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| 16 | New Rule: His kitchen appliances cannot be older than the women he datesThis. Also, I have appliances older than me that were passed down and work like a charm. I have other (male) family members that this happened, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:35 PM |
| 193 | About dating multiple men simultaneously : the etiquette?Don't tell him. Go on a walk. Jk. It is something that comes with time. From what I understand, you're just "dating" or seeing each other at this moment right? Unless you've had a discussion to be completely exclusive, you're not. Doesn't matter if he's HV or not. Why would you pledge loyalty to someone you hardly know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:32 PM |
| 173 | Always be ruthless, Always be vetting: a reminderGive me a break man. Lying by 10+ years? What a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 10:06 PM |
| 45 | Strategy - make him jump through hoopsThat may be good advice but Matthew Hussey is one of the names on the FDS "Sex & Dating Advice Scammers to WATCH OUT for!" list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:08 PM |
| 13 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorI watched the films. I'm not as big of a fan as you might think. However, what I am is a researcher. I'd recommend you watch the films (or any film for that matter) before making arguments based on out of context clips. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:43 PM |
| 15 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorThis MJ does have things going on. They show some in the first and second. They show a lot more in this third one. To be honest with you, the reason why Tobey's film had the time to was because those were Spiderman films. There was no MCU. With these new ones and an MCU, they don't have time. They have so many new people to introduce while also trying to integrate other films and people into it so that all movies run on the same timeline. They could show more of MJ's life in this movie because i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:12 PM |
| 28 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorNo. The original MJ dated LVM. On her wedding day, she left the man at the altar and went after Peter. She may not be a doormat but she is certainly always kidnapped to get Peter's attention. Edit: clarity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:08 PM |
| 61 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorI do understand the point that you are trying to hit but since you said that you didn't watch the films, I'll add some details without any serious spoilers. I think your post is biased. In Tobey's world, Harry went to Midtown High because he flunked out of every other private school. As the movies go on, he exhibits more and more LV traits. If we take his situation at face value (and not try to give him the benefit of the doubt) overtime, you see an immense amount of LV traits. MJ is Peter's wea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Ben Affleck casts blame on Jennifer Garner for his drinking problemUhhh Jennifer??? I doubt it Ben. Take a look in the mirror. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 10:49 PM |
| 44 | Story time: do not EVER date a man who admits to cheatingThese types of men love to talk about how they cheated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:50 AM |
| 61 | Male friend asked me on date and told me on date he’s “only looking to chill”Why did YOU apologize? He hurt your feelings. Part of FDS is being strong and sticking to your own standards and beliefs. It sounds like he manipulated you, swindled you, lied about it, dumped the thought of you, and then didn't apologize at all. He got away with it. Next time, please just block and delete. And don't worry about your friend group. Honestly, if they really did support you, this would not break your friendship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 03:26 PM |
| 14 | Beware of men who claim they’re a “homebody” and love “staying in”.I know a lot of men like this. From what I can tell, they suck. Suck at sharing their emotions, at planning dates, at being generous, etc. It doesn't make any sense to me. They also hate it when others have fun without them. If they don't have someone to share their misery with, they die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 12:35 AM |
| 67 | They don’t respect you when you settle for them, because even they know they are not the man they can beI told a neighbor (we're not dating) in casual conversation that I am used to getting treated very well and that people buy me gifts, take me out for fun, and more. Didn't see him for a while and he came back to tell me later that he thought about what I said and realized that he could do more in his relationships with friends and family. Now he is spending more time with them and doing more. If he wants to, he will. No amount of screaming or begging will change a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:47 PM |
| 167 | No. FDS is not about clapping back at men who neg youAbsolutely. Fools don't like logic so why waste your breath? Leave him alone and go on with your life. Block AND delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:40 PM |
| 82 | How do you guys go about walking out on a date safely?Depends. I'm an introvert so naturally I'm observant. I use that to my advantage, stop talking, and just look around without making eye contact. Makes him get uncomfortable and the date ends. For me, it works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 08:48 PM |
| 7 | The first date went amazing.Opening doors and paying on the first date... I know that we all have different standards but I will say that this is the bare minimum. Good on you for you for realizing that there were red flags. In terms of bringing him home, I have not brought anyone to my place in years. Only the maintenance man comes by and even then I only call him over as a last resort. Please be safe because you never know who you are inviting into your sanctuary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:17 PM |
| 55 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearSure! My advice is to make time to read materials on boundaries such as "The New Codependency" by Melody Beattie. In my life, I started being more firm. For instance, say my friends ask me to hang out with them last minute. First of all, I made up my mind to stay home that evening, second of all, I am not a fan of last minute invites. I am not desperate to hang out. They had hours to plan and I refuse to be added last minute like an afterthought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:41 PM |
| 42 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearKnow yourself, know your worth I used this post and applied it to friends/workplace. I also read "The New Codependency" by Melody Beattie. With that in mind, I set up several boundaries/standards such as: I will not date nor be friends with people that avoid responsibility (personal, financial, physical, etc), excessively party, are in a terrible mood all the time, and more. I realized that I only have so many hours for myself and I cannot manage the time to help another person manage their own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:38 PM |
| 24 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearBeing an Immovable Mover Always give him less than he asked for In terms of being hard to read, that's a character trait of mine. It is not purposeful--as in I am not going out of my way to be--I just don't see the need to spill my guts all the time. I also don't tell people where I am going to be or what my plans are. From what I've been told, I am hard to read but also spontaneous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:30 PM |
| 10 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearThank you so much! I wish you the best in your journey as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:24 PM |
| 11 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearMy top channels are The Universe Guru and Sophie Shohet :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:23 PM |
| 10 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearWe live and we learn. But hey, you're here now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:19 PM |
| 26 | Ladies…please have/control your own finances, have a social circle and skills…even with a HVM by your side.Yup. People will browse obituaries (online and in the paper) to find out who is their next target. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:33 PM |
| 69 | The controversy on engagement rings shows how far liberal feminism has goneI know some women who put down other women when their SO's get them nice rings or purses. It is all projection. They're envious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:40 AM |
| 96 | The Joy Luck Club and "splitting expenses down the middle"The Joy Luck Club encouraged me to leave my last relationship and never look back. What I loved about it was that all of the women were showing their pain and knew something was wrong. Even when they tried to gaslight themselves, a sign always came to prove they were right. Harold was horrible to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Quick question: what are some narcissistic traits?Future faking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:08 PM |
| 168 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsI thought this was someone I know but their ages are a few years off. The people I know, same thing. The man is lying about debt/expenditures and his salary and the girl won't leave because she hates being alone. He just popped the question! Ladies, we don't say to vet just because 'we want to hear ourselves talk.' It is to avoid situations like these when all that glitters is not gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 80 | Prime example of why opening up on the first date is never a good idea.This man went down the list of red flags. Just when I would think he was finished, he just kept on going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:51 AM |
| 16 | Stop internalizing men’s cruelty/inability to treat you wellI didn't know I needed this. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:48 AM |
| 1 | "No one likes a know-it-all" and other stupid things LV's say. Comment your own!Haha idk if you can make them go mad but these helped me protect myself: "Why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft and "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 02:58 AM |
| 238 | Bruhhis finger might poke through the paper and it would be gay, dirty, shameful, so on. He thought it was gay to wipe his ass??? 😂 Get a bidet if you're worried about poking through or wash your hands. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:00 PM |
| 243 | Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade up"I'm not trying to scare you... I'm trying to prepare you... These people are children of Rihanna born in the fires of chaos..." I'm laughing so hard I'm coughing 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:55 PM |
| 280 | Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade up"You gonna be chasing Cialis with red bull" took me out 😂😂 (Cialis is similar to Viagra for the curious) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 32 | BruhUnless you have your own separate bathroom, it's pretty easy to keep in mind how many times someone goes to the toilet. Maybe because you need to use it before you get ready for work and you know he uses it at 8AM every day so you try to figure out a plan. Or you come back from the gym and notice the bathroom was just used. Over time, you figure it out. This goes for family members sharing a toilet and flatmates also. And with that amount of TP going when it's just you two, sounds like she was g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 06:23 PM |
| 21 | Mini Golf/Kayaking First DatesI don't even like mini-golf with friends. Also kayaking sounds horrible for a date whether you used a double or single. You're right that it can be stressful with the weather and also with what kinds of sea life exist. I can't answer your question. I don't know why they choose these. My guess is they wanted to do it anyway and didn't want to go alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:15 PM |
| 216 | BruhFor two bowel movements a day and he is using a whole roll??? Leave him. He doesn't know how to wipe his ass. There are probably problems elsewhere, too. Edit: How are their pipes not clogged daily? Regardless of wipes or TP, toilets can only take so much. So that means he is wasting water, too, with the amount he uses. IF it is not a toilet but another system, this man still needs to seek help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 80 | FDS recommends being upfront about marriage/serious relationship goals to potential partners but FDS-Approved books say to never mention it?Good question. The books are meant as helpful guides rather than "you must do X to have X and that is final." Also with this man, he made it clear early on that he doesn't want a relationship. Yet you pursued him and are still trying for a relationship. I think he too is happy for the companionship and the fun. Commitment talks happen around 2 to 3 months, naturally. In your case, it technically should happen soon. HVM/LVM/ZVM all know what they want. It's better to judge his character and actio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:31 AM |
| 17 | Do you believe that men are only as faithful as their options?Are you being honest rn? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 01:59 AM |
| 57 | Men will say crap like “Marriage is something serious and needs to be done after more time has passed”…"I just don't think I'm ready for marriage." Has three kids with a woman and dies leaving them nothing. Okay then 🙃🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 07:52 PM |
| 83 | Mutilating childrens bodies so men won't be attracted to themPluck your eye out. If that is not suitable, then perish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:34 PM |
| 19 | Queer women, what are some things you consider red flags while dating?Gatekeeping. Heaven forbid a bisexual woman marries a man or an asexual person is in a sexual relationship with an SO. Everyone has a valid experience and if someone says it doesn't count or they are not staying true to their nature, NEXT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Just got ditched by a pickme friendThat is rude. Keep smiling and being nice until the end of her stay (or kick her out if you want to haha). Then end that friendship. I wish you the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 12:59 AM |
| 22 | If he wanted to, he would.He was five years older and proposed to her at 19. They are divorced now. Also, as much as I would like to agree that the things on her list were near 'impossible,' not for him. He had connections and money. It was more a challenge for him for the fun of it than it was as a legitimate challenge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:23 PM |
| 80 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.Short answer: Not really. Long answer: If you read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, these men are externalizers. Meaning the loneliness they experience on the inside (from childhood and carried into adulthood) is often exhibited by acting out with casual sex, destructive situations and relationships, drug abuse, midlife crises, and more. They seek out as many people as they can to help soothe that loneliness. An externalizer tends to burn bridges and get frust… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:10 PM |
| 80 | Do single women really want to take dating advice from guys like this?DON'T DO IT!!! IT'S A TRAP!!! THESE TYPES OF MEN HAVE NO DEPTH TO THEM. I've been there before and I will NEVER do it again. Do you want to know what happens? He will steal your life. Any place you take him to is now his #1 spot. Any type of artsy picture you post on social media is now the vibe on his. Any insight you give him is now his own and he will preach it as if it came from a vision he had. If a man tells you this or you sense it from him at the start, run out of there as fast as you ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:04 PM |
| 103 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑You love human traf*icking and groom*ng? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 37 | Embrace Your Inner ConqueressYes! Almost every day I was insulted and told that I had my head in the clouds. Which I used to take offense to until I was actually up in the clouds. They are so beautiful, I would love to constantly be up there. Other people will project their insecurities onto you and not everyone in the world is meant to be an ally. Point is, keep living loving life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:26 PM |
| 16 | This sub is the only place I have ever experienced true empowerment.I was in your shoes a few months ago and I'm glad I'm here. It is truly empowering. I used to have so much confidence when I was a little girl but it was forced out of me. All of the misogynistic comments, socializing, lessening myself to fit the narrative of others, UGH! The list can go on and on. Each day that I come back, I feel like I am making childhood me proud. Congrats on joining! Hope to see you around more :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:13 PM |
| 9 | Should I Stay or Should I Go by Lundy BancroftThank you! I've read reviews but this one is in-depth. Putting it on my list now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 8 | How has FDS made you reevaluate how your father/brother(s) treat you?I put up stronger boundaries and they know that I will leave at the first sign of BS, especially now. They are much more supportive in my endeavors, let me open up more, and buy me a lot more things hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:19 PM |
| 72 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Isn't there some statistic that maybe 20% of women walked into sex work voluntarily but the rest were trafficked, groomed, exploited and more? I don't find anything empowering about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:46 AM |
| 196 | Boundaries in bedI don't need to be curly-haired to understand. That's not being high maintenance. Never make excuses for what you want. He was just using you. Block & delete and wash your hands of this matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:27 AM |
| 54 | Incels convinced society they just need sex and that’s the biggest con ever: The Rage of the IncelsLET. THEM. PERISH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:42 AM |
| 151 | Welp this proves it.Misogynists love men hate women. Not the same as how women support women. They actually love men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:38 AM |
| 34 | Had to share this 😩I said this before! People feel differently about situations they invested heavily in. To a person who can afford expensive meals, this date may seem normal for them. But for this guy, it isn't. The phrase "Hit them in their wallet" is 100% true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 11:04 PM |
| 66 | He knows his worth y’all. I can’t even with this 😩If I did a speedrun on Tinder, I could get harassed in less than one minute of putting a profile up. What do you mean "wOmEN gEt aLL tHe LoVe"??? That's what you're envious of? Grow up Mr. I-Know-My-Worth. As if. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:54 PM |
| 89 | No words.WHY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:08 PM |
| 78 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...I really hope that she finds the help she needs. This is going to hit a dead end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:51 PM |
| 27 | Low Value Men are like Low Value FoodPizza rat made me spit my drink out 😂 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:45 PM |
| 106 | Why his music taste is extremely important during the vetting process.Men judge us in music taste, too! I found a subset of men who follow artists but only because the artist is attractive. It's one thing if the singer has good music AND they are attractive but it is another thing to seek out female artists only based on their attractiveness and youth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:43 PM |
| 192 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...Semi-related and anecdotal story: I know someone who went to one of those parties (in Italy as well) and they ended up making out with a man, contracted a horrible ailment, and had to seek medical care. Turns out she made out with a ca*nibal and that was why. Not saying this happens every time (or more than even .0000001% of the time) but whenever I think of kink parties, I have in the back of my head that they are off-limits because of this. But also girl, just don't go in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:37 PM |
