Date Night Megathread!

Camille11325 · 2017-01-28T20:57:47+00:00

One thing that I've heard from couples that have been together for 10+ years is that you have to continue to date each other. I think that setting aside time as your schedule allows is a great way to maintain the "fire" because you're always intentionally doing things to preserve the sense of lust and excitement. A break from everyday life is essential and having a designated time where you don't worry about your responsibilities is so helpful in relieving the sense of pressure that may be weighing on you both.

M and I try to have a weekly official "date night" where we put in extra effort to look our best and go on a traditional date. We choose any day Thursday - Sunday and we don't talk about his work or anything stressful. It's all about having fun and enjoying each other. Tonight is actually a date night and I'll be wearing some new lingerie as a surprise!

Does anyone else have a regular date night?!

teaandtalk · 2017-01-28T21:20:30+00:00

Our date rules = no talking about work/home chores (eg home improvement, what we should plant in the garden, etc). We've been slack lately, due to busy schedules with moving home and a hectic period at work.

A couple of small dates we've managed to fit in this/last week:

A coffee date yesterday, trying a cafe we hadn't been to in years, and discussing the coffee/ambiance
Buying fish and chips (pro tip: call ahead so you can just pick it up instead of waiting around, and BYO tomato sauce) and went to the local dog park to look at dogs and sit by the river.
Trying a new Chinese restaurant: my husband had never had a pork bun, and I loved seeing his reaction to that strange taste!

As long as it's not work or work-related, our dates can be pretty relaxed when we're stressed. By putting boundaries on the conversation, it's a good chance to reconnect and take some time out to stare into each other's eyes, make fun of bad coffee, and try new things.

[deleted] · 2017-01-29T02:25:26+00:00

G and I love to cook and try new foods. Fortunately, we live in an area teeming with restaurants! Twice a month we dine out and just enjoy the evening together. On the weekends we don't go out, we cook something we have never made before. Some times it doesn't work out/smoke alarm goes off so we end up having a laugh and order a pizza instead.

One of our most memorable dates was right after Christmas as part of a Christmas gift. He has quite the sense of humor, and ended up giving me an LED night light for the toilet (it's a thing and amazing) as his big gift. G was really enthusiastic about the toilet night light and said we needed to try it out right away!

Inside the box, tucked next to the light was a slip of paper with a confirmation slip. He had surprised me with a reservation at a 2 Michelin star restaurant in Chicago for a 10 course tasting meal! That sneaky guy!

We ended up having a wonderful evening of wine, exceptional food, laughter, and conversation over the course of the meal which lasted 4 hours. Truely a special night!

Another memorable date with food involved him teaching me how to get crab out of its shell like a pro somewhere along the Chesapeake in Maryland. At this tiny place, they roll out butcher paper and let you go to town. It was messy and fun! He used to live in that region and often came to that restaurant. Some of the waitresses even remembered him. It was really special to be introduced to something that was a part of his life several years ago. :)

mabeol · 2017-01-29T04:08:03+00:00

There is nothing my SO loves more than date night IN with a homemade meal. I love to cook, and he's a very adventurous eater, so I'm constantly trying new recipes. I've made risotto, caponata, dan dan noodles, pizza (crust from scratch!), all sorts of things. He also loves to be in the kitchen when I'm cooking for butt patting/pinching, smooch stealing, and other forms of grab-ass.

We've been watching Planet Earth II together too. Very fun. Although it's giving us wanderlust something fierce.

That being said, we like to try new things too. Recently we went rock climbing at a local bouldering gym and had a blast! He's crazy strong so it was really fun to watch him tackle some of the tougher courses. I was a total Princess Daphne, clapping and smiling whenever he finished one. He definitely liked that :)

mylifeisavacation · 2017-01-29T14:14:21+00:00

My husband and I live in a city and one of our favorite day dates is taking books we've read and walking them down to our local used bookstore for store credit. We spend the next hour looking for new ones. Walk home, read, repeat! When we were in closer proximity to a record shop we would do the same with our vinyl...most shops have $1.00 and under bins where you can pick out some fun things you've never heard of. If it turns out to be terrible you get to laugh together and then bring them right back for another round.

cherries13 · 2017-01-28T21:31:52+00:00

I've always enjoyed all of the dates with N, he's always got something interesting planned, and even if it's just a dinner or staying in and ordering food I still enjoy his company immensely.

