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The self-made man, for a lot of the reasons that have already been mentioned: clearly driven, creative, hard worker, self taught. My SO falls more into this category, and his creativity and drive are so attractive. He's definitely a risk taker, but he's very smart about it. It's really fun to hear him talk about his latest idea and watch him think his way through it. I think the self-made millionaire in your example would have a lot of these traits. I also would appreciate the flexibility. Of co…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 02:24 AM
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I'll be super curious to see how fasting and sprinting in the same day goes! I've always been too nervous to try that. Good luck! Edited to add: I'm realizing my "good luck" may have sounded sarcastic, but it was not meant that way at all! I really do hope it goes well for you and that you see awesome results.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 01:41 AM
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Meals I've been dealing with low energy and mid-morning slumps and, after talking it over with my SO, I came up with a new meal plan that i believe will address the issue. Today is Day 1... and so far, SO GOOD. Basically, I want to keep it up with this new plan. Additionally, I want to keep a fairly comprehensive MyFitnessPal log for the month so I can track low energy days and see if there's a correlation with my food choices. Fitness Run 3x per week (2 weekday, 1 weekend), yoga 2x per week (1 …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 01:40 AM
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WOW, this is gold. Pure gold. Thank you for this. RPW has taught me a lot about expecting more from myself and knowing that I can choose to be better and do better. I think this speaks to the male side of it. A man doesn't have to be at the mercy of his anger. There are mature, healthy, productive ways to manage and channel anger at his disposal - and he is both admirable and attractive when he chooses one of those over a tantrum.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 06:04 PM
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Oh boy, that's a tough, important question. I won't pretend to be the final authority on this subject, and this is far from a comprehensive dissection, but I do have some thoughts to share, having been in an emotionally abusive relationship. Painting with a broad brush, I think it comes down to a man's goal when he communicates with you. If his goal is to communicate a concept to you (i.e. "I was hurt by what you said," or "I think a different dress would be more flattering," or "I've noticed yo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 05:48 PM
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How about dessert or a fun drink when he comes home? Hot chocolate, a cocktail, his favorite beer, or just fresh cookies from the oven.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 12:54 AM
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The one thing that really stood out to me as a brilliant "action item" was to facilitate anticipation. I loved how she talked about this as a way to create excitement and cultivate sensuality leading up to sex. You know the old saying: men are like microwaves, women are like ovens. Start preheating well in advance of dinner time! I definitely like it when my SO and I are playfully hinting all day. It helps me relax and be more present because I've been making headspace for it all day rather than…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 11:39 AM
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My SO and I love to go hiking together! Optional bonus that does require an upfront investment: we both have hammocks, so we'll often bring the hammocks in a backpack and hike until we find a place to string them up, then just chill for a while and talk, read, stare at the trees around us. I highly recommend it. Gets you both moving and soaking up some nature goodness, plus it usually facilitates great conversation. Also, make dinner together. Find a fun recipe and start chopping. It's a good wa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 11:29 AM
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So first, I have to say, I have a habit of thinking out loud to my cat, and after I read this, I said to her, "Cock Klepto is really wise, kitty." And the silliness of it gave me a much-needed laugh. So thank you for that! Thank you for the perspective on how/what he's probably thinking. I definitely needed to hear it from someone else. I will leave it be. And I will come running back here for a bonk on the head if I start feeling tempted to push the issue! And you're right about the fact that h…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:53 PM
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Oh, this is so very wise. Thank you so much for writing this up. Your perspective is so helpful. I think you're right about not ruining a good thing by rushing to the next thing. My phrasing probably gave him the impression that I was tapping my watch, so I will go into the next stage of the conversation (when he brings it up again) with a more exploratory approach so I don't accidentally turn on the pressure cooker. And yes, you're right: he does feel drained. And then I went and accidentally t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:44 PM
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I totally agree that travel is a great cohabitation test! We've traveled together quite a bit, and I noticed right away that we handle stressful situations well together, i.e. no snapping at or blaming each other. I also like your point about independence. We actually use that word a lot, since it definitely applies to both of us, and it would be great to approach the situation in a positive way, like, "Okay, keeping this important factor in mind... how should we make sure we both feel happy and…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:34 PM
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I appreciate and understand your concern on this. I should provide some historical context: I asked him on our third date what he was looking for in a date and where he saw his future going. He said that he did want to get married someday and emphasized the fact that he was looking for a (his exact words) "stable partner," as opposed to something casual. We've also had a lot of conversations about vague future things involving both of us, i.e. "Maybe in a few years we could do xx," and he's alwa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:30 PM
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I really like your thoughts on how to approach the conversation in the future, i.e. making it about "here's what we want, individually and as a couple, now let's brainstorm how we can make all that happen" as opposed to "here's what I want vs. here's what you want." What a thoughtful way to gather information without pressuring him! I do wish I'd had this thought yesterday, but I will definitely take this approach when it comes up again. He responds well to that sort of thing (we like to brainst…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:22 PM
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I won't bog you down in details, but I remember a situation in college in which it would've been very, very easy for me to cheat on my long-time boyfriend and get away with it. I didn't really consider going through with it, but I vividly remember thinking through the logistics of how, exactly, I could initiate the dalliance and hide the evidence. It was a little scary just how easy it was - and I realized, in that moment, that he probably had been in or would be in similar situations in which i…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 10:27 PM
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So you are saying...open the gifts he gives you, not the ones he doesn't! Ha! I love this! You pretty much nailed it. And yes, some people, men and women, just aren't great at verbally expressing their love. Doesn't mean the love isn't there! My SO isn't especially poetic, but he gives lots of hugs and kisses and likes to help me with tasks whenever he can. He also loves just spending quality time together. Those are the ways he expresses love. Now that I know to look for those things, I don't w…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 12:18 PM
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I remember having a really unsatisfying conversation with a boyfriend when we were apart for a few weeks and being really upset and worried about it. I mentioned it to my mom, who has been happily married for 30 years, and she said, "Sweetie, I still occasionally will hang up the phone after talking to your dad and think, 'Ugh that wasn't a very good conversation.'" It's normal for phone communications to be weird. Even weirder when one or both partners are kind of at the mercy of someone else's…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 02:12 AM
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5) Don't eat past 7pm YES I forgot about this. Me too.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 02:01 PM
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OMG this is so great! Thank you! Have you tried this? I've seen similar tutorials using sock buns, but I think I like her final curls better.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 02:00 PM
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If this is something you're really considering, stop being physical with him immediately while you make your decision. Physical intimacy can cloud your judgment, and you need your full faculties before diving into something like this. I think u/kekerae pretty much covered it. Unless he is VERY actively pursuing recovery and/or is already sober, it should be a hard next. If he's had encounters with the law, that can limit his ability to find steady employment, and relapse can jeopardize that as w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 01:48 PM
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Taking notes over here. Beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 04:21 AM
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YES agreed! Physical touch is like the exclamation point on your compliment and lets it soak in. It also gives him a chance to blush and grumble good-naturedly if he's not used to getting compliments. He can just return your affection instead of feeling like he has to respond eloquently. At least this seems to be the case with my SO!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 04:18 AM
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Do 1000 sun salutations in June. 24 down! I have a spreadsheet. Meal plan consistently. This means weekly meal prep. I fell off the wagon HARD in May and my body is craving some normalcy. Secondary goal: eat as many of those meals as possible out on my patio. Decorate my living room and kitchen walls. It will make my space so lovely! My mom helped me rearrange my living space when she was in town (she has such an eye for that kind of thing), and now I can't wait to get the finishing touches in p…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 03:56 AM
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Receptivity was the single biggest thing I had to master when venturing into the realm of psychological femininity. You have to learn to receive. Women these days are expected to be able to do everything themselves, and while there's nothing inherently wrong with that, we've entered this mindset where we equate allowing someone to do something for us with an inability to do it ourselves. I.e. I can pay for my own dinner, I don't need a man! I don't need a compliment from a man in order to feel p…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 03:46 PM
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'I'm an independent woman and I shouldn't have to change myself for any man' attitude. I definitely struggled with this in the beginning of my RPW days, but there are two pieces that make this easier for me to embrace: "...for any man." It's not for any man. It's for YOUR man. Your awesome sexy superhero of an SO. He's worth it! "I shouldn't have to..." Emphasis mine. You don't have to. You're choosing to. This is a choice you make, not an enforced law that you're required to follow. Laura Doyle…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 03:21 PM
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I made it clear to my SO pretty early on that I wouldn't have sex with him until we were commited, exclusive, and official. All told, our first romp in the hay happened just over two months after our first date. Sooner than I originally anticipated but I felt very secure and confident in that decision, not to mention the relationship. He was very understanding while also being vocal about wanting to have sex. But it was more along the lines of "I'm so excited to have sex with you when the time c…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 02:55 AM
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Did we just become best friends?!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 01:53 PM
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It's like that line from Little Women! "You don't need scores of suitors. You only need one, if he's the right one."
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 03:08 AM
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Lack of resourcefulness. Not only do I find this unattractive, it speaks to an inability to make leadership decisions, which matters both professionally and in a relationship. Insecurity about my level of physical activity. I do a lot of running, yoga, hiking/backpacking, and kayaking. I don't need a guy to be as active as me (assuming he takes good care of himself), but if he gets really weird and defensive when I talk about all the stuff I do, I'm out. Ditto my sobriety. If a guy's not cool wi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:09 PM
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Oh, this made me smile.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 01:49 AM
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As a vegan runner, I used to say that I would only date a vegan runner, because I was under the impression that these traits belonged to someone who would totally understand and relate to me. Then I dated a vegan runner, and he was incredibly abusive and manipulative and treated me like garbage, so... that theory went out the window and I flailed around ideologically for a while before realizing a more sound theory. The alignment of "surface level" traits doesn't matter as much as the alignment …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 01:48 AM
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I have no issue with pet names, and I swear my SO makes up a new one every time he sees or texts me. I get all the regulars, like sweetheart, babe, baby, honey, and sometimes babygirl (I'm with u/rainbowkitty77, I sort of love it...). But then I also get "peanut pumpkin," "sweet peat," "chickpea," and all sorts of other goofy stuff. Never a dull moment! What's funny is that I have one of those names that just begs for nicknames, and most people call me by a nickname... except my SO. None of his …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 01:31 AM
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Thank you! He's a wonderful man :) Yeah, unexpected job loss changed my priorities pretty aggressively for a while... thankfully, I've secured and will be starting a new (and way better in all ways) job quite soon! My SO was my rock for this whole insane process. So in awe of him. It's good to be back!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 12:14 PM
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Okay, so I am replying to this one million years later (took a Reddit break for a while), but they are GREAT! We made this recipe and he absolutely loves them. The coconut oil gives them a really velvety texture, and they're oddly light. Definitely use maple syrup and not honey, since the salt tends to stick to the honey and results in really nasty salty bites, lol! But yes, definitely recommend!
/r/RedPillWives18/05/17 01:59 PM
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but each one of us's willingness to help make the other's life easier is which matters the most in feeling like we're partners. Okay, I love everything you said, but I really love this. So much. It reminds me of this article. My SO is perfectly capable of cooking for himself, but a warm bowl of his favorite homemade risotto on a cold Friday night after a stressful week has so much more value than calories and nutrients. It saves him a chore, and it makes him feel loved! Plus it's served with a h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:49 PM
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YES on the small talk! My SO absolutely hates it and knows he can just keep an arm around me and chuckle at appropriate times and otherwise trust that I'll entertain whomever has wandered over to us. I love how it translated into compliments for him! Well done!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:44 PM
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I’ll preface this by saying I don’t live with my SO, so this list isn’t a full picture of what a wife would offer. I cook for my SO all the time. He can cook a few things but tends to be a pretty basic chef. When I’m cooking, he gets really delicious food (and some variety), along with companionship, a listening ear, and the knowledge that the meal he’s eating was made with love just for him. It’s not just about the food; it’s emotional support! I also help him with recipes that he makes himself…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:43 PM
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That and it's totally expected and support when women make decisions for the Home Team, but if a man makes it, it's ~oppression~ ...? I'm all for my man making decisions!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:15 PM
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Goodness gracious, do I love this! Great insights and honesty! but it's hard to gush about your BF without being seen as boring, lame, unintellectual. I brood a lot on the phrase "a servant's heart." That's an ideal that transcends femininity and masculinity but has a particular relationship with the feminine, and it's one I consciously want to cultivate. I seek to be nurturing, un-egotistical, supportive, to want to serve my darling life partner. Not all men, not men in general, not "men" the p…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:14 PM
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There's no real RP answer except to know the risks and benefits and make sound choices that get you to your goal. I agree with this 110%. Well put.
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 08:42 PM
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I also don't like it because it completely removes the romance from the dating process. I do agree with this to some extent, and it’s a challenge my SO and I talked about on our first date. He observed that he didn’t meet as many new people in his day-to-day life as he liked to think he did, which is why he went the online route. There’s not much cute or romantic about our “how we met” story, because it essentially boils down to “We both swiped right because the other person was hot and we had s…
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 08:40 PM
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Really thought-provoking article, thank you for sharing. I think about this in my own workplace a lot. My job is an interesting balance of creativity (writing, planning, indirect customer service, design, web creation) and structure (analytics, data, numbers, deadlines). I’ve observed that I find myself in a good “flow” more easily when I’m working through a project that’s less aggressively structured or goal-oriented. When I’m discussing a really analytics/data-heavy project with my boss, it’s …
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 08:07 PM
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Feminism fought for women to be able to enter the workforce, which was a mans world. Feminism didn't change the workplace; it's still designed with men in mind. YES! So much this! The competitive rat-race one-up-manship of the workplace is not feminine and I find it incredibly taxing and exhausting. I do notice that when things are tough at work, I end up physically feeling worse or getting sick. Completely agreed. I tend to carry anxiety in my stomach, and I notice that icky, heavy feeling when…
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 07:40 PM
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Tinder is excellent for vetting, you just have to develop the skills to do so. Exactly this! You just have to be smart about it. Great list, too!
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 04:02 PM
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I’m grateful for this amazing warm weather we’ve been having! I’m grateful to have such wonderful girlfriends. I spent a lot of time with them this weekend, and I just cannot believe how lucky I am. I’m grateful to my SO for being so caring and supportive. I’ve had a tough couple of weeks (not really feeling like myself) and got socked by horrible cramps yesterday, and he came over just to keep me company on the couch. It was really sweet. And we’ve both agreed that I should go see a counselor t…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 05:51 PM
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I'm making the first beans and rice recipe on here to wrap up in tortillas with hummus and spinach. Such an easy meal. Also eating up some red pepper barley stew leftovers and making vegan broccoli "cheese" soup tomorrow! It's my birthday week, so I'm eating out at least twice, if not three times. Making sure my home-cooked meals are all of the healthy-and-make-me-feel-good variety!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 05:35 PM
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Oh my gosh, can we be best friends?! Are you guys vegan?
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 05:32 PM
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Great article, and a topic currently near and dear to my heart. I walked away from an abusive relationship about a year and a half ago, and I’ve identified some patterns that I’m working to break, so #3 really resonated with me. A lot of people have identified me as the victim in my old relationship, and they are technically right. I was emotionally and verbally abused and have no doubt that it would’ve escalated to physical abuse had I stayed around longer. I walked away more or less in one pie…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 05:29 PM
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You both get upvotes for making me LOL
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 05:05 PM
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Making it clear you want dates and a relationship, making those dates in public, non sketchy places in Normal times of the day, not allowing escalation past a certain point, and only having sex after verbally agreed exclusivity would weed out players, but also most of your attractive options from tinder. This was my experience, and I actually see that as a good thing. I like the fact that a massive percentage of dudes are knocked out of the running so easily, since it leads you to the good ones …
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 05:02 PM
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I'm totally Team Tinder! I met my SO on there, as well as the only other guy who made it past Date 1 when I was single. I'm a total broken record on this, but here are the things I like about Tinder: Pre-vetting. Guys can only message you if you've pre-approved them by swiping right. No sifting through dozens of "hey" and "wanna make out" messages. I believe this is also appealing to men, the pursuers, since they aren't sending message after message into the ether with no hope of response. The w…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 04:48 PM
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Congratulations, bunny! So happy for you!!
