responded with dismissiveness.
/r/RPChristians22/06/22 05:46 PM
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So basically just get awesome for my own enjoyment and maybe she’ll desire me one day, but until then (if ever) give it up and become an independent source of radiating satisfaction.
/r/RPChristians22/06/22 05:42 PM
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I have some, but not a strong enough support network. Looking back, I think my wife sabotaged a lot of the close relationships I had, and I let them go. So I admittedly need more dudes I can chat with. Funding them is the tough part. Most of the guys I see either bore me and/or are not very masculine.
/r/RPChristians22/06/22 04:51 PM
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Thanks. I personally think I need to hang out with more high achieving guy friends and to get a coach/counselor so I complain to them. Would love to find a great coach, but have yet to see one that I really jive with.
/r/RPChristians22/06/22 04:01 PM
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No, I wanted to speak gently and explore what was going on. I gently asked for that, but was denied. Eventually everything worked out. She apologized and I said there were things I’d done differently to which we created a plan for next time.
/r/RPChristians22/06/22 03:46 PM
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“Please be accountable to someone for a change.” How did you go about finding that someone? I’ve considered hiring a coach because there’s really not anyone I know that I would expect to understand most of what we talk about here involving RP.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 02:40 PM
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What did the deleted comment say? I don’t think I ever got to read it.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 02:37 PM
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We’ll thought out answer. 👍 Thank you. Now that I’ve seen others suggesting to be more playful with things, in addition to my wife sharing that she was moreso flirting/nervous because of another family issue involving my dad, I have decided with that new info that if had I the chance to redo the situation, I would be more playful, and concerned with an excess of love vs merely self-focused on individual actions being disrespectful. I think I let my bitterness over the being berated the day befor…
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 02:34 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to share all that! Good stuff. We did end up talking and she seems to be willingly expressing her desire to listen. I do have to call her out when she’s not, though. I provided a more in depth update as a comment, so I won’t belabor the point. But again, thank you.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 02:25 PM
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I dig it. Thanks for sharing. And of course, the million dollar question: Did this affect your sex life together?
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 02:09 PM
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She can’t. She doesn’t even notice it/track it.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 01:25 PM
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I’ve struggled with becoming more involved in Churches because more neediness erupts as I become more involved, usually. I used to lead worship, preach, etc. but stopped because of the perceived neediness of my household. So, I’ve hesitated to take any leadership within our current church membership. Not making an excuse, just providing info for your response, as I’m sure “giving up opportunity” maybe wasn’t the right choice. I’ve felt that my wife is ready and willing to blow up emotionally in …
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 01:17 PM
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Update: we spoke the next day, and she apologized for one thing initially (complaining and berating over the pizza. Then, continued to gaslight (maybe you’re testosterone is low!) and make excuses over the course of several hours with regular walking away when she couldn’t just get me to cave. Eventually she texted me saying something like “if you’re going to divorce me, you’ll have to force me to sign it”. She would not talk with me without someone being present (again, this seems super weird t…
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 01:14 PM
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Which RP is teaching that? Are you opposed to sharing with me what you’ve read, because I have yet to come across what you’re saying. Unless you’re egalitarian. Then I can see why you’re saying that.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 12:50 PM
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Can you explain “real success outside primary relationships”? I’m intrigued by that.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 12:32 PM
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Thanks for commenting! My parents weren’t defending her. My sister who is a feminist was. My mother thought I needed to be “nicer”, but my mother has also been a curator of my blue pill beliefs big time as she has some strong feminist beliefs.
/r/RPChristians02/06/22 12:31 PM
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I should clarify, “ignore” wasn’t a “cold shoulder”. It was mostly a raised eyebrow and then moving on to do other things I wanted. Wasn’t a “butthurt” ignore. Good advice, though. Thank you
/r/RPChristians31/05/22 11:45 PM
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I’ve been thinking what you said for awhile. It’s tough because I want to lead my family to be passionate for christ, but I’m likely being self reliant in that.
/r/RPChristians31/05/22 11:42 PM
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What did I miss? 👀
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 09:32 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I found yours to be well-rounded unlike most of the others I’ve read because you address specific comments and give actionable advice, such as the part about explaining on another occasion about how to handle the relationship. In regards to aggressiveness, I appreciate that you analyzed the contents on what of wrote and didn’t read your own flare into what I wrote. To me, aggressiveness would be me becoming emotional and verbally abusive (or physically), and I’ve done no…
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 09:31 PM
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She has pretty irregular periods, so it creeps up on me and by the time I notice it, the dam has already broke. It’s like trying to put toothpaste back in the bottle. I’ve tried tracking, but it’s not easy for sure because of the irregularity.
