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Escalation & Calibrationdeterminator94/r/seduction02/11/24 10:13 AM
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Resourcesdeterminator94/r/seduction28/03/22 12:58 AM
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Resourcesdeterminator94/r/seduction25/03/22 08:40 AM
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Lifestyledeterminator94/r/seduction13/03/22 09:15 PM
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Logisticsdeterminator94/r/seduction21/04/22 02:59 AM
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Lifestyledeterminator94/r/seduction12/06/22 10:09 PM
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Fundamentalsdeterminator94/r/seduction07/06/22 05:55 AM
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Conversationdeterminator94/r/seduction18/03/22 11:16 PM
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Outer Game determinator94/r/seduction15/05/22 08:23 AM
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Outer Game determinator94/r/seduction27/03/22 08:19 PM
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Inner Game determinator94/r/seduction27/03/22 02:18 AM
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First step - do the opposite of everything you just said. In other words, give less of a fuck.
/r/seduction20/03/26 05:10 AM
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I wanna add onto why nice guys and weakness in men is a repellent - not just to women, but to other men. These are the kinda guys who are likely to betray their homies for far less (and coming from personal experience, this makes my blood boil more than a woman turning me down). The words I associate nice guys with - supplicating… placing… spineless… coward…
/r/seduction10/11/25 09:57 PM
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You dodged a bullet, buddy. Also your frame is weak - you showed genuine emotion to her (also did you show it first?)? Bro the game is the same for if the girl is a fck buddy, one time deal or wife material - you gotta have your own frame of reference.
/r/seduction08/11/25 06:50 PM
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Let’s be clear here - I’m not a conventional Christian who goes to church. Those places, for religious or even historically ethnic reasons, are some of the most judgmental places I’ve gone to, ie: Korean churches who hate that I’m half Japanese, churches filled with vultures who turn on the black sheep before turning on one another.
/r/seduction21/08/25 06:58 AM
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It says in the Bible “Judge not lest YE be judged.” In other words, when it comes to interacting with women, if you enter the interaction judgmental, you better be ready to take it. No one is immune to judgment. Not even us men. Reality is this - women have that side in them to be super horny… to be slutty. Much in the same way we men have that side in us to be a savage dominating animal. Way I see it, whether it’s casual sex or ride or die, the woman I partake in it with is gonna be MY SLUT ;) …
/r/seduction21/08/25 05:45 AM
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Depends on the definition of “offensive.” I agree with not being crass in challenging her, but challenging her beliefs with CONVICTION in a disciplined restrained (even nonchalant) manner is the way to go.
/r/seduction19/08/25 06:02 AM
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That’s why I’m looking to build a lean muscular physique… and aside from aesthetics, I actually want it to function, ie: fighting skills, rock climbing, parkour, muscle-ups (other advanced physical shit)
/r/seduction15/04/25 04:10 AM
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No one asked you to read it bro lol that’s on you
/r/seduction31/03/25 08:20 AM
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I never said anything about putting on a performance - I’m talking ACTUALLY performing, demonstrating you have your shit together and can do it YOUR way.
/r/seduction31/03/25 08:20 AM
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Every factor about a man’s life should be seductive - not necessarily just regarding sex and women, but every little thing you do should be CAPTIVATING… Between the way you walk… The way you talk to someone (tempo, tone, cadence, etc.) The way you hold your posture… The way you chew your food… The way you move or don’t… (And in since I’m a fashion photographer/videographer and filmmaker also training to build a warrior physique and fighting skillset…) The way I use the camera to communicate a vi…
/r/seduction31/03/25 04:33 AM
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Dude… embrace that cocky side of you 😏 you can always do it with a grin or smirk cuz you’re just having fun
/r/seduction30/03/25 06:33 AM
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My current issue at the moment is I’ve not approached women - let alone attractive women - in a while. I’m currently focused on a massive career change from electrical engineering (a degree that frankly has not served me at all) to fashion photography/videography and FILMMAKING. Hell I’ve not gone out solely for the purpose of attracting women… only thing I’ve been doing is focusing on my career change, fortifying my foundation and all the changes I’ve made to myself (my mindset, my ever-expandi…
/r/seduction28/03/25 12:11 AM
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I'll openly admit this - I've got DIAGNOSED autism on the high-functioning end. Found that out when I was 12, just about to enter 7th grade... and ended up living onwards with the fact that I'm probably just gonna be viewed as a subhuman among society for the rest of my life. And it made sense too, i.e.: getting pulled out of class by a counselor out of nowhere, always having my IQ and cognition tested (always felt like a science experiment). All my life, being "normal" or living a life of comfo…
/r/seduction26/03/25 06:21 AM
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The distance shouldn’t be a killer for YOU; it should be for HER because it makes the heart grow fonder (assuming your guys’ connection binds her to you in more ways than one)
/r/seduction16/03/25 03:09 AM
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“Most part” in a man’s world is never enough. It’s about WHAT CAN BE, WHAT YOU CAN DO. That’s the only law of reality. And I bring up “man’s world” the way I describe it because a feminized West will only ever see a patriarchy… when said patriarchy built our security and safety for better or worse yet it’ll never be enough. Peace and security and stability - pillars of masculinity - are never going to be an achievement; it’ll forever be our responsibility. That being said, you as a man have to A…
/r/seduction16/03/25 03:01 AM
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You, as a man, should be capable of finding your own happiness where women in this world - including your girlfriend - can’t. YOU are the rock. YOU have a powerful will. YOU are capable. Let her be the ocean crashing upon you.
/r/seduction16/03/25 02:36 AM
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Here’s a simple solution - when you’re with your girl, be THAT guy. But when she’s not in your vicinity, continue living your life like you’re still single (I don’t condone cheating though). TLDR: Don’t be insecure whiny or needy. Just BE that guy.
/r/seduction16/03/25 12:23 AM
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That’s why you tell the girl that you’re gonna pop YOUR IG into HER phone. Especially in a club and shit, because they’re so hopped up on stimuli, she might not be able to type for shit in the moment - you’re better off typing your username into her phone anyway.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:00 PM
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In regards to edit #2, my friend, what you gotta do then is cultivate YOUR value. BE attractive instead of TRYING TO ATTRACT beautiful women. Hit the gym. Cultivate your passions into hobbies (into side hustles INTO main hustles). Go out more often to events where you’ll run into women of that caliber (sometimes the only way to destroy fear is exposing yourself to it). Build a foundation of standards for yourself (not just women, but YOU - your life and anything that adds to it). And yes - you’r…