| 81 | Apparently, men are in their prime in their twenties.I saw a pic of a 24 y/o recently and was convinced that he was mid 30s (his eyes!). I have no clue what is going on that they think men are in their prime from birth to death. ED is happening earlier and earlier 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:32 PM |
| 10 | Should you ever pay on a first date?The handbook goes into depth about this. It can answer this question and many more you may have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 46 | The dating subreddits have become a cesspool for incels, and a bullying ground directed at women and it's sad.Reddit is really something else. I mean this poor girl is going through a lot and people don't take her seriously. Some subreddits are insane. I've seen posts where they give completely WRONG advice or shame people for not being as "conventional" as they are. It is like the common goal of Reddit is to have a hive mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:27 PM |
| 16 | Guy that I went to high school with (I'm 31 now) still trying to sleep with me till this day. He's freshly married with a toddler. Mind you, these "talks" consisted of him saying pervy stuff while I tried to get away.Take a hint, dude! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:22 PM |
| 18 | I'd say any super common/basic/unimaginative chain restaraunt is a no *for the first few dates*, with few exceptionsI don't believe this post is saying to blow all your money/time on driving to a big city to dine nor is it saying to 86 all dates because there is nowhere nice to eat. Many FDSers live in smaller cities and I've seen them get creative by maybe doing activity dates rather than dinner, seeing if there is a local pub/bar that has couple's nights and fine(r) dining, or whatever is in their means and fits their desires. This post seems to be directed at the people who do have more options. I'm not to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:41 AM |
| 60 | I'd say any super common/basic/unimaginative chain restaraunt is a no *for the first few dates*, with few exceptionsLeftovers. The ambiance is 'nice,' the decor is weird but 'upscale,' and the experience is like dipping your foot into a 4-star restaurant without fully committing. Then to top it off you get two meals (the meal you eat at the restaurant and the doggy bag you take home) for roughly less than or equal to the price of two meals at a fast food place. Translation: He feeds you, saves money, you get leftovers, and now is hoping he gets pleasured because of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:10 AM |
| 22 | This guy got angry at me calling him out on a tik tok comment. Went out of his way to message me on 3 different social media accounts. Told me he hopes my family dies in front of me, C word, etc. Only part of the conversation. Disgusting and pathetic.Writing is not that easy. Some edits: I wish nothing but the absolute worst\* things on you and your filthy,\* disgraceful family. (Try not to have short sentences; combine the following ones into one). Lol, don't mind the trolls. Why would he go out of his way and attempt to ruin your day? What a clown! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:53 AM |
| 131 | I'd say any super common/basic/unimaginative chain restaraunt is a no *for the first few dates*, with few exceptionsThe Cheesecake Factory is not an exception. This is not my sweet 16. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:32 AM |
| 119 | I don’t even know where to start.You're right. I sensed that, too. I was going to say that she should divorce him and let him perish but she sounds like this is just a bump in the road and she'll never leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:14 PM |
| 41 | Pickme 🤡 = Weak BoundariesI've previously posted about setting boundaries when it comes to my friends and other loved ones. Over the past three weeks, I set new ones and ended up being appreciated more by them and THEY are now setting plans to just hang out with no drama attached. +1 win !!! Edit: I also do not have to be an extension of them and their duties anymore. Set your boundaries people! It saves you a lot of headaches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:08 PM |
| 222 | Be careful before sharing your trauma with men.Don't share your trauma with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 103 | I just discovered that my boyfriend had been on Tinder for ALL of 2020 and only stopped because he kept getting rejected.Another one bites the dust. Congrats! As time goes on here at FDS, you'll learn more tips on how to avoid pitfalls such as this. There is no medium value man. LV people exhibit "HV" traits when they choose to. Vetting IS a lifelong process as we always say here. Enjoy being single. It gives you time to rejoice and rest hopefully leading you to become the best version of yourself. You mentioned that you had doubts about the relationship. There is a book we mention here from time to time called Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 03:47 PM |
| 10 | HVM turned to LVM rather quickly..Three months is not long enough to assess if a man is HV. You did nothing wrong. Vetting is a lifelong process to see if his values/goals/lifestyle align with yours and the principles talked about here. Block and delete and keep on keeping on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:40 PM |
| 114 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesPUAs don't really do screening calls so they instead offer coffee dates as a substitute. And yes, they get to see them in person. A lot of them refer to it as a "zero date." Supposedly if they like you enough, they'll take you on a real date next time. As if. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:21 PM |
| 13 | Man on Twitter turned off by a woman being too GOOD at budgeting and not over-spending 🤡He wants to be in charge of her finances and gold dig while he's at it. That way he can get her to depend on him. So he really does want an (in)dependent girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:56 PM |
| 140 | Things 🤡🤡 say:I want the house clean when I come home (even though you work a full-time job). If you can't do that, I want YOU to pay for a cleaning lady. I want dinner every day and women like cooking so you do it! If you can't I'll make it but it'll be unseasoned chicken breast and frozen veggies each night 🤪🤪 I want children when IIIII want children! I want to go 50/50 even though you make less because that is what RBG wanted right??? Equality???? I want you to do my laundry, watch the kids, manage the bil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:49 PM |
| 13 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?Aspiring rapper at 39 :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:38 PM |
| 108 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…I don't care who he is with during the day!!! What matters is that he comes home to me his wife <<333 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:31 PM |
| 97 | Someone I've known since middle school just got proposed to with a Ring Pop.He did it on purpose. He wanted to see if she should accept, and she did, so now that is the standard going forward in their relationship. If she ever asks for a nice dinner or better living conditions, he is going to bring up the ring pop and remind her that they keep their relationship simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:34 PM |
| 111 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?Cut her loose, man. He's really just holding on to her for fun at this moment. Why would you stay with her when you're not giving her what she needs? At that point, you're a deadweight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 8 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:05 PM |
| 29 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.These women will ruin your credit. My credit was in the toilet when I was friends with pickmes. Took me leaving the country and establishing a new life to get it back on track. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:17 PM |
| 66 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually exists"Chase how tall are you?" I love this vine. I don't date short men. I feel like I'm walking around with my little brother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 167 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's healthIt sounds like he's been on this trail before. A lot of trails have no potable water. Given the fact that he is from this area and KNEW this, he should have turned around and either a) not done the hike or b) went to the nearest gas station and bought water. In addition, CHILDREN won't even leave another person behind. This man is wicked and cruel for continuing on without her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:22 PM |
| 29 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansI am so happy>! they ended up as (good) co-parents at the end rather than back together.!< I also am happy that the parents loved and cared for the children and put them first. Definitely a good movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:12 PM |
| 19 | Financial abuse by male relatives and friends.I knew a LV girl when I was younger who would make friends with rich(er) people because she knew that they would pay for things for her. Or she would purposely "forget her wallet" at home. Because of her, I can notice this really quickly in men now. It is manipulative and abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:05 PM |
| 23 | Financial abuse by male relatives and friends.It is so frustrating when parents treat their kids like trash and then expect the kids to treat them so well in old age. I scream internally every time I hear that. I am so sorry for everything you went through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:58 PM |
| 10 | more examples of "subtle negging" and what's in a Neg Sandwich?That is absolutely disgusting that he doesn't like to change out of his scrubs. I don't care if he is a receptionist or the chief of surgery. I have never met a person who works in the industry that doesn't either a) change in the locker room or b) change at home ASAP. And he likes to dress 'comfortably'?? Most medical people love the perks of a steady career and steady/more income so they buy new clothes, new bags, new gadgets, etc. This guy is either a liar or he is the LOWEST of LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:45 PM |
| 143 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationHow did you, so easily might I add, take the thoughts/feelings I've had over the past month and write them so concisely? I 200% agree with you! The lack of support young women get in the field of personal finance and boundaries is mind-boggling. Rather than teach a woman how to survive, have strong boundaries and courage, she is instead taught to just get a husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:51 AM |
| 27 | Keeping in contact with ExesI tried once to drop an ex but I had a ZVW friend at the time. She told me to not block him because that would "show that he made me angry." She said I should post all what I'm doing so that it would make him jealous and that he would know that I'm doing so much better than him. I ended up blocking and deleting them both and now all that anxiety I had trying to balance everyone else's emotions is gone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:25 PM |
| 26 | How to deal with a pickme mother and her conditioning?You need to remember your mother. Hear me out: As you grow older, you may move out and doubt your decision thinking "Maybe my mom wasn't so bad" or "You know, my situation wasn't so bad." What almost ALWAYS happens is that people will get into a slippery slope of erasing most memories (some positive, mostly negative) when they leave home. Which sets them up for failure. The doubts you have will manifest into you attempting to give your mother another chance to prove herself. Another chance for h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:46 AM |
| 42 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsI have LITERALLY been put in a dangerous/legal situation because of a pickme. It still gives me chills 'til this day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:51 PM |
| 160 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatI watched some of those. The date was 5 hours long 🚩 and all they had were drinks and water 🚩. From what I saw, this girl was used to the bar being insanely low so the fact that someone brought it a little bit higher, she's over the moon 🚩. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 35 | Good hygiene is the sexiest trait in a manTHIS is what I come to this sub for. Bravo! Also, I too think it is a sexy trait but so many men think it makes them seem "feminine." Good hygiene is a bare minimum, sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 06:41 PM |
| 12 | Men are intimidated by my educationAbsolutely. It also sounds like you are doing incredibly well to achieve such great heights which means you have a lot of courage. Too bad for them but excellent for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:22 PM |
| 59 | Ladies, I want to thank you.Wait, come again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 06:34 PM |
| 7 | Grateful for FDS - Realizing the urgent need to openly and loudly nurture, guide and discipline the new generation of young girls and take a proactive attitude in helping others recognize the need to re-parent themselvesThese girls are being thrown to the wolves and not only haven't they got a clue, they are actively being misled by society. 100%. Completely misled and deceived by those around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:24 PM |
| 27 | Keep an eye on your male friendsWhy would I... go out of my way... to keep an eye on my 'male' friends? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 12:27 PM |
| 119 | Never want to go through a heartbreak again? Then establish these boundaries.I'm honestly no longer cooking for people. I love baking and cooking but I noticed it makes some people turn wild and all they want from you is food. In the end, it does more harm than good. Thanks for this post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:16 PM |
| 167 | Am I overreacting?Boundary crossing. He wanted to see if he could have special access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting?Boundary crossing. He wanted to see if he could have special access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting?Boundary crossing. He wanted to see if he could have special access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting?Boundary crossing. He wanted to see if he could have special access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting?Boundary crossing. He wanted to see if he could have special access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting?Boundary crossing. He wanted to see if he could have special access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI'm not sure if I am either but I'll find out! I'm going to go get them now. I've heard the "Boundaries" book brought up in many circles but now that I know what it's about, I'll read that one first. Thank you so much for your suggestions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 08:05 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InBecause that would lead to them expecting money from me or for me to foot the bill for something I hear you on that one and it sucks. They don't directly ask me for money per se but they will put me in awkward situations where it becomes a tit for tat thing. (Ie. They pay for dinner and I just think it's kind of them. Then they turn around and ask me to do a big favor because paying for dinner is cheaper than hiring a professional). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:51 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI didn't even think of that boundary part and you know? You are right. Thank you! Do you happen to have any books or articles or videos on better boundaries or how to enforce them? I really want to change this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:43 PM |
| 41 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI'm about to have a major level up financially which will allow me a lot more freedom to buy better quality clothes, better quality fruits and veggies, and to just overall be financially free. I am more than ready to begin this journey but I have a few qualms. Each time in the past that I've advanced in some way, I've lost friends or close ties with relatives. When they advance, all of our mutual friends/family clap for them and hold parties and more but when I advance, they all say a dry "congr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:55 PM |
| 28 | I am so glad I didn't get marriedNot the same 1:1 story but something similar happened to me and I am SO GLAD I am not married. Thankfully, I moved and he did not get the chance to propose before I started seeing someone else. He's now married to the girl he found after me and their life works for them. They share a bank account and split costs. He can't find a job that pays a good amount and she can't get a job without more education. You are completely fine girl! Keep living your life and thriving and don't settle :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:53 AM |
| 40 | I hope she got picked 🙄The bare minimum. She cannot seem to find it... oh boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:48 AM |
| 19 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄"We are headed for a huge population cliff..." Okay, and? Biologically speaking, we are in a deficit due to overpopulation/overconsumption. As in, we have used more resources at such a rapid pace that we "owe" the world so many years back to balance itself out. Baby booms are not the norm just so ya know. Populations have cycles. Also even if this person was not talking about solely births and was talking about populations in general, think about the wars, pandemics, drug epidemics, country over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:41 PM |
| 73 | Have to come to this realisation that male friendships are pointless.They just want the emotional companionship from the female friendships and if he gets a gf that fills the void he has, he'll leave the friendships behind. A man won't really think of it as that either. In his mind he "moved on with life." If the gf only halfway fills the void, he will still have female friends. Notice how I didn't mention male friendships. Those always stick around. And if he has a crush on you as a friend, don't be surprised he leaves you after you reject him. He never wanted f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:24 PM |
| 35 | Men Condition Women To Accept Poor Results in EVERYTHINGI feel like part of it is because they are so afraid of the unknown/failing. It reminds me of that one saying "Better the devil you know than the devil you don't know." They might not like the infrastructure, lack of resources, or people in their town but to them it's better than going somewhere or meeting someone they don't know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:06 PM |
| 92 | Men Condition Women To Accept Poor Results in EVERYTHINGThis is about your BBQ comment. One thing I've noticed about America is that they are VERY good with consistency in chains/franchises. Meaning, it doesn't matter if you had the same food on Tuesday from location X because it will taste the same (or similar) on Saturday from location Y. If that is the quality they are offering at a catered event whether it was for one person or 300, that place is not good. I've been to 1000+ people conferences/events in the US catered by local small businesses an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:46 PM |
| 25 | Joshua Jackson Reveals That Wife Jodie Turner-Smith Proposed to Him and "Was Quite Adamant"When Jimmy asked Joshua if he always knew he and Jodie would get married, the actor replied, "I knew the moment she asked me." That doesn't seem like the best sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:25 PM |
| 144 | We need to start talking about pick me teachers who use girls to keep the bad boys in class behaved. Because I definitely experienced this and it was terrible.This happened to me. My teacher thought this was a great idea and paired everyone. I had to get her to rearrange the seating arrangement for the whole class because of this phenomenon. She told me, "In the future you're going to have to work with men (boys) that are like this and you can't always pout and get your way." I told her, "I'll deal with it when that happens. For now, we need to fix this seating issue." Many years later and I still don't put up with crap. It has gotten me wayyyyy farth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:28 PM |
| 221 | The new dating scam."Oh my gosh! If I knew you had fallen on hard times and couldn't afford to go out, I would've said you should not go out. I had no idea that you were struggling!" Say it as LOUD as you can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 01:16 PM |
