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| 7 | The Ultimate (Red Pill) Guide to make your man happy and head over heels in love with you (never be worried about younger women ever again) Part 1I thought Fresh+Fit were better at spelling and grammar.... Okay, but for real...your post/comment history indicates you have a girlfriend who is faithful to you yet manages your Tinder account so you can have sex with other women. Most women on this sub are not interested in that, and if they were friends with your girlfriend in real life, they would probably advise her to break up with you and then begin a "glow-up." Your girlfriend according to you would also prefer that you have sex with 24 … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Crafty feminine hobbiesCrochet >>> knitting. I scored major points with my man early on because of my skills. Made him a custom Afghan for our first Christmas together too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/22 01:24 PM |
| 7 | Handling break up gracefully & healingI am just genuinely so lost because I thought we would get married, we talked about it so much. He was my first love. I’m putting so much time and effort on working on myself and doing inner work, but it still hurts. You're going to be in hell for a while, darling. Grief is a desert that must be crossed on foot. I was in roiling pain for months after my first real relationship ended, and I didn't want it to end either. It also happened in summer 2020 during lockdowns, so I didn't have any social… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 02:34 PM |
| 11 | Handling break up gracefully & healingDid he initiate the breakup or did you? From the tenor of your post, it sounds like he did. In that case, just keep doing the work and let him contact you when he’s ready. He’s probably expecting you to keep reaching out and bugging him, especially given the mental health struggles. Don’t do that. Just disappear and stop contacting him, his friends, and his family. Stay off his social media too. That’s no contact. The silence will get to him. You’re playing the long game. Either you’ll meet some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 01:16 PM |
| 3 | My husband wants me to change jobs but I love where I work. Thoughts?Could you give more detail on the “negative experiences” in psych that have your husband so worried? A patient trying to SA you (like in the other unit) is no joke, and the lack of detail makes this post kind of one-sided. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 01:08 PM |
| 11 | How do I help a strong, stubborn, and unyielding man to understand the value of an apology?Abuse is beyond the scope of RPW. We usually try to avoid giving the advice of "Leave him!" since it's no small thing, and Reddit tends to throw it around far too casually. But that doesn't apply here. Since it's unlikely you'll believe me when I tell you that you deserve much better (source: this is how abuse victims think), look at it this way. Do you trust this man to not hit or spit on your children? Do you think he'll treat them with love and respect? Get. Out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 06:22 PM |
| 10 | Girl Game: What are ways you invite men to chase you?I had this problem for a while too: not being my warm, open self toward the guys I liked, and being that person around the guys I didn’t like because I didn’t feel nervous. It was so frustrating (“I like his friend though, why am I getting this guy on my back right now? Ugh!”). This is great advice. Getting more comfortable with talking to people in general will help you with this, OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 11:38 AM |
| 2 | I just got banned from one subreddit for participating in this one…Welcome to the party, love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/22 09:05 PM |
| 14 | Interesting discussion between two RPW and one 4th wave feminist discussing Red pill lifestyleI'm familiar with Ally's content, but don't know who the host or the other two women are. Less than 20 minutes into the video, it made me sad to hear the way Koko speaks about being "just a wife." To her, being a good man's wife is not aspirational, and not a position of honor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/22 01:42 AM |
| 5 | Is it feminist of me to do strength workouts? Is that a problem if it is?I would just leave it unless he brings it up again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/22 08:52 PM |
| 34 | Is it feminist of me to do strength workouts? Is that a problem if it is?Strength training is not a weird or feminist thing, and it certainly will not make you super bulky...as you know from your own physique. Keep at it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/22 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Am I overreacting for leaving my ex?We would get into arguments and he would call me stupid, a cunt, bitch, told me to cut my wrists No, you're not overreacting. Also, you've posted here multiple times before about this man over the past year, and you appear to still be struggling. Everyone here (myself included) reminded you that abuse is beyond the scope of RPW and advised you to leave and seek counseling. Stop turning to Reddit for help and find in-person support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 07:18 PM |
| 11 | Redpill Success storyAbsolutely. He also went out of his way -- unprompted -- to let me know that given his age and situation (1 semester left of school), he obviously doesn't have the wealth, living situation, or career status that a guy my age (26) would have. So it would necessarily take a little longer to reach certain milestones (e.g. popping the question), and he was telling me, "don't stress about me like you would about somebody your age or older who has all of those resources but is just unserious about you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 04:36 PM |
| 22 | Redpill Success storyCongratulations! My man is ~22 but has more maturity and drive than other men I've met who were pushing 30. Watching him grow in his career and his masculinity over the past year has been joyful and a lot of fun! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 04:18 PM |
| 15 | Why is there such a stark difference in how charming 90s actresses were in interviews vs now?If you want to see an even greater contrast, look at how Vivien Leigh conducted herself during her Oscar acceptance speech for Gone With the Wind. Or how Joanne Woodward came across when she and Paul Newman made a guest appearance on What's My Line? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 03:15 PM |
| 7 | What are your favorite tips for keeping things feminine and sexy?On my own, I tend to get in ruts when I don't feel good about my body. +1 to everything u/Strixt said. Treating yourself to something nice also can help -- you've already done that, it sounds like :) As far as passively initiating....I guess I'm usually flirty and affectionate throughout the day anyway (we spend weekends together), and that sends him the message that I'm down for sex. I have a more specific suggestion for the times where you're lounging around on the couch together (e.g. having … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 12:54 AM |
| 2 | How to get more confidence and get less insecure about my body and feel more confident in the bedroom. Advice?Go to the gym and lift heavy. Make sure you eat enough to build muscle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 11:50 AM |
| 18 | Boyfriend said he ”could’ve strung me along but didn’t” when we first started datingAgreed. This is one of those "non-things" that you keep to yourself and don't share until much later when there's more trust between the two of you and it's further in the past. Because if you say it and it comes out wrong, the non-thing is now a thing, and a tiff like this happens. And before somebody jumps on me about what "non-things" are, I'm not referring to actual bad things like cheating or lying. What I mean is, perhaps more private matters that are your responsibility to deal with and n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 08:14 PM |
| 7 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.Yeah OP, I'm not sure what you're trying to gain here with this post. You made a post discussing your trust issues and the (non-monogamous?) situation with this boyfriend. People have shared that it sounds like you're only going along with it because you don't trust him (or any guy) not to cheat on you, and a post title like "I think I've completely given up on loyalty" sounds morose. Nobody wants you to feel that way, so why are you getting mad at people who point this out to you? I agree with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Always feel like im not feminine enough. How to be more gentle?I've been working on this too for most of this year. I felt much better once I learned to moderate the volume of my voice and cut down on the swearing, especially when we're around other people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 09:07 PM |
| 35 | High Body Count Woman (27 years old)-Advice on finding a decent guy where we can accept one another's pasts?Agree with all of this. The n-count is not your problem, OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/22 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Noncommittal pseudo not boyfriendYou’re so right! There’s literally a scene like that in The Godfather where a very pregnant Connie loses it because of her husband’s BS. I will point out though that this isn’t unique to men. Abusive women do this too. Some do it to their husbands because they want to provoke a physical fight, then play the victim. I’ve been on the receiving end of verbal and emotional abuse from a family member that got me to completely break, so then I looked like the crazy one while she flipped the script and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/22 12:09 PM |
| 4 | Noncommittal pseudo not boyfriendHe and are are so compatible on every level. he consistently cheats and dates secretaries and paralegals. It’s very bizarre. Are you sure? Look deeper. I can’t help thinking what about me “wasn’t enough.” Babe, 2 years ago, I was cheated on and dumped. Trust me, it's not your fault. But since I've been there, the reality is that no matter what I or anybody else says to you, you're going to feel like you weren't enough for a little while. You're also probably going to feel ashamed because you wer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 06:40 PM |
| 21 | Age gap experiences/pros and cons?First, I'm going to echo u/ScratchyCatCakes's point: This question is going to get a range of answers because it is subjective. It really depends on the woman's preferences, as well as her dating history. You're not wrong in that it feels more natural to defer to a man when he's 5 or more years older than you. I have dated two different men who were older than me. One was 32 when I was 21, and the other was 28 when I was 22. The one who was 32 was actually divorced and had two kids. Both of them… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 05:57 PM |
| 47 | Noncommittal pseudo not boyfriendI don’t know how to come to terms with this other than to cut him out of my life. If you're asking for advice on how to respond to this dude's trash behavior, I think you've answered your own question. I'm also a little curious....this guy had a messy divorce, refused to commit to you for two years, refused to "let you" tell anyone that you're seeing each other, and was seeing other women. What exactly is it that keeps you hooked on him, even though the dynamic is clearly unhealthy? You really n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Advice from the ladies here, what is up with modern dating?Yeah, I can’t tell if this post is petting the unicorns by ranting about other women, or a rant directed at us not meeting his standards. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 11:36 AM |
| 9 | Advice from the ladies here, what is up with modern dating?Please post in one of the men’s Red Pill subs instead. We have strict rules on men posting here, and a crude, mean-spirited, and badly written rant supposedly asking “wHeRe ThE wHoLeSoMe WoMeN aT?” is absolutely not welcome here. I’ll also add that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. If you keep meeting and dating bad women who don’t have the right values and behave like “hoes,” that’s on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 11:30 AM |
| 3 | Alpha Widowhood - A GuideIn my experience, it helps for sure. I wouldn't consider this being Alpha Widowed since he was not at all an Alpha, but one thing my ex had going for him was his athletic ability. He's an excellent runner, and since I also ran but wasn't as fast as I wanted to be, I admired that about him. When we broke up, I threw myself into running and got into a consistent 30mpw routine, plus some strength training. I did it partly because I wanted to prove that getting faster was attainable for me. 8 months… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 11:57 AM |
| 25 | Beautiful ladies, how do you show you’re demure to your Captain?Former insecure people-pleaser here. People-pleasing is unhealthy. You are doing things from a place of insecurity because you want people to like you, and you think that if you don't, they'll hate you. And even when you do those things, you worry that people still secretly hate you. You're also very easy to take advantage of, and not many people respect you. Most importantly, you are terrified of conflict and will hold things in, only to have a meltdown when you've been walked over too much and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 08:32 PM |
| 9 | I recently found out I have been cheated on and lied to for a yearI've been in a situation similar to yours in some ways. My situation involved cheating, yes, but not quite the level of emotional dishonesty that yours did (as far as I know). I do think that part of why he dated me for so long was because I made him look very good to his family and friends; in fact, two of his male friends both tried to make a move after we broke up. First, it sounds like you haven't dumped him yet. The next time you see him, make sure you have screenshots of what you found sav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/22 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Please leave this RedditBi woman here. I still have plenty of gay friends, and of course, NAGALT. However. OP had the gall to suggest that my boyfriend (who shares my traditional values) is just abusing me....and yet I've witnessed actual physical and sexual abuse within the progressive, kinky, sex-positive, liberation-is-everything gay community. Every single one of the people in that community viewed women who reject second/third-wave feminism and embrace a traditional life exactly the same way he clearly does. I rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/22 02:30 AM |
| 4 | Femininity makes people treat you better!I suppose -- I kind of thought OP was just referring to how she dressed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 08:37 PM |
| 28 | Femininity makes people treat you better!I've experienced this too, but I think your overall vibe is part of it. If you're wearing a dress+heels and have your makeup done, but you come across as hard and pissed off, people won't be as inclined to treat you better. I've also noticed that little kids tend to stare at me more, and if I coo at a baby while walking down the street, the parents will usually smile back or say thank you. Children especially are wired to respond to femininity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Where is the best place to meet RedPillWomen?If you had read our guidelines for men posting in here, you'd know the answer to that question. As I said, the women here are looking for more than just being middle-aged dude's mistress. Please get out of here and tend to your wife and children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Where is the best place to meet RedPillWomen?I'm speaking for this sub's rules for men posting here. RPW is not your space to find single women so you can continue to cheat on your wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Where is the best place to meet RedPillWomen?You're married. The women here are not interested in you, and we discourage adultery. Stop petting Reddit unicorns and go to your wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Where is the best place to meet RedPillWomen?I'll defer to the mods, but I think this question is better suited for TRP. There's a difference between posting in TRP to ask, "Hi guys, where do I find single women with traditional values?" and "Hi single women with traditional values, where do I find you?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.Preach! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/22 01:22 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with men who are close to you but are not your husband?If I'm reading this correctly...your husband's brother raped you? My God....I'm going to step away for a second before I finish typing this. Look, I don't agree with the three of you living together when you did, as I think the dynamic of your husband-then-boyfriend trying to use you to make his brother jealous was...weird. And no, I'm not victim-blaming here. If one of my girlfriends asked me if she should go into that living situation, I'd advise her against it because I'd prefer to have more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 09:21 PM |
| 3 | The importance of not oversharing about sexNope! As I said, he’s a very private person regarding certain things, and our sex life is one of them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 10:59 AM |
| 20 | How do you get over your boyfriend looking at other woman onlineCould you add more detail to your post? Specifically: How did you find out? How long have you been together and what is your relationship like? Have you brought this up to him? If so, how did it go? In general, has he shown any red flags regarding infidelity or porn? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 01:57 AM |
| 18 | How do you get over your boyfriend looking at other woman onlineMine doesn't....although like the other ladies here, I'm wondering what specifically you're talking about. More detail please? If he's just following some acquaintances from HS or college that happen to be pretty, that's nothing to get alarmed over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 01:47 AM |
| 2 | The importance of not oversharing about sexThank you for the compliment! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | The importance of not oversharing about sexYeah I disagree with you somewhat on this, but so long as your girlfriend respects your boundaries, good for you! And thanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:50 PM |
| 4 | The importance of not oversharing about sexCompletely agree with this. I think a few other users have posted here about the importance of not complaining any issues you have with your man to other people, especially in front of him. That can make him feel "smaller than a hobbit." | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:49 PM |
| 1 | The importance of not oversharing about sexAgreed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:48 PM |
| 1 | The importance of not oversharing about sexThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:47 PM |
| 2 | The importance of not oversharing about sexThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:47 PM |
| 4 | The importance of not oversharing about sexAgreed. That’s part of why I wrote the post. Women are generally prone to oversharing with our girlfriends even though we’d be pissed if our men were oversharing with their bros. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 08:11 PM |
| 9 | The importance of not oversharing about sexI think you're just over-reading my post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 01:33 PM |
| 2 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.I don't share your attitude toward sex, and I don't want to get personal. So I'll just reiterate that this subreddit strongly discourages casual sex, regardless of your intentions with the guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 01:27 PM |
| 9 | The importance of not oversharing about sexI also personally don’t want to be with a man that is so insanely different in front of people that it would be a shock for people to find out he is kind and affectionate behind closed doors. Whatever works for you, I won't comment on. But I will defend my man on this point, as you're suggesting he treats me coldly in front of people and kindly in private. Anybody who knows us both could tell you that we obviously care for each other, and that he is kind and affectionate, both in public and behi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 12:52 PM |
| 26 | The importance of not oversharing about sexThat’s precisely why I made a post about it. 20yo me did not understand this at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 11:39 AM |
| 10 | Opening up about your pastDepends on what you're discussing. You can be honest with someone about what they want to know without answering questions they don't want the answer to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/22 03:26 PM |
| 1 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.That's the thing! In only one of these situations did I know the guy had recently broken up with an Ex. That's a good reason to walk away, especially when paired with the fact that the guy was not interested in a monogamous LTR. If you don't walk away at that point, then what exactly are your standards? In 2 other situations I had no idea that they had a crush on a female friend because they literally never talked about her. But like you said, you have never been in a monogamous LTR, only open r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 11:37 AM |
