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I resent you for saying "K-closed", and I prefer reading "kissed" and I imagine it's actually easier to write "kissed" too. Also I resent you for saying, "how to utilize a girl friend." Do you realise utlize means: "make practical and effective use of." You want to make use of a girl? My question is, how do I utilize this situation? She's kind of a loner, we've been on a couple dates, and I'm just unsure of what the dynamic will be moving forward. Well if you want to make use of the situation, e…
/r/seduction29/11/16 10:48 AM
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You're allowed to give a shit about your feelings. If you so choose.
/r/MensRights26/11/16 06:42 AM
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She's not interested in you. Shut the fuck up and move on.
/r/seduction25/11/16 10:32 AM
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I imagine she's projecting. I bet sex is all she thinks of since she doesn't seem to do it much. Also just tell her, "I have no ulterior motive. I have motives that I'm open about. One of them is I wanna fuck you. Now that's it out in the open, what do you wanna do?"
/r/seduction24/11/16 10:06 PM
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yep
/r/seduction24/11/16 06:34 AM
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That's insane. Hahah. Like if she was waiting for marriage or religious reasons I'd get it. But what's the point of a year if it has nothing to do with that? That's like a loooong time for no reason that I can think of ... And lol at vegan. Fuck that animal foods taste good.
/r/seduction24/11/16 06:33 AM
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"Well, let's find out if that's true ... do you want to grab a drink with me later tonight / tomorrow night?"
/r/seduction24/11/16 06:30 AM
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No doubt. When one person downvotes because they interpret it negatively, and as long as the comment is slightly subjective, the rest follow like sheep and assume the negative interpretation is true.
/r/seduction22/11/16 10:02 PM
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Well apparently your college degree did lead you down. I asked him why. I didn't expect him to fuck her. I just wanted him to say the reason/s why he didn't, to help him become aware of all his sticking points that lead him to sex at an early point AND that he is in this for sex (perhaps a girlfriend/wife) and not numbers. Ultimately, my motivation for the question isn't important, but it's clear you read way too into my question and reacted blindly assuming I was expecting highly of him that he…
/r/seduction22/11/16 09:11 PM
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Yes I read his whole post. Where did I say "I expect you to fuck"?
/r/seduction22/11/16 09:04 PM
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You're welcome. I learnt that the gestalt therapy way, works better than freudian crap. Although if I was doing it right I wouldn't ask you and instead have you discover for yourself through experience that you are those subconcious parts. If you're interested in understanding your dreams experientially checkout this: http://www.socialwork.career/2011/08/gestalt-therapy-and-dream-analysis.html
/r/seduction22/11/16 09:02 PM
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That's answers nothing. I'm not saying he "must" fuck her. I'm asking why didn't he fuck her. If he answers that, he will understand his real sticking points.
/r/seduction22/11/16 08:26 PM
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why didn't you fuck her?
/r/seduction22/11/16 12:10 PM
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Oh my bad. I made an incorrect assumption that The Benjamin Franklin effect was about doing favours in order to get favours. Just looked it up now and I realise my sarcastic post was a mistake. Still thought it is manipulative, and I wouldn't do it consciously.
/r/seduction22/11/16 11:04 AM
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Just remember in a dream, every person and object in the dream is a subconcious part of you. So when you approach the girl, you're actually approaching yourself. You are the cute girl. And you are "you." You're also the jealous girl. Do these parts of your existence resonate with you? Do you have a part of you that gets jealous? Do you think of yourself as cute? Do you have a confident, conversational side to you?
/r/seduction22/11/16 10:26 AM
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It's clear you've never done this in real life. I thought the same before doing the mission. I imagined everything from police coming in, to being slapped, to guys coming in and fighting me. But reality is VERY different to your imagination. These kinds of things happen so rarely that you'd be an idiot not to do this experiment. If you jaywalk, you can get arrested, but generally police won't arrest you for that even though it's illegal. And this isn't even illegal. (At least in most western are…
/r/seduction20/11/16 05:06 AM
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Well firstly, you are clearly racist. Stop with the bullshit about, "Please don't see me as a racist but". You're racist. Now, my advice would be to start being honest with yourself and others about your racism. Admit that you don't like your own race to heaps of other people in real life. Even if this is terrifying for you. That's the only way you'll start to become detached from it. If you keep clinging on to this opinion that you're not racist (when you secretly are), you'll stay stuck "prete…
/r/seduction20/11/16 02:44 AM
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Firstly, you're making a lot of assumptions with your "help." I doubt you are helping with good intentions, more so you can feel validated because that's what this sub and reddit and the internet in general is about - validation. And calling me "little buddy" I think is a really childish and obvious "neg" ... and who the fuck does that anymore? Only people who aren't sure of themselves and are trying to put others down. Second, most comments and posts of mine in those subs are providing feedback…
/r/seduction19/11/16 06:58 AM
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Again ... I'll do what I want, so fuck off if you don't like that.
/r/seduction19/11/16 02:43 AM
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Used to be this awesome program called G3 or get a girlfriend guaranteed by Mark Manson, then he went into lifestyle shit and got rid of it ... shame. At the moment I think there's some newbie missions out there. You can always create your own! Here's one for you that will work on many skills rapidly: Approach 25 girls and try to kiss them within 30 seconds of meeting them. (Best results are in bars/clubs, though you can do this on the street too) This will test your balls, teaches you to handle…
/r/seduction18/11/16 04:51 AM
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First of all, after reading this comment that I wrote, I advise you to stay off this subreddit, and pickup forums in general. YOu need experience in real life to improve, not useless info to bog you down. Since you already sound attractive (tall, good looking, muscular) you've got the fundamentals down, which is a great start. Now you need to do a lot of socialising, approaching, and closing. meetup.com - go to any events you like the look of regularly, and build your network there. Make heaps o…
/r/seduction18/11/16 03:30 AM
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Why don't you buy the girl an expensive dinner with roses and chocolates? This means she will be more inclined to have sex with you because she owes you a favour!!! ^ Is what every "nice guy" thinks before having his expectations destroyed and turning into a miserable, bitter asshole that no one likes. Leave this manipulative shit alone. It won't work a lot of the time, and when it does, it probably wasn't the stupid games you played, but more the fact the she already liked you in the first plac…
/r/seduction18/11/16 03:18 AM
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Fuck off.
/r/seduction17/11/16 02:17 PM
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Alpha mindset: I won't ask whiny questions on reddit about being alpha. I'll do what I want.
/r/seduction17/11/16 05:02 AM
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Yeah I do develop myself internally as well. The looks getting uglier with age is more relevant to women than men. It's true for men too, but we can still look distinguished and handsome at an old age. And when you look good and get lots of pussy while young, that sexual experience gives you a new kind of attravtiveness independant of looks but in order to get that you need to have good looks and fuck a lot first.
/r/seduction16/11/16 10:24 PM
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Nah disagree. Making sexist/political/racist jokes are fine. Look at Russel Brand, he says controversial shit all the time, and he doesn't look "rude." Or if he does, he doesn't care. You just need to be good looking enough and you need to find a way to own what you say and not apologise for it. It's SJW's like you who make up dumb rules about this. If you're a fat, obese guy, with snot coming out of your nose, people will find anything you say wrong. If you're a male model, you can get away wit…
/r/seduction16/11/16 08:12 PM
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Work on looking good first. When you look good, then "creepy jokes" turns into, "he's a little awkward and that's what's attractive about him." Then just practice approaching with different girls, over and over, and make sure you observe how each girl responds. And calibrate..
/r/seduction16/11/16 11:54 AM
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I imagine you're talking about my disagreement with 2? If so, I still disagree. I think there should be no avoidance early or later.
/r/seduction13/11/16 11:51 AM
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Takes 3 min of a phone call, not much effort at all. And I mainly suggest that for himself, more than securing a date. He's probably resentful deep down, so I suggest he calls her up and let it out, so he doesn't feel like he is a victim with future girls. If he "plays it cool" while angry, he will constantly feel bitter towards girls in the future that remind him of her. However she responds doesn't matter.