| 42 | Dating & Socioeconomic StatusI was born into poverty and raised watching my parents go from below the poverty line to working class to above. Now our family is doing really well but there are still a few times that I catch myself doing things we did when we were poor (like buying cheap things hoping to replace it later when I could just pay a little more for a lifelong thing). It has taken me about 5 years to get out of this mindset and I'm doing infinitely better. But those 5 years were work that I, and only I, put into ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:54 PM |
| 29 | In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮On a very basic level (I don't know the whole story about their finances) this should be affordable. Many jobs are moving to remote or hybrid work so perhaps this really is doable for her. Not only that but if they have no airline loyalty, they can travel hack and get cheap flights. Also I don't know if they go out with their friends on the weekend or something but those outings add up. Save the money from ten of those nights and you have yourself an international vacation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 06:53 PM |
| 35 | Survey: Single Men Change Their Bed Sheets How Often?!I am so sorry for you. I thought a wild animal got to the mattress. I honestly am in shock right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 06:33 PM |
| 30 | Survey: Single Men Change Their Bed Sheets How Often?!This... this is a joke right? You're hoodwinking us?? Please tell me it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 06:29 PM |
| 58 | How to avoid falling back into old pickmeisha habits?A HVW told me to repeat to myself that "I'm not a towel." This means: I don't clean up other's messes, I will not be 'used' by men, I'm not trying to hide/coverup anything for other people, and more. What I am though is a human being with my own thoughts and emotions. If I ever catch myself slipping into my old ways, I remember this. Maybe it could help you :) You got it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:49 PM |
| 68 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.Third this. Even though you might have known her for a while and you might be total "besties," she is sensing competition. Jealousy is one of the ugliest things on this planet and depending on who she is, it could be detrimental for your friendship but most of all, you in general. Been there, it's not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:00 AM |
| 14 | Proper posture is sexy!Thank you for this! I'm busting out my heels and platform shoes this summer :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:56 AM |
| 16 | ' gOlD DigGeR 'Leave him. That's how. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:08 PM |
| 6 | I am so triggered by cardboard cutouts if the grooms face at my former students bridal showerYuck! At first I was like yeah, that's weird. But as you went on I realized that I know 100% what you mean. Too many people get lost in these relationships and post ALLLL over social media. I know someone going through this right now and we will see how the next few months pan out sheesh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 38 | Signs you have been benched or 'kept warm' and how to avoid it happening to youI don't like this in business or in my social life. At the first sign of it, I leave. They are letting you know how the relationship will carry on (should it get past GO). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 25 | Let's give it up for the bare minimum!the majority of scrotes view it as their chance to feel boobies or something like some pathetic 12th grader. I didn't even think of this. That is so gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 06:08 PM |
| 12 | Let's give it up for the bare minimum!It really is so disappointing :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 04:52 PM |
| 29 | Let's give it up for the bare minimum!Aww hugs! It really shocked me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 04:51 PM |
| 8 | Don't be with a man you cannot trust10000% true! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 40 | Let's give it up for the bare minimum!I chose it because pickmes compromise on even the smallest of things. Let me take a look at the other flairs. Hugs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 03:09 PM |
| 10 | Don't be with a man you cannot trustAbsolutely. I can provide all the help I can but sometimes it can get too much on my plate. I always have sympathy for these women. The unfortunate thing is after years it is hard to snap out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:31 PM |
| 59 | For women in relationships with men working in corporate, what is it like?Not me. But I know a lady whose husband missed the birth of his child and took only one day off of paternity leave. She gave birth by herself, went home by herself (I was there as much as I could be), and went through post-partum sans husband. Several months later, the husband took a day off so he could take his car to the mechanic. Womp womp. Edit: I should mention that he had more than enough time/days to take off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:02 PM |
| 47 | What's FDS opinion on Anna Bey?Yeah, so no. Anna was not raised in the elegant/higher class. I rub shoulders with a lot of people from different classes and I want to say is there is a time and a place for everything. For instance, she said not to wear a t-shirt. What about at a sporting event, or on a rough safari, or going to your kid's gymnastics class to help out? Sure thing, let me just wear my century-old tweed jacket and pressed slacks. Smh. If you've ever seen the movie "Parasite" (highly recommend), Anna reminds me o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 41 | Don't be with a man you cannot trusthaving a partner who is reliable and trustworthy is attainable. I honestly hate how pickmes and the like have bashed it into women's heads that this is unattainable. IT IS ATTAINABLE. In fact, it is the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 12:27 PM |
| 25 | Don't be with a man you cannot trustRight? It could be basic everyday things like calling a friend over for help: to clean their house because the boyfriend cannot be bothered to clean, to watch their kids while their wife goes out for more than 3 hours and the husband is at home, to going on an outing or vacation with them because they don't trust their partner to be safe. Why be with someone that brings you down? Makes no sense to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 12:12 PM |
| 43 | I am absolutely speechless. Tl;dr, if he can’t have sex with her after a surgery, she will not be allowed to use her cup/tampons. This is straight up abuse.I don't know why I didn't see the endometriosis part the first time I read through. That ailment is a b* tch and the fact that he is being so nonchalant and a complete asswipe about it is beyond me. Support your wife dumbass, you're being a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 06:37 PM |
| 5 | If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my bestWhat is even an LVM's best? I've never seen it, never heard of it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 06:18 PM |
| 14 | 'Is this the final one?'You block the person and a pop up asks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:56 PM |
| 39 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meYes, always luck/chance. In the off chance she did use hard work, it was because a man was behind her mentoring her 🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:34 PM |
| 53 | 'Is this the final one?'Instagram has a cool feature now where you can block him AND any new accounts he creates (with the same/similar info). You're right. If he does make an alternate account that bypasses the system, that's his problem and shows that he's ✨so obsessed ✨with her, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:28 PM |
| 36 | Why men and women cannot be "just friends"Do you know how many times I've posted this either as a post or a comment?? I either get downvoted or my post gets closed to no further comments because people disagree so hard. Keep fighting the good fight, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:54 PM |
| 26 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupYes, they come back. Not all, but a lot. Some with their tail between their legs while others just want to talk about how much better off they are (which is a weird thing to do). I'm all for blocking and deleting though. Not only does it cut off access for them to you but it also allows you the space to move on. I can't say I've had exes try to reach back out because I block them everywhere so if they tried, I wouldn't know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 46 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticOh my goodness. I am going to say I am insecure of my skin (I am not, I take good care of it thank God) but it's the ONE thing I know for a fact is healthy and good. So if I get negged for it, that's on him. Why must people neg anyways? It makes me want to leave the room and then consequently leave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:00 PM |
| 22 | Finally met my HVM 🥰I read the whole thing thinking there is noooo way a disciple could post this. Has everyone gone mad?? You really took my emotions on a journey here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:51 PM |
| 123 | Rejection is redirectionAnd then have children, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:38 PM |
| 59 | Dear John: Betty BroderickIt's fantastic! I loved it. He did an annoyingly good job saying that she was a gold digger in court (even though she was far from it). When they first met, he was just the unsuspecting nerdy guy in town but still was plotting from the moment he met her. Also, he didn't care about his kids! He just had them as a badge of honor which is something I posted about. I couldn't believe how much of a bum he really was. Especially him and all his lawyer friends laughing it up while their wives were havi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Don’t know if I’m making a mistake by leaving my BF..Oh, I meant that I agree with you. It feels like a troll post. I've been seeing more and more posts that feel troll-ish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:57 PM |
| 16 | What is FDS’s official stance on online dating? A shift to more productive conversationsThere have been a few videos on this sub about narcissists and they said a narcissist is more likely to use OLD to feed their ego. This is because they get to post the pictures they want, they get to judge others, but most importantly, they can come and go as they choose. If they found someone as their new 'ego feeder,' if it ends poorly or they get tired of them, they just come back to OLD and find another. They can also control conversations, ghost when needed, and do whatever they want. I'm f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Don’t know if I’m making a mistake by leaving my BF..what is happening on this sub! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Seemingly HV until you find out how he wants to raise your childrenThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Seemingly HV until you find out how he wants to raise your childrenMy family knows a lot of people haha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:02 PM |
| 28 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.Right? Thank God, I thought it was just me. I have seen a few recently where it's been ~3 months. Not even the FBI can vet that fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:47 AM |
| 285 | Tip - if he reschedules even once for your first date, there is a 99% chance he is using you as a backup.He wants to see you after 10 at NIGHT? You know what that means... smh. He tried to plan last-minute dates? No, not happening. Why was he so specific about vodka lemonades? Also it seems like he is quite fond of drinking. There is nothing inherently wrong with it, but going on the first few dates with someone should not involve alcohol. Those are the times you need to be the most coherent rather than under the influence. And lol I am glad you realize this was not worth your time. Don't do charit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:15 AM |
| 16 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.Same! I thought he wanted to be a successful power couple. Nope, he wanted connections and to get to the next level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:02 AM |
| 81 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.I've been following this sub for a year + and only made this account for FDS only. With the new influx of members, especially members who DO NOT read the handbook, I am tired of seeing posts of "How do I keep this man?" or "What's the best OLD site to find a man?" I am also tired of getting downvoted for telling people to NOT bring up trauma. Does anyone even read the handbook anymore?? Most questions can be answered there and it is a good foundation of what to take into a relationship. Instead,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 11:53 PM |
| 8 | Not wanting my SO to post photos of us and not wanting to post photos of him- is this okay?I don't think you set yourself up for failure. It's okay to not want to be posted on his social media. One thing that did alarm me was a comment you posted on someone else's comment: So it feels kind of surreal to be with a guy who’s Indian mom minds her business and is super respectful to me and her other son’s wife. I just feel scared of losing it all. But as you said, only time will tell. I can’t change whatever his actions will be… I know you've been hurt before but to think you may 'lose it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:02 AM |
| 8 | What are your thoughts on prenups?I support them. Not only for asset protection but depending on the local prenup laws, they could also protect you in the event he gets a lot of debt. Regardless if you have a prenup or not, every legal system has some sort of 'default' prenup where the couple may split 50/50, each couple takes back what they put in, etc. I like the idea of a prenup because at least they have in written terms what to expect. If you do decide to get one, perhaps you should both contact lawyers to help you sort eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:40 AM |
| 37 | About "Why women everywhere are delaying motherhood" [article from the NYT]Being alone in this world without having the support of a community is tough enough. That's before adding a child to the mix. If they don't fix these errors (ie. low pay, no or few childcare options, etc), good luck having a population in the future. It'll be too late then to start offering benefits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:30 AM |
| 21 | On flaky “friends” and why I understand when women overinvest in their romantic relationships. I think we can have pickme tendencies without being a full blown pickme.I think that the sad thing about pickmes is that they would honestly rather be in a horrible relationship than to move on with their life. I've learned with age that it is okay if you don't have friends that can do everything with you. If you have a friend that you like to read books with, she doesn't need to also be the person you kayak with. You can have friends for every scenario and just as with dating, it is overtime those relationships deepen if need be. Friends are like the seasons, they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:26 AM |
| 13 | On flaky “friends” and why I understand when women overinvest in their romantic relationships. I think we can have pickme tendencies without being a full blown pickme.I know people like that! They will literally mesh into that man's life and cut out anyone against it. Pickme to the maxxxx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:23 AM |
| 15 | Lundy Bancroft's book "Why does he do that" is an eye opener.This book was a good read. I'll have to make it a yearly one because it has some good tips. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:14 PM |
| 16 | What do you ladies think ?Like that post from a few days ago: Then perish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:06 PM |
| 18 | Me and my HVM have caused two major break ups by existing. Feels good.Thank you for this post! This happened to me and a guy I dated. It was my first serious relationship (I'm a late bloomer, lol) and I didn't know people compared themselves to other couples. One couple, the woman was upset that her bf showed a lack of empathy and didn't buy her gifts, unlike mine. Another stopped talking to me, so I have no clue what happened there, but a friend of a friend told me it's not going too well and he won't pull his weight. She sticks around because it's a sunk cost. Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 05:34 PM |
| 353 | Apparently even ancient Rabbis didn’t have time for thirsty dudes and their nonsenseDie mad 😂 I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:30 AM |
| 143 | But you came like 3 times right?!??Please, continue to expose how you cannot please a woman to the world wide web 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 06:00 PM |
| 88 | FDS rules totally apply to all relationships and not just dating & What I learned from ending a friendship with an LVM friend.He told me we should stop hanging out, but keep the friendship 🤡 How does that work?? It has been said multiple times and it is a touchy topic for some here. The likelihood of a man being your friend only for friendship is VERY slim. Odds are he was interested in you (for the emotional/physical resources you have and as a sexual prospect) but the moment you started putting up boundaries, he backed off because he knew you meant business. In other words, he liked that he could give you little resp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 03:35 PM |
| 65 | The importance of not sharing your trauma with the men you’re datingAlong with this step, LVM's also have in the playbook: Ghost the girl after she shares a traumatic experience so you can "think about it" gaslight, Gaslight, GASLIGHT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 03:15 PM |
| 142 | If he visits strip clubs, assume he is soliciting sexUgh. Too many women I know allow their SO's to go to the strip club in an effort to "save their marriage" and be a cool girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 05:14 AM |
| 42 | Always, ALWAYS check his phoneApparently, without me, he is nothing. He has accused me of walking away from our marriage, of giving up on us. He said that there's nothing I can ever do that will be unforgivable to him, how can I walk away from someone I claimed to love. There's nothing he has not said. Eeek. Sis, he's a narc. You're doing the right thing. Don't doubt it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 03:38 AM |
| 21 | What will it take to get the bots, catfish, scammers and still-hopeful women off the apps?I've known 2 people to get married off of dating apps. They settled for the most consistent guys... the ones who call or text 24/7 and you have to hang out with them at least 4 times a week. Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 04:36 PM |
| 53 | Women Don’t Know. Old Scrote = Birth Defects, Developmental IssueIt's so sad that they refuse to get early intervention. I know way too many kids now adults who suffer because they weren't allowed access to get help with their autism, add/adhd, speech delays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪I am so happy to see Canada in deep yellow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 10:04 PM |
| 41 | FDS Translates VICE - "Adult" Men with their Mattresses on the FloorIt was a luxury I looked forward to when I was growing up to have a decent mattress and a bed frame and now that I can afford them, I would never trade them for anything. The fact that these men are doing mental gymnastics to not have one, is beyond me. 'Having little bits of poverty around is great for sniffing out them shallow bitches,' wrote intensely_human." Poverty isn't cute. It is a plague on families and a cycle that takes serious effort to break. No thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:34 AM |
| 10 | Cruella has to be the most FDS thing Disney has ever madeI'll have to watch! Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:59 AM |
| 41 | Don't be a weekday chick!I used to be this. We live and we learn 🤡And you're right, it was only based on what was good and convenient for him. That's a huge red flag and it WILL bleed into other areas of your relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 08:38 PM |
| 167 | Don't be a weekday chick!There's a thing where people think doing "marriage" duties while dating means that your relationship is getting deep. It's false intimacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 08:33 PM |