| 27 | Help me say no to this situationshipYou said yourself that you need to respect yourself more, and that you just don’t want to hurt his ego. This guy very clearly just wants the sex, and if you don’t think you can be friends with him without him initiating it or you giving in, you should cut him off. I know that sounds harsh, but when dating, you need to learn to be sweet with your words while ruthless with your actions. You don’t have to be rude about it. Next time he asks, just send a simple text saying “I don’t think we should s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 11:14 AM |
| 25 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.And you’re still talking like this guy was a “good guy” and it was the other girls fault. That’s simply not true. OP still putting her ex on a pedestal jumped out at me in this post more than anything. Glad somebody else noticed it too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 02:05 PM |
| 3 | Public Exercise and Attention Seeking BehaviorIs that directed at the guys’ behavior or me dressing a certain way? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 12:41 PM |
| 7 | Public Exercise and Attention Seeking BehaviorYou're still getting over an abusive relationship, and so yes, your judgment is impaired a bit in favor of your ex's unreasonable standards. Changing your boundaries is not necessarily being done out of spite; you're allowed to figure things out for yourself. If this helps, I'm a runner and a lifter. When it gets warmer outside, I wear a sports bra and track shorts. If it gets warm enough in my gym, I wear it there too; otherwise it's usually a sports bra, maybe with a cropped tank, and high-wai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 11:57 AM |
| 11 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.First, it sounds like you're still over-valuing your ex because you haven't hit it off with anybody new yet. It's a normal part of the grieving process, so I won't begrudge you that so long as you don't do anything stupid (i.e. reach out to him, stalk the other girl, have sex with one of his friends). How are you coping with the breakup? If you can upgrade your hobbies and get hotter in the meantime, you'll come out of this mess smelling like a rose. For example: I started consistently lifting, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 11:49 AM |
| 4 | What to do when your partner is in a heated situation? I don’t want to undermine his masculinity but I also really dislike this type of confrontation.Well the question of guns and safety is not one I'm willing to deliberate in the comments section, as it's beyond the scope of this subreddit. You should be having that conversation with your fiancé, not us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 12:14 AM |
| 6 | What to do when your partner is in a heated situation? I don’t want to undermine his masculinity but I also really dislike this type of confrontation.My go-to answer honestly is that your man should be a licensed gun owner. If you bring that concern to him, he'll probably try and fix the problem. My guy learned how to shoot when he was very young and owns firearms. I trust him with my life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 08:00 PM |
| 6 | What to do when your partner is in a heated situation? I don’t want to undermine his masculinity but I also really dislike this type of confrontation.Story time: Last fall, my boyfriend and I were at a crowded and poorly designed gas station in the city, waiting our turn along with a bunch of other cars. One car pulled out of a pump and left, so my boyfriend pulled into its place, not realizing that the car facing us at the pump ahead of ours was about to leave. The woman in the passenger seat got out of the car (which wasn't even on) and started yelling at my boyfriend. He just raised his voice (not yelled) back at her, saying that if she wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 07:45 PM |
| 3 | Seeking advice on showing respect to my boyfriendLeave this dude in the dust. Your instincts are right: A man who actually valued you would never treat you this way. This breakup happened because of his own issues, not because you weren't feminine or red-pilled enough. It's normal to feel conflicted about how to handle the positive stuff. Anyone who's ever been in a bad, toxic, or abusive relationship can tell you that. The good behavior 1000% does not cancel out the bad behavior. I recommend following the advice of u/girlwithasidecar in regar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/22 06:14 PM |
| 24 | I'm not sure if my boyfriend is "name-calling" and I don't know how to communicate effectively about it.It's not in your head. This is verbal/emotional abuse. I'll also add (since nobody else has) that him telling you that you're narcissistic/depressed/bipolar/sociopathic is classic gaslighting. He's 15 years older than you and should know better. You're not married. I know this sub usually advises against people in the comments telling the OP to break it off, but I'm pretty sure this is an exception to the rule. Leave him. Finally, seek out either therapy or books on abuse dynamics to heal from w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/22 02:03 AM |
| 16 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?Your post reads like everything’s great…except you’re not attracted to him. Sadly, this is something you can’t hamster your way into feeling for a guy; either you desire him, or you don’t. And this lack of desire for him will come to the surface over time, no matter how much you try to make this relationship work. You deserve someone who you can’t keep your hands off of and who shares your values. You can find him. Think of it this way: flip the positions. You’re treating a guy really well and r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 05:26 PM |
| 14 | Just saying yes to sex has made him more affectionate!You might want to familiarize yourself with our Wiki to better understand our attitude toward relationships, sex, and the differences between men/women. OP said she's very happy, her SO is very happy....what's the problem? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/22 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Book Club: Anna Karenina Part 4When my friends asked me about Anna Karenina, I would often say that the book was like a chess game where characters (*cough cough* Anna especially) make wrong move after wrong move until ultimately they're cornered in a tragedy with no good choices. Part 4, as you observed, contains a TON of wrong moves. I'll also add that I saw the 2012 adaptation before reading the book, and neither Vronsky's suicide attempt nor Karenin's offer of divorce was included. Both were shocking to me when I read the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Book Club: Anna Karenina Part 4: TeaserI finished the book in April, but I'm happy to still participate in the discussion (w/o spoilers)! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/22 08:49 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with moodiness and doubt.I've done this before and have been working really hard on not doing this kind of stuff in my current relationship (namely not talking as much or being curt when I'm upset about something, and looking for small problems to validate my fear of the other shoe dropping). I'm proud to say that we're both happy! Honestly, unless there's something seriously wrong with your relationship (e.g. he's mistreating you), you have to learn to break the patterns. You probably learned them from either bad/abusi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Looking for opinions on seeking attention from other people in regards to self image.This is exactly how I feel about it. I want to protect my body, not show it off every chance I get. My boyfriend loves my body, we have a great sex life, and that's all I need! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 07:46 PM |
| 14 | Go. To. The. Gym.This is absolutely true. This time last year, I lifted primarily to supplement the running/cycling I was doing to train for a couple of races. Today, I have more muscle on my body and can lift heavier and with better form. Granted, I weigh more because of it and am a little less lean, but my boyfriend is proud of how much I can lift! Also....he loves my booty. Like, I don't think he cares that my breasts have been getting smaller so long as there's more booty to play with. It makes the struggle-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Straight men and women being friends - advice please!Keep it strictly professional and don't socialise / hang out with guys in the first place - especially one-on-one. I basically just said this. I don't get where you're disagreeing with me (especially since you copy-pasted this from another comment of yours). Are you saying that the platonic interactions with male acquaintances/friends are a problem, even if a woman isn't interested? Are you saying that it isn't okay to be friendly with any guys in a mixed group of friends? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 01:30 PM |
| 17 | Straight men and women being friends - advice please!#1: I'd say yes, you can be friends with guys. Just not "close" friends where you're hanging out one-on-one a lot. The one exception is that one of my best friends for a while was gay, and we would go out to dinner together a lot. Of course, nothing inappropriate ever happened....because he's gay. In general, not being alone with any of them is a good boundary; most male friends who were interested in me would make advances once I was single and willing to be alone with them. #2: It's not your r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 12:40 PM |
| 9 | Fwb is wrong on so many levels. No woman should entertain it.This is a subreddit for women. You're both men. This childish back-and-forth in the comments is not helpful. You're welcome to share opinions that are in line with our rules/wiki (see "Man here"). Otherwise, don't be surprised when the mods remove your comments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Relationship milestones/anniversaries?We usually just say "Happy [x] months honey/babe/[other term of endearment]" and move on. I'll update this comment with what we do, if anything, at the one-year mark. In my last serious relationship, we didn't really do that, mainly because we started out as best friends. I think this caused the boundaries between friends --> dating and dating --> relationship to blur, so at least for me, I couldn't tell you when our anniversary was. I could tell you what month we started dating, but not an exac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/22 08:17 PM |
| 3 | Any homemaking and meal inspiration?I pulled a great lunch out of nowhere using what I had in my fridge. - Chopped pork tenderloin, cooked in olive oil and a tiny bit of butter for flavor; - Organic kale - Chopped honeycrisp apple - Chopped cucumber - 3 soft-boiled eggs - Gyoza dipping sauce for dressing (or any dressing with a bit of a salty/umami kick) It's a pretty delicious veggie-and-protein-heavy salad if I do say so myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/22 06:35 PM |
| 49 | Caught him on a dating app again so I think it's really over nowBecause this guy wants options. He can introduce you to family and still behave like a jackass. Also since he’s older, he knows you’re more likely to stick around having met his family, and read something into it even after you’ve caught him on a dating app (cheating? Not clear if you two are actually boyfriend-girlfriend). Everything about him and his behavior is just “ew” to me from reading your post. Dump and block. (Edit: Having read your post history, it appears this guy has a history of mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/22 11:14 AM |
| 10 | Being feminine landed me a good boyfriend!You're doing a beautiful job! Very happy for you. (Also privately kicking myself a bit for continuing to be a horror show of bad feminist influences when I was your age...trust me, whatever happens next with this guy, you're still young and you're doing great). | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/22 06:35 PM |
| 6 | Is this a sign that men aren’t attracted to me?I’ll defer to the mods, but I’m pretty sure we have a rule against posts like this that include a photo of OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/22 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstWomen tend to do that when things are too good. We have to look for drama. I've recently noticed my tendency to do this as well. Coming from a dysfunctional family and then a relationship that ended in cheating, I almost don't know how to deal with a happy, healthy relationship where I'm respected and treated beautifully. My brain just....reacts and panics sometimes over the tiniest things, to the point where (if he's not around) I feel almost certain that everything about our relationship is fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 04:24 PM |
| 6 | I'm considering breaking up with my other wise high value boyfriend because of something he said but don't know if I'm being too rashI agree with this comment. OP, judging from your post history, it sounds like you're either not sure about this guy in general, or you overreact to little things. Relationships require a certain degree of maturity (among other things) from both parties in order to work. I'm not at all giving your boyfriend a pass here (he needs to learn that sexual matters need to remain private between the two of you -- this is certainly not a "little thing"), but I think you could use a little time to grow up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 04:09 PM |
| 10 | Trying to understand / Am I in the right place?Of course you are. Not all of us are moms, not all of us are homemakers, not all of us are married or in relationships. Some of the women here are more liberal, some are not religious at all. I'm a STEM grad student who's in a relationship, dating for marriage, and would be willing to give up my job once I'm married and children are on the way. I've also warmed up a lot to the idea of home-schooling my kids in the past year and a half. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 03:02 PM |
| 4 | Trying to understand / Am I in the right place?Agreed with u/gd_reinvent, that's such a beautiful skill to have. You sound lovely, welcome! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 03:02 PM |
| 5 | What's a good balance between doing what you want and what your boyfriend wants?I have a small gold stud in my nostril and several small-but-dainty piercings in my ears. I’m all set with what I have, and my boyfriend is happy with it too (they were all done before we met). Please don’t pierce your lip. Having seen photos, I can tell you that that piercing is gaudy, and I don’t blame your boyfriend for not wanting you to get it. I get the appeal at your age, but in general I’d advise waiting at least a year or two after you first experience the desire to pierce your face som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/22 12:22 PM |
| 72 | break up adviceI don't suspect her of being attracted to my bf because of her personality but she is very immature. Uh..... Leaving me a "funny" little note in my bfs car about how she was here first, trying to sit on his lap during a party, etc. He also let it slip that she hated me which upset me greatly. being her chauffer and hanging out with her everyday, multiple times a day She's immature and likes your boyfriend. She wants you out of the way. I don't care what underlying mental health issues she has, t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/22 07:50 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on cohabitation during a lease gap (3 weeks)?I should add: My boyfriend has known since early on about my convictions, so it's not like saying "no" in and of itself would've been a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/22 01:57 PM |
| 20 | Mrs. Midwest is so pretty.Hardcore feminists don't actually think women should be allowed to make the choices she's made (look up Betty Friedan, Simone de Beauvoir for example). Women getting married, women staying at home, women's maternal instincts for children, women taking care of their feminine beauty.....none of these are conducive to liberation and therefore are considered harmful. I've never been happier since I started doing the exact opposite of what modern feminists want me to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 08:44 PM |
| 24 | Mrs. Midwest is so pretty.I've been taking a LOT of inspiration from Mrs. Midwest lately: her demeanor, her penchant for long dresses and skirts, the way she seems to handle her personal hardships with grace. I like her even more now that she's a mother because it's like getting a look into the future I hope to have one day when I have children of my own. I would *love* to look after my little children and make them laugh and smile the way she does with hers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 08:33 PM |
| 5 | Struggling to feel feminine when I look masculineAlso fat goes to my thighs first unfortunately. As somebody who also tends to store body fat in the thighs/butt, this is not a bad thing. In addition to not becoming overweight, one of the best things you can do to work with your body shape is to lift heavy (squats/deadlifts/hip thrusts). It will not make you look like a bodybuilder, but rather help you build a healthy amount of muscle and enhance your feminine body shape. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Need advice on best friendI don't understand why her not knowing the truth about what he's said about her behind her back is justification for you leaving the friendship. "I can't be friends with you anymore because he's your friend but doesn't actually like you." However, the latter reason you gave (she is willing to still be his friend despite witnessing the abuse) is very justified. I would absolutely recommend leaving the friendship over this. Being close friends with your ex's close friends/family is tricky and ill-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/22 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend wants to help me with estranged family; I don't know how to trust himRereading my post, I appreciate your concern and don't blame you for having it. It was just me being irrational and struggling with emotions related to attachment. My boyfriend has never, ever said or done something to make me feel that way. That aside, I'll look into the meetings. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/22 02:37 PM |
| 16 | Thoughts on cooking for boyfriend?I would say go for it! So long as you don’t live with him before marriage/engagement, you’re not “giving too much.” Think of it like this: you’ve got a chance to give him a taste of what it might be like to be married to you. To have you cook for him every night. To spend time in a clean, well-managed home (even if it’s a small apartment, but you get my drift). To be taken care of in a way that only his lady knows how to do. Just don’t agree to live with him before you’re married or engaged with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/22 10:10 PM |
| 11 | Being from a toxic family as a RPWI also come from a dysfunctional family. My father is an alcoholic, and my mother was verbally and emotionally abusive. Her behavior patterns are consistent with Cluster B personality disorders (I think she has a mix of narcissistic and borderline PD). I have been estranged from them by my choice for over 3 years. This will be a long comment, but I'll try to be succinct about what I've learned, and what I think would help you. First, I think you're right to be concerned about the impact of an ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/22 02:30 PM |
| 13 | Past exes and love interests coming back when they "sense" you're in a happy relationshipTo your first question: I wouldn't indulge this. Do not ruminate on why these guys are coming back now when they could've pursued you then. You're not interested in them anymore, so it's not productive to wonder about their uncanny ability to "sense" your change in LTR status. To your second question: The answer is to have very clear boundaries for what is appropriate. Physical touch and flirting should be avoided, of course. I'm going to recommend two understated rules to help you out, one for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/22 02:54 PM |
| 2 | How to not feel guilty about money in a relationship?Exactly. Thanks for helping to take out the trash :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 04:01 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel guilty about money in a relationship?He will. Every comment this clown has made here, I've reported. Very easy to do, as he's broken multiple rules. Any of the mods should be able to see that he's just harassing us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 03:39 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel guilty about money in a relationship?This dude's a troll, don't worry. If you look at his comment history, he's been spamming this subreddit for like 20+ minutes with drivel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Just got out of the most stimulating relationship I think I will ever haveAh......that's a good one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Just got out of the most stimulating relationship I think I will ever haveUh did I miss something? Where did "prison" come from? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 01:39 AM |
| 20 | Just got out of the most stimulating relationship I think I will ever haveJust checking to see if my understanding is correct: You were together for ~4 years, he wanted a break about 5 months ago, and then finally told you it was over for good a few days ago. Why did the two of you break up, and what were the two flaws you mentioned? As a general response to your breakup, all I will say is that grief is a desert that has to be crossed on foot. You're in for it. It takes time. For a while, you will probably still be convinced that he was the one. I've been there, and y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 09:19 PM |
