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No not validation like how to deal with certain emotions. Seeing a different perspective of extreme thoughts and emotions I have regarding how I feel about myself. I do not hear these conversations in real life hence why I brought up the discourse from online. If I had no access to the internet, not only would I still be a virgin but I would have no idea about how some men feel about women recovering from hookup culture. I mean I just learned this year that women who travel are seen as red-flags…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/25 04:24 PM
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I guess what I meant was that I couldn’t find anything online related to me grieving over my sexual choices in the past. Most of what I found is how to remain celibate and redpill men bashing and shaming women for having high body counts. Even when a woman says she’s changed, they won’t believe it. It made me realize that a drug addict will get more praise and encouragement for abstaining from drugs but when a woman is abstaining and trying her best not to relapse, all she gets is laughs and dou…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/25 02:33 PM
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Recently. Sorry for my late response
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/25 11:17 AM
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How has dating been for you so far? I’m kind of nervous and pray I can handle the rejection well.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/25 10:29 PM
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Oh yeah of course. I’m abstinent for my peace of mind and my health, not to please a man.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 02:52 PM
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I guess I understand that part well but from the impression I’ve received from men about body counts online is that me as a person would be overlooked or dismissed because of my count anyway. I never really worried about this till two days ago. Not sure why. I need to stop taking bitter men from the internet’s word I guess lol. I will say I made this post for reassurance or guidance having a depression episode. Not like pity but like I said just some guidance or to seek a different perspective a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 10:53 AM
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I guess so. I see male content creators make such a huge deal out of it so I figured it was that serious and I wasn’t taking it serious enough….plus I’m going through pms so I’m just crying over everything😅
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 12:04 AM
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Well in my defense I said personality in my reply to you and gave a list of personality traits in my post that I’m attracted to. The mention of my dad was just a random thought that came to mind that I shouldn’t have brought up.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 12:02 AM
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I feel it best to see it that way to be more cautious and selective with who I choose
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 10:51 PM
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Wait when you say sexually attractive you mean looks? I was more so talking about character but I guess bringing up my mom and my dad kinda gave that impression.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 10:49 PM
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Which is why I refuse to lie. Why would I lie to someone I care about? And for something important to them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:18 PM
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I guess my fear is not finding a man whose personality I’m attracted to and just settling with someone just for the sake of security. It doesn’t seem fair to them. I know my mom did that and didn’t reveal she wasn’t attracted to my dad till after he died and now as a widow trying to date men that’s actually her preference. She loved him but only married him because he was the only one that showed interest and got her pregnant. But from a trad man’s perspective I wouldn’t be fair to them
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 08:28 PM
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No I don’t mind reading. More for comfort I guess. I’m just grieving at the moment and don’t know what to do to cope. Something I wanted so badly all my life I never thought I’d ever be lucky to experience just to realize I could have is a lot to swallow at the moment I never thought I was good or pretty enough to ever experience marriage/relationship. And now it’s hitting on me too late.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 08:08 PM
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True
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 08:02 PM
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Hey just wondering, do you know any YouTubers that talk about this but in a sympathetic way?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 08:01 PM
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True but I feel like I need someone to talk to about specific things. My situation is very niche I feel. Even YouTube doesn’t seem to have any helpful videos for women with high body counts.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 07:55 PM
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Yeah I looked at some of it. Seemed pretty good from what I’ve read
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 05:31 PM
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That would be tricky. Not much in my life style I can think of besides using less of my phone to demonstrate I’ve changed. I’d have to sit on that one. You got a point on the seasonal part but even that I’m not sure how to prove it’s not seasonal unless I wait another year?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 05:01 PM
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Oh yeah I have control now. I just meant in the past I struggled to stop which I guess is still bad. I’ll take that advice but I’m not sure how proving I’ve changed would look like. Not hooking up while single doesn’t seem to be enough from what I’m getting from your comment
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 04:27 PM
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Correction, I haven’t dated in a year and 10 months.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 02:35 PM
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No I’m really not ok with being alone. So far I haven’t hookup for a couple of months which is good progress. Next I have to figure out how to navigate my insurance for therapy. But in the mean time I do still want to meet people. I did take a break most of the year from dating.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 02:31 PM
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I’m not into tattoos, I just follow a sub with bad tattoos and the witchcraft was a phase. However I do seem to be drawn to men that are alternative or especially when it comes to unique beliefs/world views. I’m always anxious introducing them to my family especially with most of them I’ve met outside my race…not that they’d care which race I’m with. Idk
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 12:33 PM