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:42 PM
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And what’s crazy is that it’s a vicious cycle of enabling on the guys’ end. No one twisted these guys’ arms - ANY GUY - to offer the world to these women on a silver platter. It’s that need for self-validation or desperate for companionship or a speck of attention that’ll make any guy turn into a “deer in headlights” simp.
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:37 PM
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Well what exactly defines “guy like me?” Who are you exactly?
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:35 PM
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Because it’s true lol Like bro, I’m a fashion photographer/videographer as a side hustle (I want it to be full-time and as a way to mesh with filmmaking, a bigger creative endgame I wanna get into), and the last thing any attractive woman let alone a model or actress (sometimes both) wants to hear is how hot they are, either directly or how you convey it in your voice or body language. And even behind the camera, it’s not just her looks or body or outfit that’s gonna make the shot amazing; it’s …
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:34 PM
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Got examples? Touch, verbal?
/r/seduction02/11/24 07:12 PM
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That is where I lean towards - wordplay, insinuation or misinterpretation just to open the topic up. Reason I brought up the whole “immature/childish” part is cuz I’m gauging (even to the point of perfectionism).
/r/seduction02/11/24 10:38 AM
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What about verbally too? And I take it it depends on setting too, ie: nightclub - escalate by dancing AND teasing by moving my lips close but not about to kiss yet
/r/seduction02/11/24 10:27 AM
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What’s a good buildup to that though? And without it being creepy? I know being a charismatic conversationalist (ie: banter, flirting) and breaking the touch barrier (starting with say hands or shoulders) is usually the way to go.
/r/seduction02/11/24 10:21 AM
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And as someone who’s neurodivergent (I’m high-functioning autistic actually), using it as a crutch and being self-coddled is contributing to societal problems. Letting our diagnoses define us and make it our identity is just as bad, if not worse, than people who go outta their way to start drama. It’s also just adding to any societal stigmas about neurodivergence if we don’t overcome them and harness it into our game.
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:50 PM
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Calmness. Intention. Smooth. I could go on, but you showcase your charisma in a masculine way in how you carry yourself - your body language and the way you speak.
/r/seduction26/01/24 10:43 AM
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“Wouldn’t you like to know? ;) “ “10.5… oh I thought we were talking shoe sizes…” “See I don’t sleep with girls; I’m only into women.” “Why don’t you find out at my place? ;) “ “[random negative number]” Don’t give a (positive integer) number. Make it clear you’re being ridiculously playful with the frame and CONTROL the frame ASAP and KEEP CONTROL
/r/seduction28/08/22 04:26 AM
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Oh I don’t know; women go gaga for guys like Chris Hemsworth, Henry Cavill, Jason Momoa - YES! It makes all the difference! You as the guy are supposed to resemble a pinnacle of strength, stability and protection. If you’re also familiar with Charles Darwin’s theories on evolution, it all ties towards survival of the fittest. Key phrase - SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST.
/r/seduction26/07/22 01:21 AM
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No
/r/seduction22/07/22 12:50 AM
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Essentially a core tenet of masculinity is competition, like the rest of nature and the universe. Competition is a universal concept among men and women; we just express it in a masculine or feminine way. For men, it’s sizing one another up, challenging, testing one another (to women, men have to challenge, flirt, test and tease).
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:28 PM
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Bro just straight up text her that you wanna take a hike with her when she’s not working
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:50 AM
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Keyword - “game.” Don’t take it personally lol
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:42 PM
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Far from it; I’d challenge her. It shows you’ve got principles and don’t take her words seriously.
/r/seduction26/06/22 07:17 PM
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Simply put don’t be friendly/platonic. Flirt with, challenge and tease her. Don’t give away attention for free and in a stream; dripfeed it. Don’t be available all the time.
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:50 AM
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Is there any chance we DM to continue this?
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:48 PM
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Is there a way to make daygame easier? Because of the way I view “normies,” man or woman, I don’t have any motivation to talk to someone in a day to day setting. At least in a party, there’s a subset of normies or non-normies who are willing to at least stand out, be realer, and break their routine.
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:34 PM
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Sometimes at a social venues like at a party, I meet not just women to flirt with, but also professional connections who just needa let loose and even new potential bros. And sometimes at a party, I don’t even need to approach a girl; I just need to do what I’m doing, ie: dancing like I’m at an EDC or EDM rave, and some girls will just see me anyway, go “WHOO!” and come up to me themselves.
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:22 PM
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Here’s a new flash - a girl who says she wants to be friends after rejecting you isn’t really your friend. Lemme ask you - has any girl that said she wanted to be friends actually hung out with you? If the answer is no, there’s your answer. It’s just for free validation and attention. That means you gotta cut ties with her or just distance yourself from her at the very least.
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:36 AM
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Then why do we even have a lifestyle category? Lol
/r/seduction10/06/22 10:33 PM
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I definitely wanna grow my long hair back again. I used to have Jason Momoa or even Episode III Anakin length hair back when I was 11 and 14. I definitely think it amps up a guy’s sex appeal. (Also side note - in Japanese culture, back in samurai times, long hair was a sign of masculinity.)
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:22 AM
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What I’d recommend is having a 5 - 10 minute conversation with her first. The idea is to make her feel comfortable BUT a crucial component is to flirt with her to make that dynamic man to woman. I’m talking flirting with her, teasing her, breaking the touch barrier, challenging her, etc. The goal of flirting/teasing/challenging/touching (appropriate touch BTW) is to trigger emotional reactions from her; women are emotional creatures, and only remember the men who made her feel emotions STRONGLY.…
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:54 PM
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Yes! Just do it!
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:17 AM