| 12 | The ‘why are you still single’ question...It's partially a compliment ("You're so gorgeous and fun, how could you possibly be single?"). It's also meant to probe ("Is there something wrong with you I should know about?"). You could always offer a little more detail when you're being truthful. Perhaps give a few examples of how you felt before, and what you did to get over your social anxiety? If a guy then slaps that down to imply you're lying, he's the one that looks bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 01:13 PM |
| 7 | Going from lesbian to straightBi woman here. I experienced something similar to what you're experiencing now. When you have gay relationships or hang around a lot of people who are gay or gender-nonconforming, and you do this for a really long time while you're young, something like RPW seems totally alien. Dressing feminine, respecting your man in a way that flatters his masculinity, carrying yourself in a feminine way....all of this was unheard of to me. Much like you, I didn't understand the masculine-feminine dynamic in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 01:08 PM |
| 9 | Going from lesbian to straightWe have lemon bars. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 12:57 PM |
| 12 | I messed up. I feel guilty about what I did to my ex bfThis is the only correct answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/22 05:10 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways you've experienced pretty privilege?I'll answer this question from the perspective of someone who was once unattractive due to my own lifestyle choices a few years back (dyed my hair wacky colors, had 40-50 extra pounds on me and little-to-no physical fitness, wore beanies and flannels and baggy clothes to hide my body shape, didn't know how to apply makeup properly). Here are some behavioral changes I've experienced specifically from other people: - People randomly compliment me in stores or on the street sometimes. Usually women… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/22 04:24 AM |
| 10 | "Waity Katie", or How to Know Your Man Intends to Marry YouI wasn't going to respond to this comment, but given your post/comment history, I think I should. Your comment belongs in TRP, not in a women's space. I'll let the mods make their own judgments. This male perspective is not new to the women in this subreddit. We know that no-fault divorce screws over men. We know about the alimony laws. We know that men are taking a risk when they ask us to marry them, and we're here in part because we aren't interested in plundering a man's resources+wealth via… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/22 03:43 PM |
| 6 | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?- Today and tomorrow's weather! Spring has finally come to my state, and it is so lovely outside! - Progress in putting together my dissertation committee. 3 people on it now, just need one more! - A new yarn project, it's gonna be a gorgeous cardigan :) - I wore a summer maxi dress today, and did my hair and makeup. Par for the course, but I really felt beautiful in my office and walking around campus. Most grad students don't make any effort, and I'm grateful that looking put-together is a hab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/22 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Caught my boyfriend lying again, not sure how to go about itYeah the fact he's still talking to this girl is a detail you should've added in the original post. I couldn't tell if you were upset because he never removed her from Snapchat or because they were still talking and he hadn't disclosed the prior history. What they were talking about is relevant, but since you didn't discuss it here, I'll assume it was inconsequential. However, I don't think that the snooping through his social media and chats to see who he's been talking to or who he's friends w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/22 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Book Club: Anna Karenina Part 3Part 3 was surprising for me when it comes to Anna's character, as you illuminated here. I've seen the 2012 movie adaptation, and they made several changes to make her character less volatile, less nasty toward her husband, and less selfish in the scenes that comprise Parts 1-3. Many of the scenes in this part aren't even in the film. We'll see how the rest compares. I was face-palming so hard when I read about Vronsky's financial situation. My understanding actually was that he received the bul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/22 02:28 PM |
| 28 | Shower thoughts: being waterFirst observation: The idea of adaptability as a part of femininity reminds me of The Five Faces of the Perfect Wife, which I apply in my relationship even though I'm not married or a mother. It's a good skill to be able to adapt to the situations we're in with our men and what is required at any given time, without letting the roles bleed over into each other (i.e. by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time). I would be mortified if his family or friends had even an idea of what goes on in the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/22 03:48 PM |
| 2 | He wants me to live in a trailer. With my newborn baby. I'm struggling with accepting this idea, or considering it. But if I don't, for us to make any money we'll be seperated.I didn't think you were shaming or guilting OP. I'm also pro-life. (Disclaimer for the mods: Not at all trying to turn the comment section into an abortion debate, as that would probably just add to OP's stress. I know the sub's policy on moralizing). | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/22 05:09 PM |
| 14 | He wants me to live in a trailer. With my newborn baby. I'm struggling with accepting this idea, or considering it. But if I don't, for us to make any money we'll be seperated.What does your boyfriend do for a living? I'm getting the impression that he cares more about his pride than about actually providing a safe home for you and your baby. Unless he's a fool, he must know that this situation is untenable. You said yourself "I want to trust him to take care of me." You don't actually trust him to be able to do that, and your expectations are not too high. Whether you realize it or not, your maternal instincts are showing themselves in your post, as you're already co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/22 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend wants to help me with estranged family; I don't know how to trust himI elaborated more on this in my response to u/rosesonthefloor. I haven't seen any indicators that he's disloyal. Once during the week we spent with his parents, I was sitting in the car with his mother (only), and I asked her what she thought his best and worst qualities were. According to her, his best quality was that he's a "true blue." | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/22 01:49 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend wants to help me with estranged family; I don't know how to trust himHe has taken good care of me in the past whenever I've been stressed or sad. This is not an abusive guy in any sense. Rereading my post, I think a lot of what I've said about my fears of him leaving or my resistance to being sad around him has to do with me rather than him. I'm having a hard time because my brain is telling me, "He's a boyfriend and not a husband; if you screw up, he can leave whenever." I probably should have phrased my post around that conundrum rather than my estrangement. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/22 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend wants to help me with estranged family; I don't know how to trust himFair enough. For context, my boyfriend is not pressuring me to reconnect with my father and brother. I want a good relationship with my father and brother, or at the very least to apologize for the pain I caused them and to explain things from my side. My parents are still married, so I could perhaps convince my father that my mother needs help. I feel a moral obligation to do this, as I feel I was wrong to not offer him an explanation. But I also feel a moral obligation to protect my relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/22 06:09 AM |
| 41 | Am I too successful for my boyfriend?Could you give more context please? What do you do, and what does he do? How does his financial situation compare with yours? How has he been irresponsible during your relationship, and how long have you been together? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/22 01:07 PM |
| 81 | MonogamyFirst of all, OP you really need to break up your super-sentences with periods so it’s easier to read your posts. Second of all, this guy has more red flags than I can count. - He doesn’t want marriage. - He overhypes his sexual attractiveness to you for the sake of justifying his behavior. - He doesn’t want monogamy. - He told you after cheating on you multiple times with the same person that he doesn’t want monogamy, as though that makes it okay. - He didn’t tell you about his vasectomy; you f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 12:11 PM |
| 5 | Book Club: Anna Karenina: Part 2And it strikes me as odd that she hasn't considered leaving her husband. I know it would be highly abnormal, but she doesn't even entertain the idea. The list of references/footnotes in my copy actually explained this well. In Russia at the time, divorce could only be requested by the innocent party in an affair (Karenin). It required (1) the guilty party confess, or (2) concrete evidence of the guilty party's adultery (i.e. caught in the act, letters, etc.). Option #1 would have barred Anna fro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/22 03:42 PM |
| 22 | What are tell tale signs of a beta male?This is a great answer. Things like taking care of you when you're sick, helping with the babies in the middle of the night, comforting you when you're upset, will often be referred to as beta attributes, but that doesn't necessarily make a man beta, according to most of the women here. A HVM has these sorts of beta traits, while still being a strong leader. This is the key. I hate crying in front of other people when I'm upset, and it's very rare that I do. My man has been able to comfort me su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/22 01:10 AM |
| 14 | He broke up with me to work on himself, his mental health, and his careerAbout a month in of dating exclusively, he shared that he was going through some personal issues and wasn’t ready to enter into a relationship. When someone tells you who they are, believe them. I know what it's like to look back and remember the moments where you felt unsure or like something could go awry, and then have it ultimately cause your breakup. It's awful. I highly recommend going no-contact. It's selfish of him to keep you on the back-burner as a friend, whether he realizes it or not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 06:47 PM |
| 14 | Is dating really as horrific as it seems these days? Do I stand a chance? (Need words of encouragement more than anything else)A little more information about your relationship with your boyfriend would be helpful, namely how long you've been together and some additional context for the dealbreakers. I'm wondering what he lied about, for instance. You mentioned infidelity, which I assume means he has cheated on you? Or has he cheated in a past relationship, and you've learned this about him over time? If you think it's best to break up (which you should if he's dishonest and has cheated on you), do it immediately. I fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/22 09:07 PM |
| 6 | Is he giving me the silent treatment?Wait, so it's currently Saturday afternoon, and you're worried because he hasn't texted you since Friday night? He is divorced and has two children, so if he has at least partial custody, he may be taking care of them this weekend. He may have had something else to do. He's not necessarily giving you the silent treatment. Please relax. Also, I wouldn't read so much of a "contradiction" into what he said. He may have thought you felt well enough to have a chill night with him rather than going ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/22 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Supporting bf through unemployment - how long to wait for balance?I’m glad you pointed out him threatening to take commitment away if she refuses to let him hang around at her place all hours. This deadbeat has more red flags than a communist parade, but that bit was extra icky to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/22 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Supporting bf through unemployment - how long to wait for balance?Exactly what I thought of reading this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/22 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Completely F*cking Stumped…OP, I'm going to come down a little hard on you because you still seem mystified why this guy would all of a sudden not like you, and you don't seem to understand what we're saying. I hope this doesn't scare you away from RPW, as you're still young and could benefit from spending some time here and familiarizing yourself with the Sidebar and what we're about. First, as a general comment, you're young and you have some growing up to do. You (I guess) are good at deciphering your own emotions, lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/22 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Completely F*cking Stumped…Completely agree with all of this. Both of you were inconsiderate and mean-spirited throughout this series of encounters. He has odd breaks where we don’t talk or we block each other vice versa but it’s mostly just immature shit OP, why were the two of you blocking each other? Why even entertain a date from a guy who's doing this nonsense just because you're bored? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/22 03:52 AM |
| 2 | How to get him back?#1: Your advice to OP isn't really relevant considering that this guy broke up with her. Why give her a plan for how to argue with the guy with "male logic"? #2: You may want to look at my comment(s) on this post regarding OP's post/comment history. I think you'll find that this breakup may not necessarily be about the guy just not having time for her due to a new business venture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 05:36 PM |
| 9 | How to get him back?In response to your deleted comment: Not necessarily. I don't know how you contracted it, and it's not my business how you did. You may have contracted it from a past boyfriend who lied to you about being clean, for all I know. Here's what I do know: The two of you were long distance and having issues in the bedroom. This is your second boyfriend in the span of a year. The one before that, you told him you wanted to kill yourself, he sent you a meme in response, and you broke up with him. (Good … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 04:33 PM |
| 5 | How to get him back?Having looked through your post and comment history, I think there may be more to the story that he didn’t say and you’re not bringing up here. I won’t comment on anything specific since you’re obviously in an emotional state, but it wouldn’t surprise me if he just wasn’t that into you. Cease any and all contact with him immediately. Do a lot of work on yourself and get to know RPW really well since you are probably new here. Learn about what we call “nun mode.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Hookups are meaningless and damaging yet it is encouraged by society.I was going to suggest this same thing. I had to tap out after the first two paragraphs even though I agreed with what I (thought I) was reading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 12:24 AM |
| 15 | Very confused in my relationship and where to go from here.Completely agree with everyone else's comments. OP, the joking about beating you is pretty bad, but given what you said about the way he treats you when under the influence of alcohol, I would leave him ASAP. If you marry him, and this continues, it will most likely turn into full-blown alcoholism and domestic abuse toward you. The odds are more likely if anyone in your boyfriend's family tended to abuse alcohol. Context: I used to abuse alcohol while I was in college. I would turn into the wors… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/22 10:17 PM |
| 6 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.In my experience, there's a lot of selfish, entitled, petty women on r/FemaleDatingStrategy who have nothing but suspicion and disdain for the men in their lives. It's almost the polar opposite of this subreddit. Have a look at the comments on that post and compare them to the comments here; you'll find the OP in FDS is sadly not an outlier. All I care about with my Captain's gifts to me is that I can see the effort in the gift (i.e. he pays attention to what I'm about, he noticed something I ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 05:14 AM |
| 46 | How should I handle my boyfriend admitting to me that he is not 100% straight and finds some men sexually attractive?I'm a bisexual woman in a monogamous relationship with a straight man. We are both Christian conservatives, and we share values and goals. My bisexuality has never once been an issue in this relationship, and your boyfriend's (probable) bisexuality does not have to be an issue in your relationship. I have been in your situation, actually, though it was much worse. My ex-boyfriend was unaware of my bisexuality because I was afraid to tell him. I don't think he knows to this day if I am, but it do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/22 04:55 PM |
| 7 | How should I handle my boyfriend admitting to me that he is not 100% straight and finds some men sexually attractive?Also a bisexual woman dating a man monogamously. I agree with everything you've said here. I'll add a comment of my own to this post though, as I had the worst-case scenario happen with a bisexual (ex)boyfriend and completely understand OP's fears. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 6 | Struggling in my relationshipExcuse the rough language, but block him, stop working with him, and stay the fuck away from him. Since physical abuse was involved, it's not safe for him to still know your address. If you can't immediately relocate or get a restraining order, you need to have an airtight plan in the event that he shows up at your place unexpectedly. You also need to have friends or family to help you cope with the breakup, heal from the abuse, and protect you if he tries anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/22 02:41 AM |
| 6 | I’m worried he will cheat againmore red flags than a communist parade That's a good one, I'm using that in the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/22 02:33 AM |
| 12 | I’m worried he will cheat againWhen you're on the receiving end of cheating, you're blindsided and heartbroken, like you said. But worse yet, your sense of self-worth is destroyed. This is especially true when women get cheated on: No matter how many times our families, girlfriends, friends, or even strangers tell us that it wasn't our fault, we feel tremendous humiliation and go to emotionally dark places where we tear ourselves apart in order to make sense of how embarrassed we feel. Any mention or reference to the "scene o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/22 09:43 PM |
| 1 | How to help boyfriend and understand his behavior during hardshipI'm familiar with Cluster B individuals (i.e. my mother), and I'm not convinced that he's a full-blown narcissist. He's just young (23), selfish, and craves novelty/new experiences above everything. It's a shame because our friendship was really close and positive in some ways, and every time we hung out, I always had a ton of fun. The other funny thing is that when I told him I didn't want us to be friends anymore, I felt like he was trying to get the upper hand: He immediately said he felt the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 04:51 PM |
| 2 | How to help boyfriend and understand his behavior during hardshipHey sorry for this really late reply, but yeah, I did bring it up, and he knew damn well I was uncomfortable. I pointed out to him that certain things were weird (e.g. no food in the fridge, people only brought drugs and alcohol; the host asked us to go get food *for* him and his friends; there were only 4 bedrooms in a house with 12-15 people planning to crash; the music was loud and trashy), and asked if he still wanted to stay. He still took an edible and wanted to stay overnight. The update … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 01:05 AM |
| 10 | When to let go of a relationship?Agreed -- OP, this is abusive behavior on your not-boyfriend's part. Dump this douche-canoe, and cut all contact with him (including social media). You're still young and have plenty of time to improve SMV/RMV, particularly your sense of self-worth; don't think for a minute that there isn't somebody better for you out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 03:42 PM |