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 04:14 PM
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If we write a screenplay, we're hire you all as extras!
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 07:52 PM
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Challenge wholeheartedly accepted!
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 01:28 PM
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Haha I love you so much
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:52 PM
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and clicked the link out of curiosity. Oh boy. Haha this is the most perfect and succinct description of what it's like to find RP for the first time!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:49 PM
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Sometimes I wonder how many of them are really just burning out from the hyper-PC, liberal, snowflake, identity politics raises hand I am indeed pretty liberal, politically, but the type of liberals produced by tumblr are just... so wearying.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:41 PM
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I'm making this tahini fudge this weekend, and I am so pumped. I've been wanting to make it ever since I got the cookbook, and I just discovered that the Mediterranean grocery by my apartment sells the most perfect dates! I also have Monday off work, which makes me even more pumped!! Also, for the keto fans, my SO and I are going to make these fat bombs for him, since he's having a hard time putting on any weight right now (bulking cycle). I'll report back!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:38 PM
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My IRL bestie once mentioned the concept to me. She seemed a little skeptical of the premise when she was sharing it, and I got curious and went looking. Like most, I was pretty shocked at first, but as I read more and more, I started to think about and agree with a lot of what I was reading and made a Reddit account (I wasn’t a Reddit user beforehand) and started participating. I casually mentioned to her that I’d been reading it, and there was this funny testing of the waters, where we were bo…
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 06:04 PM
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Yes! This is exactly why I've stopped engaging in political debates on social media. No one (including me) is feeling open-minded in that space, and no one is going to admit they're wrong and change their views in such a public setting.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:55 PM
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I think so, just skip the 2 tablespoons of water it calls for in the beginning of the recipe mixed with the ener-g - and report back! :)
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:52 PM
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I made these corn muffins recently, and they were really delicious! Super easy and FAST. But it definitely made twelve muffins, not six.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:45 PM
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Love your last paragraph! It's so true. That openness and vulnerability is what leads to true liberation and way better sexy time.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 02:50 PM
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A number of very important points here. I first want to address this widespread call for women to be sexually liberated. Sure, sexual liberation is so very important for women. It could be one of the most important issues for us to focus on for the sake of women, because it encourages them to feel free and happy. After all, sex can reduce stress. But wait. Free, happy, and liberated? Liberated in what? This is important. Because, it’s one thing for women to be liberated in their sexuality, and i…
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 08:32 PM
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Not romantic, but he was practically over the moon. This was my mom's reaction when my dad replaced her broken and beloved two-cup Pampered Chef liquid measuring cup. Sometimes the least traditionally romantic gifts are actually the most romantic because they so delight the other person - and because their partner is the only one who really understands just how much joy the gift brings them! So glad your man was happy!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:18 AM
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We've discovered that gifts aren't either of our love languages so we don't really bother with gifts. But I did make him a card! I hand-stitched a burlap heart onto a red-and-white background with red-and-white embroidery floss so it has this kind of lumberjack Valentine feel to it, and he just loved it. I got a big bear hug and lots of kisses in response! It's now displayed on his desk next to the Christmas card I made for him :) makes me so happy!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:15 AM
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He took me to this really wonderful restaurant in the city without knowing that it's totally one of my favorites! It was so sweet and perfect. We had a wonderful time. And he looked soooo handsome all dressed up! Hmm... that's a great question! I don't know if I've fully reflected on it (the decision to get it again was mostly made based on the fact that it is a massive pain in the ass to search for a new job when you don't have wifi at home), but I'm pretty proud of myself for "making it" so lo…
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 04:11 AM
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I hope your little one feels better soon!
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 06:52 PM
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He has told me over and over that he is a catch. My mom always says that if someone has to tell you what they are, they probably aren't whatever they claim to be.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 06:50 PM
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I would agree there are some issues that he is more sensitive about - but sometimes I won't know until he is upset. This is a red flag, IMO. You should be able to trust your partner's reactions, in some way, and trust that he won't lash out at you unexpectedly. If something does set him off, he should be able to handle himself like an adult and practice some restraint. You should not constantly live in fear of him getting fired up over new topics.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 06:49 PM
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This is extraordinarily well phrased.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 06:47 PM
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I've said this before, and I know this is a very unpopular opinion, but I had the most success on Tinder. For a few reasons: You have complete control over who can talk to you. Random creeps cannot send you messages; only guys who you've "swiped right" can. And if they end up being creepy? Unmatch, and they can't find you again. It’s very, very easy to spot guys who are just looking for plates. You can weed out bad eggs very quickly. I have a suspicion the pool is bigger. Because a Tinder profil…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 07:22 PM
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I’m preemptively grateful to my SO for a wonderful Valentine’s Day! He sent me a text yesterday telling me to be ready by 6 tonight and to dress nice. I have no idea what he has in mind, and I’m sure I will totally love it! I’m so excited! I’m grateful for such wonderful girlfriends. I’ve had a really tough couple of weeks, and I finally opened up to a few of my friends about it (be vulernable!), and they were so supportive and loving and understanding. I’m grateful for wifi! I haven’t had inter…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 07:07 PM
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Oooh enjoy! My SO loves it!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 06:59 PM
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I love Singing in the Rain so much. It's my go-to happy movie, and the clothes are so fun!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 05:31 AM
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Mapo tofu? Tell me more!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:10 AM
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I made this red lentil chili with these corn muffins, and it was a delicious combo. The chili makes great lunches, and the muffins add good texture. Plus they're super fast to whip together! Also am a big fan of these vegan buckeyes! They have toasted millet in them, which adds a nice crunch. Really great recipe, highly recommend!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:09 AM
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Whoa, this has completely changed my mindset. Upon reflection, the folks I was thinking about were indeed women. Thanks for the perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 07:36 PM
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The thing I love about Laura Doyle is how actionable her advice is. She doesn't get so crazy specific that you feel like a robot, so you can really tailor it to your man and your relationship, but she gives clear guidance on what steps to take.
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 05:40 PM
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They claim it's because trans women can't truly understand what it is to be women and could always regain their 'privilege' by transitioning back to being men. Haha I've heard this perspective before and I'm always like... for Pete's sake. It's privilege bean counting.
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 04:53 PM
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Upvote for the fact that I did not see that joke coming.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 01:34 PM
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So true. That and I often am reminded of many people's deepseated fear of being alone. I am of the opinion that being alone is a good thing and indeed a better thing than being with the wrong person, and i suspect many feel that way, but it's much easier in theory than in practice.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 01:07 PM
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Books on the brain this week. Has anyone read Dear Lover by David Deida? The Amazon reviews are really mixed, and I wanted to know what the RPWi community thought before buying it. I just finished reading this book, and I totally want to talk to someone about it! Has anyone else read it? So it follows that "super cranky, bitter, disenfranchised, pain-in-the-ass girl who doesn't care about her appearance snags the hottest hunk around" trope, which I'm growing weary of, but there was this really i…
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 06:36 PM
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Thanks! Maybe it'll be my Valentine's Day gift to me :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 01:02 AM
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Beautifully stated. The last two paragraphs really resonated with me. I think this extends to your SO to some extent, too. My SO brings so much joy and stability to my life, but it’s not like I’d recruit him for craft night! I have my girlfriends for that, but he’s my go-to guy when I want an adventure. Obviously my SO is different than a friend in many ways, but he does fit into the equation. On a different note, I appreciate your writeup of what introversion looks like for you. My SO is very, …
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 03:50 PM
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I hear you on the drinking thing. I also don't/can't drink, and it's not always an issue, but sometimes it is. I tend to leave parties very early because drunkenness is so off-putting to me. I have very few friends who don't drink ever, but I have a mix of friends who drink to stupidity versus friends who make responsible decisions. I have a lot of opinions about alcohol culture... feel free to PM me if you want to talk more! Suffice to say, it's hard to suss out sober friends, but I believe the…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 03:40 PM
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Here's a snippet from Amazon: Every woman knows the fairy tale: find the right man, give him what he wants and needs, and he'll love you forever. But when the myth you've been asked to believe fails to deliver—when you sense you've been settling for far less than you know in your heart is possible—how do you attract and keep a man capable of meeting what you most passionately yearn for? He's written a few things that the TRP dudes really like, but this particular book is geared toward women. The…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 02:54 PM
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I'm really sorry it went south with your friend. Those things can be hard even when they're for the best. I, for one, am super thankful that you're around here. I love your perspectives! I have a friend who I don't talk to about my relationship for the exact same reason. Many of my friends can listen to me be frustrated about my SO and understand that it's just a bummer situation, not a sign that a breakup is imminent or evidence that he's destructive and abusive. This particular friend, on the …
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 02:53 PM
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Preach. I get so much mileage out of that expression.
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 12:54 PM
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Has anyone read Dear Lover by David Deida? Thoughts?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 07:55 PM
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Thanks for writing this up. Very thought provoking. I'm curious how many younger people will refuse to see it simply because of the negative connotation of the Red Pill "brand." RP means nothing to my parents, so if the synopsis is compelling to them, they'll watch it. Other folks, on the other hand, might boycott it just because it's got the RP label on it, without stopping to consider what the film is actually about it and the message it sends. Nothing to be done about it now, of course, but I…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 07:38 PM
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I agree with literally everything you said! But I had a girlfriend who told me I was being prude and wanted to "corrupt" me What is with this attitude from some women?! I had so many friends in college say similar things to me. Like, dudes, we can still be friends even if our life choices differ in some ways! Let me make good choices! Let me be a happy sober virgin with an early bedtime in peace! XD
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 07:16 PM
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I’m feeling very conflicted about this article. It’s a long read, but a very intriguing one. Curious to get your thoughts. On the one hand, I like how boldly she claims that low-value friends who suck the life out of you are not worth your time. I think it’s very important to pay attention to the kinds of people you’re spending time with and what value they bring to your life. I have logged hours of meaningful conversation with my best friend. We challenge each other, we tackle tough stuff, we r…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 05:17 PM
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So true, this was such a game changer for me! If someone's day sucks, you can support them perfectly well even if your day didn't also suck.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 12:43 PM
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SAME. Poor guy, just got smacked with more bad news at work, and I know it's going to suck up a lot of his time and attention, and I have to remind myself that it's not about me and the best way I can support him is to respect that, give him space, be ready when he wants some TLC, and not make it about me.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 12:41 PM
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Oh dear, I read too fast! I'll add one :) thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 03:05 AM
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I'm healthy! I run or do yoga almost every day, and I eat a great diet. Lots of veggies, legumes, nuts, seeds. I'm a really good cook! I love new recipes. Cooking for my SO is one of my favorite things, and he is often just beside himself over the things I make for him. It's the best. I'm a good problem solver. If an issue comes up with our IT/web/database stuff at work, I handle it. I have a good sense of self worth, and I don't take things personally. I can make friends very easily. I'm very o…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 01:46 AM
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I love mineral oil massage on my face. It feels so luxurious (even though it's the same stuff I use on my cutting board). I also really love getting massages. When I'm a rich lady, I will go like every other week.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 01:33 AM
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I love mineral oil massage on my face. It feels so luxurious (even though it's the same stuff I use on my cutting board). I also really love getting massages. When I'm a rich lady, I will go like every other week.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 01:33 AM
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I love mineral oil massage on my face. It feels so luxurious (even though it's the same stuff I use on my cutting board). I also really love getting massages. When I'm a rich lady, I will go like every other week.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 01:33 AM
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I'm grateful for my childhood. I went to my childhood home for the last time (my parents are moving), and we spent some time telling stories and remembering things together. It was so much fun, and I'm so thankful for having spent my formative years in such a wonderful home. I'm grateful for the wisdom of my parents. They're brilliant, thoughtful, self aware, and kind. They've taught me so much. I'm so proud of them for taking on a new adventure together. I'm thankful for a conversation I had wi…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 01:27 AM
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I LOVE PPK! Her everyday pad Thai is so delicious! She also had a wild rice stew recipe in one of her cookbooks that is just divine. Perfect for cold weather!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 12:44 PM
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Here goes. Not naturally organized. My apartment gets untidy FAST if I'm not careful. And I'll put off even small cleaning tasks if I'm tired. Gossipy. Working on this one. Not great with money. Again, working on it. I've never really been intentional about finances. No time like the present to get started! Keeping up with hobbies. I'm great about running. Not so with my creative outlets. I'm much happier when I take the time for these things.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 01:36 AM
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Making this chickpea sunflower sandwich for quick suppers this week! It's so flavorful and delicious and easy. I made this Sicilian eggplant and pine nut caponata for my SO. I served it with toasted ciabatta, and he loved it. It's a fantastic recipe! Highly recommended. I imagine it would be fantastic for a picnic or porch dinner.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 01:27 AM
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There is nothing my SO loves more than date night IN with a homemade meal. I love to cook, and he's a very adventurous eater, so I'm constantly trying new recipes. I've made risotto, caponata, dan dan noodles, pizza (crust from scratch!), all sorts of things. He also loves to be in the kitchen when I'm cooking for butt patting/pinching, smooch stealing, and other forms of grab-ass. We've been watching Planet Earth II together too. Very fun. Although it's giving us wanderlust something fierce. Th…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 04:08 AM
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However, in all these cases 1) There's nothing inherently negative about either side of the ying-yang. 2) The deficit itself can be a surplus of a different kind and therefore grounding as a counterbalance 3) There may be other areas where the ying-yang is reversed. This is brilliant. Great post.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:52 PM
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Ooh... let me ponder. I'll have some down time this weekend, mind if I send you a draft before posting?
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 05:29 PM
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This is a great article. I love this thought: One of the central concepts I teach is that at any given moment, we are operating from one of two possible intentions: The intention to learn about loving ourselves and others. The intention to protect against pain with some form of controlling behavior. My mom always tells us that you should never fight to win, because when your goal is simply to win, then you're turning your partner into a loser. Wise woman.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 05:27 PM
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parents who “engage in bedtime-stories activities” should definitely at least feel kinda bad about it sometimes The author's phrasing is hilarious. “I don’t think parents reading their children bedtime stories should constantly have in their minds the way that they are unfairly disadvantaging other people’s children, but I think they should have that thought occasionally,” he said. FFS.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 05:19 PM
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This eggplant caponata recipe is really delicious. I made it last night for my SO, and we scooped it up with toasted ciabatta. He absolutely loved it! I think it would be really good for a picnic in the summer too. Also a treat for you bullet journal babes!
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 05:14 PM
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That whole last paragraph is GOLD. Well put, my friend.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 05:10 PM
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OMG I love Salty Violet! Here's the original post about this premise here, about a woman on a baking show. It's so silly.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 04:52 PM
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Now I must rewatch this movie.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 04:13 PM
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Our very own u/irisandoleander has a little one on the way! I saw her blog this morning (because I am a Feedly fangirl) and sent her a congratulatory message, and she said it was okay to go public! Everyone shower her with joy and daisies and love!
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:20 PM
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I wonder why being insecure and whiney is so en vogue all of a sudden, despite an insistence that being "empowered" brings so much "confidence"? THIS. This is my gripe with social media (especially Instagram and meme culture) in a nutshell! Which you ladies have very patiently listened to me bellyache about so many times, ha! Isn't just sad that we/you almost feel like we can't post proud, happy, positive things on social media for fear of upsetting (or triggering) the insecurities of others, ov…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:13 PM
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Seconding this!