/r/seduction13/11/16 08:11 AM
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Great. I disagree with 2. And I think 1 and 3 are extremely important. I think following on social media is fine, if you are uncomfortable while looking at the profile that means you need to process those emotions, so I think LET yourself look at her profile as many times as you want, AND be mindful of yourself as you do it. Pain, appreciation, nostalgia, or anger might come up, and that's good, stick with all those emotions. If you're running away and burning old items, and hiding her profile, …
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:55 AM
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I think the best way to cut the games is to be super honest ... call her up or if you can, see her in person (DO NOT txt or msg her this) and tell her: " I resent you for flaking the second time we organised a date. I imagine you were genuine about not coming on the first time, and I'm mad at you for your excuse on the second. I don't want to waste my time if you're not interested. I like you, and if you are interested I expect you to organise the next date .. otherwise bye." Don't copy that wor…
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:46 AM
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agreed ... it should be called: The big guidebook created by a nerd on bullshit that doesn't help you get laid.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:39 AM
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Good.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:36 AM
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Welcome awkwardess and nervousness and do whatever it is you want to do in spite of those feelings. Your actions are NOT dictated by your feelings.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:34 AM
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Lol. I don't know what to say honestly ...
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:29 AM
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I know this sub promotes the idea that looks are only a small part of the equation of attraction. Well if that's what the sub promotes, it's bullshit. Looks fucking matter. They are at least half the equation. The equation is: Look above average (This includes your body, grooming, appearance, style, and body language) Talk to girls (This also includes approaching, touching, leading, closing) If you're getting lots of rejections when you talk to girls, work on your looks more. And since you rely …
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:24 AM
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I think leave her. She flaked on you "a couple of times" that's enough for me not to pay attention to a girl. If she hits you up later, and initiates a date, sure go ahead, but until that day, leave her alone.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:21 AM
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She's not interested in dating you. She's interested in texting you or being your friend. Unless you like texting buddies ... Move on. If a girl is uninterested in you for dates or sex, even in the slightest, leave her. The longer you try with an uninterested girl the more you're saying to the universe, " I HAVE NO SELF RESPECT." Girls love to chat/text/make penpals out of guys. My guess is that's NOT what you want. So don't settle for that. A girl who is interested in you will simply say someth…
/r/seduction12/11/16 09:47 PM
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Real life or TNL.
/r/seduction11/11/16 10:49 AM
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So long as she doesn't bring any friends, and she knows you're straight, high chance she knows it's a date. Just be sure to be sexual, and I'm hoping you don't waste heaps of money on a first date.
/r/seduction11/11/16 06:56 AM
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Can you post a pic? I am curious how good looking you are. And I am wondering what if she got it wrong too. If it's true though, that's not a bad thing. You just need to approach more and talk to girls and be honest. Don't do negs or ANYTHING that might lower a girls self esteem at all. In fact honesty will work better for you if you compliment girls etc. You need to take initiative though, don't expect girls to approach you. And I suggest going after hot girls, since they will most likely feel …
/r/seduction11/11/16 06:54 AM
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she said possibly if she dont have anything to do So in other words ... you're her last choice of things to do .... Why on earth would you spend another second with her? She has no interest in you. You're like homework to her. Do you wanna be a girls homework or do you wanna be a girls interest? Reject her! And go on to the next girl.
/r/seduction11/11/16 06:49 AM
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Omg I think you're a huge pussy. Definition of "nice guy." I hate the following: How do I tell what this girl is thinking? and I gave her some comfort and a little pep talk. we started texting a little. A little flirting, and I thought it was pretty good. We Skype for an hour and then we just stop texting. I asked what's up I think it could be related to me waving at her when I thought she was walking to her class when she wanted a hug, but I don't know. I don't see why that would be a huge deal…
/r/seduction11/11/16 06:42 AM
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Although I think you are honest about your opinion, I think your opinion is mostly bullshit. The following things I want to make my opinions on: Don't go alone, seriously, don't be that guy. Fuck off. Go alone, be THAT guy. Generally speaking, almost everyone at a venue looks down on the guy that goes out alone, they think that something is wrong with him. Where did you pull this from?! This is complete bullshit. 9 times out of 10 no one even notices when you're alone. When you're in a busy club…
/r/seduction11/11/16 06:19 AM
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It means either she has a boyfriend or she lied about having a boyfriend. Either way you don't want her. NEXT.
/r/seduction08/11/16 10:37 PM
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Learn their language Learn how to express what you want with body language Talk to girls on the street Take someone you know as a wing and for safety (since you're 18 and I don't know what country you are in)
/r/seduction08/11/16 10:32 PM
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Well firstly you don't need to be a good conversationalist to get a date. I don't know where you found that out. I'm not much of a talker and I have got dates just by saying hello and maybe a compliment and asking if they want to grab coffee, so that's BS. Perhaps you're making the mistake of correlation with causality. in order to get a date I need to be able to make conversation quickly and effectively. Changes to : in order to get a date I need to ask for the date and hope she is into me and …
/r/seduction08/11/16 10:22 PM
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Doing something that you're not used to but deep down would do if you weren't scared is different to acting because someone said this act will get you pussy. Touching a girl is not acting, it's genuine. I'm touching her because I want to touch. It might not be natural for me if I'm not used to it and it's honest. Same goes for summoning up courage to go talk to a girl. Acting like I don't care if we have sex in order to get sex is NOT honest, that's plain bullshit. Or doing "freeze outs." Do you…
/r/seduction08/11/16 09:34 PM
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Do a 10 day free Vipassana retreat. It is intense AND worth it for your whole life: https://www.dhamma.org/en/index Now you might not be able to do that right away before the date, so I recommend do this 10 min "Anapana" vid in the mean time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHERQ1Mt9_w Once you learn how Anapana works, start increasing the time from 10min to 30 min a day. (You don't need the vid once you know how to do it) And also do this whenever your mind is very hyper or when you start feeli…
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:59 PM
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It's ok to be needy. I know 100% of pickup advice says neediness is bad, and I think it is. But trying not to be needy when you are is even worse. What I recommend you do is just meditate a lot, before sending any messages. Then decide if you want to text her or not. For me when I meditate, I stop caring if I'll see her so much ... and I let things be, and later on the girl might say yes / no. If it's getting close to the date tho and she hasn't said anything, good to double check if she can mak…
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:50 PM
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You said it yourself: boil down to acting I don't know about you. But I don't like to ever "act" when it comes to friends, family, relationships or even one night stands. If I'm getting laid, it's gonna be with the real me, not me acting like I'm some indifferent guy. If I'm genuinely indifferent great. But acting is for manipulative chumps.
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:43 PM
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Ok well I think change is a paradox. I got this quote from somewhere not my own words: change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. I believe this to be true. That is if one is angry, and one tries to calm down and breathe deeply and try to get rid of the anger, the anger keeps coming back (at later times). If one just accepts he is angry and allows himself to be angry, eventually it truly passes and changes into something else. (Maybe sadness, or joy, o…
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:35 PM
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Are you having equanimity too? Doesn't sound like it. Mindfulness is made up of awareness AND equaniminity. You need to be ok with being silent, ok with any pain, ok with everything that is happening.
/r/seduction08/11/16 07:30 PM
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I would recommend being consciously aware every single time you realise the point in which you are waiting for someone to talk to you. Catch when that moment happens. And then be aware of how you are waiting, and what is your body doing in that moment. E.g breathing, tension, rigidity etc. And keep watching yourself every time it happens. That's how you start, with awareness.
/r/seduction08/11/16 09:52 AM
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The other guy said: Nice notes. Saved And you said: Good for you? What a pointless comment, everyone has different experiences. I think you and the other guy shared equally pointless comments. I don't give a fuck. It's fucking reddit. I'll share as many pointless comments as I want.
/r/seduction08/11/16 09:37 AM
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Good. I don't live to make you happy. Fuck off.
/r/seduction08/11/16 09:27 AM
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Number of posts on it. The quantity.
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:29 AM
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Let me make it simple for you. Emma Watson is an example of a girl who many guys would give a left nut for, and I think she is JUST OK. I have nothing against Emma, I'd probably bang her if she came onto me. But to me she's just AVERAGE, maybe cute. I start getting ticked off when I see 100's of comments about guys talking about her like she's some sort of a goddess. And that's when I'd call her overrated. Because: Overrate: have a higher opinion of (someone or something) than is deserved. And I…
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:20 AM
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Why are you so impassioned to shit on a simple book meant to educate people? I'm not shitting on the book. I'm saying I think it's overrated and contains a lot of common sense. You imagined I'm shitting on the book. And I imagine I hate all the fucking guys saying, "mark manson! mark mason! models! models! I have opinions! I suck marks dick!" I think the repetition of guys talking about models is driving me nuts. The book itself I think is useful (to many, not me) AND overrated.