| 31 | Confused, broken, regretful about my breakupGrief is a desert that has to be crossed on foot. You're in for it. It takes time. Factors like abuse and cheating make the crossing even more painful. I've been there, and your current emotions are all part of the process. But you will cross the desert, get over this man, and find a better one. Trust me, you made the right decision. Suggestions: (1) Stop talking to your ex-boyfriend and cut all contact/social media. (2) Take really really good care of your body and beauty. Getting hotter will h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/22 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Book Club: Anna Karenina. Let’s do this!!Also in! I've already got a copy that I haven't gotten around to reading yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/22 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Monthly GoalsHandmade gifts are the best! I made my boyfriend an afghan with a fleece backing over 3.5 months and gave it to him as a surprise Christmas gift. He couldn't believe it, and he absolutely loves it! He's been sleeping under it every night, and I can't get over how warm it is when I'm over and we go to sleep. Trust me, whatever you're making, your man is going to be absolutely blown away by the skill, the time, and the effort -- especially if it required skills he doesn't have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/22 01:07 AM |
| 72 | I am a platePitting you against another woman he’s seeing is a huge red flag. I would advise against dating this man because that’s callous and ugly. He was using feedback from your female competition (for lack of a better word) to “drive you crazy” as you put it. That sounds emotionally abusive to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/21 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Personal issues around being perceived as needy but not knowing how to tell if I amAgree with all of this. I'll also add that there can be less of an age difference, yet similarly predatory behavior. I once casually dated a man 12 years older than me. I was 21 and didn't know how to express and stick with boundaries. I also didn't know myself or my values, or even what predatory behavior looked like unless it was overt (i.e. stalking, sexual assault). He picked up on it and took advantage of that by being really nice, talking a good game about meeting my needs, and hiding behi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/21 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Which date do you get physical?He only wants to have dates at his place. He tried to have sex with you on the first date. He will only visit you and make a relationship *after* you move and *after* "it" works out...."it" being the two of you having sex. This man wants to smash and (probably) dash. End it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/21 03:18 PM |
| 23 | Let’s be honestNot to be rude, but could you please edit this post and add some more punctuation? A lot of statements bleed together into one super sentence, and I can’t tell what you’re actually trying to say here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/21 03:10 AM |
| 1 | I think I will never be able to forget my ex. How should I move forward knowing that there is no way I will love anyone like I do my ex?Would you mind adding some additional context? When did this breakup happen? Why did you two break up? I'm asking because I once felt the same way you do now. My ex cheated on me with a guy, and then ended it, and I didn't find out about the cheating until I got him to stop BS-ing me about why he was leaving. For a while, I blamed myself and thought there were no other mates in the world for me. What hurt even more was that (1) we were still under lockdown as this was summer 2020, so no going ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/21 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Ideas for small gifts for a baby?Yes!!! Not a mom, but I love to crochet and have made two baby blankets for friends of mine. One was for a 10mo, and the other was for a baby who hadn't been born yet. The gesture went a long way! To OP: if you're buying a blanket from Etsy, I have two tips: (1) Try to make sure that the yarn that the seller used is soft enough (i.e. avoid any Red Heart Super Saver yarn) and suitable for babies. Some yarn is specially made for babies (and says so on the label), but I've bought yarn for baby blan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/21 02:31 PM |
| 13 | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?It’s the little stuff! My favorite moment in our relationship was the last day visiting his parents out of state. I tripped, fell down the stairs and landed hard on my ankle. While I was icing it in the living room, for some reason the pain and surprise of falling was delayed, and so I started tearing up. I tried to laugh it off (“This is stupid, whyyyy”), but instead he came over to the other couch and sat right next to me with his arm around me, and he stayed until he was sure I was okay again… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/21 12:31 AM |
| 9 | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?My man has finals all next week and needs the weekend to himself to study. Since we just had today only instead of the usual entire weekend, I decided to take as good care of him as I could: treated him to lunch, and then a couple hours of hot steamy sexy time. I think he feels ready to go conquer them! I’m thankful that I have a masculine man who works hard, is mature for his age, isn’t afraid to tell me in a kind but direct way where I can improve myself, and is a “true blue,” as his mother pu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/21 12:27 AM |
| 5 | Do you have a redpill role model that you draw inspiration fromNo I don't think you are. I'm a conservative, and people on the fringe left have taken what I say out of context many, many times to make it sound like I hate gays or that I'm racist. It's really funny when they assert I hate gays....I'm bisexual myself and have been with women in the past. One of my best friends is gay, I've literally helped him hit on guys he liked over Snapchat and hung out with him and a dude he was seeing for a while. He actually wants me to meet his current prospective boy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 02:33 PM |
| 14 | Do you have a redpill role model that you draw inspiration fromI've seen that video before, as well as the one GodIsGrey highlighted in the video you included. I think a lot of the claims that she's racist/Nazi, or that she wants women to fall into the arms of incels/MGTOW people are way overblown. There's a tendency on social media to assume that if an influencer follows a page, then they must agree with everything on the page. Likewise, people assume that if an influencer appears on somebody's show as a guest or recommends that show to other people, they … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Just got into contact with my dad- i have daddy issues.I think what helps is the ability to look things from a third-person perspective. Yes. This is a great answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/21 02:47 PM |
| 16 | What RPW has done for my relationshipSTFU is underrated. I've learned to trust the way my man will handle any bad or uncomfortable situation that may befall us. Glad you shared your success -- I shared a FR of my own recently as well, so I know how exciting it is when RPW works in your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/21 06:05 AM |
| 8 | Don’t give up on surprising your man in the bedroom!Thanks! I ordered the garters off Amazon about 2 years ago. They came in 4-packs and were relatively inexpensive. I don’t remember where I got the fishnet shirt from, as it’s pretty generic. It’s one of those stretchy ones that you would usually wear something over as part of a more goth outfit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/21 04:22 PM |
| 24 | What are your “wow, I’m glad I didn’t say anything!” moments?I was visiting my boyfriend's family for the first time in Virginia, and we were all out on his parents' boat for the day. But we didn't start heading back until early dusk, so it ended up being completely dark while we were still on the water. Visibility was really bad because some of the buoy lights on the water were out. My boyfriend's dad was at the helm, and my boyfriend was helping him navigate. The frustration of trying to discern what the depth map on the boat's computer was saying about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/21 02:30 AM |
| 3 | How is it that my traditional, conservative husband seems to be way lest "sexist" than the majority of femnist's husbands I knowYeah I saw both that post and the post OP referred to in r/TwoXChromosomes. It’s hilarious when the ***hole doesn’t hear themselves in their post. But when we’re talking marriage and family, both indicate a sinking ship and it’s not quite as funny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/21 01:40 PM |
| 14 | 19 and the maternal instincts are kicking inI'm 25 and started experiencing this when I was almost 24. When it first started, I tried to repress it because my boyfriend at the time did not seem to want kids, and I didn't think we'd be able to make ends meet on just one income (his). I can see now that if we hadn't broken up when we did (thank God!*), I'd be lying to myself about my core desire to have a family just to cater to the fact that he made poor choices when he was younger and would almost certainly not be able to support a family… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/21 06:25 PM |
| 3 | A Love Letter to the SundressAltar'd State also has some gorgeous winter cardigans and summer kimonos. I LOVED pairing the kimonos with sundresses and rompers this summer, and the cardigans have been lovely this fall so far. It's my favorite clothing store in my area, mainly because it can be difficult nowadays to find pretty feminine clothing like sundresses. Almost every store around me has hopped on either the loungewear-everywhere train or the crop-top-and-mom-jeans train, and it's really annoying as I think both trends… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/21 09:06 PM |
| 3 | A Love Letter to the SundressI've gotten all of my cutest ones from Amazon and Altar'd State. Yesterday, I wore a long pink/floral-patterned sundress (since it's cold in the Midwest) that I got from Amazon, and when my boyfriend and I were getting ready for bed, he noticed it and complimented me on it. I don't think it showed up as well because I had a couple warm cardigans on over it, but it still looked good! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/21 05:40 PM |
| 1 | How long is too long to deprive my partner of intimacy?That's awful that your first boyfriend sexually abused you. I don't know if this would solve all of your problems, but definitely look into getting therapy so that you can cope and heal. Because this falls under point #3 that I mentioned, and you need to get some help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/21 04:14 PM |
| 7 | How long is too long to deprive my partner of intimacy?Sounds like you view sex as something you allow a man to do to you. No wonder you put it off for so long with past lovers. Either (1) you're picking men you're not sexually attracted to, (2) the men you pick are bad at sex and you aren't communicating/don't know how they can do better, or (3) there's an underlying issue you're not sharing here, such as a bad experience that scarred you. In my opinion, you should remain celibate in nun mode for a while to improve your view of sex. I did this myse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/21 07:45 PM |
| 5 | How often do you have sex with your boyfriend/husband?Since we're both busy students, I see him on the weekends (Friday afternoon - Monday morning usually). We have sex every single night unless there's a problem (e.g. I was sick earlier in October and in no condition for it, he had a Monday midterm in October and took the whole weekend to himself to study). Sometimes we'll also have additional morning sex on Saturday or Sunday, and/or on Friday afternoon. I think the highest frequency we've achieved so far was 5 times in 2 days. For the record, we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 06:13 PM |
| 9 | Okay maybe this is a better title. Ladies, how do you deal with severe body insecurity/shame?This. I'm a runner, I got faster over time for sure, but I didn't achieve the physical results I really wanted for my body until I incorporated regular heavy lifting into my routine. You will not bulk, trust me. Bench press, deadlifts, and squats will not (and I mean NOT) turn you into a female bodybuilder on their own. But your figure and your self-confidence will improve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 9 | Uplifting himYou're doing a great thing for your husband! This is wonderful to read :D Reminds me of that scene in Godfather II where Vito comes home with only a pear for dinner after his boss was forced by the local mafia to fire him and hire somebody else. His wife comes in with a big smile, compliments him on the pear, and continues preparing dinner. Vito lights up as he takes off his jacket, and you can tell that he knows she trusts him to figure things out and that they're still very much in love even t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/21 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Some additional shower thoughts about sex and marriage and dating (oh my)Oh yessss. Funnily enough, my current relationship has revealed a lot of problems with my last one that I realized were there when we broke up (and even later), but didn't really *see* until now. I think a lot of these problems manifest in the bedroom. For example, I didn't realize how selfish my ex was. He didn't make an effort to actually understand me, my mind, my values, or why I made choices. I knew he was insecure to a certain extent, but I grossly underestimated his self-loathing. His cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/21 08:27 PM |
| 10 | Dangers of clinical psychology infected by feminism: the profile of the modern woman forced into the minds of patientsThis is a really important post, and I hope it gets a lot more upvotes. Thank you for sharing! Personally, I'd argue that I was a crazier person when I was on my way to becoming the modern woman than I am now, in my state of aspiring to be a wife and mother first and above all things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/21 02:24 PM |
| 5 | Some additional shower thoughts about sex and marriage and dating (oh my)You have to lust him from the get-go. It should be hard to delay sex. You should want to jump him. And it isn’t just physical because for most women, attraction is mental. He must push the right buttons. Personally, I have an “irreverent asshole” button and a “smarter than you and I know it” button. Beauty and muscles are nice but insufficient. If you aren’t interested in sex early on, or if the appeal of sex has diminished as you’ve gotten to know him, then I recommend you seriously rethink the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/21 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Love GogglesI'm having this problem all the time, and I'm still in my twenties. My boyfriend tells me frequently how gorgeous he thinks I am, or will point out how much he likes my face/body in a photo. I usually think, "Wow, he must be nuts about me!" I hate the way I look in most photos, and am in the process of losing about 10lb I put on since April due to cutting down on my running mileage and not being as disciplined about going to the gym. I feel "fat" because I know I'm not in the best shape of my li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/21 10:11 PM |
| 11 | Did I do a right thing?I think you should tell your friend's boyfriend. I was cheated on in my last relationship. In my case, nobody else knew since it happened shortly before our breakup. However, if I found out that one of his family members or one of our mutual friends knew but never told me, I would feel betrayed by them (to a lesser extent) as well. Here's why. When your partner cheats on you, it's a very unique sort of betrayal. The deep trust you had in them is gone in a flash, their touch afterward feels icky,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/21 12:03 PM |
| 4 | Are there hobbies you wouldn't want a man to have?Oh my God this. Never seriously dated a stoner. I went out with one a few times, until I realized he was a stoner (dab before work, dab at lunch, dab in the evening, and whatever he wanted on the weekends) and called it off. I've also been friends with a lot of stoners in the past, and most of them are addicted to marijuana. It's a cope they can't get through the day without. I'm curious if you've noticed this: I found that back in the day when I hung out and smoked with them, if you removed the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/21 01:36 PM |
| 3 | I do not understand the fascination with sexI think this is a good rephrasing of OP's post. A more interesting question to pose is, "I don't understand why people idolize sex whenever/wherever/with whomever/for any reason when its misuse obviously makes people unhappy. Why do we continually laud no-standards sex even though it doesn't actually satisfy and we know it doesn't?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/21 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Too conservative for my man?I'm not going to comment on the age difference, since I don't know how old either of you are, or how long you've been together. Sometimes our fights end in him telling me I’m a bad person and a deplorable or calling me a straight up Nazi for my views. Which we both know is obviously untrue, he’s just trying to be hurtful. You need to break up with him. Assuming your end goal is marriage, the number one thing you need to have in common is values. Speaking as somebody who once dated a much more li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/21 06:05 PM |
| 12 | Upon increasing your femininity, did you realize more children being drawn to you?Now that I think about it, yes absolutely! I can't comment on the science of it, but I'll talk about my experience and why I think this happens. I think part of it is the fact that I look put together and approachable, and not like some gothic pin cushion with cotton-candy-colored hair (been there, done that, no thanks never again). I don't scare kids or their parents. But I think there are two improvements in my personality that helped: I worked on becoming more outgoing and am now great at tal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/21 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Supporting his interests and hobbiesMy boyfriend makes bullwhips by hand and sells them as a side gig. I crochet big beautiful blankets. What's worked for both of us is asking some questions of each other from time to time, depending on what's been happening with our respective crafts. Being a better listener would really help you. It's also nice if you have days where you're hanging out but doing your respective hobbies. You could do something you love while he plays a video game, maybe in the same room and maybe not. We've done … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 06:17 PM |
| 7 | Heartbroken & Untrusting - Need Advice& bc he obv still wants attention from other girls. & worst case - i will be able to get attention from other guys & not come off as controlling & i really won’t be as worried about what he’s doing if i’m doing the same thing plus i could possibly find the right guy / husband for me & best case maybe it will make him realize how much he actually wants only me? OP, did you read this out loud to yourself? I mean, really read it? You should. You just said: he wants attention from other girls despit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 7 | Heartbroken & Untrusting - Need AdviceThis right here. All of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/21 11:50 PM |
| 8 | Age difference in relationshipsYou have known him for 12 years, but you don't know yet what he's like in a dating context, which is much more intimate. In that kind of relationship, there may be an insurmountable power dynamic between the two of you, depending on how he treats you. When I was 21, I dated a man 12 years older than me for about 7 months, and that dynamic was a huge problem. However, I will concede that you're almost 30, so it may be less of an issue than it was for us. If this guy is in his 50s, milestones that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/21 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Hippie communities and fake sex positivity?Same -- I definitely still enjoy counter-culture in creative areas! I express myself through crochet, for instance, and I love love love giving my work a psychedelic look. And in terms of fashion, while I strive for a feminine appearance as a RPW, my look tends to be Joan Holloway from Mad Men meets Boho-chic/hippie. You should definitely get into some creative ventures if you can! :D I'm thankful for a lot of the good times I had in that environment, but the people I was close friends with ther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/21 04:22 PM |
| 11 | Hippie communities and fake sex positivity?I used to live in a community like this during college and my Masters. A lot of sex, very socially liberal, plenty of drug use (marijuana, psychedelics, dissociatives, ecstasy, pretty much anything short of opiates and meth that I know of). You could find empty whippits all over the place, sometimes even outside of people's bedrooms and into the hallway. Every couple of months, there was a scheduled orgy. I could go on forever, but I'll limit my comment so that you understand (1) I came from a s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/21 01:36 PM |
| 4 | How do I tell him about my childhood ?Hi OP, I've been in your shoes before. My parents and I have been estranged for almost 3 years for similar reasons (mother is borderline, father is alcoholic). This is going to be a long comment, but one that I hope you'll take the time to read. First, I'd like to know what kind of relationship you have with your parents now. Are you still in touch with them? Do you live in the same area and see them often? Their behavior will continue to affect your life negatively so long as you continue to be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/21 03:15 PM |
