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God it really sucks. I'm really glad to be able to get advice from people who will give it to me straight but it doesn't make things any easier to go through. What should I even talk to him about when I next see him over the weekend? I literally don't know what to say. I've texted him that I would like to talk to him about stuff thats on my mind and bugging me, he told me yes, and asked whats up. I literally dont know what to say to that, I'm out of my depth. I hate that I feel like I'll be blin…
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:33 PM
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I will most likely see him this weekend, what would you advise I do given the information I've posted on here? I was originally going to tell him how I had been feeling about everything, but after reading the advice on this thread, what do you think I literally should do? Like tell him it's not working out and break up? :( I don't know what to actually say/do to get the best outcome for myself.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:27 PM
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I just worry that I'll have been alpha widowed and won't find someone like that again, he's a really great person, and it started off as a relationship that we've (or I have at least) tried to make work. I really really like him Iris, it feels absolutely awful that it's coming to this. Obviously over the years I've seen you ladies give advice to women that won't listen, and in the back of my mind I fear I might be that person, but it's so difficult to accept I have to do what everyone is advisin…
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:08 PM
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Ugh true :( Feels shit. I've asked him to have a chat, will try and get my thoughts off my chest and see what he says, I know you're saying I'm in denial, probably am but kind of a last ditch effort, if anything I just want to hear what he has to say. I hate that I've been ruminating about things but he hasn't had a chance to hear about it/help me with it, I'll wonder 'what if' if I don't give that chance. Do you think I should completely break up as soon as possible, at least not hear what he h…
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:02 PM
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I get where you're coming from but it does make me really really sad to think about breaking up with him. I adore him and I find him ridiculously attractive now, but I just want to make things work :( I'm sure there are also things that I could be doing better, I think I'll talk to him about some of the things phantom mentioned since I want to give it a chance.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 05:07 PM
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Yes I agree, which is what makes me so uncomfortable when I hear my bf has different politics to me. There's a big election going on in my country and I've just learned we're voting for opposite parties (myself the conservative/republican party, him voting for our country's version of the democrats, only a bit more socialist :/). I always assumed he was more right-winged based on some of his comments on the US election but it seems maybe not? It's really odd though because I've never heard of si…
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 12:01 AM
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Thanks for his post, it's very reassuring! :) When you say 'try to turn the roughhousing into something more sexual' how do you mean? I think I'm too subtle perhaps, or I'm not giving of the signals I think I am.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 07:36 PM
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No I haven't asked him about it. Should I? Why are implants a bad idea? Obviously I will discuss it with him before I get them, but I've wanted them for a long time before we even got together. And I'm not keen on having boobs this size for the rest of my adult life, regardless of the aesthetics it makes life really difficult when trying to find clothes/underwear that fit without having to resort to lots of padding all the time.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 07:34 PM
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Absolutely not, I think he'd be offended and I'd lose favour if I ever suggested such a thing. And he'd probably think it was a bunch of weirdos if by chance he ever came across it lol
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 12:14 AM
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Didn't even think of that, having a bit of a 'd'oh' moment now! I shouldn't have been expecting a specific reaction, bit of a covert contract on my part, I was trying to connect through sharing the pics rather than just sharing the humour, when I spoke to him he just saw the humour and meant what he said in a purely 'it's not that funny' way. I guess this is a lesson for me to chill the f out lol. I'm not even pms-ing so not sure where all the over-sensitivity is coming from!
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 10:11 PM
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Also u/Camille11325 what do you make of this: I sent him a few of the pics from this thread bc I thought they were funny, and he replied something to the tune of 'theyre not great' It came across as a bit stern so I asked him what he meant and he said something to the tune of 'theyre the kind of sexist jokes teenagers make, no?' but he sent a meme of his own. It's things like this that make me think something is wrong and my mind spirals :/ I feel a bit shut down tbh ugh
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 08:57 PM
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If your man initiates and you stop him, or don't respond in an intimate way cause you missed his signal, then he may stop doing it. Every person has their own way of communicating. This is interesting, there have been times where we're being touchy feely, say in the morning, and it'll come to a halt, when I ask him about it turns out we were both thinking the other was falling asleep! Also in the beginning he did initiate often, but since I hadn't done it before I kinda slowed it down a bit (esp…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 08:37 PM
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You only see him twice a week - are you doing anything on those other days in terms of flirting and building tension? Have you sent him photos or flirty texts? Not particularly, I've been trying to avoid texting him too much in case he's revising but maybe I'm being overly cautious. I send him memes and stuff lol. The one time I sent him a sexy pic it was well received and the next time we saw each other things were very heated. I should send more photos.. Also want to learn how to be flirty ove…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 08:29 PM
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Apologies I didn't mean for it to come across as rude, I guess I felt a bit defensive at the thought of a break-up. The reason I ask advice here is to avoid the typical go-girll advice like 'you deserve better, be single, go and have fun!!1!' which I'd get if I just asked my girlfriends for advice for example. That's just what came across at the end of your post. But thanks for your reply regardless :)
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 05:58 PM
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Yeh I will talk to him just so that he knows what I'm thinking and how it affects me but only if it doesn't show any signs of resolving despite exams ending And what does it mean this time of year? I think he meant that he always has exams this time of year and work gets stressful That sounds like at least half the relationship Yeh well his work/exam stresses have been going on for a while so it's not u reasonable to assume that might have something to do with it. And I'm sure there's other stuf…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 04:32 PM
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Why? Why would jumping the guy you're attracted to be soul crushing? 😉 Mainly bc he seems bored but perhaps I'm overthinking it Do you know his love language? Maybe he is showing you he desires you in HIS way, and you are looking for it in YOUR way. That's a very good point! I hadn't thought about this before. I was just thinking about sexual/romantic desire but can sexual desire be shown in different ways? I know mine is very much touch but I'm not sure what his is
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 01:25 PM
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Submitted :) I see, how did you end up dealing with in in the end? And is he still that way? It feels a bit soul-crushing to be initiating all the time, I'm hoping it's just temporary, I don't know if I could hack it for too long :/
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 11:38 AM
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This is a bit of an embarrassing issue but my SO and I have been together for a few months now and when it comes to sex, well, we haven't had much of it at all :/ in the beginning it was painful for me bc I hadn't done it before, but a few months later it only ever happens infrequently and often when/if I initiate it. I feel like I'm almost begging for it and he gives in only bc I ask, and that had I not initiated we'd go without for weeks. I do try to give bjs and what not which he likes, and w…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/17 04:48 AM
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Love kitchen jokes :') These made me chuckle: Why did the women cross the road? I don't know, but what is she doing out of the kitchen? How did the medical community come up with the term "PMS"? "Mad Cow Disease" was already taken. Hah Q: Is Google male or female? A: Female, because it doesn't let you finish a sentence before making a suggestion.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 05:51 PM
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I'm going to do this once our exams are done! Maybe even watch it outdoors somehow since the weather's becoming nicer!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 10:19 PM
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Haha netflix and chill is totally hip and current :P I'll also prepare some meat based snacks to entice him even more!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 06:14 PM
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Ah yes good idea! It seems so obvious 😂 will suggest that to him!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 05:45 PM
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So I have a 7 year age gap with my SO. Often he'll make references to movies, or talk about music or things that occurred either just before my time or really old movies. A lot of the times he'll reference a movie and when I don't understand where it's from he'll be surprised that I haven't heard of it bc often those movies are classics. Or sometimes he'll talk about bands who broke when the singers started their own solo careers, and I won't know of the original band, things like that. Ofc he s…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 05:22 PM
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yes I think you're right, I'm referring mainly to BPD. Not sure why I put bi-polar in with BPD
/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 03:22 AM
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Possibly a long shot but this woman sounds like typical BPD/bi-polar from what I've seen. The whole claiming and exaggerating abuse/rape but not being willing to get out and instead marinading her her victimhood (as opposed to being reluctant to expose it), having what seems like only male orbiters around who facilitate her behaviour and who seem to be willing to drop everything for her possibly bc she's alienated everyone else in her life through her own behaviour, and often they are also very …
/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 02:42 AM
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Have you not talked to him yet about boundaries etc since you posted that thread about jealousy? Nope I haven't yet, because in all honesty I'm not sure what/how to talk about boundaries as silly as that sounds. I know I keep asking about how to do this or that, but I don't really know what a 'boundary' talk would consist of, and how I'd even bring it up randomly when we're hanging out because I worry it would seem weird or out of place, or that it would scare him away (I know of course I need t…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/17 04:28 PM
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Yes haha serious post :)
/r/RedPillWives02/04/17 03:23 PM
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NSFW-ish: I'm thinking of switching to another form of birth control (like the coil, trying to avoid anything hormonal) bc currently we use condoms but they feel rubbish for him. However I'm not sure how to bring up the subject of getting tested beforehand bc a) I don't want to accidentally offend him implying he has STDs or isn't careful haha and b) I'm not sure how/where he'd do it bc he works until quite late! Any ideas? Also has anyone been on the coil? What is it like?