/r/seduction08/11/16 08:06 AM
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or are you saying it's decently comprehensive but it's all mostly common sense? Yeah this one. If it's all common sense and it left nothing out, well, that's not a fair criticism since by your own admission you'd be saying it has all the info it claims to have just that you find it to be common sense. Yeah I found it to be common sense for me. I think most of the stuff there is helpful for guys who were brainwashd by pickup bullshit. I think the book is highly overrated. I don't give a fuck if i…
/r/seduction08/11/16 07:58 AM
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I think models is overrated. I guess it blows ex pickup nerds minds. With common sense I figured out most of the stuff he said anyway through my own experience.
/r/seduction08/11/16 07:38 AM
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Few hours makes it much more tricky. And I cbf guessing if I would get laid or not with that restriction. I would need at least 5 min to talk to each one. I'm not just gonna run around asking girls if they wanna fuck. So a little bit of talking time might be needed. Also walking time might make up another 5 min from one girl to the next. (Although this might be less since I'm going for ANY girl and there should be an ugly one nearby) The toilet I was thinking mainly about because it's faster the…
/r/seduction08/11/16 07:34 AM
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Fuck you man. This guy needs an asshole to either stop him from trolling or destroy his perception of reality. Assholes serve a purpose in this world. I prefer to be that asshole.
/r/seduction08/11/16 05:23 AM
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If I approached 60 girls every night. And the bars/clubs was open every night. (6 approaches per hour, for 10 hours, from say 6pm - 4am) If I had no standards and touched and attempted to lead each girl to some disabled toilet or place to fuck. I imagine I would get laid every day at least once. Also before 6pm I would message every beast on craiglist hoping she's a woman, and message heaps of girls on tinder before going out to approach. (For backup sex) Requirements: No job or anything to do M…
/r/seduction08/11/16 05:14 AM
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Good AND bad advice. Good: Life is not a movie. She will not magically realize you were the one all along after a hiatus of contact with you. This is good because, it's true. Life isn't a movie. And well she may or may not have nostalgia and miss you, but it's definitely a fantasy which is unproductive as most times even when a girl is nostalgic she might not say anything and pretend to forget all about you in order to satisfy her ego of pretending to be so preoccupied with life, like you're pro…
/r/seduction08/11/16 04:30 AM
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Well first talk about what you want to talk about. I doubt you care about what she thinks of the mall of if she's from around here. Do you? If you pick topics you like, there's a higher chance she'll get interested and want to talk too. Second. Hold silence and look into her eyes. This often creates pressure, and you might wanna ruin that pressure by talking, but don't. Each time you rush to fill the silence, she learns she can be passive and you'll do all the work. So let her do some talking, b…
/r/seduction08/11/16 04:23 AM
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lmao you're a troll. There's no way girls approach YOU and want BDSM sex with YOU within an hour. Wtf? You're fat, balding, lack of fashion/style, clearly a troll. If you were to get anything from women, it would be marriage, otherwise you'd be that fat single guy friend who talks about sex and never gets any.
/r/seduction08/11/16 04:12 AM
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When you bake a cake for example do you preheat the oven or not? That's the difference. And stop calling it F close you fucking robot. It's called "fucking", and it's not that long to spell. Just say, "what do you do to make a girl wet before you fuck her?" Seduction doesn't mean you give up the English language and start treating the whole process like a video game.
/r/seduction08/11/16 04:09 AM
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Here's what I'd do. I'd hit on her. If she complies awesome. If she doesn't, I'd use her as a wingwomen to meet other women. I mean you're in vegas! If she doesn't comply even as a wingwoman, I'd probably get pissed, and tell her to fuck off. And then go out alone. That's just me though.
/r/seduction08/11/16 04:06 AM
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Game is mostly bullshit. The amount of times I've repeated this and seen it repeated is amazing. There's still broken guys coming into pickup learning techniques and attempting to "game" women, and they're missing the point. Real experience: I went out with a wingman to talk to girls. I saw him visibly and slightly audibly talking to himself about what he's going to say and how he's going to do it. I was thinking, "wtf?" I went up and just said, "hey" to girls. He would be all rigid in his postu…
/r/seduction08/11/16 04:00 AM
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Forget what those guys say about, "last minute resistance." I think that whole term is creepy as fuck and the "solutions" for it are even creepier. There's techniques guys try to pull in order to make her not "resist." Wtf?!! I seriously think pickup culture sometimes treads very close to sexual assault, and we have to be careful. If she's not down, she's not down. And you did well. Just do what you did next time you see her if you do.
/r/seduction08/11/16 03:49 AM
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Meditate first. (To not be attached to your worries and outcomes) Then go with an intention to sleep with her. And let your words, body language, tone of voice, the way you touch her, all of that communicate your intention. And if she is letting you stand close to her, and complying with you, lead her to a taxi to go home together.
/r/seduction08/11/16 03:06 AM
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Don't ask me. It's your life ... turn your questions into statements.
/r/seduction06/11/16 09:45 AM
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Should I try this 10 hour thing even if I can only do for to 3-5 days? No it's 10 days long and you have to stay for the whole thing because each day teaches a new part of the technique, if you leave early you'll get nothing out of it. I would recommend doing this over your social life, and sex life seriously .. I mean you can do all that shit after the 10 days. This meditation will help with all those things too. When you are aware socially or with women, you become less reactive, less needy, a…
/r/seduction06/11/16 09:27 AM
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I do 20 mins every morning, after running. I was told 20 minutes should be enough. I don't think it's enough. I mean clearly it's not working for you. Right? but I do try to get rid of my thoughts to observe my surroundings and the sensations I feel. Wrong. Mindfulness isn't about getting rid of anything. It's about awareness and equanimity. Being aware of sensations and surroundings is great though. I can't do it all day at the moment, but I do it 4-5 times a day for a few minutes. You can do i…
/r/seduction06/11/16 08:48 AM
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How much do you meditate? And do you practice being mindful all day? This is huge. Doing 10 min a day IS NOT enough. Too many people BS about this. For meditation to work especially in regards to neediness and internal happiness, you have to really be present all day long not just for a short period of time.
/r/seduction06/11/16 08:20 AM
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Touche. My point still stands in general.
/r/seduction06/11/16 05:24 AM
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I'd just do it as normal, and see what happens. There's no right way of doing this, and you learn better ways of doing it through your own experience. Enough mental masturbation. Go do it and fuck it up and learn.
/r/seduction06/11/16 02:59 AM
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I think if Brad Pitt sent model snaps to a girl he wouldn't be creepy. And I don't see why you would either. I imagine you're just uncomfortable in your body when a girl doesn't respond, and then you imagine the girls thinks you're creepy. Creepiness is not a feeling, it's just a label you imagine yourself as or someone else calls you, it's really bullshit. "Creep" is what your mind produces. Check in with your body when the girl doesn't respond, and disregard what your mind says. Your body is b…
/r/seduction06/11/16 02:06 AM
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Ok enjoy.
/r/seduction06/11/16 01:47 AM
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I imagine maybe you fear success? It could be a unconscious thing, so you might want to make money and want sex, but deep down some part of you doesn't want it, could be hidden self worth issues. This kind of stuff runs deeper I suggest seeing a therapist, seriously ... they will help you get to the root. All answers here including mine are just guesses.
/r/seduction06/11/16 01:45 AM
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how do you experience being creepy?
/r/seduction06/11/16 01:42 AM
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If a girl says, "I'm not interested." Seriously, just leave. I haven't ever come across a situation where a girl said that while moving closer and biting her lip, that phrase 9/10 times mean she's not interested and if you keep going you'll be harassing her.
/r/seduction06/11/16 12:01 AM
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Perhaps do a bit of nofap. You don't need to be in game to want to fuck a girl, you just need to be a little horny. If you were horny I imagine you would have naturally made moves on her and had a fun time fucking.
/r/seduction05/11/16 11:05 AM
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is it that i care too much This. I think if you go out with non pickup friends allow yourself not to do any approaching and just socialise with the boys. When you wanna pickup go out with wingmen. You can mix them both if you want. I normally divide the two. If I'm with friends I might talk to a few random girls not that much. With wings I talk to a lot. The main problem is you're a chickenshit with friends, you probably aren't leading what you guys do or you're afraid of judgement. Tell your fr…
/r/seduction05/11/16 10:50 AM
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I think you should have fucked her. The whole night just talking?! I mean talking is great sometimes, and I think sex is even better.