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 09:07 PM
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Thanks for being specific. How would you recommend acting differently in each of those situations?
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 09:06 PM
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“Stop reading RP.” We’re in a redpill group. I am applying biblical principles to redpill and looking at it through a biblical lens. So, why not read it and then judge it by biblical standards instead of avoiding it?
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 06:29 PM
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I hear you saying what I did was disrespectful. Please provide a basis for how you judge it as disrespectful. If she wasn’t acting childish, I wouldn’t refer to it in that manner. However, when the boot fits… Determining the quality of a behavior and forming words to describe it is not “aggressive” or “disrespectful”. I often hear these things from the the “tone police” who like to undermine the veracity of a statement because the person’s “tone”. I see what you’re saying as just that, so if you…
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 06:27 PM
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What exactly wasn’t loving about my response? Looking for concrete references and not “general statements”.
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 05:53 PM
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I didn’t say those things to her. I’m only describing how she acted for the understanding of the reader. She literally acted that way, so my honesty should be taken as emotional shots. Christ literally scolded the disciples and the churches in revelation. Plus, he issued a “commandment” to love one another. Which Jesus are we talking about?
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 05:52 PM
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This happens to some degree about once per month and has been going on for over ten years. When she’s not in this place, I’m the “best man there is.” When your wife berates you about not ordering the ALL right food because she wasn’t clear, how do you handle that? All redpill I’ve read besides Deida says not to tolerate any nagging (Rich Cooper tells a story about how he whipped a car across 4 lanes of traffic because his girl playfully called him cheap), so help me out here.
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 05:24 PM
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Thanks for the reply. As I’m processing what you’ve said, help me out. What specifically sounds aggressive?
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 05:17 PM
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Because your comment lacks any context. “…sound like your being aggressive here”. What specifically sounds aggressive? Leads me to think, “why are you avoiding the question?”
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 05:16 PM
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What redpill have you read so far?
/r/RPChristians30/05/22 01:32 PM
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I did. I scored barely high anxiety/low avoidance putting me just into “preoccupied”. Maybe a few tweaks and I could be in the low anxiety/low avoidance for “secure”, I’m hoping 🤣
/r/RPChristians06/05/22 07:00 PM
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Right. I think I’m less concerned with it being “sin” or not, and more concerned with what others experience has been with that practice. Like, I could imagine that doing so could cause my mind to be constantly filled with thoughts of women other than my wife. I sort of think of the moment in stranger things when Will stops running from the shadow monster (forget it’s name) based on that one guys advice about facing fears, but then the shadow monster just fills him 🤣 Again, not saying they are t…
/r/RPChristians05/05/22 10:45 PM
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I think that’s the same here. Did you take that attachment quiz?
/r/RPChristians05/05/22 10:41 PM
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Just a word of encouragement, I’ve seen studies that say lifting 3 times a week is as good as lifting 5-6 times a week for newbies. Regardless of the science, I’d be careful not to overdo it which can drop testosterone and actually slow gains. Work smarter, so you can lift harder in the long run. Definitely get daily, varied movement (for example, I lift, do martial arts, and then sometimes do other movements like sleds).
/r/RPChristians05/05/22 12:25 AM
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Anyone here ever seen dramatic increase in T levels using natural methods? I could only ever increase total T about 30% (which was still leaving me very low) with natural methods. I tried everything short of eating liver and completely ditching my cell phone.
/r/RPChristians05/05/22 12:20 AM
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Physical: 5'11", 194lbs, Attractive (if Chris Hemsworth is a 10, I’m a solid 6), successful ($300k+ per year). Body fat around 13%. Noticing a lot more women checking me out the last month or so. Also men looking at me in the gym. Lifts: Bench: 225lbs x 8, Squat: 225lbs x 8 DL: 295lbs x 6 OHP: 165lbs x 6 (I don’t ever do 1 rep maxs) Diet is good. Active (gym 5-6 times a week, martial arts 2-3x a week). Reading: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TSM, TMMSLP No regular porn use. Have at times gotten curious ab…
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 11:24 PM
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I agree, these things are best just “done”, not asked for. When they’ve happened, it’s never been a formal “hey, may I do this?” More so a “knowing” or even an asking on her part where she says she wants it. The pain is actually from a polyp that she just had removed. Praying that fixes that.
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 11:05 PM
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After reading this I fully checked out like you mention. I’ve done this before, though not “fully”—I’d still give some affection especially if she initiated it (this would usually result in her immediately going back to being less affectionate/sexual). But this time around, something is different. She’s not really trying to be affectionate to me. She’s approaching me and saying that she needs intimacy and connection and doesn’t know how to get it. I know you mentioned being the oak if they prese…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 01:14 PM
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I made it through once and will be making another round today. Your wife does the FA cycle thing?