/r/RedPillWives01/04/17 10:18 PM
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No it doesn't happen often enough for it to be normal behaviour, but he does like to go for (quite) a few drinks after work at the end of the week bc as I hear it can get stressful during the week. Really I think it's good that he's retaining that sense of fun and letting go. He didn't actually end up staying out as long as he was implying when I wrote my post in the end. I like getting to baby his hangover the next day (: Haha how do you do this? I don't know what to do apart from having a bott…
/r/RedPillWives01/04/17 08:30 PM
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Is it normal to have an SO out partying into the night or a red-flag for a relationship? SO is out with an old school friend and was thinking of maybe coming to mine later (I'm revising for exams) but turns out he might be out til late bc he's still partying :S It's understandable that sometimes when you meet up with an old friend you can get carried away and the night can take you into any direction but I feel a bit uncomfortable, but I don't want to be controlling or scare/push him away. I fee…
/r/RedPillWives01/04/17 12:26 AM
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I might have to search for that thread haha We've been together since mid January of this year now, dating for a month before that (didn't know him previously). Yeah I think he's a trustworthy person, I mean he hasn't given me any reason not to trust him, and he mentioned this meeting before so it wasn't like he was hiding it? He takes care of me/looks after me so I feel like I do trust him Yeah I feel great when I'm with him, absolutely adore him but I also miss him so much when he's not here, …
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 11:36 AM
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Thanks for your reply :) I think it's less about the friends themselves and more my own feelings of inadequacy or whatever, these aren't even friends as such and more people he used to work with so I think I'm fine as long as it doesn't become a regular and intimate thing!
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 06:54 PM
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Thanks for your reply :) the boundaries part definitely rings a bell, we can't really hold someone to a certain standard of behaviour if throes boundaries haven't been expressed clearly (barring blatant line-crossing). Not sure how/if to bring it up though (the boundaries I mean!) Will keep this in mind moving forward :)
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 06:51 PM
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Haha now there's a thought!! Will remember it in future :')
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 06:47 PM
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It mostly doesn't. If they are still in the same industry it just falls into the category of 'business contact'. She may be a useful person to his career in the future. Thanks for writing this, puts my mind at ease, honestly! I get so caught up in feelz that I just jump from conclusion to conclusion within a short space of time and it all becomes a big juicy mess in my mind hah. Would hate to think about how things would be if I acted on the feelz alone, so glad I have this sub to help bring mys…
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 04:07 PM
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It was an ex-collegue and they used to work together a few years ago but not anymore if that makes a difference But yeah you're totally right, I have a habit of sitting and stewing over these sorts of things especially when I have only boring school work to occupy my time or if I'm hungry/tired! I had a burger just now (after stewing about this for way too long) and I feel much better already lol
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 03:34 PM
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you took it personally Yeah I think this is it, couldn't figure out why it was bothering me so much if I know she's just making a throwaway comment. It just comes across as rude but you're right, what others say is totally inconsequential.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 04:56 PM
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How do you deal with non-RPW women in your life making feminist-type comments about your SO/relationship? To give an example b/c I didn't know how to phrase the question properly, the other day my housemate was asking us via WhatsApp if someone could clean up the mess left in the toilet (it wasn't anything big) bc it wasn't her that made it which was completely fair enough. I then bumped into her and she was asking if I'd seen her message which I had and we were speculating about how it was neit…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 04:43 PM
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Lol I don't see what's wrong with clarifying things or asking questions to gain a better understanding if they aren't fitting in with what we're observing irl, and we're more than willing to reconsider things when an RPWi EC clarifies it one way or the other. We're not all fantastically well versed in RPW theories, that's why we're here.
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 10:07 PM
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Ah okay I see, when we're talking about 'locking down' are we talking about getting into an exclusive relationship or marriage or somewhere in between? Just out of curiosity
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 09:52 PM
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Yeah this makes a lot of sense, I don't disagree. I think the disconnect I'm having with this is that surely then it'll be more difficult to lock down any attractive guy who has tinder in the first place regardless of how you met him, since the presence of options will make it so that he is less likely to commit to any one option at all? I'll admit I did meet my bf from tinder, I wasn't expecting much to happen and had deleted it soon after meeting him so he was one of the last few guys I met up…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 03:12 PM
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This is just bad game, not true "player" tells or whatever. Actually, I guess some of it is a high risk/high reward type of bad game that can work sometimes. Low hanging fruit of weed outs or whatever. Ah I see, what would be true player tells? Escalating for sex without commitment or something similar? This is deliberate, endless matches is antithetical to pairing off permanently. This is true but it seems like Tinder is just a new way for single people to meet people these days regardless of w…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 01:23 AM
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There's no obligation to hook-up though, I think vetting plays a big part in how things progress and it's important to quickly filter out guys with red flags e.g. inconsistent communication, making things sexual too early/dropping innuendos before you've even met them etc I recommend Coffee Meets Bagel, an app somewhat similar to Tinder that is much more relationship oriented. I've been on Tinder and CMB for a short period of time and saw the exact same guys on both haha (not all but a few). Tin…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 12:51 AM
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Ahh thanks, these look good! Do you think I should wrap the individual gifts? They're all jokey gifts and nothing too formal/fancy so I'm not sure!
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 08:53 PM
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I'm gifting some bday gifts to my SO, and can't decide how to present them? Wrapping paper sounds a bit too childish/girly, I was thinking wrapping the stuff in grey tissue paper, but maybe I should forgo wrapping altogether, any ideas?
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 06:32 PM
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also it seems we like to push the "men's love language is touch" Is this (generally) true?
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 03:11 PM
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Never been on a picnic date before but yep, that sounds pretty much perfect! Can't wait til the weather is warmer :)
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 11:06 PM
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Haha it was really romantic, makes me a little giddy when I think about it :P
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 12:18 PM
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I've always enjoyed all of the dates with N, he's always got something interesting planned, and even if it's just a dinner or staying in and ordering food I still enjoy his company immensely. Just wanted to share a particular cute (at least I think!) moment, we had plans to go to a local restaurant but on the way we noticed that there was a full moon out so he decided to take a detour for better views (he had lived in the area previously so was familiar with it). We ended up walking through the …
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 09:31 PM
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Haha identical twins? :P How come you liked only children the least?
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 10:41 PM
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I completely agree, I think it's too difficult to predict a persons personality based on just their birth order and like you said there are far too many other factors to be taken into consideration when thinking about this. I think this is probably on a similar level to those quizzes that tell you which celebrity personality you are or which fruit you'd most likely be based on a few questions! I just thought it might be interesting to see if people had noticed any correlations and stimulate some…
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 04:05 PM
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Aw I feel slightly sorry for middle children sometimes :') my younger sister also has so many of these stories and she likes to rub it in and guilt trip us, all in jest ofc haha
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 03:03 PM
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You sound like my younger sister, who's also a middle child :)
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 02:43 PM
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I completely agree with it instilling a sense of responsibility. I've always felt responsible for my younger siblings in that I would want them to learn what to do and what not to do from my own upbringing. Eldest children are test guinea pigs of sort!
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 02:41 PM
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How lovely! What was your experience of dating only children? :)
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 02:38 PM
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Yeah :) He told me he wanted me to be his gf like a week ago when he stayed at my house after work due to rubbish weather conditions, we were joking/messing around and he just asked so casually, I'm wondering if I dreamt it all :') He's cool haha
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 11:54 PM
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I'm in a (really) new relationship so it's still early but finally I can comment on one of these posts haha He has this way of being tender at unexpected moments and it just makes me melt :') He's really knowledgable and has cool interests and it's so nice being able to tag along and experience new things! And he has hot muscular arms (and legs), first time I saw him in a fitted t-shirt I had to almost stop myself from fanning myself LOL
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 11:31 PM
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These carrot cupcakes are delicious, I've made them a few times for friends and they were a big hit! You could also just use ready made icing if you don't want the hassle of making your own :)
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 11:41 PM
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:D
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 11:39 PM
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Randomly came across this article, it's quite funny and has a few RP truths in it too: Realistic Advice For My Daughter
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 10:40 PM
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Hahahah :')
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 06:47 PM
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Haha thanks :) Salt and pepper hair is just so. hot. Except I am pro-bread Mmm bread.. :P
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 06:43 PM
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Turn ons: When they order for you, as in ask you what you want to eat off a menu and then speak directly to the waiter themselves Broad shoulders on a tall man mmm Full head of thick hair with some greys Guys who can play the piano well or can speak many languages, have such a soft spot for them Physical playfulness e.g. when they pretend to squash you or tickle you or push you off the bed Sarcasm (that isn't too mean) When they get mildly annoyed sometimes at other people especially if they add…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 12:37 PM
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Yeah it was a really awful trend, I think the gist of it was that girls who had been burned by guys in the past were somehow trying to getting their own back by treating all guys like shit :/
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:08 PM
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Ooh been looking forward to this thread! One of my pet peeves is overly-highlighted faces, I'd see young girl my age walking around in broad daylight with ridiculously highlighted faces. Dont get me wrong the application is often flawless but it just looks so plastic and jarring. I think such severe highlighting should be reserved for special occasions! Also would like to never see the term 'fukboi' again. It seems to be a popular derogatory term amongst the 18-23 (sometimes higher :S) age group…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 11:51 AM
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This has given me a lot to think about. As for the particular questions you asked: Would you be excited to be his girlfriend? Could you envision yourself marrying this person? Yes potentially provided I find out a bit more info about him that I want to find out (mentioned below), and I want to see if by me taking a step back and nurturing my own femininity and allowing him to be himself, if we will have the dynamic that I'd/we'd be happy with. You've been spending time with this gentleman for ne…
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 06:11 PM
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Also quick question, how long should I give it before I should decide or it should become clear to me one way or another if things are headed in the right direction? It's been about a month atm with (a 1.5 week gap in between for the holidays)
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:18 PM
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I'm not sure, it just seems risky to allow yourself to be crazy about someone you haven't known for very long :S personally those feelings come with a lot of anxiety for me and I've never actually felt like that straightaway
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:14 PM
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Okay got it, thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 09:01 PM
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Thank you for writing out this response, always appreciate hearing your thoughts :) I think for now I will relax and not overthink it too much and see how it plays out. I find that I'm much more attracted when I'm just following and he plans out everything like the time and place to meet up. The time that I have been lukewarm was when I kinda suggested a place to go to and set the time (he asked since I was making dinner before) which may have been why, since i was in the more 'dominant' role. I…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 08:48 PM
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Thank you, I will do this :) It's surprisingly easy to find the faults after a bit of time and closure.