/r/seduction05/11/16 10:47 AM
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Turn your questions into statements
/r/seduction05/11/16 12:10 AM
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3 second rule
/r/seduction04/11/16 03:07 PM
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Ok I didn't make my question clear, I think you listed out what might be going on for the girl, I meant what happens literally in the real world. What does the girl do for you to think she responded bad?
/r/seduction03/11/16 08:45 PM
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The issue is when u start going close and physical. You need a set of skills that includes conversation to allow that kind of proximity. I have posted this request several times and no one has yet responded with a concrete answer. What happens most times when you try to get close and physical?
/r/seduction03/11/16 01:37 PM
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Being punched is a bad analogy for being rejected. Being punched in the face actually leaves physical pain, while rejection does not, it's just a hurt ego. With rejection we're scared of not being ok with a hurt ego. But we are. It's irrational. Being punched though can lead to death (if temple hit) and so it's dangerous in itself
/r/seduction02/11/16 08:29 PM
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I'd bang her or try to. I wouldn't go on reddit like a nerd and ask guys what they'd do.
/r/seduction02/11/16 11:54 AM
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Up to you. I would try and talk to her another time.
/r/seduction01/11/16 09:25 PM
1

Why?
/r/seduction01/11/16 09:23 PM
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There's nothing to handle most of the time. I enjoy my space and texting isn't even fun. So the answer is I'd do nothing. I wouldn't ignore her, I wouldn't text her back. I'd continue on the same. If I felt like messaging her again then I would but I'd probably not. However, If I asked her an important question about meeting me on a date today or something similar and she's not replying, I might give her a call. If she still doesn't answer, I'll assume she's not coming on the date, and then I'll…
/r/seduction01/11/16 10:28 AM
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I saw one or two of those RSD vids on self improvement. I'll admit they're not that bad. If I'm going to listen to someone though, I prefer listening to actual meditation gurus or Psychotherapists like Goenka, Osho, or Fritz Perls. These guys are full of real wisdom, and Tyler I imagine is just a junior (in regards to spirituality or psychology) who soaks up knowledge from these kinds of guys then does his own spin on it for an hour talking with his weird language, terminology and cartman impres…
/r/seduction01/11/16 10:20 AM
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She needs a therapist. And you're a pussy.
/r/seduction01/11/16 10:17 AM
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She was looking at your lack of balls :P
/r/seduction01/11/16 10:14 AM
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Fucking relevant. This also goes for fitness, and careers, business, basically everything. I had 2 fuckbuddies, stopped approaching, then eventually fuckbuddies tapered off and I found myself on a HUGE dry spell. I got to a nice lean body where I felt sexy, told myself I can eat a little junk now that I've reached a good body, a little became a lot, and back to being chubby again. I won't say, "keep pushing yourself." I will say DON'T DELUDE YOURSELF. If you remain aware constantly, you will nat…
/r/seduction01/11/16 10:12 AM
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I think the only way is to first be aware of the before, during and afterwards of your reactions. And you need to do a lot of self work on this. It's not a once off deal. I recommend gestalt therapy once a week, and an hour of daily mindfulness meditation to increase that awareness. Once you are aware you can learn how to accept your bodily feelings and then begin to transform your perception of them to a more neutral one, and when that happens you won't need to react by going into a victim stor…
/r/seduction01/11/16 10:05 AM
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You're a moron. What you're saying is not a FACT even if you write it in capitals. You're just pushing your deluded opinion as if it were a fact. I've dealt with rejections that I didn't even see as rejections till some guy said, "damn she rejected you." and I'd be like, "what? I was just talking to her." I've had rejections and I've had pain and I've also laughed and found some funny and I've sometimes felt nothing much and been indifferent. Here's an example, when you talk to your mum to ask h…
/r/seduction01/11/16 09:59 AM
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What's so scary about being rejected? I'm pretty sure there's nothing you lose from a rejection. I think OP is right in that it's actually the fear of not knowing how you'll deal with a potential rejection.
/r/seduction01/11/16 09:53 AM
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Stop reading into what he's saying, girl. He said what he said, and to me it makes sense. I'm more interested if things will be the same as before or will my life change drastically. Take that at literal value.
/r/seduction01/11/16 09:52 AM
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Listen to nothing from RSD. You will become more wise by not hearing them talk and instead talking to girls. inb4 downvotes.
/r/seduction31/10/16 11:43 AM
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She wanted to sit next to each other to work on my laptop. Okay. We were sitting on a couch right next to each other with our legs rubbing on each other, and my laptop's touchscreen. She kept bumping into my hand and giggling over stupid stuff, and I was teasing her and joking around. There was a point where I realized "Woah, we're almost on top of each other here. Her body language is pretty neutral, but should I make a move?" I'm pretttttttttttty sure she wanted to fuck you and you unintention…
/r/seduction30/10/16 10:59 AM
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Well they are only thoughts not reality. What you need to do is NOT try to stop them. Just let them come. Observe them, and welcome your thoughts. And remember you're not your thoughts, or what your thoughts say you are, you are the observer of your thoughts, you're also the observer of your sensations and surroundings. You are consciousness. If you have no idea what I'm talking about and it sounds like hippy shit, I recommend you take a 10 day vipassana retreat.
/r/seduction30/10/16 10:56 AM
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Being genuine and having interests is great. And if you have sticking points you still won't get with women. E.g if you cannot open or cannot close, how on earth will you get laid? Even if you're super interesting girls hardly ever come up approach you and take you home pull your dick out and fuck you all on their own, that rarely happens. So we've got to work on weak areas.
/r/seduction30/10/16 10:47 AM
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I believe you're not trolling and I don't really know how to help you. I think you need to copy this entire paragraph of your question and email it to your Psychology teacher. And I think you need a therapist if you don't have one already, and also send this paragraph question of yours to him/her.
/r/seduction30/10/16 10:39 AM
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Yeah it's weird to be a heterosexual male complimenting a girl and asking her out for coffee. You're weird for thinking that too. And you're weird for existing on this planet. Stop being so weird, weirdo. Weirdy mcweirdface.
/r/seduction27/10/16 11:08 PM
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Yeah it's definitely possible. I understand we gotta play their lame games. Girls aren't the ones playing games, you are. Well they play games, and you play games. And you're projecting. Watch out you don't wanna end up a bitter man towards women. If you stop playing games and be honest, you'll suddenly see the range of girls willing to sleep with you quickly or reject you quickly. If you manipulate girls you open up them to manipulate you. Try Mode One by Alan Roger Currie. From my own experien…
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:36 PM
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Good advice.
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:28 PM
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Be attractive. Don't get too drunk, midly tipsy is good. Escalate and lead fast. Watch how the girl responds and scale back if you go too fast.
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:27 PM
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Yes I'll see what he has to say and heres the thing. I know that "average" guys have gotten with really beautiful girls but I don't see that's a possibility for me. Stop writing to me what you imagine, it's not productive for either of us. I crossed out what you imagine again. I imagine you go into your mind a lot, and I recommend you do mindfulness meditation an hour a day along with therapy.
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:23 PM
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what would you say if I asked you the difference between 'using game' and just talking to a girl who you think is hot. The difference is up for interpretation. Some would say "using game" is using pickup techniques, others would say seduction principles others would say just being smooth with women. I don't have a strong definition of what game is because I know different guys use it in different contexts. Talking to girls you think is hot, is just talking to girls you think is hot. How would yo…
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:14 PM
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Ok firstly you're doing a lot of imagining here. How do I know this? Because you're saying a lot things which are thought processes and not based on reality. The things crossed out are what you think or imagine ii.e not reality. I'm in therapy and it has worked but not the way I thought. It helped me with my depression and feeling better but not too much. It's crazy but the reason why I feel like this is because I feel unworthy to get a beautiful girl. Once I get that beautiful girl then my feel…
/r/seduction27/10/16 09:54 PM
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In person. I prefer doing as many things in person, if I can't get her in person, then phone/skype, if not that then finally text. But I try not to do text just because I'm a chickenshit. In person is the best mode of communication because there's a lot of non verbal communication that goes on that you won't know from text, also it's hard for a girl to ignore you in real life. They'll most likely respond with something.