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 12:59 PM
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Oh my gosh. This sounds exactly spot on. 😦
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 01:11 AM
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That sounds reasonable.
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 12:58 AM
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10 years. The sex is better when responding with high attraction. Everyone once in awhile, phenomenally good. But this has definitely been less the case the last 2 months. Unsure why that is, yet. It’s like she’s averted to relaxing fully and being “passively” active in lovemaking.
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 12:44 AM
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So, when I’ve acted really aggressive, she tends to laugh, but has then later said she wishes I would act like “that”—like “one of those guys”. My wife says that she was attracted to me because of how genuinely real my connection with God was. Crazy stuff has always happened that looks like God is active in my life, so that is a large part of what drew her to me according to her. I’ve been “on mission” with serious intent since I was 18 and God’s power is evident in my life. I was a virgin when …
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 05:05 PM
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First: Why do you say that? Second: tell me the mentor’s name. I will pay them. Haven’t found a mentor that is redpill, yet.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:46 PM
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First: Why do you say that? Second: tell me the mentor’s name. I will pay them. Haven’t found a mentor that is redpill, yet.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:46 PM
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TSM= The Superior Man SGM= a book that I’m honestly unsure how much it’s accepted in RPC. Stands for Sex God Method. I’m fairly new to RPC, but in RP/MRP it’s pretty popular. The guy that wrote it definitely is for sleeping with multiple women and supports stuff that is anti Christian. The big draw of it is to be balanced in your sexuality by using appropriate amounts of dominance, emotion, variation, and immersion (DEVI). That I can dig and some of his tips really work, especially if it’s aroun…
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:44 PM
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😎👍
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:39 PM
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I give various types. I tend to feel when she’s in a more alpha vs beta affection mood. I also track her cycle and know when she’s most in the mood for more “manly” affection. I’ve believed the lie of “women just want to be treated with respect” which equals “don’t be aggressive” since I was a kid, so that’s been my naturally inclination. However, I’ve been more free to display aggressive (“manly”) affection as I’ve had my perspectives reshaped by redpill. Still a process though for sure, so I r…
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:25 PM
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It’s pleasurable. I see her, think she’s sexy, and then my body wants to do things.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:22 PM
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Thanks for sharing. “Avoidant partner’s are typically more extreme…” How so? “…caused my frame to break.” I think this is likely my issue as well. My hope is that as my frame strengthens over time, the necessity to create distance will diminish. How were you breaking frame, for example?
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:21 PM
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Curious, when she is giving attention, is that the time to pull or push? I could imagine when she starts being sexy to close the distance if I was to say “get away from me, you are too sexy” that it could be a fun tease. I’m guessing that’s my next experiment. I usually pull by giving her affection/positive statements and that aways kills the sexual tension.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 02:15 PM
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Thank you for your helpful response! I think I do some of the push/pull naturally, but maybe I’m a bit heavy on the pull. When I start getting affection, I tend to show affection, but it’s not long from then that the affection I’m being shown dries up. So, maybe I should tease it with more amused mastery vs getting wearied and just going straight back to work/distraction.
/r/RPChristians02/05/22 11:50 PM
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I tend to think that it is a sort of defense mechanism, like you said. It’s like she doesn’t want to lose me, but she also doesn’t have the ability to carry on genuine connection. It’s almost like she’s missing the ability to connect for any length of time. I tend to think that’s because she was physically and emotionally abused by her parents. It’s an attachment thing, probably. So, the most “natural” thing for her is to play the “last second” game of only responding with emergency sexual respo…
/r/RPChristians02/05/22 10:31 PM
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Are you still married to that wife?
/r/RPChristians20/04/22 07:18 PM
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Physical: Lifting 5-6 times a week while doing BJJ 1-2x a week. 5’11”, 190lb, BF% 12-13% Bench: 245lbs, Squat: 315lbs DL: 350lbs OHP: 185lbs Diet is pretty good. Aiming to eat more salads just because. No regular porn use. Have at times gotten curious about things I’d like to try with wife and done google searches. Happens maybe 1 to 2 times per month. Sometimes I feel so blind on what I could do to get her more excited that I just want to browse ideas. Masturbate maybe 1-2 times per month. Usua…
/r/RPChristians19/04/22 07:23 PM
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No, I’m fine with giving attention. Just trying to understand the psychology behind it.