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 02:55 PM
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I notice that my female friends that have "guy friends" (even if they did not have any sexual history) tend to be single for the reason that they have a more difficult time feeling ANY romance with men. It just makes me think that the way you view these relationships has an effect on the outcome - if you still see the man as a friend and can't admit to dating him...it's going to stay that way. ...I need to go sit down and rethink everything I know. Hot damn. I have a close friend who is takes gr…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 02:51 PM
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A conversation with my IRL bestie got me to thinking about privacy and the degree to which we discuss our SOs and our relationships with others. I’ve noticed that I virtually never talk about my relationship with my current SO with my friends. I tell cute stories and share good things when prompted, but I don’t discuss the nitty gritty. In the past, I would have looong drawn-out conversations about my relationship with many people in search of… I don’t know, validation, advice, drama, whatever. …
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 09:49 PM
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Well put. I remember noticing in college that "willingness to drink" and "willingness to have unattached sex" felt like the only two yardsticks people used to measure whether a person was fun. Needless to say, as a sober virgin, I was the worst.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 08:33 PM
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Good luck! You're doing the right thing by running. I did two Tough Mudders a few years ago, and I was shocked at how many people do that thing with no cardio base. Big, muscular bear-dudes who could probably bench press a truck, yet can't run 100 yards. Keep up the running and you'll zip right past 'em. Stuff you could add: Squats (bodyweight is fine) Planks Burpees
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 07:41 PM
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Such an important lesson to learn! One I'm still learning every day. It's about progress, not perfection :)
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 07:30 PM
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chances are you're looking at a woman who works at it. Like, I'm not magical, I'm fit because I eat a nearly perfect diet and work out a lot. I feel this so hard. So hard. I have the body I do because I prioritize exercise and cooking healthy food, and because I don't keep junk in the house, not because I'm a wizard. Yet I catch flak from my coworkers about this all the time.
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 10:13 PM
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Just to be clear, I'm not encouraging nagging for real. Just sort of a funny phrase :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 07:23 PM
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Work out yourself! My mom says she and my dad have both agreed that they feel more motivated to work out when they see the other working out. Get yourself in a good routine, and he'll notice your improved energy, shape, mood, etc. It's a good way to create a fitness culture in your relationship. For some reason the phrase "nag by example" keeps coming to mind, which is a terrible strategy but kind of a hilariously absurd concept! And of course compliment him when he does work out! Don't lay it o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 06:59 PM
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I’m grateful for my SO’s handiness. We did a DIY project together this weekend and had a blast! I’m also grateful for how well our skills complement each other. I’m grateful for solid dental insurance and a fantastic dentist. I’m grateful for swift recovery! I hurt myself this weekend and seem to be bouncing back very quickly. Still going to take it easy for a few days, but thanks to a really wonderful massage and the advice of a friend who’s a PT, all will be well!
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 05:43 PM
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I'm the oldest. I never really thought of myself as a stereotypical eldest, because I've never really been a bossy big sister and I'm really not Type A, but there are a lot of things I fit: very independent, always have had my ducks in a row, like to solve stuff myself. I'm also finding that I like having goals and working on new things. So my Oldest Child traits didn't shine through immediately because I don't match up with classic examples. I just seem to express it differently. For quite a fe…
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 04:02 PM
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I love soup and risotto this time of year. I made an asparagus lemongrass risotto this weekend that was just divine. The broth was made with ginger, garlic, lemongrass, and soy sauce. It was unreal. Also made ginger curry noodle soup last night. Absolute show-stopper of a recipe. I'm going to try out that vodka pie trick this weekend, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 03:37 PM
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I'm a vegan, so my baking preferences are a little different than your average, but I have a few recipes I really love! These chocolate chip cookies are crazy easy and fast. They don't require a mixer, either, so less mess, and they make a small batch. My SO loves these. Great for a last-minute treat. He also loves these peanut butter cookies, which you make in a muffin tin! This chocolate avocado cake is kind of my go-to when I need to impress people. That blog in general is full of delicious r…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 03:30 PM
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Great idea! Or bring over something yummy already made in a handy container so he can take it for lunch. I cook for my SO all the time and leave leftovers whenever I can, or bring over a container of soup (transports and reheats exceptionally well, really great if you can get a screw-top tupperware) or baked yummies sometimes. I always get a happy text the next day after he's eaten! :) It's a really easy and practical way to make him feel loved and doted upon.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:24 AM
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Very well said. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:18 AM
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Ooh, well done on the gnocchi! It's kind of fussy to make but it's so magical when it's homemade. I made it once with this really luscious pesto and it was like a forkful of savory cloud.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 03:38 PM
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Dumbfuckistan I am dead.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 03:37 PM
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Good My SO and I did a DIY project together on Saturday! It was such a fun way to spend time together. Plus I loved seeing him in his masculine element: miter saw, staple gun, etc. Yum. It was cute how our skills came together: he’s good with the big power tools, I’m good with the more delicate work (wrapping corners, etc). Definitely an experience I’d like to repeat. I made the most incredible risotto for some girlfriends last night. Fresh lemongrass, basil, and mint, a bouquet garni, chopped p…
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 03:33 PM
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"From the moment I saw his ugly mug on the Ugly Bug, I knew we were a match made in heck."
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 02:27 AM
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I'm making a bouquet garni for the first time today as part of a pretty fancy risotto recipe I'm making for friends. The broth is water, veggie broth, soy sauce, and a bouquet garni of crushed garlic, fresh lemongrass, and bruised ginger. So jazzed. I love cooking so much.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:28 PM
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Congrats!! I have a friend who made and sold stationary to fundraise for a mission trip. I've also heard of folks swapping homemade treats for funds: cupcakes, truffles, muffins. Some people don't feel compelled to donate money straight, but many of those people will happily donate if there's a small return, like a box of cookies! Congrats on getting into Chicago!
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:26 PM
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Welcome! This is something I think about often. I can't find the post right now (I'll look for it later and PM it to you) but there's been some really helpful breakdowns about the multiple waves of feminism, and the earlier ones really resonate with me. I'm realizing my answer isn't entirely helpful, but I can say that you are not alone in these thoughts! If I find that post I'm thinking of, I'll send it to you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/17 02:18 PM
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Reading through this thread is just warming my soul. I love seeing how happy you all are! Okay, time to brag about the J-man. This list, needless to say/like all of ours, is incomplete! :) He built his own frames to stretch some canvas prints over. Like he just figured out how to do it himself. And then we stretched and stapled them. We did this in the warehouse space where he runs his own business. He is so smart and competent and hard-working. Seeing your man operate a power saw and a staple g…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 05:11 AM
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How much do we love the idea of a freezer care package?! This is so brilliant. I have a teacher friend who is crazy stressed about school right now. Maybe I'll do this for her.
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 03:08 PM
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Thank you! :) what kind of strength and stabilizing do you do? Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about running!!
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 02:44 PM
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I did two 50-mile races and a 50K race in 2016.
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 12:57 AM
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Haha omg best typo ever! To be clear, I consider myself an aficionado of both fine beards and fine breads.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 06:45 PM
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Full head of thick hair with some greys Why is this so yummy?! I LOVE it. Your whole list is just stellar. Except I am pro-bread :)
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 05:53 PM
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Yes Please! Gameness. As in, willingness to do/try cool stuff together! Active. Hiking, lifting, running, yoga, whatever. Being active means you’re healthy and that we can go on cool adventures together. Good work ethic. Willingness to work hard on career, fitness, and/or a hobby is really appealing. Independent and allows me my independence. Big, genuine smile! None of these mysterious half-smiles. Gimme that toothy grin. Adventurous eater – so much fun to cook for! Superficial things that are …
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 05:52 PM
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I’m grateful for my SO’s willingness to communicate. Twice this weekend we’ve had really helpful conversations about important things, and I so appreciate the fact that he participates fully. I know those conversations aren’t easy for him, but sometimes you just gotta talk about something, and he always puts in a lot of effort and really listens and shares. It’s good incentive for me to be very thoughtful and intentional during those conversations so they’re meaningful and not overdrawn. I’m gra…
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 08:58 PM
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i just don't think a man should lead my life if he's not willing to fully commit to me. mic drop Well said.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 02:55 PM
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But anyway - I try to shake hands with people instead of hugging. Just preemptively moving for the handshake when someone gets close. This is exactly what I was going to recommend - just stick your hand out preemptively. Make the decision about the physical interaction before they can maul you. Sending love and peace your way, u/thehighzombie <3
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 02:42 PM
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I'm finding myself gravitating toward cross-stitching right now... what are your top three tips for a newbie? What I really want to do is make a quilt but I have zero supplies... so that's a 2018 dream :)
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 02:36 PM
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I made a really fancy recipe for my SO on Friday: socca, which is like a rustic savory chickpea crepe, stuffed with chickpeas stewed in Chianti with leeks, garlic, sun-dried tomatoes, dried apricots, a handful of other things. It was very time-consuming and very delicious! I also put this brownie batter into some little parfait dishes for dessert! I used coconut oil, so they hardened up more than I wanted, but I got no complaints from my SO lol he loved it! I'm making these Cajun chickpea cakes …
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:31 PM
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This made me smile :) so happy for you, Dix!
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 02:24 PM
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Good Exercise is on point these days. I’m running or doing yoga pretty much every day and feeling fantastic! Seeing some serious muscle pop in my legs right now! I’m also doing some more targeted ab stuff – mostly just planks and leg lifts – and it’s paying off bigtime. More shape in the core, as well as greater ease in yoga classes. I held the strongest side plank of my life last night without so much as a wobble. J and I went rock climbing this weekend! It was a total blast. He’s much more exp…
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 02:23 PM
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An amazing yoga teacher makes all the difference! I'm so loyal to mine!
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 04:30 PM
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Yes! My library has all her books, some in e-book form, so I could have them on my kindle and not have to worry about my SO finding them :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 02:14 PM
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Congratulations!!! They must've really loved you if they made a decision so quickly. Proud of you :)
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 10:21 PM
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Has anyone read Dear Lover by David Deida? Thoughts?
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 05:20 PM
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"I literally cannot function without a central nervous system stimulant and/or psychoactive drug and you're the one who has to suffer because of it LOLLLLLL"
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 07:10 PM
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Pertaining to the first: have you tried switching positions? I have an IUD and occasional discomfort during sex too. No idea if they're related, and it can seem unpredictable, but my SO and I just rearrange and we're good to go! There are a few positions where I never experience discomfort and some where it's far more likely. My SO is aware of both categories and is more than happy to accommodate. Sorry I can't offer more insight on what the pain is, but swapping things around works for us. Feel…
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 04:20 PM
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Yeah I end up cooking half the meal for my friend when she hosts. I love her dearly so I don't mind, but it always baffles me when she tells me she's leaving work early so she can get home and get ready, and then I get there three hours later and there are laundry piles in the kitchen and literally no food is prepped!
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 02:22 PM
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But on Plan B, men and women diverge in catastrophic ways: almost 70% of men want to revert to traditional gender roles. Faced with that option, nearly 75% of women want a divorce. I have a friend who lives with her fiancé, and I once asked her how they split up household chores and why they divvied things up the way they did. I don't remember details, but I do remember that they made some decisions specifically in order to avoid traditional gender roles, not based on what they each liked and/or…
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 02:44 AM
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I also think this article ignores the very real pressure that men feel every day, especially those that are in the traditional male role as the head of the household. The idea that they aren't thinking all the time at home is solipsistic - just because he doesn't have the same thoughts or concerns as you doesn't mean he isn't thinking at all. Such an important point. I've been reading Fascinating Womanhood, and while I know she can be controversial, I was really impacted by what she said about t…
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 02:26 AM
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Oh that's lovely. I like that mindset. I try to do that when I'm plating a meal for my SO sometimes. Seems like a good regular practice!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:00 PM
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A fantastic point! High school gives us all the tools we need to learn these things for ourselves. Just because you weren't spoon-fed the exact skills and knowledge you need to manage your exact life doesn't mean you aren't equipped with the resources and basics necessary for, you know, discovering these things for yourself.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 04:01 PM
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Me too! 55.6% Relaxed, 72.2% Engaging. This whole thing really resonated with me. I'm definitely very comfortable in my own skin and very trusting in relationships. I credit a lot of it to having such wonderful, loving, open parents, but I suspect that at least one of my siblings would test very differently from me, so who knows? Also, given what I've learned from knowing you online for a few months... it is not shocking to me that you and I are the same type! :)
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 03:26 PM
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I always would explain it as the art of pouring tea. It's such a mundane activity, but you do it with this touch, this elegance. My husband will ask me to pour his coffee in the mourning so he can watch me do it. I don't know how I learned how to pour coffee elegantly, but I remember watching my mother. She would tell me how to do it (when I wanted to do it for her) and would make me set it down and pick it up correctly. Okay now I totally want you to teach me to do this... but it reminds me of …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 02:30 PM
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This is wonderful. Cooking for your man is the best. Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 02:28 PM
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I read this as "She looks like a 1940s dominatrix," and i was like IS THAT A THING?
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 01:06 PM
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You can have my share :) I try to like them. I eat a few almost every summer. But I just can't get it up for them.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 01:03 PM
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Lol there there, dear, just think of it this way: more strawberries for you! :)
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 01:02 PM
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I wrote up a comment... went to edit it... And accidentally deleted it! Womp womp lol. Okay so in the morning I just rinse with water and slap on some sunscreen with moisturizer. I like CeraVe but I have a few different ones I'm trying. At bedtime: Wash with CeraVe hydrating cleanser, either in the shower or at the sink. Apply Paula's Choice 2% BHA exfoliating liquid. Let sit for 20-25 minutes. Moisturize! It's been very cold and dry where I live, and my skin loves straight-up Vaseline. Once the…
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 01:01 PM
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I have most definitely griped about this before, but can Instagram just get over the “LOL I’m so lazy/gluttonous/poor and I 100% do not have my shit together LOLZ!” attitude? I’m so weary of memes that normalize and justify not only having bad spending, eating, and productivity habits, but also not doing anything about it. I also really hate the “look at me, I’m adulting" trend (though I will confess, I am absolutely guilty of it). You don’t get a medal for paying your rent, putting on pants, or…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:34 PM
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but one trend that could die is the obsession with whining and complaining and fighting about "this food isn't authentic!!!!!" YES OMG. I didn't even realize how annoying this was until right now. There are a thousand ways to make a dish. Some of them are better than others, but there's no definitive "right way" that's so deeply superior that it justifies you bring down the mood of an entire gathering by turning your nose up at the food in front of you.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:02 PM
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with a door knocker on her face Dead.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:59 PM
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Preach.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:51 PM
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Strawberries are gross.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:50 PM
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Haha I have a friend who does this constantly! It's sort of annoying for sure.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:49 PM
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Hey Mabs! I’m sitting in front of my crystal ball, and here’s what I’m seeing: You’ve either gone running, done yoga, or meditated for five (or more!) minutes every single day so far this year. And you feel and look great (which you know, because that man of yours can’t keep his hands off your butt – what else is new?). Attagirl. You have a new 50K PR in the bag! You smashed across that finish line in under six hours thanks to months of speedwork, hill repeats, core, and long runs with your budd…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:24 PM
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Valid points. I'll give it a shot and report back!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 04:07 PM
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women serious professional You are none of these things. Bye, Felicia.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 12:55 PM
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You're my hero.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 12:53 PM
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No way to know his intentions but I doubt they're harmless. Unless he's straight-up telling you that he wants to get back together (and NOT via a dating app), then he's probably looking for attention or a hookup. Thankfully, you can get yourself out of this situation just as easily as you got into it: unmatch him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:29 PM
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This is so adorable and brilliant! Someday I will have an outdoor woodfire stone oven for summertime pizza parties... Kind of want to try making pizza on the grill this summer too.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 07:23 PM
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It is! And so versatile! I rolled out two pizzas, and we each had a half to "decorate" for ourselves as we saw fit. Then everyone got to participate in making the meal together. We had such a blast!