| 8 | Has anyone watched Married At First Sight? It's basically the pairing of LVM with women who need therapy. The latest season has truly broken one of the cast members, Paige. This show is dangerous.I watched this clip (thanks!) and others of him. This man has a complex. Superiority complex, God complex, whatever else. I am really happy that his actions are pretty much universally condemned because he is awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 08:45 PM |
| 13 | Apparently food can affect one's masculinityI'm cackling 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 59 | Am I surprised ?I add this number up every few years, glad to see the rates have increased! I've always said that I would not marry a man who makes less than this and the amount of groans I get is astounding. (I'm still going to work at least part-time though. I need to have my own resources and I like talking to adults instead of toddlers all the time 😂). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:53 PM |
| 353 | TIL anything about a woman can be sexualized, even her periodHer period causes her issues in SEVERAL different ways but all he can think about is muh penis??? This man is disgusting. Get help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:57 PM |
| 11 | How to become a HVW?One major thing I did was to learn to get out of a poverty mindset. For example, I used to buy cheap shoes that would last me 6 months. Then I would go back to the store and buy more 6 month shoes (x5). At the end of it, I spent more money on 6 month shoes than it would have cost to just buy one pair of lasting shoes. This bleeds into other areas of your life, too, like in health, school, jobs, relationships, etc. I had a friend who was a complete mess. She didn't value me, was into all sorts of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:47 PM |
| 43 | young girl posts tik tok about being flat chested, middle aged plastic surgeon comments.People need to stop doing medical tourism. Most (cosmetic) surgical recoveries are 3+ weeks and require raised limbs, no heavy lifting, bed rest, or something else. Instead, these people fly to foreign lands, get the surgery and fly back almost immediately to recover back home. In the event something needs correction or a second look, which is really common, you have to go to ANOTHER doctor in your country and pay MORE money. And the thing about plastics is that you can only do so much surgery b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 11:05 PM |
| 31 | young girl posts tik tok about being flat chested, middle aged plastic surgeon comments.All narcissists with a god complex. Took the words right out of my mouth. I have never met a sane one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Internalized misogyny starts early in a girl's life and trains her to value the opinions of others always over her own. It takes time and unlearning to overcome this - be patient with yourself!Thank you ❤️! It is annoying when that happens but I think it's good to realize their remarks have nothing to do with us and that the pickmes have internal issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 08:54 PM |
| 17 | This is so so true of my narc ex and why we do not repeat ourselves. You're wasting your energy explaining and re-explaining yourself - they simply don't care.Short answer: Not really. Long answer: Dr. Ramani believes that it is pretty hard to change who you are especially if you are a narcissist. Part of the reason is that they lack empathy. She's worked with some that have "changed" but they go three steps forward and two steps back in progress and get frustrated with this. Since narcissists are not good with frustration, a lot give up. So the recovery is slow, slow, slow, and then they give up. It is better for them to be aware of their lack of emp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 06:03 PM |
| 34 | Internalized misogyny starts early in a girl's life and trains her to value the opinions of others always over her own. It takes time and unlearning to overcome this - be patient with yourself!I stopped wearing anything remotely tight. I normally wore tracksuit bottoms and for tops, it was shirts/pullovers 1 or 2 sizes too big. I also hated pink and therefore I was not "one of those girls." I didn't want men to look at me, yes, but I also had "friends" who made faces when I did wear nicer clothes because they didn't like any attention off of them. I thought by me not wearing dresses and tighter clothes that my friends would have a better chance with them. Not true! After 10 years of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 05:48 PM |
| 12 | Why I only accept dinner dates when vetting a man.A lot of the ones I know only know how to make pasta store-bought w/sauce and maybe how to put a steak in the oven but that is it. So when you go over, you have one of two meals to choose from and it never goes up from there. I keep seeing random guys take up cooking as a passion on Youtube and it made me realize that I want to date a guy that can cook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 05:25 PM |
| 35 | Just got sent this from a friend....5’9 not attractive...is he taking the piss?And then he's going to make her plan the whole thing but still pay for 1/2 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 12:13 AM |
| 38 | Just got sent this from a friend....5’9 not attractive...is he taking the piss?Don't forget the stale garlic baguette he found in the sale section! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 11:31 PM |
| 185 | Just got sent this from a friend....5’9 not attractive...is he taking the piss?I don't believe him. For his "Italian" cooking, he probably throws on sauce and calls it a day. For his "adventurous" side, he listed some of the most touristy destinations and I doubt he cares about the cultures there as in the same breath (paragraph) he showed his racism. Sure thing lad, you've got me! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:50 PM |
| 141 | I saw this going around on Facebook with women swooning, I need a break from it 🤢AND they kiss. They don't kiss in the wild so that's extra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 11 | You aren't "making him wait" to have sexDang, sis! I am going to have to save this. This was awesome. I think you are totally right on the fear aspect because there are so many people who think finding their "OTP" will help solve all their issues in life and it won't. So many people are afraid to do a deep dive into their life and figure out what is going wrong. So many people have fears and use kinks and other things to try to figure them out. Which in theory, there is nothing wrong with figuring yourself out. However, when you have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:12 AM |
| 40 | You aren't "making him wait" to have sexI think you're on to something! I wish there was more research on "sex posi" relationships to see what was really going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:57 PM |
| 17 | How do you respond when men ask questions or make comments about your intelligence?No worries! I think it depends on the context. I hate to sound like a cheesy person but on a basic level, nothing is hard if you put your mind to it. One time, I taught myself how to play an instrument. I picked it up very quickly but missed out on playing with other people so I decided to join a class. Long story short, at the end of the 16ish weeks, I was the second best in there. I followed up with some of the men (I was 1 of 2 women in the class, 20 people in total) the next year to see wher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:49 PM |
| 55 | FDS has made soooo many shows unwatchable for meI think I watched an interview where an A&R guy or another music exec was talking about music and he said the reason why you hear so much 'pickme' music is because it sells the most. The artist might truly have those feelings but they try to mass-produce it because they need top hits to survive as a company. This is why you hear people say some of the most ridiculous things like "I would dive into the bottom of the sea and jump up to the moon just to be with you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:05 PM |
| 56 | Listen to Men when They Tell You Who You Are: A Story about a Pickme in the WildPeople literally say who they are if you let them talk but for some reason, pickmes think men like him can change. Also, that sub makes me so mad/sad. It's not good for my health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 103 | How do you respond when men ask questions or make comments about your intelligence?Lol, one time I told a guy my specialty and he said "That sounds hard" and walked away. Trash took itself out 😂 To answer your question, I don't. If I have a conversation with the guy and this is the vibe I'm getting, I politely try to excuse myself. It is only downhill from there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 08:40 PM |
| 1 | More evidence the red pill ruins relationships, makes insecure men irrationally paranoid and cheat to make their partner ‘jealous’/unstable and is full of bitter late bloomers seeking ‘revenge’ on the types of women who rejected them in highschool.Whoop there it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 17 | Self Appreciation or Gratitude: what do you love about yourself?I am grateful for my patience, courage, and confidence. If I know I did a good job, I am willing to wait for the results. If they end up not what I expected, I'll pick myself up, readjust, and try again :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 14 | A woman I know shared this...😬Wow. This is how people manifest illnesses (mental & physical) because they are too busy gaslighting themselves to listen to how their body is saying no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:58 PM |
| 31 | From an article about courtship in early America. Marriage (and relationships with men in general) is and always has been a prison for womenIn modern times, a lot of societies have moved away from the man holding the position of power in a household. By that I mean the man would be the only one to vote, hold the money, make major decisions, and more. In some societies today, women still cannot do those and go to council meetings where everything is decided by the men. So for them, being married would hopefully let them have their decisions heard through their husbands. It also gives them respect because unmarried women are seen as l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:47 PM |
| 7 | Kick him out 2021: What do you refuse to stand for?Sure thing! Yeah it's definitely one of the strangest red flags and like others said, I haven't seen it since I was a child. I'm glad you learned from your experience, too. I honestly can't imagine trying to steal someone's opinions/narrative so strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Kick him out 2021: What do you refuse to stand for?Exactly. I wondered why he was single before and then I found out why. That bar really is too low but I'm glad I can use FDS to help raise it up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:25 PM |
| 11 | Kick him out 2021: What do you refuse to stand for?What took me a long time to realize was that his hobbies came from his friends. Even the music he listened to, the clothes he wore, the places he went were all collectively chosen by his friend group. Now that I think of it, the dates he chose were all places he'd been to. Only once did I choose and he didn't want to go there because it hadn't been friend approved. Now I know better!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:24 PM |
| 95 | Kick him out 2021: What do you refuse to stand for?My ex was fascinated in me. Not a normal fascination but like I was an exhibit at the museum. He would always ask me questions about my life and rarely talk about his. Little did I know, our 'conversations' were just him gathering intel on what he wanted to do next in life. I said I did martial arts, he turned around and started looking up classes. I travelled somewhere cool, suddenly him and his friends booked tickets to go without telling me. I moved to a cool new place, suddenly he was talkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:14 AM |
| 10 | Leveling Up By Moving on UpYes. I moved from apartments that were convenient and affordable to an apartment that was a little farther from work but in a nicer neighborhood. Best decision I could have made. The people were better, I actually ended up saving on costs because it was quieter and I didn't have to buy noise-cancelling items, plus I was closer to stores. I made better friends, liked my neighbors, and most of all, I felt comfortable here and not like I was settling. I do not have any cons big enough to make me mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:20 AM |
| 20 | OLD scrote attempts to hire hitmanI'm honestly laughing so hard at this and you're right!! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 48 | OLD scrote attempts to hire hitmanI looked him up online and idk what I was expecting him to look like. I'm glad he got caught. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 08:47 PM |
| 11 | The loneliness of leveling up.When you level up, you assert boundaries, start communicating better, and most importantly, become more of yourself. By leveling up, you are seeking authenticity. There is a thing that when you seek authenticity, your relationships will suffer because people are used to the version of you that THEY see YOU as, not as what YOU see as YOU. So when you start 'changing' on them and assert yourself, they are taken aback. Keep on leveling up and being you. You might be alone but it is far better than … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 06:02 PM |
| 39 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouI've heard two reasons but I am sure there are more: 1) they don't think women can afford it regardless of their job 2) even if they could afford it, they probably slept with a few high-ranking/rich men there and are gold diggers. Even if you show them your itinerary, bank statements, etc, they don't care smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:58 AM |
| 96 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouI've said it before on this sub but I'll share again because it happens a lot. LVMs think traveling a lot or to cool places makes you a sex worker. That or you are a spoiled brat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 237 | Podcast feedback from men: "hate fan mail""You're teaching women to be manipulative gold diggers" Sir, you make the average yearly salary. What kind of gold am I digging? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 36 | Yet another scene of Covid restrictions lifted and men GO FUCKING NUTS because starved of female attentionWHAT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:40 PM |
| 89 | Men think that they can use any woman for their sexual gratificationBananas, eating long sandwiches, applying lip gloss/stick, sitting down, bending down to throw away trash... the list goes on and on and on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:35 PM |
| 29 | The plastic surgery industry thrives based on the insecurity of women due to the demands of the patriarchy.One time I was scrolling on YT and a BBL vlog came up. I had no idea what it was but then I got interested in the subject. I can honestly say that the EXTREME ones did not seem secure in themselves and one even said she hates the attention that she gets now. She 100% regrets it and realized that her insecurities were for her to fix mentally and no amount of surgery could change that. What we also never see online is the girls that have botched butts from surgery tourism (ie. flying to a differen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:09 AM |
| 16 | Do not message men first! Like complimenting them, it just inflates their ego so they try more girls.I've successfully used Bumble BFF and made a good friend from there :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:09 PM |
| 93 | "My Ex accused me of rape"No one wants to be firndsvwith someone as insecure as me haha Sis, no. He's trying to bait you with pity. NEXT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:55 PM |
| 415 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteThen predators/OF enthusiasts will sweep this under the rug and say that she "couldn't handle it" or "this is just one girl out of thousands that love it." This poor girl, I really hope she is okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:31 AM |
| 51 | Ladies be careful about accepting massages in public. Have you all seen any Luo Dong videos on YouTube?I'll be honest with you. I know a LOTTTTT of naive young girls who were in strict or semi-strict environments growing up with their parents. They teach stranger danger, yes. However, they also teach you to respect authority and this right here is taught universally regardless of strict parents or not. Even though he's a random guy, he is out in public with equipment (authority), has a YouTube channel (he's credible), and seems very knowledgeable on the surface (double yes for credibility). Also,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:32 PM |
| 37 | How is being bothered by micro-cheating connected to having low self-confidence?The argument I've heard the most is that "Men look" or "Men have needs." I've heard a guy tell his gf "If I don't have access to you all the time, I can look at other women. It doesn't mean anything." Which, if he didn't know, he just admitted that he's using these women for his own sexual benefit, including his girlfriend. It is very rare to get random thirst traps on your Instagram explore page. It goes by an algorithm and based on what you've liked, that's what you get. Say he did know these … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:17 PM |
| 84 | Is it just me or are many men disgusted by women's bodies?You are right that big boobs normally have some sort of sagging. It's completely normal. So when men say "I'm a boobs guy" and then make fun of women with saggy breasts, you have to wonder what kind of mental gymnastics they go through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:02 PM |
| 17 | Had a funeral for a close relative a few years ago and it helped me get some closure. They don’t like expensive weddings and now they don’t think people should have funerals either if they want one? Fuck outta hear with your cheap assIt was a beautiful rant and I agree 100% with it all. Especially with that salary part. I know people have different financial situations but it's hard to survive on a lower salary in most places let alone bring another person into it with the possibility of having kids. All the financial headaches, stress, arguments, and resentment are not worth it. Love doesn't pay bills. Also, I don't even know the lady but that whole situation sounds heartbreaking. Those celebrations/funerals are supposed to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:36 PM |
| 26 | Had a funeral for a close relative a few years ago and it helped me get some closure. They don’t like expensive weddings and now they don’t think people should have funerals either if they want one? Fuck outta hear with your cheap assI wish people would stop using so many words to say they were broke. They could've just typed "I am broke, thank you" and hit post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:26 PM |
| 2 | In a FBgroup about dating...post was about women who expect men to pay on first datesClassists??? CLASSISTS?? Oh honey. Just say you've never been taken out on a good date before and keep it moving. The precedent I'm setting in my relationship is that I have standards and NOT that I settle for the bare minimum that resides in hell. Classists, yeah okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:23 PM |
| 66 | Tired of people trying to sell this idea that posting half naked pics on instagram is empowering to us girls and womenThey're not liberating. No one should feel 'brave' for posting a thirst trap. One way to feel empowered and courageous is by taking on new tasks, maybe failing at them, but at least getting back up to try again. Like learning a new language, getting a new job, trying to deepen your relationships. The ones who post those images come from a place of seeking validation. They might feel 'validated' but not 'empowered.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:32 AM |
| 74 | Ready to commit and then they bail (AKA THE REASON TO DATE MULTIPLE MEN AT ONCE AND PROPERLY VET)Hello, are you me? The “I can’t give you what you need but I still love you...” sounds so familiar I legit think we are distant versions of each other 🥲. In all seriousness, you have every right to feel this is terrible behavior because he completely dropped the ball. Good on you for sticking up for yourself and moving on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:22 AM |
| 5 | HAHA!!! 🤡I wish I could hug her. Her intuition was telling her not to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 09:13 PM |