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I just downloaded a dating app even though I wanted to leave them behind. They’re way too overwhelming. I want to give going to social events another try. Due to not having a drivers license and poor money management for transportation, I haven’t attended a social even in a while or not as often as I wanted to. I’ve made some financial improvements so hopefully soon I’ll be able to attend more events. The idea of going to public places like libraries and coffee shops to be approached sounds like…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 12:24 PM
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Not sure what you mean by “get in front”?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 11:43 AM
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I’ve resolved them so far. I no longer have the urge to hookup (no I really mean it this time, it’s been pretty much a year of no casual hookups besides being with a guy I thought was pursuing me).
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 10:59 AM
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So I guess a man asking that is like being asked “what do you bring to the table? When he should just focus on getting to know me to know? Lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 06:52 AM
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What if they ask about my count?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 06:19 AM
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Even *mildly looking men aren’t monogamous. Perhaps that was something of your own fault. But yes highly attractive men do get more attention so of course going for an average or slightly above average man would be an easier approach.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 11:00 AM
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I’m still healing and learning from this exact experience. Thankfully I’m a sucker for “daddy doms” so I’m not just going for power hungry narcissist.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 01:31 AM
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I can relate to this girl and being into bdsm. Thankfully, I like the idea of a “daddy dom” to balance everything out. Not validating bdsm just saying how I’m most times able to snap out of my fantasy and seek what I really want and need from a man.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 01:26 AM
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I just learned this recently after the last time I was intimate. He had such high expectations from my body I didn’t understand how to do or communicate. I felt that he would have gotten board trying to help me get aroused enough to get wet. He told me he felt turned on when a woman orgasm when he’s in side but I didn’t know how to even get there. I was just happy to be with him and didn’t mind not having an orgasm despite enjoying it. After that it made me concerned about dating again and disap…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 05:08 PM
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I’ve had this experience but worst I got ghosted. I’m trying my best to move on and I kinda have but from time to time I feel sad about it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/24 01:18 AM
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Yeah it’s not available in my state. I’ve looked it up too.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 02:47 AM
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Thank you so much✨
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 08:57 PM
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Will definitely try thanks
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 08:55 PM
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I do. It’s just how long it will take me to get there. I’d have to leave to the event from work and most times I’m tired and just want to rest at home. I guess it wouldn’t hurt being a little late.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 08:54 PM
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Last night I decided that I’m going to make a human body pillow to see how that will work out. Yeah I’ve thought of getting massages but yeah definitely not the same with someone you love.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 02:47 PM
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I guess it’s because I feel isolated in my life from meeting any other men and not having a driver’s license makes it difficult going to social events whenever I’d like to. My only options are at work but I’m usually too busy and tired to want to engage with anyone. And then I go to the gym but most people keep to themselves and I don’t go to the gym to find love. I just feel very restricted socially besides being with family. And then my insecurities of feeling undesirable. I didn’t get make at…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 02:38 PM
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I haven’t had any time to practice driving and all my family members have their own separate lives and families. I use to attend social groups but I don’t have the money to request an Uber to meet up with them. And then idk I guess I don’t feel confident in finding any mutual attraction with anyone. Most of my life, I’ve never really been guy’s first pick. I’m considered pretty but usually nothing goes further than physical attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 04:59 AM
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I mean I’m bothered by it but I think lying is too far. If I would lie about that then I could lie about other things from their perspective (if that’s their perspective). Idk lying would make me feel bad and deceitful. I’d probably tell them under 9 ppl or just a number that isn’t too much of a concern. It really depends on the person, how long we’ve seen/known each other and how soon they ask. I’d rather let someone go that wouldn’t stay if they knew than to keep them and have them believe I’m…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 10:03 PM
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I’ve never been in a relationship. And I’m only feeling shame because I’m now realizing why I did what I did and wether or not I still deserve the relationship I’ve always wanted. As far as being intimate with the men I briefly dated, no I had no shame because I cared a lot about them and liked spending time with them. I’m more regretful of the men I didn’t intentionally date.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 09:34 PM
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Yes you remember well a year ago. I actually remember you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 07:28 PM
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What?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 02:44 PM
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Most people see me as wholesome and innocent anyway so wondering about my body count would probably be the last thing they ever ask. Not that I’m being fake, I personally don’t see myself in that way.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 10:02 AM
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I’m the last person on the planet to be giving relationship advice but that’s pretty dumb advice if you ask me. He will not get it if you don’t tell him. That’s actually petty and immature
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 11:37 AM