| 4 | How do I tell him about my childhood ?Having come from a similar background to OP, I agree with some of this. However, while I think it is possible to bring it up "too soon," I wouldn't worry too much about the timing. What matters the most is how OP comes across when she brings it up (see my comment). | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/21 02:53 PM |
| 2 | I’m (25f) like this guy (19m), I am unsure if he likes me back, what should I do about it?Agreed. I am also a 25yo woman and cannot imagine dating a guy that young. OP, you need to be thinking a lot more seriously about what you want in this life and what you want out of a long-term relationship or marriage. All I've grocked from this post is that you get along well and the interactions are online. You've said nothing about his values, his goals, his worldview, etc. I know that sounds harsh, but it's not coming from a place of repression. I'm a living breathing woman, just like you. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 2 | How did you know you were ready to become a husband/wife?I went through a really bad family situation a few years ago. My mother is abusive, and I finally chose to cut her off. Unfortunately, most of my family took her side, so it meant them too. Over the months that I spent grieving our relationship, my heart changed toward her several times. But every time I considered undoing that painful decision, I found myself thinking out of nowhere, "When I have a family of my own, I cannot let that woman screw with them the way she's screwed with me my whole … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/21 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Guy asks to be fwbYour instincts are correct. My best friend happens to be a guy right now, but because he's gay, he's an exception. If I was as close to him as I was to a male friend who liked girls, people would be yelling in my face "GURL HELLO HE LIKES YOU." I've had close male friends in the latter situation before, and something always ended up happening. Usually, it was me turning them down. In one case, it led to a relationship. I recommend spending more time in this subreddit -- men and women treat frien… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/21 12:19 PM |
| 52 | My boyfriend says the craziest things sometimes, yet it’s usually funny... Very conflicted.Um......I think a better title for this post is "My boyfriend never showers, never grooms himself, and pees everywhere....very conflicted." Is your boyfriend a dog? Or perhaps a two year old? This is not how a grown man behaves. Disclaimer: I've known a TON of very nerdy guys who behaved this way throughout college and graduate school (I went to a top-tier school). They were brilliant people, unbelievably smart and passionate about their fields. I loved picking their brains about stuff! They wer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Curious about everybody’s realization.Seconded. This is absolutely a brilliant comment, and I agree with all of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/21 02:19 PM |
| 3 | How to be Lovely: A Guide to Attracting a Wonderful ManI listen to "She's a Lady" pretty often on my oldies playlist when I'm driving :) something about looking classy and hearing that song makes me feel lovely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/21 02:34 PM |
| 6 | My mom doesn't want me to be a traditional woman and makes fun of meAh, I see. I've been estranged from my mother for about 3 years by my choice because she has borderline personality disorder (undiagnosed). The disorder's characterized by unstable relationships, crazy mood swings, a tendency to abuse pleasurable distractions like alcohol, and serious problems with emotional regulation -- particularly when it comes to anger. I recommend looking into cluster B personality disorders and the behaviors they result in. I don't know what else is going on with you and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/21 04:30 PM |
| 5 | My mom doesn't want me to be a traditional woman and makes fun of meI agree with this comment. It's not okay for a parent to consistently make fun of their adult children like this. OP I wonder if there are some other issues between you and your mom that go beyond a difference in worldview that you've neglected to mention. But then again, maybe you just need to set a boundary with her to make clear that this behavior is not okay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/21 04:08 PM |
| 13 | Men Are KindThat sounds heavenly. You married a good man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/21 02:21 AM |
| 14 | Beta-buxing as a woman?Forget your looks for a second. You can't inspire commitment from a good man if you're dating a deadbeat almost 20 years older than you. Seriously doll, stop reading the comments on this post right now, and come back after you've called this man and dumped him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/21 01:13 AM |
| 46 | Beta-buxing as a woman?Agreed. The age difference is already a problem, but it's 10 times worse that this dude is clearly a deadbeat. OP, please dump him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/21 01:11 AM |
| 3 | How can I use femininity to my advantage in the workplace?If you're just asking about maintaining your feminine appearance and behavior at work (e.g. how you dress while working a corporate job), I don't think that's a problem. If you're asking about how to utilize your femininity to be objectively better at your job, that's fine too, depending on your line of work. But this question reads as, "My boyfriend and I need to have more money in order to get hitched, so how do I use my femininity at work to get my employer to pay me more?" Not a good look an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/21 08:05 PM |
| 10 | Hey y'all I'm new to this lifestyle but I tried making simple food for my boyfriend and it was so rewardingMy last relationship was also my first serious relationship, and I learned very early on how much I loved taking care of him by cooking for him, making the bed while he got ready for work (he has a physically demanding construction job with shifts starting @ 5am), getting or making gifts for him and his family, etc. What shocked me was how much more rewarding it felt to be doing that for him than to be a badass woman who put myself and my career first. If you're like me, I think you'll learn tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/21 04:02 PM |
| 2 | I’m beginning to follow some of Laura Doyle’s principles and my girl friends are too liberal to talk to about it…they think I’m crazy.First of all, I concur with everything u/SunshineSundress said. Some of your girlfriends, depending on what kind of people they are, might start thinking you're nuts even if you don't talk about Laura Doyle or RPW. I remember that when I started dressing and behaving more femininely, a lot of my female friends at the time started off with compliments "Omg you're so dressed up and look hot!" But over time, once I was consistently doing this, they stopped complimenting me ("Omg why are you so dres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/21 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Guy gave me an incurable Std and has blocked me, I’m angry.I went through something similar a while ago. Last summer, my boyfriend (at the time) and I broke up. He was a closeted and self-loathing bisexual. Instead of nutting up and telling me about it the way I was trying to get up the courage to do with him (I'm also bisexual), he decided to have a one-night stand with a guy and attempt to end our relationship shortly afterward without telling me the truth. I loved him and knew he was lying about something, and eventually he caved and told me. For a f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/21 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone ever actually saved their marriage/relationship using these principles?Agreed, this is very vague OP. What sort of mental health issues? Is substance/porn addiction involved? Is there abuse? Are there financial problems due to the lockdowns? Is something going on with his family, and he's getting dragged into it? You don't need to tell us in glorious detail; just enough to give us a picture of the situation. This post goes into a lot of detail about your feelings but tells us nothing about the problem in your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/21 01:02 PM |
| 11 | What’s some advice that you have for college aged girls ?Definitely. And try to talk about values early on when getting to know them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 02:06 PM |
| 98 | What’s some advice that you have for college aged girls ?Avoid hookup culture like the plague. I don't care what your friends are wearing or what they're doing or how much they pressure you to join in. It will ruin your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 01:00 AM |
| 5 | Can I apply RP ideas if I'm attracted to women?It depends on what kind of women you're attracted to. I'm a weird case of bisexuality in that I tend to be attracted to feminine women and masculine men (as long as they're hot of course). So RPW strategy wouldn't work for me if I was dating a feminine woman. It took me a little longer to cultivate my femininity when I was in my late teens/early twenties because of my bisexuality. This was partly because I was attracted to such different things in the two sexes, and partly because I hung around … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Revisiting Fascinating Womanhood Chapter 3 Accept HimI have not read all of Anna Karenina, but I would love to see a post on this subreddit discussing the book through the lenses you mentioned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/21 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Blocked from other subs?That is one of the most concise and articulate descriptions of the backward standards nowadays I've ever read. *bravo* | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/21 04:23 PM |
| 11 | No nice feminine clothing at the mallIt made be more alternative/bohemian than you like, and I don't know if this store is in your location, but my favorite clothing store is Altar'd State. You can absolutely find some beautiful feminine clothing there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/21 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Am I allowed to post here?Hey thanks for reading! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/21 12:53 AM |
| 7 | Am I allowed to post here?Not OP, but I had a similar experience. I never had gender dysphoria, but as a bisexual, I was surrounded by women in the gay community who actively purged themselves of their femininity. A couple of them went on to say they were actually trans. I tended to be more attracted to feminine women with a certain edge anyway (Alexandria Daddario, Emma Stone, young Paula Brancati, etc.), so most of them were not attractive to me. When I broke free from that community, and subsequently became a Christia… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/21 12:47 PM |
| 6 | How do you ladies feel about men who preach or support feminism?Agreed. I am bisexual and I can tell you that a lot of male feminists will drop the facade of caring about women as soon as they get into a sexually suggestive or hedonistic environment. I think some members of the bi community are a little too sensitive about biphobia and bi-erasure from the straight community and try to police other people's language more than they should. But there's a lot of truth to the notion that some men view bisexual women as sex objects. And a lot of feminist men looki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/21 02:41 PM |
| 20 | Femininity tips for teens?Do not buy into the trends you see on Instagram of girls showing a lot of skin, promoting OnlyFans, and sleeping around a ton. You're very young. Protect your body. Dressing modestly and with class will help, yes, but how you behave on social media is a big part of it. My Instagram is just for my craft projects. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/21 11:45 PM |
| 20 | Anyone else notice that people (men and women) are nicer to you when you dress feminine?I have also noticed people being nicer to me, men and women alike. For my part, I think it's because I'm in my mid-twenties and have lived in two college towns (cities) in my adult life. Most of the women in my generation have two settings when they get dressed: slutty as hell or I-woke-up-20min-before-class-and-I-don't-care-at-all. The latter style is in literally every clothing store now: loose crop tops, boyfriend jeans, leggings, sweats, just a bunch of unattractive baggy clothes that don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/21 01:40 AM |
| 50 | Modern women appear to be lost. Many are seeking external validation and media messages do not help. Should we try to help our fellow sister or is it every woman for themselves?LOL in my experience if I'm called a "prude" or "old school," that means I'm doing something right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/21 08:57 PM |
| 4 | Help! Pulling away after blacking outToo soon to tell. If he does reach out to you later and wants to see you, follow the advice in the comments. And never, EVER get that drunk around him or with him again. In fact, I highly recommend cutting down on your alcohol consumption and avoiding drunkenness in general. You're more likely to make stupid sexual decisions (or be taken advantage of, God forbid) when you're under the influence, and you'll most likely come across as impulsive and out-of-control.....both qualities that don't exud… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/21 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Help! Pulling away after blacking outAgree with this. He said no, let him reschedule. Don't text him about how he's been distant. If he wants to see you, he'll make it happen. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/21 10:30 PM |
| 6 | Has anybody been banned in other subs for participating in this one?u/taikutsuu is right on this. I don't think people realize the degree to which certain sects of the LGBT community are obsessed with oppression, gender, sex, and sexuality. I lived amongst people like this for years -- never again. I still find women really hot, but in terms of the dating scene, it's a lot easier to find a straight guy who isn't like this than it is to find a bisexual/lesbian woman who isn't like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Has anybody been banned in other subs for participating in this one?Yes. This. All of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/21 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Has anybody been banned in other subs for participating in this one?Which part? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/21 01:17 AM |
| 15 | Has anybody been banned in other subs for participating in this one?I've commented before on r/bisexual about how I was treated by the LGBT community and people who I thought were my friends. It really comes down to the idea of compulsive heterosexuality or "comphet," which is the mirror image of religious/right-wing people saying that homosexuality is a choice. Basically a bunch of woke ideologues decided for me that I was a lesbian and didn't know it yet, and my heterosexual attractions were just put upon me by society and the patriarchy. The same logic was us… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 06:47 PM |
| 21 | Has anybody been banned in other subs for participating in this one?I've always been a contrarian lady. I'm sure that between this sub and my membership in r/Conservative and r/Libertarian, I'll get banned from r/bisexual pretty soon. As though being bi is mutually exclusive with being in the subs Reddit does not like HA. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 05:10 PM |
| 0 | What are you looking to find when you read here? What is PRW? Maybe it’s time to reassess what this sub is about.I also did not know this | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 03:54 PM |
| 3 | What did/do you do to lose weight or maintain your weight?I second this. I have never been in better shape since gyms reopened and I could finally lift consistently (and properly). | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 02:59 AM |
| 4 | How To Change The Kind of Man You Are Attracted ToYeah a lot of the time they are. And to be fair, I'm not suggesting that a woman who's physically strong or brave is inherently offputting. Not at all. But there's a difference between a woman who's just strong and a woman who comes across like she's trying to be a man, and you seem to get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 8 | How To Change The Kind of Man You Are Attracted ToI think of leadership, a sturdy backbone, courage, physical prowess, and using all those things to make others feel safe and protected. Granted, I myself am an athlete and have a steel backbone, so I'm definitely not saying that women can't have those qualities. But I love being able to nurture others, look after their wellbeing, and show compassion wherever I can -- all traditionally feminine attributes. And I want a man who I see as my equal and brings out those feminine qualities in me, as I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 04:14 PM |
| 2 | How To Change The Kind of Man You Are Attracted ToI have never felt real romantic interest in a woman beyond a fantasy or a girl crush, so I can't answer that question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 04:04 PM |
| 10 | How To Change The Kind of Man You Are Attracted ToHonestly, masculinity and the ability to make me feel safe and protected. I think that men satisfy those needs for me on a core level in a way that women just don't. I want an equal who is very similar to me, but ultimately different in a complementary way. Maybe it's just biology, but there's a depth of feeling that I've always had for masculinity in men that I've never had for more masculine women. The women I've been attracted to tend to be as feminine as me, if not more so, and I don't want … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/21 08:52 PM |
| 9 | How To Change The Kind of Man You Are Attracted Tofigure out what makes men different to women. What are men better at than women? Why? What do you admire in a man but not in a woman? What do you admire in a woman but not in a man? The biggest BP lie is not that men and women are the same, it is that they can be the same. This. I happen to be bisexual, so sexually attracted to men and women, but the reality is that they are not and cannot be the same. There are things I want from a romantic partner that go well beyond finding them hot, and I've… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/21 07:49 PM |
| 12 | Ignore the hate from other womenI do understand as I have been in academia for almost 8 years, but I think a little kindness would go a long way. Don't grow bitter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/21 02:55 PM |
| 23 | Ignore the hate from other womenGuys don’t realize how much women actually pressure other women about sex. It really can be like a locker room. If you don’t have any stories or experience, you look lame and “asexual.” I experienced this as well all throughout college and early grad school. My experience is a little different in that this was coming from female/nonbinary friends of mine in the LGBT community (I'm bisexual). Anytime I went through a period where I wasn't as promiscuous as them, I was treated with a lot of contem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/21 02:53 PM |
| 47 | At what weight do get the most attention?Depends on where you are. I once visited Jamaica while slightly overweight, and even though I was dressed modestly (long flowy bohemian dresses), I got catcalled and hissed at like you wouldn't believe. I'll focus on America, where I live. Right now, I'm the healthiest weight and in the best shape I've ever been in (and it'll only get better). I'm 5'7" and currently weigh 141lb. My body fat is around 22% because I'm very physically active and lifting has done wonders....and I've only been back a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 06:25 PM |
| 1 | My favorite color is green— how do I embrace this in the way I dress without looking masculine? Purple is also my most-suited color, how do I combine these without looking like Barney or “off”?Jewel tones can look gorgeous! I recommend dresses :) I would love to find an eggplant-colored dress that fits me well one day....haven't yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/20 09:25 PM |
| 9 | Where does the resistance/defiance in here come from?I am currently a PhD student in a STEM field, and I live in a very blue college town. I dress femininely and have some feminine hobbies such as crochet and what you mentioned. I also am completely committed to becoming the right man's wife one day. In academia, this is 100% the exception and not the rule. I think that a lot of people on this subreddit are in the same situation -- living in an environment full of people who don't do most of these things -- so I think they vent a little bit on soc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/20 02:49 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone have experience with dating a divorced man with kids?It wasn't a serious relationship, so I can't speak to milestones involving meeting the kids in that way. That aside, it was overall not great for two major reasons. First, he was 10 years older than me, and I was only 21-22. I'd be wary of any age gap like that due to the probable difference in values and the power dynamic that often gets introduced. Second, he had been divorced for less than a year after a 7 year marriage (I may have the years wrong). Apart from his focus on work and coparentin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/20 02:37 PM |
