(non-native english speaker here)

Hi seddit,

I am 25 years old, in college and have a girlfriend.

Thing is, I have horrible confidence and self esteem.

My main problem is, that I value myself as high as I think other people (especially women) value me. I have many great friends but am constantly in need of female validation in one way or the other (i dont cheat on my gf).

I am already in therapy but maybe it would help if I tried to approach women, fail miserably and someday get a good reaction to get rid of this neediness in validation?

I am rather overweight (ever was) but my currend and past girlfriends didn't seem to have much of a problem with it. I lost much weight a few years back but it didn't help my self-esteem.

In other words, how do you - really-strengthen your inner game if you have none?