/r/askMRP12/04/22 03:22 PM
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For sure. I do want attention and physical touch, though. Is it advised to just get so focused on mission that that need is overwhelmed by everything else that’s high value based?
/r/askMRP04/04/22 05:10 PM
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Wait, what sort of prescription are we talking about here?
/r/askMRP04/04/22 05:08 PM
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I think I’m seeing what you’re saying. Maybe I’ve learned that I need to feel negative in order to handle my boundaries being crossed. But in reality, being firm, non-emotive, and not allowing external conditions to affect me and instead just existing as myself in a good state, would be better. Am I tracking with you here?
/r/askMRP03/04/22 10:30 PM
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I’m about 13% BF, attractive physically (heavy lifting 5 times a week, socially attractive, intellectually attractive, financially attractive, career attractive, etc. For example, my wife tells me that I’m always the most attractive in the room to her. However, I have the same problem. Starfish dominates our bedroom. Every so often, usually once a month or two, she’ll get fun. She says her sexual desire is low. I’m wondering if it’s legitimately a health issue for my wife as she’s had some autoi…
/r/askMRP03/04/22 10:17 PM
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Oh, gotcha. Probably 7 years ago.
/r/askMRP25/03/22 11:19 AM
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Literally took 52.34 times
/r/askMRP24/03/22 08:57 PM
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Apparently not! Lol. Has it been added recently? I’ve just been working through my current books and haven’t checked in probably over a month. But yes have looked like 65.7 times in the past
/r/askMRP24/03/22 08:51 PM
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Is it in the sidebar? I’ve looked over that like 50 times. Gonna be mad if I missed it
/r/askMRP24/03/22 08:50 PM
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I like what you said and will be re-reading it. Couple thoughts— I generally avoid apologizing. I may say “thanks for letting me know how you feel. I’ll bear that in mind next time.” I do feel a lot of time like I must make sure that everything is stable around her, or she’s likely to get overwhelmed and lose her shit. This is mostly true 1 week before and the week of her period. She has pmdd and she gets super overwhelmed mentally during those times. Will read the posts you mentioned. Thanks ag…
/r/askMRP24/03/22 08:40 PM
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What work specifically are you referring to? Do you know which? I like straight answers and clarity instead of vague
/r/askMRP24/03/22 08:10 PM
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Good input! Thanks! You’ve convinced me to do more bent over rows and weighted pull ups. In regards to mental frame, I’m what way did you see passive aggressiveness? I’m currently at a blind spot, where I can’t see beyond myself. I know the general answer is stfu, lift, sidebar, which I’m doing, but I’ve made it through NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, TSM, and am maybe half way through WISNIFG and have hit a solid plateau. I do think frame is the answer, but I’m blind as to how to build more frame practicall…
/r/askMRP24/03/22 11:50 AM
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I just started deadlifts about 3 weeks ago. Was always told by PT’s they were bad, until recently. I could probably do 245 maybe 10 times, though. Haven’t tried to max because I’m still getting my form nailed down. I also could probably max bench around 275lbs now, at least. Haven’t tried in awhile. I weigh about 187. As far as bent over rows, I don’t do them a lot as I prefer seated rows. Pull-ups I usually aim to do 3 sets of 10, 8, 7, body weight.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 11:14 AM
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Sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this. It’s super difficult and no fun. Few questions— Has and is Jesus becoming more and more clear in your mind so that His joy is more pervasive in your life? Too much of “Christianity” is just rule keeping. I’ve seen massive changes in myself when I stop asking “how do I feel?” and instead seeing how Jesus feels and finding my identity in that. Are you in a solid church with a pastor that can support you and hold you accountable?
/r/RPChristians24/03/22 11:00 AM
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In 3 year old language, what is the exact covert contract here that you see?