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Same. I’m not entirely liberal, redpill (more like purple pill but that subreddit but has that certain redpill energy I get from some rp men I find draining lol) and not full on conservative but this space somewhat has that balance I’m looking for. I feel like liberal spaces are a bit closed minded to certain perspectives and life styles that have a history of oppressing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 10:53 PM
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Good perspective. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 11:54 AM
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Maybe try heels with a lower heel? Idk and honestly I’m not sure how your feet looks to figure out what would look good so I don’t know what advice to offer
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 10:45 AM
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Hmm interesting perspective. That’s his best way of interpreting female nature.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 04:26 AM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 10:25 PM
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Perhaps so but how hard should I have been in my post? And to whom? I wasn’t trying to be soft (you mentioned he ripped off the facade) that’s just how I expressed myself. Regardless of my tone they still misread somethings I said. I will say as far as acknowledging gracefully of what my point was, I was a bit triggered. I do tend to be misunderstood a lot (probably for the exact thing you pointed out) and took as he wasn’t listening and was projecting himself.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 10:23 PM
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I like the look of heels but I prefer flatter shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 10:10 PM
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Like I’m not entirely against red pill, it’s just men like them that give women with similar view points that this philosophy isn’t for them if they’re told all the time that they’re hopelessly not loving enough or can’t think logically for themselves. “Oh but we’re talking about modern women, not women like you” really? Because I couldn’t tell.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 10:02 PM
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Idk I’m just tired of being lumped into something I can’t relate to. And one of the users telling me I’m wrong but simultaneously saying everything I implied just shows everything I’m annoyed with. They “reacted as they read” and just ended up making my points and correcting me with my own arguments. It’s like they got triggered by what I said or something and preferred their interpretation of it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 09:29 PM
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And the fact that you responded as you read and said everything I said in your own wording…. I idk how to respond to that lol. And then went on about women not deserving what they want, that’s not even apart of my discussion here even though there is some truth to it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 09:25 PM
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Absolutely ✨ I don’t take them seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 09:24 PM
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I think you misread what I said about masculinity. I never said all masculine men were narcissist, I said some women have unhealthy views of what a masculine man is and the unhealthy types are the narcissist and emotional unavailable ones. Not sure where you read that. And my entire point was women having unrealistic wants and wanting the wrong thing. That’s all. And I never implied what some women want is a good thing hence my McDonald’s example. Perhaps I didn’t thoroughly read your comment bu…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 09:23 PM
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My thoughts exactly. And unfortunately not even mid 20’s are safe.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:37 PM
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That’s pretty much what I’m implying. Just like how we know today x,y,z isn’t common, it was most likely the same in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 07:22 PM
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That makes sense. I’ll be honest even though I like the idea of being a stay a SAHW I don’t want that to be the main thing I do or thrive to be. I like the idea of working from home too. I’d mostly feel obligated to stay home if I have children and it’s more functional for my future partner and I for me to stay. I guess because I grew up in an environment where the mother being home is normal, it seems like a harmless thing. I do wonder if it would be a concern for men these days. I’m not expect…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 09:53 AM
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I agree. I’m mainly talking about the assumption that there’s abuse in the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 09:10 PM
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Yeah I agree. My point is that some people automatically assume the individual is being abused. I will say some trad women out there do have beliefs that are abusive but even the most sound trad women out there still get the same criticism as if they’re all the same.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:58 PM
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That’s so sad. This happened to a friend of mine before a couple of times all because of their culture and parents
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 08:06 PM
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Lol no thanks……
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 07:54 PM
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Thank you👍🏾
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 06:44 PM
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Oh wait I just realized I misinterpreted what you said. I’m getting the impression that you interpreted what I’ve said as me trying to have a career and be a stay at home mom? Making that a two income home? Idk maybe it’s unrealistic but I wanted to run my baking business from home. And it’s something I’d like to do while I’m single but as a side hustle in a marriage or idk I might decide to discontinue the business if I need to start focusing on home life. But for now as a single woman, that’s …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 03:31 PM
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Thank you I will. I’ve actually wondered if I have adhd or/and autism so I’m definitely open to the idea of getting a diagnosis.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 12:41 PM
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You mentioned that my plans require someone else to make them happen, what do you mean by that exactly? I ask because I don’t understand what that has to do with my concerns of not being enough for someone as far as keeping up with a home. I’m worried that if I don’t keep up, they’d be frustrated with me all the time. I don’t see how someone can help me make the things I want in life happen.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 03:22 AM