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 08:38 PM
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I have a feeling that you are a bit of an alpha-widow though; wasn't there a man who was playing with your emotions a while back? If I'm not mistaken, you were in turmoil over him; this may be why you are finding it difficult to bond with this guy. Yeah this is correct, I was in turmoil up until quite recently like September 2016 ish :S I've put that to rest completely now though, it helped that someone close to him told me that he used to read/watch videos about how to pick up girls/act masculi…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 04:54 PM
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This has reassured me quite a bit! Thank you :) my husband used wear a lot of dull colours and black and me saying I liked brighter colours on him encouraged him to dress a bit differently Funnily enough I like a nice black t-shirt and bright colours on men aren't really my thing hahah I'm going to see how this develops but I'm not sure how long I should continue dating him before I decided my feelings should become clear one way or another? I don't want to lead him or myself on, and I don't wan…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 11:43 AM
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Yeah I have thought about whether he's like this bc it's early days, and also the fact that he's around 27-28 y/o whereas I'm 21 so maybe he doesn't want to spook me or something? Yeah these are great posts, I've re-read them so many times and it's what made me think about my own thresholds etc. Thing is I've never been in a relationship so I'm not sure why I'm feeling like this and if it's just natural or a bad sign since I have nothing to compare it to. I also don't want to make hasty decision…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 10:07 AM
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Sometimes I can pinpoint it like the way he's (badly) dressed bc he normally wears work clothes and looks good in them. Other times he has a sort of submissive (?) body language like if were lying together. I'm a fan of manly men and sometimes it feels like he's not reaching that level of macho-ness or oomph that I need to make me submit, although maybe this is unrealistic. When I am turned off I end up making more snarky/bitchy comments (although its still all playful and said with a smile). It…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 08:20 AM
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I've been seeing a guy for about a month-ish now, and so far he seems lovely; we've been on a number of dates. Trouble is sometimes I'm really into him and excited to see him, but other times I'm a bit turned off and want to get away (as bad as that sounds). Is this a sign of worse things to come? My friends reckon I should just see how it goes and not overthink things bit I'm not too sure.
/r/RedPillWives08/01/17 07:51 PM
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Also Camille when texting with a new dude, how should you reply if his msgs are kinda short and dont ask questions? Obvs i want to continue the convo over text but I feel like I should mirror his level of enthusiasm as opposed to being more/overly enthusiastic? Should I ask questions if I feel like Im bothering him or?
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 10:28 PM
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I'll just post what I posted below to Camille :) Okay confession time! I joined Tinder a few days ago after much persuasion from a friend that there are normal people on there (and because my curiosity got the better of me and I wasn't meeting guys older than me irl). Wasn't expecting anything much to come out of it but I've been talking to a few guys who seem to want to meet up. I saw this guy #1 on tinder and I recognised him (he had randomly asked me once before if I wanted to see a show as h…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 02:30 PM
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Okay confession time! I joined Tinder a few days ago after much persuasion from a friend that there are normal people on there (and because my curiosity got the better of me and I wasn't meeting guys older than me irl). Wasn't expecting anything much to come out of it but I've been talking to a few guys who seem to want to meet up. I saw this guy #1 on tinder and I recognised him (he had randomly asked me once before if I wanted to see a show as he had a spare ticket, to which I first agreed and…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 02:28 PM
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As a single woman, how do you deal with guys that seem a bit too keen (to date you)? For example this one guy in particular who seems nice/attractive especially from a distance, every time I agree to hang out (without making solid plans) he seems to become a bit too keen (texts with smileys/exclamations etc) and it turns me off and I get the cringey feeling in the pit of my stomach. I honestly can't help it because I want to give this guy a chance but I feel like I can't stand this weird feeling…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 12:10 AM
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That makes sense; also what specifically do you mean by damaged behaviour leading to slut reputation? i might be over thinking this but surely slut reputation is caused by actually being a slut and having many partners regardless of being damaged? do you mean red flag behaviours like too much drinking/drugs/more promiscuity by seeking more men to get over previous hurt?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 10:40 PM
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Im playing devils advocate here but... I've also seen men irl who have slept around gf up kinda-slutty women, these are all early-20s people so theres no lack of options being in a college environment. And it's not str's either, the guys seem pretty serious about the r-ships, so I agree with what you are saying Why then does rpwi advise women against sleeping around if high value/alpha men aren't that bothered about n-count (provided it not astronomic ofc)? is it that there aren't enough alphas …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 08:37 PM
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Been looking forward to this post, thanks for posting it! :) The 4 different categories makes it easier to figure out where to focus improvements on
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 07:14 PM
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haha that's a good plan. I agree that being a niche would absolutely help (i think this is what u/Littleknownfacts meant by 'demographics' in her post) How do you become that ideal though? Like how do you know what these men you are targeting are looking for, short of randomly asking them outright? Sometimes I struggle with differentiating between things those specific men would actually want, and things that I think they may want but they actually don't care about (solipsism and all that).
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 05:36 PM
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I'm talking about improving RMV for single ladies looking to find a man. Surely the best thing to do would be to objectively and subjectively improve RMV so as to cast a wide net and attract many to have the best chance of finding the right man for you. It's all well and good catering to your man once you've found him but my post was asking how to actually find that good man in the first place by increasing your RMV.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 04:50 PM
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How can you be both promiscuous and wholesome? Or by promiscuous do you mean giving the illusion of promiscuity but not actually sleeping around?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/16 08:37 PM
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Ah brilliant! Really looking forward to seeing it :)
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 01:37 PM
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My pick would be Monica Bellucci, stunning woman and she has aged very well too. I'm mesmerised by her ability to look sexy yet innocent at the same time and she has gorgeous full lips which incidentally my mother and I both have, not to mention her very womanly figure. I honestly think she is by far the best looking woman I have seen.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/16 12:07 AM
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How do men behave differently with sex-worthy and LTR-worthy women? Apart from not LTR-ing the woman only worthy of sex, what are these actual behavioural differences men display with each group?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/16 09:49 PM
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Ooh I'd be up for doing this challenge! I know this is an old post but I'd be really interesting actually noting down the difference it makes
/r/RedPillWives01/10/16 09:22 PM
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This is both seriously hilarious and adorable, I'm curious to see what this feet wiggling looks like LOL
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 09:31 PM
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When your bf (or guys in general) mention an interesting/not-so-interesting personality what does that even mean?! What makes a woman's personality interesting vs. not interesting/common? I never understand this particular term!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/16 05:37 PM
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I am indeed, well spotted! Ooh yeah those sound like good ideas! I have a whole freezer drawer full of red meat, I ordered a bunch of chicken too but it's all gone and I only have this stuff left.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 06:20 PM
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Heeled boots? Although I don't know if it snows a lot where you are in which case heeled boots probably wouldn't be a good idea
/r/RedPillWives04/09/16 03:51 PM
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I have a bunch of meat in my freezer but I'm not sure what to make with it all! Anybody have any recipe recommendations for any of the following? : -flat iron steaks -lean mince -rump steaks -beef hache steaks -beef meatballs -pork sausages/cumberland sausages (thinking of making a sausage and beans casserole type thing with jacket potatoes, perfect for the rainy weather we have currently)
/r/RedPillWives04/09/16 03:18 PM
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Thanks for your reply :) I've got a few questions: For women today, this is actually more difficult to pull off because we aren't taught how to do this any more. What do mean by it being difficult to pull off (as in is it due to feministic environments)? And how would you even be taught something like this? Is it possible to learn this sort of female confidence? Also, it takes great courage to be vulnerable as a woman. This takes confidence and self esteem to allow ones weaknesses to show. What …
/r/RedPillWives03/09/16 10:44 PM
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What is feminine confidence vs. masculine confidence (in a tangible sense)?
/r/RedPillWives03/09/16 10:00 PM
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ahaha this made me chuckle, I'm imagining maniacal cackling somewhere in the background
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 04:42 PM
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Thanks for posting this! Also Duchess of Cambridge <3 Kate is a beautiful style icon, both in the way she dresses (classic timeless and feminine, but not outdated either) and the way she carries herself. Rarely do you see such elegance and poise in the public sphere, she really is a great example to draw inspiration from!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:39 PM
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It looks like it's a gay guy from the twitter account
/r/RedPillWives21/08/16 11:45 PM
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I know this is quite an old post but I'm curious, do you think the same advice applies to people you were still only 'dating' but didn't actually end up in a relationship with? I imagine in these circumstances it would only apply if you were the dumpee/ the one 'let go' (i.e. the other person decided not to continue) since the dumper would be less likely to retrace their steps once they decide to end things? I was reading this post where the author said its best to cut off contact if things have…
/r/RedPillWives20/08/16 07:13 PM
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Thanks for writing this. I find it's much easier to move on from a man that is a bad match if you know why you are dating i.e. to eventually find a husband, instead of getting caught up with trying to make it work with someone who can't or is unwilling to be the right person for you. Once you have determined that it won't work between the two of you, it would make absolutely no sense to continue the relationship and waste valuable prime years when you could be finding a better partner.