/r/askMRP24/03/22 10:52 AM
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Genuine question as maybe I’m just blind to it—What’s passive aggressive about it? I genuinely didn’t want to be around her and was direct in communicating this. In my mind, she crossed a boundary, and I’ve got better things to do. So I went and did them. When she is ready to resume the relationship by acknowledging and submitting to pre-defined boundaries, we good. She did eventually apologize, btw. Blamed it on pms.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 10:51 AM
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I won’t live with annoying nagging. It’s annoying and upsets the children.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 10:48 AM
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I’m confused. I did what I said I was going to do. Unsure what you’re referring to. Also I’m unsure what my covert would be here. She acted ugly. I genuinely wanted to cancel my time with her and instead was attracted to my work. I said that’s what I was going to do because I wanted to, and then did it. Btw, she did eventually apologize, blaming it on pms.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 10:47 AM
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So I genuinely trying to see this from outside my perspective, so help me out. In my mind, I did whatever I wanted. Aka worked, went to the gym. The result was her hamstering, even to the point of calling me when I went somewhere she didn’t expect (she could see in gps, lol). I’m mostly concerned that I was being too alpha-ish, if anything 🤷‍♂️
/r/askMRP24/03/22 10:44 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. 5’11” Lifts: Bench: 245lbs, Squat: 300lbs DL: 245lbs OHP: 165lbs Currently around 13% body fat.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 10:40 AM
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That’s what I’m doing. 👍
/r/askMRP01/02/22 09:13 PM
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I was not indicating prayer. But, point taken
/r/askMRP01/02/22 09:12 PM
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Lifting 4-5 times a week. Working through all the sidebar line by line, reading book by book. Engaged in the practice of STFU 🙏
/r/askMRP01/02/22 08:35 PM
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Which part of the sidebar? I’ve been working line by line. Just super new
/r/askMRP01/02/22 07:41 PM
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Yo, tell me the secret to make this happen 😁
/r/askMRP01/02/22 07:40 PM
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I’d like to be there, but if she’s legit tired and just trying to get woken up, I could literally only see this being a miserable experience for her.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:09 PM
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Just to be sure—caveman as I’m pick her up and carry her to have sex? Didn’t see this term in mrp glossary, so I’m going off urban dictionary 🤣
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:09 PM
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It’s moreso me not being where I want to be. I recognize that I’ve been taught to be beta. I hate it and found myself here
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:06 PM
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I’ve been super curious how this works for someone that’s committedly monogamous. Like, I know I could pick up a girl from the gym if I wanted to, but I also don’t believe it’s right to have flings/side chicks.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:47 PM
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Lol! She has an automatic one. Problem is it’s “all the way doooownstairs…” 🤣 Like I said, she’s not a morning person
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:43 PM
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How often has it actually resulting in sex in morning?
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:42 PM
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I like your response. Thanks 💪
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:41 PM
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We’re having sex about 2-3 times a week, but a fair amount of time she “requires” long bouts of massaging, for example. It’s like she wants to have sex, but needs a lot of warming up to get into it. I’m wondering if this all me, or partly due to hormones. I’m fit, muscular, workout heavy 4-5 times per week, do martial arts, own businesses (high earner), and am considered attractive by her and other women, so I don’t think it’s anything on that front.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:38 PM
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Not always is it that, but yes, sometimes that’s the reality. Working on breaking myself of that. Share your best tips with me
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:32 PM
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What’s the best antidote for that? Action to me seems to be connected to some internal algorithm that I haven’t figured out, yet.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 02:56 PM
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For sure. Learned that a few years ago. I like making her lattes though, but I just know that I must be disconnected from the outcome.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 02:22 PM
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She says that it makes her feel loved. She likes having sex with me, but is not a morning person, so I think she genuinely wants me to make love to her, but is also genuinely tired. Thus, the coffee is a sort of aphrodisiac for a willing vessel.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 02:21 PM
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Yeah, I’d agree. I think the problem was nervousness and my drive is more trained to beta-initiation (cuddling, then waiting for her “sign” that she’s ready). Aging in redpill and training my drive to just take what o want seems to be the answer. What would you add to that?
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:37 PM
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She’s being submissive when she does that. Reward her like the dominant, affirming man you were made to be.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:25 PM
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I’ve dealt with this same issue of needing validation and then being passive aggressive to punish bad behavior. What’s helping me massively so far is to be disconnected from the outcome. Just be me in my world. No doing A passively in hopes that it’ll get me B. Just do what I want, being disconnected from outcomes, while acknowledging that her actions are like the weather—it comes and goes less based on what I do, and more so based on however she’s feeling. For example, if I want to touch my wif…
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:04 PM
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I’m cool with it. Have a good one. Life’s short 😉
/r/askMRP01/02/22 12:05 AM
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Lol! Not gonna lie, I laughed.
/r/askMRP31/01/22 06:37 PM
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Let you know once my wife gives more feedback about it
/r/askMRP31/01/22 02:57 PM
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Cool story bro
/r/askMRP31/01/22 06:00 AM
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Thanks! I’m still like, “what the fuck have a been doing all these years?!” I feel sorry for my wife for being such a boring fool and being so “nice”. She genuinely loves me and we connected on a deep level in other ways ever since we started dating, so I’m guessing that helps a lot. But I’m thinking me being nice and non-dominant made her feel inadequate for too many years because her desire was waning. Again, thanks for the feedback! Just wanna be ready next time to go all the way 🤣
/r/askMRP31/01/22 12:53 AM
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