/r/seduction27/10/16 08:36 PM
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I want to date around and get into a relationship with the "girl of my dreams" as they say. That is one of my goals when it comes to relationships because I guess I am more stable that way. If you look at me and my life on the outside, you would see that it is pretty good. I am healthy, good-looking, fit, going to school, live in a luxury apartment, have my own car, a large group of friends etc. All the areas of my life I am satisfied with EXCEPT for my relationship area. I haven't had a true re…
/r/seduction27/10/16 08:32 PM
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Game is several different guidelines, of which you can also break and still get laid. E.g Game might tell you to wait 3 hours before going home with a girl but you might find you can take this girl home now. Game might say you need to take a few minutes before getting a number and you might find you can get it straight away. Game will say don't ask if they have a boyfriend or ask if they are single. Some direct game will say tell them your intentions. Other game will say don't tell your intentio…
/r/seduction27/10/16 08:04 PM
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Well you were lied to. The pickup industry is full of lies. Wake up. Different girls respond to different things at different times. There are no rules in seduction.
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:47 AM
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Here's a better principle to live by. If something stops working try something else. Sometimes guys get hooked into pickup theories or "how to win friend and influence people" or an abundance of other rules/principles/guidelines. But you need to realise, reality is your best friend. If you notice a girl doesn't respond to questions in real life, try not using questions and saying statements, or try talking about yourself, or try something else. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and …
/r/seduction27/10/16 10:46 AM
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Then hang out and get to know her. Numbers aren't a pre-requisite for that.
/r/seduction27/10/16 04:34 AM
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Do you have a video of you doing an a 1 minute approach + rejection? I could give you feedback if you showed it. You didn't give much details. I could guess but there's a lot of differing factors. Voice, self worth/esteem, eye contact, approaching from behind/side/front, waiting on the girl to talk, fear on the girls part, girl is in at rush + so many more. Guys giving advice here are most likely guessing. Send me an infield of you if you like.
/r/seduction27/10/16 04:21 AM
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Why do you want her number so much? Do you have sex with phone numbers? Just talk to her and ask to hangout sometime. Get the number as an afterthought.
/r/seduction27/10/16 04:16 AM
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It means you are critically thinking. Polarising is about standing for something so someone (mainly girl in this context) will either connect with you on that or disconnect with you from that. I think if you keep asserting contradictory viewpoints you are not being polarising. You might come across as intelligent and/or balanced. But not polarising. If you want to be polarising, choose a side and have fun letting the girl fight with you on that for a while or connect with you on that deeply. Tal…
/r/seduction27/10/16 04:15 AM
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True dat. I think game is mostly manipulation of behaviours to appear attractive, and I think if you're trying to manipulate people into liking you then you don't think you're good enough as you are to seduce them honestly. I think the only thing you do need to work on is: Look great Talk to more girls Try to fuck or date each girl honestly If you disagree with what I said then I think you need a 6 month break from all things pickup related and get therapy.
/r/seduction27/10/16 04:07 AM
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Everyone doesn't hate you, that's a projection. Most likely I imagine you feel uncomfortable in your body somewhere and you imagine in your mind that people hate you. And you're confusing your imagination with reality. IF you are sure people hate you, ask each person who you think hates you, "I am wondering do you hate me?" and see for yourself how many you got right.
/r/seduction26/10/16 05:25 AM
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IF I were you I'd learn to not attach my arousal/turning on to who leads first. I recommend going up to guys and approaching them, you can do it indirectly or directly, but do it, and see for yourself that you might like taking on the male role. Have you experimented with it?
/r/seduction26/10/16 05:23 AM
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Go ahead and be honest. All the guys chasing her probably don't have the balls to be 100% honest. And most guys flirt. Trust me a lot of the time flirting can be a huge waste of time and energy. If you're honest you stand out. You may not get with her by being honest or you may, but you definitely take a good step in either having something happen or getting quickly rejected. You'll save yourself time and most likely attract her even more by being ballsy enough. If you keep worrying how to attra…
/r/seduction25/10/16 02:01 PM
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Therapy. It's most likely something like fear of success of self worth issues. Something deeper that pickup advice won't solve. Get some therapy.
/r/seduction25/10/16 01:28 PM
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Now you have a shower, get dressed, walk out the door, spin around in a circle 5 times, go back inside, masturbate, smash your tv, scream at the wall, go to therapy, get a job, pay taxes, remember your date, question why did you ask what to do on reddit in the first place.
/r/seduction25/10/16 01:01 PM
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I say tell them what you notice and what you think honestly in the moment. I think if, "I think you're hot" is what comes in your mind then say that. In my experience honesty works better than other things. Do what works for you.
/r/seduction25/10/16 12:04 PM
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Do a 10 day vipassana meditation retreat. Then practice for 2 hours every day after learning the technique. Cut off all pickup, game, approaching, theory, gtfo this sub for at least 4 months. Do cheap therapy for a year. These things will help you become internally fulfilled and happy and whole this is the real inner game. Then after you go through that process come back to talking to women and girls and seducing them from a place of happiness and to add them as a bonus to your life.
/r/seduction25/10/16 09:38 AM
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My advice is become friends with the "jocks" or the popular guys that throw parties and get laid. You might not think there's any but there still are. befriend them. Really get in those circles. get invited to the parties where all the slutty popular girls go. And if you're friends with the jocks you'll start to become one, and you'll get laid. Just drink, have fun and talk to the girls.
/r/seduction25/10/16 09:34 AM
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Act BE like you're a 10 and some of society will start seeing you as one, and you won't give a fuck anyway
/r/seduction25/10/16 09:29 AM
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That guy is never getting laid. All he's doing is looking like a smartass that girls will sigh about.
/r/seduction25/10/16 09:26 AM
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2 always. Teasing I think should never be done as a way to generate attraction, more something that happens spontaneously for your own fun. If you never tease spontaneously that's fine. Don't do it then. Serious guys get laid too. But 2 is the way to move things forward. I think pua's have got teasing/flirting all wrong. I've "generated attraction" without any flirting many times. Being super honest can attract girls too, so can your look, so can a whole range of things.
/r/seduction25/10/16 09:22 AM
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If you have impairments and you're autistic, then ditch my advice. I'm addressing the majority of "normal" guys. If you have impairments find out your own ways of getting solutions. I'm not a coach. If you payed me then maybe I'd find and offer solutions for autistic guys. Certainly Tinder would not work either. I imagine you're not trying anything I suggest and using autism as an excuse. What's certainly mean? Did you try taking good photos, putting them on, swiping a lot and chatting to all th…
/r/seduction24/10/16 04:57 AM
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Well then I suggest for you: Get 5 good photos of yourself and put it on tinder Move to a large city with many women Swipe, swipe, chat, chat, fuck, fuck
/r/seduction24/10/16 04:53 AM
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Yes. Connection can happen anytime. I think more often than not people connect on dates.
/r/seduction24/10/16 04:51 AM
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I'm worried that that isn't enough time to build up enough of a connection for her to want to go out on a date. Girls don't need a connection to go on a date. Girls just need to be mildy attracted to you. The connection can happen on the date. If you're her type then you qualify for being attractive. The only way to know though is to ask her on a date. Hell some girls go on pity dates, no attraction or connection needed for that. (Though you don't want that either) So is a basic approach (eye co…
/r/seduction23/10/16 11:54 PM
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Do it, it's worth your time. Fixing up your appearance will help with cold approaching and tinder. Then take good photos and swipe a lot, and you'll do great. With tinder it's also beneficial to have a car because you need to be able to quickly respond and meet a girl when she wants to. I don't have a car, but I'm able to get to places quickly and I have the energy too. Some guys don't. I think tinder is ultimately the lazy way of getting laid, and it's also gets the same or better results if yo…
/r/seduction23/10/16 11:48 PM
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"I just wanted to tell you that you are the center of attention today! Even though you're kinda short." What you think on this line? Is it okay I think the line is the biggest load of bullshit in existence. You may as well go in with "who lies more men or women?" It's not honest, it's the opposite. Is it okay?? Hmmm. I imagine you just sound like a dick and pushing your opinion onto her without owning it as an opinion. Here is my alternative (if you wanna be honest): "Hi" (Then say what you noti…
/r/seduction23/10/16 10:23 PM
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This isn't small and I think it will definitely help you more than most things. Do a 10 day vipassana retreat. It's super intense and I think it's perfect for you. (Helps you be aware of your thoughts without being consumed by them among other things) Then use the technique you learn from there with girls in real life. Meditate using vipassana while approaching and talking to girls.