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In what context are we talking her? During a party? In a dance club? Outta nowhere?
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:07 AM
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In that case, it sounds like she just views you as a friend. You definitely needed to make the conversation with her flirty and playful to make the dynamic man-to-woman, not platonic.
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:06 AM
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In this particular case, you don’t. Also depending on how many followers this girl has, she won’t reply (especially if she’s got at least 1K followers). Just move onto the next girl, but get her number IN PERSON.
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:04 AM
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When she asks a question, give a vague answer. Bottom line respond with a stone cold face and keep your responses (or lack thereof) brief.
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:03 PM
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Don’t think of it as “coming out of your comfort zone”; think of it as “EXPANDING your comfort zone.” Take time to regularly visit social venues and socialize with people. Engage in conversations with people, ANYONE, guy or gal. You never know - you could meet a professional connection, a potential girlfriend, a hookup, a new friend, etc. Just get in the habit of attending social venues (ie: pool parties); you just gotta do your research where you can find events like these and MEET PEOPLE
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:50 PM
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Basically we’re at a point in dating where a lot of the redundancies are eliminated. You can tell if you like someone just by the chemistry and interaction, for starters. There’s no need to tell a woman you like her; they can more often than not TELL lol
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:17 AM
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Don’t forget too it’s also HOW you handshake or hug a girl, even if SHE initiates. That means you gotta be firm still, even if she initiates, which is usually a good sign.
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:24 PM
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Think of the initial fuck-ups as practice. There are 3.9B women on the planet, and - let’s be real here - almost every single guy wants to get with a high-value woman, which is about 1% of that (39M women is still a lot). Most women aren’t high value anyway, so if you mess up with them, it ain’t a loss per se lol
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:23 PM
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What really helps solidify confidence in approaching women - period - is to just be a socially approachable and sociable guy! If a gal you find attractive is in a group, approach the ENTIRE GROUP. Get everyone’s names, see what they’re doing (ie: if they’re playing a game of ping pong, chime in and say you’ll play winners) as long as it’s relevant to what they’re doing, etc. Point is to not think about it too much. Keep the straight posture, keep the neck and head up so people can tell you’re co…
/r/seduction25/05/22 07:53 PM
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Hint at interest in her, but you always wanna keep her guessing. When you’re keeping her guessing, she’s gonna wanna know more about you. She’s gonna think “Huh this guy is a hard read” so she’ll want to know more about the mysterious guy didn’t outright show attention or validation. Most guys get put in the friend zone (aka free attention for her) because they outright show interest, and that can as something as simple as complimenting her beauty, kissing her ass by being agreeable, being depen…
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:47 AM
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Dude sometimes you’re never gonna be able to isolate the girl you’re into from her group, be it all guys, gals or both. Just gotta approach the entire group so they start wondering how this guy had the balls to just approach them
/r/seduction20/05/22 02:11 AM
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Ehh I think a 10 is an archetype, and in the real world, we don’t really rely on archetypes when faced with, well, the real world. Reality is people are imperfect, so the most I could ever give attractive gals is a 9. I don’t think I could properly answer what a 10 is
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:19 PM
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That I do agree with; I lean towards the relationship side anyway. Also women who give away their coochie frequently… it’s low value (behavior). And I’m serious about attracting social butterfly girls. I’m more low energy and relaxed, and I gravitate towards girls who are more higher energy. Whenever I sense a girl having that kinda energy and I SEE it with my own eyes, you can bet I’ll find it attractive. And yeah it’s all about buildup, even with escalation.
/r/seduction18/05/22 05:20 AM
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Uh just do it! Lol And don’t overthink it either
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:54 AM
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Bruh that’s female nature - it’s like nature itself: random, ever-changing, in the now. Just know that her interest in you can change just as quickly as a rushing current.
/r/seduction16/05/22 11:33 PM
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Easy way to do this - focus on YOUR purpose (ie: learning skills, building towards a side hustle) first and foremost. If she leaves you on read and ghosts you, she’s dead weight.
/r/seduction16/05/22 08:18 PM
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Any suggestions in BUILDING to that level? It’s a problem I’m looking to tackle as well
/r/seduction16/05/22 12:43 AM
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Naw I don’t know from the get-go if I wanna get laid with a gal or not. If she’s attractive and/or exudes an energy that catches my attention (in this case, feminine energy), then that’s what I’m drawn towards. Previously, I made a post on this subreddit about a cute black chick I saw did this feminine fluid dance with serpentine movement at a rooftop pool party. I was hooked… but I was unable able to approach because I wasn’t gutsy to do it (still beating myself over the limits of my confidence…
/r/seduction15/05/22 09:20 AM
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Flirting is all about triggering a woman’s emotional responses - positive and negative. In other words, you might potentially trigger her, and that’s okay. Just flirt while smiling so she knows you’re not 100% serious AND keep your body language masculine and upright - straight body, shoulders back, head up.
/r/seduction13/05/22 06:31 AM
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Bruh the only games you should be playing with her games like ping pong or cornhole.
/r/seduction09/05/22 07:00 AM
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Well sometimes the roasts are to tone the ego down a notch or two :P
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:15 AM
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Okay as someone who used to suffer social anxiety (almost like paralysis), here’s what helped me in clubs and even party settings - walk around and observe your environment. If you see an interaction you find interesting, go over and check it out. Here’s what happened to me last Saturday at a rooftop pool party (and this was beyond my comfort zone) - I saw a couple guys playing Jenga and I started off with “I’ll play winner” (they laughed a bit) and did a bit of commentating to keep things inter…
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:42 AM
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Okay as someone who used to suffer social anxiety (almost like paralysis), here’s what helped me in clubs and even party settings - walk around and observe your environment. If you see an interaction you find interesting, go over and check it out. Here’s what happened to me last Saturday at a rooftop pool party (and this was beyond my comfort zone) - I saw a couple guys playing Jenga and I started off with “I’ll play winner” (they laughed a bit) and did a bit of commentating to keep things inter…
