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An extensive porn collection and flirting with women online
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/26 09:49 PM
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Thank you! I’ve been eating well and working out, but I’m definitely not all over him like I was before. Mainly because those warm fuzzy feelings I had towards him have really dissipated since the trust issues started. I said this is another reply, but when I talk to him about it he feels that I’m holding onto resentment unfairly because what happened is in the past so I feel that at this point trying to constantly pester him with my feelings would have a negative effect on our marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/26 06:43 PM
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I’ve thought a lot about getting a job but I’m a stay at home who homeschools so getting a job would really uproot our entire family’s lives and I’m afraid to do that incase I’m wrong about things. Maybe a part time job in the evenings but my husband would definitely not be super happy about it. When I’ve tried to talk about it before he feels that I’m holding into resentment unfairly because what happened was in the past. Pestering him with my feelings about this constantly seems like it would …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/26 06:40 PM
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It is a little sad but oh well.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 04:20 PM
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True 😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 04:18 PM
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Thank you! If I had to guess his love language would be acts of service.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 04:17 PM
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Thank you! I don’t think he will care either haha, I was just a little worried as coming off as petty. Like “oh you’re not going to get ME anything, then I won’t get you anything either” when it’s not like that at all, I just want to stop the tradition altogether so I don’t feel resentful
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 04:16 PM
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Thank you for your input! I really love the idea of the binder of cards for myself. Maybe I’ll just start writing love letters to myself 😜
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 07:03 PM
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Thank you, this is great advice. I show love and appreciation through the cards and gifts so I think I’ve been interpreting his lack of gift giving as a lack of love and appreciation. But you’re right, this just isn’t how he shows or interprets love and I’ll need to figure out how he does moving forward!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 07:00 PM
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I love this advice 😅❤️. Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 06:58 PM
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I don’t think you’ll get downvoted, these are all fair questions. I truly don’t know what’s driving it but I know it’s something. We have had conversations about why he always feels he needs to escape but he just always says he’s not trying to escape and that nothing is wrong. It’s very possible that he’s bored or not getting his needs met someway or another but either it’s something that he doesn’t want to talk about or he doesn’t feel he can be honest with me because of my reaction.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 03:38 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind words, your reply made me cry ❤️ I will look into the book, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:57 PM
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Thank you so much I appreciate it ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:21 PM
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I agree it’s a huge red flag, it’s been a source of tension in our relationship for a long, long time. Honestly, crying won’t do anything lol. I’ve cried multiple times in front of him, it doesn’t affect him in the slightest. He’ll just avoid me more if I cry.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:16 PM
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My life would 100% be harder if divorced and so would my kids’ lives. I figure my only option is to do what you suggested, but I know even if I don’t look I’ll always be wondering what he’s up to and if it’s going to escalate. Both options sound like such a sad existence ☹️
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:13 PM
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I agree that this is an escape for him, I just really don’t know what is so bad about the kids and I that he feels that he always needs to escape. I’ve tried to talk to him about his need to escape to the garage all the time but it gets nowhere. I do feel like it’s just going to get worse, which is so upsetting.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:11 PM
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Thank you, your comment has really validated my feelings. I feel like in person (or at least around me) he tries to present himself as a mature family man but then has this secret online persona that showcases the real him. I don’t even know how to have a conversation about this because I know he’s just going to downplay it and insist he’s not doing anything wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:10 PM
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His son will always come first. To be honest it would be concerning if he didn’t, because that would make him a bad father. That’s just the reality of it, If you’re not okay with that then you should leave because it won’t change. His family is understandably going to prioritize his wife because she’s been in their lives for 20 years and have grown a close bond with her. 🤷🏻‍♀️ These are just some hard facts that you have to come to terms with if you’re going to stay.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 02:49 PM
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Him physically stopping you is extreme. He seems to be attached to you in a very unhealthy way and I’m sure his desperate energy is turning you off even further. My only advice is to either FULLY commit to this man or leave. This wishy washy in between stuff is not good for either of you and you need to make a decision. I think you want to leave but are looking to the internet to give you the push you think you need to finally leave. I also don’t mean to be rude, but 30 years old is not a good a…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/24 05:40 PM
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Yikes. Please let this man go so he can find someone that’s as committed to him as he is to you. I think he probably has potential to mature and grow but only with the right woman, which is not you. You’ve already done too much damage by treating him terribly and leaving him for other men.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/24 05:10 PM
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Ouch, I’m sorry you’re going through this ☹️. This would be a deal breaker for me, not only because of the lying about the videos but because he also lied about when he broke up with ex and because he makes secret Instagram accounts. This guy clearly has zero issues with lying to you and then trying to dodge responsibility for it. That’s not a quality you want in a potential husband. The only reason for someone to make a secret Instagram account is to do things or talk to people without their si…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 01:50 PM
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Thank you! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 06:47 PM
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I’m so happy that my post inspired you! Pretty soon it will just become part of your routine and you’ll look forward to it! Best of luck to you as well! 😘
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 06:47 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 06:45 PM