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 05:10 PM
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I made this mushroom risotto on Friday and it was spectacular! I replaced the leeks with shallots. My SO and I both loved it. I have a pie question. I heard on a podcast that replacing 1/2 the water in flour pie crust with vodka makes it super flaky and pliable. My IRL bestie says that she tried it and didn't notice a big difference. Has anyone here done it? Any thoughts? I love to make pie and now I'm really curious.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 03:33 PM
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I’m so grateful for my new girlfriends! I wrote about this in weekly reflections, but two new friends and I have started this mission to do girly things together, like tea parties and craft nights and whatnot, and it brings me so much joy. They bring me so much joy. And I feel more feminine/GFL when I spend time with them! I’m grateful for really good dental insurance. A super nice lady at my dentist went above and beyond to get me a cost estimate for a procedure, and it wound up being much chea…
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:28 PM
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Poor SO! I'd say add nut butters to his smoothies: super high in calories and fat and protein!
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:09 PM
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Good I’ve recently hit it off with two girls from my running group, and the three of us have made it our mission to do girly activities together. On Sunday, we had a tea party! We all dressed up and had scones and biscotti and cucumber sandwiches and drank out of fine china and just talked for hours. It was so much fun and so nourishing and we were all just beside ourselves with happiness. We’re also planning a cross-stitch night and a few movie nights. I love feminine friendships! One of the gi…
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:05 PM
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Old credit cards work too! :)
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 05:57 PM
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Happy Friday! Two articles I really liked this week: My Kitchen Resolutions by Joy the Baker. I really love this blogger - and this post! Hate To Break It To You But You Are The Reason Your Life Sucks So Much by Becca Martin. I love when Thought Catalog gets real. There's a lot of touchy-feely Vaguebook-style articles on there that I find pretty insufferable (which is why I've pretty much stopped reading it), but every so often, they'll bust out something like this. Some good quotes: If you thin…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 03:39 PM
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I dated one very, very briefly in high school. He more or less emotionally ghosted me. I was devastated but finally got so sick of it that I broke up with him (and later found out that he was heartbroken - the whole situation remains baffling). In college, I was relentlessly pursued by a guy who was very much the center of attention. Not a jock, but a total clown, and friends with jocks. Looking back, I can see how much energy and anxiety went into his ongoing dedication to his social status. He…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 01:22 PM
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I dated one very, very briefly in high school. He more or less emotionally ghosted me. I was devastated but finally got so sick of it that I broke up with him (and later found out that he was heartbroken - the whole situation remains baffling). In college, I was relentlessly pursued by a guy who was very much the center of attention. Not a jock, but a total clown, and friends with jocks. Looking back, I can see how much energy and anxiety went into his ongoing dedication to his social status. He…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 01:22 PM
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I love this phrase! I like to follow it up with "I trust you," based on the context, but especially if it's a bigger decision. I said this to my SO in front of his best friend a week or two ago, and I swear I saw his chest puff up! Proud of you :) enjoy Doyle's book. I loved it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 12:59 PM
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Same-ish. I'm a runner, and the vast majority of my friends where I currently live have come from the running community! It's great to meet friends who share your goals and interests, and it's fun to always know that you'll have an activity to do together that's healthy and active. I've also found that my runner friends have evolved into yoga buddies, craft buddies, and recipe buddies!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:08 PM
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Same-ish. I'm a runner, and the vast majority of my friends where I currently live have come from the running community! It's great to meet friends who share your goals and interests, and it's fun to always know that you'll have an activity to do together that's healthy and active. I've also found that my runner friends have evolved into yoga buddies, craft buddies, and recipe buddies!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:08 PM
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Funny you should mention it because there is a very specific glitch in my routine at the moment! My kindle died (R.I.P. dear friend), and I've been using my iPad to read library books before bed. The kindle screen is that glorious e-ink whereas my iPad is an actual screen, so that's probably not helping. Maybe I need to get my booty to the library for some paper versions. I like these ideas in their entirety. Will work on them. Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWives04/01/17 04:02 AM
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GREAT point about mocking Tinder profiles. I hadn't even thought of that. And seriously, it's like, wow, you're the first person to notice the high percentage of women who use Tinder and drink pumpkin spice lattes. Gold star, Chad! One of my best friends and I have a joke that if it's written on a distressed reclaimed pallet in cursive on your wall, it shouldn't be in your online dating profile lol it's so silly but sort of hilariously true.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 03:57 AM
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Omg I'm totally stealing "Negative Nathan"! That is so charming!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 03:51 AM
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I'm grateful that I was able to travel home for the holidays and spend some quality time with my family! The time and means to do so are not available to everyone, so I'm reminding myself not to take this for granted. I'm grateful for a cabin weekend with my SO and some friends! We got so much quality time: talking about goals, reading together, taking walks, bedtime snuggles (we don't live together so it's such a treat), and cooking great meals. Our travel/relaxation likes and dislikes are very…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 06:27 PM
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I'm excited for every single one of these :) I find the regular structure of this sub so appealing.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 02:26 AM
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This is appealing to me. I also am curious about what the TRP gang consider to be good qualities in women. I understand that the TRP sub is a space for men and is often a place where they share the ways women have let them down, which is why there isn't much content about "good women" or women worth dating. But I'm still totally curious and want to know :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 02:21 AM
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No mention of sex at all; sex is implied while dating, the men who mention anything about it on their profile or their messages to you are just looking for a low-effort lay This is really interesting and well put. I suspect I'll find a use for this phrasing with friends. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 02:13 AM
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heavy cynicism or is constantly complaining about life or politics This is a big one. Any online dating profile that complains about online dating is a big fat NOPE in my book. We've all had bad/weird/awkward experiences while online dating. Getting burned a few times is a bummer but it doesn't make you a special snowflake. And why would you want to go out with someone who's going into it with a bad attitude? Neeext.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 02:12 AM
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Well, I somehow managed to snag a great guy on Tinder of all places (i know, I know, but what can I say? Curiosity killed that cat dead), and met several other very nice men along the way, so I have some thoughts. Keep in mind, this is very much tailored to my own likes and dislikes! Green light! (a guy doesn't have to have all of these things for me/you to consider him - these are just things rhat I find appealing) Any outdoor adventure pictures or athletic pursuits (minus douchey gym selfies).…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 02:08 AM
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I was allowed to double date at 14, single date at 16, as I recall. My first kiss/date was when I was 16, and my parents liked to meet the guys but generally trusted my judgment when it came to "choosing," as it were. But I didn't have any serious relationships in high school. Not sure how they would've handled longer term. My younger siblings were different but I'm unsure of specifics. That being said, they've each had a few Bad News partners whereas I go for more wholesome, captain-material ty…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 01:46 AM
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That first paragraph was so pithy and accurate. A thing of beauty. Well put!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 01:40 AM
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Good Such a wonderful New Year's getaway with my SO and some friends! We relaxed, I made risotto and pizza from scratch for everyone, we had lots of time to talk about goals, and we SLEPT SO MUCH. It was awesome. I'm working on some reorganization projects at home that are going really well! Also adding more good things to my skincare and seeing great results. All my face stuff is newly organized into what used to be my spice rack and it makes me happy every time I look at it. Bad Aforementioned…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 01:37 AM
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but I'm like 116% certain it's pms. This made me chuckle out loud. I am a walking stereotype when PMS rolls around. Give me literally all the chocolate.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 01:29 AM
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We rented a cabin with some friends! It was very low-key and relaxed. We made dinner from scratch together, played cards, walked around the trails. Around 11, my SO gave me that look and starts pretending to be tired. I took the hint and yawned and we "went to sleep." Needless to say, 2017 is off to a great start ;) Still fine-tuning my goals/resolutions. SO and i had fun talking through ideas together on the car ride home, and we came up with a list of adventure ideas for us to pursue as a coup…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 03:18 AM
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All the time. Usually I tie people to faces I already know. For example, some of the mods somehow reminds me of friends of mine, so I picture that respective friend's face and hear her voice when I read their posts. It's weird!
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 03:13 AM
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Okay someone has been chopping onions in here WHO IS IT Seriously, though, I love this sub.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 03:10 AM
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I was a late bloomer. Lots of jeans, t-shirts, sloppy ponytails. I finally started dressing a little more feminine senior year. I wouldn't say "ugly duckling," more like "femininely challenged duckling." Also employed the time-honored "ignore him and pretend you don't see him" flirting technique when I had a crush. I was kind of perpetually one of the guys. I had a few very short-term (we're talking 2-3 weeks) "relationships," all of which I sort of stumbled into. Overall, I really wasn't that i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 03:07 AM
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I'm grateful for my dad, who is currently making me a spice rack! I've outgrown my current spice rack and the overflow tray I've been using, and now I'm getting a custom one built by my brilliant father. I'm so excited I could do backflips. He's such a good dad. Also his relentless pursuit of his creative outlet of choice is really inspiring to me. I'm grateful for my SO's work ethic. He's balancing so many challenges and opportunities right now and it's just incredible. I'm reading FW right now…
/r/RedPillWives27/12/16 04:25 PM
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Good I'm at my parents' place for a few days and I've done a pretty good job keeping up with skincare, exercise, etc. even though I'm outside my normal routine. I've been doing fancy braided updos for church, family parties, etc. and getting tons of compliments! My dad, my brother, my cousins. Feels good, since I've put a lot of practice (and YouTube viewing!) into my hair skills. My family loved their gifts. That delights me! Also I showed my mom the holiday cards i made for friends and she was…
/r/RedPillWives27/12/16 04:15 PM
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FWIW I think the moving/emotional thing is normal. It's not, you know, fun, but it's normal! There are moments when it feels SO CRAZY GOOD and like the BEST DECISION EVER and times when you just want to eat Oreos and watch Netflix and talk to zero people all weekend. Having moved to completely new places by myself a few times, the first 2-3 months are the hardest. But you'll be okay :) this too shall pass. Hang in there, Sunny!!
/r/RedPillWives27/12/16 04:10 PM
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I love my brother with all my heart because he is a golden-souled sweetheart, but if I hear one more Dungeons & Dragons play-by-play or verbal reenactment of a YouTube video, I will drop dead! XD
/r/RedPillWives27/12/16 01:17 AM
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I love this story! Little things like this really do add up. Thank you for sharing :) A few days ago, some logistical hiccups out of my control made me a little late to pick up my SO to go to his parents' house to catch a flight. I was supposed to pick up a gift for his mother on the way, but it would make me 15 minutes late, whereas skipping it would put me right on schedule. Smart man that he is, my SO had given us an hour of wiggle room, so I had a suspicion he'd say it was fine when I called…
/r/RedPillWives21/12/16 11:34 PM
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I'm 92% sure I'm getting those boots in black for Christmas! Then we can be twinsies, u/coochquarantine :D I love that jacket.
/r/RedPillWives21/12/16 11:14 PM
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You're sending me one, right? ;)
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 08:44 PM
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I love the story about your husband's coworkers! My SO and I regularly hang out with his best friend and his wife, and I often will bring some kind of treat to share. Last time we all got together, my SO's bestie actually texted him to ask if I was bringing cookies and to see if I would bring extra because he was really craving some. Felt so good!
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 08:43 PM
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Christmas cards! I found the most beautiful pack of craft paper on sale and have been using it + a pack of gold holiday washi tapes to make my cards. The finishing touch? A detail stitched on with embroidery floss. A heart, a snowflake, ete. Just something to add a little texture and dimension to the cards. I've been lightly drawing them freehand with a pencil, then pre-poking holes with my needle, and then stitching them in. The cards are made of heavy paper, so as long as I keep it spaced, it …
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 08:41 PM
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Tie me up, tie me 5% down like this quarter’s earnings, know what I mean?
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 07:56 PM
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I’m grateful for the leadership at my job. I recently went to our head honcho to discuss some problems I’ve been having, and I can see already that it’s being addressed in a constructive way. I was afraid to ask for help, and now I’m so thankful that I did! I’m grateful for my SO’s courage. He’s taking on a lot of new challenges at work (and kicking butt, I might add). I’m so proud of him. I’m also facing some issues in my personal life at the moment, and I’ve been feeling very scared and betray…
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 06:05 PM
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Do you mind sharing how you picked up your editing work? That's pretty much exactly the kind of side hustle I want! Feel free to PM if you prefer :) I hope you continue to feel better! Stomach flu is the worst.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 05:53 PM
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Good A new friend and I had a craft night on Friday! We had so much fun listening to music and laughing and making holiday cards. We kind of played off each other’s ideas and wound up with some fantastic cards. The one I made for my SO is absolutely beautiful. I’m so proud of it – can’t wait to give it to him! It felt really good to harness my creativity and have a classic girls’ night someone who is positive, happy, healthy, creative, and all-together totally the kind of woman I want to spend t…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 05:49 PM
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Interesting points, thank you for sharing! I especially like your point about sex being part of something larger. My SO has said things to me that support your thoughts. I'll confess that my resistance to the staged approach comes from the fact that I am in a very happy and fulfilling relationship, so I don't feel a "need" for it, but I might change my tune if the situation were different!
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 02:22 PM
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I’ll provide the disclaimer that I’m a bit of a kindergartener when it comes to raw RP theory. If I am totally wrong… inform me thusly. Let’s use the analogy of dangling a carrot. Here’s how I see it: When a man is applying dread game to get sex, he is the carrot, and he is dangling himself (heh) in front of other women while his partner watches. When a woman is applying dread game, she is the carrot, and she is dangling herself in front of her desired partner. I think CQ is right that doing it …
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 09:44 PM
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Our mom was the same way. I remember suddenly being faced with a situation that was pretty much worst case scenario, and my mom totally had my back. She trusted that I would learn the lessons I needed to learn (and damn, did I ever) without her nagging or tutting, and she made sure I knew I could turn to her. The best part? When everything was resolved, I wanted to celebrate with her, and I got to! She had been so supportive, and she knew exactly how deep my relief was. This is a great perspecti…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:46 PM
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Seconded times infinity.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:40 PM
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I know “empowering” is a BP buzzword, but it’s the only word that describes this article and RPW as a whole, from my perspective. I love the fact that the RPW mindset is constantly asking, “What can I do differently? How can I take responsibility?” It’s not about the blame game. It’s about recognizing the opportunity to take action and make changes and encouraging each other to do so, instead of playing the victim and refusing to examine your own contributions to an unpleasant status quo. It's a…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:35 PM
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I love this perspective. Love it.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:26 PM
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Okay, can we talk about these gradient food prints and how I want all of them? I especially love the blueberries and the spices, but really I love every single one. Perfect for kitchen art! Also found this article really compelling: 10 Things You Don’t Realize People Are Doing Because They’re Ridiculously Insecure. Lastly, I just discovered this Instagram account that's just videos of hand-lettering and it's so beautiful and enchanting to watch.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 03:57 PM
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hug
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 09:10 PM
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YES! I got one this week, actually, and used a recipe for a work event :) it's not a book I'd want to own, so being able to just borrow it for a short while was so perfect.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 02:53 PM
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That's a great idea. I think what I want is a really nice new spice rack, a BIG one, and that'll be on the counter up against the wall, and nothing else will "live" on the counter. Because you're right - it's so easy for clutter to collect there!