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:42 AM
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No you mean you get a boner, slap her titties around some, then stick it inside her and pee… well okay fine unless you don’t wanna get her pregnant, then you just pull it out and pee on her leg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Plz get the reference
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:26 AM
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Basically just don’t think about it too much; don’t give yourself the yips. If she’s DTF, she’s DTF (that also means you also gotta be DTF and bring your A-game)
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:25 AM
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Naw I wouldn’t touch that; just leave her alone
/r/seduction05/05/22 08:50 PM
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Dude mutual eye contact and smile is already a good sign! Go up and talk to her man! You should observe details about her (ie: what she’s wearing) then get the ball rolling with something like (if we’re using the dress example) “You certainly look dressed to impress today/tonight”
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:15 AM
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“And you’re basing that off of WHAT exactly? Maybe you’re the predator keeping tabs on my life.” It never hurts to flip the script onto him lol seriously white knights just need to fuck off
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:01 AM
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It pretty much is a subconscious thing, and it’s not the woman’s fault. Women are like nature - random, ever-changing, constantly testing how well you can… handle it
/r/seduction04/05/22 04:03 AM
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If you’re gonna compliment, throw a gentle neg at her immediately after (in other words, do a push-pull). It’s all about creating a little polarity, making her feel positive and negative emotions.
/r/seduction04/05/22 04:01 AM
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Start by being playful and masculine with her to spark some attraction. Even when you’re in a relationship, you never wanna stop using the moves on her that made her attracted to you in the first place.
/r/seduction04/05/22 01:16 AM
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I’m introverted as well, and I’ve become less social anxious. In fact, several years ago, while I was living in OC, I became incredibly socially paralyzed after a former best friend spilled the beans to a gal I was into at the time that a) I was into her and b) that I grew up with an abusive father for 12 years after I watched my parents divorce when I was 6. She ended up using that information my “best friend” told her to tell a majority of my other friends that I was “unstable dangerous and vi…
/r/seduction02/05/22 06:37 AM
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What are the odds for, say, a 6’0” guy who’s skinny but packed on some (not a lot) muscle and is the new guy of SD aka me? Lol
/r/seduction02/05/22 01:53 AM
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Naw this pool party had a large roof. The area with the dance floor also had ping pong, Jenga, and the sack toss game in the back half. Nevertheless, pretty damn loud lol
/r/seduction01/05/22 09:05 PM
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I would’ve never known until I actually hit her up; speculation can only go so far Anywho, either way, at least I know what I’m into ;) lol
/r/seduction01/05/22 07:54 PM
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In response to #1, it’s more like whenever I am walking over to making an approach, she’s - as Obi-Wan Kenobi says - “always on the move.” Lol if it’s #2 or #3 then that makes sense. Agreed; if I happen to run into her again, then yeah - Imma set up some plan to chill with her outside of the high energy party setting.
/r/seduction01/05/22 07:39 PM
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Dude women are a part of your journey, not the end of it (even then the journey we undergo NEVER ends)
/r/seduction30/04/22 08:55 AM
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Dude the word “manipulation” is often associated as a negative. But think of it this way - we use “manipulation” for phrases like “energy manipulation” (a superpower). Hell, science and engineering are all about MANIPULATING the natural world for manmade creations. Hell, HEALING is manipulation; you’re handing your life in the hands of someone else. Think of manipulation as a form of persuasion, nudging someone towards your truth without even trying so hard to see your point of view.
/r/seduction26/04/22 05:51 AM
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It really depends. If she’s interfering with your schedule to the point of annoyance then yes. On the other hand, if you two are actually down to see one another again, then fuck no. Don’t think of this characteristic in women as a blanket statement
/r/seduction26/04/22 03:04 AM
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She rejected you bruh move on
/r/seduction26/04/22 12:24 AM
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Boys became men, Men became legends
/r/seduction25/04/22 07:32 PM
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Dude I mute the people I associate the most with (ie: family, friends) so I’m not distracted by a notification on my phone while I’m doing something productive. If I can do that beforehand, I can do that with girls. Hell I’d recommend muting any number/social media of a girl’s you get.
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:11 PM
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What you could’ve done was throw a playful neg at her to tone her down a few notches and to stand out lol
/r/seduction22/04/22 11:27 PM
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Pacific Beach
/r/seduction21/04/22 10:49 PM
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Yeah like during Easter last Sunday PB went nuts
/r/seduction21/04/22 09:04 PM
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I also mentioned I’m looking to get a social pipeline going. I’m already restarting most of my social life after moving from OC. And the time of the day even refers to, say, party events.
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:03 AM
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What is the best time to show up on each day?
/r/seduction21/04/22 04:43 AM
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Well I’m assuming you broke the touch barrier. Next time you get with her, escalate by being a little playful with your words, and because you two are going bowling, physically tease her to get her anticipation spiking
/r/seduction21/04/22 03:14 AM
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Well what did you two talk about? Give us da deets lol (Also hell yeah brutha haha)
/r/seduction21/04/22 01:15 AM
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It starts with the mentality. You gotta be playful (which can be part of your charm; hell use a little wordplay when you talk to a woman). It’ll show you don’t take everything seriously and she’ll even get a kick out of it
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:42 PM
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You don’t; it’s either the guy puts his arm around you or he doesn’t. Don’t try to put in more effort than you need to; it’ll exhaust you.
/r/seduction19/04/22 04:56 AM
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I’m sorry; if it makes you feel any better, I’m rather reserved myself as a guy, and I’m working to get out of that. If everyone else lets you down, don’t forget that self-improvement everyday is your most trustworthy ally.
/r/seduction17/04/22 08:25 PM
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I’m just saying don’t burn it on your end; if he’s burnt it well that’s another story.
/r/seduction17/04/22 08:10 PM
1