| 52 | Is it healthy for men to have a high body count?Nowadays, I'd be more worried about porn addiction, particularly among younger men. That's also a symptom of larger issues, and one you're much more likely to run into. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Friendship broken because of 'feminism'Hon, I get you, and I know exactly how you feel. This.....is painful. The vast majority of my friends from college on the East Coast are not just feminists but hardcore left-wing and very intolerant. None of them know my political/social views for sure, and I've worked hard to keep it that way. It doesn't come out of nowhere, this fracturing of friendships you forged when you were younger. I've had some great times and some hard times with my college friends, and I never ever thought that I'd wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/20 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend thinks I’m too good for him. How to make him feel better?I am going through a breakup right now because of a similar situation. We were friends from afar for about a year as we lived in different states, and then our romantic relationship began immediately after I moved to his state for a PhD program and lasted for another year. We loved each other, and there were no real problems with our *relationship*. My now ex was the one to end the relationship because he is fundamentally unhappy with himself, his identity as a man, and his life. Some of this ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/20 04:10 PM |
| 24 | PornCan't speak to a husband doing this, as I'm not married. However, I'm currently going through a breakup in part because of my ex's porn addiction. So this will be a total overshare, in part because writing this down is helpful for me to move forward past this. My ex has some deeper personal issues that became magnified over the past few months (lack of self-confidence, general confusion about his purpose/mission in life, not being satisfied with where he is in life at his age, and an unhealthy a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/20 01:50 PM |
| 3 | Do you wear low cut tops at all? I don't mean seriously plunging tops but tops that show the top part of the cleavage for example.Oversharing time first: I wear a 32D, so my breasts are a good size but not huge. If I wear something low-cut, I end up with "cakes on a plate" cleavage, which I actually prefer to typical cleavage. With that said, I occasionally do if it's not inappropriate. Even then, my rule of thumb for showing skin is "legs, body, breasts, or shoulders; show off only one at a time," so I would never walk around in short-shorts and a tight/low-cut camisole unless it was seriously hot and humid outside. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/20 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Is 16 years too big an age difference?Yeah, then just pay attention to how things feel between you, and whether you feel like he is treating you like his equal. Definitely vet him for commitment as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/20 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Is 16 years too big an age difference?It depends in part on his past love life. When I was 21-22, I was involved with a man ~10 years older than me who had been divorced for a year and was coparenting two kids. That background was a big factor in our relationship not working, as he had no interest in pursuing anything truly serious because of it. Your guy may be in the same place in his life. Our age difference proved to be a problem, first because he just liked being seen with a pretty 22-year-old girl on his arm in the city and I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 2 | What are the most harmful beliefs feminism promotes? Harmful beliefs in traditional Western gender roles?I've never heard of the "Mental Health Mafia," could you elaborate? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 10:21 AM |
| 12 | What are the most harmful beliefs feminism promotes? Harmful beliefs in traditional Western gender roles?I am going through a breakup right now because of this. My now ex-partner is on NoFap. I had known for a while that he was, but I underestimated how deep in the weeds he still was in breaking himself free from the porn/masturbation addiction. I should have asked the right questions when he first told me about it. He is on a 30+ day streak now for the first time ever. I now realize that the addiction was the major underlying reason for the split, now that I've put all the pieces together. Since t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 10:19 AM |
| 6 | Planning to start dating at 23, will people assume I’ve been promiscuous?People will not assume you've been promiscuous just because you took yourself of the dating market in order to improve your life. What leads people to assume this has a lot to do with how you come across, what kind of people you're around, and what you do in social settings. Dressing with class and taste, and not to explicitly sexualize your body, will put you several steps above the other girls your age who routinely dress way too provocatively whenever they go to a party or a club. I would als… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/20 03:25 PM |
| 60 | How do you filter out bad guys?Actions >>> words. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/20 02:17 AM |
| 6 | I’ve seen many people here rec Sarah Therese’s Youtube channel here. I’ve never been a fan. How do you feel about her opinion?My boyfriend used to have a problem with porn years back, long before we were together. He now is a NoFapper and is very outspoken against it. I didn't really understand why until we talked in more detail about it, but now I'm completely on his side. I say this because my boyfriend has said that sometimes when we watch movies/shows together (e.g. Skins), there are scenes which he considers softcore porn and a trigger to men. I don't look at it that way, and we watch them fine without him relapsi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 02:56 PM |
| 10 | Vetting, red flags, green flags, one caseI didn't even read the positives about this guy, just the negatives and the final big paragraph. You need to respect him NOW, not for what he could be. Go back and reread some of the posts on this sub about a man's crucial need for respect from his woman. If you can't say "Hell yes" when asked if you respect him, don't get involved with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 02:40 PM |
| 8 | Fiction reading recommendationsAlmost any book by Jane Austen would be great! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 02:32 PM |
| 14 | How to be feminine while you're with a short partner, by societal standards.I think there is a larger question here that has nothing to do with height: "How do I handle the rude things other people say about my boyfriend/our relationship in order to emasculate him?" The answer is that if you've vetted well, you'll have a Captain who knows when to let things roll off his back and when to drop the hammer. If it happens when you're not around, it's in his control and he may or may not tell you about it later. For example, my guy works a physically demanding manufacturing j… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/20 03:44 PM |
| 6 | "What even is Red Pill Women lolol?? pLaTe sChOoL???1?"I've never heard of "Plate School," but man that is some BS people are pushing about RPW. Before RPW, I couldn't escape being a plate to save my life. After RPW, I started dating a guy friend of mine, who asked me to be his girlfriend 6 weeks in. We're still together almost a year later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 07:09 PM |
| 6 | "What even is Red Pill Women lolol?? pLaTe sChOoL???1?"This was a pleasure to read. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 04:31 PM |
| 11 | Is RedPill Women Pro-LGBT?++ This. Everybody here wants to live and let live. u/smashed_cookie_dough, you are absolutely welcome here. Also, this is not a political sub, so anybody who chooses to disrespect/insult you in this sub for being LGBT is violating rule #3: Do not insult the community or its members. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 02:19 AM |
| 8 | [PSA] Do not feed the trolls, ladiesIt looks like r/MGTOW has been quarantined and r/incel has been shut down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/20 12:54 PM |
| 2 | [PSA] Do not feed the trolls, ladiesDid they actually spell it "womynfolk"? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/20 12:53 PM |
| 12 | I am such a weak minded person. Please helpThis this this. Love is a choice. He's not choosing you. Dump him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/20 05:40 PM |
| 17 | I [23F] was a slut (kiss-count of 34, n-count of 25) and my boyfriend [25M] was a virgin. Is there any way I can white lie to protect the relationship?Your post indicates that you are overly self-critical about your own value and need to work on loving yourself and increasing your value; overly judgmental about your own boyfriend and other men; desperate to construct a web of lies to keep him; and deliberately creeping on his profile on this app (for no real reason). There's bigger issues here than your past promiscuity that threaten your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Accepting that I've lost an Alpha?Ohhhhh okay. I still stand by what I said about him being impatient. But I think that between sleeping together on the second date, what he said about your communication skills, and you bringing this to his attention in the way that you did, I'm not surprised that he broke up with you (or stopped seeing you or whatever). In the future, you should be asking what you can bring to the table to inspire him to commit. If you don't mind my asking, how old are you and how old is your sibling? There com… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 11:37 AM |
| 3 | Accepting that I've lost an Alpha?So you guys got in an argument because one of his younger siblings tried to look through your bag? How did you bringing that to his attention turn into an argument? What was said? I'm not asking this for the purposes of you getting him back, especially since less than a month of seeing each other isn't much, and you don't know each other that well. I'm asking because this sounds like a guy who is impatient and changed his mind w/o good communication. Although you repeatedly contacting him after … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 01:21 AM |
| 7 | Accepting that I've lost an Alpha?Uh what exactly was your argument about? It sounds like there's more to the story. Also how long were you guys seeing each other? Doesn't seem as though it was that long. In any case, he's no longer interested in you. Learn from this, move on, and work on yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/20 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Thank you for making me feel like femininity is normal.Hello beautiful lady! You're not victimizing yourself. You will get more attention from boys than that coworker of yours, so she will probably continue to be nasty toward you. And you may have female friends who often comment on how you look when you show up to meet them when you hang out. I'd recommend not telling your boyfriend about the male attention you get (unless something serious happens). You're probably just telling him to share your day with him. He's going to read it as a problem you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/20 02:17 PM |
| 11 | According to someone who was active here, You all are extemists😂 Oh My GawdFemale men’s-rights activists who want to return to traditional power roles and exaggerated notions of masculinity and femininity.... And there it is. The idea that there is a power hierarchy between men and women completely goes against what this subreddit is about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/20 11:18 PM |
| 18 | How to feel valuable and feminine as a single woman?For me, I learned to enjoy going out and doing certain activities alone. Go to a cafe with a book! Go to the movies by yourself! Go out to eat even! Be content with your own company. You don't really need to go with your friends or with a man in order to enjoy all these things. This is not to say that you shouldn't go on outings with your friends or that you shouldn't join social groups to enjoy your hobbies; I'm just saying that in addition to working on your femininity and your character, you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/20 05:00 PM |
| 1 | how do i stop negative feelings towards men?You've just said there are men saying/doing things that are casually misogynistic, but when pressed, you can't explain what specific behaviors are upsetting you. Additionally, you say you're struggling with a strong internal dislike of men. This is a "you" problem. You are looking at the world in a toxic way. Therapy would probably be useful to you, particularly since you're more angry at men who exhibit "casual misogyny" than you are at the men who have abused you in the past. I think some trau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/20 02:05 AM |
| 1 | how do i stop negative feelings towards men?You're not answering the question. What are these men saying or doing that is sexist? Be specific. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Stay a Slave, leave, discuss: What to do?I'll defer to the mods on this, but I don't think this is the right subreddit for your question, and it will probably get removed. Try r/BDSMAdvice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 04:21 PM |
| 2 | How to transition from friends to LTRDo not lead in with sex. I've been in the situation of really liking a male friend I was close with on two different occasions. In the first, I went in for sex, thinking that would be what turned his head and ignited a romantic relationship between us. Even though we were intimate off and on for a few months, I never got what I wanted, partly because he was very hedonistic and terrible Captain material. Although we never had sex, we eventually probably would have if I hadn't woken up and ended t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 02:52 PM |
| 1 | How to transition from friends to LTRJust make sure there's a real incentive to move there, like it's something you would do even if he wasn't living there. I used to live in Boston, my boyfriend was (and still is) living in southeast Michigan. I moved nearby last summer to begin my doctorate after finishing school. My top two choices (based on research interests/matching with faculty) were to stay put or to go out there for grad school, and the latter is what ended up happening. It was really only due to some unusual circumstances… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 02:46 PM |
| 2 | how do i stop negative feelings towards men?What kind of men are you around, and what are they saying that is misogynistic? Forgive me for what I don't know, but unless there's some additional context you're not giving (e.g. you're an assistant in Hollywood working for a Harvey Weinstein-like pig), I seriously doubt that you're actually surrounded by men who genuinely hate you for your gender. That aside, I used to feel that a bunch of little things men would do were misogynistic, but it turned out that was only because I had been conditi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 02:37 PM |
| 5 | what does the exclusivity conversation sound like?I just told you. Tell him you're looking for a serious relationship/exclusivity, and that he's had a year of getting to know you to offer that level of commitment. Tell him that it seems like he's not interested, and that he's not giving you what you need. If he doesn't explicitly offer you exclusivity or to make you his girlfriend once you've presented the problem to him, walk away and don't look back. Whether you do this in person or not is up to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 06:33 PM |
| 4 | what does the exclusivity conversation sound like?Yeah this guy is full of it. He's not serious. He said it himself: "My intention is that I love being with you to get to know you, that's it." If he was serious about you, you wouldn't be confused about his feelings. I've been in your position where a man I'm seeing was telling me how he loved getting to know me and meeting my needs, and the next was pushing my boundaries (particularly in terms of sex) without much consideration for me. It's designed to keep you as a man's option without giving … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | what does the exclusivity conversation sound like?What exactly did he say over text last time you asked? It seems to me you should stop asking him how he feels and start stating your standards. Just bring it up once you've met up. I read another comment you left below: Do not let him get physical with you and mess with your objectivity. And if he gives you vague platitudes again and tries to get you into bed, say good-bye and walk out the door. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 03:37 PM |
| 5 | what does the exclusivity conversation sound like?I don't know what the conversation is supposed to sound like, but here's what happened with me. My boyfriend and I were friends for ~a year while he was living here in the Midwest (in my hometown) and I was finishing up my Masters in New England. I moved to a nearby city for a doctoral program, and we started seeing each other within a week (at his initiation), as it was clear we both liked each other. After about 5-6 weeks, he told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend, and we just transitioned … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 02:57 PM |
| 16 | How can we better appreciate our men for their hard work (dating)?First: I let him know how sexy he is in his work boots and dirty jeans and all sweaty swoon. All of this oh God oh yes. My guy doesn't like to be felt up when he's all dirty/sweaty, so I'm limited to telling him so in those cases. What is his love language? That would be the thing to do regardless :) I have not asked him directly about the 5 love languages. But I would say physical touch and a combination of quality time/acts of service. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/20 03:07 PM |
| 5 | How can I find a tradition boyfriend/friends?I got ridiculously lucky with my Captain, as I wasn't exactly strategizing about where to find a more traditional down-to-earth man when I met him. I'd say that health and religion are values he and I had in common, so I would have found a man of his caliber probably in a local running/cycling group and/or at church. I would recommend Bible studies in particular; when I was living in Boston, I went to my university's bible study for graduate Christian ladies, and I made some lovely friends, one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/20 01:43 AM |
| 15 | What are boyfriend vs fiance/hubby benefits?For me, living together is reserved for my husband/fiance. In the latter case, I will only move in if there is a date set for the wedding. Intertwining finances is another big one. I recently purchased my first car for < $5000 after saving for about 4-5 months, without my boyfriend's help. He did give me some guidance on what to look for, what to check for, what a reasonable car mileage is, etc. But if he had offered to help me pay for it, I would have said no. And this goes both ways, although … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 12:15 AM |
| 12 | Vetted, Committed, but wants to see other people.For the record, whether or not you need to ask that question depends on what circles you're dating in. I live in the Midwest now, and my boyfriend and I are both religious. I never sat him down once we started dating and said, "How do you feel about monogamy?" I figured it out through talking about other values and ideas with him when we were just friends (for example, he and I both had a lot of the same criticisms of the sexual revolution in the 60s, we're both anti-porn, etc.). So I knew going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/20 12:15 PM |
| 150 | Vetted, Committed, but wants to see other people.No, you made the right call. You value monogamy, but he doesn't. If you're dating for marriage, and you can't agree on that part of commitment, then that's a recipe for disaster. Frankly, I think it's awesome that you figured this out after only 3 months -- it could've been worse! To prevent this from happening in the future, ask the right questions earlier on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/20 02:52 AM |
| 11 | Paint me a picture of the essence of a woman - kind, open, warm, not diminishing, collected,femininity is based on a sense of communicating goodwill and allowing others to 'be' around you without fear or trepidation This. Doing my hair/makeup and wearing a pretty dress definitely makes me feel more feminine, but that only gets me so far, and looks fade. Character and values are where it's really at. What you've just described is exactly the kind of generosity of spirit that I aspire to. A huge inspiration for me is Melanie from Gone With the Wind. I can't stand her husband, as he isn't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Dating but not official for 7 months. Need advice on how to get my power back.Let me tell you this guy is a catch. Everything you could ever want in a man. What makes this guy so great? He's lied repeatedly, he's not taking the lead in making your relationship official, and he's still stuck on somebody who isn't you. If you two are already sexually intimate, it's probably stopping you from taking the blinders off. he assured me that he will cut ties with her if this will make me feel better. So he's only doing this (or saying he will) to make you feel better. Sounds like … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 04:12 PM |