| 4 | I just threw up in my mouth a bit.I've known women to do this. They're in active labor and they cook so their husbands will have food after they get back from the hospital (because the mom will be resting with the baby). Tbh, I thought it was normal 🙃Oh the horror. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 18 | Angry scrote texts me from another phone number after I blocked and deleted him because we’re not a match...The fact he brought up your age and your beauty several times means that you are an 11/10, sis! It probably pains him that you got away, lol. (Clearly, he's just being a nice guy. He had to dumb himself down and pretend to be illiterate to get with you. The effort! /s) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 04:52 PM |
| 202 | my friend, the wife, is upset with me for being rude to her husband. I’m sad for her."Fuck you bitch drop dead" I screamed at this part. Who does he think he is?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 08:57 PM |
| 15 | Alt Right PickmesAh purity culture. You get groomed into thinking that is the only way to go. Some people stick with it and it works for them. A lot more end up disappointed because their spouses have done it previously, they feel like they missed out, sex is not even as good as they once thought, etc. Sometimes kids get pushed into it so hard that they rebel and since no one taught them safe sex, they get pregnant (or get someone pregnant) or STDs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:38 AM |
| 95 | Alt Right PickmesYou sound like an undercover reporter and I love it. Great job! I don't know if this was something you noticed but in fundie alt-right pickmes that I know: They assume a woman who is up-to-date with fashion trends and knows what flatters her body is a whore. The ones that are in abusive marriages now think that God is punishing them for the way they acted as children. They don't believe in dating multiple men at once because they think the first man who says "God gave me a dream about you" or co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:28 AM |
| 55 | Nobody in the comments section pointed out the obvious, which is that he wants to f*ck this woman if he hasn't alreadyAbsolutely! 'Jealousy' had the meaning stripped to be something that only bitter people feel. It is a 100% natural feeling. This poor girl is trying to be the doting and respectful girlfriend but is being taken advantage of. Her emotions are giving her alarm bells and she knows the reason why. I hope she realizes this soon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:10 AM |
| 324 | Nobody in the comments section pointed out the obvious, which is that he wants to f*ck this woman if he hasn't alreadyRed Flags: 🚩Age gap 🚩Shares "household" expenses with boyfriend 🚩He earns 4x as much, is older and more established 🚩Yet, they split life evenly 🚩She finds the "equality" as a boost for her self esteem when in reality, he's scamming her but okay 🚩He bought a thoughtful and planned out gift for the girl "friend" that was better overall than his gf's 🚩No jealousy but she feels hurt because he takes advantage of her and treats this other girl better. Which is jealousy... 2+2=4, hun. How do you writ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:12 AM |
| 7 | Wedding push these sexist ideas onto women that they need to do everything perfectly due to the ‘privilege’ of being a brideright down to the size of pizzas for the rehearsal dinner (who the fuck has pizzas at a rehearsal dinner?!) I've been to a rehearsal dinner like this (not the same one) about 10 years ago. They're still married, miserable, but married. I would think the couple you helped may have divorced but you'd be surprised that sometimes the red flags mean nothing to them and they stay together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 190 | Wedding push these sexist ideas onto women that they need to do everything perfectly due to the ‘privilege’ of being a brideOne wedding I went to: The bridal party did everything you said. Took the fancy pictures, matching robes, the whole shebang. The groom/groomsmen? Woke up, some showered, some planned on arriving day of and missed their flights, the best man dropped out morning of, the remaining ones got trashed and got noise complaints. Then they showed up at the wedding and it was the job of the bridal party to get them together. Each day I come to this sub, I realize more and more how misogny has let men get a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 05:57 AM |
| 350 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.He doesn't actually love her. He loves the idea of her. In marriage, he'll continue exactly what he's had, and will protect himself should she choose to leave. He's already successfully tricked her into being with him for 8 years, I'm sure he can trick her into signing a prenup tailored to benefit him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:59 PM |
| 13 | Thinking about the time a youtuber inadvertently showed men's entitlementThis doesn't seem like a sketch 😭 This is real life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:28 PM |
| 118 | Women thrive without men, men perish without women, not the other way aroundOh! That's what that means? I thought my wifi was slow to load them all 😂😂 Good luck getting past the mods! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Male coworker triggered by being in a room full of high value womenGood for all of you! I am so happy to hear this story. All of you stood your ground and did a fine job at it. They need to write this guy up. Even if nothing happens, at least it is documented. His behavior is 100% unacceptable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 02:01 AM |
| 16 | Who gives out the answer to a test?Let me tell you all something, I was the one in school who did the work and got all the answers. If I didn't I would go to a friend who if they scratched my back I would scratch theirs. The ones that did not do their work grow up to be those EXACT SAME PEOPLE. They coast through life knowing that if they wait it out long enough or use puppy eyes enough, someone else will do it for them. DO NOT be that person. Let them fail and continue to fail. Don't feel bad for them, they have literally had a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:56 AM |
| 14 | Remember ladies, the lOgiCaL sEx really will stick their d*ck in anythingSadly, you're unaware of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:57 AM |
| 373 | Scrote's GF can't meet the same standards as his anime sex dollI don't think this girl has rose-colored glasses on. I think she has black-out goggles that prevent her from seeing ANYTHING. She needs to GTFO! What kind of person is this? He literally does not care about her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:15 AM |
| 53 | Today my 90yo grandmother told me while we were FaceTiming about the time she had two boyfriends who would both hold a hand while she sat in the middle while at the cinema. Then we tried to find all her ex’s obituaries online lolI need more from her, please! Does she have tips, yes for dating, but for how to live life in general? She sounds awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:12 AM |
| 23 | How to stop women from seeing you as competition and more as leader/respectable friend?This! You have to be quiet/private about things. It works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:49 PM |
| 64 | Remember ladies, the lOgiCaL sEx really will stick their d*ck in anythingSo we have chicken guy, jello guy, and now ketchup guy??? Leave food alone, scrotes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:37 PM |
| 4 | Why you should avoid moving abroad for a guyNot all the time. If you're a pickme, it's romantic. If you are moving from a developing country to a developed country, a lot of people see it as your knight in shining armor coming to hoist you away to bigger and better things. I've noticed, at least from the society I'm from, they see it as a Cinderella thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:26 PM |
| 6 | I'm newly divorced, and today is my wedding anniversary. I just want to share my thoughts.Happy mother's day! Thank you so much for this. Congrats on your new life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:32 PM |
| 9 | Why you should avoid moving abroad for a guyLearning that language in advance is extremely tough, too. I speak several languages and the vocabulary, I have. However, each society speaks the language differently with their slang, tones, and body language. If I say "I'm pissed" in the UK, in the US, that means something completely different. I honestly give props to all immigrants who have to go through this. It is mentally exhausting. Edit: I agree too with OP and you. The language part just caught my eye because moving can be really hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:28 PM |
| 19 | Why you should avoid moving abroad for a guyUnfortunately, many companies in developed countries do not recognise degrees from and work experience in developing countries despite not admitting this due to "political correctness". 100% accurate. I know too many people who have to go back to school because of this. So many years lost and it really takes a toll on them mentally oftentimes giving them depression/anxiety. Then once they finish the degree and go back to work, they tend to stay at the same level because it is too scary to think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 64 | A group of boys harasses and assaults a group of girls minding their own business.Me too! That was the last thing I expected! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:07 PM |
| 9 | They’re really trying to act like being poly isn’t a choice 🤮I'm not sure what you mean? Edit: I am from a polygamist society. The wives don't do domestic labor, they hire hands. For cooking, cleaning, driving, nannying, really anything. They don't do farming, their kids/hired help help with that, the wives handle the business side. Nowadays, many own shops so they won't be bored at home. They could get degrees and work a white-collar job but why? Their husbands already take care of everything for them. The wives keep their money they make and inheritance… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦This is something I never thought about! Holy! You're right 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:11 AM |
| 9 | What happened?deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:02 AM |
| 14 | “Woke” libfem men just ain’t it...They can out themselves with that philosophy, 200%. Keep doing you, sis. Get those meals paid for and hold those standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 02:45 AM |
| 19 | Dear Scrotes: HVM does not mean a rich chad.HVM exist at every income level just as LVM do. Money helps, don't get me wrong, but this is not based on money. It is more about how you apply yourself to life than anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 02:42 AM |
| 10 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦Walk dates are anxiety-inducing for me. I hate my surroundings changing so much (people moving, bushes making weird noises) especially with a stranger around. I have no comfort. At dinner, nothing really changes and since my focus is on the guy, I am not on edge. Pickmeisha girl is really setting her life up for disappointment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 02:36 AM |
| 54 | They’re really trying to act like being poly isn’t a choice 🤮That's super true. I've never heard of a polygamist in the non-western world that required his wives to work. He was always the sole provider and if she had money, great! So if anything, the women in the western world are getting fooled 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 02:25 AM |
| 3 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️It's okay we're beating pickmeshia-itis together! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:55 PM |
| 181 | They’re really trying to act like being poly isn’t a choice 🤮I saw something on TikTok that said "What is something that is cool when rich people do it but not when poor people do it?" If I had to answer, it would be polyamory/polygamy. Suddenly the Western world is all about it when other parts of the world have been doing it forever and getting shat on for it. Either way, polyamory is definitely a choice. I also think it's funny how this person launched into "the good grammar" because sounding academic on Reddit will make you sound legit. Lol as if. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 10:52 PM |
| 2 | What happened?Sound advice! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:50 PM |
| 32 | Be as “ELITIST” as You Want in Choosing a HusbandGetting a bachelor's made me realize that men who have advanced degrees have the motivation to better themselves or contribute to the world on a large scale. And not only do they have motivation, but they execute their ideas as well. I am tired of dating men who all they do is talk about the future but never do anything to get there. I don't think this is elitist at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:35 PM |
| 27 | Be as “ELITIST” as You Want in Choosing a HusbandI totally agree. This statement would have started an uproar at my previous job lol. For me a college degree signifies yes, the educational part, but also the ability for them to strategize, think for themselves, network, understand different ideologies, etc. It is more than just a piece of paper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 14 | What happened?deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:05 PM |
| 17 | What happened?deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:57 PM |
| 16 | What happened?deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 35 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️😂😂 One day I'm going to post the story of Yam Guy. Lmaoo no this was the guy after him. We live and we learn 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:52 AM |
| 158 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️I almost applied for citizenship, left school & my family, and moved to another country to be with the only guy I ever dated who chewed with his mouth closed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:30 AM |
| 13 | *warning nsfw language* Saw this on the She Rates Dogs twitter page - he said the quiet part out loudIf I'm not mistaken, I think you can check yourself in for in-patient psychiatric evaluation/care. I'm not joking, this guy needs serious help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 07:19 PM |
| 24 | LVM’s will never change. You won’t make him change, the next woman won’t either, even if it looks like it.Lipstick on a pig. It takes a lot of willpower and several years to pull a 180. Maybe they just learned to change certain aspects or mimic others' behaviors but for the most part, they are the same people. Protect your heart/energy because some of these people will do anything to drain it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:41 AM |
| 326 | This Scrote on Psychology Today has “concluded” that size doesn’t matter ladies!"Unfortunately, I couldn't back that up with research" Bro just take your L. This is all your opinion 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:29 AM |
| 85 | Sex pozzy dipshits keep writing male pandering articles like this making women feel like they have to say the “nice” thing instead of the ACCURATE thing about men’s penis size. Notice how young, Inexperienced, women are more likely to repeat the lie that size doesn’t matter."Remind him that you love him for his big head - not his little head." What will I gain in lying to both him and myself? Just give the author a red nose to go with the rest of their clown makeup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:27 AM |
| 53 | Stop Centering male opinions in women's issuesNo worries, you're not stupid. It does mean dick appointment. Most of the time it's "cool girls" who say it. It annoys me too lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 03:46 AM |
| 6 | The Occasional Terror and Utter Confusion of Dating in the Digital Age (it's about dick pics)Absolute savage 😎Bravo! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 13 | The Occasional Terror and Utter Confusion of Dating in the Digital Age (it's about dick pics)I just don't understand them! What am I supposed to do with a dick pic? Diagnose it? I'm not a doctor 🤮 Next time someone sends me an unsolicited dick pic (I never solicit, yuck) I am going to say "It looks like something is wrong! I'm not a doctor, but I know a few. Would you like me to pass your pic along?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:37 AM |
| 107 | Matthew Perry weaponizes his Hollywood status to force teen girls young enough to be his granddaughter to look at him on dating apps. Tik Tokker calls him out.Don't forget to be grossed out by the Ben Affleck article Girl, I am legit suffering from secondhand embarrassment right now 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:17 AM |
| 236 | Stop Centering male opinions in women's issues✨toxic positivity ✨she is 100% correct. Along with what she said, has anyone noticed the uptick in videos on social media about how to get ready for your "appointment," or X things to eat before you see him *wink*? Really bizarre given that girls as young as 12-14 see this from their favorite vloggers/MUAs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 11:43 PM |
| 24 | What my Psych textbook had to say about divorceI honestly believe it means that they were not having sex as much or her attention was diverted to take care of the kids, her elderly parents, her life, etc. He felt jealous/he could not compete and hence "fell out of love." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 09:56 PM |
| 12 | This went VIRAL on FB and everyone was calling it cute and praising him. She deserves better.That's even sadder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:07 AM |
| 17 | Saw this on Tumblr and it made me think of this subChicken guy and this guy would make the best of friends hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 62 | This went VIRAL on FB and everyone was calling it cute and praising him. She deserves better.Why did he shout out the wing vendor by name? Does he not remember his girlfriend's name?? I'm crying 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 09:18 PM |
| 15 | Husband pushed his pregnant wife off a cliff...It's okay. We grow and we help others grow, too 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 09:11 PM |
| 9 | I always block someone when they did me wrong, but accidentally deleted his number before I could block it. Right when I was starting to forget about him, he decides to text me today..... Please give me the strength to OFFICIALLY block his number 😕The gaslighting is real with this one. He should teach a course 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:02 PM |
| 61 | Husband pushed his pregnant wife off a cliff...Another wouldn’t escort me to his house at night when I was coming to see him. I had to ask him to walk with me. He knew his neighborhood was dangerous af. Wow! That's important. They really don't care hmmm. I've had this happen to me, too. Next time I'll know this to vet more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:58 PM |
| 98 | The lie of "The Wall" is just male projection of loss of control over an entire population of women.One time I sleuthed on the other r e d p I l l and like subs and saw something about this. The men agreed that there is no wall for women because they can get it at any age. They may not have choices like younger women, but they still do have lots of choices. On the other hand, they also agreed that men have a wall and it's when they start being less attractive and more women start to say no to them. So honestly, it's projection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:33 PM |
| 53 | Imagine wanting to take multiple girls for coffee and not even being able to pay for it and then complaining about women using men in the comments. What a scrote. The pickmeishas in the comments are even woseEvery day I think we've hit the bottom and it just keeps going lower. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 06:26 AM |
| 45 | This has to be the funniest and most pathetic thing I've read.The ✨cool teens✨use it to share anonymous short quips about their life, a dream, their motivations, etc. They choose a picture and put the short sentence on there. Then other strangers can comment, like, share. It's like a one-sentence diary post that anyone in the world can read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:04 AM |
| 74 | Reason #8265 why our female-only space must be protected at all costs. Women simply don’t say shit like this. Lurking men might say he’s just a troll, but the reality is that we can’t afford to not take violent threats seriously. And of course Reddit only gave him a temp ban.Like within 7 min he goes from being at least okay to threatening to bash your brains in. Yikes! What a mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:00 AM |