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 02:52 PM
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I’m grateful for my cookbooks. My cookbooks have given and taught me so much. I love to cook for my SO (for anyone, honestly), and my cookbooks are the tools I use to love, support, and sometimes spoil my SO and to keep myself healthy, happy, and full of energy. They’re full of notes and flour and unidentifiable cooking stains, and I love them. I’m grateful for my SO’s work ethic. He is facing some hard stuff at work, and he is handling it. He’s making smart decisions, keeping his chin up, and g…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 09:58 PM
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Welcome, little one, and well done with the baby-growing, aTB! Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 09:25 PM
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"I know you, you can handle this" Stealing. Other words I used to support my SO: I believe in you! I have faith in you! You're such a hard worker. I'm sure you'll figure it out. You always do! I trust you completely.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:51 PM
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Your feelings don't always have to be rational, but just don't act on the irrational ones. This x100000! My mother, an endlessly wise woman, always coaches us in this vein. She calls it your rational mind versus your irrational mind. They both have a voice, and they both can tell you important information, but you have to be careful which one directly informs your actions. I love how succinct your version is.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:47 PM
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I'm curious. What does that look like? The actions behind complete, 100% support? Can you share a few things your MIL said or did that really knocked it outta the park for you? I think
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:42 PM
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This is, without question, one of the most important and impactful lessons I've learned from from RPW. My SO's battery is drained all day by the many challenges he tackles at work. I want to recharge him, not bleed away his remaining dregs of energy. For the record, his battery recharges double time when it's plugged into cuddles and a plate of cookies or a homecooked meal :) It's amazing how much positive power your words have. I always tell my SO I believe in him when he's facing a tough issue…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 07:04 PM
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Right now I'm going through a "roast all the things" phase. My absolute favorite quick dinner: Preheat oven to 425°F. Peel and chop a small sweet potato. Toss into a bowl. Rinse and drain some canned chickpeas, then roll ‘em around in a tea towel or paper towel to get them dry-ish. Add to bowl. (I usually do ¾ cup or so – leftovers can go in the fridge) Drizzle on some olive oil, then whatever blend of spices and seasonings you like. My blend: garlic powder, onion powder, chili powder, smoked pa…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 04:15 PM
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I love this list you provided. I think about psychological femininity a lot and haven't totally grasped the concept. I imagine that'll be something I never stop learning!
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 03:22 PM
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I really do need to pop over there sometime :) thank you!
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 03:04 PM
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Good: I finally understand pair bonding in chemical terms. thanks /u/_wingnut_ Link? :)
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 01:29 AM
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Good I didn't overbook myself this weekend! It was really wonderful. Lots of rest and cooking and cat snuggles and reading library books. A good reminder that I'm so much happier when I make an active effort to take time for myself. I went for my first decent run since my race, and damn, did that feel good. My SO and I had both a wonderful date night and a chill hang-out afternoon. I think we do a pretty good job striking a balance between those two things, a balance that really suits us. It was…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 04:52 PM
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She did! She happily shares the title with my SO, whom she adores. I'm a lucky gal.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 04:21 PM
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Same. My RP beliefs don't really extend past me, if that makes sense. NAILED IT with this phrasing. Me too. I love this way of putting it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/16 04:09 PM
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I've just started Fascinating Womanhood and am finding it very compelling. I also looove Laura Doyle. Similar lessons, but her voice is a little more "modern."
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/16 04:06 PM
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A few girlfriends and I are getting together soon for craft night! I really want to make a few holiday cards for some close friends, and then I've got it in my head to make some Christmas decorations for myself. I really love bookpage crafts, so I might try to make some ornaments or a garland. To Pinterest! I like to make a big batch (or two) of a delicious thing and make up packages of it and give it out to my friends so I don't have to spend a ton of money on gifts (it is so not my love langua…
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 08:26 PM
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I got my cat a toy for Valentine's Day. If that's silly, then we're starting a club.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 08:20 PM
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Does anyone know where it's showing? Is there a list somewhere? I've definitely been under a rock, ladies.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 08:02 PM
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I bind books as a hobby Ooooh say more about this! That is so interesting!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 09:26 PM
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Are there any other socialist democrats like me that like the principles of TRP? Me! Granted, I'm RPW and spend very little time over on TRP, but I'm definitely in the minority around here when it comes to political views. That being said... I'm not here for the politics, so I just don't chime in on those conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/16 08:27 PM
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Thank you for your kind words! I am in love with the RPW idea of "being his soft place to land" and was so thankful that that lesson applied here as well!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 04:48 PM
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Hmm... I've never actually read the single one, so I'm not sure, but my library had both! I'd say start with the single one. I've heard nothing but good things.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 04:42 PM
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just enjoyed the feeling that I have someone I can miss while he's away. The best feeling!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 04:31 PM
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I'm grateful for my SO's wisdom and generosity. The events of my FR from yesterday are still making my heart sing. I'm so thankful for how kind and thoughtful he is, and so deeply grateful to this community and the wisdom of Laura Doyle for giving me the tools to attract and be adored by a man like him. I'm grateful for wonderful new girlfriends! I had a ladies' night in with two women I've just recently met, and we had so much fun. We all fawned over the dishes we each prepared to share and tol…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 07:36 PM
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My SO and I have been watching Planet Earth II together and it is incredible. Congrats on your engagement :)
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 06:38 PM
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Yay for having SOs who listen! I'm so glad that process is worked for you two! Have you tried word-vomiting in a journal, either a physical notebook or just a Word document? I do this sometimes when I just need to work through something and there are no ears available. Sometimes you need an actual person, but sometimes just writing it out can help!
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 06:04 PM
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Finally had a chance to read this! What a fascinating article. What's interesting is how many of those yes-buts are about things that can, to some extent, be controlled. "Yes, but... it doesn't matter if you're rich/hot/educated/employed/socially adept." Actually, it does, and you can take steps to become those things. This is information you can use to your advantage if you take initiative. "Yes, but... I don't wanna."
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 03:21 PM
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My guess: what they say they want and what they seem to actually want are different.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 03:15 PM
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TRUTH, girl. I know so many women who would be much happier in their relationships if they internalized the fact that their men can't read their freaking minds. Just tell him what you want. Give him the tools to make you happy. And yes to being open and heartfelt! I always make an effort to frame things in a positive light. "I was looking forward to spending time with you because you make me happy," versus, "You're such a jerk for bailing!" "I feel loved when you make time for me," versus, "You'…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 03:11 PM
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Well played on using the marathon metaphor for a runner! :) That was flawless. Thank you for sharing this. This is an excellent point. I think you're absolutely right: the choice between a lightning-fast cranky reaction and a slower, rational one is a no-brainer. I think my guilt in this case came from the fact that he was waiting for a response, but it's not like I kept him waiting for hours. I took the time I needed, and I didn't drag it out to "punish" him or make him feel bad. Whew. Okay. Th…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 03:03 PM
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It was SO GOOD. I brought over a few on a plate, and before I knew it, he was sneaking his fourth :) that blog is like my secret weapon. So many quick, delicious recipes that don't require a ton of equipment, so you can whip something together in a flash.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 02:56 PM
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Thank you! Hugs for everyone!
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 02:56 PM
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I know what chores can be 'pushed back' a bit, and what things he immediately notices - so that provides some wiggle room when my plates full. Oh this is a brilliant point. Sometimes I'll catch myself stressing myself out over non-urgent chores that can absolutely wait while neglecting things that will give me an immediate happiness/satisfaction boost!
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 09:46 PM
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Dying over the expression "shit-filled twinkie." My stomach hurts from laughing. A great post as well.
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 08:45 PM
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I've been waffling on whether to buy Andelin's book (since my library doesn't have a copy). You've convinced me.
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 08:43 PM
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Today I am going to fix it. Love the determination of this attitude. We've all been there. I'm rooting for you.
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 05:25 PM
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Good: Lots of little good things this week! I made bread for my coworkers as part of the kindness challenge, attended a really fun all-day event with friends, had a wonderful relaxing evening with my SO. I'm feeling completely recovered from my last big race of the year, and starting to feel excited about training again! Bad: Still am not doing a great job of saying no to things and making time for myself. I'm working on it, though. Ugly: I was a little needlessly short with a friend this weeken…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 05:23 PM
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Walk away. That behavior is dangerous and unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/16 03:03 AM
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I'm adding "sound the snowflake alarm" to my personal lexicon.
/r/RedPillWives03/12/16 02:11 AM
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"Yeah but I don't want to take responsibilities for my feelings and reactions."
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 09:06 PM
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Love the portion about communication. A few random thoughts: One thing I've noticed with a lot of the young women in my life who tend to always be unsatisfied with their romantic situations: They're always fussing over how often their SOs (or desired SOs) are texting them, but never saying anything about the content of those messages. Interesting. An observation from my time as a single lady: One particular guy texted me all the time. As in constant texts all day long. Another guy texted me ever…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:56 PM
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I reference that post on psychological femininity on the reg. It's so valuable.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:42 PM
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I want to plant (pun intended 🍒) a suggestion on an effective day 7 environment thing to do --- eating vegan is extremely kind to the planet and it would be an excellent thing to do for that day. Vegan chiming in! I can suggest recipes!
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:39 PM
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I would totally do a squat challenge.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:37 PM
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Progress so far! Day 1: Made myself a dinner that I really love and just... relaxed at home. It felt good. Day 2: I went over to my SO's and made supper! I do this often, but I kicked it up a few notches: also surprised him with cookies (made the dough at home, baked at his place), changed into something sexy when he went to grab laundry, spoiled him in bed, etc. He's been having a crazy stressful week, and he was visibly more relaxed when I left. Went home with a spring in my step :) Day 3: I w…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:35 PM
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I read and loved this article yesterday: Social Media Isn’t The Reason You Feel Inadequate. You Are. A few highlights: It’s certainly not difficult to point a finger at social media — or pop culture for that matter — for our “unrealistic expectations” about literally everything. But the truth is that Instagram hasn’t given us false expectations any more than Sex and the City wrongly prepared us for adult life. The only ones we can really blame for those feelings are ourselves. BAM! As adults, we…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:29 PM
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Yes, I LOVED her and thought about all of you while watching! She was so sweet and so generous. That movie was much darker than I anticipated, but she was such a bright spot. And I loved the fact that her feminine wiles were part of her "power."
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:24 PM
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Ballet Beautiful, 5min exercise to improve posture - every morning I'm so curious about what this is! Can you share a link?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 02:54 PM
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Do sun salutations every morning. I'm doing pretty well on this one. Do yoga (45-60min) 3x/week. Now that I'm done racing for the year, I'm focusing on some recovery stuff. Get all my loose paper recipes into a binder. It will make my kitchen counter feel so much more organized! Spend 10-15 minutes tidying up before bed every. single. night. Make Christmas cards for friends.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 02:50 PM
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Regarding how it translates sexually: I once read something about how women and men deal with being alone and, well, horny differently. Women go for direct stimulation (i.e. vibrators) whereas men go for visual stimulation (i.e. porn).
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 09:27 PM
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Steal away! Have you read A Ship Made of Paper by Scott Spencer? There's a really beautiful passage in which this woman gives advice to a couple. She talks about how a common phenomenon she sees in relationships is the tendency to assume that your partner is just like you. As a result, when your partner does something or reacts to something differently than you would, you get mad or feel hurt or confused by their behavior. So she encourages the couple to remember, notice, and celebrate their dif…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 08:02 PM
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So I think he'll be all excited - and while he's excited - he's not animatedly excited about it. So I'm working to separate how I think of myself and how I think of him, because we really are two very different people. Yes! Super excited to see this post. My SO and I are the same way, and I make an active effort to recognize when he's showing love or excitement in his way. That lens has brought me so much joy!
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 07:02 PM
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I vote you unleash 'em all on Shit Post Saturday. I'm already stocking up on popcorn.
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 04:35 AM
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Congrats on the move! It must feel so good to have the hard part behind you, and what a gift to have so many awesome moving buddies!
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 06:56 PM
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I'm grateful for having the means to travel home to spend Thanksgiving with my family. I'm especially grateful for time spent with my grandfather, who is quite elderly. I'm grateful for my SO for coming to pick me up from the airport! Our airport is not even remotely convenient, and he drove up during a very busy week and greeted me with a big bear hug and lots of kisses, and he listened to me chatter about my weekend in the car on the way home, and it was just wonderful. I'm thankful for tea an…
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 06:55 PM
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My past is colored with more emotional abuse but I'm more than willing to talk over PM if you want some support.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 02:58 PM
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That's what I meant by you not being the only one and by talking through that whole bit about averages: you're not abnormal or weird. The phrase "special snowflake" more or less refers to someone feeling like they're the only one. My point is that you're not. You are 100% justified in wanting to save it for the right guy. If a guy doesn't honor your feelings about it, he's not the right guy.
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 01:20 PM
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Averages and "norms" exist because there are values on either side of them. The average of 2 and 4 is 3. What you fear to be abnormality is just variability. And if you're looking at ALL women in your country and when they lose their virginity, that is a HUGE data pool, which means there are dozens, hundreds, thousands of women who bid farewell to their panty flower at or later than the age of 20. I say this with love: you are not a special snowflake. Maybe the women in your immediate vicinity a…
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 07:05 PM
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Also what do you mean by "empower"? I'll take responsibility for throwing this BP buzzword in there. I meant it in the connotation of removing the fear and anxiety a virgin can feel about sex itself. That's how my Sex Library helped me :D
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 06:58 PM
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I'm 26 and met my guy online. The process can be a little annoying but it can be done, and Tinder has evolved a lot. If you're smart about it, you can find really great people on there. You just have to be prepared to sift through some roughage, but that's what happens in real life too. And u/waterboo2 is right. You can rule out a lot of people with just a cursory glance, which means you can begin the vetting process from the comfort of your own home. I say give it another shot and be patient. I…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 06:48 PM
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If physical touch and intimate smooches are important to you, I would totally advocate for spending a whole session on it. Especially since this is likely triggered by a past memory. Best of luck, girl. I had to process rough stuff too. It's hard. But you can do it. I'm rooting for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 02:23 PM
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Chiming in to whole-heartedly support this excellent advice: In the meantime, do some research about any sexual things you’re unsure about. Ask your friends, look online, watch videos, whatever you need to do so that you can feel more at ease and you don’t put too much pressure on your next boyfriend. Obviously you want a partner who will make you feel safe/comfortable and whom you trust, but you can take steps to empower yourself. I was quite a late bloomer on the sex front, and a dear friend a…
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 06:14 AM
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This is the best explanation of male social structure I've ever read. Not very good at spotting all of the types "in the field," nor am I familiar with all types, but I found this fascinating.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 02:58 AM
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/thread Get out of there.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 12:53 PM
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Read your first paragraph and went, "Yup, same. Yup, same. Yup, same. Yup, same."