/r/RedPillWives20/08/16 10:56 AM
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To be fair though, he's an ex-fling and not an ex-boyfriend, wouldn't that be slightly different? Like they weren't committed or one 'unit' at any point? And i dont mean to be inflammatory with this comment but might this be part of the problem? Being around a man who not only is flirting with his girlfriend, but 'had' her more easily than he did, i.e. the ex didn't have to commit to get the perks so to speak, and he still gets away with having that sexual undertone in his interactions with the …
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 10:16 PM
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Im curious to know what you mean by 'any sort of need to know where he is comes off controlly' when you are HHH? Like how do the two link together?
/r/RedPillWives15/08/16 07:31 PM
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On a similar note Camille what do you think of the advice on The Rules Revisited blog? Some of his posts should be taken with a pinch of salt such as the 'ask your ex for feedback' but he seems to know his stuff with regard to how men think and the importance of appearance. I even bought his book 'Beyond The Breakup' where he goes into a little more detail with the stuff he (used to) post on his blog.
/r/RedPillWives14/08/16 04:30 PM
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Thank you! :) Still working on the right location bit haha
/r/RedPillWives13/08/16 08:56 PM
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Thanks for your detailed comment :) I agree with what you are saying in that a lot of her stuff is a bit overly enthusiastic and overly optimistic simple stuff, which is in contrast with the pragmatism and realism you get on this stuff, and so the peachy tone makes it seem a bit... immature (?) I liked her old stuff where she actually gave good solid advice such as her post on the care and feeding of husbands, or the girl game stuff on her best-of page. Also a lot of her posts with statistics ju…
/r/RedPillWives13/08/16 08:47 PM
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Everything looks different in the rear view mirror Wow Ive never considered breakups from that perspective, interesting way of looking at things. Would you mind explaining a little what you mean by this ?
/r/RedPillWives12/08/16 02:09 AM
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You're most welcome :) The comments sections also yield some interesting discussion, although a lot of it should be taken with a pinch of salt!
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 09:06 PM
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I am in college but I find that a lot of the attractive guys are so focused on partying and hooking up, despite us being at a very good uni studying a difficult subject. The one's who are out partying and drinking and hooking up tend to be either a bit unattractive or have yet to find themselves or become attractive, i often find they (21 ish) tend to be a bit childish and i can't really look upto them, which is necessary for me to respect them and/or find them attractive :/ I'd be interested in…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 09:05 PM
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I remember reading that post a while ago actually! It's bedtime for me know but I will re-read it again tomorrow and post my thoughts on here :)
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 09:01 PM
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Coming on RPW has made me realise that I really need to work on my approachability a fair bit. I don't think there's a problem with my appearance as I put a lot of effort into it but I very rarely get asked on dates (as embarrassing as it is to admit) and I need to work on that. It's honestly a bit frustrating and I wish I had a bit more of a dating life, especially as i'm in my 'prime years', and I'm wondering if I'm doing something unattractive that i'm massively overlooking! Does anybody have…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 07:35 PM
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Haha looking forward to it :)
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 05:09 PM
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Here is her 'best of' page. She's also doing a new 'relationship series' where she talks about benchmarks and expands upon them in several post: 10 Ways To Know Your Relationship Is The Real Deal Benchmark #1; expanded Benchmark #2 Benchmark #3 Benchmark #4 Let me know what you think of them :)
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 05:06 PM
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Oh goodness, it's worse than I thought! How old was he? Glad it's all in the past for you now :) I definitely think that once you've broken up with someone it's never really the same, you're always waiting for (read: dreading) the other shoe to drop. It's stories like these that make me glad that my friends aren't easy/sluts and/or in relationships! The amount of times i had read advice to guys online to sleep with a girl's friend or flatmates to make her jealous after a break up is just ridicul…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 04:04 PM
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You guys re-kindled things after you found out he had slept with your roommate? o.O Did you get back into a relationship or just seeing each other? I can't imagine those 6 months went well
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 02:53 PM
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Ooh been looking forward to this, will post questions when I can remember them hahah What do people (ECs particularly) think of the advice given by Susan Walsh on her website Hooking Up Smart? Is it RP advice? A lot of her old stuff was quite good i thought, but unfortunately many of the links no longer work for them. Her newer stuff is a bit of the you-go-girrl feminist variety I find.
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 02:34 PM
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Just means it's an absolute mess, it's generally a British phrase as far as I'm aware :)
/r/RedPillWives09/08/16 12:07 AM
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I think you mean HLH
/r/RedPillWives07/08/16 07:03 PM
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Thanks :D
/r/RedPillWives07/08/16 04:26 PM
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I was wondering why my flair had mysteriously changed into a heart o.O
/r/RedPillWives07/08/16 04:30 AM
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Thanks once again for your very detailed and well thought out reply! I appreciate you taking the time to flesh out the thoughts ideas and spell things out for me :P It makes a lot more sense, i shall read it again tomorrow once I'm a lot less sleepy! Regarding the part about revealing yourself through how you carry yourself, and having an impenetrable esteem/self worth, do you think your ideas are pertaining to the ideas talked about in the following blog posts (the authors ideas are generally q…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 11:11 PM
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Thanks for your reply to my original question! One thing I don't understand though is when you talk about like attracting like, and that if you are getting low quality suitors (or at least not as high quality as you like) then you ought to look inwards; how would these men be able to tell upon first glance whether a woman is high quality or not, and decide to approach her (i.e.e give her attention) based on this, assuming ofc her appearance is pleasing and she's not a slob/overweight? Or are you…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 09:43 PM
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I'm curious, what were the differences between how you were treated by men in your younger years and now, and what corresponding personality traits did you have then, or improve upon to get to where you are now?
/r/RedPillWives02/08/16 11:57 AM
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What is the solution then for this for non-slutty women? Find a good man and hope that he hasn't had those experiences with sluts before?
/r/RedPillWives31/07/16 10:05 PM
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Ah I see thanks :) I thought you meant character in the more general sense, in terms of morality.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 04:52 AM
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Can you define good character? What does it consist of, and how is it differentiated from bad character? Isn't 'good' character quite subjective?
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 01:24 AM
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It really doesn't take long to look presentable in the morning, it's not like you're preparing for a pageant! Still, so many people I see don't even bother to make the effort, looking like you've just rolled out of bed is widespread on university campuses, and anyone who does bother to look stylish is thought to be air-headed or vacuous and looked upon with mild derision and mockery under a thin veneer of curiosity ('oh i was just wondering why you're so dressed up all the time'). The benefits t…
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 06:09 PM
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Agree with this, even if you found them attractive and intriguing in the beginning it starts to become unattractive when it seems like they can't pull the trigger and ask you out, or take far too long to do so. Or they seem uninterested, and so you move on to other prospects, either way a lose-lose situation.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/16 10:46 PM
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this made me chuckle :')
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 07:05 PM
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I've always thought of belly dancing as such a pointedly feminine dance, after all it's based almost entirely around the movement of the hip and pelvic regions. Far more mesmerising to watch than modern day hip-hop/break-dance that everyone seems to be into these days. Always loved Shakira's performances too for this very reason. I like how throughout her performances she has an almost teasing smile on her face, coupled with the occasional winks gives it a very playful and flirty vibe! u/Camille…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 12:05 AM
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Really liked this post. I grew up with parents who were the definition of helicopter parenting, in the sense that everything we did had to be approved and accepted by them, both in the sense of how we spent our time and what influences we were exposed to; anything that we attempted that wasn't pre-approved was met with severe disapproval and often punishment! As a result, not unsurprisingly myself and most siblings have grown up to be the polar opposite of what our parent/s would have wanted in …
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 09:02 PM
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Ah, was that literally when you were just out and about? I had in mind something like being part of clubs or the like and having repeated contact which is a bit more time consuming!. Did it help in generally meeting high quality men, being complete strangers?
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 02:52 AM
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When you say 'put yourself out there' what do you mean? Like what sort of stuff does this involve? I ask because although I haven't graduated yet id be more interested in meeting men who are out of college and a bit older since most here seem to be of ages 22 or under.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 01:52 AM
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Ah I'm sorry to hear that. Can you explain a little more what went wrong? Perhaps we can point you in the right direction in terms of vetting a man, or minimising unattractive behaviours?
/r/RedPillWives04/07/16 09:36 PM
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Is Surrendered Wife a good read for a single woman though? I wouldnt know since I only have SS Also when people say 'what do you bring to the table', what do they mean, like how do you even quantify that? Is it stuff like psychological femininity and cooking, and aren't these things that most people have so they're not really going to 'stand out' as such?
/r/RedPillWives04/07/16 09:14 PM
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You'll have to get used to rejection in all different forms if you want to be successful at dating, and will have to pull yourself together again afterwards if you want to succeed. And also try not to put all your eggs in one basket and become too attached or invested in someone who is not (yet, or ever) reciprocating the same level of interest. It's best to take a light hearted approach to it until you do meet someone who comes along and wants to go further with you, which they will if you work…
/r/RedPillWives04/07/16 09:07 PM
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Soo basically just keep an open mind and make sure we have good boundaries, on the look out for red flags and are mindful of our own behaviour? :P
/r/RedPillWives03/07/16 04:31 PM
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taking this path makes it almost impossible for you to discover if he intends a serious committed relationship or a casual plate/fling until after the fact. How is that?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/16 10:01 PM
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This is a very good post, thanks for posting it! I wouldn't have thought that bars were a good place to meet high quality LTR minded men though, what do you think? It sets the wrong sort of precedent imo, a bit like clubs or tinder. I always feel a bit self conscious at bars if Im not with someone and there are an abundance of men, so I avoid queuing in the first place!