| 9 | How do you avoid spending lots of money on dinner dates? I never know if the guy will pay or not. And we usually end up splitting.Take one debit/credit card or cash. Put it in your shoe (or bra). Leave your wallet at home. He offers to split? You forgot your wallet at home. You are not lying! He insists or is a dick about it and you really need to GTFO? Excuse yourself to the restroom, take out your method of payment and give it to the server (not him). Only pay for yourself. That way when you think of the guy, you'll think of how low you had to stoop down to be with him. Edit: This is actually a thing I do. I learned it f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 02:56 AM |
| 142 | This has to be the funniest and most pathetic thing I've read.What grown man uses Whisper?? Oh right. The ones who groom children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:20 AM |
| 266 | Reason #8265 why our female-only space must be protected at all costs. Women simply don’t say shit like this. Lurking men might say he’s just a troll, but the reality is that we can’t afford to not take violent threats seriously. And of course Reddit only gave him a temp ban.That went from 0 to 100 faster than the speed of light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:18 AM |
| 126 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?"No one likes a know-it-all" "No man can meet your ridiculous requests" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:48 PM |
| 33 | Thank you to this sub for reinforcing what I've been doing against my friends advice!I left a date before It had really even started because he was boring me I love it. Keep your standards! People say that women have HIgH StAnDArDs all the time but it makes no sense. In most societies, women are taught to achieve high and then when it comes to mate selection they are taught to aim low?? Your friend sounds like she's on a rocky and dangerous path. Sis, keep your standards. Journal, live life, experience the finer things. Along with that, getting used to someone else paying for yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:34 PM |
| 35 | Things That Perturb LVM 🤡Girl I cackled 😂 (yes it was) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:05 AM |
| 275 | Things That Perturb LVM 🤡Told a guy once that I liked trying different foods and he told me to stop bragging. I wore jeans & a t-shirt and the LVM around me told me I dressed too nice and was too high maintenance. I've traveled some and you'd be surprised about the number of guys who automatically equate that to prostitution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 35 | "I want to leave, but we have kids."I did some sleuthing on other subs and quick research and they said that divorcing earlier is actually better for the kids because 1) they are less likely to remember both parents together and 2) the reasons you just said. Thank you so much! I don't have kids but I've always wondered if the people I knew were benefiting their kids by staying. All of this is tough but your post definitely answered a lot of q's I've always had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 01:43 AM |
| 73 | "I want to leave, but we have kids."I know several people who think this way and I always feel for them. They always tell me that their concern is that the ex will get 50% or partial visitation and they don't want the children to be influenced poorly by the man. Especially because he might use them as a weapon against the woman. Do you know anything about this or have any advice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:32 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-InI appreciate all your advice and will look into Everlane and mediation. Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:11 PM |
| 73 | A little wisdom that was passed down to me from my aunt, “Never have children with some one you are not married to.”Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:55 PM |
| 344 | A little wisdom that was passed down to me from my aunt, “Never have children with some one you are not married to.”I had a dusty LVM coworker one time who told me he was looking for a girl who had good credit, maybe a house, and would be okay with having his kids. He didn't want to marry her though. He just wanted the free surrogate and egg as well as someone that could take care of the kid financially when he didn't want to. These men know what they're doing smh. Edit: He would wine and dine women posing as HV. I only found this out when I got to know him better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:39 PM |
| 45 | A little wisdom that was passed down to me from my aunt, “Never have children with some one you are not married to.”Never have I seen a more relevant video on this sub. Thank you for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:37 PM |
| 41 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.There's a theory called "prisoner's dilemma." In basic terms: if two (or more) rational people are in a situation, making a decision based on self-interest is not the best choice. So all parties have to make a decision to protect themselves oftentimes at the expense of the other participants. Believe it or not, both men and women who groom themselves are in this game. Since people tend to like the most attractive person, biologically, that is deep-rooted in physical appearance. Whether or not th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:44 PM |
| 10 | Cosmetic surgery, social pressure and happinessPeople with these noses often look like deer to me. What's not cute about deer? That is such a cute comparison. I love it ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:48 PM |
| 7 | Dick does nothing for me.I'm glad you said something because most other women I know say with their mouths that they love PIV with their boyfriends but their body language and responses say otherwise. I wish people were more honest. There is nothing wrong with saying you don't like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-InNot feeling too good about all the uncertainty in my life (due to COVID). I'm getting a new job but they don't know which office yet or the start date. Supposed to move but again, I don't know to where yet because they're waiting for government guidelines to update. I don't know if I should pack or prepare for WFH. I can't buy new clothes because I don't know what climate I am staying in/moving to. These unprecedented times are really eating away at me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 3 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.He let himself out the door 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 11:17 PM |
| 3 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.Can you please write something about this? My naive self thought this guy had a weak immune system. Little did I know he is a drunkard 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:50 PM |
| 4 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.I'm not surprised that she is right about him being hungover but omg! I just never thought of this. As always FDS opens my eyes. I hope you drop the hinge guy like a hot potato, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:49 PM |
| 77 | There’s a tidal wave of scrotes coming... are you ready?The scrote-pocalypse. It was foretold in the prophecies little did I know it would happen so soon 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:39 PM |
| 66 | Any advice on planting FDS seeds in my pickmeisha niece?The first thing I was going to say was buy her food 😂 I've been in her shoes before and the best thing I've ever had an aunt or someone do is set an example. Let her feel really comfortable around you because you practice what you preach and it is not judgemental. You don't have to be perfect but it will be nice for her to know she has a person rooting for her that is a good example. Listen actively when in conversation so that she feels heard and seen. That could be by saying mmhhmm, nodding, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:33 PM |
| 2 | How far would your ex have gotten with you if you'd been following FDS principles then?I am so happy she's okay! More and more I need to listen to that voice. It can make a difference! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 7 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowI think discounts are great and fun but being like Ebenezer Scrooge is another thing. Happy Cake Day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 04:14 PM |
| 19 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowI tried looking up when Amazon moved from just selling books and it happened in the late 90s but Amazon didn't really boom until after 2005. So I'm either calling it a bluff orrrrr she just recently got this ring set (that she probably paid for herself). What did she have before?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:17 AM |
| 103 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowMy wedding ring set is $30 from Amazon. She beats the ~$60 from a few days ago. How low can we go?? Actually, I know someone who has an $8 ring and the stone pops out a lot. Been married over 40 years and the wife complains a lot about his stinginess. The husband is one of the cheapest men you'll ever meet. Worth over 7 figures and still wears clothes with holes all over. The poverty mentality will follow you forever, ladies, if you let it. It's not cute to be broke/cheap. If you are saving mone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:51 AM |
| 27 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.Why do guys say they're not feeling well to duck out of things? I'm not saying people don't get sick but with the number of times he said he wasn't feeling good, he could have said hey I'm really sick do you mind if I contact you when I feel 100%? It's annoying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:11 PM |
| 65 | How far would your ex have gotten with you if you'd been following FDS principles then?The first date. The moment I looked at him for the first time I had a feeling that struck me and heard a BOOMING voice that said "This man is going to waste a lot of your time." I didn't really believe in intuition and stuff back then and looking back, he did waste a lot of my time 😂 Several years worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:05 PM |
| 33 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?Like someone said before if I don't feel comfortable looking in your eyes, that is a deal-breaker. Other negative things: shorter than me, has a child/children, goatee, balding/bald, dad bod or flabby in general, missing teeth, dry skin, his scleras (or whites of eyes) are not white but are bloodshot, and gross fingernails or feet (not manicured/weird colors). High value things: manicured nails (this is important to me because if someone can keep up good nails, odds are they can keep up other th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 8 | My best trick for EARLY DETECTION of misogyny: pay attention to his interpretation of TV & movie charactersRight? Speaking about abortion, I met a girl once who had 9 abortions. Yes, 9. Because all the men she was with didn't want to wear condoms because they said their peepee didn't feel right. I cannot with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:53 PM |
| 56 | Examples of f*boi behaviorThat was a fun game! Pretty much every word out of his mouth was a red flag. Men really do let themselves known when you let them ramble on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 173 | To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣Incel is an involuntary celibate. If I wanted dick I literally don't even have to leave my bed and could get a male "friend" or neighbor to come over. These men are foolish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 11 | LVM Use Their Depression as a Guilt-tripI am going to save this dollar value because women shouldn't be robbed anymore 😂Who is really the gold-digger?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:24 PM |
| 107 | I don't even know what to say.How has he made it this far in life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:34 AM |
| 11 | Is anyone really surprised about this?Oh my gosh. Really? That's crazy. I was not expecting that. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 02:33 AM |
| 94 | My best trick for EARLY DETECTION of misogyny: pay attention to his interpretation of TV & movie charactersI once told my ex of that famous Massachusetts high school pregnancy "pact"#Teen_pregnancy_controversy) from 2008 involving 18 girls. That story is still wild to me today and I was letting him know I'd watched all the adaptations and read up on it. I told him that a few of the girls went to extreme lengths to get pregnant (ie. unprotected s*x with non-partners) or a lot were with their boyfriends already and became with child. Since the case was interesting to me, I kept following and found out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 02:18 AM |
| 27 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!This. This is it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 28 | The Vetting Process: A List of Minimum QualificationsI mean I'm looking at the list and I'm thinking who wouldn't have these qualities. Even I have these qualities. And then I look at real-life and remember all those stories of men who don't wipe between their cheeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 8 - Disney Presents: The Princess and The BumI've had a lot of people explain Princess and The Frog to me. I've seen it multiple times but just always wondered why she fell for Naveen. He was broke, desperate, and manipulative. The people that explained it to me told me that she looked past all that and fell in love. I guess every flag is red if you have rose-colored glasses on, smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 07:32 AM |
| 32 | I love pick mes that are so ignorant to history and to why some things exist... 🙄People need to get this through their heads. TRUE. LOVE. DOES. NOT. PAY. BILLS. It keeps your bed warm at night. If I could pay my electricity bill in "true love" you better believe I would rock my service provider's world. /s Edit: Not advocating for prostitution and for God's sake know that if he can't afford a ring and says his love for you is enough, you will never have a good life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 11:35 PM |
| 37 | I love pick mes that are so ignorant to history and to why some things exist... 🙄Girl you went above and beyond 😂😂 I love it 😂 This is why I come to this sub lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 10:53 PM |
| 160 | I love pick mes that are so ignorant to history and to why some things exist... 🙄OMGGG that last comment always makes me wanna rip my hair out. I don't care that your broke boyfriend proposed to you with a $64 wedding ring and promised you to upgrade later (will not happen). You want a prize? Did you donate that extra money to charity?? Keep settling honey! Set that precedent! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:15 PM |
| 9 | LVM and their "advice" to young girlsThe unhappiness they get from childrearing is so grand, they feel it should be a staple of having lived life for all women. AKA, they need suffer buddies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 83 | He never wanted me to pay the rent.Well how else are they gonna keep an eye on her??? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Wife divorces Husband because she wanted a spouse, not a child. Breaking News: Water is WetThis is just a small portion of what he wrote. If you want your eyes to roll to the back of your head, you can search the internet to find the whole article. I don't know why he wants kudos for growing up. C'mon man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:17 PM |
| 34 | This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went.If you ever have to list reasons why someone should appreciate you, you're too far gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:35 PM |
| 20 | ⚠️The audacity of these men...I’m beyond TIRED. I had to block him. I just can’t understand why they think this is okay...⚠️Get a bestie/friend??? I don't know what he's asking for! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:32 PM |
| 14 | This is the document that helped pull me out of a terrible, abusive relationship: Warning Signs You're Dating a Loser, by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.DThey go unchecked for years or if someone does call them out, they say the narcissist's prayer: That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did... You deserved it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 83 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindThe male bumbler is a myth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:03 AM |
| 127 | This is the document that helped pull me out of a terrible, abusive relationship: Warning Signs You're Dating a Loser, by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.DI love how they say "Loser" instead of trying to sugarcoat. Short, sweet, and to the point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:01 AM |
| 279 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionIf you want to flirt with a guy, stare at him for five seconds, smile, then walk away. He WILL follow you or wait for your paths to cross. It does suck when someone is just staring innocently to be aware of their surroundings. Men for real are lying liars who lie! They crave that attention so much so that some will do ANYTHING to get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 09:43 PM |
| 7 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardI'll be honest, that's something I used to do. Then I had it done to me by someone else and I realized how much that sucked. Now I make sure to put the outing in my phone and add travel time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 2 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameIt sucks but is the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:00 PM |
| 5 | Any other shattered women finding FDS “late” in life?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 03:58 PM |
| 46 | Any other shattered women finding FDS “late” in life?I am SO SORRY. I can't even imagine what you are going through. You have done an excellent job getting on your feet and I am so proud of how far you've come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:12 AM |
| 8 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameInstead of leveling up in response to the discomfort, they decide that what you’re doing is the problem and put all their energy on making you less than them so they don’t have to improve. Which sounds like more work. I am glad that you are out of that one! He sounds like a headache. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:11 AM |
| 4 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameThat's what I thought my ex was going to do! I don't know for sure if he did or not but I do know I'm going to look out for this next time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:57 AM |
| 7 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameIt sounds like he was trying to single white female you! That's what I've been trying to put my finger on. I think if had I stayed, he would've moved me to the back burner and gotten a girl who he could show the new life he stole from me. Yikes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:53 AM |
| 6 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameHahaha! True. I love this sub 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:43 AM |
| 3 | I don’t even know what to title this one... 🤡Let me check it out brb Edit: What the hell was that??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:52 PM |
| 3 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameHuh, I never thought of it like that. Thank you. Also you're right, there is nothing to get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:26 PM |
| 8 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameInsecurities are what I tell myself too, but why on earth would you want to hang out with the person that reminds you of your insecurities? Wouldn't you want to wait until you feel more secure? I don't get LV people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:17 PM |
| 11 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameThe ole' I-just-want-to-be-friends-but-text-you-every-day-and-go-on-dates trick. I've been there and it took me two years to end it because he would not let up. Good for you that you moved on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:15 PM |
| 10 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameThat's terrible! My ex didn't do this (at least blatantly) but an ex-friend did and now I know EXACTLY what to look out for next time. Sometimes when they badmouth you they are so subtle with the backhanded compliments or negs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:12 PM |
