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| 163 | He just cannot meet your standards. You are not asking for too much. 💜Or honestly guys find another guy. For every guy that you have to beg to do something; there is a guy that would be more than willing or happy. I dated a guy who ‘didn’t know you had to book restaurants’ and we turned up only to be turned away 😅 (probably on purpose). After that I dated a guy who if I said I liked Italian food he would spend a week researching the best Italian restaurant, read reviews, book the place and surprise me lol. Women need to get out of the scarcity mindset and feel lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 09:46 AM |
| 59 | How come ladies say you don’t want to be the “ride or die” woman to a man who grew to be successful with you?I personally think it’s to do with men’s massive ego. When a woman is there for them when their struggling and help him, then in his head she’s seen him at his worst (a failure, poor etc). Men like to get to the top or best they can and find a woman who seems him in his new light and respects him. Which is so dumb tbh because then they complain about women who only want them for money 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:49 AM |
| 13 | Knowing Your Worth: Pricing the First DateThe price of the date is essential for me. In my experience any date that has been a throwaway type place (I.e a restaurant but not an expensive and thoughtful one) has been an awful date. For instance I went on some dates with a veryyy wealthy man so of course he took me Michelin star/high end restaurants BUT he also made sure it was the cuisines I loved, and made it very special. So it’s a bit of both, money but also asking what kind of food you like and the type of restaurants you like etc. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:59 PM |
| 130 | She asked her partner of 6 years out on their first date. He confessed to her that he was unattracted to her for 2 yearsYep. Also he’s not even ‘rewarding’ her that. Note fiancé of 6 years. Why the fuck does someone need to be engaged for 6 years 🤣. Poor woman, these scrotes literally take whatever they can get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 09:18 AM |
| 4 | How can WHO make things right with WHO??? My heart hurts for her 🙁This is actually heartbreaking. I feel like crying for her. This is the father of her child?! Even a stranger would have more empathy! I remember years ago I had a driving lesson and started my period, the guy stopped at the petrol station and got me pads, water and paracetamol and we’d only ever had two lesson so he didn’t even know me? How could the father of your child be so cruel. Urghhh I really feel for women like this. Why can’t they see that you are literally nothing to them! He literall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:31 PM |
| 3 | How can WHO make things right with WHO??? My heart hurts for her 🙁This is actually heartbreaking. I feel like crying for her. This is the father of her child?! Even a stranger would have more empathy! I remember years ago I had a driving lesson and started my period, the guy stopped at the petrol station and got me pads, water and paracetamol and we’d only ever had two lesson so he didn’t even know me? How could the father of your child be so cruel. Urghhh I really feel for women like this. Why can’t they see that you are literally nothing to them! He literall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:31 PM |
| 2 | “But I want him to know that I’m not a gold digger and easy to be with.” NO! He will take you on a coffee date and spend the money (the $5 😂🤣😂) you saved him on dinner with another woman who has higher standards than you do.It was Christopher’s in Mayfair. They do such good french toast 😍😍. Also been to the ivy for a brunch day. Low-key brunch places are more expensive than dinner places in central London. 9 pound for a latte at some of these floral cafes 😅. At least I’m not paying if the man turns out to be a scrote! No to 50/50! 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:23 PM |
| 13 | “But I want him to know that I’m not a gold digger and easy to be with.” NO! He will take you on a coffee date and spend the money (the $5 😂🤣😂) you saved him on dinner with another woman who has higher standards than you do.What do you guys think of lunch/brunch dates? I’ve been on a brunch date and the guy ended up spending a significant amount as it was a lovely place in central London. Also what is your opinion on guys who offer coffee but you say no I prefer going for a meal, and they say sure (with no issue) and then plan a food date? This has happened to me once when I said I prefer something more substantial and the guy complied and paid and we had a great date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 10:24 AM |
| 22 | What would be a healthy response?My ex was amazing to be with, in regards to material things (I.e money and taking me to nice restaurants etc) and time but if I ever went through something emotional he would struggle to be there for me the way I needed. He couldn’t connect with his emotions. I remember him saying he never cries and doesn’t remember the last time he did. He also said most guys don’t cry. I’m starting to see that this is a big red flag and there must be some truth to this. I don’t agree with sending the first mes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:56 AM |
| 3 | What would be the healthiest response?My ex was amazing to be with, in regards to material things (I.e money and taking me to nice restaurants etc) and time but if I ever went through something emotional he would struggle to be there for me the way I needed. He couldn’t connect with his emotions. I remember him saying he never cries and doesn’t remember the last time he did. He also said most guys don’t cry. I’m starting to see that this is a big red flag and there must be some truth to this. I don’t agree with sending the first mes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Video calling?Thank you ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 04:15 PM |
| 19 | Do men really not talk to you without ulterior motives?Learnt and noted. Knowledge is power 💪🏽 | /r/askFDS | 05/01/21 01:32 PM |
| 18 | Does anyone have a story about leaving someone who wasn’t abusive or terrible, but just wasn’t quite HV enough?With mine, he loved me a lot, went out of his way for me, took me out to nice places etc etc. But there was no intellectual compatibility. He openly admitted he didn’t read, whereas I’m a reader, I love poetry and literature. He wasn’t creative at all and only wanted to give me ‘practical’ presents. Wasn’t romantic in the slightest, his idea of romance was taking me to dinner, like write me a poem, sing me a song for god sake! Pick-mes want to cry all day about love languages and he might be pro… | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 01:12 AM |
