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| 0 | Fat jacked guy who gets girls and now people who used to like me hate me.I'm a fat guy myself and have moderate success. Any advice on how you get successful, or any tips at all? Also, where so you meet women mostly? | /r/seduction | 08/11/21 04:15 AM |
| 1 | In the context of a cold approach: Should you ask a girl out, or just ask for her number?Nice oversimplification of what I said. I'm pretty happy with my dating life seeing 2 to 3 girls, but I guess it's easy to make assumptions based on nothing | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 03:29 PM |
| 5 | In the context of a cold approach: Should you ask a girl out, or just ask for her number?No, but advising guys to tell girls 'give me your number' because it's manly/alpha/whatever is pretty cringe. It's not manly, it's just weird to do it like this instead of a normal human being and just asking/proposibg to get a coffee sometime or whatever. If a girl rejects you because 'asking isn't manly' or whatever I would be concerned what type of shallow girls you're dating. No offense, just not my cup of tea | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 02:11 PM |
| 11 | In the context of a cold approach: Should you ask a girl out, or just ask for her number?Are you actually autistic | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 07:58 AM |
| 1 | How to “flip the script” with womenEverytime you say or do something expecting a specific reaction (most often some kind of stroking your ego, reassuring etc) it's needy | /r/seduction | 06/06/21 01:16 PM |
| 3 | How poor guys can get laid ?Confidence, humor, charisma Looks do play a role, but it's not everything. | /r/seduction | 17/11/20 01:05 PM |
| 3 | How poor guys can get laid ?Disregard money and you're obviously a loser because of thinking that way, that's why | /r/seduction | 17/11/20 12:33 PM |
| 2 | How poor guys can get laid ?If you think money is more important I'm pretty sure it shows in your behavior and that's what's turning girls off | /r/seduction | 17/11/20 12:06 PM |
| 13 | Can you really change a girl's attraction level towards you if they weren't interested before?I see it like this: A girl's attraction to you is like a bonfire. If she was never interested at all whatsoever it's like the wood is wet. You won't really be able to get that wood to catch fire. If she is lightly curious or interested, it's at least a kindle. Your job ('game') is to support the kindle and let it grow to a fire. But you can't just blow on it like a madman because you will blow it out. Instead, you need to give it just enough air to slowly build it up in a calibrated manner. Also… | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have any tips for dating tons of women at the same time? It's a good problem, but it can be overwhelming and I don't feel good rejecting/flaking on so many girls.What would you say helped you the most getting such results in your dating life? I am at the beginning of this and would gladly hear some words of advice | /r/seduction | 21/03/20 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Game For Fat Men: You're Not A Fat Man, You Just A Man With A Lot Of Body FatYes, I did say that would be most definitely the case | /r/seduction | 19/03/20 01:44 AM |
| 0 | Game For Fat Men: You're Not A Fat Man, You Just A Man With A Lot Of Body FatI am at ~250 lbs/6"1' right now (and always was this weight more or less) and had several (attractive) girlfriends and flings. Some girls in clubs are obviously attracted from the start (I am dressing well), others get attracted because I genuinely have fun while dancing and position themselves near me. I am fun being around. I DO agree that losing weight and getting fit will most definitely help your results. Best thing you can do is to start getting fit and approaching at the same time to buil… | /r/seduction | 19/03/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | When girls use tactics to make you miss them.Did you have problems holding a relationship in the past? She is your fucking girlfriend, stop playing games. | /r/seduction | 16/02/20 01:52 PM |
| 1 | I started the afternoon on 12, now having 7. A couple of days made, few rejections but gave out 5 roses in total around Brunei University in London. Harder with pairs, easiest were alone. Some should have been approached but let it go. Overall, feeling proud. Cold Approached with Flowers in hand.Are you literally autistic? | /r/seduction | 15/02/20 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls text with you, but when the time of the date is near, they suddenly cannot?Dear god, you're butthurt to the max. | /r/seduction | 14/02/20 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Guys who are highly successful with women, was it always that way for you?I find your posts very inspiring. I was always in search of some kind of magic material and too focused on 'theory' without ever even approaching because I thought I needed just that little tidbit of information which I couldn't find. The last two weekends I simply enjoyed myself while going out, danced with different girls and I got asked for my number. While going through the crowd I sometimes gave girls a compliment (something they have 'earned' and not genetics, like having glasses that suit… | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Games due for a RenaissanceI see. I think my main gripe is not approaching enough so I can actually learn from it. Many thanks! | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Games due for a RenaissanceWhat's the best advice you can give to get started and improve? Great video btw | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 11:52 PM |