/r/seduction23/10/16 10:17 PM
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This guy is right. Tinder works really good, if you have your profile looking great with hot photos. You can go from like no matches and messages, to loads if your profile is setup correctly. Most guys look like shit though and don't have good photos that's why they get shit all results on tinder. It's pretty damn superficial and if you wanna win tinder and get laid it's all about appearance.
/r/seduction23/10/16 10:13 PM
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You could, but you don't really develop your personality with Tinder. That's just bullshit. Developing your personality has nothing to do with approaching or tinder, it's something you do day in and day out with your behaviours and a lot of it is out of your control anyway.
/r/seduction23/10/16 10:12 PM
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I think tinder is great. (If you look good, have good photos, and swipe a lot) I think a lot of guys put so much importance on approaching. But we're not in here to be good approachers right? (I hope so anyway) We're here to get laid or get a girlfriend or different options. Tinder can give you that if you have good photos and look good. Cold approaching can too. So can social circle. So can speed dating. So can blind dates. There's many different ways to skin a cat. Ultimately do what you think…
/r/seduction23/10/16 10:10 PM
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Remember what you want. It's most likely sex. So if you want sex. Do what you need to do to get sex. First mak sure she somewhat likes you. Is she standing close to you or moving back? Is she complying with you? If she is moving close to you and complying with you on small things, grab her hand, and lead her to a toilet/house/hotel/anywhere that is private (while talking and making sure she's comfortable), if she comes in with you and is willing and interested, play with her tits or makeout (do …
/r/seduction23/10/16 09:59 PM
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What's so bad about a rude girl running away? You eliminated her in rapid amount of time. You know there are guys who get married to those kinds of girls, get repeatedly verbally abused and whipped for their lifetime, only to get cheated on then divorced and lose all their money. Count yourself lucky. Getting rejected is nothing. Everyone would thing i'm a rapist/molester. Maybe german girls would thing, i'm one of those "bad immigrant" they read about on the news paper. This is all mindfucking …
/r/seduction23/10/16 12:01 PM
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If you find someone boring it is most likely you who are bored or pissed off and projecting on them in the form of a judgement.
/r/seduction23/10/16 11:51 AM
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Good. First destroy the excuses so you get to the point where you just have anxiety and no excuses. Then realise anxiety is just sensations in your body. Pay attention to them. It's most likely just shaking or butterflies or tension or warmth. Then realise, you might actually be excited or perhaps you still see it as anxiety. Then learn even with these sensations going on I can still walk up to the girl, they don't control me. Then make a habit of that. If you train yourself to "get AA" and avoi…
/r/seduction23/10/16 11:37 AM
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I've approached girls with headphones, and normally went well or if I got rejected that happened after maybe 2 min of polite chat. If you're getting girls that are annoyed and dismissing you, maybe you're not showing awareness? Sometimes it's good to say, "I know you probably have the headphones in to scare off guys, make an exception for me though, I think you're absolutely gorgeous." < just a corny example, but point still stands. I imagine they get more annoyed if you just jump into conversat…
/r/seduction23/10/16 11:35 AM
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I'll help you destroy excuses: • She looks like she's in a rush Talk to her and find out if she's in a rush. If she is, ask her for her number at least as that takes less than 30 seconds. If she's not, then you know you imagined that and you can now talk to her. • She has earphones in Go up to her and tap your fingers on your ears to gesture her to take them out. Silly excuse. • She's with a friend Talk to the girl you like anyway. Say hi to the friend briefly, then go back to your girl and give…
/r/seduction23/10/16 06:45 AM
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I don't know. I've tried in the past destroying the attachment to some incels minds and explaining solutions or how they are talking utter bullshit. Some guys just are too close minded to think anything else, or have had so many experiences that the pain they feel blocks anything I say. Some may have gotten woken up by message and changed. Ultimately it's up to them. I try my best to influence them, and I know I won't make any impact if they are unwilling to listen. There's always a small % that…
/r/seduction23/10/16 05:36 AM
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Well done man. Remember this feeling. This relief is better than regret right? Always better to ask than not to.
/r/seduction23/10/16 01:37 AM
1

What are you scared of? Are you afraid people will judge you as a heterosexual male that has the courage to ask for a date?
/r/seduction22/10/16 09:52 PM
1

Sounds hot.
/r/seduction22/10/16 01:25 PM
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I think don't overthink that. If you want her, take action with her. Don't worry about what conclusions she draws.
/r/seduction22/10/16 01:14 PM
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I think I get what you're saying. I'm not really talking about negs. (I know what they are) I don't do it to lower a girls value ever. I do it because that's who I am. I tease my friends and I tease beautiful women. It's fun for me. I guess this is my type of humour and I like to be a bit of an asshole and connect with girls that can take that level of banter. Calling her vagina smelly is a joke obviously. If it pisses her off too, I can deal with that. Anger isn't a permanent condition. while i…
/r/seduction22/10/16 12:58 PM
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If she is in a store near you. Not much need to ask for her number. Just ask her on the date itself in person. Look good Smell good Eye contact Be aware of your surroundings, check to see if she's free to talk Talk a bit, flirt Ask her to something chill that you'll go to alone anyway even if she says no E.g "I'm going to play some billiards and get a drink at this bar on fri, wanna join me?" If she's interested say cool, arrange a time etc. Then take your phone out and say, "what's your number?…
/r/seduction22/10/16 12:34 PM
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Ah. I think you probably have a higher chance of dating her since she's a "warm" contact.
/r/seduction22/10/16 11:38 AM
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You're becoming her gay male shopper. Escalate or get the fuck out.
/r/seduction22/10/16 11:03 AM
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Lol no. I admit haven't had sex in a while. I'm definitely not a virgin though. I don't really do "text game". Just giving my opinion and I still think hot girls don't react that badly as long as what is said is done in a cheeky manner. I think you can practically get away with saying anything. You seen simplepickup? those guys are great examples of what I'm talking about. I'm not saying, say that shit to get laid, I'm saying that's what I'd say in the moment to have fun, and it would probably s…
/r/seduction22/10/16 10:52 AM
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If she's really hot then I definitely recommend writing what I said or something similar. Hot girls normally can take bolder teasing and I think most hot girls actually crave it. All the hot girls I've interacted respond well to jabs. In pua I guess they call it negging. I don't like that term. I'd just call it teasing and mucking around. You know the girl better, and you know yourself. So don't write it, if it's not congruent to you. But if you're just not writing something like that out of fea…
/r/seduction22/10/16 10:15 AM
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I came here looking for advice on the situation. Wtf are you on r/seduction for?! Do you want to become good at collecting numbers from girls you ask? Or do you want to seduce girls? If it's the latter you know what you need to do. Use that fucking number and seduce her.
/r/seduction22/10/16 09:54 AM
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First of all 2 girls flaking is nothing to worry about. Forget analysing that. When you start getting a lot of date appointments you'll learn some will flake and there is NOTHING you can do to control that, and some will show up. Just a numbers game. Also I imagine there are things you may be doing wrong that might increase your chances the next time. This is just my opinion. I think the first girl liked you, and I think you didn't re-engage with her enough, and I imagine she was insecure about …
/r/seduction22/10/16 09:46 AM
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I imagine she is just playing. This is my imagination. I thought of a funny reply: "I want a lot of things from you :) and sex isn't one of them, your vagina probably smells." I don't know if I ever would send this, but I think if the girls knows you as a bit of a cheeky guy, this would be fine.