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I do wonder if most or half of my issues are from a deficiency. I’ve never set a doctors appointment on my own and kind of confused where to start or what type of care or doctor I should see to get a diagnosis. I’m definitely going to figure that out to getting a better understanding of what I’m looking for and doing. I’m also a bit confused about health insurance (yes I’m from the U.S). My job does provide some sort of benefits for health insurance. I just don’t really understand how it works e…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 03:14 AM
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I say this from personal experience. STAY AWAY from him. If you see red and green flags equally, run the opposite way. I was warned about this and didn’t listen, now I’m taking a break from dating and reflecting on myself. It did not end well for me. I don’t care how “rare”, smart, how much or a thoughtful gentleman he is or interesting he is. He will not love you the way you want him to. He has already told you what he wants from you and how he see’s you. He’ll suck you dry till he finds someon…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 02:07 AM
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Honestly this subreddit has changed my attitude towards red pill. Got major anxiety and insecurities from the male side of red pill, the type you see on YouTube that’s popular, like Andrew Tate. It got to a point where I was considering not being in a relationship if it meant I couldn’t naturally and genuinely love my future husband. And then some of them came off power hungry and just insist you can trust men like them. Some of those men would talk about not wanting hoes while being one themsel…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 10:18 PM
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I had to date some crappy dude to finally start switching. And this was last year. And thankfully I don’t live with my mom anymore giving myself space to freely and comfortably be and think independently. But even after that situation I’m still carrying old habits and thoughts but not as strong as before.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 09:57 PM
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I felt the same way watching those types of videos. I felt scared and wanted to close myself off to a relationship if I can’t truly love my future man. The fact you are concerned about not being loving enough shows how much of a heart you truly have. And a genuine one at that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 11:34 PM
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Definitely take a break. But as a heads up when you get back into dating, don’t just date one person. Because you could fall into that same cycle without any official commitment from the beginning. And make sure you let your dates know that you’re seeing other men. If you’re dating multiple people then you’d feel the need to hold off sex or putting your all in one person.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 02:21 PM
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Fellow black woman here (24) Oooh boy my mom is the same. Funny thing is, she’s not trying to be controlling, she simply doesn’t know better. Her mother wasn’t very nurturing and didn’t guide her well growing up. I feel like I can’t open up to her with anything because she’s just going to make me feel shitty instead of encouraged or empowered to do better. And she makes even the smallest mistakes or misunderstandings a huge deal. I’m scared that when I’m in a relationship, I’ll do the things she…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 04:39 PM
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These are just things I’d personally do Most of my comfortable clothes are my feminine clothes. Even my dresses. Even if I wear sweatpants, I find a casual yet flattering simple shirt to go with it. You could let your hair down as a feminine yet effortless style (well that depends on the state of your hair). I like to wear some earrings that bring out my complexion or eyes. Idk what it is but I think earrings especially smaller ones that are silver, gold or pearl bring out the eyes. And not sure…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 03:04 PM
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That’s what I’m going to do once I I start driving.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 01:16 PM
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The missing the exit part sounds a bit too much in my opinion. I’d just gently bring it up as something that just happened “Oh no our exit” instead of “Hey hey, you missed our exit”. I’m not giving advice, it’s just my way of letting the man still be in charge of the situation without telling him what to do or signaling that he isn’t capable. I remember dating someone who’s the general manager of the store they work at. He wanted to give his only manager less hrs so she’ll quit bc he didn’t thin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 10:07 AM
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I’m talking about women who are holding themselves accountable and willing to change their mindset. You can’t earn respect if you don’t put any effort. I mentioned that in my post but I guess it wasn’t obvious enough to you. Also where in my post do I imply or think MGTOW don’t deserve empathy? That’s the entire point of my post. Why is that hard to see? This entire post is about empathy and wanting to help people become better as long as they’re willing to. And then you made this about female p…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 03:04 PM
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I just wish I saw that attitude from someone of the men that watch redpill content.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 02:50 PM
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But yes I do see what you mean. That content wasn’t intended or made for me as a woman. We speak a completely different language from men when it comes to discussing certain topics.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 10:25 AM
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By “Everyone deserves the love an affection they need” I wasn’t implying what we WANT. Because what we want is not always deserved. I think what we need and what we want are two different things. And it doesn’t have to be romantic love, I was implying respect and guidance for wanting to be better and actually doing better. I wouldn’t give anything freely. Everyone needs the love and affection from a parent, some unfortunate people turned out to be violent or with anti social disorders. What we n…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 10:19 AM
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Watched this video of this woman in her 30’s who got a very big bbl procedure in her early 20’s decided to downsize her (like no joke she had an unnaturally huge ass) butt and change her wardrobe to something more reserved. She said herself that she wanted to be seen as human and got emotional about it. Couldn’t be upset with her for that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 01:12 AM
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That’s why I go for “purple pill” guys. Especially if they don’t claim to be apart of any pill movement. Just want a natural masculine man as I’m a naturally feminine woman. Nobody has to feel obligated to do or be entitled to certain things just bc of their gender.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 09:33 PM