| 1 | I realized I'm too much in my head.Yes, kind of | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Game is really just flirtingI think that's pretty much the best advice. I'm half a year into it and although I'm always searching for the 'holy grail', some kind of video or book, the most improvement i got is from actually talking to people and working on doing things I'm afraid of. Thank you | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Game is really just flirtingWhat advice can you give to improve? | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 06:55 AM |
| 1 | How do you increase your quality of women?Can you give an example of what you changed and where you're meeting them now? | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Today i tries my first attempt at day game. It met this girl at the gym, and we just started talking. Even though it failed, i think this goes to show, that it's all about being confident and having great interactions. Not getting laid..The best way in my opinion would be if she just subtly mentions it somewhere in the conversation. Drop a 'my bf works out at another gym and thinks about switching' or whatever suits the topic, he will get it if he's not a moron. | /r/seduction | 19/11/19 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Have Tinder date this weekend. Closing?This is already an invitation for sex. Just escalate, flirt and you're literally in. | /r/seduction | 06/11/19 04:25 PM |
| 13 | Freshly single, I went out last night and I approached 2 womenCan you give a bit more insight into 'interesting' conversation? I do well on dates, but my main problem is first contact and then getting them on the date. | /r/seduction | 06/11/19 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Practice Giving Good Eye ContactI can give eye contact, but I don't know how to do 'good' eye contact. When I'm looking at an attractive woman and she catches my gaze, she immediately looks away 9/10 times. And it's not the 'blushing' type of looking away. I'm no model but I've had some very attractive women, so while I don't think I'm exceptionally handsome I'm definitely not 'ugly'. Maybe a bit chubby. So, 'how' do you do good eye contact? | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Met this girl and don't know how to handle it.I know chances are she isn't that into me. But I have to try it and just give it a go, for my own sake. I don't want to think 'what if you just tried it'. I won't succumb into her using me, as far as I got to know her friends she's a nice girl. And if she tries to I will simply avoid her. | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 10:35 AM |
| 1 | Met this girl and don't know how to handle it.Yeah. I know. | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Met this girl and don't know how to handle it.Thanks for your comment. I like the mindset. I was a bit too focused on her I admit and my date today went well. But you know how you have one 'favorite girl'? Yeah. I would love to just send her 'i liked camping there, hit me up when you're back', but i have heard bad things about leaving the bsll in her court so I'm a bit hesitant. I know I'm overthinking this, I am already meeting other women and have a busy weekend but she is still someone I would really like to see again. | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Met this girl and don't know how to handle it.I heard it's not a good idea to leave the ball in her court and I'm unsure if I really would hear back from her. I definitely don't want to be clingy or pushy as I think I have to handle this very cool now. But what other options do I have..? | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 12:56 AM |
| 1 | 7 Simple Lessons About Attraction (Which Are Often Forgotten)But how do you get to the 80% confidence? | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 11:38 AM |
| 1 | How many times were you rejected before you got good at nightgame?But how do you actually learn ftom rejections? I don't know if it's me, but all I can tell is 'that didn't work out' when it ends and I've gotten nowhere. How do you actually see your own mistakes in this? | /r/seduction | 02/06/19 06:46 AM |
| 1 | How many women have you had sex with?I'm just starting out and want to do my first approaches. I've had 7, 4 of them were LTRs. I'm 27 | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 05:54 PM |
| 1 | What’s really holding you backI think my problem is that I don't know what I'm doing wrong thus not knowing what I have to improve. I mean, you have to understand something to see the faults, don't you? I've had girlfriends and a few flings, but I knew (almost) all of them as friends or through friends. I don't know how to present myself to strangers. | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 01:26 PM |
| 4 | What’s really holding you backCan you promise me I will get better? | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 11:36 AM |
| 2 | What Are Some of The Biggest Lies Mainstream Society Tells Itself With Dating/SeductionHow do you develop that inner security? | /r/seduction | 17/05/19 10:17 AM |
| 3 | Can you help me analyze this experience?Many thanks. I guess we both benefited from it. I'd do it again as I felt absolutely fearless and loved it. I have to learn to solidify that. | /r/seduction | 25/12/18 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Can you help me analyze this experience?Yes, I guess my fear of 'losing' that positive reception is not logically sound. I should build upon it by approaching more and try to build that confidence on its own. Thank you | /r/seduction | 25/12/18 01:58 AM |