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| 11 | HVM know the value of a woman they talk to. And they aren't insecure to admit that.I was just thinking what you girls have written hahah. My ex wrote similar things to me all the time about how smart and ambitious and beautiful I was. Turned out to be the most emotionless, non understanding person that ever existed. Words mean nothing girls honestly if there is one thing I can tell all girls is this. I know couples where the man would write longgg paragraphs full of sweet things and then years later after marriage etc the man won’t even help you clean a plate. Look at his acti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Which non-physical, non-material traits do you consider HV/attractive?Generous, thirst for knowledge, romantic/creative, thinks of the bigger picture, unashamed to show his love to you (basically no toxic masculinity), ambitious, takes provide in providing for his family | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:28 PM |
| 10 | And I oop...Nope but I think the OP of the tweet meant that it can be interchanged with physically attractive. I.e. no man can have emotional intelligence blah blah and be hot. Also girls are allowed to have preferences! Please see how the most scrotiest guy will talk about women who are far more attractive than him and nit pick about tiny things. Also 5ft 9 isn’t even tall? But yeah just interchange it with physically attractive if it suits you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 10:19 AM |
| 5 | how can women use their beauty to their advantage?My advice as a beautiful woman/ former ugly duckling. Have high self-esteem and know your worth. If your beautiful own it, it doesn’t make you arrogant as long as you don’t walk around thinking your better than others. A woman who is aware of her beauty and knows she’s the prize is powerful and can’t be manipulated with words Acknowledge it’s a gift and use it to your advantage for goodness sake! Don’t give a man free reign of your beautiful body and mind. You have more options, (yes more LVM op… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Reddit emailed me to verify my old account, and it brought back so many memories.Thank you sweetie ❤️. Makes sense because I’m not ashamed to me in touch with my feelings. I do cry, not at every little thing, but at sad life events, in frustration, sometimes in happiness. And I do feel like men who don’t cry judge you or look at you like an alien creature for expressing yourself so freely when they have to put on this tough front. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:25 PM |
| 91 | And I oop...Urmm my ex said he didn’t remember the last time he cried. And he doesn’t get sad or ‘feel sorry for himself’ he ‘gets on with things’. Big fat red flag in my face 😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:22 PM |
| 16 | And I oop...😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:21 PM |
| 31 | And I oop...Flex all you want baby girl ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Reddit emailed me to verify my old account, and it brought back so many memories.‘He can’t remember the last time he cried’. Guys my ex used to say this all the time that he doesn’t cry, men don’t cry etc. Can I have some clarity on why this is a red flag.? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 09:20 PM |
| 9 | Reminder, Ladies - Just Because Someone Loves You ...I needed this ❤️. The most awful feeling in the world trying to convince yourself to love someone who loves you deeply. Sometimes they’re simply the wrong person, and you gut knows. No butterflies even after presents, affection etc, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Confidence around an attractive manAwwww girl we have to try and fake it with the confidence and act natural | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 05:57 PM |
| 5 | I hope she gets picked. Also, getting in a car with a stranger on the first date... Couldn't be me 🤡🤡🤡Yes yes yes. I think this is a major pickmeisha sign because she spends so much time and money on her looks, but clearly she’s only doing it to bag a man. Because if it was just for herself she would never go on a milkshake date as the person would not be treating her as a queen. Pickmeisha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:40 PM |
| 10 | I hope she gets picked. Also, getting in a car with a stranger on the first date... Couldn't be me 🤡🤡🤡Omg this is madison Sarah the queen of pickmeishas. Always making assumption videos where people ask her if she ‘got with a celebrity’ like fucking is an achievement. Yayyy well done you got used like 100 of their groupies. Also it’s always a love island star 😂. And she got a boob job and lip fillers and makes good money on YouTube. She just trying to be a ‘cool girl’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:20 PM |
| 17 | This post made me so sad, as did the comments. When will girls realise we deserve so much more than the bare minimum?I disagree, men don’t give a shit about them. They miss the women that they invested a lot in, monetarily usually. Because they feel they got hard done by. Especially if after the breakup she blanks any future messages and attempts of contact. Men miss the strong woman who got away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:17 PM |
| 1 | The more I put effort into my appearance, the more attractive men are scared of me, and only unattractive and LVM approach me?I have the same exact thing happen to me. I work In a big building where there are multiple professions at different grades, I’m a junior and have a middle income job. I love makeup and dressing up, I’ve been obsessed with makeup tutorials, and glam since i was 15. And I used to sit in my room by myself and apply makeup in the mirror. Not for validation not for men. I am just naturally very into feminine things. Ignore people who say your too feminine. At work the average/high tier guys will sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 11:58 PM |
| 2 | LVM prey on insecure women because they know they’ll put up with their shit. Remember that you are worthy of the bestI know I’m stunning, intelligent, high maintenance , have an amazing figure, loyal, reliable and caring. And if that makes me seem vain I don’t give a flying fuck. Keeps those dusty men away and the one looking for an insecure women to stay dealing with their bs forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 06:21 PM |