| 13 | Irritated by BP friends. Any advice?First off, welcome and thank you for posting here! I knew people like this when I was in university for undergrad and masters (~6 years). Several of them were there for me during some rough times, and for a long time I loved living with them in a dorm where I felt like I would be accepted no matter who I was. I later moved to a co-ed fraternity house that was similar while I was doing my masters. I'm not the same person I was when I lived at those places, but I genuinely loved them, and they bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 03:58 PM |
| 30 | Should I stay or should I go? sorry for the long post!You could be spending your time from now until January getting to know a guy who actually wants a serious relationship. That outweighs the benefits of continuing to see this dude for months and MONTHS who is not committed to you. Dump him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/20 03:45 PM |
| 4 | How to handle intimacy changes due to Covid-19 at my man's requestSounds like this is a good example of STFU even when it’s hard. I’ve got the message. And thanks for being so prompt! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/20 03:37 AM |
| 4 | How to handle intimacy changes due to Covid-19 at my man's requestI’m not sure what’s unclear — is politely asking him every couple of weeks what he thinks and if we should still continue with this boundary considered nagging? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/20 03:33 AM |
| 2 | What kind of music do you listen to?Ha this isn't the subreddit to expound on the origins of goth rock, I'd Google that. It's basically an offshoot of post-punk with darker elements (stronger bass, tribal-like drum beats, people with lower vocal ranges singing, etc.). Some classic bands I recommend to get you started if you're curious: Bauhaus, Joy Division, Cold Cave, Siouxsie and the Banshees (female vocalist), Nick Cave, The Cure, Sisters of Mercy, Clan of Xymox. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 08:15 PM |
| 4 | What kind of music do you listen to?I'll listen to almost anything if it's good. I do love some romantic oldies (The Ronettes, The Crystals, Four Tops, Darlene Love), which do make me feel feminine and generate loving thoughts about my Captain. But I listen to a lot of new wave, gothic rock, alternative rock, noise rock, lo-fi, indie rock, experimental music, classical music, even some industrial. I even enjoy Death Grips (which my Captain hates). | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend extremely distant and cold after sexClarification: Did you have sex as soon as the two of you became boyfriend-girlfriend? I'm a little curious about the timeline (3 weeks vs a few weeks) and think more context may be helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/20 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Curious what RPW would say about this manAre you new to this sub? You're absolutely welcome here so long as you follow the rules, don't get me wrong. But a single glance at the sidebar or a few of the top posts would tell you what people on this sub would say. That aside, are you attracted to this man? Is he making unwanted advances on you that you don't know how to deal with? You're asking this sub if you should avoid somebody that we would obviously tell you to avoid at all costs, which suggests that there's probably something else g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/20 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Is it a normal occurrence for women, for your male friends to suddenly suggest having sex?Yeah then I would say boundaries are critical. I would just keep upgrading yourself and your life. Ignore these guys -- they either (1) don't know how to approach a woman and are trying anything to see what works, or (2) are manipulative and genuinely see nothing wrong with this behavior. Either way, don't say yes to any of them. In the event that you're looking for a partner and want to date in a committed context, then say that upfront when you go on dates. If you're religious, the best way to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Is it a normal occurrence for women, for your male friends to suddenly suggest having sex?Are you in college/a college town? I was surrounded by guys like this when I was in school, and none of them were worth my time. That’s not to say that I never made some dumb, hedonistic choices or never failed to set boundaries; I made a few mistakes. But believe me, these guys do not have anything on the brain beyond getting into your pants, even if they’re your “friends.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 12:53 AM |
| 7 | Feel really terrible about not being a virgin, can I still get married?If you're religious, I encourage you NOT to make an idol of your sexual "purity/impurity." I returned to Christianity about a year and a half ago, and whatever I did while I was not religious, God still loves me. And He loves you. He does NOT want you to feel stuck and irredeemable for any kind of sin. It sounds to me like you were not acting out of a place of lust, or with the intent of using his body for your own pleasure; rather, you were honoring and loving this past boyfriend with your body… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/20 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Clothing for an early twenties girl?I love dresses like these on Amazon, especially when it's spring/summer. They're not expensive, they can fit a variety of body shapes, and they're so easy to dress up/dress down. I get compliments on them often; they're flattering without being tacky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/20 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Where can I find books/videos/resources to learn more about RedPillWomen ideology?Classically Abby is also a good YouTube resource | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 04:12 PM |
| 4 | What is the line between being a girlfriend and being a wife?The main line people seem to be mentioning here is living together. I would also add a financial boundary: Don't let him spend too much on you. A few hundred dollars on concert tickets for the two of you or a beautiful birthday/holiday gift is fine. But don't let it get to the point where he's helping you with major purchases (e.g. a car) or covering living expenses (e.g. rent). Until you're locked, you should be paying for those things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 01:49 PM |
| 15 | What is the line between being a girlfriend and being a wife?I agree with this 100%. I also recommend mentioning this early on in your dating. My boyfriend knows that I won't move in with anybody unless there's an engagement and a set date. I don't think there's anything wrong with staying for days (< 1 week) at a time at each other's places, just to be clear. If you're able to early on, I recommend it. Your relationship will look more like real life and less like a series of romantic dates. You'll also get to give him a preview of what you would (hopeful… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 01:45 PM |
| 21 | I’m 20 and I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m terrified that no one will want to be with me after I turn 25So you're surrounded by guys you're not attracted to, and you're worried about none of these guys being attracted to you? I'm a little confused....why does this bother you so much? Regarding the way you're obsessing about not wanting guys to think you're a slut: Could you explain that a little more? Are you avoiding sexual tension with guys? Are you not ever flirting? Or are you just saying no when propositioned for sex? You're 20 years old, which is young. Spend more time getting to know yourse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/20 03:11 AM |
| 21 | How do I start?Not married, but I've found that embracing my feminine side in how I present myself has sort of naturally upped the amount of feminine energy I exude and feel within. As a man, your husband is visual. The classic, elegant beauty of a woman is very powerful to him and encourages him to meet your femininity with his masculine energy. This entails hair, makeup, and dressing modestly but femininely. There's tons of threads about this (including field reports) on this subreddit. For example, since th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 02:31 AM |
| 2 | What to bring to the table when you feel brokenI can relate to this. My father was a high-functioning alcoholic and the breadwinner while my mother was a narcissist who controlled every nook and cranny of our family, pitting us against each other. Truthfully, I actually didn't realize my mother was a narcissist until after I chose to estrange myself from her, and I decided to keep it that way once I learned more. How does your mother's present behavior affect you? I know I wasn't able to fully embrace my femininity and work on myself/my mood… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Dilemma...boyfriend is now spinning plates but now I am feeling weird.Disclaimer: I'm a conservative-leaning Christian, so for my boyfriend and I, non-monogamy (mutually agreed upon or not) is a huge no-no. I'll try not to let my world view bias my response though. Also I'm sure there's some people who feel non-monogamy is healthy for them, but I'm not one of them, and your feelings sound very similar to my own. Let me explain. Before my current boyfriend and I met, on multiple occasions I was in the position of having either a guy I'm dating/in love with or a guy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 03:22 PM |
| 4 | Help for a beginner?++ recommend Mrs Midwest, particularly if you’d like to work on your appearance and demeanor. There’s also a few posts in this subreddit that summarize chapters of For Women Only that I found helpful when I was getting to know what masculine men need from us women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 09:54 PM |
| 4 | New Here! What was your "ah ha" moment of becoming "Red Pilled"?What's the end goal here? Are you dating this particular woman just for fun (i.e. the sex), or are you dating her with marriage in mind? If this is just for fun, and she's "sexually liberated" and okay with casual dating, then do whatever you want. On the other hand, if you can't get down with this woman's worldview, and you're trying to date her seriously, then you may want to cut and run. You need to have values in common with your spouse. They don't have to be identical, but they need to be v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 01:13 PM |
| 2 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryThis is one of my favorite bits of his. I started listening to excerpts from his podcast as well to get a man's perspective on things. It's safe to say that Bill Burr is why (1) I love to make food for my boyfriend when I can, and (2) I don't come to him complaining about getting catcalled or getting approached by a guy I don't like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 12:54 PM |
| 7 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryExactly. My boyfriend does like hearing about my work (I'm a grad student in CS), and he's very encouraging. But something about me in a sundress with a home-cooked lunch ready for him when he gets hungry after work/exercise seems to make him incredibly happy in a way that my career success never really could. Third-wave feminism would argue that I hate myself and he's a sexist pig. rolls eyes | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 12:22 PM |
| 3 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryI agree with everything you've said here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 12:14 PM |
| 3 | What value does your man bring to your life?I grew up in a really abusive home and never knew such forgiving, gentle love before I met him. I really think God sent him my way. Same same same same same. I ended up recommitting to Christianity because of the grace he showed me, even though we were just friends at the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/20 03:41 PM |
| 6 | Does it ever fade?I lost my virginity a few years after straying from my faith (I was raised Catholic). Not only have I not had sex since then, I recommitted to being a Christian a little over a year ago and my faith is stronger than ever. Allow me to offer my thoughts from a Christian but non-judgmental perspective. If you're not religious/Christian, oops, hopefully my input can help any women who are in your position and are religious. I'm still learning how to reconcile certain harm that has come from Christia… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Guy [29M] that I [26F] have been seeing doesn’t want to see me during COVID-19I think that he's correct in taking precautions. My boyfriend and I have been been together for ~7 months, and we live ~30mi apart from each other in the Midwest. We've agreed that social distancing is the best option to keep each other safe, but we're talking to each other on the phone frequently and keeping in touch. That brings me to my next point. What you do during this time depends in part on how serious the two of you are. When you say that you're in the dating phase, what does that mean?… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/20 04:37 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone have any advice on quieting your anxiety?Same here. Full disclosure, I got way into my own head yesterday morning/afternoon because of what's been going on and all the changes my state has implemented to help reduce the spread. Ended up having a meltdown and turning my camera/mic off on a conference call with my research group so they wouldn't know about it. After the call I ran 5 miles and ate one of my healthy go-to meals. Felt a lot better. Consistent exercise in my opinion is the key. Part of why my mental health/anxiety spiked is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/20 10:41 AM |
| 29 | Super secret tip to discovering he has feelings for youI wouldn’t disagree with this, as it’s not too far off base. However, I would instead look at actions. How much is the guy going out of his way for you, giving up his time/resources/plans/sleep just to make you happy? How much does he seem to care about making your life easier? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 05:41 PM |
| 4 | A Valentine’s Day ReminderI have a very bad cold right now, and my boyfriend lives about 35mi away and was very tired when he got home from work (physically demanding job at factory). I let him know on his lunch break that I was sick and that he should stay put so that I don't get him sick. He and I both love spending time together, but I turn into a hermit when I'm sick and he was a drained zombie anyway....so it worked out for both of us. At his suggestion, we ended up video chatting for a little while and watching the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 02:53 AM |
| 3 | Help Me Vet?He's giving too much too soon. These "love-bombing" actions are major red flags, and they are typically how abusers draw you in. Ditch and block him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Tips to keep skin looking health and young?My skin vacillates between kinda oily during the summer and kinda dry during the winter (if I don't moisturize). I just use a high SPF oil-free Neutrogena sunscreen, have been using it every day since May. I like it because it goes on very light and dries quickly. I've also been using Retinol on my eye area since late November, and have noticed a difference in my dark circles/wrinkles. So that's great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 02:11 PM |
| 16 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.Something that hasn't been mentioned: If you smoke/do drugs/drink, either cut it to a minimum or stop altogether. Your looks and health will be intact for longer, but more importantly, your attitude and behavior will likely improve. I used to drink and behave like a jackass whenever I drank too much, as I was liable to do. I definitely alienated friends and guys I was interested in. I've found that my physical health improved, my emotional regulation is better, and the crowd of people I preferre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 09:17 PM |
| 24 | What are the long-term consequences, both negative and positive, of modern day feminism?Modern day feminism has no interest in the way men think and feel. Most feminists I know blame their problems on men and demonize them just for being men. They blame toxic masculinity for everything. So a lot of young men, in my opinion, grow up thinking that their masculinity is toxic and wrong. Their instinct to care for and protect women is used against them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 03:46 PM |
| – | Monthly GoalsI was using the Bible app for a while, but I found that I had an easier time committing to reading once I got a physical copy. I guess I'm one of those people who likes having the book in her hands :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/20 12:30 AM |
| – | Monthly GoalsRead a chapter or two of the Bible every single day (I'm currently alternating between Psalms and Numbers for some balance in difficulty). Keep applying eye+night cream every night. Write (at least) one brief on a paper each week for my advanced AI class. Keep showing up to the pool 4-5 times a week (I'm teaching myself how to swim freestyle, I signed up for a triathlon in mid-June). | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 11:54 PM |
| 1 | I tried wearing a nightgown to bed last night, and this is what happenedDr Teal's | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 02:10 PM |
| 2 | I don't know what I freaking wantFirst off, you're 20 years old. Not knowing what you want is normal, and quite frankly you seem to give more of a damn about your future than I did at 20. It does make me wonder what kind of age gap there is between you and your boyfriend. How old is he, how long have you been together, etc.? I'll get this out of the way before addressing your question/concern. I once dated somebody 10 years older than me for various wrong reasons, and there was an unhealthy power dynamic there because of the ag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 03:12 PM |
| 13 | Thanks for the advice: curbing exWell done! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Do not fall for the lie of having fun now and settling later while you in your twenties or be involved in meaningless relationships.This is exactly how I felt when I met my Captain (or rather met him for the second time 6 years later since we were acquaintances in HS). I was blown away not just by how much he had worked on himself but also on how we seemed to be on the same page about certain values. We didn't start dating until ~1 year after that as I was living in another state at the time, but our friendship slowly blossomed and I saw that we had even more long-term values/goals in common than I originally thought. It's o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 12:05 AM |
| 69 | Do not fall for the lie of having fun now and settling later while you in your twenties or be involved in meaningless relationships.Just to add, taking dating seriously by starting early goes both ways. You should be vetting the men who come along while you’re young, assessing them as a possible spouse. But you should also be vetting yourself and striving for self-improvement, which does lead to the intrinsic reward of being a better future marriage partner. A lot of people in their twenties (including me, I’m 23) are told to just have fun and not take themselves or their responsibilities seriously. We’re told that these sup… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 04:18 PM |
| 4 | Is there something or some things you know now you really wish you knew when you were younger?I dated a man ten years older than me who had been divorced for less than a year and had two kids, and whose values were wildly incompatible with mine. I would never have gotten involved with him. I would also tell myself not to spend more than a third of my income on rent each month. I would also tell myself to bet on character and values when choosing my friends (and especially my Captain) over tingles and aesthetics. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:41 PM |
| 12 | I tried wearing a nightgown to bed last night, and this is what happenedThanks, I'll look into it! Can it be used on more sensitive areas for grooming, or is intended just for the legs? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 06:15 PM |
| 1 | What is your skincare routine like?You're welcome! I turn 24 in ~1 month actually :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:32 PM |
| 3 | What is your skincare routine like?I'm still young (good to start early), and because I'm in graduate school, I wanted a routine that I could stick with and wouldn't take lots of time. Here's what's been working for me: Neutrogena sunscreen every morning, SPF varying depending on the weather. At night, wash face with simple soap and water. Then night cream and eye cream containing retinol. Both of these are worth the money considering I bought my last container(s) 2 months ago and still have plenty left despite daily use. 1-2 tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:01 PM |
| 29 | How I kept my femininity as a female in STEM in collegePhD student in computer science here (specifically multiagent systems, machine learning, and game theory). I too am that one feminine lady in my classes and in my office building with the makeup and the dresses and the black boots, and I agree with everything you've said here. I'll add two things though: First, of course you're going to run into some tech bros who try to approach you just because you're pretty and can talk about gnarly subjects like deep learning or (in OP's case) cybersecurity.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 05:00 AM |