| – | How do you build confidence?Not as far as I know, I have no other glaring social issues | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 12:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you become confident?Yes, that sounds reasonable. I'm just confused how it's possible for people who have attained less than me to be more confident if that's all it takes. That sounds really harsh and mean, but I don't know how to describe it. I don't want to belittle the achievements of others, that's not the point. Rather, there are people who seem confident by themselves, where does that come from? | /r/seduction | 09/03/18 12:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you become confident?First off, many thanks for your kind words. I think I have a weird relationship with "fake it till you make it": I feel, if I would fake it, that I would act as someone I am not (clearly that's the point, but hear me out). I act as this confident guy and people will maybe get the impression (or see right through it, which scares me) I am exactly that. But I don't feel like myself, it's a role I play. And that's the point for me, I want people to like me, not the charade I am playing. I don't kno… | /r/seduction | 09/03/18 12:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you become confident?I have the impression failure only gets me down. People should learn from their mistakes, but I think I overvalue them and focus on the mistake itself rather than growing from it | /r/seduction | 09/03/18 12:14 PM |
| 1 | How do you become confident?Thanks for your reply. How do I improve at social interactions? When I'm drunk and going out with friends it's much less of a problem, but that's nothing unusual. I talk often to people, be it at work, with friends etc. But I always feel weird and nervous, even with friends. Usually I'd say "talk to more people" but I already talk to people and ser no difference over the years. I'd think it gets easier. | /r/seduction | 03/03/18 02:48 AM |
| 1 | How do I initiate for sex?I understand the principle of follow-up questions to get to know them without seeming like an interview. When I'm doing this it still feels rather "interviewy", any idea in how to change it up? Also, are there more interesting topics to choose from when you have different options? | /r/seduction | 10/10/16 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Why invest in fitness, looks, clothes, hygiene, learning social skills, books, seduction... if the main goal is not to impress others?To impress yourself. | /r/seduction | 09/10/16 11:52 AM |
| 1 | How do I initiate for sex?How do you get a girl interested in you in the first place? | /r/seduction | 09/10/16 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?But what is it what I need to do? Having no confidence makes just about everything so much harder. I can fake it, but I'm almost never truly relaxed or think that other people (especially women) honestly appreciate my presence. I would just like to know how it is to NOT have constantly such thoughts and if this or that woman finds me attractive. | /r/seduction | 05/10/16 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?That's interesting, I will try that. Not acknowledging my own past victories and deeds was always a reason for my low confidence. But maybe this mindset suits me better. | /r/seduction | 05/10/16 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?That is something I'll try to implement. Thank you | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?What if the bar is too high. Like when you are never satisfied with what you are doing / did even when it's objectively good? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?Should I even take pride in things women consider "nerdy"? It seems like an instant loss. But I get what you're saying. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?Prostitutes? I don't understand what you mean. Care to explain? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?What do you mean by pros? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Using seduction to gain confidence?I once changed many things I didn't like about me but it still wasn't enough. Is there something additional to be done? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Using seduction to gain confidence?Yes, I'd say my girlfriends were usually "out of my league". Before I met my girlfriend I tried openly meeting women and got a few numbers, they were all flakes, though. Also not very many, so that's not representative guess. I think maybe I'm too "weird" /nerdy for most women? Thanks for your reply. | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Using seduction to gain confidence?How do you become awesome? Or even OK? Honest question. | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Using seduction to gain confidence?Faking till you make it doesn't really work for me. I'm faking confidence for years and all my friends were surprised when I told them how much social anxiety I have and how nervous I often am. I still have low confidence although I'm faking it for a long time. Improving yourself. What exactly does that mean? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Using seduction to gain confidence?Understandable. So, how would you improve your confidence beforehand? Everyone starts somewhere I guess? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Using seduction to gain confidence?I really can't understand it. I've had girlfriends and like two or three flings already, friends tell me that I am funny and "polarizing" as they call it since I am a bit weird. Obviously I have something on me that's attractive, I just can't see/acknowledge it. How do you do that? I mean, obviously it's the reason why I'm going to therapy, but there has to be a way out of this. | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Using seduction to gain confidence?How do you build confidence then? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 04:40 PM |
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