| 15 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameWow! I think I was in a similar spot as you. I doubt my ex can reach me because I pretty much fell off the face of the earth but if he did I think I would have the same response as you lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:10 PM |
| 11 | Your job is not a point of conversation. He will ask you where you work, don’t tell him. *TW: violence*Not a nurse but I know a lot. Yes! Always a caregiver. The LVMs think you can 'change' them as if they are a geriatric patient who wears diapers, smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 07:23 PM |
| 23 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameSounds like a nightmare! And he sounded so casual or subtle about it, too. Thank you. Hope you are doing well now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 07:18 PM |
| 90 | Can we please stop praising fathers just for "trying"I think there was a post brought here one time about a woman who does all the housework (and has a job I think) and her husband "allowed" her to take showers for 10 minutes because he hated watching the kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 06:03 PM |
| 40 | men’s sex preference of expected newbornsA man shouldn't have to have a daughter to realize that treating women as less than is bad. I don't have to have a son to know that they have feelings, everyone has feelings. It also disturbs me a little that you had to wear that sweatshirt. He stuck up for you, yes, but then immediately turned around and bought you one rather than stick up for you every time or give you some kind words of encouragement. He 'fixed' the problem by making you feel as if you were doing something wrong when you were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:27 PM |
| 11 | Lundy Bancroft on PornWow! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:50 PM |
| 14 | Your job is not a point of conversation. He will ask you where you work, don’t tell him. *TW: violence*True, this happens IRL too tho. Like A LOT so it makes sense that it transfers to OLD. I can at least speak for what I do in IRL instances: As a student, nothing would slip out about finances from me but I would say events or specific details that made people put two and two together, falsely, which would disqualify me from being their friend or dating them (envy/jealousy). I wouldn't say that I lie now but I'll say something like "Let's talk about that later. Too many details haha!" And then if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:46 PM |
| 41 | Your job is not a point of conversation. He will ask you where you work, don’t tell him. *TW: violence*That was wild from start to finish! What a story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:37 PM |
| 2 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!I didn't know about this!!! That is so nasty yuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:14 AM |
| 11 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!What's next? "Write him into your will" challenge? I wouldn't be surprised 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:10 PM |
| 5 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!This was the caption for those who have doubts of her pickmeshia status "TINDER DATE TO MY TASTE!! 🔥This happened last summer and yes we are still dating 😂💙💦 Now I can clean here everyday" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 10:56 PM |
| 16 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!I think she did. This was the caption "TINDER DATE TO MY TASTE!! 🔥This happened last summer and yes we are still dating 😂💙💦 Now I can clean here everyday" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:10 PM |
| 7 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!I just Dm'ed you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:06 PM |
| 3 | As seen on a law school subreddit: "Accepted at every school I applied but waitlisted at the school in the same city as my husband. It’s an easy decision"Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:39 PM |
| 7 | As seen on a law school subreddit: "Accepted at every school I applied but waitlisted at the school in the same city as my husband. It’s an easy decision"I didn't even know that. Well yup. She just threw it all away... FOR A MAN, yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 36 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!I just laughed so hard at that, thank you 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:14 PM |
| 131 | As seen on a law school subreddit: "Accepted at every school I applied but waitlisted at the school in the same city as my husband. It’s an easy decision"If she doesn't get in this or next year and has ANOTHER go, her husband will leave her behind when he matches to most likely an out-of-state hospital for residency. This girl is not thinking straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:37 AM |
| 61 | As seen on a law school subreddit: "Accepted at every school I applied but waitlisted at the school in the same city as my husband. It’s an easy decision"Idk if she is married for real but this is giving me serious Meridith Grey vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:18 AM |
| 65 | Dad is a creepy LVMTake the loans, honestly, and leave (not financial advice). I know you said you are trying to save but this is your mental health at stake that could manifest into something much worse later on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:39 AM |
| 108 | Dad is a creepy LVMI don't know how old you are but you sound young enough that you might think this is a situation you can skirt around or 'live with.' The longer you endure this, he could escalate. Since you are a first-generation immigrant, I am guessing that marriage might be important in your culture? If your father does not escalate, he may find a partner that is like this for you to be with and then that man WILL escalate. Or subconsciously, you might find someone like this and experience this trauma all ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:36 AM |
| 269 | Dad is a creepy LVMUhm, no. That is not an 'oh well' situation. The man is a creep and you need out. Is there anyone you could stay with while saving money? Or any other resources? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:10 AM |
| 10 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?You just brought up a show to watch in my list that I forgot about. Thanks! I also really like Atypical. It does have a few cons (some stereotypes, or not diving into Autism more than a tip of the iceberg level) but it does a good job of giving someone not exposed to Autism a look into how that could be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:53 AM |
| 36 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?At best they have a stem job and nothing else going for them in their life If that ain't the truth. They have a STEM job, think they made it, and then it ends there. That is it. They might have a hobby like gaming or picking up cooking but having that job is literally it for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:11 AM |
| 7 | Gasoline Limbo &LVM are a match made in hell. It's bad for cars to run low on gas but endangers you as a woman and yet LVM can't stop playing limbo.That's a whole other guy I have to look out for oof. So far so good but man, 3 times he ran out of gas! Wow. Actions really do have consequences but they hate to learn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:02 AM |
| 8 | Gasoline Limbo &LVM are a match made in hell. It's bad for cars to run low on gas but endangers you as a woman and yet LVM can't stop playing limbo.Oh my goodness, that sounds awful! Thank you, I didn't know this was a real thing. I knew some people did it because all they could afford was a 1/4 or 1/2 tank at a time but not for a type of 'game.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:14 PM |
| 15 | What does giving yourself what you deserve look like for you?Necessities aside, it looks like me getting what I want. I make a list of everything I want and if opportunity strikes or I have saved up enough for it, I'll go for it. Bonus is if someone else wants to get it for me with no strings attached, then it's even better. I also stopped eating fast food, permanently, and cook more. Really excited to try new foods! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:17 PM |
| 12 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMWe have similar experiences and I know how hard that can be. Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:58 PM |
| 74 | Gasoline Limbo &LVM are a match made in hell. It's bad for cars to run low on gas but endangers you as a woman and yet LVM can't stop playing limbo.This is a thing? I am not trying to be sarcastic. Are people genuinely taking guests in their cars without checking their gas tank or preparing to get it filled safely? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:01 PM |
| 26 | Green/red flags when dating as a single mother?Not a mother either but many single mothers in my community stress this. Also not letting the date into your house until you trust him and know his background. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:51 PM |
| 58 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMI've lived with LVM and LVW as flatmates. Same things on both ends. They will rarely clean up after themselves and leave everything for you. Then if you bring it up with them, they will say you have OCD or are controlling 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 40 | Typical LVM: breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years because a medication decreased her sex drive, is now looking for advice on how to find hornier women 🙄 (bonus: commenter who suggests low sex drive means the ex-gf was “using” OP)I hate when people say 'romantically compatible' = sex. Romantic compatibility lies closer to unconditional love than it does sex. Meaning if she can't have sex with him anymore, he would still love her. If he is truly looking for 'hornier' women, perhaps he should try the brass section of an orchestra. lol cheesy joke, I know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:34 PM |
| 14 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoSalmonella?!?!! My brain is vomiting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 24 | Billie speaking facts!Yeah, smh. They get really lazy and put in an effort at a 1:20 level. Meaning that he puts in 1 thing of effort for every 20 things you do. They ignore texts/calls after a while and then when you go in public, they act as if THEY are the most beautiful girl at the ball who can do no wrong. It is not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Some things I've learned in trying to find HV people (friendships and romantic relationships)I used 'like 5 years' to just mean 'a long time.' It was figurative. Timeframes are different for everyone. Edit: Even the 'a long time' is different for each person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:48 PM |
| 5 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNThis has happened to me! I had free tickets to an event so I invited a classmate (M) and a friend (F). The guy was so upset because he thought it was a date. I just had free tix 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:24 PM |
| 10 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNTrue! Have you ever been asked to meet someone for coffee to study, network, met someone at work and they want to 'get to know you outside of work?' I read a post one time of a girl who kept meeting people to tutor them in Physics or just to study together. She got asked almost 10 times by different men (students, TAs). Each time they texted her afterward and said that they had a nice time on their date. All she wanted to do was study 😂 It's because of this if I get an iota of belief that they m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:22 PM |
| 12 | Some things I've learned in trying to find HV people (friendships and romantic relationships)Thank you for sharing this! You are correct that being vulnerable and honest is courageous. Hopefully, yes. If someone has gone through a major traumatic event in their life, they would have people that they could share their trauma with that would be empathetic. That way they do not carry their pains for years. By saying waiting '5 years' to share, I was implying that in most cases a relationship has to be developed with someone before sharing major trauma points. Not necessarily taking five ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:45 AM |
| 5 | Some things I've learned in trying to find HV people (friendships and romantic relationships)Yup! Just had to add the insulting part to the post. That is not anything friends should do to each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:04 AM |
| 83 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNJoggers and a tee all day if I get tricked into low effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:59 AM |
| 27 | Some things I've learned in trying to find HV people (friendships and romantic relationships)Yes! That is a really important flag and I am glad you notice it in your life. I hesitate using this in my life because I've seen LV people remember things to use against people later. My experiences do not speak for everyone, at all. One day, I am going to add this back into my life as I weed out more LV people :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:34 PM |
| 16 | Some things I've learned in trying to find HV people (friendships and romantic relationships)You are the company that you keep! It can be really hard to let go of some people you've known for a while but it can honestly be the best thing for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 09:21 PM |
| 72 | Some things I've learned in trying to find HV people (friendships and romantic relationships)Sure thing! Some of these red flags are learned habits. I'm still learning to break some, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 09:20 PM |
| 42 | Weird Red Flags?I am going to highlight that sex on period one because that can be a dead giveaway to the type of person someone is. Especially if they then say, "But you can still use your mouth." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 37 | Weird Red Flags?I hate to say it but J Cole, too, because their favorite song by him is almost always "No Role Modelz" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:59 PM |
| 31 | Literally every male oppression narrative is just blatantly describing toxic masculinity from the perspective of eternal victimhoodUgh. They should just get a weighted blanket and a pet. My unpaid (emotional) labor is not tax-deductible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:12 AM |
| 53 | Literally every male oppression narrative is just blatantly describing toxic masculinity from the perspective of eternal victimhoodThe entitlement 😒😒 Hugs don't make any sense to me. Like I love hugs but why am I hugging some random guy at work or in my class??? Why do you need a hug from me for finishing a group project?? A high five will suffice, sheesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:03 AM |
| 13 | Never be friends with them. A man befriends a woman working at a construction site. He kills her when he finds out she has a boyfriend. This is why I always just straight ignore any man who tries to talk to me if I don’t himI have heard from self-defense teachers that knives are not good for those exact reasons ^^ and also only get a knife if you are skilled at using one. If you never practice or were never taught how to use one for defense, that moment may not go as anticipated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:34 AM |
| 272 | Shut down those random men who itch to have an argumentI had a driver once who told me that he hoped I would stop at a Bachelor's degree and not get a PhD. He said statistically if I continued, my likelihood for having children would go down. Pre-FDS me gave him 4 stars and a tip, I think. FDS me now would have told him to mind his business and I would have written alllllll the reports I could. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 67 | Never be friends with them. A man befriends a woman working at a construction site. He kills her when he finds out she has a boyfriend. This is why I always just straight ignore any man who tries to talk to me if I don’t himNo, that's not fair. I just want to leave my house and not worry every time about men with fragile egos. This is nonsense 😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:11 PM |
| 16 | The surprising reason so many young men are virginsI knew a 19-year-old (male) with a body count of 48ish. Still uses dating apps. OLD? Not worth it, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:07 PM |
| 20 | The “ideal” women are those that are easy to manipulate. Studies show human frontal lobe matures at 30 YEARS OF AGE (the number used to be 25 though). Is it a pure coincidence that its the same with the mythical “wall” for women???🙄There have been several studies linking fertility issues and possible child developmental delays to the sperm but it is not as pronounced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:24 PM |
| 120 | The “ideal” women are those that are easy to manipulate. Studies show human frontal lobe matures at 30 YEARS OF AGE (the number used to be 25 though). Is it a pure coincidence that its the same with the mythical “wall” for women???🙄Lol, they know this. People under 30 are easier to manipulate. Ask an older man you might know why he likes younger women. The answer is normally either "They're mature for their age" or because "Women my age are just 'too much'" AKA : She is younger than 30 and I can make her my 'ideal' woman and when she gets too old, I'll get another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:21 PM |
| 7 | Anyone who has had disruptions to their cycle after taking a COVID vax?No. Had 1st Pfizer dose about to get second. (But I have never been irregular, ever.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:11 PM |
| 5 | Unexpected pregnancy?But I wouldn't be having sex with a guy if I didn't think he'd be a good father anyway. Yup. That's it right there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:49 PM |
| 29 | Maybe I'm old, but I just don't understand. Why send nudes?If you are sending a nude to someone, you can almost guarantee that loads of other people will see them, too. Never send a nude to a potential date. At minimum, just expect to be added to a spank bank. If you don't want that, don't send a nude. Block and delete. Your date made themselves known. All the people I've known to send a nude have never been in a LTR with the person they sent the nude to. Several have had to threaten legal action for what they did with their nude. I am not really sure w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:49 PM |
| 16 | If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be FriendsI don't know where these guy friends are that you can use for money and free dates. If you find them hmu, I just want to talk 😂 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:28 PM |
| 25 | If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be FriendsI'm bi. I don't want to fuck the women I'm friends with. It would be insulting to them and to whatever partner I might have at the time. Thank you for sharing this! LV people try to convince their partners that plan B through Z are just "friends" just in case their plan A doesn't work out. That's CLEAR gaslighting. Edit: Clarification | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:12 PM |
| 26 | If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be FriendsBefore this video, I was naive and thought yes they can be friends! Then my guy friends started pitting me against their gfs, making gross comments, or when they finally broke up with her, they wanted to take me out ASAP. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:05 PM |
| 13 | If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be FriendsIf that ain't the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:02 PM |
| 22 | If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be FriendsEvery time I lurk on another sub or have a person tell me that men and women can be friends, I watch this video to remind myself that it is impossible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:58 PM |
| 35 | Ladies, don't suppress your anger!I rented this book but I'm just going to buy it now. Too many words of knowledge in it to forget! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:39 PM |
| 27 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.I've never met or heard of a couple go to therapy and actually turn out okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:27 PM |