Give him time; leave him alone for a while. If he hasn’t responded, then yeah - like everyone else said in the comments - just leave him be and find another guy (just don’t burn the bridge with this guy yet).
/r/seduction17/04/22 08:01 PM
1

Well what does your man do?
/r/seduction17/04/22 07:50 PM
6

OP, have you considered that this guy has a life beyond you the way you have a life beyond him? And I read your comment about how whenever he says he’s busy, you added “but no one is busy 24/7.” The same can also apply for you too. Whatever aggravation you have with him, ie: he’s busy or not initiating contact, just keep yourself busy and don’t contact him regularly. Just don’t burn that bridge Give an update if you can.
/r/seduction17/04/22 06:19 PM
1

High value as in “do you have charisma/social skills, tangible long-term skills, the ability to protect, defend or attack, etc.?” Basically high value as in how well-rounded you are
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:17 PM
7

Nonetheless incel alert; the guy (OP) can either make the most of what nature gave him or he can whine
/r/seduction16/04/22 07:18 AM
5

Groups are in and of themselves herds. One has to individualize themselves from and not be dependent on the will of the collective
/r/seduction16/04/22 03:11 AM
6

Dude… leagues are arguably more harmful to how we choose our mates. When someone tells you “I’m out of your league,” it’s someone’s way of saying “I’m far better than you.” All leagues do is separate and divide people more. Reframe league as a constant reminder to always level up and increase your value.
/r/seduction14/04/22 03:52 AM
1

Mathematically speaking, given 1000 approaches you’ve made with the same openers, you’re not gonna raise those percentages by that much. Anywho, math aside, if it makes you feel any better, I’m still applying and working some stuff out too in seducing women. But based on the several cold approaches I’ve made while getting back out there, if you’re cold approaching her, you definitely wanna open with something observational (it’ll show, well, your observational skills) and be aware of your situat…
/r/seduction12/04/22 12:05 AM
2

No just move on! Not just with women, but anyone’s inaction - in this case, a girl not texting you or showing interest - is, in and of itself, an ACTION.
/r/seduction04/04/22 09:45 PM
1

We’re kinda the inverse in that respect. I focused solely on the connection aspect with girls (now women since I’m [27M]), but I’ve been burned and shot down (even demonized) for it. And it does suck. Now I’m getting the hang of the attraction side - the part you seem to have mastered
/r/seduction31/03/22 08:27 PM
3

You just proved you’re a master key lol Okay all jokes aside, you just now have to establish a genuine connection with a woman. You’ve already got the attraction part; now just focus on building a connection
/r/seduction31/03/22 08:17 PM
1

Also don’t think of shit tests as “shit tests” or “challenges to your core being”; think of them as opportunities to flip the script. It’s all about the details, especially in her word choice
/r/seduction30/03/22 01:50 AM
1

Sorry bro lol but eventually that’s a bridge I’m gonna have to cross, whether I want to or not; it’s inevitable. I think it’s better to get ready for the challenges that await ASAP instead of waiting for the challenge to come to me when I’m least prepared.
/r/seduction29/03/22 05:22 PM
2

Sorry my dude, but it sounds like your lady’s mama is gonna cause a huge problem for you and your relationship.
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:57 AM
1

I say don’t; you’re flirting with her, not gonna be professionals with her.
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:42 AM
3

It’s only forceful if it ain’t natural; it’ll take balls just to be able to initiate physical contact, flip the script, disqualify her, do a little word (fore)play, etc.
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:18 AM
1

Eventually, said obstacles gotta be traversed then conquered.
/r/seduction29/03/22 01:27 AM
1

Dude don’t make the mistake I made! I swear to you - quitting on women isn’t worth it. Don’t. Quit. I was in your spot man; except here’s the difference - I did get laid a few times before I quit, but here’s the straw that broke the camel’s back (I’ve said this in a few posts already on this subreddit): a former best friend spilled the beans to a girl I was into that I grew up with an abusive father for 12 years and that I was into her; she used all that information to then spin a narrative to s…
/r/seduction28/03/22 03:41 AM
1

Not particularly, no lol But like I said I might not have a choice
/r/seduction28/03/22 03:31 AM
1

I might not have a choice; and like you said with group think, even with the bare minimum being a pair, it’ll be difficult to isolate one gal.
/r/seduction28/03/22 03:31 AM
1

I might not have a choice lol and you know what they say - you can tell a lot about someone based on the company they keep; in other words, if a gal I’m pursuing is surrounded by low quality chicks who actually are INTENT on cock blocking me, then I know the gal is low quality (you are the average of the 5 people within your vicinity)
/r/seduction28/03/22 02:43 AM
1

Is there a way to do it while engaging emotional responses from the get-go, including the opener? Got any examples? I know the foundation has to be a playful flirty one, not one that’s autopilot and boring.
/r/seduction28/03/22 01:27 AM
4

An alternate response could be “re-edit your description,” but I guess I expect too much
/r/seduction28/03/22 01:04 AM
1

You don’t; just own it lol
/r/seduction28/03/22 01:00 AM
4

Agreed; learning game is part of the journey towards being a man. Successfully seducing women is PART of that journey, not the byproduct
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:21 PM
3

Dude that guy’s a douche! He thinks being moral is his way of competing, but NATURE and COMPETITION know NO morals
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:20 PM
3

Ehh clothing is clothing; don’t think too much of it. If she’s wearing, say, a top that bears her midriff and short shorts, just appreciate it. Don’t react
/r/seduction27/03/22 05:06 PM
2

TLDR for the last few posts I’ve made: I wasted the first half of my 20’s getting bitter after I got thrown under the bus by a best friend at the time as he spilled the beans about my background (it involved parental abuse) - the same guy who ended up fucking a girl I was into, and the girl also used that information to demonize me and turn my own friends and strangers I never met against me. Now I have these ingrained behaviors that involve not bothering with people anymore. And NOW that I’m tr…
/r/seduction27/03/22 02:36 AM
1