Just wanted to share a particular cute (at least I think!) moment, we had plans to go to a local restaurant but on the way we noticed that there was a full moon out so he decided to take a detour for better views (he had lived in the area previously so was familiar with it). We ended up walking through the streets to find this place, almost getting lost on the way haha, it was so quiet, not a single soul out despite it being a residential area. I remember looking over at him at some point whilst he was trying to remember the way and having this feeling of 'holy shit this guy is my bf :o' and having this pang of intimidation at how attractive he was haha

Turns out there was a small hill (with like a million steps to reach the top) not known to many people with great views of the city and I just thought it was so cute! He mentioned coming back to the place to have a picnic sometime when the weather was better (cue meltiness)

whistling_dixie · 2017-01-29T14:17:52+00:00

Our date nights are always sporting events - I know, you're all entirely shocked. :) In the fall and winter we go to hockey games and in the spring and summer we go to baseball games.

If you're at all into sports, I highly recommend looking into your local minor level teams - we have a single A baseball team in town, we can have a fairly cheap date out there. $20 for two tickets, then whatever you spend on food and drinks. Occasionally, the park will open up the VIP section to the public with all-you-can-eat/drink tickets, which is a pretty good deal if you want to go drink a lot of beer (sometimes we do, no shame in our game). That usually means we spend about $60ish for the whole day, and then an Uber back home is another $8. We have a USHL hockey team near us as well, and they offer similar deals.

Jayms · 2017-01-30T14:17:35+00:00

It's not exactly a date night but my hubby loves board games and we used to play them a lot when we were first dating but hadn't played them much lately. He would comment how I never wanted to play anymore and I had got lazy about setting them up (lots of pieces vs. playing the iOS version or on the Wii). So after reading The Surrendered Wife, I decided to make an effort to play them more often and have a board game night once a week.

So now I suggest playing a game and we've been playing a lot more. I'm enjoying it more too now that I got over the mental block of setting up all the pieces, not to mention knowing it's a way to show love to him. And he's loving it too so it's a win-win! :)

RedPurpleWhite · 2017-01-30T14:24:16+00:00

We went to a historic landmark and were able to find some of SO's family's immigration records from way back when! It was like a little treasure hunt and because it's cold, there weren't too many tourists.

whitebunny87 · 2017-01-31T03:35:05+00:00

we've been on some really fun snorkeling dates recently! SO is into his scuba diving in a big way but it's not for me, so he went out and bought me everything I need to snorkel and has been taking me out to his favourite spots. we've seen so many beautiful big fish and sting rays and even a huge old sea turtle!

it's so amazing down there and such fun to have him show me a side of the world that he knows so well. i love that in scenarios where i'd normally be nervous (swimming in big swell near rocks, seeing a big sting ray) he'll take my hand and swim with me and i just feel completely safe and at ease. I know that he'd never put me in danger and just love that he wants to share his hobbies with me!

we'll usually have a couple of beers on the beach after our snorkel then head some all salty and happy for a quiet night in. it's just perfect.

sunfloweries · 2017-01-30T15:28:04+00:00

Lately we've been taking Sunday mornings to go on long walks through the neighborhoods, putting some books into Little Free Libraries along the way. J buys us coffee, I look through our books to pick a few good ones, and we head out. He's been aiming for an average of 15k steps per day, so this knocks it out early so he can relax and do whatever he wants on Sunday. I end up with around 20k/day as a result.

I really like it because in my morning & afternoon walks by myself, it's nice to see the books have already disappeared the next day! Not only that, but we run a small blog featuring cute houses we see in our city, and we get a ton of shots every week this way.

littleeggwyf · 2017-01-30T16:38:28+00:00

Our date nights aren't 100% regular, because it depends on babysitting and length of time we can make together alone or if it's an evening at home. But we're trying to make it a bit more of a regular thing. Work is definitely not a topic for discussion, and hubs turns his phone off!

If it's an evening I always try to make the outfit for a date something new or something particularly nice. Full makeup for 'going out', and if we're meeting away from home I'll keep the outfit secret to be a surprise.

Recently we've had some very nice daytime dates, we'll walk somewhere or have a relaxed wander around then have a nice lunch or picnic if nowhere is that appealing. The last one we walked through a forest near us to a ruined 12th century church and carried a little picnic and it was just beautiful and really nice to be all isolated and peaceful :)

I think it depends what we need, romance is more evening dates and daytime ones are more relaxing together in a very peaceful bubble. Sometimes a day date could even just be a little walk and me making bread for a ploughman's lunch at home if we haven't got long, but it's time as a couple without thinking about work or housework!

rkelley728 · 2017-01-30T16:57:24+00:00

All of these sound fabulous! We need to get into a regular date night schedule. It has always been something that's lacking for is. Military life makes it overly difficult, no family to watch our kiddos and good friends are few and far between. Seems like whenever we get close enough to another family we can trade babysitting with, one of us ends up moving. I miss going out with the hubs! He's getting ready to deploy though so hopefully by the time he gets back, I'll be settled in enough to our new town that we can start up a date night routine. Until then, I'll just have to live vicariously through you wonderful ladies ;)

Title	Date Night Megathread!
Author	RPWives
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Date	January 28, 2017 7:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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