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[–]suxess6 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
by 'direct', do you basically mean tell her that you think she is hot?
(I've seen a few definitions of what 'direct' actually means)
Anyway, if so, that seems to be the wrong way to from what I've read on seddit so far
[–]BuzinezzCazual 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
well i basically had a conversation and asked her "are you single?", and told her why i was interested in her. when she said she was i asked for her number and it went off from there
[–]suxess6 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
OK. thanks. See, I was told to never ask if they are single and to never tell them (verbalise) that you are interested in them/think they are hot.
[–]brian242 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Well you were lied to. The pickup industry is full of lies. Wake up. Different girls respond to different things at different times. There are no rules in seduction.
[–]suxess6 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
There are no rules in seduction.
Bit if there are no rules, then there is no 'game'
[–]brian242 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Game is several different guidelines, of which you can also break and still get laid.
E.g Game might tell you to wait 3 hours before going home with a girl but you might find you can take this girl home now. Game might say you need to take a few minutes before getting a number and you might find you can get it straight away. Game will say don't ask if they have a boyfriend or ask if they are single. Some direct game will say tell them your intentions. Other game will say don't tell your intentions but sub-communicate them. Seduction Gurus or Dating Coachings or Pua masters always make "rules/guidelines", but that doesn't mean those rules/guidelines can't be broken and you still get results.
The truth is as I said before girls are not robots that respond to the same things. A LOT of how they respond is if they are in a horny mood or if they like the look of you. Then you can basically say anything and they'll most likely hang around. Game basically for the most part is bullshit. The fundamentals of game like, looking good (clothes/style/body), talking to loads of girls, eye contact, posture, and leading to some place for a date or fuck, will most likely improve your results, but all the other stuff becomes subjective.
If you ever see "always" or "never" in terms of getting laid, most times you can be sure it's not "Always" or "never." (There a few rules to stick by in all situations though, like always wear a condom with a new girl or never push a girl when she says no)
Test things out in reality and you'll know what I mean.
[–]suxess6 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Out of interest, what would you say if I asked you the difference between 'using game' and just talking to a girl who you think is hot. How would you advise someone to 'run game' if they'd never heard of 'pickup'?
[–]brian242 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
what would you say if I asked you the difference between 'using game' and just talking to a girl who you think is hot.
The difference is up for interpretation.
Some would say "using game" is using pickup techniques, others would say seduction principles others would say just being smooth with women. I don't have a strong definition of what game is because I know different guys use it in different contexts.
Talking to girls you think is hot, is just talking to girls you think is hot.
How would you advise someone to 'run game' if they'd never heard of 'pickup'?
I wouldn't call it "running game." I'd just say, "You wanna get laid? First work on your looks." I'd tell them to look their best, that is work on buying good clothes, and lose weight so they have a jawline, (unless they're already skinny), be stylish (maybe tattoos, or piercings, accessories). And then I'd tell them, "Now it's time to talk to girls. Here's a condom. If a girl is keen, grab her hand and lead her to the disabled toilet or a taxi to your/her house to fuck." Then I'd tell him to talk to that girl over there, and then if he came back, I'd ask him what happened, if it was him rejecting himself, I'd tell him go back and talk to her, if it sounded like she rejected him, I'd tell him talk to another girl. And so on ...
[–]KingRat1031 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And now you've won!
[–]the_christian_grey 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The idea is you don't want to inflate a woman's value above your own. If anything, you want to raise your own value and lower hers, because women want men with higher value than themselves. Telling a woman she's hot raises her value, but at the same time having the balls to state your true intentions raises your own value as well. So your goal is to state your intentions but raise her value as little as possible.
In this case, my favorite technique is a small compliment followed by a tease. Something like "Hey I saw you and thought you were cute. Your smile reminds me of a little bunny rabbit, I like it."
[–]PlayLikeNeverB4 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
How many girls did you get rejected by before this one?
[–]BuzinezzCazual 9 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
0
first try
[–]-Bana 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Noice!
[–]PlayLikeNeverB4 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So basically you're giving advice about your approach that worked 100% of the time out of 1 try. Not saying there isn't any truth to this, but I find it a little odd.
[–]BuzinezzCazual 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"so basically youre excited that an approach worked and you have the audacity to tell us about it"
just stop talking dude
oh yeah, and as it turns out it didn't work. i realized she wasnt into me after all so i called it off. thank you for making my day a little bit worse. HAPPY?
[–]PlayLikeNeverB4 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm happy for you that it worked and that you were excited. But the last part of your is exactly what I'm talking about. I'm just saying you should have worded it better. Have more responsability when giving advice, someone might just follow it.
And don't be so negative, I (and lots of people here) have good intentions. I mean, I never cold approached a girl so you're already way ahead of me. Have an awesome day because you tried, even if it didn't work out!
[–]BuzinezzCazual 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
thanks
[–]smilyfaith 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
yeah? what about all the other girls who told you to fuck off?
[–]BuzinezzCazual1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
True, but depends on the girl and the situation. You definitely get credit for having the balls to do it. But it also kind of forces the girl to make a decision to accept or reject right on the spot, and the default option is always "reject". If there are people watching, it's worse because then she has to worry about looking like a slut. I've had great sets both direct and indirect. The benefits of indirect are that it's low pressure, she can talk to you without feeling like it makes her easy, and you have the benefit of ambiguity. A girl will often like you more if she's not sure you're sold on her.
Generally I prefer indirect when there's some plausible other explanation for talking to her. If there's not, then I go direct. You can't really stop a girl walking in the middle of a shopping mall, for example, and ask her for her opinion on something. It's just weird, and it's obvious you're hiding your intentions.
That said, women communicate using subtext. So to be direct, you don't actually have to tell her you think she's attractive. You can give her the "I want to fuck you right now eyes" while you talk about the weather, and she'll get it. That way you're being subtle but you're still showing your true intentions.
[–]depredador93 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah no shit sherlock.
[–]BuzinezzCazual-1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
fuck you pig
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