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 03:26 PM
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Tall. Tall is my favorite. I'm tall, and while I don't rule out guys who are a little shorter than me, I definitely feel more feminine with my tall SO. For years I liked 'em suuuper lanky, but my current SO is more solidly built (and has hella biceps) and I am majorly groovin' on it. I'm also a huge sucker for beards and glasses. The nerdy outdoorsman look. My SO has both. I also am so, so into guys who will give me a real smile. None of these I'm-too-cool-to-smile half-smirks or exaggerated sto…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 03:23 PM
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/thread I wouldn't believe what his friend says, since guys like to rag on each other. I wouldn't consider the kissless thing true until you hear it straight from him. Talk to him about it and then go from there. Also, you can go on a few dates with him and then decide how you feel. You're not signing up to have and to hold. You're just starting the vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 03:14 PM
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I totally want to read that book now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 03:09 PM
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There's some material about how femininity is not just about frilly pinkness in the sidebar, but I would love to see a post (and join a discussion) about it! I think it's such a fascinating topic and such a strong point that the BP world reduces femininity to a bottle of sparkly nail polish.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 03:08 PM
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I held onto my v-card until I was almost 25. There were times when being a virgin was very isolating and hard, and, like you said, I felt like an outcast. But let me tell you, nearly every single woman I spoke to about it who was over the age of 25 or so said, "That's great. I wish I would've waited." Now that I'm past the age where everyone knows way too much about each other's sex lives (ah, college), I too can say that I am so happy I waited. A few of my close guy friends knew about it too (m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 02:59 PM
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Dish doers are the unsung heroes of the family holiday gathering, are they not? Brilliant idea.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 08:57 PM
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I'm grateful for my SO's silliness. He is so much fun. And his goofy side only comes out when it's just him and me, so it just warms my heart to know that I'm seeing a part of him that no one else sees. He makes me laugh so hard I forget anything that's stressing me out! I'm grateful for the fact that I'm going home for Thanksgiving. I need a break. I'm grateful for my cookbook collection! I'm entering full-on winter hibernation mode and have had a lot of fun looking through them and marking all…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 08:51 PM
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I'm flying home for Thanksgiving for the first time in years! My friends have generously adopted me every year, which I appreciate deeply, but it's going to be such a treat to spend it with my family. I'm the token high maintenance eater at our house (vegan), and I have a few rules I swear by: STFU. This is a holiday about food. Now is not the time to start a conversation about factory farming. No one is going to respond well, and expecting otherwise is foolish. Don't let the food dictate your d…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 08:28 PM
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Here's a thought. Thanksgiving isn't much of a decor holiday, but maybe you could make a garland or table decoration for the event, or a cute favor. You can probably do most of it while seated, and I bet there are a million things on Pinterest. It'll be unique, new, and fun, which will make you glow with pride, and you can probably find something that doesn't require a lot of standing! Sorry about your ankle. Being injured and incapacitated is no fun and so frustrating. I hope you heal and recov…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 08:16 PM
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Make to-go packs. If it makes sense in terms of where your guests live, buy a bunch of cheap disposable food containers. When you're cleaning up the table put leftovers into each one and send them with your guests when they leave! People love this. This is BRILLIANT. We're always scrambling for containers when it comes time to dole out leftovers - we could totally just nab some cheapies in advance! Definitely sharing this tip with my mother.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 08:12 PM
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Someone posted a pair of mugs a while back that say "Captain" and "First Mate" on them. That could be kind of cute. But I think that might be more RPW language than TRP language, so maybe it wouldn't translate. My other recommendation would be a memoir by or biography of a strong man he admires.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 08:07 PM
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I love this. It's so powerful, isn't it? Kudos to you for the awareness! It's not always easy but it does get easier over time! I was able to minimize what would have, in the past, been an hour long fight that would've ended with us going to bed pissed off instead of having sex and cuddling. YES! A million times yes!
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 08:03 PM
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Family drama. I am expecting the worst, but Im praying for good news. I'm in a very similar situation. No idea how some things will unfold over the holiday. Hoping for the best for you and yours!
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 10:14 PM
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Also, yesterday I celebrated 2 years sober. Wow! Deep congratulations. That is amazing.
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 10:13 PM
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Good: I totally nailed it with my hair a day or two ago. Got a ton of compliments! Also had a really meaningful conversation this weekend with a dear friend whom I had been struggling with. She and I are back on solid ground together, and there are a few things that I feel like I can only really talk to her about, so I'm really thankful! And lastly, I'm going home for Thanksgiving for the first time in years! Very excited. Bad: I'm kind of sick. Not sick enough to stay home from work, but sick e…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 10:12 PM
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I would learn as many domestic skills as you can right now. Seconding this. I wish I would've taken more time to learn things from my mother back when I lived with her! Shadow her in the kitchen, learn her cleaning tips, get good at keeping your own spaces tidy and welcoming. It's never going to be easier or more convenient to learn from the older women in your family than it is now (that might be an overstatement but it's true in my own life).
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 09:10 PM
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Seconding this. My SO doesn't emote much. He's pretty much content to be content. Figuring this out changed my entire perception of him in a good way.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 09:03 PM
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Do you put it on before braiding? After braiding? Taking out braids? Haha, listen to me... "Bells, please hold my hand through this entire process."
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 03:24 PM
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Outlets yesssss
/r/RedPillWives20/11/16 10:21 PM
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I recently scored a few beautiful dresses at NY&C! I also like LOFT.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 10:19 PM
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Ahhh I've been looking for a heat protectant! You are my beauty hero today!
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 07:32 PM
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heart eyes emoji Thank youuu! I was JUST talking to my SO the other day about perfume, and he was saying that he kinda liked it, and I thought, "Oh, man... I gotta get on this..." This is fantastic!
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 04:43 PM
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YAY!! Do you have a method for keeping it from getting kinda frizzy...? Mine frizzes out! I'm a huge fan of Missy Sue on YouTube if you ever want to learn fancy braids. I kind of half-taught myself how to French braid, but she taught me how to do cool stuff with it!
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 04:42 PM
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Haha that should be, like, the name of the RPW library: "Don't be afraid of the name of this book." I haven't told a single person about Surrendered Wife because the title alone would send them running. Thank you for sharing! Checking my library now!
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 08:18 PM
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Any resources to share on the art of detachment? I could really, really use them.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 08:11 PM
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We should have a thread about how to pick perfume. Right now my signature scent is Febreze.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 08:06 PM
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tickles me with his beard Beard tickles are the BEST.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 07:36 PM
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I’m grateful for how funny my SO is. The longer we’re together, the more I see his funny, silly side come out, and it makes me so happy I could do cartwheels. He had me in stitches a dozen times this weekend when we were traveling. I’m grateful for my body! I’ve been feeling really strong and healthy and good lately. I’m grateful for my friend A. She is so smart and funny and genuine, and I always, always feel better about life after hanging out with her. It took me a while to really notice just…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 07:35 PM
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Because how on earth would they conclude that keeping on using their highly coded ingroup language to talk to other people would result in them persuading these people. YES YES YES! Clinging to the in-group language is just patently absurd. Acting like you're better than me because you can use "intersectionality" in a sentence isn't going to have me tripping over myself to help you.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 07:08 PM
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Not only did you take the words out of my mouth, you said them better than I could! I have a lot of introverts in my family. Some of them are friendly, functional adults who take full responsibility for finding the time they need to recharge. Some of them use it as an excuse to avoid social responsibility and general act like total brats.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:52 PM
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History shows women doing whatever they wanted within the context of the world they lived in and until feminism, it didn't take away from them being WOMEN. heart eyes emoji
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:12 PM
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POETRY.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:07 PM
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BRING THE SALT. Social media, especially Instagram and meme culture, enable shitty attitudes and behavior. It normalizes things like laziness, bad eating habits, being irresponsible with money, hating all men, not putting any effort into appearance, etc. and empowers people to think these attitudes are funny and acceptable. I’m pretty much indifferent to the “fat empowerment” movement and I think fat-shaming is a needless waste of time. If you want to be fat and feel sexy, go nuts! You can feel …
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:04 PM
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halloween is my least favorite holiday, i usually don't celebrate it at all. Girl, preach.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 05:37 PM
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Can you add some kind of sexiness factor? Like knee-high or thigh-high socks? Warm, comfy, and usually very alluring! Also a treat for your SO because no one else gets to see!
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 04:24 PM
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This is such a great challenge! I usually only see the same 20-odd people every day (and they're all women) since my office is in the middle of nowhere, and I don't live with my SO, so it's way too easy to be like, "Nah, doesn't matter if I look blah today." I did that yesterday and I FELT blah all day! Ugh! This will definitely get my rear in gear! And I know I always feel better in general when I look nice, regardless of who sees me. My hope is that this challenge will give me the kick in the …
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 04:20 PM
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I do my hair at night too! My hair is super thick and takes one million years to dry, so I virtually never wash it in the morning. My favorite overnight tricks: Wait until it's mostly dry, french braid it into pigtails, and sleep on it. Wake up with fantastic bouncy texture! I always get compliments when I do this. Blowdry it mostly straight before bed, then sleep on it. Whatever weird spots you get while blowdrying will soften overnight, so you have a natural-looking blowout look in the morning…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 03:08 PM
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I found a few "would you rather" lists online, which was a blast! My personal favorite: the celebrity name game. One person names a celebrity (you can also play with movie/book characters), and the other person then names a celebrity whose first name starts with the same letter as the previous person's last name. I.e. Bob Dylan, Donna Summer, Steve Martin, Molly Ringwald, etc. I could play that game for hours. If you're playing than two people, the order of gameplay goes around the circle. If so…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 03:00 PM
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Me tooooo! We should all share our favorite artists!
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 05:13 PM
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I looooove ASMR! Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 05:13 PM
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Good: My SO and I had a lot of time in the car together this weekend, and we made up a bunch of silly car games and found a few on the web, and we had so much fun! Lots of laughter and funny conversations. He was smiling ear to ear and kept reaching over to hold my hand or my knee and it was just the best. Bad: I got home later than planned on Sunday night (we were out of town) and did not have the energy to go to the store and grab a few things for meals today. It's no big deal, I can just go a…
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 05:12 PM
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This is great! I would've loved something like this when I first tripped over RPW. TRP totally freaked me out at first, but thankfully you ladies were so warm and welcoming that I stuck around :) thanks on behalf of future newbies!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 04:58 PM
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Was this based on Pythagorean view of men and women as associated with infinite and finite? If you have a link to an article or something about this, I am wildly curious. Sounds fascinating!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 04:55 PM
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"Like a sound investment!" made me LOL to the point of near tears
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 03:32 AM
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Yessssss aero engineer SOs! I feel the same way about mine!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/16 06:22 PM
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My sister called me the other day to tell me she ran my and my SO's star charts. Apparently we are very compatible. WHEW.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/16 06:59 PM
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Ooh... yes I like this idea. Very much. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 03:47 PM
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A close friend of mine recently gushed over the fact that her new boyfriend was listening to Disney music in his car when he came to pick her up. Her actual words: "I've found my soulmate.” Somehow his musical choice is a sign that they’ll be together forever, more meaningful than the fact that she regularly feels neglected by him and he is constantly making her cry. I’m baffled by the arbitrary indicators of compatibility that we search for. The surface-level traits and affinities, the shared i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/16 03:30 PM
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OMG YES I would LOVE to see you write that post!! The mods are really helpful with post suggestions, fyi :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 09:06 PM
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...please take me shopping and dress me forever
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 07:13 PM
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I set the bar "this is what I would do" (insert smug face) and when that expectation inevitable fails to be met, I blame blame blame. SO guilty of this. I said that to my mom once when I was mad at an ex over something silly, and she goes, "Well, then, date yourself." DAMN, mama bear! :)
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 06:01 PM
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However, ultimately, this too is conditional. It's conditional upon you being his children! Touché! An excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 05:51 PM
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Good I drew boundaries with a friend last week. It was hard and scary, but the outcome has been great. I'm getting some space from her constant drama and SO-bashing, and the reprieve has been so great. I walked away from a clothing swap yesterday with the sassiest pair of high heels ever. Date night! SO and I had the most relaxing, fun date-night-in together on Friday. I'm still glowing from it. Bad I kind of overbooked myself a little bit this weekend. Not a ton, but I would've liked more time …
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 05:48 PM
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I get so much mileage out of the expression "special snowflake." Love it.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 05:38 PM
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The dilemma is that I'm a college student, and most of the other female students wear athletic shorts and a baggy T-shirt to class and around campus, so I feel like wearing more formal clothing will be too out of place. I feel this - thankfully, there is a middle ground! You can make small upgrades and see a big difference in your confidence and how you are perceived. If you pick a sundress over shorts and a t-shirt, that's a step up. If you pick a flattering v-neck sweater, fitted jeans and boo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 05:05 PM
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5'10" woman chiming in! Girl, PREACH. In addition to the shoe challenge, I'm guessing you also struggle with finding pants that fit? I have a 35" inseam so I feel that. Dresses have a much more forgiving margin of error than pants, which is why they are my best friend. Also, it's easy to find casual dresses that are pretty inexpensive. Like u/nedden94 said, cotton and jersey dresses are very easy to throw on and dress up or down. A light, airy dress is several notches above your classmates' atti…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 04:58 PM
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I distinctly remember a conversation with my infinitely wise father about this. He said that his love for our mother is, to some extent, conditional. Does he forgive her and support her and understand that she is human? Of course! But if she were to cheat on him, abuse him, treat us or his family unkindly, make destructive choices, etc. there would come a point at which he would leave her. He might not stop loving her right away, but he would not stay with her. He said that his love for us, his …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 04:42 PM
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(I think he has been a little traumatized by reading some of the stuff on TRP, lol.) I think we all are! :) love your guys' banter on here, makes me smile.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/16 04:45 PM
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Well, now I'm blushing... :) let me kick around a few ideas! Can't wait to hear more thoughts from you!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 04:43 PM
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I really think they are usually trying to convince themselves more than others. PREEEEEEEACH. I have a friend who is constantly fighting with or in tears over her boyfriend, saying he's the most selfish person he's ever met and doesn't ever pay attention to her. Her IG touts him as a "selfless, beautiful soul." Meanwhile I'm over here mopping up her emotional mess for the tenth time and I'm like.... k. Finally confronted her about it. Outcome TBD...
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 02:30 PM
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Also bananas, they're like little slices of ice cream! Oh and grapes!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 02:26 PM
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Gratitude Moment: I love that RPW attitude that we want a marriage, not a wedding/proposal. It's so refreshing.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 02:25 PM
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This made me smile :) I once overheard a girl at a coffee shop saying she would reject her boyfriend's proposal if the ring cost less than $50,000. Can you believe that?!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 02:24 PM
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That makes me so sad. My SO would rather die than propose in front of a big crowd. I can't imagine setting expectations that would make proposing to me was a source of stress and anxiety for him instead of a joyful occasion!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 02:23 PM
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My guess is that the orgasm is the product of being able to relax and be comfortable with him, not the other way around. Regular orgasms are also a sign, in many cases, that your hanky panky partner has taken the time to learn what pops your toast, another indicator of bonding. TL;DR IMHO the bonding is not the outcome of orgasms, the orgasms are the outcome (ha) of the bonding!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/16 02:19 PM
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The last few weeks have been a whirlwind, I am so happy this weekend will be relatively chill! SAME. Enjoy, my friend!
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 08:50 PM
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Cozy Friday night in with the SO, clothing swap with girlfriends, girls' night with a dear friend I haven't seen in weeks, and a lot of time to just be at home. It's been an insane few weeks, so I can't wait! I also scooped up a freelance project this past week, so I'm going to spend some time working on that. I'm really excited about it!
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 08:49 PM
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Slightly off-topic... I read this article earlier this week and it's still resonating with me: Here's why happy couples post less about their relationships on social media. I definitely see a lot more "man crush Monday" and "so in love!" posts from friends who are constantly spatting with their SOs. I mostly follow friends on Instagram, so I won't link to them directly, but I'd like to share two mindframes that can keep you out of the Solipsism Sinkhole in relation to everyday posts: 1. Am I pos…
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 08:42 PM
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I'm not married, so I won't pretend to offer advice, but... have you read Laura Doyle's book?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/16 03:55 PM
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I'm really sorry your friend said something so dismissive to you. That sounds needlessly unkind. It's baffling to me that she would treat your sweet gesture as silly or stupid... "those girls" must mean "girls who are willing to put in a level of effort that I am not and are thus a threat to me." I think cooking or baking for someone is great. By the way... I love cooking for my SO too :) I wish I'd had a camera to capture the look on his face when I surprised him with cookies the other day!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/16 03:58 PM
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I'm grateful for the wisdom of my father. My family is going through a number of crazy transitions and changes right now, and he is doing an incredible job keeping calm and keeping us together. His patience and perspective is so valuable. I'm grateful for the fact that I can easily find resources on the internet to help with a frustrating muscle ache - and the resources are helping! I'm grateful for my SO's unflappable nature. The aforementioned family changes are paired with some frustrating dy…
/r/RedPillWives02/11/16 04:17 PM
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Well, this was affirming on a lot of levels! He is, mostly definitely, a giant cat. What's interesting is that my SO's cuddle affinity is largely separate from sex. When I go over to his place, he'll say, "Let's sit on the couch for a little bit," and within 60 seconds he's got me completely horizontal and wrapped up in this boa constrictor snuggle burrito. He almost never uses this to initiate sex - he seems to want the closeness. I suspect it helps him unwind from his day. Whatever the reason,…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 03:13 PM
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I just can't connect with someone who isn't intellectually curious, even in different ways than I am. Same. Half my conversations with my SO are about articles or books one of us read!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 12:19 PM
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Food for thought!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 12:14 PM
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That is the cutest, funniest thing ever!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 12:12 PM
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She definitely has an RPW streak in her!