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Yeah but personally I think I’ll be fine. We’re still in the early stages of getting to know each other so I personally wouldn’t mind still working with him, I’m at his store bc his boss offered me more pay since his store needs help and for me to have transportation since I can’t drive. If it gets serious I’m willing to transfer or work somewhere else. But for now I’m stay.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:50 PM
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I’m not sure. Long story short we reconnected through Tinder. Recently we were talking about dating apps and he said he hasn’t really been on them since seeing me on Tinder and that they suck and aren’t fun anymore. But I’ve seen Hinge on his phone. He seems to like me but doesn’t feel ready to fully commit to a relationship (his words not mine). With the way things are there is a lot of fence walking so even if he is, I really have no say. He always tells me his schedule and that he’s free most…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:46 PM
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Sometimes when we cuddle he likes to rub my butt. At first it was settling and strange but now I find it comforting.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:27 PM
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I’ll admit I do feel shy and awkward. I’m wondering if giving eye contact instead of looking away will help feel connected to him. And another disconnection for me…so we work in the same food chain (that’s how we met) and reconnected after he transferred. Idk why but it just feels like two separate people interacting with me. And I had a crush on him for so long I never expected this to happen. It’s this combination of being new to sex, my mind trying to adjust to this new experience that I’ve a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:25 PM
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Anywhere outside of clubs I guess lol. And hey there are even some women who are naturally feminine and lean more towards traditional things but don’t hold traditional beliefs like myself. It’s one thing to believe something as an obligation but to naturally fall into those things, it makes her genuine.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 10:15 PM
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I do like cuddling with him. It helps me warm up to being touched.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 08:56 PM
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I like and trust him and I don’t think I’m asexual. I like the idea of having sex. I guess I’m struggling to see the act of it being something you do to bond. But that’s the only way I’d have sex with someone if we’re in a relationship. When we were physical for the first time, everything was fine and I wanted more. I even enjoyed kissing. But last time I dissociated and didn’t give much eye contact. Idk if it has to do with some sort of trauma. There was a case when I was little when I was touc…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 07:49 PM
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It just feels too soon for me despite liking it. And I guess I’m worried that it would be a distraction from actually trying to develop a relationship outside of sex idk.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 06:08 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/22 03:59 AM
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I think it might be. He seems to rather have me sit back and relax than try and do anything for him. He talks a lot about places he wants to take me. Says it’s his way of expressing himself to someone. I guess that means sharing his happiness with someone.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:18 PM
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Yeah they’re basics but he’s being a little too generous and caring outside of paying meals. He even told me to invite him over my family’s house any time as well. I’m just going to enjoy the ride. By “struck gold” I mean someone giving up so much just for me and I’m not taking it well because we’ve never established a relationship and he’s making all these moves just for someone that could just be for brief fun. And if it’s for brief fun I don’t feel like I deserve or should have such privilege…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:15 PM
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Well I’m aware I could be the other women. He said in the beginning he was not interested in pursuing anything with me and wasn’t even sure if we’d be a good match.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:06 PM
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I’m aware
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:02 PM
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Also he’s at much risk of loosing me if I meet someone else I might find more suitable for me. I’m considering dating outside if things don’t seem to be going anywhere. We’re both walking on fences here.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 09:15 PM
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He’s not in the relationship anymore. They don’t even talk to each other. I’m saying he still wants some time before he feels ready. I know this relationship has no titles but he seems to be treating it as such making me feel obligated to do something for him bc I feel that I may not be what he truly wants and he’s giving up his time and resources and tells me not to worry about feelings obligated to do anything in return. Why spend money, share your work schedule and time over someone you’re no…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 08:56 PM
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I call him that bc he said he wants to be in a relationship with me but he’s going to wait for a while bc he just got out of a relationship earlier this year. So to me we aren’t an official couple. But I wouldn’t dare call him that to his face but we don’t have any titles.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 06:58 PM
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I think it should be whatever works for the parents. Personally I only prefer 3 children. And from a biblical perspective, the Bible doesn’t really talk about having or not having children. There will always be children on this planet as long as men and women are fertile enough to. During the times in the Bible, children were a necessity to keep their communities/villages running. We don’t really need to have children, it’s just now natural instinct to just do it because you want to do you can h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 06:02 PM
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I’ll admit a lot of my insecurity in this is rooted in feeling like I don’t deserve something unless I put effort into something or showed my worthiness. I feel like I haven’t fully demonstrated how much of a good partner I can be. Otherwise I’m taking advantage of them. But the fact that he’s willing to be with me and do things for me should say enough.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 05:46 PM
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I’ll keep that in mind, thanks
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 02:13 PM
2