/r/RedPillWives02/07/16 05:30 PM
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Your outward appearance does reflect your character 98% of the time. Completely agree with this. You can tell an awful lot about a person based on seeing them a few times in different outfits, all the way from their choice in clothing/shoes down to their level of grooming. How does it reflect character though? You mean stuff like laziness or ?
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 08:03 PM
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Ah I see. Less than or more than a year? Had you discussed the topic of children before you got married?
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 11:00 AM
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How long were you dating before you got married?
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 09:34 AM
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Interesting read! I wonder where the prude fits into all of this. What's the difference between an attention whore and someone who is sexy/sensual but just not attracted or interested in the men around her?
/r/RedPillWives27/06/16 10:27 PM
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Thanks for you reply! Everyone seems to meet everyone on Tinder these days it seems. I should add that im of an ethnic minority and I seem to do better with men of the same ethnic minority (South Asian). I imagine that plays some part in the difficulty of meeting people at these events. My main concern is that I have no one to go with to these events, I might look terribly odd if I turned up on my own! How would one get involved in a social circle randomly? It difficult to break into a group of …
/r/RedPillWives24/06/16 07:10 PM
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The vetting post is really good but how do you actually find men that you find attractive and have them ask you out? I'm in a similar situation but clearly I have a blind spot or over looking something vitally important since I find a distinct lack of attractive men in my life. I feel a bit silly but I can't think what it might be, need a reality check I think, I very rarely get asked out :/ Obviously there isn't a store where attractive men congregate but I've never once been approached out and…
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 09:03 PM
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By lack of interest do you mean from men or her own lack of interest in dating/sex?
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 08:55 PM
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Why?
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 02:09 PM
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Thanks for your reply! I guess the follow on question would be how such a woman would improve her situation to overcome a mindset like that, as I understand the male version of it would be to commit to genuine self improvement and experience solid success to be able to readjust their internal thinking to that of someone higher value? Are people who have had unsuccessful/negative experiences in their formative years pretty much bound to remain that way for life? Also I'd be interested in hearing …
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 02:01 AM
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The article mentions a rare few men becoming famous and successful but still retaining the low value mindset and having partners that reflect this; can the same be applied to women? As in those women who became more beautiful or attractive but still retained their low value 'bottom of the totem pole' minset? How would this manifest and what would it look like?
/r/RedPillWives21/06/16 08:34 PM
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Low value people aren't exactly going to come out and call themselves low value. Those higher on the totem pole would consider you (general) lower value. It's analogous to the saying that there's always one person in a group of friends who is a bit annoying and socially unaware and the lowest on the totem pole, and if one claims that such a person doesn't exist in their group then chances are they are that person. There are always exceptions to the rule of course.
/r/RedPillWives21/06/16 03:22 PM
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Gosh I haven't been on the IRC in ages! OK I will do! Going to pop out now but will be there later on hopefully :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/16 01:20 PM
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They also tend to be quite a bit more promiscuous, men and especially women. I am still genuinely surprised about the lack of concern many of them show for their sexuality or bodies with all the heavy drinking and slutting around they do, I guess I had associated wealth and a prestigious education with class and restraint? Maybe it's to do with a lack of appreciation of consequences as I imagine having a comfortable upbringing would have shielded them from this? Not all are like this of course b…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/16 03:56 PM
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It's interesting that you mention that UMC/UC men want their GF's or dates to be dressed up all the time. I can't speak for the preferences of individual men but I've noticed that many of the UMC women of my age tend to be the ones who are often most dressed down, casual looking but still presentable. Dressing up too much especially if the situation doesn't warrant it seems to be the preserve of Lower Middle Class or Working Class (UK speak for high/low prole). This might be a UK or a college ag…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/16 11:43 PM
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Do you think it would be much different for those of us outside of the US (i.e. the UK) despite both being English speaking countries with similar cultures?
/r/RedPillWives12/06/16 08:34 PM
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You're not asking for "basic sex" you're talking about a specific unusual kink and getting defensive and putting words into people's mouths won't do you good. They're not judging you for having the kink or that it's important to you, they're pointing out the fact that you will run into problems if you prioritise it in a partner at the expense of everything else (which you have done in this case, continued interaction with a man who in the first instance is talking about sex primarily, not the wa…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/16 10:06 AM
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Read the post, it was great, will re-read :) Is it safe to assume that every time a man asks you back to his house say after a date (without explicitly sayin that he wants things to become sexual) he means he wants to have sex? Doesn't it come off as presumptuous if you mention sex without him having mentioned it at all?
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 06:12 PM
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Agree with the excuses part. Either you make excuses and become miserable and slowly laden with emotional baggage, or you vet properly and improve yourself enough so you don't have to put up with shitty options.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 11:40 AM
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I'd love to hear how you were clear about your needs and requirements with resolve with your SO when you were dating! I personally find it difficult to express the same myself without either being too scared to say something or having it look abrupt and intense or getting ahead of myself. Did you mention them early on?
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 11:36 AM
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I think the thing with entitlement comes into play when you are expecting too much, not when you expect the bare minimum in terms of a relationship, at the very least. It's important to not be entitled but also important to vet someone before submitting to see if they are even the right person for you.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 07:27 AM
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What do people mean then when they claim that men will only take a woman seriously for a ltr/marriage if they respect her? Is it a feminist narrative?
/r/RedPillWives09/06/16 09:28 PM
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What do you mean by men don't respect women?
/r/RedPillWives09/06/16 07:29 PM
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Well he replied (finally?) I texted back and has read the msg and hasn't replied in a day. I don't see what the point even is, maybe to check if I'm still waiting? It's annoying coz it's just as I move on. Might actually have to block at some point.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/16 11:05 PM
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I had removed him from my immediately accessible social media (snapchat mainly which has a public 'story' feature) because I don't want to keep seeing updates about his life. Anything beyond that I'm not too bothered about, it was surprisingly easy to move on once I gained some perspective and thought about the situ rationally instead of trying to rack my brains figuring out if he's still interested, I'd say it's firmly behind me now, not worth the stress! Thanks for the advice :)
/r/RedPillWives06/06/16 07:04 PM
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The first one hahaha, is it actually a thing?!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 04:04 PM
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Do you think it would be a bad idea to delete him from my social media (mainly snapchat, though I doubt it'd be noticed)? I mean it's only been a week since he hasn't replied to my last text but I can't decide if I should, because I keep wondering if there may be a legitimate excuse for him not to get in touch. If I delete him then Ill stop thinking about it because I'll have made a decision and won't be in this limbo. Then again, he has updated his social media/been online in that week and no-o…
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 12:00 AM
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Ah I see, thanks for explaining it :) I guess the interest is just not there anymore. There's is only so much I can do (or am willing to do) before deciding that he's not showing much interest and moving on. After all I can't be the one calling him every time to try to get to know him if he's not even putting the effort in to reply. I'll stick to more meaningful communication next time and see where that takes me!
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 09:59 PM
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Do you mean that the quick combinations lessened the connection/interest or even prevented it from happening? Or that it masked the lack of interest or meaningful connection? Sorry, I'm having a bit of difficulty grasping what you mean! Surely if he was interested at any point he'd call himself or set up a meeting, especially since I myself did make the effort to call him?
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 06:49 PM
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Thank you :) One last thing, do you think I did something or I was doing something 'wrong' to make him lose interest (obviously it's difficult to tell over the internet)? Whenever guys do lose interest I end up feeling a little bad about myself as if they see me as not good enough or 'low value', even if in the back of my mind i could sense some incompatibilities and that we weren't going to work out. I dont beat myself up about it but I can't help but wonder what I keep doing wrong if I can't e…
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 06:08 PM
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(C&P'd) Little update (well its not much!): We were still speaking over texts up until 2ish weeks ago but I don't think it is going anywhere since we still haven't scheduled to meet, the texting and snapchatting has become so sporadic and remain unanswered for days; I think there might also be an incompatibility in terms of religious values etc. I mean he did apologize for the lack of response over exam time but it keeps happening and I'm not sure I'm prepared to keep holding out when it seems l…
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 06:00 PM
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(C&P'd) Little update (well its not much!): We were still speaking over texts up until 2ish weeks ago but I don't think it is going anywhere since we still haven't scheduled to meet, the texting and snapchatting has become so sporadic and remain unanswered for days; I think there might also be an incompatibility in terms of religious values etc. I mean he did apologize for the lack of response over exam time but it keeps happening and I'm not sure I'm prepared to keep holding out when it seems l…
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 05:58 PM
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Little update (well its not much!): We were still speaking over texts up until 2ish weeks ago but I don't think it is going anywhere since we still haven't scheduled to meet, the texting and snapchatting has become so sporadic and remain unanswered for days; I think there might also be an incompatibility in terms of religious values etc. I mean he did apologize for the lack of response over exam time but it keeps happening and I'm not sure I'm prepared to keep holding out when it seems like ther…
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 05:56 PM
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Would it be okay to text him this, or should i wait till he asks in person/over text again?
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 03:58 PM
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I'm exactly the same with regards to not caring about being right or wrong, but being really jealousy although I try to hide it from the dude in question. Although I'm not in a relationship, when I start to like someone I really struggle with jealousy. How do you end up dealing with it and does it get better once you're in a relationship with them as opposed to just dating? And where do you think these sort of feelings stem from?