Which surprisingly I actually wanna turn into a side hustle (ie: screenwriting). But yeah creative writing has been a way to “emotionally dump” but make sense of where I come from. Now I’m at a point where if people judge and have a bias towards where I come from, it’s not my problem.
/r/seduction26/03/22 03:13 AM
1

Okay that’s reassuring. I was even talking about this with one of my co-workers, and he said the same thing. For the past few years, I’ve had a lot of catharsis in moving from it through creative writing (it’s a cathartic outlet that I do everyday now). But the only thing that seems to be holding me back is the trained behaviors I ingrained, ie: keeping quiet about my background even when asked, not bothering with people (now that I’m back in the game, I’ve been doing cold approaches, but it sti…
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:46 AM
1

Then what’s next if I didn’t keep anyone at arm’s length? Getting demonized and dehumanized again like in 2015? I don’t think I’d be able to go through that again.
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:29 AM
8

Because judging is easy; says a lot more about the person judging honestly
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:26 AM
7

That’s a fair point. But the differentiating factor seems to be who’s really made effort into actually recovering (ie: I do creative writing as a cathartic outlet).
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:22 AM
1

Which is why for several years I quit and avoided relationships like the plague. The minute I even get to the point of opening up this kinda information to a woman is the day I’d rather be the one to walk out FIRST
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:18 AM
2

As evidence by the post I’ve made and even bothering asking this community for their thoughts constructively - and clearly this “beta” is cherry-picking - incidents like this are evidently why I have trust issues with anyone now, have built-in trained behaviors to keep anyone in my immediate circle/vicinity on a need-to-know basis, and makes any chance at intimacy in the future that much more terrifying as much as I yearn for it.
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:13 AM
4

Yeah maybe you should’ve started with that instead of going for “you’re just projecting” lol Most of the articles I’ve read on this topic NEVER address if anyone who’s endured abuse has ever taken measures to recover. Instead it’s just a blanket statement of “the abused are more likely to become abusers themselves.”
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:01 AM
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There seems to be this notion ingrained in the masses as a whole that the abused are BOUND - almost destined even - to be the next generation of abusers. You can even do a Google search about abused and abusers, and all these “experts” we’re supposed to “trust” in write articles about how there’s a correlation between the abused and abusers. Because of how often this bias is propagated, it leads people to believe - even on a surface level - that that’s absolutely true. It almost makes any attemp…
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:54 AM
2

This is a legitimate concern
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:49 AM
2

Eating healthy Working out at home (looking for gyms that fit my schedule) Regular self-care (shower, skin, hair, etc.) Finding clothes that actually make me look sexy Learning game Rediscovering what made me ME (DM me if you’re curious why) Getting back out there and applying what I’ve learned Expanding my engineering/scientific skillset Building my knowledge on finances Getting in touch with myself via creative writing (it’s a cathartic outlet; I’m even writing some screenplays)
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:25 AM
2

TBH I’m kinda split down the middle with OP. I get where he’s coming from, but I even commented earlier about how not all women will give bad advice and how some actually live and breathe the masculine/feminine dynamic
/r/seduction24/03/22 03:13 AM
1

True but at the same time you don’t wanna get fishing advice from a fish lol
/r/seduction24/03/22 02:48 AM
1

There are actually women who believe in the whole masculine/feminine dynamic.
/r/seduction23/03/22 10:09 PM
1

Just rise to the challenge, as all men are meant to do. Make the impossible possible.
/r/seduction23/03/22 05:12 PM
1

Hell lately I’ve been getting off my ass and going to say the mall or the beach with the intent to socialize, but then despite coming all that way, I don’t do it
/r/seduction19/03/22 02:30 AM
2

Of course. And just earlier, I realized I should’ve mentioned this earlier - I don’t talk to people in general EASILY anymore. I had a bad experience several years ago that involves having my personal life spilt out into the open, getting ghosted en masse by my own friends, and getting the stink eye from strangers.
/r/seduction19/03/22 02:19 AM
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If she ain’t replying the first time, just forget about her. Move onto the next gal.
/r/seduction18/03/22 11:13 PM
13

Okay PLZ don’t get your bitterness involved here; we’re trying to productively help OP here, not discourage him.
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:50 PM
1

A woman’s fashion sense also tells me if I find her attractive or not
/r/seduction18/03/22 02:47 AM
1

I don’t know what the “right crowd” is; sometimes a right crowd turns out to be the wrong one. Often times, as a certain purple Titan has said, “reality is often disappointing.”
/r/seduction15/03/22 01:03 AM
1

Sounds like a bitch whose only asset she’s got going for her is her looks. Forget her; you lost your virginity to her. Think of this experience as a smash and dash or a pump and dump lol
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:18 AM
1

Do a situational opener, ie: “you look like you just came from the gym” it’ll indicate social/situational awareness, which in turn indicates you’re in the present. Then if she’s receptive, dive into the rabbit hole, ie: if she DOES go to the gym, how often, what her (body lol) goals are.
/r/seduction13/03/22 10:36 PM
2

Won’t that cause a muscular imbalance? Lol
/r/seduction13/03/22 12:31 AM
1

Oh girls LIKE personality; you just have to lace it with playfulness, masculinity and emotion (not in the way a woman expresses it, but through intonation; voice is a powerful tool).
/r/seduction12/03/22 11:59 PM
1

I have resistance bands at home; I tried using them and they don’t engage the wrists thank god, but eventually I wanna get bigger arms. I can’t do resistance band bicep curls forever
/r/seduction12/03/22 11:22 PM
1

Well it’s been 3 weeks so far; how much longer do you think it’ll take to heal?
/r/seduction12/03/22 11:12 PM
2

Often times they don’t know what they want; women are like nature itself - random, in the present moment.
/r/seduction10/03/22 06:56 PM
3

Dude just sit through the whole show solo. That burlesque performer you’ve been flirting with took the time to even flirt with you or even invite you to HER performance in the first place. If you’re really that bored sitting in the audience, just pass the time to talk to some of the strangers there as well; in the meantime, enjoy her performance and appreciate it.
/r/seduction10/03/22 06:27 PM
1