/r/seduction22/10/16 09:29 AM
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Good job man. I imagine you are young around 17-20? And I imagine you went out alone. Is that right? I've had similar experiences. And I think the next time you go you will have a little more confidence. (maybe, depends on mood too) And I think next time aim to act FAST. If you take too long at the start the whole night usually ends up kind of bad. So I recommend approach the first girl you see when you get to the club. And then after that one talk to the next girl quickly. And this builds momen…
/r/seduction22/10/16 09:19 AM
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My excuse? Well, I'm average looking but more of an "acquired taste"... Average looking guys get laid. Not an excuse. my awkwardness makes for poor body language, so possibly that could even drag me down to "below average" looks. Below average and awkward guys still get laid. Not an excuse. Then, as mentioned above with the awkwardness, I'm a bit autistic which led to social anxiety and eventually avoidance from every social situation possible. Turn avoidance into avoid and it becomes a verb. Av…
/r/seduction22/10/16 09:04 AM
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You want to learn reality? Go to a 10 day vipassana retreat, and then continue the practice for 2 hours every day after learning it. Use vipassana before, during and after interacting with girls. Go to an ayahuasca ceremony and drink the tea. Take up gestalt therapy for 6 months. Do a radical honesty 10 day workshop and practice the difference between noticing and imagining. Do all of that and practice and you will be able to see "reality" clearly and not be so attached to other peoples judgemen…
/r/seduction22/10/16 08:47 AM
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I wonder how is this not natural to learn. I guess what I did to get good at touching girls ... (Just saying this looks stupid) is practice hugging random girls, then pulling back and then attempting to kiss them slowly. If they backed off or turned off their head, obviously I back off. But this helped me get comfortable touching girls on the street. Doing this exercise many times actually got me laid once! I still had to lead to the cab but the girl kissed back and we talked some more and then …
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:39 AM
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:D well done ... haha I think kissing is no big deal. I kissed three random girls in a night, and I've heard of guys doing more. Getting laid is the trickier part for me. I imagine most girls don't mind making out with anyone while drunk in a club. Going home is a different story.
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:35 AM
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Oohhh brutal and I imagine probably true.
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:30 AM
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Try giving her a call, if she doesn't answer then I would go about talking to other girls and maybe try her again in a week if she doesn't respond.
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:30 AM
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I hate the term "shit test." I imagine it makes guys and myself included really paranoid about behaviours of others, or resentful towards anyone who does the "shit tests". If you don't know anything about shit tests, if you're ignorant about them you usually "pass" them anyway. And I think most of the time they are unconscious and not done with malicious intent. I imagine pickup theory doesn't really emphasise this and I worry guys might start destroying their relationships because they think ev…
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:27 AM
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Damn man :) I hope you're not too hard on yourself. From your writing style (capitals, and adjectives e.g HUGE LOSER, SO DUMB) I imagine you're beating yourself up about it hard. I recommend if you don't do it already, meditation. I think it may help you to be more grounded. I think it's good to reflect and review your interactions and I think it's not useful and slightly destructive to beat on yourself while doing that reflection.
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:22 AM
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I do meditation too, and I imagine I really understand where you are coming from :) been on my mind lately too. For me this is what I now focus on and for me it works great. I pay attention to the words they say and the tone of voice they say it in first and foremost. (I don't want to miss conversation because I'm watching my breath or something, awareness of the other person is more important than internal awareness I think when having a conversation) Then I pay attention to my bodily sensation…
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:11 AM
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Well you are ugly ... and a socially anxious wreck. You look ugly and no girls obviously like your appearance, you can't handle social situations without worrying about what people think of you. I think you need to get over your attachment to this. You won't make it if you attach your value to your appearance. Reason being, even if you're a male model, some girls will still find you ugly or not attractive. You will NEVER EVER be attractive to every girl on the planet. And you're going to suffer …
/r/seduction22/10/16 07:02 AM
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I resent you for writing your post. I imagine it's bullshit, and I think you're just a manipulative fuck who thinks he understands women when really you understand pickup theory which was written by marketers about women. I'm guessing you don't have much relationship experience.
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:55 AM
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Answer is in the question. Say something like this to her: "I'm looking for sex and not a relationship. I imagine you're super into me and I don't want to lead you on. I think of you as nice, and not someone I would have a close relationship with. I had times I would have kissed you and I didn't. I imagine you will think we are bf&gf if I kiss you. Am I right about that?" Also most of the stuff you said is in your imagination. When you say, "feel like", "can tell" this is just in your mind. I.e …
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:47 AM
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Well maybe you do look like shit, who knows. That's one interpretation. Maybe she was scared too and decided last minute not to meet up with a stranger. There's many possibilities. I think attractiveness is NOT your value though. It's an aspect of you, but your looks and appearance is not your value. You are MORE than your appearance. She doesn't know anything really about you. Just how you look. So if you're taking it so hard that she rejected you on your looks alone, I imagine you've got self …
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:40 AM
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What do you do when you're feeling down? I let myself be sad. I sometimes watch some emotional Disney movies perhaps (this helps me get emotional), and I welcome any crying. Or I meditate and just observe the sensations of my body. How do you guys turn negative energy into positive one? I think this is a terrible fucking question. I imagine this makes the assumption that being sad is negative. It's NOT. Be sad all you want. If someone in your family dies, is it negative to be sad? Or is it appro…
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:31 AM
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Mine is, "I'll approach next week."
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:30 AM
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Well I imagine one (or more) of three things: You're not good looking Your photos are shit You don't swipe right enough on girls to get matches.
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:28 AM
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What if the world explodes? What if a car hits you on the way to your approach? What if you shit your pants? There's a million what if's. Why don't you go ahead, walk up to the girl, say hi. And see what happens in reality. I guarantee you, there's a high chance you will have something to say. You not knowing what to say is another dumb excuse that your mind generates to keep you comfortable and away from what you perceive as scary. Most guys do have something to talk about. Do you have trouble …
/r/seduction22/10/16 05:25 AM
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Well done mate. I lol'd at "day game is easier imo " I don't mind if you think it's easier or harder. I just think that's a premature opinion. You've only done one day approach. Maybe if you do 100 day approaches, and 100 night approaches than your opinion will count for something there. And all the other stuff dw about it. I think a little awkward is better than 100% smooth. Some girls like goofy or awkwardness I imagine because it has a sense of realness to it. I think smooth guys look like th…
/r/seduction21/10/16 11:34 AM
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Get roomates and share, lowers rent a lot. Also you don't need a house to get laid. Having a place helps a lot for comfortable sex. BUT you can fuck in alleyways, bushes, disabled toilets, your car, (if you have one), hotels/motels, or even the girl's place. (if she has a place) It's just another bullshit excuse your mind comes up with.
/r/seduction21/10/16 11:24 AM
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Using your eyes to see the age range if there is one, or looking at the people attending pics, and experimentation. Everything worth doing in life is a gamble.
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:58 AM
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Or I can try to sleep with HER. I discourage that. And I told you what I think are the consequences. If you want to take that risk, ultimately that's your decision. I never have to worry about feelings of guilt, shame etc because if she slept with me, it was consensual Bullshit. Girls sleep with guys they don't want to all the time. That's why we have this thing called regret and shame. Here is a made up example that I imagine could be true for many guys in pickup. Girl gets drunk, guy comes up …
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:48 AM
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Well I think it depends on what we're talking about. Sometimes girls act unresponsive but actually are interested. Or maybe they're in a grumpy mood, and then lighten up as they talk to you. That is fine if you stick with them through that temporary mood. If you're trying to seduce a girl who doesn't like YOU though and remains that way and you somehow manage to get her to go home or to allow sex with you even though she is cold about it, that is dangerous and will probably lead to prison time a…
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:45 AM
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Good on you for taking it seriously. I'm sure you'll get the results you desire.
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:37 AM
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I'm aware you're not looking for a girl to spend the rest of your life or start a family with. Even for a one night stand, or a fuckbuddy or whatever kind of relationship that involves sex, it's dangerous for you and the girl. Fucking girls that aren't that interested in fucking you is dangerous. I'm not joking about that. You'd need to go through some therapy to understand why it's dangerous. But trust me, it is.
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:33 AM
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I would say: Go to meetup.com event/s Talk to everyone at the meetup Grab facebook or phone numbers off anyone you feel warm or laugh with a lot. Invite those people to another event/s or to a bar or to your house to hangout. Send them funny pics, chat with them regularly, be honest with them about everything, be there for them whenever they need you, have some drunk nights together, fight together and forgive each other, keep hanging out and repeating step 5 with these people for the rest of yo…
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:27 AM
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Well ... I recommend you go to therapy. A lot of guys including myself have wanted girls that didn't want us at some point. Hell even now I might fantasise about a celebrity who doesn't want me. It's completely normal. AND it's not healthy to act on those desires. To attempt to seduce a woman who does not want the same is manipulative, coercive and can overall lead to dangerous consequences for both the girl and yourself. The desire often is coming from a low vibration or a place of neediness. A…
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:21 AM
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A lot of us need lots of surgery to have a good looking face. Well then get the surgery. We're not in the middle ages. Most things can be fixed, so it's not an excuse. Besides I've gotten laid with face fat. So I don't think it's a deal breaker. My point is look your absolute best while talking to as many girls and trying to fuck them all. Don't waste time on all the bullshit of pickup on the net. That stuff is mostly mental masturbation.