| 27 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.So the LVMs are just egotistical crappy people? Why would you counsel them to stay together in their relationship? Ugh Edit: Clarification | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:23 PM |
| 16 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.OMG! I just posted a comment like this!! I thought I was the only one who thought this!! YOU CANNOT GO TO THERAPY WITH AN ABUSER! We need to start a quarterly FDS-approved book club/readings list so that we can all be on the same page. I love that you read the book, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:19 PM |
| 36 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.Wasn't it Lundy Bancroft that said don't go to couples therapy with an abuser? Not saying everyone who watches porn is abusive. But it is pretty rare for someone to get caught and then immediately say "Yes, I'll go to therapy with you." There have probably been talks, gaslighting, narcissistic behaviors, etc. I feel as though porn might not be the only problem in the relationship. You are not yourself in couples therapy. You have a third party there and are more likely to dial down things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:17 PM |
| 8 | HelpBack at it again with the great advice! Good job. That cycle is a beast to get out of and from OP's post history, it seems like it's been a long time comin'. OP's got it! P.S. I love seeing your username; it's always golden words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 162 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).This is a fantastic post! Bravo! The first time I met you I thought you were a haughty and annoying know-it-all. If I had a dollar for every time I heard that or something similar from LVM and LVW, I could retire. They are disappointed because they feel as though you are "better" than them. Even if you lower your standards once, they will keep making you lower them until it becomes consistent. Such despicable behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:54 PM |
| 7 | HelpThen that is going to take a lot of willpower on your end to not call it and hopefully forget it. Edit: The Handbook sections of "Red Flags & Dealbreakers" & "Fuckboy Recovery Guide" offer pretty good advice, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:16 PM |
| 17 | HelpUnless you have his number memorized, it should be quite easy to delete it from everywhere and never have that urge again because you don't know it. Whatever browser you use should have extensions where you can block certain keywords or pages. Block any social media you know of him or Google searches that you might do. I don't know where your grad school is or if it is online, hybrid due to COVID, etc. Regardless, I would see if I could move to a new apartment that way I would not have memories … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 06:08 PM |
| 38 | Seriously, what IS IT with the 20 something girls?! No need for “freaking out” or being scared and “terrified” you'll “never find love”. Those types of posts make me fear for the next generations...I have known too many girls to rush into marriage because they are "too old" meanwhile, they just turned 24. Many are being abused physically, mentally, financially, and emotionally by their husbands. Which everyone turns a blind eye to. They look at the single people around them as if they have three heads for not wanting to be married. The cycle continues. Misery loves company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 04:24 PM |
| 134 | GiRlS aRe So ShAlLoWGirls: I want a guy who is financially stable. Guys: Ugh you're such a gold digger! Trust me, if we're not financially stable then we'll both be gold diggers trying to find gold nuggets in streams. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 11:11 PM |
| 120 | Zero Lies DetectedA woman's happiness/freedom is not a zero-sum game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:27 PM |
| 27 | What are some physical/“sex-life” related red flags you’ve developed after encountering FDS?#2 is replaying memories in my head. Doggone it, you're right. I've been bamboozled 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Facts.I will say that it's not monumental. It's not one minute you're down and the next you're at 100% and it doesn't happen with every relationship. By far this one was the worst and I went through so much grief during the relationship that by the time we broke up, I felt nothing for him. So instead I went from -100 to 0 and had to build myself back up to +100. Other relationships, not so easy. You may still waffle in-between feelings but that's just a part of the cycle. Reading from your comments, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:06 PM |
| 5 | Facts.It's like a buffet that they don't have to pay for; take what they want with nothing returned. To the T. 100% factual as they really do try to get away with as much as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 08:55 PM |
| 33 | Facts.Thank you for mentioning this! I am just starting to read more about this topic. I was with someone for about 6 mos and in that time, I gained weight, lost energy, had severe allergies, and more. Things got so bad I had to go to the doctor and get treatment to get my immune system back up. After we broke it off, everything was fine and I've never been as sick. As if nothing ever happened. Mind-boggling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:11 PM |
| 110 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"You don't ask a broke man how to become rich! But he can tell you how to stay poor 😑 The audacity smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:06 PM |
| 396 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"🤮🤮🤮 To be alone with dogs and watering flowers every day sounds like a dreeeaaaammmm. I can donate money to charities, sleep well at night, and publish award-winning journals and books. No one --and I really mean NO ONE-- is guaranteed marriage. Not in society and not in the Bible. To be in a relationship and feel alone is one of the worst feelings. On paper and to everyone else you look happy or like "you made it" but on the inside, you are suffering. My ancestors did not go through hell for me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:56 PM |
| 67 | Men just can't be single for a minuteOh my, you're right; I just noticed this. They need that emotional labor because a therapist costs too much. They need that physical body to go places with them because they hate doing things alone. They need that pickme energy (washing dishes & cooking for them) because they miss having someone to clean up after them. That's probably why they don't care about making it official/engagement because they know another girl will come along to do the job and they don't have to put in the effort. Then… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:06 PM |
| 8 | This man has found himself a mother.I hope she gets picked! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:58 PM |
| 5 | Stressful situations/Sickness weed out LVM/NVMsWow, I didn't even think about that. I always thought trips were 100% the best way to tell. Thanks for sharing. I'm going to save this so I can keep it in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:12 AM |
| 7 | Low effort meme but it's for LVM soAhaha! Don't worry we can help other pickmes learn lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:47 AM |
| 12 | Low effort meme but it's for LVM soIt was me, I am that user 😂 I'm crying looolll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:37 AM |
| 8 | Low effort meme but it's for LVM soOh my gosh just @ me next time with the sweet potatoes 😂😂 Lmaooo I learned from my mistake 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:37 AM |
| 54 | they both acknowledge that women make the decision to create life yet take it for granted that we do and in doing so keep society alive and growing.If more managers are like him, then she's exactly right that society would die out. It'd be too late to start giving maternity leave then! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:33 AM |
| 12 | When men offer to cook for you (translation in the comments)I guess he needed an accountability partner to help him stay 'regular' . Previous me = 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:46 AM |
| 22 | When men offer to cook for you (translation in the comments)One time one boiled sweet potatoes and called it a date. Unseasoned sweet potatoes. I cry thinking about it today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:45 AM |
| 30 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.So what are they worried about? Exactly. What are they worried about? So many men say stay away from men but honestly, I have never heard one woman in my life say to a guy to stay away from another woman because of "what she thinks about" or "they could hurt you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:40 AM |
| 60 | A 49 year old man has an ✨epiphany✨ and people in the comments thank and praise him for his 'insight'🙌 and give him lots of awards 🏅🏅🏅It still surprises me how many women date & marry subpar men and say in 25 years, "You know he's really grown as a person. Marriage is hard work but it is worth it!" These men aren't even doing the bare minimum and when they do, they get a party thrown for them. Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:56 PM |
| 22 | Don't put your life aside for a man!Omg me! We are similar 😂 Same GPA domino, same almost staying at a toxic job. Ugh. I did the same! I changed my mind and noticed that when I put myself first, my grades skyrocketed, my skin cleared, and I outperformed others at my job. Funny how that works, innit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:34 PM |
| 11 | Where to meet hvm IRLYesss!!! Sometimes they can be even more creepy than OLD because they have a chance to flirt in person and not online first 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 05:45 PM |
| 158 | There seems to be an influx on men on tiktok spreading messages that you must have sex before marriage etc for “compatibility”. As someone who doesn’t want to, this just reeks of a LVM tactic to coerce women into sexA "VeRy ImPOrTaNt PaRT," as if. You can die from loneliness but you cannot die from lack of sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 05:31 PM |
| 274 | He says he is all for “enthusiastic consent” but his whole post is putting women down for not wanting to have sex and being upset when their partners turn to porn.Men will stay loyal to their favorite team that has never won a major championship but will stray away once a woman says no. Dumbassery at its finest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:34 AM |
| 16 | Don't give him a chance, you can not force chemistry! You will get the ick.Oh my God, I can't even imagine. I am so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:38 AM |
| 32 | Strong women giving each other advice makes a differenceHad a professor in his 30s try to pursue me when I was 20! When I asked all the people I knew who were in relationships for advice (all of them are in LV relationships I've realized over time), they all told me to go for it or to "just have fun." NO ONE told me it was inappropriate. I wish I had this sub back then! Would have saved me from a lot of headaches 😪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 01:15 AM |
| 26 | Online dating programs you to settleWith Bumble, it is almost like OLD at its worst. The guys there all want women to take initiative to do everything under the sun while he complains of it being "so hard" to date. I already hate lowering standards in real life why should I do that online, too? Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:14 PM |
| – | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InYes! It irritates me. The man shows 1,001 signs of being a LVM or ZVM and yet those around will say "give him a chance" a chance to do what?? Mess up my life?? I cannot speak for those you know but maybe there is some overlap in thinking with those I know. In my experience, the ones in LV relationships themselves or used to dating LV people will push you to be with that person. Or if they are in a seemingly HV situation, they either don't know the full story or want you to be "beneath" them so t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InNot just you. The pandemic really wrecked sociability but pre-COVID I was always known for being easy-going, friendly, and having high standards. People hated me for that and tried to lower me. Misery loves company! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:00 PM |
| 39 | Timeline Discussion: When to kiss, come over their place, sex, etc.Absolutely! I especially like the part of not drinking on the first few dates that was mentioned earlier. It can be done, you can have a nice dinner without alcohol. Whether you are a lightweight or not, alcohol will always impair your judgment and reflexes. Keep feeling out your intuition. If your body does not want to be near this person but you are forcing yourself to kiss them, hold hands, or anything else, leave. That is a sign. Everyone has different timelines. A good rule of thumb is no P… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 06:44 PM |
| 13 | Wealthy heiress asks for advice about assets/retiring with broke LVM, scrote calls her old and tells her to have babies with said broke LVM. ON FINANCIAL FREEDOM SUBREDDIT.A baby saving a marriage? Sure thing! Wink wink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:14 PM |
| 10 | Wealthy heiress asks for advice about assets/retiring with broke LVM, scrote calls her old and tells her to have babies with said broke LVM. ON FINANCIAL FREEDOM SUBREDDIT.I am really wondering what the baby is for as well???? I guess to start a family but she has A LOT of things she needs to work out before she brings a living breathing human being into the mix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:06 PM |
| 54 | Blocking and Deleting Closes the Drawbridge to Your CastleIt doesn't make any sense to me. Before texting/emailing/social media was popular, if a couple broke up, that was it. No more calling or writing letters to each other, spontaneous visits, or anything else. If they saw each other at the grocery store, they might smile at each other. If they saw each other in 10 years, they might have a small convo with each other and move along. It was much easier to get over someone then than it is now. These dating coaches and pickmes suggest following each oth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 09:41 PM |
| 14 | Thoughts on Anna Bey?Yeah, I kind of see her tips as just one avenue to be with a certain "type" of rich man. Unless these people come from old money or old-fashioned high society, I don't really see how a lot of her tips work if you were to translate it elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 201 | 50/50So it's fair for the woman to pay 100%? Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:00 AM |
| 2 | So now women must help men who struggle with lust?! 🤮 This is why i unfollowed theses guys, they want to seem HV when they're not. The comment section is just full of nonsense some even used the "Testosterone excuse", "biology" (just to name a few)and all sorts of crap to back it up!Took the words right out of my mouth! Especially with Matthew 18:9 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Scrote would like porn images of a white supremacist female terrorist who died in the storming of the CapitolMen are depraved. Men are depraved. MEN ARE DEPRAVED. I think I am done with the internet for today! I have to go wash my memory and eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:57 PM |
| 12 | So now women must help men who struggle with lust?! 🤮 This is why i unfollowed theses guys, they want to seem HV when they're not. The comment section is just full of nonsense some even used the "Testosterone excuse", "biology" (just to name a few)and all sorts of crap to back it up!Brought up the Bible at 2:42 to justify his behavior but seemed to not understand the meaning of the whole passage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 30 | Have any of yall experienced that “look” on dates?Now that you mention it, yes. He ended up being a ZVM and my body was physically repulsed by him from the beginning. Should've listened to that intuition. He needs to be dropped from that first flight or fight response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 11 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!Your GF is doing a PhD and regardless of her discipline, I bet you her department is piling additional readings, conferences, and research on her, she is working her butt off, and still has the time to have a job and do the chores that you fail to do. PhD's don't have the luxury of putting work aside; they're basically always behind. When they think they're on top of it, here comes more! If you are lazy, just say so. Leave your GF and let her be with someone that can step up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:18 PM |
| – | Oh dear god...N***philia but it's ✨spicy✨because she's alive. Girl, if you don't leave! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 12:23 AM |
| 15 | Great Men are Not Good PeopleAbsolutely bonkers that their greatness comes from the massive exploitation of those around them. LVM will take out all frustrations on their SO but cry and whine when the SO wants to leave. He misses his energy source. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 10:52 PM |
| 13 | „OK, enough about me! Now tell me... what do you think about me?“It took an ex about 4 months for his mask to fall. When it did I was so surprised! He told me that he thought "The man should always make more" and then asked me what I thought of that. He asked me to help him with his friend's problems and didn't follow my advice. He asked me about vacation ideas, he wanted job commentary, he even would cut me off if he thought I was talking about a subject for too long (oftentimes barely 30 seconds in). Unfortunately, I could have caught all of this if our fir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Not sure if I'm in the "hoovering" stage... wish I had gone no contact AT ALL COSTAfter a while, I kind of realized that they were only doing it because they missed my emotional support. In the meantime, I tried to make it clear that we were going to talk less and I would tell them that. I would slowly stop answering texts, DMs, etc. I would write letters to them detailing the relationship (by hand) and then burn them. Eventually, I would not feel anything for that person and I would move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:03 AM |
| 12 | How a guy speaks about/treats his mother is super important and tellingThis is true. I know a childhood friend who talks to his mom in any way he wants (yelling, belittling her, etc) but when it comes time to him wanting something from her he softens up and is polite. She treats him like he can do no wrong. It's disgusting. It is also the same way he treats those around him including his significant other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:54 AM |
| 5 | Stalked, verbally assaulted and threatened by a man. Guess who is being interviewed under caution by police as a suspect? Me.But I think I get it now. I think that men who harass, verbally abuse and threaten women fully believe that they are entitled to do so. And that whenever a woman challenges this entitlement she is at fault. Don't think that. KNOW that. He knows 100% what he is doing in this circumstance. His intention is to make his issue bigger so the police look more into that. You did not give him the chance to have power over you, so now he is taking another chance to do that. He feels entitled to women and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 11:27 PM |
| 48 | If he’s letting himself go (both fitness wise and diet), it’s over 🤷🏾♀️ I’m sure you ladies can guess what the comments are saying 🤮She is supposed to get him to work out and cook healthy meals for him! What on earth is she doing?? /s Unless he has some sort of medical condition, this man is headed down a terrible path. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 10:15 PM |
| 6 | I ended my situation ship this morningCongrats!!! You did it! To leave a situationship sometimes takes more than to leave a relationship because you ask yourself "Well if I tried more, would he give me a title?" "If I did X more, would he respect me more?" Unless you blocked him, he may try to come out of the woodwork and pretend like nothing happened in a few months. He misses the validation, don't give it to him. Again, congrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:43 PM |
| 9 | Men don't just hate when we speak. They hate when we vocalize at all.Talk too much, "she's a b*tch." Talk too little, "she's a manipulative b*tch." Talk to correct someone, "she's a know-it-all b*tch." Live your life. They make a big deal even if you breathe around them 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:08 PM |
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