Damn, I almost went nuts over something I was overthinking about my s.o. Talked to a therapist before talking to him and that shut me up quick lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:01 PM
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Lol true. I’m just glad he vapes it, I hate the smell of the plant lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:49 PM
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Yeah I’m making the pizza dough myself. He appreciates any craftsmanship with heart and soul put into it and he likes my baking. I love baking bread.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:48 PM
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Yeah he likes the taste of lavender (I don’t blame him, I love floral desserts). And I’m going to drizzle some lemon buttercream frosting on top. Have this all planned out lol
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:46 PM
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We are going to have a wine and pizza night at his house but we’re making our own individual pizzas. I’m going to have to surprise him one day and cook him a meal. Plus I’ll be able to show my loving and nurturing side. And I plan on making him a mini lavender cake for his birthday (which is all the way in July lol).
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:31 AM
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Saw this short on YT of this dating couch. What stuck to me the most from his message was “It’s not about how you feel about him, how does he make you feel?“ You mentioned a lot about what you like about him but how did he make you feel intimately? That mindset has definitely helped me a bit. I’m currently talking to someone and I definitely need that mindset in my current situation. Sometimes we get caught up in the idea of them instead of how they make us feel now or then.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 10:01 AM
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I’m not a mother so I’m not really qualified to give advice on raising children but watching my baby brother growing up and having the experience of caring for children and being around them, boys will start to be fully aware of the idea of “becoming a man” once they reach a certain age. When they’re little it’s fine for them to receive that soft feminine touch from their mother or sisters. Gives them a healthy perspective of women. He may be soft and sweet now (not saying he’ll stop being so) b…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 12:01 PM
2