| 2 | College boys are the worst. Is a man a bit older a better fit for me? Do I have decent SMV?I dated a man 10 years older than me when I was 21-22. There were other bigger reasons why we didn’t work out, but a big one is that there absolutely is a power dynamic with an age gap like that. It was very easy for him to take advantage of me or manipulate me because I was young, naive, and very infatuated with him. I would never say he was abusive, but I was hardly an equal in the relationship. Having gone to school on the East coast, I totally get your frustration. My advice is to aim for po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 02:43 PM |
| 6 | Did I make the right decision to cut off the guy I'm in love with?Yes, you did. Look at his actions and not his words. Especially considering you’ve expressed that you wish he would try harder, and nothing has changed (Hopefully you did that in a classy way that requires him to act in the moment rather than you just saying “I don’t think you really like me” and him reassuring you). If he was actually serious and liked you for more than sex, he wouldn’t be sending you a confusing text or putting himself in a position to lose you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/19 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Keeping conversation meaningful while long distanceSo my relationship with my Captain is not technically long distance, but we are restricted by the fact that I live half an hour driving distance away and don't have a car (yet), and he's leasing a car for 3 years with a limited number of total miles.....and has already gone over his budgeted mileage for the first year. So our most meaningful time together is basically every other weekend and holidays. I think for us, phone calls a few times a week and little texts here and there are the best whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/19 04:04 AM |
| 21 | What does Red-Pill means for you?!I spent 6 years in academia being force-fed the notion that other than their perpetual horniness, men were selfish and made no sense, so why bother understanding them or thinking about how I could appeal to them? And why give them my best if they can't handle me at my worst? Also fuck the patriarchy for making me wear dresses and mascara, I have degrees you should be paying more attention to. RedPill (for women) taught me the exact opposite. (1) Not all men are selfish and terrible. It's my job … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 04:40 AM |
| 8 | Have you gotten any nice comments and compliments since following RPW? Share some positivity!I'll start with boyfriend compliments, because they make me feel fuzzy and happy :) My boyfriend loves loves LOVES the dresses I wear, and has told not just me but also other people this. I get compliments from others also, but my Captain's compliments mean the most. He's also told me more than once that he thinks I'm beautiful, and has complimented my skin and my physical fitness (I'm not as lean as him, but I do aspire to be). He's also told me that he appreciates the way I support him in all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 01:35 AM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I was in a rough place this time last year. The details are not appropriate for this sub, so I will keep them to myself. I am thankful for the fruits I have reaped as a result of working on myself and slowly putting my life back together. However hard the end of the fall semester is for me right now, this is NOTHING compared to what I went through last December. I am thankful that I get to spend Christmas with my Captain and his family. I am thankful that I am now financially able to start payin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 06:30 PM |
| 10 | What are your best solutions to late replies?Respond to what he's giving you, not to what you want or what his logic is. If he texts you back late saying he's slow or that he dropped his phone or was busy, my advice is to just say, "All good, enjoy your week!" or something. You're still polite and warm, but you're checked out. Once you've sent that text, go do your thing and enjoy YOUR week! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 02:54 PM |
| 39 | What is your first date prep routine?This advice might sound a little strange at first, but I believe that it fits the RPW perspective, and it helped me a lot when I started dating again. I'm going to assume that you put some effort into your appearance on a day-to-day basis unless the "stuff" hits the fan. You presumably style your hair; take care of your skin; exercise/eat well; wear a little makeup to enhance how you look; and dress in a classy, feminine way. I'm being deliberately general here, as the details are irrelevant and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/19 06:18 PM |
| 4 | Where to find cute outfits?I don't know what you like to wear or how old you are, but here's what I wear (23F) for winter. I love getting dresses off of Amazon, particularly Tom Ware cotton dresses -- they come in tons of prints! You can wear leggings underneath those dresses if you want some more warmth, pair them with cardigans, or wear lace undershirts beneath them. Maxi dresses are also a great option. And I do sometimes wear jeans with a cute top, but not super often (~20% of the time). I verrry occasionally will hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 12:41 AM |
| 1 | New relationship: Our first vacation togetherI’m 23, boyfriend is 25. And thank you!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 11:45 PM |
| 31 | Understand how he shows loveSame here. I am very touchy and affectionate, and I also do sweet things like leave him a note before I leave his place, make his bed in the mornings, etc. Because these are all more traditionally romantic, I worried a little when we first started dating that he wasn’t as smitten with me as I was with him. But I’ve noticed that what has seemingly meant the most to him are when I’ve been his cheerleader at his races (he’s an avid runner/triathlete), and when I support him in his endeavors. This h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 11:00 AM |
| 14 | How to be a more warm, radiant person?Things that have worked for me: - Take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, drink plenty of water, skin care, etc. When you feel good and healthy, it comes out in how you treat people. - Dress well and do my makeup every day. I don't go overboard with the makeup of course; just enough to enhance my eyes and lips. When you're presenting yourself well to the world, it comes out in how you treat people. - Routinely remind yourself of the good qualities of the people in your life. When I'm waiti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 03:20 PM |
| 3 | I rarely drink, but when I do I go overboardLike I said, if you are indeed a cheapskate, your best bet is to either nurse a non-alcoholic drink during these work functions, or just not go. For me, breaking the cycle of alcoholic abuse (and in my case narcissistic abuse as well) is a great motivator for keeping me not just sober but also self-aware of how I treat people. I'm sure your love for your girlfriend, for example, can be a similar motivator. I believe in you. You can do it! Also to reframe this through a RPW lens, I'll say two mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 02:57 PM |
| 9 | I rarely drink, but when I do I go overboardI used to be in your position -- drinking more than I intended, and oftentimes behaving very badly when I did. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to give up alcohol altogether, which I did 2.5 years ago. I don't know if this is the case for you, but I was partly motivated by my family. There's also a history of alcoholism on both sides of my family, so you could argue there's perhaps a genetic predisposition to addiction. I made up my mind that I would never become like my father or (wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 11:04 AM |
| 18 | "You're so sweet it makes my life so much easier"My captain has also recently called me a sweetheart, and I too have this sub to thank! I definitely need to take a minute next time I see/talk to him on the phone to let him know how much his discipline, steadiness, and commitment to his values inspire me and motivate me....aka similar to what your SO said to you, but rephrased to compliment his masculinity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 05:24 PM |
| 2 | I never get approached by men, like my sister does. How can i improve my situation?++ This. Also OP, judging from the other comments, there's more to your story, and the solution is probably to do some more work on yourself, inside and out, to bring out your femininity and to look/behave your best. I was in a similar position a few years ago, wondering why I always had no chance with the guys I liked, and completely lacking in confidence and femininity. I also looked far from my best and was about 40 pounds heavier. But after I changed and fixed all of that ~1 year ago, I noti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 02:35 PM |
| 15 | How much does physical appearance matter?Physical appearance for me matters to a certain extent for two reasons. First, I have to be sexually attracted to him. It doesn't have to be immediate, and it can grow as I spend more time with them (e.g. why I have developed crushes on friends in the past). Second and more importantly, I place a lot of weight on his health and physical fitness. Does he eat well and exercise regularly? Does he take care of his body? In the context of vetting, I'm looking for values, as I am committed to a health… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 02:08 PM |
| 16 | So so so very new hereI grew up with an abusive narcissistic mother and an emotionally absent, alcoholic father. I cut off contact with both of them last year and stayed in nun mode while I healed from some very ugly trauma and worked on myself. Looking back, I put up with a lot of BS from guys I liked because I didn't know any better, because I didn't have great self-esteem, because of various other issues going back to my parents' treatment of me, etc. My advice: Work on yourself. Especially if there's trauma you n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Praise for face masksProbably? I just do it before the shower because it's less messy, easier to wash off, and takes less time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 07:01 PM |
| 8 | What r u guy"s view on Incels?Excluding cases where someone has a debilitating medical condition or mental illness, their situation can be improved by them working on themselves. Not an easy transition, but an entirely possible one. I don't dislike them. But I have better things to do than date someone who I would constantly be trying to fix/change. If I met one whom I found attractive, their preoccupation with sex for its own sake would be reflective of a serious and dangerous difference of values. I date for marriage, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 11:32 AM |
| 9 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeI basically kept my romantic feelings for him to myself and watched and waited. He had no idea. Two things happened: 1) One night he was spilling his guts to me over text and confessed that he loved this girl who didn’t love him back. So that was rough. 2) Shortly before I decided to break things off and move out of the frat, I was visiting my hometown and met with my now-Captain to catch up. We went to high school together, only as acquaintances; in fact he was a mess when I knew him. But as we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 04:15 PM |
| 19 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeI fell for my best guy friend a couple years back. He was a Dylan. I thought that I knew him and that he was the guy for me because he would listen to me talk, because we liked the same music, because he liked getting me to finish in the bedroom “more” than finishing himself. I thought that I could be vulnerable around him because we’d showered together on several occasions, just for the fun of it; because I was recruited to look after his cat when he went away; because we lived in a coed frat h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/19 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with Male Attention in PublicIt depends on the scenario. If I'm walking down the street and clearly not planning on talking to anyone, they just stare at me. Otherwise, it's about 50/50 from what I can tell. The staring doesn't seem rude, I just feel uncomfortable when I notice it. In my neighborhood, it sometimes escalates into cat-calling, but I'm moving out of there in a little over a week, so I'm not so concerned about that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/19 04:02 PM |
| 11 | Dealing with Male Attention in PublicI've also been having this problem ever since making changes as a result of this sub (and am also 23). Would like to hear some advice, particularly since OP and I are currently single and don't exactly have partners/husbands to walk with as "guards." I'm warm to the men who do talk to me, but I make sure to cut off the interaction before it borders on flirting, which typically isn't hard since I am often in between places during my day when this happens (e.g. waiting for a coffee, an elevator). … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/19 03:42 PM |
| 19 | I think I'm low value...how do I increase my probability of finding a partner?Absolutely. The more you work on yourself and treat yourself like a goddess, the more you will expect from prospective dating partners, so it will be easier to dismiss the ones who are a waste of time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/19 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Staying celibateSo disclaimer: I’m only 23, and I can only really talk about what not to do. Firstly, if you’re kind to yourself, take care of yourself, stay healthy and work on your character every day, you’ll be treating yourself like an empress. So when some guy treats you like an empress either because he really loves you or because he’s just trying to get you into bed, it won’t seem like an out-of-nowhere thing, like the first bit of kindness or validation you’ve had in forever. So you won’t feel as compel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 04:51 PM |
| 9 | Staying celibateWhatever works for you! In any case, I think you've made an awesome decision. It sounds like you're looking for preventative tips (i.e. "How do I avoid putting myself in situations where I might break celibacy" vs. "How do I resist breaking celibacy when I feel like I'm going crazy"). I would say that there is some truth to how crossing physical boundaries --> getting hornier --> going against your better judgment just to get off. And if you don't set and enforce those boundaries early (i.e. you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/19 03:58 PM |
| 28 | Staying celibateI have been celibate since August. At the time, I was involved with a close friend, and I decided not only to stop but also to save the physical intimacy for a committed relationship. We never had intercourse, but we probably would have if I had allowed it to continue. However, in November, some serious bad things happened with my family, and in January while I was healing from the trauma, I decided to look for comfort in God and the Church. I was raised Catholic, but we stopped going to church … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/19 01:12 PM |
| 42 | How can I feel confident wearing more feminine clothing?Hon, I’m a grad student in CS which is not only male-dominant but also has low standards for the dress code. There’s plenty of ladies here who show up in jeans and T-shirts all the time. They come across as both masculine and unmemorable. Trust me, I felt like a real oddball wearing makeup, wearing dresses, wearing a scent, etc. just for everyday. I was nervous at first to be walking around dressed well: cotton dresses, tight jeans with feminine tops, etc. I also have a more alternative style, s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/19 12:28 AM |
| 12 | Women who have changed their fashion choices/style of dress to become more conservative, did people treat you any differently? If so, how?Yes! I love the Tom's Ware sleeveless dress; it's at a great length, comfortable, and can very easily be dressed up or down. They'll fit a little more snugly if you have a larger bosom, but I've found that as long as the waist fits, my figure is accentuated very nicely. I have 5 or 6, and they've lasted me well over a year at this point :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 12:56 AM |
| 37 | Women who have changed their fashion choices/style of dress to become more conservative, did people treat you any differently? If so, how?Started wearing dresses and natural makeup more frequently. Jeans sometimes too, but often with a cute top that fits. I go for cotton A-Line dresses—especially florals—which you can find on Amazon for decent prices. Used to walk around in T-shirts and leggings or shorts this time of year. I’m a grad student in Computer Science, and I’ve noticed that I get a lot more male attention doing this. No one has ever been disrespectful, though. These male PhD students just hang around trying to talk to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 12:04 AM |
| 2 | What women inspire you? What traits in women do you find yourself admiring?Haha I know she was a real person -- definitely could've phrased that better. I guess I just meant that I look up to the character representation in the movie. I have no idea what she was like in real life, as I have not done my research | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 10:05 PM |
| 2 | What women inspire you? What traits in women do you find yourself admiring?Exactly! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 10:04 PM |
| 15 | What women inspire you? What traits in women do you find yourself admiring?I can only think of fictional ones, but they are important to me. So here goes: June Carter from Walk the Line. Aside from her feminine style, which I adore....she's a Christian, she supports and cares for Johnny Cash when he's detoxing, she calls him out on his shit without going over the top, and even though she loves him, she's not stupid enough to take the plunge and get involved with him while he's still married or still a mess due to his drug abuse (excluding a one-night stand....but she r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Seeking friends for support!That sounds like a loverly idea. Seconded! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 12:37 PM |
| 3 | Have any of you been in Psychologically Manipulative Relationships?Same here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 12:47 PM |
| 3 | How do I learn to do makeup / hair?I agree with all of this. Going along with the natural makeup look: for the love of god, do NOT overdo your eyeliner! I occasionally will use a dark brown pencil and wing it out, but most of the time I use a dark brown eyeshadow. It really does make my lashes look great combined with mascara. One of my big sources of inspiration for makeup was movies that featured feminine women that I admire; they tended to also have makeup styles that appealed to me. Good examples would be Reese Witherspoon in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/19 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Facefucking?Can we please get a mod? This is very crude and not keeping with the standards for RPW posts, particularly the ones we have for men who post/comment here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/19 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Favourite podcasts?The Ben Shapiro Show! (Actually anything on the Daily Wire, really). Also a fan of the Rich Roll podcast, the Nick DiPaolo Show, and Bill Burt’s Monday podcast. Currently looking for more Christian podcasts, particularly ones that revolve around love, gender roles, matrimony, etc. (I have only recently started going back to church, and reintegrating my faith back into my life as a core value). I’d also love some more podcasts that are similarly conservative and redpill, but from the female persp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/19 08:56 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?As a fellow daughter of a toxic mom (possibly narcissistic), I am so proud of you! The healing is not easy, particularly if you chose to go low- or no-contact like I did. You're doing great, and God bless you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 04:34 PM |
| 12 | Increase feminine energy and style?I’ve lost plenty of weight in the past few years, but as a grad student, I live frugally and avoid shelling out cash on expensive A-line dresses. So I have some floral dresses, rompers, and long/short sleeve shirts that are a little loose around the waist. Since I’ve got larger breasts, this is especially suboptimal. Solution: I just layer one of those shirts over a dress/romper and then tighten it from the back around my waist using a hair tie. It’s super simple, but it gives me the shape I wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/19 03:06 PM |
| 8 | Dating older men?I've never dated anyone twice my age, but when I was 21, I started dating someone ~10 years older than me. He had been divorced for ~1 year at the time (separated for > 2 years), and he and his ex shared custody of their two young children. It was my second serious relationship, and it was the first time I started to seriously think about what I wanted in the man I would one day marry. Although the relationship ultimately didn't work out, I can share with you (1) how to minimize the chance of hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 02:55 PM |
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