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 03:46 PM
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Hmm... Gretchen herself will admit that the quiz is fallible. You sound like a questioner to me :) Take a look at this and see if it resonates with you. I suspect you're similar to u/cats_or_get_out at myself: Making people happy is something you can justify!
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 03:45 PM
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What a great list! My SO is a textbook introvert, and #7 has been an important one for me. When he's dead tired and just needs to be alone and recharge, it's not personal. It's just the truth, and if I take it personally, it'll just add to his stress and exhaustion. So I respect his space and make sure he knows I'm available if he wants some company when he's feeling exhausted. Sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn't. Either way, I respect his wishes, and always have a happy, restored SO the nex…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 03:41 PM
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I LOVE that book! Have you read Gretchen Rubin's book, Better Than Before? It's a similar message, slightly different means of delivery. I thoroughly enjoyed both.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 02:46 PM
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FWIW, I don't go to bars either. I met my dude on the interwebs.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 02:44 PM
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You and me both, my friend. If I think something is dumb or not worth my time, I won't do it. I suspect we're similar in that making people happy is a "why" we find worthwhile!
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 02:42 PM
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YESSS books!! First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors by Laura Doyle This book is all about steps YOU can take to build intimacy in your relationship. Laura focuses on the Six Intimacy Skills, all of which will empower you to create the sweet, loving marriage you want! I loved how much this book gave you the power to make changes. The Surrendered Wife By Laura Doyle Another classic. This one talks about the beauty of trusting your SO and creating a loving, sweet, intimate relationship where you …
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/16 08:27 PM
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Making one of my favorite weeknight standbys this week: spiced chickpea wraps with tahini dressing from Thug Kitchen. The swearing is abundant, be warned, but this recipe is SO fast and easy and makes for easy, tasty leftovers. Cannot sing its praises enough. Plus I get my tahini at a little Mediterranean grocery store owned by the nicest family from Israel, and I love being able to support their small business.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/16 08:20 PM
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Why is it considered (by many on the left) to be empowering for a man to dress in drag, put on makeup, and look fabulous, but for a woman to wear the same makeup and clothing, it is considered trashy or over-the-top? When a woman is obsessed with fashion, she is shallow and vapid. When a man is obsessed with fashion, he is sensitive and artistic. WHOOMP THERE IT IS There is one particular rampant SJW in my life who would move mountains to affirm and celebrate drag queens (who are, indeed, quite …
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 08:06 PM
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Love these! I'm also a big fan of massage night, obviously with multiple happy endings. Light candles, turn on soft music, bust out the oil (or one of those yummy candles that melts into massage oil, omggggg) and get your SO niiice and relaxed. You may find he's happy to make the next massage night about you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 11:35 PM
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Taking notes over here! My mom is all about the magic eraser too. She bought me a bunch last time she came to visit.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 06:50 PM
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Adding this to my Christmas list!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 09:02 PM
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Love this! Also want to share the DIY shower cleaner I found recently. This stuff is MAGIC.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 09:02 PM
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I have a couple. Growing up, I was very threatened by girls growing up who put an effort into their appearance. Somehow I had this unshakeable belief that guys like girls who weren't "high maintenance," which is partially true, but I equated "high maintenance" with "dressed nicely and made an effort with their appearance." For years I rode atop my high horse, convinced that I was more genuine and appealing and less "shallow" in my shapeless jeans and t-shirts and half-assed hair, somehow blind t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 08:56 PM
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This continues to be one of my favorite RPW stories!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 08:26 PM
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Yup. My SO waited for a while for me too, even after we were official. I seem to have been born with a steel cable connecting my heart and my hoo-hoo and absolutely cannot handle physical intimacy without emotional commitment and told him as much right away. Was he rarin' to go when the time came? You bet he was! :) But he was also totally supportive and seems, like your partner, to like the fact that my n-count is extremely low.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/16 08:58 PM
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UGH YES people who think startling other people in the dark is funny can go suck a lemon! It's just mean!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 05:40 PM
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Phobias/Nightmares Not a horse fan. Nope. The worst nightmare I've had in recent memory forced me to dive in a massive tank of full of squid carcasses in order to retrieve some arbitrary object that would keep my family from dying. I woke up in a cold sweat and a hot panic. I think it stems from some underwater claustrophobia and also the fact that squid are clearly blood-sucking alien mutants. Deep Fears Anything impeding my mobility. The thought of any kind of paralysis makes me sick to my sto…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 05:37 PM
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"I appreciate when you are a friendly ear to let me vent but I need you to understand that I have heard your feedback and have chosen not to take your advice. I love you having you as a friend but perhaps we take this topic off the table." YES! I used almost this exact phrasing with a friend recently. Worked like a charm. This is so affirming.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 05:29 PM
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I've dealt with several flavors of this recently. I think everyone else is right that speaking negatively about your partner, even with positive intent, is an invitation for bucket crabs to go to town on your relationship. In my recent experience, even a passing comment - not a complaint - about your relationship that a friend sees as a circumstance they themselves would not want can lead to this kind of attack. It's so frustrating and even a little sad. Our fellow ladies have already given some…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 05:27 PM
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I love this idea! Do you have a "script" or a go-to phrase for this?
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 01:57 PM
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Reminds me of this gut-wrenching beauty of a quote: “The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and deve…
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 01:31 AM
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Totally copying this for my SO's and my first-date-iversary in December! He told me a few months after we started dating that he liked the dress I wore on our first date because "I knew right away you were a classy lady." Right in the heart feels!
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 01:13 AM
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Love this idea. So clever.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/16 01:09 AM
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I LOVE Minimalist Baker! I have her new cookbook and it's divine. She has a copycat recipe for those cheddar garlic biscuits at Red Lobster and my SO was all over it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/16 09:05 PM
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Definitely curious about that cleaner.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 05:18 PM
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Amen on the busy week, my friend. Sending well wishes and calm your way - I'm right there with ya!
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 04:56 PM
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Good: Had a wonderful night with my SO on Saturday! It was so fun and relaxing. I got my ass handed to me by a training run earlier in the day, and when I asked him what he wanted us to do together, he said, "How about a milkshake and a massage?" It led exactly where you'd think, and it was so much fun! Plus we had lots of time to just talk and cuddle (a shared favorite thing, especially when we've both been busy and haven't seen each other much!), and it just felt good. Plus the training run wa…
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 04:53 PM
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I'm really into plants right now! I've recently split and repotted my snake plants (and sent one home with my SO - he loves it!). I have one more little one that'll graduate into a bigger pot and go to a friend this week, which frees up all my little pots for... Spider plants! A friend picked up a free one on someone's driveway the other day and it is massive. It'll easily split into 2-3 plants and it's already propagating like crazy, so I can use my little pots to grow some babies and have more…
/r/RedPillWives23/10/16 04:48 PM
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This article about fall decorating is full of swears. Hilarious and NSFW. "Have you ever been in an Italian deli with salamis hanging from their ceiling? Well then you’re going to f---ing love my house. Just look where you’re walking or you’ll get KO’d by the gauntlet of misshapen, zucchini-descendant bastards swinging from above."
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 07:52 PM
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There's a CDC study on that?? Can you link to it? My research-loving brain is like OMG GIMME
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/16 04:06 PM
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Well, shucks! Thank you! I would love to write something up this weekend - may I send it to you for review and input before posting?
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 01:19 PM
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AH so proud! The feeling after you head off a bad decision and make a good one instead is so awesome!
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 01:57 AM
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Yes! My SO inspires me too. He'll text me something cute and just casually mentioned how much he deadlifted, and after I'm done swooning, I'm like... whew, time to do some lunges. Love your point about apologizing and moving forward, too. The day I learned grudges are essentially useless is a powerful day indeed.
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 10:04 PM
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Allow me to tout one of my favorite People Categorization Models! I am a huge Gretchen Rubin fan and love her Four Tendencies. You can read up and take the quiz here. It's structured around how you respond to inner vs. outer expectations. For the record, I am a Questioner. The biggest thing that works for me: Ask yourself, "Is it worth it?" This is mostly related to unnecessary snacking. If I'm wondering if I should stop for a latte, have another cookie, buy a snack that I don't really need... I…
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 10:00 PM
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Yeah, something along those lines could be fun. I like the "simple questions" threads but it would be nice to make the conversation more focused. Or maybe forego the "simple questions" model and just say, "We're talking about hair and makeup this week in this thread. Share/ask/discuss." Make room for meatier conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/16 09:36 PM
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I love the idea of a "simple questions" thread, or some kind of rotating series of question threads: relationship questions, beauty questions, home questions, theory/game questions, what have you. I love me some sidebar, but discussions always end up sticking with me more.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/16 09:21 PM
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Congrats! So happy!
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 09:16 PM
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Camille! I want to hear your input! (nudge)
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 02:39 PM
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OMG YOU JUST KICKED ME IN THE CHILDHOOD!!!!!! Literally lol'd at this expression
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 11:35 PM
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Trail runner here. Seconded. Although my SO doesn't run, so I take him hiking instead!
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 11:34 PM
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They're sooooo good! And they're sorta healthy (or at least less UNhealthy!) on account of the chickpeas. Enjoy!!
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 12:12 AM
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My SO can always be charmed with baked goods! He and I had a "date night in" at his place the other night (we wanted to be together but we also wanted to read our books... solution = reading snuggle pile). I whipped up these, texted him to preheat the oven to 350, then brought them over covered in foil so he couldn't see! Then he had to smell them baking! :) and of course he tried to get up when the timer dinged so there was some play-wrestling when I pushed him back down on the couch and brough…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 08:57 PM
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This or ginger tea! Both so good!
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 08:46 PM
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Good: Had a super snuggly low key "date night in" with my SO! I brought over baked yummies to surprise him, and we piled on the couch together and read our respective books. It was so relaxing and fun. Every so often he'd scoop an arm under my legs and tug me closer or just wedge a hand under my butt and pretend he wasn't doing anything weird. It was funny and adorable and made me feel really loved :) Bad: Sometimes I get a little tit-for-tat internally over how much alone time he needs. Nine ti…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 08:44 PM
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In the winter, I usually track where he is with the Find My Friends app to time a warm cup of tea or cocoa. This is fifty shades of brilliant. My SO is a total sucker for banana bread, wondering if I could recreate this concept... maybe offset it by ten minutes so it's just starting to smell magical when he comes in the door!
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 12:33 PM
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Awww baby Dunham! <3 that's a brilliant work-around. I don't have kids, and I have mad respect for you ladies who are doing the mama thing and the wife thing. Holy wow.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/16 02:49 AM
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I love the snack idea! I'm also a big fan of the run-and-greet when he gets home/comes over. I run to my SO because I'm happy to see him, I'm in a good mood, I had a bad day and need a hug, he had a bad day and need a hug... pretty much I/you can always come up with a reason to greet him with a girly body-tackle :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/16 05:09 PM
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This made me laugh out loud
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 02:54 AM
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As an on-and-off anxiety battler, I have two go-to tricks: Journaling. Just process through it. The way I visualize it, your hamster is running on a wheel on your head. Putting pen to paper and letting it all out - as formally or informally as you want - is like opening the cage door and letting that furry little guy out of your head so you can be calm once again. I have an actual journal but I have a friend who actually just uses a legal pad. Do whatever works for you, and give yourself a few m…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 02:45 AM
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It's always seemed to me that it's worse if I leave the item in the washer too long before throwing it in the dryer. Yes! It gets that funky, almost mildew-y smell? Mama bear taught me to use vinegar for that too! Works like a charm.
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 02:37 AM
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If it works on men's bike shorts, it'll work on anything! :D
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 02:35 AM
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Put a cup of regular white vinegar in the wash! Just pour it in there with the detergent right at the beginning. My mom has used this trick forever with great results. I use it as a hardcore runner and yoga person (who totally understands the Workout Crotch problem) and it's always worked for me! Congrats on the weight loss, that is amazing!
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 09:38 PM
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You just described my SO to a T! He is SUCH an introvert and loves his alone time! There's a lot of great advice on here already so I'm going to just be a broken record. Introverts just need their quiet time. It has nothing to do with you. He would need quiet time in or out of a relationship. When you miss him, just remember: by letting him have his alone time, you're letting him be himself. And what a gift that is! My family is 60% introverts, as is my dude, and I often hear that introverts don…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/16 03:39 PM
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This has occurred to me on several occasions!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/16 12:24 PM
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My sentiments exactly. No one is at their best on Date #1, and even if they are, one date is way too small a window to get more than a preliminary sense of who they are and whether they are a good fit for you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 07:24 PM
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I got that feeling as well. I think the final "product" of the research is essentially correct, but there seems to be a missing factor somewhere.
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 07:06 PM
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WHAT this is so fascinating. Wow. Thank you for this! The best part of any flavor of RP is there is always more to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 06:48 PM
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Thank you! Cinna is a masterpiece.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 06:46 PM
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I would read the heck outta that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 06:46 PM
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So cute! I get so much physical affection in my daily life from friends (hugs, playing with each other's hair, fixing each other's jewelry) that I forget the fact that he can go days without touching another human being. It's amazing when you realize just how powerful your cuddles are for your man! I also like giving my SO massages. Sometimes I'll just announce to him, "I'm giving you a massage when you come over later." I've yet to be refused :) I actually have a massage book that I reference, …
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 06:44 PM
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Oooooh I love how that succulent looks. Very tidy and still beautiful. I officially want a succulent for my bathroom plant. The towel rolling is brilliant too. Thank you for sharing these! FbD = new blog crush.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 06:36 PM
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Same! I'm a hardcore meal planner (another tip I forgot to mention, u/hot-breakfast!) and plan out everything and get all my groceries on Saturday or Sunday so I have everything I need for the week. Removes the stress of "What shall I make?" and of not having enough time! Great tip. My SO is also a crockpot guy. He works a ton, so he makes all his meals in a crockpot.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 06:30 PM
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Thanks :) my SO knows all about the runners and the goofy group dynamics and has met essentially all of them. He's completely supportive, so that's good, because I LOVE to run with my friends!