It’s probably uncomfortable for him. Personally I don’t wear rings because I can constantly feel except for my ring finger on my right hand. Also depends on what type of work he does too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 11:02 AM
2

Damn, f that friend. She’s not even trying to continue your friendship. And I wouldn’t even keep the guy around for a friend either. I’m in a similar situation with a guy but he’s completely closed off relationships and hookups and even told me. Trust me, don’t try staying around for that guy just in case, he needs to take a break from relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 06:45 PM
1

Oh yeah of course. I just misread your post.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 12:19 PM
1

What’s the name of your channel? Didn’t see your link in your bio.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 10:51 AM
1

Amen. I know exactly who you’re talking about. I like that she brings regular women instead of OF girls and Instagram models like Fresh and Fit does (then sleeps with the exact women they judge afterwards but anyway). She has a much wider perspective of women actually being a woman herself but she’s still feeding into the overly obsessive nature that runs the community amongst men especially young men/boys.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 10:44 AM
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I know exactly what you mean. I’ve always leaned more towards being a “traditional” woman but without claiming to have traditional beliefs and am very feminine and soft. Binged watched content like that and even though I might fit what they’re looking for, I still feel undesirable. I even felt like I had to rush and find a partner before I reach 30 or no man will want me. I advise you step away from that content for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 01:03 AM
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I’m so sorry to hear that. I don’t have advice to give since I’ve never experienced this nor the experience of pregnancy, all I can say is that you have my sympathy.💙
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 02:10 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 06:04 PM
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I think being blunt or “snappy” can give you that “mean” vibe but to direct rude and careless behavior towards them is definitely a turn off. Being playful about it can water things down. I’m the same way like you but I’ll be “mean” if the moment calls for it. Don’t want to come off as mean and controlling.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 01:04 PM
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Sorry, I’m hear just to embrace my ideal life as a feminine woman who likes traditional things. Idk if I want to date a redpill guy tbh😅 They seem super picky and overly demanding to me. But I guess I’d actually would have to meet a decent one to change my mind. I just look for the qualities I like and want in a man. You’d be surprised how naturally masculine some men can be that don’t share those beliefs but have those traits you’d hoped for. They think for themselves, ambitious, protective, et…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 12:53 PM
1

Don’t worry about what feminism looks like today and what other women are doing. Embrace your femininity and live your life. They will never see the world like you. And also take advantage of the positive things feminism has given us. Isn’t letting go apart of being feminine? If you’re deeply concerned for how other women live their life, be an example with grace. We are all products of our environment most women may not know better. And you know, there’s also a spectrum of being feminine. We ge…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 10:06 PM
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Girl the femininity channels I’ve ran into that would damn you for not being feminine enough whilst giving all the masculine energy in their body. I feel the same way. You can do all the feminine things but where is your heart in it all? How do you respond to things?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 09:19 PM
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I wasn’t talking specifically about gossip but yes I believe that’s why most women love it lol. Not all of course.
/r/seduction02/10/22 09:18 AM
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I think it’s still true either way. As a woman and from observing other women, we like to talk about people and analyze peoples emotions and intentions. It helps learn about each other’s morals and values.
/r/seduction02/10/22 01:06 AM
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I deleted all my accounts so currently nothing
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 12:45 PM
1

I know a guy that wants floral tattoos because he loves nature and flowers. It all depends on the intent of the tattoos in my opinion. But there are some looks I feel are too far.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 12:53 PM
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I’m going to keep this in mind. I just need to get over my shyness about the act of sex.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 08:12 PM
1

Can’t relate. I wouldn’t say I’m intelligent and know a lot but I like talking to my guy friends just to have conversations like this. Yeah some topics are a bit boring but I’ll listen. I’m also not saying women are incapable of having conversations like this, idk men just think and respond differently to certain things and I guess I enjoy a more (for lack of a better term) “diverse” discussion. Perhaps you’re bring up topics they’re not well informed by and not sure what to give as feedback? I …
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:27 PM
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Yuck this is worse than my situation but with sex involved. I’d give him a final warning and encourage him to say what’s really on his mind about you and him and what does he want out of this. And take his word, do not take “I like you and want to get to know you but I’m not ready” as a sign you two have a chance, for now you’re just platonic friends. No kissing and no sex, that will make him think everything is back to normal. Be firm with your boundaries. He should respect how you feel and you…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 12:48 PM
3

My pleasure 😊 Personally I don’t like that I have to do this because it looks like I lack personality but if it makes me socially palatable, so be it. I’m not even redpill, I’m just here to be with women with similar preferences, desired lifestyles and values. I’m not even trad I just like the idea of living a certain way. I’d hate for people to put an unnecessary label on me for that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 10:53 AM
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Go to your page and tap edit. If you scroll down you’ll see a switch to turn it off.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 12:44 AM
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That’s why I have all the subreddits I follow hidden. I’m black as well. I’ve never seen such an open, honest and tolerant community on the internet. Women with different values, life styles and faiths can come together and share what’s going on with them. Forget the incel redpill shit, I want a community of women who got my back and respect. If I shared things about my ideal man and my thoughts on femininity in another subreddit, things will just be taken the wrong way or they’ll assume I think…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 02:11 PM
2