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 10:51 PM
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Got another question! How do you reject someone politely put firmly? A guy who is an acquaintance asked me out for the second time (first time I kind of dodged answering the question) and I'm just not attracted to him enough and don't think I ever will like him in that way. I make sure not to come across as too friendly plus closed body language, and try to avoid him but I'm not assertive enough to tell him I'm not interested when he asks to go out for dinner, so I end up dodging the question or…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 10:04 PM
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For those of us not in relationships who are looking for good men, is it a red flag to dress sexily (for example being venue appropriate and never inappropriately lewd, but wearing tight/form fitting clothing often, and not being afraid to wear short/tight dresses)? Is it a red flag to dress too sexily or to even enjoy it? Where do you draw the line between wanting to look hot and avoiding giving off the wrong impression? Or does it depend on the individual guy? Is it more important to behave in…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/16 11:21 PM
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thanks for the link :) Do you get the smelly breath thing that comes from being on keto?
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 03:25 PM
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Anyone have any good, tasty recipes for protein cookies or bars?
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 11:10 AM
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This might be a vague question but how does one asses their own healthiness? And how can you tell if you're mentally sound enough to have healthy relationships and attract sane high value men?
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 08:16 PM
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Forgive me if I'm being a bit slow but what did she mean by being a "free lunch"?
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 12:14 PM
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In what ways didn't it work out, out of curiosity?
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 01:16 PM
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Interesting, would you be able to tell if they were being manipulative or just genuinely angry? I've known people who have acted like this who I've suspected to have sociopaths tendencies (I know you can't diagnose someone like that but there were other signs, a distinct lack of empathy, emotional cruelty being the main ones) and one thing I noticed about their tantrums was that at time it seemed like they were fully in control of themselves and not actually genuinely angry. Like it was a really…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 12:38 AM
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Sounds more like an omega :/ I've met people like that, you have to wonder where it all went so wrong.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 01:16 PM
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Yeah I do avoid it altogether. It's only recently I've met guys who seem, from their behaviour, to be as non-religious/non-practicing as I am in the first place (but where brought up in the same religion), but often times even they start to feel guilty after a while or understandably don't want to end up upsetting their parents so start to become more and more religious! I think it's better to forgo all of this altogether!
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 09:49 PM
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Thank you for writing out this detailed reply! This makes a lot of sense and the last paragraph resonates with me a lot. It's important to remember that people are on a sliding scale with regards to religiosity and my childhood experience probably isn't the norm for most sane people! However it's difficult because in this specific case pre-marital inter-sex mingling is really frowned upon in my parents' religion, let alone 'dating' which is pretty much forbidden. It makes things so much more dif…
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 08:59 PM
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I see :) I'm often drawn to the powerful, almost sociopathic ones (think Frank Underwood from House of Cards), not sure what that says about me! Oh yes please that'd be a good read :)
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 08:51 PM
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Do sociopaths get angry easily? I thought it was more like willful violence than lashing out in a temper but I could be completely wrong
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 08:49 PM
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Also how do you screen for the right dominance level and the right combination of alpha/beta traits for yourself if you've never actually had a partner before and not much experience to draw from? I understand from the other post that it will depend on how you feel around him i.e. scared/afraid, or can't respect him etc, but these things take a long time to become apparent no?
/r/RedPillWives01/05/16 12:19 PM
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I see. It's not that I necessarily find religious people off-putting, it's more that I find religious people of my parents' religion off putting since it reminds me of being practically forced to follow it with no leeway growing up. I do wonder if these feelings of distaste are some sort of leftover rebellion :S I actually quite like the idea of following customs and colourful traditions and bringing up my children within a large family network, so I wouldn't mind bringing them up in other less …
/r/RedPillWives01/05/16 09:20 AM
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This is a fantastic post, thanks for this! I've been wondering about this specific topic for quite some while! When you talk about religious backgrounds, are you referring to a person's upbringing and how it may have influenced their personality or behavioural habits? Or their religious beliefs itself? For example I've been brought up in a very conservative religious environment but I no longer believe in that specific religion. However I've retained many of the conservative values and over the …
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 11:59 PM
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I only just came across this thread and I have to say this made me laugh out loud!! I've had exactly the same experience and although I like cleanliness these people took the absolute biscuit, like literally calling household 'meetings' and naming and shaming because someone forgot to wipe a few crumbs from a spotless table. Worst few months of my life.
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 12:32 PM
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Thanks for your reply :) I feel a lot more reassured reading that, I was working myself up by thinking about the situation too much :/ Yeah that makes sense but I'd feel a bit stupid if I kept calling him and chasing him up if he's not really reciprocating on the same level and/or not that interested or has other girls as a higher priority. There could be many explanations for his current but he seems very confident, almost over-confident, and he's popular and social so doesn't seem to be lackin…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 09:05 PM
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Any thoughts regarding the above? :)
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 04:19 AM
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We still haven't scheduled a date yet :/ I know it's a hectic time for students but I'm thinking it's been a week and we've only had the occasional snapchat back and forth! Not sure if I'm over-thinking it or it just seems like there's not that much interest
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 11:40 PM
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Is it not?! Tbh most people I know my age at uni either don't get into relationships and are hooking up left right and centre, have been in relationships since high school, or were good friends before they got together, maybe I need to get out more LOL. I always find it difficult to separate the different dating phenomenons I read about on RPW by American and other.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 07:22 PM
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Ah that makes a lot more sense! I imagined a scenario where he'd been going out with another similarly attractive woman and you'd found out through other sources that he was dating around (as opposed to him straight up telling you), I imagine that would have lead to a lot more anxiety. I've been in situations where I've suspected the above or heard things but was never sure and it's not a nice feeling :/ Glad to hear it worked out well in the end :)
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 06:42 PM
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I'd also like to hear this story! :)
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 06:33 PM
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I really admire the courage and gracefulness you displayed there, I imagine I would have become defensive if I'd been in your position and known he was dating someone else!
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 05:06 PM
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Haha it was a bit scary but I'm glad I followed Phantom's advice!! Will have to wait and see what happens :)
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 02:04 AM
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Haha thank you very much!! I will keep you ladies updated :)
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 02:03 AM
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Thank you, I will do!!
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 09:35 PM
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I did end up calling and we spoke for nearly an hour! I think he was a bit bewildered at why I wanted to call at first and he asked if something had happened. It was a really nice convo I thought, we spoke about a range of different topics and it lasted for nearly an hour before he said he had to go to bed. I'm so glad I called instead of having yet another superficial, never ending text convo where it's awkward and you connect very little with the person. At the end of the call he said we will …
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 06:22 PM
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He replied and I think I'm gonna ask him if I can call him instead of he's not busy, and say texting takes a bit long, how does that sound?
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 10:16 PM
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Oops I have already! :/ I'm afraid of calling since we're not that close and it's a bit late where I live right now (11pm) I'll just have to see if/when he responds I guess!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 10:04 PM
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Also Phantom what's the difference between meaningful and meaningless contact? I want to message and ask how he's doing (and probably will have by the time this post goes through!) but I don't really have any plans or places that I want to see since I'm so preoccupied with exams and assignments for the next few weeks! I do genuinely want to know how he's doing atm though especially since he likely has a similarly stressful/hectic few weeks going on.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 09:36 PM
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Haha I'm getting conflicting replies here! Why do you say that may i ask? I think I'll keep in touch but Ill put it to the back of my mind for the time being!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:20 PM
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Thanks for your reply Phantom :) I've always read on RPW to not initiate contact with a man you're just getting to know as it shows that if he's not initiating he's not investing in you and you won't know if he actually does want to be with you or is just going along for the time being. Even Wingnut has been adamantly against initiating contact. Bear in mind that I've only met the guy two weeks ago and he hasn't actually asked me out on a date yet, so that's why I'm hesitant to contact him. I fe…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:18 PM
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He used to text a fair bit in the beginning but he doesn't do it as much. I'm not sure if I put him off texting by sometimes being slow to reply but I'd be on my phone all day if I was texting people! It's possible that texting isn't sustainable over a long time :/ Hmm I'll just have to mirror what he does then, I guess time will tell whether he's interested or not and I'll have to wait to see if he does make plans to meet up, what do you think?