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:12 AM
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That wasn't what I asked. I'm not asking if you wanna fuck hot or ugly or girls with good personalities. I'm asking more of a close ended question/s: Do you want girls that want you? Or do you want girls that don't want you?
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:06 AM
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I imagine game is mostly about manipulation. And I think that's what's the major problem with it. Most guys who get into game and pickup come into after a breakup when they are empty and in pain. Or simply they never got much action at all. If you stick to becoming an attractive man that talks to girls and tries to fuck them, that's great. If you try to fuck girls that don't want you, there's a big problem there. That's why I recommend therapy to most guys who still have that issue. You want to …
/r/seduction21/10/16 08:02 AM
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but if the woman really isn't into me or and has no interest in socializing Then LEAVE. When the woman seems like she's not in the mood to get hit on, what are some good indirect openers to to go with? Wrong question. You move onto the next girl. If she's not in the mood or not interested, that's it. You don't try and manipulate her into getting in a better mood and somehow becoming interested in you. Do you want a girl who fucks you out of your manipulative strategies then later regrets it and …
/r/seduction21/10/16 07:55 AM
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Defined as "innately" better? Or more physical shape, clothes, hair, presentation, etc? By look better, I mean your body (should have hardly any face fat, a V-shape body, and some muscle on the arms), grooming (also smell good), clothes, style (give a bit of edge with accessories, tattoos etc). Should socially awkward/autistic guys even bother? If you are not able to learn social cues over time (autistic) then I would suggest see a therapist or someone who can cure or treat autism. Or learn "gam…
/r/seduction21/10/16 05:18 AM
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That's his rationalisation of how he gets laid. It does not mean it's the cause. Pua's and guys and people in general do this all the time. Correlation DOES NOT equal causality. If you don't know what that means look it up. Ultimately there are many ways to skin a cat. There are boring guys that do well with women, and fun guys that do well with women. I'll give you the cliché advice and 'be yourself.' in terms of how you feel. If you feel like basic small talk, do that. If you feel like fun con…
/r/seduction21/10/16 01:39 AM
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I think majority of game is useless bullshit. (Please don't reactively downvote until you read all I have to say) If you're attractive to a girl physically or you're her type, you literally just need to say hi, talk for a few min, and take her on a date or to a disabled toilet to fuck. Certain things will make you more attractive like, eye contact and how close you are, and how much or little you touch her, yes this can be called 'game.' But 99% (made that up) of that gets naturally developed th…
/r/seduction21/10/16 01:32 AM
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I think it's a little creepy. I think it's more delusional though. I avoid watching infield vids. I prefer to meet girls myself. And if I do watch vids I just want to see a real interaction without any analysis or interpretive pickup lingo in it. Seeing a man meeting a women, and both of them connecting and enjoying each other is beautiful. Seeing a man "approach" a girl, neg her, demonstrate high value, tease, be cocky and funny, bounce her, isolate her and fuck close her, is just painful for m…
/r/seduction21/10/16 12:41 AM
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I've found a lot of the start of my hook-ups are kind of awkward. I think it's not easy to be completely smooth about it. And most times the girls don't care, since often they are already ready to be seduced by that stage, they'll appreciate you for taking initiative even if in an awkward or weird way. Just gotta do it.
/r/seduction13/10/16 04:19 AM
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Allow some silence to build the tension. (Don't keep chatting away) Touch her lower thigh with your hand. If she lets you touch your leg (make sure she's comfortable), slowly move it up or down while looking at her body and allowing yourself to get turned on. Your instincts will probably take over then. You may end up making out heavily, fucking, creating a lot of sweat and creating haze on the windows.
/r/seduction13/10/16 03:03 AM
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I don't even see this is a pua technique. It's common sense. When you ask someone a question like the first example it can be fucking annoying to answer, because they have to think about their whole fucking week and if they want to hang out or not and interpret what you are really asking. If you instead own the message of what you're saying with specifics e.g "I'm going to the movies this Sat around 4pm to see Batman, wanna come?" It's so much easier for them to say yes/no without much thinking …
/r/seduction13/10/16 02:56 AM
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Well done! It means nothing really other than she gave you her number. You'll probably learn in time, that a lot of girls will give you their number if you just ask, and even if you have a good interaction nothing might happen afterwards. Still what you did was great, you went up to a girl and you talked to her, stated your attraction to her. That's a great start. I recommend, text her when you feel like. Don't worry about any text/phone rules. Text/call her when you feel like, and if you fuck i…
/r/seduction13/10/16 02:51 AM
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If you think it's deeply rooted, then go to a therapist not a pickup subreddit. Otherwise I recommend go to a vipassana 10 day retreat. It teaches you experientially (not intellectually) to be less attached to everything in life. (Including girls, emotions etc)
/r/seduction13/10/16 02:48 AM
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Idiot.
/r/seduction13/10/16 02:44 AM
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Idiot.
/r/seduction13/10/16 02:13 AM
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Idiot.
/r/seduction13/10/16 02:11 AM
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I said "those" lawyers, idiot. Not any lawyers. I meant the lawyers appointed by state, are they trustworthy? I've heard some of them do a shit job because they don't care as much.
/r/seduction13/10/16 01:55 AM
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Fuck off. Anger is fine. It's holding onto old anger (hidden resentment, bitterness, repression, depression) that's a problem.
/r/seduction13/10/16 12:54 AM
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Can you trust those lawyers any more than the police? Also I live in Australia idk if it's the same or not.
/r/seduction13/10/16 12:49 AM
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What do you say if you don't have a lawyer?
/r/seduction13/10/16 12:09 AM
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Yeah.
/r/seduction11/10/16 08:58 PM
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What did you learn about seduction for?
/r/seduction11/10/16 03:36 AM
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I disagree. If you cringe that's a good thing. It means you destroyed your façade (for a moment) and now you are uncomfortable/embarrassed with revealing your real needy self. I don't recommend texting your true feelings/thoughts in a long paragraph though, I recommend doing that in person. Easier to get over things and clear up misinterpretations in person, and texting is a way of hiding. It's ok to start off with sending cringy texts and then go and clear it up in person.
/r/seduction11/10/16 03:31 AM
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There's your problem. Almost 95% of guys (made that statistic up) who have long term problems are either not opening enough or not closing enough or both. You got the opening part down, now start closing. I've never gotten any girl to reciprocate in any way, and you want me to go for the fucking kiss Yes. let alone try to pull? Obviously you don't want to pull a girl who is uninterested, that's called kidnapping. But lead and if she rejects you leading, then respect that. Take the first step. I …
/r/seduction09/10/16 04:53 AM
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In those approaches. How many times did you try to kiss? How many times did you ask the girls to go home with you or lead home with you? Are you approaching to be interesting or to fuck?
/r/seduction09/10/16 04:38 AM
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xD Well yeah pretty much. There's a big difference between "The earth" and "An earth" the first one implies there's only one. Second one implies there's more than one. Learn English.
/r/seduction03/08/16 07:29 PM
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Actually there is the correct way to do it buddy. I have been in the game 10 years and teach my students how to do it. It does work and it doesnt work for many guys because they dont know what the hell they are doing. Have you tried it? *Triple facepalm. I read it pretty clear. You said THE correct way. Is that going to be a typo now? I imagine you'll say any bullshit to bring in customers. pftt
/r/seduction03/08/16 07:13 PM
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*facepalm. You've been in the game for 10 years....and you think there's one correct way right? And that your way is the correct way and nothing else works? If you agree to that I'm done here.
/r/seduction03/08/16 06:42 PM
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There's no "proper" way. Going up to a girl and saying "I love your tits ! " may work for you. Try it out and see. For many guys it won't. But try it out first rather than just believe what aswjacb or some other pickup guru says. Experimentation is how all the "gurus" got to where they are. Not just mindlessly copying what another guy said. Although that can work too.
/r/seduction03/08/16 09:23 AM
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No. I hate advice to "smile" I don't wanna fucking smile because this might get me women. I believe it has nothing to do with my success with women. Plenty of evidence to suggest women like guys who don't smile as well. I'll smile when I feel like it, not as a rule. Having a good time I'll try to, but somtimes I'm in a shit mood, and I like to be ok with that too, not every time will be a good time.
/r/seduction03/08/16 09:20 AM
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Jeezus christ man you have a great imagination.
/r/seduction03/08/16 09:18 AM
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