This!🙌🏾
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 03:41 PM
1

Ok thanks
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 09:53 AM
1

I need proof first that you have a podcast. This is the internet, people could say anything about themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 09:31 AM
1

I want to tell him that I’m not interested in getting to know him anymore but if he doesn’t really care, then would it matter if I say anything or not? But I only want to tell him because I want to see how he’ll respond.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 09:24 AM
1

Yeah you’re right, he’s not adding anything
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 09:22 AM
1

He’s 25 and I’m 24
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 01:23 AM
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It’s weird. He said he didn’t even want to go on Tinder and wasn’t feeling it with the other women because he was still feeling a certain way after his relationship and hated dating apps and only swiped right on me because he knew me and I was the first person he saw. I think he is looking for something to numb whatever he’s going through.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 03:45 PM
3

We both wanted to visit this pie place in my town but now I’m thinking I might secretly cancel the trip (we haven’t picked a time or date yet) and just go by myself. It’s funny he’s the one that brought it up and said he always wanted to go but never said “we should go together”. I was the one that brought up we should go together and he agreed. He seemed excited about the idea but I don’t really think he cares to put effort into the whole planning part. If I never bring it up, I don’t think he …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 03:40 PM
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That’s my plan honestly. Well try keeping this in mind despite my feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 02:50 PM
1

I don’t have a past history of relationships. I’ve just started in the dating world and still am. If anything if he wanted to, he could be taking advantage of my lack of experience. He knows I’ve never been in relationships, new to dating and avoid casual relationships. With little experience, I’m expecting more so if that’s his plan, he’s failing poorly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 02:48 PM
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Yeah I know…I guess I don’t understand why he said he wanted to get to know me as well. I’m taking his word but I just don’t understand that part.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 02:05 PM
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Oh no I’m absolutely not sleeping with him. But honestly I’m glad he’s not love bombing or over pursuing now because if he’s really trying to heal and just wants to have platonic hang outs with me then he’s doing what’s best for the situation and I can appreciate that. He hasn’t even hinted doing anything romantic or sexual.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 01:51 PM
1

That’s definitely something to consider, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 09:10 AM
2

I’m American. That’s exactly how I feel. It seem very unnecessary for the man to pay when money and success is equal. If he’s pay then I’d feel obligated to offer something in return (which is fine).
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 06:05 PM
1

I’m actually 24 so yeah I’m Gen z
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 11:23 AM
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I actually did that on my last date. I gave a tip.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 06:39 PM
1

I’m 24. And I’m seeing a guy who’s a year older (honestly I’m not sure if we’re going to date or not but we’re mutually interested and plan on hanging out today). He seems financially well but I wouldn’t want to push anything on him. He works as a general manager at a restaurant. We’re not going to anything that requires payment though so I can’t make that judgment. But yeah I was surprised by the comments too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 03:52 PM
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They never tell us how much vulnerability goes into relationships. Not only are they exposing all of themselves to you but you are showing them everything that’s in you and you will have to face those parts of you being questioned or called out.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 04:23 AM
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Soft fabric pants are usually styled in a feminine styles. Not sure where you’re from but Target seems to always have comfortable feminine clothes. White looks good on everyone and gives a soft delicate look. Some comfortable pieces all together might look like pajamas so perhaps mix a comfortable blouse with a skirt or the most comfortable jeans you have or wear the comfortable pants with a nice blouse. For shoes, explore what type of flat shoes suits your comfort and is the most flexible with …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 04:12 AM
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I didn’t know I needed to read this. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 11:24 PM
1

Ugh I can relate. I’m starting to pick up he might like me and we seem to get along so well. It’s been 2 years now. He’s very kind and thoughtful. How ever he lives in the UK (I’m from the U.S) and I’m just not attracted to him physically. But honestly even if he was attractive, I’m not sure if I’d still be interested romantic wise. If I ever get into a relationship with someone else, I’d hate to break off certain things in our friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 11:12 PM
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I want that type of relationship but some of these men that want that too out here be making me want to stay single for a little longer….
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 10:57 PM
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