Got any openers you would recommend then?
/r/seduction10/03/22 03:17 AM
0

“Hey there. I know this is random, but you look sensational.” Say it energetically though and with intonation. I kinda pulled that one from Craig Ferguson, but using a lesser used adjective (“sensational” “enchanting”) tells her you’re intelligent instead of using the oh-so generic and boring “great” “beautiful.” But since we’re talking strangers, if that opener goes well, follow that up with an introduction then with “what brings you here?” You’ve got a reason for being somewhere; she’s got a r…
/r/seduction10/03/22 12:16 AM
5

Next gal
/r/seduction10/03/22 12:05 AM
6

Think about it - in this politically correct society, women by the MASSES are getting trained to believe that all men are evil. Doesn’t matter if you’ve done anything evil; just by being born a guy, we’re automatically gonna be considered “evil”, so we gotta be indoctrinated through the public school system and expected to behave a certain way that defies our true nature. You’re continuing the never-ending grind and that’s all you - we as guys might I add - can do. If women are serious about get…
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:48 AM
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Eesh, even a couple of co-workers think I have no problem with the ladies… when I do! I’m trying to get back in the game instead of continually living in self-hate, which I have been for several years (the reasons why is another story)
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:21 AM
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The women who instantly assume you only want sex from them - that’s THEIR problem, not yours. More likely than not, they’re projecting their tendencies onto you. So you keep doing you, bro; you’re a king among us.
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:20 AM
1

Only if you straight up ask; that’s why you gotta build rapport and intrigue from the get-go. Give her a glimpse into what an interesting masculine guy you are
/r/seduction08/03/22 06:27 PM
1

I’m still working on this too, man, and I’m just getting back into the game. So you’re not alone. Take deep breaths when you’re approaching her. Trust me - it’ll dissipate even for a little bit because you’re trying to stay calm, as you should.
/r/seduction04/03/22 08:13 AM
1

Sometimes you gotta approach strangers; as Herculean as the task might seem, it is possible.
/r/seduction04/03/22 03:51 AM
1

That’s the idea. Currencies for women are attention and validation; when you yoink it away after giving a little bit of it, she’ll be wondering why you yoinked it away. The idea is to have HER go crazy for you.
/r/seduction04/03/22 02:29 AM
2

1 word - Preselection
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:28 PM
1

Take what I say with a grain of salt (as we all should with anyone’s advice); I only say this based on my own experiences.
/r/seduction26/02/22 12:37 AM
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NO! If anything, it should be the other way around. YOU, as the guy, need to make the girl feel safe. You have to be that pillar of strength and endurance.
/r/seduction25/02/22 11:47 PM
1

That’s a fair analogy. Sometimes what I’ll do in games like say KOTOR I/II, Pokémon, Fallout, etc. is I’ll restart the game and do everything all over again if I screw up somewhere in the middle. That’s sometimes what you gotta do with women - analyze where you went wrong, then you optimize your approach.
/r/seduction25/02/22 05:46 PM
4

Number 1 reaction you want is a RESOUNDING DEFINITE “YES”. So yeah - maybe = no
/r/seduction22/02/22 11:32 PM
1

Dude just get off your ass and go to locales where you’re more likely meet them or any other attractive woman. Don’t use social media to get their attention; that’s just free validation coming from a guy she doesn’t even know.
/r/seduction22/02/22 12:29 PM
1

I’d like to interject and say most people generally say “no” because most people can’t compartmentalize their interactions; I’m talking knowing the right time and place to, say, make out. I know your professional side is an extension of your true self, but at the same time, your personal life isn’t anyone else’s business. It’s not uncommon for people to meet an SO at work
/r/seduction21/02/22 02:53 PM
2

I’ll be fine; I’ve been spending the last few weeks deciding to not live in self-hate and reframe all the shit I’ve been through (this instance in particular) into FUELING where I wanna be, especially with women.
/r/seduction21/02/22 04:46 AM
2

That’s something I considered soon after positing this. I remember for a long time it made even approaching women super fucking awkward (the several times I did, I got lucky a few times). But yeah…
/r/seduction21/02/22 04:25 AM
4

My views on sex were rather polarizing when I was younger, and they started to seep in after my parents’ divorce - an event I bore witness to at age 6. Throughout the 12 years I was abused by my own father, he just degenerated into a lecherous pervert (he’s re-married, but he’s still a ghoul FFS). It was his way of “bonding” - showing me all this sexualized imagery, randomly out of nowhere explaining stuff related to sex, etc. Hell I knew about DOGGY, ANAL, etc. before I was even 12! And when it…
/r/seduction20/02/22 07:30 PM
0

I ain’t gonna roast ya; not productive for anyone. Just move on from her.
/r/seduction18/02/22 05:57 AM
1

If cumming is a sign the guy is into the girl (hehe “into”), then that could easily backfire into him. Nowadays you can even be ghosted just for any sign - subtle or not - as a guy that you’re into her.
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:13 PM
5

4 women out of… at least a couple billion in the world. Watch this clip: https://youtu.be/N7FVmeJXwCY
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:55 AM
1

Idk I gave up a while ago trying to piece together the rationale lol onto bigger things
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:10 AM
2

Then why would she (or any woman for that matter) get offended if you (among many other men) DIDN’T cum? Like I said you’re most like to get ridiculed for cumming QUICK
/r/seduction17/02/22 06:21 AM
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If she made a big deal because you didn’t cum, um… what?? Like… most girls will MOCK and INSULT a guy behind his back for cumming too quick! I mean did you make HER cum at least?
/r/seduction17/02/22 06:19 AM
7

Well maybe you could offer OP a little constructive advice and wisdom lol gtfo
/r/seduction13/02/22 02:51 AM
10

I would’ve stood out and just ignored her. Trust me when I say this - you don’t really know a woman’s rationale for finding a better option only for it to not work out and come back to you. That rationale is essentially “the grass is greener on the other side.” And it usually never is.
/r/seduction12/02/22 07:15 PM
1