| 15 | What does it feel like to be truly attracted to someone?Omg I’ve never seen a comment that actually explains this phenomenon. So thisI started dating this guy who was like 5ft 7, like barely taller than me by only two inches (no offence I just don’t find shorter men attractive often), and it made me not even want to fantasise about him initially and I daydream a lot 😜. So this guy starts admiring me, saying how I’m so beautiful basically kissing up to me. And then then I decide to get into a relationship. And my best friend said it best, you don’t ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?Thanks for this discussion makes sense. It was just something that played on my mind when people bring up shera on this forum, I love her tbh she spits truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:11 PM |
| 1 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?Thanks girl ❤️. It’s just on her videos when someone asks a question about their guy who’s in the same age bracket she always says young guys are immature, they are flakey and want their freedom, bored easy etc. She always advises older man. But yes you’re right there is a lot of good wisdom to take it’s just when you see someone’s advice as wise you have to see all of their advice as wife otherwise you don’t consider them wise if you get me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 06:12 PM |
| 1 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?Question, how do you guys reconcile her advice with her number one advice which is to date older men only. See I loveeee her advice but a lot of it will directly contradict FDS. If you’re a loyal shera watcher this is what she preaches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:08 PM |
| 3 | Predatory men: a story.You perfectly articulated what I wanted to comment to OP. You are NOT responsible for that these sick bastards do but you are responsible for the boundaries that you put up. From a young age my mother emphasised that you can’t trust men, never be alone with a man especially late at night (intoxicated or if there has been prev flirtation then even more caution), you can’t be close friends with a man, and don’t let a man even touch you. I literally leave the room if I’m left alone with a man in a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:19 PM |
| 2 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?Got it sis ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:07 PM |
| 6 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?I agree completely with you queen. Hahaha SAHD yet won’t even do half of what a SAHM does typical 😂. I also have an acquaintance that married a similar creative type, and she a lawyer, guess who pays majority of the bills and is miserable af. She fell into the trap of him being a freelancer and hustler but it takes a lot of work to make good money being self employed, this is why you shouldn’t fall in love with potential. Of course I think every human should have financial security and also goal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:12 AM |
| 7 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?See this is the kind of responses I expected. We are high value women, the one who make a house a home, the nurturer of kids the one men chase after. Not in a mean way but I feel like the other comments are justifying 50/50 but in a round about way. Like someone said each person puts in a percentage but that’s still not a provider. Exactly there are 100s of post about how men do not do as much domestic chores compared to women and they are having to be ‘nagged’ constantly. Look at breaking mom o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 08:05 AM |
| 4 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?Yeah but again this is a 50-50 relationship. This thread has stated time and time again how rare it is that men pull their weight 50% with household chores. So you’ll end up working and doing all the housework and that’s not the life I want for myself. I’ve see relationships where the man is providing fully and the women are wayyyyy happier. Most of the time these women have part time jobs for personal enjoyment and independence but the man is the breadwinner in those relationships. Hypergamy wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:23 AM |
| 5 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?Then why can’t women demand to be fully provided for. Men have this massive lift of demands for cooking, cleaning, child rearing, must look like a porn star etc. This is just what I want as I feel like I’ll be able to respect him as a provider like I did with my dad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:13 AM |
| 0 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?But if the money is all going into one pot how will I be able to have moment for myself? For financial security etc? And isn’t that just a 50/50 relationship if we both put our money in one pot and bills come out of that? Just asking for clarity. Also this thread states time and time again that in a 50:50 relationship women do the majority of domestic chores as well as works | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:42 AM |
| 5 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?I agree with this actually, the guy that said he wanted us to share out bills, he said that’s how it works in his house. Whereas in my house my dad was provider even though he wasn’t making a lot of money as he had a unskilled job. My mum was able to just focus on raising us and didn’t have that stress. And when we were older she went and got a part time job of her own accord not because she needed to provide and ended up spending that money on extras, like house renovation, kids hobbies, her cl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 11:18 PM |
| 5 | How to know quickly if he’s a 50/50 guy?Yeah I guess you’re right. I did write that I want a gentleman and someone generous on my OLD profile but a lot of men just see what they like and cba to even read what I’ve written lol. I just wish there was a way for me to know early to not even waste time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Queen shit! I’m so proud of my sisters. We can do it all, it’s never too late to change your life, be it 25 or 50. We don’t need men, they need us. Chase your goals, your goals will never change on you, they will never leave you when your sick. Having goals makes you a happier person overall. Always put you self first even after kids etc. Don’t let the world or culture guilt you into thinking your not normal for not revolving your life around your husband and kids HV man or not. If he’s HV he wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:55 AM |
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