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 12:01 PM
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I would love to see photos! I'm happy with my current linens, and i totally agree about lightness. I want to bring more brightness in.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 03:12 AM
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I have this beautiful shower curtain that's sort of floral/mandala-esque, lots of greens and purples and pinks. My towels are deep purple. I love bathrooms with lots of greenery but have no windows, so I'm thinking about getting a fake "vine" to hang around my mirror, hang two pieces of art I have, and getting a bright fake flower/leafy potted plant for the counter. Do you have any ideas? I'll probably check out Pinterest too!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 06:03 PM
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Ooh I totally want your bath bomb "recipe"!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 05:59 PM
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Could you do the bulk of the cooking ahead of time and do the finishing touches in the evening? Make soup on Sunday and then reheat it (on the stove, not the microwave!) during the week with a take-and-bake bread or similar. Casseroles also work! It's worth asking yourself if creating tension in your relationship is worth the pleasure of debating. Would you rather be "right" or be in a happy relationship? Actually... Have you read any of Laura Doyle's books? She explains this much better!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 02:16 AM
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I read this yesterday and made it my goal to embody it last night with my SO. Mini FR! He had a super stressful week at work, and I invited him over for dinner. I gave him a few choices for supper (which he likes - his "food mood" often changes!) and wound up making this chili for him, along with some garlic biscuits. I timed it so that the biscuits would be coming out of the oven when he arrived, plus gave myself a few minutes to put on a dress and tidy up my place. I don't always don't take th…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 01:49 AM
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How should we approach big groups of friends with this mindset? I'm a runner, and we tend to move in packs. It's a big, wonderful community. I don't hang out with any of the guys individually but we'll often go running on mixed groups. A lot of us have SOs, both inside and outside the running community. Is that... "okay"? How can I be smart about respecting my SO while still being a part of the running community?
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 01:14 AM
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Nope! I do have an English degree though, so it's quite possible I just talk like my professors. I sure hope so, they were brilliant folk.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 02:27 PM
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It would be up to us to deal with either. I think this is the key! I can send something naughty if I want, but the fun of it would be quashed if I got mad if/when he didn't respond right away or at all. A sext should be a sext, not an expectation, you know? Also I love the image of the hamster "pacing" XD
/r/RedPillWives08/10/16 03:44 AM
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Well, now I'm curious: who are the characters you have loved most?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 03:34 AM
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And here’s a story where a simple girl who Every Girl is supposed to relate to, because not every girl is a Unicorn 10, has one purpose: to love the beautiful, marble, Adonis, sparkly cupcake that is the man in her life. Laughed out loud over this! This is a fantastic point about how Bella exists to love Edward, one I had not considered. Your last paragraph was especially compelling. And it's fiction so my next point is more or less moot, but to your point about her vampirization, Edward has the…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 03:30 AM
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Thanks for being so supportive! I've learned a ton through this discussion and have thoroughly enjoyed it. There's always more to learn when it comes to TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 03:11 AM
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I read an article a while back about how the fact that Bella is softer, a bookworm and not a lightsaber wielder, makes her appealing for the very reasons other posters have outlined: We can relate to her because we're not intimidated by her. It makes me wonder why there is no middle ground character, someone between Bella and Rey or Katniss. The character who can hold her own, bubble with feminine energy, make great things happen in her own space and the world without having to take up the arms …
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 08:58 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 08:18 PM
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Your 2nd point pretty much describes me completely! :) I loved reading and loved the strong female protagonists that didn't focus on beauty as a main attribute. Totally. I absolutely agree that there is a place for this. That's where I'm more of a Katniss fan than a Bella fan. Katniss is a grump, sure, but, as u/bchsweetheart pointed out, she has a lot of really powerful and important qualities. Bella, on the other hand, doesn't bring much to the table, either inside or outside a relationship. T…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 08:16 PM
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I agree completely, with this and with u/pantheratigris95's similar point. It's tough to reconcile the fantasy of the "nothing special" protagonist with the daily reality of how important self improvement is. I don't know how to say this without feeling condescending to the reader, but it begs the question whether some readers are willing or able to delineate between the two? I'll use myself as an example here. I loved the "nothing special" protagonist theme because I was, to quote Tigris, an ug…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 07:51 PM
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On a similar vein to the rice/fish thing, I heard the other day that pie crust used to just be a container for storing the sweet fruit filling and was actually discarded after. So basically we're eating the Tupperware of yore.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 05:51 PM
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Men want the women in their lives to be a source of comfort and support, a soft place to land when things get tough so tomorrow, the world doesn't seem so cold, rough and hard. Can we talk about what this looks like? This post resonated with me so hard because I am so guilty of everything you said... but I don't know where to begin in terms of changing my behavior to something that would be more meaningful to my SO! I really want to learn. How do you ladies make your man feel respected, heard, a…
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 05:39 PM
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We ARE capable of doing better and we will not settle for mediocre or worse here. This. This is why I love RPW. This is so empowering to me on so many levels.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 05:34 PM
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Part of being a good partner though is branching out of your comfort zone to offer what your SO needs - I'm extremely interested in how other women find successful strategies to step outside their box and trust that relating through personal experience is not what their partner needs, even though not doing so can feel as if you're not helping at all. Would love a conversation or how-to or toolkit surrounding this. I struggle with this.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 05:29 PM
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A very fair point, especially the bit about the meat of Katniss's story existing outside her romantic entanglements. It's one of the things that makes her so unique as a protagonist. For what it's worth, I don't consider in the same category apart from their shared prominence in the YA lit scene, which is I've placed them side by side for this write-up. But I really appreciate your separation of them here - I neglected to address that. My quarrel with her story is how aggressively she resists th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 05:01 PM
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I did okay with my goals. The daily yoga thing needs tweaking purely for the sake of time and the fact that my current race training schedule is very demanding. I did find an ab video that I like and have been doing a few times a week, with great results! As for the fashion thing, I bought two absolutely beautiful skirts that will work well through the winter months with boots and tights, so that felt like a step in the right direction! Also scooped up a half-price Patagonia jacket that perfectl…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 03:36 PM
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I always hold my SO's hand in public. Always. I make it known that I want him to touch me, to show that I'm with him. If he walks ahead, I'll do this little girly run so I can catch up and hold his hand! We were recently at a wedding a lot of my friends who are couples, and they never touched each other? They always stood a foot apart and didn't really get affectionate for the most part. And then my SO always had my hand or has an arm around me, which makes me really happy. I made sure to tell h…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 08:50 PM
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This is pretty much the exact routine I'm looking to adopt! Can I ask what kind of moisturizer you use?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/16 12:26 PM
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So true! And it's like... okay, special snowflake, you're not the only one who has had a weird experience on here!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/16 12:01 PM
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This explanation of why the hookup line is ineffective makes so much sense! Will be sharing this with my girlfriends!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/16 12:00 PM
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Another tip I like: remember you're writing for men, not women. This isn't Pinterest or Instagram. Women may be tickled by things like "Just a country girl in the big city" or "live * laugh * LOVE" but that kind of nonsense will either baffle or repel most eligible gentlemen. Remember your target audience.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/16 11:59 AM
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The whole "women are incapable of love" is the male equivalent of "all men are pigs." Mind = blown. That is such helpful perspective!
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 08:17 PM
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Toothpicks = BRILLIANT
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 06:04 PM
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Aside from the usual, I always have my kindle, a tape measure, and a list of measurements for any home goods I'm on the lookout for. I also usually have a handful of ginger chews with me purely out of habit.
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 06:04 PM
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I used to follow this blogger who would always say this: "What's the best thing I can do next?" Which is to say... you can't change the past (and I hope you can be kinder to yourself about that), but your future is all up to you! What can you do next - or right now - to get yourself moving down a new path? None of us are born with the red pill in our mouths like a silver spoon. Most of us found our way here and were gobsmacked by the whole concept, then started to make changes with great results…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/16 01:54 PM
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That bra analogy is magnificent.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/16 08:13 PM
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This is a sub for women. So, luckily for you, if you don't like the way it's run, you are welcome to leave. Also, while my understanding of RPW is still developing, I'm pretty sure that if you think we need to "toughen up" and become "equal" and "alpha females," you clearly don't understand the tenets of RPW or what it means to be RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/16 12:11 PM
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I know this feeling!! I remind myself that I'm investing in feeling good. It's self care. When I take a few extra minutes to put on a cute outfit and braid up my hair, I feel better and happier. That's worth spending a few extra bucks on!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/16 01:23 PM
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Tinder! At least that's where I met my current man. Past dudes: college classes, church, mutual friends. But yeah, I'm totally Team Tinder. You have to be smart about it, but you can find wonderful men on there. Tinder bonus: thanks to the swiping feature, you have complete control over who is allowed to talk to/message you, unlike more "traditional" online dating platforms where anyone can send you a message asking to be their sugar baby or whether they can buy your dirty socks (true stories).
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/16 02:32 AM
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I'll take one of each, please. Also Patagonia is having a 50% off sale for a bunch of their online stuff, so you can scoop up some great warm things!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/16 11:25 AM
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It's about progress, not perfection! Good for you for seeing it as a journey and taking ownership. That takes a lot of courage and humility! I just finished Surrendered Wife and am almost done with First, Kill All The Marriage Counselors and cannot stop thinking about them, so if you want to chat about them... message me!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 09:42 PM
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Alternative idea for your oatmeal dilemma: Make these! This recipe makes a gazillion and they freeze like a dream. Super easy to reheat in the microwave or toaster oven, perfect for on-the-go, and you can customize the add-ins however you want!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 09:09 PM
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Honestly? I’m working really hard on cultivating a feminine appearance. I cannot tell you how many years I spent terrified of my own sexuality and femininity. I spent the vast majority of my teens and early twenties in jeans, t-shirts, and tennis shoes. I don’t think I wore a dress for… eight years? Maybe ten? My hair was constantly in a messy ponytail. No makeup to speak of. I definitely worshiped at the Church of IDGAF and believed its gospel, touted by oh-so-many rom-coms, that the chick who …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 08:56 PM
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I hear ya. Online is pretty weird. It's hard when you have the ability to weigh and curate everything you say before typing it, as opposed to having to speak off the cuff in person! And pictures are tough! Definitely recruit a friend :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 05:21 PM
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Looking put together is definitely the first step to being noticed, and, hearkening back to my own college days (a veritable sea of too-big sweats and old t-shirts), it really doesn’t take that much extra effort to stand out! Put on a cute sweater instead of a hoodie, a sundress instead of gym shorts, a pretty blouse instead of a t-shirt. I also find that earrings always make an outfit look prettier! You don’t need to spend an hour a day getting ready to stand out. In terms of drinking, I agree …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 04:58 PM
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I know you said you're not really interested in online dating, but if you're intentional about it, there are a few diamonds in the rough! It requires some up-front vetting (and writing your profile in a way that weeds out the kinds of guys you want to avoid), but it can be done! Example: I wrote in my profile that I don't drink, which immediately deterred any guy whose plan was to buy me a few cocktails and then try to score. Not a single bar-hopping bro in search of plates to stack got hold of …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 12:22 PM
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Most of the classics have been covered, so I'll simply add that I am never without my Kindle, a tape measure, and a list of measurements for whatever home decor I am currently seeking (at the moment, baskets or similar to reorganize my bathroom closet).
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 12:16 PM
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My latest breakfast kick is rice and bean burritos. I make a big batch of this recipe, then wrap it up on a tortilla with hummus. Cheap, easy, nutritious, delicious, and keeps me full until lunch! I also am making this chickpea sunflower sandwich for quick lunches. The "filling" stores well in the fridge. Also my SO loves this sandwich so it's fun to have it on hand for him! He and i went for a hike and then had a picnic the other day and i brought this recipe and some pitas from the Mediterrane…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 12:12 PM
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The rocket thing is so unbelievably cute!
/r/RedPillWives27/09/16 03:34 AM
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My brother used to pick up our cat, back when she was a kitten, and pretend she was an assault rifle and run around the house defending us from "bad guys." Men and cats are a hilarious combo!
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 04:30 PM
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I'd love to know your home workout routine!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 12:30 PM
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My dude will come in for a kiss and then basically cover my entire mouth with his and try to squish my lips shut with his. I also tend to shriek a little bit and jump when my ticklish butt is grabbed/pinched suddenly, so of course now this must be done in public as often as possible. He is a classic Sigma, and while he's very friendly and had a great sense of humor with everyone, he's pretty stoic and quiet in public. But once it's just the two of us, he becomes this big playful goofball. It's o…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 11:59 AM
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I LOVE this one!! Creativity is something i struggle to cultivate in my daily life. This would be a great way to kickstart.
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 02:04 AM
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Seconded on reaching out to him. Almost this exact wording got me a second date with my now long-term SO. Men like to feel wanted, and that phrasing - "I want to see you" - still gives him the power to plan the date and be the gentleman!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 02:01 AM
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A jacket like the one you posted is #1 on my fall shopping wish list right now!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 01:58 AM
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Depending on the situation and if you need/want to look more "sporty," some running/athletic companies make stuff with great silhouettes. I have a waterproof half-zip pullover from Pearl Izumi that's very clearly athletic garb but has a very flattering and feminine silhouette. It's great for running of course but also works for stuff like fall sports games, parades, etc. I always get compliments on it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 01:57 AM
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Truth. Also fleece-lined leggings can totally pass for tights.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 01:55 AM
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I have a few race goals on my list: sub-six-hour 50k, sub-12-hour 50-miler (although it's likely I'll hit both of those in the next year!). I really want to have my own chickens someday! My SO caught me reading a chicken book at the hardware store the other day and asked me about it, and it turns out he loves backyard chickens! So that was wonderful. I allso really want to go to Haida Gwaii, like so bad my chest aches. And Iceland. And Banff. Anywhere I can kayak.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 01:52 AM
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We had a standard poodle when I was a kid. Best dog EVER.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 01:48 AM
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I dated a guy for a while who made very little money. Personally I don't think it's a disqualifier at face value, but a few additional factors can be. My former SO was working hard toward being more financially secure (we were quite young, so he had a lot of room to grow), and he spent his money well. We didn't do anything fancy when we went out, but we always had fun and he made an effort to make the most of it! Had he been careless or without ambition, that would've made this a very different …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/16 12:04 PM
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I, for one, am a little baffled that this is considered news! "Woman is pretty and bakes well and we're all threatened." Good job, media! :) Great example, thank you for posting. I'm new to RPW and find examples like this helpful.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 12:11 PM
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I love the way you phrased this! It's about trust and respect above all else, instilling confidence in people who are, in some way, shape, or form, on your team!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/16 03:09 PM
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Do you take biotin supplements? They work wonders for strengthening hair and can be found very easily at grocery or drug stores.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 05:39 PM
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Podcasts might be a fun substitute! I love the app Podcast Addict, and i love the podcast Happier. Also, for what it's worth, in my nerdy family, we grew up listening to NPR! :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/16 01:07 PM
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Okay I totally love that... where do you find yours?
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 09:51 PM
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I want to do 10-20 minutes of yoga every day. My plan is to find 4-6 short videos on YouTube that i like and just rotate through them! Hoping for flexibility and tone. Also, I'm not entirely sure how to quantify this, but I would really like to get a handle on my own feminine fall/winter fashion. I'm pretty new to RPW, and it's easy to look girly in the summer (dress + earrings = done, plus boyfriend lives it!) But I've always kinda phoned it in once it gets cold (I'm in the Midwest). So I'm thi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 05:43 PM
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You go! One of the things I liked about my alma mater during my campus tour was the lack of sweatpants. There were certainly plenty of folks wearing them, but also many who dressed up a little more. It really does make a difference in how you feel and how you are perceived.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 05:30 PM
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Yes, this is so affirming! My guy is a sucker for anything in the banana/zucchini bread, and I'll often bring it over and toast a few slices for us while he tells me about his day. Edited for a typo!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/16 01:25 PM
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Sitting here gobsmacked at my computer, reading all these posts, realizing my boyfriend is absolutely a Sigma! This is fascinating! I've finally got a word for him! I definitely relate to the challenge of keeping up with him. Personally, I keep an eye on a hefty list of blogs using Feedly. I skim through every day, just to get a sense of what's going on. If something is really interesting to me, I'll read the whole thing. I highly recommend this! You could use Twitter the same way. My Sigma alwa…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/16 04:02 PM
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