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Yes and no! At first there was nights where I was tired and just really wasn’t feeling it but the health of my marriage was more important to me. Even on nights where I wasn’t feeling it I would always get into it once things got started and I was always glad afterwards that we were able to connect in that way so over time it became easier and easier because even if I was tired or something I knew that once things got going that tired feeling was going to disappear lol.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 06:44 PM
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Thank you so much! I am SO glad that it inspired you to keep going! It’s so worth it I promise you. Good luck with your journey and I hope to hear your own success story 😘
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 01:55 AM
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I’m 31 and he’s 33. I’m sure your boyfriend will be still want to be very sexually active with you well into his senior years! I very I strongly believe that diet and lifestyle habits greatly influence our libido and sex drives - so just cook him some nice healthy meals 😉😂
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 01:53 AM
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Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 01:50 AM
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Thank you! I’m very grateful for all of the resources and encouragement that I found here! This sub was almost like an accountability partner for me 😂. If I felt myself slipping I could just come here to remind myself of the woman I strived to be. I always enjoy your input and advice on various posts that I’ve seen! Thank you for all of your contributions! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 01:47 AM
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That was beautifully put. I’m glad you found it wholesome!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 01:42 AM
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It can definitely be hard to focus on each other after becoming mom and dad, I can totally relate to that! Complaining is like an addiction, once we start it’s so hard to stop! But once you’ve broken the habit and replace complaining with gratitude it’s life changing! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 01:37 AM
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Aw thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 09:51 PM
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Congratulations on your upcoming engagement! It sounds like you have a very patient man which I hope will encourage you to also have patience with him and to be the best woman you can be for him 😘
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 09:51 PM
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Thank you so much! Absolutely, it was the least I could do after how much this community helped me and my marriage and I really do hope more women take those steps!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 09:50 PM
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Thank you so much! Positivity really does go so far. It’s contagious!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 09:48 PM
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Thank you so much! This truly means a lot to me ❤️. I’m actually grateful that my marriage fell apart because I don’t think I would have had the humility to realize my own faults and change them. This sub has been really helpful and you ALWAYS have such fantastic advice! I always look forward to seeing your username in the comments and reading your perspective and advice.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 09:48 PM
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Thank you! 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 03:59 PM
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Thank you! I forget that there’s other forms of intimacy besides sex lol. Yes, he’s definitely unhappy with me, or at least how things have been between us. I know he wants me to initiate sex more and I know he wants to feel more appreciated and that him working so hard for our future is worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:56 PM
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Thank you for your advice! Conquering my ego and cutting out the complaining/nagging is definitely at the top of my priority list.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:54 PM
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It’s funny that you mention this, because I absolutely feel like my gut has been off since having my second child and have been looking into ways to get it back on track!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:52 PM
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Thank you so much. I know it’s going to take time and work on my end and I hope that we’re able to stay the course and make progress.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:51 PM
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Thank you for your advice! Being vulnerable has never come naturally or easy to me and it’s something that I desperately want to work on.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:49 PM
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I needed to read that. I absolutely need to stop acting helpless and put in the work to fix this. These are all seemingly simple things to implement that I think will make a big difference, thank you for your advice.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:49 PM
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Thank you! He isn’t giving 100% right now but I feel that he would if he knew that I was. We’ve both kind of checked out. But I know he loves me and the kids and wants to see me happy. My life and my kids lives would 100% be much harder without him. I really need to remember this in the midst of my stress and bad moods.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:47 PM
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Thank you, I have left the group. It wasn’t doing me any good, it was doing just the opposite. I think I will sit him down and apologize to him for all of the things I’ve been doing that I mentioned in my post. It’s felt hard to do because I hate putting all the blame on myself without him taking any accountability for his own actions that led us here but that exact mindset is what got me here in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:44 PM
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Thank you for this. I’ve been neglecting myself for over 3 years. My husband has a hard time understanding why I would need a break if I’m at home all day, it’s something that has been an ongoing issue between us. Another commenter suggested that I pose my needs as an issue that I want his help on as the leader of the marriage, so I’m going to try to go about it this way.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:41 PM
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Thank you for your advice! I’m absolutely going to start writing down something I appreciate about him everyday. I’ve gotten in a terrible habit of focusing on what I’m unhappy about with him instead of focusing on the good. I absolutely do need to start being okay with certain things not being done. I can have perfectionistic tendencies and when things don’t go the perfect way I want them to go in my head I get frustrated with myself and everyone around me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:37 PM
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You hit the nail on the head with all of this! It really is just an echo chamber of negativity, no one ever posts the upsides to being a SAHM. I have left the group. I thought that it was a place that I could feel understood, but I realize now that it just makes me feel angry and resentful. I really needed to read your unpopular opinions. Venting absolutely makes me feel worse, never has it made me feel better. The strategies you have suggested are exactly how I would like to act on a daily basi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:35 PM
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Thank you. I have followed your advice (and others) and have left the group. I absolutely need to get in the habit of asking myself that question before complaining because it never gets me the result I want. The complaining comes out of my mouth before I even think about it, I just do it on autopilot which is something I really need to work on.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 02:29 PM
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