I prefer it secret anyways; any personal relationship I have with anyone doesn’t need to be everyone else’s business.
/r/seduction10/02/22 06:06 PM
1

That’s what I mean about compartmentalizing the interactions with the co-worker, ie: going out outside of work and keeping it professional AT work. Plus, I’ve already gone through so much drama in my younger life that I’m not in the mood to start or perpetuate any further drama wherever I go.
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:06 AM
1

Did the break-ups have anything to do with HR or your co-workers talking? Also it’s not uncommon for people to meet their girlfriends/future wives in the same workplace, but I know it would also require heavy compartmentalization of the interactions and finding time for oneself.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:50 AM
2

That’s what’s sketchy too - when the girlfriend demands marriage during a time she deems necessary. As if you’re being diverted towards an agenda
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:20 PM
1

Which is why I responded with “you play the game until she doesn’t play it anymore.” You can’t have a game without players. Like animals have always done, it’s all a competitive power play. Some just so happen to play the game better; that’s why we have winners and losers in real life. It is inevitable that only one will come out on top.
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:19 PM
2

Speaking of, I actually checked out Darius’ most recent video - where the cheating woman LITERALLY calls the cops on her fiancé for walking into the house that was under his name and for exposing the affair between her and his best friend. Yeah, Darius (and LonnySpence’s recent video) talks about what signs to look out for in a loyal committed woman. However, obviously my views are rather cynical given where we are societally speaking. THIS is one of the pervasive issues no one talks about anymo…
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:13 PM
0

I’m gonna assume yours is based on being soft; you can’t drop your guard. Ever.
/r/seduction07/02/22 01:35 PM
0

Here’s how you know (even while you’re in a relationship) - you play the game (hopefully better) until she’s done playing the game. Sorry to say this, but dating/relationships is all about who wins and who loses.
/r/seduction06/02/22 08:56 PM
1

This kinda reminds me of the episode from King of the Hill where Boomhauer shows Bobby how to pick up women, but Bobby was only thinking about actual relationships.
/r/seduction04/02/22 10:26 PM
1

Just drop her man
/r/seduction04/02/22 10:14 PM
1

I honestly wouldn’t have bothered replying at all. Also that’s female nature - going hot/cold, testing you, etc. Just accept it and know that you need to BE (not act) unfazed and indifferent.
/r/seduction26/01/22 10:13 PM
1

Don’t think about it too much; embrace your instincts and use them. And don’t hesitate to feel a woman’s body, ie: boobs, ass, thighs. That nervousness is because your energy state is increasing, and it can be overwhelming, and that’s okay. Embrace that energy; this experience will make you stronger as a guy. And if it makes you feel any better, I lost my virginity at the age of 20 as well. Fitting in my opinion given the drastic changes that come with being in your 20’s.
/r/seduction23/01/22 09:14 PM
1

How am I supposed to do this? More often than not, I’ve been cast aside by friend groups for being deemed “not cool” or “unstable, violent and dangerous” (the latter because I’ve experienced parental abuse as a child). Now I’m trying to work on it, but the HOW remains ever-elusive. And the WHY is being replaced with “why bother when you know you’ll be vilified and demonized AGAIN?” (Especially in this crazy world where you can be demonized by the masses for far less)
/r/seduction20/01/22 07:35 PM
2

I suppose it makes sense; kinda funny how we’re talking about our individual qualities as guys when it comes to dating women like we’re applying for a job or college lol
/r/seduction20/01/22 06:34 AM
10

In other words, as a guy, you just gotta be hyper masculine
/r/seduction19/01/22 02:50 AM
1

Oof, that’s rough… just let her go, man. She ain’t into you. Sorry man…
/r/seduction17/01/22 10:18 PM
1

Okay let’s go with that lioness hunter metaphor. If she kept hunting after a gazelle or wildebeest that’s particularly hard to go after (as in sights on dead on that particular gazelle or wildebeest) when she could’ve gone for a bunch of other gazelle or wildebeest that are probably easier prey, she’ll eventually tire herself out and starve. For guys, when it comes to the dating scene, we shouldn’t have to set our sights dead on ONE chick when there are plenty of women out there we’re passing by…
/r/seduction13/01/22 12:34 AM
1

You’re missing the point; OP is simply saying we gotta have boundless willpower to approach, flirt with, and land the plane with all the chicks we pass by just because we decided to put our eggs in at least one basket.
/r/seduction12/01/22 09:16 PM
4

I’d honestly just move on, my dude. Plenty of other fine-looking ladies out there who are less likely to flake on you like that.
/r/seduction11/01/22 04:26 AM
1

Eye contact heightens the intimacy and vulnerability of sex with your partner (casual or otherwise), who BTW should be the only thing on your mind while you guys are doing it. It’ll even make you more receptive to what she’s feeling, ie: doing a certain position, whether or not she likes it
/r/seduction03/01/22 10:59 PM
28

Easily relatable. In your 20’s, you gotta have that mentality of “One down, 1000s more to go.”
/r/seduction31/12/21 04:52 AM
2

Shake it off by doing things far more important than whatever your fellow classmates are doing. Most teenagers your age are SO unproductive that they’d rather thrive off of the drama of everyone else or get off on petty squabbling and bringing people down to their low levels. These are the same kinda people in our young adulthood who will forsake you and curse your name. So that tangent aside and being said, you’re gonna be swimming in an ocean of women when you continue building confidence in t…
/r/seduction23/12/21 10:59 PM
1

If it makes you feel any better, I also know what it’s like to be repulsed - not just by women, but guys too - by people when they start to know who you are. I was always an adventurous guy (even as a kid), with this boundless energy. But when I was 6, I watched both my parents divorce violently before my eyes. That was a rough year; that was the same year my Japanese grandmother died, the same year my younger sister was born. And through the years after my parents’ divorce, I used to be the pun…
/r/seduction15/12/21 11:27 PM
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