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:04 PM
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How do you deal with texting/messaging in the early stages of getting to know a man? And how do apps like Snapchat play into it? (it's where you take picture messages with captions and send them back and forth, and they last for a few seconds before they self destruct) We're early twenties so it's commonplace to use this app! I met a nice guy and initially we texted a lot where he initiated but lately it's dwindled down to pretty much nothing bar the occasional snapchat. Not sure what to make of…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 01:18 PM
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Yep I can't count how many opportunities I have missed out and about where i end up kicking myself afterward for being so aloof. I will definitely try this when I'm out in public, what's the worst that could happen after all?!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 11:29 PM
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Thanks for posting this! I always struggle with eye contact, if I catch an attractive guys eye I actively avoid looking back again especially when I can feel him looking at me, goodness knows why I do this, I think it's just an insecurity of some sort. I really need to work on making eye contact and smiling! And I definitely agree with the striking up a conversation with women. When I feel shy in a group setting and can feel my RBF creeping in, I find other girls to talk to and have a laugh with…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 05:51 PM
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yayyy looking forward to part 2!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 09:44 PM
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"concerns that a more conservative moderation policy would prevent altogether the discussion of some obstacles faced by women who are not yet wives, but wish to successfully become so." Can you explain this part a little further? Which out of the old and new subreddit wanted a conservative modding policy that would prevent this discussion? And can you give examples of such obstacles?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 08:04 PM
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My flair doesn't seem to be showing either but I've only just created it so that could be why Edit: oh I can see it now!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 07:45 PM
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Just wanted to say thanks for all your hard work so far and each of your individual dedication in keeping this a community where women can actually discuss sexual strategy without the feminist/modern/progressive bells and whistles added on. Still pretty much a lurker over here but I've learnt a huge amount from the ECs and mod posts on the sub and that advice was, and will remain, invaluable. Looking forward to being a part of this sub and seeing it move in an even better direction!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 03:45 PM
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What exactly is structural attraction?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 07:45 PM
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My question was in relation to messaging someone you have met or know in real life, not really online dating where the dynamics are different.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 08:31 PM
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Why is that may i ask? Do you agree with littleknownfacts post, and is it the main reason initiating contact is discouraged? Should initiating only be done once a woman is in an established relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 07:26 PM
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Yeah the guy I have in mind is very extroverted and confident and mid-twenties too so Im assuming has a bit of experience, which is why my gut is telling me to leave it to him to initiate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 10:56 AM
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Please don't post advice that isn't in line with RPW tenets. I don't think most men are looking for courage or initiative in women, those are attractive MALE qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 09:59 AM
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Yeah, I don't deal well with the anxiety of 'why hasn't he called', 'I thought he liked me' etc. It makes it so much easier when the guy takes the initiative.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 09:57 AM
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I imagine high value, attractive guys who have lots of options wouldn't get particularly nervous about a girl they barely knew. Why would they, after all if one doesn't work out there are plenty more.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 03:55 AM
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So could it be the case that the same woman would be valued by a man more if he had to chase her and take the risk of initiating, than if she had just made herself too available straight off the bat, even if nothing has changed in the woman? I imagine that if guys show some interest, but font follow it up like I mentioned in my post, it simply means he is not interested enough, either yet, or at all right?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 02:19 AM
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I see. In regular conversation, how would it come across if the reason for a girl not having dated seriously before at ages 20-22 was 'because I just haven't met the right person yet'? Obviously you wouldn't say in normal conversation that 'It's because I'm turned off by low quality men who won't commit'!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 11:34 PM
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Out of curiosity, what is the reasoning behind it being a red flag to not having dated at all at by about age 20? That's different to being a virgin at 20 right?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 01:19 AM
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I see, and I guess the fact that she even describes herself as an 'alpha female' means that to some level she takes pride in her ability to lead or control, or at least it forms a part of her identity. Is it possible to have a good relationship with a strong leader who is unlikely to be very 'nice' (I guess that means accomodating or takes the woman's smallest needs into consideration)? I Imagine that probably depends on a woman's dominance threshold and the level of dominance she can take befor…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 02:10 PM
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What should the woman have done in that situation then? Sleeping with him before he showed signs of commitment probably wouldn't have been a good idea. Is it so bad that she's asking that he takes her seriously before she actually gives in to him?
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 01:47 PM
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True, I just hope in the future it doesn't become too awkward if I see him at the centre if this doesn't work out! Honestly, this is probably the first time in my life Im actually content/happy being single and being busy, and working on myself and I kind-of don't want to derail the momentum if you will, but you are right that it will be a learning experience if anything.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 04:16 AM
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Wanted to get a bit of advice on a situation if possible please! Theres a dude who works at the leisure centre I frequent. I say hi/how are you occasionally when we bump into each other but more in a polite way as I'm a regular at the centre. Recently out of the blue he messaged me on fb (he added me a few months prior) asking if I want to see a show w/ him as he has a spare ticket going. I replied yes and we set up the time; I had been reading Laura Doyle's book about accepting dates when you n…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 02:33 AM
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Sound like the husband may have been a beta that locked up the first decent woman that paid him attention, he did marry her after only 6 months after all, and with the increase in his status he realises he can do better (which he can, nothing wrong with realising that). The wife however seems to be hamster-ing away why she can't take the difficult road of self improvement for her husband. Of course he is going to want a partner that is attractive, high status men do, and like someone mentioned b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 07:42 PM
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Has your boyfriend been under a lot of stress lately? That might explain his short fuse if it's recent behaviour, however since you both have a history of toxic relationships it may well be that you are unsuitable for each other and just repeating the same pattern of toxic relationships. I don't know, we'll see what the endorsed contributors have to say about this.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/16 07:44 PM
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Difficult in what way? can you give examples please? And why couldn't inexperienced virgins handle alphas, is it because of their insecurity or naivety?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/16 09:37 PM
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Why wouldn't you have nexted them though if you realise they've put you in the FWB-zone? Surely it just saves your own time and avoids any further emotional entanglement and heartbreak if you already have a good idea that it's not going to go anywhere and the guy isn't suddenly going to turn around and want to commit? Perhaps their surprise arose from the fact that many girls are reluctant to next because they naively hold on to the hope that they can change his mind (similar to what orbiters do…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 05:56 PM
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Does low quality also encompass HV men who won't commit? Or is it just LV guys?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 05:18 PM
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Really good article and the website talks about Red Pill advice for women too; I have bookmarked it so i can have a look at more articles later!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 11:49 PM
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I see. You mentioned in your previous post how the UC and UMC are brought up with different standards and etiquette which would be difficult to emulate if they had not been instilled during one's upbringing, can you give examples of such standards/etiquette?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 02:38 PM
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Isn't divorce a red flag for men? Of course there are exceptions to the rule but to me it shows he made a huge mistake in giving his commitment, the highest form of commitment, to the wrong woman, or that he'll be looking to trade up again once youve been married a while. Honestly, hearing that a guy has been previously divorced is a huge turn off! Also out of curiosity, what did the deleted comment say?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 01:24 PM
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Is this a troll? Do you even know what RPW beliefs are?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 01:40 AM
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Is there anyway to counteract this, or at least for a women to offer herself the best chance at making herself the type of woman UMC men want? Or is there no hope and she would be better off sticking to her own, lower, class?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 10:14 PM
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How should you treat a 'Chad' who you suspect, or are certain, won't commit to you?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 01:31 AM
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Yeah I might make a separate post about it, Ive been trying to wrap my head around the concept but can't seem to find concrete and concise theory on RMV. On the topic of being a socioeconomic equal, does the SE background of one's family count or matter, or is it more to do with the woman herself (e.g. if they are both doctors or in a STEM field)?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 12:08 AM
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Off topic but what does the little '1' sign next to your user name mean?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 09:58 PM
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What is objectively jerk-y behaviour? How can you tell if you are under a spell? I once had a situation where many of my friends thought a certain guy I had the hots for was a douchebag and they couldn't explain why, but I just could. not. see. it. Until the situation was so helpless that even I had to admit it was done.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 05:11 PM
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How do you increase your RV? I've been lurking for ages and I've read the sidebar and especially the post about the feminine mindset but increasing or demonstrating a high RV just seems so elusive! Like how can you tell if you are increasing your RV if you're barely getting any feedback? I always struggle with what it is that makes someone have a high RV.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 04:48 PM
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What do you think of the advice posted on the website baggagereclaim.co.uk? It gives advice regarding relationships but focuses mainly on how to identify toxic relationships, or when someone if not a good match or is wasting your time. I have read it and a lot of it seems like good advice for those who may not have great role models for relationships and have the tendency to get involved in dead end relationships or romantic situations, but I'm not sure how much of it is 'you go gurrl' advice an…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 10:08 PM
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Just want to clarify on the topic of hair dyed being discouraged, are we talking about actual coloured hair (like purple/pink etc) or any sort of hair dye pushing the natural look (eg black hair dyed light brown, or brown hair dyed platinum blonde)?
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 09:50 PM
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What's the point in trying to pay more attention to men you dont find attractive, in order to find one you can respect? Surely attraction is vital in a good stable relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 11:04 PM
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Just curious, why would a girl qualifying herself (in response to a neg/teasing) make you see her as a ONS, but her playing the game make her seem like something more (friendship/ relationship)?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/16 10:14 PM
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I see. Do you think a woman's dominance threshold may be largely a result of her upbringing/environment (e.g the dominance levels of men she grew up with e.g. father/brothers/family culture) or do you think it may be down to nature/genetic? Or even a combination of both?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 10:19 PM
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Yeah I took it to mean cringe as in humorous/pity-inducing which is why I was confused!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 10:15 PM
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Just to clarify, why would an LL woman feel like she's walking on eggshells around a H man? Is it because he would call her out too much or something similar?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 09:59 PM
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Why would she be cringing at behaviour that is too dominant? I thought that (cringing/repulsion) was reserved mostly for behaviour that is too beta? Both cringing and feeling frightened (i.e the walking on eggshells) aren't really two emotions I'd put together, especially as a result of experiencing too much dominance at the hands of a high DL man, unless Ive interpreted it wrong
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 09:54 PM
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"The enemy of my enemy is a friend"
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 01:58 PM
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You are married, why do you still hang around in the types of social groups where there is pressure to sleep around and party? That is not conducive to a good marriage. Could you possibly branch out and look to befriend other serious couples? And who cares whether or not guys find party sluts attractive, focus on what YOUR husband finds attractive and seek to enhance those qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 11:38 PM
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Get out more and become more social/meet new people, say yes to invitations even if I don't feel like it, the likelihood is that I will enjoy it once I do get out. Also get more involved in uni events Be mindful of my RBF and smile at people more often Make sure I get enough sleep, at least 7 hours a night Try out 2-3 new recipes a week, make a collection of favourite staples Continue with work out routine, going religiously every other day and watching my macros Practice more make up techniques…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 05:46 PM
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What do you mean by 'she wants something for nothing'? That she's trying to manipulate him into spending time with her?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 10:49 PM
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Claire Underwood is a career woman who had an affair behind her husbands back and walked out on him when the going got tough, I don't see how she's an RPW!
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 01:16 AM
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Just out of curiosity, why is everyone so adamant that she shouldn't contact him? Is it a HR issue?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 09:29 PM
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Just out of curiosity, why would her being jealous of the other girl be a bad/untrustworthy thing? Is it the actual feelings of jealousy or her acting out and trying to control him when technically he hasn't done anything wrong, because surely jealousy can't really be helped?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 04:45 PM
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:) yeah it is a bit of a long topic!
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 12:26 AM
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I understand that we are encouraged to be vulnerable with SOs and generally also when we are dating, but what about being vulnerable or open about things that are very personal and you don't want to talk about (just yet)? For example being open about past illnesses (mainly mental health issues or episodes that have been resolved for the most part or are being actively worked on)? Things like that come up in conversation and the question is not intrusive or anything like that, but I find it extre…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 11:19 PM
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That RPW 101 post was a really good one, I must have read it like a hundred times over the past year or so! Will there be more 101 posts? The post said that there were more to come but I don't know if I've just missed them somehow!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 11:08 PM
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What is the difference in treatment between coming onto guys and having them pursue and court you? And which one is preferable?
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 10:57 PM
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I really like this post! Although can you define 'partying' for me please? And how much drinking is too much?
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 10:50 PM
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I don't think TRPs advice would be to 'ride out the relationship'. If anything they would encourage you to next her or to demote your GF to a plate if she continues with her bad behaviour and refuses to change and acknowledge her faults, and continues to reject your lead (as you are presumably her captain) in a disrespectful way. They'd also encourage you to develop an abundance mentality and not hold onto one girl who may or may not be able to become a first mate. If anything you would be bette…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 02:14 AM
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What constitutes a late bloomer woman? And would you give any specific advice to a woman who was/is a late bloomer, who is looking to improve (apart from to improve minutes and appearance)? :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 11:19 PM
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What do you mean by 'high quality men set a high sex price on their commitment'? Do you mean they want a very sexual girl who is willing to do what they want? Slightly confused by the phrase 'high sex price'!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 11:05 PM
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I want to be married to a good man of course and for that I'd need to go on dates before I could get into a LTR heading towards marriage eventually :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 10:13 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind words and wisdom :) you could actually be my mother since she is in her early 40s! I know it sounds silly but it means a lot to be reassured by someone can understand what it's like being so worried and hung up and tightly wound (as I am currently) and come out intact and happy on the other side. I will re-read this soon to let it sink in. Just quickly, what about flirting with men or paying them attention with romantic overtones? For the best outcome should I tre…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 01:04 AM
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Thanks for your reply :) I should add that I'm not from the U.S. or Canada but your point still remains! Although I don't meant sound flippant and negative but out if the male population of any given country, how many of those will actually be viable prospects?! That's good advice. I've tried going into monk mode before because I do feel like I need to work on ACTUALLY being happy with myself permanently (not just for a temporary cycle) and not falling into despair or feelings of worthlessness w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 12:16 AM
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Thank you for your reply, I'm going to re-read this a few times to let the message sink in :) It's so difficult to keep going when you feel like you haven't tasted success yet despite putting in so much effort for what seems like so long. Hopefully sometime in the (near) future I'll be able to look back at my posts with a success story and see how far I went because I kept going. A lot of the time I've felt in hindsight that the things that frustrated me so much weren't actually such a big deal …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 09:31 PM
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Thanks for your reply :) (I've copied and pasted most of the response from above!) I'm starting to think I'm hitting a bit of a plateau when it comes to improving my appearance, the next step would be plastic surgery although I am improving my makeup hair techniques and looking into teeth whitening. It's weird, I do catch people's eyes often when out and about but I can count on one hand the amount of times I've actually been asked out by anyone, makes me think there's something seriously amiss.…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 07:43 PM
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Thanks for your reply :) Yes to all 4 of those! In fact I'm starting to think I'm hitting a bit of a plateau when it comes to improving my appearance, the next step would be plastic surgery although I am improving my makeup hair techniques and looking into teeth whitening. It's weird, I do catch people's eyes often when out and about but I can count on one hand the amount of times I've actually been asked out by anyone, makes me think there's something seriously amiss. Every time I do develop an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 07:40 PM
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20/21?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 06:13 PM
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Oh right, I see! Ive skimmed over the article and Dan Bilzerian seems pretty dark triad. Also, slight tangent but is it a red flag if a guy hasn't had a long-term committed relationship before past a certain age? As in, he may have had short term relationships but no long term ones so far?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/15 02:52 PM
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Do successful playboys include any (good looking, confident, successful) guy who can get a decent amount of women, often fairly easily, or are we talking more about someone who'd be described as a womanizer and likes the chase/conquests?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/15 02:23 PM
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Quick question, could you describe or give an example of traits an alpha would have and beta traits he might lack, compered to someone who was, say, 70/30% alpha-beta? Alphas can have long term future plans can't they? I find it difficult to distinguish between 'too alpha', and a 'good dose of alpha', how would you recognise each in real life to know who to avoid and who is a better option for commitment?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/15 02:01 PM
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The Rules Revisited
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 12:16 AM
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Thanks for your reply :) What advice would you give to someone who wanted to be able to hold her own in conversations and engage well-educated people in social settings like you had done? Are these skills and the knowledge attained exclusively due to an upper-middle class upbringing or can you learn them? I ask because my peers and the field of education I'm in currently consists largely of very well educated (a large proportion privately educated) middle to upper middle class types and my own b…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 08:17 PM
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Thanks for your reply :) I imagine it refers to the wives of the wealthy/super-wealthy elite and probably not to the middle class population with good jobs!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 03:53 PM
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Thanks for your reply and please do post a review when you have the time! It'd be good to hear more about the book and even any key points that you think are worth mentioning :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 03:50 PM
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Thanks for encouragement VGG, it has helped in adjusting my perspective on this issue :) And you are right, I can't keep comparing myself to other girls because it is unhealthy an everyone has flaws and in reality, guys have different tastes so I can't expect everyone to be attracted to me as much as they are to other girls who may be more their type (because I should add that myself and Alice are completely different ethnicities). It's not the end of the world if one guy didn't think I'm the ri…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/15 03:59 PM
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You think a 20yo guy would have done that? Yes you are absolutely right and I imagine even if things did develop I may have self-sabotaged at some point with all the insecurities I had. I don't know why but I was just waiting for the other shoe to drop and was cynical regarding his intentions and honestly, I had put myself in a negative state of 'this won't end well' before it even had a chance to grow. That's not to say there weren't things about him that didn't make me uncomfortable but how mu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 09:21 PM
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Ah I see, it makes sense when you put it that way. I guess you could draw a similar analogy to how women want commitment from high value guys and they don't want it to come easily - they want to feel as if they've earned it? Blue pill nice guy betas give commitment away for free without demanding much in return and it isn't valued; in the absence of attractive masculine qualities they only have their time and resources available to attract women, and when they try to push for a romantic relation…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 11:02 PM
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Thanks for your reply. Hmm I don't know about that, he seems to really like Alice and she seems like a pretty decent girl. It also seems like he's been waiting around to ltr her but this is speculation. Granted I know barely anything about her personally and am going off superficial impressions but she seems like a classy girl from a decent family. I'm not even certain if they're actually together and tbh it's not even my business. What do you mean by 'being in the present to a fault? Could you …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 10:57 AM
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Thanks for your reply. Yeah I'm going to let this go for good, I don't see anything good coming out of it and I've dropped the ball far too many times. I imagine my girl game would have had to be strong from the start if I was to stand a chance, which it wasn't. I struggle to find the balance between being feminine and receptive/yielding and maintaining my personal boundaries (as advised by Andrew from the rules revisited) thus coming across as dominant/masculine. Where did my girl game fall sho…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 10:50 AM
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It is bitter indeed but the truth always is. Just curious, you think his behaviour suggests that he has a much higher SMV? I had thought he was maybe a little out of my league but not by too much but I could be waay overestimating myself
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 12:47 AM
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See intellectually I know that he would not be a good captain for me at least but the feelz rule all, awalt in action I guess. Funnily enough he has even joked with friends that his relationships only seem to last 'x' amount of time which although is a joke, isn't a great sign. And I will indeed be more open minded. I have noticed myself overlooking guys who I find attractive not at first glance, but after a conversation which gives me hope.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 12:38 AM
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I agree with your post but I'm just curious about the part where you say that sex is so valuable. These days, especially at universities where hook-up culture is rife and sex is available everywhere, isn't it now less valuable because it no longer takes much for young guys to 'get' sex from decent looking girls their age? Certainly I know of men socially who are average in the looks department but have decent social skills who are juggling multiple girls and some who have willing plates who refu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 03:20 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 11:36 PM
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I'd quite like to see example of women's feminine behaviour in the old movies to practice having more feminine body language myself; could you recommend some good movies that have good examples of this? :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:25 PM
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Ooh what's the recipe for the risotto and the choc mousse? :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 03:43 PM
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Congratulations, happy to hear your marriage is doing well :) It's always encouraging to hear about the theory being put into action and producing results that exceed expectations, good motivation and encouragement for the rest of us :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/15 12:06 AM
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I agree with your sentiment and I'm trying to remember to do the same. It always warms my heart to see their reaction whenever I do give genuine compliments or express appreciation to men that have helped me out for example, and (without meaning to sound patronising) it sometimes brings out the 'little boy' in them for a moment which is joyful to see!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 10:19 AM
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Hello :) I've been lurking for a long time, maybe over a year now, but I've not posted as of yet and I would like to start contributing more now that I am internalising RPW concepts more! My goals are to keep improving my appearance and fitness, learn to cook, and to improve my mindset and behaviours so that I am more in tune with my femininity, and of course I would like to find a good captain and be in an LTR heading towards marriage. I'm quite young though and haven't had a relationship befor…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 07:37 PM
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